Online Dating: The Dark Underused Secret Edition-I How To Use This Guide The best advice I can give you is to read everything over once. If you can, do it in one sitting, then re read it again. Then, read the sections again that you are not sure about, and if you can, get someone else to read it as well, and both of you make notes. There are plenty of website links in this book so it probably is best to read this book while you are online so you can see exactly what I'm talking about through out the book. What This Guide Is About And Who It's For I hope by the time you finish this book you will realize just how powerful this information is. This is not some rehashed dating manual which spews out bad information that will HURT your chances of dating successfully. This book isn't written by a prolific writer who's job it is to churn out books by the dozen which he has no expertise on, it's written by a guy who struggled for years to realize exactly what it is that turns women on and off. This book is for all the guys out there who are sick of being told "I just want to be friends" or "you're a really nice guy but It's just not the right time in my life for a relationship" and about one hundred other excuses I've heard over and over again. This book doesn't just cover Internet dating, it covers all the aspects of what make men successful with women. Internet dating has made meeting beautiful women so much easier, hence why I've been using it for the last 2 years with great success.
Where to date? (Important) This is one of the most important steps. You should not join just the first dating site or singe chat you find in Google. This is because they are mostly spammed with fake profiles or the women’s are spammed by thousands of men. I don’t recommend the free sites at all. The paid ones offer many extras like live video chat and even match you up with ladies using your profiles and, also, a lot of sites that cater to special interests like religious preferences, outdoor enthusiasts, one nightstands, etc. The paid sites have a money back guarantee if you aren’t satisfied and the investment is small. A whole month costs less than one dinner and movie date. 1. For meeting girls for sex Adultfriendfinder is the best Dating Community out there. I am a Member there and it’s just amazing you find anything there from chat to dating. And of course it’s the easiest for getting sex :). Check it out here Adultfriendfinder 2. When looking for a girlfriend or just some nice female meetings i highly recommend Iwantu . It is great for sexdates too. You can also join Friendfinder , Fling and AmateurMatch they are also good sites for online dating. Getting started and writing a killer profile. Basically when you look at men profiles there are 3 different types of profiles. 1. The strong silent type – this guy writes the absolute minimum in the hope that the reader is somehow psychic and can figure out his personality without words. 2. The comedian – this guy can’t help writing one-liners throughout his profile. On the plus side at least he’s taken the time to write a lot of words, it’s just a shame that he’s not chosen them more carefully. His message is lost amongst the jokes. 3. The cliché guy – if he’s not a sports commentator then he should be! There’s so many “walks along the beach”, “snuggles on the couch” and “holding hands in public” that you think you’re reading straight from the pages of “How To Pickup Women”!
The problem with all of these profiles is that none of the writer’s personality comes through. So the reader either has to assume they don’t have any personality, or she has to work hard to uncover it by asking lots of questions. Let’s face it – that’s not going to happen because there are so many other profiles, why would she spend time on yours? So how do you write a killer profile that catches the reader’s attention and makes her want to chat to you? The answer is simple – SELL yourself. Your profile is your advertisement, so it should be punchy, interesting and descriptive. Follow these steps and you’ll have so many messages to read that you’ll need to have the size limit on your inbox increased! 1. A good photo! How do you decide which woman to contact – you check out her picture; if she’s cute then she’s passed the first test. So isn’t it reasonable that women would do the same? It’s so obvious yet so many guys either don’t have one or choose some dreadful picture that looks like a Wanted poster or a school photo! Select a picture that conveys your personality – make sure you’re smiling & it helps if it looks like you’re having fun. 2. Avoid cheesy clichés and unoriginal or inappropriate jokes – again this may sound obvious, but it’s shocking how many guys’ profiles sound like they’re the script from a 70’s sit-com. Lines like “be the wind beneath my wings” or “seeking a special lady” do nothing but turn-off the reader and make her move on to another profile. If you can’t think of something original or genuinely humorous, then just keep it simple and concentrate on descriptive and interesting comments instead. 3. Unless you’re naturally so chatty that people often tell you to be quiet, you should write twice as much in your profile as you think you need. That doesn’t mean fill it with useless waffle (see point 2 above); instead put some serious thought into what you’re writing. You’ll be surprised how easy it is if you imagine a beautiful woman is asking you the questions and you’re trying to impress her with your answers. (While we’re talking about impressing her, nothing is more impressive than correct spelling & good grammar. Take the time to proof-read what you’ve written – or write it in MS Word and let the software check it for you before pasting it into your profile!) If you’re still in doubt about whether I’m right, have a look in your online dating site for other guys with the same characteristics as you – your competitors! Some of their profiles will have you laughing at how bad they are, some will leave you confused because they’ve not said anything about themselves, and some (probably only a few) will make you interested to the point where you go on to read some of their other pages too. These are the best of the best – the ones you should try to emulate because they’ll be getting all the girls’ attention (they got your attention, after all!).
Another point worth noting is there are certain key words that you should avoid using in your profile. Apart from the obvious smutty or rude comments, try to steer clear of “shy”, “quiet”, “loner” and “addict” (drugs, TV or sports!). They are real turn-off words that will have your potential mate running for the hills! In summary, if you only do a half-hearted job of writing your profile, you’re doing yourself no favors and you’re turning away potential mates. To be a successful profile, it needs to sell your best attributes and that means it's descriptive and interesting with a good photo. If you follow these tips, you’ll be surprised at just how many messages you’ll get and you’ll be able to pick and choose who you contact and who you date. When you sign up for Adultfriendfinder it’s slightly different. All above Points are still important but you can talk much more clearly what you search :P But not to clearly. And don’t sound naughty. Ask the Right Questions First OK. You have joined Iwantu , Adultfriendfinder , Friendfinder , Fling and AmateurMatch and written a killer profile. You’ve uploaded a good picture and now you are going to chat with a contact. What now? How do you start separating those who have real potential and those who don’t have any potential at all? You need to find out something about who this strange woman really is and not just who she wants you to believe she is. It would be nice if women wore labels like “Gold Digger” or “Daddy’s girl”….but they don’t so it’s up to you to find these things out and you can’t just ask direct questions. You need to know what mistakes you can avoid making and how to impress this lady if you decide you want to do that. After you are past the initial small talk, ask her, “What are the biggest mistakes guys make when dating online?” Listen carefully to her answers. She’s going to tell you a lot about herself and her views on men in general. Next you should ask her, “What do you really think about online dating?” Now she will tell you if she has had any bad experiences dating o line and help you to avoid making the same things wrong. Now for the all-important one…..”What caused the break up in your last relationship?” If she puts all the blame on the guy, you should probably move on to the next prospect. If she takes all the blame herself, you should probably do the same. If she says the breakup was by mutual consent or that the relationship just wasn’t right for either of Asking the right questions will give you insight and make you more confident when you meet the lady for the first time. Remember to always tell the truth or you will become big problems when you have your first real life meeting.
Another little secret that those of the female persuasion keep from us guys: Women, even very beautiful women, like to be approached by a confident and interesting man. Are you surprised? It’s true…and confident and interesting are much more important than looks to ladies of all ages, too. That’s true for internet dating, as well as, dating in your brick and mortar world but we’re talking about internet dating here…so back to the subject at hand. Once you have joined an online dating service, you will find that there a lot more men than women and that the men are much more likely to browse profiles and make initial contacts than women. Yes, it’s a woman’s world…still. It’s “traditional” for men to make the first move. It always has been and it always will be. Some things never change. That’s why your profile and picture are so important. Remember…confident and interesting….and that does not translate to cocky and self-centered. It’s important that your profile lets people know that you have friends you care about and that you are passionately interested in a variety of things…not JUST sports. Another thing about that all-important profile….please doesn’t start it with, “I’m the guy your mama warned you about”. You will have just shot yourself in the foot with that line. Another one to never use is, “I could be the man of your dreams”. The lady HOPES you are but she will be the judge of that…so don’t insult her intelligence. Remember….exude confidence and interesting and you will find that lady you have been looking for…or she will find you. Won’t it be nice to have the ladies contacting you instead of you having to do everything? If you write a great profile that stands out in the crowd, that will happen. Flirt on Many of the same things work for online flirting that work for “brick and mortar” flirting and all relationships begin with successful flirting. Flirting is an art that requires oozing confidence without being OTT. If you go too far, she will label you “slimy” If you don’t go far enough, she will label you “wimpy”. 1. Have fun! Be light-hearted, funny and entertaining. Make her eager to talk to you again. Flirting is playful. 2. Ooze confidence. Successful flirts have a positive outlook on life. You need to transmit the “feel good” factor. An optimistic attitude attracts females like honey attracts flies. 3. 3. Compliment her…and do it often and sincerely. Nothing opens doors like making her feel good about herself. She will want to spend more time with you and if she pays you a compliment say “thank you”. Do Not be self depreciating. 4. Listen…listen….listen. Pay attention to what she says and ask appropriate questions. Get her to open up and talk about herself. Make
her feel like she is interesting and that you are interested in her. Works wonders! 5. Don’t be rude. Flirting does not include being sexually explicit nor taking offence if the lady isn’t responding to you. 6. Send an email after you chat. This ranks right up there with sending a thank you note for a gift and it is vital to successful flirting. Don’t try to go too fast. Flirting is the first step to a successful relationship. (if you are at Adultfriendfinder you can go much faster because most women want to have sex too there) Final words Now you have everything needed to get dates online. For me it did wonders. If you master it you can nearly have any women you want to. Even the real beauties. Sometimes I really miss the good old times when i was solo but don’t tell my wife :P So that’s it good luck and remember:
THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS TO TAKE ACTION. IF YOU DON’T TAKE ACTION YOU WONT GET A GIRL. THE SIMPLE TRUTH. SO GO ON AND MAKE AN ACCOUNT NOW AT Iwantu , Adultfriendfinder , Friendfinder , Fling and AmateurMatch.
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Published on Dec 2, 2009
Online Dating: The Edition-I Getting started and writing a killer profile. Another point worth noting is there are certain key words that yo...