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Just Between Us… We love Halloween at our house. The boys are getting older, but we still stick to creative costumes and try to theme together when we can. The major momcoup is when their November birthday parties can incorporate these costumes, and I can get a twofer. Last year, Indiana Jones and Marion debuted on The Lawn and reappeared a few weeks later to lead a Turning 7 celebration complete with treasure hunt, huge cobwebs and, yes, I had the cutest tiny stuffed monkey pinned onto my khaki shirt! Hagrid and Professor McGonagall make regular appearances too…we trick or treat, teach potions at school, host parties… All it takes is an opportunity to be silly and pretend for a few hours, and out comes my wand! I’m eager to hear what the kids want to do this year. The oldest are now in high school, pursuing their own interests and thinking about careers. A biologist and ballerina are easy costumes, if I can coerce them that is. Now, our 10-year-old is an aspiring writer. That, too, with a little ingenuity could easily be a costume. However, our second grader, who previously had been pretty committed to following in Grandpapa’s footsteps and delivering mail, has had inspiration strike. What is cooler than a mailman you might ask? After all, they get to drive on the wrong side of the car, wear cool uniforms and, of course, there are all those intriguing packages! Well, it all changed the night we took the family to see the Great Maine Lumberjack Show. I’ll be honest, I totally expected it to be hokey, which we got. What I didn’t expect was truly good entertainment. That night, we witnessed chainsaw racing, logrolling, tree climbing and axe throwing. Yes, axe throwing! My sweet little baby now aspires to be a professional axe thrower. I’m insisting he cannot throw an axe until he is 18 years old and has had professional instruction; and like Sleeping Beauty’s spinning wheels, the coveted tool has been stored well out of sight. Hopefully, we can get by with a costume made up of a red plaid lumberjack coat, cap, boots and a cardboard axe. This is a holiday all about pretending, of course! Hope you all have a fun and safe Halloween!

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Contents TABLE OF



News 10

The Buzz Around Town 12  Do you think it is ever reasonable to let a 12-and-under child stay home alone?

Snapshot 14  Lorenzo Dickerson, Storyteller & Business Owner

Our Schools 16

Spooky Stories to Tricks & Treats

Costume Winners! 32 Readers’ Most SPOOKTACULAR Costumes Revealed


Nature’s Playground 46

Mindful Parenting 40 Grieving Together

Healthy Family 42 Nighttime Snores

Wait until you see the woodworking DIYs you can make for your home on page 68! I can’t wait to try my hand at more homemade projects around the house this fall.

Halloween Fun 30

Breastfeeding Dear Bob 38 Your Parenting Questions Answered

Editor’s Pick!

October Activities & Events

Pumpkin Picks! 26 Fall Festivals & Pumpkin Patches


Harvest Season, All Year Long

Out & About Calendar 18

New Mom 36

62 Hikes to Celebrate 100 Years of the National Park Service

Playground Friendships 50

Help Your Children Learn Social Skills

Breast Cancer 101 62 Wisdom for Fighting the Battle Your Handmade Home 68 Woodworking Projects for Beginners

RESOURCES A Guide to Private Schools 53 The Inside Info on Area Schools

2016 Fall Home Guide 70

Local Resources for Families

Tips & Trends 44 Fabulous Finds and Fun

UNTIL NEXT TIME The True Meaning of Halloween 78 Humorous Tales From a Dad’s

Point of View

44 So Love This! “I never knew there were so many great hiking trails in this area! Great tips on how to prepare for them, too! See page 46 for the article.” — Barbara, graphic designer



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local buzz

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Blue Ridge Home Builders Parade October 1–2 & 8–9

Crozet Arts & Crafts Festival October 8–9 Claudius Crozet Park

Down Syndrome 5K & Family Festival October 8 Innsbrook Pavilion, Richmond

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23rd Annual Martha’s Market October 14–16 John Paul Jones Arena

CharlottesvilleFamily & Whole Foods’ Halloween Hoopla October 23, 2–5pm Whole Foods

Congratulations to our winner of an ice cream cake every month for a year! Evie’s creation: “Cookie Monster Therapy.” Thank you Ben & Jerrys’ for partnering with us in this fun, and super sweet contest! Cake: • Sheet (13”x9”) • Ice Cream Flavors: “Chocolate Therapy” & “Milk & Cookies” • Cake Filling: Crumbled Chocolate Cookies • Cake Body Frosting: Vanilla • Cake Border Frosting: Vanilla • Cake Topping: Brownies



Student-Run Branch In early August, Charlottesville High School students and the UVA Community Credit Union opened their new studentrun branch. In an effort for local students to gain knowledge about a career in the banking industry, the students will staff the Knights United branch. In addition, through allowing all students to open accounts and attend free seminars, the Credit Union’s intentions are to help students learn firsthand how to maintain a bank account while also practicing important financial skills.


October 2016

Boar’s Head Inn Hosts Junior Tennis Tournament In early September, the Boar’s Head Inn hosted one of the seven USTA Junior Tennis Tournaments that would take place in 2016. Players from Virginia, West Virginia, D.C., Maryland and even as far as Florida came to test their skills and earn points that would translate into state, regional and

1st Annual Preston Coiner Scholarship

I Chose Tandem Friends, You Should Too “I am drawn to the

This past school year, local Albemarle

Friends philosophy -

High School student Janaya Mott received the first annual Preston Coiner Scholarship. The family

know each student fully

of Charlottesville native Preston

and help them embody their

Coiner—former vice president of the

gifts - and the unique blend

Albemarle-Charlottesville Historical

of robust, college preparatory

Society and historian for the Board of Architectural Review—recognized the value of education and local history in

academics and powerful

his lifetime and set up the scholarship

experiential education.”

for dedicated students. Applicants are

~ Peter Gaines

required to write an essay focusing

New Upper School Director and parent, Tandem Friends School

on some element of local history.

Formerly Head of Upper School, University Liggett School

Mott wrote about the role of African Americans in Charlottesville’s

A Dynamic Learning Environment

religious and educational history. This new addition to the Charlottesville Scholarship Program, which currently supports approximately 50 students.

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TOWN Do you think it is ever reasonable to let a 12-and-under child stay home alone?

Motivated Moore Gracie Moore, a freshman field hockey player at The Covenant School, continues to be an inspiration to all through her efforts on the field. When she joined the junior varsity field hockey team, she knew she was going up against girls that were bigger and faster than she was, but it didn’t hinder her determination and love of the game. Having been born with achondroplasia, the most common type of dwarfism, Moore wasn’t expected to grow above 4 feet tall. But as the saying goes, “size doesn’t matter,” and Moore is a testimony to it. Kelly McNult, Covenant’s JV field hockey coach, praises Moore’s consistently positive attitude and work ethic. These traits help her strength rub off on her teammates. Although certain aspects of the game must be adjusted to make it adaptable to her height, the word “can’t” isn’t one you will hear from her. Just as her teammates know their body’s limits, so does Moore, and her determination is one to reckon with.

62% say “yes” 38% say “no” “Absolutely, provided the child is mature, understands how to get help if needed and has a safe and supportive neighborhood. Obviously, the duration of the parent’s absence is another thing to consider. Giving children a chance to be responsible helps them to grow and thrive. If we don’t provide these opportunities, they won’t know how to function when they’re older. By the time I was a young teen, I was caring for siblings and cooking dinner!” Charlottesville Mother of two “Responsibilities are a foundation in life. Structuring a child’s future is very important. They must start young. If they can’t be left alone at 12, then it’ll be 16 and 21, etc. When do you let your children grow?”

Michelle, Mother of eleven

“I think it is ok to leave a 12-year-old home alone, depending on their maturity level. I do not think children under the age of 12 should be left alone.” Heather, Ruckersville, Mother of three

“Better safe than sorry!”

Krista, Charlottesville, Mother of two boys

“I think it would depend on the maturity of the child, but my 12-year-old would not be ready in the event of an emergency.”

K. J., Ruckersville

“It definitely depends on the maturity level of the child, which a parent will know best. No one should judge what another parent chooses to do. When the time seemed right, I have left my children home alone with increasing increments of time each time.”

April, Ivy, Mother of four

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October 2016


UVA Athlete Teams up with County Police

Locations Hollymead Town Center and Spring Creek Business Park

University of Virginia football player Eric Smith is proving himself as a community leader both on and

Jennifer M. Dixon, DDS, MS

off the field. As a four-year starter

Diplomate of the American Board of Pediatric Dentistry

for the Cavaliers, Smith recognizes

Aaron J. Stump, DDS

his position of influence and is

Diplomate of the American Board of Pediatric Dentistry

aiming to use it in promoting

Pediatric Dentistry Specialists

positive community relations

Nitrous Oxide, Mild and IV Sedation Services

with local officers. Smith has been volunteering with Albemarle County

Compassionate and Nurturing Doctors and Staff

police for over a year, working to keep at-risk youth on track. He

Kid-friendly, State-of-the-Art Office

teaches kids, who may be facing

Parental Participation Encouraged

difficult paths, that the positive choices they make now will pay off in the future. In return, Smith is learning from the children that he has a meaningful place in the community beyond his role as a student-athlete.

Brownsville 5th Graders Share Unique Patriotism Each year, fifth graders at Brownsville Elementary School engage in a special, patriotic art project. Students start out by mimicking Jasper Johns’ piece “Flag,” a painting of the American flag on canvas with newspaper peeking through the stars and stripes. The part of this project that allows each student to express his or her individuality shines through after painting the flag; students cut letters and words from magazines to create words and phrases they feel identifies them as an individual. Instilling an appreciation for the American flag as well as a sense of community and unity, the projects are then hung in the hallway and create an awe-inspiring display.

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SNAPshot written & photographed by Beth Seliga

Lorenzo Dickerson Storyteller and Business Owner

Lorenzo Dickerson is a local storyteller and owner of Maupintown Media

What routine or habit helps you keep on top of life and work

and the Maupintown Film Festival. We met at the Jefferson School African


American Heritage Center just before his feature documentary film, “The

I do what I enjoy doing first. Before work, I take care of my family’s and

Color Line of Scrimmage,” was shown on day two of the festival. The

my own needs. Over the years and through my experience, I’ve learned

film tells the story of the undefeated 1956 Burley High School Football

that the work itself is selfish. Therefore, if I don’t take care of my family

team in a time when schools were still segregated in Albemarle County.

and myself, and create that quality time first, work will for sure take over.

His passion for history and storytelling gives new life to the often-untold stories of the region.

What is your favorite time of the week with your family/friends? Typically, the weekend is always the best time, because it is free time that

What inspired you to start Maupintown Media, LLC, and what are

I have to spend with my wife, kids and extended family. But, even better

your hopes for it in the future?

than that is whenever I can sneak a day off in the middle of the work

I enjoy uncovering stories and sharing them with others. I was inspired

week to spend with my wife and kids, because it’s like I’ve stolen back a

to start it out of a need to produce films rooted in truth that teaches the

bit of time that has too often belonged to that daily 9 to 5.

community about stories of value that they may have never heard. I love telling stories through film—stories that bring awareness to important

What is one thing your parents did well that you try to incorporate

topics, create a better understanding and evoke emotion that drives

into your parenting?


Instilling confidence. They accomplished this by making it clear to me that no matter what I did, experienced, went through or tried in my life,

What drew you to storytelling?

I would always have their support and backing. Even if I were to fall,

As a child growing up in Albemarle County, I had a very close relationship

which I have, they were never there to judge. And because of this, today I

with my grandparents and the elders in the community, and I cherish

have a bit of extreme confidence to try and create anything that comes to

those relationships today. I would sit at my grandmother’s feet and ask

mind. I have two sons, 1 and 4 years old, and I want them to receive that

her to tell me stories of the “olden’ days.” As I got older, I thought more

same support from me.

about how it relates to and affects the present and the future. I love to learn.


October 2016

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BIZ BITS Now Open The Nike Store in Barracks Shopping Center is now open. Water Street replaces Tempo on

Harvest Season, All Year Long We typically think of autumn as the harvest season, but Charlottesville City

the corner of Water Street and Fifth Street SE.


School students enjoy local harvests all year long. As part of its “Harvest of the

Peabody School welcomes Robert

Month” program, the nonprofit City Schoolyard Garden supplies a fresh, local

Orlando as fourth Head of School.

snack to 2,700 Charlottesville students one day each month. The Harvest of the Month might introduce students to a relative newcomer to the American table, such as the Asian Pair, or a relatively unknown variation on a familiar food, such as white peaches or multi-colored carrots. It could also be a friendly way for students to try a more common veggie similar to cabbage, turnips or kale. “The students have so much enthusiasm and interest in the Harvest of the Month crop. They’ll stop us walking down the hall and try to guess the snack. They are excited to go to their school garden and learn how the crop grows, and they often ask for seconds,” explains Jeanette Abi-Nader, the City Schoolyard Garden Executive Director. In fact, according to the organization’s spring survey, 95 percent of elementary school students who tried a Harvest of the Month crop for the first time said they would like to have it again. To provide numerous opportunities to engage students with healthy foods, City Schoolyard Garden doesn’t just deliver snacks. They build anticipation for the new

University of Virginia Women’s Services and UVA Children’s Hospital were among just 1 percent of reporting U.S. hospitals to meet all four maternity care standards from the Leapfrog Group, a national patient safety organization.

Closings Aeropostale in the Fashion Square Mall is closing. Tempo on the Downtown Mall has closed.

food by introducing the mystery item with trivia questions. They develop lessons


for teachers and garden coordinators using the month’s snack and the school’s

Folly will be moving its shop to the

garden. They promote the treat with beautiful posters illustrated with artwork

Barracks Shops.

from middle school students, and they send home a backpack flyer with recipes, information and growing tips. To make possible the Harvest of the Month program, City Schoolyard Garden partners closely with the Charlottesville City Schools nutrition services staff and teachers. They also partner with the Local Food Hub to connect with area growers. Many groups and businesses, such as the USDA Farm to School program, the Thomas Jefferson Health District and the local business Rock Paper Scissors, support their work. “It’s a big undertaking,” concludes Abi-Nader, “and it couldn’t be implemented without our partners and volunteers. It is rewarding to hear parents say that it’s

Hillcrest Dental, Ryan Buckwalter DDS has moved to a brand new facility at 1420 Greenbrier Place. Leftover Luxuries is moving into a warehouse on Pantops near the Rivanna River Co. New additions will include adding “Friends with Luxuries.” Got Rocks will be one of the local additions in this new space.

made a difference in what their kids want to eat…or to learn that children are

Whimsies is moving its boutique to

excited to start a garden at home. It shows the importance of growing with youth.”

The Shops at Stonefield.

Submit Biz Bits to Beth serves as a community liaison for Charlottesville City Schools.


October 2016

Referendum Forums!

Upcoming forums about school funding will be Oct. 4 at Western Albemarle High School, Oct. 11 at Monticello High School and Oct. 26 at Albemarle High School.


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Festivals & Fairs State Fair of Virginia

Now–October 2 at The Meadow Event Park, Doswell Come see Virginia’s finest animals and agriculture, exhibits and shows, music arts and crafts, blue ribbon competitions and more. 804-994-2800,

See our special section on page 26—pumpkin patches, Halloween events, costume contest winners and more!

Apple Butter Makin’ Festival

October 8, 12–6pm at Frontier Culture Museum, Staunton Enjoy games on the museum’s German farm, traditional food and music. 540-332-7850,

Crozet Arts and Crafts Festival

Graves Mountain Apple Harvest Festival

University Montessori School 17th Annual Fall Fun Fair


October 2, 12–5pm at Bold Rock Cider Meadow, Nellysford Virginia Donkey Rescue presents live music, vendors, a donkey petting paddock, face painting, a cornhole competition, donkeys running an obstacle course and more. 361-1030,

The Festy Experience

October 7–9 at Nelson County Preserve, Arrington Enjoy three days of concerts, camping, hosted bike rides, trail runs, soccer, ultimate frisbee, a kids’ zone, craft food and more. 220-4000,

Massanutten Fall Festival

October 8, 11:30am–5:30pm at Massanutten Resort Enjoy arts and crafts vendors, live music, food vendors, scenic chairlift rides, kids’ activities and more. 540-289-9441,



October 1 & 15, Saturdays, 10am–4:30pm at Silver Creek & Seamans’ Orchard Watch apple butter being made the old-fashioned way. Pick pumpkins, and enjoy live music, games, crafts, a corn maze, a clown and more. 277-5824,

October 1–2, 8–9 & 15–16, 10am–4:30pm at Graves Mountain Lodge, Syria Watch apple butter cooked in kettles over an open fire at one of our area’s largest festivals. Pick apples, enjoy bluegrass music, cloggers, hayrides, a hay maze, horse rides, and over 70 arts and crafts vendors. 540-923-4231,

October 2016

Crozet Farmers Market

Now–mid October, Saturdays, 8am–12pm at Crozet United Methodist parking lot 823-1092

Scottsville Community Farmers Market

Fall Fiber Festival and Sheep Dog Trials

October 1–2, 10am–5pm Saturday, 10am– 4pm Sunday at Montpelier Enjoy animal exhibits, sheep dog trials, hands-on demonstrations, a fleece sale, fiber and crafts vendors, live music and more.


October 8–9, 10am–5:30pm Saturday, 10am–5pm Sunday at Claudius Crozet Park CharlottesvilleFamily is a proud sponsor! Live music, entertainment, kids’ activities, painting classes, artists and crafters, puppets and more. 326-8284,

October 9, 3–6pm at University Montessori School Decorate pumpkins, search for a needle in a haystack, take pictures in the photo booth and more. Tickets are required for certain activities. 977-0583,

Chili & Brewfest

October 15, 1–7pm at Orange County Fair Grounds Tastings, area food and craft vendors, children’s activities and live music. 540-672-5216,

Apple Festivals at Drumheller’s Orchard

October 15–16, 9am–5pm at Drumheller’s Orchard, Lovingston Enjoy apples, apple butter, apple cider, honey, country hams, cookbooks, pumpkins, baskets, baked goods and more. Take a hayride, explore the pumpkin patch, corn maze or kids’ zone. 263-5036,

Mountaintop Montessori Fall Festival

October 23, 1–5pm at 440 Pinnacle Place, Charlottesville Join us for seasonal activities, games and crafts. Enjoy mountain views and healthy grilled items served by the Mountaintop PA. 979-8886,

Now–October 29, Saturdays, 8am–12pm at Scottsville Pavilion, 125 Fleet Street 286-4994,

Forest Lakes Farmers Market

Now–October, Tuesdays, 4–7pm at 1650 Ashwood Blvd. at the Forest Lakes South Pool and Tennis Center 531-2733, ForestLakesFarmersMarket

Nelson Farmer’s Market Cooperative

Now–November 19, Saturdays, 8am–12pm at 3079 Rockfish Valley Highway, Nellysford 760-6655,

City Market

Now–November, Saturdays, 7am–12pm at Second and Water Street parking lots

Stonefield Farmer’s Market

Now–November, Saturdays, 9:30am–2:30pm at The Shops at Stonefield

Charlottesville Baby Expo

October 8, 1–4pm at Aldersgate United Methodist Church Expectant and new moms, meet wellness and play vendors, photographers and more. Kids can participate in storytime, music activities and facepainting. Amazing giveaways and prizes to be won. 540-560-1957,

23rd Annual Martha’s Market

October 14–16, 9:30am–7pm Friday, 10am– 6pm Saturday, 10am–4pm Sunday at John Paul Jones Arena Browse over 80 boutiques from across the country and attend the special preview party the evening of Oct. 13. CharlottesvilleFamily is a proud sponsor! 654-8258,

Cville Repair Cafe

October 22, 12–4pm at IX Art Park A team of volunteer fixers will be on-hand to repair household appliances, clothing,

jewelry, toys, bikes and more. Enjoy snacks and live music, and arts & crafts for kids. 981-2004,



3645 BRINNINGTON ROAD • $689,000 Ideal empty-nester or 2nd home set in total privacy about 10 mins west of Barracks Rd Shopping. Peter Sheerandesigned contemporary features open, light-flooded floor plan enhanced by recent renovations by Peter Johnson. New bathrooms & kitchen w/ extraordinary cabinetry throughout. LEAP certified. MLS# 551455

3600 GRAEMONT DRIVE • $599,000 Custom-built home in peaceful wooded oasis. Early 1900’s Pennsylvania front door, custom milled flooring. Kitchen features corian counters, custom cabinetry, island, & view into the woods. Large sunroom w/ cathedral ceilings & radiant heat flooring. Over-sized master bedroom. Helen Ascoli (434) 996-2225. MLS# 551919

STAGE & SCREEN Miss Charlottesville Pageant

October 1, 4pm at V. Earl Dickinson Performing Arts Center, PVCC Contestants compete in formal wear and on-stage questions to encourage personal growth, build confidence and promote good sportsmanship.

Monty Python & the Holy Grail

October 8, 8pm at The Paramount Theater Come see the film on the big screen. Rated PG. 979-1333,


Disney’s Aladdin

October 9, 2pm at The Paramount Theater Come see the film on the big screen. 979-1333,

UVA Cavalier Marching Band Open Rehearsal

October 14, 6:30pm at Carr’s Hill Field Watch the UVA Marching Band as they prepare for their halftime shows. Parking is available at Culbreth Road Parking Garage, Emmet/Ivy Parking Garage, and the Central Grounds Parking Garage. 924-3052,

8th Annual Party Like a Rock Star

October 21, 8–11:55pm at Music Resource Center This year will feature a live “Band-a-oke” competition with guest performers and returning house band E3. 979-5478,


Storybook bungalow on 2.4 acres. Surprise features incl’ incredible painting studio that doubles as a guest cottage, complete w/ vaulted ceiling, exposed beams, sleeping loft, kitchen & half bath. The owners of this magical place are local artist Abby Kasonik & designer/antiques dealer Rod Coles. Every room overflows w/ character, taste & atmosphere! The gardens enchant too, incl’ a fountain, orchard, multiple ‘outdoor rooms’. MLS# 551641



5955 WESTHALL DRIVE • $769,000 New Peak Builders custom home on half-acre with Blue Ridge views in Westlake. Over 3,400 fin sq ft, 4 bed, 3.5 baths, plus huge bonus room & large walk-out basement. Deep covered porches, charming family room. Premium finish materials & superior workmanship throughout. Kristin Cummings Streed (434) 409-5619. MLS# 538448

428 IRISH RD • $420,000 Situated on 8.5 partially open & wooded acres. Open floor plan with formal LR & DR, large kitchen with island, & FR with built-ins. 2nd floor master suite & large walk-in laundry room. Finished rec room, screen porch with skylights, wrap covered porch & side deck. Lindsay Milby (434) 962-9148. MLS# 551547


October–December, Second Tuesdays, 4pm at Louisa Library Kids grades 4-8 can enjoy s.t.e.a.m-oriented classes. October 11: Worm Bins. November 8: Snap Circuits. December 13: KEVA Planks. 540-894-5853,

11th Annual Touch a Truck

October 1, 10am–3pm at Richmond International Raceway Children can see, touch and safely explore their favorite big trucks and heavy machinery. Enjoy special performances, food trucks, face painting, bounce castles, games and a raffle. 804-250-5450,

6th Annual Central Virginia Star Party

October 1, 6–10pm at Albemarle CiderWorks Enjoy hands-on astronomy activities, planetarium shows, and observations of the night sky with a guided telescope. 924-7494,


434.977.4005 W W W . L O R I N G W O O D R I F F . C O M


{our town calendar} Tots and Dots

October 4, 10–10:40am, 11–11:40am, 12–12:40pm at Kluge-Ruhe Aboriginal Art Join the Kluge-Ruhe Aboriginal Art Collection for this two-part early visual literacy program for children ages six months to four years. Registration is required. 244-0234,

Cville Pie Fest

October 9, 1–3pm at Crozet Mudhouse Enjoy a pie judging and tasting event. Proceeds will go to charity. Bakers of all ages are encouraged to enter.

Tour The Paramount Theater!

Bob Saget

October 12, 12pm & 5:30pm at The Paramount Theater Take a free historical backstage tour. See the backstage Wall of Fame, where hundreds of artists have left their autographs and more. 979-1333,

Friday, October 21

My Life With Black Bears



October 26, 4pm at Crozet Library Join 17-year-old author Gabriel Mapel as he shares his experience as an interpretive ranger for Shenandoah National Park and discusses the behavior of black bears in an interactive presentation. 823-4050,

Fan Mountain Observatory Public Night

October 28 at Fan Mountain Observing Station The Fan Mountain Observing Station offers free public observing nights twice a year. Tickets must be requested in advance and are fulfilled on a first-come, first-serve basis. 243-1885,

Sharing Philosophy With Kids

October 29, 10am at JMRL - Crozet Library Join Marietta Mccarty, author of “Little Big Minds: Sharing Philosophy with Kids,” as she gives adults tools to encourage their kid’s curiosity. For kids age 5-9 with their grownups. 823-4050,

STORYTIMES & GAMES Saber Force Academy

October 1, 11:45am at JMRL - Gordon Avenue Library Saber Force Academy takes the fun of light sabers and puts them into teaching martial arts skills to students. 296-5544,

Chess Saturday

October 1, 2–2:30pm Grades K-3, 2:30–4pm Grades 4–8 at JMRL - Central Library Visit the Central Library for chess instruction and simultaneous play hosted by the Playing ACES Chess Club. Enjoy popcorn and prizes. Space is limited. 979-7151,

Three Cheers for Pooh!

October 5, 6:30pm at JMRL - Crozet Library Celebrate Winnie-the-Pooh’s 90th birthday with a story, games and snacks. 823-4050,

Breathe, Bend & Books: A Yoga Storytime

October 6, 3pm at JMRL - Gordon Ave Library Books come alive in a whole new way as we read, stretch our bodies and explore movement and yoga poses. Grades K-2. 296-5544,

Explore Shenandoah National Park with Bubba Jones

October 7, 3:30pm at Crozet Library Author Jeff Alt takes visitors on an adventure based on his new book “The Adventures of Bubba Jones: Time Traveling Through Shenandoah National Park.” Help Bubba Jones solve a mystery and come face to face with extinct creatures, endangered species and more. 823-4050,

Star Wars Reads Day

October 8, 2pm at Central Library May the force be with you as the library celebrates all things Star Wars. Come in costume for a chance at prizes. There will be 434.979.1333 Box Office: 215 East Main Street Mon.–Fri. • 10am to 2pm Graves Mountain Apple Harvest Festival October 1–2, 8–9 & 15–16, 10am–4:30pm at Graves Mountain Lodge, Syria See page 18


October 2016


FAMILY DAY Saturday, November 5, 2016 9:00 AM - 3:00 PM

U.Va. Arts Grounds located on Culbreth Rd, between Rugby Rd and University Ave

Two Family-Friendly Screenings: Walt Disney Animation Studios Short Films and James and the Giant Peach Musical Instrument Petting Zoo | Educational Arts Workshops for ages 5-15 | Drop-in Toddler Activities | Free parking Interactive, arts-inspired fun for the whole family!

crafts, music, food and fun for all ages. 979-7151,

It’s Thumb-Body’s Birthday

October 15, 2pm at Crozet Library Celebrate author-illustrator Ed Emberley’s 85th birthday with thumb art and a thumb birthday cake. 823-4050,

Yak & Snack

October 17, 6pm at JMRL - Crozet Library Come talk about “So You Want to Be a Wizard” by Diane Duane. Free copy of the book included on first-come, first-serve basis. 823-4050,

Peter Jones, “The Pied Piper of Charlottesville”

October 18, 10:30am at JMRL - Central Library Radio personality and versatile storyteller Peter Jones, of “Tell Us A Tale” fame, shares his own special brand of lively storytelling. 973-7893,

ARTS & CRAFTS 2nd Annual “Imagine a Day Without Water” School Art Contest

Now–October 14 at submissions mailed to or dropped off at Department of Public Works The “Imagine a Day Without Water,” art

contest is open to all city of Charlottesville and Albemarle County schools grades 1-8. Any medium may be used. Winners will be selected from each grade division. Rules and restrictions apply. 970-3877,

Paper Making Workshop

Writer’s Eye Contest

Family Art JAMs: Celestial Compositions

Now–November 22 at UVA’s Fralin Museum of Art An annual competition challenging youth in grades 3-12, University students and adults to submit original poetry and prose compositions inspired by works on view in the Museum. 924-3592,

Hamil-versary Tea Party

October 8, 2pm at Crozet Library Celebrate the anniversary of the release of Hamilton: The Musical cast album with a Hamilton-themed tea party. 823-4050,

Fall Foliage Festival Art Show

October 8–9 at Downtown Waynesboro See a showcase of 150 fine artists featuring paintings, jewelry, pottery, sculpture and more. Enjoy live music and gourmet fare from the food trucks. 540-466-0850,

October 15, 10am–2pm at Lewis & Clark Exploratory Center Come to the Lewis & Clark Exploratory Center to for a fun paper-making workshop. 996-7282,

October 15, 1–3pm for ages 5–7, 3–5pm for ages 8–12 at The Fralin Museum of Art Programs combining age-appropriate tours with hands-on art activities for children. Adult family members are encouraged to serve as assistants, models and collaborators. 243-2050,

STEAMpowered Workshop: Silkscreening

October 15, 1–3pm at Amazement Square, Lynchburg This STEAMpowered workshop will focus on learning how to silkscreen. Learn how to make your own stencil, mix colors, pull prints and make your very own personalized t-shirt. 845-1888,

Block Party: LEGO Gathering

October 19, 3pm at Gordon Avenue Library Get together with LEGO-minded people and build great things. 296-5544,


{our town calendar} NATURE & OUTDOORS 10th Annual Step UP for Down Syndrome 5K & Family Festival

October 8, 8:30am–1pm at Innsbrook Pavilion, Glen Allen A 5K run/walk and festival celebrating the accomplishments of individuals with Down syndrome. Enjoy family activities, live music, special guest Sujeet Desai, a fashion show featuring individuals with Down syndrome, pumpkin patch and more. CharlottesvilleFamily is a proud sponsor! 804-525-7731,

Boats and Butterflies Festival

Sunday, October 23, 1 - 5 pm Join us for seasonal games & crafts, pony rides,

local food & beer, gently-used book sale, music and more!

October 8–9, 10am–4pm at Darden Towe Park Celebrate Lewis & Clark Exploratory Center’s handmade wooden boats and monarch migration. Learn about pollinators, make butterfly art and take a quiet boat ride, weather permitting.

Farm Animal Day

October 15, 9am–5pm at Saunders Brothers Market, Piney River A day on the farm with cows, sheep, goats, chickens and horses. Watch demos of woolspinning and horse care with a professional farrier.

Interactive Archaeology Dig for Kids

October 15, 10am–2:30pm at Monticello Dig in a mock excavation and learn proper field techniques, including digging, screening and identifying artifacts. 984-9800,


Civil War Trail & Gilmore Farm Walking Tour at Montpelier

Age-appropriate tours with hands-on art activities—an enriching experience for the whole family!

October 15, 2pm at Montpelier Station Train Depot Walk in the footsteps of McGowan’s Brigade through the archaeological remains of this Confederate winter camp. Conclude at the cabin and farm of George Gilmore. Born into slavery at Montpelier in 1810, he became a farmer and landowner after Emancipation. 540-672-2728,

October 15 | November 19 or 434.243.2050

Owl Prowl

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October 2016

October 29 & November 5, Saturdays, 5:30–7:30pm at Kemper Park Trailhead, Monticello Trail Join seasoned birder Jerry Therrien for an evening of listening to the hoots, wails and shrieks of owls and learning about their habitats. 984-9800



4th Annual Apple Harvest 5K Trail Run

Teen Movie Club: Cinema Paradiso

October 8, 8am at Pleasant Grove Park, Fluvanna Runners will follow wooded trails and stream crossings on a challenging course. Registration includes a shirt and post-race snacks. New racer categories and childcare during the race. 540-943-6675,

7th Annual Crozet Trails Crew 5K

October 8, 8am–12pm at Claudius Crozet Park Run, jog, walk this unique 5K. A Kids Run is included and adult winners will have a trail bridge named in their honor. Admission to Crozet Arts and Crafts Festival included.

Meet the Teams Day

October 18, 2–3:30pm at John Paul Jones Arena The UVA men’s and women’s basketball teams, men’s and women’s swimming & diving teams, and the wrestling team will hold a Meet the Teams event. Fans will have an opportunity get autographs and register for raffle prizes. 924-8821,

Hike for Heroes

October 23, 12–4pm at The Market at Grelen, Somerset This first annual hiking event will benefit Warrior Expeditions. Hike the Grelen Trails picking up tokens along the way. Turn them in at the end for a chance to win prizes. 540-672-7268,

October 11, 7pm at Crozet Library Teens grades 6-12 are invited to eat popcorn and enjoy this 1990 Italian award-winner followed by a discussion session. 823-4050,

Book Bag: A Tween Book Club

October 25, 4:15–5:15pm, at Central Library Ravenous readers are invited to read and discuss a different book each month. Join in fun book-related activities and snacks. Free books provided. Registration required. 979-7151,

ESPECIALLY FOR PARENTS 52nd Annual Parade of Homes

October 1–2 & 8–9, 12–5pm Visit area homes to see the latest in building innovations.

The Women’s Committee in v ites you to

Martha’s Market 2016

A Collection of Unique Boutiques Proceeds benefit Breast Health Programs and Women’s Healthcare at Sentara Martha Jefferson Hospital

OCTOBER 14-16 Fri 9:30 am - 7 pm Sat 10 am - 6 pm Sun 10 am - 4 pm PREVIEW PARTY Thurs, Oct 13 6:30 - 9:30 pm For Preview Party Information & Tickets 434-654-8258

Parenting Class Series

October 4, 18 & 25, November 1 & 8, 7–8:30pm at Restoration Cornerstone Church, Crozet This six-week series of classes offers hope and help for parents as they navigate the tumultuous teen years. 234-4673

Charlottesville City School Board Meeting

October 6, 5pm at Charlottesville High School Come listen to the discussions, debates and decisions of the city school board. 245-2400,

Be A Kid Again Fundraiser

October 7, 7–11pm at Old Metropolitan Hall, 101 E. Main St. Whimsy, fun and frolic with music and dancing. Cocktails and heavy hors d’oeuvres. Benefitting Ready Kids. 296-4118,

19th Annual Education Symposium

October 13, 7–9pm at Piedmont VA Community College, Dickinson Building The guest speaker will be Dr. Michael Gurian, a pioneer in bringing neurobiology and brain research into homes, schools and public policy. 989-6866,


for the Entire Weekend! Free for Children 13 and Younger

Charlottesville, Virginia Free Ample Parking PRESENTING SPONSOR EVENT SPONSORS

Living for Peace

October 15–16, 9am–5:30pm Saturday, 9am–4pm Sunday at 408 E. Market St., Suite 204 (Maclin Building Downtown) Lay the foundation of emotional regulation with the help of Christine Walker, MSW, LCSW. 923-8253,

Central Virginia Star Party October 1, 6-10pm at Albemarle CiderWorks See page 20

SMG SNOW’S Garden Center The Village at Gordon House Z95.1 and WINA



{our town calendar} OPEN HOUSES



October 10, 10am at Oakland School, Keswick The event will begin with the Head of School giving an overview of the program followed by student and adult guided tours of the campus and classrooms. RSVP by email. 293-9059,

Free Union Country School Open House

Rain, snow, Sunday, 6 I 11:00 AMArc Start I Downtown Run as a December Santa to benefit The of the PiedmontMall I Course: 1 mile or shine! on December 4th. Registrants will receive their Register online: cvillesantarun.eventbrite.comSunday, costumes (Santa suit for adults and elf ears for December 4 children) they check inelfon morning Santawhen costume for adults and hatthe for kids included with registration. 11:00 AM Start of the event. Downtown Mall Course: 1 mile

Please arrive to the check-in location at the Sprint Pavilion on the Downtown Mall between 9:30 and 10:30 a.m. to receive your costume. No paper tickets are necessary. Awards will be presented to the top corporate team and family team for raising money for the Arc of the Piedmont mission!

Oakland School Open House

October 17, 9–11am 978-1700,

Peabody School Fall Open House

October 19, Wednesday, 9am–2pm at Peabody School Observe classes, speak with current students and teachers and take a guided tour of the school. 296-6901,

Tandem Friends School “Come See Us in Action” Admissions Event

The run/walk begins at 11:00 a.m. Spectators are welcome along the Mall and along the 1-mile route.

Register online: Call 434-977-4002

October 26, 9–10:30am at Tandem Friends School Interested parents can take a tour, visit classes in session and participate in a faculty/student panel discussion to learn more about the school. RSVP to Emily Morrison. 951-9314,

DATE NIGHT The Marcus King Band with Bencoolen

Don’t miss our upcoming Family Programming at The Paramount this season! Disney’s Aladdin [G] October 9 Mike Super - Magic & Illusion November 25 Friday after Thanksgiving As seen on NBC’s hit show PHENOMENON The Great Russian Nutcracker Dec 18 (3 show times) Richmond Symphony Lollipops perform The Snowman and other holiday favorites Dec 11

THE PARAMO U N T T H E A T E R l 215 East Main Street, Charlottesville, VA 434.979.1333 l SPONSORED BY:

October 8, 8pm at The Southern Cafe & Music Hall Doors open at 6pm $12 at door or $10 in advance. 977-5590,

Bob Saget

October 21, 8pm at The Paramount Theater Comedian and actor Bob Saget will put on a show you won’t want to miss. 979-1333,

Glenn Miller Orchestra

October 23, 4pm at The Paramount Theater Formed in March 1938, the Glenn Miller Orchestra has been a fixture in American music for decades. 979-1333,

Cooking Classes at Pippin Hill: Chesapeake Bay Goes Gourmet

October 26, 6-9pm at Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards, North Garden Cooking classes with Executive Chef Bill Scalene. Tickets includes two glasses of wine, a cooking demo and dinner. Reservations are required. 202-8063,

Halloween Murder Mystery Dinner

Presenting Family Sponsor

Family Sponsor




October 2016

October, 5:30-9pm at CrossKeys Vineyards, Mount Crawford Have dinner with the Ravencastles. The catch—help solve a murder through live interrogation. Reservations required. 234-0505,

A 2-miler run/walk community event on November 5 celebrating the OB career and impact of Dr. Ed Wolanski and benefiting the Family Birthing Center and Special Care Nursery at Sentara Martha Jefferson. For more information and to participate, please visit: Edward T. Wolanski, MD PC

Offering Individualized Gynecological Care | 434-293-9800


Fun at the

Pumpkin Patches! Fall Festival Weekends at Hartland

Now–October 30, Weekends, 10–6pm Saturday, 12–6 Sunday at Hartland Farm & Orchard, Markham Get lost in the corn maze, root for your favorite pig in the pig races, take a hayride, ride down the 60-foot tall slide and more. Caramel apples for an extra fee. 540-364-2316,

Belvedere’s Fall Harvest Festival

Now–October 30, Weekends at Belvedere Plantation, Fredericksburg Pick your own pumpkins. Enjoy a corn maze, wagon rides, campfire, ziplines, straw jump, pumpkin cannon, trike train, pumpkin mountain slide, pedal carts, pony rides and more. 540-373-4478,

Celebrate Fall at Round Hill Farm

Now–October 31, 3–6pm weekdays, 10am– 5pm weekends at Round Hill Farm, Culpeper Admission includes a hayride to the pumpkin patch, a hay-bale maze and pyramid, corn maze, farm animals, moon bounces and the tire-swing playground! Off-road adventure rides, pony rides, pumpkins, barrel train rides and face painting for an additional fee. 540-308-8245,

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Hess Corn Maze and Family Fun

Now–October 31, 3–7pm Monday–Friday, 10am–6pm Saturday, 12–6pm Sunday at Back Home on the Farm, Harrisonburg Corn maze, pick your own pumpkin, pig races, carousel rides and more. 540-442-6493,

Creative Works Farm

Now–October 31, Saturdays & Sundays, Saturdays 10am–4pm, Sundays 12–5pm at Creative Works Farm, Waynesboro Skeeter’s Night corn maze, games, pumpkins and more. 540-471-1659,

Greenfield Fall Festival

Now–October 31, Saturdays & Sundays, 10am–6pm, Saturdays; 1–5pm, Sundays at Greenfield Farm, Ruckersville Pumpkins, hayrides, farm animals, toddler play area, giant slide and corn maze. 985-7653,

Pick Your Own Pumpkins at Critzer Family Farm

Now–October, Mon–Sat 8am–6pm at Critzer Family Farm, Nelson Pick your own pumpkins from the pumpkin patch, including special pumpkins like Cinderella and Peanut pumpkins, and enjoy pumpkin ice cream. 540-471-0475,

Pick Your Own Pumpkins

Now–October, Monday–Saturday 9am–6pm, Sundays 10am–5pm at Chiles Peach Orchard Pick your own from the pumpkin patch, or buy them in the market. 823-1583,

Pumpkin Patch at Milmont Greenhouses Now–November 1, Weekdays 8am-5:30pm, Saturdays 8am-5pm at Milmont Greenhouses, Stuarts Draft Pick the perfect pumpkin from the patch. 540-943-8408,

Liberty Mills Farm Corn Maze

Now–November 6 at Liberty Mills Farm, Somerset Get lost in Central Virginia’s largest corn maze of over 25-acres. Admission includes puzzles within the maze, hay rides (when operating) and activities/games. 882-6293,

Showalter’s Orchard

Now–November, 9am-5pm, Monday-Saturday at Showalter’s Orchard, Timberville Saturdays at Showalter’s include pick your own pumpkins and apples, hard cider tastings, freshly pressed onsite sweet cider, and cider slashes or hot cider depending on temperature. Orchard is open Monday-Saturday. 540-896-7582,

$.60/lb and/or no pumpkin more than $10!


Pumpkin Patch

Pick Your Own!

Saturdays & Sundays in October Saturday 10am - 5pm | Sunday 12noon - 5pm

Along with the pumpkin patch: Free Admission & Free Parking!

• Hay Rides • Hay Maze • Corn Hole • Ladder Golf • Corn Box • Pick Your Own Flowers

146 Caves Ford Lane, Orange

For more information, contact Sarah Weaver Sharpe 540.308.8267 | |

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Floating Pumpkin Patch Friday, October 21 6:30-8pm

Crozet YMCA

Pick your pumpkin out of the pool! $4 participant, $2 member Includes food, music and Halloween-themed games and activities.

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Pumpkin Pickin’

October 1–2 at Wild Wolf Brewing Company, Nellysford Find the perfect pumpkin at Wild Wolf pumpkin patch. 361-0088,

Apple Harvest Celebration

October 1–31, 8am–7pm the last three Saturdays in October, 9am-6pm every day at Carter Mountain Orchard Join the Chiles family for music, food, hayrides, pumpkins, apple picking, apple butter, apple cider, apple cider donuts, apple pie and all things apple. 977-1833,

Pumpkin Patch at Seamans’ Orchards

October 1–31, 10am–4:30pm Monday– Saturday, 1–5pm Sunday at Silver Creek & Seamans’ Orchards, Tyro Pick your own pumpkin or buy a pre-picked one. 962-2523,

Henley Fest

October 1-31, Saturdays 9am-5pm at Henley’s Orchard Hayrides to the pumpkin patch, pick your own apples, cider, donuts, crumb cakes and so much more. The last Saturday in October will feature a costume contest and some frightening surprises. 823-7848,


October 2016

Sarah’s Pumpkin Patch

Pumpkin Party

Sinkland Farms 25th Pumpkin Festival

Floating Pumpkin Patch

October 1–31, Saturdays & Sundays, Saturdays 10am–5pm, Sundays 12–5pm at Sarah’s Pumpkin Patch, Orange Pick your own pumpkins, and enjoy hayrides, mazes, corn hole and more. 540-308-8267,

October 1–31, Saturdays & Sundays, Saturdays 10am–5pm, Sundays 1–5pm at Sinkland Farms, Christiansburg Corn maze, wine tastings from area wineries, hayrides, live music on two stages, horseback trail and pony rides, pumpkin chunkin’, children’s activities and much, much more. 540-382-4647,

Fall Family Fun Days

October 1–31, Saturdays, 10–4pm at 2253 Thomas Jefferson Parkway, Palmyra Find family fun with a hay ride, corn maze, hay maze, corn slide, corn pit, face painting and farm animals. 591-0898,

Pumpkin Decorating

October 17, 7pm at Gordon Avenue Library Add some glitz and glamour to permanent pumpkins. All materials provided, and registration required. 296-5544,

October 19, 3-8pm at Blue Mountain Brewery Bring the whole family to celebrate fall. Pumpkins and carving tools will be available for $3. There will be treats, live music and so much more. 540-456-8020,

October 21, 6–7:30pm at Crozet PARC YMCA Pick your pumpkin out of the pool. Includes food, music and Halloween-themed games and activities. 205-4380,

Apple Tasting & Halloween Costume Contest

October 29, 9am-5pm at Saunders Brothers Nursery, Orchard & Farm Market, Piney River A costume contest for the kids, live music and the chance to help choose the next great tasting apple for Saunders Brothers to grow. 277-5455,

The Great Pumpkin Party

October 31 at Back Home on the Farm, Harrisonburg Wear your costume, and trick or treat at the farm all day. Enjoy pumpkin painting, pumpkin games, smashing pumpkins and all sorts of pumpkin treats. 540-442-6493,

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Greenfield Fall Festival 2016 Greenfield is a great educational activity for people of all ages. Take home a pumpkin, enjoy hayrides, farm animals and try the giant slide! And of course play in the 5 acre corn maze. There is also a play area for toddlers.

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Open to the public - weekends from October 1 - 31, Sat 10-6, Sun 1-5 Groups of 15 or More Welcome Anytime! Please call for an appointment during the week.

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Places where you can have a SPOOK-tacular time! Ghosts of Staunton

Now through October, Fridays & Saturdays, 8pm at various locations Choose from several ghost tours for spooky tales along with historic facts. Paranormal investigators share favorite investigative techniques. 540-448-2743,

Twizted Creationz Haunted Attraction

October 1–31, Thursdays, Fridays & Saturdays, Dark–11pm Friday & Saturday, Dark–10pm Thursday at Waynesboro Just north of Waynesboro, get scared at this trail haunt with indoor and outdoor scenes. All benefits go to Camp LIGHT, a summer camp for kids with chronic illnesses and other special needs.

22nd Annual Charlottesville Spirit Walk

October 21, 22 & 29, 6–9pm locations vary Visit haunts of the past and hear stories from memorable residents of our community’s past. This popular tour typically sells out. Spirit Walk will meet at Court Square on the 21st, Maplewood Cemetery on the 22nd and the Old Jail on the 29th. 296-1492,

Ghost Stories Outside...In the Dark

October 22, 7pm at Staunton Public Library Joan Swift, Susan Clark and others bring chills with their stories so bring a blanket to sit on or wrap up in. These tales of horror are not for the faint of heart or those under 8 years old. Hot cider and cookies, too. 540-332-3902,

Haunted Camp Weekends

October 9–31, Friday-Saturday at Misty Mountain Camp Resort Trick or treating, costume contests, pumpkin carving, apple bobbing, hayrides, karaoke, air brush tattoos, best decorated campsite contest, campfire karaoke and more. 888-647-8900,

Boo at the Zoo

October 21–23, 5:30–8:30pm at National Zoo, Washington DC More than 40 treat stations, animal demonstrations, keeper chats, decorated trails, a DJ spinning Halloween favorites, musicians and jugglers. Try your luck in the scarecrow field. 202-633-4888,


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Goblins and Gourds

October 23, 1–4pm at Lewis Ginter Botanical Garden, Richmond Harvest celebration with live music, pumpkin decorating and fun in the Children’s Garden. Tastings from Relay Foods and Edible Education available as well. See demonstrations on natural dye, blacksmithing, broom-making, and pumpkin, gourd and wood carving. 804-262-9887,

*Halloween Hoopla October 23, 2-5pm at Whole Foods Whole Foods and CharlottesvilleFamily invite you to a fun-filled event with activity stations, wholesome snacks and lots of tricks & treats with Bumble, our lovable CharlottesvilleFamily bee! 984-4713,

Trunk or Treat

October 23, 3–6pm at ACAC Adventure Central Decorate your trunks, dress up and park, and children trick or treat car to car. Crafts and games in the arena. Registration required. 978-7529,

Harvest Fest with Spooktacular Fun

October 23–25 at Wintergreen Resort Come for a weekend of family-friendly Halloween events with spooktacular activities for all ages beginning with storytelling around the campfire on October 23 at 8pm. 325-8180,

Family Halloween Movie

October 28, 11am at Gordon Avenue Library Come and enjoy Hocus Pocus (1993), a Halloween movie favorite. 296-5544,

Haunted Henricus, Jr. - Things That Go Bump in the Afternoon

October 28, 3-4pm at Henricus Historical Park Join Henricus’s Education Department for stories, a treats tour and a make & take 17th century craft. Children must be accompanied by an adult. Registration required by October 26 by phone. 804-748-1611,

Doggie Howl-O-Ween

3rd Annual Harry Potter Halloween October 29, 12-10pm at Valley Street, Scottsville The entire town of Scottsville joins the fun and transforms into the village of Hogsmeade.

Haunted Henricus Overnight

October 28, 5-7:30pm at Main Street Arena, Downtown Mall Help fight canine cancer and includes doggie trick-or-treating, a parade on the Downtown Mall and costume contest.

October 29, 9pm-9am at Henricus Historical Park, Chester Spend the evening with Henricus staff and be involved in a paranormal investigation of the historic city. Registration required. Not recommended for children under age 6. 804-748-1611,

Halloween Paper Mask Making

2nd Annual Halloween Spooktacular

October 28 & 29, 10am-4pm at Lewis & Clark Exploratory Center Come to the Lewis & Clark Exploratory Center to make wearable paper masks for Halloween and learn about animals of North America, like the big horn sheep and bison. The Keelboat will also be available. 996-7282,

Haunted Henricus: Things That Go Bump in the Night

October 28 & 29, 7-8:30pm at Henricus Historical Park Storytellers re-live old English and Virginia Indian legends and folklore by the fireside. Listen to early colonists recount tales from their homeland. Capture the essence of what a colonist felt between 1607-1622 in a strange new land surrounded by danger, darkness and uncertain peril. Tours not appropriate for children under 6. Registration required. 804-748-1611,

Trick or Treat in Downtown Staunton

October 29, 10am-12pm at Participating Downtown Staunton stores Children can visit the Staunton Downtown Development Association Witch and follow the pumpkins to participating stores to trickor-treat. 540-332-3867,

Halloween at the Square

October 29, 10am-12:30pm at Amazement Square, Lynchburg Amazement Square will deliver some not-soscary scares during its Halloween celebration. Come dressed up for classic halloween activities ending in a Halloween parade. 845-1888,

Trunk or Treat

October 30, 4-6pm at Aldersgate United Methodist Church A fun and safe event for children and families, all children are invited to dress up and trick-or-treat from trunk to trunk! There will be hotdogs, crafts, petting zoo and more. Children must be accompanied by an adult. Adults are asked to not wear masks. 973-5806,

Trick or Treat at the Library

October 31 at JMRL branches Children are invited to stop by any JMRL branch for a special treat. Each child will receive a coupon for a free children’s book from the upcoming Friends of the Library Fall Book Sale. 979-7151,

October 30 at Carter Mountain Orchard Join us for our one of our newer traditions. Our family-oriented event will be fun for young and old! And, we’ll still have plenty of apples to pick! Pumpkin carving contest, Halloween parade and contest, caramel apple dipping station, trick-or-treat, hayrides and more. 977-1833,

Children’s Halloween Concert

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October 31, 4-8pm at CMoR Central Adults and children are invited to dress in their Halloween best for an evening full of family fun at CMoR Central. Trick or Treat through the kid-size neighborhood complete with spooky decorations. Enjoy Halloweenthemed activities and crafts, and more. 804-474-7063,

October 30, 8:30am at Historic Downtown Mall Escape the undead as a human, or chase humans as a zombie and turn them into zombies by taking their life (ribbon on their backs). 218-0402,

Spooky Party

October 30, 10am-4pm at All CMoR Locations, Richmond, Short Pump, Chesterfield and Fredericksburg Children’s Museum of Richmond invites little ones to give their Halloween costumes a trial-run at this annual event. All locations will offer Halloween-themed activities, games and art projects. Enjoy special performers, DIY face painting workshops, and tricks and treats. 804-474-7000,

Yappy Howl-O-Ween

October 30, 12-3pm at Keswick Vineyards Dress your pups in costumes and support the Charlottesville/Albemarle SPCA. 244-3341,

October 31, 3:30-4pm at Westminster Presbyterian Church A short concert of spooky organ music for Halloween, followed by an upclose demonstration of the organ. 963-4690,

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Downtown Halloween Trick or Treat Extravaganza

October 31, 4-6pm at West Main Street, Orange An evening of Halloween festivities for trick or treaters of all ages. Main Street will be closed off allowing safe entertainment and candy giveaways to children of all ages. Many local businesses and organizations handing out candy to our little munchkins. 540-672-2540,

Teen Halloween Scavenger Hunt

October 31, 4:30pm at Gordon Library Find the ghosts and goblins hiding in the library. Spooky clues and a Halloween treat. Grades 5-12. 296-5544,

Dog Fest

October 30, 1-4pm at Darden Towe Park All things canine—games, free treats, pet photos, refreshments, pet-related services, rescue groups and special events like the Best Dog Costume contest, Best Children’s Costume contest and Best Theme Costume contest by a group or family. 296-7048,

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CONTEST Congratulations! First place: “Alex the Pumpkin” followed by 2nd place: “The Skunk, Possum, Garbage Man and Raccoon” You submitted, and you voted for your favorite Halloween costume on Facebook based on the best photo overall: most creative, original and fun (not necessarily the most adorable, since ALL of our children are adorable)! Go to Facebook to check out even more. We hope you share your child’s photos this Halloween on our CharlottesvilleFamily Facebook page!

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Breastfeeding Who? What? When? Where? In addition to providing the best possible nourishment for baby, breastfeeding turbo-boosts your baby’s immunity, and sets him or her on a path to better lifelong health. Breast-fed babies have lower rates of obesity, allergies and respiratory illnesses, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics. For you, moms, health benefits include a decreased risk of postpartum depression as well as a decreased risk of breast cancer. State laws in Virginia allow mothers to breastfeed their babies anywhere they themselves are allowed to go. And in Charlottesville, nursing moms have a wealth of resources to help them prepare, troubleshoot and succeed. La Leche League is one such resource. The group meets twice a month and offers by Whitney Woollerton Morrill

mom-to-mom breastfeeding support. Allyson Shames, a mother of three and a leader at La Leche League of Charlottesville for 12 years, offers suggestions to new moms: Getting Ready: During pregnancy, create a support system.

New Mom

Mothers and babies learn the rhythm of breastfeeding as they go. Challenges aren’t a sign of failure. Ask partners to listen and offer encouragement if the going gets tough. Let your doctor or midwife know you intend to breastfeed and to not introduce bottles or pacifiers to your baby until breastfeeding is well established (approximately 3 weeks). Getting Started: Be a Velcro buddy to your newborn. “If possible, hold your baby skin-to-skin within the first hour of his birth,” Shames advises, “and as much as possible after that.” The goal is for mother and baby to become a unit. If a mom plans only to nurse for a

REMINDER! Breastfeeding is a learning curve that mom and baby travel together. Offer equal doses of compassion to yourself and your baby as you learn the ropes.

short period, “let it be the first two-three days after delivery,” Shames says. During this time, mothers produce colostrum, a concentrated, nutrient and antibody-rich liquid that gives baby the best start to a healthy life. Another tip from Shames: “Don’t download anything!” She’s witnessed how pop-up messages from breastfeeding apps often hurt moms more than they help. Instead, try to slow down and learn about your baby. Newborns nurse 8-12 times in 24 hours, and feedings are often irregularly spaced. The gist—if baby’s sucking his fingers or rooting, he’s hungry. Troubleshooting & Sticking With it: Come as you are. Whether breastfeeding is going beautifully, terribly or somewhere in

between, local experts have your back. Shames says breastfeeding support groups and professionals meet mothers where they are and help them get where they want to be. In 2015, the University of Virginia Children’s Hospital was recognized as a Baby Friendly®-designated birth facility. Physicians and certified lactation consultants at its Breastfeeding Medicine Outpatient Clinic provide postpartum support for mothers and babies. Lactation consultants are also on staff at Sentara Martha Jefferson Hospital, and moms can get peer support and expertise at La Leche meetings.

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My little girl is too old to be biting. What can I do to stop this? You don’t say how old your daughter is, but most kids go through a biting phase between 1 and 3 years old. At the early ages, it’s often due to their being so oral, and testing and tasting the world through their mouths. Or, they are in pain from teething. As they get older, children usually bite because they are frustrated and irritable and don’t yet have words to express how they feel. The best route is to prevent this from here on out. If you go with your daughter to the playground, for example, bring snacks in case she gets hungry. Similarly, watch her play, and if she is starting to get tired and cranky, pull her aside for a few minutes to rest and get settled. If you suspect that she is biting to get your attention, make sure you give her positive attention throughout the day—individual time, as well as compliments when she is playing well, being helpful, etc. This is especially important if she or your family is going through some transitions—new baby, moving, a new school. Finally, encourage her to use her words when she wants her toy or if she is angry, rather than biting. If she does bite, and she will when you aren’t able to catch her, sternly say, “No, we don’t do that; it hurts people,” and then put her in time out. Don’t hit her or bite her back, because it only backfires and teaches her that biting and hitting are in fact okay. If you’re daughter hasn’t outgrown this by the time she is 4 or 5 years old, there may be other underlying problems that need to be addressed. Talk to your pediatrician or seek out a child therapist.

I have a son who says he hates school. How should I address this properly? Hearing your child say he hates school is gut-wrenching for most parents, because you want your child to enjoy school and be successful at it. That being said, hating school is an all-purpose phrase that many kids resort to for a variety of reasons. Most often it is said about school, but other times it is something else. The key to helping your child with this problem is to dig deeper and find out what he dislikes most. There are a number of possibilities here: he feels his teacher is “mean;” someone in his class is being a bully; he doesn’t have friends; he is struggling with understanding his school work or feeling overwhelmed by homework. Remember that as a parent, you don’t Email your parenting have to have the answer, but you need to ask the questions that concerns and queries to will reveal the truth behind such a statement. It’s obviously important to check in with his teacher(s) on this. Yours might be included in How to do they see him? Where do they see him struggling? What can an upcoming issue! you do together to make school better for him? Sometimes kids say things like this while meaning more—they are feeling down or tend to be self-critical overall, and hating school is just a part of the bigger issue that they are critical of. I’ve even seen kids say this to get a rise out of you, because they’ve learned you will give them more attention or seem to be more understanding if they are frustrated. In this case, it is less about school and more about where they are emotionally. If you feel this is the case, watch when and how they make such a statement. Finally, your son may have an underlying problem that causes him to struggle, such as an undiagnosed learning disability. If you suspect that might be case, talk to the school guidance counselor or seek an evaluation.


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Grieving Together Being Mindful Around the Loss of a Loved One

Mindful Parenting

My Uncle Richard was like another father to me. He did everything a father would, including treating me and my kids just like his own. His unexpected passing was the first time in my adult life that I lost someone I truly loved. The first year after his death was incredibly difficult, and the following year wasn’t any easier. But I learned many things along the way, and one in particular was how to grieve when I was a parent. Just as with all parenting moments, your kids are always watching and learning from you. I guess you could say that awareness helped me through my own grieving, so here is my advice to you: Cry, it’s necessary. I would try to keep it together until I dropped my kids at school or put them to bed, yet there were many times when one of my kids would catch me crying. I learned that honesty was what helped us all, so I would tell them I missed Uncle Richard very much and that it was okay if they missed him and cried, too. Let your friends and coworkers offer support. The first day back at work, I was by Danielle Sullivan afraid that if someone offered me a kind word I might cry. I came close a few times, but I found such comfort from my coworkers and bosses. Their understanding and support, along with their shared stores of losing their own loved ones, helped me get stronger. Don’t shy away from remembering the good times. As a kid, and even as an adult, Uncle Richard was always there for every important event. He was at my pre-party prom, college graduation celebration and he gave me away at my wedding. When my kids were baptized or had a school event, you could find him on the sidelines, camera in hand, snapping away. I’ve realized the importance in reminiscing the good memories with the kids, and that is what keeps us going. Look for the signs. One of his favorite songs is No More I Love You’s by Annie Lennox, and he would blast it from the top of his speakers. And where did I hear this particular song for the first time after his Need More Help? passing—in the supermarket during Christmas. Where did I hear For family health it again the next time—at the airport when I was nervous about services and resources, flying. I continue to find comfort in knowing he is still watching over me, and I have opened up our lives to these special little moments of Uncle Richard. has what you need to find Talk about it. I hang Uncle Richard’s favorite cap on the handle and keep your family’s of our China closet so when we sit down to dinner, we feel like he’s harmony. here. I retell hilarious stories about him with my husband, and very gradually, it hurts a little less. There are no coincidences. A year after his passing, we adopted a sweet and cuddly black Lab mix and named her Django. She immediately bonded with each of us, and we loved her since day one. When I took her to her first vet appointment, the tech revealed Django’s birthday—September 23. Coincidence? I think not. This precious puppy was actually a gift from my uncle. I knew that September 23 would no longer be a sad day in our home; it would be a day to celebrate Django’s life and the gift Uncle Richard sent us.

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Nighttime Snores

Ways to Take Notice of Your Child’s Sleep

While many children snore on occasion, it’s important for parents to take notice when a child is consistently snoring. “Any snoring is abnormal,” says Dr. Pearl Yu, director of the UVA Pediatric Sleep Disorders Clinic. “You’re actually not supposed to snore.” Air should be able to move easily through a child’s mouth, nose and throat when he or she is sleeping. Snoring happens when the air a child breathes in is partially blocked during its passage through to the back of the mouth, causing tissue in the throat to vibrate. How loud a child snores depends on how much air is passing through and how fast the throat is vibrating, according to the National Sleep Foundation. About 15 percent of children snore regularly, says Dr. Yu. by Megan E. Davis

Airflow may be obstructed by weak muscles in the tongue and throat, enlarged tonsils, adenoids or other obstructions such as a tumor or cyst, excessive tissue

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around the throat or congested nasal passages from a cold, flu, sinus infection or allergies. Some structural factors could include: a long, soft palate; a long uvula; deformities of the nose or nasal septum; or a small chin, an overbit or a high palate. In 2012, the American Academy of Pediatrics issued guidelines recommending that all children who snore be screened for a condition called Obstructive Sleep Apnea Syndrome (OSAS). When a child has OSAS, the airway becomes blocked or narrowed while they’re sleeping, causing them to stop breathing. The brain doesn’t receive enough oxygen and signals the body to breathe. According to the National Sleep Foundation, when this happens, it’s common to hear a gasp for breath or choking. About 1 to 3 percent of children have OSAS. It is equally common

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in girls and boys before puberty, but it becomes much more common in boys after puberty. A sleep study is needed to diagnose OSAS, Dr.

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Yu says. Signs of OSAS during sleep include snoring, pauses in breath longer than 10 seconds, gasping for breath or choking, sweating and restlessness. During the day, children with OSAS may be excessively sleepy, wake up un-refreshed, have difficulty waking up, fall asleep frequently, become hyperactive, become cranky or irritable, or have learning, social or behavioral problems. “The more they sleep, the worse they feel,” Dr. Yu says. “Their brain

is being aroused by their upper airway collapsing, and this decreases their amount of deep restorative sleep.” While there is no specific treatment for snoring, it can be a sign of an underlying condition that needs attention, such as allergies or a respiratory infection, says Dr. Yu. It’s important to let your pediatrician know if your child is snoring on a regular basis.

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TAKE IT OUTSIDE With Autumn being a drop-dead gorgeous time in our region, it makes it the perfect season to explore all that our area has to offer. Try these on for size: 1. Take the road less traveled. There are plenty of

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Nature’s Playground Hikes to Celebrate 100 Years of the National Park Service by Jeff Alt

As we celebrate the 100th birthday of

want to implement this as a routine part of

will remember the soft grass and the

the National Park Service this year, it is

family life, consider this: Your adventure

rough texture of bark. Their eyes will track

a great time to explore the Shenandoah

together in the park is a great time to

the deer moving through the meadow and



bond as a family, when you are removed

the hawk soaring across the blue sky.

backyard, the wilderness is an important

from all your domestic distractions and

Your toddler will be thrilled to saddle


have the opportunity to instill one of the

his own adventure pack and hit the trail

greatest gifts you can give your child—an

with the promise of his favorite lunch

appreciation for nature.

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children to explore, learn and grow. Carving out a regular family National


Park adventure is a great strategy to

And it’s never too early to start.

along like binoculars and a camera to take

get your children outside and moving.

Look no further than the research that

pictures of cool things they discover. Let

Walking and hiking are two of the simplest

supports early intervention and preschool

him lead the pace and focus your attention

and healthiest forms of exercise there are

education for affirmation that what you

to whatever he takes interest in—“child-

and are associated with weight loss, stress

expose your children to at the youngest

directed hiking.” Play games like I spy, or

relief and can even act as an aids in the

of ages will have a lasting impact

look under rocks for little creatures. You

treatment of depression. New research

throughout their lives. Their little brains

may only get a short distance down the

correlates hiking in nature with increased

are developing rapidly from birth to 5

trail, but they will feel empowered and

creativity, something I already knew from

years of age. Expose children to nature at

will have so much fun that they will want

my own lifelong hiking experiences that

the youngest of ages and they will encode

to go again and again. Your school-age

included an Appalachian Trail journey

that into who they are. Infants may not

child will be able to shoulder some of the

from Georgia to Maine, a trek across the

yet talk, but they absorb everything using

gear necessary for hiking—water, rain

California John Muir Trail with my wife,

their natural senses. Carry them in a child

parka, maps, plant identification guides,

a family journey across Ireland while

carrier and stop frequently to let them

etc.—and based on their age and ability,

shouldering my 21-month-old daughter

explore using all their senses. Their ears

they should be able to reach some of the

and over 18 years of hiking in the

will hear a bird chirping; their olfactory

summit views of Shenandoah Valley or


will register the fragrance of fresh flowers

one of the many spectacular waterfalls to

Many of my best ideas come to me on

and the scent of musty clay after an early

splash their feet in.

the trail. If this isn’t enough to make you

morning rain. Their little hands and feet

October 2016

Skyline Drive makes it easy for






National Park. The park boasts over 500

night sky. Download an app on your smart

short family adventure that will take you

phone to help identify what you see.

above the trees with stunning views in

miles of trails that lead to stunning views,


cascading waterfalls, historic sites and



• Rapidan Camp: Mile 52.8. Milam

the Appalachian Trail, all of which are just

that pair with some of the time travel

Gap. Ready for some presidential time

a short drive from Charlottesville.

escapades in my latest children’s book,

travel history? Take the Mill Prong Trail

The Adventures of Bubba Jones: Time Traveling

on a four-mile roundtrip loop down to

Through Shenandoah National Park, which

Rapidan Camp. Rapidan Camp served as

your school-aged children might enjoy.

the presidential retreat for the President

Here are a few of our favorite family Shenandoah National Park adventures: • Dark Hollow Falls: Mile 50.7. This hike leads you on a short 1.4-mile roundtrip

are close

some to


every direction.

• Calvary Rocks: Mile Post 90, Rip Rap

and first lady before Camp David. A


parking area. Discover an ancient ocean

seasonal caretaker offers tours inside the

waterfall with cool water running down

that no longer exists. This roundtrip hike

presidential residence.

the mountain and pooling at your feet.

of about three miles will take you out to

Pack along a lunch, and take your time

Calvary Rocks and back.






climbing back up to the parking lot.

Any one of these adventures might be deserving of a blackberry milkshake

• Black Rock: Mile 84.8. This short one-

from one the park waysides as a reward

• Hawksbill Mountain: Mile 46.7. This

mile roundtrip stroll will take you to an

after the hike. These suggested hikes only

roundtrip of just over two miles takes you

entire mountainside covered with large

crack the surface of all the great family

to the highest point in the Shenandoah.

broken black colored rocks known as

adventures in Shenandoah National Park.

There is a day-use shelter at the top and a

Talus Slopes, which were created during

If you explore Shenandoah as a regular

commanding view of the Valley.

the end of the last Ice Age as the climate

family pursuit, soon, your kids will grow

warmed up.

and take you on a hike!

• Mary’s Rock: Mile 33.5 via the

Before you go:

Meadow Spring Trail. This round trip hike

• Pocosin Mission: Mile 59.5. This

leads you up the mountain to a stunning

roundtrip excursion will lead you to the

panoramic view.

remnants of a building that once served

your pending adventure with books,

as a church and school in an era before

magazines, maps, the park website and

Shenandoah became a National Park.

videos that show the spectacular wildlife

• Big Meadows field at night: Mile Post 51. Take a stroll out into the Big Meadows field after nightfall and enjoy the brilliant

• Bearfence: Mile 56.4. Don’t miss this






and locations they will see.


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Hike It Baby Hike It Baby Charlottesville, a group of volunteers who are companions of the trails, encourages anyone to host a hike with other local families. For more, see

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whole group & first aid knowledge to

go along with the kit. Bring a compass

& map and brush up on how to use them. Learn how to make a shelter to keep you warm and dry. Keep matches and a lighter in a dry place and know how to make a fire to keep warm. Carry a whistle and a signal mirror in case you get lost. Pack a survival knife with a locking blade. Bring a head lamp flashlight, extra batteries, 50 feet of rope or twine, and always have several feet of duct tape for that unexpected repair. Bring water and food kids love: Hand out needed extra energy and water as needed on the trail. Pack their favorite snacks and bring plenty of water. Stop often for a drink and a snack. Pack fun items: Let young children fill their adventure pack with a bug catcher, magnifying glass, binoculars, a camera, a map and compass, whistle or flashlight. Let your little adventurer take ownership and pack a few items of his own, even if it’s not hiking related. Play games and bring a friend: Play “I Spy” using your surroundings as you walk along. Create your own scavenger hunt in search of animals, plants and views along the way. Make up rhymes and sing songs as you walk. Pack along a plant and animal identification guide for your older child. Let your social butterfly bring a friend. Intrigue your computer savvy child with the high-

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National Park. This will help ensure that the experience is enjoyable, memorable and even life changing.

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Friendships 50

October 2016

Help Your Children Learn Social Skills

“Julie said she’s not my friend!” exclaims my 4-year-old daughter. “And I don’t like her,” she adds. Instantly defensive, I imagine a not-so-nice little preschooler forming cliques of the girls she deems “cool” enough and viciously controlling the class with her gossip and favoritism. In reality, I wind up hosting a playdate with the adorable, hilarious Julie not two weeks later, and the girls have since attended one another’s birthday parties because they can’t seem to get enough of each other.

by Deborah Bohn

What’s going on here? It’s a simple matter of playground politics—children learning to navigate the sometimes choppy waters of friendships and relationships. Most adults will admit that they still make social gaffes when it comes to co-workers, neighbors and friends, so imagine what it’s like for children who lack the verbal skills to seamlessly join a conversation, the grace to accept a compliment or the self-esteem to brush off an unkind remark. It can be rocky at times, but most kids will grasp the social nuances that serve them throughout their life. An insider’s look at recess periods at a preschool, grade school and middle school offers a glimpse into the sometimes complex lives our kids experience at school.


{resources education} things they enjoy.” She goes on to say that

Preschool: Playing and Choosing Playmates Preschool is a time when children may choose play dough over playmates. Preschool teacher Tina Locke describes a typical day on the playground, “The swings, slides and riding toys are usually full with a mixture of boys and girls, without respect to ‘best friends.’

most little kids make friends easily and

Preschoolers are more passionate about choosing an activity than they are about choosing a friend.

will have many “best friends” throughout the year. A young child’s ability to forgive slights and quickly make new friends are wonderful things, but there are still a few socially awkward kids hanging on the periphery of the playground who become labeled for their lack of communication

You might have a group of boys playing


with balls and a group of girls sitting

“By 4 or 5, children know who

and digging or playing with small toys.

can’t speak clearly, who can’t listen

If you clap your hands and yell ‘switch,’

to join them. Locke says, “Most of the

appropriately during story time, who hits

you can blink, and groups will reconfigure

centers like dress-up or art are co-ed. It’s

and pushes,” Locke says. Other “loners”

and move to another activity. Most classes

my experience that if given the chance

have at least one child who finds himself

to play with a particular friend or choose

alone more often than the rest. These

an activity, the activity wins.” She says

children often enjoy the role of observer,”

that even children as young as age 2

Locke says.

have groups of preferred playmates and

Although parents tend to choose

migrate toward kids with similar interests

playmates for young children based on

and personalities. Unlike older children

the age and gender of other kids in the


neighborhood, preschoolers are more

outward appearance, stylish clothing or

passionate about choosing an activity

possessions, “preschoolers want to hang

than they are about choosing a friend

with children who want to do the same






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Charlottesville Waldorf School

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973-4946 Parent-child and Pre-Kindergarten–Grade 8 Committed to bringing a rich academic, artistic and physical education to our student body based on the ideals of imagination, intellectual curiosity, social responsibility and diversity. See ad page 56

The Covenant School 220-7330 Pre-Kindergarten–Grade 12 Covenant offers a traditional Christian liberal arts and sciences education and a variety of extracurricular opportunities to over 570 students. See ad page 57

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{resources education} Free Union Country School 978-1700 Preschool–Grade 5 A rich environment with small classes and teachers who nurture critical thinking, a strong academic foundation in math, science, reading, writing, outdoor exploration and social skills and awareness. Parent involvement welcome. See ad page 54

Frost Montessori School 979-5223 Ages 21 months–6 years Varied curriculum using the Montessori method in a developmentally appropriate learning environment to help promote knowledge of the world and encourage development of skills needed for growth. See ad page 58

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540-672-1010 Pre-Kindergarten–Grade 8 A co-educational day school offering challenging academics paired with technology instruction, small class size and extracurriculars. Bus transport from Ruckersville and central stops for six counties. See ad page 59

The International School of Charlottesville 984-2174 Ages 2–6 and after-school through elementary-age Language introduction and immersion preschool, after-school and camp programs designed to lay the foundations for a lifetime of global citizenship. Teachers communicate with children in Spanish or French. See ad page 58

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may be children without siblings who aren’t yet used to interacting with multiple kids or those who simply possess quiet personalities and prefer to observe the action from the sidelines rather than jump in the middle of a crowd. By pre-K or kindergarten, leaders start emerging—usually a handful of kids with “tons of self confidence and good communication skills,” says Locke. At this age, girls start forming smaller, more exclusive groups of friends or cliques and get their feelings hurt when their perceived “best friend” plays with someone else. Luckily for mothers of boys, they’re not quite there yet. “Boys at this age are easier,” Locke asserts. “They play with the kids playing what they want to play.” Grade school, however, is a whole new world.

Grade School: Navigating Groups and Gender Grade school and navigating the cooties and kickball stages can be challenging. Kenneth A. Dodge, Ph.D., founder and director of the Duke Center for Child and Family Policy, paints a verbal picture of a normal day during recess at grade school: “A large group of boys are playing a game of kickball. Several leaders are establishing teams, and others are going along. A few boys are watching from the periphery. The girls are in smaller clusters of twos and threes. The girls are less likely to be running around. They are talking a lot more.” Elementary



suddenly become picky about friends. Translation: Girls have cooties, and boys are gross. “Opposite-gender disdain is strongest during the late elementary school years—grades three and four,” Dodge explains. Even kids who have a best friend of the opposite gender in their neighborhood will often alter their behavior at school and only sit with girls at the lunch table or stick to sports on the playground. Fortunately, in communities where large numbers of girls play sports, the genders may


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Mountaintop Montessori

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979-8886 Preschool–Grade 8 Striving to meet the unique needs of children at each stage of development. Mixed age group in classrooms allows for both individual and social development on a campus with over 9 acres of gardens and certified wildlife habitats to explore. See ad page 22

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540-456-8450 Preschool–Grade 8 Emphasis on hands-on learning and cooperation while providing a challenging, solid foundation in academics, the arts and life skills. Small class size. See ad page 52

Oakland School 293-9059 Ages 6–13 A small day and boarding school helping children with learning differences. Daily one-to-one, small class size and individualized instruction ensure students reach their potential. See ad page 59

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mingle in a game of soccer during recess; and by the fifth grade, some of the more mature kids start hanging around the opposite gender to satisfy their budding romantic curiosity. Some things don’t change with age. Just like in preschool, a lack of social skills equates to a lack of friends. Dodge says that kids who “have not learned how to enter groups and negotiate conflicts” are the ones who get excluded. Boys tend to have a harder time with these skills, but if they can play sports well, third-grade teacher Carla says, their

poor communication skills will

in the classroom, and the boys who are

be ignored on the ball field. “On

into books are pretty much loners.” By

average, girls score better on tests

the fourth grade, girls begin to place

of social competence and skills

value on looks and fashion, while boys

than boys do,” says Dodge, “but

“lag behind in the attention to clothes

some girls are indeed inept and

and attractiveness,” according to Dodge.

awkward.” Those girls are usually

The most popular kids tend to possess

found reading instead of chatting

a mixture of all those traits. Puckett



describes the so-called queen bee in

Sadly, kids who don’t fit in often

her classroom as “very outgoing, well-

misbehave or cause conflicts in a

rounded, athletic, cute as a button and

misguided attempt for any kind of

smart in school—she has it all.”




attention, which just aggravates the problem and solidifies their label as outcasts and troublemakers. On the other hand, the same qualities that make a leader at age 3 are found in the most popular 10-year-olds, too—selfconfidence, good communication skills, assertiveness and a good sense of humor. By age 10, size in boys and style in girls play an important role in popularity, too.

Elementary school children suddenly become picky about friends.

Dodge says, “Athletic ability and size make a difference” as early as the first grade. Puckett agrees, “The boys who are best at sports are the most popular

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“Adolescents are very sensitive to hypocrisy and are constantly questioning the status quo.” — psychology professor Jessica Giles Copeland

like expensive clothes or fancy braces.

Middle School: Mixing It Up The good news about middle school is that larger mixed-gender crowds start to appear on the playground because the yucky factor regarding the opposite sex goes away. In fact, the opposite sex starts looking pretty interesting at this age. The bad news is that the small all-girl or all-boy cliques that remain are more exclusive and hierarchical than ever. Former psychology professor Jessica Giles Copeland says, “Girls are more relationally




while a girl can quickly rise to


power through money, gossip and rumors, the most popular middle school girls are those Copeland describes as “assertive and confident with something interesting to share like sports, music or art.” She goes on to say that those qualities “may not make you homecoming queen, but they’ll give you solid lasting friendships. Girls want that kind of trust and intimacy.” Outward appearance in the form of clothes and haircuts isn’t as important for boys, but muscular development and physical prowess displayed in basketball,

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football and skateboarding certainly are. Smaller boys still have a chance, though, if they’re exceptionally funny and quickwitted. The wiry wisecracker won’t rise to the top of the heap, but he will definitely be included in the popular groups because he provides comic relief without physically threatening to topple the alpha male. Copeland says, “Adolescents are very sensitive to hypocrisy and are constantly questioning the status quo, so if someone can use that to their advantage by


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Regents School of Charlottesville 293-0633 Kindergarten–Grade 10 Independent, private school based on the classical Christian model. Challenging academics, a Christcentered environment, small class sizes, excellent fine arts and a growing athletic program create a wonderful partnership between parents and school to raise up leaders. See ad page 52

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exposing adults as hypocrites or buffoons,


it may be attractive to their peers.”

Parents: Supporting, Not Controlling

healthy. delicious.

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with being part of the cool group, rest assured that you haven’t lost all your influence. “Adolescents look to their peers for what to wear, hair, make-up and what music to listen to, but they tend to go to their parents for politics, religion and values,” explains Copeland. And it’s those values that ultimately help get them through the competitive middle school years. Experts say that the majority of children gravitate toward students who share their interests and that most kids make solid friends—many who will last a lifetime. Even the kids who don’t seem to fit in anywhere one year usually find a niche the next when the class composition changes. As tempting as it is to try to fix hurt

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important social skills that they will continue to develop and hone throughout their lives. “I see play as the truest form of who a child is at any given time. It’s through play that children work out all these roles and feelings,” says Locke. “As adults, we need to be observers. We need to be there to bandage the skinned knee and soothe the wounded spirit, but we shouldn’t try to remove all the dangers; nor should we try to help our children avoid all the pitfalls of their relationships.

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It’s a tough world out there, and children learn to cope by practicing all these things during their opportunities to just ‘go play.’”

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Wisdom for Fighting the Battle

by Jody Hobbs-Hesler


a color that means an array of happy and positive things is also the color of universal love of oneself and of others. Breast cancer awareness month is a reminder to take the time to be selfish and to encourage the ones you love to be selfish, too, when it comes to your health. “It affects one in every eight women in the U.S. over the course of a lifetime, says Dr. Patrick Dillon, associate professor in UVA’s Division of Hematology and Oncology. So, in honor of sisters, mothers, daughters, grandmothers, aunts, friends and all of the women in our lives who have had to fight this battle, don’t wait to learn all that you can about early detection.


October 2016

Some Breast Cancer Basics What is breast cancer? “Most breast cancers arise from cells that line the ducts of the breast,” according to Dr. Dillon. These cells “have acquired mutations or other changes, which allow [them] to grow and divide when they should not. In many cases, it can take years to decades for a cell to transform from a normal cell into a breast cancer that can be detected.” What causes breast cancer? A variety of factors have been

introduce patients and families to a wealth of resources

shown to contribute to breast cancer risk, including “obesity,

within the treatment environment and the community and

sedentary lifestyle, unhealthy diet, smoking, alcohol intake

help them understand the diagnosis and treatment process

and a strong family history of breast cancer,” says Tracey

from start to finish. Each breast cancer is different, as is each

Gosse, UVA breast care program manager. But it’s not possible

person diagnosed, so each team of healthcare workers devises

to pinpoint a direct cause for every individual cancer. So, while

a strategy to meet each patient’s specific needs.

it’s important to follow prevention guidelines for best health

Can it be prevented? Though there are no guarantees, “The

results, Gosse says, “you can be a healthy, diet conscious,

best advice that we can give women in any age group,” Dillon

non-smoker with no family history of breast cancer and still

says, “is to keep alcohol consumption to a minimum, exercise

develop this disease.”

regularly, eat a well-balanced diet, avoid smoking, and try to

How is breast cancer detected? “Breast cancer may be detected

maintain a healthy body weight.” Screening can’t prevent it,

either by screening mammography or by self-palpation of the

but “early detection is the best defense against breast cancer,”

breast,” says Dillon. “The majority of breast cancers detected

says Gosse. So, “as a general rule,” Dillon recommends, “most

in the United States are found at an early stage when they will

women should start screening between the age of 40 and 50,

still be likely to be cured.” So screening and prevention can

depending upon their risk factors.”

help yield the best possible outcomes. How is it treated? “The cornerstone of therapy for breast

Support Networks

cancer,” says Dillon, “is surgical removal of the tumor.”

A diagnosis can be frightening. When area preschool

Surgeries range from lumpectomies (the removal of the

teacher, Elsa* was diagnosed, “all I could think about was

tumor itself), to single or double mastectomies (the removal

Robert*,” her 6-year-old son, she says, “and how I had to be

of one or both breasts). Other than surgery, women might

there for Robert. That was what I kept saying over and over.”

undergo chemotherapy, radiation therapy or drug therapy.

When Stacy from Richmond was diagnosed, her two daughters

Chemotherapy and radiation therapies can last for weeks or

were 5 and 3 years old. “One night shortly after my diagnosis,”

months, while medical therapies might continue for years.

she says, “we all went out to dinner. I left the restaurant to grab

After mastectomy, reconstructive surgery might also feature in

something from my car and looked back at my three people

a person’s long-term care. Whenever surgery or lymphedema

framed in the light of the window, and thought, ‘I’ll be gone,

(swelling that can happen after lymph nodes are removed)

and that’s how it will look then: just the three of them, with my

is involved, massage, physical therapy and other therapeutic

spirit somewhere else, never able to touch them again.’”

movement exercises, like Pilates, can also be helpful parts of a rehab plan.

But, fears like these are common. “First off,” says Mary Saunders, nurse navigator at Sentara Martha Jefferson

Here in Charlottesville, Sentara Martha Jefferson Hospital

Hospital, “it’s important to know that “the majority of women

and UVA’s Cancer Center both have nurse navigators who

with breast cancer survive and do well.” After a diagnosis and


throughout treatment, nurse navigators and other staff are standing by to offer help with any needs for counseling, questions




information about treatments and more. This team approach counters women’s fears by providing specific resources and tangible help at crucial moments. Physical




exercise can also help combat fears and promote healing. “Physical therapists are just another piece of the support staff to help someone through the difficult journey of cancer,” says Lindsay Benson, Desiree Carfaro, instructor at truPilates in Charlottesville,

physical therapist and clinical director of

says, “After a surgery there can be fear of simple everyday

the Lake Monticello office of Pantops Physical Therapy. Amy*, a local healthcare practitioner, started Pilates within

movements, and that can change the way that we move and

two weeks after her mastectomy. “For me, honestly, it was

use our bodies. With Pilates, the goal is to bring you back to

getting out of the house and moving my body that allowed me

optimal movement patterns and create more ease in the body.”

to not get depressed about the diagnosis and treatment,” Amy*

Similarly, according to Benson, “The overall goal of physical

says. “I couldn’t even get a glass out of the kitchen cabinet for

therapy after mastectomy, breast reconstruction, and/or

my then-5-year-old daughter! So feeling strong in another part

radiation therapy is to restore mobility of the shoulder complex

of my body helped my optimism and positivity.”

to allow individuals to return to all of their previous activities

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Myths and Misperceptions While there is plenty to worry about with a breast cancer diagnosis, there are some things to cross off that list. For example, Saunders assures that your cancer won’t spread if you do a needle biopsy. “There is no data to support the




mammograms or underwire bras cause breast cancer,” either, says Dillon. Not all the myths about breast cancer alleviate




assume that not having a family history of without restriction and discomfort.” Physical therapy and gentle exercise can help treat and prevent lymphedema, too. Ten years after her cancer diagnosis, Stacy says she receives “monthly massage for myofascial scar tissue release

breast cancer means they won’t develop it, but “75 percent of all breast cancer is detected in women with no significant family history,” Saunders says. “Every woman is at risk, and the risk increases with age.”

and various muscular issues.” But she wishes she had learned

Dillon says that another misperception is “that breast

about such wellness options earlier. “In retrospect,” she says, “I

cancer is only a disease of older women…[but actually] there

wish someone had guided me to physical therapy immediately

are reported cases of breast cancer from age 8 to age 104.” And

after my surgery. It’s amazing how injured chest muscles affect

men get breast cancer, too.

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cared.” For those who want to help a friend


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diagnosed, here are several ideas of

of caring for their children, women and

exactly what you can do.

families also face the difficult task of

From Stacy:

explaining the illness to them.

• Set up a meal schedule.

Saunders offers these simple pieces

• Leave breakfast food for the kids.

of advice: “Be honest,” she says. “Describe

• And always tell the person with

things at their level. Make sure they

cancer what you plan so they do not

understand that mommy will be okay

feel forgotten or unimportant.

but some days she might feel sick and

From Elsa:

not able to play as usual.”

• Bring food.

“My daughters were only 5 and 3

• Be aware that some women will feel

years old when I was diagnosed,” says

like they have to be up all the time,

Stacy, “so my husband and I struggled

keeping visitors company. Keep visits

with how much and when to tell them.”

fairly brief, or if you are staying in the

When they figured out their approach,

home of the patient, encourage them

“we sat down together and explained to

• Humor helps a ton!

my chest; the doctors would remove it;

• Never



cards. They really are comforting. From Charlotte:

the vaguest way and told the girls to ask

Be understanding if the patient does not

any questions any time.”

act like herself. It’s a huge change. The

Single mother Charlotte, a local poet

words I found to explain it were, “I don’t

and writing teacher at UVA’s Bachelor of

feel like myself anymore, and there’s

Interdisciplinary Studies Program, “was

nothing I know of I can do about it.”

diagnosed at age 39 with Stage 3,” she

Ideas from Mary Saunders:

says. “I told my children right away. They

• Help the woman make a list of things she needs. That way when a friend calls and asks what she can do to

How to Help A helping, supportive network is a


help, the woman can give her friend something specific to do.

gift. For Stacy, “I was so touched that so

• Care for their children when they

many people we knew thought of our

have doctor appointments, treatment

girls and took them out for ice cream,

appointments, etc.

invited them on play dates and took

• Offer to go with them to treatments

extra care to include them in activities.

and appointments. This can provide

We felt enveloped as a family.” And for

another set of listening ears when

Elsa, “The generosity was amazing. The


food was wonderful and also the feeling

notes for her. You also can provide

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The wonderful thing about working with wood—it can become whatever you want it to be. For all of these projects, I’m using wood readily available at Lowe’s and using Pocket Hole joinery. These projects can be suited to taste using any softwood, hardwood, barn wood or pallet wood. These projects serve as an introduction to an extremely rewarding and satisfying hobby, or source of income. There is no feeling similar to looking around your own house and seeing a “handmade home.”


October 2016


Woodworking Projects For Beginners from a Local Dad

written, photographed and handmade by William Walker

Hall Bench

Let’s start with a hinged top Hall Bench. For this project, you’ll need the following:

Materials: • 4 Pieces of 1”x8” pine at 44” long

• Clamps (optional—not necessary but very helpful.)

(sometimes labeled as Whitewood) • 4 Pieces of 1”x8” pine at 17” long (It’s

1) Start by drilling pocket holes along

more cost effective to buy longer

one edge of the long side of two of the

length boards and cut them than it

17” long 1”x8” boards. These pieces will

is to buy multiple shorter lengths. I

make up the legs, so be sure to keep the

always buy a little longer than I need

holes away from the “bottom” 2 ½ inches,

so I can avoid defects in the wood.)

as we’ll be cutting a decorative curve to

• 1 Piece of 16”x48” “Solid Wood Panel”

make “feet” later.

(Solid Wood Panel is comprised of many small pieces laminated together.

2) Using the wood glue and pocket

Since it will be painted, this is a more

hole screws, screw the two sets of legs

cost effective solution.)

together leaving you with two 14 ½”x17”

• 1 Piece of 12”x48” “Solid Wood Panel”


cut to 44” long • A pocket hole jig

3) The longer 1”x8” boards will make up

• 1 ¼” Pocket hole screws

the front and back panels. Drill pocket

• 1 ½”x30” Piano hinge

holes with pocket hole jig along the ends

• A cordless drill

of all boards and along one long side of

• A jig saw, circular saw, hand saw or

two of the boards. Then, glue and screw

borrow a friend’s tools

the two sets together along their long

• 120 Grit sandpaper

edges (optional: I used clamps to help

• Paint (I used paint that matched the

me keep everything aligned. This can be

interior trim color of my house—

done without clamps, but they are very

Benjamin Moore “Cloud White.”)

helpful.). **Note: now would be a good time

• A foam brush

to cut a recess in the top of the “front” panel to

• Wood glue (I prefer Titebond II)

help with opening the lid. I skipped this step and address it later on.

cont’d on pg 71

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4) On the legs, draw a pleasing radius

the bottom edge of either the front or

along the bottom and cut it out with a jig

back panel. Then flip the piece upside

saw. I used a piece of a scrap with a hole

down and attach the other side. I found

drilled in it screwed to my work bench,

that to be the easiest way to attach the

but you could do this by using a large

bottom shelf.

bowl, pot, pizza pan or planter. Just be sure to keep it within 2 ½ inches from the

*8) I omitted this step earlier and had to

bottom. Use the first cut leg to trace the

cut a finger recess in the top of the front

same radius on the second leg.

panel in place. The recess measures 6” wide and 1” deep. I used a soda bottle top

5) Sand all components, making sure to

to mark a radius, and then cut it out with

ease the sharp edges with a little hand

a jigsaw. Clean up the cut with sandpaper.







screwdriver handle is a great way to sand 6) Join the front and back panels to the legs


using glue and pocket hole screws. Since the legs measure 14 ½” and the bottom

9) Paint or stain the piece then attach the

shelf measures 12”, the front should be

lid to the base with the piano hinge once

inset to accommodate the width of 12”


bottom shelf. *Safety! If you have a toddler, I recommend 7) After drilling pocket holes along the

looking at also getting finger-pinch protection

bottom of the 12”x44” wood panel, turn

devices to avoid any fingers getting smashed!

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Coat Hook Shelf Materials: • 1”x8” Pine at 48” long

1) Using a piece

• 1”x8” Pine at 41 ½” long

of scrap, mark

• 1”x8” Pine at 16” long (I used scrap I had


left over from the bench)



(the width of a

• 1 ¼” Pocket hole screws

1”x8”) and 5 ½”

• 1 ¼” #8 Wood screws

across the grain

• Wood glue


• Drywall anchors


• 2 ½” Screws (2 pieces) (I used “oil rubbed

round object to


wood. use


bronze” pocket hole screws because I

draw out some pleasing curves between

like the pan head and I’m using them

your marks.

as accents. If you wanted to minimize the look of the screws, you could use

2) Cut the shape out with a jig saw, and

the screws that came with the drywall

then trace it onto another piece and

anchors and paint them after installed.)

cut that out, leaving you with two shelf

• 4 Coat hooks


• Paint or stain • A cordless drill

3) Sand all sharp edges.

• A jig saw or coping saw • A pocket hole jig

4) Drill pocket holes along one long edge

• Clamps (optional)

of the back of the 41 ½” 1”x8”.

5) Using glue and wood screws, pre-drill and screw the brackets to the 41 ½” 1”x8” through the back of the 1”x8”. Clamps are helpful. (Pre-drilling helps stop the board from splitting since we’re screwing near the end of the board.) 6) Using glue and pocket hole screws, attached the shelf bracket assembly you just made to the underside of the 48” long 1”x8”, centering it on the board. I used glue cont’d on pg 74


{resources fall home guide} and clamps near the front of the board and brackets to eliminate the need for extra screws, but you could use wood screws through the top of the shelf into the brackets if necessary. 7) Paint or stain the piece then, once dry, measure out your placement for the coat hooks. I made this shelf to be 40” between brackets so it was easily divisible by 5, since that’s the number of spaces between the brackets and hooks. Mark every eight inches and attach the hardware. 8) Attach the shelf to the wall using drywall anchors and a level. I predrilled holes near the inside of the shelf brackets since I would be using drywall anchors. If you will be attaching these to wall studs, make sure to space your screw holes 16” apart.

message center Materials:

• Baskets for mail (I found these at World

• 1”x8” Oak – 2 pieces at 23” (You could use whatever type of wood you want.)

Market) • Clamps (optional)

• 1”x2” Oak – 2 pieces at 36” {Rails} • 1”x2” Oak – 1 piece at 23” {Stile}

1) Start by laying out your pieces and

• 2”x3” “Chalkboard

marking the placement for pocket holes.



found with the smaller plywood)

Then drill pocket holes along the long

• 1 ¼” Pocket hole screws (if using a

edge of one 1”x8” and on both ends of both

hardwood like Oak purchase the “fine

1”x8” boards as well as the ends of the 23”

thread” screws)


• ¼”, ½” or 5/8” Screws (for attaching the chalkboard panel)

2) Using glue, pocket hole screws and the

• Wood glue

optional clamps, join the two 1”x8” boards

• Sandpaper (120 & 220 grit)


• A cordless drill • Nails, hooks or drawer pulls for making key hooks

attach the 36” 1”x2” “rails” to the top and

• Danish Oil, or Polyurethane

bottom of the wide panel, then attach the

• Picture wire

23” 1”x2” “stile” at the other end, exposing

• Picture hanging hardware (be sure to

an opening for the chalkboard panel.

get appropriately rated hardware)


3) Using glue and pocket hole screws

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{until next time humorous reflections} The True Meaning of Halloween Humorous Tales From a Dad’s Point of View “I think I’m going to be a pin-cushion this year,” said my 10-year-old daughter, Wendy.

by Rick Epstein

last day of their year was October 31; and on that evening, the souls of the dead would come home to visit, kind of like

“A pin cushion?” I asked. Was this a danger signal or

alumni returning to their alma mater at Homecoming. The

some kind of cry for help? My parental paranoia summoned

Celts had pep rallies at which they lit bonfires and wore

up images of body piercings and hypodermic needles.


Wendy had been watching her teenage sister Marie

Well, for Wendy it has loads of meaning. Amid

sewing at the kitchen table. Wendy said, “See the pin

decorations of witches and pumpkins, you dream up a

cushion that looks like a little tomato? I was watching

costume, wear it in a parade and then go house-to-house

Marie using it and I was thinking it’d be fun to get stuck by

harvesting a pillowcase full of candy. Back home, she and

pins but have it not hurt. It would be like having a magic

her sisters spread out their loot on the living-room carpet,


sort it by category and size, and then make trades to

As the baby of the family, Wendy is a young 10 years

optimize their holdings.

old. She still believes in ghosts and fairies (when her big

When left alone with her candy, Wendy will enlist

sisters aren’t around, anyway). She hasn’t quite reconciled

it into her favorite game—school. Wendy is the teacher,

herself to the basic non-magical human condition; and the

and the candy is the children. She’ll loom over the rows

classic powers, such as flying, invisibility, invulnerability,

of goodies, wagging an admonitory finger and say, “Now,

etc., still seem tantalizingly possible to her.

I want you Tootsie Pops to settle down, or there’ll be no

“We could make a big tomato body out of papier-

recess today. Look how cooperative the Sugar Babies are. It

mâché,” said Marie, “and we could stick knitting needles

would be a shame to make THEM stay indoors just because

into it for the pins.”

a few lollipops don’t know how to keep their hands to

“They’d be dangerous,” I said, “They’d stab her if

themselves! Dumdums, stop cheating off the Smarties!

someone bumped into her or if

M&Ms, that behavior is NOT appropriate! I won’t tell you

she fell down.” Thanks to

again! The Reese’s Pieces are not bothering you; leave them

early training by my

ALONE! … Hey, knock it off back there! So help me, Kit Kat,

dad, I have a PhD

you are THIS CLOSE to a visit with the Principal! OK, THAT

When left alone with her candy, Wendy will enlist it into her favorite game—school. Wendy is the teacher, and the candy is the children.

in the physics of mishap.

Grownups have a few amazing abilities, such as a knack



for finding their own shoes, knowing which road leads

Halloween offers

where and foreseeing 1,000 ways you could put an eye out.

a dazzling array of


But we can’t take an ancient Festival of the Dead and


make it blossom into a lively game of Reform School for


Bad Candy. That requires a genuine magical power—


imagination. And it’s awfully nice being around someone

concerns, there to

DOES IT!’” and she’ll rip off its wrapper and devour it.




who still has it.

For most Americans, it is only about candy

and costumes with a little mischief on the side. It says that Halloween evolved from the New Year’s Eve observances of the Celts of 2,000 years ago in England. The When not orchestrating the comings and goings of his children, Rick works for a chain of newspapers.


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FREE GAME OF MINI GOLF with the purchase of a GAME OF MINI GOLF of equal or greater value.* Driving Range • Miniature Golf Golf Lessons • Junior Camps Toddlers Classes

Route 29 N, Ruckersville VA


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(434) 295-7801 • 1709 Monticello Road

100% Worry-Free Guarantee.

The way home services should be. woman-owned • eco-friendly

window cleaning power washing


Please support our work with a donation at is proud to support Toy Lift!

Summer Camps for Girls June – September

Military & senior discounts

(open to all girls K–12)

Locally owned and family operated. Serving Albemarle County for over 40 years!

For camps in Charlottesville, Harrisonburg and Central VA, contact: or 800-542-5905

Albemarle County

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• Before school & evening appointments • Gentle professional care • Comfortable amenties: Ultraleather chairs, Smart TVs, Coffee bar, Wi-fi, play area and kid-friendly stations






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24-hour hotline: 434-293-8509

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Fully licensed and insured for your safety

Opening Doors to Bright Futures for Kids

Support and services to victims of domestic violence





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Come join our small, fun-loving Christian environment that’s full of learning opportunities! All toilet-trAined children Ages 2 ½ - 6 Are welcome! openings for 4 yeAr-olds Are currently AvAilAble!

7:30am - 6pm | 434.296.8922 | 1200 park street, charlottesville 22901


Sentara Martha Jefferson Comprehensive Breast Center is pleased to offer 3-D mammography – an advanced mammographic breast imaging technology that can increase visibility and our ability to catch cancer if it’s there. To schedule yours, call 434.654.7130 or visit for more information.

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CharlottesvilleFamily's BLOOM October 2016  

Volume 17 Issue 10

CharlottesvilleFamily's BLOOM October 2016  

Volume 17 Issue 10