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March Features Editor’s Note On our Cover Steppin’ Out - Fitness Fanatic Velma Cameron Cover Story - Velma Cameron pp. 5 - 7 View from the North 40 - Return of MegaWoman Bits and Pieces - BB Queen Ciropractic Perspectives - If Pain is Causing You to Do Less... Snapshots of Life - Linnie Peyton - Part Two Peaks and Valleys - Colonoscopy Soul Responsibilities - Blessed are the Poor in Spirit Financial Focus - It’s Tax Time Again Living Well - Your First Visit to a Licensed Acupuncturist Cover photo by Jill Courtney In The Light - Christian McCarthy Healthy Living - Good Health Starts with the Colon Well Being - Be Nice to Your Knees Woman to Woman - Postpartum Depression Homework with Rhonda - Seasonal Chores Just Stoppin’ By - March, Neither Winter nor Spring In the Scheme of Things - Failed Exepectations Page 9 Living Beautifuly - Hello, Gorgeous The Awakened Mind - Dysregulation Disorders Age-ing to Sage-ing ® - My Hero Montana Postcard Spreading Sunshine - Spring Break Dragonfly Effect - Mindfulness Page 23 Words Make Worlds - Food Illusions Business on My Mind - Thank Customers Who Complain Tattered Tales - The Old Man’s Winter Dream Facing the Odds - When Circumstances Change Matters of the Heart - Empathy, Emotions Clutter Control - Bin There, Done That? Real Food Revival - Tips for Planning a Garden Page 37 Panache - Colored Sand Vases From the Kitchen of Montana Woman - Cucumber Hummus 49 Candid Cuisine - Haskill Station 50 In Loving Memory - Loving Terms of Endearment 52 Petals, Projects and Pizazz - Indoor Calla Lilies 53 Lipstick Logic - Nutrition and Health Page 42 54 Life’s Essentials - Liar, Liar 54 At My Mother’s Knee 55 Look to the Stars 55 Jewels - There’s No Place Like Home... Go There 56 Montana Woman InBox 3 4 5 8 9 10 13 14 15 16 19 20 22 23 23 24 25 26 26 31 32 33 34 37 38 41 42 43 44 47 48 48 49

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Behind The Scenes

Sandra Lonon - Assistant Editor Sandra grew up in North Carolina, but has called Montana home since the late 80’s. She lives in Bigfork with her husband, Gene, and their two dogs. She is the mother of three entertaining and independent children. After a long career working with children with special needs, Sandra is enjoying editing in her semi-retirement. She also serves on the board of the Montana Woman Foundation.

Nanci Williams - Graphic Design Nanci has been a graphic designer for more years than she can remember, having worked with design studios, advertising agencies, architects, music promoters, and in TV news. She was born in New York, raised in Georgia, and lives in Kalispell with her partner, Charles, and their dogs.

Ellie Maier - Advertising Director Ellie came to the magazine from Ireland where she grew up. Here in Montana, beside being an asset to the magazine as an advertising director, she has become a talented nail technician, enjoys traveling and exploring, writing, and meeting new challenges. Her Irish laden accent charms and engages!

Jill Courtney - Photographer Originally from Minnesota, Jill moved to Montana in 1985 for bigger mountains and smaller mosquitoes. She is a comfortably diversified photographer, living with her family in Whitefish and affectionately called the Pixlady by her local subjects. Jill enjoys sharing beautiful, interesting and compelling pieces of art as seen through her lens.

March Contributors nn Ina Albert, CSL, a life transitions coach, teaches Age-ing to Sage-ing® Seminars, and is co-author of Write Your Self Well... Journal Your Self to Health. She has 40 years experience in healthcare communications, administration and interpersonal communications training. Contact inaalbert@aol.com or call (406) 863-2333. nn Pam Burke lives with her one-armed husband and several four-legged freeloaders on 80 acres of north-central Montana. Despite rumors, she was not involved in the arm incident, but she is the guinea pig in a DNA study looking at genetic markers for smart alecks. Visit Pam at her new blog site, www.viewfromthenorth40.com. nn Jenna Caplette is a Shamanic LifeCoach, Energy Healer, and Writing Coach of Bozeman. She writes to and works with people ready to live outside the ordinary, both personally and professionally. Integral to Jenna’s work is her committed belief that in every challenge hides an opportunity; that the answers to our challenges come through a synergy of realigning with natural cycles, reaccessing traditional wisdoms, and a lively interest in the best of contemporary thinking. 406-920-2691 www. jennacaplette.com nn Jessica Crist lives in Great Falls. She and her husband, Turner Graybill, are the parents of 2 adult children. Rhiannon is a doctoral student at Berkeley, and Raphael is a White House intern, on his way to Oxford University. She is the Bishop of the Lutheran Church (ELCA) in Montana, and travels not only across Montana and Northern Wyoming, but to Bolivia, South Africa and Israel/Palestine. nn Rena Desmond is a retired nurse who moved to the Flathead Valley six years ago with her husband Allen from the concrete suburbs of Chicago. She is determined to learn the necessary skills to support her new found love of the outdoors. nn Jewels Devine, Expert - is from Manhattan. Manhattan, Montana, that is. She is a self-proclaimed expert on fashion, manners, jewelry, and just about everything else. She shares her straightforward, honest opinion on topics that are important to an eastern socialite. Be prepared to chuckle! nn Dr. Lauri Fahlberg is the Chair of Health Sciences in the Department of Nursing and Health Sciences at Carroll College in Helena, Montana. She has been a community health/health promotion specialist for 30 years. She has worked in health programs acoss the U.S., and in Nepal, Costa Rica, Guatemala, and Africa. Lauri enjoys a wide variety of outdoor activities and divides her time, with her husband, between Helena and her sailboat in the San Juan Islands. nn R. Thomas Funk is a fourth generation Montana native. In the course of his life, he has worked in sawmills, as a fireless-steam-locomotive operator, a pharmacy aide, an EMT, and a teacher/librarian in a rural school. Now, he and his wife, Glenda, divide their time among fourteen grandchildren, one chocolate lab named CoCo, and two cats, Yoda and Squeaky. Squeaky is the star of a series of children’s stories.

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siblings into eating creamed dandelion leaves. Since those early attempts, she has learned the art of cooking in quantity at the Izaak Walton Inn, and created surprising dishes using herbs and edible flowers at her former herb farm. Now her culinary and gardening adventures are chronicled on www.amygrisak.com.

nn Betty J. Kuffel, MD - is an Internal Medicine physician, a wife, mother and grandmother. The former nurse practitioner is an honors graduate of the University of Washington School of Medicine and now directs the hospitalist program at North Valley Hospital in Whitefish, MT. She has also directed and worked in emergency departments. Her broad interests include writing, photography, flying, knitting and marksmanship. Dr. Kuffel lives in Whitefish with her husband Tom and dog Valkyrie. nn Lisa Levandowski owns and operates Glacier Wallflower in Columbia Falls. She shares monthly tips on decorating your home and office, and gives insight to great craft ideas. nn Lora Lonsberry - In private practice for over 20 years and in facilitated groups, Lora integrates body-centered psychotherapies, traditional cognitive and behavioral therapies, humanistic and archetypal perspectives, and the teachings of several spiritual traditions. Specialties include: neurofeedback therapy, relationship and intimacy issues, recovery from past trauma, working through past relationships, body image and self-esteem issues, unlocking the creative process, and deepening spirituality. Visit her website at www.AffectiveNeuroSciences.com. nn Suzanne McAllister is 77 years young and shares the many things she has learned, and from whom she learned them in her column, “At My Mother’s Knee”. She was born in the middle of the Depression and has seen all the marvels that have taken place. Soon to be published in a book titled, I Didn’t Get Old Being Stupid, Susie is looking forward to 23 years more. What else could anyone want... except what is around the corner? nn Kathleen Clary Miller is the published author of more than 300 essays and stories. She was born and raised in Pasadena, California, graduated from USC, worked at the Los Angeles Times, then raised her children while teaching high school English and Journalism in San Juan Capistrano. At age 55, she picked up roots to live in Montana with her husband in a log home they built. She has completed her collection of true stories, Queen of Second Chances…The romance and redemption of a mid-life bloomer and her compassionate memoir, When Forgetting Was a Gift…Placing my Father in an Alzheimer’s Facility— two books that are both currently hungry for a publisher. nn Christine Noel, is a monthly story contributor. She has been a realtor since 1990 and currently is the co-owner and managing Broker of NoDoubt Land Company, LLC. She has completed the necessary continuing education to receive her Graduate Real Estate Institute designation and enjoys her full time real estate career. Christine has been a Montana resident since 1977 and spends her free time enjoying her 4 children, 2 grandchildren, her horses and all MONTANA WOMAN

the great Montana outdoors has to offer! nn Jeri Mae Rowley - MS Human Resource Management - Speaker, Trainer and Saddle Maker’s Daughter, Jeri Mae has delighted audiences in 17 states, Canada, and the US Virgin Islands with her engaging brand of “Western Wit & Wisdom for the Workplace.” She helps organizations enrich leadership, customer service and communications. Please visit her website: www.jerimaerowley.com or call 406-781-7206. nn Nan S. Russell - In 2002, Nan left a successful career on the east coast to pursue her dream to write from her native Montana. Today she is a successful author, consultant, speaker, and host of Work Matters on webtalkradio.net. Her latest book, Hitting Your Stride won a 2009 Axiom Business Book Award, and her career insights column, Winning at Working, appears in ninety publications. Her life reflections column, “In the Scheme of Things” is a regular in Montana Woman. Nan is president of MountainWorks Communications, a company founded to support her passion for helping organizations build winning cultures, and helping people live their life potential. More at www.nanrussell.com n n Mary Wallace is an independent representative for Signature Homestyles and Upper Case Living, offering home organizing and decor workshops. She is also the founder of the first Freecycle (TM) group in Montana. You can reach her at marywallace57@centurytel.net or visit her webites: www.signaturehomestyles.biz/mw9182 or http:// marywallace.uppercaseliving.net nn Doug Waldron is a substitute teacher and assistant track coach at Seeley Lake Elementary School. He advocates women’s rights and is a member of the Seeley-Swan Talk, Education, Protection Group who offer help and assistance to domestic violence and sexual assault victims. Doug is a retired police chief (Stanhope Police Department, NJ). He has a BA in criminal justice and an MA in sociology and has done research in domestic violence issues. nn Joe Withey - Owner of Withey’s Health Food Store in Kalisipell is a monthly contibutor of health related issues and toptcs from a natural and organic view point. He and his family have owned Withey’s since 1958 in the same location on South Main Street in Kalispell. nn Judy H. Wright is an author and parent educator in Missoula, MT. To download additional articles and to sign up for her ezine The Artichoke Finding the Heart of the Story in the Journey of Life please go to the website www.ArtichokePress.com To book Judy for a speaking engagement, http://www. ArtichokePress.com/workshops and if you are looking for additional income, http://welcomeabundance.com nn Rhonda Young - has been a realtor, an appraiser and a building assistant. She is an inveterate DIY’er, always looking for better ways to do things while Reducing, Reusing and Recycling.

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Toastmaster’s meeting. David Beaulieu was the guest speaker and his presentation, a very powerful one, focused on dream thieves. He outlined five things that often try to prevent us from achieving our dreams. I would like to summarize his presentation for you. David explained that dream thieves are crafty and cunning crusaders for destruction, his point being that they come to rob you of your hopes and dreams. He went on to say that dreamless people are aimless people. It’s okay to dream… give yourself permission to dream big. What vision do you have for your family, your career or a desire for self-improvement? What is preventing you from achieving these goals? Following are the top five culprits David outlined: 1. Obstacles – When an unexpected event detours you from your chosen path, do not be afraid to pick a new path moving towards the same goal. The road to a successful dream is not always smooth; it can be full of twists and turns and can be discouraging. Do not allow obstacles to steal your dreams. 2. People – People can be an encouragement on your journey, but beware of the good intentioned folks who do not share your dream. They will try to extinguish the blaze in your heart by saying things like, “That is impossible… you can’t do that… it is time to give up and move along.” Do not allow friends, family or business associates to be dream thieves. 3. Fear – Do not allow fear of failure, fear of the unknown, fear of success or any other fear prevent you from pursuing your dream. This state of mind can rob you of your destiny. “You block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith.” 4. The Comfort Zone – The comfort zone is the place of satisfaction—a place that lacks challenge. The pursuit of a dream is usually difficult and can be an uphill climb. “The comfort zone is a place of stagnation, complacency and the death of dreams.” David emphasized that potential means nothing without application. It is the application that takes us outside our comfort zone and moves us towards our dream. 5. Time – Time is a valuable thing. The shortage of time can be a dream thief. Lack of patience in waiting for the appropriate time can be a dream thief as well. Dreams cannot always be realized in

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the immediate future. It may take months and years to see your dream come to fruition. Be patient and stay focused on your dream. In conclusion, David stressed the importance of protecting our dreams. He encouraged his audience to write down their dreams, visit them often, bathe them in prayer, and pursue them with passion. In other words, “Make a Plan… Plan to Work…Work the Plan.” A quote from Galatians 6:9 David shared continues to be replayed in my mind: “And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart.” Take Care,

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always thought I was in good shape until I retired and relocated from Chicago to Montana. Aerobic dance and tap seemed like plenty of exercise. So, the first class I attended at the Summit in Kalispell was a Heart and Soul dance class. I thought I had found the ideal workout for me; I barely made it through the class. I was just beginning to the get the hang of it when the class was cancelled. Now what do I do? I never did like the machines, but I had to do something. My sense of adventure along with some new hiking friends introduced me to hiking in Glacier Park. I was invited to hike the trail that eventually leads to Mt. Brown. We were only going to hike three miles. I thought, “Only 3 miles; I can do that… not realizing that we would be gaining in elevation and hiking uphill with a few switchbacks. Needless to say, when I returned home I was exhausted, achy, and just plain feeling very old. When the gals dropped me off, I walked to my front porch, sat down on my rocker and took my boots off. I remember them rolling down the car window and yelling, “Are you all right?” I replied, “Yes, but I will be much better in about a week.” The one thing I knew was that I needed to build up my endurance if I wanted to continue to explore the many hiking trails in Glacier Park. So, off to the Summit I went once again. I met with a trainer and she guided me through a routine that fit my needs. I was going to have to use those machines whether I liked it or not. I started out slowly but with the idea that this was an opportunity for growth. My first day without the trainer I became very frustrated trying to adjust the settings on the step machine. I probably was talking to myself, saying things like, “Oh come on—how stupid can you be?” when a sweet, perky little lady about eighty years old said, “Oh, honey, this is what you need to do to adjust that.” By the way, she was walking twice as fast as I was and she knew how to adjust all the settings. After saying thank you, I thought, “What an inspiration. If she can do it, so can I.” As I got to know her better, I learned that she loved chocolate marshmallow cookies so much that she felt she had to burn off those calories because she didn’t want to carry around any extra pounds. Feeling inspired, I began challenging myself and setting new goals. Using the machines allowed me to measure my progress. I also signed up for the Successful Living 100 mile walk. I began taking a Stretch and Balance class, Tai-Chi, and Muscle Plus—definitely a challenge. I continue to go to the gym and have started Yoga; what a wonderful way to start your day. I’m also working on learning the game of golf. I used to listen to my husband about how frustrating the game is and thought to myself, “What could be so hard about hitting a white ball?” Well, now I know. It is a challenge but also fun. I haven’t forgotten about slowing down and listening to the silence. I often sit on my front porch and watch the deer frolic in the field, while the bees, hummingbirds, and butterflies dine on the Bee Balms in my front yard. This activity gets me in touch with my hard drive (my soul). When I think about it, my visits to the Summit have included many new friendships, breathed new air into my lungs, increased my flexibility, improved my muscle tone, built up my endurance, lowered my blood pressure and, most important of all, put healthy living and fun back in my life.                                     

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Velma Cameron Swims 1,000 Miles

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f you’ve soaked in the pool at The Women’s Club Health and Fitness Center in recent years, you may have noticed a silver-haired dame drifting through the water at a slower pace than most lap swimmers. Maybe her relaxed pace gave you permission to slow down, just for a bit; just long enough to watch the perseverance in her face and long, patient reach of each backstroke. Then, as she returned to the shallow end, you could’ve seen her methodically move a tiny bead from one dish to another at the pool’s edge. You might have wondered, “What is she doing with those beads?” Then, someone would whisper in your ear, “That’s Velma,” and that’s all you would need to understand. That’s Velma Cameron, counting each lap, bead by bead, all the way until this last September 21st when she reached 1,000 miles. In the last four years, Velma has overcome multiple obstacles to log 1,000 miles in the water. Recently, I sat down to ask her about this amazing accomplishment. (Secretly, I wanted to know her secret. How did she do it?) “Well, no one sets out to swim 1,000 miles,” she told me with a glint in her eye and a giggle in her voice. “Actually, I’ve always been a water baby—ever since my high school days in Southern California when I taught little kids to swim.” Listening to Velma’s story, I soon learned that water babies grow up and face the same challenges that life brings to us all: family, career, and health. One day, Velma found herself recovering from spinal cord surgery and unable to walk even four feet in the pool. More health problems plagued her until she was faced with life-threatening digestive and stomach troubles. Because of her digestive ailment, Velma couldn’t even drink a glass of water, much less swim in a pool full of the www.montanawoman.com

stuff. Doctors discussed major surgery—an especially chancy option as Velma neared her 73rd birthday. In surgery, doctors drained five quarts of liquid off of her liver, not expecting her to survive. Ironically, this time of serious illness led Velma to a deep commitment. “I had a choice,” explains Velma in a contemplative tone. “I chose to live, and since I had chosen to live, I chose to also transform my body. I knew I could do it with the help of the people at The Women’s Club.” Four years ago, Velma started out in a joint mobility class, which catered to women with arthritis. At first, she leaned upon her walker, inching every step to the pool. But as she dipped her feet into the pool, Velma transformed into that water baby once again, letting the silky warmth of her native element be her healer and cheery classmates her encouragers. Three months of water class, twice a week, quickly sped by. “I thought to myself, ‘I’m stronger now. I’m ready to become a Recycled Teen.’” Velma was well on her way to that California teenager, and she shared her sunny outlook with classmates in a morning class designed to help keep joints lubed and, “twinges out of the hinges,” as she would say. Then, in January of 2007, Velma picked up her first bead. She began tracking laps. With a combination of strokes—whatever felt good for that day—she took as much time as she needed to glide from one end of the pool to the other. Red beads traded for blue beads, laps became miles, and miles became totals on a mini, pocket-sized calendar that she used to record her progress. “You don’t time me with a stopwatch,” Velma says. “You time me with a calendar.” After filling months of dog-eared calendar pages, Velma started to see the numbers add up quickly. Then, another surgery beckoned. This time, doctors needed to remove 30 pounds of extra skin that was pulling on her intestines. This was a risky surgery, considering Velma’s condition and the task at hand. But it all turned out just fine. Another surgery didn’t keep her away from the pool for too long. Velma swam... bead by bead, mile by mile. Sometimes it would take her an hour to finish one mile, sometimes two—depending on how she felt that day. But she front crawled, breast stroked, and free styled her way through the calendar years. It didn’t take long for others to catch on to the quiet phenomenon that was happening in the pool. Velma became a highly anticipated presence in the lap lanes. Often, women would join her workout by walking alongside her. They wanted to share their struggles and successes with this sage who always had a smile, and a word of motherly inspiration for anyone dipping their toes in the warm water. Velma listened and swam faithfully for months. That is, until the nagging pain in her shoulders became too loud to ignore. She had torn both rotator cuffs. Ironically, this most obstinate of injuries wasn’t due to her swimming but to a course of antibiotics prescribed earlier in the year. The drugs had weakened her collagen and connective tissues to the point of tearing. Surgery wasn’t an option, but doctors were able to remove photo by Jill Courtney

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enough scar tissue to ease the pain and keep her in the pool.

“I just modified my stroke,” explains Velma with an easy shrug. “For a while, I swam alternating one arm at a time. Someone told me, ‘Velma, you’re gonna swim in a circle.’ But it worked. Eventually, my shoulders became less painful, although they still limit my swimming a bit.” Even if she had swum in circles, Velma would have reached her 1,000th mile. That’s the essence of this intriguing woman’s story: persistence. As I listened to all she had overcome, I wanted to know, more than ever, how Velma was able to surmount so many obstacles: the inability to walk, the surgeries, the painful shoulders, and still she insisted on getting in that pool to trade her beads each day. When I asked her, “How did you do it? How did you keep going?” she smiled that clear, firm grin of someone knowing the height and breadth of exactly what she was about to share. “If I could use any word to describe my journey, it’s ‘choice’. I’ve had lots of opportunity for choice. Twice I’ve had the chance to decide whether to live or die. Now I know very clearly why I’ve chosen to stay. We all choose to get going and doing, no matter our circumstances. Our obstacles, our pain, sadness, or loss, it

may not go away; but it can be alleviated by physical activity and connecting with people.” Which is what you’ll find Velma choosing today, at almost 78-years of age; logging her 1,000th plus mile and sharing with anyone who wants to know her story. She’ll even share with you, if you’d like to walk alongside her. She might tell you about her daughter who, after being more than a little miffed that her 77-year old mom was more mobile than she, decided to string some beads of her own cord and take to the lap pool. Or, you could ask how her latest project is coming along. Velma is making a necklace out of the rods and screws placed in her back from a surgery 18 years ago. They’ve since become unnecessary. “I’ve been through so much, but all of us have. And it’s just us there, in that pool,” explains Velma. “Us chunky, statuesque women are there working our butts off. When we share with each other on that deeper level, we find out that we all have stories of overcoming. That’s why The Women’s Club pool is so healing. The soft lighting, the relaxing colors, the playful mermaid tapestries on the wall all… it all combines to invite us into a deeper relationship with one another and with ourselves.”

From the Editor: Velma is an amazing, multi-faceted woman who enjoys a richly abundant and active life. Our staff photographer, Jill Courtney, came away from the photo shoot for our cover with some amazing stories and images. We would like to share a little more about Velma through the following photo essay:

Velma explains, “For reasons unknown, I was attracted to the harp at the young age of 4. I was unable to acquire this instrument so I satisfied my longing by using my own natural instrument…my voice!” She attended a Renaissance Fair and once again heard the haunting sound of her youth. She searched through the crowd for its origin. What she found was the folk harp. At this stage of her life, she had both the desire and the means to explore her childhood dream. At the age of 42 she began playing the Autoharp and the harp at age 44. 6

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Beading has become a huge part of Velma’s life. She enjoys beading and doing beading research. Velma has designed many gowns, hats and jewelry that reflect her love for the Renaissance period.

Velma has written many poems and has blessed friends and families with original poetry framed in amazing beadwork.

Photos on this page by Jill Courtney

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Graduate work in psychology, stage costume design, voice, religion, holistic health. BA from Whittier College with majors in psychology, sociology, and religion.

At the young age of seven months Velma’s love became evident. Here she is finger painting.

Twelve years as a Medical Social Worker for the CA Dept of Health

During her early 20’s Velma’s love for art truly blossomed. She began oil, watercolor, and pastel painting. She dabbled in stain glass and found she had a great eye for color. By the age of 21 Velma was designing and constructing costumes for plays. In her “spare time” she kept busy knitting and illustrating children’s books.

Velma at 63

Created “Healing Strings” as business combining her interest and knowledge of well being with music by distribution of tapes for healing.

Velma is a Messo Soprano who has sung in many principal roles as well as chorus in musical theater, oratorio, and opera including Pirates of Penzance. Velma also sings in Italian, Latin, German, Irish, Gaelic and Scots Gaelic. She in the front row, second from the left.

The staff of Montana Woman Magazine would like to thank Shelby Humphreys of Missoula for sharing Velma Cameron with our readers. Velma is a true Montana Woman who inspires everyone around her to live life to its fullest. About the author for this article

Her harp music extends from music of the British Isles and romantic ballads to quiet relaxation and meditation. Colorful costumes add to the magic of her performance as she sings in Irish and Scots Gaelic for an unusual touch. www.montanawoman.com

Shelby Humphreys helps women change their lives every day. Working at The Women’s Club Health and Fitness Center gives Shelby a window into the world of how busy women take care of themselves in hectic times. She pays attention to how women overcome obstacles in balancing business with nurturing themselves and their families. As a result, Shelby has learned to dive deep into the undercurrents of the human condition and find treasure for our daily lives. MONTANA WOMAN

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View from the North 40 THE RETURN OF MEGAWOMAN, EPISODE 2XL by Pam Burke

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really hate to be the one to break the news, but there’s a reason why we have the stereotype of the “dumb jock”: It’s true. Oh, don’t everybody get their knickers in a bunch. I’m not saying that just because someone’s a jock, he or she HAS to be dumb. It’s not like it’s a prerequisite for jockdom, or a predetermined result of athletic participation. But, c’mon, stereotypes have to come from somewhere; otherwise they’re called rarities or anomalies. The thing is, though, being a dumb jock isn’t bad. Oh, sure, wouldn’t we all like to win the Boston Marathon, then use our post-race, runner’s-high energy to spark some brilliant idea that cures world hunger. Let’s face it, though, we aren’t all capable of winning the science fair for cracking the secret code of fusion-fueled quantum flux capacitors. And that’s OK, but we still need to nourish our sense of self-worth. If all we’re really good at are things like kicking, blocking, throwing, running, lifting, hitting or headlocking, but not so much the thinking, we still should be celebrated. I was jock hall of fame material. I’m not bragging; I’m just saying. I was born unnaturally strong and pretty darn quick over short distances. It was genetics; it’s not like I did anything to make myself that way. Seriously, I did not lift one finger to make myself athletically inclined… and therein lies an important point to this discourse: To be successful, all athletes have to work out. Even the dumb ones. That always seemed a little unreasonable to me, but I understand now that my stance on keeping in shape is not without drawbacks. I signed up for a high school sport once and was told to report to the weightlifting room the first day. I was like, “Woohoo! Weightlifting competition on the first day. Fun times!” Then I found out it was for strength training, and I was like, “Umm, maybe for the panty-waist girl over there

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who, apparently, only benches 120, but this isn’t really my thing.” Then I was, like, out of there. That’s when I decided to become a superhero: MegaWoman. Superheroes don’t have to work out. They just come in, save the day, go on their merry way. That seemed more my style. Thus began an illustrious career of being the go-to girl for opening the stuck jar lids, lifting large objects, compressing things with my bare hands, hefting, hoisting, pushing, digging and being the secure anchor on the end of any rope. It wasn’t rocket science, but I had a good life as the dumb superhero. I was successful. I was MegaWoman. And then one day I started grunting. Y’know, an “ungh” sound to get out of a chair, an “oof” to bend over. Then body parts started failing, then there was pain. I was forced into early retirement. Experts said it was because I hadn’t taken care of myself. Soon after, my muscles atrophied rapidly, but my fat cells plumped up even faster. It was disturbing. It still is disturbing. So when I went on a lug-nut-loosening mission last week with an over-sized socket, a half-inch thick metal rod for a handle and a three-foot cheater bar for leverage, I planned ahead to be exhausted, possibly injured from the effort. What I was, though, was MegaWoman once again. Armed with that three feet of leverage and the dumb-superhero inability to remember that truck lug nuts marked with an L are reverse-threaded, I tightened those lug nuts until I bent the half-inch metal rod. Twice. I didn’t say I was smart. Just hefty. Then my husband gave me a heattreated metal rod saying: “This time, turn them righty loosy. And if you bend this baby, you really are MegaWoman.” I suppose I should feel bad for putting a kink in that really nice heat-treated rod, but it felt good to show some superhero strength. Even if it was a super-dumb mistake. I still got the power. (MegaWoman lives on at http:// viewnorth40.wordpress.com.)

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Bits and Pieces B.B. QUEEN by Chris Noel/Broker Nodoubt Land Company, Kalispell

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ost everyone has heard of “B. B. King”, the famous Blues guitar and singing artist whose soulful talents have spanned the generations. In contrast, I bet none of you have EVER heard of “B. B. Queen”! Well, she is something special and has taken good care of my friends and family for over a decade. OK. “B. B.” stands for Big, Blue… 1993 Cadillac! She originally was purchased in 1999 as a “second car”. She had low miles and had the room and comfort only those old “B”oats can provide. She became our “Christmas Sleigh”, making many trips to Seattle for the holidays. She has one of the “B”iggest trunks ever made! Plus she is safe; nothing can stop her! Over the years “The Queen” has seen her share of miles and dings, but is still ever ready and willing for new adventures. This is a story of how she finally got a permanent name and FULLFILLED her reputation. And I do mean Full and Filled… with “B”eautiful, “B”londe and “B”runette “B”abes with “B”rains, “B”rawn, and, yes, I have to say it, “B”oobies, squeezed into the “B”ig, “B”lue “B”ullet, off to celebrate my daughter Amber’s “B”irthday. It happened last spring when my three daughters, two friends and I had the amazing opportunity to go on a little “road trip” together. Problem… do we take two cars, doubling the gas expense? Could we possibly all fit into the Caddy? SIX women along with a ridiculous amount of luggage? YES WE COULD! Three in the back, three in the front with the trunk “B”ulging, but we did it! Off we went into the wild “B”lue yonder, headed for Quinn’s Hot Springs the first night, followed by Lolo Hot Springs the next. We were all “B”ubbling with excitement as my youngest daughter, Krista, our chauffer, put her foot to it! “The Queen” shot down the highway headed south. We were anxious to “get this party started!” Now “The Queen” is old with no CD player, so to entertain the “B”eauties, I suggested we play a word game like we used to as kids to pass time in the car. Someone asked if the “Caddy” had a name so that became our focus. I had always just called her “B”ig, “B”lue but felt she deserved something “B”etter. The game continued with probably every “B” word you could imagine being named. Ultimately we decided on the more dignified name of “Big Blue Queen”. www.montanawoman.com

Upon our arrival at Quinn’s Hot Springs, we settled into our cabins and then set off to the lounge and dining room to splurge on a fancy dinner. Afterwards, we enjoyed listening to the local talent singing “Karaoke” followed by a dip in the Hot Pools before we left. Day 2 dawned sunny and bright as we “Hit the Road Again”, taking a gravel short cut route over to Lolo Hot Springs. “The Queen” faithfully took us in comfort over the 4-wheel drive roads to our destination. After checking in, we decided to go find the infamous, “Jerry Johnson Hot Springs”, located farther up Lolo Pass. Even though it was late in the day, there were still plenty of people on the trail as well as in the natural hot springs, high in the mountains. We had been warned about the likelihood of seeing naked people in the natural hot springs, which we did not. We did, however, see one old naked hippie guy, wearing only his back pack and muttering to himself as we passed him on the trail. Now that isn’t a sight you see every day! Nor do you see a “B”londe “B”ombshell in a “B”ikini strolling through the forest… only in Montana! Oh, what a time the girls had on that trip! With that many women you KNOW there were times that things got a little tense… “B”athroom space was a coveted commodity, crabbiness over sleeping or not sleeping depending on where you ended up, happiness to be together… and lots of laughing! Our emotions ran the gamut by the time we piled into “The Queen” and headed for home. Our last day dawned which was Amber’s REAL “B”irthday. Stopping for lunch in Polson, we sat outside overlooking the gem that is Flathead Lake. Amber opened her gifts as we sipped our margaritas and enjoyed our Mexican cuisine. Although we were winding down and sad that it was nearly over, it was the perfect end to a rare weekend. Deciding on an alternate route back to Kalispell, “The Queen” headed for the East Shore Hwy. The sun was warmer, beckoning us to stop once more to sit along the lakeshore, cherishing those final moments in history when “B”ig “B”lue received a respectable name and six “B”eautiful “B”abes made some lasting memories.

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Chiropractic Perspectives IF PAIN IS CAUSING YOU TO DO LESS OF THE THINGS YOU LOVE TO DO... READ THIS! By Dr. James McKiernan, DC, CCSP (Certified Chiropractic Sports Physician)

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while... but realize this... while you are neglecting yourself, bad things “ thought it would go away.” Does this sound like you? For a are happening, joints are deteriorating, muscles are shortening and while now, you have had some health problem that you have been becoming less flexible. ignoring, thinking that eventually it would go away? If it does sound Being a doctor who is willing to try to help his patients to be like you, know this... you are not alone! proactive can be a tough way to do business. I had a wonderful lady In the health care business, specifically chiropractic, we often work I used to take care of who had terrible knee pain in both knees. I with patients who have suffered for months, years, even decades, with had done everything I could to help with minimal and short-lasting spinal related problems, headaches, untreated sports injuries, hip and results. Her orthopedist was encouraging total knee replacement knee problems, etc. I am always amazed at the human ability we all which was not only unaffordable, but also fraught with risk and a have to tolerate and ultimately compensate for our problem areas. It is great deal of down time which she could not afford. I finally sat her our nature to look for easy, inexpensive (seemingly!) and less down and, as gently as I could, advised her that not only was there complicated approaches to solve our problems. nothing more that I could do but that her only chance of avoiding Granted, OTC (Over The Counter) remedies abound and often do the surgery was to lose the great deal of weight she was carrying help in lulling us into thinking that they are helping... but... when I around. Guess what happened? I never saw her in my office again... encounter an individual who has been on OTC drugs up to six times a she was so insulted that I had suggested such a thing and felt in her day for months, just to manage the pain, one has to agree that it is mind that I was abandoning her, which couldn’t have been further time to move on and get PROACTIVE about his condition! from the truth. Most of us have great faith in our body’s ability to heal. We have The good news is that maybe it sunk in because she did lose that heard enough about how relieving stressors, nurturing the body and weight and as far as I know has never had surgery! giving it time, allows good things to happen and we improve. So, to sum it up, let me say this... if you have a doctor who has But how many of us can afford to break down when things don’t been encouraging you to take control of your health, listen to him or improve, or compensate and compromise our performance at work her and do it! If you don’t have a doctor who is encouraging you to and play? I see so many folks who wistfully remember all the “used take control, find one! Don’t look for health in a little bottle of pills to’s”... “I used to (pick one!) play tennis…ski... cross country... dance... or on an operating table... find out what you need to do and “git ‘er run... (the list goes on) but I can’t anymore because it hurts too done”! much.” For many of us it is pure misery not to do the things we love and eventually the PHYSICAL issue becomes an EMOTIONAL issue as well. So, what do I do? I am always interested in the “who, what and why” of a patient presenting in my office. It can be many reasons, not all of them always related Is PAIN causing you to do less of the things you love to do? to pain. They present in the form of “I can’t get Chiropractic could change your life! If you were uncomfortable with manual chiropractic, consider the Activator Method now on the floor and play with my kids or grandkids offered at McKiernan Chiropractic. Dr. Jim McKiernan is a Proficiency Rated Activator doctor, anymore” or “I just feel old”. This is where my earning this degree after intensve post-graduate study and examination. He is also a Certified Chiropractic Sports fun begins... I enjoy putting together the pieces Physician with 32 years of experience. Dr. McKiernan develops personalized care plans for his patients of your puzzle by consulting thoroughly and utilizing chiropractic care blended with theraputic modalities as needed. performing a complete examination to see if we Our team of experts handle all aspects of insurance from workers’ compensation, personal injury, auto collision and can work together to get your system fired up group health, handling your claims promptly and properly. again and to regain a level of health, flexibility Dr. McKiernan utilizing the Activator 9:30 to 6 Monday, Wednesday & Thursday • Tuesdays 2 to 6 and wellness so that you can get back to enjoying Friday - Massage Apointments 10 to 6 your life. 1031 S. Main - Kalispell Does it take time, effort and work on your South of Court House 406-756-2626 part? You bet! Is it easier to take drugs and & SPORTS INJURY CENTER www.activatior/com/Dr/James_McKiernan “hope it will go away”? Sure, maybe for a

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Snapshots of Life Linnie Peyton - Montana’s First Woman Game Warden (A True, Two Part Gripping Story was researched and authored by Bill Koppen, a Montana Fish Wildlife and Parks Game Warden, and his daughter, Lindsey Koppen.)

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his is the second part of my column featuring a compelling in chancery, attorney at law and others. There is no express story of Linnie Peyton, Montana’s first woman game warden. constitutional disqualification of females and no affirmative Amazingly, after being appointed Game Warden on March 10, 1909 statement of qualification, which would exclude them, and there is by then Governor Edwin L. Norris, Linnie was forced to fight a nothing in the duties imposed by statute law or city ordinances upon valiant and frustrating battle to keep her position and provide for the a public officer, which would imply the necessity or intend exclusion survival of her young children, going all the way to Montana’s of either sex.”3 Supreme Court. Stated in his opinion by then Attorney General Using some of the history mentioned above, the law firm of Walsh Albert J. Galen, “Linnie Peyton is not eligible to the office (game and Nolan carried Mrs. Peyton’s case to the Montana Supreme warden) because, being a woman, she is not an elector.” This Court.4 The law firm stated that Mrs. Peyton should be paid fascinating true story was researched and authored by Bill Koppen, a $208.33, and allowed to keep her job. But Chief Justice Brantly did Montana Fish Wildlife and Parks Game Warden, and his daughter, not agree. He stated that the resolution under which Linnie Peyton Lindsey Koppen. Warden Koppen, by the way, works the very same had claimed was not in the form of a bill. It had no enacting clause. district as Charles B. Peyton, Linnie’s husband and Montana’s first It had no title. Therefore, though it was passed by both houses and fallen game warden in 1908. approved by the Governor, it was of no avail as an authoritative Linnie Peyton - Montana Supreme Court expression of the legislation subject with which it was dealing. The Linnie worked the job from March 10th to the end of April 1909. provisions of the bill were void. Chief Justice Brantly stated that the When she presented her claim (warrant for pay for a total of authoritative expression and the independent piece of legislation $208.33) for services to the state, auditor H. R. created an office that did not exist. To the Cunningham refused to pay it. The petition for Chief Justice the conclusion seemed inevitable. pay was then referred to the Attorney General Since no office was created by the resolution, and he decided she could not legally hold the and the appointment of Deputy Game and office. Attorney General Albert J. Galen then Fish Warden Linnie Peyton was without gave his opinion. Mr. Galen made two authority, the question touching her eligibility contentions: (1) That the joint resolution has on account of her sex did not arise. Brantly not the force or effect of a statute legally and stated, “If the Montana State Game and Fish constitutionally enacted, and that, since this is Warden would have appointed her generally, so, no office was created by it, nor was the without reference to the authority granted by appointment made under the authority granted the resolution, then the question of her by it valid for any purpose; and (2) that even if eligibility would properly have been before us Upper left, Charles and Linnie Peyton this were not so, Mrs. Linnie Peyton is not for a decision at a later date.” Chief Justice Photo from the Montana Game Wardens Association eligible to the office, because, being a woman, Brantly denied her application for a writ of she is not an elector. The Attorney General informed State Auditor mandamus to be paid.5 Mr. Justice Smith and Mr. Justice Holloway Cunningham that the employment of Mrs. Linnie Peyton was concurred. Therefore, Linnie Peyton never got paid. You have to unconstitutional and was ordered not to pay the warrant. Galen wonder if it was because Linnie Peyton was a woman or if it was stated that Deputy Game and Fish Wardens are public officers and because the position of deputy game warden was improperly created since Linnie Peyton was a woman she was not permitted to serve the so she was unable to get paid and keep the job of Montana Game state in an official capacity.1 Warden Linnie Peyton appealed.2   Warden. Either way the situation was a very unfortunate one. Back in that 1900’s there were women officers. Many women had People felt that if the commonwealth could not afford any relief to positions as deputy clerks and deputy county treasurers. At that time, Linnie Peyton and her family then the private sector needed to help. the city attorney of Chicago addressed the legality of women holding Hunting and fishing clubs of Montana, along with the Game office. Because a woman of Chicago was appointed on the police Wardens of Montana, were able to raise $2,054. Game Warden force to patrol the department stores, it was decided that women did Henry Avare delivered the check for that amount to her. The Peyton have the right to perform the duties of the office. The city attorney Memorial fund was created shortly after to keep helping the Peyton gave his opinion that in construction of statutes and ordinances, family. $2,054 was a large amount of money back in the 1900s and words imputing masculine gender may be applied to females. He just goes to show how much the public cared about the whole Peyton stated, “No person shall be precluded or debarred from any situation from start to finish. Montanans came through. occupation, profession or employment (except military) on account In conclusion, this is how Montana got its first female game of sex, provided that this does not affect the eligibility of any person warden. Linnie Peyton made her way into the history books even though the job did not last long for her. Right or wrong, she did get to an elective office. This provision contemplates that women as well the job of Montana Deputy Game Warden. How she did during her as men can serve in appointive offices. Women have been declared eligible to the office of superintendent of public instruction, master continued on page 25 www.montanawoman.com

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Peaks and Valleys COLONOSCOPY by Kathleen Clary Miller

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t is said that there are only two things a man cannot escape: death and taxes. I suggest that there is a third: the colonoscopy. Whether it’s every three years (for those who have been found with pesky polyps), five years (for one such as I whose relative contracted colon cancer) or ten years (for the lucky few who can spend their last entire decade on Earth without having to schedule another one), the colonoscopy has become part of the human condition. It is that word which sends shudders down the spine of anyone who has “drunk the drink”—the preparation concoction that cleanses the colon so the doctor can examine it. No one really wants to discuss it, but everyone hungers to know: how can I weather the ordeal? Are there any shortcuts? This, my friends, is your lucky day. I am the successful survivor of three such medical marvels. I’ve enjoyed three different preps, and have had two different doctors in different states. They call me the colo-counselor: Where there’s a will to pretend this isn’t happening, there’s a way, and I’ve made it my mantra to minimize the misery. Fortunately for you, I consider it now my obligation to pass it on (so to speak)—my colo-calling. THE APPOINTMENT: Pick up the phone. There is no “better day”. The test and all its turmoil is a far, far better thing than the cancer. Constantly remind yourself of this: that you feel nothing but sheer gratitude that such a preventative procedure exists. If you are related to someone who has experienced the disease, this part will be second nature but perhaps laying dormant beneath the selfish surface of starvation on preparation day, as will it be for those who have dodged the bullet by extracting polyps, but forget the former fear when famished. In the case of first time patients, your imagination of a possible problem might not suffice to overpower the inconvenience of the prep; you would do better to hear it firsthand from someone in category one or two. Imbibing in NuLytley once every ten years is like trying to remember the name of the back up singer for The Righteous Brothers. And if you didn’t recall that’s the name of the prep drink until I wrote it here, you’ve lost that lovin’ feelin’ long ago; consider yourself a newcomer. Once you’ve drummed thanksgiving into your brain, your aura should be one of pride: You are proactive in your plan to remain healthy and cancer free! Wrap yourself around the comfort of being your own best friend who takes care of herself by courageously taking the step forward to punish—I mean, cherish your body. You are in control—but be sure to request enough medication for the procedure to knock you out cold. Make yours the very first appointment of the day. Trust me on this: when you haven’t eaten anything but lemon jell-o and Gatorade for 14

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24 hours and you’ve been awake half the night purging everything out of your system, including the desire to live, you want to get this over with so that you can go back home and have the longest nap of your life. THE PREP: I’ve chugged the concentrate (2 8-oz. drinks that could knock James Bond for a loop, whether shaken OR stirred), I’ve thrown back the pills (6 or 8 horse tablets—gee whiz, I’ve forgotten, with 8 oz. of water every fifteen minutes for what seemed like hours—gosh golly, I can’t quite remember how long either!), and I’ve faced the jug. They are all forces to be dealt with, but I’d have to say pills are my choice of concoction. You can’t taste tablets. That is huge when you consider that the flavor packet provided by the pharmacy for the 4L bottle of NuLytley has absolutely no effect. Bracing is an understatement. A friend told me to keep it refrigerated; cold kills the Great Salt Lake taste. But although the directions on the product indicate that it is “more palatable” when chilled, my doctor’s instructions were specific: Allow it to reach room temperature as you gulp glass after glass. When I inquired of the pharmacist that evening because I could already see that refrigeration was my new best friend, he told me my stomach might constrict were I to leave it cold. So much for that idea. Here is my advice: Pretend that you hold in your hand the only antidote to the lethal virus that has been introduced by some foreign monkey into our country. You will die if you do not drink this glass within 10 seconds—every ten minutes. You may not stop and you may not lose it into the kitchen sink. It is your only hope. Or—read the fine print attached to the bottle: If you are unable to hold down the contents, notify your doctor whereupon he will introduce it into your system through your nasal cavity. That’s right—up your nose with a rubber hose, as if one at the other end isn’t going to be enough? That, in my case, was powerful motivation. My father, on the other hand, needed more; he mixed his with straight tequila. “It’s clear liquid,” he could still manage to argue with aplomb. THE BATHROOM: You are going to be there for the evening, so plan ahead. Light a scented candle, set minty mouthwash on the counter. Be right in the middle of a gripping book or buy People magazines with stories of heroism. Have fantasy football research at the ready. If you have more than one bathroom, use the one no one else will—for days. THE PROCEDURE: A piece of cake! If you are like me for whom the most dreaded part is the IV, ask for a numbing agent on the arm, followed by a tiny shot of local anesthesia under the skin.

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sk anyone to name the 5 greatest preachers that ever lived, and you are likely to have Jesus at the top of the list. But significant as Jesus is as an enduring and world-wide religious figure, we actually do not have much of a record of his preaching. One of the few exceptions is known as “The Sermon on the Mount”, recorded in Matthew 5 (and a slightly different version in Luke 6, referred to as The Sermon on the Plain.) The Sermon on the Mount is where “the Beatitudes” are found. The Beatitudes are the blessings that Jesus proclaims, and they are frankly counter cultural and counterintuitive. “Blessed are the poor in spirit,” he begins, “for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.” This is not something we want to hear. This is not something we want to believe. Our society teaches us a very different message. “To the victors go the spoils.” “We’re number 1!” “Watch out for number 1.” “Blessed are those who mourn,” he goes on, “for they shall be comforted.” And we don’t really want to think about that. We don’t want to mourn, we don’t want to grieve, because we don’t want to have to suffer losses. “Blessed are the meek,” he continues, “for they shall inherit the earth.” “Ridiculous,” we retort. “Not a chance.” “The strong inherit the earth. The bold inherit the earth.” “The meek? They get the leftovers.” “Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness,” he persists, “for they shall be satisfied.” And we shake our heads. Because we live in a dog-eat-dog world, a get-ahead-at all-costs world, a watch-your-back-because-nobody-else-will world. “Blessed are the merciful,” he speaks, undaunted, “for they shall obtain mercy.” And we wonder. What kind of world is he really talking about? “Blessed are the pure in heart,” he announces, “for they shall see God.” “Blessed are the peacemakers,” he assures us, “for they shall be called children of God.” The world that Jesus describes in these blessings is not an idealized world. It is not a world of the lifestyles of the rich and famous. It is the real world of real people all over the globe. And it is a world that he loves, and that he blesses. Christians believe that Jesus is God in human form, God come among us to experience life as we experience it. So he understands intimately what it is to be human, what it is to suffer. And he calls the human experience “blessed”. How can this be? It’s God’s topsy-turvy logic. It’s God’s love for the poor, the downtrodden, the misfits, so that they are blessed. These blessings are not a “how to” list for people to seek out, accomplish, and achieve blessing. Rather they are a statement of God’s promise to be with people in their vulnerability, in their suffering, in their mourning, in their quest for justice. A number of years ago there was a Monty Python movie that offended a lot of people. It was called “Life of Brian”, and it told the story of a young man named Brian who lived at the same time as Jesus and was often confused. In the movie Brian and his friends are at the very edge of the crowd as Jesus is preaching the Sermon on the Mount, and they can’t hear very well. So Brian interprets the best he can. Probably one of the most famous scenes is when Brian hears “Blessed are the cheesemakers”, and proceeds to try to explain why cheesemakers are blessed. Sometimes it is easier for us to make sense of the convoluted words of Brian, the funny explanations, than to listen to the straightforward words of Jesus, who redefines blessing even as he redefines the world. It is not pie in the sky. It is here and now. Blessing. For the poor in spirit. For those who mourn. The meek. The ones who long for righteousness. The merciful. Peacemakers. Blessed. Now. Here. By God.

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Financial Focus IT’S TAX TIME AGAIN SO GET ORGANIZED

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ith all the Palm Pilots, laptops, desktops and every other gadget in this high-tech world, do you know what you may find most useful as you get ready for filing your taxes? The humble manila folder. It’s true. As you get organized to do your taxes, you probably won’t find anything as helpful as a manila folder—or, to be more precise, three manila folders. You can label them “income”, “deductions” and “medical deductions”. What should you put in these folders? Let’s take a look. Income folder - This should contain all the records of your income from earnings and investments. Use this folder for your W-2 forms (wages) and your 1099 forms (interest and dividends). This is also the place for your year-end bank and brokerage statements, mutual fund reports and any other documents related to earnings from savings and investments. If you’ve sold any stocks during the year, you’ll also want to put your 1099-B forms in the income folder. However, these forms only indicate your sales price. To calculate your taxable gain or loss, and to determine whether short-term or long-term capital gains rates apply, you’ll also need the paperwork or canceled checks showing when you bought the securities and

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how much you paid for them. If you have reinvesting, you will also need the amount paid to purchase these additional shares. Deductions folder – It’s important to keep track of all your itemized deductions, because they can significantly affect the amount of tax you’ll owe. Your biggest deduction will probably be your mortgage interest, so save your Form 1098, which contains this information. And save the receipts for your charitable contributions, personal property taxes, real estate tax payments and state income tax paid. You may also incur a lot of unreimbursed business expenses. Keep tabs on everything else that’s work-related such as tuition for classes, books, uniforms, professional journals, etc. If you’re self-employed, all your office supplies and computer equipment will likely be deductible. If you work out of your home, you can deduct a percentage of your mortgage payments and utilities. (To learn more about deductible business expenses, request IRS Publication 17.) Medical expenses - You can’t deduct your medical bills unless they exceed 7.5 percent of your adjusted gross income. That may be a high threshold to cross, particularly since you can’t deduct medical costs reimbursed to you by your health insurance provider. Nonetheless, it might be worth your effort to keep records of the various medical expenses you incur, such as out-of-pocket hospital costs, lab work, dental and eye care costs, prescriptions and insurance premiums. It may seem like your manila folders will be stuffed to overflowing by the time you’re ready to work on your taxes or hand them off to your tax provider. But over the years, you’ll learn which documents, forms and receipts you need to keep and which ones you can “weed out”. After you’ve filed your taxes for the year, you may want to keep all your paperwork in a more permanent binder. But when the next tax season rolls around, it will once again be time to put those manila folders to work.

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call to schedule a new patient exam (by March 31st) you’ll receive that entire exam and an adjustment for just $37. That’s with exam, imaging….the whole ball of wax, and there’s no hidden fees. But, call right away because on Thursday, March 31st, 2011 at exactly 6p.m., this offer will expire (by law, this offer excludes Medicare/ Medicaid beneficiaries). My assistant is Gina and she is a really great person. Our office is both friendly and warm and we try our best to make you feel at home. We have a wonderful service, at an exceptional fee. Our office is called the Craig Clinic and it is at 195 Commons Loop (near the blue cow car wash). Our phone number is 406.260.4444. Call Gina or me today for an appointment. We can help you. Thank you and God Bless. Will Craig, D.C.

These neighbors of yours tell their stories: “I’m glad I finally saw Dr. Craig and got help. I feel great!” (Tim B.) “My headaches are completely gone now!” (Jan H.)

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riental Medicine has been collecting data through observation and experimentation to evolve its theories and treatments for over 5000 years. The theories developed focus on treating the individual not just the symptoms. Each person is unique in the way he/she experiences an injury or illness. That uniqueness is observed in the color of the complexion, the sound of the voice, the emotions that are felt, and what makes the condition better or worse. All of these factors are taken into consideration. In fact, the first visit is much like any other visit to a medical provider. First, I will ask you to fill out an extensive health history form, which includes family and personal medical history. We will review any signs and symptoms you have experienced in the last 6 months. Then we will discuss the details of your current condition that led you to seek my assistance. After reviewing your health history form, I will ask additional questions to help me to understand what you are feeling and experiencing on a physical and emotional level. An acupuncture treatment is very relaxing and pleasant. Very fine disposable sterile needles are placed gently into the acupuncture points and left there for 20 to 30 minutes. Once the needles are in place, there is no discomfort; in fact, most people experience deep relaxation and often fall asleep. The number of treatments necessary depends on the complexity of the problem. Typically for chronic conditions, a person is treated 1-2 times per week. After the fourth treatment we discuss what benefits have been gained by the treatments. If the acupuncture has been helpful, then we continue weekly treatments until the condition resolves or considerably improves. The concept of Qi is at the core of Oriental Medicine. Qi is the vital energy that flows throughout the body. A person’s health is directly proportional to the quality, quantity and unimpeded movement of Qi. Diagnostically, the pulse is felt at both wrists in 12 positions to determine the movement of Qi, and guides us in understanding areas of relative excess and deficiency. The tongue is observed to determine the functional health of MONTANA WOMAN

the organs and the internal environment of the body. The abdomen, spine and limbs are often palpated to determine areas of pressure pain and tension that relate to specific organs or meridians (the pathways for the Qi to flow). All of this information is combined to direct the course of treatment. Any area where the Qi is not flowing freely can produce pain, disease, or a lack of vitality. Therefore, the treatment must focus on moving the Qi. There are specific points and techniques used to achieve these treatment goals. At the Montana Center for Wellness and Pain Management we have the benefit of a team approach. The Center offers Medical and Interventional pain management, Addiction medicine, Counseling, Chiropractic, Physical therapy, Massage and Acupuncture. We work together to offer you the very best that Integrative medicine has to offer. Sara Marie has been practicing as a licensed acupuncturist in Montana since 1985. She earned her doctorate in Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine from the Oregon College of Oriental Medicine and holds the highest level of national certification with a Diplomate in Oriental Medicine from the National Certification Commission for Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine.

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In the Light CHRISTIAN McCARTHY, CLAIRVOYANT MEDIUM by Michelle Skaletski-Boyd

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amaste. Welcome to In the Light where concerns, left over issues, a release of sadness, spiritual seekers unite. This quarterly column simple curiosity, or a need for validation of what features Clairvoyant Medium, Christian they may already know, like who might be moving McCarthy, of Kalispell who holds a special a specific item around in their house.” What makes you unique? “I have a deep connection with those in the after-world. “I’ve always been drawn to the medium aspect,” understanding of the heartbreak that goes with Christian said, “It’s like being drawn to one death. Anyone can do this. I just focus on this more, so that’s where my energies color more than another; I am lie. The more you focus on drawn to this.” it, the more spirits will come What is Mediumship? and talk with you to the point “A medium is a person now where family members who can facilitate the will talk to me before a session communication with a loved begins. one who has passed over,” “I trust what I receive even Christian explained. “My when the person I am working first instance of ever knowing with may not yet know what I it was possible to communicate am saying. I have found that with those who have passed on when the information coming was with my dad who died “Most of the information through is not recognized right when I was young, and the I receive comes in the form away, it’s very possible it will experience was amazing. I’ve of pictures. I can also feel be recognized later through been touched deeply ever since. and hear. So long as you the client’s memory or through The majority of my energy have a willingness to open the memory of someone else. is now spent on connecting up, I can help you have a “I would have loved to people to their loved ones.” conversation”. have had someone do this for How does a connection me early on. No matter what take place? “Most of the - Christian McCarthy I get, it’s a gift, and I feel it’s information I receive comes my responsibility to give it.” in the form of pictures. I can also feel and hear. So long as Montana Woman readers and friends, by you have a willingness to open up, I can help you mentioning this ad you’ll save $15 off your have a conversation. “The love for a family member is what drives first session. Please phone 406-890-0511 to people to come talk to me. Many are taught to connect. ignore a memory of a family member or not be The Corporate Woo-Woo™ Michelle Skaletskiopen to it. To understand they still exist and you can still talk to them… the healing aspect is Boyd is a certified hypnotherapist, inspirational speaker and gifted clairaudient who helps spiritual incredible.” What do people expect when they see you? seekers fully connect to their Higher Self in order to “I try to make it as simple as possible, because it’s live in balance and on purpose. Connect with Michelle at 406-253-4134 or not about me; it’s about them. Sometimes people connect to someone they didn’t expect, so expect www.soulfeltwords.com. nothing and everything. Your family members have free will just like you. Come with no outcome in mind. If you expect nothing, it’s the best way to begin. You could get everything.” Why do people come see you? “Unresolved 20

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Nutrients reduce symptoms and likelihood of several gut diseases People with Crohn’s disease lack vitamin B12, folate. Crohn’s disease inflames the lining of the digestive tract and can have severe symptoms. Researchers in this study compared blood levels of vitamin B12 and folate in 45 people with Crohn’s disease to levels in 53 healthy people. Those with Crohn’s disease were three times more likely to be deficient in vitamin B12 and seven times more likely to be deficient in folate. Vitamin B12 levels were 18 percent higher, and folate levels were 20 percent higher, in healthy people compared to those with Crohn’s disease. Doctors believe that vitamin B12 and folate—the active form of folic acid—help control inflammation by lowering homocysteine levels.

Probiotics relieved symptoms of diverticulosis. In diverticulosis, the intestinal lining weakens, forming pouches that bulge outward and symptoms that can include constipation, diarrhea and abdominal pain. In this study, 45 men and women with diverticulosis, average age 63, took 10 ml of Lactobacilli acidophilus and bifidobacterium three times per day. Symptoms subsided during the study, and after six months, 68 percent or participants were still completely symptom free, with 78 percent of all participants saying probiotics were effective, or very effective, in reducing symptoms compared to the beginning of the study. Reference: European Journal of Internal Medicine; 2010, Vol.21, No. 4, 320-3 Reprinted from December 2010, Natural Insights for Well Being

Omega-3 reduced rectal polyps. Certain people inherit the tendency to develop cancerous colon polyps, familial polyposis (FP), and must have their colon removed to prevent cancer. After the operation, polyps can form in the remaining rectal tissue. In this study, 55 adults with FP who had their colon removed took 2,000 mg of eicosapentaenoic acid (EPA) per day, or a placebo. After six months, the number of polyps increased 10 percent in the placebo group while decreasing in number and size by more than 20 percent in the EPA group.

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hen was the last time you skinned your knee? It has probably been a while since you have experienced this commonplace ailment through rough and tumble youthful times. However, even if your grownup ways have made frequent knee scrape a thing of the past, your habits in adulthood could still be damaging your knees. Ask yourself the following questions to find out if you are being nice to your knees: How much weight are you carrying? Your knees bear the brunt of your body weight, so it is crucial that you maintain a healthy weight. Every extra pound you carry adds up to three pounds of pressure on your knee joints when you walk, and ten pounds when you run. Are you exercising? Regular exercise is essential to maintaining knee strength. Without it, your muscles weaken, leaving your joints vulnerable. Your best bet is to choose activities with a low risk of knee injury, such as Yoga, walking, biking, swimming, and weight lifting. Are you overusing some muscles and joints? Staying active is good for your knees, but you should avoid repetitive strain on muscles and joints, which can loosen tendons and damage cartilage. Be sure to listen to your body. When you feel pain or discomfort during or after an activity, do not ignore it. Take a break and focus on other activities that do not stress the injured joint. If the pain does not go away in two weeks, see your doctor. Is your body properly aligned? Just as driving a car when the wheels are out of alignment causes tires to wear irregularly, the same principle holds true for your knees. If your body isn’t properly aligned, your knees take more strain than they are able to endure healthfully. Always practice good posture— both when sitting and standing. Are you wearing the right shoes? Shoes that cause your body weight to be unevenly distributed place extra stress on your knee joints. In addition to avoiding obviously uncomfortable or impractical shoes, consider purchasing at least one pair of shoes at a specialty store where staff can advise you on what is appropriate support for your foot and body type. A visit with a podiatrist can help diagnose any particular foot or gait concerns. Arthritis of the knee is common. However, it is not necessarily an inevitable consequence of aging. Taking care of your knees will cost you a lot less time and effort than rehabilitating them down the road. www.montanawoman.com

Postpartum depression or anxiety affects

approximately 10-20% of women. Onset can occur anytime during pregnancy or up to a year after delivery. Anxiety and depression can often co-exist. Symptoms can include feeling overwhelmed, loss of interest or joy in doing things you used to enjoy, lack of feelings toward the baby or inability to take care of self or others, sleep disturbances, constant worry, racing thoughts, feeling anxious, sad, irritable, or hopeless. Numerous options are available to help with treatment; this can include: medication, social support, avoiding isolation, getting plenty of rest, eating healthy, and counseling. Additional resources can be books, pamphlets, online support groups, organization such as Postpartum Support International and websites. Let your provider know if you have having symptoms. Guidance is also available through the National Postpartum Depressions hotline – 1-800-PPD-MOMS (733-6667); www.postpartum.net or www.ppdsupport.org.

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Home Work with Rhonda SEASONAL CHORES FOR THE TIME CHANGE by Rhonda Young

The days are finally getting longer.

Spring is just around the corner, or at least so says my calendar. Some days, it’s hard to tell. But I have noticed there’s a little daylight left on the western horizon when I leave work, as opposed to the utter darkness we’ve experienced for the past several months. Mornings, too, seem to be happening earlier. This tells me Daylight Saving Time is rapidly approaching. This year, we’ll set our clocks forward at 2 a.m. on Sunday, March 13. I’m not a big fan of losing an hour. Since its inception, there have been plenty of folks who feel like I do—why mess with changing the clocks at all? The rationale behind it is to make better use of daylight. A writer in 1947 noted, “I don’t really care how time is reckoned so long as there is some agreement about it, but I object to being told that I am saving daylight when my reason tells me that I am doing nothing of the kind. I even object to the implication that I am wasting something valuable if I stay in bed after the sun has risen. As an admirer of moonlight I resent the bossy insistence of those who want to reduce my time for enjoying it. At the back of the Daylight Saving scheme I detect the bony, blue-fingered hand of Puritanism, eager to push people into bed earlier, and get them up earlier, to make them healthy, wealthy and wise in spite of themselves.” (Robertson Davies, The Diary of Samuel Marchbanks, 1947, XIX, Sunday.) I can relate. Seems to me we have plenty of daylight in spring and summer here in Montana. However, I accept there are just some things in this life I can’t change. So, making the best of it, I use Daylight Saving Time as a reminder to tackle those annual or even semi-annual chores. This is the time of year we are urged to check the batteries in our smoke detectors. In our household, this is also one of the times we use to flip the mattress. There’s one more item I’m adding to my list, because I often forget to check until there’s a problem. We’ve been in this home for 2 years now, and I couldn’t tell you if I have a water collection tray underneath my fridge or not. I think it’s time I found out. And while I’m at it, this is a good time to pull the fridge from the wall, and really clean the backside. Dust builds up on the coils back there, making the fridge work harder than it needs to. After that’s all done, I’m going to stay in bed until after the sun comes up just so I can practice accepting anything else I can’t change.

Peaks and Valleys continued from page 14 One minute I was awake, the next I was IV’d and awake again, getting rid of gas like a trooper! Don’t be shy—everyone is doing it! If you don’t, there won’t be enough Gas-X in the drug store to soothe your pain. THE RECOVERY: Stock your pantry. Get ready to set back the diet and pack in food and drink like a starving bear about to hibernate. After your 6-hour nap, that is. This will be the best sleep of your lifetime, so have the bed all ready for you, jammies laid out, shutters drawn. Go for the gold. Once I slept from noon until the next morning. PERSPECTIVE: Remember, life is all about perspective. I just woke up from my afternoon beauty slumber knowing that all the things I waste time worrying about simply pale by comparison to the blessing of good health, bounteous food, and the reassurance that I don’t need to do this again for five more years! March is the National Colorectal Cancer Awareness Month. According to the CDC: “Among cancers that affect both men and women, colorectal cancer—cancer of the colon or rectum— is the second leading cause of cancerrelated deaths in the United States. Colorectal cancer also is one of the most commonly diagnosed cancers in the United States. “The risk of developing colorectal cancer increases with advancing age. More than 90% of cases occur in people aged 50 or older. Colorectal cancer screening saves lives. If everyone aged 50 years old or older were screened regularly, as many as 60% of deaths from this cancer could be avoided.”

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Snapshots of Life continued from page 13 short reign, as the first female game warden, is unknown. Having been a Montana Game Warden’s wife she would have had many skills and some excellent knowledge to do the job. There are many people who respected the job Charles B. Peyton did as Game Warden and felt Linnie Peyton should get every chance to be able to support her family. There are some who believe Linnie was never paid because of the way her husband worked his job as Game Warden. Others believe Linnie was refused pay because they didn’t think Warden Charles B. Peyton died in the line of duty. Everyone had their own opinions on the situation and many still do today. Bottom line: Charles B. Peyton died in the line of duty and Montana owes Game Warden Charles Peyton, Game Warden Linnie Peyton, and their three children Montgomery, Hugh, and Dewitt, the utmost respect for what they contributed to the great state of Montana and its wildlife. References: 1. Special Dispatch to the StandardHelena, Montana 04-02-1909, Mrs. Peyton Ineligible to Hold Office 2. Supreme Court of the State Of Montana, Mrs. Charles B. Peyton v. Harry R. Cunningham, State Auditor. Feb. 1909 3. Butte Miner Paper, Women Officers, April 1909 4. Supreme Court of the State Of Montana (See *7) 5. Mr. Chief Justice Brantly delivered the opinion of the Supreme Court of Montana to Walsh & Nolan, for Mrs. C B. Peyton, 1909 About the Authors: Bill Koppen has been in law enforcement for 31 years, working for the Montana Department of Fish, Wildlife and Parks for 22 years. He currently works the same district as that of Charles and Linnie Peyton. Lindsey Koppen is Bill’s daughter and knows the importance of the Montana Game Warden. She, along with her father, believes in the cause Charles B. Peyton died for. She is currently living in California pursuing a career in Film/ Television Production. They are both strong supporters of the Peyton legacy and any opinions that appear in this story are strictly their own. Their hope is that the dedication and sacrifice to the protection of Montana’s fish and wildlife by Charles and Linnie Peyton will not be forgotten. www.montanawoman.com

Just Stoppin’ By MARCH, NEITHER WINTER NOR SPRING by Patty Crow

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arch is an odd month. It’s near the end of winter but not quite spring. Montanans have suffered through the cold, snow and ice with the usual stoic attitude. We’ve all found ways to amuse ourselves through long dark, often dreary days. Some of us engage in outdoor sports like skiing or snowshoeing or hunting. Some of us quilt or read or do crafts. Some of us write stories to entertain ourselves. I think all of us whine a little about winter’s cocoon, even if it’s a silent complaint. After all, we’re tough northwesterners. I always knew when spring was drawing near because my husband started talking about and looking at new/used trucks. He poured over newspaper want ads, drove slowly by any truck with a ‘For Sale’ sign in its window. He cruised by local used car lots, muttering and speculating. Every spring. Every year. Other women of my acquaintance related the same phenomenon. After much discussion and knowing smiles, we decided it must be a ‘guy’ thing. I always slobber and sigh over the first seed and bulb catalogs. I dream of crocus, hyacinths, daffodils and eventually tulips poking plump buds up through the gloom and last season’s debris. Of course, I visualize vibrant and vigorous colors, sturdy green stalks and stems. In my perfect world the deer don’t devour the blossoms before I get a chance to see them in their full glory. Okay, I said it was a perfect world, not reality. I become restless and agitated. I walk around my partially frozen yard and flowerbeds, wondering if it’s too early to try to plant something. Anything. Clearly I know it is—but I can’t help myself. The smell of rich earth fills my imagination, lures and beckons me. I fret. I want to dig in the dirt. I want to buy marigolds and petunias and alyssum and geraniums and pansies and violets and daisies and begonias. I want to nourish them and watch them grow. Oh! And the robins! Yes! When they begin to arrive it is definitely and officially spring. I don’t know how these hardy birds survive in the cold, rainy weather but they do, year after year. Robins remind me of Easter and Easter egg hunts. My thoughts turn to all of those little children, decked out in their Easter finery, scrambling and toddling around looking for eggs hidden in grass, trees, bushes and, of course, the spring flowers. That brings back sweet memories of my two children when they were small. Robins, flowers and the Easter Bunny make me smile. Well, I think you all get the picture. I’m bored with winter. I have cabin fever. I’ve reached my fun limit. I want to work/play outside in the sunshine again. I want to hear men talk about the terrific new/used trucks available this year. That is the FIRST real sign of spring.

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Living Beautifuly

In the Scheme of Things… FAILED EXPECTATIONS

HELLO, GORGEOUS

by Nan S. Russell

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t wasn’t the weekend expected. Following a couple weeks of complicated travel to multiple cities for several speaking engagements, I was eager for much needed renewal time to write and relax in our off-the-grid wilderness cabin near Glacier National Park. Heading out mid-day in good winter weather, expecting a simple seventy-five minute journey, we turned off the remote main road onto ours, a one-lane trail that winds a mile and a half through a thick forest and ultimately to our cabin’s driveway. “Looking good,” I said as we approached the end of the Forest Service marker. But, I spoke too soon. A mile later, our SUV was immobile in knee-deep snow. We donned snowshoes and walked the remaining distance. While it’s not a common occurrence to walk in, it does happen from time to time. On this particular day, the white-flocked trees and views of snow capped Rockies, made it a delightful adventure. What came next was not. With temperature highs hovering below zero while we were away, our generator had stopped working, the backup batteries were drained, our now unheated cabin was 23 degrees, spoiled food dripped in the non-working freezer, and as the thaw began, the immergence of broken pipes appeared. Like many expectations, the anticipated and the actual frequently differ. Instead of a relaxing weekend, we were both exhausted and drained by the time everything got cleaned up and fixed. Now, this is not a woe-is-us story. In the big scheme of things, stuck SUVs, freezing temperatures, spoiled food, and broken pipes are very minor inconveniences. And anyway, it’s our choice to have a wilderness cabin where we run the risk of surprises. But the experience was a good reminder about failed expectations. My weekend felt ruined more from what I expected to have happen than from what did happen. Yet it’s curious, now in reflection, the weekend’s challenges also offered us some unexpected sweetness. Our treks out to “civilization” for cleanup supplies and parts, our evening musings under multiple down comforters, and our creative meal creations, offered us an interesting, unique, and very connected weekend. In the scheme of things, sometimes we get what we expect and sometimes we don’t. But it seems to me, much of our real living and personal insights come not from getting what we want or expect or desire, but in the times when we don’t. Like the Dutch proverb says, “For the concert of life, no one receives a program.” Our failed expectations help us encounter ourselves in new ways. They can disappoint us, challenge us, mold us, evolve us, nudge us, or awaken us. And to that end, it was a very good weekend at the cabin.

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oodbye winter; hello spring! Last month, I gave you the color trends for this spring’s hottest makeup looks, but first we must prepare our skin for the change that is coming. By following this routine, before you know it you can say goodbye to dry, itchy winter skin and say hello to new, youthful, glowing skin! First, please, ladies, wash your face every night before bed, no exceptions! My favorite product is MAC Cleansing Oil to break up and melt away makeup followed by Clinique Mild Cleansing Soap to wash away any leftover residue and balance my skin’s moisture levels. Second, exfoliate. This is crucial to cell turnover and renewal. Without it, the dead skin cells build up on your face, which leads to dry spots and breakouts. Try Clinique Clarifying Lotion, which contains salicylic acid, a type of beta hydroxy acid which aids in the shedding of dead skin cells, preventing the clogging of pores while aiding in the ridding of acne. I use Clinique 7 Day Scrub Cream every morning. It has just the right amount of grit and makes my skin feel baby soft! Third, moisturize! I have fairly normal to dry skin so Clinique’s Dramatically Different Moisturizing Lotion works great for my base moisturizer. It controls oil and balances moisture. At 33 I am experiencing some early signs of aging (moan), so I use additional products to help me along the way. For daytime use, Clarins Multi Active Day Cream is a great defense against early signs of aging. Clinique Even Better Clinical Dark Spot Corrector gently fades any dark spots caused by sun exposure or acne scars. In the evening I prefer Avalon Organics Vitamin C Vitality Facial Serum. Vitamin C is highly recommended for those of us using chemical peels or microdermabrasion systems. You’re on your way to gorgeous skin; see you soon! Remember, be beautiful and live beautifully! ~Emily Check out my website www.emjcosmetics.com for a full list of services and video tutorials! For questions or column suggestions, email emily@emjcosmetics.com. For appointments, call (406)270-9842.

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The Awakened Mind DYSREGULATION DISORDERS: BEYOND MEDICATIONS by Lora Lonsberry, Ph.D.

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or those struggling with dysregulation disorders and for parents neurofeedback has helped bring about in their child’s life. of children with dysregulation disorders, there are treatment choices The father of a seven year-old boy said simply, solemnly, “Reily was other than medications. Neurofeedback is a safe, natural treatment invited to a birthday party.” Although this might seem routine to many for dysregulation disorders, and one that addresses the underlying parents, for Reily’s father it symbolized that his son’s tormented journey causes. Treatment with neurofeedback commonly leads to was ending and a new life was beginning. significant and far-ranging improvements in all the symptoms of the The mother of a fourteen year-old girl called to describe how, months cluster. After treatment with neurofeedback, most children and after her daughter’s treatment was completed, she opened the medicine adults dramatically reduce the symptoms that brought them into cabinet looking for an eye dropper and found herself face-to-face with treatment. In addition, those individuals on medication are usually three shelves of medications Daisha had taken for years. They were able to decrease their doses of medication or stop taking drugs mostly pain medications for her headaches, but there were also altogether. stimulants, tranquilizers, and sleeping pills. She told us when she Be cautions of clinicians who are unfamiliar with neurofeedback, realized that Daisha had not used a pill of any kind in more than six yet claim that it has not been proven effective. It is effective and months, she stood in front of that medicine cabinet and wept. there is research to back up this claim. Though neurofeedback uses Witnessing the relief and gratitude of the parents of the children we rigorous scientific methods as much as possible, it is an evidencetreat is a gift and brings home the realization of what a privilege it is to based and outcome-based treatment modality. There is a wealth of be able to offer such a hopeful, effective solution to so many people. evidence and outcome data that supports neurofeedback’s safety and Our memories of patients we have treated are rich with snapshots of effectiveness. Do not blame your doctor if he or she is completely their successes that they have recounted to us over the years: unaware of the documented evidence concerning neurofeedback. Andora, a personable teenager, was an aggressive point guard on her No one can keep abreast of everything in the journals. high school basketball team, but was suspended from the team due to It is our belief that the optimal treatment for dysregulation academic failures. The next season, after intensive neurofeedback disorders is not as simple as taking a pill—or pills. All treatment for treatment over the summer, not only did her grades improve, but she dysregualtion disorders should consist of a also became a better player. She felt her court ora wider strategy that seeks to improve brain vision improved and her coach reported that functioning. So we include proper nutrition she was able to remember and execute more onsberry PhD and freedom from toxic substances in our complex tactics. She is now in her junior year protocols. The combination will help support of college, majoring in law enforcement, with Neurofeedback optimal brain activity in anyone. plans to become an FBI agent. Her world THERAPY Neurofeedback, optimal nutrition, heavy metal expanded. detoxification, and yeast treatment are only a Keven is a fifth grader who would not Neurofeedback and Psychotherapy for Feelings, Thoughts and Behaviors. few of the many safe and effective methods spend the night at a friend’s house or go now approaching mainstream medicine. camping due to his fear of wetting the bed, Regardless the age, neurofeedback can help your brain improve its ability to pay For those of us who use neurofeedback in which occurred with distressing regularity at attention, develop more stability and improve our clinical practices, there is seldom anything home. He was treated for ADHD with concentration under stress. as gratifying as the consistent and dramatic neurofeedback and has not had a single For adults & children struggling with: improvements in our patients’ lives. Certainly, episode of enuresis in eleven months. • ADD/ADHD • Anxiety& Depression the most poignant moments for us are when Andrew is a middle school principal with • Migraines • Addictive Disorders parents, after seeing their children’s lives adult ADHD whose life was dominated by • PTSD • Sleep Disturbances restored, talk about the anguish and heartache • Pain Control • Epilepsy strategies he used to help him remember what • PMS • Peak Athletic Performance they lived through for so many years. Many he needed to do and where he needed to be. • Cognitive Function Enhancement tell us about having feared that their children He had Post-it notes everywhere, he was • Traumatic Brain Disorder would never come close to realizing their constantly programming his watch to beep to Affective Neurosciences, PLLC potential, and would go on to live lives of remind him of things, and his computer was disappointment, self-doubt, and loneliness. loaded with reminder messages, not to (406) 752-6634 455 N Foys Lake Dr • Kalispell MT 59901 Often, parents tell us about experiencing a mention his phone. He drank a pot of coffee moment that reveals to them in no uncertain www.loralonsberry.com continued on page 37 terms the extent of the changes that

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veryone needs a hero and I have mine. My hero pioneered specialized treatment to normalize recovery for her idea of having a special Appearance Center Boutique on hospital cancer patients. She created the first Appearance Center for patients at grounds. She would design, stock and run the shop and consult with City of Hope Cancer Hospital in California. Then she consulted for clients. The caveat was that each client would be treated with sensitivity and helped build twenty-three more Appearance Centers at major in private fitting rooms. Trained volunteers would help her run the medical facilities across the country—at Harvard, St. Johns, Mount shop to keep expenses down. Sinai and Baylor, to name a few. She helped adults and children begin It was the first shop of its kind in the country—one of many Linda to lead normal, independent and healthy lives instead of hiding behind Secher would create over the years. It was her passion, her joy and her locked doors fearing rejection. At sixty, she contracted multiple vision that every cancer patient have access to Appearance Centers to sclerosis, but never gave up her passion. She continued traveling, re-enter life in the most normal way possible. consulting and educating patients wherever she could. When it became Ten years ago, Linda was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. At first it more difficult, she tried harder. When Yale didn’t slow her down, but as the years went by, her University Medical Center decided to open an right leg wouldn’t follow her commands, her hands Appearance Center in their new cancer facility, they trembled, and her eyesight deteriorated and she could looked for the best in the field and hired her full no longer drive. Though she continued to work, time to run their center in New Haven. She moved traveling around the country became increasingly across the country from California to Connecticut, difficult, and some prospective clients doubted her into a little house facing Long Island Sound, hired a ability. But not Yale. They fell in love with her taxi to take her and her scooter to and from the enthusiasm and commitment and asked if she would hospital, and is still following her passion to bring consider moving to New Haven full time. She was normalcy to cancer patients. Recently, a photo was ecstatic when she called to tell us the news. At seventy taken of her in the new center at Yale, surrounded by cartons of she was starting life all over again. I still choke up when I remember wigs, hats, make-up, books and bras to stock the shop. Her arms that phone call. are outstretched, her head thrown back and her face filled with joy. My own aging process makes me realize how important it is to be Linda Secher is her name. She is my sister-in-law and my hero. passionate about my purpose in life, to fill each day with joy and When I met Linda over twenty years ago, she owned a beauty salon construct a legacy that is meaningful for younger generations. Linda in Los Angeles, but her training was in microbiology. When she found Secher lives her passion heroically every day, overcomes challenges and that a number of her clients were disappearing while going through never gives up. She is a living model of what it means to Age Gloriously. chemotherapy, she wondered what could be done to help them. They were embarrassed to be seen in public. Their hair was falling out, their Ina Albert, Life Transitions Coach and Certified Seminar Leader of complexions were sickly, they didn’t know where to find special bras, or Age-ing to Sage-ing® Seminars, can be contacted at inaalbert@me.com or by dental care and hadn’t the vaguest idea of how to apply make-up to a calling (406) 863-2333. face that had no eyebrows or lashes. So they stopped coming to her shop and went into hiding. The last thing they needed was to have their hair done. Since there was no facility for • paninis special treatment and resources for them, she decided to make home visits to fill their special • sandwiches needs for wigs, prosthesis, insurance, dental • wraps and skin care, and all the other special services • soups needed by recovering cancer patients. Linda • smoothies made herself an expert in the field and then counseled patients and families, made special • espresso arrangements for wig fittings, got information • burgers packets and referrals for her clients from the 100 Dewey Avenue • salads American Cancer Society’s Look Good Feel Eureka, Montana • Special of the day Better Program, local hospitals and physicians. Still, it did not satisfy her vision for the best care for recovering patients. They needed to get back into the world, not to be shut up in their homes fearful of going out in public and Tuesday - Friday 11 - 6 • Saturday - 12 - 6 living normal lives. So she contacted a local 5% off when you mention this ad cancer hospital, City of Hope, and presented

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Spreading Sunshine SPRING BREAK by Don and Tammy Hedlind

Put your troubles down It’s time to celebrate Let love shine And we will find A way to come together And make things better We need a holiday

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h, spring break, the holiday, is on its way. As we finish up with what has been a long cold winter, we start to experience little glimpses into the future. The snow is melting, the birds are chirping and the temperatures are starting to rise. Pretty soon many will be preparing for their annual vacations to distant warm places such as Florida, Arizona, California and the tropics. The fun “in the sun” of spring break is a welcome change from the bundled up, dark and cold of Montana’s winter. Every year we look forward to this time because it brings more customers into our salons who are preparing for the harshness of the southern sun by getting a base tan. They know it will help give their skin the natural protection they need to properly and adequately enjoy their vacation and not be saddled with a(vacation ending) sunburn and the potential consequences of bad planning. An essential part of planning for a vacation in the hot southern sun is getting your base tan; it is a needed necessity because it helps the skin build up its protection from the elements. Vacations are an expensive part of an active lifestyle and no one should be subjected to a sunburn that could put a damper on the planned activities. While planning your spring break vacation this year, make sure to allow for at least 1 month of “base tan building” tanning to help condition your skin and potentially avoid a sunburn or help you reduce the amount of SPF lotion you may need to wear when exposed to the elements. We wrote two articles on SPF lotions in September and October 2010 that detail SPF lotions and the contents the lotions contained that help reflect the sun off the skin. We discussed both inorganic and 34

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The Awakened Mind continued from page 31 each day, and was unable to cut his smoking down to less than a pack a day. Though his friends and colleagues found his methods and his breakneck pace amusing, we knew of the anguish he and his wife were experiencing due to the tremendous burden he was under just to get from day to day. His response to neurofeedback was a wonderful demonstration to us of how a well-regulated brain allows a person to access his inborn abilities. Today, Andrew is a relaxed man with a peaceful demeanor. He is a highly organized administrator and, with the spare time and energy that has been freed up, he has begun to pursue two lifelong aspirations: He has taken up the saxophone and is making preliminary plans to run for a local office. We could go on with stories such as those we have told, but we have provided enough case histories and information to help you in your search for a better, more productive life for you or your child, so we at Affective NeuroSciences, wish you well in your endeavors.

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here are two modes of mind: being and doing. The doing mode is what most of us live in; we run around hurrying to accomplish tasks and thoughts are racing through our heads. The being mode is also called mindfulness; this mode is the feeling and experiencing mode. These two modes can be likened to taking a trip: the doing mode is hurrying to get to the destination while the being mode is enjoying the journey to the destination. The concept of Mindfulness is derived from ancient Buddhist and Yoga practices and is often called Presence. The word Mindfulness means remembering in Sanskrit; in Buddhist texts this is referred to as the awareness that accompanies thoughts and actions… the awareness that is aware of itself. Mindfulness is a state of being rather than doing; it encourages being a part of the experience rather than finding a way to get rid of it. We often are frustrated that we feel a certain way and this just adds to the problem rather than resolving it. Fighting a problem just causes more tension in the body and conflict in the mind. Mindfulness is an intent to be aware of the present moment without judgment. It is an awareness of the mind, body, and soul. Mindfulness cannot be achieved immediately; it needs to be cultivated by practicing certain skills such as paying attention intentionally, noticing reactions to people and events, and practicing reacting with compassion. These skills are typically practiced through breathing exercises, yoga movements, body scans, and meditation. Meditation is a way to bring attention to the “being” mode of mind. Breathing is the focus of the meditation and the idea is to keep the focus on the breath instead of on thoughts. If thoughts take over, it is important to refocus on the breath and to not get discouraged that other thoughts arose. Meditation allows us to notice all of the sensory input that is typically ignored. We start to notice tightness in certain areas of our body and are able to choose to relax them. We start to notice what thoughts come into our mind and when. If we can learn to recognize our stress through our body’s reaction to it, we can then begin to calm stress through the body. Once the body is calmed the mind is able to see a situation for what it is rather than resenting having to deal with it. This is all very important in the overall picture of mindfulness as that is what we hope to carry with us even outside of the meditative process. Once mindfulness is practiced, people find that anxiety and depression fall away without effort. Conflicts that were once enough to throw us off our path are now only a little bump in the road. Mindfulness brings peace, happiness, and fulfillment. The practice of mindfulness has changed the way that I live my life and is integrated into my work with clients. Everyone can benefit from this practice! If you have any questions about Mindfulness Training or wish to experience it, please call 406.471.6508. Arima… a mind, body, and soul approach to emotional health.

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Words Make Worlds FOOD ILLUSIONS: THE JOURNEY TOWARD GOOD AND NOURISHING FOOD by Jenna Caplette

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low to high fat. Yet it is a movement and it’s inspiring to me how it has grown n 2003, when I signed up for a four year course in traditional healing and in just the past few years. Information that was difficult to come by at the balancing, I had no idea how profoundly it would change what I eat.  time of my initial training is much more readily available. So are alternatives, I had been looking at my relationship with food for a long while.  Part of the like coconut milk yogurt or diverse gluten-free items. healthy eating movement of the 70’s, for several years I was a vegetarian. About Several years ago, Anna Lappé was in Missoula on a tour to promote her sixteen years ago I eliminated wheat from my diet—and those were the days new book, Grub: Ideas for an Urban Organic Kitchen. Recognize the last name? before there were so many good gluten-free wheat alternatives or the kind of Anna’s mother, Anne Lappé, wrote the classic, Diet for a Small Planet. momentum there is now for that choice. But by the time I started my training, There are recipes in Grub and ideas for meals that invite you to eat with the things had hit a state of inertia for me. I had dabbled but hadn’t considered the season. But Anna’s presentation wasn’t about cooking. It was an exploration whole dynamic of food in the kind of way my training began to require.  of illusions Americans have about our food. Here’s just a couple to get you Why was diet so important? The woman I studied with had found that some thinking and to encourage you to do your own research. of her clients weren’t healing the way she would expect. So she began to research First, the question of whether we have as much choice in what we eat as the food and then to change her own diet. She brought what she was learning to food lining the shelves in the stores where we shop invites us to believe. Just a the trainings. Caring for my own health has been and is part of my journey as a handful of corporations bring us over half of the food we eat. For many of us healer.  But also, an inappropriate diet can blur thinking, the ability to focus and the ability to choose and pay for local, sustainable foods remains limited. connect—things I need to be able to do when working.  Second, the belief that our food is clean and safe. Here Lappé discussed I made my changes incrementally. Still do. After an early training, I came pesticides and other chemicals. home and eliminated our family microwave. A friend told me later how my Next, that our food is inexpensive. Lappé pointed out that most of the daughter had stomped across the MSU campus muttering about how angry she costs of food production are indirect. We pay them when our taxes go to was with me for that. environmental clean-up, to farm subsidies, to health care. At the time Lappé We bought a toaster oven and moved on. But the microwave was just the made her presentation, she reported that one out of every ten dollars spent beginning of a wave of change in my relationship with food. I’m still riding that on health care was being spent on preventable diet-related health problems. wave. My daughter has reluctantly surfed along, with determined detours for She suggested that rather than focusing on whether something can be done junk food. The changes I made created frictions in some friendships almost as in food production, the question the industry and we consumers need to ask intense as when I stopped drinking thirty years ago. should be: Is that really a good idea? All of that was hugely inconvenient, uncomfortable, and unexpected. Over So, then, how exactly did Lappe define good time, I found it simpler to either not share meals “grub”? The book’s website, www.eatgrub.org , says: with people, or to show up with my own food. 1. grub is healthy, local, sustainable food for all On the upside, I began to garden again and 2. grub is food that supports community, justice, rediscovered the joy of a relationship with my own and sustainability plant community, along with frustrations… like 3. grub should be universal. damage from hail storms. The Grub website includes detailed resources. To What brought this topic to mind is both that I just that I add the Weston A. Price Foundation, a nonreturned from a training and that food often comes profit association, “dedicated to restoring nutrientup in sessions with clients in my BodyTalk practice. dense foods to the human diet through education, With clients, there’s no specific spiel I give, no set research and activism.” Their Health Topics section approach. Whatever conversation I have with them includes, “hundreds of articles on nutrition, diet, is within the context of their own session, working and health.” Visit: http://www.westonaprice.org/ from what their body seems to be communicating. healthtopics.html I connect them with resources and talk with them Enjoying good and nourishing food requires about my own experience. Their BodyTalk session paying attention, making informed choices, along will often suggest a first step for them: perhaps with a knowing intimacy with the health of your own changing their relationship with saturated fats like body. It invites you to become politically active. coconut oil and butter. Every journey begins with a first step. What will What happens next is completely up to each yours be? client. I know how disruptive these changes have been in my own life, how they’ve stretched my sense 104 East Main Jenna Caplette is a Certified BodyTalk Practitioner of reality. I’m also clear how improved is my own Suite 308 in Bozeman. She works long distance and locally with health, my enjoyment of life. Bozeman, MT clients who are ready to make healthier choices in their The ultimate message of the food movement is USA own lives. Learn more at www.bozemanbodytalk.com one of hope: people waking up, being inspired, and 406-920-2691 making changes. jennac@imt.net Yes, there is a movement and it’s about much www.jennacaplette.com more than going to your local farmer’s market. It’s not a movement with a single point of view. For instance, there’s not agreement on the best diets— those can range from vegan to meat intensive, from 38

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When someone gives you a beautifully wrapped package, you

say, “Thank you.” When a customer gives you a complaint you should always say, “Thank you,” because their complaint is truly a “gift”. What gift has the complaining customer given you? Maybe it’s easier to see complaints as gifts by considering what the customer could have done instead of complaining. Your customer could have: • Not complained and just left to do business with your completion. • Talked to coworkers, family and friends about their complaint about your business. But never talked to you. • The customer could have posted their complaint on the Internet. • The customer could have put a 12’ x 20’ billboard on their lawn telling all passersby about how badly they feel they were treated by your business. • Have a float in a parade dedicated to badmouthing your business. Many businesses have set goals of “customer complaint reduction”. Unfortunately, a business can reduce the number of complaints without increasing customer satisfaction. How? In the book, A Complaint is A Gift, the head of British Airways described how his company made it hard for customers to complain: “More organizations are realizing that they need to train every employee to recognize the ‘gift’ of a customer complaint, know more about complaining customers, and have a process in place to resolve complaints quickly.” A customer coming directly to you with a complaint really is giving you a gift. And your business wants to receive as many of these gifts from customers as possible. That’s right; more complaints are better. Meet the four types of “complainers” introduced in the book, A Complaint is A Gift, by authors Janelle Barlow and Claus Møller: Voicers, Passives, Irates and Activists. Voicers represent 37% of complainers. Voicers are, “The most desirable of dissatisfied customers... they tell the organization when they have had bad experiences. When something does not please them, they generally do not go out and tell a bunch of other people about bad service or products.” The ideal is to convert all customers into Voicers, and resolve their dissatisfaction promptly by making it safe and easy to voice their complaints and resolving their complaints quickly. The researchers found that 14% of complainers were Passives. “A company can provide bad service or products to this group of non-complainers, and they will keep coming back, at least for a while.” This category is quiet, but undesirable. They don’t give you a www.montanawoman.com

by Jeri Mae Rowley, MS Human Resource Management chance to fix their problems, and eventually quit doing business with you, but you never know why. Irates make up 21% of complainers. “The Irates are the most lethal of the four groups. In many cases, they will not say a word to the service provider or company. But they will tell lots of people about bad service and will stop buying.” 28% of complainers fell into the category of Activists – Note: A Voicer, who doesn’t feel treated fairly by the business or organization, may turn into an Activist. “They may be seeking revenge while spreading the word of the company’s bad service to everyone and never again patronize the company.” A classic case of a Voicer-Turned-Activist is Canadian singersongwriter Dave Carroll who witnessed baggage handlers tossing his band’s guitars. The melee resulted in a broken $3,500 Taylor guitar. Carrol voiced his complaint and asked for $1,200 to repair his guitar. After nine months of calls and emails failed to net Carroll compensation for his guitar repair, he became an Activist, wrote “United Breaks Guitars”, and posted it on YouTube. The video has been viewed 9,929,844 times, has been featured on national and international news, and become a classic “how not to handle a customer complaint” case study in customer service seminars. Whether the customer wraps his complaint in soft spoken, polite, respectful words—or wraps it up in frustration, irritation and defensiveness—we have to treat it like a welcome gift. Learning to see past the emotional wrapping, and get to the important message inside, speeds up the complaint process. Most unresolved complaints are the result of not having a complaint process that: • Welcomes complaints as gifts. • Provides training to all employees for complaint recovery. • Empowers everyone in the organization to resolve complaints quickly. • Uses complaints to improve products and fix service breakdowns. Customer complaints are gifts to your business. Encourage customers to complain by making your complaint process welcoming, positive, and FAST. Resolve at least one complaint permanently every day. Learn and improve your products and services based on customer complaints. Then watch your business grow from receiving these great “gifts” from customers. Jeri Mae Rowley, MS, Human Resource Management - This saddle maker’s daughter delights audiences with her unique brand of “Western Wit and Wisdom for Your Workplace.™” Please visit her website: www.jerimaerowley.com.

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Tattered Tales THE OLD MAN’S WINTER DREAM by R. Thomas Funk

The old man shuffled out the front door and into the bright

winter sunshine. He wiped the snow off of the bench and slowly settled onto it. Sunshine had been all too rare this winter. Weeks upon weeks of clouds and fog had sapped much of his energy and now he relished the warmth and the brightness that refreshed him, and like a young plant, he turned to face the sun. Nearing the century mark, he none the less still enjoyed the freedom his home afforded. For more than seven decades he had lived on his mountain. The cabin he had built, the well he had dug by hand, the garden he planted every spring and cared for until harvest supplied most of his needs. He hauled water from the well in two buckets suspended from an oak yoke he had whittled in 1923. Each morning he filled the boiler attached to the wood cook stove and the cold water cistern. He could only haul two gallons at a time now, so it took several trips. Irrigating his garden during the drought seasons was all consuming, but hard work had never been a stranger. The firewood stacked around the front porch came from his mountain. He could not cut the wood himself, so his children came up every fall and cut and stacked it for him, but he still chopped his own kindling every morning. With his eyes closed to the sun’s radiance, he listened to the familiar sounds of home. The plop of the snow falling from the limbs of the trees surrounding his home reminded him that winter would not last forever. The bird calls whistling from the big ponderosa pine tree in the front yard let him know he was not alone. The sound of water running from the artesian well out back was symbolic of his blessings overflowing. He had arrived on the mountain in 1919 following three years in the service. Tired of war and all it represented, he had saved all of his pay and used it to buy the land, a horse, a wall tent with a wood stove, and the tools he needed to build his home. The first chore was water. There was a sluggish spring which gave birth to a weak rill in the ravine in back of his cabin site. He dug out the spring, and one afternoon, it bubbled to life and a creek was born. He erected a well house from native stone with an overflow pipe and the water never failed. He carefully laid out the dimensions of his cabin, and built the foundation out of rock and mortar. The logs he felled, limbed, and with his draft horse drug to the building site. There they were peeled, shaped and finally placed one upon the other. So carefully did he use the axe and the adze that he did not have to use any chinking for several years, not until the logs had dried and settled. Once his cabin was finished, he went to work logging and clearing his garden and saving up the money he needed for the coming winter. 42

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When fall was waning, he considered his desire for a wife and family, and with a beautiful farm girl in mind, he descended the mountain astride his horse and returned two weeks later with his bride and a wagon load of furnishings for their home. He carried her across the threshold just as the first snowflakes began to fall, and by the time he had unloaded the wagon and turned the horse into the pasture, their first blizzard snowed them in. It was a hard time but a happy one. By spring their love had blossomed and they were expecting their first child. He worked extra hard, plowing and planting the garden, building a tall fence to keep out the deer, clearing more land and hauling the logs to town for cash money. Spring gave way to summer, and summer to fall, and in September she gave birth to a daughter. Her mother, who had come up to help with the birth, fell ill. He rode out for the doctor, but by the time they returned, all three, his wife, daughter, and mother-in-law were down with influenza. The baby was the first to succumb, followed by his mother-in-law. His wife languished with a fever for days. When the delirium finally subsided and she overcame her illness, her mind betrayed her. With her grief pouring out day and night, it was soon obvious that he could no longer care for her. Committal freed him to work, but his thoughts remained prisoner to her. During the day he worried; at night, his dreams turned to nightmares. When spring returned, he made up his mind to bring her home from the sanatorium and care for her himself, but as he prepared to leave, the cable arrived that informed him that she had passed away. Overwhelmed with her grief, she had given up, stopped eating, and slowly starved herself. He brought her back to the farm and buried her in the little graveyard on the rise above the cabin with their daughter. Those were the dark days. His will to live and lethargy were leading him towards her fate. Pounds began to melt off of him. Meals consisted of a few spoonfuls of tasteless food. Sleep was an occasional, momentary lapse into an uneasy oblivion. At first light he left the house and slowly climbed the rise and sat with her until sunset. His hair grew wildly; his beard looked like a rat’s nest. His eyes were dull, unseeing. Both he and the house smelled. He never bathed. He was on the same slope to death, when his salvation appeared in the form of her younger sister. Susan was barely nineteen when she arrived at the cabin the following spring. Upon opening the door, she gasped and covered her nose and mouth with a perfumed hankie, and breathed deeply twice; then she set her jaw, and leaving her luggage on the porch, she entered the cabin a human cyclone. By the time he returned that evening, the windows and floor sparkled. Everything had been scrubbed, dusted, washed or burned. A pot of stew sat on the wood cook stove simmering along with several

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pans of water and a large metal tub sat in the middle of the floor. Beside it lay a change of clothes, a towel and a bar of soap. She suddenly materialized in front of him. Her hair wrapped in a kerchief and her finger wagging in his face. “You get in here, strip, burn those clothes, and bathe! I want you clean by the time I get back! If you don’t do a good job, I’ll bathe you myself, and I’ll use the same scrub brush I used on the floor! Got that?!” He was so taken aback by her words and demeanor, all he could do was stammer and nod his head. “And shave too!” She slammed the door shut behind her to punctuate her demand. He had just finished dressing when she returned. “Sit down and we’ll eat,” she instructed. “I’m not very hungry,” he started to reply. She glared at him, and he went to the table and sat down. She brought the stew and ladled it into his bowl. She also placed a loaf of fresh bread on the table. Then she sat opposite him, and filled another dish for herself. They ate in silence. So began his recovery. It took many months before his mind began to function properly. By alternating between roles of slave master and guardian angel, Susan guided him back. When fall rolled around and she was preparing to return home, he sat watching her pack. When she finished, she sat down across from him, and poured a final cup of coffee for them both. He stared into the reflection on the surface of the dark liquid. She sipped her coffee silently. When she finished, she rose to leave, and he caught her hand. “Don’t. Don’t leave,” he whispered. “Stay here. I need you.” Not once did he look up. He did not speak of love, because he was not ready to trust love. Equally afraid of success or failure, he sat with his eyes on the floor and waited. She stood, looking at him, waiting, and understanding his unspoken fears. “What are you asking me?” A long silence followed. Finally he whispered, “Will you m-mmarry me?” The silence made his heart beat pound in his ears. No sound, no clock, no birds, not even the sound of the fire intruded. She removed his grip from her hand, and encircled his hand with both of hers, knelt, and waited until he looked into her eyes. Then she said softly, “Yes.” Thus began his second life. For sixty-five years they were never apart. Five children were born to their union. All five grew tall and flourished and moved on with their lives. Suzy and he lived in the cabin until last year, when her health took a turn for the worse. He allowed the children to move them to a rest home, where she passed away eight weeks ago. He was there with her. His words comforted her passing and his tears washed over her in a baptism of love. She was buried on the rise in the same little cemetery where her sister and niece lay. Following the burial, he wanted to go back to the cabin, but they wouldn’t let him. He was brought back. Today, for the first time since his return, the sun had shone and he had been allowed outside. And now, as the sun sank towards the horizon, he could hear something familiar. He opened his eyes and saw that he was home. His home. And there in front of him were Suzy and her sister, and in her arms was the baby. Suzy walked to him and took his hand. He stood up and followed to where the others waited. The baby reached for him, and he took the baby into his arms, and they walked up to the rise together.

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Facing the Odds WHEN CIRCUMSTANCES CHANGE

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by Jose´ Frank Farmers’ Insurance Group

any of you know that I was born and raised in the Netherlands. So, last December it was time again to visit family and friends and spend Christmas with my loved ones. While I was checking in for my flight a message came across my screen, informing me that the airport in Amsterdam was closed due to heavy snowfall. Now, you all should know that it never snows in the Netherlands; we get rain, hail and have heavy storms, but no white fluffy stuff! Fortunately, by the time my plane landed they had managed to clean up the runway and I was able to get the so much anticipated hug from my sister who came to pick me up. Jetlagged and tired, we had to travel farther by train because the snow had made traffic a disaster. The Montana girl that I have become found this all very amusing. What would we do if a little bit of snow stopped us in our tracks? We simply adjust and drive more carefully, right? While I was vacationing in my home country where people don’t even know what a snow shovel looks like, let alone a snowplow to clean the streets, I was very aware of the difference in how weather conditions affect our lives. As a matter of fact, it made me stop in my tracks as I came to the realization that after 9 years of Montana winter roads, they don’t scare me anymore. I don’t always take the time or drive carefully enough when the roads are bad or icy. I don’t stay home when I have an appointment knowing that the weather forecast is less than glorious. I realized that I take chances where people in the Netherlands were not going to take a chance at all. The moral of the story is that we have to adjust when circumstances change; we cannot ignore, forget or pretend that they don’t affect our lives, nor should we lock ourselves up and wait for things to get better. As an insurance agent, I know all too well that people take chances or forget to adjust to changing circumstances. That’s why I meet with all my clients at least once a year. I want to know if they had a life changing event, like marriage, a new baby, a house renovation or a child going to college. All these events affect your insurance policy and may jeopardize the protection you thought you had. If you have not met with your insurance agent in a while, you might want to set up an appointment to review your policy. For questions, feel free to call me 755-7009.

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Matters of The Heart EMPATHY, EMOTIONS AND UNDERSTANDING FOR OTHER PEOPLE

by Judy H. Wright aka Aunti Artichoke

When we have empathy, we understand that other people are emotional beings and their

emotions are affected by every experience in life. We also understand that while we may have had similar experiences, we really have no idea exactly how they feel.

Empathy is much different from sympathy. Empathy is the ability to identify with and understand somebody else’s feelings or difficulties.  Their pain is their own.  Empathy is caring, inquiring and understanding how someone feels. Sympathy is actually defined as “agreement” for their sorrow or pain.  When we say we have sympathy we join in and enter their pain and emotions. Empathy and understanding does not require joining or blending your emotions, but rather respecting the feelings of other people.  It is more a matter of caring, inquiring and respecting the life situations of others. Practice empathy for others. You can practice empathy whenever you are with others as you intuitively pick up their verbal and non-verbal clues of what they are feeling. By being in tune with the emotions of others, we are able to see the goodness, beauty and humanness of each individual we come in contact with on a daily basis. Simply acknowledging that you see and understand their pain is very validating.  It says to those you encounter that you do not see them as victims, but rather as strong confident individuals who will find their own solutions to their specific situations. Do not judge, just acknowledge emotions. Often when you offer sympathy, you are also offering judgment. The temptation to say “It is God’s will” or “It will get better tomorrow” infers that you know exactly how they feel and so, therefore, you know the best way to deal with it. When you are an empathetic listener you will want to forgo your own agenda and really listen and understand their emotions and point of view.  People know on a gut level when you really care about how they are feeling. Self-Awareness Quiz. 1. Have you ever said to someone, “How are you today,” but not really care? 2. Do you remember a time when you really wished someone would recognize your emotions and understand what you were feeling? 3. Do you have a better understanding between empathy, sympathy and understanding of other people’s emotions?   To claim a free ebook on encouraging words, please sign up at http://www. EmpowermentWithJudy.com. Thank you for joining this community of kind, thoughtful people who want respect for all.

Mary’s Dream by Evangeline Chandler

If the sea were covered with roses And Mary sailed her ship through, The bouquets she could gather Would make a dream come true Petals on roses Are like raindrops on the sea And far away on the horizon They make mystic scenery Let the past stay in the past Let today be free So much to do So little time As we watch the hours flee

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MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN YOUR LIFE! Residual Income is a dependable income that keeps coming in, month after month. It’s vital that you have a consistent income because every month you have bills to pay, and every year, taxes are due. Being self-employed is critically important to each and everyone because it allows you to have a Plan B with Residual Income that you can count on, month after month. This income guarantees that if times get tough, your Plan B comes in to action. If you wish to lead yourself to true Residual Income and have a Plan B for you and your family, then take action! It is rewarding to be a leader inYOUR life — especially when you realize its long-term and far-reaching effects. Only those who think in the “long-term” have the ability to be great leaders. Those who think in the “here and now” often trade the future for more immediate but less fulfilling benefits. Leaders must be trustworthy. They must know where they are going. A TRUE LEADER TAKES STEPS TO DISCOVER WHAT IS BEST FOR OTHERS, AND THEN STEPS OUT TO LEAD PEOPLE IN THAT DIRECTION. www.montanamoms.com lauralynn8@earthlink.net

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Clutter Control BIN THERE - DONE THAT? by Mary Wallace

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rganized SchmOrganized! Who wants to be organized anyway? It’s all hooey! If you’re tired of all the ramblings about clutter control—never fear! Here’s ten ways to AVOID an organized lifestyle: 1. Shop ‘til you Drop - Be a good consumer and get out there and buy stuff, even stuff you do not need or want. When you think you have enough, go and buy more. Better yet, engage in shopping therapy to make yourself feel better after a particularly bad day. Buy duplicates of your favorite items! 2. Assign the same level of importance to everything - This will make you feel truly overwhelmed and if you are feeling overwhelmed you can always refer back to # 1— shopping therapy! 3. Accept and keep every free item or gift that is offered to you - If it’s free, it must be worthwhile having. 4. Create emotional attachments to your stuff - (especially if it was given to you as in #3 above). Besides, whatever would Aunt Edna think if you got rid of that prized Lawrence Welk vinyl collection she gave to you? Refer (again) to Item #1 and go shopping to buy a special cabinet to store it all. 5. Never, ever say “no”, to anyone or anything, not even to yourself – Who needs more time and money anyway? Time and money aren’t “everything”! So take on more projects than you need or want and never say “no” to a bargain! 6. Procrastinate - Why make a decision today when you can do it tomorrow, or the day after, or the year after that! Clearing clutter? Not today—maybe tomorrow. 7. Stay stuck in the past - The future is uncertain, but the past is a known entity. Actually moving forward in your life might mean clearing some clutter (horrors!). Better to stick with what you know. 8. Do not plan – Always go with the flow, live in the moment, and only deal with what is going on right now. Goals take a lot of time and energy. Isn’t it better to just react when things happen, than to plan to make things happen? 9. Bins Bins Bins – Those rubber bins make it fast and easy to clean up. No need to organize—just throw everything in haphazardly. Who cares if they look um… well, rubbery? And isn’t it much more fun and exciting to launch a seven-bin search for those airline tickets when you need them in the next 45 minutes? 10. Don’t store things near where they are used - If you do decide to create “a place for everything”, make sure you decide on places so obscure that even YOU won’t remember where they go—let alone your family. Make sure that your basement or closets are jammed packed with no rhyme or reason. Who cares if you cannot find your socks, your briefcase or your keys tomorrow morning? So, there you have it. Ten Simple Rules for how to avoid organized living and avoid clutter control altogether! (Many thanks to Beverly Hansen O’Malley at http://www.organizationmakes-sense.com for most of these fun UN-organizing tips!) Seriously folks… for some realistic ways to avoid these pitfalls, attend one of my free organizing workshops. I can show you several pretty and painless ways to make organization happen in your living and working spaces. Look for some sanity-saving tips and my workshop schedule on my blog www.athomeinmontana.wordpress.com. In the meantime, here’s hoping the groundhog was right and we’ll have a fresh burst of springtime in the Rockies very soon! About time!

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Panache

Real Food Revival TIPS FOR PLANNING A GARDEN

Elegance in Manner or Action COLORED SAND VASES

by Amy Grisak

With food prices consistently going

nowhere but up, people who’ve never considered growing their own food are heading into the backyard with the purpose of starting a garden. In 2009 there were 7 million new gardeners in the United States, and the statistics indicated even more in 2010. Since staring at a blank space of ground can be fairly intimidating for a gardening rookie, here are a few tips to consider before you break ground: • Bask in the sunshine – Most herbs and vegetables thrive in full sunshine (meaning at least 6 hours per day). Choose the sunniest spot you have. • Pay attention to the soil – It’s worthwhile to buy an inexpensive nutrient and pH test kit at a local nursery to gain an idea of the make-up of your soil. Odds are pretty good that it leans to the more alkaline level, but the ratio of nitrogen, phosphorous and potassium can vary considerable from one location to another. By knowing what you have, you can amend and feed accordingly. • Compost is king – Even if you skip the soil testing, you can never go wrong with adding organic matter. Work in compost, peat moss and other organic materials that will break down and feed the soil. When your garden is teeming with worms, you know you’re on the right track. • Raise the beds for easy gardening – If you have horrible soil conditions— whether sand, gumbo or glacial till— building raised beds remedy the situation immediately. Raised beds will warm up earlier in the spring, are super easy to weed and are simple to maintain. You can build them out of native rock, concrete blocks, straw bales or untreated lumber (it’ll eventually rot, but it’s going 48

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to take a while). The key is not to make them too wide. Typically 4-feet across is the maximum width since you want to be able to reach the middle of the bed without stepping inside of it. Build it only as long as you’llwalk without trying to cheat, and step into it. Filling them is the tricky part depending on where you live. If you’re blessed to live in the Flathead Valley, the local topsoil is fantastic. A mix with compost is even better if it’s available. Another excellent option is “Mel’s Mix” from Mel Bartholomew’s book, The Square Foot Garden. He uses equal amounts of peat moss, vermiculite and compost to create a soil that is light, yet retains moisture and provides plenty of nutrients. And for those who want to utilize his technique in these raised beds, simply quadrant off a 4x4-ft square bed into one-foot squares, then plant the seeds or plants accordingly. For example, Mel recommends 16 carrots per square, 1 pepper plant per square, etc. It’s a productive method and is practically weed free. (I’m going to build 2 or 3 of them for the 50 strawberry plants I ordered this year since strawberries are notoriously heavy feeders, and strawberry beds tend to be plagued with weeds.) • Keep everything close to water. While it might not seem like a big deal to haul the watering can out to the tiny seedlings in the spring, by the middle of summer you’re going to need to contract a water truck. Keep the garden at least within hose reach. Plus, when it’s close to the house, it’s easier to run out while you’re cooking to grab what’s for dinner!

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Turn ordinary household items into colorful centerpieces with assorted jars and bottles; a super-simple way to make colorful vases that’ll look great lined up on a sunny windowsill. Materials: Newspaper Tacky glue Plastic cup Paintbrush Clean glass bottle or jar Spoon Colored sand (sold at most craft supply stores) Instructions: Cover your workspace with newspaper (this will make it easier to clean up later). Pour 1/4 cup or so of tacky glue into a plastic cup and dilute it slightly with a teaspoon of water. Use a paintbrush to coat the outside of a clean bottle or jar with the glue solution and then sprinkle spoonfuls of colored sand over the glued surface, rotating the bottle to spread the sand evenly. Allow the glue to dry completely. Experiment with multicolored designs. Or apply the glue in swirls or other shapes to create interesting patterns.

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Candid Cuisine

From the Kitchen of Montana Woman

Restaurants in Review

HASKILL STATION

CUCUMBER HUMMUS

A Satisfying Fueling Station for the Whole Family

1705 Wisconsin Road Whitefish MT. 59937 • 406-863-5455 Hours of Operation: Open Daily beginning at 4:00 pm

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Light and refreshing, this appetizer is made to eat with crisp veggies and warm pita bread. Serve topped with olives. Ingredients: 4 cloves garlic 1/4 cup tahini paste, or to taste 1 lemon, juiced 1 teaspoon extra-virgin olive oil 1 (15 ounce) can garbanzo beans, drained 1 cucumber, coarsely chopped salt and black pepper to taste 1 pinch paprika Directions: Place the garlic, tahini paste, lemon juice, and olive oil into a blender or food processor. Blend until the garlic is finely minced, then add the garbanzo beans and chopped cucumber. Pureé until smooth, then season to taste with salt and black pepper; blend to mix. Pour into a serving dish, and refrigerate 1 to 2 hours to allow the flavors to blend. Sprinkle with paprika before serving.

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rom fettucine bolagnese, enchiladas and po’ boys to reclaimed barnwood ceilings, and a myriad of art and knick knacks, Haskill Station specializes in sensory explosion. Beware that you might feel disappointment when you sit down and check out the menu. The harsh reality is that, unless you’re a sumo wrestler, it takes many visits to try everything that piques your interest. There’s plenty to take in between the decor and the wine, beer and food menus. It took us a long time to wade through the wine and beer list because it’s interesting, diverse and offers plenty of “can’t go wrong” picks. The beer selection has everything from a $2 PBR to high-end domestics and microbrews. There’s also a great selection of imported micros and European brews. You can tell the wine list’s compilation stemmed from a solid understanding of the pleasure in pairing great food with great wine. Like the decor, it simply adds depth to the overall experience. Don’t let the sophistication of the menu fool you into thinking this place doesn’t fit the category of local hangout or family friendly. It’s perfectly situated for ski season and is a stop for the ski bus, at the corner of Reservoir and Wisconsin Road. Kids have plenty of play options with a Donkey Kong machine in the back room, toys, a couple of Etch A Sketch’s and cups filled with crayons to support artistic endeavors. I was told, with confidence, from a 9-year-old that the cheesy noodles were “the best”. A week later, I saw her there again. It was her birthday and she specifically requested Haskill Station for her celebratory dinner. I didn’t order the cheesy noodles but I’ll take her word for it. I can say with as much confidence, however, that our meal was just as fabulous. To start, we ordered the fried green beans with red pepper aioli. The aioli was full flavored, not too spicy and the perfect complement to the crispy fried green beans. Despite being fried, it was a light starter and perfect for 2-4 people. I ordered the pizza, half margherita and half Thai chicken. My dinner partner ordered the muffaletta sandwich with homemade chips. My flat pizza had the perfect crust texture to keep it light but substantial enough to hold the flavor. The peanut sauce was perfectly spiced and not too sweet. The margherita pizza was fresh, tasty and the absolute perfect comfort food. The muffaletta was pizza dough folded in half, crammed full of calamata olives, Italian meats, feta cheese and the fixin’s —it’s no wonder it’s a crowd favorite. The chips were the real deal, without all the grease. Other crowd favorites include the ground beef enchiladas, the stroganoff and tilapia tacos. Rumor has it; they have one of the best burgers in town. Owner Patrick Carloss’ southern influence infiltrates the menu in forms like barbeque pulled pork and smoked brisket, and the fried catfish po’ boy with celery seed slaw. Its diversity in menu and welcoming atmosphere make it my new favorite fueling ground. Everything aside, the moment I truly fell in love with Haskill Station was when I noticed the stuffed jackalope head that overlooks the bar. Yes, the food is phenomenal, but the jackalope sold me. This Montana Woman critic gives Haskill Station 9 Stetsons out of 10.

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In Loving Memory LOVING TERMS OF ENDEARMENT

Words have incredible power. Words have the ability to affect our mood

and disposition. What is said to us can make us feel warm and fuzzy or irritate and upset us. What we say to each other can build up or tear down our relationships. The written word carries more weight than the spoken word. The long-term influence on us is greater because writing is more permanent than the spoken word. Do you remember the first love letter or love note you received from that someone special? Do you remember the rush of emotions and how it made you feel? You probably still have that letter or note! I still have all the love letters my husband sent to me before we were married, 57 years ago. Since he was an artist, on the top each page there was a drawing or sketch. I even let my mother read them, because they were so interesting. Even to this day, these are very precious to me. Even though he’s been gone 16 years, the letters bring back cherished memories of our life together! Every day in my work, I help family members use words in a unique, special way. I have the privilege of helping my clients express their feelings and thoughts about a special loved one. It’s both challenging and rewarding. I’m often pleasantly surprised at what we come up with together to express their feelings.

“Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.” ~ Oriental Proverb Squirrel (her nickname) was a widow who came to me to honor her mate. She brought me a love letter that he wrote to her; she wanted the letter to be remembered forever. She asked us to “carve the letter in stone” on the back of their memorial monument. We carved the words he wrote from his heart into granite… to last an eternity. His name, Taz (his nickname), and hers are even carved in his handwriting. An ancient Oriental proverb says it best: Place me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal upon your arm; because love is as strong as death is…

by Carole Bealer Glacier Signs & Monuments Family is the strongest relationship bond that we can experience. Our heavenly Father tells us to, “Honor your father and your mother in order that your days may prove long…” A family, who was very close, came to me to pay tribute to their father. Their mother was still alive and it was very evident that they had deep respect and honor for their father by the way they treated their mother. After discussing how to commemorate their parents, they shared some very touching words they wrote down. Can you read these without having tears well up inside? I know I couldn’t… and it still touches me every time I read it.

Heartfelt Terms of Endearment

Do you have a special family saying? Most families do. As you go about your busy, active life… pause and reflect on your loved ones, the endearing things they have said to you. Don’t hesitate to preserve that Loving Term of Endearment. I would feel honored if you shared your family’s special Terms of Endearment with me.

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Petals, Projects and Pizzazz INDOOR CALLA LILIES by Lisa Levandowski

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pring is finally upon us... yeah! Tulip and crocus plants are beginning to bloom, or at least I think they are.  It’s hard to tell when they’re still covered in snow.  However, if you’re like me and just itchin’ to begin gardening, try starting a few plants inside. Several people have been pleasantly surprised by calla lily plants.  While calla lilies are in great demand as a cut flower, as a plant they are often overlooked.  Perhaps because of their tropical look people feel that callas won’t grow here, but with a little extra care it is possible. First, go to your local garden center and purchase a few rhizomes.  Garden centers usually offer a variety of calla colors including pink, yellow, white, purple and orange.  While the rhizomes can be planted in the ground it seems they do better in a container where you can control the environment. Next, plant a rhizome cluster in a 6” or larger diameter container filled with potting soil.  (Make sure the container has a saucer or purchase a plastic saucer to set the container on.)  The rhizomes

should be planted an inch or two below the soil surface. Then pour fresh clean water into the container until water runs from the bottom.  Once water begins seeping from the bottom of the container stop watering and place the container on the saucer to collect the remaining water.  Leave the water in the saucer so that it is available to the calla lily plant later. Now that the planting part is done, here are a few tips to keep your calla lily plant growing and staying healthy. 1. Keep the soil moist (not soaking wet—just moist). 2. Calla lily plants prefer morning sun and afternoon shade or filtered full day sun. 3. Fertilize every other week with a 20-20-20 solution. 4. Protect from winds that damage foliage. 5. If bugs appear, eliminate them immediately.     Follow these few tips and in 8-10 weeks you could be looking at beautiful exotic looking calla lily blooms.  From all of us at Glacier Wallflower & Gifts, happy gardening and remember to visit our website www.glacierwallflowers.com for all your floral needs.

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Lipstick Logic NUTRITION AND HEALTH by Betty Kuffel, M.D.

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arch is National Nutrition Month and a great time to look at personal health plans and challenges for 2011. You are what you eat is an accurate though partial description of the body you live in. In addition, you are what you do plays an important role in health, appearance and longevity. Consider your body a fancy, efficient biological machine. It responds to the environment you provide—the food you eat and activities you participate in on a daily basis. Lying in bed eating bonbons, drinking sodas, and walking only to the refrigerator are conducive to looking like a bonbon and not living very long. The biologic machinery in your body is amazing. It can run like a babied bright red Porsche, topping speeds of 130 mph, or if left to languish, driven on contaminated gas, without routine oil changes, without greasing its joints, without a mechanic tweaking early signs of trouble, the once lovely car may become a cripple only capable of carrying you to the minimart for more bonbon fuel. It’s your choice as to how you service your car and your body. But just like becoming a Porsche mechanic, the process of attending to your personal wellbeing requires education and daily work. Today we know newborns do best when they are breast fed. Dramatic health benefits from nutrients and antibodies passed through a mother’s milk protect the baby. For example, breastfed babies have fewer incidences of vomiting and diarrhea, a reduced risk of childhood diabetes, fewer allergic problems and even a reduced risk of heart disease later in life. Sudden infant death syndrome is much higher in nonbreastfed babies, too. Some proteins in human milk promote brain and nervous system growth and these babies develop higher IQ’s. Taking this information, we extend it to childhood health, a direct extension of food and exercise choices as children grow. Because the development of childhood obesity has accelerated in recent years to epidemic proportions due to unhealthy high calorie food choices and inactive life-styles, we are now also seeing signs of heart disease in children, as well as sleep apnea, depression and low self-esteem. These problems previously were most often prevalent in adults over the age of fifty, but not any more. Now www.montanawoman.com

we see the problems in grade schoolers. A 2009 behavior survey of Montana children indicated: 42% watched television or used computers three or more hours per day on an average school day; 42% did not attend physical education in an average week in school and only 20% were physically active for 60 minutes per day during the week prior to the survey. Kids need to be more active, every day. Dietary and health education in school is improving along with reducing access to soft drinks and unhealthy snacks, but we have a long way to go. Take a look at yourself and the adults you know. If you are a thin exerciser and happy with your health and conditioning, great! If not, look at your friends. Are any of them thin exercisers? Red Porsches? Might they be a role model for you? Are all your friends overweight non-exercisers? It may sound strange, but obesity is contagious; you assimilate the behaviors of those around you, including family and friends. After reading most of the diet books ever written, I have come to the conclusion there is no easy way, no gimmick, no quick fix. Making healthy choices related to food and exercise on a daily basis are important for good long term health. Spend your calories frugally, like money, on items important to you. You can’t always purchase the most expensive shoes, nor should you eat the caloric expense of a 1500 calorie milkshake very often. One milkshake can blow your calorie budget for an entire day. To maintain ideal weight many inactive women can only eat 1500 calories a day— breakfast, lunch and dinner combined. To be a success in choosing healthful options for yourself and your family try some of the following ideas. Food choices: • Read labels. Eat less processed food, less salt, less fat and fewer carbohydrates. • Choose fresh vegetables and eat a salad every day. • Use a lo-calorie vinaigrette dressing. 1 Tbsp of most dressings = 100 calories! • If you have space, time and inclination, plant a garden. Grow your own veggies. Go to farmer markets for fresh produce. Avoid meals with a high carbohydrate composition; instead eat extra vegetables. • Use monounsaturated oils such as olive oil in your cooking. • Broil, boil or bake your meat. Eat no MONTANA WOMAN

fried food. No deep-friend anything. • Do not buy pastries, candy or fried snacks such as chips. • Do not place snacks in view unless it’s a bowl of fresh fruit. • Control portions. Eat one helping. No seconds. • Protein choices: lean beef, white poultry, pork loin, seafood. Eggs in moderation. • Avoid fatty meat, ham, bacon, ribs, T-bones, prime rib, rib eyes and dark poultry. • Avoid ice cream, full fat milk and cheese. • Eat breakfast. Choose low calorie cereal for the family, no sugar-coated. • Try uncooked oatmeal with a few raisins or craisins and low fat yogurt. • Try a few almonds for a snack. (One serving = 15 nuts.) • Try sugar-free Jello or low-fat yogurt for a snack. • Eat low calorie vegetables: green beans, asparagus, broccoli, celery, snow peas. • Good fruit choices: oranges, mandarins, melons, apples, grapefruit, tomatoes. • Avoid higher carbohydrate vegetables such as: beets, green peas, carrots, potatoes and corn. Exercise: Walk thirty minutes every day, more if you can. If you are unable to walk due to health or orthopedic problems, consult your doctor for advice. Non-weight-bearing options include stationary or regular bicycling and swimming. There are excellent exercise DVDs you can use in your own home ranging from yoga to kick-boxing. See your doctor. Get an annual checkup, lab tests for blood sugar, cholesterol and thyroid hormones. Check your bone density. Have a mammogram and a colonoscopy. Keep your own “Porsche” in good running condition. When making major lifestyle changes, visible changes can be slow but increased exercise raises natural hormones and decreases depression so you’ll feel better and have more energy the more you exercise. What you do over a lifetime counts. People who exercise daily also sleep better. Sleeping longer also reduces levels of a natural hormone that stimulates appetite. To live longer and improve your memory, eat fresh foods and fish and exercise daily. For detailed help with weight control and healthy choices visit: www.realage.com MARCH

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Life’s Essentials

At My Mother’s Knee...

LIAR LIAR by Sarah Griffith

Lying. We all do it.

From the plastic surgeon who had obviously convinced that woman that a brow lift would simply make her look “more awake”—in a good way—to those wishful thinkers who claim that Fergie’s halftime performance at the Super Bowl was anything better than atrocious. Yes, we are all guilty of telling half truths from time to time. And there are all kinds of justifications for these little white lies. The worst lie of all, though, is the one you tell yourself. How many times have you decided to get up early and work out before work or school, only to discover that 5:30 comes way too quickly and you hit the snooze button… seven times. Hours later, a feeling of guilt creeps up on you because, let’s face it, you let yourself down. Guilt is not a motivator—it is simply dead weight. By following through on little things that you have planned to do, you will feel productive because you have kept a promise to yourself and have accomplished what you said you would. These are very affirming kinds of actions—they remind you that you can do whatever you decide to do. Sometimes it’s helpful to treat things you’ve planned for yourself as if they were appointments or meetings with someone else. You would never just flake out on lunch with a friend or a meeting with a client. So, why would you bail on yourself? Taking on fewer projects and tasks is a good way to set yourself up for success, too. Bite off only what you can chew, and then follow through. You will feel an amazing sense of accomplishment and pride in doing what you said you were going to do. Good luck, Montana Women, and let’s aim for hitting the snooze only about three times. ;)

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by Suzanne McAllister If it rains on the first day of the month it will be a wet month. ~ Frank Stewart, Collinsville, IL If cows and horses turn their backs to the wind it means a heavy rainstorm. ~ Lloyd Gaither, Collinsville, IL If rain falls while the sun is shining it will be short rainfall. ~ Beulah Gaither, Collinsville, IL If birds or ducks build their nests on high ground it means a wet summer. ~ Mary Lamb, Johnson City, IL

When Uncle Charlie and Aunt Mary moved into their new house my brothers and I couldn’t wait to be invited for a sleepover with our cousins. The house was an old Victorian and had some oddities, for instance, there was a clothes chute from the third floor down to the basement and a silent butler in the kitchen that carried food to the 2nd floor hall. That night, as my cousin Helen and I settled into bed, we heard strange noises coming from the closet. We discovered our older brothers were hiding there. We also discovered that the closet ran the full length of the house, having doors in every room for storage. You could travel through the house without being seen or detected. We all agreed that was the best part of the house but we never found out who designed it or why.

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Jewels’ Gems

Look to the Stars by Star Gazer

Pisces: February 20 – March 20 Romance is in the air for you. If you’re in a romantic relationship, plan an intimate evening together, free of chores and daily tasks. If you’re single, peruse your little black book and see if there are any relationships worth warming up.   Aries: March 21 – April 20 Your competitive  nature may land you in trouble this month.   You need to stop taking casual remarks as a personal challenge.   Relax and stop inviting trouble into your life. Taurus: April 21 – May 21 Your poise and gracious nature serve you well in March. The best thing you can do is spend time around other people. Spring promises to be a resounding success as you radiate warmth and energy and people respond in kind.  Gemini: May 22 – June 21 You are somewhat of a late bloomer in the romantic department... Valentine’s skipped you over without a heart flutter.  March brings new promise for romance and creativity entering your life.  Be prepared! Cancer: June 22 – July 22 Is a bit of redecorating in order? This is a perfect time to spruce up your home. Rather than rush into a project that you might later regret—think hard before making a decision. Leo: July 23 – August 22 The upcoming change of season inspires you to rise above your fears to move forward with your dreams.  It is time to create a life of your own.  It’s never too late to get started. Virgo: August 23 – September 23 Prosperity isn’t just around the corner—it’s here, Virgo. Your finances are looking better than ever. Don’t rely on this money, however. The whole point of a windfall is that it’s unexpected, and thus can be used for luxuries or indulgences that you wouldn’t normally allow yourself.  Libra: September 24 – October 23 You’ve never looked better, Libra. As a result, people are drawn to you and you have an unusually large circle of friends. This is fun but time consuming, as everyone seems to want a piece of you. Try to keep your feet on the ground. Don’t let your vision become clouded by all the flattery you receive. Scorpio: October 24 – November 22 You’ve always been interested in the arts, and now you want to explore that interest on a deeper level. A visit to a museum isn’t likely to do the trick, Scorpio. Instead, why not enroll in a class or sign up for a lecture series?  Sagittarius: November 23 – December 21 Errands seem to rule your life as of late. You spend most of it in the car, running hither and yon. Don’t be surprised if you run into an old friend you haven’t seen in a while.  Perhaps you will discover a common interest and decide to build a business based on it. Keep your eyes (and mind) wide open. Capricorn: December 22 – January 20 Now is the time to reap the benefits of all your hard work. The little windfall you receive is nice, to be sure, but don’t think of all of it as fun money. Put a good amount aside in a savings or investment account. You can use the rest to kick up your heels a bit. Aquarius: January 21 – February 19 For now it’s better to focus on any problems that make you want to run away. Open a dialogue with anyone with whom you’ve had a misunderstanding. You will find this brings immeasurable relief. www.montanawoman.com

THERE’S NO PLACE LIKE HOME... GO THERE! (AS QUOTED BY MAXINE)

by Jewels Devine

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h, my darlings, I cannot believe spring is upon us. Although I must admit that this has been a crazy and somewhat mild winter, the January thaw stuck around for a long time and left many of us with spring fever before winter really began. I had visions of daffodils in early January... unbelievable! Speaking of things that are hard to believe—have you heard that Montana’s House of Representatives is one step closer to sending a controversial workers’ comp bill to the Senate. Republican Representative Gordon Vance’s House Bill 71 proposes that an illegal alien may not receive workers’ compensation. Why is this necessary? Why WOULD they be entitled? Since when do people who enter our country and work illegally deserve rights? Why, as taxpayers, must we support lawbreakers and, why oh why, must our government spend time and money trying to decide how to fairly treat these illegal workers? How about we give them a little encouragement to go home and enter our country legally. Don’t get me wrong; I do believe that all humans have rights. I believe they have the right to seek gainful employment AND become a citizen of the good ole’ USA. Supporters of the bill say that it will reduce costs and liability while sending a message to those employing illegal workers. But those who oppose the measure say it does not solve the overwhelming problem with Montana’s workers’ compensation and places a burden on hospitals that have to take care of the injured worker. Insurance officials say there may be only a handful of such cases a year in Montana. I say that is a handful too many! To prove my point, let me share with you a little tale about Palemon Gonzales. Palemon’s illegal employment came to light after he was injured on the job by a flying beer bottle and then sent to the hospital. The aptly named bar, Asylum, discovered their employee was using falsified documents to work once the hospital began sending medical bills in his real name. The bar owner testified at the workers’ compensation hearing saying Gonzales snookered him and presented false documents to acquire employment at his bar. Once management found out the illegal alien provided false documents they promptly fired him, but this action led to the courtroom where the workers’ compensation board awarded Gonzales his benefits to the tune of $11,000. The D.C. Appeals Court said it is legal under the District’s workers’ compensation laws to provide benefits to any employee regardless of legal status. The court claimed it is, “consistent with the principle that the (workers’ compensation) act is to be construed liberally to achieve its humanitarian purpose.” So let me understand this correctly: the message we are sending is that if you violate our borders, violate our immigration laws and likely other laws along the way, we will not only let you get away with these violations—we will reward you for them? I say we need to strongly deter or dissuade aliens from running our borders and working illegally. I do not understand why we are helping people live in our country illegally. Even E.T. knew he had to go home... because he was an alien!

Ta ta, my darlings!

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Community Matters TOASTMASTERS

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ou’ve heard the expression “to err is human”. It is no less true that to be human is to have fears. People have a number of fears, big and small, and one that is said to be the most prevalent is the fear of public speaking; some experts claiming it is perhaps equal to the fear of dying. People can get cold sweats when they find themselves in the position of having to make a simple toast at a family wedding, and many find themselves paralyzed by the fear of having to stand up and speak in front of people. While it does come more easily to some, it is one of those things that likely cannot be avoided for any of us. At some point in life most of us will have to address a crowd, even if it is only a handful of friends or a group of co-workers. Believe it or not, your chances of dying of stage fright are extremely slim. You might feel as if you are dying, but chances are good your audience won’t even notice your wobbly knees and sweating armpits. Even the most confident speakers were once likely terrified novices, feeling the same symptoms you do when facing an audience. Those now intrepid speakers may very well have Toastmasters to thank. This respected organization provides a place to learn, to build your confidence, and to push yourself outside your comfort zone. It’s a safe place where there is no penalty for failure! Today, Toastmasters International, a nonprofit educational organization, teaches communication and leadership skills through a worldwide network of clubs. Since its founding in October 1924 by Dr. Ralph C. Smedley in Santa Ana, California, the organization has helped more than 4 million men and women lead and communicate with poise and confidence. And businesses and organizations around the world recognize the value of incorporating Toastmasters training to help their employees not only overcome their fear of public speaking but also to improve their communication and leadership skills. Smedley held the first official Toastmasters meeting in a basement of the YMCA, in Santa Ana, where he began working after he graduated from college. Observing that many of its patrons needed public speaking training, he decided to help them with a training format that was similar to a social club. At this first meeting, members practiced speaking skills in a supportive, informal atmosphere. The seedling club blossomed and by the 1930s the organization charted its first international club in Vancouver, Canada. And in 1973, Toastmasters met an important milestone by opening membership to women. Why name it “Toastmasters”? During the early 1900s, the word “toastmaster” referred to a person who proposed the toasts and introduced speakers at banquets. Dr. Smedley coined the first group “The Toastmasters Club” because he thought it suggested a pleasant, social atmosphere. Today, in that same social atmosphere, Toastmasters International empowers people to achieve their full potential and realize their dreams. People can improve their communication and leadership skills, and find the courage to change. The benefits of being a Toastmaster member are numerous including: *clearer communication*improved leadership skills*better teamwork*effective meetings*increased productivity*positive 56

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mentoring. For business entities Toastmasters is a cost-effective way to complement existing training programs. Following are a few comments from local Montana Toastmasters members: Being a member of Toastmasters has given me the confidence necessary to speak out at office meetings. Practicing impromptu speaking helps me answer unexpected questions in a clear manner. ~ Kathy Anderson, Schellinger Construction Toastmasters has helped me professionally and personally.  The tips outlined in this program have helped me improve my public speaking, writing, organization, and leadership skills.  I recommend Toastmasters to anyone who is looking to advance themselves, especially in this economic environment.  People need to take advantage of every opportunity that gives them a leg up on the competition. ~ Tim Gould, Senior IT Analyst, Manufacturing, Plum Creek I joined Toastmaster’s because I wanted to improve my skills as a leader. I wanted to speak better in public and I wanted to learn how to run a more effective meeting. I feel I have achieved both things because of Toastmasters. ~ Colleen Konopatzke Toastmasters encourage visitors at meetings. Each club has a different personality and you may wish to visit more than one. Use the ‘Find a Club’ tool on the Toastmasters Web site to locate meetings near you: http://reports.toastmasters.org/findaclub/. Call or e-mail in advance (if possible) to confirm meeting time and location.

Columbia Falls Speaks Toastmasters Club will host an Open-House Meeting Tuesday, March 29, 2011 at Freedom Bank • 530 Ninth St W, Columbia Falls, MT, 59912 The meeting will be from Noon – 1pm and will feature a special guest speaker. You are invited to learn how Toastmasters will…. • Develop better speaking & presentation skills • Build strong leadership abilities • Enjoy good fellowship and humor • Learn to think quickly and clearly on your feet • Improve your listening skills Should you wish to attendant or need more information please contact Colleen Konopatske at 406.892.3906

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