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A WORD FROM THE PUBLISHER It’s our third issue … my how time flies! This month, I want to wish a happy birthday to three very important people in my life: my husband David who is always pushing me toward my dreams — for loving me, I thank you — and to my mom Jannat and my uncle Fred with whom I share a love for writing. When I was a kid, my mom won our very first countertop microwave through a writing contest for a magazine. It was with that (and microwaved popcorn) I realized writing could be fun and lucrative. I became intrigued with my own ability to turn whatever was going on in my head into something I could make people want to read. I also grew up attending plays that my uncle Fred wrote. I would watch as an empty auditorium turned into a crowded, chaotic buzz right before curtain call. It amazed me how the power of words could bring a community to a room of cheering and applause. For always encouraging my writing, I thank the two of you. Growing up, my grandmother’s sisters would pinch our cheeks and comment on how much my cousin Delisa and I had grown since they last saw us. I can still hear them say, “My, how quickly time flies.” I would wonder why older people always said that, because for me, it seemed to take forever waiting for the following year’s Christmas or the next year’s snow. But now with each visit home, each Skype session, and each Facebook photo posted, I watch as my nieces and nephews quickly grow up before my eyes and I can’t help but comment, “My, how time flies.” So with an appreciation of how time waits for no one, this coming year, I will make the most of each moment. I will not miss an opportunity to correct a wrong, share a hug, or sing a song - out loud with my car windows down. I will go into this new year taking into account the lessons learned in years prior. I will make a new friend, and I won’t wait until 2014’s holiday season to offer charity. As you celebrate with friends and family over the next few weeks, say a prayer for those less fortunate. Take time to remember those who won’t be here to see the coming year with us. This coming year, commit to something bigger; something more than you’ve settled for in the past. Give yourself a chance. Give love a chance. Make a goal and stick to it even if it’s a small one. Try something new. Be bold. Go for it! Breathe. Believe. Achieve. -Angela M. This issue is dedicated to the Sagittarians in my life. Happy Birthday David, Mom and Uncle Fred!

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Now That’s Incr-edible! By  Angela Mains | Photography by  Amy Dawnelle

CAN YOU NAME A TRADITION that has become a pop culture favorite? How about cupcakes! It’s no big surprise that these tiny treats are so popular. Every cupcake connoisseur has a different reason why, but just about everyone agrees they’re easy to make, fun to decorate, and of course, delectable to eat! Cupcakes are versatile enough to please everyone, from guests at a child’s first birthday party to guests at a high end soiree, from the main attraction at an office party to a wedding finale. With cupcakes being a less expensive alternative to cake and far easier to transport, the popularity of the hand-held treat has grown amazingly in recent years. What hostess wouldn’t want to provide one dessert with so many flavor choices to appeal to picky eaters, plus options such as gluten-free or vegan? Cupcakes ensure that no party guest will have to sit out the dessert round. Cupcakes have become such a big deal that they make great television programming. Shows like TLC’s DC Cupcakes and the Food Network’s Cupcake Wars are dedicated to this specialty dessert. And if you haven’t heard by now, one television-worthy cupcake shop is right here in the Valley — Incr-edible Cupcakes in Old Town Temecula. Owner Diana Colletti and her baker Lisa Rosendahl competed on the popular Cupcake Wars that aired on September 28 of this year. They walked away champions after out-performing three other bakeries. Diana’s road to Cupcake Wars started almost four years ago when she began baking and catering from her home in Menifee, frequently sharing her delicious cake, cupcakes and cookies with co-workers and friends. Word spread fast, and Diana started a website to sell her sweat treats. Online orders kept her busy and she was soon filling one or two orders every night. Rave reviews of her delightful baked goods reached the producers at the Food Network who asked her to audition for the show. Diana called her first try at Cupcake Wars an “epic fail.” It was season five’s Professional Bull Rider episode, and the competition was doomed for Diana when her baking assistant was badly burned during filming. The assistant was taken away by medics but the show continued to film. Concerned about her assistant and left on her own for most of the segment, Diana couldn’t focus during the most critical point in the competition. Despite not coming out on top, the Food Network saw that Diana had what it takes and contacted her again earlier this year, inviting her to give it another try. With only three weeks to prepare, Diana and her new assistant and baker, Lisa, headed to L.A. and showed the stuff that Incr-edible Cupcakes is made of. So what does it take to start an award-winning cupcake shop? “When I began, I

had a fulltime job and just needed a hobby, something non-stressful,” Diana explained. But with her husband in the military and constantly away from home, the busy mom of Katelynn, Taylor, Brayden and Preston says, “There was a period of time when I questioned myself, wondering if I should keep going. Then I found Lisa. You need someone you can trust to work with, and I trust Lisa like she is family.” Lisa has been working for the shop for almost a year. She came to the bakery originally to fill in for another baker who was on maternity leave. Before joining Incr-edible Cupcakes, she baked from her home for five years and taught Wilton cake decorating classes. “She’s very creative,” Dianna added, “we clicked right away and I knew I needed to keep her.” What makes Diana and Lisa’s cupcakes stand out from the rest? For starters, the ladies use real butter in all their recipes. They are one of the few bakeries that do. “Butter is more costly, but there is a huge difference in flavor and texture,” they said. Lisa hand mixes every single batter. There is no mass production at the cupcake shop and nothing is ever frozen. “It wouldn’t be fun to do things any other way,” Lisa insists as she laughs about the muscles in her arms from December 2013 • 9


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hand mixing. The ladies whip up as many as 30 flavors on weekends alone. They both agree that coconut crème is one of their best creations, with Diana’s personal favorite being the chocolate-dipped strawberry cupcake. The ladies have over 100 flavors to date, and come up with new flavors daily. “Sometimes it’s a candy bar or some other dessert that triggers a flavor idea,” Diana says. The shop opened on May 24, 2012, with the help of Diana’s dad who did most of the construction. Her husband who has been in the Air Force for 19 years pitches in whenever he can. “This is a team effort,” Diana explains, “no one is above washing dishes,” speaking of her dedicated staff of six employees, which includes her 17- and 18-year-old daughters. When asked if her young sons think her job is as impressive as their dad’s job of piloting drones for the military, Diana replied, “I don’t know if the boys really understand what it is their dad does, but everyone at their school knows their mom owns a cupcake shop. They think it’s pretty cool.” Diana says the most rewarding part of this experience has been her ability to offer jobs to young women. She has employed a few local high school girls who have now gained practical work experience to add to their resumes as they prepare for college. “I want us all to grow … I want this to be good for everyone,” she says. Lisa especially appreciates the personal satisfaction. “I just love my job,” she says. I’m excited to come to work every day.” 10 •

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Lisa and Diana with film critic Leonard Maltin at the screening of The Wizard of Oz’s 75th anniversary. Photo courtesy of Food Network.

And yes, the shop bakes more than cupcakes. You can also tantalize your taste buds with cakes, cake pops, truffles, cookies, and their new, not-to-miss menu item … pies. Since their big win on Cupcake Wars, Incr-edible Cupcakes has seen a significant increase in business. In the words of Cupcake Wars judge Florian Bellanger, “Diana is a good baker and she’s proven it. She has given us consistent good, good, good.”


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WOMEN’S WELLNESS

Health, Wonder & Joy for the Holidays By Dr. Julianne Blake, Ph.D.

Recent brain research discussed by Dr. Bruce Lipton at Stanford University showed that 67% of all healing, even of injuries, originates in a person’s energy field or “mind field,” also referred to as the “mind-body.” This idea will lead to a health revolution for you. The research is clear evidence that our deep beliefs about ourselves profoundly affect the condition of our cells and tissues. For over 25 years, I’ve been on a personal journey living with MS. The gifts inherent in this journey have opened me to liberating approaches to my own healing, that I now have the honor of sharing with those whose lives I am able to touch.

2. Keep a “blessings journal.” Each day write about something wonderful that has come into your life — people, things or experiences. Negative things will still occur, but choose not to give them the same extra attention. Focusing on what you enjoy will actually attract more blessings to you. 3. Appreciate you. Find at least one thing each day that you really appreciate about yourself. Let yourself feel the power of selfappreciation. Honor yourself in this way, and you will benefit from knowing that you matter. People will begin to respond to you differently, and you may begin to notice things you appreciate in others. This will bring greater warmth and connection to your relationships — a simple, beautiful way to enjoy those you love during the holidays — and always.

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‘Tis the Season to Be Fancy By Grayse Kelly | Photos by Amy Dawnelle

Happy holidays! It’s truly the most wonderful time of the year. The holidays bring an array of family time, festivities and over-the-top fashion. The weeks ahead will be filled with holiday-themed fun and perfect occasions to make your presence known as the belle of the ball. Go ahead and show off your finest threads! If you feel a little overwhelmed when deciding which of your fancy duds to wear, choose one theme and work it. You don’t want to be a Christmas ornament, so don’t overdo your look with excessively gaudy accessories that match already heavily embellished clothing and attention-grabbing shoes. Sequined and jeweled pieces make great go-to items for seasonal attire. They are flashy enough to be noticed without being over-thetop when adorning a cocktail dress or designer top. Prefer less flash? Pick solid colors. They can make a bold statement, and you can jazz them up with accessories such as a broche, chunky bracelets, a layered chain collar or embellished bib necklace, sparkly rings, and heels that have a quirky design. Shearling collars or fur stoles will glam up your winter white dress for a night on the town. And you can never go wrong with prints. They are simple and easy to dress up or down with a plain top or pant. Don’t be a grinch this holiday season. The idea is to have fun with fashion. Wear what makes you feel comfortable, yet magnificent. Don’t be afraid to be daring, but remain mindful of the overall look you are trying to convey. Experiment with various ensembles. In the end, you’ll bring in the Yuletide with enough confidence to stand under that mistletoe, fabulously original, uniquely you.

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ABOUT A GIRL

Tiffany (l) with father Mike, mother Debbie and sister Lauren (r)

A Wound that Never Heals By  Heather Bremner  |  Photo courtesy of the Breslin Family

DEBBIE BRESLIN WIPES AWAY TEARS from her red-rimmed eyes and pauses. More than five years have passed since she lost her teenage daughter in a tragic boating accident, but the pain is as sharp as if it happened yesterday.”I know where she’s at, I know she’s happy, and I know she’s helping, but at times it just kind of makes you mad because everyone has this path in life and only God knows when it ends, but it’s almost like, ‘Couldn’t You have warned me?’” she says with the tone of someone who has asks this question tirelessly. But for the Breslin family, there was no foreshadowing that July 5, 2008. It began as a normal 4th of July holiday weekend filled with barbecues, fireworks, lakeside camping, and water sports. Then the unthinkable occurred — a crash, two young deaths, and a community of grief-stricken families and friends. Tiffany Amber Breslin, 14, and Desiree Leigh Hobil, 19, were struck by a boat while riding their Sea-Doos in the Colorado River in Needles, California. The driver whose boat was carrying about eleven passengers, admitted to drinking earlier in the day, but was cleared of any criminal charges after after his blood-alcohol test came back clean. Desiree sustained major injuries at the scene of the accident and died later that day. Tiffany was airlifted to a local hospital and died 14 •

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the next day. But before she passed away, Tiffany’s parents had to answer a question that no parent is prepared for: Did they want to donate their daughter’s organs? In the end their answer was a resounding “yes.” The day the Breslin family answered that difficult question, Tiffany’s death brought life to others, specifically to Pam Kerlick, a woman the Breslins now count as a dear friend. Pam had liver cancer and Tiffany’s organ was the life-saver she needed. Through a web of co-workers and friends, the Breslins learned that the Laguna-Niguel woman was the recipient of Tiffany’s liver. “I honestly think that God just picked her,” says Debbie. “Tiffany would have loved her.” Describing Pam as “an amazing lady,” Debbie went on to say that it was strange at first knowing a part of her daughter lives on in others. And because the organ can’t be seen, it takes a while to realize the enormity of it all. But when


Pam confided to the Breslins that she started craving cheese pizza after receiving the transplant, it brought a smile to Debbie’s face. Cheese pizza was Tiffany’s favorite. “I think we all ask why this happened,” Debbie says, pausing to sip a hot beverage on a cold November day. She then attempts to explain how she managed to keep her marriage intact in the midst of this tragedy. “When we go back to the arguments and feelings … well, I think you just have to have a really, really strong faith.” She then trails off saying it’s difficult to pinpoint exactly how she managed to get to the place where she is today. Tiffany left behind her mother, her father Mike, and her older sister Lauren who is now 24. While the family has moved on, Tiffany’s room in their Murrieta home remains much the way it was that hot summer day when they headed out to the Colorado River. In typical teenage fashion, Tiffany had left her dance costume on her bedroom floor as the family rushed out the door. When they returned home, with one fewer family member, Debbie didn’t have the heart to tidy up. “Today, Tiffany’s room is not as messy as she left it, but it’s still her room,” she says, pointing out the dance costume now hanging on a chair. Debbie knew she had to find a way to channel her sadness and ensure that her youngest daughter would never be forgotten.

About a year after her death, the family created the Tiffany Amber Breslin Memorial Fund. The fund’s website, tiffanysgift.org, is maintained by Lauren who has graduated from Arizona State University and works for a San Diego publishing company. The mission of the non-profit is to raise awareness about the dangers of drinking and driving. Through its fundraising efforts, the organization purchased four billboards highlighting those dangers. One billboard is on Interstate 15 near Lake Elsinore; the others are in Needles, Calif. The foundation also purchased a memorial bench that sits in Tiffany’s Murrieta neighborhood. In addition, Debbie speaks at schools with ThinkFirst, a national organization dedicated to educating children and young adults about the consequences of dangerous acts and how to prevent tragic injuries or death. “If I can get somebody to realize what can happen, and save their family from not having it happen to them, then I’ve made my goal,” Debbie says. The Tiffany Amber Breslin Memorial Fund is holding a dinner, silent auction and dance at Pala Casino on February 1, 2013. For more information visit the foundation’s website, tiffanysgift.org.

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She Said/He Said Get great advice on life and love, from a woman’s perspective and a man’s perspective. Teresa from Temecula: My fiancé and I are preparing for our upcoming wedding. We’ve

started talking about combined incomes and merging bank accounts. My thought is that we need our own separate accounts plus a joint household account. My fiancé feels it’s easier to keep everything together in one joint account. I am not looking negatively into the future, but life happens and for our own protection, I feel it’s important for each of us to control some of our own money. And what if I want to surprise him with a gift? I wouldn’t want him seeing the charge pop up on our account. Plus, if I choose to spend a little too much on shoes on occasion, I don’t want to have to explain myself. We both work hard and should be able to control some of our own money … right? Missy Jones: You are the modern woman and your fiancé

knows this. I think you’ve provided great rationale as to why two separate accounts and one joint account would be best. However, men have an innate need to be the provider. Maybe he thinks it would be easier for him to take care of you if accounts are combined. He may feel it fulfills his masculine role by having a bird’s eye view of all the finances, making sure there’s enough money and that everything is going to the right places on time. And he probably doesn’t want to be bothered with multiple accounts.

Even if he doesn’t want a separate account for himself, you could still have your own separate account. Either way, I wouldn’t back down from this issue. The way the two of you decide to spend your money dictates the kind of life you will have together. Having separate accounts can foster communication about finances, and communication is always a good thing. This also allows both to contribute to the household while maintaining some financial autonomy, which helps maintain a healthy balance in your relationship. Dominic Carcioppolo: Protection is key! All too often couples

are immature about this subject. Studies have shown that couples who have individual privacy in some aspects of their relationships are happier. In my opinion, what you earn is directly related to the decisions you’ve made and how hard you’ve worked. However, in a marriage, two people become one. Essentially, marriage is both a financial and a business merger. My advice is to have joint and individual accounts. The joint account can involve either an equal dollar amount contribution or an equal percentage of income contribution, depending on the income gap between the two of you. It should be used for bills and general living expenses. In addition, you should each have your own personal accounts that you can do with whatever you’d like, such as buying secret gifts or splurging on something ridiculous like a $400 purse (wink wink Missy Jones). Have a comment or a question for Missy & Dominic? Send an email to ireadlola@lolamagazine.com. Subject line: She Said He Said

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BUSINESS SAVVY

A Business of Survival There are as many roads to success as there are people on earth. Rachel Jackling had always wanted to follow in the footsteps of her father and open an antique shop. Instead, she found a more lucrative path to success with a career in real estate and mortgage loans. However after the 9-11 attacks on the country, her mindset changed dramatically, and she began spending more time at home raising her children, Christian, Madison and Hannah. Understanding the importance of protecting her family, Rachel, with the help of her husband Josh, learned ways to stay prepared for any type of disaster, including growing, storing, and preserving food. A couple of years ago, Josh, a concrete contractor, made the decision to build an emergency bunker for the family. The purpose of the bunker was to provide shelter in case of a natural disaster such as a major earthquake or a national emergency. Today Rachel is co-owner of Protective Bunkers Survival Center with her husband. The business is located in Lake Elsinore. “We are not ‘preppers,’” she said. “I do not like that term. We don’t promote fear; we educate people on the importance of emergency preparedness.” Since the inception of their company, Rachel has been providing information and training clients on the importance of being ready for all types of emergencies. “Every family should have at least three days of emergency supplies at all times, including food and water,” she explained. But there was a time when Rachel herself had to learn that frozen and canned food, even water, have a shelf life. “Many people visit the center simply because they’re curious,” she explained,” but we make sure they become well-educated about survival.” The company also builds, sells and delivers bunkers nationwide, which they are licensed to install. The bunkers are completely self-sustaining and do not draw water or power from the home. They range from smaller food caches starting at approximately $12,000 to self-contained shelters that can house an entire family for an extended period of time. The company recently received permitting from the City of Menifee for construction of a private residence’s bunker that can house 30 people in case of emergency. Rachel and her husband have found success in a unique line of work. She says it has been rewarding to see how far their business has come, and credits community involvement as well as aggressive

advertising as important to their success. Things have been going so well that they are outgrowing their current space and are looking for a warehouse. They also have plans to open a second store in Murrieta. It takes discipline to own and run your own business. Rachel has worked seven days a week to help build their company, sometimes 12-14 hours a day. “Women have the potential to do whatever they put their minds to,” she says, “They just have to do it.”

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Jumping In with Both Feet “Once you learn how amazing and safe the sport of skydiving really is, you’re hooked for life,” says Melanie Peschio. Melanie is co-owner of SkyDive Perris along with her brother, Patrick Conatser. In 1976 Melanie’s family moved from Huntington Beach to Perris when their parents purchased a small airport there. Though Melanie and her brother had been very involved in the family business while growing up, they both had gone on to different careers. Patrick became an airplane mechanic and Melanie became a flight attendant. But in 1989 when the opportunity arose for the siblings to take over the family business, Melanie and Patrick came together on a new career path. “When our parents ran the business, their business model was primarily recreational skydiving,” Melanie said. Fast forward 24 years; the brother and sister duo now run a renowned jump school and skydiving center — one of the largest in the world. For Melanie, failing at the business her parents had built was not an option, and as a woman in a male-dominated field, she knew she’d have to prove herself. She made the decision to “jump in with both feet.” Patrick is a skydiver, a licensed pilot, as well as a certified aircraft mechanic. “He can fix and fly every plane we have,” Melanie proudly credits her brother. As for Melanie, “I decided there wasn’t any other way … In order to understand our business, relate to our customers, and earn their respect, I had to learn how to skydive.” So aside from being an avid Harley Davidson rider, Melanie is a pilot with over 200 hours flight time, and a skydiver with over 6,000 jumps under her belt. Diversification has played a huge role in the school’s success. “We learned to evolve with the business,” Melanie explained, “and had to continually stay ahead of current trends in skydiving.” For instance, the two created a state-of-the-art training facility complete with an onsite wind tunnel, larger aircraft and a highly experienced coaching staff, so they could compete for government contracting. The program is now an official jump school for both US and foreign military. In addition, the school coaches and trains professional jump teams and skydivers from all over the world.

a large screen TV for relaxing after an exciting day of skydiving. Melanie says, “There is no charge to come out and watch … with plenty of excitement and for the whole family.”

The airport is still very much a family business, with their mother still involved with customer service. Melanie and Patrick along with their father are members of the Screen Actors Guild, and their resume is impressive with flights, skydiving and stunt double work. Their work is seen in commercials for Nike, Bud Light and American Express, to name a few. Film work includes Charlie’s Angels, Bucket List and Iron Man. The list of celebrities who have jumped at Skydive Perris goes on and on. Besides skydiving classes, visitors to the school can participate in tandem jumps or try out a simulated skydive in the state-of-the-art wind tunnel. The Perris facility is home to a full-service aircraft lift, a restaurant and bar, and a drop zone. There is even a pool area and 18 •

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Skydive Perris 2091 Goetz Rd., Perris, CA 92570-9315 Weekdays 8:30am-sunset. Weekends 7:30am-sunset. See ad on inside back cover.


SINGLE IN THE VALLEY

We All Have a Story By  Shelly Moore

My story is that I would have never guessed when I said “I do” 24 years ago, that at age 51, I’d be single with four children. Like every bride, I thought my marriage would be forever. But here I am, divorced for four years and embracing the single life … “Single in the Valley.” Like other single moms, my four children are truly the light of my life and I couldn’t be more proud of them. My 21-year-old son recently graduated from Cal Poly San Luis Obispo. I have a 17-yearold daughter who is a senior at Murrieta Valley High School, and boy/girl twins who are 15 and freshmen at Murrieta Valley. Even with all that light in my life, let me tell you how crazy my days can be. For example, getting ready for work in the morning when my teenage daughters are fighting over clothes in MY closet. Every day is like a roller coaster. As dizzy as I may feel at the end of the day, I wouldn’t trade my life for anything else. How do single moms manage it all? We work all day and then come home to homework, laundry, dance lessons, soccer practice, laundry, PTA meetings, groceries, cooking and more laundry. It took several years to realize that I was not Wonder Woman. I need Shelley-time. When I am able to see friends and experience life as an adult, I replenish my soul and am a much better mom and woman. I am not a superhero and have fallen short so many times that I have permanent scars called experience. But with every fall there is

a lesson that shapes me into a stronger person. Having two daughters, I can only hope that I am teaching them both to be independent, fabulous women. And with two sons, my hope is that they have great respect for women and how much we give to others. There are so many women in our Valley with incredible stories of strength and courage. We are “Single in the Valley” and we will share our adventures. Each month we will highlight local venues where we can go for fun, plus upcoming events and groups or organizations where we can meet new people or give back to our community. We will share funny dating stories, victories as single moms, and tender stories about courageous women who faced adversity head-on  …  including women who fought illness and death. We are a sisterhood, and we can learn and grow from each other. I am eager for you to connect with amazing single women in our community, women who will make you laugh, inspire you, and touch your hearts. This is a new journey in my life as I write for this wonderful magazine, and I couldn’t be more excited and honored. Each month I will end each column with a famous quote about women … “After all, Ginger Rogers did everything that Fred Astaire did … she just did it backwards and in high heels.” Ann Richards Photos clockwise from left: Shelly Moore, Shelly with friend Kirsten, Shelly with daughters Bridgette and Mallory, Shelly with friends Jamie and Jen

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LIT TLE BLACK APRON

Incr-edible Cupcakes’ Winning Recipe Applesauce Cupcake with Cinnamon Goat Cheese Frosting Recipe by Diana Colletti, Incr-edible Cupcakes

Apple filling

• 1/2 cup brown sugar • 1/2 cup granulated sugar • 1/4 cup all-purpose flour • 1 teaspoon cinnamon • 1 teaspoon nutmeg • 2 large Granny Smith apples, julienned Applesauce Cake Batter

• 2 cups granulated sugar • 1/2 cup (1 stick) unsalted butter • 1/2 cup canola oil • 4 eggs • 4 cups all-purpose flour • 2 teaspoons baking soda • 2 teaspoons ground cinnamon • 2 teaspoons nutmeg • 1 teaspoon salt • 3 cups no-sugar-added applesauce • 2 teaspoons vanilla bean paste Frosting

• 2 cups (4 sticks) unsalted butter, softened • 4 to 5 ounces unpasteurized goat cheese • 4 cups confectioners’ sugar, sifted • 2 teaspoons vanilla bean paste • 1/2 teaspoon cinnamon

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Preheat the oven to 350 degrees F. Line cupcake pans with cupcake liners (for a total of 40 cupcakes). For the apple filling: In a medium bowl, mix together the brown

sugar, granulated sugar, flour, cinnamon, nutmeg and apples. Set aside.

For the applesauce cake batter: Cream together the granulated sugar, butter and oil in a large bowl. Beat in the eggs one at a time. Add the flour, baking soda, cinnamon, nutmeg and salt and beat until well mixed. Add the applesauce and vanilla and mix well.

Fill the liners one-third full with the applesauce cake batter. Add some of the apple filling on top, and then add additional applesauce cake batter to cover the apple filling; the liners should be two-thirds full. Bake until an inserted toothpick comes out clean, 16 to 19 minutes. Allow the cupcakes to cool completely before frosting. For the frosting: In a large bowl with an electric mixer, cream

together the butter and goat cheese until light and smooth. Add the confectioners’ sugar one cup at a time and mix until fully incorporated. Add the vanilla bean paste and cinnamon and beat on high until light and fluffy. Pipe the frosting onto the cupcakes with a piping bag.


GIRLS NEXT DOOR Dana English is originally from South Carolina and currently resides in Murrieta where she

raises two sons, Corez and Omari. Dana is a multi-faceted self-empowerment speaker, as well as a poet and playwright who shares her life experiences to empower both youth and adults. She is also a spoken word artist who has received accolades for her literary debut, Hear My Voice: Speaking Life through Poetry. Under the pen name Princess Poet, Dana authored two children’s books, Elijah the Mischievous Gets Nothing for Christmas, and The Princess and the Gift. Dana has spent over a decade in the medical field and maintains a medical assistant certification as well as a license in vocational nursing. In addition, she has bachelor’s degrees in journalism, mass communications and psychology, and as well as a Film and Productions certification. Dana enjoys spending quality time with her sons and with the love of her life, Omar. She is inspired by her mother Rosetta and her beloved late grandmother Susie.

Sonia Briseno is originally from Tijuana and has been a resident of Southern California for the

last 12 years. She and her husband Jose, whom she refers to as her very own Prince Charming, married in 2011 and currently live in Lake Elsinore. Together the couple raises a blended family that includes 10 children. Sonia is grateful for the opportunity to be a stay-at-home mom, and is very involved in the lives of her teenage children. A longtime supporter and advocate of breast cancer awareness, Sonia was a spokesperson and model for the 2012 Faces of Komen national campaign for Susan G. Komen®. She herself is a two-time breast cancer survivor, giving back to a cause that she says was there for her when she needed support. Sonia spends much of her time educating women and members of the Latino community about breast cancer awareness. Her positive attitude encourages others to live happily and enjoy life.

Myesha Williams is originally from Los Angeles. When her husband Rodrick (a former US Marine) was stationed at Camp Pendleton in 2001, they decided to purchase a home in Murrieta where they currently reside with their five children. Myesha is a certified nursing assistant and graduated this past summer with an Associate of Science degree. Continuing her passion for nursing, she currently attends Mount San Jacinto College (MSJC) in pursuit of a career as a registered nurse. Myesha is a member of the Phi Theta Kappa international honors society as well as the honors enrichment program at MSJC. This year she served as chairperson for MSJC’s Race for the Cure® team. As busy as she is, she made time to chair MSJC’s holiday food and toy drive that Phi Theta Kappa conducts each year. Her job is to help raise funds to provide a Christmas for over 100 local families which her organization will personally deliver to each family. Myesha loves taking care of people.

Amy Dawnelle has been a resident of Murrieta for the last 20 years. She is owner of Amy Dawnelle

Studios in Temecula and has been a professional photographer for the past eight years. Amy credits her three children as the inspiration behind her photography success. Her industry awards include: Professional Photographers of America’s Photographer of the Year, which she has won twice; Professional Photographers of San Diego County’s Children’s Photographer of the Year three years in a row, as well as their Photographer of the Year award. Amy was also honored as Professional Photographers of California’s Senior Portrait Photographer of the Year – to name a few. She specializes in family portraits, headshots, senior portraits, and maternity and newborn photography. She says, “People laugh because I’m never wearing shoes. I find that I’m most creative when I am barefoot. Strangely, though, I love shoes and have a shoe addiction.” Amy adds that she feels honored to have photographed so many beautiful families in the community.

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