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INSIGHT 7 If I Knew then Kevin O’Leary

dishes on being a dad

INFORM 11 Parenting NEws 15 HPV The pros and cons of getting vaccinated 20 Finance 3 ways to teach your

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22 Self-Esteem Sara Dimerman on teen girls and self-esteem 24 Kimberly Moffit Expert Q&A

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39 March Break Destinations to suit every member of the family 46 Marilyn Denis Her son, her

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ONTRIBUTOR

Lara Hyde

Co-Founders and Editors

Rachel Naud Liz Bruckner

Art Director

Caroline Bishop Contributing Editors Jacqueline Kovacs Dana Dougherty Reinke Website Manager Victor Chard

A freelance editor and writer, Hyde has a background in journalism, but she’s spent the last six years raising two young daughters while editing romance novels on the side. “I loved my teens — the ‘firsts,’ the heartbreak, all of it. I look forward to my daughters reaching that stage. In my case, my relationship with my parents only grew stronger.”

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Contributors Jody Lynn Ackerman, Susan Bosley, Cory Cambridge, Sara Dimerman, Megan Funnell, Ryan Francoz, Lara Hyde, Erika Lagyjanszki, Kimberly Moffit, Kevin O’Leary, Liz Robertson, Ingrie Williams, Mathieu Yuill Copyright 2014 inBetween Magazine. All rights reserved. All images, unless otherwise noted, are Thinkstock.

No part of this magazine may be reproduced without the written permission of the publisher. The publisher accepts no responsibility for advertiser’s claims, unsolicited manuscripts, transparencies or other materials.

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Caroline Bishop

A mom of two young boys, Caroline masterfully juggles parenthood with art direction; she was not only the founding art director for The Kit, she’s also worked with Joe Fresh, Fashion Magazine, Glow, Holt Renfrew, Murale and Shoppers Drug Mart. When not designing stunning layouts, she’s a lover of home décor and sunny days — and is more than slightly paranoid about the separation anxiety she’ll experience when her sons become teens.

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Having worked on-staff at Chatelaine, Glow, Sears New Outlook and Rouge magazines, Ingrie is a style expert who has also lent her expertise to iVillage. ca, TheKit.ca and CityLine. A fashion fiend from the start, she says her teens were fairly tame, noting that the best thing to come of them were the amazing friendships she developed.


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A WELCOME CHANGE As we write this note, we’re in the process of putting the finishing touches on this issue and we’re so excited for you to pore over it! Beyond the plethora of timely, relevant parenting stories you’ll find inside, we’re over the moon about our fantastic new look, courtesy of design guru Caroline Bishop. As a magazine design specialist, having art directed at some of the country’s top titles, she brings her incredible eye for all things beautiful to INBETWEEN, and we couldn’t love her work more. Same goes for our cover model. Though Canadians know her as the host of CTV’s The Marilyn Denis Show and co-host of the Roger, Darren & Marilyn show on Toronto’s 104.5 CHUM FM, in this issue she’s Mom, and the straightforward candour she brings to that role (see page 46) might surprise you. And since we’re on the topic of surprises, we think Dragon/Shark Kevin O’Leary’s approach to being Dad might throw you for a loop. Check out his article on page 7 where he opens up about raising teens, the kind of dad he is, and — in true O’Leary style — the role money plays in his family. With spring on the horizon, we also made a note to hit the shops to source 12 of the chicest, most stylish jackets available, and picked the brains of experts to help transition your skincare from winter to

spring. All that and we’re delving into big parenting issues, as well. On page 15, Lara Hyde examines the pros and cons of giving your daughter (and even son!) the HPV vaccination, and Jody Lynn Ackerman serves up sage advice on page 26 on a topic we can all use a little help with – learning to let go of your child. Like what you see? Subscribe for free at inbetween.ca so you’ll never miss an issue, and be privy to insider news and a bundle of great prizes. And don’t be shy! Like us on Facebook and follow us on Twitter. We’d love to hear your comments, questions and anything INBETWEEN.

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IF I KNEW THEN

KEVIN O’Leary Shark, Whether he’s in the tank or the den, Kevin O’Leary is hard on wannabe entrepreneurs. So it may come as no surprise to see his stance on parenting is all about tough love.

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by Kevin O’Leary When it comes to parenting, I took a lot of cues from what my own mother taught me about what matters when raising a family. You have to set building blocks within the family for the union to survive long term. I explore a lot of this in my book with anecdotes in my own life. This includes teaching children about money and getting them to value it at a young age. My daughter, Savannah, is now 20 and my son, Trevor, is 18, but when my kids were small, I brought them up with the idea that an invisible family member sits at our table and it’s called “money.” Without it, we have no family. We need it to survive. When

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they reached their teens, they already had an account that was generating interest because I made them save 10 per cent of whatever they made — be it from gifts, jobs, whichever. Trevor knows that I plan on paying for his existence until his last day of education and then he’s on his own (just as we did with Savannah). That’s what my mother did to me. I have met so many kids that feel entitled because their parents cloak them from the realities of the world. And it doesn’t work. On not being there I have to be honest, I was spending so much time building my businesses that the tasks of raising kids went to my wife. I was an absentee parent. I am so thankful for my wife. We decided early on that I would go out and be the bread-winner and she would raise them. I am old school like that. I never wanted nannies. People tell me that it’s ludicrous to think that way and that everyone should be working but I don’t agree with that. I think it’s very crucial in the early stages to help raise kids with the values consistent with the family unit. And in the vein of consistency, we still have one rule in place: Every weekend we get the family together wherever we are — be in England, Boston, New York, wherever. Everyone is together for those two days. That’s how we stay a family.

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On teen challenges The key to parenting teens is to decide how much freedom to provide them. You want to make sure you’re not cloaking them from the challenges of real life. So many parents shelter their teens from the realities and toughness of the world, but what they really need is to build callouses to deal with the real world. Parents are too doting and don’t let their kids spend enough time alone to have that balance. You want to have a well-balanced child. On tough love I have experienced frustration with my son because I forced him to take 10 per cent of every dollar he makes and put it in a savings account. But he wants to spend it on stuff that I don’t think he needs. We’ve had some interesting dialogue for sure. But he needs to understand that he is going to be thrown out of the nest and he’s either going to fly or isn’t. The day he finishes school, he is kicked out of the house. There’s no more room here for him. He is not going to get any money from me. I have told him, ‘my money is mine

and will never be yours.’ People think I’m cruel for this but I think it is absolutely critical to do this. On learning lessons Like any parent, I have made mistakes. But you have to think long-term game. Enjoy every moment with them but be mindful that you’re going to launch them into a world that they’ll spend twothirds in without you. I have made mistakes and have been frustrated like any parent, but I hope I’ve done a good job. ■

Kevin O’Leary is one of North America’s most successful business entrepreneurs, a star on CBC’s Dragons’ Den and ABC’s Shark Tank, the co-host of CBC’s Lang & O’Leary Exchange and the Chairman of O’Leary Funds. He is also a No. 1 National Bestselling author, and his latest book is Cold Hard Truth on Family, Kids & Money.


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Packing Your Care Package: A How-To Guide by Megan Funnell

If your child can’t come home for March Break, care packages are a great way to ship a little piece of home to them. Because, let’s face it, even with the advent of e-mail, cellphones, social media, FaceTime and Skype, there’s still nothing like sending a personalized package to show you care. Here, Ben Hunt, FedEx spokesperson, shares his tips for getting what you want, where you want it, and in one piece.

✓ Choose the right box. “You want to make sure your package arrives intact, so use a new box. A slightly used version is OK, but make sure all the old shipping labels are removed.”

✓ Cushion your items. “Leave at least one inch around your items and use packing peanuts or bubble wrap — both are light and costefficient — to fill in the gaps.”

✗ Send money or lottery tickets. “Although you may want to share the wealth, these items are prohibited.” ✓ Ship sentimentals from home. “You can ship almost anything with FedEx, from ornaments and books to cookies fresh out of Grandma’s oven. Just take the time to make sure they’re all packed properly to ensure they’re delivered without damage.”

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WORTH A SHOT? With the promise of immunity from HPV — and, in turn, cervical cancer — you’d think the choice to roll up your child’s sleeve for this vaccine would be simple. Not quite. by Lara Hyde It’s a note in your child’s

backpack. It’s the heated topic on talk shows like Katie Couric’s, Katie. It’s the commercial that runs several times within an hour. Yet, despite having so much presence in schools and society, there’s an air of mystery and fear surrounding the human papillomavirus (HPV) vaccine. Since its introduction in 2008, all Canadian provinces and territories have doled out free vaccinations against HPV through school-based clinics to females in one of Grades 4-9, and while some parents are quick to sign

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their kid up for the shot that’s touted to prevent cancer, others fear the unknowns surrounding it. Here’s what you need to know. What is HPV? The most common sexually transmitted infection, HPV affects skin and the moist membranes lining the throat, feet, hands, nails, anus and cervix. There are more than 100 types of HPV, and while most strains are harmless and symptom-free, 40 of them can put contractors of the virus at risk of below-the-belt cancer. In the grand scheme of things, that risk is minimal: the United States Centre for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) says over 70 per cent of the infections in young females clear up within 12 months, while 90 per cent do so within 24 months, leaving between five to 10 per cent of cases with the potential for long-term repercussions. Why get vaccinated? According to the makers of Gardasil, cervical cancer caused by HPV is responsible for some 400 deaths in Canada each year. Roughly three out of four sexually active Canadians will be infected with HPV at some point

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“Parents who have concerns need to know that the safety of the vaccine is paramount [to the medical community]” in their lives, making the vaccine a literal lifesaver, says Dr. Gina Ogilvie, an HPV infection expert and medical director of clinical prevention services at the BC Centre for Disease Control. What’s more, young girls between nine and 15 who receive this vaccine — it’s administered in three separate doses over a course of six months and is ideally received before first sexual contact — have almost 100 per cent protection against diseases caused by HPV. (If someone is already infected with an HPV strain, the vaccine does not prevent further complications against that specific strain, though it does provide protection against others.) Is it safe? “Parents who have concerns need to know that the safety of the vaccine is paramount [to the medical community], and that we would never recommend something that could make healthy

girls ill,” says Dr. Ogilvie. According to the CDC, more than 56 million doses of the vaccine have been distributed in the U.S. alone, and only a very small percentage of adverse reactions have been reported. Of those, 92 per cent were classified as non-serious, such as injection site redness, soreness and fainting, while rare reports of adverse reactions have been linked to hospitalization, permanent disability, life-threatening illness or death. The latter reports have steadily declined since 2009. Why the controversy? Spend 10 minutes Googling HPV vaccines and their reported negative effects, and chances are you’ll feel more than slightly torn about whether to vaccinate your daughter. Some parents insist children are being vaccinated too young, or that the inoculation promotes sexual activity. Others point to the vaccine as the root of serious


health problems such as seizures, paralysis and even death following injections. The stories have impact — 30 to 40 per cent of Canadian girls go without the vaccine, reports a 2012 Globe and Mail article. Allison Hayley, a mom of three who lives in Cornwall, Ont., says she and her husband are not allowing their 11-year-old daughter to get the shot. “She’s too young. We’ve done the research and don’t feel her having it is necessary at this time,” she says. “Not that we have blinders on, but this targeted age group is too young for our comfort.” Dr. Ogilvie explains that the focus on pre-adolescents is preventative. “It doesn’t have an impact if you already have HPV, therefore we’ve taken the approach to administer it before HPV infections or pre-cancerous lesions become an issue. Also,

kids aged nine to 12 have a better immune response.” She adds that U.S. studies have shown the vaccine has no impact on sexual activity among young people. Hayley is aware of the rationale behind early immunization, but says it doesn’t faze her. “I had the kids get all the old-school vaccines as I felt they had been time tested,” she says. “Not this.” Caroline Turner Jardine from Gilbert, Arizona is equally leery of the vaccine and won’t get it

for her 12-year-old daughter. She is particularly suspicious of the aggressive marketing campaigns for the vaccine in the U.S., and the relationship between big pharmaceutical companies and regulatory agencies. “It’s too risky,” she says. “I’m not antivaccination completely, but we go to an immunization clinic here and have had to decline this vaccine three separate times. They were far too pushy about it for our liking.”

NOT JUST FOR GIRLS

The province of Alberta announced in December 2013 that it will start offering boys free in-school vaccinations this fall, making it the second province (after Prince Edward Island) to expand the HPV vaccination program to boys. HPV in males can lead to several types of cancer, including anal and penile. Plus, the vaccine protects against strains of HPV that cause genital warts, which, while not pre-cancerous, can impact health and quality of life.

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“I’m not anti-vaccination completely, but we go to an immunization clinic here and have had to decline this vaccine three separate times. They were far too pushy about it for our liking” However, for Diana Guild from Hamilton, Ont, the choice to vaccinate her now 17-yearold daughter was easy. “After researching it, I didn’t have any concerns. If I remember correctly, all the girls in my daughter’s class got the vaccine. Our philosophy has always been to do whatever we can for our children. We are their biggest advocates.”

tion, though research shows that the vaccine provides protection for at least five years, it’s not clear whether a booster shot following those five years is needed.

Talking about HPV Talking to your kids about topics related to sex can be about as appealing as a root canal, but experts say to consider it a necessary evil. Dr. Kirsten Smith, an What are the benefits? OBGYN at North York General “Beyond the fact that it’s safe, Hospital in Toronto, advises that we’ve been surprised at how parents approach the subject effective it is at reducing infection as they would any other vaccine and pre-cancerous lesions,” says conversation. “I would elaborate Dr. Ogilvie. A study released by the on HPV transmission specificalCDC in June 2013 shows that HPV ly if the child asks and a parent infections in teen girls have been thinks they will understand the cut in half since the shot came answer,” she says. “Reassure on the market. And among girls them that it’s safe and doesn’t who got the vaccine, the drop was contain the virus itself, and in the higher — a whopping 88 per cent. case of a younger child, comfort Still, because the vaccine them and let them know that doesn’t protect against every having a vaccine can be frightHPV strain, experts recommend ening and even painful, but it’s regular Pap screenings. In addiimportant for long-term health.”

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The bottom line While there will always be parents championing vaccinations and others vehemently opposing them, making decisions based on what we feel is best for our child is a personal battle. For Dr. Ogilvie, the benefits of vaccination far outweigh the risks. She has had her daughter and her son vaccinated against HPV, and suggests that instead of focusing on the confusion, people should focus on the prevention of cervical cancer. “It may not have the same sort of recognition that breast cancer does, but if I told you there was a vaccine for that, wouldn’t you want your daughter to get it?” ■

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money matters Talking to kids about money is important. So is teaching them how to save it. Here’s how. by Rachel Naud

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Have you had “the talk” with your kids? No, not the one about the birds and the bees. “The talk” that covers an even more awkward subject — money. If you’re keeping mum about the “m” word, you’re like most parents. According to a 2012 poll conducted by Ipsos Reid on behalf of ABC Life Literacy

Canada, one in three Canadians ages 10-17 say their parents regularly talk to them about money and finances. Four in 10 say that their parents discuss these matters with them ‘a few times a month,’ while onequarter say they ‘rarely’ talk about money with their parents. This doesn’t surprise Chantal


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Gray, who says when she was growing up, her parents never started a dialogue about money and, as a result, she didn’t learn how to manage it properly”. That’s why, she says, she’s taking a different approach with her daughter, Emily, 16, and son, Brayden, 13. “We wanted to make sure our kids learned about money and saving so they don’t have to go through the same struggles we did early on in our marriage,” says the Ottawa-based chiropractic assistant and fitness instructor. For Gray, this meant sitting down with both kids and prompting them to look ahead at their future financial needs – be it going away for university or affording the next hockey season. “It wasn’t a conversation about not spending money because we don’t have it, but more about developing awareness about how much things cost,” she says. “As a result, we have a more open line of communication. And they have more awareness and are taking more responsibility when they want to buy something.” That was a wise move, according to Carol Funnell, insurance broker/financial adviser in Winnipeg, adding that

“They need to realize the value of the dollars they’re earning and how to handle their money” when it comes to kids learning about finances, earlier is better. “If you don’t, they’ll never learn to handle their own money,” she says. “They need to realize the value of the dollars they’re earning and how to handle their money.” And, she says, how to save it. Here are her top three tips on how to show your kids how to get the most bang for their buck. Set up a savings account Whether they’re working or on the receiving end of monetary gifts from family members, get your kids to put 20 per cent of their income into a savings account they can’t access with their debit cards. “Before they know it, they’ll be able to see how much money they’re saving without ever missing not being able to spend it,” says Funnell. “As they see their balance grow, it’ll give them more incentive to save.”

Set a goal Maybe they’re saving for a new computer or for school. Regardless, help them set a goal and determine how much they will have to put away each month to reach it. “Once they attain their goal, they’ll experience the pride of ownership because they were able to buy it themselves. It’s an accomplishment.” Set expectations Responsibility comes with money and so does independence. Discuss with your teen what you are willing to buy and spend on them, and what they are responsible for paying. “This could include their cellphone bill, entertainment — movies, dinner, clothing, makeup, etc.,” says Funnell. “This is a great way for them to become independent. And it also shows them how far their money goes.” And that’s a life lesson that can pay off big time down the road — nothing awkward about that. ■ inbetween

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mothers be good to your daughters Why instilling self-esteem in your young lady is a must. by Sara Dimerman

Sara Dimerman is a psychologist and author of parenting and relationship books. Find out more at helpmesara.com or follow her on twitter @helpmesara.

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My teenage daughter has a figure to die for. When she wears shorts in the summer, strangers comment on the length of her legs. Her porcelain-like skin provides the perfect backdrop for her dark hair and eyes. And yet, like many girls her age, she often does not like what she sees in the mirror. She wants foundation to cover the dark circles under her eyes, the latest product that “in four easy payments” will straighten her hair, and to remove the bump from her nose that makes her profile ‘disgusting.’ When did the self-deprecation begin? My husband and I have always prided ourselves on teaching beauty from the inside out, to embrace all parts of ourselves — even the imperfections. When I wonder where we went wrong,

I realize that it is not just us but also society that plays a key role in how our daughter sees herself. Take TV. Though I try to break the allure of such shows as America’s Next Top Model, she is still drawn to watching seemingly ordinary girls and women transform into supermodels. And even though she is aware that most reality shows are not realistic, she’s bought into the push for breast augmentation, liposuction, collagen in lips, teeth whitening and removal of bumps from noses. While we do discourage her from watching of these types of programs, I’m also from the school of thought that what is forbidden is far more appealing, so I try to watch them with her and point out their flaws. But I don’t know how much this helps


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since kids — and especially teen girls — are vulnerable and taken in by the messages these programs relay. Specifically, that unless you remove all imperfections, you’re not worthy of being noticed. It’s that message that Brenda Lane Richardson and Elane Rehr address in their book 101 Ways to Help your Daughter Love her Body. “If your daughter is 13 or older,” they write, “she may enjoy learning that advertisers create commercials that appeal to consumers on a subconscious level. Shampoo commercials don’t just

simply promise clean hair. They also suggest that once we use a particular shampoo, we’ll become the life of the party.” The authors suggest that the next time your daughter sees a commercial telling her how her body should look, she should remind herself that she is fine exactly as she is. Children and teens aren’t the only ones who need these reminders — grownups do too, and we need to be mindful of our own media-influenced messages. Do your children see you putting yourself down when you survey yourself in the mirror? Don’t be

surprised if they follow suit. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with trying to look and feel your personal best, but there is also nothing wrong with embracing yourself — imperfections and all — and more importantly, modeling to your children that you love yourself. So, although I may think nostalgically back to those days when I had a figure like my daughter and encourage her to appreciate her lovely self, I am also careful to show her that I’m proud of all the grownup qualities I posses — both inside and out. ■ inbetween

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ASK THE EXPERT with Kimberly Moffit Q. My 13-year-old son

Kimberly Moffit is a relationship expert who provides practical advice for families and psychological topics. She is a regular speaker for Queen’s University’s MBA and Women in Leadership Programs, a frequent lecturer at the University of Waterloo, and makes regular appearances on CTV’s Canada AM, CBC’s The National, City TV News and the Global TV’s Morning Show.

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used to shop, watch movies and go on hikes with his dad and I. Now he avoids us like the plague. I’ve been trying to give him space, but am not sure when enough is enough. Should I leave him alone or try to get him to talk?

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lescents to go through a parent-shunning phase, but for us, this phase is frustrating and hurtful. The truth is, almost all teenagers need to go through a ‘distancing’ phase where they emotionally and sometimes physically distance themselves

from their parents as a way to gain independence. Although new and sometimes uncomfortable, it can be very positive for the developing teen because it helps them cultivate alliances with their friends, gain selfesteem and accomplish things independently. That said, it’s still important that your son feels a connection and a sense of trust with you. Continue to ask him about school, his friends, his hobbies and his interests. In addition, keep inviting him to join when you’re shopping, watching movies or going on hikes. And offer to host his friends at your house instead of him always going over to their houses. Making a small step of support like this lets him know he can lean on you when he’s ready.


him know that you love and care about him. This would be a good joint in my 17-year-old to ask if he’s tried other son’s room. I smoked up time drugs, and to remain composed a few times when I was and non-judgemental about his a teen so am wondering response. You might also consider opening up about your own how to reprimand him experience as a teen, but only to without sounding like share any hard lessons gleaned a complete hypocrite. from the experience (ie: You How should I answer if regret doing it and wish you’d had a parent who cared enough to he asks about my own warn you about the effects). experiences? Remember, though: You’re not being hypocritical if you This question isn’t simple, choose not to share your own and the answer depends on experience with drugs. Should your own philosophies on paryou decide not to, simply exenting and on finding your way press what you found, that you as an adult. are not happy about it, and that We all know that narcotics of he’ll have to be reprimanded as any kind can have serious effects a result. Teenagers aren’t always on health and well-being (espeable to see situations from a cially if consumed in large quanmature or rational perspective, tities), and that their use could so being privy to what you did as potentially lead to experimentaa teen may provide unnecessary tion with heavier drugs or risky fuel or justification for misbehavbehaviour. However, it’s normal ing, depending on his personality. for many teens to experiment Understanding your son’s matuduring their high school years, as rity and personality will help you you can attest. decide which option is right There are a few considerations for you. ■ to keep in mind before having the ‘talk’ with your son. You may want to have an open conversation about the joint you found and why you’re concerned. This lets

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Learning to let go

Learning to let go of your child can be an overwhelming process, even for the most relaxed parent. These tips help make the transition less painful. by Jody Lynn Ackerman There’s a point in the life of every

honesty, which helps lay the founparent when you realize your kid dation for fostering your child’s is no longer a child. That the adordevelopment and the parent/child able baby you once cradled in your relationship, as well as positive reinarms has gone from toddler to forcement. “Make an effort as often grade-schooler, from missing her two as you can to give your child posifront teeth to embarking upon doutive feedback,” says Hull. “Look at a ble digits, and from the pinnacle of scenario they’ve handled themselves the teen years to being knee-deep in well in and take the time to say someyoung adulthood. thing like, ‘I think it’s great how you Realization and acceptance, howhandled X,’ even if you would have ever, are very different beasts. With approached it differently,” Hull says. that in mind we asked experts for ad- Beyond making conversations easy, vice on how parents can learn to let regular communication also helps go and nudge their children toward you understand (and influence) their independence. Here are their words rationale and approach to situations, of wisdom. making letting go a little easier. Make time to talk If you zone in on one area of parenting during the teen and early adult years, make it communication, says Sherri Hull, a retired psychiatric nurse from Alberton, PEI. “At a time when kids may be pulling away and spending more time with their peers than parents, it’s key that you take time to reinforce the bond you’ve spent their childhood building,” she says. Parents should also focus on

Land your inner helicopter parent Yes, parenting invariably means caring about and for your child in a myriad of ways, but things can get sticky when parents become so over-involved that they show up at university to talk to their child’s professors about marks, or are texting their high schooler non-stop when they veer out of sight. Whether you’re worried your inbetween

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child is not yet capable of making good decisions, struggling with loss of control or are concerned about what to focus on once your child is independent, one of the best ways to undo helicopter tendencies is to start giving your child more freedom, says Nancy Peters, a family service worker from Hamilton, Ont. Think later curfews, unsupervised sessions behind the wheel or letting them go away for the weekend with friends, and understand that mistakes are normal and part of the process. Give them room to grow without scrutinizing every fashion decision they make — or photo they post on Instagram — and remember, says Peters: “It’s a parent’s job to raise kids to be adults – not to remain kids forever.” Model what you want to see Want your kid to go out into the world with self control and confidence intact? Be the example. “Everyday parental behaviour plays a large role in how children learn to govern themselves now and in the long term,” says Dr. Ralph Hull, a retired child and adolescent psychiatrist from Alberton, PEI. “Parents who are calm, cool and consistent impart those characteristics to their

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child, while those who are quick to anger and make rash decisions do the same.” As such, do your best to maintain composure in every situation. This way, as your child emulates your behaviour, you’ll feel more secure that he or she will (hopefully) do the same in emotionally heightened situations. And, ultimately, it will build confidence in both yourself and your child, allowing you both to grow.

keep in mind that it’s expected — and normal — that a part of you may even look forward to your child’s increasing independence, says Dr. Hull. “Being aware of the normalcy of these emotions is integral for parents, otherwise they might question their own sanity.”

Build your village Another key component for loosening your parental grip? A good support system. “Having Prepare for people you can talk to and keep mixed emotions you grounded is so important, Letting go isn’t easy — for you or particularly when dealing with for them. According to Dr. Hull, rebellious and trying behaviours,” parents can expect to feel anyPeters says. So are friends and thing from pride at their child’s family members because “they’ve accomplishments, anxiety about known your kids since they were whether they’ll be OK, and possismall and will be the ones to bly both at the same time. As for remind you in difficult situations teens, they face an emotional roller that you’ve raised a great child coaster of their own, and he says who will eventually find their way.” this is mostly due to endocrine Gaining support from parand hormonal changes, but it’s also ents who have survived these a reaction to the ever-changing years is another must as they’ll landscape of growing up. provide encouragement through How to help? Try to remember the highs and lows, and offer that emotions are high on both the benefit of their experience sides of the fence while also and wisdom. “Parents who offering unconditional love and have been through this part of support to your child. And when parenting give you hope,” says it comes to your own emotional Peters. “And sometimes having battle, allow yourself to experisomeone who will listen to you ence the shock and unprepared- vent without judging can make ness for an empty nest, but also all the difference.” ■


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Hyundai Accent MSRP: $13,799 Pros: Lots of standard features at the entry level, rear spoiler included Cons: 14-inch wheels seem small even on this car

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Winners snakeskin print jacket, $100, and draped crochet top, $30, winners.ca. Joe Fresh slim fit jeggings, $19, joe.ca. Vince Camuto heels, $145, townshoes. com. Banana Republic Ashbury tote bag, $160, and Mixed Metal Woven Line and Crystal Toggle bracelets, $45-50 each, bananarepublic.ca

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trend to try

The collegiate classic is spring’s biggest must-have, redesigned in endless options. Casual enough to be worn every day, it now has a fashion-forward element that can pull its weight for a night out, too. our favourites:

how to get it right: • Pair it with coloured jeans. Choose a jacket with

a bold print — think snakeskin, leopard or floral — and pull the look together with a tank or tee in a solid colour underneath.

• Dial up the femininity Stella McCartney bomber, $2075, holtrenfrew.com

by wearing a varsity jacket over a simple sheath dress or with a pencil skirt. Add statement earrings or a bracelet as an edgy accent. • Keep proportions in mind. Traditionally, this non-

H&M Jacket, $30 hm.ca

structured jacket sits at the hips, which is great for petite frames, but there are also tailored length styles to be found this season, which will flatter curvier shapes.

Topshop, $153, thebay.com

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trend to try

A timeless wardrobe mainstay, today’s motorcycle jacket is more wearable than you might think. The trick is to choose an updated streamlined style that flatters your frame. our favourites:

how to get it right: • A quick recipe for instant cool: Jackets that

incorporate studs, quilting, colour or mixed fabrics. Look for a piece with at least one of the above.

• Think outside the box.

Guess jacket, $128 guess.ca

Jeans tend to be the go-to choice with this jacket, but a ladylike skirt looks fresh and unexpected. • Pay attention to the collar if you have a curvy

Gap jacket, $118 gapcanada.ca

bottom half. Oversize lapels and embellishment near the shoulders will help balance your proportions. • Choose a form-fitting cut to accentuate your

shape, and to serve as a go-to style option for evenings out.

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Banana Republic Printed Trench, $215, Bold Dot Blouse, $95, and earrings, $45, bananarepublic.ca. Joe Fresh jeans, $29, joe.ca. Ivanka Trump pumps, $185, townshoes.com


trend to try

A big trend for spring, bold prints propel muted ensembles to a new level of style. Just be sure to pair an eye-catching graphic with at least one neutral to keep the look both modern and chic. our favourites:

how to get it right: • Big is in! Supersize your

print: the louder your fashion statement, the higher the style factor. • Don’t be afraid to combine prints.

Pairing a bold floral with a calmer polka dot print (see our model) looks modern and fresh, while a basic pair of white jeans grounds the look.

Ted Baker London Duena parka, $325, available at tedbakerlondon.com

• Keep accessories minimal. A simple pair of

earrings with classic heels keeps the focus on the jacket.

Sir Oliver striped jacket, $295, call 1-888-869-5326 or email info@ solivercanada.com for store listings Ann Taylor Zebra Jacquard Topper, $198, anntaylor.com

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CHOOSE YOUR OWN

ADVENTURE March Break is looming, so what’ll it be? Sun or snow? Action or chillaxin’? Pick the activities that best suit your clan for your best mid-year vacation yet. by Jennifer Merrick

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Check out: Smuggler Notch Resort, Vermont Smuggler Notch Resort in Vermont has been voted the best eastern family ski resort for the past 15 years. Three mountains, 75-plus trails, three terrain parks and a high-energy vibe appeal to all ages. Older kids love the ‘no parents’ allowed clubs for both younger (Teen Alley) and older teens (Outer Limits), as well as lessons and programs geared specifically to their age group, like the Winter Adventure Program for 16 to 20 year-olds.

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Check out: Valcartier Village, PQ Located just 20 minutes from Quebec City, vacationing families can enjoy the capital city known for its European charm, food and winter activities. Check out the new outdoor skating rink on the Plains of Abraham and the classic slide on the Dufferin Terrace. And then play at the snow-tubing park. Grab one of the 5,000 inner tubes and whiz down runs that range from the relatively tame to The Everest, with a gravity-defying 110-degree incline and speeds up to 80 km/hour. Hang on! Check out: Okanagan Valley, BC The largest ski-in, ski-out resort in Canada, your crew can literally step right out onto the slopes from any of the accommodation options at Big White Ski Resort, located less than an hour from Kelowna. And sure, there’s the incredible views and fantastic fare, but it’s the night skiing, ice skating, snow tubing, snow biking and “snowghosts” (what happens when you ski through snowcaked trees) that’ll keep the adventurous set wound up. (The village’s many coffee shops, lounges, pubs and bars will help wind them – or maybe just you – down.) inbetween

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Check out: Costa Rica Zip-lining, mountain biking, canyoneering, kayaking, hiking hidden waterfalls, white river rafting… Choose your jungle thrill in this Central American country known for its luscious landscapes and eco-tourism. Wildland Adventure Company has a selection of tours designed especially for families with older kids. Or stay at an eco-lodge like the Lapa Rios. Located in a rainforest reserve in the Osa Peninsula, adventure is literally right outside your door. Check out: Cuba White sand, warm turquoise seas, reasonable all-inclusive rates and some of the friendliest people around is why this island continues to be such a popular destination for Canadian families. If you’re vacationing with teenagers and/ or 20-somethings, choose one of the bigger resorts like Iberostar Laguna Azul in Varadero, which offers plenty of entertainment options, allowing them (and you!) more independence. Check out: Cruising Grandma wants to hit the night club, Mom wants to sit by the pool, one kid wants to ice skate and the other wants to ride the waves. On a cruise ship like Royal Caribbean’s Freedom of the Seas, everybody can do what they want and meet up over dinner to fill each other in. Itineraries are well-suited for multi-generational travel with ports of call at palm-treed Caribbean islands, a partnership with Universal Studios, and a full roster of entertainment and activities. inbetween

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Check out: Los Angeles LA ranks high on the teenage cool gage. Watch a film at the Arclight Cinerama Dome or the Chinese Theatre, a preserved movie palace from Hollywood’s golden era. Shop at the Grove Shopping Mall and their Farmer’s Market. Rent some skates and join the beautiful people at Venice Beach. And there’s always the theme parks, too. Check out: Chicago Chicago has one of the best food scenes going, and its unpretentious feel makes bringing the kids a breeze. Hit Hot Dougs for the classic Chicago dog or dine at the hipster fave, Au Cheval. A fun way to check out some of the neighbourhoods and their culinary hotspots is to join a tour from Chicago Food Planet. Don’t forget the deep-dish pizza (served with sausage, not pepperoni in this city).

Check out: Universal Studios, Orlando Kids may grow out of princesses and pirates, but movies continue to capture their imagination. Rides like the Forbidden Journey in the Wizarding World of Harry Potter and Transformers 3D make you feel like you’ve jumped right through the big screen and joined the action. New this spring is the 1800-room Cabana Bay Beach Resort, located on-site and featuring value-priced family suites for six with early park admission included. ■

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Marilyn Denis dishes on her son, her success and her svelte new figure.

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Marilyn Denis

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arilyn! Your hair looks fantastic!” shrieks a woman in the Toronto audience of The Marilyn Denis Show. The show is on a commercial break and even though Denis is talking to her team in between quick sips of water, she responds, “Why thank you! You like it?” “Yes,” returns the star-struck fan, “you look amazing.” “It’s because I’m skinnier,” Denis emphasizes with a shrinking hand gesture. “I’ve lost 30 pounds!” That weight loss is just the latest in a series of remarkable achievements that have characterized Denis’ 38 years in broadcasting. But of all her challenges and accomplishments, Denis says her toughest and best job was raising her now 26-year-old son, Adam. Read on to find out how the skills and natural talent Denis brought to her award-winning broadcasting career also helped see her through the tough teen and early adult years. Trail-blazing career Born in Edmonton and raised in Pittsburgh, Denis worked as a broadcaster in both Idaho and Calgary, where she held various radio and television positions including on-air disc jockey, programmer, music director, and weather & traffic reporter before landing the job in 1986 that still identifies her today — the co-host on what’s now known as the Roger, Darren & Marilyn show on Toronto’s 104.5 CHUM FM. Her candour and sense of humour not only made her a fan favourite on radio, but she was also popular for her ability to connect with people on the hit TV show CityLine, which she hosted for nearly 20 years.

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someone is not being the greatest influence on your child,” says Denis. “Those are all important things. You have to be aware of what they’re doing.” Today, it’s that same candour parenting moments that weren’t This open-and-honest polibehind the success of CTV’s The made for TV — especially once cy is what led to some serious Marilyn Denis Show – Canada’s Adam hit the tumultuous teens. heart-to-hearts between her No. 1 original lifestyle series. “Let me tell you, boys are and Adam, be it about his life, That success has come in e-stinko,” she says. “Grade 10 — school or even sex — something other forms, too. A triple Gemini awful. They don’t need you physi- she advises any moms curAward-winner (including back-to- cally, but they need you mentally, rently in the thick of raising a back Viewers Choice Awards), so you have to always be one teen should do. “Listen to what Denis also received The Rosalie step ahead of them.” For Denis, they’re saying and what they’re Award in 2006, which honours this meant letting him grow and not saying,” she says. “Instead Canadian women who have be who he was, while always of banging out advice, just listen paved the way for others in radio ensuring to ask the crucial ques- more than you speak.” broadcasting. Marilyn is also listed tions — including those surroundAnd even with a hectic schedas one of Canada’s Most Powerful ing where her son was going and ule, never shrug off your child’s Women: Top 100 by WXN, celewith who. Friends of Adam were request on a whim. “I know parbrating female leaders and role always welcome to hang out at ents are all tired and tend to say, models. Yet ask her for the secret the house and Denis encouraged ‘Ya, OK, go ahead,’ but I never to her success and the answer is her son to invite them over. said that. I would tell Adam, ‘I as down-to-earth as the person “This way I could see who the need 20 minutes to think about a giving it. “I love what I do,” she players were, and I made sure I decision that you’ve been thinksays, simply. “It’s ever-changing. I connected with those players. ing about for the last week and love connecting with people. And And I made sure that when I you’re just telling me about it mostly, I love learning. And I learn went to a function at school to right now. If I say ‘no’, it’s my call. every day with this job.” ask Adam, ‘Who’s Chris’ mothThat’s it.’ There were a lot of nos.” er?’’ Then I would go up and There was also a bit of conThe toughest job — introduce myself because I frontation — as any mom with a being mom thought they would be too shy to teen or young adult can relate Denis doesn’t restrict learning to come up to me.” The benefit of to. “He didn’t like me for a while,” the broadcast studio. In fact, she knowing the key players in your she remembers. “One time we says her best — and hardest — job child’s life? “The more informed were at home and the phone is being a mom. you are as parent, the more you started ringing. I couldn’t get to Denis admits she had some can troubleshoot and can tell if it and he wasn’t answering it, so

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“Instead of banging out advice, just listen more than you speak.”


I asked him, ‘why didn’t you get the phone?’ He said, ‘because the call was for you.’ I said, ‘you live in this house, you answer the phone when it’s ringing’. He said, ‘I don’t have to do it if I don’t want to.’ Well, I said...’f*** off!’ He was so appalled, he didn’t talk to me for two weeks.” Although Denis questioned her use of the f-bomb, ultimately she decided it was OK. “It was one of those moments I will never forget,” she says. “But we resolved our issues and it was a moment where we started carving out our adult relationship.” Losing it Although viewers can tune into The Marilyn Denis Show seven days a week, they are seeing a lot less of Denis these days. Between a healthy weight loss program that incorporates two protein shakes, one meal and two snacks per day, plus a regular exercise regime, Denis has shed an impressive amount of weight. “I worked out for a long time, but got to a point where I didn’t like the way I looked or felt,” says Denis. “It’s not that I let myself go, I just had so many things happening in my life that I didn’t focus on myself.” Today, Denis says she’s “in the

(top) With actress and author Suzanne Somers; (right) With Joe Zee, celebrity stylist and creative director for ELLE Magazine.

zone,” which means she works out three to four times a week with a trainer. “Do I want to go? Not once,” she laughs. “But we have to work out. We just have to.” To make it work, despite the fact that Denis rises at 3:30 each morning to get to her early-morning radio job, she carves out time in the afternoon for her workout. Scheduling, she says, is the key to sticking to it. “Get out your day timer and plan your week so you can dedicate some time to yourself to work out,” she says. “If that means getting up early before the kids get up — do it.” Finally, she adds, for those battling the bulge, heed this advice: “Just be kind to yourself. Take care of yourself.” Simple, true, succinct. What we’ve come to love and expect from Denis. ■

THE MARILYN DENIS SHOW airs live MondayFriday at 10 a.m. ET on CTV, 11 a.m. ET on CTV Two, livestreamed on the CTV GO app, and is available on demand following the broadcast at Marilyn.ca (check local listings). Fans can also watch MARILYN on the weekend, visit CTV.ca for full schedule.

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“Vacations create a unique opportunity to see your partner at his or her very best” thoughts on why couples-only vacations are important, worthwhile and, yes, even necessary.

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What jetting off to a faraway destination does is create opportunities for your kids to experience the supervision of other personalities. “Allowing kids to learn how to receive care and follow instruction from other persons of authority, especially during the adolescent stage, is a fantastic experience for them. Ultimately it supplies a small taste of what the real world is like,” Howe says.

They fan the flames When it comes to keeping the spark alive, routine can make life mundane. The fix: variety. From foods and activities to places and experiences, think outside the box when you’re away from home, says Howe, and don’t be afraid to do something you’ve never done before — think moun- They boost your tain hiking, scuba diving or surfing self-confidence — and do it together. “When you’re on vacation, you’re not bogged down with daily rouThey benefit your kids tines and responsibilities,” says Yes, getting out of Dodge is good Howe. Instead, she says you’re for your marriage, but it’s benemore likely to lower your inhibificial for your kids, too. “It helps tions, feel more adventurous, and them learn that their parents’ put extra effort into trying new lives don’t always revolve around things and looking your best. The them,” she says. “Showing your bottom line: “Vacations create a children that you have an interest- unique opportunity to see your ing life full of new things, as well partner at his or her very best.” ■ as a solid relationship with your spouse, are two of the best things you can do for your children.” They prepare kids for life As kids grow and schedules fill up, visits with grandparents and extended family members tend to slip down the list of priorities.

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Spring skincare

Cleansers Look for: Light, moisturizing gels

or lotions

Why: Products used in the winter

add a protective barrier to skin so it’s less affected by harsh temperatures and indoor heating. But when temperatures rise, skin is typically oilier, says Dr. Graf, so switching to a creamy formula with hyaluronic acid is a good bet for drier skin, while oilier complexions will benefit from cleansers containing salicylic acid.

QUICK CHANGE

Try: Neutrogena Naturals Purifying Facial Cleanser, $12; Dermalogica Skin Clearing Wash, $47

Expert advice on how to spring clean your skincare routine. by Liz Bruckner

If there is a universal truth when it comes to winter, it’s that skin takes a beating. But spring is on the horizon, and with it comes more civilized, gentle-on-skin temperatures. To help get your face ready we consulted Dr. Jeannette Graf, a New York dermatologist, and Nicky Potter, director of education and training for Toronto-based SkinHealth Canada, for their best spring-cleaning advice. inbetween

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Exfoliants

Sunscreens

Look for: Manual or chemical scrubs

Look for: SPF 15 or higher

Why: The combination of dry indoor

Why: If you skipped out on

heat and heavy moisturizers can cause a buildup of dead skin cells that leave your face looking patchy and dull. Exfoliating twice a week will help rejuvenate it, revealing a smooth glow, says Dr. Graf. Try: Consonant 20% Exfoliating Clay Bar, $18; Roc Soft Smoothing Scrub, $19

AM Moisturizers Look for: Light lotions or

hydrating serums

Why: Even if you feel like

your skin could benefit from a dose of your winter moisturizer, it’s best to avoid, says Potter. “Heavier formulas in the spring can lead to clogged pores, blackheads and acne, while lighter creams — especially those with antioxidants and vitamins — impart skin with the nourishment it needs.”

Try: Environ AVST 1 Moisturizer, $85; NeoStrata Moisture Infusion 24-Hour Hydrating Serum, $38

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sunscreen during winter, spring is not the time to keep the momentum going. Protect skin with a broad spectrum sunscreen with an SPF of at least 15, and apply it at least once a day. Try: Kiehl’s Super Fluid UV Defense SPF 50, $36; Clinique City Block Sheer Oil-Free Protector SPF 25, $25

PM Moisturizers Look for: Hydrating, but not heavy, creams Why: Temperatures are rising, indoor

heating is a thing of the past and humidity is in the air. This means your skin is now able to hold onto moisture, and a lighter hydrating night cream boosts that effect without causing breakouts. Try: Estée Lauder Advanced Night Repair, $72; Aveeno Fresh Essentials Hydrating Night Cream, $20 ■


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WORKOUT:

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If you spent the last few months hiding under bulky sweaters and inhaling copious amounts of comfort food, you’re not alone. Luckily, with purpose and dedication, there’s plenty of time to tone your tum for spring. The bonus: Not only will these effective moves tighten your midsection, your lower back will experience a support boost, your flexibility and range of motion will improve, and you’ll get a leg up on posture issues to boot.

The move: Shoulder, Shoulder, Hip, Hip Target: Waist/Obliques

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your body straight from your head to your tailbone. Tap your left shoulder with your right hand, then tap your right shoulder with your left hand. Next, tap your right hand to your left hip while keeping hips in line and your bum down. Repeat on the other side When working your abs, pull your belly button into your with your left hand tapping your right hip. spine. It will strengthen your lower back. Keep shoulders still. Do 10 reps.

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The move: shin ball balance crunches Target: upper/lower abs

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HOW-TO: Start on your back with your thighs vertical at a 90-degree angle and your shins horizontal. Place a ball in the middle of your shins being careful not to grip the ball with your feet. When you find the perfect balance, use your hands to support your neck and crunch up, lifting from your chest as though your nose or chin were reaching for your knees. Be sure to lift your shoulder blades off the floor. Do 20 reps.

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standing weight side dips Target: obliques/middle abs HOW-TO: Stand with your feet hipwidth apart and hold a three-pound weight in each hand. Keeping your chest open, lean to the right and reach the weight down your leg. Take your time and work within your flexibility. Lean to the right and lift your left arm, stretching it up and over your body. Extend as far as you can, then use your abs to lift yourself and gently lean to the other side. Do 20 reps on each side.

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Final thrill

Berry Pretty Pulling off the soft berry pout seen on multiple spring 2014 runways starts with a pre- and postapplication plan. Coat lips with a conditioning balm before applying colour, then blot and add a light dusting of powder to enhance the final effect.

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