Recognize Your Soul Mate ISSUE NO. 2 DEC - FREE COPY
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Making it Work
INCANDESCENT CONTENTS HOW TO RECOGNIZE YOUR SOULMATE
IMPORTANCE OF POSITIVE MALE IMAGE
PLACES TO VISIT IN TORONTO
MAKING IT WORK
SEX CHIP THE NEW VIAGRA
RECLAIMING THE AFRICAN MIND
MOVIES AND BOOKS
HOW TO SMELL GOOD NATURALLY
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Incandescent Magazine aims to provide our readers with positive information that motives them into action. We will cover topics that give you something to think about; with simple and resourceful solutions to apply in todays world. In this season we are inspired to be marked by brilliance and communicate clear and decisive ideas that can help guide us in the right direction. Change has become the global mantra for the new millennium. In order for this to manifest itself, we must remember to be a reflection of the things we want to see around us.
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How to Recognize your Soul Mate Do you remember at any time or point in your life when you met someone for the first time and you knew right away you were going to be the best of friends? How in the world did you know that when you’ve only just met? Or do you remember meeting someone and you absolutely hated them; and there was something about that person that just irritated the hell out of you, and for whatever reason, you couldn’t explain why? Here’s the thing, we are all connected - past, present and future with everything/everyone no matter where they may be. There is no degree of separation. So the person whose eyes you connected with and your heart skipped a beat and you knew there was something about them t h a t
drew you to them, that you just had to meet them might be something to check out. Now, most of us do one of two things - our attention is either captivated and we explore where it leads because we believe its love; or we do what everyone does 9 times out of 10; we strike up a conversation, exchange numbers, go on a few dates and then hit the sack. Yes! Admit it, that’s how it usually happens. After that we lose interest because the “wow” factor is no longer there. That is how we miss out on meeting our true soul mates. We are impatient. We want instant gratification. Where are all the good ones? The love of your
life has probably been right there all along. Some think that our soul mates are somewhere else in the world; when in fact, he or she is right in front of us. The first thing to do is to be honest with yourself. Know what it is you really want and appreciate in a mate; and not just the superficial things. We all want someone who understands us, is kind, generous, industrious, and a real go getter; someone who can be spontaneous and above all is spiritual. Someone exactly like yourself. For those who have trusted friends, close family ties and relatives; speak with them and ask if they see or know someone who they think you’d get along great with. Have them fix you up with a date?! Yes! Now if you are looking at this article and thinking you have got to be kidding, then I say to you, just what kind of family and friends do you have? The second thing is your willingness to be all those things you are looking for. Easy stuff, right?, you are only going to get as good as you are willing to give. Third; you must and I repeat, must do your homework. Find out all you can. There will be times when some things will not be revealed, that is why you must take things slow. Get to really know each other as best as you can. Universal law states that like attracts like, so if who you are attracting isn’t who you are after; then you need to check what is going on within yourself. You must be willing to open up and allow the universal energies to work for you and with you. And remember to love and be kind to yourself and to others, it will all come back to you. By Layo Onasanya
Ontario Science Centre
PLACES TO VISIT IN TORONTO AT A GLANCE!
Black Creek Pioneer Village
St. Lawrence Market
Importance of Positive Male Image Contrary to popular views, you cannot raise children by yourself. As an old african proverb states “it takes a whole village to raise a child”.
and spirit. We don’t have to do it alone, we can reach out to members of our immediate families. To our fathers, grandfathers, uncles, brothers and distant male relatives; we need your help with providing that masculine energy that keeps us balanced. The overwhelming message heard in the media and the constant attacks of black male figures is that we have no need of them - that we can “do it all ourselves”; and that black man are weak, non-caring, irresponsible and good for nothing. All these images and energy are very negative. Being a single parent is now the norm, instead of being an exception to the rule. It is a known fact that most children do better in a loving two parent household than in a single parent household. They learn faster, are better adjusted emotionally and are more confident. It is all our responsibility as a community to help with the raising of our children. It takes real men who are strong to step into situations not of their making, and provide what is required. Some of our brothers have dropped the ball, but many more have stepped up to the plate and given their strength to continue the fight.
Since children are not conceived by one person, it stands to reason, one cannot raise them alone. By having strong male members in our communities and families, it will give us a sense of love, community and connection. Most women who are single parents; did not make the choice to be alone; sometimes there were no other choice but to be single in order to preserve body and soul
It’s now time to move forward to the universal order of things; to have our black fathers head our homes and communities. To all our fathers who mentor and who teach us to learn and listen; to have self discipline and kindness; to be dependable; we thank you for your protection, wisdom and guidance. If we continue to accept western society’s image and ideals of what black fathers are - we are not only condoning the continuous attacks on our brothers, husbands and fathers, but also sentencing ourselves and future generation to By Layo Onasanya “pay the price”.
Making It Work M any of the ideas people have about
relationships comes from the media, books, magazines and stories they’ve heard and seen. Communicating and being honest with your partner about your true feelings without the fear of losing them is one of the steps in having a strong and lasting relationship. There are many sensitive subjects facing relationships today. Openly speaking with your partner about your views on having children, finances, transportation, owning a home, and any other subject that may be important to you will allow for a closer bond. Getting your way isn’t as important as working things out. Saying ‘I’m sorry’ and learning the value of compromise is one of the most important things one can learn to strength love.
You can change only yourself, and respecting your partner ’s feelings, thoughts and boundaries are all part of having and creating a great connection. Having a relationship is hard work and often hard lessons you can’t ever be prepared for. Viewing your partner as your closest or best friend, doing fun exercise together, playing board games, skating, reading to each other, writing love letters are ways you can express your true feelings. Practicing your listening skills is one of the greatest communication tools and the hardest to accomplish. Listening, showing patience, being kind and non critical are ways to make your love stronger and deeper. Making things work should be a goal rather than a destination, and getting there is part of the fun. By Layo Onasanya
“Sex Chip” The New Viagra In a world where change is constant, there is now another thing to add to the confusion. Living on this side of the world people have become accustomed to instant gratification. ‘We want what we want right now’!
According to the New York Daily news, there will soon be available a ‘sex chip’ developed from technology used to treat Parkinson’s disease, a procedure which implants electrode that sends tiny shock waves into the brain to stimulate it. The same research has been used to help people suffering from anhedonia which is a psychological condition characterized by inability to enjoy normally pleasurable acts, and is a core clinical feature of depression, schizophrenia, and other mental illnesses. Professor Tipu Aziz, a professor of neurosurgery at Oxford University indicated that it will require about 10 years to perfect the method used to implant the chip which requires surgery and is "intrusive and crude". Experiencing pleasure such as touching through massages, holding hands, going for long walks, talking, and for the more adventurous, sexy photos of each other, candle light baths are some of the non-intrusive ways to feel joy. A chip into your body can never replace doing simple things to connect on levels that promotes real intimacy between two people. By Layo Onasanya
ERIC BENET “REAL LOVE”
LEDISI “PIECES OF ME”
MUSIQ SOULCHILD “MUSIQINTHEMAGIQ”
MARY J BLIGE “MY LIFE II - THE JOURNEY CONTINUES”
ANTHONY HAMILTON “BACK TO LOVE”
JILL SCOTT “THE LIGHT OF THE SUN”
Reclaiming the African Mind By Brother Kwame
Removed from his God, culture, rituals, passage of rites, he became a shadow of his former self, a beast of burden
incapable of feeling or thought. “For who can be truly human under the weight of oppression that condemns them to a life of torment, robs them of a future and saps their free will”. Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome; Degruy Leary, Ph.D.
“When material gain becomes the God before which all must be sacrificed, even ones humanity, all manner of crimes and pursuant justifications become possible. And when crimes become heinous enough, as in wars of aggression, genocide and enslavement, the perpetrators have little choice but to dehumanize their victims.” Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome; Joy Degruy Leary Ph.D.
over 200 years the process of capture, torture, transportation, breaking and dehumanization was all rationalized by perpetrators greedy for expansionism and the insatiable desire for sugar and other cash crops and upon closer examination, the facts still remains today. The African slave was taught to be a breeder and his offsprings taken away and sold to the highest bidders. Stripped of his pride and dignity, was subjected to watch the mother of his children being brutalized. Forbidden to read or write, and if caught learning would have limbs and tongues cut out. He was given a diet not fit for animals, clothed in rags and old straws, slept under cellars with no floors.
We have been living in the West for over 500 years and in all those years have made no real gain of freedom. When an animal is captured from the wild and tamed or domesticated, it’s young have no memory of self reliance; thus when it is released into the wild, it cannot function. This is parallel to the African mental experience. We have become what we were taught to be. For without purpose and vision, the people are sure to fail. It is now time for us to gather ourselves as one and make a resolve to move from the old to the new. Gain forward what was stolen and lost! We can not allow those who have re-written our history, stolen our heritage become the one to write our futures. We know who we are and what we want our children to be. Our children are being bombarded from all directions with negative images and role models ( i.e. rap stars, and sports figures.), the education system designed with our failure as its main objective is strong and holds true as long as we continue to support this system. We must reclaim the mind, body and souls of our children, through (observable worship), rituals, passage of rites, holy days, and most significantly our land so that we can all rise to the next level.
MOVIES & BOOKS The Help
Mind of Mine
(2-Disc Combo Pack)
By Octavia E. Butler
DVD Released: Dec. 6/2011 146 Mins. PG-13 $29.99
“The Help’s” premise of how African-American maids in the South viewed their employers during the ‘60s.
Ghetto Physics DVD Release: Oct. 11/ 2011 94 Mins. Rated: NR $18.49
For 4,000 years, an immortal has spread the seeds of a master race, using the downtrodden as his private breeding stock. But now a young ghetto telepath has found a way to awaken and rule her superhuman kind, igniting a psychic battle as she challenges her creator for her right to free her people.
100 Amazing Facts About The Negro By J. A. Rogers
The filmmaker’s metaphor underlines every level of social interaction. Through documentary, satire and narrative, Arntz and Brown examine the relationship between master and slave, rich and poor, parent and child, aggressive and passive, corporation and individual, and pimp and ho.
J.A. Rogers, a self-educated bibliophile. His work was carefully researched, but few 'scholars' of the time (black or white) would give credit to a self-educated man. Later, Emperor Haile Selassie summoned him to Ethiopia where he was given highest honors for his scholarly achievements.
DVD Release: Oct. 11/ 2011 94 Mins. Rated: NR $18.49
by Taye Diggs, Shane Evans
A comedy adventure about taking a walk on the wild side. Blu is a domesticated Macaw who never learned to fly. Blu will have to find the courage to learn to fly, thwart the kidnappers who are hot on their trail, and return to Linda, the best friend a bird ever had.
The boy is teased for looking different than the other kids. His skin is darker, his hair curlier. He tells his mother he wishes he could be more like everyone else. And she helps him to see how beautiful he really, truly is.
How to Smell Good Naturally Traditionally in modern culture everyone wears deodorant or perfume to smell good. It was also in early Europe that people wore perfume especially the wealthy to cover up their body odor. At that time only the rich were able to bathe regularly and dress their outer skin with perfume according to the class they were in. The poorer class living conditions and accommodations were limited so it was a luxury
daily and apply anything on the skin as long as it smells good. Whatever we apply on the outside skin should be nourishment for the wellness of the inside. Fabrics that we wear on our skin should be natural (cotton, linen etc.) and help our skin to breathe easily. We should not apply anything on our skin that interferes with health and wellness of the skin. We are created with many wonderful nutrients for inside and outside of the body. We are aware of some, and we use some, but we donâ€™t fully understand the spectrum of natureâ€™s gift to us, how we should use them, when to use them and why it should be used. It is a constant battle to do the right things even with the constant flow of information at hand. There are many natural remedies to help us in our day to day lives that will not be toxic to our bodies and cause illnesses later in life. One that is commonly used to deodorize the body from w i t h i n i s C h l o r o p hy l l . I t detoxifies, opens the pores of the skin and allows the waste to secrete without any odor from the body.
for them to take a bath much less to use perfume. Our skin is the largest organ on the body; it performs one of the major detoxification processes for our body outside (releasing of sweat through the pores). When we sweat though our pores we are releasing liquid waste from inside our body to the outside, which is our skin; when we sweat our skin cools down. Most people do not feed their body with healthy and balanced nutrition; they abuse it
There are many green foods Spirilina, Spinach, Callaloo, Kale and Chlorella etc., that are rich in iron, protein, antioxidants, essential fatty acids, vitamins, minerals. If they are not a part of our regular diet, we should consider making them so. Remember to drink mineral water every day, about 8-10 glasses, exercise and eliminate smoking. Practicing these tips will help the skin to stay young and vibrant. Always remember, if you have health , you have wealth! By Jacqueline Dwyer
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SPARITUAL VEGAN NAIL POLISH
DESERT ESSENCES FACIAL SCRUB - PURIFIED WATER, JOJOBA
WE USE VEGAN INGREDIENTS FROM AROUND THE WORLD, INCLUDING MANY
MEAL, VEGETABLE GLYCERIN, CETYL ALCOHOL (VEGETABLE SOURCE), GLYCERYL STEARATE, CLAY, HYDROLYZED WHEAT PROTEIN, ALLANTOIN
SPECIALLY SOURCED AND SELECTED PLANT ESSENCES THAT ARE WILDCRAFTED OR ORGANIC.
AURAVEDIC NATURAL BEAUTY OILS - HERBAL
NATURE’S BLESSINGS HAIR POMADE - NETTLE, ROSEMARY,
MANUKA HONEY FACIAL MOISTURIZER
EXTRACTS, VEGETABLE & ESSENTIAL
SAGE, OLIVE OIL, PEPPERMINT, THYME, ALFALFA, PURE COCONUT OIL, SAGE OIL, ROSEMARY OIL, BERGAMOT OIL, CHLOROPHYLL (FROM NETTLE AND SPINACH)
RICH IN NATURAL MINERALS AND VITAMINS ACTIVE MANUKA HONEY NOURISHES, SOOTHES AND MOISTURIZES, TO ENHANCE THE
OILS, & VITAMINS, NO SYNTHETIC, COLORS, OR ANIMAL INGREDIENTS
HEALTH AND VITALITY OF YOUR COMPLEXION.
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ANWAAR BOTANICAL LAVENDER SOAP
GENTLY CLEANSES HAIR WITH THE
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85% ORGANIC INGREDIENTS! NOURISH YOUR SKIN WITH THE RICH LATHER OF ANWAAR'S LAVENDER MOISTURIZING BAR SOAP. ENHANCED WITH SHEA BUTTER, PURE LAVENDER ESSENTIAL OIL, AND ORGANIC HERBS.
PERFECT BLEND OF HERBS AND BOTANICALS. SAGE, LAVENDER,
YARROW, ROSEMARY AND THYME CLEANSE HAIR NATURALLY, LEAVING IT SOFT AND MANAGEABLE. NETTLE, CHAMOMILE AND WILD CHERRY BARK.
ENVIRONMENTALLY FRIENDLY MAKEUP BRUSHES THAT ARENʼT MADE OUT OF SOME POOR ANIMALʼS BUSHY TAIL.
Don't pretend you don't know that potato eyes and those blemishes must be covered chips and chocolate don't contain carbs, either with some cover up, make-up powder or concealer stick. because they do. When you a p p l y Lip-gloss works wonders. Quickly apply m o i s t u r i z e r some flavored lip gloss and stay assured always massage that it will make the difference. your face to Smell good. help lymph and Use your b l o o d fl o w. favorite Work on your perfume or problem areas at least 15 minutes every a body day. Stop licking and biting your lips. spray. Just a Biting your lips peels off any protective few sprays layer left. and you are finished in no Drink water w h e r e v e r time. Always take good care of your teeth. you go, and Keep them extra white and shiny. always take a little bottle A pair of metallic classy earrings can with you in make the difference and give you the hottest look. your bag. G e t y o u r No matter what you think, quitting bad b r o w s i n habits like alcohol or smoke will have a tremendous shape, no impact on the reason to go way you feel wild. You can and look. quickly apply mascara to your lashes to Try wearing bring out clothes made your eyes in out of just one minute. If you have a few spare elegant fabrics seconds you can also apply some eye like silk or cashmere. shadow to further improve your look. These fabrics feel good and will boost Make those blemishes and dark spots you self-confidence. disappear. Those dark circles under your By Layo Onasanya
Just because you are a vegan doesnâ€™t mean you have to do without the things you like. Give these replacements a try, they are delicious and mom and kid approved!
Jamaican Jerk Tempeh 1 package (about 3/4 pound or 350 g.) tempeh, pre-steamed or ready to cook, cut into rectangles 1/4 cup unsweetened apple butter 1/2 onion, grated very fine or pureed 2 Tbsp. pure maple syrup 4-6 drops Tabasco, or to taste 1 Tbsp. Tamari or soy sauce
over top. Marinate at least one hour, turning tempeh over once. Preheat oven to 350 F (180 C). Bake the tempeh about 20 minutes, flip the rectangles over and coat with as much sauce as you can (anything you don’t scoop up now will dry to the pan– beware!). You can leave a fairly thick layer of sauce on top of
Mix all ingredients except tempeh and blend well. You’ll have a a fairly thick sauce. Pour about half the sauce into the bottom of an 8 x 8 inch square greased pan.
each rectangles. Bake 20-30 more minutes, until the sauce has dried on top and begins to brown in places. Remove from pan while still hot to avoid sticking.
Place tempeh rectangles on the sauce to fit. Spoon rest of sauce
Makes 2-3 servings with salad side dish. Store leftovers in the fridge for up to 3 days.
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