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I am excited to share the September issue of Montana Woman Magazine, focused on education, with you. Learning begins the day we are born, and if we are blessed, continues until the day we die. Some lessons come easy and some not so easy. It seems for me that the hardest lessons have had the biggest impact on my life. They are the life lessons that change your life and shape your destiny. I was recently asked what I have learned over the years as publisher of Montana Woman Magazine. I jokingly replied that the lessons are too numerous to list! That simple question nestled into my soul, and over the next couple of weeks I found myself pondering it frequently. I realized that being the publisher of this fine publication is something I take great pride in, but also something I take very seriously. Montana Woman Magazine (MW) is an extension of my life and my belief system. We both operate with strong principals; the first being that you are only as good as your word. That is a huge factor in gaining trust and accepting responsibility for one’s actions. Montana Woman Magazine is a monthly publication that is on the stands every month come rain or
Focusing on the positive is something I feel strongly about. We are blessed with a state full of kind and caring people who strive to make a positive difference in their community. Some of the actions are huge and some are small, but all have an important impact on bettering the lives of those around us. MW highlights these individuals not only to say thank you, but to inspire others to do the same. Another life lesson I have learned is to recognize your strengths and accept your weaknesses. It takes all kinds of people to make this world go round— people with a variety of interests, skills and contributions. How great is that? I find it exciting to know that my resource pool is there to give me a helping hand when needed. In the beginning, I handled the layout, ad sales, distribution, and day- to-day operations of a growing publication on my own. I was blessed with a talented group of contributors that helped lessen the load. As the magazine grew, I knew that I could no longer handle this job on my own. Did it mean I was any less of a publisher? I don’t think so. I knew that if I wanted MW to grow and continue on its path, I had to find like-minded people to join forces with. That is part of the reason we are 19 years strong! I quickly learned that sometimes you have jump in with both feet – and pray. Pray hard! Just because they say you can’t do it or that it’s never been done doesn’t mean it is impossible. Putting out a monthly publication is committing oneself to a lifetime of deadlines. There are days that I
question my sanity in accepting this challenge. Would I change it? No way! Fast approaching deadlines, last minute changes, and overcoming nearly impossible feats is when the MW team truly shines. We love a good challenge. Often times this is when the stars align and the magic happens. Lastly I would like to mention the importance of being grateful and getting involved. Get involved with your family, your friends, your community, your state and your world. Expand your horizons to the possibilities of the difference you can make. Don’t wait for the change – be part of the change. I strongly believe in the power of volunteering. Often I find that I am just as blessed by donating my time as the people I am donating my time to. There is a pure pleasure that I find in being part of the bigger picture. Show gratitude—gratitude for those around you that believe in your dream. The people who are committed to the same principals. Be grateful for all the blessings in your life. Remember to take the time to remind yourself of them constantly. Embrace the blessings, enjoy them and then pass them along. After all, aren’t we all in the journey together? I am grateful for the simple questions from a friend that reminded me why I do what I do. Thank you for sharing my journey. Please know that I am sincerely grateful.
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The Education of Women
Massachusetts, paid for its schools by taxing only the households with children. This created a perspective in favor of universal education for both boys and girls. Keep in mind that it was very unusual for a girl of this era to learn to write. Reading and writing weren’t recognized as equals in their importance. A man needed to know how to read and write because they ran worldly matters. For women, it was viewed as important mainly to read so they could be educated on religious matters. This is why in many cases colonial women could read but not write and would sign their name with an “x.”
We can’t be completely accurate in an exact date of when organized public education for women began. However, it’s interesting to know that as early as 1634 the Maryland that the Jesuits established had a facility for educating girls (whether it was boys and girls isn’t clear). We know this because in the journal of Fr. Andrew White, he talks about an Indian Chief who sends his beloved seven-year-old daughter to be educated with the English at St. Mary’s. This shows proof of either a school for girls or an early co-ed school. The earliest school for girls in the US is Ursuline Academy in New Orleans, founded in 1727. This Academy graduated the first female pharmacist as well as the first woman to supply a
book with literary merit. Largely due to the fact that Ursuline Academy was started by the Sisters of the Order of Saint Ursula, it hosted the first convent. In addition, it was the first free school, first retreat center for ladies, and first to offer classes for female AfricanAmerican slaves, free women of color, and Native Americans. Tax supported schools as we enjoy today first began for girls as early as 1767 in New England. It was not mandatory to offer schooling for girls, and in some towns, like Northampton, Massachusetts, tax dollars were used to send boys to grammar school to prepare them for college, while girls’ education wasn’t supported with public money until after 1800. In contrast, Sutton,
“The earliest school for girls in the US is Ursuline Academy in New Orleans, founded in 1727. This Academy graduated the first female pharmacist as well as the first woman to supply a book with literary merit. Largely due to the fact that Ursuline Academy was started by the Sisters of the Order of Saint Ursula, it hosted the first convent. In addition, it was the first free school, first retreat center for ladies, and first to offer classes for female AfricanAmerican slaves, free women of color, and Native Americans.”
For elite women in Philadelphia, education was allowed to reach into the arts and sciences to highlight their reasoning skills. This furthered the colonial woman’s ability to secure
her elite status by showing qualities that their “inferiors” couldn’t easily fake. Slowly, a shift from ornamental education (an education meant to support women’s roles, not their intellectual ability or interests) to a more substantive curricula was beginning to take flight. The role of “republican motherhood” philosophy circulated the belief of the importance of education for women as the intimate caretakers of young children and the future success of the republic. New England writers such as Child, Sedgwick, and Sigourney became
respected advocates for improving and growing female education. Formerly male-only subjects like math and philosophy were integrated into female educational curriculum at both public and private schools. Thanks to the movement of the republican motherhood ideals, women’s status was forever changed in our country. This movement successfully demonstrated the importance of a girl’s need for a full education. It set us on a path that forever replaced the frivolous nature of our former role and brought forth recognition of the major part women have in creating our great nation.
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By Jhett Black If you think because you have short hair your ability to show off a glamorous updo is unattainable, think again! I am going to show you a trick that I’ve used to achieve glamour in a flash. First you’ll need to gather a few supplies. Hair spray (always), hair pins and an elastic hair band that isn’t too tight. Place the hair band over your hair; about one to two inches behind hairline (you can pin it to secure if needed). Now take small pieces of hair and twist them back and tuck them into the headband (secure with pin if needed). Repeat this step until you have all of your hair tucked back and into the headband the way you like it. Think outside of the box girls…you can begin this process as far up or as far down as you would like. Consider a pretty glitter hair band; if you want to show it off, gather your hair lower down, towards the base. If you’re using a more basic hair band, you may want to cover most of it, so start further up. If you have hair that doesn’t like to stay put, consider rubbing a little product in it before your start, and sometimes curling or teasing it a bit will help too. If you’re going glam you can add pretty accessories now (decorative pins with flowers, sparkles, etc. look amazing). Enjoy feeling beautiful!
Change IS Ea By Gayle Nor th,
d o o F h t i w r a Resolve Your W
You see or think of one of your favorite no-no foods. One part of you says, “Have a little of that. You can diet later. A little won’t make any difference. Indulge – you deserve it.” Another part says, “You shouldn’t have that. That won’t help you get healthier or thinner. Take control and you will feel better about yourself.” Clients in my weight loss program often describe these parts as the “good” part and the “bad” part. In truth, both parts are trying to love you! They both want something good for you. More often than not, they are trying to do the very same thing for you! They just have differing views on how to achieve the good result. One part thinks you need to eat to feel better and the other thinks you need to get healthier or thinner to feel better. Making Peace It is challenging to resolve inner conflicts by yourself. Most people get stuck in self-criticism and that only escalates the conflict. Experiment with this adaptation of the Core Transformation Process developed by Connirae Andreas and see how it works for you: Assume that both of the conflicting parts of you have a very positive intent for you and your life.
important than the satisfaction itself? You might get “calm” or another word describing a desired state. Continue the questioning in this manner until the part gives you a “core” state, like peace or love. Now you know what this part really wants for you. Go through the same questioning process now with the part that wants you to be healthier or thinner. Now that you can see that both parts want very similar things for you, ask the overeating part if it is OK to have the good feeling without eating improperly. It will usually agree. Then ask both parts to become a team to help you achieve the peace, love, or . Feel that feeling in your body right now and invite both parts to experience and
enjoy the emotional state they want for you. Be aware of the new sense of cooperation that comes from the “team” approach, as the conflict is resolved. You are stopping the self-criticism and bringing the war to an end so you can achieve the improved health and body shape you desire. Let me know how this works for you and call me if you have questions about it. Gayle North is a Hypnosis Coach. For information about her services visit PositiveChangeUnlimited.com or call her at 406-837-1214.
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Routine Relaxation By Libby Wilson
the lack of routine can wear on us after a month or two. Schedules and routines give us back the control that we temporarily lose for a few months. We are able to wake up and know where we need to be, what we need to do for the day, and even what the daily meals are. We are even able to keep track of where the family will, or should, be. Schedules are beneficial for the whole family. They can provide a feeling of security, comfort, and peace of mind. Everything in our life goes by a schedule, from doctor’s visits, auto repair, school and work, to extracurricular activities and so on. Plans may fall apart at times, but it’s nice to at least still be able to maintain a sense of how things should play out.
How many times in your life have you said to yourself or your family, “It’s time to get back on schedule?” With the end of summer comes the time to get back to a routine. Many of us take this time for granted without realizing that we have negative associations with the idea of the school/work/daily grind routine. We think of a schedule that has us running from here to there, constantly thinking about what comes next and how we’ll get it all done. But, believe it or not, there is actually
peace to be found in this routine and daily agenda that we return to. You’re probably thinking, “Is she crazy?” but if you were to sit down and think about it, with the schedule comes the serenity of not having to stress over the unknown that summertime can often bring, such as what to do with each day, where to vacation, impromptu visits from friends and relatives, kids who get bored easily and are constantly looking for the next place to go and thing to do. We look forward to summer and all it brings, but
Some people have an extremely hard time if they aren’t able to control their daily routine. I have a daughter with OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) and anxiety, and if we do not follow a schedule, she has difficulty going through her day. She gets a feeling of her world “off ” and sometimes she will even have a hard time functioning. She finds security and peace in her daily routine. I would like to encourage each and every one of you to sit back and ponder how having a schedule or set routine actually brings you peace and helps you to find relaxation, and to always remember to Just Breathe. I would really like to hear any questions, personal relaxation tricks or comments from you. Email your responses to email@example.com.
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The Middle of the Night
Snakes Can Relieve Stress By Margie Johnson
There are some things one should not think about before going to sleep. Wait! Let me back up. There are some things one should not WATCH before going to sleep, like a spider crawling on the ceiling above your head. Instead, get up and relocate it or dislocate it… depending on your convictions. Getting out of bed and shutting the TV off is what I should have done the other night when a National Geographic documentary came on about snakes. I’m guessing most Montana women detest snakes as much as I do. Snakes are often associated with evil. It’s been that way since the Garden of Eden when Adam and Eve were enticed by one and sinned by taking a bite out of the forbidden fruit. When called to accountability by God for doing it, I heard someone say, “Adam blamed Eve and Eve blamed the snake and the snake didn’t have a leg to stand on!” I hope that added a slight smile to your face, because that is where this topic is headed. Smiling about snakes in the middle of the night is better than worrying one is wrapped around our curtain rod overhead or coiled beneath our bed just waiting to lunge on us. Exchanging something fearful in our mind for something funny helps with chasing away insomnia so we can get some sleep. For instance, because I did not shut off watching those slithering creatures the other night, I decided to purposely fill my mind with the following funny story. It’s one I shared with a group of Montana Christian women at a retreat years ago. The story is told about a mid-sixty year-old man, who had fallen and broken his arm. The next morning, wearing his arm in a cast, he went to his usual corner café to have coffee with his retired cronies. Of course, concerned, his friends were curious as to how it exactly happened. Hesitant, he shrugged them off by replying,
“It involved too many details. It was senseless and didn’t need to happen.” But curious, they insisted on the specifics. “Oh, all right,” he sighed with embarrassment, wanting to quickly satisfy their inquisitiveness and have no further discussion about the incident. “What happened,” he began, rolling his eyes, “was last week my wife brought in flower pots for the winter and set them on the kitchen floor to clean. I was in the shower and all of a sudden I heard her blood-curdling scream. Being all lathered-up with soap, I jumped out of the shower and slipped flat on the floor. But that’s not when it happened. “I got up and ran out into the living room stark naked. My panicky wife stood there pointing to under the couch, screaming, ‘A snake was coiled in one of the flower pots and slithered under there!’ “Well, I don’t like snakes either, but I wasn’t going to let her see that! “So I got down on my hands and knees and was looking. But I couldn’t see it. About that time our dog came up behind me and cold-nosed my rear end… and thinking it was the snake, I fainted. “And that caused my wife to go into sheer panic, because she thought I had gotten bitten and had passed out, so she rushed over and dialed 911! “The ambulance came and was loading me on the stretcher. About that time the snake DID slither out from underneath the couch and the guy holding his end of the stretcher dropped me…and that is how I broke my arm.” Reminiscing about that story the other night helped relax me. Humor or laughter, whether it comes from a quiet giggle or from a big bouncing belly, has many bedtime benefits. In fact humor
has been proven to stimulate many organs. We breathe in more oxygenrich air. Stimulate our heart, lungs and muscles. Increase endorphins released by our brain. We boost circulation and relax muscles and relieve stress. You know … like stress over snakes being wrapped around our curtain rod or coiled under our bed just waiting to lunge on us. So next time you can’t sleep and stressed over things like spiders or snakes, best to reach over and have easy access to a comic strip, a funny movie or a book on humor beside your bed. If not, you may have your husband up in the curtains reaching or down on his knees searching…. and we all know how that could mistakenly end! Sweet dreams.
The Healthy Back-To-School Lunchbox By Kisa Davison
“An apple a day keeps the doctor away.” – Proverb With childhood obesity in our daily headlines, we are all reminded of the importance of good nutrition. But with a house full of active, athletic kids and a family calendar that resembles a NASA launch plan - the lighthearted scenes of a June Cleaver handing her boys lunches with a kiss on the cheek rarely are seen in my house. But I care about my kids’ health and I want to help them form habits of wholesome, lifelong nutrition. Ann Cooper, also known as the Renegade Lunch Lady, is changing the way we think about school lunches. After being inspired by her TED talk a few years ago (http://www.ted.com/
talks/ann_cooper_talks_school_ lunches.html), I began rethinking the school lunches I was packing for my own children. I had fallen into the “easy is good enough” slump. And while I reassured myself that granola bars and organic prepackaged food were good choices, what I saw in my kids convinced me to make a change. They were grumpy and hungry after school, unable to fully enjoy their sports or concentrate on reading and homework. It was time for a change. I knew that I needed something beyond the basics of good nutrition. I needed to figure out how to pack high-quality lunches on a
limited budget with limited time. And whatever I packed, I wanted them to eat!
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Keep it simple. While scheduling your family’s week may require a degree in civil engineering, preparing healthy meals can be quite simple. Start small. Replace the prepackaged Fruit Roll Ups with a piece of fresh fruit. Add shredded carrots to your child’s turkey sandwich. Make PB&J with jelly that is low in sugar content or use honey a little variety instead!
Make a rainbow! Kids love color. Add sliced red, orange, or yellow peppers to the turkey wrap. Include a container of brightly colored cherry tomatoes. Dice up fresh green cucumbers to add into the tuna salad. Purple plums, red grapes, green apples - the list is endless! A trip through the produce section will give you a bounty of colorful ideas. Double the duty. Use leftovers from last night’s dinner to create an extra special meal for everyone’s lunch. Shred last night’s left over chicken and add some BBQ sauce to make Sloppy Chicken Sandies (recipe below). Use the leftover noodles from last night’s spaghetti, add shredded parmesan, sliced grape tomatoes and shredded fresh basil for a simple, cold pasta dish. Or better yet, when you are making dinner, add a pot of water to the stove and hard boil eggs.
By morning, they will be ready to slice for a Chef ’s Salad (recipe below). Lead by example. Invite your kids to make lunches with you the night before. Make your own lunch, too. As you prepare the food, talk about why you like to eat what you do. Kids are hardwired to learn from their parents. Meals are a perfect time to pass on the traditions of good nutrition. My kids enjoy hearing the family stories behind Grandma Jane’s Egg Salad and how Grandma Annie taught me to pit cherries, peel hard-boil eggs, and slice watermelon. The most important ingredient is love. I often slip “love notes” into my kids’ lunch bags. Despite the eye-rolling answers I receive when I ask if they found their notes, I know it makes a
difference. Those are the lunch bags that come home with empty containers! My favorite pediatrician, Dr. Lisa, once told me, “Your job is to prepare and serve a healthy meal. Their job is to eat it.” After thirteen years of following this advice, I understand the wisdom behind it. If the only options you serve your child are healthy options, they will eventually eat. If you are always giving into their requests for junk food, then that’s exactly what they will become accustomed to eating. Don’t worry, in my experience, any hunger strikes they stage won’t last very long! The bottom line is that there are options for preparing and serving healthy meals for our families. It requires a little thought and a little planning, but having a house full of healthy, happy kids is well worth it. Bon Appétit!
Little Chef Salads Prep time: 15 minutes Serves 4
Mixed greens 1/2 cup cherry tomatoes, halved 1 large carrot, julienned or sliced 1 medium cucumber, sliced and quartered 1 bell pepper (red, orange, or yellow), diced 1/2 cup cooked chicken or cooked, cubed ham 1/2 cup strawberries, sliced thin 1 T. ranch dressing, optional
Sloppy Chicken Sandies Prep Time: 15 minutes Serves 4
2 cups cooked chicken,shredded 4 hamburger buns 4 leaves of lettuce Sauce: 1/4 c. ketchup 3 T. honey 1T. apple cider vinegar
1T. mustard 1 garlic clove, crushed dash of hot sauce, optional Simmer sauce ingredients over low heat until reduced - about 5 minutes. Toss chicken in large bowl with sauce. Place leaf lettuce on open face of hamburger buns. Scoop sloppy chicken mix onto hamburger buns. Pack ‘em up and enjoy!
Use a medium or large-sized portable container to prepare and package the salad. Make a bed of mixed greens at the bottom of the container. Line up the remaining ingredients atop the bed of greens. Close the lid tightly and pack it up. Tell your child to add the dressing and shake up the container before eating (they love this part)!
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Love your neighbor? Or Stand your Ground? By The Rev. Jessica Crist
Right now American society is caught between 2 competing visions. One is Biblical, although it is by no means limited to people of faith or even Christians. The other is decidedly not religious, although it is followed by many people of faith. One is based on responsibilities, while the other is based on rights. Let’s look at them. The first is the “love your neighbor” ethic. It is a mainstay of almost all religious teachings, and is followed by many people who are not at all religious. One of the most famous stories illustrating the “love your neighbor” ethic is Jesus’ parable of the Good Samaritan. A man was mugged and left for dead, and two people who should have helped him pretended not to see him. Instead, an unlikely character, the Samaritan, went out of his way to care for this victim who was not only a stranger, but almost an enemy. (Samaritans and Jews did not see eye to eye, and went to great lengths to avoid one another.) Jesus told this story to illustrate that loving your neighbor means going beyond your comfort zone and putting others ahead of your own self-interest. The “Love your neighbor” ethic is widespread. We see it in religious organizations like churches that host food banks and clothes closets. We see it in secular organizations whose mission is to help the poor, the disenfranchised and more. At Thanksgiving and Christmas “love your neighbor” goes into high gear as more and more organizations band
together to do something, to make a difference. I celebrate the many ways the “love your neighbor” ethic gets lived out in our society. But there is another world view that competes, and it is exemplified by “stand your ground.” “Stand your ground” laws focus on individual rights. Based on ‘Castle Doctrine,’ which allows a person to defend against intruders, even using deadly force, “Stand Your Ground” goes further. If you feel you are being threatened, even outside your house, you have the right to defend yourself, even resorting to deadly force. And you don’t have to prove that you were actually threatened. You just have to claim that you felt threatened.
At least 21 states, including Florida (remember Trayvon Martin and George Zimmerman?) and Montana, have such laws. And while they are defended as crime-stopping laws, in fact, they do little to make anyone safer. And they are based on an ethic that says “Me first, and the heck with my neighbor.” Montanans are good neighbors and are always reaching out to others in need. Not a week goes by without a fundraising dinner for a child with leukemia, a fun run to benefit another agency, an auction for a non-profit. Living the “love your neighbor” ethic is Montana at our best. “Stand your ground” is fear-based and a throwback to vigilante days. Let’s leave that behind.
Three Thorns and a Rose By Rena Desmond
I first met Maryruth Fallon at Risen Christ Parish. My husband and I were invited to sing in the church choir. Maryruth accompanied the group on the piano and coordinated the music. Soon after we started singing in the church choir, my husband and I were invited to sing in another group known as “The Good Times.” Once again Maryruth was the coordinator and accompanist. So, over the years I became interested in her life and had a yearning to learn more. Maryruth Moak was born in the small town of Raymond, in Washington State. She was three years old when the family relocated to Tacoma, Washington. She fondly remembers her two brothers. One brother only played the radio. Her other brother played the piano, but he hated to practice; he was often scolded by the piano teacher for not knowing his music. In spite of his not wanting to practice, they still sat down at the piano and play duets whenever they get together. During their mom’s last days, she really enjoyed their duets. Her mother, who was an elementary school teacher, never learned to play the piano. She had a lot of music books because back in the day teachers taught
everything, including music. Maryruth remembers her father as being the more musical one, as he was always singing around the house. They had a small organ as well as two pianos in her home while she was growing up. In the fourth grade, Maryruth began piano lessons, and started playing the clarinet in the 5th grade. She remembers when she was in 6th grade the All City Orchestra needed a piano player and they asked her if she would accompany them. In junior high she did a fair amount of accompanying as well. Every year she participated in a talent show and a pageant. The pageants were based out of the PE class and they were all about posture. She always looked forward to this event. After she graduated from junior high, she returned to play the organ for this May celebration. When Maryruth entered Lincoln High School she was still taking piano lessons from the same music teacher she started with way back in the 4th grade. The music teacher lived within walking distance from her home. They became very close. She was like a part of the family. She even took her out to help her get her drivers license.
When her music teacher passed away suddenly in Maryruth’s senior year in high school, she was undecided about what she was going to do. She didn’t want to find a new music teacher. After giving it some thought, she decided to carry on with music in her music teacher’s memory. She prepared her audition tapes by herself. She didn’t get a major scholarship, but she did earn a scholarship to Western Washington State University Music School. In a Lincoln High School awards assembly, she was honored as the most outstanding female graduate in the 1973 class. She also received the Good Citizen Award and the Instrumental Music Award, along with several others. Shortly after high school she played at her first wedding. It was in a funeral home, because it was the only building big enough to accommodate a wedding celebration and it was air-conditioned. Maryruth recalls that it was a very interesting experience! While earning her music degree she continued to do a lot of accompanying. She had a lot of friends that were and still are musicians. One of them is a professional in New York. He was recently featured in the Western
Washington State University Alumni magazine. Soon after Maryruth married Jack Fallon, they moved to Idaho. She and Jack started Christmas caroling in the nursing homes, which became a tradition that included family, friends and anyone who wanted to participate, even after moving to Montana over 30 years ago. But in the back of Maryruth’s mind, she always wanted to do more at other times of the year. She wasn’t sure if it would be with a church choir or something else, but her inclination never wavered. While the couple was searching for a house, they came upon the Whitefish Credit Union. They went in, entered an office and inquired about what they needed to do to become a member. The gentleman helping them turned out to be Doug Hetrick, who responded by asking if they played an instrument and their response was yes. He proceeded to tell them about the Flathead Community Band, which Maryruth had heard about even before she moved here. She started playing the Clarinet in the Community Band in July of 1983, and in 2013 she still plays in the band. Everything seemed to snowball from there. One of the band directors asked if she would accompany in the school district. One of the gals in the band taught elementary school, and asked if she would accompany her school choir. Maryruth ended up teaching her daughter piano lessons and now the daughter is getting her doctorate in vocal performance in music.
Maryruth knows how wonderful it is to see your students grow. She recalls her daughter and son as children, sitting on the bench next to her, turning the music pages for her as she played. She teaches individual private lessons, piano primarily, and some clarinet as
well. Maryruth believes that playing music helps students build confidence in themselves, and provides a goal, encouraging them to do well in school. She continues to do a lot of accompanying in the school districts for their concerts. Throughout the school year there are 4 or 5 concerts that she rehearses with the students. At the end of February each year she goes into the high school two or three times a week and practices with the students for spring Music Festival. This past year she played for 17 students that qualified for state. If time allows, she takes the students to the hospital lobby or one of the assisted living facilities to perform a little recital. She has known some of these kids since 9th grade. They spend the next four years together, and if they are going to take college auditions she records with them. On a few occasions she has gone with them for their college auditions. When her daughter, who is presently working on her master’s degree, was auditioning, she accompanied her for all of her recitals. This summer Maryruth will play piano at the Flathead Lake Music Camp, accompanying the kids in their
rehearsals and then for the concert. Many of the kids have shared with her how much they enjoy camp; says one child, “Because you know we are music nerds and I like coming to this camp because we are all music nerds.” When Maryruth started helping with the choir at Risen Christ there were only six women. For some time it was difficult to recruit men, but it seems that once you get one man to join a choir, it is much easier to get other men to join. Presently the choir has ten women and six male singers, a guitar player and a recorder/flute player. It’s been said, “This choir is the best church choir in town.” Maryruth says, “I can’t imagine any church service without music.” Maryruth also organizes and directs “The Good Times Chorus,” filling in as accompanist if Nina Robart is not available. This group evolved because Carol and Dan Tombrink were involved in the old tractor club. They would meet at Olson Park the weekend after Labor Day. The Thrashing Bee was sponsored by the Northwest Antique Power Association. Carol, attending this event as a wife, felt there was nothing going
on and they needed something else. So she asked Maryruth if she could direct a small group. Maryruth felt the only she would do this was if she could practice, and requested that the group continue throughout the year, singing at nursing homes. The group was nameless until they sang at Lutheran Home-Buffalo Hill Terrace and the activity director asked what they were called. “We don’t have a name yet,” was Maryruth’s response. “Well you look like you’re having a good time, so why not the Good Times Chorus?” And they do have a good time. The whole group enjoys bringing music to our listeners. This is a group that sings throughout the year, not only at assisted living homes, but also for special events. St. Patrick’s Day is always a fun time, and they will be singing for the upcoming Harvest Celebration for the Lighthouse Christian home this September. They will be celebrating their 10 year anniversary this year.
Maryruth enjoys singing in the “Columbia Falls Choir” because she isn’t in charge. There is work involved, but there is no taking time to choose the music and plan the practices. She also is involved in a clarinet quartet known as Three Roses and a Thorn. Maryruth has always liked music making with friends and playing duets has always been a huge part of her adult life. She considers herself fortunate to have met Gloria Johnson shortly after they both moved to Kalispell, and felt an instant connection and feel for the music. They look forward to playing together whether it is for a wedding, at an assisted living home, or the hospital lobby. One summer about 9 years ago, Maryruth had the privilege of accompanying the Von Trapp family for several concerts throughout Montana when their regular accompanist wasn’t available. More recently Maryruth
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accompanied Loyda, an opera singer from Mexico who was visiting the U.S. for the first time. She is excited to have the opportunity next summer when Loyda comes for a return visit to see friends Barb and Larry Magone. People ask Maryruth what she does to relax and her response is, “I have music to relax. Why should I give it up? I love it.” She also loves to work in her garden—she picked her first tomato the day of this interview. She does all of her pruning in the fall because the spring is so busy for her. Her goal for this summer is to take voice lessons so she can help herself and the choir. She says she’s not able to take on as much as she did when she was younger, but there’s always something new coming up. Your guess is as good as mine as to what she will be doing next! Whenever I hear the beautiful sound of a piano, I think of Maryruth.
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Lying by Omission didn’t share the same values, it made me think about the truth and what it means to lie! When we were young, there was one lesson hammered into us more often than others: “Tell the truth and everything will be OK.” But then you heard Mom call her boss, claiming she was sick when she really wasn’t because you woke up with a high fever. And why does Dad say that Mom’s dress doesn’t make her fat while she looks like a giant elephant? This is not the kind of lying I’m talking about. I guess these are what we refer to as “white lies.” Truth be told, I’m happy I’m bi-lingual because now I finally have a word for something I have always fancily put off as “cognitive advancements!” In my line of work it is crucial that my clients trust me, so truth is very important to me. My “Dutch directness” has proven to be a valuable asset in my business and personal life because it gives me a deep embedded honesty that finds its roots in my culture. And not only in my culture, it’s also cemented in my language. The Dutch dictionary lists only one word for not speaking the truth: “lying.” Compare this to the English language and you find: white lies, untruth, deception, lying by omission, etc. Truth and honesty are not only important for me in my professional life; they are also core values in my personal life. So when I recently discovered that someone that I had looked up to, trusted and cared about
What I’m talking about and having a hard time with is telling the truth but twisting it or leaving out key facts. A new experience has appeared in my life: Lying by Omission. I, honestin-heart-and-soul, have a hard time conceptualizing someone who exists entirely in a life of lies. It’s not socially acceptable to immediately presume that someone is lying, especially if it is someone who is near and dear! I’m one of those that believe I was told the truth and I will only accept that it was a lie if I can prove it. Once a lie has been proven, I have to shift back to my default position of the truth because I want to be able to trust. It is this defaulting that mixes me up! If I could just stick with the truth and not be put in a position that I have to second guess or doubt,
I would be one happy camper. It is so very hard to detect lies of omission because everything centers around the truth—it’s what is left out that makes it a lie! For me deliberate omission is the same as lying; withholding or twisting information to alter outcomes or sway a person’s judgment in some way shows no respect or consideration. People who lie by omission can either not confront the truth or are insecure about their own existence; either way, for me it is betrayal in the worst way. It is manipulative and deceptive, like a magician’s trick or camouflage, and it’s very hurtful. Through this painful experience, I have come to the realization that the most important thing for me is to treat others well and to help them achieve what it was that they wanted to achieve. A life in service-to-self is empty and destined for failure. A life in serviceto-others is fulfilling and destined for success. Just my two cents!
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A Sky of Surprises For the past three days, I’ve watched the lightning storms blow across the Ninemile Valley and onto my front porch where I like to sit and feel the thunder. In my limited meteorology experience (I hail from Southern California where weather isn’t a vocabulary word) such drama is played out in films or on news reports. Here, I get it live—and up to the minute. One never knows when turning off the lights and pulling up the bed covers what weather patterns may emerge come morning. There are forecasts, to be sure, but at best they can predict the basics—the usual snow, sleet or sunshine. Variables are best prepared for on your property as well as on your person. Cover, cover, cover. Layer, layer, layer. No wonder Montana weather forecasts are detailed by the hour. This sky is full of surprise. Hence, after three days of everything under the sun (rain, hail, sleet, lightning, thunder) but alas, not the sun itself, when I awoke this morning to the proverbial “big sky,” it felt like Christmas morning (without the snow, thank God). I dashed and danced through breakfast and mandatory exercise routine in order to get out in it. My walk is dessert, the reward for the predictable stretches and bends I have to do (but don’t want to do) to stay flexible and avert back pain. Fresh air is calisthenics for the soul. Montana’s sky really is bigger than any other I’ve laid eyes on. I suppose it’s a combination of the clean air, the
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spacious landscape, and the mountains in the distance? I’ve spent an entire lifetime living at the seashore, yet even though the expansive Pacific Ocean ends in a straight line of horizon, this sky is bigger. How can that be? Today I sinfully broke my dermatologist’s rules and raised the brim of my UVA/UVB protective sunhat to revel in it. The white clouds puffed in sharp definition, utterly threedimensional, their etched edges sharply contrasted against a backdrop of deep blue that goes on and on for, well, ever. It was all I could do to keep from lying on my back in my neighbor’s field of tall green grass so I could fashion farm animals in the sky. After several more steps I stopped to watch them glide, ever so slowly, their edges shifting and shaping until finally, I surrendered and climbed the corral fence. Once over it, I spread out flat and tipped back my hat to create my sky story. There’s a lobster claw! A sea monster emerging from the frothy white seawater foam! No doubt I could have scripted an entire cast of cloud characters, were it not for the fact that they closed in and darkened before my very eyes. In that same instant, the wind howled and gusted through the pine trees. By the time I was back over the fence, the first raindrop fell. I’d best scurry back to my front porch and see what sky tomorrow brings.
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The Bank Job
I walked into the bank completely undetected by the fully alert security guard who closely watched me as I walked by him. As I approached the teller at the window, she was totally unaware that I failed to have a note demanding all the money in her cash drawer. In my most pleasant tone of voice, I made my demand. “I’m here to make a deposit please.”
and printed a receipt. She handed it to me and I blatantly folded it and placed it neatly in my wallet. I turned around to find the only thing between myself and the exit was the security guard. He had no reason to stop me as I walked towards him with an unintimidating stride. As I approached him, I looked at him with my beady eyes and spoke, “Have a nice day, sir.” I bolted through the door no faster than a snail and found that my getaway car had been towed from the handicap spot. I would have to make a walk for it. It was sheer luck that I found my car a mere block away. I went into the garage and demanded to pay money to retrieve it. Although the proprietor didn’t seem intimidated, he didn’t argue. I wrote a check, produced two forms of identification and he handed me the keys. He didn’t realize just how itchy my check writing hand was and how close he came to getting a gratuity.
She looked at me without shock and disbelief. For a moment, I thought that she had spotted the absence of a weapon that I wasn’t holding tightly and nervously in my hand. Knowing what was best for her, she replied, “I’d be happy to help you with that deposit sir.” It was then that I knew I had complete control of the situation. Nobody could stop me now. I discreetly handed her an envelope full of cash and nobody
seemed to notice as she carefully counted each bill. I knew that I was in full view of the security cameras, but being motivated by my desperation, I didn’t care. Time was of the essence and I knew I had to make my escape quickly. The teller failed to trip the silent alarm notifying the authorities of my actions and I knew they wouldn’t be there soon. She completed her counting sequence
I hopped in my car and raced down the street at a blinding two miles an hour over the speed limit. I would let nothing stop me, except for several traffic lights. I had planned to hit the grocery store next but decided otherwise. It seems that I had left my grocery list at the bank. It was too risky to go today as the bank had surely tipped off the grocery store by now. I immediately put plan be into action and drove straight home without stopping except for the traffic lights that I mentioned earlier. I quietly slipped into my house to find my wife waiting for me as usual. “You’ve been out not robbing banks again haven’t you?” “Yes, I am afraid so.”
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Montana’s Nurse Practitioner of the Year By Andrea Blair
When you reflect on your life and recall a favorite teacher, you may think of an exceptional person whose presence in your life played a pivotal role in the person you’ve become. Someone who helped you to open your mind to a new way of thinking, encouraged you to see your true potential, urged you not to give up. Maybe it was your grandfather, mother, or your high school English teacher. For the individuals who have been fortunate to cross paths with Nurse Practitioner Cathy Simensen, RNC NP, it might very well be this extraordinary healthcare provider who has made such a difference in their life. Janna Sullivan, WHCNP, at Northwest Women’s Healthcare describes Cathy as “an example of caring to the utmost. She is a valued community worker who quietly and consistently advocates for the care of women and children.”
“I have had the pleasure of working with Cathy Simensen for the past 7 years at NWWHC. She has always impressed me as a colleague willing to teach and support as well as a caring, compassionate provider who has dedicated heself to her practice. She carefully examines the “whole picture.” Cathy is eager to learn and pursues educational opportunities to maintain and improve her knowledge and skills. She is to be admired for her hard work and dedication.” Julie Cook, FNP-BC
Cathy is the latest recipient of the award for Montana’s Nurse Practitioner of the Year, which she accepted recently in Las Vegas at the National Association for Advanced Nurse Practitioners Convention. Recognized for her outstanding contributions to women’s health and nominated for the award by her peers, she has far exceeded the clinical expectations of a Nurse Practitioner, investing in the future of women’s health, both in the office and on her personal time, for 37 years. She has dedicated her career to educating women and helping them to be an active part of their health and wellness.
As an RN at the beginning of her career, working in a rural hospital and then a physician’s office, Cathy was inspired by her peers, both RNs and Nurse Practitioners, whom she says excelled in their professions and set high standards for patient care. Over the years, her involvement with patients varied, depending on the facility she worked at, and she learned the more responsibility she had, the more fulfilled she felt. Her commitment to caring for others compelled her to seek out more responsibility and involvement with her patients. “I wanted to be able to
participate in a woman’s care beyond just doing weights and blood pressures. I needed some more challenges.” Cathy obtained her first degree, a Bachelors of Science from MSU, in 1976. After seventeen years of nursing, she went back to school again in 1992, emerging with a Nurse Practitioner certificate a year later. On the whole, the public has become very open to trusting their medical needs to clinicians other than MDs these days. Cathy believes patients have come to realize that nurse practitioners and physician’s assistants (PAs) have the ability to spend more time with each patient during their appointments as well order any labs, testing or medications that a person may need. “It took the general public a while to learn that ‘A nurse practitioner is going to spend more time with me and she’s going to teach me what this means.’ For example, a woman with endometriosis comes in. She’s had terrible menstrual cramps her whole life, so we sit down, go over her history and start doing a workup, and we can determine that she’s got endometriosis. It’s a good hour-long appointment where we can show a patient pictures of what’s going on, discuss what we think they have and what we might do. I hear people all the time who say that they would rather see a NP or PA any day, ‘because they can spend more time with me and answer my questions.’ “The expertise of surgeons and physicians is worth their weight in gold, it really is, and we can consult with them in a heartbeat if necessary, or if a patient needs to be cared for by
them, then that’s how we’ll proceed. But there aren’t enough of them to care for everyone who needs to be cared for. We don’t even have enough nurses to care for all the people we need to care for. Kalispell is considered rural, but if you go to little tiny towns like Chester, Conrad, Glasgow, Havre, Wolf Point, they’re even more rural. Wolf Point just got two new nurse midwives, thankfully, because there weren’t enough providers to deliver babies that were being born, women weren’t getting their pap smears or mammograms; no one talked with them about updating their immunizations. We need more rural providers.” The number of nurse practitioners has exploded in the time since Cathy received her certificate, she shares, which is a very good thing for the medical community. “Doctors can
do everything from A to Z. Nurse practitioners can fill in the blanks; they do everything from A to J. We can spend more time with patients, we don’t have to see the numbers of patients in a day that a doctor will. We certainly are an asset to the business part of it.” In her career, Cathy has witnessed firsthand the incredible, almost miraculous, strides that have been made in healthcare. “With research, we now have the ability to diagnose and treat diseases that we couldn’t back then. Ovarian cancer was often diagnosed in its late stages and considered incurable. A patient would come in with symptoms, go in for exploratory surgery, and the doctor would have to open them up and then close them because there was nothing they could do at that point.”
Mammograms, imaging, lab work, surgeries—medicine today is vastly different it was in our mother’s generation. “When I was born,” Cathy reflects, “women were kept in the hospital for 10 days after giving birth.” Of course, even with a c-section now, women are often released only a few days later, and many minimally invasive surgeries now mean a patient can go home the same day and be back on their feet and living normally much, much sooner than was the case even 10 or 20 years ago. Modern medicine in addition to education, prevention and regular physicals are all vital to the wellness of people, and Cathy is passionate about people and keeping them well. When I asked if the status quo had changed in terms how often women should have regular checkups, pap smears
“Cathy is very professional in her own quiet way. She is respected by her Doctors, her peers, and beloved by her patients.” Robert M. Rogers Jr., MD
as many people as she could reach to urge them to write their state’s representatives in support of or against bills that impacted the health and health coverage of women.
and mammograms (it seems to vary somewhat, depending on what you read or who you listen to), she reinforced all people should have a physical every year. For women who have a history of normal pap smear results, then the pap may only be needed every 3 to 5 years, but a pelvic exam should still be done annually. Mammograms for women who don’t have a family history of breast cancer should begin at age 40. (She notes that 75% of women who do get breast cancer do not have a family history. Obesity, high fat diets, drinking more than 3 ounces of alcohol per day—that’s less than ½ of a glass of wine—all of these factors increase a woman’s risk of having breast cancer). Women who do have a family history, meaning a close blood-relative such a mother, aunt or grandmother, should begin mammograms 10 years earlier than their relative was diagnosed. If mom was diagnosed at age 40, her daughters should have their first mammogram by age 30. There are many causes close to Cathy’s heart. Breast cancer has taken a heavy toll on her family. Her mother survived and is doing well today, but her sister passed in 1995. So Cathy has dedicated her career to educating women and helping them to be an active part of their healthcare and wellness in all stages of life.
She is an extremely caring provider and loved by all.” Sharla Teubert, Office Manager When she’s not seeing patients, she can often be found giving to the causes she’s most passionate about. She participates in the Susan G. Kohmen Race for the Cure whenever she can, donates her time to the WINGS radio-thon each year, and for the last ten years has made the First Descents camp for young adults with cancer a priority in her philanthropic efforts. Cathy was also recognized with a Mary Munger Leadership Award for her political efforts in the women’s healthcare arena, a cause she would love to pick up again in the near future. “I love the political part of advocating for healthcare benefits for women. Now we have mammograms that your insurance has to pay for regardless of whether you’ve met your deductible.” Years ago, Cathy spent much time and energy appealing to other Nurse Practitioners and legislators, faxing
Flathead Lake and family are the other loves in Cathy’s life, the elements that encourage her and her husband, Tom, to finally slow down for a bit and relax. Their two Irish setters provide comic relief and entertainment as their grown children, Toby and Mari, are long since immersed in their own careers—Toby still lives here in the Flathead, and Mari, an interior designer, resides in Portland, OR. She may relax now and then, but it’s very clear Cathy is not really going to slow down any time soon...she has many people yet to teach, to guide and advocate for.
A lesson from Cathy: Mid-level providers came about as a result of war. Servicemen and women would train as medics, learn incredible skills, and then work with the wounded or in clinics with veterans and come out of the service with no where to go for a job. They were so intensely trained but had no formal schooling. They essentially came out like an EMT, but had skills far beyond that. Finally schools were opened, providing the education necessary to hire them, and thus nurse practitioners and physician’s assistants came to be.
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Bioidentical Hormones For Menopausal Symptoms By Kathleen Olson, WHNP-BC, MSN, RN | Northwest Women’s Health Care
Bioidentical hormones are a great option for managing intolerable menopausal symptoms and there are many types of prescription and compounded bioidentical hormones available. Bioidentical hormones are made by chemically changing a hormone-like substance from another source— usually soy, yams, or plants—to make it exactly the same as the hormones produced in your body primarily by the ovaries. Both estrogen and progesterone hormones are available and come in pill form, vaginal products, and skin patches, gels, lotions, and sprays. These hormone products also come in many different dosages so
that you can find the lowest dose to help your menopausal symptoms. The menopausal symptoms that bioidentical hormones can help are hot flashes, night sweats, difficulty sleeping, irritability, vaginal dryness, and vaginal discomfort during intercourse. Supplemental bioidentical hormones can be used to get you through the peak of these symptoms, and once the symptoms are minimal or resolved you can wean slowly off the hormones. Bioidentical hormones are something that we
work with at Northwest Women’s Health Care every day. So, if you are having menopausal symptoms or just have more questions about your hormone options, please make appointment to see one of our health care providers today!
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For the best eye makeup, same rule applies. Use only satin or matte shadows. Shadows and foundations with a lot of mica pigments only enhance fine lines and wrinkles on the lids. Now, I am a huge fan of contouring and highlighting, but again, it must be perfectly placed. For contouring, use a powder or cream with more of a grey (versus red) undertone. You’re going for shadowing, not bronzing, here. I use MAC Powder Blush in Blunt or Cream Color Base in Root. Both create the perfect contour. Apply just under the cheekbone and near the hairline on the forehead. You can use a powder bronzer with a blush brush to then blend the contour onto the cheekbone. Highlighting is just as important. Only apply highlighter on the tops of the cheekbones, inner corners of the eye and under the brow bone and you’ll achieve the perfect highlight every time. You can watch my YouTube Video on contouring and highlighting at www. youtube.com/emjcosmetics. Have fun with lips because anything goes, whether you prefer lipstick or gloss, it’s up to you, just pick a shade that will complement your skin tone and eye color. Follow these simple steps to ensure a picture perfect portrait! ~Emily
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Let’s Strut Your Stuff Dear Sherri: Several months ago my fiancé broke off our engagement, ending a four-year relationship, and I am having a hard time getting past it. The breakup came out of the blue, and initially I tried to work it out with him, to no avail. I really thought he was “the one” for me, as he had strengths that complimented my own. My emotions have run the gamut from feeling powerless to broken hearted, very angry, and at times downright confused. I am finding it difficult to move forward, and this whole process is interfering with my ability to concentrate on anything else as my thoughts so often drift to the two of us. What would you recommend I do to get off this crazy, emotional roller coaster?
Signed, One Bumpy Ride
Dear Bumpy Ride: Good for you for reaching out for support to help you regain your footing. It is completely natural to experience the range of emotions you describe, and certainly very understandable to feel the way you do. You were engaged and planning a future together. Of course you feel the way you do! If you imagine a relationship being like a rubber band – at times, we stretch and grow like the rubber band, while at other times—SNAP—it hurts! When we are in a relationship, we create ways of being together with all sorts of habits and rituals we form as a couple. After a while those habits are so ingrained we are no longer even conscious of the fact that we are frequently texting, calling, sharing our daily successes and failures. It has all just become second nature. It makes sense that you often notice your thoughts drift to the two of you when you were accustomed to sharing your daily life over the course of four years together. Now, you are ready to make a shift, and get moving forward again. Excellent! To get you thinking along those lines, here is a beautiful quote by Helen Keller, “When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” Knowing that hindsight is often 20/20, and that in time you will find the peace you are seeking, if you had to find something to appreciate about this experience right now, what would it be? This simple thought process will shift your focus to take you out of painful negative thought pattern, and have you looking for the good within it. Keep in mind, whatever purpose you pull forward now, may be different a month or year from now. That’s perfectly okay; what can you find to appreciate right now? For example: I learned that
I have a lot of inner strength I didn’t realize I had, or I learned that I was looking for someone else to complete me rather than feeling whole on my own, or . . .whatever comes up for you. Within every difficulty is a lesson to learn – our own little golden nugget to help us become stronger and perhaps a little wiser along the way. Of course, wisdom is not a given when we have had a painful experience. It is only through repose that we can reflect on our lives in order to gain the understanding. Where did things go wrong? What might I have done to contribute to the issue? How might I have acted differently? How might I handle myself in the future in a similar situation? The understanding we find must then be applied to future experiences before we gain the wisdom. One other point, when you think of times in the past where you may have
overcome hardship, perhaps even something that felt similar to this situation – ask yourself - What qualities helped me get through that tough spell? Knowing that the strengths you have within you can be called forward whenever they are needed, how might you do so again now? Finally, I love the quote by George C. Scott: “The human spirit is stronger than anything that can happen to it.” Keep that in mind while you continue to mend your heart, your spirit is stronger than anything that happens to it. Sending lots of positive energy your way to add to your own!
Yoga Pose of the Month
The Tree Pose
[ Vrksasana ]
By Patricia Mason
Tree pose calms both body and mind, bringing you into a natural state of stillness; peaceful, but definitely not a resting pose, for it elevates your healing heat, balance and the lower body strength that you have built during your practice.
To get into proper alignment in this pose: • Place the sole of your foot on the inner thigh of the opposite leg. • Press down through the sole of the standing foot, keeping both hips centered and squared off, taking your time to establish your balance on your standing leg. • Elongate your spine; lift your pelvic floor and access Uddiyana, meaning to draw the pit of the belly in and up. This will increase the internal fire by improving both the physical and energetic digestive system. • Maintain a central line of energy through your entire body. Using your breath, focus on your forward yoga gaze (Drishti) to steady yourself, and use your hands to Namaste at heart center, while pressing your palms together, assisting in balance.
• Bring hands together overhead and return to Namaste at heart center, and slowly release your hands, returning to Samasthiti (standing at attention). • Raise both arms high to the sky, bringing one into perfect alignment, symbolizing the Tree of Life. This is how the yogi walks through life with his or her feet firmly rooted to the earth, heart and head into the heavens.
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“Praise and blame, gain and loss, pleasure and sorrow come and go like the wind. To be happy, rest like a giant tree, in the midst of them all.”
• Hold for five breaths. • To stabilize balance you can modify this pose by lowering foot toward your calf, ankle or earth. • Keeping your hands in Namaste, reach your arms up high to the sky, extending your spine. • Ground yourself like the root of a strong tree growing taller, bringing movement into your arms like branches blowing in the breeze. • Standing tall, let go of your thoughts and come into a calm state of stillness in breath, mind and body.
inside out “We need to find God, and he cannot be found in noise and restlessness. God is the friend of silence. See how nature- trees, flowers, grass- grows in silence; see the stars, the moon, and the sun, how they move in silence…The more we receive in silent prayer, the more we can give in our active life.” -Mother Teresa
By Gina Ellis
The Power of Silence The topic of education stirs my heart in a less traditional way than most of us in the west would slow ourselves to consider. I acknowledge the value in our concept of learning by way of conventional study; however, I also see the tendency for us in our competitive nature to overlook the value of education from an internal point of view. While our minds chatter and strive to gain knowledge, our ability to tap into silence and grow the connection each of us holds to a universal wisdom has dissipated to a point where it is almost extinct. I have heard many people complain of the inability to quiet their mind. It keeps them awake at night and wears on them during the day. They work endlessly from a space of disconnect from joy and surpassing peace. Many believe it just isn’t possible for them to achieve silence of their mind and they have relinquished their hope of finding ease in this way. Perhaps you are reading this and finding it hard to engage in the significance of what I’m saying. Or, maybe it’s so close to the source of your unhappiness that you don’t dare read on. Take heart, I can assure you wherever you are in your journey to stillness; it has been traveled by many. You are fully able to obtain control over the relentless clatter of your psyche. However, it does require commitment to develop what at first will feel like a hard-learned skill. The payoff will be that of wisdom, calmness, knowing and peace that will change your life and lend itself to those around you. When you are at peace within yourself, you naturally align from the inside out to
the harmony you create. I think of it as the “sweet spot” of my being. Although it has a huge effect on what I do and how I do it, the practice of silence is all about building your ability to be present; undistracted by what has past and what is to come. I’ll tell you something I noticed at the beginning of my voyage. I love to pray and I found that I misinterpreted my prayer time as silent meditation. What I noticed is a clear distinction in the style of meditation we can choose to practice. Although my time in prayer is sanctified, I could still hear and feel myself inside my head talking. Maybe I thought because it was time spent in sacredness it counted as quiet (lol). I have since created a flow that allows for silence then moves into prayer and then back to silence. We each need something from silence and I have learned that what I used to fear was a sense of emptiness or aloneness that I associated with silence; I know now that silence is anything but empty. I encourage you to investigate the possibility of guiding your mind to the quiet and present moment - it will change your life.
“As you listen, you feel a conscious presence - your deeper self - behind or underneath the thought. This is the beginning of the end of involuntary and compulsive thinking.” -Eckhart Tolle Love, Gina
By Jewels Devine
Mistakes are always forgivable, if only one has the courage to admit them. -Bruce Lee
It takes tremendous fortitude to utter the words “I was wrong, and I am sorry.” I love that word: fortitude. I love its synonyms as well, which are: strength, courage, resilience, grit, determination, endurance, guts and staying power. Boo-yah! Come on girls, we all know that Montana women have those characteristics. Resilient, determined, enduring, courageous …who doesn’t want to be all of that?
me weak? I should say not! Weak is not an adjective that can be used on me, even on a bad day! I don’t know exactly why so many in the world carry the false belief that admitting their mistakes makes them weak. Blaming others, manipulating facts, and refusing to accept the responsibility of one’s actions is so unattractive my dears. There is a timeless beauty in honesty and accepting responsibility.
My darlings, I have found that grit and guts have gotten me through some very trying times in my life. Does that make
I never judge my friends by how well they do when they are on top of their game, but by how well they do when
they aren’t. The fact is everyone makes mistakes. Denying that they have happened usually exacerbates and magnifies an already awkward situation because, chances are, you aren’t fooling anyone and you appear insecure. Insecurity causes wrinkles. It does. Really! Seriously, in a very real way, trying to dodge responsibility can hurt your reputation more than simply owning up to the mistake in the first place. Big Daddy and I recently celebrated our 30-year anniversary (I was a very,
very young bride). As I look back over the past three decades, I know without a doubt we have both been to blame for some of our misunderstandings. Shocking – but I am not perfect! What got us through these trying times is our respect, love and dedication to one another. It is work. Hard work. Luckily Big Daddy and I are not afraid
to roll up our sleeves and get dirty (wink). I have learned in life that if one wants to be genuinely successful in business, life and relationships, we have to be willing to set aside our pride, our fears, and our insecurities, and be responsible. Success comes the moment we
recognize our mistakes and have the integrity and fortitude to utter the words, “I was wrong, and I am sorry.”
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By Betty Kuffel, MD
Making Choices: The Power of Knowledge
In today’s complex world, starting each day can be a challenge. The choices before us are endless. How many shampoos line your shower shelf? Before you finish one bottle, do you purchase another to try the latest protein nourishment, shine or body treatment for hair? When it comes to face-creams and cosmetics, the options and their promises are immense. Or toothpaste? Is the one with fluoride and whitening the best—or will it damage your teeth, making them pearly white just before they all fall out? How about breakfast – do you wonder whether to eat oatmeal, “Healthy Heart” Cheerios or Fruit-Loops? Once the choice is made, to top the cereal, there is whole milk, 2%, 1%, fat-free milk or nut-milk. What should you drink? Do you choose to drink or avoid coffee, drink decaf, drink green tea, flavored bottled water, plain bottled water, bubbly water or just plain tap water? What about television news? Which channels do you watch? Are you getting broad accurate coverage of world events? If you have satellite TV, there are dozens of viewing options. Hundreds of choices cloud our days. It is important to make a conscientious effort to be discerning and evaluate the content and sources of what we read and hear. Morning television news channels provide many health updates. You’ll often find Dr. Sonjay Gupta presenting the latest information about a medical breakthrough. Women’s magazines are filled with information on women’s ailments. What are you to believe? Much of the information is accurate. But when making choices that could impact your health, make them with care. The Internet can be a wonderful source of information. Or, it can be the worst if
you are not a knowledgeable consumer. Just because the information source appears valid and is written by a doctor of something, that doesn’t mean it’s accurate. The information may actually be harmful. Natural health products sound healthy. After all, if it’s natural it must be healthy — right? Not in all cases. In fact, some natural health products are not healthy at all. Many people are willing give their children untested, unregulated products from health food stores that could be harmful to them, rather than use tested products with accurate medication content proven safe in children. When health-minded but ill-informed vegetarian parents fed their infant celery juice instead of nutritious milk, formula or electrolyte liquids, their newborn child died as a result of their lack of knowledge. Natural is not always safe or healthy especially in children. A young woman I treated took a health supplement touted to “improve circulation.” Purchased over the Internet, this effective blood thinner had the same action warfarin/ Coumadin, a drug commonly used to thin blood and decrease clotting risks. A blood test to monitor the effectiveness of warfarin is called an INR. The medication is dosed carefully to attain a therapeutic treatment range of and INR of two to three. Because this young woman took the dangerous supplement, her INR was eight and she was bleeding. To reverse the effect, she required hospitalization and transfusion of blood products to stop potential hemorrhage from an innocent sounding natural product. My purpose for presenting these real life anecdotes is not to frighten you, but to make you wary of ingesting supplements and giving untested
products to children. We have so many choices to make each day, it is important to keep things simple. A safe approach is to eat fresh, unprocessed foods, take few medications and supplements. Fully understand any interaction that may occur between over-the-counter products you purchase and the medications your doctor prescribes. Use sound information to make daily health choices. Become a knowledgeable consumer. Read labels, ask questions and don’t take chances. Knowledge is power. I think Mark Twain was right when he said, “Be careful about reading health books. You may die of a misprint.” (Mark Twain 1835-1910) The concern today is not so much a misprint, but misinformation. Choose reliable Internet sources for accurate information and consult your medical provider before you act on the content. Betty Kuffel, MD LipstickLogic.com
In the Scheme of Things
The Porcupine Dilemma On the flowering grounds of a majestic international hotel, built nearly a century ago on the edge of Lake Louise, high in the Canadian Rockies, my husband and I escaped for a long weekend to celebrate me finishing the manuscript for my next book.
see beyond the pictures they were taking, notice the growing crowd, or understand the evolving no-options for the porcupine. Their attention was focused on one thing – their “personal” photo of an amazing creature.
While enjoying an after dinner stroll near the lake’s edge, motion near a garden wall caught my husband’s eye first. As I turned toward the spot he indicated, I saw a very large porcupine. I also saw a very large group of people speed-walking toward him.
It’s easy to chastise excited international tourists seeing an infrequently seen animal for the first time. But we all do the equivalent at times. We have our porcupine moments – deciding when it’s okay to be self versus other-focused, hold a narrow view, or pursue individual desires.
Far from the safety of the forest, the porcupine had positioned himself against a used pavilion, attempting to find shelter where there was none. He lumbered quickly as the expanding iPad and cell photo-capturing people-herd pursued him, each hoping to document (and post) his or her personal brush with nature.
Is it okay to block people in the seats behind us by standing to see the concert performer better? Do we ignore the flight attendants’ plea to let those with tight connecting flights exit first, or let that latte we crave between flights take precedent? Do we decide the law doesn’t apply to us because we’re safe drivers so we go ahead driving and texting?
The frenzied crowd failed to notice the porcupine had no escape route. Collectively, they were trapping, cornering, and stressing him. It wasn’t intentional, of course. Yet, from only a viewfinder vantage point, they couldn’t
Certainly no one intended to stress the porcupine, just like no one intends to cause an accident by using their cell phone, or ruin another’s concert-going experience. But self-focus blinds us to our pursuits. It took several people
By Nan S. Russell
persistently calling out to alert the group, verbally nudging them to back off, in order to get people to stop taking photos and let the porcupine move away. Luckily there were people who had a bigger perspective and the porcupine did reach the forest, but not without stress. And still some people remained, unwilling to give up their hunt for a perfect picture of the animal for the good of the animal. In the scheme of things, I believe life isn’t an individual-all-aboutme experience. Our actions ripple. Unless I live on a deserted island, my preferences, desires, and wants need to have boundaries in a shared world. Doesn’t life include that bigger sphere of other people and other living things also with desires, interests, and needs? Every day we choose how we’ll response in our own porcupine dilemmas. We can decide to look through our personal self-interest viewfinder or look past it to a bigger picture. I’m certainly glad for the porcupine some people operate with big lenses.
Healthy Living Amazing Omega-3 Information Provided By Joe Withey
Omega-3s improved weight loss in women, metabolism in girls Omega-3s help women lose weight
Omega-3s and girlsâ€™ metabolism
Doctors in this study gave 39 obese women a placebo or an omega-3 supplement while the women maintained their normal diets for four weeks. The supplement contained 420 mg EPA and 1,620 mg DHA per day.
In this study, 25 obese boys and girls, aged 14 to 17, took a placebo or a daily supplement containing 930 mg EPA, 290 mg DHA, 100 mg GLA, and 19.8 IU vitamin E for three months. After a six-week rest phase, participants alternated placebo and supplement for another three months.
After the first four weeks, the women continued to take the placebo or omega-3 supplement while everyone followed a low-calorie diet for the next four weeks. While there were no changes in weight or body mass index score for either group during the first four weeks, EPA and DHA levels doubled for the omega-3 group. After eight weeks, while the placebo group had not improved, women in the omega-3 group had lost on average 7.2 percent body weight and reduced average body mass index scores by 7.4 percent.
While there were no changes for placebo, or blood sugar benefits for boys, girls taking omega-3s h ad 17 percent greater insulin sensitivity, a 34 percent increase in insulin levels during glucose tolerance test, and 39 percent better glucose tolerance. Circulating levels of EPA and DHA increased significantly for both boys and girls, and both had higher tissue and skeletal muscle levels of omega-6s, which doctors said raised the chances of maintaining healthy metabolic function in the future.
Keeping It Real
Helping you create a roadmap for your business.
Rose Hips Rose hips are the cherry-sized red fruits of the rose bush left behind after the bloom has died. The flavor is described as fruity and spicy, much like a cranberry. Fruits are best harvested after the first frost when they become fully-colored, but not overripe. They should yield to gentle pressure but not be soft or wrinkly. Most recipes advise removing the irritating hairy seeds before processing the fruit. When cooking rose hips, do not use any metal pans or utensils other than stainless steel or risk discoloration of the fruit and loss of its precious vitamin C stores. A favorite recipe of mine is rose hip applesauce. It is easy to make, full of vitamin c and adds a delicious flowery flavor to traditional applesauce. It is great as a snack, fruit serving light dessert, or as a condiment for pork. The recipe is fairly easy. Simply cook apples and rose hips together and puree them using a sieve or other straining device to remove the seeds. Proceed with your favorite applesauce spices.
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at their best as well as the people they love. Our services will be open to the public, and a 10% discount to our Foundation members will apply on all spa treatments. Not only are we going to take care of you, but we are going to extend the opportunity to be part of the circle that gives back to the beautiful state of Montana in a way that honors and continues to build our future. Sincerely, Cindy Oâ€™Boyle and Gina Ellis
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Cre ing with Colette By Colette Gross
It was on a recent trip to Canada with my husband that I became intrigued with the Hudsonâ€™s Bay Company colors in a window display. The day was gray, overcast and drizzly, and the vibrant colors of the yellow, red, green and navy blue just seemed to burst with energy! The familiar striped pattern on their blankets, apparel and accessories demonstrated to me how a classic motif never ages and is always in style.
In looking at the window display I got to thinking how little I knew about this extraordinary retail company and how amazing that it is still thriving after hundreds of years! Did you know that the Hudson’s Bay Company (HBC) was founded in 1670 and is the longest continually operated company in North America? It was started as a trading company backed by financing from King Charles II, and known as the “Honourable Company of Adventurers” with trading privileges along the lands drained by the water flowing into the Hudson Bay. Trading forts were established and the Company conducted trade with the natives, with wool blankets traded for beaver pelts. The HBC “point” blanket was introduced in 1780 and was produced with a green, yellow, red and indigo stripe on a white background. In the point system, thin indigo lines were woven into the blanket to denote its
size and weight, and without having to unfold the blankets, the dimensions were known! Points ranged from 1 to 6 with the number of points representing the overall finished size, not its value of beaver pelts for trade, which is a common misconception.
different color of the HBC colors, would be perfect! Continue the theme with a painted red chest or a deep green accent chair and even hand paint the 4 colored stripes on a white cotton rug for a floor accent, and you have a very fresh look to the room!
Point blankets are still made today in England and by Woolrich, of Pennsylvania, and vintage ones are highly collectible. For those of you lucky enough to have an original blanket, check out the fine indigo lines on it and just imagine the use it’s had!
There’s nothing quite like a vintage blanket to add just the right accent to a bedroom, and with cooler temperatures on the way, put it to use this autumn. I’d love to hear how you’ve incorporated these ideas into your home, so stop in Station 8 and share your stories!
Living in Montana, the lodge look is a popular choice for décor, and using the Hudson’s Bay Co. colors in a guest room or boy’s bedroom as inspiration would be a fun makeover to do. Incorporating old photos of the Park, a series of canoe paddles or oars hung over the bed horizontally, or standing vertically along a wall, with each painted a
All the best, Colette, Shop Girl
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Western Comfort By Brandi Glass
First off, I want to state that none of these drinks are for children. These are for the parents who may have had a little too much of the back-to-school bustle or for those who might be a bit sad about the kids leaving the nest. They also fit the bill for those who miss the experience of going back to school and who want to have a little nostalgic moment for those scholastic days in the past.
This drink tends to get a bad rap as a collegiate hangover inducer. Enjoyed in moderation, however, it’s actually quite delish.
Fill and old fashioned or similarly sized glass ¾ (see, those math skills are proving useful!) with ice cubes. Add 2 ½ ounces vodka, ¾ ounce Cointreau, and ¾ ounce freshly squeezed lime juice. Stir well. Squeeze a lime wedge over the top of the glass and then drop it in. Enjoy! Oh, those little lambs, heading into the big world. Instead of worrying too much about your flock, have one of these refreshers, using this recipe.
Fill a cocktail shaker or mixing glass halfway full with ice cubes. Add 1 ½ ounces gin, ½ ounce dry vermouth, and ½ ounce triple sec. Stir well. Strain into a flute glass. Fill the glass almost to the rim with chilled Lambrusco and garnish with an orange slice.
The Tardy Slip
Fill a double shot glass with 2 ounces vodka and set aside 4 ounces of orange juice. Sound like a screwdriver? Well it is exactly the same, but you drink the vodka first, then the orange juice shows up late and is poured into the empty glass.
As you are preparing for the beginning of the school year, which means back-to-school shopping, don’t forget to stock up on all the essentials. Supplies like pencils, pens, glue sticks, notebooks, and martini glasses… yeah, that’s right. Martini glasses. And cocktail napkins. And a nice crudités platter. Maybe some cheesy, nibbley things. And while you’re at it, swing on over to your favorite shoe store and pick up a cute new pair of completely insensible heels. Oooh yes, those really high strappy ones. You are
probably thinking that you don’t have an occasion to wear them. Well I am giving you an occasion! I like to call this special occasion – the Moms only back to school cocktail party! Back to school time is not just for kids!
Montana Woman Foundation
CelebrateLife By Cindy Oâ€™Boyle
Each month I find joy in presenting our latest issue of Montana Woman Magazine to our readers, contributors and advertisers. Part of the reason is that it truly is a collaborative effort from many talented people. I love showcasing talent and teamwork! Like most things, the success of a satisfying collaboration, though sometimes a mysterious and hermetic process, is due to its ingredients. The joy and excitement of working together is what I like to call the â€œmagicâ€? ingredient in each issue. Other ingredients include patience, acceptance of growth, change and the willingness to continually experiment with new concepts and materials. I find that passion and creativity have a way of showing up on their own.
The Montana Woman Celebrate Life Fashion Show and Fundraiser had all of the necessary ingredients to make the second year a huge success. On a sunny Sunday afternoon in mid-August over 200 people gathered for fashion, fun, food, music and a good cause (proceeds benefited the Montana Woman Foundation Scholarship Fund). The Montana Woman Foundation is a fantastic way to actively take part in supporting the best in others. Its mission is to provide assistance for the success of Montana women of all ages; to encourage these women to then give back to their communities by helping fellow Montana women in need, no matter their social, economic or cultural differences, and to promote useful feedback and a circle of giving. This foundation exists to support a community that recognizes and supports the beauty of our women, their dreams, and the power of their contribution to our lives. I would like to thank everyone who shared our vision by contributing their time, talent and support by helping us celebrate life at our fashion show and fundraiser.
Thank you to our sponsors: Anderson Broadcasting Cinderella Painting Crouch’s Jewelry Soucie and Soucie Lovelight Photography Kayla Adams Copper Moutain Band The Docks Restaurant Carson Brothers Yoga Room of Montana Glacier Wallflower Great Karma
And a final Thank You to all the community members, volunteers and local businesses for helping make this all possible. You are our “magic” ingredient and help our journey be filled with joy, laughter and kindness.
See you next year!
Thank you to local boutiques: 57 Boutique Lili Blue Smooch Children’s Boutique The Shops At Station 8 Sportsman & Ski Haus The Unique Boutique The Bling Shak The Summit Pro Shop Ethos Paris
Thank you to our talented Salons: Soucie and Soucie Gary Burton Hair Productions Essentials Day Spa Raj Salon Salon G Mirabelle McNamee Studios EM J Cosmetics
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I Call Her Greenperson By Ina Albert
Jason Alexander and his mother Ruth
For single mothers working their way toward financial and emotional stability, support from mentors is critical. Those who have made it through similar difficulties help us realize that no matter how trying things get, others have conquered these problems and become stronger as a result. They are a beacon of hope and a source of wisdom during challenging times. Working my way up the professional ladder as a single mother was not an easy climb. Add a messy divorce and two teenage boys to the mix, and it got even messier. Though I had some training in public relations and communication while working my way through college, I had no recommendations or long-term experience in the field. So I had to start from the bottom to establish myself as a decent writer and publicity hound to become a wage earner. At first I held three part time jobs to keep us afloat. Then a friend took pity when a position in his public relations firm opened up. He was my first mentor, and a really tough one at that. But I learned, and a few years later when I was offered a position with Newark hospital as Director of Public Relations, I grabbed it. A title and a small staff constituted a real step up the ladder. There was no mentor with this position. I had to learn on my own. Two years later, I was hired by a large suburban teaching hospital, to direct their new Department of Public Relations and Development. Another giant step, but this one was scary. Working with some of the best physicians in New Jersey, with interns and residents, and dealing with a threatened nurses’ strike and an aggressive press corps tested my metal. I needed help! How was I to handle it all? Enter Ruth Greenspan, the best mentor
and Jewish mother I know. Ruth started out as a nurse in the Emergency Department of a Newark Beth Israel Hospital, so she had seen it all. When I met her, she was directing the hospital’s teaching program for licensed practical nurses. We hadn’t been in touch in years, but a few months ago I received a call from one of Ruth’s friends asking if I was the Ina Albert who used to work at a hospital in Livingston, NJ. “Ruth was talking about old friends she’d lost track of and your name came up. We found you on Facebook. I’m calling to see if you remember Ruth and if you wanted to be in touch.” “Absolutely!” I answered, and then took her phone number and called that evening. We’ve been in contact ever since. G-d bless the Internet! When I decided to interview Ruth for this article, I asked her what she remembered about meeting me. She answered, “I thought you were a hot lady and a warm, good person. You were my cup of tea. So I asked you to have lunch with me to support you and warn you what you were up against.” “The attitudes of some people in the front office are not friendly to Jews,” she said. “So be careful. If you have a good idea, make sure you make them think it is theirs, not yours.” That turned out to be sage advice. Ruth and I worked on many projects together and I loved every minute of my time with her. When it came time for her retirement, I headed a retirement party committee in her honor. She asked me, “Do you remember the letter you wrote me that you read at the party?” I did not. “You called it ‘The Green Person,’ which is what you used to call me. I’ve kept the letter and recently pulled it out to take to my rabbi when I meet with him this weekend. Your Green Person letter
and my son Jason’s letter to me about always being there for him are the two pieces I want read at my funeral.” I am so honored. At 93, Ruth is still an involved and productive person. A founding member of the Democratic Club in her community, she attends Sabbath services every Friday night, is active in Hadassah, a women’s organization supporting health care in Israel, and just received a National Award for Outstanding Achievement from the Scleraderma Foundation. No, her health is not terrific. Her shoulders don’t move well so she needs help with some of the activities of daily living, and her asthma is worsening. Internet is a blessing. She keeps in touch with old friends like me, with her grandsons and her son in California. We all know her son. He is Jason Alexander, who plays George in the Seinfeld TV series. In fact, Ruth and her husband Alex made several appearances on the show. But the most important contribution she’s made in my life is showing me how to face adversity with a smile, speak truth to power, stay loyal to my values and support my own beliefs. My prayer is that I can leave as valuable legacy as Greenperson is leaving me.
Ina Albert, CSL, Life Transitions Coach, author and Adjunct Instructor at Flathead Valley Community College, can be contacted at Inaalbert@ me.com or visit www.AgingGloriously. com.
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Healthy… Together By Kelsie-lee Lindahl
We all begin a journey, no matter what it is, with a vision. What do you envision for yourself and your family? Do you want to be active with your husband and children? Do you want to share home cooked meals? Maybe you just want to be happy and healthy… together! Or perhaps you have another vision. Whatever it is you envision for yourself and your family, you can do it. Your journey to health has begun, and we will get there together. First, you need to be honest. Is your vision truly yours? You will only succeed if you strive for something you really want. Second, prioritize and set smaller goals along the way. It feels great to achieve a goal, no matter how small. Reward yourself for making progress. Third, do not be afraid to shoot for the moon! Even if you don’t make it all the way to the moon, being on top of the world feels pretty nice. Never let go of your vision. If you know that you want to get active with your family, think about it all day long. Get excited. Does just the thought of getting a bunch of stuff ready, packing everybody up and going somewhere exhaust you? Here is a little secret: simplicity. You will feel just as satisfied, if not more, if you just walk out your door for a stroll through your neighborhood. Take full, controlled breaths. Focus on positive conversation that includes each member of the family. Have everyone share what is new and good in their lives. If you know that you want to cook a healthy dinner for yourself and your family, think about it all day long. Get yourself excited. Keeping it simple is
the key. The human palate appreciates simple flavors and textures. Not only that, but you are more likely to actually cook and eat healthy if the process doesn’t become overwhelming. Try using five ingredients or less. Get the whole family involved by delegating tasks. This will make dinner even easier while you spend quality time together. Here’s a great example of a simple, healthy meal.
Four Ingredient Cookies
Two ripe bananas, one cup oats, one scoop brown rice protein powder and vanilla Mix all ingredients until smooth. Drop cookies onto a lightly sprayed cooking sheet. Lightly press to flatten a little. Bake at 350 for 15-20 minutes.
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Ginger Poached Pears with Honeyed Vanilla Custard By Cindy O’Boyle
I am a huge fan of pears. I plan on planting a pear tree – I’ll take a pear over an apple any day. They are sweeter, softer and have a great texture. Pears are at the markets now and seem to always find their way into my grocery cart. I recently discovered a new pear recipe that has secured a spot on my favorite dessert list. Yes, it is that good!
4 semi-ripe Bosc pears 4 12-ounce bottles of potent Ginger Beer (I use Reeds Extra Ginger Brew) The zest of one lemon, cut into strips that can easily be fished out of the poaching liquid 2 cups half and half 2 tablespoons honey ½ vanilla bean 3 egg yolks ¼ cup white sugar ¼ cup pecans, toasted 4 ginger snaps 2 tablespoons minced crystallized ginger, finally chapped
1. Peel the pears, cut them from top to bottom (keep the stem on one half, if you can, for presentation’s sake) and core them. I like to dig a bigger core hole than necessary as it makes a ready-made receptacle for the crumble topping when you serve them. 2. Pour the ginger beer in a pan big enough to hold the pears in a single layer and add the raw ginger and lemon zest. Arrange pears cut side down in the poaching liquid. To keep the pears from floating, I invert a pan cover that is slightly smaller than the pan I am using to poach the pears and place it on top of the poaching pears. Bring the liquid to a slow simmer and poach
the pears until they can be easily pierced with the tip of a knife. For large pears, that takes about 25-30 minutes.
read thermometer. When it hit that mark, strain the mixture through a sieve into a pitcher and set aside to cool.
3. When the pears are done, carefully remove them with a slotted spoon and set aside to cool completely.
6. Pulse the pecans a few times in a food processor. Add the ginger snaps and pulse a few more times until they are broken down. Stir in the crystallized ginger and cranberries.
4. Use a slotted spoon to fish out the lemon zest and ginger and put the poaching liquid back on medium low heat to reduce to about ¾ of a cup of spicy ginger syrup. Strain the reduced syrup into a pitcher. 5. To make the crème anglaise custard, pour the half and half and honey in the top pan of a double boiler. Slit the vanilla bean lengthwise and scrape its contents out of the pod. Place both the vanilla pod and its seeds into the cream mixture. With water in the bottom of the double boiler, put the pan on the heat and bring it up in temperature to just below a simmer. In a separate metal bowl, whisk the egg yolks with the sugar. When the cream is hot enough, slowly whisk 3-4 tablespoons of the hot cream into the egg mixture. Add another 3-4 tablespoons of cream to the egg mixture continuously whisking. Whisk the thinned egg mixture into the hot cream mixture and put the combination over the double-boiler heat until it reaches about 180 degrees on an instant
To assemble, pour a bit of syrup on the plate. Arrange one or two pear halves on top of it and pour a bit more syrup over the halves to give them a nice sheen. Generously fill the core holes with the crumble mixture. Either serve each plate with a small pitcher of custard, or pour a good amount over the pears before serving.
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Is Homeschool for You? By Andrea Blair
Upon moving to Montana nearly five years ago, I quickly came to realize that homeschool is a way of life for many families here. I’ve become acquainted with and marveled at more than one mom who has homeschooled multiple children at various levels of their education, and not only do they manage, they are quite adept at keeping a schedule that works for them, running relentlessly busy households and raising kids who are smart, polite, conscientious, fun-loving, great people. I have often wondered how they make it work and thought that I am definitely not cut out for homeschooling. But the option lingers in the back of my mind, surfacing often when I notice certain behaviors and inclinations in my children. I know that I am not alone in my trepidation, and with another school year about to commence, I consulted with Martha Artyomenko to help shed some light for any other families who
are wrestling with the idea of homebased education, how to get started, and how to know whether it’s the right choice for their own family. Martha Artyomenko, mother of four boys ages 8-15, was homeschooled as a kid. When it came time for her to make the decisions regarding education, it was not immediately clear that homeschool would be right for her as a parent. She knew that her oldest son was a bright boy who, like many boys, had a high level of energy that made sitting for any length of time a struggle; she was concerned he’d be trying for a teacher juggling a large classroom full of kids, and that he would struggle with absorbing the information being taught in that environment. As Martha prepared him for preschool, she had the opportunity to work with a public school teacher who was well versed in child development, and together they
realized that homeschool would be a better fit for Martha’s son. Now, she would like other families to know that they don’t have to be afraid to consider homeschool as an option. Not only are there many resources for homeschool support, information, extracurricular activities and choosing curricula, but Montana is known as one of the most liberal states in the U.S. when it comes to homeschool laws, or lack thereof, which is a good thing. Home educators in Montana are largely uninhibited by government; there are some very basic laws in place, but parents essentially have the freedom to choose what works for their family. When the Artyomenko family started out, Martha says she did a lot of research and reading about how to successfully teach her children, but says she didn’t want to share her
struggles or reach out to others in her community, for fear it would imply she was failing. In retrospect, Martha realizes that may have been her biggest error. “A homeschool mother needs a support team. Books, blogs and articles are great, but you need a team of other moms that can be there for you when the days are rough. The day I reached out and asked for help from our homeschool community was the day that my homeschool began to prosper in a much better way. Not everyone will need the level of support that I needed, but everyone needs some support on this journey. Read the books, but make sure you have someone to discuss them with. Don’t be an island.” Whatever reasons a family decides to homeschool are, there is a wide array of curricula to choose from that support many different lifestyles, learning habits and belief systems. Tailoring a child’s education to fit their learning style and the family’s core values takes some time. Not all families follow one curriculum and adopt an eclectic approach, some families unschool, some prefer a faith-based program, others prefer a more traditional textbook style of learning. Figuring out what works and what doesn’t is part of the process. One mother I spoke with was homeschooling just one of her four children, as he’d had to contend with health issues that set him back developmentally, as well as some subsequent bullying in school. Her plan was to gradually begin to homeschool all of the children. She’s still in the process of figuring out which curriculum works best, and finding that her preference depends on the subject matter. They will likely use several different programs to fit their families’ needs. “Choosing a curriculum is difficult...,” Martha advises, “as sometimes they can all look so good. My advice to a new homeschooler would be to visit with
some other homeschool mothers and ask to see their curriculum. If your kids are in school now, look at how they have been learning, their habits, what needs to change and improve, and take it slow. Choose a basic curriculum to start with, and branch out as you get to better know what they need. See what works for children similar to yours. Educate yourself on it. You’ll need to do lots of reading, asking and learning from other teachers in the homeschool community to find out about everything that is available. Take advantage of what is offered and don’t try to do it alone. “There is no ‘one size fits all’ when it comes to learning,” Martha shares. “I have learned that with a good schedule, most children can learn to adapt, even with all their differences.” Each of her kids is, of course, very different and has a different learning style. Each of them has experienced bumps in the road— everything from vision and hearing impairments that have set them back
in their studies, to attention issues. In addition to that, if one child requires more supervision or guidance in a certain area, Martha can accommodate those needs, and on the same token, allow the children to advance at their own pace in their schooling. Some children need more supervision than others, and one child clearly does better with his studies in the evening. A typical day in the Artyomenko household begins at 8 a.m. Martha says that compared to a public school, they probably accrue more school hours in a day, but not all of those hours take place at a desk or come in the form of bookwork. As the boys eat their breakfast, Martha will often read aloud from a schoolbook. Three to four hours of bookwork will usually follow, and then hands on lessons in science, art, library, computer or other activities take place. Education has become their lifestyle, and any opportunity to learn
is taken advantage of. “That is not to say we don’t have fun,” Martha clarifies, “but we have fun while we’re learning as well. The learning doesn’t stop because we’ve finished our bookwork. Our outings are often geared around something we are studying. Bedtime stories are on subjects we are reading about in history books. DVDs in the car may be math, science or history oriented.” Scheduling is another perk of homechooling. Families are free to establish a routine that works for them, having flexibility to schedule around special events, individual activities, or learning styles that may require more frequent breaks or peak times of day for optimal learning. If you’ve ever heard the argument that homeschooled kids aren’t well socialized, you probably didn’t hear it in the Flathead—there many, many activities that kids enjoy while learning social skills here: theater, sports, band, choir, spelling bees and contests of all sorts; too many activities, says Martha, for them to be able to participate in them all. Families enjoy field trips together and collaborate in their studies as well. Because children are not segregated by age group all day as they would be in a traditional classroom, kids of all ages learn to coexist and cooperate very well together, learning leadership skills, empathy, conflict resolution and other critical social skills, creating friendships and even mentors amongst the teens and younger children; the older kids are often involved with helping the younger children with their lessons. In addition, kids are able to be themselves in an environment where they feel safe, become independent thinkers, and more comfortably come to appreciate their own individuality, as well as accept that of their peers.
It stands to reason that children who have a learning environment and curriculum customized to their individual pace and style of learning will have a greater probability of achieving academic success. Research Facts on Homeschooling, published by Dr. Brian Ray, PhD, on the National Home Education Research Institute’s (NHECI) website, sights a long list of compelling reasons for home-based education, such as: Homeschool students score above average on achievement tests regardless of their parents’ level of formal education or their family’s household income. Home-educated students typically score above average on the SAT and ACT tests that colleges consider for admissions. The home-educated are doing well, typically above average, on measures of social, emotional, and psychological development. Research measures include peer interaction, self-concept, leadership skills, family cohesion, participation in community service, and self esteem. [The homeeducated] Internalize the values and beliefs of their parents at a very high rate. Dr. Ray’s report also indicates that homeschooled kids often go on to become adults who are likely to attend college and do well in their studies,
are overall happy with their education and are likely to opt for home-based education for their own children. A successful and fulfilling learning experience for children is far more likely in any learning environment when we take a proactive and committed role in their education. For Montana families who are considering homeschool, a thriving network of like-minded people and resources can be very instrumental in making the decision and then creating the learning atmosphere that is right for them. For more information and resources in Montana, visit the websites of Flathead Home Educators Association, Homeschooling in Montana and the Montana Coalition of Home Educators.
Bedtime Stories for Grownups
By Pat MCGlynn
wanted to squeeze into this short period of time. The first thing we did was walk to the docks where we reserved a two man kayak for the next morning. Neither of us had kayaked in the ocean but the weather was gorgeous and it would be an adventure. We had canoed many times in the Adirondacks and felt confident. The next morning was sunny and clear. We went down to the docks where our kayak awaited. It was bright yellow and it looked sunny and cheerful floating on the water under the blue sky. Windbreakers, life jackets, paddles and whistles, in case of an emergency, were provided. As we paddled out of the harbor, we headed for a near-by island. We had spied it while on a lobster boat tour the previous year. On the island we had seen an old, abandoned light house. This was worth investigating.
My daughter Sarah and I love the ocean. We are like lemmings that make a yearly pilgrimage to the shore, only we donâ€™t throw ourselves over. Our favorite destination is a small fishing village north of Boston that we had discovered when Sarah was about five years old. Originally it was a family trip, but most recently it has been Sarah and I that have kept up the tradition. When she was 17, I had returned to college to complete my degree. I lived about three hours from her and our contact was limited to every other weekend visits, email and phone calls. We eagerly anticipated stealing away to
the beach in Massachusetts at the end of August for a few days of bonding. This was going to be no ordinary trip. We drove to Rockport early one morning. I surprised Sarah by renting a motel room on Bearskin Neck where the water came right up to our window. Considering I was living on a grad student stipend and college loans, it was a major splurge. The look on her face when she saw our room made it worth it. We could watch the sunset over the town across the bay from our little balcony. It was a bit of heaven for four days. As we unpacked the car we chattered about all the things we
As we left the safety of the harbor and entered the open water, the paddling became more difficult. The wind came up and the waves were sweeping over the bow. We made it to the island and attempted to land on the closest side. The waves were too high and the rocks too steep. We paddled our way around to the back side of the island where the wind was blocked. At this location, we could guide ourselves into a gravely cove. Sarah and I pulled the kayak high onto the beach and left the oars and other supplies inside the bow. We hiked across the island and took photos of each other in front of the light house. Sarah looked for sea creatures in the tidal pools while I scrambled across the rocks and weeds to peek through the windows of the dilapidated house. I wondered about the families that may have lived here and what their lives must have been like. The eternal romantic in me wondered if this had been an island hideaway for two lovers
or a miserable existence for a woman stranded out here with a tiny house and ten kids. It made me laugh at all the possibilities. We discussed where we would head off to next as we returned to the cove to board our kayak. When we got to our destination, we stared at each other in disbelief. The tide had come up, the winds had become stronger and our kayak had been swept out to sea. We looked and looked, and on the horizon there it was; we could see that bright yellow kayak bobbing out on the Atlantic getting smaller by the minute. We were stranded. Every once in a while we could see a lobster boat returning to the harbor. We began blowing our whistles and waved our arms each time a boat passed. With the sound of the wind and the waves, no one heard our whistles. They did see us wave our arms and they pleasantly waved back. I began to consider options. I didn’t have many. We were pretty much doing all of them. After about an hour, a fishing boat began heading our way. We waved to him and I could tell the man was actually directing his boat towards us. As he approached, I yelled to him and described our plight. He could not land where we had climbed up to the rocky side of the island. I jumped in the water and swam to his boat in hopes of rescuing the kayak. Sarah waited on shore with the camera and would meet us shortly in the sandy cove. The fisherman explained to me that he had been out fishing since dawn and had taken a break to catch a nap when he heard our whistles. As we turned towards the sea, a larger boat arrived. It was the Coast Guard. Contractors working on a beach house had heard the whistles, used their binoculars to locate us on the island
and phoned the Coast Guard. The officers pulled alongside the fishing boat and I explained the situation. I asked them if they would take Sarah back to the harbor and I would stay with the fisherman and retrieve the kayak which was quickly vanishing from sight. The officers said they could not allow me to stay out on the ocean, it was their duty to see both Sarah and I back to the harbor. They would send the kayak owner out to find the kayak. I almost cried. I could just make out the last yellow dot on the horizon. I thanked the fisherman and off we sailed. The kayak owner was waiting at the rental shop. I described the location of the kayak. I asked if I could join him to show him where it was and again I was told to stay put. Grounded. He sent me to his office to fill out the necessary paperwork. Sitting on the sales counter was an estimate of what I owed the kayak company; one thousand dollars for the kayak, two hundred dollars each for the paddles and one hundred for the windbreakers. We owed the kayak company a total of $1,500. I was in shock. How would I ever come up with that kind of money? Sarah and I returned to our motel room, numb with disbelief. The day had changed course so quickly. We were wet, tired and devastated. An hour later the kayak owner called. He had not been able to find the kayak. I asked why the charge was so high. It was the end of the season and there was a huge sign in front of his place stating that the kayaks and the supplies were all half price. He said, “That is next week, not this week.” I said, “You must have business insurance to cover this kind of loss or for accidents.” He said, “No.” Fifteen hundred dollars is what he wanted. He was heading out again to make a final search and he wanted me to stop by the office again to arrange payment.
I walked out on to our deck and the tears fell. Why had this happened? What was the lesson here? Things were already so difficult in my life right now and this was just too much. How could I possibly get this money? Would this be the straw that broke the camel’s back? Would I completely come unglued at the seams? Would I have to give up my dreams of a college diploma? I was trying to find a meaning to all of this. Was there any meaning? My oldest daughter likes to tell me, “Sometimes a flat tire is just a flat tire.” Maybe this was one of those times.
“Just then Sarah appeared next to me. She laid her head on my shoulder and wept. She said, “This is all my fault. You did all of this for me; the motel on the water, the kayak trip, the vacation – all for me – and now look what happened. God is so unfair. You tried to be so good to me, and look!” I felt her pain and anguish. “ Just then Sarah appeared next to me. She laid her head on my shoulder and wept. She said, “This is all my fault. You did all of this for me; the motel on the water, the kayak trip, the vacation – all for me – and now look what happened. God is so unfair. You tried to be so good to me, and look!” I felt her pain and anguish.
At that moment I had a revelation of sorts. I knew what we were going to do. I said, “Sarah, dry your eyes. There is absolutely nothing we can do about the kayak now. It is in the hands of the Divine. Whatever will be, will be. We can’t get our money back from the motel and we still have cash left in our pocket. You and I have two more beautiful days on the ocean together. We can both sit here and cry or we can enjoy the days we have.” I reminded her that we had been planning on having a lobster dinner on the dock and that is exactly what we are going to do. “I love you, and I am choosing to enjoy every moment with you. I am not willing to let the kayak take that away from me.” I was painfully aware of how limited our time was together and I was not willing to sacrifice one minute. I had to let go. In my mind I could still see that yellow kayak bobbing out to sea, but I chose not to dwell on it. Sarah smiled and agreed. We ate our lobster on the dock where the fishing boats unloaded, and then we visited the little shops in town. On our way back to the motel we stopped and drank tea and split a decadent chocolate torte. We shared stories and laughed.
The next morning we went to the kayak owner. He was in disbelief. The kayak had been returned with everything intact, the paddles, the windbreakers – everything. Nothing had to be replaced. He said, “In those winds, with those waves, it is impossible for anything to have stayed in that kayak.” Sarah and I knew differently. We had been given a miracle. The owner asked for $100.00 for his inconvenience and I gave it to him happily. Nothing could have pleased me more.
When you look at your own life: Are you wasting time and energy on something that you cannot control? Are you blocking joy and love that you could be enjoying today by focusing on needless concerns? Do you have the faith and the trust to turn your fears over to the Divine? Do you have a symbol, like the yellow kayak, that you can conjure in your mind that will help you let go?
What a lesson this had been for me. Still today when I feel myself worrying over things I cannot control I have to remind myself of the lesson sent to me that day. I think of the little yellow boat out on the endless ocean, barely visible as it slipped out of sight. we trade montana woman_Layout 1 4/17/13 8:38 AM Page 1
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It was dark by the time we wandered back to our door. The motel owner was out walking his dog. We waved and he came running up to us. He exclaimed, “I have been looking all over for you. Your car was still here so I knew you couldn’t be far. They found the kayak!” He said a fisherman from Gloucester had found the boat about 10 miles out to sea. He was worried when there were no people in it, so he radioed the Coast Guard. The Coast Guard told him they had rescued the people earlier that day but no one could find the boat. The fisherman had taken the kayak home and would return it in the morning. Sarah and I were ecstatic beyond explanation.
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Real Food Revival
Harvest Time By Amy Grisak
September is the month when most of us finish harvesting. There might be a few veggies left in the garden in October if we’re enjoying a particularly long, warm autumn, but for the most part, September is when we’re bursting at the seams with abundance. What do you do with it once it’s picked? Here are a few ideas: Tomatoes – Ideally, I would pick huge amounts that all ripen at once, then take a day to can them, but it usually doesn’t happen that way. It’s more like I pick a bunch of red and green ones, and set them in the garage until I get my act together. The easiest way to keep them is to wash them and pop them (whole) into freezer bags and into the freezer. To use them, just toss them in soup or sauce and fish out the skin with a fork. If you don’t want to deal with the skin, you can blanch them for a couple of minutes in boiling water and the skin will peel off. Then put it in a freezer bag. After Marcia Bundi, one of my favorite people here in Great Falls, taught me how to make a delicious spread with dried tomatoes, I also started dehydrating them. I cut them a little thinner than a half inch thick, and dry
them for probably close to 24 hours. The spread is made with 3-4 (or more) cloves of garlic (minced), a cup of dehydrated tomatoes, 8 oz. of softened cream cheese, ¼ cup of softened butter, splash of balsamic vinegar, and salt to taste. Blitz it all together and allow it to set in the fridge for a couple of hours before serving it with good artisan bread. I don’t even like tomatoes and I love this. Peppers – I try not to pick my sweet peppers until they’re red. The flavor difference is huge. I can usually keep them to use fresh for at least a couple of weeks, and if I have an abundance I will cut them and freeze them (without blanching). You can’t really use them in salads, but they’re great to toss into cooked dishes. Celery – We grow a lot of celery, too. I freeze most of it, once again to use in cooked dishes. You can also keep it fairly fresh in a trench in the back yard. Dig it a couple of feet deep and set the celery with the root end down. Place blankets and a tarp over the top and cover with straw or mulch at least a foot deep. Carrots – Freezing and canning carrots is always a good option. They’re also easy to keep fresh if you use the bucket
method. Bury a five-gallon bucket until it’s flush with the top. Crumple newspaper and place it in the bottom of the bucket, then start stacking the washed carrots like cordwood. When it’s nearly full, place more crumpled newspaper on the top. Don’t put a lid on it, but set a bale of straw over the top. You can put a tarp over that so it’s easier to access during the winter. Onions – Onions can stay in the ground until nearly a hard freeze. When you harvest them, knock off the dirt, and then spread them on a tarp or table to allow them to cure for at least a week. After the onions are cured, you can store them for the winter in onion sacks, which provide plenty of air circulation, or in a drawer or box in a dark area. Many varieties will keep until next summer. September is a wonderful time of the summer. It’s a great feeling to have everything you’ve worked so hard all summer finally stored up for the winter. It takes some effort to get it all done, but when you’re using your vegetables when there’s snow on the ground it’s certainly worth the work!
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By Amy McKerrow, MD Urologist at Urology Associates
Amy McKerrow, MD, (left) and Kim Conlin, PA-C (back) discuss options for an over active bladder.
Today, approximately 33.3 million persons in the United States, or 16.5 percent of our population, struggle with the problem of overactive bladder. As many as 50 percent of those over the age of 75 can experience significant symptoms. Overactive bladder includes symptoms of urinary urgency, the inability to postpone urination, frequent urination (sometimes as often as several times per hour and throughout the night) and leakage of urine requiring wearing of pads or changing of clothes. For many people, finding a public restroom when they need one can be a challenge. These conditions can be bothersome,
embarrassing, and sometimes debilitating, to a point where a person may not want to leave their home. TV commercials expose the public to many different treatment options for overactive bladder. The accepted treatment options are behavioral therapy (retraining of the bladder), biofeedback (also known as muscle rehabilitation with physiotherapy), medications, injection of botulinum toxin (Botox) into the bladder, bladder surgery, and nerve stimulation strategies including peripheral tibial nerve stimulation (PTNS) and InterStim. The goal of treating someone with overactive bladder is choosing a
therapy that will effectively treat the problem with few side effects. Often patients have struggled with the problem for many years before seeking help because they are embarrassed or do not believe there are successful treatments. When more conservative measures fail, including medications, there are other treatment avenues available for urgency and leakage of urine and fecal incontinence. Recently, Urology Associates has been focusing on neuromodulation, or regulating the signals sent between the bladder, bowel and brain. Neuromodulation treatments have been offered at Urology Associates
over the last three years using PTNS. This involves placing a small needle, similar to an acupuncture needle, in the ankle and sending electrical impulses to the bladder via the tibial nerve. The treatment is not painful and is delivered in the office once weekly over a several month period. Improvement in urinary urgency and frequency symptoms can be seen in up to 60-80 percent of patients. InterStim is another option and can be simply described as a “bladder pacemaker.” The bladder is made of muscle, which is controlled by nerve fibers, which communicate with the brain. The brain sends the signal to the bladder to empty. In some patients those signals are sent at the wrong time. The InterStim device is used to regulate these signals to a more normal pattern. Patients are tested first to see if the therapy will be successful before placing a permanent implant. Either in the office or under minimal anesthesia
in the outpatient surgical center, a thin wire electrode is placed into the sacrum (the base of the vertebral column) and hooked to a stimulator the patient wears on their waist. If there is a good response to the trial period, a permanent stimulator and wire are placed. InterStim therapy was approved by the Federal Drug Agency in 1997 and has an excellent track record of success. It is suitable for many patients, even those who feel they are at the end of the line for treatment options. Not only does InterStim treat urinary frequency and urinary incontinence, but it is also indicated for urinary retention, or inability to urinate, in certain cases. Most recently, InterStim was approved for fecal or bowel incontinence. Sometimes, people are not even aware the leakage is occurring. Studies have shown success rates of between 50-79 percent depending on the type of incontinence. For many men and women, this is the long awaited answer they have been looking for.
More information about PTNS treatment: http://www.uroplasty. com/patients; or for InterStim at www. everyday-freedom.com or 1-800-7070933. Dr. Amy McKerrow is a BoardCertified Urologist at Urology Associates and has practiced in Kalispell and Whitefish for eight years. She has a general urology practice and takes a special interest in urinary incontinence. Along with Kim Conlin, certified physician assistant, and Marla Worthington, certified medical assistant and special procedure clinician, she offers an entire spectrum of treatment options for overactive bladder.
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Spice Up Your Spice Jars One household item I love to collect and reuse is spice jars. Cute and so very versatile, I can’t go through my spices quickly enough! When my girls bring in nosegays of dandelions, clover, daisies and other flowers throughout the spring and summer, our spice jars are the perfect size to display their bouquets. As the last of our beautiful summer flowers fade, have the kids help you with creating sweetly decorated spice jars to brighten up your indoor space. Don’t throw away the plastic lids with the holes; they can be used to support flowers with weak stems, or just hold a single flower upright. (You can easily
create a slightly bigger hole in the lid if the existing holes are too small.) The number of ways to decorate your spice jars is endless. Wrap them with paper or twine, glue on buttons, paint or decoupage with tissue paper or fun images. One of my favorite ways to decorate them is to use decorative tape (Washi). Washi tape is the about the most fun and versatile craft supply out there today, and it works so well with the spice jars because it’s transparent and beautiful in the sunlight and comes off easily to create a new look when you’re ready. A coordinating set is adorable and makes a sweet gift for a teacher, a fun valentine, or if you paint and decorate the lid, will make a whimsical way to present a gift
(think earrings, gift certificates, cash or candy!) that the recipient can reuse as well.
Here are the 4 easy steps:
Wash and soak your spice jar so the label removes easily. A scouring pad will usually remove any residue, but if it doesn’t all come off, no worries. Cover it with your design. If you are wrapping the jar in Washi tape, twine or other material, measure around the jar and cut lengths accordingly, allowing extra if you’ll be tying any knots or bows. Create the spice jar of your dreams. Add your flowers and admire!
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You’ve Got the Power! By Holly Alastra, RD, MSC
“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms— to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” ~Victor Frankl
September is Self-Awareness Month. As we get to know ourselves better through gentle curiosity, we can see more clearly where we are stuck and the changes we might like to make. One way people tend to get stuck is by thinking negatively. How we feel is a result of how we think, so becoming aware of our thoughts can have a huge impact on the quality of our life. If we can make our thoughts more positive, we will feel good more often. Many of us learn to be outer-directed versus inner-directed. This means we feel good or bad based on external situations rather than learning to think ourselves into positive feelings. In other words, we blame the world or other people for our problems. So if our life is going well we feel good, and if it’s not we feel bad. As thinking humans we have a choice as to how we respond to any given situation. Even in the worst situations, we can choose to think in such a way that will allow us to feel better. Do you believe that you are in charge of how you feel in any given moment? Or
do you think that the circumstances of your life determine how you feel? I used to think that my life circumstances determined how I felt. If I got stuck behind slow moving traffic, I’d immediately think that I didn’t have time to creep along at a snail’s pace. I’d project myself fifteen minutes into the future walking in late to wherever I was headed, and tell myself how everyone was sure to be upset with me. I’d curse the cars in front of me. I’d try to make them move by inching my car forward. None of this worked, and my inability to change or accept the situation left me with a pounding heart and a sick stomach. I wasn’t self-aware enough to examine the thoughts that were leading me to feel anxious and upset. I didn’t realize that I could think differently. Now when I get stuck in traffic, I remind myself that I have been given a moment to think about everything in life that I am grateful for, or to pray for others, or to reflect upon how I’d like my day to go, or just to take a few deep breaths and calm myself down. The traffic is
now a gift rather than a hindrance. After all, I can’t transform my car into a plane and fly out of the traffic. But I can grow mental wings, and fly above it in my mind. Victor Frankl was a holocaust survivor who made the decision to keep a positive attitude in a Nazi Concentration Camp where he was starved and his family died. If he can feel good under those circumstances, I figure I better be able to feel good in a little traffic! The same goes for any situation we find ourselves in. If you don’t like the situation, change it. If you can’t or don’t choose to change it, then it makes good sense to accept it. It really is that simple. When people talk of changing their situations, we often hear drastic examples, like leaving a spouse, quitting a job, and moving to a desert island. But sometimes we can change our situation subtly, and that’s enough to make a huge difference in our well-being. For example, if you are unhappy with your spouse, divorce may not be the
only option. Look at your role in the relationship. Are you giving it all you’ve got to make it good? Are you choosing to acknowledge all of the positive qualities about your spouse, or are you just focusing on the bad things? We get more of whatever we focus on, so whenever a relationship isn’t going well, it’s helpful to ask yourself where you have been directing your attention. Start acknowledging your spouse for anything good and you’ll likely start to see more of those good things. Of course, counseling and marriage retreats are another great option.
your work to meet your needs? Maybe you can take on some assignments that are more in-line with your interests, or maybe you’d like to go part-time.
really given it our best effort? Accepting your life as it is doesn’t mean you need to become complacent. It does mean that you can feel good as you work toward new goals. Through the power of your thoughts, you can think your life as good as you want it to be. Choose your own way. Make it awesome!
Instead of moving to a desert island, you might … well … go ahead and move. Bask in the sun and sip an icy drink for the rest of us. Maybe someday I’ll join you. But kidding aside, before we complain about any situation, it behooves us to ask ourselves what we have done to make the situation better. Have we
Rather than quitting your job, figure out what it is you really don’t like about it and see if you can make some adjustments. Just like with your spouse, are you fully showing up for your job, and giving it your best effort? Ask yourself how you might be able to adjust
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In Your Nature By Jenna Caplette
Hydrate for Health
The first time I went on a solo retreat at the feet of the Crazy Mountains and gave up food and water for four days, I dreamed water. Cool. Clear. Icy. Refreshing. I could taste it, imagine myself holding a glass of water, tipping it back and drinking, quenching my thirst. Waking and asleep, I replayed that scenario. After my retreat, I jumped in a stream and after that, my first sip of clear, healthy, drinking water was beyond wonderful, unbelievably rejuvenating. Going without water makes vivid something it’s easy to lose track of: it is the essence of life. We are water. Our brain and muscles are three-quarters water, blood 82%, and our lungs are about 90% water. Bones are up to one-quarter water. Cells use water to communicate. It holds the cells of your body together, transmits nutrients through cell walls. Water and your body’s capacity to utilize it are essential to health. So I’m still startled when a new BodyTalk client tells me, “I hate water.” Many have replaced water with other drinks but fluids do not take the place of water in the body. The only thing that works like water in the body is water. A BodyTalk instructor put it this way, “Would you wash your kitchen counter in cola, or water your garden with Kombucha?” Caffeinated drinks like tea, coffee and colas are dehydrating. Dehydration stresses the body, can cause headaches and intensify pain. It clogs the lymph system and impairs metabolism. When you’re dehydrated you are likely to feel lethargic and will have diminished success from energy-based therapies like Reiki, acupuncture, and BodyTalk. The purer, the healthier the water you drink, the better. Water has a crystalline structure that stores information, holding energetic blueprints. Piped-in water travels a
network of pipes, navigating sharp, geometric angles— angles water would not traverse in nature. Does it matter? Some research suggests that what happens to water affects its vital health, what it communicates to your body and how it communicates with your body. A well-known piece of research by Dr. Emoto from Japan was presented in the book, The Message from Water. Emoto photographed water crystals from clear, pure water and chemically polluted water, water crystals that had been exposed to varied emotions and thoughts. His photographs show that water has personality and crystalline form beyond its chemical composition.
spread on the ground. A farm couple and their grandchildren were filling the containers. I understand why. The water from that spring is amazing— full of life energy. I’ve brought home drinking water from Yellowstone, from springs in Idaho, from mountain retreats. Before piped in and bottled water became so easily accessible, favored springs were travel destinations and people often collected drinking water in their travels. It’s easy to forget how precious water really is. As the dryness of late summer gives way to autumn, remind yourself.
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Intuitive Insights By Mel Mathes
Manifesting Your Destiny Dear Readers, There have been times in my life where unexpected things happened and I couldn’t help laughing at myself for being surprised. Sometimes we all manifest things and events in our life and we forget that we were the ones that created them in the first place. Recently I found myself marveling over the turn of events in a situation. I realized in order for me to have what I wanted and for everyone else to have what they wanted...we must have been manifesting the same thing...consciously or not! We were planning a little family reunion for my Mother’s 80th birthday. I was really looking forward to seeing her and reconnecting with my sister and brothers. It’s rare for all of us to be together as we all live in different parts of the country. Maybe I’m selfish, I love my Mother and sister...I really wanted to be around my brothers and get to know them better. During family events it seemed we never had enough time just to hang out with each other! Growing up we didn’t always each see eye to eye...we each had our own distinct personalities. As we got older we lost contact
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with each other. Maybe it’s because I’m getting older, but in the past few years I found myself thinking about my brothers. I guess we’re all getting older...I recently found out they were thinking about me too! My sister was unable to make it to my Mother’s birthday party. She arrived after my brothers and I had left for our homes. My brothers and I have reconnected... I feel like we really know each other as adults. We spent five days together...we got up much earlier than usual and we fished on the ocean, we cooked great food for each other, we watched cartoons, we stayed up late, we watched the sun disappear into the ocean and more! We each did everything we had hoped to do.... together. We had a wonderful time laughing at long ago memories, finding out how much alike we were and how different we were as well. I found out things about them I never knew and they found out things about me...more reasons to love each other. My brothers
and I now enjoy a close relationship with each other. My sister and Mother had a great time together...shopping! I guess everyone manifested what they wanted and needed! Try to be aware of all the things you manifest...big and little. You do it much more than you think.... green lights, fresh coffee, smiling faces, the telephone call you were waiting for, finding a perfect parking spot and getting to work on time when you know there was no way you could do it. Manifesting small things are easiest. You will find that you thought of a small thing once and never thought about it again. You may not even remember you thought it...only you just realized all the lights were green...again! I used to refer to my little manifestations as parlor tricks. Once you’ve mastered the little things, you might find bigger things are easier to manifest. They can be a little harder
to manifest because sometimes we can over-think them and make them harder than they need to be. The Law of Attraction or co-creating are other ways to refer to manifesting. My sessions are generally twenty minutes to one hour long. I’m available 10:00 AM to 10:00 PM MT. You can reach me by telephone at 1-406-8928034 or 1-888-396-6600. Or you can meet me in my office! You can also view me on my website mel mathes.com or Facebook! I will also answer questions in upcoming issues that are sent to my email address: mel email@example.com. I’m looking forward to hearing from you! P.S. Watch for my Specials on Facebook!
Look to the Stars
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Virgo / August 23 – September 22
You may need some time alone to bring yourself back to center. Independence is the key idea to keep in your back pocket. Make sure you’re not becoming a victim to a commitment you made long ago. As the landscape changes, you must also change. Stubborn actions will be detrimental on a day like this. Be honest and grateful for the things you have.
Libra / September 23 – October 22 Don’t automatically think that beauty has to be defined by old-fashioned standards. It’s time to change the definition. There is no need to squeeze yourself into a socially constructed mold that doesn’t resonate with who you truly are. Your job isn’t to try and make sure everyone loves you. There’s only one person you need to satisfy and that is you.
Aquarius / January 20 – February 18 You might be called upon to choose between two ways of handling a situation. The old way suddenly conflicts with the new. Which way are you going to proceed? Don’t be thrown off course by fast talk and neon lights just because they grab attention. On the other hand, don’t assume that the way that has worked forever is still the best. Use your intuition to choose the best route for you.
Scorpio / October 23 – November 21 Issues may get a little heavier than you’d like this month. Your job is to infuse some levity and humor into the situation. Your adaptability will be put to the test as other people remain steadfast in their opinions. Be conscious of how you use your words. Other people, especially superiors or elders, may be offended by careless, offhand remarks.
Pisces / February 19 – March 20 Unexpected events could shuffle the cards when you least expect it. If you haven’t kept a close eye on the deck, you might get thrown for a loop. Don’t be discouraged. Everyone else is playing under the same rules as you. If the dealer seems crooked, go to another table. Don’t fall victim to the same trick twice.
Sagittarius / November 22 – December 21 If the doorknob doesn’t turn - don’t force it. You will only break it. Perhaps you need to try another door. If things don’t flow smoothly into place, then they probably weren’t meant to be. Life shouldn’t always be a struggle. Your job is to enjoy it. Remember that the next time you’re in a long line. View the situation as a period of rest.
Aries / March 21 – April 19 Your sense of self may be challenged this month and you might have trouble keeping your seat during the joust. Keep in mind that the way others see you isn’t necessarily the way you are. Don’t feel like you have to change direction to please anyone. Your only responsibility is to you. Bizarre events may occur, urging you to change your thinking.
Capricorn / December 22 – January 19 Your new approach to things might get some flack from superiors, but don’t let that stop you. Realize that your independent and somewhat rebellious nature helps to keep the world in balance. Don’t give up the fight when authorities insist that their way of doing things is best when in fact it’s simply old. Use your will and determination to combat the forces from above.
Taurus / April 20 – May 20 As you follow the path toward acquiring the latest, greatest, fastest, and best, you may have left behind some fundamental values. Don’t lose sight of the principles that make up your foundation. You could be shaken today when your ego goes on trial for pig-headed behavior. Stay in check and
be conscious of the way you project yourself to others. Gemini / May 21 – June 20 Key in to your sensual, beautiful nature. Take time each day to tend to your soul and make sure it gets the nourishment it needs to radiate into the world. Unexpected people are likely to appear out of nowhere, so don’t be surprised when a former lover comes knocking on the door. Events from the past may travel to the present in order to teach you a valuable life lesson. Cancer / June 21 – July 22 You may feel a nervous restlessness that’s urging you to get moving. A journey to one place may send you off to another, which may take you on an adventure to some completely different place. It may seem like you’re on a crazy scavenger hunt. The energy of the day could leave you feeling ragged, but don’t give up. Your persistence will pay off in the end. Leo / July 23 – August 22 A good tip to remember is to be careful about what you say about other people. If you’re speaking about someone who isn’t present, act like he or she is. What’s your motivation for saying the things you say? Is it necessary to speak in such a way? A negative comment about someone is going to resonate through the cosmos. People could lose trust in you.
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