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actively avoid it just like that laundry pile in the corner. Are chores motivating? Exciting? Calming and fulfilling? Do they let you recharge your energy, calm your system, and feel better? Maybe…but probably not. So here are some suggestions to help you make self-care part of your everyday life: Stop setting such lofty goals that make you feel badly about yourself. Now this might be strange to read and certainly counter to what you’ve learned in this society, but what if you lower your standards? Could you consider creating small and do-able goals rather than shooting so high and ultimately setting yourself up for disappointment? Reduce coffee instead of cutting it out. Workout twice a week rather than think somehow six days a week is realistic. Write for just a few minutes in your journal each day. Eat something, anything, green every day. Ask yourself, “What is simple and doable?” The other key to easily weave self-care into your life as a busy parents is to double dip with your time rather than add more to your plate. In other words, is there a way that you can do some self-care while you are going about your normal day? For example, maybe you put on your favourite music when cooking dinner and give your ears a break from the kid-tunes you’ve so kindly rocked all day for your little ones. Let’s say you’ve been wanting to start a gratitude journal. What if you got into the habit of writing a few things down every morning at the breakfast table while you sit with the kids? You could even make gratitude more of a family practice or ritual during dinner time. What if you learned a simple visualization that you could do every day in the shower? My favourite is to imagine the water rinsing off everything that I don’t want or need to be carrying around with me that day. It might be frustration, self-judgement, worry, regret—just imagine the water taking it all away. JOIN A CHAMPION Then, focusing on what you want to carry with you throughout GORGE SOCCER ASSOCIATION the day (like ease, calm, positivity) washing over every inch of you. Registration is currently open for fall And my personal favourite for moms of younger kiddos: • Youth soccer: 4 – 17 years old hang on to naps or quiet time as long as you can. Teaching • Senior soccer: 17 – 70+ years old your kids the value of resting the body and mind for an hour in We are a community based soccer club providing all of its members with developme the afternoon is a beautiful lesson, and then see if you can take fun and a lifelong passion for the beautiful game. that time to dive into a book or do something just for you. We pride ourselves on being the oldest full service soccer club in Victoria, offering wi Self-care doesn’t have to be a huge monumental gesture of play, free academies, winter futsal, and more! We are innovative, playe 4 –spring 17league, years old self-love, and it doesn’t have to cause stress or take up time that to our JOIN members’ community-minded, and accepting of all players A CHAMPION Aneeds, CHAMPION you certainly don’t have. Be creative and find ways that you JOINresponsive will never be turned away due to lack of fees (external and internal grants available). GORGE ASSOCIATION SOCCER ASSOCIATION can sneak self-care into to your daily family routine so that it GORGE SOCCER Online registration Available at: www.gorgesoccer.ca doesn’t cost you even more time and energy. 17 –Registration 70+ years In-person Registration: Hampton Park Clubhouse Registration is currently open for is currently fall oldopen for fall Re-learning how to prioritize yourself takes practice. By (240 Hampton Road) Saturdays 9am-11am • Youth soccer: 4 •– Youth 17 years soccer: old 4 – 17 years old becoming a parent, you shifted your focus and finite energy to Questions? We are ainfo@gorgesoccer.ca community based soccer club providing all • Senior soccer: 17 • Senior – 70+ years soccer: old17 – 70+ years old your children and this inevitably leaves less for you. Your job of its members with development, fun and a lifelong now is to renegotiate how you fit into the equation. Start right based We are a community Wesoccer are a community club providing based all of soccer its members club providing with development, all of its members with development, passion for the beautiful game. fun and a some lifelongof passionfun forand the abeautiful lifelong game. passion for the beautiful game. now by thinking of just one small way to send yourself Weoldest pride onoldest being the oldest fullwinter service We pride ourselves on being We pride the ourselves fullourselves service on being soccer the club infull Victoria, service offering soccer club inleague Victoria, offering wint the love you so rightfully deserve. play, free academies, spring play, league, free academies, winterin futsal, spring andleague, more! We winter arewinter innovative, futsal, and more! player-centric, We are innovative, player-c soccer club Victoria, offering league play, free responsive to our members’ responsive needs, community-minded, to our members’ needs, and community-minded, accepting all players. andAmore! accepting player of all players. A academies, spring league, winter of futsal, and will never be turned awaywill duenever to lack be of turned fees (external away dueand to lack internal of fees grants (external available). and internal grants available). Kate Borsato is a mental health counsellor on Vancouver Island. Online registration Available Online at: registration www.gorgesoccer.ca Available at: www.gorgesoccer.ca With her online counselling practice, she supports women during their In-person Registration:In-person HamptonRegistration: Park Clubhouse Hampton Park Clubhouse transitions into motherhood and postpartum stages. 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