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9 COVER STORY Love, Marriage & Dating: Three local ladies dish relationship details
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FROM THE PUBLISHER WELCOME to the First Issue of LoLa Magazine! LoLa is an acronym for Local Ladies. In this magazine, we will get to know some of the ladies who make up the communities of Southwest Riverside County. I myself was born a Southern girl, but my travels settled me in this beautiful state of sun, fun, freedom, diversity, and BEACHES … what’s there not to love about Southern California? The one thing I do miss about my home state of North Carolina is the hospitality. I grew up spending a lot of time on my grandmother’s front porch, where everyone who passed by stopped at the fence and held a conversation. My grandmother would invite them onto the porch for a glass of her freshly brewed sweet iced tea … true story. I admit, there is something to be said for the privacy of my French Valley neighborhood with its five-foot wooden fences surrounding the entire circumference of each home, but I miss the camaraderie between neighbors. Yes it’s rare to find a porch in Southern California and even more rare to hold front yard conversations with passing strangers, but it would be really nice to get to know the beautiful, courageous, patriotic, outgoing, funny, entertaining, compassionate, driven women right here in our communities—women with stories of survival, triumph, love, and losses. It is my hope that these pages assist us in finding the one thing we have in common with our neighbor, that girl next door, (see page 11), the woman we’ve lived next to for the last year and still don’t know her name. (Yes, I am guilty.) On the cover of each issue of LoLa Magazine and inside, you will meet local ladies who have a story to share. Bravo TV’s Housewives have nothing on us and our lives! We live out our very own reality drama right here on our own streets, in our own homes, with our own interesting story lines. LoLa celebrates the lives of the Local Ladies of Southwest Riverside County. Breathe. Believe. Achieve. -Angela M.
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MOST OF US HAVE SEEN at least a few re-runs of TV family sitcoms like Father Knows Best and Leave It to Beaver. Those shows depicted the all-American family as dad working outside the home and mom as the homemaker—always smiling, with dinner on the table, on time, every night. And the kids … the epitome of perfect children with great moral character and never so much as a stain on their carefully pressed Sunday school clothing. In later years, there were more modern families like the Huxtables, from The Cosby Show, where both parents worked outside the home, yet returned at the end of the day to a perfect family life with kids who figured out the right way to handle every social situation thrown at them. In early TV land, there were no previous marriages, no children from prior relationships, and not even the thought of divorce. Those shows were entertaining, but they didn’t realistically portray love, marriage or family. In the real world, life is not that perfect. And despite the endless number of self-help websites, books, seminars, and relationship experts, love will forever be one of the most perplexing of human emotions. Three local ladies, Denyse, Angelica, and Missy, share insights from their own experiences. Denyse, a realtor with Real Estate Places in Temecula, was celebrating her 21st wedding anniversary with husband Steve as we conducted this interview. The two met in 1984 at Southern Illinois University. Both worked for the same transit company while in college. Denyse first noticed Steve at work, but they didn’t meet until Denyse spotted him performing in a Greek step show for his college fraternity. Pointing him out to her friend, she described him as the cute guy who worked in her building at the transit company. The friend happened to know Steve and introductions were made. From then on, whenever Denyse saw Steve, she’d make her way into his line of site to make sure he noticed her. Six months after their initial introduction, he asked her out.
LoLa: How long did you date before marriage, and what was your courtship like? “Our first date was lunch at Chicago Hot Dogs.
We actually shared one hot dog, an order of fries and a drink,” she reminisced. “Steve had finished college before I did and landed a job in Atlanta. Eventually his job moved him to New York, and we continued to travel back and forth to see each other while I completed college and worked in Chicago. It was when Steve received a job offer in Saudi Arabia, that I told him I was done with long distance dating. He opted not to take the job and we became engaged.” Continued … October 2013 • 9
LoLa: To what do you credit the longevity of your marriage?
“Looking to Christ is what has kept us together. People go wrong when they look to their spouse to complete them. This can lead to disappointment, but when your relationship is a trinity with the two of you and Christ at the top, you are complete.”
Denyse and Steve have one son, Jordan, and have lived in Southern California for 19 years. They have been involved in a couples’ ministry the entire time and pray for each other every night. “This works for us,” she added. Denyse’s advice to couples who are trying to keep it together: “All couples should have counseling. Find other couples that have been married a long time, and seek their mentorship.” Denise didn’t marry until she was 27 and feels maturity is important. “Before getting married, you need time to work on yourself,” she advised. Angelica’s happy ending had a different start. After seven years of marriage, she found herself divorced with three young daughters. She admits to bitter feelings and thought she would never marry again. She was focusing on her own well-being and raising her daughters, when her husband-to-be walked into her life. It happened on Latino Family Day in San Diego, when Angelica was at an expo booth handing out information for her mortgage company. Cosmos, a tall Nigerian man, obviously out of place, approached her and asked what she was she trying to sell him, as he looked through her brochure which was written in Spanish. Offended, Angelica replied that she wasn’t trying to sell him anything. A friend of Cosmos’s stepped in to smooth 10 •
the uncomfortable situation and managed to turns things in a positive direction. “One week later, I got an email from Cosmos, inviting me for either coffee or dinner. I agreed to dinner.” Fast forward seven years; the couple is married and raising Angelica’s three daughters along with the newest member of the household, a bouncing baby boy who carries his father’s name. LoLa: You are Mexican and your husband was born in Nigeria; were there cultural differences to overcome? “Not really,”
she explained. “Mexican and Nigerian families have a lot in common. Both cultures are very family-oriented, and we have the same appreciation for good food.”
LoLa: How long before you knew that Cosmos was the one?
“Early into our dating, I could see him in my future. We were different in many ways, but similar in ways that mattered. Our relationship just gradually happened.”
LoLa: How did you introduce your kids into the new relationship?
“I didn’t force things. I allowed Cos and the kids to take things at their own pace while getting used to each other. He would come over to visit and bring donuts for them. That helped,” she said with a laugh. LoLa: And a BABY at 40?! “I actually turned 41 in June, before
the baby was born. My age was the scariest part. We had talked about it in previous years, but to have a child now?
“At first, I couldn’t wrap my head around a new baby at my stage of life. I was established with my business and my oldest
daughter was preparing to leave for college. But now that it has happened, we are all very happy. The biggest thing I worry about is getting back into shape, “she said facetiously. Angelica’s advice to women starting over: “After my first marriage ended, I was disappointed for a really long time. I thought marrying again wasn’t in the cards for me. Those feelings can pass with time. After a divorce, focus on being ‘your own family’ with your kids for a while. Take a new relationship very slowly. It’s an adjustment for everyone, especially the kids.” And then there is Missy, our 27-year-old single lady from Maryland. Just a couple of years ago, Missy made the trek here from the East Coast, seeking a new and independent lifestyle. She had earned an M.S. from Radford University (Radford, Virginia) and was starting her career as a speech and language pathologist in San Diego. Missy is a part-time resident of Temecula; during the week she stays at her one-bedroom apartment in downtown San Diego.
LoLa: Was it love at first sight? “It took some time,” she explained.
“He was a Cali boy and I was raised partly in Texas. My background was more conservative than his and we approached dating differently.”
LoLa: At 27, is there any pressure from family and friends to get married and have kids? “I don’t feel any real pressure. I’ve always done
things at my own pace.”
Missy feels that respect is the most important quality in a relationship. She also considers it important for both women and men to have accomplished enough in their lives to avoid future regrets about having married too soon.
LoLa: What bought you to Southern California? “The weather. I
Missy’s advice for single ladies: “Everything is not for everybody, but relationship advice from the experts works for me,” she said, referring to books she’s read by Steve Harvey, Patty Stangler, and Alison Griswold. She added: “Women need to focus on themselves before setting out to accomplish other milestones in their lives. Don’t feel pressured. Take your time and do what works best for you.”
LoLa: How did you meet your current boyfriend, Dominic? “I had
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Stay Fit During the Holidays by Lindsay Bruce
It should not take super-hero powers to stay on track during the holidays! We all have been there, standing around the table, mustering up the willpower to keep from eating another handful of chips, a few more cookies, or a heaping serving of mashed potatoes. Constantly trying to stop our mothers from over-stuffing us, like a bird sitting on the table. Listening to the little voice in our head telling us we NEED that second piece of pie. No wonder Santa is overweight, he just ate his way from Halloween to Thanksgiving, and it does not need to be that way! My simple tricks to avoid the holiday bulge … • Move your body daily! Move it the way YOU enjoy, whether that is a walk with the dogs, playing baseball with the kids, or lifting weights — just move it! • Learn to say NO! Nobody is going to be mad at you if you kindly tell him or her you are passing on seconds. Create a food challenge with friends as an easy way to tell others you cannot splurge. This makes it easier to stay on track. • When there is absolutely no way to get around eating rich, decadent foods, I suggest you make your own healthy version.
• Easy swaps during the holidays can save hundreds of calories, loads of fat, and reduce the guilt of indulging. -- Exchange your sour cream for plain Greek yogurt, which has additional nutritional benefits and tastes very similar. I use Greek yogurt for my vegetable/chip dips, mashed potatoes, as sour cream on tacos, and in many chicken recipes! It is an easy way to save calories, add protein, and decrease sugar. -- Substitute non-dairy milk, such as: almond, coconut, flax, or rice milk for recipes with dairy. The unsweetened versions of these milks have around 30-45 calories per cup vs. nonfat milk at 90 calories a cup, and regular milk at 150 calories a cup! -- Try using applesauce in place of oil. Your cakes, breads and muffins will remain moist and you will save many calories and fat. You do not need to be Superman or Wonder Woman to stay on track! Eat more vegetables in place of breads, limit seconds and sweets, and move your body. If you indulge, enjoy it and shed the guilt, and get back on track with your next meal.
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The daily life of the ambitious go-getter can be hectic. Trying to find time to juggle career, love, life and children — all while maintaining a well-rounded social calendar — is an event in itself. The modern day superwoman. So many of us are on the move with every minute of our day perfectly synchronized in our mobile devices. Such chaotic schedules do not leave much time for wardrobe changes, so a simple black silhouette may be the answer to move your daily look from office chic to happy hour haute. Not only does black instantly slim, it has an air of sophistication, and an encompassing, ultra-trendy look for any woman, of any size. Last season’s love for leather has crossed over into this season, and it’s still going strong. If leather is too dressy for your regular nine-to-five, mute the fancy by going for a tuxedo slack. Dressy sweatshirts can give you an edge, yet remain professional enough for the work place. Chiffon blouses are foolproof, opulent and elegant, and they work in any setting. And what is a woman without her shoes? While six-inch heels may not be your go-to heel when rushing from meeting to meeting, a heel will do wonders for your look and confidence. A strappy heel can add to the tailored look of the all-black theme. Grab a pair embossed with subtle embellishments. Their added flare is a surefire way to grab everyone’s attention. Whether it be cable knit sweaters, billowing blouses, tailored blazers paired with slacks, or leather, all- black will demand attention from those fortunate enough to be graced with your presence. Choose pieces with longevity, and mix and match to suit your personal style. Say so long to the days of your inner fashionista hiding among scheduling, deadlines, and “To-Do” lists. You are now able to walk in high heels, head held high from boardroom to dive bar without missing a step! So cheers to you!
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ABOUT A GIRL
Jacqui True: A Story of Courage and Survival by Dana Nelson photo by Brandy Pellegrino
“YOU HAVE CANCER” … some of the most piercing words you could hear from a doctor, yet it is a familiar experience for many. The American Cancer Society states that one in three women and one in two men in the U.S. will have a cancer diagnosis some time in their lives. But there is good news; a 2013 study by the American Association for Cancer Research reports that the U.S. showed a continuing drop in the number of deaths from cancer. Better biomedical research is resulting in more effective treatment; in this country alone, there are 14 million cancer survivors who are living longer and fuller lives than cancer patients in the past. We know that early detection is key to survival. For some individuals the drive to survive becomes a lifelong marathon. Meet Jacqui True, an example of the courage and sheer stamina it takes to run such a marathon and celebrate life all the more. Born in New York of Argentinian parents, Jacqui was diagnosed with thyroid cancer at the age of 18. She underwent surgery followed by radiation, then moved on. For the next 12 years life was good; she didn’t even think about cancer. Then at the age of 30 during a routine physical required to renew a prescription, her urinalysis looked suspicious. After an IVP x-ray of the kidneys (a special x-ray which shows contrasts), she was told she had cancer and was referred to a nephrologist who did a biopsy. When she woke up from the surgery, the doctor agreed it was cancer, but at the follow-up appointment he said the tests proved inconclusive. He sent her home with an antibiotic for a kidney infection. “My intuition told me something was not right. I needed certainty. My mother-in-law works in a hospital and she took my x-rays to a urologist there who conferred with a top radiologist. They confirmed kidney cancer. “The hardest thing was telling my husband and daughters who were just four- and five-years-old at the time” she said. “I assured them that after the surgery, I’d be fine. After all, I’d been through this kind of thing before.” A kidney and part of her bladder were removed, and the recovery was slow. “I just put one foot in front of the other and kept looking forward to the day when my life would be normal,” she added. “Normal” for Jacqui meant embracing life, including her passion for kickboxing, karate and camping with her family. “Normal” also meant frequent mammograms, ultra sounds, lumpectomies, and breast biopsies. When she was 42, her gynecologist recommended genetic testing to determine if she carried a BRCA1 or BRCA2 gene mutation, either of which greatly increases the risk of breast and ovarian cancer for women. On the afternoon of Christmas Eve, Jacqui received a call that would forever redefine her “normal.” She had tested positive for the BRCA1 gene. “I had one goal – to stay alive – and I didn’t need my breasts and ovaries to do that,” she explained, planning to go ahead with the preventive surgery. At her mastectomy post-op appointment, she expected to hear that her body was finally ready to heal. “Instead, with the saddest look on his face, my doctor told me the pathology 14 •
reports indicated two primary breast cancers. My mammograms and ultrasounds hadn’t shown the growths because they were up against the wall of my chest. ‘This can’t be true,’ I shouted again and again.” Jacqui knew she had to stay strong for her family, and delivered the news with a spirit of determination. “We will get through this as a family,” she insisted. “I wanted my daughters to have a normal teenage life. ‘Your job is to do well in school,’ I told them, ‘have a social life, and do what I expect of you as young ladies.’ ” She decided on an aggressive course of chemotherapy. “I knew I would not be alone. My husband and daughters were my support, my life, my everything. During six hard months of treatment, my husband often woke up in the morning and said to me ‘thank you.’ There I lay with a gray face, a bald head, and tears in my eyes – and my husband was thanking me for not giving up.” That was four years ago and Jacqui’s health has been good ever since. “I don’t want cancer to steal my identity,” she explained. “I want people to think of me as a strong woman who does the right thing, a person who loves hanging out with friends, playing the slots with my husband, and shopping for a dress to wear to my daughter’s wedding next year!”
JACQUI’S ADVICE Each of Jacqui’s cancers was diagnosed before she had symptoms. She strongly advises: • Know your family history • Get regular mammograms • Have a colonoscopy screening • Don’t ignore any signs • Don’t allow anyone, even doctors, to deter you from what you feel is best • Don’t hesitate to obtain a second opinion • Realize that a mastectomy is nothing to be embarrassed about
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Persistence Pays Off for Darci Castellijos There may be lots of different recipes for success, but they all have one ingredient in common – persistence. Darci Castillejos is the essence of persistence. When circumstances fly in her face, she stands all the stronger and makes the right things happen. Her success along the way is something to admire. Darci grew up knowing she wanted to go into the military, but the Navy turned her down because of a vision problem. But this was her dream and she wasn’t willing to accept no for an answer. So at the age of 34 and the mother of two, she went back to the Navy recruiter and insisted she be allowed to enlist. Darci got their attention and the Navy granted a medical waiver. Today, 19 years later, she is a Chief Petty Officer in the reserves with Navy Cargo Handling Battalion 14, Surface Company Delta, at NAS North Island. And that is just one of her job many job titles.
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Darci was vice-president of a major bank before deciding to try her hand at something a little less corporate. After a tandem sky dive at a local drop zone, Darci learned to “fly solo.” She ran the drop zone’s restaurant for a while, then opened her own venue, SunBean’s Coffee. When construction of the Newport Road overpass re-routed the café’s usual customers, her business declined. So Darci found another route to success, creating a new persona for her coffee shop and changing the name to SunBean’s Brewing Company, thus attracting a new clientele. Eventually Darci’s desire to move on to other adventures led to the sale of the business. By now she had established a name for herself. She received a call from a broker for the French Valley Airport who was looking for someone to open a restaurant in an empty wing of the building. After careful consideration and a firm “NO” from her husband, Darci’s persistence prevailed again, and in 2000 she opened the French Valley Café. She and her husband Mike did most of the work required to convert the empty space into the quaint and cozy café it is today. With the support of Mike, her son Ricky, and daughter Nikki (who helps manage the café), the restaurant has become a super cool spot to watch planes take off and land while chowing down made-from-scratch items from the bountiful menu. Through the ups and downs of the economy, Darci’s determination has kept the restaurant growing. From local patrons to pilots who fly in just for a taste of homemade soup, the café is a-buzz every day of the week. Stop in and try the tropical citrus salad, a house favorite, or the veggie burger, whose secret ingredients include black quinoa, a unique, gluten-free, rice-like grain. The café serves breakfast, lunch and dinner seven days a week. 16 •
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He Said/She Said Get great advice on life and love, from a woman’s perspective and a man’s perspective. Tracy from Temecula asks: “My boyfriend and I have been dating for three months. We haven’t
had sex because I wish to remain celibate until marriage. He says that he understands but I can tell that he is becoming impatient. I love him and I don’t want to lose him. However, I need him to respect my decision. How do I handle this?” Missy Jones: Just because he is understanding of your
choice doesn’t mean that he understands enough to want celibacy for himself. Before stepping into this relationship, it should have been crystal clear that both of you wanted to remain celibate until marriage. If he’s only remaining celibate for you, then he’s compromising his wants and needs within the relationship. Should you ask him to continue putting his needs aside until marriage? No. Should you feel pressured or made to feel bad about your personal choice? No. You need to ask him if he is truly okay with this. If he is, then the decision is both yours and his and he shouldn’t have a problem respecting it. But if you continue to feel that one of your most important requirements within the relationship is not being fully respected, then you need to find a man who is ready to make that commitment with you. There’s truly no room for negotiating around, between, or within this issue. Do not compromise your core values. Dominic Carcioppolo: There are a few things at play
here. First, let’s tackle this business about you being in love after only three months. NO, you are not in love. It’s only been three months! You are still in the honeymoon phase of the relationship and love takes time. Second, if he says he understands then just listen to him! One of the biggest differences between men and women — and listen up here people — is that when a man says something, he means it. There is no code. For some reason this is a concept a lot of women can’t grasp. This is not to say he will understand for eternity, but for now he understands. And if there comes a point where he no longer understands, or doesn’t want to wait anymore, then he will definitely let you know. Finally, I commend your goal of purity. It’s all about being comfortable with the person you are with and being sure that you are personally ready. If your boyfriend cannot understand that, then he’s not the one for you. Make smart decisions and be real.
Have a comment or a question for Missy & Dominic? Send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org. Subject line: He Said She Said All information expressed on this page is a matter of the writers’ individual opinions. None of the advice given is intended to take the place of legal or professional counsel.
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(951) 698-PETS (7387) | doctorspetclinic.com 25182 Hancock Avenue, Murrieta, CA 92652
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GIRL NEXT DOOR Lindsey was born and raised in Murrieta and is a graduate of Murrieta Mesa High
School. She has one sister and one brother. Lindsey is a tech assistant at a local pet clinic and also works at a bagel shop in Murrieta. Her favorite food: steak and mushrooms. Her favorite movie is Love and Basketball, which could be explained by the fact that she loves basketball and has played the sport for as long as she can remember. Friends describe her as outgoing and caring. Lindsey’s inspiration is her mother, Dr Koorhan, who is an eight-year breast cancer survivor.
Christabelle is a newlywed of two years. Her family includes two dogs and
two cats. She is a current resident of Murrieta but was born and raised in San Diego. Christabelle is a fashion designer with a degree in Product Development and Merchandising from the Fashion Institute of Design & Merchandising, Los Angeles. She’s worked as a stylist for photo shoots and fashion shows and is a trend forecaster and color specialist. Christabelle is currently developing her own fashion brand and line which will be spearheaded in Temecula. She loves painting, sewing, crafting and traveling the world with her husband. Her favorite artist is Antoni Gaudi. She is inspired by her mother Paula, God, and Alexander McQueen.
Mimi is one of our LoLa t-shirt models. Mimi graduated from Averett Univer-
sity with a BS in Business Administration and Management Science. She currently works for GIA Gemology Institute of America in Carlsbad. She has a 15-year-old son, Joshua — an avid skateboarder, whom she co-parents with his father SSgt Shorter of Camp Pendleton. Mimi is also mother to a Shiba Inu named CoCo Beans Chanel and a nine-year-old turtle, Mr. Turtle. Mimi is a prior Marine and real estate broker. She grew up in Germany and has traveled to England, Scotland, Canada, and Japan. Her motto: “Have Passport, Will Travel.” She is inspired each day by her mother, Jannat, who is a three-year thyroid cancer survivor.
Tessie has been a loan officer for Guild Mortgage, previously GMAC/Mort-
gage, since 1987. She is originally from San Diego but has lived in Murrieta since 1995. She is a proud mom to three loving children, Tyler who is a junior at Mesa High School, Tiana who is a junior at the University of West Florida, and Dr. Maia, an OB/GYN at Rush Medical in Chicago. Tessie loves the beach, loves to travel and has plans to retire in Costa Rica with her significant other, Billy. She enjoys quiet time at home relaxing by her pool. Other favorite pastimes include taking in a good comedy and hanging out with friends. Her kids are her inspiration. Her motto: “It’s all in the attitude!”
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