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56 l THE FACE
A Lafayette mom shares the simple truth about keeping your family close and the invaluable benefits of serving others. 18 l BLOCK BY BLOCK
The simples steps to creating a foundation for the career you want.
21 l SHAKEN
A tragic earthquake rocked Haiti. How one Lafayette woman is devoted to their recovery. How you can help now.
24 l HEALTHY COMPETITION
A day of events for the entire family (every single one of you) in Acadiana’s first ever Compete for a Cause to benefit an incredible effort.
26 l SPECTACLE
PASA rolls out its first ever Vaudville Spectacluar event and honors a Lafayette legend in giving.
30 l MOTHER, MAY I
Make mom proud with these tried-andtrue etiquette tips.
34 l CHANGING ROLES
When the child becomes the parent. When the mom becomes the breadwinner. Two women, two very different stories. Real moms, real life.
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41 l THE NOOK
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42 l ALL THAT JAZZ
The 1920s are roaring back to life with a modern take on the Jazz Age. Evangeline Downs hosts the backdrop for airy dresses and must-have accessories.
Find something you as a family can do for someone else. It changes your life. You lead a much richer, fuller life.” – Patti Broussard
IN EVERY ISSUE 08 l EDITOR'S DESK 12 l HEALTH MATTERS 14 l COOKIE'S CORNER 16 l FAMILY MATTERS
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editor’sdesk amanda bedgood
ve always loved my mom. Growing up I thought she was the most beautiful woman in the world. I knew she must have the best voice of anyone. (She can knock out a Sandy Patti song that will make you weep.) And I just knew there really wasn’t a better mom to be had. As I’ve grown older I’ve come to appreciate her more and each Mother’s Day I feel sure that I understand just how much she loves me. Then I became a mother. In October after our sweet boy Wilder arrived, my mother was here (she only stayed for two weeks) and I remember feeling this overwhelming sense of love for her as I finally began to understand just what she did for us all those years – and why she did it. “I don’t know how you did it?” I marveled at how she worked and raised three daughters once I began to see just the first inklings of life as a parent. And then I realized – she was fueled by love (and a few cups of coffee no doubt). It’s what fuels the women filling our Mother’s Day issue this May as well (the love, not the coffee). There’s Debbie Foreman who often heard that infamous “I don’t know how you do it” quote as she raised four children and cared for her aging mother. Debbie didn’t have to visit her mother three times a day or make sure her mother was wearing her favorite red lips or lay out her clothes and take her for haircuts. She did it out of love. It’s the same love that drives our cover girl, Patti Broussard. This Lafayette mother of three girls doesn’t have a tearjerker story full of deep valleys. What she has is a life filled with love and some valuable lessons we can all take home to our families. Patti is one of those women who don’t quite see what an impact they have on others. She is humble. But, her own daughters and friends are quick to tell you that Patti is more than a mother to her three girls. She is a mother of many after she and her husband founded a Christian theater program in Lafayette.
My mom with my niece Emery and our son Wilder. She is a fantastic Mimi. And a really fantastic mom. In recent months I've gained a new appreciation for all she does.
While it may sound a glamorous endeavor, we have it on good authority that all that behind the scenes grunt work isn’t Hollywood at all. And Patti does it without c o m p l a i n t . Because she knows that this group is providing a chance for children to grow in incredible ways. And it provides a home for children of all talent levels giving them a sense of accomplishment and confidence as they work together to produce quality performances. (Trust me. I’ve
been. And this is not your average kid’s play.) Read Patti’s story on page 56 and learn how stepping outside of your own family might just be what brings you all together. As May arrives we welcome a host of events from fun family days like Compete for a Cause to swanky new fetes like the Vaudeville Spectacular. Learn more about both in this issue along with ways you can lend a hand abroad (without ever leaving Lafayette). Warm weather means a new host of fresh dresses in airy fabrics and subtle colors. We headed to Evangeline Downs and spent the afternoon with Sly the horse in a nod to the Kentucky Derby slated for Saturday, May 5 while we paid homage to the 1920’s with clothing and accessories that recall the Jazz Age while staying utterly modern. Don’t miss a day at the races May 5 where you can catch the live action of the country’s biggest horse race (and let’s face it, best chance to wear a fabulous hat all year) without ever leaving Acadiana. And on Mother’s Day weekend, treat mom to the first ever Le’ Brunch ‘En’ Blanc to benefit Louisiana Lunch Money. It’s a great cause started by a mom who was short on cash, but not on heart. She saw a need and found a way to make a change. It’s just the kind of thing a mother does.
". . . she has a life filled with love and some valuable lessons we can all take home to our families. Patti is one of those women who don’t quite see what an impact they have on others." So this May, we urge you to celebrate your mother for more than just one day. (I mean, come on, we only get one day?) Honor her for the entire month. She deserves it. And if you are a mom, we would like to say ‘thank you.’ There is a great quote that says there is no way to be a perfect mom but there are a million ways to be a good one. The women in the pages of this issue are proof of that. It is often a mother who is the one that steps up to fight for children who are not her own. It’s a mother who makes sure that life is better for the next generation. This May we challenge you to make your corner of the world a bit better and we beg you to take some time to refresh, rejuvenate and charge your batteries before you do anything else … because frankly we don’t know how you do it. Amanda Bedgood is the editor of FACE Magazine. Send your fashion inspirations, interesting stories and other musings to firstname.lastname@example.org.
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Mallory Page Chastant returns to Lafayette for her first show in two years – Astral. The Lafayette native, now based in New Orleans, brings her latest work downtown for a show that’s sure to please.
The new body by Mallory evokes intense color and her sensory process to connect memories to movements in the sky. The abstract collection evokes a viewer to process the emotional influence of natural spatial parameters.
Mallory’s pieces will be on display at Lounge Gallery downtown and will be open by appointment through May 31.
On Mother’s Day weekend Habitat for Humanity is asking the ladies to buckle on the tool belts. Women Build 2012 is a special campaign aimed to encourage women to become a part of Habitat’s mission as they seek to end poverty housing by building homes for the less fortunate in our community. Women from all around the parish will be participating in this event of fellowship and fun. Invite all your female friends, family, neighbors and church members. By building homes, we are building our community. If you have any questions, please contact Joelle at 337261-5041 or email@example.com. The
event is at Habitat for Humanity Work Site at East Gilman Road.
Parc International will be filled with white linen table cloths, mimosas, blood marys and a foodieapproved brunch May 12 with funds raised going to ensure no child goes without lunch in Lafayette Parish public schools. Le’ Brunch ‘En’ Blanc is the brainchild of Cerrisa Couvillion, who has two children of her own and a heart for others. After eating lunch with one at school and noticing a student eating graham crackers and milk (the approved snack for students unable to pay for lunch who do not qualify for free lunches), Cerrisa took action. She created Louisiana Lunch Box, which has provided lunch for nearly 3,000 students thus far. Tickets for the brunch are $35 and include drinks and a full service dining experience al fresco along with art from the winners of George Rodrigue’s art program as well as a chance to win a piece signed by him. For more information go to louisianalunchmoney.org.
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Friday, May 11, Lil Buck Sinegal at Parc Sans Souci begins at 5:30 p.m. with food and beverage concessions - musical performances from 6 to 8:30 p.m. Concession sales help keep DTA! free, so please leave your ice chests at home with your pets. For more information, visit downtownlafayette.org.
Saturday, May 5, Lafayette Education Foundation rolls out its annual prom for the grown ups at River Oaks. ReProm The Movie Event is a chance to relive or recreate your high school prom with funds going to a great cause. LEF has created a 19-member prom court of community-minded men and women. To vote for queen and king (each vote is $1) go to lefoundation.org. Tickets for ReProm are $100 and include open bar, food and live entertainment by The Tip Tops.
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Saturday, May 5, The Big Easel in River Ranch promises the best in art. Jefferey McCullough chairs the annual event in River Ranch Town Square with 70 artists from the South and Provincetown
displaying beautiful pieces for purchase.
Saturday, May 5, The Children’s Shelters of Acadiana Youth will gather to recognize, thank and honor local first responders and military, law enforcement, fire fighters and EMT personnel. The event slated for April was rescheduled because of weather. It has been moved to Acadian Village and will take place during Que’n for the Kids State Championship Cook-Off.
Friday, May 11, Heart Ball to benefit American Heart Association at Heart Hospital of Lafayette. Cocktails and silent auction begin at 7 p.m. followed by dinner, program and dancing. Tickets are $100 and available at heart.org/ lafayetteheartball.
Saturday, May 12, PASA rolls out its new season with a one of a kind fete at The Victorian in Broussard. The Vaudeville Spectacular will host a bevy of acts and honor Darrellyn Burts for her contributions to the community with their first ever Award of Excellence. Tickets are $100 and can be purchased at pasa-online.org.
Le’ Brunch ‘En’ Blanc
Saturday, May 12, Louisiana Lunch Money is hosting an elegant brunch in the parc with live music, art auction and raffle consisting of a signed print by George Rodrigue. Other local art will also be on display as well as the George Rodrigue Foundation of the arts 2012 contest winners. Tickets on sale now at any Teche Bank location or online at louisianalunchmoney.org for $35 each which will buy entry and a delicious brunch for the attendees. They ask that everyone dress in white. Brunch is from 9 a.m. to 12 p.m.
2nd Annual Local Filmmakers Showcase
Saturday, May 12, Filmmakers Showcase, 8:30 p.m. at Acadiana Center
for the Arts with free admission. The AcA is proud to present its 2nd Annual Local Filmmakers Showcase. This event will showcase films that were written, directed, edited or produced by Louisiana natives or those with strong local ties, providing an opportunity for area filmmakers to display their talents on the big screen.
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Friday, May 18, Lil Creole String Bean at Parc Sans Souci begins at 5:30 p.m. with food and beverage concessions - musical performances from 6 to 8:30 p.m. Concession sales help keep DTA! free, so please leave your ice chests at home with your pets. For more information, visit downtownlafayette.org.
Krewe of Headliner
Saturday, May 19, Three Dog Night at 7:30 p.m. at the Cajundome Convention Center for the Krewe of Acadiana's 2012 Headliner Extravaganza. Tickets $30.
Friday, May 25, Lil Wayne & The Same Ole' Two Step at Parc Sans Souci begins at 5:30 p.m. with food and beverage concessions - musical performances from 6 to 8:30 p.m. Concession sales help keep DTA! free, so please leave your ice chests at home with your pets. For more information, visit downtownlafayette.org
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Mommy to the Rescue The art of balance in parenting
Recently I heard Sister Lynne Lieux, RSCJ, Headmistress of The Schools of the Sacred Heart reference the book "Bringing Up Bébé," a French-Influenced Guide by Pamela Druckerman. Sr. Lieux described how French babies tend to sleep through the night earlier than American infants, because French mothers do not rush to the crib at any rustle or sounds the baby makes, but pause to see if the infant will be able to soothe herself back to sleep on her own. She challenged the mothers in the audience to consider taking a similar pause when tempted to rush in and rescue our children, allowing them a little space to test their independence. As a single mother
of one, this challenge is a hard one; my first instinct is to protect, prevent, nurture, fix, smooth out, etc. As an adult, I know life is hard, so if I can spare my precious child an obstacle or hurt feelings why wouldn’t I?
ups and the downs of childhood, parents do them a real disservice. When a parent is too much of a “fixer,” children don’t learn the causes and effects of their own behavior, how to tolerate and manage uncomfortable feelings, or how to solve problems independently and with confidence. Such children often grow into self-centered, insecure adults with little empathy or ability to control their feelings or behavior — not the goal of well-meaning, loving parents.
As a psychologist, however, working with children and adults, I find that too often children are too protected by their parents from natural consequences, whether those are emotional (disappointment), logical (not following through with a threatened punishment), or social (getting This is not to say that parents shouldn’t overly involved in working out friendship problems). By not allowing children be involved with their children or a child’s the opportunity to do age-appropriate feelings don’t matter or shouldn’t count problem-solving and to experience the — not at all. Having a child’s feelings
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(or not) amycavanaugh acknowledged and tended to by a parent, even when the child is not yet verbal, is key to that child feeling secure in close relationships and developing empathy for others’ feelings in the future. Having a parent give a hug and say “I can see that you’re upset/disappointed/angry” is powerfully meaningful to a child, even if the follow-up statement is: “and you still have to go to bed/can’t go to the party/have to go to time-out.” In addition, children are often better able to accept direction from parents once their feelings are validated, e.g., “I know you’re sad we have to stop playing, but we need to leave. We will come back and play another day.” Feelings matter, but they
don’t always change a decision or situation. If we could all do or not do what we “feel”
“Feelings matter, but they don’t always change a decision or situation. If we could all do or not do what we 'feel' like at all times, a lot of us wouldn’t be going to work tomorrow!” like at all times, a lot of us wouldn’t be going to work tomorrow!
balance of warmth and firmness, play and structure, nurturing and teaching. So, the next time you see your child struggling with something, whether that is sleeping through the night, tying a shoe, or dealing with the mean girl at school, take that pause to see what they do first before rushing in to help. You can always offer advice or assistance within moments if needed, but your child’s own resourcefulness just might surprise you! Amy Cavanaugh, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist with Center for Psychiatric Studies and the infant mental health consultant for the Healthy Start Program of the Family Tree.
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Sweet Sweet Time
A Mother’s Day gift to your children
As the deadline for my May column was fast approaching, I was still formulating my subject matter and planned to work on it during the weekend. However, my granddaughter, Bella, who is 7 years old and was visiting with her Mimi for the weekend, had other ideas. I attempted to steal away to my office to write while she was watching one of her favorite shows, but that didn’t last long as she got lonesome and decided I was taking too long. Obviously my plans weren’t working for her. Her comment to me was, “Mimi, how much longer? You said this is my weekend with you and I don’t want to share it with your work.” Where did this come from? Then I realized that it came from me. I had created this scenario. Ever since my grandchildren were old enough to know
better, I have always set aside special time with each of them. Of course, now that my daughter Gina has 5 children and my son Deuce has 3 children setting aside more “Mimi” time is getting a little more challenging because they range from 14 down to two. I have always called it “our time” or “sleepovers,” and believe me, they don’t let me forget it. And I love it. Little did Bella know that she was providing the lesson and the inspiration for her Mimi’s column this month. The good news about this tradition is that it doesn’t require that I spend a lot of money on a big gift to please them. All it involves is the gift of me and my time. For my children, special time could simply be a private chat with me. With my grandchildren, it could be going out for hamburg-
ers, sitting down with them to watch their favorite movie, reading a story to them before bed, or taking a stroll around the block. I learned three important lessons from Bella this weekend which I’d like to share with you: 1. Time is all we have. Use it wisely. The gift of sharing our time with both our children and grandchildren is priceless. How many times do we say to them, “Not now, Bella, I’ve got to finish this work. Give me just a few more minutes. ” The problem is a few more minutes drags into an hour or more, and before you know it the day is over. I’m sure you all remember the song, “Cat’s in the Cradle?” One day you wake up and they are all grown up and they don’t have time for you.
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cookietuminello If you have to, set up time in your day planner to make time for your family. Remember that you can’t manage time, but you can manage your commitments. Start this practice when they’re very young and both you and your child will get into the habit of having “special” time together. 2. Don’t let material things become more important than family. Yes, I know we all have to work, bills to pay, and things to do with our 24 hours in each day. Yet ask yourself how caught up are you in the process of getting “stuff” you believe will make your children happy? Is it really necessary for you to work that extra 10 hours a week to buy Susie an iPad for her eighth birthday? Did you take that part-time job to be able to purchase that new leather sofa and chair you’ve wanted and which you believe will
make the family room more comfortable? I seldom use the following word, but in this case it’s important: NEVER prioritize the acquisition of “things” above spending quality time with your children! I truly believe that most children would much rather have Mom or Dad tuck them into bed at night or help them with their homework instead of sitting on that new sofa watching hours of mindless television. 3. Keep it simple. Up to a certain age, children really don’t have any concept of the value of money, but they WILL remember how many times you were at their ball games cheering them on. I’ve never seen it written anywhere that you have to spend a fortune on an outing to impress a 6 year old. I know … there are those of you who are reading this and thinking, “Yeah, but Bobby is 15. Do you
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really think he’s going to be satisfied with a day at the zoo?” Perhaps not, but I do know that trying to “buy” your child’s love doesn’t work. Pricey presents bring fleeting moments of joy, but their euphoria over getting the latest video console soon fades. Sometimes just gathering everyone together to go out for an ice cream can lead to a wonderful hour of time well spent with your family. Remember: life is a series of moments and those moments add up to memories which we pass down to our children and our grandchildren. And those memories are wrapped in ribbons from the heart. Happy Mother’s Day! Cookie Tuminello, Leadership and Team Building Coach, is the founder and CEO of Success Source, LLC. Cookie can be contacted at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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The Building Block Formula How to job search with success By: Danielle M. Dayries DMD& Associates Career Consulting, Outplacement and Resume Writing Firm Building a career that fulfills your needs and accentuates your skills can seem overwhelming. Yet, the process of building your career can be broken down into five individual steps that build upon each other, like building blocks, and make it an enjoyable process. This guide to job searching will help you build a career that you can be passionate and proud about. What are you looking for in your career? The first building block to a successful job search is determining what you are looking for in a career. The easiest way to do this is to evaluate what you truly enjoy doing. What are your hobbies, how do you enjoy spending your free time, what professional or volunteer opportunities have you benefitted from the most? Now identify why these experiences have had a positive influence on you.
Understanding why you have enjoyed something can open a whole new world of career opportunities you might not have considered. Whether it is exploring new places, interacting with different people,
â€œBy taking the initiative, you are more likely to experience success with your search.â€? working independently, or creating new things, there are a variety of interests and skills that you possess that can be applied to multiple job fields and positions.
Who do you want to work with? The second building block involves creating a list of companies you would like to work for or particular positions that interest you. Research companies that are in a field of your interest as well as those that have cultures and values that are aligned with yours. This will help organize a point to start looking for job openings. It will also give you a list of companies to contact to inquire about opportunities. Contacting current and former employees of these companies can give you further insight to guide your career planning. When will you conduct your job search? The third building block is to plan and organize. Create a calendar to keep your job search organized and create goals. The calendar should cover between two to
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three months in the future. Challenge yourself to contact a certain number of professionals in your network, search job boards, and submit applications each day. Calendars are a great way to track you progress in order to continually implement improvements in addition to maintaining motivation. Where will you present yourself to potential employers? Preparing your presence and a great first impression is the fourth building block. This includes your online, written and oral presence. Clean up your online networking profiles to assure they are professional and appropriate. You should also evaluate and improve your resume and cover letters. It is best to personalize your resume and cover letter to meet the needs and qualifications of each job opening. In addition, practice your interview skills as well as establish a method of following up with applications and interviews.
the tactics you need to achieve the positions you are interested in. The goal is to be an active job seeker, rather than passive. Join different organizations and attend networking events to connect with other professionals. Directly contact decision makers in companies and follow up on positions you have applied for. By taking the initiative, you are more likely to
â€œThere are a variety of interests and skills that you possess that can be applied to multiple job fields and positions.â€?
How will you activate your job search? The fifth building block is establishing
experience success with your search. Take these steps one at a time to build your job search in order to build a fulfilling career. Maintain your motivation and surround yourself with encouragement to succeed in the job search. Each step is one step closer to finding a career you are passionate about. As the owner and operator of the local career consulting and outplacement firm, Danielle M. Dayries & Associates, Danielle has assisted her clients to successfully prepare market themselves in the job search as they build a new career. Contact Danielle at email@example.com, (337) 504-5576, or dmdcareerconsulting.com.
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Healthy Competition A can’t-miss day for the entire family (really) One day. Ten events. Twenty-six acres. Three causes. And endless possibilities. On May 12 Karen Juneau’s vision for an event to benefit a bevy of worthwhile causes will come to fruition. The Lafayette mom is on a mission. Motivated by her son, who is autistic, Karen created Sky is the Limit and is working to create a residential community for special needs adults in Acadiana. Sound familiar? Last year, FACE featured Donielle Watkins, the founder of D.R.E.A.M.S. who was on that same mission. Luckily the two met and together are surely going to be more successful than they could be apart. And on May 12, they are hoping to bring a fundraiser to Acadiana unlike any other. And the event at Acadian Oaks will also benefit that incredible 26-acre youth retreat property. “It’s a slice of heaven,” Karen says of the sprawling piece of land off of Butcher Switch Road. On May 12, 10 events will be held in an all day
shindig called Compete 4 a Cause at the property. “If I build it. They will come,” Karen says with a laugh. Karen and Donielle are hoping to build a village three years down the road that will offer a better choice for the adults of Acadiana with special needs and there is much to be done in way of garnering funds. It is their hope that this will become an annual event that draws a hearty cross section of people throughout Acadiana. “And even more nonprofits are pulled in because we’re opening the options in the charity cook-off,” she says. The cook-off is just one of a diverse group of events in one place with the cost of an armband at $10 to participate. The day kicks off at 8 a.m. with race registration for a 5K trail run or 1-mile fun run then things get buzzing with a volleyball tournament, beauty pageant, art barn with local artists, silent auction of tennis items, fishing
rodeo, living stations of the cross and a flag football game. There will be a cheer squad debut and archery competition before a noon time D.R.E.A.M.S. charity cook off and performance by Tandum and April FACE cover girl Melissa Stevenson with a big finale of Louisiana Red performing. It’s, clearly, a different twist on the traditional family fun day or fundraiser. “How can we bring different interests into this one place,” was Karen’s starting point for organizing the event. The result is a myriad of events aimed at several different groups, yet cohesive. For more information go to skysthelimitofacadiana.com. To purchase an armband go to imathlete.com/events/ Compete4aCause
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6 steps to get fit
Summer is right around the corner and with the heat comes sleeveless shirts, short shorts, and of course bathing suites. Before you head out to purchase the next crash diet or quick fix promise, try these six simple tips to slim down. Not only are they easy to implement (with a little forethought and planning), but they also promise lasting results; helping you feel confident, strong and sexy this summer season! When it comes to your summer slim down plan, working with a registered dietitian can help ensure you reach your goals in a healthy and positive environment - while still living and loving your life! 1. Drink water... and lots of it. When it comes to any weight loss plan, drinking pure water is essential. The general rule of
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Shape Up 3 steps for a better body
honey, corn syrup and agave nectar. For your summer slim down plan, omit the added sugar from your diet. No need to cut fresh fruit or milk, unless medically advised. The most common places one will find added sugar include: regular soft drinks and fruit punches, candy, cakes, cookies, pies, snow cones, ice cream and fruit flavored yogurt. Added sugar can also be found in a variety of packaged foods such as cereals, instant oatmeal, breakfast bars and those “diet friendly” 100 calorie snack packs. Next time you are reading the food label, check out how much sugar is in each serving. As a general rule of thumb, if it has more than 7 grams of sugar then think twice before adding it to your summer slim down plan. 3. Increase fiber intake. Fiber is a secret weight loss ingredient because fiber is the part of plant based foods that our bodies cannot digest. This means that fiber will help keep us full longer without providing any additional calories. Eating more whole and natural foods with less processed and packaged foods is the first step to increasing your overall fiber intake. Some good examples of high fiber foods include: vegetables, fruit, lentils, dry beans and peas, brown rice, as well as whole grains such as wheat, oats, and barley. Don’t be fooled by fancy labeling. Refined grain products will have most of their fiber removed and often times food companies will add a caramel coloring to the product to make it look more natural. Look for products labeled “whole grain” and that are made with the whole grain kernel and do not include additives and fillers. It is also important to note that meat and dairy products contain no fiber.
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Any summer slim down plan will not only include a good nutrition plan but also a fitness regime. To maximize your workouts follow these three simple steps: 1. Be consistent. Find the time of day that works for you and make your workout plan a priority. Schedule your workout in your day planner, with a friend, or for extra accountability and motivation with a trainer. Often times the hardest part of any workout routine is the simple act of just showing up. Show up, do the work and you will get results. 2. Try interval training. Interval training is one of the best ways to maximize your time for maximum results. Interval training includes short bouts of high intensity exercise followed by low intensity exercise. Alternating weights or strength bearing activities with cardiovascular exercise is an excellent way to get a total body workout. 3. Push yourself. Whatever time you do have to devote to exercise make it count. Challenge yourself and push to your maximum potential (without causing injury or participating in dangerous activities). You can get an excellent total body workout in less than 30 minutes if you challenge yourself and maximize your efforts. When we push ourselves our body will respond with the positive changes you are working so hard to achieve.
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your fiber intake, do it slowly. Increasing pressure, but you can also help beat the your fiber intake too rapidly could result in bloat and feel great for summer. gas, bloating, and/or diarrhea. Also, be sure to drink plenty of water when adding fiber “… being dehydrated will to your diet. Without the proper fluid intake, increasing your fiber intake could result in actually slow down one’s constipation instead of elimination.
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sodium comes from. The best way to reduce sodium intake is to limit the intake of packaged foods and be more assertive when reading nutrition labels. Some of the most popular diet foods such as salad dressings, frozen meals, soups, and low fat sandwich meats are very high in added sodium. To reduce your sodium intake, buy fresh or frozen produce over canned foods. Skip the salt shaker at the dinner table and enhance the flavor of your food with natural herbs and spices. Limit the intake of processed meats and cheeses. Finally, prepare more meals from scratch and increase the intake of fresh fruits and vegetables.
4. Skip the salt and slash the sodium! In January 2010, the American Heart Association your body burns less changed the daily sodium recommendations calories when you are not from 2300 mg a day to 1500 mg per day and they did so for good reason. Excess sodium properly hydrated.” intake is one of the most common causes of high blood pressure as well as extra water retention. By monitoring sodium intake and Where is the sodium? Processed foods reducing the amount of consumption, it will and beverages as well as restaurant foods 5. Eat more vegetables. Load up on these low not only decrease your risk for high blood contribute to about 75 percent of where »
MAKE IT HAPPEN 5 ways to get there 1. Create a vision board or book. Set your need to plan your daily and weekly action goals and look at them every day to remind steps. yourself what you are working on. 4. Keep a journal. A journal is an excellent 2. Eliminate negative thinking and way to record your progress as well as remove yourself from negative situations. keep note of the obstacles that come Negative energy will not move you towards along. Keeping a food journal is still one creating and transforming yourself into of the most powerful weight loss tools your best self, therefore where there is you can invest in. For maximum results it negativity find a way to remove yourself or is recommended you keep a food journal mentally block it out. along with an exercise log and personal 3. PLAN, PLAN, PLAN. Make yourself and feeling section. This will help you keep track of what is working and what is not your goals a priority. And to do so, you
working. As you progress on your journey you can reflect on your progress. 5. Stay positive and surround yourself with people who will support and encourage you to reach your goals. We all need help at certain times in our life, and knowing when and where to reach out for education, support, and accountability will help create your best self.
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calorie, high fiber, antioxidant filled power foods. Increasing your intake of vegetables will do so much more than just add a low calorie meal or snack, but they will also help to balance your internal system. Vegetables have a natural component that helps flush out excess sodium and water retention, as well as helping to fill you up and reduce cravings for high sugar, high fat foods.
plan consuming enough of the right fat is key, however not all fats are created equal. Consuming unsaturated fats such as avocados, nuts, seeds, plant based oils,
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Here is a list of vegetables to be eaten and enjoyed not only for your summer slim down plan but are also the key for a long and healthy life: artichoke, asparagus, broccoli, cauliflower, kale, bean sprouts, green onions, watercress, okra, radishes, water chestnuts, green beans (green, wax, Italian), Brussels sprouts, cabbage, celery, cucumber, lettuce (or other salad greens), onions, tomato, spinach, summer squash, and fatty fish will help keep you satiated Swiss chard, sauerkraut, pea pods, parsnips, (another word for full) as well as provide essential nutrients. Be sure to include a little leeks, mushrooms, zucchini. healthy fat at each meal and snack. 6. Watch your fat intake. Believe it or Eliminate trans fat, which can be found not, when it comes to your slim down
in hydrogenated vegetable oil, partially hydrogenated oil, vegetable shortening, and margarines. The simplest way to eliminate trans fat from your diet is to read labels and skip the fried food. Also limit your saturated fat intake to 10 percent of your total calorie intake. For example if you are consuming an 1800 calorie diet, then limit your saturated fat intake to no more than 20 grams per day. Saturated fat will be found in animal products such as meat, cheese, half and half, and coconut oil. Following these simple six steps will help ensure you are feeling fit and fabulous this summer! To receive a customized meal plan to help implement these steps into your daily life contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org Yvette Quantz, LD, RD, CLT, is a Lifestyle and Sports Nutritionist and owner of Food Therapy, LLC. E-mail her at email@example.com and get more information about Food Therapy at www.foodtherapyonline.com.
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Haiti: Shaken but not Broken
A life-changing trip, a chance for change By Amanda Bedgood
When Boni Ritter flew into Haiti in January she expected to see poverty. But, before the plane hit the ground she would begin to see a level of need greater than anything she could have envisioned.
I looked at their pictures and said ‘this is something I want to do,’” Boni says.
“It’s overwhelming,” Boni says. “Their jobs are gone and the resources just aren’t there.”
No stranger to helping out causes that effect children, Boni loaded up on a half dozen shots and packed her bags. Father Meaux has spent more than 20 years in the impoverished country, returning once a year for months at a time to his base in Acadiana. He has done much in those years and Boni and supporters are hoping to do more with an upcoming fundraiser to benefit Village of Hope. The goal is to build as many homes as possible. The homes are six by eight feet and made from cement blocks that are made by hand at the mission.
Boni and others in Acadiana are hoping to change that. At least 80 percent of people in Haiti live on less than $2 a day with some living on less than a dollar. It is the poorest country in the western hemisphere and a massive earthquake two years ago did nothing more than send the population further into that hopeless abyss of need. The thing is, though, that while the need is great so is the hope for a better life. “I’m a fix-it person. So, you get over there and it’s overwhelming. It’s going to take a lot of people and a lot of time to fix,” Boni says. “The mission is wonderful and they are starting the ground work of getting people the basics of what they need.” The basics are housing, water and clothing. The mission spearheaded by Father Glen Meaux who has support from Cross International provides those things as they can while bringing the people of Haiti more than the physical necessities. It also provides the people of Haiti a place where they can learn about God and learn how to take care of each other in godly ways. “The mission brings them hope and dignity,” Boni says. “A lot of hope for the future.” When Boni arrived in Haiti she had two 50-pound suitcases and a backpack. She left with the backpack. It was the first such trip for Boni. It’s not unusual to see photos, hear stories, feel a tug at the heartstrings and, yet, never make the trip. But, something about this corner of the world touched Boni so profoundly she determined in her mind that she would walk the walk. “I knew a couple of people from New Iberia that had been and MAY 2012
“There’s no electricity or water. Just a shell,” Boni says. Meals are cooked outside over a fire. And most live in huts fashioned from mud and sticks. “This is the first step in giving them shelter,” Boni explains of the new homes that many are waiting for as they work to garner more funding. “What’s amazing to me is how well, even as little as they have, how well they kept it,” she says in admiration. “It’s a dirt floor. But, it’s swept and clean. They hang blankets and sheets on the walls so they aren’t looking at dirt. They have a mat to sleep on and cook outside.” As Boni flew into the area on a four-seater plane she surveyed the tents many people live in, overwhelmed by the need. It’s a cause that has slowly slipped from the headlines and from the conscience of most. As do most disasters as our attentions turn elsewhere.
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Shaken The poorest country in the western hemisphere, many Hatians were in need long before the foundations of their ill-built homes began to shake. But, a massive earthquake two years ago sent the impoverished country and it’s people into an even deeper abyss of need. Following the quake, it is estimated that 1.5 million people were living in camps after being displaced from their homes. The death toll for the earthquake remains a highly debated subject with estimates ranging from 100,000 to more than 300,000. 3 million were directed effected by the quake $2 or less – what at least 80 percent of Hatians live on a day 60 years – average life expectantcy (one of the lowest in the world) 54 percent of Hatians live in abject poverty 5 million cubic meters of debris have been cleared from the quake thus far $68 million – the funding the UN needs for hygeiene projects to carry out life-saving prevention and vaccination campaigns “That’s what seems to happen,” Boni says of causes that rise and fade. “And we don’t want them to forget the children of Haiti.” Boni certainly hasn’t. Since she returned in January she’s been seeking ways to make a difference and she’s planning to return at least annually to do what she can on the ground. “It changed me. For one thing I have a low tolerance of people complaining over things that have ruined their day. I just want to scream,” she says. “We have no clue how lucky we are.” She appreciates the things we consider small – a hot shower, being able to get water out of the tap. “I have a greater appreciation and am thanking God for what I have. The people there were so grateful for every little thing they have,” she says recalling the day she spent doling out necessities to people at the mission. Donations come into the mission and are sorted from toiletries to clothing. Everything is laid out and those in need come through a line. “They got maybe a half or full cup of cooking oil. A bar of soap. And they could pick a pair of shoes and we had a men’s pile of shirts and a lady’s pile of dresses. They would not take anything until we handed it to them and then they said thank you,” Boni says. Their approach to life was something that was not lost on Boni. Part of the mission is to also provide schooling and other educational opportunities as well as a place to attend Mass. Those who participate at the mission are assessed and as money comes in, homes are built. To date there are 202 houses. The majority of those homes (168) are from Cross International while the others are privately donated. They have built six water wells to provide spring water to those in the area. And on May 30, Boni and supporters are hoping to garner funds for the many who still wait now for a home. Cross International will match funds the night of the fundraiser. “If anybody will put up $2,500 they will build a house,” she says. The fundraiser at City Club is $200 a plate with Chef John Folse crafting a five-course meal. An auction with items from a beach trip and highend art to a hunting trip and a watch from Paul’s will boast items that are at a minimum of $500. To learn more about the event, to buy tickets or to help in anyway call Charlene Miller at 337-781-9310 or Boni Ritter 337-519-9146. 24 FACE Magazine www.facelafayette.com
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Quite Spectacular PASA rolls out its first ever Vaudeville Spectacular where it will honor one of Acadiana’s most spectacular women
that the honor is well deserved no matter serve on their board of directors for nine how humble Darrellyn may be. years and as president of the Council. As Arts in Education was a main focus of their “I’m totally not worthy,” she says. “I was shocked. It’s a big honor. PASA’s got a big mission plan, it became important to me also.” part of my heart.” When Darrellyn talks about her devotion to the arts it is children that are the “She’s a very hard worker and gives a lot “She’s really involved. cornerstone of her draw. Sure, she to the community,” says Elizabeth Bernard loves going to see performances. But, who is helping organize PASA’s first ever Down in the trenches.” it is the possibility to connect children Vaudeville Spectacular where they will to experiences in the arts that are her honor Darrellyn. Darrellyn was bit first by the art bug heart. PASA opens the door for students “She’s really involved. Down in the 30 years ago when in Junior League she by providing instruments and access to became the liaison to the budding new Arts trenches,” Elizabeth says. performances that would otherwise not be Darrellyn is much more modest about her Council. affordable or possible for many. efforts. But, her history in Acadiana is proof “I was thoroughly hooked and went on to “To have these kids be able to experience PASA is about art. But, it’s about so much more than one-of-a-kind performances. There is much beneath what many see as the surface of the organization. Kind of like Darrellyn Burts, who will be honored come May in PASA’s first ever Award of Excellence.
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live music … there’s nothing better than a walkers and a trapeze swing will be on live performance for kids,” she says. “Arts hand at a venue that marries the old and in education opens up so much for a child the new much like the event itself. in so many different ways.” “It’s going to be really different,” Elizabeth While Darrellyn has served on the board promises of the event to introduce PASA’s of PASA helping with their annual wine coming season. “There will be pops of auction and wine tour talent here and there in River Ranch, she “Arts in education with local talent mixed was also a founder and in.” president of the Lafayette opens up so much The event slated for Community Theatre and Richard Young’s newly for a child in so many a member of the Mayor’s renovated venue in Commission for the Arts different ways.” Broussard (a stunning among many hats she historic home and wears. property dubbed The Darrellyn was a natural fit for the organization’s first Awards of Excellence as PASA moves toward their first (and certainly quite spectacular) Vaudeville Spectacular. The evening of May 12, a host of performances from jazz musicians and contortionists to piano players, stilt
Victorian) hosts a bevy of rooms with T h e performers of different kinds planned for evening will also include a silent and live auction with entertainment by Vagabond each one in a nod to Vaudeville. Swing, cuisine from local restaurants and Promotions for the event bring the an open bar. Tickets are $100 and can be promise of music, dance, fire and feathers purchased at pasa-online.org. in an evening dedicated to the theatrical inspiration of the late 19th century.
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"I Don’t Know How She Does It" When someone says that, the “she” is usually a mom. And there’s one simple reason for that: Moms do the stuff no one else does. It’s part of being a mom. And in return for all of those things big and small that only happen at the hands of a mom, mothers have the great honor of knowing a love that’s impossible to put into words. It’s a big beautiful life-shaking love that never ends. And this month we want to say ‘thank you’ to all the moms we know and love for all that they do. In the following pages we offer some uplifting pieces that honor the most beloved women in recognition of Mother’s Day. Whether you’re a new mom learning to juggle midnight feedings and long days at work or a veteran mother facing the care for your own aging mother, we have something to inspire you this May. So, sit back, prop up your feet and enjoy. You deserve it. You’re a mom. And while they might not know “how you do it,” we do. It’s call love love love. MAY 2012
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Mother, May I By Lynley Jones and Jan Swift
Manners that will make mom proud
ay is the season to celebrate Mother’s Day. It is the time to celebrate mothers, grandmothers, beloved great aunts and other women who have had an impact on our understanding of the acceptable rules of behavior. Those accepted rules help civilize the society in which we live. Unfortunately, we all know uncivilized people (don’t point or make a list). When you venture out in public, you represent your family. Your behavior can lead people to think that your entire family is uncivilized, or was “raised by wolves,” or maybe even “raised in a barn.” Your behavior leaves an impression on others.
our civility. “Our youth now love luxury. They have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for their elders and love chatter in place of exercise; they no longer rise when elders enter the room; they contradict their parents, chatter before company; gobble up their food and tyrannize their teachers.” That quote was, in fact, written thousands of years ago. Plato was quoting Socrates as saying this very thing! But don’t we all have a mom or our grandmother who did her best to remind us to sit up straight, wear clean underwear, offer guests a cold beverage, and that you are “never fully dressed without a smile?”
ple who lived in the time of Socrates, 2,400 years ago. But you could be different. Remember, etiquette sets you apart from the crowd, makes you sparkle and shine, and gives you confidence in any setting. This month, we’ll honor mom with Grace Notes that may be commonly known, but not commonly practiced. And, your mom will thank us for reminding you to make her proud. General etiquette for eating out:
• Sit up straight with your back flat against the seat; shoulders back and down. Pilates 101. Head up, stomach in, smile on your face. Envision that you are Grace Kelly or Kate Middleton, Unfortunately, there may be some of and you will be the star of the room. Some people think that we are losing us who are not that different from peo-
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• Chew with your mouth closed. Please do not smack or talk with your mouth full of food. Do you have any vivid memories of others breaking this rule? We do too. We want people to think of you as resembling Jackie Kennedy, not Mike Tyson chomping on a chicken bone (or ear).
spoon rests on the plate on which the the situation and ask politely for your neighbor’s bread plate when they take soup was served. • Don’t reach across the table for condi- yours. ments. Ask someone at the table, seated closest to the salt, pepper, sugar, or salad dressing, to pass it to you. “Would you please pass the salt? Thank you.” “Please and thank you” apply to all of our conversations, by the way. The salt and pepper shaker are a married couple. They travel together and never take separate vacations. You pass one, and the other goes along for the “ride.”
• Keep your elbows off the table. Don’t ever get too comfortable at the dining table. It’s not a trough. If you are already sitting up straight, this is an easy rule to follow. Can you envision Princess Diana slumping over the table, smack- • Use your napkin. When you are seating? ed, place the napkin, folded in half with • Do not season food before you taste it. the crease toward you, in your lap. It When ordering a steak at Ruth’s Chris, stays there throughout the meal. If you or the Pan Seared Redfish Cake at Mu- have to get up, place the napkin foldriel’s in New Orleans, would you order ed on your chair or to the left of your ketchup? Would you shake the salt over plate. When you are finished with your it without tasting it? (The answer is meal, place the napkin to the right of your plate. “no.”) • Spoon soup away from you, to keep it from getting on you. This will save you embarrassment, and also keep your dry cleaning bill affordable. Never leave the spoon resting in the soup bowl. Your
• Using silverware: start on the outside and work your way in. Once a piece of silverware has touched food, it should not touch the table again. Set it neatly across your plate. Follow your host’s lead if you are eating French fries or asparagus; if they use their fork, so should you. At Grace Notes, our desire is that you all may live in grace and present your best self every day of the week. Just like your Mom and Jan’s Aunt Pearl would want for you. May God bless you and your family on this Mother’s Day! Lynley Jones and Jan Swift are partners in Grace Notes, LLC, an etiquette endeavor to help further society’s niceties. They may be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.
• Your drink glass is to your right and your salad or bread plate is to your left. This comes up quite often when others take your bread plate! At least now you know the rule so you can take charge of
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Mom Matters By Louisa Alten, Host and Creator, Forever Younger
How to make time
to-be facial and a package of beauty that included a facial, waxing, pool and picnic package. Here is the key – moms and mommies-to-be don’t have the luxury of planning spontaneously so here are some tips: I went blank. What did I know of being a mom? I was Calling all moms! Listen up! an aunt but the mere act of being one made me real- • Plan your spa day as a full day, not just an hour ize just what little potential I had for motherhood. I facial. don’t even have a friend who is a • Find a hotel, resort or day spa mom. Not many women in their with a stylist, nail and facialist fifties are invited to play groups. for a one stop shop. Saves three When I asked our editor, Amanda, for the topic for the May issue, she said Mother’s Day. She then suggested how moms don’t take time for themselves.
Then I had a moment of inspiration. I remembered I had done a TV segment on Mommies to Be. I could do this, I HAD done this.
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• Buy all clothes tailored or fitted. During the segment, each mom Darts will really pull a waist in. had a different concern. One was acne, another discoloration from • Lastly, plan to make time for yourself. It will not pregnancy, the last was exhaustion. How the segment only make you look younger but it will make you feel originated was a moment of (just what my editor FOREVER YOUNGER and that is priceless. said) realizing moms don’t take time for themselves Louisa Alten is the host of Forever Younger airing on KADN, FOX 15, Sunday 9:30 to10 a.m. during pregnancy or post baby. As I was researching my story, I called day spas, hotels and resorts. I found out that many of them did not have a pregnancy facial. I then persuaded a resort to do a Mommies to Be Day, a day where it is OK to take time for yourself. I actually created a mommy-
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Win a Destin Getaway for your Mother (or yourself!) In the pages of this May issue of FACE we honor mothers from all walks of life. If there’s one thing you will see again and again, it is our effort to urge you to take some time for yourself. Quit shaking your head. We know you don’t have time. We know you have a sink full of dishes and a deadline and a long to-do list with no check marks in the done column (or maybe that’s just us.). But, this month for the first time ever we are removing one obstacle for one lucky mom. Send us your story or the story of a dear friend or even your own mother and tell us just why you deserve to win our Mommy Get Away weekend. The winner will receive a two-night stay at Henderson Park Inn in their executive suite. (This is an adults only trip, ladies.) The bed and breakfast on the beach in Destin is just what the doctor ordered. Send a few short paragraphs telling us about an awesome mom in Acadiana (and you can certainly write about yourself) and next month we’ll reveal our big winner. Email entries to email@example.com by May 18.
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The Great Generation It is said that how we care for the youngest and oldest in our society is evidence of just what we’re all about. If so, Debbie Foreman is proof that we are on the right track.
Being a mother to your children is no easy task. But, being a mother to your own parent is perhaps one of the most complicated shifts in a woman’s life. It’s a complex relationship full of its own kind of challenges. And as with all things related to motherhood it is full of a kind of beauty and reward that comes only when we give of ourselves. This is something Debbie Foreman knows.
By Amanda Bedgood
are women 45 to 56 years old who option for her and like many children work outside of the home full time. facing the decision, to say it was hard And those numbers will only increase would be an understatement. as we, as a society, live longer. “At the time I thought it was the “I was at a luncheon recently and hardest thing I’d ever have to do. You the woman sitting to my left and my could tell she didn’t want to go,” Debright are going through it,” Debbie bie says. says. Her first week there they had to
While moving her mother to La- unplug the stove because she would fayette was a wise decision. Debbie leave it on. And thanks to Debbie’s knew quickly what many learn. frequent visits she realized quickly It was 20 years ago that things bethat her mother needed even more gan to change in Debbie’s mother, care than could be offered in assisted Florence Ann Nadison Deano. The living. brilliant woman in her 60’s began “I realized she wasn’t eating,” Debto shows signs that her sharp mind bie says. was changing. She spent years hiding what would later be determined She tried sitters, but sitters don’t to be either severe dementia or Alalways show up and leaving her alone zheimer’s. wasn’t an option. They moved her into a nursing home and a sitter came “I thought she’s getting older, may“She was not the person I knew bebe depressed,” Debbie says of her fore,” Debbie says of her aging moth- along for her waking hours. It was the best solution for the best care for her. mother who long divorced and was er. “It was like another child.” living in New Orleans. “It worked. It gave mom a sense of The woman with degrees from John It was 12 years ago that Debbie Hopkins who spent time reading continuity to have the same person,” moved her to Lafayette knowing that medical books and encyclopedias was she says. proximity to grandchildren (Debbie slipping away. But, like most people The same person to help bathe has four children) and family would as they age there were moments of and dress and care for her. But, the be a good thing. Debbie began then a lucidity. real continuity was Debbie. In those juggling act many women know well years, Debbie didn’t just visit. She “She covered it very well for a long showed up. Several times a day. She between being a mom to four children, working full time and caring for time,” Debbie says. called throughout the day. an aging parent. At least 70 percent of But, assisted living became the best “I would put her red lipstick on a those caring for their elderly parents
“She was not the person I knew before. It was like another child.”
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Debbie and her mother, Florence Ann Nadison Deano, long before the daughter became the caregiver.
few times a day,” Debbie says with a kind of affection in her voice at the warm memory of one of the many little special things she did for her mother. Lipstick. Her nails done. Her clothes laid out each night. Her hair cuts. A collection of thoughtful little somethings that together are evidence of far more. They are a kind of language only women speak. There were many things Debbie did for her mother in those years. But, it is perhaps this method of caring for her mother that speaks most clearly. You are valuable. Your quality of life matters. Life is more than survival. I love you. “They were the simple things that made her feel like herself,” Debbie says.
“I would put her red lipstick on a few times a day …” It’s evidence that no matter how difficult things may appear, we make time for the things that matter to us. “People said ‘I don’t know how you do it.’ You would do the same thing,” she says. “It’s important and you love them and want their quality of life and their dignity.” Florence had moments of lucidity even toward the very end of her life. Debbie says it was much like a scene taken from The Notebook where Florence would be with them one moment and gone the next. This inconsistency was the cru-
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elest part of the thing that destroyed her mother’s mind, Debbie says. There were days Florence was sure she had spotted her younger brother. He was MIA from World War II. She would think Debbie hadn’t been to visit in far too long although she had already been there three times that day. “The really cruel thing is that even though she thought her children were four or five years old and my children about 10 years younger than they were (a real disconnect, I know), every day she knew she wasn't in her home in New Orleans and wanted to return,” Debbie says. And then in September of last year the woman who loved to eat ice cream and thanked her daughter every day for the things she did (although she surely didn’t remember them all) passed away. The loss is still fresh. And while there wasn’t time before September to do much more than put one foot in front of the other, Debbie is now pausing to reflect. Taking time to read about the cruel disease that robbed her mother of so much. And yet, the experience of caring for her own mother added so much to Debbie’s life. “When you start dealing with the elderly there is a real lack there. A lack of attention. And the elderly population
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It is this approach that must have made the difference in how Debbie tackled her new role in the years she cared for her mother. “It’s not easy but it added a wonderful new dimension to my life. And my children, hopefully, learned and saw a lot. What they did, too, I’m proud of them.” It’s clear her children were paying attention. It was her own daughter who approached us to share Debbie’s story after seeing the beautiful relationship and sacrifice of years spent caring for her mother. But, for Debbie it’s clear there wasn’t another option.
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Mom at Work There is no such thing as a mom who doesn’t work. And women are no strangers to the workplace. But, in recent years women are fast becoming the breadwinners for families or taking turns in the workplace with their husbands. There are no rules when it comes to what works for each family. Mother Laci Mahler knows this. By Amanda Bedgood
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Laci Mahler always wanted to have kids. And she always wanted to work. She loves her son Ryler who is nearly a year and a half old. And she loves her job. She is more than a working mom, however. She is the breadwinner in their family. She is not alone with almost 40 percent of working wives out-earning their husbands. And with some data showing there’s no slowing in the trend as women occupy most managerial and professional jobs as well as earn most college degrees. Long-term economic shifts even favor fields that are women dominated. In the Mahler house it is all about choice. Laci says she and her husband Chris are simply doing what works for them. Laci, a teacher who is now working as a math coach to teach other teachers with aspirations of working in education administration, says while she stayed home with Ryler for much longer than a traditional maternity leave (eight months), she always planned to return to work. Ryler was born in December and thanks to planning and budgeting, Laci was able to stay at home the rest of the school year and wait until the fall to return.
our budget, we will cut it,’ and after that we realized it wasn’t so bad. You spend what you have. We did it once and we can do it again,” she says. “It’s interesting to see how easily and comfortably you can live on less.”
“He cooks, he cleans … He does everything that has to do with the house so that when I get home I can sit down with Ryler …”
“Even in that eight months I was at home with him I was calling work and wanted to be back in the game,” She says it’s been a lesson in how she says noting that those months at very much material things are not home were no easy feat. what make you happy. It’s also been After learning to live off of her hus- a lesson in many other ways. In the band’s salary alone the two began Mahler house, Chris and Laci wake looking at the possibility of Chris re- each morning, get ready and dressed turning to school to finish his degree before waking Ryler for breakfast. while Laci returned to work. After they eat Ryler says ‘bye bye “I would have never imagined we momma’ and Laci heads to work. would be able to do this. When I Chris takes Ryler to daycare while was on maternity leave it was very he’s in class then picks him up each important for me to stay home for day. a couple of months so we said, ‘no “For him (Ryler) it’s what normal matter what we have to cut out of everyday families do,” she says.
Chris has officially taken over the roles often designated for women. “He cooks, he cleans. His job is to go to school and take care of Ryler and the house when not in school. He does everything that has to do with the house so that when I get home I can sit down with Ryler and play and do family things,” she says. While Laci is happy with their choice, there are certainly moments that things are less than easy. “It is hard because Chris stays home and they send pictures and he’s pointed to his eye … and it’s hard. But, I know I’m not meant to be a stay at home mom,” she says. Laci says with a laugh that at the end of the day it feels much like what she used to only see in the movies when the dad arrives home from work to dinner on the stove. And while their roles are for this time not the norm, Laci says the male-female dynamic is still there in terms of Chris being “the man.” “To me, he’s almost more of a man because he does all of the stuff you would never imagine a man taking over and he does it with such ease. I’m so grateful to have a man that does that kind of stuff. I got a good one,” she says proudly. It’s clear that the Mahlers are happy with what they’ve chosen and it’s
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“I was a big part truly working for them. But, it doesn’t mean any less judgment from others. of that commuIn recent years while women have nity which is a lot been out earning men there has also of stay at home been a shift of women embracing the moms and they role of stay at home mom with a new could not imagine gusto as the use of cloth diapering, why I would want homemade baby food and the like rise. to go back to work Many women in what could be de- and I did feel like scribed as a rising subculture are “baby there was some judgment. But we are still friends. If you have the choice why would you stay at home, they thought. It was hard to get people to understand that not everyone feels that way,” she says.
“You have to do what is right for your family … find out that makes your family happy …”
wearers” who carry their little ones in slings and most of whom breast feed. It’s a community that Laci is definitely a part of, although she chooses to work outside of their home. The key word being choose. “I didn’t feel conflicted,” Laci says of her choice to go back to work.
It will be another year before Chris will finish school. And while Laci never Laci says she most certainly feels expected to be the family’s breadwinlike most moms do – “I want to be the ner, she is thankful they have been perfect mom.” Yet, she also believes able to make it work. she has other roles than that of moth“You have to do what is right for er and it’s something she embraces. your family and not everything works “You wear a lot of hats as a mom and for everyone else. Find out that makes I don’t want to be just ‘Ryler’s mom.’ I your family happy. I love what I do and am his mom. But, I have a lot of things love being a mom.” and hats to wear,” she says.
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Well Plated Crafty mom Jess Roberts gives us a project easy enough for anyone with a bit of glue and perfect to make this holiday for any mom. The beauty of this project is how easily it can be customized. Jess shows us a piece inspired by the sea. Customize the votives by filling them with something that speaks to your mom’s personality. Think acorns or leaves for a woodsy gal. Try teacups in lieu of votives for an entirely different look and remember there’s no need to match. Mix prints and shapes for a whimsical vibe. It’s a great way to put those mismatched pieces of china to good use and no doubt mom will appreciate a gift that’s made especially for her.
4. Place votive on largest plate.
What you’ll need: 3 plates, 2 votives or teacups or candlestick holders, Rubbing alcohol to prep the pieces, Glue
1. Prep plates with rubbing alcohol to ensure the glue stays strong.
2. Place shells or other whatnots in the votives.
3. Place glue on the bottom of the votive.
5. Place strip of glue on top of votive.
6. Press mid-sized plate on center of votive.
7. Repeat steps on second votive and allow to dry.
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This month, I am writing to you not only as a business owner, philanthropist, wife, and accessorizer; I am also writing as a mother and “Granny J,” as my grandchildren Taylor and Trevor call me. The job of being a mother is a very busy job. There are days of peace, but the majority of the days are spent taking children to school and then to their respective after-school activities. Moms rarely find time for themselves. I am here to tell you that it is important for you to find a time and a place to just ‘be.” If you do not have a special place in your home where you can relax then make one.
As mothers we have so much to be thankful for! Whether your children are small or grown up like mine, once you are a mother, you are always a mother. I talk to my son every day, and he still says, “I love you, mom,” before he hangs up the phone. The best present any mother can receive is the love of her child(ren). I have a “phone date” with my grandkids every Monday night at 5 p.m. They live in Victoria, Texas, so we talk on the phone at the same time every week. The other day Taylor, my 13-yearold granddaughter, was telling me that all her friends say that I am a “cool” granny because I can text. It’s moments like that in life that make me love every day because I know that I am living for them.
“If you can’t seem to find that special comfortable spot in your home, then make one …”
A good place to relax is the bathroom. A few minutes in a hot bubble bath with your favorite drink surrounded by candles is the perfect recipe for relaxation. You can get lost in a book or magazine, and just immerse yourself. My special place is a chair in my bedroom. When I wake up early in the morning I love to sit with a cup of coffee, my bible, and my thoughts. I always start my day in this chair and have my talks with God. I say special prayers for my husband, Bob, my son, Heath, and my grandchildren, Taylor
If you can’t seem to find that special comfortable spot in your home, then make one. All you need is a quiet corner, a lamp, a table for your favorite drink or book, and a throw blanket. This will create that comfort and coziness that is needed to be able to escape from the daily tasks of motherhood and get lost for a few minutes a day. You are a mom. You deserve it.
and Trevor. It gets me charged and excited to go about my day. Another good place to relax is outside listening to the sounds of nature. Go outside either very early or just as the sun is setting and just listen.
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Judy Dunn is an expert in all things home. The Lafayette decorator is known for her signature style (lots of flair and often a dose of animal print) and kind heart and now brings her words of wisdom to FACE’s readers. Judy, who helms Dunn’s Designs, believes in helping people with more than their homes. She believes in touching their lives. It’s just that combination she’ll be bringing to our pages as she shares her easy-to-do tricks from an insider that will make your house a home and treasured tips on living a more beautiful life.
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A richly-embellished Sue Wong dress with vintage-inspired shape pairs with sparkling earrings for a look thatâ€™s utterly modern. From La Marquise, 1925 Kaliste Saloom, Parc Lafayette. 42 FACE Magazine www.facelafayette.com
All that Jazz Warming weather calls for light colors and even lighter fabrics. Subtle hues of nude and crisp white pair with shapes that remind us of the Jazz Age with a bit of fringe there and a long strand of pearls here.
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Rows of fringe and long pearl necklaces pay homage to the past for an updated flapper look. From HerringStoneâ€™s 2 Sistersâ€™ Boutique, 111 Settlers Trace Blvd., River Ranch. 44 FACE Magazine www.facelafayette.com
Neutrals with a hint of color and a fringe-detailed hemline are the new jazz age. From Knotting Hill, 201 Settlers Trace Blvd., River Ranch. MAY 2012
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Vivid sapphires are bold enough to stand out and subtle enough to wear from day to night. More than three-carat ring, five-plus carat earrings and four-plus carat pendant from Hallmark Jewelers, Northgate Mall. 46 FACE Magazine www.facelafayette.com
Neutral never looked so bold in this dress paired with a rich black wrap belt and sexy heels from Vanessa V. Boutique, 5520-E Johnston Street. MAY 2012
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Mile-high wedges are neutral enough for the boldest print and yet standout enough to make a simple solid look pop. From Shoe La La, 201 Settlers Trace Blvd., No. 3010, River Ranch. 48 FACE Magazine www.facelafayette.com
An easy shape flattering for every figure and wear anywhere cut makes white doable for day or night. Paired with a shimmering vintage-inspired lariat. From Brother's on the Boulevard, 101 Arnould Blvd. MAY 2012
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Little lacy shorts and a fitted deep ocean top pair with mile-high neutral heels. From Park Lane, 1921 Kaliste Saloom Road Suite 117, Parc Lafayette. 50 FACE Magazine www.facelafayette.com
The perfect pieces for a day at the races. A wear-anywhere Eric Javitz hat, Jimmy Crystal sunglasses and necklace, ring, earrings and bracelet from Judith Leiber add up to a class act. From Jody's of Lafayette, INC., 923 Harding St., Oil Center. MAY 2012
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A coral one-shoulder dress with accordion pleats is summerâ€™s must-have shade and a utterly flattering shape. From Vertigo, 201 Settlers Trace Blvd., River Ranch. 52 FACE Magazine www.facelafayette.com
Honora brings pearls to the next level with a shape thatâ€™s anything but average and a shimmering bracelet that can go from day to night. From Paul's Jewelry, 600 Silverstone in River Ranch and 325 Oil Center Drive in the Oil Center. MAY 2012
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Fluttering tiers and a tie cinching the waist are a combo for a figure-flattering white dress. Delicate necklace and vintage-inspired earrings and bracelet complete the look. From Jewelie's Boutique, 407 Rena Drive. 54 FACE Magazine www.facelafayette.com
Freshen up any top or dress with a bold turquoise necklace beautiful with classic white, sophisticated black or a wild print. From Natalee, 331 Heymann Blvd., Oil Center. MAY 2012
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For Others How one family grew closer together when they looked outside of themselves. A mother’s love reaches beyond her children.
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A life well lived is a rare thing. And so, when it happens, it’s easy to spot. Patti Broussard is such a bright spot in many people’s lives. It’s something you realize quickly of which she is mostly unaware. And like many people who stand out for the right reasons, Patti doesn’t try to do so. She’s just being Patti. Kind, forthright and perhaps, above all else, mom. To say Patti is a mom above all else has as much to do with how she treats children that are not her own as it does her three girls – Kallie, Katie and Emma. Patti isn’t a great mom because she has abandoned all other facets of womanhood. She is a great mom because at her core she is someone who cares for others. And that is, perhaps, the most simple (and true) definition of being a mom.
her new little girl. “It wasn’t about us,” Patti says with another laugh as she remembers learning what all new moms know. “I remember leaving the hospital and going home and thinking ‘do they think we know what we’re doing?’” she laughs. “You can’t focus on yourself. And that’s not a bad thing.” Patti, an only child, was determined she didn’t need anyone to stay with the new parents in those early days with their first child. “It was a lot harder than I thought. It definitely stretches you,” she says.
And while those early sleep deprived days are a challenge, Patti says that these days as she leads her maturing daughters and faces moral Patti Broussard always wanted to be a mom. choices and decisions that impact their future are more difficult in While in college at UL some ways. the redhead met her now husband, Gerald. She was in school for education while Gerald pursued a degree in industrial engineering. Patti’s initial attraction quickly grew into more, they began dating and soon she was confident this was the man for her.
“I try to freeze moments. You feel it go so quickly. It’s so fast and then it’s gone.”
“Teen years and hormones and friend drama,” she says with a smile. “It’s tougher than changing diapers or feedings. But, I’ve loved every second of it. I try to freeze moments. You feel it go so quickly. It’s so fast and then it’s gone.”
When Patti’s second, Katie, arrived three years later, she decided to take family up on the offer to stay with Even now when talking about Gerald, Patti’s her following the birth. She knew what she demeanor changes. It’s clear that she picked was getting herself into the second go round. wisely. It would be four years before they had And then seven years later the Broussards welcomed now eight-year-old Emma. their first child, daughter Kallie, now 18. As the mother of three girls, to say Patti “I don’t even remember what it was like. I had a lot going on is an understatement. The don’t know what we did with all that time?” family chose to homeschool their girls and as she laughs of life before her girls. the years progressed the Broussards became a “The whole center of what I was doing and tight knit family. why I’m here changed.” “I wanted to be with them as much as Patti stayed at home and her focus shifted to “You don’t pick the one you can live with, you pick the one you can’t live without. I just knew,” she says.
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possible and give them the best start,” she says. It’s a decision she’s glad they made. And one her girls are thankful for as well. The Broussards are more than a close family, there is an element of friendship not always seen between siblings and parents and their children. Kallie knows her mom is not the average and neither is their relationship. “I can talk to her about anything going on in my life,” Kallie who is a freshman at UL says. “My friends and their relationships with their moms are tense. They don’t hang out. It’s really unique.” While it’s no doubt homeschooling contributed to keeping the family close, it is their collective participation in a theater program that changed their lives in ways they could not have imagined. A few years ago, while many teenagers begin to veer in their own directions, Gerald and Patti learned about CYT (Christian Youth Theater) through family in Texas. The faith-based theater program puts on high-quality performances and hosts classes for acting, dance, singing. But, unlike some theater programs is Christ-centered with high moral standards. The audition process is no joke with parts going to those who best fit the role after a monologue and performance for a panel of judges. The sets are beautifully done. And what started as a few dozen kids has blossomed into nearly 200 children in classes and more than 90 preparing for their latest show – Aladdin. It’s an unlikely thing for the Broussards to be involved in, much less to have founded. But, it turned out to be just the perfect fit and has radically altered their family life.
“It’s a great place where kids come and find a home. Be themselves and accepted.”
Gerald was the one who first proposed the idea with Patti unsure of how a couple with no theater experience would pull it off. They waited until the girls were interested in the concept and found someone with the background in the area to bring it all together. And what started out, as an idea is a flourishing home for many children to truly be themselves. Patti says it was clear early on that it’s all come together thanks to God.
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“One door opened and then another door opened and then another,” she says. At their first performance of Godspell people were waiting to get in. And more importantly, “the kids had a blast.” “The younger you can get them in, the more confidence it builds,” Patti says of the experiences they have as a part of CYT from auditioning to performing. “It’s a great place where kids come and find a home. Be themselves and accepted.” The concept – “Building character one stage at a time.” They work to make every part feel important. “And it really is,” Patti says sincerely. There’s no doubt Patti treats more than just each part as special. She does so with each child as well. “She’s pretty much the mother of CYT,” her daughter, Katie, says. “She does a lot. Not that many people know how much she does. It’s pretty much her life now.”
“I remember leaving the hospital and going home and thinking ‘do they think we know what we’re doing?’”
And as such, Kallie says her mother has become a mother to so very many. “For a long time it was just us. Now she has 180 kids and she’s kind of like a mom to all of them,” Kallie says. For Patti, CYT is the product of their family’s hope of doing something outside of themselves for other people. Patti recalls a sermon in which the pastor asked them for the one word related to an abundant life full of and flowing with joy. The word? Others. “It stuck with us as a family,” Patti says. “As a family we’ve learned the benefit of doing something for someone else.”
And so when most families face a fork in the road that leads them further apart in those teen years, the Broussards have not only found a way to grow even closer together, they’re doing the same for other families as well. Their world is certainly larger and encompasses far more people that they had ever imagined thanks to CYT, and yet they are closer than ever as a result. “Find something you as a family can do for someone else. It changes your life. You lead a much richer, fuller life.”
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showyourface BLANC OPENING March 8 â€“ Blanc Bridal Boutique Lafayetteâ€™s newest and one-of-a-kind bridal store swung open their swanky doors for a gathering to celebrate the boutique filled with high-end designer gowns not found before in Acadiana. Owner Ashley Primeaux welcomed guests who had a chance to see some of the brands she hand picked for the Parc Lafayette store.
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March 25 – Randol's
Supporters of the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society filled Randol’s as City-Parish President Joey Durel and Mary Guidry worked to raise funds for the society’s Man and Woman of the Year event. Crooners for a Cure garnered funds for the organization as Joey and Mary compete against a host of other men and women for their Man and Woman of the Year contest. Those who raise the most funds for the organization will be honored for their efforts this spring.
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showyourface CHOCOHOLIC FROLIC March 29 – The Victorian The air was filled with the delectable smell of sweet somethings for Acadiana Outreach Center’s Chocoholic Frolic. From savory selections to decadent desserts, the chocolate-centered event provided an array of options as well as a silent auction. All set to the backdrop of The Victorian.
SO SWANK March 24 – Oil Center The Oil Center rolled out the first ever So Swank art and music event in March with bold pieces from artist Joseph Jilbert on display down the boulevard. White tents in Oil Center Gardens gave party goers a chance to relax in the shade and sip a bit of wine while Jilbert was on hand to give a tour and insight into his unique pieces.
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showyourface SUNSHINE SOCIAL
Feb. 23 – Home of Mike and Cheryl Thompson The River Ranch home of Mike and Cheryl Thompson was the background for the Sunshine Foundation Social. Their mission is building self-esteem by providing the book" You Are Sunshine” to kindergarten children in public, private and parochial schools in Louisiana.
HUMANITIES SPRING LUNCHEON
March 28 – Petroleum Club The Petroleum Club of Lafayette was the venue for the Friends of Humanities Spring Luncheon. Joseph Savoie, Ed.D. President of UL Lafayette, was the keynote speaker addressing the topic of “The Master Plan for the University and Role of the Humanities.”
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Published on May 2, 2012