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health 5 HEALTH The power of positive and negative thinking 10 FITNESS Grandma’s at the gym

food 6 OUT TO EAT Martha’s Cafe 8 THE SOCIAL EATER Red curry tofu with vegetables

home 12 THE CHALLENGE Dress up a room with a fancy light fixture 14 ’BURB APPEAL




Try a vegetarian stir fry endorsed by the Harelson family, page 8. Photo by Jenny Welsh

TH I S MON TH ’ S CON TRI BUT ORS Dr. Warren Willey is our health contributor this month and can be reached for appointments at 208.237.7911 or via his web site Our cover shot was taken by Nema Blanchard, a professional photographer who lives in the area and can be hired for senior photos, family sittings, baby portraits and more. Visit her blog at Rebecca Hermance is an interior designer living in Blackfoot. Contact her at If you’d like to take part in the Challenge or ’burb Appeal or contribute in another way, e-mail


GLASS HA L F FU L L ? Th e p o wer o f p o s itive an d n egative th in k in g • By Dr. Warren Willey for Flourish • Since Nor man Vincent Peale published “The Power of Positive Thinking” more than 50 years ago, the power of the mind in health and well being does not need to be reiterated. Hope and positive thinking have implications in all manners of disease states and the adaptation of healthy behaviors. Maintaining a daily positive thought process or engaging in a cheerful self-affirming attitude benefits almost all aspects of life. Studies show this time and again as we have had similar experiences ourselves or in others. What is not as prevalent in the medical and psychological literature is the power of pessimism. There is great benefit to some to see the glass half empty. I am not talking about the Eeyores we all know who walk around in ho-hum mode; I am talking about the strategic doubters or defensive pessimists. According to Dr. Julie K. Norem, professor of psychology and author of the book “The Positive Power of Negative Thinking,” “Defensive pessimism is a strategy used in specific situations to manage anxiety, fear and worry.” According to Norem, people who occasionally are viewed as negative are preparing for situations by setting low expectations usually by reviewing anything and everything that could go wrong. Friends, relatives and co-workers (due to the influence of “positive people” like Tony Robbins and the

like) think these defensive pessimists are just depressed and negative about life. Happy gurus tell us those people will never succeed, never reach their full potential, and always battle their inner self. In reality, it is defensive pessimists’ way to evaluate and examine life situations so as to better prepare how to handle them. A number of studies have actually shown these strategic doubters can be continued on page 7 “Gloria and her team were wonderful to work with. They made me feel at ease and confident in my decision to sell my home and down size to a new home. She was very patient with my many questions and concerns. She took time to explain each step along the way. Thank you again for your expertise and kindness in this important time in my life.”

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Pam Metz is the owner of Martha’s Cafe of Blackfoot. She also has a great waitress statue outside her cafe, said to be modeled after Jacqueline Kennedy. Photo by Doug Lindley



A sweet statue (and now landmark) serves as important signage for Martha’s Cafe in Blackfoot • By Kendra Evensen for Flourish • Those who drive down South Broadway Street in Blackfoot can’t help but notice the 17-foot waitress that greets customers outside Martha’s Cafe. Pam Metz, owner of the cafe, said the iconic statue, modeled after

Jacqueline Kennedy, has stood in front of the business for nearly two decades. “She’s been great for us,” she said. “That’s how we tell everybody to find us: ‘Look for the big lady.’” The larger-than-life woman, which Metz purchased from a local gas station, has proven to be not only an effective advertisement, but an appropriate symbol for the American cafe that believes in generous portions and good service. “We have big “We have big pancakes — platter size; they’re a huge seller,” Metz said, adding pancakes — that they also have one-third-pound ham- platter size; burgers. “We’re known for big portions.” they’re a huge Metz and husband Clem purchased the cafe from family members 22 years seller,” Metz ago, and the business is named after her said, adding grandmother Martha, who was known that they also for preparing tasty meals. Metz and her have one-third15 employees try to live up to that same pound hamreputation today. The cafe’s pancakes, biscuits and gravy, burgers. “We’re and chicken-fried steak are among their known for big best sellers, she said, and they also serve fresh-side pork throughout the week and portions.” prime rib on Friday and Saturday nights. Metz describes the cafe as a “down-home, fun” place to be and adds that the longtime employees spoil the customers just like family. “This is a hangout,” Metz said. “It’s a place to come gather and meet, and the coffee (is always) up.” The cafe, which serves breakfast, lunch and dinner, is located at 851 S. Broadway Street in Blackfoot. It’s open from 6 a.m. to 8 p.m., Monday through Thursday, from 6 a.m. to 9 p.m. on Friday and Saturday, and from 6 a.m. to 4 p.m. on Sunday.

GLASS HALF FULL CONTINUED FROM PAGE 5 very successful people. To us they have a low self-esteem or vision of life through dirty glasses, but actually they are preparing and motivating themselves to perform better. A joyful optimist would be greatly disappointed by focusing on the best-case scenario of a situation that did not come to fruition. A defensive pessimist who focused on the worst-case circumstance would not be surprised and be prepared for what’s next. A blissful idealist convinced that positive self-affirmation is best may unwittingly generate more negativity. No matter how you look at it, if you are what others would consider pessimistic, remember we all cope with situations differently. Being positive or being negative, we need to view the person and their actions. We are all different and face life differently — that I am positive of.

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TH E SOC I AL EATER Dan and Laurie Harelson incorporate Chinese cuisine into their dinner routine as a way to celebrate their daughters’ heritage. Photos by Jenny Welsh

sharing and celebrating heritage It’s a secret to getting happy kids: Make food they like. And if there’s a personal connection to the recipe, all the better • By Jenny Welsh for Flourish • Four years ago, after we brought our then-1-year-old daughter home from China, I looked around our community for other families like ours. I knew from my own experience growing up in a racially mixed family that finding others to whom my daughter could relate would have to be a priority. That’s when I placed an announcement in the Journal that we were looking for other Chinese adoptees to start a local chapter of Families with Children from China. Several families responded, among them the Harelsons. Dan and Laurie Harelson began their adoption journey nearly 20 years ago and knew early on that they wanted to adopt internationally. When asked why they looked overseas rather than locally, Laurie quotes Gertrude Stein’s “a rose is a rose is a rose,” meaning that every child, origin aside, needs a loving home. They went through the paperwork parade not once but twice, bringing home their daughter Nina at 8 months old, and later Lia at 18 months old.



Aside from sharing in the joy of being parents, Dan and Laurie have worked hard to bring Chinese culture into their family for their daughters’ sakes. Each year as a family they attend Chinese Heritage Camp in Colorado and have enjoyed the Chinese New Year festivities sponsored by Idaho State University’s Chinese students. Now that their daughters are older, Dan is planning a family INTERESTED IN HAVING trip to China this summer that YOUR RECIPE FEATURED? will include sightseeing as well PLEASE E-MAIL RPYPER@ as seeking out the orphanages JOURNALNET.COM and foster family where they were cared for in their first months of life. Within the past year Nina, their oldest, has made the decision to eat a mostly vegetarian diet. What does this mean in a family of meat eaters? Well, this has thrown The Harelsons for a loop, but Laurie has encouraged

Nina to “do it the right way,” making sure she still has balanced meals. After meeting with a nutritionist, Nina realizes she can’t fill up on empty carbs but needs protein. Laurie has been quick to experiment with new foods that are both healthy and delicious and thus put together this tasty, colorful curried tofu. Our family has enjoyed getting to know the Harelsons through many experiences, such as camping and birthday celebrations, babysitting, skiing and now cooking together. Aside from the friendship they have shared with us, my daughter is over the moon with joy for having “friends that look like me!”

The finished product. Above: Fresh ingredients add nutrients to the dish.

Red curry tofu with vegetables Recipe submitted by Laurie Harelson 2 large carrots Red Curry Tofu with Vegetables

2 celery stalks

By Laurie Harelson

6 large mushrooms 6 green onions

One tub firm or extra firm tofu

1 head broccoli flowers and stems (peeled)

1 jar red curry sauce

Fresh green beans

2 TB natural peanut butter

1 can bamboo shoots

1 tsp honey 1/2 tsp garlic powder

Heat wok with 3 TB oil and coat wok well. Add veggies and

1/2 can coconut milk

cook until tender. Remove veggies from wok and set aside. Add marinated tofu to wok, sauce included, and simmer for

Cube tofu and marinate for 24 hours in remaining ingredients.

20 minutes. Return veggies to wok and stir to coat. Serve over your choice of rice, barley or quinoa. For added spice, sprin-

Cut stir-fry vegetables of your choosing. Laurie used:

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F I TNESS Malena Cutler teaches the SilverSneakers exercise class at Fitness Inc. Photos by Doug Lindley

GRANDMAS AT T HE GY M Pocatello’s SilverSneakers program is designed with seniors in mind. And whatever they’re doing must be working, because people keep coming back for more, year after year


• By Eniko Jordan for Flourish •

hese days Grandma and Grandpa may have a brand new gig, and it’s not baking cookies or going fishing. With the growing fitness trend emphasizing senior fitness, Grandma and Grandpa may just as likely be found working out at the gym. And one of the most popular ways for seniors to get the exercise they need is by participating in the SilverSneakers program. SilverSneakers offers a menu of choices designed to help keep seniors active and fit. The motto for the program is “fitness, fun and friends” and combines fitness classes with opportunities to socialize with other participants. In Pocatello, the Fitness Inc. health club has the largest SilverSneakers program in Idaho. Since Humana health-insurance



company provides free health-club memberships to senior clients under its Medicare Advantage program, there are plenty of seniors taking advantage of the opportunity to get fit, have fun and make friends. Seventy-six-year-old Bette Lochridge goes to SilverSneakers classes and other fitness classes five days a week for cardio strengthening and yoga stretching. She started by taking her mother to SilverSneakers. “I thought it would be a good

“This keeps me moving and helps with my balance. You can get a total workout, and there are lots of friendly people here.” -SilverSneakers participant Bette Lochridge

Balance and flexibility are two areas classes address.

program for her,” she said, but then Lochridge started coming to the classes for her own exercise and enjoyment. She has now been attending SilverSneakers for seven years. “This keeps me moving and helps SilverSneakwith my balance,” she said. “You can get a ers classes total workout, and there are lots of friendly address car- people here.” Malena Cutler has found a special passion diovascular for teaching seniors how to exercise and endurance, be fit. As a group fitness instructor for Silmuscular verSneakers for the last seven years, Cutler strength and says she has made life-long friends through teaching the classes. “I was asked to teach a endurance, few classes when the program came to our body com- gym,” Cutler said. “I fell in love with the position, flex- program and the participants, and I have ibility, speed, never looked back.” As a certified fitness instructor, Cutler power, agility, has taken special training to be qualified balance and to instruct SilverSneakers classes. Program coordination instructors are also required to attend training every four years for the format they are teaching. Cutler explained the philosophy behind the SilverSneakers program. “The program is designed to improve nine health

and skill-related fitness components,” she said. Those areas are cardiovascular endurance, muscular strength and endurance, body composition, flexibility, speed, power, agility, balance and coordination. The program strives to help seniors gain a better quality of life and an overall sense of well-being. But SilverSneakers also emphasizes the socialization aspects of seniors attending exercise classes together and also occasional opportunities to get together just for fun. Close to 90 SilverSneakers attendants shared a luncheon in December, complete with live music and entertainment, and had a chance to win door prizes. Andrea Littlefield attended the SilverSneakers function and has been attending SilverSneakers classes for about a year, and says what she really likes about it is the camaraderie and the atmosphere where men and women of any age, body shape or fitness level can feel comfortable. “You don’t have to be embarrassed if you’re really bad,” she said. But Littlefield also said the exercise keeps her able to stay mobile and limber. It’s the impact in people’s lives that keeps Cutler said keeps her enthusiastic about the SilverSneakers program. “It’s very rewarding when the participants share with you how the program has improved their quality of life. There are about five regular SilverSneakers instructors here, and I know they all feel the same way. I know I can speak for all of us when I say that we get back as much as we give.”




Dress up a room with a fancy light fixture

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SHOPPING Mr. Keller and I bought a short-sale home last August, and from the moment our offer was accepted, I knew I had to have a crystal chandelier in our new front room. I’ve swooned over them for several years now, and I knew that I wanted a true vintage one, not a replica. I shopped all the local stores, Craigslist, KSL and even Ebay. I just couldn’t quite find the shape and size I wanted. Finally, while on a trip to Boise, I was able to pick this one up at an antique store downtown. It was the exact size I wanted, with a heavy brass base that had been tarnished with age. In a word, it was perfect. Very, very heavy, but perfect! 2 OLD FIXTURES ARE HEFTY It took one long hour and two willing men to hang it, but I love the impact it has on the room.


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1 A LIGHTING GENIUS My friend Scott Phillips has built a successful business from constructing something new out of used and abused furniture, light fixtures and the like. When I told him I was moving into a new house, he offered to make a grand chandelier for my house — and he did. I mean, I get more comments about my avocado fixture than I do about almost anything else in the house. The good news is you can buy chandeliers similar to mine at Finders Keepers in Pocatello, where Phillips sells his pieces. Check them out at 120 N. 2nd Ave. or

visit them online at 2 PUT A BIRD ON IT For Christmas I clipped a few cardinals to the chandy, and it became one of my favorite holiday decorations in the house. My boys loved it too.




LIGHTBULBS These round bulbs help modernize a pretty traditional chandelier (the color helps too). I hung the fixture in my breakfast nook, and it provides lots of bright light to what would otherwise be a dark corner of the kitchen.




Two more houses we loved this month — and one in a gutsy color that makes us feel so valentine-y. Got a house worth sharing? E-mail

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Owners: Barbara Woods Why the house works for them: “I love its location because you can see the valley down below and you can see the great stars at night and the city lights at night,” Woods said. This house is currently for sale. For info, e-mail

what makes it work a rustic approach

Those distressed timbers and notyour-ordinary garage doors help distinguish this home from others on the street.

various finishes

One reason the home catches the eye is because there’s a lot to look at. The exterior features both vertical and horizontal siding, as well as shingles.

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How about a pink house for Valentine’s Day? And this one comes with a cute story too. Kenton and Shirley Pincock bought their home in February 1946, and it’s been painted pink since 1950, per Shirley’s request. “The wife likes pink. If we could have found some pink siding, we would have put pink siding on it. Since we couldn’t find pink siding, she wouldn’t let me side it,” Kenton laughed.

Owners: Kenton and Shirley Pincock

what makes it work a modern approach

The lower pitch on the roof and those big, clean windows — no shutters and lots of glass — really lends a modern feel to this country home.

change of shape

Arches in the window and in rock wall at the front of the house are a refreshing change from the otherwise straight lines of the home.

fun colors

Green siding and dark grids and casings in all the windows are fun color choices you don’t often see.

Owners: Bobette Kawamura and Bill Isley Why the house works for them: “The thing I like best about our house is that our back yard is completely wildlife friendly,” Kawamura said. That means deer, birds, rabbits and rock chucks are regular visitors.



These are my not-so-precious bowls today — top shelf as usual.

deciding to use the good dishes • By Rebecca Long Pyper for Flourish •


n the last decade I’ve moved eight times, the last several with a cardboard box labeled “my precious bowls” riding beside me in the front seat. You can bet that when brothers and dads and friends saw that box in the car, they were happy to let someone else unload it, lest they face the wrath if something untoward happened to the contents. I bought the bowls seven years ago because they were delicious eye candy. Not delicate but still breakable, I placed them on a shelf in our Pocatello townhouse kitchen. The top shelf, just a foot or so below the ceiling. We never used them. They were just pretty, and I was probably the only one who noticed. Indeed, they became precious in every sense of the word — too good for any of us to use. But last year my parents gave me four settings of tangerine Fiestaware, which elicited all sorts of whoops and hollering, and after we moved into our new place last summer, I really needed to use them; I had a whole wall of glass-front cabinets demanding pretty dishes. It was the first time my Fiestaware had ever been out of the box. My precious bowls got added to the cupboard too —


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top shelf again, where I hoped no one would use them. Problem is, I only had seven bowls “okay” to use — you know, boring cream-colored ceramic with chips from 10 years of use (yes, they were from my bridal I only had seven bowls shower). So the first time all those ‘okay’ to use — you bowls were dirty and marinating in know, boring creamthe dishwasher together, my husband reached for one of my precious colored ceramic with bowls and un-ceremoniously used it chips from 10 years of for cereal. use. So the first time all I decided I better bite my tongue because we’d just moved into the those bowls were dirty house of my dreams (and his nightand marinating in the mares), and I knew he couldn’t take dishwasher together, my one more badgering word from me. husband reached for one Besides, it was just a bowl. Right? Right. Those bowls have continof my precious bowls and ued to make appearances for lateun-ceremoniously used it night ice cream and early morning for cereal. cereal, and not a one has gotten chipped or damaged. I’ve even used them three times for parties. continued on page 21

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Tips for choosing art you love A well-dressed wall can make a big statement in a room — and make you happy too. Here, where to shop for meaningful art • By Rebecca Hermance for Flourish • Have you ever walked into a house with fancy art hanging on the walls and everything looked perfectly coordinated and like it was purchased specifically to work together? Did it reflect the style and personality of the homeowners, or did it seem like it was just there because they needed something pretty to fill the big blank space on the wall? As I get older, I have become much less worried about how our home looks to others and more concerned with how it makes us feel. I am more determined than ever that the items we have hanging on our walls are meaningful and reflective of our style and personal experiences. I like that we have a varied assortment of art because it is a reflection of our crazy, wonderful life! Where can you find art that is personal, unique and fun? 18

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vacation souvenir Here are a few suggestions: COLLECT ART FROM SPECIAL VACATIONS. I have friends who bring home art as souvenirs from family trips. The piece doesn’t have to be large, and it doesn’t have to be an image from where they visited; it just is a fun reminder of the time they had together. When my sister and I went to Europe in our early 20s, we each bought a small print from one of the museums we visited. My sister also brings back art when she visits her husband’s native country, and it really helps incorporate his culture into their home. VISIT LOCAL COLLEGE OR HIGH-SCHOOL EXHIBITS. If you see something you love, you may be able to purchase the piece and encourage a budding artist. One of our favorite paintings is from a friend who is earning his BFA at the University of

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Idaho in Moscow. We fell in love with the colors, the energy and the uniqueness of the piece. We were excited to be the first ones to purchase one of his paintings and to contribute to the funding of future works of art (as a college student, he promptly used the money to replenish his art supplies). CHECK OUT THRIFT STORES AND GARAGE SALES. While these might seem like unlikely places to find art that speaks to you, I recently found a fantastic print for our entryway at the Idaho Youth Ranch Thrift Store. My husband and I also discovered a moody black-and-white painting at a yard sale in Pocatello two years ago that reminded us of a rainy day in France. Both pieces cost less than $10 each, and they make me smile whenever I see them. LOOK ONLINE at etsy sites or places like or for inexpensive prints that fit your personal style. Don’t be afraid to explore a bit and find something that reminds you of favorite hobbies, interests, places, nature or animals. In our kitchen we have a canvas print from World Market that depicts a grove of aspen trees, which is meaningful because Aspen is our daughter’s name. CREATE YOUR OWN ART. I was lucky to be born into a very artistic family, so I have been painting and creating since I can remember. If you don’t think you have the talent or skills, try looking up tutorials and checking out for ideas. If you like to work with computer programs, try altering a photo or creating your own digital patterns. The bonus of creating your own art is that you can do it in any color you want, so you are guaranteed that it will work in your home. You just may be amazed at what you can do with a little inspiration and some good directions!

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T HE HA P P I N E S S P R O JE C T, A R E S O L U TI O N • By Mary Keating for Flourish • I HAVE UNDECKED THE HALLS, STORED THE BOUGHS AND HOLLY AND SAW THE BLAZING YULE BEFORE ME. DECEMBER’S CROWDED CALENDAR AND HECTIC HOLIDAY HUBBUB HAS GIVEN WAY TO THE TRADITIONAL JANUARY SLUMP COMPLETE WITH FREEZING TEMPERATURES AND ICY ROADS. IDAHO’S COLD AND DREARY WEATHER IS MATCHED ONLY BY THE DREARINESS OF A HOUSE STRIPPED OF HOLIDAY DECORATIONS AND CAROLS SUNG BY THE FIRE. THE CHILDREN NOW SLOG THROUGH THE GREAT DULL STRETCH BETWEEN THE HOLIDAYS AND SPRING BREAK, NO LONGER DISTRACTED FROM THEIR SCHOOLWORK BY VISIONS OF SUGARPLUMS AND ELVES ON SHELVES. Yet there is another side to January: the freshness of a new, un-scribbled calendar, the cleanliness of the house freed from tinsel and wrapping paper and the boundless resolutions that lay before us. Yes, January brings sweet silence, a second cup of tea, the delicious feeling of renewed energy and the annual opportunity to dust off the aspirations list and resolve to celebrate the end of 2013 as a happier, healthier you. As I pondered my 2013 resolutions, I recalled our October book club pick, “The Happiness Project” by Gretchen Rubin. Rubin dedicated an entire year of her life to improving her happiness. To that end she constructed a written chart against which she could


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measure her daily progress. She organized her resolutions into themes and then focused on happiness as it related to a different part of her life each month — marriage, friendships, money, work, parenting and leisure. What initially began as a blog,, became a lively and compelling memoir that is akin to other bestselling memoirs such as “Julie and Julia” and “Eat, Pray, Love.” The one caveat of her memoir is that she did not have to eat rather unappetizing foods or uproot herself and travel to Italy, India and Indonesia to adhere to her resolution. Rather, she simply immersed herself in principles outlined by experts from Epicurus to Thoreau and from Aristotle to the Dalai Lama as she test-drove the wisdom of the ages, current scientific research and lessons from popular culture about how to be happier. She subsequently improved and changed her life by focusing on her life as it was. Her wildly popular book chronicles her adventures, both her successes and failures, to find happiness. “To be happy, I need to think about feeling good, feeling bad and feeling right, in an atmosphere of growth,” writes Rubin. “When the student is ready, the teacher appears.” With both wit and charm, Rubin makes it clear from the start that everyone’s happiness project is unique and different. What makes one person happy may not bring equal joy and contentment to another. However, her self-awareness, background knowledge and suggestions make for a wonderful stepping-off point to allow nearly everyone the ability to attain a higher level of happiness by embarking on their own happiness project. “Happiness, after all, is something just about every human being wants, the goal that motivates much of our day-to-day striving,” writes reviewer Phyllis Smith. “And rather than suggesting a life of self-centered hedonism, research indicates that the very factors that make for a meaningful life — good relationships, acting in a loving and generous way, engaging creatively with the world — contribute to happiness.” I’m with Rubin when she says that even though we are all very different, learning about someone else’s successes and failures can

With both wit and charm, Rubin makes it clear from the start that everyone’s happiness project is unique and different. What makes one person happy may not bring equal joy and contentment to another. However, her self-awareness, background knowledge and suggestions make for a wonderful steppingoff point to allow nearly everyone the ability to attain a higher level of happiness by embarking on their own happiness project.

be a better catalyst for change than studying ideas in the abstract. “I really am happier,” said Rubin after a year of following through on her own personal happiness plan. In addition to “The Happiness Project,” her first book on happiness, Rubin has since published other books on her ongoing happiness projects, continues to write a blog, e-mails daily happiness quotations and has just started a 21-day relationship challenge on her website, As you ponder your 2013 goals and resolutions, consider this: Rubin concludes her project with the simple observation that happiness is a resolution more than a goal. A goal is something to achieve and then celebrate once completed, whereas a resolution is something to live up to every day. In 2013 I have resolved to take little steps each month, similar to Rubin, that when aggregated will help me reach a higher level of personal joy. I hope 2013 will bring you a higher level of health and happiness too. Mary Keating is a monthly contributor to “Flourish,” a national and state award-winning feature writer, a wife and mother. Find her at

DECIDING TO USE THE GOOD DISHES CONTINUED FROM PAGE 16 And then for Christmas this year my parents bought me another set of Fiestaware — this time in luscious shamrock. When I got them home I realized I had a problem: I had run out of cupboard space for dishes. Either the new lovelies or my old reliables had to go. So this morning Deseret Industries received a basket of white CorningWare and a set of those old dingy bowls — the dishes I always reached for when it was dinnertime, the ugly ones so outshined by the patchwork hues in my cabinets but that I continued to use anyway. And now, I’m required to use the good dishes. All the time. No, I’m not punishing myself. I’m deciding to use the good dishes. I’m deciding the everyday is important enough for precious bowls and that eating mac ’n’ cheese on Fiestaware makes the meal almost seem important. Because really, the most important things are happening everyday with the people who live right under this roof. And as the old adage goes, “All you have is everyday.” And anyway, nothing has broken. Yet. Rebecca Long Pyper is the editor of “Flourish” and an adjunct faculty member of BYU-Idaho’s English department. Contact her with story ideas at


Add names to plastic spoons and tie to mini cereal boxes. Tuck in a note that says, “I cereal-sly love you.”

For a no-sugar alternative, give out glow bracelets with a card that reads, “You light up my life.”

valentines for your sweethearts If you’ve got little ones you love (and maybe someone a bit older too), try these ideas for showing your affection

Make a beautiful blossom out of a sucker and six cupcake liners. To make the petals, fold each liner in half and punch a hole. Thread the sucker stick through the holes and arrange “petals.” Don’t forget to add a personalized leaf. 22

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Fill a pillbox with sweet notes, one to be read each day. Up the ante by stuffing something sweet inside each compartment too.

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