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Fresh Start

Secret #1 You are not the little voice in your head You know the little voice I’m referring to, right? The one that talks to you 24/7 and fills your mind with fears and doubts? The one that says, “You’re not good enough. Don’t do that. People might laugh. Those pants make you look fat.” Yup, that little voice. As adults we sort of take this little voice for granted and may or may not listen. Teens, however, often don’t realize someone in their head is narrating their life—and that they’re listening! Explain to your teen that this little voice can be responsible for feelings of self-doubt and anxiety and that they have the power to shut it off.

Secret #2 You can quiet your inner critic Once you introduce your teen to their little voice, it’s only fair to tell them how to quiet it down. Sit with your teen and tell them that you’re both going to take 30 seconds to listen to your little voices. When you’re done, share some of what your little voice said

Secret #3 Do not fear emotions Let’s face it, there are many moments of stress and high drama when you’re a teen. Teens, like many adults, are easily consumed by the drama and are quick to avoid the emotions resulting from said drama (also like adults...ahem). Why not teach your teen not to fear these emotions but to just sit with them and experience them? Tell them it’s OK to feel sad, mad, angry, guilty, hurt and disappointed. Let them get it all out but tell them when they’re done, they’re done. Heck, you could actually time them and let them know when their time is up, if that helps. This is actually a great opportunity to introduce the power of present moment awareness and the fact that the past is over and the future only exists in their minds. It doesn’t hurt to distract them with Starbucks or, in my case, some shoe shopping to help them recover, but you go ahead and use whatever works for your teen.

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INBETWEEN Dec/Jan 2014-2015  

Our holiday issue is packed with fun stories crafted for every parent of a teen! Featuring stunning gift guides and getting glowing skin to...

INBETWEEN Dec/Jan 2014-2015  

Our holiday issue is packed with fun stories crafted for every parent of a teen! Featuring stunning gift guides and getting glowing skin to...