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Out & About HARTFORD PRIDEFEST
Chief Editor Charlie Ortiz Design Influential Designs
September 8, 2018 Hartford, Connecticut
Stories Charlie Ortiz Kathleen Gallo Sheryl Hack Peter C. Frank Pride Committee Pedro E. Segarra Lynette Correa Charlie Ortiz Luis Quiros Rosa Rivera Keith Rhoden, Jr. Dr. Richard Stilson Effrem Adams Peter C. Frank OUTINCT.COM Influential Designs
Charlie Ortiz//Chief Editor Dear Friends,
CONTENTS 12 Out & About 15 5 Tips Paying Off Student Loans 23 Plans To Create Connecticuts First Landmark Dedicated To LGBT+ History. 24 Coming Out
We proudly celebrate our third issue of OUTINCT.COM. It has been a fulfilling and rewarding journey for me in taking part in this collaborative effort. This is a time to celebrate Pride in our LGBTQ+ community and rejoice in our individual and collective accomplishments: but it is also a time to stop and reflect upon the forces that seek to take us back to a time that we shall not return to. Now is the time to be vigilant of oppression. We must continue to support our Trans-community in achieving equality at all levels, including the right to serve in our United States Armed Forces with dignity and respect. Education is an important component of our mission both at CLARO, INC., and Hartford Capital City Pride. Hate and intolerance can be fueled by ignorance and misunderstanding. Now more than ever we need to educate the broader community. Lets unite, stronger than ever to strengthen our voice. We must support organizations that continue to service our community with love and dedication. We must support and patronize our LGTBQ+ businesses, professionals, and allies so that we may build a stronger economic network and community. Thank you to all who support our community and efforts. Sincerely,
Chair of Hartford Capital Pride & Chief Editor of OUTINCT.COM
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ABOUT US OUTINCT.COM relies on the commitment of volunteers and donations to publish this guide to LGBTQ+ life in Connecticut. As a community, we all share in the success of this publication by promoting pride and awareness of LGBTQ+ community supporters during the year. When you make a donation or volunteer with us, you make a difference for your community as a whole. Why it matters? OUTINCT.COM showcases LGBTQ+ accomplishments and the best our community has to offer in Connecticut. We need you to make sure that â€œPride, Love, Life and Equalityâ€? continue to be alive and well in Connecticut. We will continue to build awareness of our community in order to make Connecticut more inclusive. Our work is about community! If you want to help make the world you live in better, then the best way is to join in! Make your voice heard and play your part. Volunteering, fundraising, or donating to OUTINCT.COM gives you the opportunity to get involved with the future and success of your community. By volunteering you can gain experience, develop new skills, improve your career prospects, build confidence and meet new, interesting people.
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The mission of the Connecticut Latinos Achieving Rights and Opportunities (CLARO), is to advocate for LGBTQ+ equality, policy, social justice, human rights and education. We accomplish these goals by mobilizing our community, allies, and partner agencies on issues like marriage equality, parental rights, anti-bullying policies, discrimination, violence, privacy rights, sexuality education, adoption, trans-gender rights, and HIV/AIDS.
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OPEN HEARTS “GLBT” MINISTRY at the Franciscan Center for Urban Ministry MISSION STATEMENT The Open Hearts Ministry provides educational experiences to build greater visibility and understanding of the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender (GLBT) experience within our Church community, and develop faith-building outreach programming to the diverse spectrum of the GLBT community. As a Catholic parish committed to social justice, Open Hearts Ministry of the Franciscan Center for Urban Ministry actively provides and promotes faith opportunities that build community for those who have experienced spiritual disconnection. For more information email us at email@example.com.
The Franciscan Center for Urban Ministry at St. Patrick-St. Anthony 285 Church Street Hartford, CT 06103 860-756-4034 www.spsact.org firstname.lastname@example.org
LGBTQ and Jewish?
You’re welcome here! Find your Jewish connection at Jewish Federation of Greater Hartford. To learn more, contact Jo Schubert at email@example.com or 860.727.6139. Every Generation
Jewish Federation of Greater Hartford | Zachs Campus, 333 Bloomfield Ave, Ste C, West Hartford, CT 06117 860.232.4483 | www.JewishHartford.org
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Join us each month at 7:30PM for our
SECOND THURSDAYS CINEMA SERIES A mix of new and classic LGBT films. Get involved with the festival! Email us at Volunteer@OutFilmCT.org to join in the fun!
The 27th Connecticut
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VE JOIN US EACH ESTIVAL ALSO, MONTH M FFOR IL SA F TH E FIRST THURSDAYS CINEMA 9, 2018 1 E! E N T U A J D 7:30 pm A mix of new and classic LGBT films
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Events are held at Cinestudio Trinity College, Hartford, CT
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Out & About
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housands of LGBTQ+ community members, their families and allies attended PrideFest 2017 in Hartford’s, Pratt Steet. They came together in celebration of love, peace, and pride. This year’s third annual PrideFest was the largest LGBT+ event in Connecticut. Pratt Street was filled with color, music, and fun, which included over 70 vendors, live music, shows, local business booths and community organizations that sponsored the event. The day’s celebration ended with a late night GLOW party at Infinity Hall on Front Street, Hartford. Charlie Ortiz, the event’s coordinator, said “Once again we have come together to celebrate our right to be ourselves and to thank our friends and supporters for making our latest achievements possible. We also want to send a message to Washington that we will not go back to the way things were before. We are out and proud! We have the right like all to the pursuit of happiness.” Mucha Mucha Placer emceed the event, introducing the speakers and performers including former Hartford Mayor Pedro E. Segarra and Connecticut LT. Governor Nancy Wyman who presented a proclamation. We look forward to welcoming you again on Saturday, September 8, 2018, in Hartford.
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THE HUMAN RIGHTS CAMPAIGN IS PROUD TO SUPPORT
TO LEARN MORE ABOUT OUR WORK ADVOCATING FOR LGBT EQUALITY, PLEASE VISIT: WWW.HRC.ORG/FOUNDATION
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You are welcome here! Sunday Worship: 10am
Immanuel Church, 10 Woodland St., Hartford, CT 06105, 860.527.8121 www.iccucc.org, facebook.com/iccucc
Weighed down by student loans? You’re not alone:
Approximately 40 million Americans have student loans (in total, a staggering $1.2 trillion), and about 71 percent of bachelor’s degree recipients graduate with debt, according to the Institute for College Access & Success. So, how to lighten the load as quickly — and as painlessly — as possible so that you can begin living life the way you envisioned?
Pick the right student loan repayment plan
The best option is the standard 10-year repayment plan. This plan breaks down your student loan balance into fixed monthly payments of at least $50 for up to 10 years. Compared to other plans, it is going to cost you the most per month (so make sure it’s budgeted for), but you’ll pay off your student loan faster, and save more in interest, too.
Make one extra student loan payment per year
By making 13 payments instead of 12. It’ll shave time off the repayment term, and save you interest.
Enroll in auto-debit
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Auto-debit, automatically deducts your payment from your bank account each month. You’ll be rewarded with an interest rate reduction, typically a quarter of a percentage point, or 0.25 percent. Is this a big deal? It can be, particularly if the lender doesn’t use the interest rate reduction to reduce the monthly payment and instead allows more of the monthly payment to be applied to the principal balance of the loan.
Deduct your student loan interest
What’s the one silver lining of having student loan debt? The interest is tax deductible — even if you don’t itemize your deductions. Yes, there is an income limit to this deduction, but if you make less than $60,000 a year or $120,000 if you’re married and filing jointly, you can claim the full deduction of $2,500. “You can claim this deduction as long as the loan is in your name”
Get help from your employer
As employers look to attract and retain top talent, more and more companies are offering student loan repayment assistance programs. So what if your employer doesn’t currently offer such a plan. It never hurts to ask for it, especially if the company really wants you.
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PRIDE & PLAYS! SAVE 25%* WITH CODE LGBT25
FREE pre-show nosh and complimentary wine, soda and coffee (plus drink specials at a cash bar) for our lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender patrons and allies. Receptions begin at 6 pm. Performances begin at 7:30 pm. A MIDSUMMER NIGHT’S DREAM • September 13, 2017 By William Shakespeare · Directed by Darko Tresnjak
SEDER • October 25, 2017
By Sarah Gancher · Directed by Elizabeth Williamson
FEEDING THE DRAGON • January 17, 2018
Written and Performed by Sharon Washington · Directed by Maria Mileaf
AGATHA CHRISTIE’S MURDER ON THE ORIENT EXPRESS • February 21, 2018 Adapted for the Stage by Ken Ludwig · Directed by Emily Mann
THE AGE OF INNOCENCE • April 11, 2018
By Edith Wharton · Adapted for the Stage by Douglas McGrath · Directed by Doug Hughes
STATEMENTS AFTER AN ARREST UNDER THE IMMORALITY ACT • May 23, 2018 By Athol Fugard · Directed by Darko Tresnjak
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When the community works together, the community works A vibrant community depends on the participation of its members. The more diverse their backgrounds, experience and skills, the more unique their contributions to the community can be. Bank of America recognizes CLARO Inc. for celebrating individuality while supporting the common goals that bring progress to everyone. Visit us at bankofamerica.com/local Life’s better when we’re connected® ©2016 Bank of America Corporation | SPN-128-AD | AR7NWC3L
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We invite you to join us every Tuesday at 5:30 p.m. for the LGBT Recovery Group
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SCHOOLS ARE UNSAFE AND UNWELCOMING FOR THE MAJORITY OF LGBT STUDENTS
heard “gay” used in a negative way (e.g. “that’s so gay”)
were verbally harassed because of their gender expression
of transgender students were unable to use the school restroom that aligned with their gender Visit our website to learn how you can get involved and help end bullying/harassment in K-12 schools. GLSEN.org/Connecticut - Facebook.com/GLSENCT - Twitter: @GLSENCT - Instagram: @GLSENConnecticut
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Soka Gakkai International-USA (SGI-USA) is a diverse Buddhist community in the US and is part of the global SGI network of more than 12 million people in 192 countries and territories. SGI members base their practice of chanting Nam-myoho-renge-kyo on the Lotus Sutra and Nichiren Buddhism, which teaches that each person has within the courage, wisdom and compassion to face and surmount any of life’s challenges. Based on Buddhist principles such as respecting the dignity of human life and the interconnectedness of self and the environment, SGI engages in peace activities like human rights education, the movement to abolish nuclear weapons and efforts to promote sustainable development. LGBTG Courageous Freedom members in SGI-USA proudly practice within our organization, meet occasionally for afﬁnity and to represent SGI-USA in Pride events. SGI-USA Connecticut Activity Center 518 Boston Post Rd, Orange, CT 06477 203-799-0512 Open Sat/Sun 8:30am-5pm sgi-ct.org sgi-usa.org
Creating a world where youth of all orientations and genders are valued and affirmed
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Plans To Create
Connecticuts First Landmark Dedicated To LGBTQ+ History
he 1738 Palmer-Warner House sits on 50 acres of land and was home to preservation architect Frederic Palmer, who served as a Trustee and Structures Committee Chairman for CTL, from the late 1930s until his death in 1971. Frederic lived there with his life partner Howard Metzger from the mid-1940s until his death in 1971, and Metzger remained in the house until 2005. CTL is cataloguing the property’s extensive collections and researching its history in preparation to open as Connecticut’s first house museum with a primary focus on LGBT themes. The rich material culture collection includes American Colonial, Victorian, and Colonial Revival furniture; porcelain, glass, and silver; paintings and decorative objects; and many personal belongings. The archives encompass Palmer’s architectural papers, drawings, and photographs; personal correspondence between Palmer and Metzger from WWII; and Metzger’s correspondence and papers. Connecticut Landmarks seeks to create a safe place in which to share multiple viewpoints, actively engage visitors in sharing their own stories and experiences and documenting their own histories, and foster conversations around inclusion, individuality, privacy and privilege. Connecticut Landmarks is looking for volunteers to get involved with and support this important project. We need your help to raise $1 m to preserve and renovate the Palmer-Warner Barn – one of the oldest remaining barns in Connecticut - to create a Visitor Welcome, Event & Exhibit Center. Please contact Sheryl Hack, Executive Director of Connecticut Landmarks, at sheryl. email@example.com for more information and to get involved.
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By Peter C. Frank Writter and Community Advocate
oming out is not an event. Rather, it is a process. It is something that anyone who is part of the LGBT+ spectrum goes through every moment of our lives. For some, the process never goes very far; they live their entire lives in the closet. But that’s another issue for another day. It is a process that must be repeated every time we approach a new situation, a new person, a new location, a new job, a new...well, you get the idea. For some, the process may get easier, or more difficult over time. For others, going through the process of coming out varies throughout their life. The point is, this process—this coming out—is deeply, deeply personal and involves myriad factors. So why come out? The first thing I can tell you about coming out is that you might just feel a little better about yourself. Personally, I went through quite a journey—one that is ongoing—to get to where I am. When I came out, I felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. We know that others who have gone through the process of coming out experience a similar reaction.
The very first person that you have to come out to is yourself. You have to acknowledge and accept who you are. If you don’t do this, you’ll never be able to get to the next step in coming out, which is telling others. Another reason you may wish to consider coming out of the closet is because it makes you a better human being. Wait—what? You weren’t expecting that one, were you? You can finally stop lying to folks. And in case you think that not telling people who you really are is lying; You don’t have to hide things from folks anymore. No more hidding your gay stuff when you have visitors. You contribute something positive to the world: hope to those who have yet to embark on this incredible, personal journey. So there you have it, coming out makes you, and the world better.
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Best wishes on the 6th Annual Rainbow Ball!
Best wishes on the 6th Annual Rainbow Ball!
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Let’sCelebrate Celebrate PrideFest PrideFest Let’s 2016 2016 “Thankyou” you”for forthe thecontinued continued commitment “Thank commitment and hard work to our community. and hard work to our community.
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