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november 2017 Robin Johnson Bethke Jennifer Bryerton

CREATIVE DIRECTOR Robin Johnson Bethke

Dear Friends, The setting couldn’t have been more beautiful on a recent Cub Scout camp out. Everything was going perfectly, but then our young leader of the campfire

EDITOR-IN-CHIEF Jennifer Bryerton TECHNICAL DIRECTOR Peter D. Bethke SENIOR EDITOR Sarah Pastorek ONLINE EDITOR Madison Stanley CALENDAR EDITOR Caroline Hirst

activities invited the Scouts up to tell jokes, typically a one-liner or knock-


knock. Our youngest child was bouncing with excitement. His favorite joke is

not a one-liner; it’s more of a one-hundred-liner. It is long enough that he often


loses his place, usually what leads to the most genuine chuckles. My husband and I shot each other a look—both of us thinking this could go horribly wrong.

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The attention span of little boys who had played like wild things in the woods all day before being fed s’mores couldn’t possibly be equal to the lengthy tale he was about to tell. I cheerfully suggested to him a few classic one-liners, but he was set on telling his joke. We considered some grand distraction—injury, snake, anything to shut down the campfire before he got to his turn and to save him the embarrassment. But of course, it was also our embarrassment we were trying to avoid. Stepping forward, he took a deep breath and began… “There once was a boy who didn’t know his ABCs…” It became clear that this was one ALL the kids knew well; it had been making the rounds. Some corrections were shouted out, and I sat thinking that couldn’t be good. But then it happened. Because it was such a well-known and beloved joke, it turned into something akin to a singalong, or a call-and-response sermon. His confidence built, his voice became even stronger, and he owned the room for the full 45 minutes that was the joke (I could perhaps be exaggerating). Dear husband and I finally relaxed and enjoyed seeing him pull it off, feeling ashamed that we had tried to stop him from having this experience. What an amazing courageous thing he had done. Whether it’s taking first steps, riding a bike for the first time, trying a new sport or performing, or bigger steps like going off to camp or even college, it is sometimes really hard to let kids take risks on their own. Yet they become even stronger for it. So this season, I am thankful for my spunky, shy, smart, brave, strong, kind, joke-telling kids who walk their own paths. Wishing You and Your Family a Happy & Joke-Filled Thanksgiving,


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November 2017

Contents TABLE OF


News 4

The Buzz Around Town 6  Do you talk with your kids about stories in the news?

Snapshot 8

Our Schools 10

Felicia Correa, Resident Care Director, Nurse & Volunteer Youth Coach

New Mom 26 Newborn Vaccinations


Mindful Parenting 28 Tuning Into Serenity

Dear Bob 30 Your Parenting Questions Answered

Healthy Family 32 Vegetarian Eating

November Festivals & Events for Families

From Our Family to Yours 46

Editor’s Pick! From make believe play (pg. 60) and area preschools (pg. 62) to holiday events (pg. 12) and local tree farms (pg. 22), this issue is a perfect way to tip off the season together.

Trim that Tree! 22 Local Farms Offer Petting Zoos, Cookies with Santa and More

Local Family Shares Their Life Around Kung Fu

Making Believe 60 Imaginative Play is Good for Kids ... And Mommy & Daddy, Too


Special Needs Guide 54

Local Resources for Health & Learning

Guide to Local Preschools 62

Tips & Trends 34 Fabulous Finds and Fun

Life with A Child with ASD, One Mother’s Views

Kung Fu Family 56

Tasty Thanksgiving Recipes from the Staff at CharlottesvilleFamily

Traveling, Trips & Dining Out 48

How Woodbrook Students Calmed the Waters at One Houston School

Out & About Calendar 12



Places to Play, Learn & Grow


Home & Garden 36 Entertain Like A Pro

Food & Family 40 Better Dining Out Experiences

“What’s the Meaning of Life?” 72  A Dad’s Humorous Tales

36 So Love This! “I am excited to try the Fall Leaves Stampers (pg. 39) on a pie this Thanksgiving. They looked beautiful on Paradox Pastry’s apple pie (see the cover)!” — Christine, office administrator


Cover image by Rachel May Photography Apple pie from Paradox Pastry


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Ivy Publications proudly sponsors: Montpelier Hunt Races James Madison Montpelier November 4

Artisan Studio Tour November 11–12

Lightwire Theater’s “A Very Electric Christmas” The Paramount Theater November 25

Waldorf School Now Teaching Mandarin During the first week of classes this school year, the Charlottesville Waldorf School hosted Hu Tian, a former teacher at the Zhongnan Paradise School outside of Xi’an, China. While visiting, Tian observed sixth- and seventh-grade classes, and also led students in a Mandarin reading of the ancient poem Night Thoughts by Li Bai. This poem is traditionally read during the Mid-Autumn Festival, a time when families gather together, similar to Thanksgiving. Students loved hearing Tian speak in Mandarin, and she was impressed with how quickly the kids learned the Mandarin pronouns. This visit was a great start to the students’ first year of Mandarin.

Check out page 24 to see all the adorable photo entries and winners of the Holiday Pet Contest!

Empowering Girls Through E-Steam

At Albemarle High School’s first ever “E-Steam Summit for Girls,” more than 175 girls and 40 mentors joined together. The goal of the summit was to allow girls in kindergarten through twelfth grade to explore fields in entrepreneurship, science, technology, math, art and engineering. The event included panelist discussions, career exploration, a chance to network with local women mentors in E-Steam careers and a screening of “She Started It,” a film about female tech founders.


November 2017

Redistricting Study Underway

Fourth Graders Help Hurricane Victims

In an effort to help reduce school crowding, an advisory committee is working on a redistricting study for Woodbrook, Greer and Agnor-Hurt Elementary schools. The hope is to find the most effective way to use the added space from Woodbrook Elementary School’s expansion and modernization project, a project covered by the 2016 $35-million bond referendum. Enrollment data projects that Agnor-Hurt and Greer will be over capacity in the next few years, so the redistricting advisory committee, made up of both parents and school division staff, is working on ways to create fair and long-term solutions.

Fourth grade students at St. Anne’sBelfield School are participating in the national Hurricane Harvey Book Club, a unique online club built around a closed Facebook group of over 70,000 members. The students upload videos of themselves reading books that are shared with students in Texas who have not been able to return to school due to the hurricane. Ms. McKenzie Inigo’s started the classroom project with a discussion on empathy and had her fourth graders think about items that families might need. The students came up with happiness, connection, laughter and relief from boredom as necessary items. They took it upon themselves to find stories that matched these needs and then upload them to the Facebook group for Texas students to enjoy.

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TOWN Do you talk with your kids about stories in the news? 74% say “yes” 26% say “no” “We have three kids, one in high school, one in middle and a first grader. And, yes, we talk to them about news stories—at age appropriate levels—but we want them to be civic-minded and engaged as they grow up.” – Dani N., Earlysville, mother of three “We are in a media-driven society—our kids are school-age and they will hear about it or read the news somewhere. We want to be sure we are sharing our thoughts about events and also making sure they feel safe.” – Mom to four busy youngsters “Yes we do have conversations in the morning before school about the news when they ask questions. I’m a strong believer in asking questions, so we try our best to answer to the best of our abilities. It’s good to teach, ‘if you don’t ask you don’t know,’ whether it’s the news, homework, life, etc.” – Shelly B., Barboursville, mother of two girls

“I really don’t watch/listen to the news much. It’s too depressing most of the time. If my 6-year-old happens to overhear something, I’ll answer her questions about it.” – Whitney A., Keswick, mom of three “Kids have plenty of time to worry about adult issues; let them be kids while they can.” – K M., Lovingston, mother of five (kids ages 3–23) “My children are young (ages 8, 4 and 2). Seems like we should let them be children without introducing the world’s issues too early, the struggle to worry comes soon enough.” – Lindsay “I try to shelter their young minds as long as I can. Some things they don’t need to know or worry about.” – Jenny

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November 2017

Renaissance’s Business Idea Winners Renaissance School recently announced the winners of its student-generated start-up business contest. Amidst their business class’s curriculum, students had to come up with a business idea to enter into the contest. An example of one of the winners was Echo, a luxury shopping social media app. The other winning business ideas included: Youseum, custom collection displays; Theatyr, a theater live-stream app; Ren Motor Works, a super-cooled performance motor engine; PYQ International, an international exchange program; and Music Space, a musician collaboration platform. The winning groups will be leading teams of three in the developing of robust business plans, where they will have to mock pitch to local funding sources, such as grants, banks and private investors.

A Big Thank You to Dr. Pamela R. Moran

A Visit From Nashville Charlottesville City Schools (CCS) hosted the Fabulous 5, an ensemble of five Metro Nashville Public School students, to work together on a joint musical recording of BeBe Winans’s song “Right Now (We need One Another).” After receiving a heartwarming gift—a music video with footage of the Unite the Right March—the CCS staff invited the Fabulous 5 to work on the new collaborative project, directed by CHS Orchestra Director and Choral Director, with the Charlottesville High School orchestra and choral group. After the recording, the Fabulous 5 were able to spend some time with new friends touring the city during their two-day visit.

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We would be remised to not thank Superintendent Dr. Pamela R. Moran for her dedication to the area’s academics over the past few years. With that, the Albemarle County School board has announced the appointment of Dr. Matthew S. Haas as the school division’s 20th superintendent, succeeding Dr. Moran, who will retire June 30th, 2018. Dr. Haas has had a long history in the public school industry. He joined Albemarle County Public Schools in 2004 as the principal of Albemarle High School. Since then, he has been the executive director of the school division, as well as the deputy superintendent. Dr. Haas is leading several projects to help improve Albemarle Public Schools, most notably the Profile of a Virginia Graduate, a state initiative that will require high school students to add work-based learning to their curriculums. With superintendents such as Dr. Moran and Dr. Haas, Albemarle Public Schools will surely prosper.

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Felicia Correa Resident Care Director, Nurse & Volunteer Youth Coach

A woman who lives by few rules, with one of them being “to never do anything to flaw your reputation and your resume,” Felicia Correa strives for a full life. A full-time mother to seven children, she is also the Resident Care Director at Commonwealth Senior Living at Charlottesville, a part-time nurse at Family Medicine of Albemarle, a full-time volunteer with the National Multiple Sclerosis Society, and a volunteer youth basketball and football coach. For her, it’s about helping people in every aspect of all that she does. How did you end up getting your job? Honestly, through faith and a prayer, and well, lots coffee, too! I went to nursing school in Richmond while living in Ruckersville with five kids and a restaurant job. Nursing is a field where you can do just about anything. How have you grown and changed over the years? I’ve actually been on my own since I was 15 years old. I have learned to be patient and that I can control only myself. I am not judged on how people treat me, just on how I treat others. What are your hopes for the future? That’s such a vague question. Would world peace be too vague of an answer? I am a mother of seven children. I want them all to grow up and live in a world that isn’t bothered by people or situations that are different. I just want everyone around me to find his or her own sense of happiness. What advice do you have for parents and their young aspiring to help others through their careers? Please, parents, foster the unique dreams and wishes of your kids.


November 2017

As parents, we often want to nudge our children into the direction that we want them to be in. I, myself, was guilty of just that. There isn’t a field out there where you couldn’t help others. Start small by thinking about something that matters to you. I have Multiple Sclerosis (MS), I have a son with Epilepsy, two cousins with Down syndrome, and I was a victim of sexual abuse as a child. All of those issues matter to me in a huge way. What is one practice you’ve put in place to get quality time with your family/ friends? I still have cuddle time with my youngest four, and I take them all on private dates when time permits. My significant other, Charles and I, dedicate at least 30 minutes to conversation a day. What is one thing your parents did well that you try to incorporate into your parenting? I took something different from all of them. I cannot say I have any memories of my mom not going to work. It was ingrained in me that not going to work is not an option. My dad who raised me passed away from Sickle Cell Anemia when I was 16 years old. He lived a life of pain and never complained. My maternal grandfather taught me at a very young age that being complaisant and stagnant aren’t an option, but rather always strive to be a better you tomorrow than you are today. I needed that firm foundation from all of them to navigate life as a mom with seven kids, to live with MS, and manage and enjoy a career and multiple volunteer commitments.

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by Emily Hol

How Woodbrook Students Calmed the Waters at One Houston School It began with the news reports of

of giving back to those in need by raising

the devastation in Houston following Hurricane Harvey. The thoughts of our Woodbrook Elementary school community were focused on the lives that faced an impossible recovery task and on the homes of people that were destroyed. And while these stories had a deeply personal impact on our students, another community was their concern— Houston’s schools. These concerns are what prompted one student to write a letter to our principal proposing a school-wide effort to help. Wisdom High School was one school in particular that came from this idea. Our students spearheaded a campaign that eventually raised over $800. They also produced a song and created artwork and bookmarks for their counterparts. It was during one of our Responsive Classroom meetings that they made their presentations via Skype to their newest friends. Among the skills at the core of our curriculum is one competency that might be a bit unusual for young elementary school students. It is the skill of empathy, and it flows from our Responsive Classroom approach. Each year, for instance, we bring our parents and neighbors onto our running track to “Walk a Mile for Martin.” It’s a way of celebrating the spirit of community embodied by Martin Luther King Day. Students experience the value

awareness and generating support for a charitable cause. Throughout the year, our students are actively at work, contributing to local food drives, collecting coats, hats and gloves for those in need, donating their ice cream money each week to provide some small measure to Hurricane Harvey victims. Together with other elementary schools in Albemarle County, Woodbrook embraces the Responsive Classroom approach. They are engaged around five character traits we call CARES, which represent cooperation, assertion, respect and responsibility, empathy and self-control. The program consists of various school-wide activities that provide students with opportunities to showcase their ideas to solve a problem, create collaborative projects to fill a school or community need and to learn how to enthusiastically communicate helpful thoughts and opinions. One such opinion was expressed in the student’s letter to our principal. After I reached out to the Houston School Division, I received a highly emotional message of appreciation, expressing surprise and gratitude that elementary school students in Virginia were thinking of his students in Texas. I will definitely be keeping that voicemail message.

Emily is the student counselor at Woodbrook Elementary School in Charlottesville.


November 2017

In Memory of Norah June This September marked the fourth year of the annual charity softball tournament in memory of Norah June. In June of 2012, Norah was diagnosed with cancer at 8 years old and passed away in 2013. The tournament took place at several different parks around the area, with 28 participating teams. Inspired by the incredible support and amazing group of people involved in the softball community, Norah’s mother, Colleen Mastrandea, decided to start the annual event. Because federal funding for childhood cancer research is so low, Norah’s family decided the tournament would be a great way to honor their daughter as well as raise money for the cause. This year, the tournament raised $10,000 dollars. In total, Mastrandea approximates that they have raised over $50,000 dollars towards childhood cancer research at The University of Virginia.


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NOVEMBER 2017 Artisans Studio Tour


Check out our online calendar for more local family events and fun!

Thanksgiving Weekend at Wintergreen

November 22–26 at Wintergreen Resort Traditional feasts, the grand illumination of the courtyard, holiday workshops and family fun. 325-8180,

9th Annual Earlysville Turkey Trot 5K & Kids Half-Mile Run

November 23, 8:30am kid’s race, 9am 5K at 601 Earlysville Green, Earlysville Kids can participate in a free half-mile race, and walkers are welcome to join in the festivities. Strollers welcome at the back of the pack. No dogs please.

36th Annual Boar’s Head Turkey Trot YOU CAN HELP! November 23, 9am at Boar’s Head Inn Run or walk the annual 5K course to raise money for the UVA Children’s Hospital. No pets, please. Early registration is recommended. 972-7454,

Blessing of the Hounds

November 23, 10–11am at Grace Episcopal Church Enjoy a brief blessing ceremony, with bagpipes, a soloist, hounds and horses, cider, donuts and the beginning of the hunt. No pets allowed on church grounds. 293-3549,

SPECIAL EVENTS Special Night for Special Needs

November 3, 5:30–7:30pm at Children’s Museum of Richmond - Central Children who have special needs and their families can enjoy an evening with a reduced number of visitors and adapted materials. Recommended for children ages 10 and under. 804-474-7012,

InLight Richmond

November 3, 6–7pm lantern making, 7pm parade at West Broad Street, Richmond Over a hundred artists and artist collectives display light-based art and performances across some of Richmond’s most unique neighborhoods and sites. Begins with a community lantern parade.

Montpelier Hunt Races

November 4, 9am–6pm at James Madison’s Montpelier Experience world-class steeplechase horse races. Enjoy the Jack Russell Terrier races, kids’ stickhorse races and Vendors Row. Ivy Publications is a proud sponsor! 540-672-0027,

17th Annual Apple Harvest Festival

November 4, 10am–5pm at Rural Ridge Orchard, North Garden Visit with vendors from the farmers market, enjoy hayrides, live music, cider tasting, workshops with artisans, Apple Pie Contest and more. 297-2326,

Family Day at the Virginia Film Festival

November 11, 9am–3pm at UVA Art Grounds Families can enjoy free screenings of familyfriendly films including “Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone,” free arts-inspired workshops, drop-in toddler activities, an outdoor Interactive Arts Festival and more. 982-5277,

Percy Jackson Fall Festival

November 11, 10am–1pm at Amazement Square Genworth Education Center, Lynchburg Experience the camp for demigods, inspired by the Percy Jackson book series. Campers will make shields, taste healing ambrosia and more. 845-1888,

Dominion GardenFest of Lights

November 24–January 8, 5–10pm at Lewis Ginter Botanical Garden. See page 14.


November 2017

November 11–12, 10am–5pm at Albemarle and Nearby Counties Tour Central Virginia to see 45 artisans at work in 24 studios. See the work in process, and get a detailed look at the lives of these local artisans. Ivy Publications is a proud sponsor! 823-1882,

Greek Fest and Bake Sale

November 17 at Greek Orthodox Hellenic Center Traditional Greek foods served for lunch and dinner with lots of Greek pastries and goodies. Enter the raffle for great prizes. 295-5337,

VETERANS DAY Veterans Day at Highland

November 10, 1–4pm at James Monroe’s Highland The UVA Army ROTC Cadets and the Buford Middle School band will perform as part of a free ceremony in salute to veterans. Family activities will be offered following the ceremony. 293-8000,

Veterans Day Weekend at Monticello November 10–12, 8:30am–5pm at Thomas Jefferson’s Monticello Free admission for U.S. veterans. 984-9800,

Veterans Day Weekend at James Madison’s Montpelier

November 10–12, 9am–5pm at James Madison’s Montpelier During Veterans Day Weekend, Montpelier offers all active/retired military guests free house tours. 540-672-2728,

5th Annual Salute to Hometown Heroes November 11 at Carter Mountain Orchard Celebrate Hometown Heroes—fire, rescue, police and military. See vehicles on display and visit booths honoring and providing services for those who serve and have served. All hometown heroes (with ID) will receive discounts. 977-1833,

Veterans Thank You Day

November 11, 10–11am, 11am–3pm music at Saunders Brothers Farm Market Paul Saunders shares veteran stories told to him by locals with hopes you will come and share your testimony, too. Live music by David Matthews of Lovingston from 11am–3pm. 277-5455,

Fee Free Days

November 11–12 at Shenandoah National Park Enjoy the park without having to pay an entrance fee to celebrate Veterans Day. 540-999-3500,

2nd Annual Warrior Hike



1556 ELGIN COURT • $779,000 This impeccably maintained & beautifully renovated home was architecturally designed by Bill Atwood with a recent renovation by Candace Smith. Outstanding craftsmanship, stunning detail, and high end finishes throughout. Lovely, private garden and patio. Billie Magerfield (434) 962-8865. MLS# 567397

854 LOCUST AVENUE • $2,250,000 Rare N. Downtown Gem on almost an acre within walking distance to Downtown. In 2011, this house was gutted to the studs & a 900 sq ft addition was added. Renovations incl’ insulated exterior walls, new roof, local soapstone countertops, bluestone patios. Christine Lisle (434) 825-7446. MLS# 567296


November 12, 12–4pm HELP! at The Market at Grelen, Somerset This hiking event will benefit Warrior Expeditions, a nonprofit organization helping veterans transition back into civilian life. Hike the Grelen trails, picking up tokens along the way. Turn them in at the end for a chance to win prizes. 540-672-7268,

The Human Side of War

November 15, 6pm at CitySpace Art Gallery Charlottesville High School students present excerpts from videos and podcasts produced in partnership with local Vietnam veterans.


HOLIDAY HAPPENINGS A Christmas Story: The Musical

November 17–December 10 at Four County Players Mainstage Enjoy this musical based on the Christmas film classic “A Christmas Story.” 540-832-5355,

2437 CHAPEL SPRING LANE • $1,995,000

Maymont Mansion Holiday Tours

November 17–December 31, 12–5pm, tours every half-hour at Maymont, Richmond Lavish decorations and old-timey activities bring a Victorian Christmas to life. Closed Mondays. 804-358-7166,

Set in absolute tranquility and privacy, this dramatic Georgian with circular drive has been updated & expanded brilliantly. Russell Skinner designed the stunning great room addition & Charles Stick, the arresting landscape design. The floor plan suits both casual living & entertaining, with kitchen, family room & great room all flowing gracefully out to the expansive, level rear lawn & views beyond. 2 large covered porches. Complete with formal gardens, tennis court, magical outdoor gathering areas & water views. 15 mins west of town. MLS# 567008 SPECTACULAR RENOVATION - EARLYSVILLE


600 PEACHCROFT LANE • $524,999 Set on 4.4 acres, less than 10 mins from the Shops at Stonefield, this spectacular home has been extensively remodeled & offers privacy with winter mountain views. Stunning features incl’ new hardwood floors, marble, quartz & soapstone counters, 5 skylights, vaulted ceilings, and more. Jay Reeves (434) 466-8348. MLS# 563699

900 ELLIOTT AVENUE • $415,000 Absolutely stunning Belmont farmhouse fully renovated to marry 1920s charm with modern style. Walk to Downtown or to vibrant restaurant scene in downtown Belmont. Move-in ready, winter mountain views. Flexible layout, details to die for. Sydney Tenhundfeld MLS# 566245

Festive Bookprint Wreath

November 20, 6:30pm at Crozet Library Learn how to make a decorative wreath made from recycled book print. Required registration begins November 6. 823-4050,

Celebration of Holiday Lights

November 20–January 1, 5–11pm at Gypsy Hill Park, Staunton Enjoy a drive through the 214-acre park aglow with charming night-time scenes, most homemade by local organizations and businesses. 540-886-8660,

Legendary Santa

November 24–December 24 at Children’s Museum of Richmond - Central Visit Santa at the Children’s Museum of Richmond. Sunrise, sunset and tea with Legendary Santa go on sale November 1. 804-474-7000, 401 PARK STREET • CHARLOT TESVILLE, VA

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{our town calendar} Christmas Town

Santa Pancake

Breakfast Sunday, Dec. 10 | 524 East Main St, Charlottesville

November 24–January 1, select dates at Busch Gardens, Williamsburg Experience Christmas traditions from around the world. Visit Santa Claus at his North Pole workshop and sip some hot chocolate. Check website for times. 800-343-7946,

Dominion GardenFest of Lights

November 24–January 8, 5–10pm at Lewis Ginter Botanical Garden A holiday tradition featuring over half-a-million lights, trains, holiday activities and more. 804-262-9887,

Lightwire Theater’s A Very Electric Christmas

November 25, 11:30am & 6pm at The Paramount Theater A magical and captivating tale of family, friendship and hope set to timeless holiday hits, including songs by Nat King Cole, Mariah Carey and Tchaikovsky. Ivy Publications is a proud sponsor! 979-1333,

Deck the Halls Open House

November 25–26 at Early Mountain Vineyards Local makers and artisans along with Early Mountain food and drink. Fun for the whole family. 540-948-9005,

Holiday Open House at Monticello

November 26, 9am–4:30pm at Thomas Jefferson’s Monticello Visit with Thomas Jefferson for free and see the house decorated for the holidays. The Shop at Monticello will offer tastings and treats. 984-9822,

3D Printed Ornaments

November 29, 6:30pm at Central Library Personalize a simple ornament design with the help of JMRL staff, and pick up the printed results at a later date. Registration is required and begins November 1. 979-7151,

Every Christmas Story Ever Told

Special: 4 Seats for $50


9:00 AM | 9:20 AM | 11:30 AM | 11:45 AM



Early Registration Deadline: Dec. 3 | Dec. 4-8: +$15 Late Charge Thank you to CharlottesvilleFamily for Donating This Ad on Behalf of the Virginia Discovery Museum.


November 2017

November 29–December 26 at American Shakespeare Center’s Blackfriars Playhouse, Staunton This family-friendly, fast-paced romp takes you on the Christmas journey of a lifetime, through your favorite holiday classics and then some. 540-851-1733,

Virginia Gingerbread House Submission

November 30 for entry forms All gingerbread competition entry forms due to the Ronald McDonald House. Drop-offs of creations at the Omni on December 1–2. 295-1885,


MARKETS & BAZAARS Scottsville Community Farmers Market

is proud to support Toy Lift!

Now through November 18, Saturdays, 8am–12pm at Scottsville Pavilion 286-4994,

RVCC 11th Annual Winter Markets

November 4, 9am–12pm at Rockfish Valley Community Center, Afton The market coincides with RVCC’s pancake breakfast. 361-1725, rockfishvalleycommunitycenter.memberlodge. com

Vendor and Craft Bazaar

November 4, 9am–2pm at Charlottesville 1st Church of the Nazarene Shop for the holidays with over 30 vendors and crafters. Food available. 996-4823,

Friends of the Library Fall Book Sale

November 4–12, 10am–7pm at Gordon Avenue Library Browse books, CDs, DVDs, LPs, games, puzzles and ephemera of all types. A significant number of “valuable and attractive” books will also be on sale. 977-8467,

Tandem Friends Annual Tag Sale

November 11–12, 7:30am–4pm Saturday, 10am–3pm Sunday at Tandem Friends School Gym Clothes, shoes, housewares, sports equipment, electronics, art, toys, books and more. There is even a separate boutique of designer clothes and collectibles. 296-1303,

14th Annual Mistletoe Market

November 12, 10am–4pm at DoubleTree by Hilton Hotel Annual holiday shopping event featuring artisans, craft makers and vendors from Charlottesville and surrounding areas.


Thanksgiving Shopping at the Farmers Market

November 18, 8am–12pm at Madison County Volunteer Fire Company Sip on potato and leek soup samples while you enjoy an arts and crafts show from the Madison Literacy Council.

Charlottesville Book Fair

November 18, 10am–4pm at CitySpace Enjoy a book fair featuring the works of talented local authors in a variety of genres, including children’s books.

It Only Takes

ONE to make a

difference this holiday season!


Friday, December 1, 2017


{our town calendar} Poinsettia Open House

110 East Main Street

On the Downtown Mall in Charlottesville


November 24–25, 8am–5:30pm Friday, 8am–5pm Saturday at Milmont Greenhouse, Waynesboro Free homemade donuts and coffee, door prizes, fun and thousands of poinsettias (33 varieties). 540-943-8408,

Holiday Market

STAGE & SCREEN November 3, 9am–6pm at The Paramount Theater A conference with a wide array of speakers and performers who bring ideas worth spreading to Charlottesville.

Boy Named Banjo with Kendall Street Company

NOV 14 NOV 18 NOV 22 NOV 24 NOV 25 NOV 28 NOV 30 DEC 1 DEC 2

November 4, 3pm at The Paramount Theater See a fusion of dance and step teams competing for their share of $2,500 in cash and prizes bragging rights for the best in this highly competitive event. 979-1333,

Virginia Film Festival

November 9–12, Various times and locations Celebrate the magic of movies and find inspiration with featured documentaries, films and fresh perspectives on timeless classics. 924-3376,

Beauty and the Beast [2017]


Wonder Woman [PG-13]

November 27, 6:30pm at Crozet Library See the recent hit film Wonder Woman. 823-4050,

Charlottesville High School Orchestra Winter Concert November 29, 7:30pm at CHS/MLK Performing Arts Center The renowned CHS Orchestra presents its winter concert, free and open to the public. 979-3278,

DEC 11 DEC 16 DEC 17 For more info and full calendar listings visit:



November 2017

November 4, 8am race at Downtown Mall This run in downtown Charlottesville benefits the Shelter for Help in Emergency, which serves victims of domestic violence. 963-4676, YOU CAN HELP!

Follow us on Facebook and be on the lookout for our ticket giveaway for Lightwire Theater’s A Very Electric Christmas at The Paramount Theater!

12th Annual Best of Both Worlds Dance and Step Competition

November 14, 6:30pm at Northside Library See the hit film Beauty and the Beast [PG]. 973-7893,


21st Annual 5K for Shelter

November 25–December 23 at Second and Water Street parking lots 970-3371,

5th Annual TedxCharlottesville

Friday, November 10

participate in a shorter “Dragon Parade” walk. 540-456-8450,

SPORTS & OUTDOORS Dragon Dash 5K and Fun Run

November 4, 8am fun run/walk, 8:30am 5K race at North Branch School, Afton Enjoy a fun festival following the 1-mile fun run/walk or 5K race. Children under age 6 can

Apple Butter Making

November 4, 11am–3pm at Saunders Brothers Farm Market Enjoy the good ol’ boys apple butter stir. Hot biscuits available for purchase with tubs of home-churned apple butter to go with them. Live music by Kim and Jimbo. 277-5455,

UVA Football

November 4 & 24 at Scott Stadium Cheer on the ‘Hoos at home as they take on Georgia Tech on the 4th and then Virginia Tech on the 24th. 800-542-8821,

Casual Campfire Ribbon-Cutting & S’mores

November 9, 5:30–7:30pm at Camp Holiday Trails Attend a reveal of the new campfire. S’mores and beverages will be served. RSVP by email. 977-3781,

UVA Men’s Basketball

November 10, 13, 19, 27 at John Paul Jones Arena Cheer on the ‘Hoos at home. 800-542-8821,

Family Fun Hikes

November 11, 12:30–1:30pm at Wildrock Enjoy seasonal hikes with local high schooler and wilderness guide, Char Tomlinson. Find hidden treasures along the trail and see the season changes in native plant life and animal life. 823-5100,

UVA Women’s Basketball

November 12, 16, 21, 25, 26, 29 at John Paul Jones Arena Cheer on the ‘Hoos at home. 800-542-8821,

Apple Cider Making Demo

November 18, 10–11am talk, 11am–3pm at Saunders Brothers Farm Market The “Apple Professor” Tom Burford tells tales of established cideries around the world. Live music by Keith Bradley. 277-5455,

LEARNING FUN Arts in the Park



Rain, snow, or shine! Sunday, December 3 11:00 AM Start Downtown Mall Course: 1 mile

Be a6Claus forStart a Cause! Sunday, December I 11:00 AM I Downtown Mall I Course: 1 mile

Now through November 4, Saturdays at Emancipation Park Artists, musicians, businesses and individuals who work or live downtown will share knowledge in free one-hour classes each Saturday. 977-7607,

Confidence for Kids

November 4, 2–2:45pm at Northside Library This class teaches students how to have black belt confidence in everyday life. Presented by UpLevel Martial Arts Charlottesville, this class requires registration and adult accompaniment. 973-7893,

Family Art JAMs: Filming Imagination

November 11, 1–3pm for ages 5–7, 3–5pm for ages 8–12 at The Fralin Museum of Art, UVA Programs combining age-appropriate interactive tours with hands-on art activities for children. Adult family members are encouraged to serve as assistants, models and collaborators. 243-2050,

Register online: Put a team together or fund-raise individually and run/walk a mile as

Santa to help The Arc of the Piedmont provide and serve people with

Santa costume for adults and elf hat for kids included with registration. intellectual and developmental disabilities.

All proceeds from this event go to support the programs and services The Arc of the Piedmont provides for people in Charlottesville and the surrounding community living with intellectual and developmental disabilities. Thank you for supporting our mission! Event Day Registrants will receive their costumes (Santa suit for adults and elf ears for children). Please arrive to the check-in location at the Sprint Pavilion on the Downtown Mall between 9:30 and 10:30 a.m. to receive your costume and turn Awards will be presented in any donations if necessary. No paper tickets to the top corporate team are necessary. and family team for raising money for the Arc of the Piedmont mission!

Enjoy breakfast provided by Whole Foods at 9:30 a.m. to fuel up before your run/walk!

Register online: Call 434-977-4002

Girls’ Geek Days

November 11 at Broadus Wood Elementary School Girls learn new tech skills and connect to other STEM programs in the community. Girls in third grade or younger should plan to bring a guardian, too. Registration is required and space is limited.

YA Author Panel & Book Signing

November 12, 2pm at Central Library Local authors SA Hunter, Theresa Kay, MK England and Morgana Villain will answer questions about the writing process and sign their books. 979-7151,

Read Local: Storytime with Hannah Barnaby

November 13, 6:30pm at Central Library Prepare to cozy up with your snuggly as local author Hannah Barnaby shares a special Starry Nights Storytime. 979-7151,

Strawbee Building Challenge

November 16, 4pm at Northside Library Strawbees are a fun building toy that lets you connect straws. Kids age 5–12 are invited to come build. 973-7893,

SUN • DEC 10 • 2PM Save $5 on Tickets!* Discount Code: FAMILY Bring this coupon to the John Paul Jones Arena Box Office, or use code FAMILY at, or over the phone at 800-745-3000, and save $5 on each ticket purchased* *Applicable service fees may apply. Not available on all price levels. May not be combined with other offers or used with previously purchased tickets. Offer ends 12/9/17 at 10 p.m.


{our town calendar} Let’s Go Behind the Scenes with Archaeology

November 18, 10am–12pm at Thomas Jefferson’s Monticello Work with authentic artifacts and learn how archaeologists puzzle together pieces of the past to learn about the people who lived at Monticello. 984-9800,

Join us for three special events creating Christmas Memories! Gingerbread House Competition and Display Nov. 30: All Gingerbread Competitioin Entry Forms due to the Ronald McDonald House. Dec. 1 & 2: Drop-off Gingerbread House creations at the Omni. Dec. 3 - 6: Free Admission to view the Gingerbread House Village at the Omni.

‘Tis the Season Pancake Breakfast

For full details and updates visit: 434.295.1885 Volunteer opportunities available for these events. Visit the website!

Dec. 9: Meet Mr. and Mrs. Claus and enjoy a delicious breakfast at the Hilton Garden Inn. Contact to reserve tickets.

Presented by:

Mrs. Claus Invites Dec. 13: Enjoy an afternoon visit with Mrs. Claus and her friends being entertained, doing a craft or two, and decorating cupcakes. (Advance ticket purchase required)

10 am – 5 pm

Forty-five artisans will showcase their work in 24 studios in and around Charlottesville. Local refreshments

Experience fine craft

Witness the process

November 1, 6:30pm at Northside Library Design charming works of art and then shrink them down into jewelry using Shrinky Dinks. Ages 14+. 973-7893,

Northside Pathfinders Club

November 8 & 29, 6:30–8:30pm at Northside Library Love monsters and magic, swords and goblins? Northside’s Pathfinder Club holds game sessions twice a month. All you need is dice and your imagination. Ages 13-18. 973-7893,

November 11, 2pm at Northside Library Join Side by Side for a community dialogue about LGBT and questioning students’ rights in K–12 public schools in Virginia. 973-7893,

Artisans Studio Tour •

Honey I Shrunk the Charms

LGBT Students: Know Your Rights

The 23rd Annual

November 11 & 12, 2017


Free, self-guided tour

Printmaking Workshop

November 14, 6:30pm at Central Library Learn how to create relief prints with carving tools and water-based inks. All supplies are provided, but you should bring images and sketches for inspiration. Ages 14 and up. Required registration begins October 31. 979-7151,

Society of Women Engineers at UVA High School Visitation

Visit for information and maps.

FAMILY ART JAMs: Age-appropriate tours with hands-on art activities—an enriching experience for the whole family! Save the Date: November 11 or 434.243.2050


November 2017

November 18, 11am–4pm at UVA Apply to attend High School Visitation. The program gives young women a comprehensive look at engineering fields and the UVA engineering curriculum through informative speakers and hands-on design activities.

DATE NIGHT Julie Gough: Hunting Ground

Now through December 31 at Kluge-Ruhe Aboriginal Art Museum The exhibition is comprised of two video installations and 10 prints by Indigenous Tasmanian artist Julie Gough. 244-0234,

Alt-J November 1, 7pm at the Sprint Pavilion Experience this indie rock band live. Alt-J will perform with opener Bishop Briggs. 877-272-8849,

BridgeLine Blues: Dance Your Pants Off

November 4, 6–10pm at Jefferson School City Center Four bands from the Charlottesville Blues Society, food from Travinia, silent auction items and dance demos with MC Shannon Meyers. 989-1274,

Deorro: Existence Tour

November 6, 8pm at the Jefferson Theater Enjoy this talented producer/DJ’s popular sounds. 800-594-8499,

Blue Ridge Irish Music School Open Sessions

November 9, 6–8pm at C’ville Coffee Slower, beginning musicians can play together at 6pm followed by intermediate-advanced, faster musicians at 7pm. Listeners and players are welcome.

Opening Night Gala: 30th Annual Virginia Film Festival

November 9, 9:30pm–12am at the Jefferson Theater The Gala brings together visiting stars and festival patrons in celebration of the magic and beauty of film.

Looking Inward Meditative Art Tour

November 11, 11am at The Fralin Museum of Art Join docent June Heintz for an exploration of art through meditative practices. 243-2050,

Virginia Gingerbread House Submissions Entry forms are due on November 30. See page 14.

Artist Talk: Photographing Natural Virginia

November 11, 2–3pm at Crozet Artisan Depot Photographer Ben Greenberg provides images and information about locations in Virginia that are excellent places to capture photographs of the environment.

Autumn Harvest Pairing Dinner

November 11, 6:30–9pm at Bold Rock Cider, Nellysford Enjoy a five-course fall inspired menu compliments of Hell’s Kitchen Season 14 Chef T and Season 17 contestant Chef Michelle Tribble paired with Bold Rock cider. Seating limited to the first 60. 361-1030,


Charlottesville Municipal Band Benefit Concert

November 14, 8pm at The Paramount Theater A fall benefit concert featuring classical, popular and jazz selections as well as music from Broadway and the silver screen. 295-9850,

Charlottesville Wine & Country Harvest Celebration

November 16 at Veritas Vineyard & Winery Enjoy a four-course dinner with wine pairings, live music, a 2017 Gold-Medal Petit Verdot Tasting Competition and more. Limited seating.


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Gift formaking adults  children Friday, Dec. 1, 2017 • 6–9pm 3


120 Waldorf School Road across from Pen Park

Free admission & parking* *complimentary park-n-ride shuttle service from the Charlottesville Catholic School

jump-rope making | leather stamping | candle-dipping

children's secret garden | puppet show | raffle | Rudolf's Diner local artisans • handmade gifts


{our town calendar}

Let’s go

Find the Perfect Tree!

Adventure Farm

Christmas Trees at The Market at Grelen **Greene Meadows Farm

Earlysville 971-8796,

Somerset 540-672-7268,

Bees & Trees Farm

Davis Creek Tree Farm

Elkwood 540-423-9020,

Lovingston 263-8762

Belmont Christmas Tree Farm

Foxfire Christmas Tree Farm

Spotsylvania 540-854-6757,

Scottsville 286-3445,

November 24–December 24, Friday–Sunday, 10am–5pm at Greene Meadows Tree Farm, Stanardsville Choose and cut White Pine, White Spruce or Canaan Fir, or choose a fresh pre-cut Fraser Fir or Concolor Fir. Fresh wreaths, centerpieces, swags and garland will also be available. Visit with lambs and calves in the petting zoo while you sip a complimentary cup of cider or hot chocolate. 990-1999,

Gladden Fields Farm Claybrooke Tree Farm Mineral 540-872-3817,

Hoosier Nut Tree Farm

North Garden 987-1166

Unionville 540-854-6329

Poinsettia Open House

Be an InsIder

Friday, November 24 & Saturday, November 25 Open 8:00 - 5:30 MOn - Fri 8:00 - 5:00 Sat

located on rt 340 about 3.5 miles south of i-64.

Vendors free homemade donuts door prizes & more! Visit for the latest updates on specials and details for the open house.

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November 2017

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Long Meadow Tree Farm

**Spruce Rock Farm

Stonehearth Christmas Tree Farm

Waynesboro 540-649-4307,

November 25–December 24, 10am–4pm Saturday & Sunday, by appointment Monday–Friday at Spruce Rock Farm, Brightwood Cut your own Blue Spruce, Douglas Firs or White Pine, or select from the pre-cut Fraser Firs. Free tree shaking, baling, hot cider and hot chocolate available. Browse around in the Christmas shop stocked with wreaths, honey and handmade soaps. 540-543-2309,

Leon 540-547-2576,

**Saunders Brothers Farm Market November 24–December 16, Tree Farm open Saturdays 10am–5pm, Farm Market has regular hours at Saunders Brothers Market, Piney River Choose and cut Canaan Fir, Norway Spruce or White Pine, or select a pre-cut Fraser Fur tree. Services include tying trees to cars and tree baling at no extra cost. Saws are available for cutting. Shop fresh handmade wreaths. 277-5455,

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eene Meadow r G s Farm A Traditional Christmas Experience Less than 30 minutes from Charlottesville!

Come on out and select a Christmas tree the old-fashioned way! Spruce Rock Farm is a “Choose & Cut” Christmas tree farm located just north of Charlottesville in Brightwood, VA. Pick your family’s favorite from our selection of Blue Spruce, Douglas Fir or White Pine. We alSo oFFeR high quality FReSh PRe-Cut FRaSeR FiRS! While you are here, check out our Christmas Shop with wreaths, honey, and handmade soaps. Plus free hot chocolate or cider! 419 Lester Utz Lane, Brightwood, Virginia Open Friday, Nov. 25 and every weekend after until Dec. 24th from 10 am - 4 pm, OR until we are sold out. Call Tim Williams at 540.543.2309 for weekday appointments.


& cut:

White Pine White Spruce Canaan Fir (limited) fresh pre-cut

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Open the Friday after Thanksgiving until Christmas Eve

Visit the Christmas Shop to help outfit your perfect tree. Visit the lambs & calves in our Petting Zoo while enjoying a complimentary cup of hot cocoa or cider, a candy cane and coloring book.

Fri., Sat., Sun. 10 am - 5 pm





Free Movie Friday: “Dunkirk”

November 17, 7:30pm at PVCC “Dunkirk” opens in May 1940, as hundreds of thousands of British and Allied troops trapped on the beaches with their backs to the sea, face an impossible situation as the enemy closes in. Rated PG-13. 961-5376,

Cheesemaking Class

November 19, 12pm & 3pm at DuCard Vineyards Hobby Hill Farm owner Sharon Munyak will teach you how to make fresh mozzarella cheese from scratch. This is a hands-on class, so wear work clothes and bring takeaway containers for your cheese. Space is very limited. 540-923-4206,



Healthy Soups Cooking Class

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November 21, 6–7pm at Brooks Family YMCA Make and take home six different dried soups and accompanying recipe cards to cook during the cold winter months. All supplies provided by the YMCA. Light fare will be served. 974-9622,

OPEN HOUSES Renaissance School Fall Open House

November 6, 9am–4pm at 418 E. Jefferson St 984-1952,

The Covenant School Open House and Student Visitation

November 7, 8:30–11am All-School Open House & All-Day Student Visitation at The Covenant School RSVP required. 220-7330,

Field School Open House November 7, 9–11am 823-4353,

MESA Open House

November 8, 5–7pm at Albemarle High School MESA (Math, Engineering and Science Academy) 975-9300,

Tandem Friends School’s “Come See Us in Action” Admissions Event


December 2 | The Historic Wayne Theatre December 9 | E. C. Glass Civic Auditorium December 16, 17, 21, 22 | PVCC

For tickets and the full season information: 434.227.7592


November 2017

November 14, 9–10:30am at Tandem Friends School RSVP. 951-9314,

Regents School of Charlottesville Open House November 14, 7pm at Regents School of Charlottesville 293-0633,

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surgical, internal medicine, cardiology and dermatology

care available for your companion.

A referral appointment can be made through your veterinarian or by calling

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You dressed up your furry family members, submitted adorable photos and voted for your favorite holiday pet. Here are the winners! We hope you enjoy seeing some of the darling submissions.

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November 2017


{living well new mom}

Newborn Vaccinations A Vaccine Schedule for Parents to Keep Up-To-Date

New Mom

When toddlers begin preschool, they learn their ABCs. And, when new parents start a family, they learn their CDCs, which includes the Center for Disease Control and Prevention’s vaccination schedule for newborns and young children. Based on thorough, scientific research, the CDC’s vaccine regimen is followed by the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), the American Academy of Family Physicians (AAFP), and the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG). The vaccination schedule is designed to protect babies and young children, and society at large, from dangerous, communicable diseases. Newborns come into the world with little immunity, and can be exposed to harmful bacteria during birth. For these reasons, hospitals typically administer several treatments right away. These include a vitamin K injection—a prophylaxis to prevent a rare blood clotting disorder—a Hepatitis B vaccine and antibiotic eye ointment to prevent opthalmia neonatorum, which is most commonly caused by chlamydia. In the subsequent weeks, months and years, parents meet regularly by Whitney Woollerton Morrill with their child’s medical provider to make sure baby is on track with growth, development and immunizations. Here are some of the infant/child vaccines on the CDC’s schedule, including abbreviations, translations and time intervals: Hep B: Hepatitis B: birth, and between months 1–2, and months 6–18 RV: Rotavirus: months 2, 4, 6 DTap: Diptheria: months 2, 4, 6; between months 15–18, and years 4–6 Hib: Haemophilus Influenza: months 2, 4, 6; between months 12–15 PCV: Pneumococcal: months 2, 4, 6; between months 12–15 IPV: Polio: months 2, 4; between months 6–18, and years 4–6 Influenza: yearly, starting at month 6 MMR: Measles, Mumps, Rubella: between months 12–15, and years 4–6 Varicella: between months 12–15 Hep A: Hepatitis A: 2 doses at specific intervals between A vaccination information months 12–23 sheet (VIS) is available for every Kathy Rudert, a nurse practitioner, offered reassurance vaccine through baby’s health to parents about infant vaccinations. “Trust the provider, and through the CDC’s recommendations of medical providers who use reputable, website at evidence-based sources and want what’s best for your family and the community as a whole.” Rudert notes that pediatric medical providers who follow the latest empirical guidelines typically use the recommendations of the Advisory Committee on Immunization Practices (ACIP). “ACIP meets multiple times per year at the CDC to review recommendations and to make updates as needed.” Helping a child become current on vaccines can be complicated and challenging when, for example, a family enrolls the child in daycare or preschool. “Most licensed daycares require children to be current on vaccinations,” Rudert says. “The CDC has a ‘catch up’ schedule that eliminates some doses of specific vaccines because to receive them after a certain age doesn’t help immunity.” Above all, Rudert advices to “always express questions and concerns to your child’s health provider.”


Whitney is an architect who designs and writes for families. Her blog is


November 2017

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{living well mindful parenting}

Tuning Into Serenity How to Shift Your Focus From Negative News

Mindful Parenting

With the constant upsetting headlines and ever-playing news programs on TV, the computer and phones, we are inundated with negativity on a daily basis. Make no mistake, this frames our thoughts and even worse, it pollutes our children’s impressionable minds. Parenting today, as much as just living, necessitates putting a stop or at least a slow-down to all the constant bombardment of information we take in. Here’s how to do it: Don’t Watch The News. Remember when we were young and the news was on at 5 and 11 pm? We didn’t have a never-ending news cycle or neon banners signaling “Breaking News” every five minutes. Most of us weren’t awake for the 11 o’clock news … and we didn’t need to be because we were kids. Turn Your Phone Alerts Off. Unless you need to keep abreast of the news for work, you probably don’t need to know every single event as it happens. Technology has given us the ability to know more than we need to in my opinion. More often by Danielle Sullivan than not, the “breaking news” is nothing we really need to know. Social Media. Do you really need it? If you have extended family around the country and like keeping up with them, it’s great. If you belong to useful Facebook groups and enjoy the banter, I’m all for it. But, if you’re like me, and most of your feed is comprised of inflated hyperbole, you might want to get rid of your account. You’ll gain a new sense of calm, not to mention a little extra time each day. We can’t generally cut out media altogether, but we do need to consciously implement soothing practices into our daily routine to help balance it all out. Here are some quick start ideas: At-Home Acupressure. Acupressure has been known to help heal and foster relaxation simultaneously. We can’t always get to a treatment though, so the next best thing is to purchase For more mindful parenting an acupressure mat and set aside time each day to relax and tips and advice, check out let go. websites and resources Tea. Chamomile soothes and relaxes, but your favorite such as or flavor will suffice. In other words, whatever soothes you will do the charm. Music. Trade in a blaring television for calm and soothing tunes, or fast and lively dance music. Depending on your mood and preference, music can foster positive emotions. Enjoy The Silence. Perhaps the only thing better than music to induce peacefulness is silence. You don’t really need to always have a sound playing at home. There is nothing more peaceful than sitting and reading a book in a fully-quiet room.


Danielle, a mom of three, is a parenting writer and editor, specializing in health, lifestyle and pets. She loves to find new ways to bring more Zen and mindfulness into her daily (hectic) life.


November 2017


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Expert Advice Your Parenting Questions Answered

Dear Bob

by Bob Taibbi

My second son complains that he doesn’t get to do as much as his older brother who is only 2–3 years older. How can we help him feel better about these differences? Firstborns can be a hard act to follow. It’s easy for the second child to feel that it is unfair when his brother gets to do things he can’t yet. What’s important here is making sure your son understands that his older brother gets to do certain things because of his age—learn to drive, sleep over a friends house, etc.—and not because, as he may sometimes think, you like him more. Make that clear! Often times, what lies underneath these complaints is less about his brother doing more and more about him getting more attention for what he is doing as the oldest. If you suspect this could be the case, be sure to ask your second son. Does he feel like his brother gets more attention? Does he feel left out at times? Make the effort to both spend more individual time with your second son— separate trips to the mall or even a weekend doing a special parent-child activity of his choice. Finally, make sure you notice and acknowledge your son’s own unique skills and qualities—his interest in music or sports—things that make him stand out from his brother. The goal here is to help him not feel competitive or resentful towards you or his older brother, but rather help him feel he is special and loved in his own way.

My son throws tantrums when we are at the store. How do I put a stop to this without drawing attention? Like a lot of behavioral problems, the best defense is a good offense, namely having a plan in mind before you hit the store. I suggest that before you go into the store and while you are still in the parking lot, you lay out expectations. Let him know up front if you expect him to stay next to you in the store. Or perhaps, agree that you will send him off (only if you are comfortable and he is old enough) to collect a few items, but he must come right back to where you Email your parenting are in the store. Be sure to inform him of your expectations in concerns and queries to regards to not whining for candy, etc., and if he is good, you will play frisbee or another fun game when you get home. Whereas, on Yours might be included in the contrary, if he whines or melt down, you will head straight home an upcoming issue! and he will have quiet time in his room. You need to say this in a calm but assured voice. You also need to be prepared to leave as soon as he whines or gets upset. No lectures, no second chances and warnings; simply march out of the store and to the car. In the car, you are going to do your best to ignore his meltdown, remain calm and not give a lecture. The goal here is to help him see that you mean what you say by taking action. You will likely only have to abort your shopping trip once, and having a plan and setting clear expectations up front will help you feel less rattled and more in control. It will also result in him having clear structure and a motivating, built-in reward.


Author of 10 books and more than 300 articles—including the regular “Ask Bob” column in this magazine—Bob has 41 years of experience in couple and family work, and is in private practice in Charlottesville (


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Vegetarian Eating

Healthful Reminders for Young People & a Vegetarian Diet

Healthy Family

People have many different reasons why they choose to forgo meat and eat a vegetarian diet—better health, religious beliefs, financial concerns, worries for the environment, etc. Whatever the reason though, the American Academy of Pediatrics agrees that with thoughtful planning, children can be raised on a vegetarian diet and still develop to their full growth and health potential. The key words are thoughtful planning. It is the responsibility of parents to provide sufficient nutritious food at three meals, however it is slightly more challenging when the choices are vegetarian. In a vegetarian diet, many animal protein products are eliminated including fish, poultry, meat, eggs and dairy (milk, yogurt and cheeses), depending upon the preference of the individual. Because of these protein limitations, there is the risk that certain nutrients will be insufficient to meet a child’s growth needs. So there are three important nutrients to keep an eye on: by Rita P. Smith, RD, CDE Protein and essential amino acids needed for growth and development include: animal source, which can be replaced with legumes (lentils and beans such as kidney beans, soybeans, black beans, white beans); nuts and nut butters and seeds; quinoa; and soy products like soy milk, tofu and tempeh at each meal. The mineral iron is an important ingredient of blood, and a lack of iron can result in the most common nutritional deficiency in children—iron-deficiency anemia. The most absorbable form of iron, called heme iron, is from red meats. Non-heme, iron-rich plant sources can make up the deficit, but it’s important to include generous servings because the plant sources of iron are not absorbed as well. Good iron sources include iron-fortified cereals, dried beans and peas, tofu, dried apricots, baked potatoes and enriched egg noodles. In packaged foods, the iron content is listed on the Nutrition Facts label of every food product, so a quick check lets you know if there is a good supply. The mineral calcium, needed for the development of bones and teeth, is in plentiful supply in all dairy products. So if milk, cheese and yogurt are omitted, this crucial mineral can be provided in plant options, such as calcium-fortified soy milk and orange juice, collard, kale and mustard greens, broccoli, For more information on and tofu and soybeans. lacto-ovo vegetarian, lacto Whether vegetarian or not, meals need a full complement vegetarian and vegan diet of foods at each sitting to provide body-growing essential choices, visit nutrients—fruits, vegetables, grains and healthy fats such as charlottesville-virginia/ olive oil and avocados. healthwellness. -------Family-friendly menu ideas: Lacto-ovo vegetarian 1. Spinach and ricotta cheese whole-grain lasagna roll-ups + tossed salad with oil & vinegar dressing 2. Asparagus and cheese quiche, apple-nut muffins + green beans 3. Grilled cheese sandwiches on oatmeal bread + tomato soup Vegan 1. Chili made with kidney beans and soy crumbles + cornbread 2. Tofu-vegetable stir fry served over brown rice + fresh apple slices 3. Black beans & grilled vegetable corn tacos + fresh fruit salad 4. Split pea soup + raw vegetables with hummus


Rita, RD, CDE is a Registered Dietitian and Certified Diabetes Educator with Sentara Martha Jefferson Hospital who has worked for over 40 years in the field of nutrition and disease prevention.


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{living well tips & trends} In the Midst of Winter: A Novel

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This new book by New York Times-bestselling author Isabel Allende is available online starting October 31. It follows the story of three distinct people being brought together in “the midst of winter” in NYC—a human rights professor, an undocumented Guatemalan and a Chilean. With romance and adventure, this novel explores how such different people connect. $18.74 at



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Fashion That Carries Over

When embracing a new season, look for those transitional pieces. Here are some trends that are perfect for the increasingly cool weather. 1. Bell Sleeved Tops: These tops are perfect for a warm fall day while still seeming appropriate for colder weather because of the longer sleeve. 2. Plaid: This look is on trend right now and is easy to pair in both the fall and winter seasons. Consider a plaid blazer to mix up your outfits.

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{living well home & garden}

Entertain Like a Pro Holiday Entertaining Tips Without Anxiety

"Gratitude can transform common days into Thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy and change ordinary opportunities into blessings." – William Arthur Ward

words by Becky Calvert

Entertaining over the holidays, when the family gets involved, can sometimes be nerve-wracking. However, it doesn’t need to be. With a little planning and imagination, entertaining can be a breeze, no matter the occasion. When planning the menu, resist the urge to try an elaborate meal full of dishes you’ve never made before. Stick to tried-and-true recipes. If you do want to try something new, do a trial run of it before the actual day to make yourself comfortable with the recipe. And don’t be afraid to delegate to your guests! When they ask what they can bring, have a plan for what you’d like others to be in charge of getting. Not only does it make your job easier, friends and family generally love to contribute. Accommodating a large group of guests always has its challenges, particularly with how much space it requires. If patching together tables, ensure they are all the same height. Otherwise, leave gaps between them to visually cue the height difference. To tie multiple tables of the same height together into one larger one, take a tip from hospitality professionals: layer overlapping tablecloths in different directions to create a cohesive unit. Having enough tableware to go around can be a challenge as well, but mixing and matching several patterns of tableware, glasses, silverware and napkins for an interesting


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décor can be charming. When mixing patterns, find a shared element, such as a color or floral pattern, and run with it. Don’t be afraid to mix old with new. Your life is busy, so plan ahead! Four to six weeks before your party, begin to map out what small tasks you can do each week to prepare for the event. For instance, clean the silver bowl of your grandmother’s you’d like to use and take an early assay of what you need for the party so you can shop well in advance. About a week prior to your party, set up the table(s) and chairs and detail clean the guest bathroom so it’s just an ease wipe down before the party starts. Other ways to prepare can include picking out the music you want to play and having a playlist ready, cook as many dishes in advance as possible and do what you know you can. Even if your effort is only 10–30 minutes each week, in over four–six weeks you can accomplish a lot! All that effort will make the day of the party far less stressful and as easy as opening the door with a relaxed and welcoming smile. Lastly, remember, when hosting for a holiday, it doesn’t have to be perfect for it to be memorable, it just has to include a joyful and at-ease hostess who enjoys having friends and family over. If things don't go as perfectly as planned, let it go, and few will notice.

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{living well home & garden} A Playroom Grows Up As our children grow and change, so do their needs. A Keswick area playroom, originally built for sisters aged 6 and 3, needed to be able to adapt to the activities and interests of teenagers. Designer Amy Hart of Dovetail Design & Cabinetry was tasked with the job of updating the childish space into a teen hangout for the girls, now ages 11 and 14. Pink and green walls were repainted with a warm neutral for a more sophisticated look. Additions include a loft for lounging, pillows above and below as well as a fireman’s pole giving an alternate method of exiting the loft. A platform was added, for the girls’ singing and drama performances. Cabinetry, with whimsical hardware, was added for storage and display, while also connecting to the builtin counter, perfect for crafting and homework. The new space should suit the girls for years to come.

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{living well food & family} Baker & Co-Owner of The Pie Chest

“Some of the most important conversations I've ever had occurred at my family's dinner table.” – Bob Ehrlich

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What began with her helping her grandma in the kitchen at a young age grew into a passion for hand-made foods. It was a dream of Rachel Pennington’s to tap into those early foodie memories at her grandma’s house, so she began The Pie Chest with a goal to share love through simple tasty treats. Rachel also believes in presenting children with more opportunities at a young age to grow their palate and expands their taste buds. What are your favorite recipes to make? I have a favorite pie for each season! During the fall, it is a HoneySpiced Pear Pie. During the winter months, it’s Peppermint Crunch. And for springtime and summer, it’s Strawberry Rhubarb and Blueberry Nectarine Pie [respectively]. Do you have any current projects? What are they? As far as the business, I am focused on how our shop can be a place the community gathers and how we can take concrete actions to better our city from small interactions with customers to major projects partnering with other local businesses/merchants/firms on 4th Street. So, stay tuned! What was your favorite book as a child? Why Was I Adopted? – My parents adopted me as an infant and read this book to me as many times as I asked them, probably at least 50 times! It explained that there are all sorts of different families in the world, and being adopted meant I was loved and treasured.


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What technology could you not live without? My iPod because of my curated music collection. Whom do you admire? Edna Lewis. What traits do you find admirable in others? I would have to say steadfastness, simplicity and graciousness. Where do you love to eat? What do you order? In this city, that is a tough question because we have so much phenomenal food! But one place that I’m really enjoying recently is Smoked in Crozet. I order their fried chicken sandwich with Duke’s mayo, house pickles and hot honey. It hits the spot! What is the best advice your parents have ever given you? My parents provided implicit examples vs. verbal advice. My mom modeled hard work and high, but attainable, expectations. This gave me the inner drive that I use daily. My dad was a gentle and goofy guy who liked to dance and enjoy music; he taught me how to enjoy the simple things in life. cont'd on pg 42

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Can you share a recipe that is quick and easy to make with kids that they will love? My MeeMaw would take us into her strawberry patch behind her house, where we would pick fresh berries then bring them inside and slice them, dusting them with a little bit of extra-fine granulated sugar and a bit of cinnamon. That was my first taste memory. Taking kids to one of our many local orchards to pick whatever fruit is in season, bringing it home, preparing it by slicing/ peeling, etc., and then making pancakes or waffles, using the slightly-sweetened fruit as a topping. You can’t go wrong with that! What advise do you have for parents when eating out with kids? Put away the phones and screens, and talk to each other.

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Teleportation. I would love to just snap my fingers and be wherever I needed/wanted to be without taking the time to get there!

It’s essential to give children taste examples and models to inform their palate early on in life. It’s also just as important to teach children about “real” food and what that looks and tastes like. For me, healthy eating is just as much about food being chemical- or preservative-free and whole.

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tasty traditions from our CharlottesvilleFamily to Yours

Fall Favorite Sweet Potatoes Theresa, Bookkeeper This is my favorite way to have sweet potatoes. It was discovered years ago when I was attempting to try something new for our family's Thanksgiving holiday. This one-time experiment has since turned into a frequent request at my house. It has received some revisions, namely more olive oil, and has earned its place as a favorite in the family. 3 Medium sweet potatoes, peeled & chopped 1 Red onion, chopped 1 Clove garlic, crushed 1 ½ Tablespoon of dried rosemary 3+ Tablespoon extra virgin olive oil Salt & pepper to taste ½ Cup parmesan cheese, shredded • Preheat oven to 375 degrees F. • Mix the first six ingredients together in large bowl, and poor into 9x13 baking dish. • Bake for 45–55 minutes or until desired doneness, stirring frequently and adding extra oil if getting dry. • Remove from oven and sprinkle with Parmesan cheese. Allow to sit for 5–10 minutes. • Serve warm.

A Family-Type of Pecan Pie Danielle, Graphic Designer The way my grandmother always told it, 'Our family was reared on pecan pie.' Now, I am not talking about those pre-fab frozen store-bought ones that you claim as your very own. No, I am referring to those honest-togoodness, we’ve gotta hand-pick each single nut from Uncle Earl’s backyard, make sure to use a gallon of Crisco, kids screaming, not sure what actually did end up in that pie type of family tradition. Every year though, no matter whether we liked it or not, we can attest to it being made with love. Pastry dough ¾ Stick of unsalted butter 1 ¼ Cups packed light brown sugar ¾ Cup light corn syrup 2 Teaspoons pure vanilla extract ½ Teaspoon grated orange zest ¼ Teaspoon salt 3 Large eggs 2 Cups pecan halves (½ pound) Whipped cream or vanilla ice cream (for serving; optional) • Preheat oven to 350 degrees F with a baking sheet on middle rack. • Roll out dough on a lightly floured surface with a lightly floured rolling pin into a 12-inch round that fits into a 9-inch pie plate. Trim the edge, leaving a ½-inch overhang. Fold overhang under and lightly press against rim of pie plate, then crimp decoratively. Lightly prick bottom all over with a fork. Chill until firm, at least 30 minutes (or freeze for 10 minutes). • Meanwhile, melt butter in a small heavy saucepan over medium heat. Add brown sugar, whisking until smooth. Remove from heat and whisk in corn syrup, vanilla, zest and salt. Lightly beat eggs in a medium bowl, then whisk in corn syrup mixture. • Put pecans in pie shell and pour corn syrup mixture evenly over them. Bake on hot baking sheet until filling is set—50 minutes to one hour. Cool completely. **Tip: Bring to room temperature before serving


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Giblet Gravy Recipe Abigail, Marketing Concierge

Dad’s Pasta e Fagioli Christine, Office Administrator

Every year we have Thanksgiving at home, my father basically lives in the kitchen. It is understood that the family should resist investigating the tantalizing aromas coming from the kitchen and vacate the area so he can work. Every once in a while, his culinary creativity gets the better of him, and various non-traditional sides accompany our turkey. Sometimes, they're new and noteworthy, while other times they just miss the mark. Regardless of this year's sides, his homemade gravy is guaranteed to steal the show yet again. It will always be the perfect finishing touch!

Growing up in an Italian and Southern Virginia home, we had a blend of Italian food and traditional Thanksgiving foods. All of the family would flock to our house for Dad’s soup. For years, they tried to get his recipe. It was a special occasion for him to share the recipe. From our family to yours, enjoy Dad’s gift.

Turkey neck, heart, liver, gizzard 2 Cups of turkey drippings 1 Hard-boiled egg Celery stalk w/leaves 2 Cubes of chicken bouillon ½ Onion 1 Toe of garlic Salt & pepper, to taste 2 Teaspoons of poultry seasoning 3 Tablespoons of cornstarch 1/3 Cup cold water • Place the neck, heart, liver and gizzard into a saucepan with two cups of water. • Add the onion, garlic, celery and bouillon cube. • Simmer slowly until neck meat falls off the bone, about 45 minutes. • Allow to cool, then chop up the turkey parts and set aside. • Hard boil the egg, slice it and set aside. • Pour off the turkey drippings into a large measuring cup and allow to separate. • Pour off the grease and reserve two cups of the drippings. • Place drippings into a medium sauce pan and simmer. • Combine cornstarch and water, adding slowly to the drippings to thicken. • Add chopped turkey and egg, then season with salt, pepper and poultry seasoning.

1 Cup carrots diced ¼ inch 1 Cup of grated onion ½ Cup of celery, finely diced into ¼ inches 3 Gloves of garlic, very finely chopped 2 Tablespoons of olive oil 1 19-oz. Can of cannellini beans 1 15-oz. Can of black beans 15 Ounces of chicken broth ½ Cup green peppers, diced into ¼ inches ½ Cup red peppers, diced into ¼ inches 1 Teaspoon of fresh chopped basil (can use dried also) Salt and pepper, to taste Pasta Ditalini (best) or you can use small elbow or shells Leftover turkey cut into small chunks Dutch oven (5–6 Quart) Microwave-safe dish • Grab 2–3 tablespoons of chicken broth to cook vegetables in the microwave. • Starting with the carrots, cook for 1 ½ minutes, then add celery, cook additional 1 ½ minutes. Add red and green peppers and cook an additional minute. • Add chicken broth and set aside. • Add olive oil to Dutch oven, heating until hot. • Add grated onion, sautéing for 2–3 minutes but do not brown. • Add garlic and sauté 1 more minute. • Add all pre-cooked vegetables/chicken broth, and stir in about 2 tablespoons of sherry (optional). Cook until vegetables are fully cooked but not soft. Should be slightly crunchy. • Rinse black beans and discard water. Open Cannellini beans but do not rinse or discard water. • Add both beans to mixture, stir in basil and bring everything to a boil. • Reduce heat to simmer and cook about 15 minutes. • While the mixture is simmering, cook pasta (Dad says as much as suits you!). • In the last two minutes of simmering, stir in pasta.


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Traveling, Trips & Dining Out Life with A Child with ASD, One Mother’s View Raising a child with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) isn’t always easy, and you shouldn’t feel that taking care of yourself is an act of selfishness—it’s a necessity. Because, being emotionally strong will not only better prepare you to care for your child but also give you the focus and understanding you need when your child throws you a curveball. With children on the autism spectrum, there are no consistent expectations or habits. It is a spectrum, and every child has varying abilities and challenges, and handles situations differently. Keeping an open mind and retooling information to fit your family’s needs is some of the best advice. Read on to share in our family’s journey and, I hope, take away some ideas and tips to ease you on your own parenting path, wherever it may lead.


ifteen years ago, we adopted

he can cause incredible frustration for

Matthew, our son with special

our younger children, which can result in

needs from Russia. He was 3

conflict. Learning strategies and maturing

years old at the time. While

with age, our life with Matthew has

I had grown up with a brother with

become simpler. But, especially during the

Down syndrome, I never imagined that

early years, these practices really helped

I would learn so much in such a short

our family.

period of time. Being an architect, I tend


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Starting from the early years, our

to constantly focus on environmental


issues and spatial strategies that support

experienced invasion of their personal


the success of our three children living

space or trespassing in their room.

together. Why would this be an issue?

Matthew would steal or break their

Well, our son with ASD can struggle with

belongings (though rarely with malicious

good choices, and during the bad choices,








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abruptly interrupt their conversations

other families who are faced with similar

to witness things in his life that many

and most often ignore their topic of

circumstances—ones I wish I had known

other children will never experience in

conversation to focus solely on his

when I first started to tackle these issues.

their lifetime. Like what? He’s endured

perseverating thoughts. I have watched

BUYING A CAR. This is something to

punching, body slamming and head

how these repeated behaviors have had

carefully consider. For our family, limited

banging—all hard. The positive outcome is

a permanent impact on the rest of the

space was stressful, so if you have the

that I have two children who are becoming

family. We have lived in a heightened

choice, I’d suggest buying a car that has

compassionate of all differences and who

state like a tightly wound rubber band

three rows of seats. If you believe that

will become incredible advocates for their

on the propeller of a paper plane always

you can somehow teach your young, still-

brother and others as they mature.

waiting for the next explosion. We lost the

developing children how not to negatively

Okay, back to the car. I found at various

ability to allow ourselves to relax.

react to the behaviors of your child with

times through the last 25 years that it

I caught myself applying strategies

ASD or not be impacted by them, then it

was basically impossible for my child

to spatial areas that, at a minimum,

is my opinion that you are expecting too

with ASD to be seated next to my other

permitted a slightly reduced chance

much maturity from your young children.

children. It certainly depended upon the

of violent interactions. Now, I want to

I call my current 13-year-old son an “old

age of the kids and the length of the trip.

share a few of these basic strategies with

man.” Why? Because he has been forced

Strategically, 80 percent of the time I sat

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in the back rows with my children so


that the front row always separated one

special. He loved talking the





of them from him, and I was at an arm’s

ear off of the person next to

reach to deal with any other issues. What

him on the plane, and he loved

worked best for our family was to always

arriving early to a relative’s

announce the seating arrangement while

house. If we chose not to have

still in the house or as we exited the door.

him come, he was also okay

I would then make sure to reverse that

because he always had the

seating assignment on the return trip in

choice. When the option was

fairness to the children. I had a Suburban

to see a new movie and play

with a video screen so that I could use

his computerized games at

this as a distraction. If we were traveling

home or go camping, he chose

in a two-bench seated car (my husband’s

to stay home. So, as a family, we

or a rental), then I always sat in the back

began trips without him when he

between my children. You may think this

was about 14 years old, and he

sounds extreme, but my goal was to find

chose to stay home with a dear

small amounts of peace for our family in

family friend (who was also his autism

a life of constant challenges.

technician). The hardest part of this

questions. Don’t feel bad about keeping

1, 2 = Parents

For long trips, we ultimately came to

decision was that we as his parents had

accept the fact that the trip either could

to learn how not to feel guilty. We quickly

not include our child with ASD or we had

learned he was as happy as a lark for the

to fly him ahead to someone (Grandpa)

break from all of us as well as for the

waiting on the other end while we drove.

respite that he likely experienced.

Otherwise, after about two to three hours,


the togetherness did not work for us. Now,

was another experience where we had

there was nothing about this decision

to live and learn. When making your

that harmed my son Matthew. He loved

hotel reservations, I urge you to ask

Sleeping Strategy Hotel Room 4, 5 = Non ASD Child 3 = ASD Child

the reservation specialist on the phone for 30 minutes. I can remember when reserving at a large national lodge, I called them three times with questions before I made the reservation (there are only two rooms in this huge lodge that support us). When you decide that you are going on a special trip together as a family, you need to make sure that the room supports success, not failure. How so? I knew that anything I could do to have a room with

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clerks, sometimes even having them

for him or her. All others in the family

fax room layouts to me, I then noted

can share a bathroom if needed. This

in my address book as to specifically

helps allow the child the time to do

which rooms (or cabins when camping)

their routine, which often can require

supported our family. Now I have a

multiple prompts. I also recommend a

record of them. What I know our family

truly separate sleeping area for your child

cannot do is stay in one hotel room with

with ASD, not just a separate bed. Our son

two queen beds and a roll out. Our kids

rocks himself to sleep every night. This

do best when we have more than one

motion and related noise can be annoying

room for them. Oh my, I learned that the

to his siblings. It is just best to give him

hard way.

the space he needs along with space

more floor area and two bathrooms was very important. I learned the hard way when we had one of our worst nights as a family in a single hotel room. From that point forward, I vowed to make sure that the architecture of the room supported the best stay. I only wish hotels would design rooms specifically for families like ours. And wouldn’t it be grand if Disney had a resort for families with children with special needs! What do you need spatially for success? For your child with ASD, I

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hoards stuff and organizes his possessions

you and everyone else sane in difficult

in an obsessive way (OCD). So, if the other

situations. You first need to understand

children touched his items, things would

that Matthew chews with his mouth open.

explode, which is all the more reason to

He also often does not wipe his mouth

give our son his own defined space with

without us prompting him, even though

separating walls.





he feels the food on his lips. He tends not

Watch the circulation patterns, too.

to use his knife and frequently picks up

This will help avoid conflict. I would often

whole food items with his fork to then

set up Matthew’s snacks in a certain

place the item in his mouth. So, I know

area and make it clear that they were

he can put a whole waffle in his mouth

his. This prevented him from crossing

as I’ve seen it many times now. French

his siblings’ path abruptly, which might

toast and large potatoes also fit. These

lead to physical contact. After I had these

table manners have led to a lot of yelling

extensive conversations with reservation

at the table among our children. As his

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siblings would ask him to close his mouth,

for larger parties. I had to explain exactly

Matthew would frequently open his mouth

what happened when my three children

even more to irritate them. At home, this

were placed in tight quarters. With detailed

ultimately led to different dining times

explanation, they accommodated us.

for our kids, as this was the best solution

Matthew’s movements are also always

for reducing the conflict, and picking and

broadly stroked, somewhat like a bull in a

choosing battles.

china shop. His judgment for placement of

When dining in public, the social

things on the table or for reaching over full

pressure of strangers watching us helped

glasses of water with coat sleeves is poor.

with controlling these poor manners.

He might pick up the salt and think it is

However, his


funny to shake it at his brother. So, as long

experienced the conflict so many times

as I can get him seated in such a way that

that their expectations were always that he

his feet will not touch his siblings’ feet

would slip up. Therefore, I learned several

and they do not have direct eye contact

tricks for us to dine out more successfully.

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the opportunity for conflict.

table large enough for your child with

Second: Determine your child’s menu

ASD to sit across from you and next to the

choice before going into the restaurant.

other parent—not across from or next to

I have learned to ask Matthew what he

his sibling if the relational times are bad. I

wants to eat before we enter a restaurant.

always ask for a table for six even though

He struggles greatly with his processing,

we are five. If I asked for five, they would

so giving him a menu filled with options is

always seat us at a four-top with a chair

not a good choice. Identifying to him three

on the end. Well, that just set us up for

things and asking which one of the three

a big disaster. I remember once being at

he wants allows this decision to be easier

a lodge that only had four-tops (thus five

for him and causes us all much less stress

with a chair) or eight-tops. I ultimately

Third: Restaurant choice is key. Loud

insisted on an eight-top, but they wanted

and casual restaurants are also always a

to argue with me that this larger table was

must for success for our family. If conflict

or arguments do occur, they are not quiet. “Reserved” is not a word that will ever describe the way our children behave together when out in public or at home. Should conflicts begin, I have also found that removing one of the children as

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impacted his presentation at the table. He never liked this, as he was honestly disgusted with seeing his food. This seeing and ended up being a constructive tool. Ultimately, while he has improved his skills, the reality is that he will always struggle





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kung fu family

It’s quite rare to hear a love story that begins with a physical altercation. However, when Chris Goodbar, the owner of Laughing Dragon Kung Fu in Charlottesville, met his future wife Sarah, who is a librarian and English teacher at The Miller School, each had intentions of inflicting pain on the other.

words by Catherine Malone photos by Beth Seliga


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Local Family Shares Their Life Around Kung Fu


he two met at a kung fu


studying kung fu. Goodbar wanted to open

workshop in Massachusetts,

engrossed in the art. He began devoting




a school and finally received the blessing

where they were both living at

substantial amounts of time and energy

of his Sifu, or Master, to do so. “We missed

the time. The drill “Yin-Yang

to his practice, including, fortuitously,

the experience of the community, the

Eagle Claw Pressure Points Attack” was

attending workshops such as the one

family, of a Kung Fu school,” he says. And

the starting point of their acquaintance;

where he met Sarah. After being paired

so in 2007, with Sarah’s encouragement

and almost 20 years later, both are still

during the day of drills, the two “hung

and reminder that “the timing will never

avid kung fu practitioners and teachers.

out” the following day to watch the local

be perfect,” Goodbar put up his own fliers

They are also parents to two daughters

kung fu tournament, which led to a date

and started teaching kung fu to three

who have grown up “with a weapons

the following week.

adults: his wife, his dog sitter and a man

rack in the living room,” as Goodbar

Sarah had just gotten into graduate

puts it. Kung fu is the structure for the

school at the University of Virginia (UVA)

Goodbar’s family life; it’s their hobby,

and was about to make the move to

As the studio slowly grew, Sarah also

their profession and their passion. Along

central Virginia. In an age before iPhones,

became instrumental in teaching classes

with Chris and Sarah, Mia, who just

texting and constant access to email, their

and is still an instructor at Laughing

turned 12, and Izzy, 9, are also devoted to

long-distance romance was particularly

Dragon. She has also taken her experience

this graceful martial art.

challenging. So, Goodbar quickly sold his

with kung fu outside the studio. She offers

house and relocated to Virginia.

it as a sport at the Miller School with her

Goodbar’s interest in the martial

who saw one of the fliers they’d put up around town.

arts didn’t start until after college,

Unfortunately, there was no other,

students performing two lion dances

when he began taking karate classes at

more formal, place to practice kung fu in

during the Lunar New Year. Last year

a recreation center. The switch to kung

Charlottesville at that time. So the pair

she taught self-defense and kickboxing

fu was pragmatic, yet also one of those

explored other forms of martial arts, while

as part of The Miller School’s course on


trying to keep up their kung fu practice.

wellness for girls.


resonated with me,” he says.



As the years passed, the two continued

The studio is the “second home” for


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year-round full day Ages 2 to Pre-K

together as a family,” Sarah says with a half laugh and half sigh. “For better or for worse this is home base. It’s a lot of sacrifice, but not many families have something that is an interest we all share.

Comprehensive curriculum, including:

Kung fu defines our sense of home.”


they’ve been enrolled in since they were


4 years old (the age when the school first

Physical Education

takes students) to do their homework, to

Indoor/Outdoor Playground

Laughing Dragon is where the children come after school to take the classes

play and to celebrate. Mia had a sleepover for her birthday at the studio.


It was on Mia’s fourth birthday that she received her first kung fu uniform,

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something she still remembers eight years later. In the grand tradition of second children, Izzy snuck into classes a little bit before her fourth birthday. But really, they began practicing Kung Fu before

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they were even born. Goodbar retains a strong visual memory of Sarah practicing at Laughing Dragon while she was eight months pregnant. When Mia talks about kung fu, it seems to be the sensory aspects of it that most excite her. She loves the Lion Dance, an intricate performance involving costumes, dancing and instruments. So in case you were thinking about messing with her, you might want to think again. She enjoys practicing with the weapons and wants to learn as many as possible; the spear is her next challenge. Sarah says, “Mia is getting to an age when I don’t look at her as a child doing a child’s activity. She’s a powerful fighter and an amazing teacher. I love watching her, and I wouldn’t want to tussle with her.” For





skills and jumping kicks are her favorite moves. Perhaps it’s because in addition to kung fu, Izzy is on an intensive program of





Gymnastics. Soon, the commitments of one sport will require her to cut back on the other. Though family members differ when discussing which path they think she’ll head down, even Izzy isn’t sure. Her mother says proudly, “Gymnastics may be where her heart lies, but it’ll be a tough decision because of the family


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pull [to kung fu]. Watching her with the

As with most martial arts, continuing

where divergent interests send everyone

bigger kids in class, it’s amazing to see her

training is important for everyone. As

in different directions, the Goodbars’

athleticism. She’s got speed … she’s just

a Sifu, Goodbar has to keep deepening

unity around kung fu is particularly


his practice, and thus he travels most

remarkable, and the whole family knows

Sarah is quite eloquent on the subject

Saturdays to the Jow Ga Shaloin Institute

how rare their shared interest is.

of her daughters and what kung fu training

outside of Washington, DC. Sometimes

“We’re just together. I’m doing the

has done for them. Besides the physical

the two will travel together to seminars,

thing I love with my family. We’re running

aspect and the discipline of training, she

which perhaps serve as reminders of how

around punching and kicking, and we’re

sees “psychological toughness” as a big

their life together began and how martial

all together. That makes me happy.”

part of martial arts training. “Learning to

and marital are both forms of art. For

cope with discomfort and people in your

the Goodbars, the practice of kung fu is

space, and doing things you’ve never been

an art form that bleeds into every other

asked to do are good lessons,” she says.

element of their lives. For those families

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Making Believe Imaginative Play is Good for Kids ... And Mommy & Daddy, Too

by Dr. Andrew Madigan

There’s an old ballad called, “Making Believe.” From country, rock and pop to punk, R&B and heavy metal, dozens of singers have recorded it in a variety of styles. The most famous version was a #2 hit for Kitty Wells in 1955.

It’s a song about unrequited love, but when I hear it I think about my oldest daughter, Annie. When she was 5 years old, we’d play Scooby-Doo, based on her favorite television show. I’d be Shaggy, and she would be Scooby. Or I was Freddy, while she was Velma or Daphne. “Daddy? Can we go on a Scooby-Doo mystery adventure safari?”

“Making believe that you still love me it’s leaving me alone and so blue. I’ll always dream but I’ll never own you. Making believe is all I can do.”

“Okay.” She’d stuff a backpack with supplies— pop-up tent, green plastic frying pan, spatula,






food, plates and cups and even a real working lantern! I’d carry two blankets for sleeping bags. We turned off all the lights, switched on the lantern and started hunting Dracula, Frankenstein and the Chupacabra. “What’s that?” she’d ask. “Monsters?” “I think so.” “I’m so sccccared!” Her eyes would go


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teeth would rattle. Night fell ... after five minutes. We’d set up camp, make dinner over an open (and invisible) fire, tell ghost stories, then go to


sleep and wake up three seconds later. “Uhhoh! I’m so tired. Get up, Shaggy.” Annie would be sitting on my chest, shaking my head and patting the side of


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my face. “I think we should sleep a little more.” “No, the ghosts are coming! Get up! Hurry!” We’d hunt mummies and witch doctors throughout the house. And somehow, we were always surprised when they weren’t really monsters at all, but only the professor or sea captain dressed up in very realistic costumes. “Like zoiks, Scoob!” I’d say. “Let’s get some hamburgers and pizzas. Chasing monsters is making me hungry.”

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A few hours later, Annie would say something like, “Shaggy, how are we going to catch the headless phantom?” I was impressed by her commitment to the role and her ability to stay in character. A few hours later, she’d do it again. “The werewolf is coming! Let’s hide in the suits of armor that are right there, because we’re in a castle!” I was tired of the whole thing. And somewhat disturbed by Annie’s preoccupation with a talking cartoon dog who had a speech impediment. Why was she so obsessed? It may have been the

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purple Scooby-Doo dress she was wearing or the Mystery Machine toy with real working headlights or the Scooby-Doo blanket and bathing suit. The






powerful force for children. Cartoons, books, movies, the myths they hear from adults—their world is filled with talking

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to understand her parents, and herself, in situations comparable to those from her own life. As Aristotle explained twoand-a-half millennia ago, watching a play allows us to experience catharsis, or emotional purging. We see events unfold on stage that we can understand and appreciate because we’ve had similar, if less dramatic, conflicts in our own lives. By watching Oedipus confront his deepest fears, we’re better able to address our own problems, or at least tolerate them. Imaginative play is healthy for the parent, too. Looking at the plastic baby doll with missing clumps of hair and crayon marks on her face, I could admit that I, too, was an imperfect parent. I wasn’t alone. I was also forced to look back on my own childhood, which allowed me to better sympathize with Annie. At age 4, when Mom wasn’t looking, I’d cut a slit in Brown Bear’s mouth and fed him Cheerios with milk. This showed compassion, I now realized, not an appetite for destruction. I just wanted to feed the hungry bear.

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(That’s not the way my parents saw it, however, when they found a smelly, soggy stuffed animal.) I try to keep this in mind whenever my kids “show compassion” by destroying their toys. After playing make-believe with Annie, I also feel better about all those imaginary friends I used to have. I wasn’t a socially inept dork, like everyone said. I was engaging in interpersonal growth.


Of course, Annie would also exploit make-believe remember



personal impressed,

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increasingly annoyed, by a conversation we had shortly after her sister Kate was born: “Can I have a treat, Daddy?” “No, you’ve had enough.” “Just another two candy bars?” “Just? No.” “That’s not fair.” Silence. We were in the middle of a walk. “Can we play Mommy and Daddy?” she asked. “Sure.” “I’m Mommy.” “Good.” I hated it when I had to wear the wig and high heels.

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“Are you saying I need to diet? Are you

Dr. Evil and Professor Bad while throwing

saying she needs to lose weight? I’ll tell


Mom you said that.”

cloaks. We play Princess, School, My Little





“What kind of candy do you want?”

Pony and Office (she thinks cubicles and

I made it through Annie’s childhood

assignments are fun for some reason).

... somehow. And her sister’s. She’s a

Sometimes she holds a toy phone to her

teenager now and doesn’t believe in

ear. “Hello? Hi, yeah … yeah. I’m fine.

fairytales anymore, just Teen Vogue and

Look, I have to go now. Shopping, yeah. My


feet are so sore!”

Grace, the youngest, is still only 6

I think of the Kitty Wells’ song. “Making

years old, floating through her own make-

believe … is all I can do.” Making believe

believe world. She plays with Polly Pocket,

isn’t all Grace can do, but it may be what

Barbie, Lego Friends and American Girl.

she does best.

She walks her baby in a stroller, feeds her and teaches her to read. She writes and illustrates books with cereal-box covers. She composes songs and sings them with intricately choreographed dance routines. Sometime she uses stage names, such as “Horsey Gondack,” “Kitty Kroons” or “Barb Doll.” The songs are pretty good—nice melodies, surprisingly astute lyrics and some light plagiarism. Grace and I also run around in the woods with walkie-talkies, escaping from


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{until next time humorous reflections} “What’s the Meaning of Life?”

A Dad’s Humorous Tales by Rick Epstein

As a special treat for her old man, my daughter Marie could ask me an easy question or two, the way she used to when she was 4 years old. I never felt so wise and fatherly as when she was pitching them to me nice and slow, right across the plate. “Daddy, can invisible people see each other?” she would ask. “No,” I’d reply, as quickly as a wink. “Daddy, do all animals and people die?” “Yes.” “What about people’s stuff like houses and toys? Do

department and is as much fun as a barrel of monkeys— fretful and financially over-extended monkeys who no longer dream of buying their wives new red Mustangs on the proceeds of their latest bestsellers. Well, I managed to stammer out a few disorganized and sentimental thoughts for Marie. She was mournfully polite about it, and the next day, still miserable, she dragged herself off to the city to meet some obligations. A few days later I sent her an email.

they die, too?” “No.” “Do monkeys use bananas like money?” “No.” “Do parrots mean what they say?” “Sometimes.” “Why don’t we fall off the Earth?” “Because of gravity; don’t worry about it.” “What is the sun made of?” “Fire.” “What’s under Mickey Mouse’s skin?” “Cartoon mouse meat.” A lot of it was mere orientation, and I was like a guy happily giving directions to someone new in town—not smarter, just here first. If people only use 10 percent of their brains, Marie has always been operating about 12 percent of hers. And I’ve always done my best to give her honest, factual answers. Her younger siblings didn’t quiz me like that. Middle daughter Sally was born knowing most of what she wanted to know, and youngest daughter Wendy has been more likely to ask FOR things than ABOUT things. Marie is now 26 years old, and her questions can be more difficult. A couple of weeks ago, she had a bad cold, worsened by asthma. When you add in her current insecurity about her professional and personal life, you have a young woman who might lie in her parents’ bed on a rainy afternoon and ask hopelessly, “Dad, what’s the

“Dear Marie, I’ve been thinking about your question. Christians say that believing in Jesus is what it’s all about, and that heaven is the reward. Beyond that, meaning is unnecessary. Jews seem to believe that enduring, behaving and remembering are all important. But life’s meaning? That’s something the wise old men have been kicking back and forth for millennia, answering questions with questions. But you and I want answers. American Indians say that fitting gracefully into the nature’s cycle of life and death ought to be enough, whether you are a person or a beaver. Zen Buddhists are harder to understand. Like us, they seek enlightenment. To guide us there, they offer selfcontradictory gags like, ‘What is the sound of one hand clapping?’ If you ask a Zen master for the meaning of life, he might slap your face, but he won’t give you an answer that can be understood with a normal mind in fewer than 500 lifetimes. So put aside the ‘Meaning of Life’ for a minute and ask yourself about things that are meaningful. Are there any? Lots! Here’s my own list: Kindness, usefulness, love, loyalty, truth, courage, generosity and creativity. Some qualities, like punctuality, cleanliness and thrift, seem to be mere matters of style, so consider them as electives. If we each aspire toward our own constellation of virtues, any actions or achievements that spring from these values are meaningful.

So put aside the ‘Meaning of Life’ for a minute and ask yourself about things that are meaningful.

meaning of life?” That’s a good question to ask someone who is contented and centered, and has the world by the tail. But part of Marie’s problem is that her favorite role model (me) has experienced some depletion in the Joie de Vivre


November 2017

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CharlottesvilleFamily's BLOOM November 2017  

Volume 18 Issue 11