Issue 9 Spring 2014
Ex-Foyer resident turns hero!
Are you a minger? We dish the dirt on Spring cleaning
Why does exercise make us feel high?
Ex-Pro Basketball Player
Top tips for getting on that course this Summer
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CONTENTS 3... A word from the Chief 4 - 5... Flippin’ Ell - Body and Mind 6 - 7... The Passion & Good eggs 8 - 9... Fast Food - Ramadan Special 10 - 13... Top tips for getting on courses 14 - 15... Dishing the Dirt 16 - 17... Box Tidy 18... Meet Laura, Prince’s Trust 20... Hitch or Ditch? 21... Carl Miller Interview 22... Modern Day Hero
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A word from the Chief... Spring 2014 has come around pretty fast.
easter egg thing - what is that about?
There’s been loads of activity at Kingsley Hall. Coming up in June is the Islamic festival of We’ve moved our teams around so that our Ramadan - we spoke to young people from Participation and Youth Involvement teams are the Bristol Muslim Cultural Society about what on the ground floor, closer to young people. it means to them and what traditions they will Our building was not designed as a youth hub take part in. They recently produced a brilliant but we’re trying to make it as user friendly as short film called “What Islam means to me” possible. This move involved a lot of sorting, which everyone should watch on You Tube. cleaning, organising and rethinking of the space. Have a mental clear I had the pleasure of meeting exPerfect behaviour for Spring. pro basketball player Carl Miller out, clear away the at an event run by the Foyer cobwebs and get Federation in March. He was This issue of i-people is all about that - Spring cleaning inspirational, his ability to help ready for the your home, body and mind. young people see their worth Summer. and their skills was amazing. Turn It’s the perfect time to start to page 21 to hear from him. thinking about what you’re going to do this year and next. Have a mental I hope you enjoy this edition - it is packed clear out, clear away the cobwebs and get with young people’s experiences, views and ready for the Summer. suggestions. We’re always looking for new people to take We’ve put together a whole bunch of stuff part - so please contact Pilar, our Comms to help you get inspired. Top tips for people Manager on 0117 317 8800 if you have ideas who want to learn something new or start for a piece in the next issue. a course. Cheap and natural ways to keep your home clean and tidy. Excellent advice on Dom Wood, Chief Exec how to let your body give your mind a boost through sport. Easter has just gone and chocolate was the main thing on the menu. We hear from some young Christians and a member of our staff who took part in Lent (the act of making a dedicated sacrifice). And look into the whole 3 i-people Spring
Seeing as it’s Spring, Participation
Workers Hannah and Duane decided to take eight young people from 1625ip trampolining. As you do. It’s all about taking risks, trusting the trampoline, getting used to it and then seeing what you can do. Apparently it felt quite good too.
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Why does exercise make you feel high? Brain Chemistr y
We asked Sophie and Paul, 1625ip’s resident Mental Health Workers why exercise makes you feel good.
Research suggests that exercise can be as effective as antidepressants at reducing depression symptoms. Being physically active lifts your mood, reduces stress and anxiety, boosts the release of endorphins (your body’s feel-good chemicals) and improves how you feel about yourself. Exercise seems to have an effect on certain chemicals in the brain, like dopamine and serotonin. Brain cells use these chemicals to communicate with each other, so they affect your mood and thinking.
Seriously good side effects • • • • • • • • •
less tension, stress and mental fatigue a natural energy boost you tend to sleep better a sense of achievement focus in life and motivation less anger or frustration a healthy appetite better social life having fun.
Taking Control When people get depressed or anxious, they often feel they’re not in control of their lives. That feeling is one of the main causes of stress and lack of wellbeing. Exercise can make you feel more in control of your body helping you to feel more control of
other events in your life too. The act of taking control is in itself empowering, and it’s a crucial part of finding a solution that satisfies you and not someone else. Exercise can help to distract you from the pressures of life.
ZZzzzz... If you exercise you sleep better and if you sleep well you feel well. A bit of exercise on a regular basis, like swimming or walking, can help to relieve some of the tension built up over the day.
Connect Exercise is a good way of meeting and connecting with people. A good circle of friends can ease your troubles and help you see things in a different way. The activities we do with friends help us relax and we often have a good laugh with them, which is an excellent stress reliever. The companionship involved in exercise can be just as important as the physical activity.
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Staff member Andy, a practicing Christian and 1625ip Cashpoint Worker went out on a mission to hear what Easter meant to some local young Christians. He visited the youth group at Woodlands Christian Centre to get their angle on it all and find out what they actually do over Easter.
What do you do on Good Friday?
Joe – It’s a family time where we read a few passages about the Bible. I quite like it because my younger brother and sister made a model scene of the garden where Jesus prayed, the hill where he was executed and the tomb where he was raised to life. We have a meal and say a short prayer. On Good Friday I watched Mel Gibson’s film ‘The Passion of Christ’. It was pretty hard core and showed it wasn’t some Hollywood romantic thing but showed him being whipped and carrying the cross up a hill. I was stoked and it upset me but made me appreciate how much it cost him Claire – ‘Yeah – I was thinking that too – it showed how much he wanted me when he did that’ About half the group said they eat Hot Cross Buns on Good Friday – which surprised me as I made loads for friends. Everyone said they like them though. Some went to church and generally they said it was a day when they thought more about stuff.
What about Easter Sunday?
Amanda – Church was a real laugh. They had a puppet called Fred who is always depressed each week at the kids service and he made us laugh. We all took communion together as families and made flowers and put them on a big wooden cross at the front of church to say thank you. It’s a very lively service with lots of songs about Jesus rising from the dead. Andy – yeah it’s a day when I get excited as we think about Jesus as a real physical person rising from the dead and us seeing him one day like that. Not a sort of spirit version. I often forget that bit of it all in everyday life. Becky – We had all our family travel down and after church had a roast together and prayed – which we don’t do at meal times. Getting together with the family is the best thing for me.
What about Easter Eggs?
Everyone agreed they liked Easter Eggs – particularly Becky who gave up chocolate for Lent. Nobody was sure what eggs were about but guessed it was something to do with new life.
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Good eggs Over 30,000 people turned out on the White House Lawn this Easter to take part in the 136th Egg Rolling Event. Totterdown hosted Egg Rolling events and Fishponds did too. All over the country people raced their eggs! Millions of people celebrate Easter in this country, Pagans, Christians and those who worship chocolate. Most of the symbols around this time are based on Pagan or Christian symbols to do with new beginnings, birth, fertility, Spring, lambs, bunnies - you get the picture. Common belief is that the word “Easter” comes from the Nordic word “Ēostre” or “Ostara” who was the Dawn Goddess. The sun rises in the “East”. For many, rolling the egg symbolises when they rolled the stone out of the way at the entrance to the Jesus’s tomb and he rose again from the dead. Eggs are also symbolic of the end of Lent - in ancient times Christians stopped eating animal products (these days people give up different things, but it’s usually something they would find difficult). Easter is the end of Lent. So eggs would have a been allowed again. The tradition is to decorate eggs and giving them as gifts. Some say Mary Magdalen brought eggs to feed the people praying outside the tomb of Jesus and when he re-appeared from his tomb - the eggs turned blood red and maybe that’s where the colouring of eggs came from.
So - it seems the eggs thing is a bit of a mish mash of different symbolism and faiths (with a bit of mass cosumerism thrown in). It’s also around this time that “Pay it Forward” Day happens. This year it was on 24th April. Millions of people do something kind and selfless to help someone else - wanting nothing in return
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FAST FOOD “Why are you starving yourself?” We may seem mad at first but let us tell you a bit about Ramadan. Ramadan starts in June and Muslims observe fasting for 30 days. From dawn to sunset we go without any food or drink.
“What’s the point?” The point of fasting is to strengthen our faith in God and help us appreciate what we have in our daily lives, also to cleanse our souls and become better people.
“So how does it feel?” You see, everyone experiences different emotions during Ramadan; for people who have just started fasting it might be one of the hardest things they have done but for others it may be a normal practise. We’re going to tell you how it feels from the perspective of four young people; who have been participating in Ramadan for the past 8-10 years.
Recently we were talking about how fasting felt for us when we were younger, wow... What a mission that was. Having to wake up at dawn and stuff our half awake faces before the sun rose was an adventure itself along with ...wake up at dawn having to race downstairs to get the golden and stuff our halfnuggets before someone else finished them awake faces all. Last summer was the worst, it was hottest summer we had in a century. We would walk around, with our hungry stomachs and then hear the ice cream van… ice cream, ice cream, ice cream, ice cream that’s all we could think of but self control is something that we were able to work on and develop.
...we get to try out foods from all over the world
Obviously apart from the typical feelings, like hunger and thirst, we also feel other emotions but these aren’t just any emotions. We feel compassion and sympathy for those who aren’t as privileged as us. Fasting helps us gain an understanding of how those who don’t have the same day to day objects as us are feeling and what they go through. Alongside this we allow ourselves to become more spiritually connected towards our faith, this comes across as we devote more time to practising our religion and spend less time eating or worrying what’s for dinner.
Do you know what..? We’re actually excited for Ramadan this year. The reason for this is that the month is very relaxing and peaceful; it helps us unite with family and the community. During Ramadan the Muslim community comes together at mosques for ‘iftari’ which is the opening of the fast and we all share our different cuisines. This is amazing because we get to try out foods from all over the world and believe me we walk out the mosque stuffed!!
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It doesn’t only happen at mosques though, our families host iftari and we get all our relo’s coming over to eat with us and boiiii does mum cook fit for a king. So it brings family and the community together.
A lot of love is also shown during Ramadan, we get Muslim neighbours knocking on our door sharing their home made food with us and we also share our food with non-Muslims, it’s nice to show everyone that you care and why not spread the love amongst everyone!
So yeah okay, we don’t eat, we go hungry for almost 19 hours a day but we love it, we forget about the hunger and first once we get started (obviously the occasional whiff of fried chicken gets to us) but other than that it’s great! It’s an amazing month for us all to replenish our outlook on life and learn how lucky we are with all the privileges that have been given to us such as basic necessities e.g. water. We are looked at like we’re mental and that we’re ‘starving’ ourselves for no reason but it’s not that, there’s so many reasons behind why we do it and only some have been explained to you above, so we hope you know a little more about Ramadan and why we do fast along with how we feel during fasting.
Huge thanks to Bev Headman-Fearon, Youth & Community Worker for putting us in touch with Samia, Mustafa, Thania, Adil and Ammar, from the Bristol Muslim Cultural Society (BMCS) and the BME Youth Forum. Bev worked with the BMCS to make a BRILLIANT film called “What Islam means to me” Google it! Thank you for sharing your Ramadan experiences. Ramadan Mubarek! Have a blessed Ramadan.
Are you Black, Minority Ethnic (BME), a Refugee or an Asylum Seeker? Bev Headman-Fearon Youth & Community Worker 0117 352 5716 07810 506966
Do you feel strongly about what happens in your community? Do you have opinions about local services?
BME Youth Forum is for young people ages 13-19 (up to
24 if you have a learning difficulty). We discuss issues affecting BME young people and take action to influence changes. We discuss issues such as personal safety, activities, local services and community cohesion. Come along to one of our meetings or speak to your local youth worker about the forum.
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Time is ticking... Whoever you are, whatever your ability, there is a course or apprenticeship out there for you.
Top tips for figuring out what you could do this Summer. How and when do I have to decide by about college courses and apply for things?
ideas and your choices. Go to www.sgscol.ac.uk and www.cityofbristol.ac.uk to find out when open days are.
You can start applying for college courses from the Autumn before the year you want to start - so from October 2013 for courses in Sept 2014.
Remember, you can apply for more than one course at more than one college! If you’re not 100% sure and are interested in more than one area you can apply for several courses, attend open days and interviews before you make your mind up. You don’t have to say YES or accept straight away.
Similarly for Apprenticeships, start applying for them as soon as you can. You need more time as for some apprenticeships you will need to look for an employer. For full apprenticeship information look at college websites and also the National Apprenticeship website. College Open days are a great way to find out about courses/ apprenticeships and more. Both colleges South Glos and Stroud (formerly Filton College) and City of Bristol have days throughout the year. They are good fun and you can talk to tutors, staff and current students about your
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Nah - I can’t afford it Most colleges have bursaries and funds for students who are on low incomes or benefits, their Welfare or Support departments will be happy to discuss these with you.
Ooops - I left it too late! Colleges usually offer a Triage system right up until the start of courses. This means you can go in at the last minute and still find out about what
courses you can do and you never know you might find something you really enjoy.
I’m too old for funding I’m over 19 Colleges have funding for older students so that they can cover the course costs even being over 18. This is done on an person by person basis and usually depends on what qualifications you’ve already got. Still look into it even if you’re over 20.
don’t panic If you’re being supported by 1625ip come to a Try It Drop-in session at Old Market St and let our Education, Training and Employment Advisors help you out. Every Tuesday 2 - 4 pm.
Try It. Sophie, how did you hear about the “Try It” Drop in sessions? My Support Worker told me. He asked me if I wanted to do any courses and I said no, not yet, but he got me to go to Try It. What were you doing before ? Nothing, just staying in. I used to get a bit bored if I’m honest. What was it like the 1st time you went to Try It ? I didn’t really know the staff, it took a bit of time to get to know them. They helped me choose courses, they looked through to see what courses there were for me.
loads of new people. What sorts of things did you do on the course? We did First Aid, art, loads of stuff. We’d get in for half nine, have a cup of tea and a chat before the lessons start. Did it feel like proper college ? Yeah – but dinner was provided. How do you think doing the course has helped you? It’s made me think I can get more qualifications in different colleges. I don’t want a job yet.
They helped me choose courses
Did they make it easy for you to get to know them ? Yeah. How has Try It helped you? They started me on Suited & Booted for two weeks. I found that really tiring for a while – you have to get up early to get down there! The first day we just went down there to meet the staff, the next day we did some work until about four. But some days we’d finish the work earlier and get out about three, half three. How did you feel after you spoke to them and they said you could go on the course? It was shocking, I don’t normally do stuff like that. I was quite shocked. And it felt a bit weird because I was going to have to meet
Has it increased your confidence? I can talk to different people more than I used to be able to. I think people should try to do courses before they try to get a job. Most jobs need you to do a course first – you should try it first - see how hard it is before thinking you want to be a mechanic! What would say to another young person who’s thinking about going on a course but isn’t sure? Go to an induction day or a taster day – you’ll get an idea of what you think about it and if you want to do it. What are your plans now? Look for more college courses. Would you have had the confidence to do that without having come to a Try It session and then done the Suited and Booted course? No. I don’t like it doing that sort of stuff, but since I’ve been to a “Try It” session I would have the confidence.
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Do what you want. Cartelea, what are you studying? CILEX Level 2 Diploma Legal Secretary at City of Bristol College
How did you know you wanted to study that? What inspired you?
I have an interest in Law. I did study catering for a while but it wasn’t for me. I did the Team course at Prince’s Trust which helped me realise what I wanted to do. I also decided to do it quick; while it was still free!
Have you always known you wanted to do that?
No. I always liked catering as well, but after some experience in that, I decided to follow my interest in Law.
Are you managing OK with the financial side of things?
Yes. I also had a 1625ip Cashpoint Worker who helped me manage my money and advised me.
What’s the hardest bit about learning new things? Concentrating more and staying focussed, which I find hard ‘cause I’m impatient.
What do you do when it’s difficult? Who helps you?
I don’t find it too difficult but I know I can go to my teacher or my tutor.
Do you think it will be worth it?
Yes I know it will be worth it. I did a Law placement for 12 weeks which gave me good experience, and showed me the career I want to go into.
I struggled... when I was younger
What did you want to be when you were a kid? A business woman.
Did you get any help to get on the course?
My team mentor at Prince’s Trust. I also went into the college myself to get information.
What are you going to do when you’ve finished?
Apply for full time Legal Secretary jobs, but also keep my options open to other sectors.
What’s the hardest change you’ve had to make in your life to make it happen?
Concentrating more and focussing on my work. I struggled with this when I was younger, but find it a bit easier now I live on my own; I can focus on work.
What would you say to another young How did you feel when you got accepted? person who is thinking about studying ? Happy! I thought I wouldn’t be able to afford it, but it turned out I didn’t have to pay.
Do you think its important for young people to study or is it ok to just try and get a job?
Depends on the person and what job you want. I couldn’t do a job in Law without my qualification.
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If it’s in the sector you want to work for go for it. These days you need qualifications to get into your dream job. Don’t listen to anyone else and just do what you want. It is hard, but it’s worth it in the end. If you’re 16-25 and renting in Social Housing you can get free money advice from the 1625ip Cashpoint Team on 0117 317 8800.
Plumb job. Dan, what are you studying?
I’m doing a Level 2 Diploma, City and Guilds, Plumbing at SGS College (Filton) - It’s a 26 week course.
How did you know what you wanted to study?
I tried it a few years ago when I was 17 but, well, if I’m honest I was a little shit back then and I didn’t bother going in. I wasn’t really ready. I’m doing it again now because the opportunity was there, this is my last chance to get an education without having to pay for it myself.
Have you always known you wanted to be a plumber? No, only since I left school. I wanted to be a footballer when I was a kid.
Did you get any help to get on the course?
Whats the hardest thing about learning?
Revising. Trying to fit it in around work, some days I finish college and am straight out to work.
What do you do when it’s difficult – who helps you?
The tutor is there, they help or I just look it up – we have these really massive books with everything you need to know.
Do you think it will be worth it? Yeah definitely.
What are you going to do when you’ve finished?
Look to try and find an Don’t look back on apprenticeship or start as a Plumber’s mate, but with the your life later and wish apprenticeship I’m more likely you had started earlier. to get an NVQ where there are people signing off your work. Once I’ve done that though, I can work on my own, self-employed.
1625ip helped me find the funding, my support worker showed all the different courses. I chose this one and a Maintenance course and then I just applied. There was an interview with a guy from the college and someone from 1625ip.
How did you feel when you got accepted? Happy. Yeah over the moon. It was only a week before that I’d got offered a job too. Only a crappy job in ASDA doing cleaning nothing special.
Are you managing OK with the money side of things? The course was paid for, but I had to get my own books, pens - I just borrowed from brothers and sisters! I only had to buy a new bag really. Having the job helps.
What’s the hardest change you’ve had to make in your life to make it happen?
Waking up early! I used to get up at 7am now 8am. When I wasn’t working I was getting up around 11am. I still struggle some days but it’s because I don’t get home from work till 11pm some nights. The reason I get up earlier is so I can make it to mums - then my sister gives me a lift to college, otherwise I just walk.
What would you say to another young person who is thinking about a college?
DO IT. If you want to get something out of your life – definitely do it. Don’t look back on your life later and wish you had started earlier. I wish I’d stayed in school. My mate left school and went straight to work as a carpenter - if you don’t want to study find a trade and start at the bottom. He earns £500 a week now.
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Dishing the dir t Online most said at least every other week. Sweat, skin, bed mites all build up. Don’t wait till they stink!
Are you a minger? A cleanaholic? A not-that-bothered or daily disinfecter? We looked online at what the likes of Good-Housekeeping, mumsnet, netmums, Readers Digest and various forums say about how often you should get your marigolds on. Then we asked you to dish the dirt on your own dirt.
Don’t break the bank or the planet - natural cleaning
(The white distilled kind) Online varied between every other day and once a week. Depends how much carpet you have and whether you wipe your feet before you come in the house.
Majority say they make the bed everyday. Apart from being tidy, it’s a good way to mentally start the day. Some say you should leave the covers down so the bed gets air to it.
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effective for killing most mold, bacteria and germs, due to its high level of acidity.
Toilet Bowl Cleaner Stubborn stains can be removed from the toilet by spraying them with white distilled vinegar and brushing vigorously. Leave for for a half hour, then flush. Clean the Microwave Boil a solution of 100ml of white distilled vinegar and 250ml water in the microwave. Will loosen splattered on food and get rid of smells. Wipe clean. Glass cleaning Clean windows and glass with half and half warm water and white vinegar. It won’t streak! Dry with a soft cloth.
Most people seem to have a quick tidy up once a week, some only once a month. The ubertidy just donâ€™t make a mess in the first place. Everything has place and it goes back once itâ€™s been used!
General consensus seems to be once a week is fine but also lots of people clean their loo every day! Once a month probably not enough.
High in citric acid, lemon juice one of the best natural cleaners due to its low pH and antibactrial properties Grout Cleaner Get rid of the manky bit between your tiles Use lemon juice and an old toothbrush to scrub grout. Lunch boxes Soak plastic food storage containers in diluted lemon juice to remove stains and odors. Add baking soda and scrub, rinse and dry. Chopping Boards Diluted lemon juice not only cleans stains from cutting boards, but helps kill germs as well. Rub the juice full strength onto the stain and let sit until the stain fades. Can be left overnight, then rinsed well and dried. Grills and Racks Scrub grills and grates with lemon juice and salt.
Most people do washing up at least once a day or wash up as they go along. A lot do it once in the evening before bed.
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foods to help you stay tidy on the inside
Almonds are the best nut source of Vitamin E. They’re also high in fiber, calcium, magnesium, and useable protein that helps stabilize blood sugar and remove impurities from the bowels.
Stimulate the release of enzymes and help turn toxins into a watersoluble form that can be pee’d out. They contain high amounts of Vitamin C. Drinking lemon water first thing in the morning will help balance the body’s pH levels and detox the liver.
AVOCADOS This wonder fruit is packed with antioxidants, lowers cholesterol and dilates the blood vessels while blocking arterydestroying toxicity. Avocados contain a nutrient called glutathione, which blocks at least 30 different carcinogens (which cause cancer) while helping the liver detox. BLUEBERRIES Blueberries contain natural aspirin and protects against DNA damage. They have antiviral properties and are loaded with super-detoxifying phytonutrients called proanthocyanidins.
GARLIC Garlic boosts the immune system as well as helping out the liver. Sulphur is found in high quantities in garlic — which makes it a good detox food and its antibiotic properties help heal your body. SESAME SEEDS
The chemicals in Sesame seeds are so good for you - they add them to other foods to make them healthier! Sesame seeds contain antiinflammatory and antioxidant enzymes. One of the top 10 healthiest seeds on earth.
Broccoli works with your liver to turn toxins into something your body can eliminate easily. Don’t microwave it as this destroys both the nutritional and detox potential. Broccoli contains a very powerful anti-diabetic and anti-microbial called sulforaphane.
APPLES Apples are full of wonderful nutrients. You get fibre, vitamins, minerals and many beneficial phytochemicals such as D-Glucarate, flavonoids and terpenoids. All of these substances are used in the detox process. Apples are also a good source of the soluble fibre pectin, which can help detox metals and food additives from your body.
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Meet Laura... Laura is based at 1625ip as a Prince’s Trust Job Ambassador. She helps young people find positive activities or projects to get involved with. You can contact her on 0117 317 8800 or email@example.com I took off to Bristol to make a fresh start, believing that a move would mean a new life, but from where I had landed, the view seemed to be heading all down hill. I was studying Graphic Design when it suddenly dawned on me that I wasn’t cut out to be a designer.
This is Laura (on the left!) at a 1625ip event trying to get people to name our bear (now known as Bruno)
started studying Mentoring and Life Skills Coaching.
At this point I reached out to the Prince’s Not knowing what else to do, I continued Trust and they supported me with some down a road I wasn’t happy with and kept funding for materials towards my my eyes closed and my mouth there was no course and help with my shut waiting for some sort of studies. The Prince’s Trust were epiphany. room for any non judgemental and helped It never happened. inspiration. remove my feelings of failure. I I was battling with depression went on to do their Enterprise and anxiety and there was no course and I was nominated to room for any inspiration. become a Young Ambassador. I was able One night walking home, I was involved to tell my story about how the charity has in a life threatening incident, I will spare supported me financially as well as you the details, but it forced me to take emotionally and heard about a lot of a long hard look at my life and myself and other incredible journeys from other start taking some action. Young Ambassadors. I was left with Post Traumatic Stress Prince’s Trust offers personal developDisorder and gave up on everything, ment programmes and free courses that University, my job, my house and all the help you gain qualifications, confidence things that seemed to be affecting and direction to get into the work my mental health. I volunteered and develop you want and develop into the lived in a local Buddhist centre until into the person you want to be. I was on my feet again. person I started working as a Job Meditation really helped me and I you want Ambassador for Prince’s Trust this began to build an interest around year in a joint role with to be. alternative therapies. 1625 Independent People. It gives me the chance to support my As I began to recover and change generation. how I saw myself and my life, I felt So - if you want to do something wanted to be in a position where I could positive but don’t know where to start; help other’s too. I followed this urge and how about starting with a phone call and volunteered at a small creative group we can have a chat... for vulnerable women and children and
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Are you getting it? Come in to 1625ip Head Office for a C-Card and get free condoms and advice.
hitch or ditch
Straight talking, no b*llshit advice from from Jessica Baugh, Bristol 4YP Health Promotion Specialist.
From Mark, 22 (not his real name!) I fancy my best mate. We’ve known each other for years, everyone calls us “Bill and Ben”, we’re always together. Just recently I’ve found myself wanting to kiss him while we’re out. It’s not such a big surprise to me (we’re both gay) but I don’t think he even suspects that I think of him like that. Anyway – that is not the problem! The problem is his body odour, I don’t know whether it’s because he doesn’t wash enough, or he has a some sort of gland problem or because he doesn’t wash his clothes enough. How on earth do you tell someone they’re a bit fruity without hurting their feelings? Apart from the fact that it’s putting me off him physically, he’s a mate so I feel I should say something...
Telling someone they smell without hurting their feelings is no easy feat! You may want to start with the softly-softly approach. Maybe you could ask him if he has changed his deodorant recently because it’s not as effective as his last one, you could recommend or even buy him a new one. This might open up a conversation or he may just get the hint. For some people the direct approach is best. You could tell him you are letting him know as a mate and you would expect the same in return. Sometimes a bit of self-disclosure can help – have you ever suffered from stinky pits? If so share your story and how you solved the problem, throwing in a bit of humour while doing this might help but you will need to judge this carefully! Ultimately you know your friend best and so trust your gut instinct on which approach is likely to cause less offence and remember it will be better coming from a mate. The best relationships are based on a solid friendship, and so best of luck speaking to your friend about your feelings. Talking to him is probably better than launching in for a kiss on a night out. This is likely to take him by surprise if he has no idea about how you feel; chatting about it gives him the opportunity to make up his mind too and it might help to avoid any awkwardness if he does just want to be mates.
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Carl Miller Beat the Day
Ex-pro Basketball player Carl Miller came to the Bristol Foyer as part of Ignite Day in March. He thinks everyone can achieve what they want.
Carl is Founder of Look Up To Yourself, providing self esteem programmes through the medium of basketball to young disadvantaged adults. An ex-professional basketball player, Carl played in the USA, Europe & UK, GB and
England, earning 27 caps and winning a Commonwealth games gold medal. Carl had an epiphany “I woke up one day and wanted to share what I have learned by using what I know Basketball. I really did, so I did.”
Carl – Have you ever faced homelessness? What’s your experience of it? I have never faced homelessness personally, my experience comes through the people I have worked with throughout the years. You’ve worked with so many young people what’s the most inspiring thing about them? The thing which inspires me most about the young people I meet is that each person is so unique and special in their own way and when I see them begin to realise this it makes me wobble every time :-)
Give your younger self a bit of advice
It would be to believe in myself and to make sure I smile everyday. What do you do to pick yourself up when you feel a bit down or low? Every day when I wake up I’m faced with two choices “Beat the day” or “Let the day beat me” I aim to always choose the first. What coping strategies do you use when you’re feeling annoyed or frustrated? Whenever I’m faced with a difficult or frustrating situation, I breath in and smile. You would be surprised just how powerful smiling to yourself can be. Send a short message to young people today. If you think it and believe it. You will achieve whatever you aim for in life. So why not aim as high as you can?
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Modern day hero We ask Daniel Charlton-Mullinder “Bristol’s Young Hero 2014” what it’s like to be called a hero... He got his award at an event rubbing shoulders with the Lord Mayor Faruk Choudhury, Olympians Jenny Jones and Amy Williams MBE (Olympian) and Alex Beresford, ITV weatherman to name a few. Dan looked after his mum from a young age as she had Parkinson’s disease. When she became too ill, he was taken into care and lived with foster parents. With all that going on he still managed to finish school and get his GCSEs. Dan’s mum died in 2012. A year later, he turned 18, and was told he was too old to live with his foster carers and had to move again. He didn’t get down about it, his attitude was that it meant another young person who needed it more could live with his foster parents and be settled too. Dan moved in to 1625ip Bristol Foyer. While he was there he got very involved in doing stuff to make it an even better place for young people to live. He has contributed to improving his community regardless of his own circumstances and always tries to stay positive. Dan will tell you there is nothing special about him and that loads of people do good things all the time and just don’t get noticed. (That’s hero talk that is) - but awkward. I didn’t want to get up on stage! I turned round and everyone was looking at me and clapping. John Pritchard (Vice President of GKN Aerospace) shook my hand and said “Its about time you got one!” I’m studying Performing Arts so I actually like being on stage – but this was different - I wasn’t in character. It’s so much easier if you’re in character!
“How many people do you know who would have bothered to do that for someone else? Feel proud” It helps people when they hear other people’s stories about “I’ve gone through this or that”. When you read that someone had the same or worse than you and they still managed to get on – you think “what’s stopping me now?” I like inspirations. I like arts, acting, Is your positive attitude and resilience dancing. My mate’s an inspiration to me Dan - How does it feel to be in difficult situations built-in or do you - he’s part of the Soul Mavericks choose to be like that? (B-Boy/breakdance crew). I watched called a Hero? I’ve always been the class joker and him dance and learn and I taught It feels good ! happy. If I see someone upset I always myself to dance – not as well as him! think “how can I help them?”. I’ve seen But seeing him get better spurred me What was it like at the ceremony? some people living in some really on. I went with my girlfriend. When we hard situations, through poverty and got there a lady came to tell me I’d other reasons and I just don’t agree What’s next for Bristol’s Young Hero? been nominated for two awards not that anyone should have to be in that I’m doing a Level 3 Advanced Diploma one. Community Action and Overall in Performing Arts. Eventually I want Hero. I didn’t know I was down for two situation. I don’t want to work in that job though to be in film or TV. But not soaps – awards. they’re so bad, or theatre because of I felt a bit out of place, everyone was (support role). Too much paperwork. the travelling and having to learn ALL tuxed up or suited. My girlfriend wore Do you think these sorts of awards are your lines at once. a dress, she looked really nice, but I a good thing? just wore a shirt and jeans. Anything you’d like to add? They started reading out people’s back I think a lot of people I know have done stuff that hasn’t been appreciYes - thank you to all the companies story and I felt a bit awkward, slowly ated. When I see someone do a good that got involved to show their sliding into my chair. thing I tell them “That was amazing” or appreciation for the youth of Bristol! When they announced my name as the overall winner I was really happy “You should feel good about that” or
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SMELL GAS OR SUSPECT A LEAK? Call National Grid using a phone outside your home and then call your landlord’s repair line 0800 111 999 POWER FAILURE- ELECTRICITY 24 hours 0800 365 900 Councils Bristol City Council (8.30am- 8pm) 0117 922 2200 Emergency Control Centre (24 hrs) 0117 922 2050 South Glos Council (Switchboard and out of hours) 01454 868 686 Police (main switchboard) 0845 4567 000 Emergency 999 Hospitals and Health Bristol Royal Infirmary (BRI) 0117 923 0000 Southmead Hospital 0117 950 5050 Frenchay Hospital 0117 970 1212 NHS Direct (24Hrs) 0845 4647 GP / Health Centres 0845 4647
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