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JANUARY 2014

Celebrating 2014!

COVER STORY  p. 9 Resolved to Change: Local Ladies share resolutions and goals for 2014

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MORE THAN A CROWN & SASH  p. 6 Miss City of Temecula, Ashley Berry Miss Murrieta Valley, Jessica Croupe


A WORD FROM THE PUBLISHER Happy 2014! It’s always so exciting to start a new year! We get to experience the events that bought us joy last year all over again, including the holidays! Another year to take in all the annual events and festivities the Valley has to offer, to visit family, and make new vacation memories. Another year for new goals, new outlooks, and new motivation. This is the fourth issue of LoLa Magazine and I’m looking forward to meeting all the new people and faces that will grace this year’s pages. LoLa will be sharing new stories about the amazing ladies of our Valley. We have two recent additions to Team LoLa, as well. In the December issue, we introduced you to Shelly Moore. Shelly is our “Single in the Valley” columnist. Each month Shelly talks with a single lady in our area and shares her story of the single life. And this month, we’d like to introduce Tammy Albery of Tammy’s Table. In each issue, Tammy will share an easy-to-make, mouthwatering recipe. Tammy is a personal chef, a previous restaurant owner, and a cooking instructor who offers private in-home cooking classes and parties. Try her recipes each month and send us a photo.

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COLUMNISTS Grayse Kelly Inner Fashionista Missy Jones She Said/He Said Dominic Carcioppolo She Said/He Said Shelly Moore Single in the Valley Tammy Albery Tammy’s Table

Ladies, let’s commit to making this year better than ever! I’d like to propose to our readers: Take this year to try something new. Then write to us and tell us the impact it’s had on your life. At the end of the year, we will pick one of our readers and share her 2014 story!

CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Heather Bremner Dr. Christina Cooke, DC

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INTERNS Mikayla Fultz Peche Cordero

SHE SAID/HE SAID:

I’m writing about the December column which discussed separate and/or joint bank accounts for married couples. Most financial experts now recommend separate accounts as well as a common account. I followed my heart and instincts, and I went into my marriage wanting to have a full partnership. I don’t understand why you would keep money separate. I think in our American society people have begun to value money over relationships and it has become in vogue to “maintain your independence even if you are married.” People don’t really think their marriage can work. Usually in life, money flows in and out. Sometimes you make more than your spouse and sometimes your spouse has more money. I think it is key to trust each other and manage all your resources together.

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Photo by local photographer, Leigh Castelli. Lorimar Winery, November 2013.

IN THIS ISSUE 9 COVER STORY Resolved to Change 12 WOMEN’S WELLNESS A More Joyful Pregnancy 13 INNER FASHIONISTA Paisley, Polka Dots and Stripes … OH MY! 14 ABOUT A GIRL A Heart for the Homeless 16 SHE SAID/HE SAID 17 BUSINESS SAVVY Essential Ink Body Art 19 SINGLE IN THE VALLEY

CONTACT US To Submit Material For story ideas, inquiries, letters to the editor, photos of local scenes, Girls Next Door submissions, questions or comments, email: ireadlola@lolamagazine.com For Advertising For advertising contact David Mains: 951.319.4000 marketing@lolamagazine.com Visit Us Read the full copy of LoLa Magazine online: ireadlola.com Connect with Us Like us on Facebook: Facebook.com/ireadlola Follow us on Twitter: @ireadlola Cover photo by Amy Dawnelle

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Correction: The Tiffany Amber Breslin Memorial Fund benefit will be held at Pala Casino February 1, 2014. We incorrectly dated the event as 2013 in our December issue. Please see ad on p. 23.

MORE THAN A CROWN

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SPECIAL FEATURE

More than a Crown and Sash By Angela Mains

The reigning Miss City of Temecula, Ashley Berry, is a 21-yearold-substance abuse counselor. Her pageant debut was at the age of three, but in her tweens she left pageants to focus on school. She came back when she was 18, winning the titles Miss French Valley and Miss Inland California. Eighteen-year-old Jessica Croupe is a college-bound senior at Murrieta Valley High School. The former Pre-Teen Miss Riverside County and Jr. Teen Miss Southwest County of Riverside currently holds two additional titles, Miss Inland California and Miss Murrieta Valley. As Miss City of Temecula, Ashley has been very active in the community this pageant year, including organizing the pageant’s participation in last year’s Susan G. Komen Inland Empire Race for the Cure. This meant orchestrating everything from the initial contact with the Komen organization to planning the day for the girls, to the last minute emails and fine details. “It was an experience for her to learn and grow,” says Anne. It was especially personal for Ashley because her best friend had lost her mother to breast cancer the previous year. “This was a way I could show my support,” Ashley said. On the day of the race, she and her sister queens (as they affectionately refer to each other) volunteered at the event, cheering for the racers as they crossed the finish line. “It was an important day for us and one that even the younger titleholders could share in,” she added. Another of Ashley’s favorite events of the year was the CHOC Walk held at Disneyland to raise funds for Children’s Hospital of Orange County. She also notes the fun she had during Temecula’s “Solar-thon.” As Habitat for Humanity volunteers, the girls helped install solar systems on area homes. “I never thought in my life that I’d be on a roof installing solar panels!” she said. “This was a huge experience and it was really cool. Everyone was gung ho and put in so much work. In just one day, we completed six or seven systems.” Ashley says she has gained self-esteem through participation in the Southwest California Pageants. She credits the pageant for giving her the confidence to go out and start a conversation with someone she’s never met. As for future aspirations, Ashley would like to compete for Miss County of Riverside and is excited about the prospect of entering Miss California USA. Photo: Nunox Photography

TODAY’S PAGEANTS ARE ABOUT MORE than fancy ball gowns and a well-practiced wave of the hand. And for the girls who compete in Southwest California Pageants, the pageant’s director, Anne Bowman, insists they be well-rounded, smart, and dedicated to the community. Meet two local title holders who are able to juggle school, work, family, and community service during their year as queen: 6•

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A highlight for Jessica Croupe as Miss Murrieta Valley this year was volunteering at the Professional Women’s Roundtable annual award ceremony, where actress and breast cancer survivor Ann  Jillian was speaker. “Her story was incredibly inspiring,” Jessica says. Jessica herself is inspiring; she is able to uphold her pageant commitments while maintaining a good grade point average, at the same time taking advanced placement courses and participating in musical theater and dance. She is on Murrieta Valley’s award-winning dance team, which competes both locally and in state competitions.


“Time management,” she says, “is key to being able to balance it all.” Before getting involved in pageants, she admits she was introverted. She is now more outgoing and loves representing the city where she grew up. After the pageant year is over, Jessica will put pageantry aside for a while until she has adjusted to college life. She plans to attend the University of Arizona. Eventually she plans to run for Miss Arizona and aspires to go on to Miss USA in the future. Winning a title with Southwest California Pageants is just the beginning of the road for these girls. From the moment they are crowned until they are succeeded by the girls they crown, they learn community involvement, teamwork and sisterhood. “The girls themselves actually run the pageants each year,” Anne says proudly. “They put together the pageant for the incoming contestants and take care of every task, from choreographing the opening number on pageant night, to hosting and emceeing the entire event.” Throughout the year, the girls participate in parades, city and charity events, and fundraisers. “We all attend a Lake Elsinore Storm game together each year,” Anne says. “It’s a fun day for the girls because they work so hard all year, but I still find a way for them to participate while having fun.” This past summer, Jessica was chosen to sing the National Anthem to open the game. “She is so talented. It was a proud moment for all of us to watch her sing,” Anne said. “All the girls work hard throughout the year, even the little ones. We recently joined in the Veterans Day and Christmas parades.” Anne counsels the girls, “You’ve got to put that crown and sash to use or what does it mean? I’d rather you have a crown that is a little tarnished with a rhinestone or two missing and maybe a smudge on your sash, but it means you’ve had a fantastic year. What’s the point of a crown that just sits in the cabinet?” She adds, “I’m so happy that my pageant attracts the kind of girls that want to be involved. They have such a sense of community.”

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COVER STORY

Resolved to Change By Heather Bremner Photography by Amy Dawnelle

Your yoga class is a sea of mats. There are no available treadmills. Your sister is telling you she’s finally going to assemble that scrapbook from her European vacation years ago. The holiday decorations are packed away, and the New Year’s resolutions are in. Most of us are entering 2014 with change on our minds. Losing a few pounds—or more than a few—is a common commitment, as evidenced by the January crowds at the gym. Or you might say this is the year you’re finally going to get organized, or finish that project that has been sitting on your garage shelf for so long. A new year is a beautiful thing. A fresh start. A clean slate. A symbol of hope and inspiration. Let’s all strive to be the best version of ourselves possible. But don’t overwhelm yourself with goals and aspirations. Instead, start with a goal that’s most important to you, come up with a realistic plan to meet your goal, and go from there. We talked to a few local ladies about how they brought in the New Year, and the resolutions they made for 2014. Shelly Moore

Katie Allen

When pressed about New Year’s resolutions, Shelly Moore is quite … well, resolved.

This Murrieta mom packed up her family and headed to Nebraska to spend the holidays with her parents. The family headed for their Midwest vacation on Christmas Day, flying out in the evening after Santa dropped off presents under their tree. On New Year’s Eve, Katie watched football and just relaxed with her family.

“Here’s the funny part about that,” says the single mom of four. “I believe in resolutions, but I don’t believe in New Year’s resolutions because I feel when someone is ready to make a change it should happen at that time.” That doesn’t stop Shelley from looking at the new year as a time for change. “I will say that in 2014, I’m really going to nurture relationships in my life.” And with a new writing gig as Lola’s “Single in the Valley” columnist, Shelly is jumping in with both feet. “I’m really excited about this year because I know it will be powerful for me in my personal growth, I can just feel it,” she said.

For this busy mother of two and Stella & Dot stylist, 2013 was a year of change. Katie moved into a new home and left her day job in exchange for a full-time mommy position to her five- and eight-year-old daughters. In 2014, Katie plans to “embrace, enjoy and appreciate,” the time she now has to spend with her children. They will have more cuddle time, more play time, and they might even get to take that dreamed-of family trip to Hawaii. January 2014 • 9


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Sarah Crane

New Year’s Eve is normally an evening of revelry for Sarah Crane and her husband, but this year didn’t find Sarah all dressed up and out on the town. “We have a dog that is having puppies,” she said. So she and hubby had to ring in the New Year at home staying close to their pooch. In terms of resolutions, Sarah has plans. “I don’t make resolutions, I set goals,” she says, adding that she holds herself accountable. “If it’s a goal, I think your mind registers it differently. Resolutions can be more easily broken.” Considering that she accomplished her 2013 work-related goal, it appears Sarah’s process is working. As a realtor for the past 13 years, Sarah says that she’s always pushing herself to move her business to the next level. This year, she will prospect and network more to reach that level. For 2014, this busy lady plans to strive to eat as clean as possible and continue to stay healthy and fit, which means attending her daily fitness boot camps. And she wants to take as many mini vacations with her husband as possible. “We love Catalina Island,” she says, “and we’ve been talking about going to Austin, Texas with friends.” Laurie Dufresne

Lose weight! Get fit! Those are probably the most common New Year’s resolutions. Yet, so many of us set those lofty goals only to step on the scale in December with no progress, and the past year with only sporadic exercise. Not Laurie Dufresne. In 2013, this mom of two decided she was going to begin a serious exercise regimen and lose weight. And she did. Thirty pounds to be exact. “Last year my goal was to achieve optimal health for my body,” she says enthusiastically. “So this year, the goal is to take it from optimal to ultra.” In addition to slimming down, the former yo-yo dieter also toned her body, highlighting muscles she never knew existed. Laurie was able to accomplish her healthier lifestyle with the help of a Take Shape for Life health coach who doubled as her accountability partner. Laurie says she learned to retrain her thought process about food and health choices, which made transitioning to a healthier lifestyle much easier. “This year is going to be exciting, taking on new things I never thought I was capable of doing.” One example is running, which Laurie began a couple weeks ago. “I’m proud of myself for taking this on!” she said. She also plans to “pay it forward” by inspiring others as a health coach.

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WOMEN’S WELLNESS

A More Joyful Pregnancy By Dr. Christina Cooke, DC

For most women, pregnancy is a joyful experience. Joyful, but not necessarily easy. Many women experience pain and discomfort during pregnancy and are searching for relief from drug-free alternatives that are safe for both mom and baby. Pregnancy causes extra stress on the body which increases as the fetus develops. During this development, more and more weight is carried in the front of the body which begins to stretch the mother’s abdominal muscles. This can result in hyperlordosis of the lumbar spine, an increase in the angle of the spine in the lower back which is often accompanied by muscle pain or spasms. As pregnancy progresses, the joints of the pelvis begin to loosen in preparation for delivery of the baby, which can cause irritation of the spinal nerves. Irritation of the sciatic nerve (a large nerve in the lower back) often occurs in pregnant women, resulting in pain that extends into the leg. Chiropractic care is a safe, natural way to treat back pain during and after pregnancy. Treatment includes “adjustments,” which are specific movements to areas of the spine to help restore normal motion and relieve nerve irritation. These treatments cause no harm to the baby and are safe throughout the duration of the pregnancy. Treatment after the birth of the baby is important to help the mother as she goes through dramatic changes to her posture such as holding her infant and breast feeding. Regular chiropractic adjustments will help allow the mother to have less pain and discomfort as she focuses on caring for her new baby. Chiropractic care is also helpful for the newborn who has just emerged from in utero constraints and the trauma of birth. Treatments for infants are very gentle and help restore motion in the spine so they can grow and develop without nerve interference. Common newborn health complaints such as colic, unexplained crying, poor appetite, and earaches have been found to improve when nerve irritation is removed by a chiropractic adjustment.

“Keeping the spine aligned helps the entire body function more effectively.”

While a chiropractor doesn’t treat or cure illnesses, many childhood disorders may be a result of nervous system interference in the spine. The nervous system is the master system of communication to the entire body. Keeping the spine aligned helps the entire body function more effectively.

Dr. Cooke has a Bachelor of Science degree in Kinesiology from California State Polytechnic University, Pomona, and a Doctorate in Chiropractic from Southern California University of Health Sciences/Los Angeles Chiropractic College.

If you have questions or concerns about chiropractic care during your pregnancy or if you have a friend that may benefit from chiropractic care, please contact your chiropractor or call us at Lake Elsinore Chiropractic. We would be glad to help you as you experience this momentous time of life. 12 •

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INNER FASHIONISTA

Paisley, Polka Dots and Stripes ... OH MY! By Grayse Kelly | Photos by Amy Dawnelle

The doubts and inhibitions you held on to last year … toss them out the window! You’re as fabulous as ever, you’ve rung in the new year, and by now your resolutions are memorized. So let’s add to your list. Tell yourself, “I will be daring.” Where to start?

Prints ... together. No fear, pairing them doesn’t have to be scary. Executed properly, it looks awesome. There are however, a few basic rules that will assure you look more Fifth Avenue chic and less Barnum & Bailey! What to avoid?

Matching patterns. If your top is a bold stripe or a plaid, you wouldn’t want to have a bottom with the same color and design. It would come off as over-thinking and maybe a little dull. Prints such as these should be paired with a neutral color or a smaller print to offset the larger design. Not all prints and textures complement one another. If you’re unsure of the combo, break up your look with a solid texture. Smaller prints work better to balance the frame of a petite woman. If you aren’t petite, you could easily capture the look you want with a bold, brightly patterned top. It’s all about balance and proportion. Some prints can actually bring unwanted attention to what you deem your problem areas. What to embrace?

Prints that are similar in color but different in design. For instance, your top is a paisley print and your bottom is a small houndstooth print. As long as there is a common color scheme, this works. Polka dots are playful and can act as a neutral. If you have a black and white polka dot top for example, it will seamlessly tie into all fabrics. Florals add a feminine, soft touch to a severe print, like an ultra-thin stripe. Tribal prints can be worn together or with textures, such as knits, leather, or even wool. For a fashion-forward look, try a tribal print top, a wool skirt, and large gold earrings. If wearing prints on this scale is a bit much for you, start slowly. Incorporate patterned tights or socks with your skirts. Add a printed shoulder bag or clutch. Shoes with bold prints will add subtle flare. Printed scarves serve as simple, yet chic accents to most outfits.

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ABOUT A GIRL

A Heart for the Homeless By Heather Bremner | Photo by Amy Dawnelle

ANNE UNMACHT DIDN’T PLAN ON BECOMING A SAVIOR FOR TEMECULA’S HOMELESS. It just happened, the same way she happened to find herself at her church’s altar one day. “I think God waits for everyone, but you have to surrender,” she says with absolute conviction. At the time, the economy was booming and the divorced mother of two was bringing home ample commission checks. She had the big, beautiful home perfectly perched on a hilltop, the sparkly engagement ring, and the fiancé she thought was meant to be. But in the midst of all this, she felt a void. Raised without any sort of religion, Anne considered herself a pragmatic agnostic. She wasn’t sure if there was a God and had lived her first 38 years content with that uncertainty. Yet it wasn’t another individual who convinced her to step foot in that church one morning. “I don’t know, it was like a big, invisible magnet,” she says with a smile, during our interview at the office of her Temecula-based nonprofit dedicated to helping the homeless. “I couldn’t fight the pull any longer.” The same irresistible force that drew her to church, led her to found Project TOUCH. Now celebrating its 10-year anniversary, Project TOUCH, or Together Our Unity Conquers Homelessness, brings together faith, business, and civil organizations to help overcome homelessness and establish homeless prevention. Project TOUCH operates under the organization God’s Fan Club, and is officed in the Sage Canyon complex on the corner of Rancho California and Moraga roads. A Shelter Takes Shape

In the summer of 2011 they began renting Sage Canyon apartments when the city of Temecula shut down what was described as an unlicensed shelter that was housed in a local church. What initially began as three apartments grew to 25 apartments plus a home in Murrieta. Some free emergency housing and food assistance are provided, but individuals living in transitional housing are expected to shoulder as much of the cost as they can afford. “Let’s talk the universal language of math,” Anne tells them. Returning from a quick lunch, Anne walks into the office and is greeted by a woman in distress. The gray-haired lady is nervously perched on the edge of the couch, her little dog enclosed in a carrier on her lap. She is grasping receipts and scraps of paper. Seeing Anne, she tells her she doesn’t know what happened to her money. It’s a few weeks before Christmas, the mercury is about to drop below freezing at night, and the elderly woman says she doesn’t have enough money to pay her portion of the rent for her apartment at Sage Canyon. With quiet resolve, Anne tells her they’ll figure it out. “Math doesn’t lie,” she tells the woman. 14 •

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This is just one of the many homeless cases the founder and president of Project TOUCH deals with daily. “Homelessness is such a complicated issue,” says Anne. “The homeless don’t fit into one neat category.” Later that day a man called, saying he was living in his car with his two children. He was on the verge of a breakdown but Anne assured him they would have a roof over their heads that night. “I have to quickly be the rock they need,” she says. Anne has to deal with each client and situation on a case-by-case basis, whether it’s a single parent, displaced families damaged by the recession, elderly individuals living on fixed incomes, or young adults who are just out of foster care. Currently a husband, wife and baby share the master suite at the Murrieta home, and about eight or nine families live in the Sage Canyon apartments. For the most part things run smoothly, but Anne is the first to admit it’s not perfect. Sometimes individuals have to be removed. “Of course there are glitches. Especially when apartments are shared, you are going to encounter that,” she says matter-of-factly.


But the touching stories of success melt Anne’s heart. Just last year, she was informed by a local high school that one of their students was living under a bridge. At 18-years-old, he had been emancipated from the foster care system, and was mere months away from graduating. With Project TOUCH’s assistance, he earned his high school diploma and enrolled in a job training program. “The emancipated foster care … I have a huge heart for that population because for their whole life they are told, ‘don’t want you, ‘don’t want you, ‘don’t want you.’ We want to say ‘Well, we want you,’ but I also hold them accountable for their behavior,” she explains.

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A Forever Family

A prime example is a young woman who recently came to the shelter. Also emancipated from foster care, the 18-year-old was rebellious and anxiety-ridden, trying to find her place in a world that had been filled with rejection. “She came in [to Project TOUCH], and all of a sudden had about 20 moms,” Anne said. Anne was able to enroll her in a program that offers extended benefits to foster care emancipated youth. Today the young woman attends community college, has a part-time job, her own apartment, and no longer faces the world alone. “We became her family and we will always be her family,” Anne said.

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ADVICE

She Said/He Said Get great advice on life and love, from a woman’s perspective and a man’s perspective. Jen from Murrieta: My husband wants to go on a man trip.  Why is that necessary?  We’ve

always vacationed as a family. My girlfriends often take girl weekends away, but I’ve never been interested. Now my husband wants to go away for three days to golf with the guys! I’m wondering if I should be worried. Some of the men are single but most are married. I don’t know them all well enough to know that they will behave on this trip. I trust my husband, but I’m just not comfortable with this trip.

Missy Jones: I think it’s great that you take family vacations,

but it’s also important to have relaxation time of your own. Since you’ve always gone away as a family, it makes sense that you might feel a little jarred that your husband is expressing a different interest. However, I think you have nothing to be concerned about. It sounds like the opportunity was presented to your husband and he’d like to go with it. This doesn’t sound like he was plotting to get away. Additionally, the trip is being planned around an activity. He’s going to golf. And unless the two of you spend time golfing together, there’s no reason why a trip like this would be of interest to you. If this were a trip with mostly single men going to Vegas, then I could see how that might cause some anxiety on your part. However, both married and single men alike can demonstrate unsavory behavior if it’s in their personalities. So if he’s going to be influenced, it would be of his own accord, not because of the company, and not because he’s away. Perhaps you feel left out simply because you’re used to doing things as a team. Take the time when he is away to do things for yourself. If you’ve been missing girls’ trips for lack of interest, it sounds like you need to reconnect with those friends. Plan a weekend wine night with the girls. Treat yourself to a mani/pedi. Exercise every day. Get things crossed off your to-do list or start a new project. A short time apart can be good for both you. And who knows, you might end up enjoying the time apart more than he does, and that can make things much better when you’re together again.

Dominic Carcioppolo: Why is a man trip necessary? Why are

girls’ nights necessary? Why is the sky blue? It’s just the way it is. No matter how in love two people are, they are still two different people who need some space every now and then. Just because you’re not interested in a girls’ weekend doesn’t mean you should enforce your preferences for recreation on him. He needs guy time. It’s in his DNA. Like back when his male ancestors would go hunting with all the other tribesmen. It’s just what men do. He wants to play golf with the guys. Just let him go.

Have a comment or a question for Missy & Dominic? Send an email to ireadlola@lolamagazine.com. Subject line: She Said He Said All information expressed on this page is a matter of the writers’ individual opinions. None of the advice is intended to take the place of legal or professional counsel.

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BUSINESS SAVVY

Essential Ink Body Art Art (ärt) noun: 1. Something created with imagination and skill that expresses important ideas. 2. Works created by artists. Essential Ink Body Art is not your typical tattoo and piercing shop. “We are artists first,” said co-owner Midori Gates, speaking of herself, her partner Edward Ramsey, and their tattoo artists. Midori and Edward hope to change the misperception that tattoos and piercing are for people from the wrong side of the tracks. Prior to opening Essential Ink Body Art, Midori worked for a corporate real estate firm but was let go when the economy took a dive. She started exploring different avenues of art. Creating eco-friendly jewelry from recycled bicycle inner tubes and magazines became a new business venture for her. She also expressed her artistic side by starting a home-based cake decorating business. Eventually Midori transitioned into body piercings which she refers to as “just a different art form.” One of her artists, Jessica, tells a story of a teacher who came in with her sister and brother-in-law to get a tattoo memorializing their niece who had been battling cancer, and another story of a Hungarian woman who fled her home country, running from her husband, to build a new life in the US with her two children. The woman came for her first piercing as a celebration of renewal after all she had suffered in her life. They’ve even had a 70-year-old grandmother come in for her very first piercing. Body art “marks milestones in who prior to opening Essential zine and started an indie record become people’s therapists. They trust us,” he added.

people’s lives,” said Edward, Ink, had published a magalabel. “It’s not just a job. We open up to us. They have to

above: Midori with co-owner Edward. right: Midori piercing a client

Midori and Edward opened Essential Ink Body Art on September  1 of last year when they purchased and revamped a suite that had been an existing tattoo shop. “I thought it would be a great business opportunity,” Midori said. “We wanted a new way to bring the arts to the community, and tattoo is already an artistic industry.” They’ve managed to create what she calls, “a very positive, free flowing, and come-and-be-creative type of environment.” The 900 square foot space has four private studios. Each is decorated with the artist’s own personal artwork which can be purchased. Walking into the shop is not the least intimidating. A variety of music plays in the background, and the nostalgic décor is as welcoming as the artists themselves. The staff is super knowledgeable, and cleanliness appears to be a top priority. “We follow all county health codes, regulations and guidelines,” says Midori, “It’s our name, our reputation. We want to do it the right way.”

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SINGLE IN THE VALLEY

Gina Rovere By Shelly Moore

I met Gina Rovere recently at a business networking event. We connected immediately, and I knew she would be my first interview for “Single in the Valley.” We talked at her charming home where she had set her table with coffee and gluten-free muffins. I felt welcome and comfortable, but had no idea that I’d leave with my eyes red and puffy from the tears we would share. Gina Rovere is a successful realtor in the Valley, but few people know the adversity she has faced. About four years ago, after 25 years of marriage and having raised two daughters, her marriage came to an end. As difficult as it was at the time, today she and her ex-husband are great friends. Shortly after they separated, Gina became a Christian through Revival Church in Menifee and she says that it changed her life. This past year hasn’t been easy for Gina. She lost her mother who was her dear friend and mentor. Gina was also diagnosed with lupus and endures many difficult days when she is too sick to leave home. “I won’t let this stop me,” she says. “My mother passed the torch to me and I will be a light to this world. Our life here is not a race … it is a journey. We all have “stuff” in our lives, but what matters is what we do with it. I choose to become better. Everything I am able to do is by the grace of God.” Gina’s heart and compassion for helping others inspired her to start the ministry, “MenIfeed,” along with one of the pastors at Revival.

Her goal is to seek out and provide food for families who are struggling. “I never imagined I would do this type of work, but it stems from my mother. When I was young, my father battled alcoholism. Despite the problems this caused in our family, my mom would take the time to step away from her own daily struggles and reach out to help others.” In the short time since starting this non-profit ministry, Gina says she is already overwhelmed at the outpouring of generosity from those who want to help. Gina dreams of marrying again someday. “I don’t want just any relationship, I want the relationship that I am supposed to be in,” she explains. “I believe I am single right now because God is creating my love story.” She left the room and came back with a little box. Inside was a prayer for her future husband. As a single woman, it gave me hope that I too will have the relationship I am supposed to have. Gina’s advice to newly single women is to spend time finding yourself, and live each day with passion and purpose. As I sat with Gina, I knew I had found a new friend … an amazing sister in this adventure of being single. “I believe it is my calling to help people become happier, and to create a better world.” – A quote from my new friend Gina Rovere If you would like to assist Gina in her ministry “MenIfeed” or provide food for a family, please email: GinaRovere@yahoo.com.

Photos from left to right: Gina with “Single in the Valley” columnist Shelly Moore; with loving companion Jack; with MenIfed Pastor Gabe; Gina at home. January 2014 • 19


TAMMY’S TABLE

Winter Greens & Farro Salad with Spicy Cilantro Dressing By Tammy Albery Salad Ingredients

• 2 packed cups baby greens • 2 packed cups kale, torn into bite size pieces • ½ of a small head of cabbage, thinly sliced • ½ cup farro, cooked per pkg instructions (can be substituted with brown rice or other grain) • 3 corn on the cob, charred on grill or in skillet • 1 lb green beans, blanched, cooled in ice bath and drained • 2 med sweet potatoes, peeled and cut into ½ inch cubes • 2 small sweet onions, diced • ½ large red bell pepper, diced • ½ bunch cilantro, remove stems • 1 can of black beans, rinsed, drained and dried • ½ cup pomegranate seeds • ¼ cup crumbled feta cheese • ½ tsp ground cumin • ¼ tsp smoked paprika • ½ tsp sea salt • ¼ tsp cinnamon • ¼ tsp pepper • Dash of cayenne pepper

For Dressing: Place all ingredients in blender or food processor,

except olive oil. Blend until smooth. Slowly drizzle in olive oil.

For Salad Ingredients: Preheat oven to 425. In a small bowl, mix together all seasonings. Sprinkle over potatoes and onions, coating evenly. Cook for 20 to 25 minutes or until fork tender. Cool.

Drop green beans into a medium pot of boiling water for 2 minutes. Cool in ice bath, drain, dry and cut into 1 inch pieces. Rinse and dry greens, cabbage, and any vegetable that has not been pre-rinsed. Set aside. In a large serving bowl, layer greens, kale and cabbage. Next layer with faro, corn kernels, red bell pepper, green beans, black beans, sweet potatoes, onions, feta, pomegranate seeds and cilantro leaves. Toss and drizzle single servings with cilantro dressing. Leftovers can be refrigerated to enjoy on another day. Tammy Albery is a private chef and cooking instructor. Reach her at tammystable22@gmail.com or visit facebook.com/tammystable22 20 •

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Dressing Ingredients

• Juice of 3 limes • 2 tbsp sherry vinegar • ¼ tsp ground cumin • ½ seeded jalapeño or 1 tbsp adobo sauce • ¼ tsp salt • ⅛ tsp pepper • 1 small shallot • 1 clove garlic • ½ bunch cilantro • 1 tbsp honey • ½ cup extra virgin olive oil


GIRLS NEXT DOOR Jacqueline Mann was born and raised in Paris, France. She is of Serbian descent as well as French, and speaks both languages fluently, in addition to English. Jacqueline currently resides in Canyon Lake with her husband Sean. Jacqueline has two sons ages 24 and 22, and one daughter age 13. Jacqueline found her calling in life as a personal trainer and fitness coach. She especially loves Zumba and yoga which she teaches at Temecula Valley Fitness and Canyon Lake Lodge. Jacqueline is a breast cancer survivor, which was the motivation to get her health on track and live in a healthy manner. In 1981 she competed in a body building competition, winning first in her division. Eventually she became a Take Shape for Life coach. Jacqueline’s hobbies include anything outdoors, such as walking, rock climbing and riding motorcycles. She also runs 5Ks, 10Ks, half marathons, and full marathons. Not everything she does burns carbs; she balances her life, enjoying cooking and crocheting.

Janice Lovendahl is from Michigan but has resided in Southern California since 1984, and in Temecula

since 1997. She has been married for 10 years to her husband, Claus. Janice is a real estate broker and owner of Top Level Realty in Temecula and San Diego. She earned a Bachelor’s degree in Business Management, and holds various real estate designations. She is a member of the National Association of Hispanic Real Estate Professionals (NAHREP), the Asian Real Estate Association of America (AREAA), and the Real Estate Management Broker Institute (REMBI). She serves on the Grievance Committee for the Southern Riverside County Association of Realtors (SRCAR); she is the third vice president of education for the National Association of Real Estate Brokers (NAREB), and is president elect of the Women’s Council of Realtors – Southwest Riverside County Chapter. Janice is involved with the American Heart Association and volunteers at HealthStaff Training Institute, Temecula campus. In San Diego she volunteers and serves on the board of The Rose House Kinship Center.

Julie Moreno is originally from Las Vegas, and settled in the Temecula Valley area in 2000. As the mom of two boys, 10-year-old Noah and seven-year-old Jonah, she says she continually strives to be the best mother she can be. “My boys are the sunshine of my life and make me a better person,” she explains. She considers herself a fighter, a go getter, and a learner that doesn’t want to stop. Currently a full-time student, her goal is to major in office administration. She also is aspiring to become a real estate agent and is well on her way, now studying for the state board real estate exam. Her plan is to supplement her income by working in real estate, a field she is passionate about. Julie started life anew after a divorce in 2011. “It was a very hard decision,“ she says. “I’ve had amazing support in so many ways. I believe things happen for a reason, perhaps to help a person get to a better place. My boys motivate me to keep going. Along my journey, love found me, unexpectedly, and he thinks I am perfect and amazing.”

Karen Twyla Twyman, sales account manager for LoLa Magazine, is originally from South Bend, Indi-

ana. She moved to California in 1980 and has been a Riverside County resident since 1996. Twyla (as she likes to be called) has two children, Maricel who is 22 and Earl (EJ) who is 19, and is the proud grandmother of Kalie and Mia. Twyla started her career as an escrow officer. In 2004 she obtained her real estate license and her real estate broker’s license in 2013. She is currently an associate broker with BST Realty, Inc. in Riverside. Twyla loves to sing and her favorite hobby is getting together with friends to sing karaoke favorites. She donates her time and talent as a member of the choir at Mountain View Community Church in Temecula. Twyla adds, “I love going to Arizona to visit my son who is attending Arizona Western College in Yuma where he plays on the basketball team.” For the past two years, Twyla has practiced a vegan lifestyle and says that she and her daughter “get very excited watching YouTube for new ideas of meals we can re-create.” January 2014 • 21


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