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Financial Are You a Tired Landlord?

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Outdoor Living Featured Story CCD Smiles: One In A Million

Fitness Maintain Your Fitness Lifestyle Fight the Flu with Fitness 15

Winter Can Be Enjoyable; Get Active, Educated, and Excited!

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Give Yourself the Gift of Self Care

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NOVEMBER/DECEMBER 2017 On The Cover: Gaten Matarazzo from Stranger Things and CCD Smiles

Health

Coming Out: Part 3 – Now That My Teen Has Come Out – What Do I Do Now? 24 When the Holidays Hurt 26

Discovering You Have ADHD As An Adult 17 Redefining the Term “Mommy Makeover” 18

Nutrition Create A Healthy Holiday Season Savoring Meals During Holiday Season and Beyond 20

Healthy Holiday Shopping Guide Daily Herald’s Own Doug Fox’s Quick Wit 30

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Meet Our Staff 6 Letter from the Editor UVU Letter 10 Community Focus 11 Calendar of Events 28

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M E E T O U R S TA F F

Lisa Goff, RYT Editor

Alesha Sevy Kelley Creative Consultant

Terrin Parker, PT Associate Editor

Wendy Thueson, MH Author, Nutrition

Travis Lott, CPT, CNS Author, Fitness

Kelli Bettridge, CPT, FNS Author, Fitness

Phil Scoville, LMFT Author, Family Wellness

Triston Morgan, PhD, LMFT Executive Editor

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FROM THE EDITOR

The holidays are here! And with it comes all the joy and stress of the season. So many people to see, gifts to buy and memories to make! I noticed several years ago that my list of holiday traditions just kept getting longer and longer and my joy during the season faded more and more. I finally realized that a shorter list would probably equal more joy. So, I sat down and took a hard look at my “to-dos”. The first thing to go was our annual Christmas letter. I love this tradition, but getting the letter written and in the mail, was causing me a good deal of stress. I wanted to focus on the things that bring joy, not stress.

After whittling several things off my list (does everyone in the whole neighborhood really need a gift?) I asked my family to each tell me one thing that was most important to them at the holidays. They asked for Gingerbread houses, Christmas caroling, and sledding, but nobody said, “the house being really clean” or “a fancy Thanksgiving dinner”. That’s when it hit home, elaborate decorations, Pinterest neighbor gifts, gourmet meals and a spotless house are not the things my children will remember - it’s the disaster they create every year making a gingerbread village, singing carols at the hospital and hot chocolate after a long day of sledding.

So, as the holiday panic starts to set in, I remind myself that less is more. If I focus my energy on a few memorable traditions, and let go of some of the not so memorable ones, there will be joy and maybe even a little peace this holiday season!

May you find time for the people and traditions that matter most to you and best wishes for a joyful holiday season!

Lisa Goff Editor

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Over the past 20+ years, UVU’s School of Education has grown from just a few students in early childhood and elementary education to nearly 1,000 in teacher education and autism studies programs. Over these years we have added 18 secondary teaching subject areas, a new K-12 special education teacher preparation program, and a graduate degree with multiple areas of emphasis including support for practicing teachers and a new focus on Applied Behavior Analysis to support Autism professionals. Our graduates have a profound positive impact on the quality of life many in our community are able to experience. We are pleased that our teacher education programs are nationally accredited through both the Teacher Education Accreditation Council (TEAC) and the Council for Accreditation of Educator Preparation (CAEP). Our autism programs are certified by the Behavior Analyst Certification Board (BACB). Each of these councils and boards ensures that our programs meet the highest expectations for impactful professional practice. Our first master’s degree program began in August 2008. Students enrolled in the Master of Education program focus on options including elementary STEM, teacher leadership, English as a second language, elementary mathematics, educational technology, gifted and talented education, reading, and applied behavioral analysis. The School of Education is committed to helping meet educational and community support needs within our service region. As an example, we are collaborating with our colleagues across UVU and within the community to provide autism support services. The Melisa Nellesen Autism Center is now housed in a new, functional support facility. In this new space, we have also established two demonstration classrooms to model effective instructional support strategies for school professionals who work with children on the autism spectrum.

Parker Fawson Dean, School of Education Utah Valley University Parker Fawson has served as dean of the School of Education at Utah Valley University since 2013. Prior to coming to UVU he was an associate dean of the College of Education at the University of Kentucky, and chair of the Department of Curriculum and Instruction. Before joining the faculty at the University of Kentucky, Dr. Fawson served as the assistant dean for Global Teacher Education, associate department head of the School of Teacher Education and Leadership, and chair of the Elementary Education Program at Utah State University. In addition to his classroom teaching, which includes teaching first, third, fourth, and sixth grades, he served as a reading consultant for local schools and school districts. He has authored or coauthored over two dozen publications. Dr. Fawson received a bachelor’s degree in elementary education from Weber State University, a master’s of education in educational leadership and a doctorate of education in reading and language arts from Brigham Young University.

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The School of Education is also known for its efforts to improve the preparation of impactful teachers. We provide programming that prepares our graduates to teach effectively within rapidly advancing expectations for learning. We are exploring methods to better induct our graduates into school contexts through embedded programming that allows our students to work closely with teachers on a more frequent basis. We also provide our education students with opportunities to student-teach in strategically identified international and domestic locations. This enhances their ability to better support a diverse student population in our Utah classrooms. Our students also demonstrate their preparation to teach by successfully completing a pre-professional performance assessment. As we enjoy this holiday season and approach a new year, we are excited about the many options our students have as they prepare for productive careers in education and autism support. Our graduates truly make a difference in the lives of those they support. Warmest regards,

Parker Fawson

Parker Fawson Dean, School of Education Utah Valley University


Community

Spanish Fork is a unique city in many ways. From a city owned cable and fiber internet network, to a metered secondary water system, years before it was required, Spanish Fork has been known to be “ahead of the curve” and willing to work for solutions. We’re known as the City of Pride and Progress. In the winter of 2015 we were asked if we would be willing to play a role in another problem, one that we learned was bordering on a crisis, the physical and mental health of our citizens. With all of the essential services a City provides to its residents, none of them can be fully enjoyed without a basic level of physical and mental health. We set out in 2016 to help in both these areas and we haven’t looked back since. We were fortunate enough to be awarded a grant from Intermountain Healthcare through the Utah League of Cities and Towns to help find and fund the programs that could help our citizens be more active and healthy. Here are just a few of the evidence-based programs we’ve implemented in the last year: • We started a Facebook page that has quickly become a resource for citizens. There are tips on how to be healthy with their families and friends, complete with weekly contests and insights from local health professionals. • We’ve put on assemblies in schools to remind our kids to start good habits while they’re young. • We’ve built an outdoor fitness area comprised of all-weather equipment at our award-winning Sports Park, just steps off the seven-mile trail that follows the river. • We’ve engaged our faith based leaders and local medical professionals to offer training, in conjunction with Utah County, on how to deal with someone struggling with mental anxiety and even suicide. • We’ve started an annual “Health and Wellness Fair” that engaged over 35 local businesses and thousands of residents for a day of healthy education, prizes, and guest speakers. The problems we face as a community are real. We are one of the higher statistical areas in the county and state when it comes to challenges with physical and mental health. We aim to meet those challenges head on and curb the trend with our great citizens of Spanish Fork. We welcome all ideas and input as we continue on this journey. Feel free to join with us, in the City of Pride and Progress.

Spanish Fork has been known to be “ahead of the curve” and willing to work for solutions. We’re known as the City of Pride and Progress.

Steve Leifson Spanish Fork Mayor

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One In A Million CCD is short for Cleidocranial Dysplasia. CCD is a rare birth defect that affects the development of bones and teeth. Individuals with CCD have underdeveloped collarbones, delayed or absent closing of their skull bones (soft spot), and multiple dental abnormalities. CCD occurs once in every one million births and is caused by mutations to the RUNX2 gene. CCD can be a random mutation or an autosomal dominant condition passed on from an affected parent.

By Kelly Wosnik, DNP I am the only one in my family with CCD (Cleidocranial Dysplasia), which was a random mutation. Having CCD influenced my studies and career choices. I have always been fascinated by the body, genetics, and helping others with physical or emotional health problems. I started my career as an emergency room registered nurse. I did my Master’s thesis on CCD and then went on to obtain a Doctorate in Nursing Practice (DNP) degree. I have been a nurse practitioner for the past 14 years, working in family medicine and mental health. My background in medicine helps 12 www.utvalleywellness.com

me better understand CCD. I want to share my experience and medical understanding with others. I was born in Reedley, California in 1975. When I was born, it was obvious to my parents and doctors that something was wrong. My body, mostly my head, was shaped differently than a “normal” baby’s. At 3 months of age, I was diagnosed with Cleidocranial Dysplasia. I grew up knowing I was different. The most difficult part of CCD was all the oral and facial surgeries. My baby teeth never fell out on their own, my permanent teeth didn’t grow in on their own, and I had several extra

teeth which had to be surgically removed. Everything in my mouth had to be done manually. I started having oral surgeries at age 7 and I spent most of my Christmas, Spring, and Summer breaks undergoing surgery. My last major surgery was when I was 19 years old. CCD dental treatment was not easily navigated. My dentists, orthodontists, and oral surgeons had never treated anyone with CCD. Everything they tried was experimental. Medical insurance and dental insurance did not cover the cost of my surgeries. Medical


Pictured below: A few of my friends, from left to right: Emmett is a comedian and uses his shoulder touching tricks (due to not having collarbones) in his comedy routines. Gaten is 15 years old and the star of Stranger Things. Steffani and her daughter are the first people I met with CCD. They live in Spanish Fork. “Donate to CCD Smiles. You don’t have to do much, just anything to help a kid smile.” ~ Gaten “I like to say that the most beautiful thing a girl can wear is a smile.” ~ Hally

CCD Smiles can be found in the media and on social media— Instagram, Facebook and Twitter (@ccd_smiles, “If you have a smile you feel confident about, you can change the world.” ~ Steffani “For me, obviously, it’s important because I lived through it. People might say it doesn’t happen that often, why should we care? The number of people that have it might be small, but having it is huge.” ~ Emmett

CCD SMILES MISSION STATEMENT We bring global awareness, provide assistance for dental care, and support research to improve outcomes and quality of life for individuals with cleidocranial dysplasia.

“Our smiles have more than dental work behind them.” ~ Kelly

insurance considered my teeth problems to be dental. Dental insurance considered the surgeries cosmetic. My parents were paying for my surgeries until I was in college. When I was growing up, I didn’t know anyone with CCD. In 2001, technology helped me to connect with other people with CCD for the first time. I heard about other people’s experiences as I conducted phone interviews for my Master’s thesis “CCD: The lived experience.” Eight years ago, I met Steffani and her daughter Hally, who have CCD, for the very first time.

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CCD Smiles I felt inspired to create a nonprofit organization to help others with CCD. I started working on the foundation in 2013. In 2016, Gaten Matarazzo’s dad contacted me. Together, we made CCD Smiles an official IRS approved nonprofit organization in January 2017. Since it’s official beginnings, we have had gatherings and fundraisers across the country. I have met 38 other people with CCD, which has been a tremendous blessing in my life. Gaten Matarazzo, from the series Stranger Things, is a huge part of bringing awareness to CCD. As his popularity in Hollywood has grown, so has familiarity with CCD and CCD Smiles. CCD Smiles is still in its infancy, but you can go to www.ccdsmiles.org to learn more about us and watch us grow! Currently, the website is a place for donations, purchasing CCD swag and education about CCD. In

the future, the website will be a place where those with CCD can connect, share pictures, exchange stories, and find hope. I want others to know they are not alone. It will also provide current and accurate medical information, written in plain English. Doctors, dentists, orthodontists, and surgeons can come together and discuss treatment, research, and options for their patients. As CCD Smiles grows and donations are made, we can help cover the costs of oral/ facial surgeries. If insurance isn’t going to help, then we can. I don’t want the medical/dental expense to keep parents from being able to provide beautiful smiles for their children. My ultimate dream is coming true. July 13-15, 2018 will be the first national CCD conference in Salt Lake City. Watch the website for more information. If anyone is interested in donating time, money, or talents to this event, please email me at kellywosnik@ ccdsmiles.org.

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Maintain Your Fitness Lifestyle By Kelli Bettridge, CPT, FNS

About the Author Kelli is a CPT and is FNS certified. She currently trains clients at Level 212 Fitness. Kelli earned her Bachelor of Science Degree in Exercise Science from Utah Valley University where she currently teaches Fitness for Life.

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As we roll into the winter months, fitness can be more and more difficult to stay on top of. To help avoid the “Utah winter hibernation” I want to give 4 tips that have helped me to take control of the bleak Utah winters and be able to maintain my fitness lifestyle! 1. Make time for exercise. The most difficult thing about transitioning from summer to winter is planning. During the summer it can be easy to be active just by default. We can ride our bike, go for a walk, and participate with friends and family in outdoor activities without thinking twice about it. During the winter, these activities are not anywhere near as easy to do, if possible at all. So it requires planning to attend a fitness class, go to the gym, etc. So be sure and plan your workout and make it a priority. 2. Find a friend to workout with. We all know how hard it can be to get a fitness routine going in the winter. When it is cold outside the thought of leaving our warm bed and going to work out is less than desirable. Finding a friend that has similar fitness goals will help keep you motivated and accountable! Another substitute for this is hiring a personal trainer, even just initially, to help develop those habits. 3. Find a new winter hobby. During summer, it can be easy to get a quick workout in by just stepping outside and going for a walk. The cold brings unique opportunities to try something new! I personally love snowboarding, and it provides a great workout. Other things you might try is joining an indoor sports league, fitness classes at a local gym, indoor cycling, etc. 4. Be safe. In applying these tips, be sure that you have the right equipment and proper dress attire. One problem that I see, in the winter time is that people don’t dress adequately for winter sports and this can cause physiological problems. For example when running outdoors it is crucial to warm up properly, if we begin a jog by jumping right into it, the cold air can cause our respiratory tract to constrict, decreasing our flow of oxygen when our body needs it. This can lead to lightheadedness, dizziness, nausea, hypothermia, and other problems. If you are unsure on what might be needed, ask an expert. Winter can be an excellent time for fitness goals if combated properly! I would love to hear about the fun winter experiences that you have and any new winter activities that you find. You can reach out to me with these experiences and any questions you might have on instagram @trainerkelli or on Facebook! Have fun and be safe!


Fight the Flu with By Travis Lott CPT, CES, FNS, WLS

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This time of year seems to be when everyone you know and come in contact with is sick or just getting over a sickness. I’m talking particularly about the flu or common cold. Mothers are especially concerned this season, caring for little ones who are more prone to health issues than adults. We all know how much of a struggle it is when you get sick. You feel miserable, you miss work, in addition to missing work you might miss out on collecting a pay check; About the Author not to mention added doctor’s bills for yourself and Travis Lott is a certified for your family when your kids or spouse get it too. personal trainer, corrective The list goes on and on. What a pain! exercise specialist, certified Wouldn’t it be nice if there was a magic pill nutritionist, and certified or drug to drastically reduce the risk of getting weight-loss specialist at Leantrition. He has trained sick? Well, did you know we have one of the best many diverse individuals and preventative drugs known to man, available without groups over the years including a prescription? That’s right. It’s readily waiting for people of all ages, weight you. It’s called exercise! classes, and medical histories. When you exercise, your body has improved Many of his clients have seen very successful results that have blood flow, whether you’re hitting the weights or changed their lives. Travis is doing cardio. Increased blood flow means better passionate about the health circulation, and the better circulation you have, the industry and takes pride in stronger your immune system is at fighting illness helping others achieve a new, prior to it spreading throughout the body. This is healthy way of living. especially effective for colds and influenza (the flu). According to Jordan Metzl, a sports-medicine physician at New York City’s Hospital for Special Surgery and author of The Exercise Cure, “Exercise is the best preventative drug we have, and everybody needs to take that medicine.” So why don’t all of us take advantage of this medicine? Let’s see if I can convince you that exercise is your best bet. According to a recent Flu Survey by the London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine, vigorous exercise for at least two and a half hours per week can reduce your chances of catching the flu.1 The survey reads that 100 cases of flu per 1,000 people could be prevented each year. 2 That’s huge! Other studies have shown the ability of moderate exercise to fend off colds, the longer you participate in an exercise program, the more effective it is.3 That is why it is so important to always keep exercise as part of your routine. Besides helping prevent short term illness, exercise does so much more for you in preventing long term diseases and physical ailments from cardiovascular disease to various cancers, joint and structural issues, and so much more. Here are a few more tips to help prevent illness. Getting proper nutrition, the right amount of daily sleep, and enough water will go a long way when kept in check constantly. So please, take care of your body and your body will take care of you. Preventing a visit to the doctor can possibly pay for an entire year of a gym membership, especially since medical costs are drastically increasing these days. Investing in your health now will indeed save you hard-earned dollars in the short term and the long term. Act now! London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine, Flu Survey 2014 | BBC News March 16, 2014 3 American Journal of Medicine November 2006: 119(11); 937-942.e5 1 2

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HD D A As An Adult By Aaron Allred, PhD Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is not just a childhood disorder. As a neurodevelopmental disorder, ADHD is usually identified in childhood, but several individuals reach adulthood without being accurately identified as having the condition. An estimated 8 million adults in the United States suffer from ADHD. In many of these cases, it is attention, rather than hyperactivity, which is the primary problem; this form of the disorder, formerly called “ADD,” is one of the more common types of ADHD in adults. Missing ADHD in Childhood While all adults who meet criteria for ADHD will always manifest some form of significant symptoms in childhood, the level of impact of these symptoms can be quite variable. Several children do not manifest the hyperactive or impulsive symptoms sometimes associated with the condition. Their behavior in the classroom and at home may not be entirely problematic. Instead of being disruptive, talkative, or irresponsible, they may only appear forgetful or flighty. Some children learn how to hide their distractibility or compensate for attention concerns. They may be embarrassed by their limitations, but may be motivated to keep up appearances. Some children are able to compensate for attention concerns with high intelligence, perseverance, flexibility, creativity, and other strengths. Many children might have difficulty understanding their symptoms. They might lack insight into whether there is a problem. They might not verbalize their symptoms in a way which would impel an adult to seek a consultation. Because of these reasons, the full impact of ADHD-related symptoms in a child may not be obvious to others. When parents or teachers do not see that there could be a problem, it is unlikely that the child will be referred for an assessment. Even more obvious cases are not always given the opportunity to be assessed for ADHD. Some parents may believe that there is a problem, but may be hesitant to access mental health services. Noticing the Impact of ADHD As academic demands, work demands, and household responsibilities increase in adulthood, problems with attention can

become more noticeable and more frustrating. Some adults may question whether they themselves have a problem as they see their siblings or their own children struggle with symptoms of the disorder. Many of the risk factors for ADHD, after all, are genetic factors. Adults who previously felt like they had effectively covered up their attention problems may sense that their coping mechanisms are losing their effectiveness.

About the Author Aaron Allred received a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Brigham Young University in 2012. He specializes in psychological assessment and is experienced in diagnosing ADHD, learning disorders, mood disorders, anxietyrelated disorders, intellectual disabilities, Autism Spectrum Disorder, and other disorders. He currently works as an associate of Bristol Health in Orem, Utah.

How ADHD can be Identified For adults who believe their own attention problems may have flown under the radar, there is a way to determine whether ADHD is present. Self-report questionnaires, used to compare an individual’s symptoms to hundreds or thousands of other individuals, can be helpful in providing information about the problem, but these are just one aspect of a comprehensive evaluation. An individual’s developmental history is important and this is usually obtained through a comprehensive interview with a psychologist, psychiatrist, or other qualified mental health provider. Computerized tests and performance-based tests can also help to assess the full extent of the problem. Sometimes attention problems can be due to normal forgetfulness. Sometimes these problems can be directly caused by depression or anxiety. Sleep problems and other medical problems can also negatively influence attention. Not everything that looks like ADHD is ADHD. Participating in a psychological assessment with a qualified provider can be an effective way to know the difference. Understanding the cause of symptoms is the first step in finding ways to improve. Utah Valley Health & Wellness Magazine | November/December 2017 17


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y m m o “M ” r e v o e Mak By Nicholas Howland, MD I frequently hear the term “mommy makeover” in my line of work. Patients request a “mommy makeover”, doctors advertise their particular skill in providing a “mommy makeover”…it has become engrained in the culture of plastic surgery. I think this is a mistake. The term by itself excludes so many people who could benefit from these procedures. A “mommy makeover” is not only for women who have seen their body change through pregnancy, but is applicable to all women and changes seen not only through pregnancy and child birth but also cycles of weight gain/weight loss and just aging in general. Furthermore, the procedures offered through a “mommy makeover” are just as applicable to men! Our skin is the largest organ in the human body. It can undergo some pretty drastic changes in order to accommodate a new life growing inside of us or even an entire pizza during a night of binge eating and watching “Friends” reruns. Life and gravity also have a way of drastically changing our skin—fat deposits in troublesome areas, breasts start to droop away from their once perky position, and stretch marks form just as a permanent reminder of it all. These are the things that diet and exercise and all the healthy living just aren’t going to fix. That’s when patients come into my office. The biggest complaints I get are about sagging breast tissue and breasts that are now smaller than they were before pregnancy. Just behind that is the loose abdominal skin and stretch marks. “I go to the gym everyday. I do nothing but crunches and ab workouts and I just can NOT get this looking better.” This is a story I literally hear every single day. The options available to fix these problems are many. Most commonly, a breast lift with or without a breast augmentation (breast implants) is done to treat the breasts. For the stomach, there is usually loose skin as well as abdominal muscles that have been 18 www.utvalleywellness.com

stretched. This is called “rectus diastasis” and will certainly NOT improve without surgery no matter the number of crunches one does. An abdominoplasty (tummy tuck) is done to fix these problems. This removes the excess skin while at the same time the stretched out stomach muscles are tightened on the inside with a layer of permanent About the Author sutures. Often times, liposuction is Dr. Howland was born and added to these procedures to better raised in Murray, Utah. He recently has returned home shape and contour the abdomen. These after ten years of training are not the only procedures available plastic and reconstructive to fix these problems. There are many surgery at the hands of some other treatment options, both surgical of the very best mentors and leaders in the field. He is and non surgical, depending on the now based out of Draper, problem area as well as the extent of the partnering with Premier problem. The moral of the story here Plastic Surgery to provide is don’t just assume that the “mommy a full range of cosmetic surgery services as well as makeover” is just for mommys! Diet reconstructive plastic and exercise and a healthy lifestyle are surgery. always the best starting place for some of the problems we face with our skin and our own personal body image; however, sometimes diet and exercise and a healthy lifestyle are simply not enough. If you are a mommy, or a daddy, or just someone wanting to feel a little better about themselves, come in to see Dr. Howland at Howland Plastic Surgery for a free consultation!


Create A Healthy Holiday Season By Wendy P. Thueson

The holidays always seem to revolve around processed sugary treats. I used to indulge in these to the point of making myself sick. Emotional eating and a sugar addiction played a big role in my relationship with food. I felt very out of control and ashamed for the choices I was making, but I didn’t know how to stop. As I became aware of what my behavior was around food, I realized I had a choice. I could continue to play out the vicious cycle of addiction and self-loathing afterward or I could make a new choice. At first, it was very difficult, but over the years, I have developed new traditions to fit my new lifestyle. Here are some of the new traditions I’ve established to help me navigate through the holidays with ease.

HEALTHY HOLIDAY TIPS 1. SUBSTITUTIONS: Take favorite recipes and substitute with healthier ingredients. Recipes with dry sugar ingredients can be replaced cup for cup with coconut palm sugar, date sugar or xylitol instead. Recipes with wet sugar ingredients can be substituted with Mejool dates, honey, or maple syrup. 2. NEW RECIPES: Find new recipes that are healthy with wholesome ingredients online or in my recipe books, Reasonably Raw and Beautifully Raw. 3. PREPARE AHEAD: Make a batch of my raw brownies or coconut macaroons and put them in the refrigerator or freezer to enjoy when those tempting times come. These are excellent recipes to bring to cookie swaps too and share the recipes with friends. 4. FRUIT INSTEAD OF SUGAR: Choose fruit over sugar every time and eat plenty of it. Fruit is very healing and the sugars don’t react in the body like processed sugars do. The fiber from the fruit helps slow down the absorption of the fruit sugar. If you keep the total fat consumption for the day to about 10% or a handful a day, the sugars will go through the system and act as fuel, feeding every cell of the body. So, reduce the fat and increase the fruit and you’ll find your sugar cravings will disappear. 5. FOCUS ON OTHER THINGS: Create ways to take the focus off food and onto the meaning of the holiday instead. Spend quality time with family playing games, doing puzzles, reading stories and just having fun.

About the Author Wendy P. Thueson is owner of Raw Chef Wendy, LLC. She is a certified chef, master herbalist, and raw food coach. She is passionate about the healing power of plants and sharing her message of hope with others because of her life changing experience regaining her health in 2009. She suffered from chronic fatigue for 28 years, debilitating neck and back pain, brain fog, stuttering, Grave’s disease, and hypoglycemia to name a few. Wendy began eating a high amount of raw foods and using herbs medicinally. As a result, she is now symptom, pain and medication free. She educates all ages through hands-on classes, speaking at various events, and has been featured on television, radio and in magazines. She has authored several books and online programs to help others learn how to eat and live happier lives. She is an adoring wife and mother of four. You may find her at www.rawchefwendy.com.

6. BE AN EXAMPLE OF HEALTHY LIVING. If you want to hand out neighbor gifts, give them a jar of something you’ve preserved from canning season with a pretty fabric over the top and a hand-written note, a loaf of fresh baked bread, or a Christmas ornament or card. Showing your neighbors kindness during this season and throughout the year means a lot and keeps the community close together. 7. RESIST TEMPTATION: Bring your own healthy dessert to share or a large tray of fruit. To help resist the temptation to indulge choose to get out of the kitchen and socialize or do something else while everyone enjoys dessert. 8. HAVE CONFIDENCE in how you choose to live. Get rid of the ego, but stand tall as you do what you feel is best for you. Others will take notice and wonder what you are doing and want to know more. 9. SELF-CARE: As parents, mothers especially, we tend to put everyone else’s needs ahead of our own. What we don’t realize in doing this is that we eventually deplete ourselves of resources to help love and serve those around us. Then our health becomes a crisis. Do what is advised by the airplane stewards. Put the oxygen mask on yourself first so you stay alive and are effective at helping others.

At first it may be difficult or socially unacceptable to make changes like these. But in the long-run, if you stand firm, you will feel better, look better, have more energy, and be an excellent example to others. I remember going to parties the first year I decided to eat mostly raw foods. The pressure I felt was self-imposed but I’d get an occasional look from others around me and questions of what I was eating. It took me awhile to work through these emotions and realize that no one else was going to take care of my body. That was my responsibility. It was no longer worth feeling sick, ashamed, bloated, or in pain just to please everyone around me. As I took charge of my life and did what I knew was right for me, I felt happy and people noticed. Now, 8 years later, there are a lot healthier options on the Christmas dinner table. My family knows what I will and won’t eat and they do a great job of trying to support me in my efforts. I also bring healthy alternatives to share and get a lot of compliments on the taste as well. I feel more accepted and they ask questions about their own health challenges too. I’m always happy to share the knowledge I’ve learned. I hope these tips help you this holiday season. Please feel free to visit my website for more recipes and information at www.rawchefwendy.com. Utah Valley Health & Wellness Magazine | November/December 2017 19


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Anna is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist for University of Utah Dialysis Program and a consultant/ founder of private practice at Mind Your Nutrition. Her passion is providing simple, practical, delicious and nutritious solutions to improve and maintain health. She is an avid gardener, passionate cook, and a mother of two rambunctious boys.

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As we enter this fall season many of us are grieving a bit because summer, and its long funfilled days, are dwindling to an end. Noticeably cooler morning and evening temperatures are a pleasant change that not only prompt us to pull out cozy sweaters and scarfs (my favorite winter apparel!) but also bring about a feeling of approaching holiday celebrations. Holiday festivities are something that most people look forward to with excitement, but at the same time there is always a sense of stress and tension that wraps all those experiences. The part that I am interested in looking at and exploring is our eating habits during holiday times. Around this time of the year we start encountering a lot of coverage on eating tips during the holiday season. This article will not attempt to review the classic advice on what to eat before going to a party, how to maneuver around tables full of tasty food, and eat this vs. that. We are all pretty familiar with those tricks that are supposed to rescue and prevent us from overindulging. I would like to investigate this dilemma beyond nutrition and taste buds. It is a known fact that eating serves many purposes: nourishment of body for survival, pleasant taste experiences, social experiences, etc. Why do we feel like we are captives of these experiences during the holiday season and that food has so much power over us? There are a multitude of triggers. They are different for each individual and the extent to which they affect each person: stress, tiredness, hunger, anxiousness, excitement, etc. In my opinion and based on my personal and profession observation, I am suggesting that a potential reason for overindulging is a sense of scarcity and not being more present in day to day moments. Let me explain with just one example. The combination of ridiculously delicious freshly baked pumpkin pie served once a year and shared in a circle of beloved family and friends would definitely do the trick - making it easier for somebody to disregard physical or mental cues from their body. I can’t help but wonder how we would feel about pumpkin pie (or think of your other favorite holiday dessert or dish) if we gave ourselves permission or accepted the fact that we don’t have to have a holiday to prepare a certain dish? Yes, some foods are seasonal and therefore associated with certain holiday times, but in our day and age you can pretty much get any food item (in our case canned pumpkin) any time of the year. Will the pumpkin pie lose its special appeal during the holidays if you made it a few more times a year? No, because you still have other factors present that make that occasion special (family, friends) and the pie is still ridiculously delicious. Which takes me to the next point of being present in the moment. Don’t wait to spend time and share delicious food with family and friends until the holiday calendar tells you. Be spontaneous in making and eating foods that you enjoy, be it peach ice-cream in winter, pumpkin pie in spring, baked ham in summer or chocolate eggs in fall. With that in mind you can still look forward to eating special foods around the holidays, but you don’t have to feel like that is the only chance you get, because you can easily prepare or buy these anytime of the year if you really wanted to. Give yourself permission to celebrate any day! 20 www.utvalleywellness.com


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Are You a Tired Landlord? By Jared Schauers It takes a lot of hard work to own and operate a rental property. Bad experiences with a terrible tenant, maintenance emergencies in the middle of the night, and enormous liability are just some of the issues investors face as they become landlords. Often landlords reach a point where they want out. In most cases, they end up selling the property which is very unfortunate because they forfeit years of potential income, property appreciation, and tax benefits. If you are tired of being a landlord, don’t sell your property. Consider hiring a property manager instead. When you acquired the property, you probably thought of yourself as a real estate investor, but before you knew it, in dealing with the realities of rental property ownership you became a landlord. There is a big difference between being a real estate investor and a landlord. For example, real estate investors focus on high pay-out activities like studying the housing market and trends, learning profitable strategies, and finding their next deal. Landlords spend their time with filling vacancies, fixing leaky faucets, and solving tenant issues which can be time consuming, emotionally exhausting, and discouraging. Landlords who are struggling with one or two properties are not likely to add more properties to their portfolio when they spend so much time and energy being a landlord. START being a real estate investor and STOP being a landlord. Owning rental properties can be profitable. Partnering with a great property management firm is key. Some owners feel they can’t afford a property manager but serious investors say you can’t afford to not have professional management.

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By Summer Zemp, Therapist intern at the Center for Couples and Families. See page 31 Many of us look forward to the holidays all year. It is ironic that for so many it can also be one of the most stressful times as well. Family get togethers, work parties, shopping for gifts - on top of our regular daily commitments can quickly become overwhelming. Often in periods of high-activity we relegate our own needs to the bottom of the to-do list, but self-care is more than the buzzword de jour. It is a critical component to wellbeing and good health. On the surface, the notion of self-care feels easy to understand, but sometimes distilling it down to action items can be another story. Here are a few strategies to help give yourself the gift of an enjoyable holiday season. Be mindful of the moment. The term “mindfulness” often elicits images of serene yogis sitting in lotus position for hours on end. The truth is a mindfulness practice is accessible to everyone. UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center defines mindfulness as “the moment-bymoment process of actively and openly observing one’s physical, mental and emotional experiences.” Data shows impressive benefits to both physical and mental health for those with a practice of mindfulness. How do you start? Popular apps like Calm, Headspace, and Insight Timer, provide the uninitiated an easy entree into the moment. Simply taking one minute during an otherwise hectic morning to focus on your breath can do wonders. To do this, close your eyes while you inhale fully and deeply into the abdomen and exhale slowly and evenly. Let go of other thoughts while you visualize the process of air entering and

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exiting your lungs. Practice this one, quick technique regularly and you will see surprising benefits to your overall stress level and tolerance. Set boundaries. I have a mantra that I pull out in times of stress: “Remember the sacred ‘yes’ and the holy ‘no.’” The holidays especially are a time where our commitments and to-do lists can multiply by the minute. Cultivating an awareness of where your resources are going can help protect you from burnout and disappointment. Money is valuable, but so are other resources like time, energy, and emotional investment. Thoughtfully consider the big picture before saying “yes” to things you are not fully invested in or that don’t offer value in return. Sometimes the simple act of saying, “no” is the most generous gift you can give yourself. It can be hard at first. For many, saying “no,” brings us face-to-face with our need to please others at the expense of our own well-being. Take time to notice that resistance and evaluate if it serves you. That way when you do offer the “sacred yes,” it comes with a gratitude for the opportunity rather than resentment of obligation. Focus on the experience. Mile long shopping lists and slushy, holiday traffic can quickly zap the enjoyment from the season. Consider focusing more on creating experiences and infusing fun. Use holiday baking as an example. Try shifting the focus of this time-honored tradition to be less about the chore of cookie output and more about the opportunity to work together as a family to learn skills, strengthen bonds, and make memories that will be remembered for years. It is easy to get so caught up in our expectations of what we would like this time of year to be, that we end up missing the forest for the Christmas trees. Ultimately, the magic of the holidays lies in connection to those that matter most to us (ok, and maybe fudge). Mindfully allowing these winter weeks to be a time with fewer obligations and more intention, can open up space for enjoyment and appreciation for the gifts of the season as they unfold.

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Coming Out: Part 3

Now That My Teen Has Come Out –

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About the Author Lisa is clinical director of Flourish Counseling Services, PLLC, a clinic serving families of LGBTQ and SSA teens at Encircle, the youth and family LGBTQ-SSA resource center in Provo, Utah.

By Lisa Tensmeyer Hansen, LMFT “I’ve told my son that nothing changes, that I still love him, but I expect him to live the same standards as the rest of the family, and yet he seems more and more depressed. Why isn’t this working?”

“I don’t want my daughter’s ideas about being lesbian to influence the younger kids in the family, so I’ve told her not to talk about it at home.”

“I think if my son is going to wear makeup, he’s going to get made fun of at school. I can’t stop that.” In the September/October issue of Utah Valley Health and Wellness, I talked about parental self-care. It’s important for parents to have people to talk with who understand and don’t blame them for what they are feeling and experiencing. In the July/August issue, I talked about how to keep lines of communication open when a child “comes out” as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, etc. In this issue, we’re going to talk about how to keep you and your teen connected. Some families consider that their main responsibility to a child that comes out is to continue to teach truths about sexuality and gender, and to make sure their teen does not misunderstand or ignore these teachings. In my experience with hundreds of teens from

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good homes, this emphasis generally results in a disconnection that makes communication feel tense and difficult. Because teens need a good relationship with parents in order to navigate the experiences of being a healthy teen, I recommend that parents: 1)  Consider that your child may not be choosing to rebel against your teachings and beliefs as they learn new things about themselves and want to share them with you. 2) Recognize that your child knows where you stand with regard to teachings about sexuality and gender. 3) Learn to be open to hearing from your child what internalizing these ideas has been like (both recently and in the past). 4) Find out what your child’s hopes and dreams for themselves are, and how they may be changing. 5) Show respect for your child, especially as your child’s experiences are different from yours. These five things will make a dramatic difference in your child’s interest in reopening a relationship with you. The most important thing is that you – as a parent – remain a steadfast connection with the world

of respectful and loving relationship with your child. Children who do well – that is – avoid risky sex, drug abuse, alcohol abuse, and suicidal behaviors – have parents who show respect for their children’s sense of what is true about them. (For details about the retrospective studies of families who demonstrate accepting and rejecting behaviors and the outcomes for teens, see http://familyproject.sfsu.edu/) If you want help navigating how to support your teen while making sure they are safe and mentally healthy (especially if identifying as a gender or sexual minority goes against your beliefs), you may want to: 1)  Meet with other parents who have found peace in this journey (last issue listed several groups that meet in Utah County) 2) Meet with a therapist who can help you and your teen navigate issues of safety and mental health. Many families have found their way through this journey with greater love and appreciation for each other and for their relationships, which strengthens everyone, including parents and the younger children in the family.


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When the Holidays Hurt By Whitney Hebbert, MS, LAMFT

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For many people, the holiday season is a time of joy and magic, a time where people relive and create happy memories. They are moments of joyous gatherings filled with love, laughter and crowded tables. But if you are not one of those people, the holiday season can be very difficult to endure. For individuals who have experienced the loss of a loved one, abuse in childhood, or another tragedy or trauma, the holidays just remind you of that loss and pain. Your days may About the Author Whitney is a therapist at the not be merry and bright. Your days may feel American Fork Center for more gloomy, more isolating, and you may feel Couples and Families. She more disconnected from the world around you. received masters degrees from The holidays are here, and the holidays can BYU in Exercise Science hurt. and California Lutheran University in Counseling Maybe it’s because of the chairs that will be Psychology with an emphasis empty or the phone calls that won’t come. Maybe in Marriage and Family it’s the time off of work that allows you to think Therapy. Whitney ran cross about your life and feel the pain. Maybe it’s the country and track at BYU reminder that all of your holidays your whole and is an avid runner. She lives in Utah County with her life were negative and filled with dysfunction husband and three children. and abuse. And maybe it’s the perception that everyone else has the picture perfect holiday gatherings with all their loved ones. Whatever the reason may be, a heavy sadness can take hold of you and you don’t know how to shake it off. For many of us, depression, grief, and sadness are constants and we get used to fighting them off and keeping them at bay. There’s nothing like the holidays that make you feel like you not only have to have it all together, but you have to wrap it up with a bow and display it for the world to see. If you happen to be hurting this holiday season, I’d like to offer some helpful advice. Let it hurt. Allow yourself to feel the pain and allow it to come fully without altering or inhibiting it. Life is difficult and painful sometimes and it is okay that you are not okay during this time. You don’t need to pretend that you are. Emotional reactions are expected and there are no right or wrong feelings. Don’t hide it. Be as authentic as you can with the people you are closest to. Allow people who love you to be there for you and support you in your time of pain and distress. Let them see you and know you – not an edited, “better” version of yourself. Today is really just another day. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that it must be the most wonderful time of the year. It doesn’t have to be, and it clearly isn’t that this year. Practice self care. Be aware of yourself and what you’re feeling and if something is triggering and overwhelming. Allow yourself to disengage or leave a painful situation and attend to your pain. Only you truly know how you are feeling and what your boundaries and limitations are. Be true to yourself. Embrace this holiday as-is. You may feel overwhelmed and in pain, but there is still goodness to be experienced, even in the pain. There will be holidays in the future that are lighter and happier, and these difficult days are part of the healing path to get there. New traditions. New traditions can be healing and can help you create better connections to the loved ones in your life. If you have survived the loss of a loved one you can start a new tradition that symbolizes letting go, such as sending balloons or floating lanterns in the air. Above all, know that is okay to be blue during the holiday season.


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Shared Parenting Myths: Woozles and Zombies By Michelle Jones, LCSW

Custody and parent-time decisions are usually made by using what is called “The Best Interest of the Child” standard. This standard is intended to guard children from conflict and abuse, and to promote stability, but because it is vague, and not based on empirical evidence, it is susceptible to influences of what Edward Kruk, a social work researcher, describes as “judicial biases and preferences, professional self-interest, gender politics, the desire of a parent to remove the other parent from the child’s life, and the wishes of a parent who is found to be a danger to the child.”1 He argues that “a more child-focused approach to child custody determination is needed to reduce harm to children in the divorce transition and ensure their well-being.”2 What does the research show about the well-being of children of divorce? That shared physical parenting is the best custody determination for children. (This excludes cases of abuse, neglect and parents with no prior relationship.) So why isn’t this the norm in most cases? It is because of Woozles and Zombies. Woozles are myths and misrepresentations of research that are not supported by evidence, but because they keep being repeated, they are believed to be true.3 Linda Nielsen, psychologist and expert on shared parenting, explains, To summarize briefly, the words “woozling” and “woozles” come from the children’s story, “Winnie the Pooh.” In the story the little bear, Winnie, dupes himself and his friends into believing that they are being followed by a scary beast – a beast he calls a woozle. Although they never actually see the woozle, they convince themselves it exists because they see its footprints next to theirs as they walk in circles around a tree. The footprints are, of course, their own. But Pooh and his friends are confident that they are onto something really big. Their foolish behavior is based on faulty “data” – and a woozle is born.4 Nielsen continues, “Nobel Prize-winning economist and New York Times columnist Paul Krugman (2014) wrote about a similar concept that he called a ‘zombie,’—a belief that ‘everyone important knows must be true, because everyone they know says it’s true. It’s a prime example of a zombie idea—an idea that should have been killed by evidence, but refuses to die. And it does a lot of harm.’”5

Michelle Jones, LCSW, graduated from Brigham Young University in Clinical Social Work. She is the Director of Concordia Families, a clinic specializing in family-court involved therapy and reunification services. She has worked in Utah in several treatment centers, helping individuals and families for 17 years. She serves as a member of the executive committee of the National Parents Organization, whose mission is to promote shared parenting and family law reform.

Some common Woozles and Zombies of shared parenting, followed by what research actually shows, include: 1. Children want to live with only one parent and to have one home. Shared parenting is not worth the hassle. When adult children of divorce were asked, they said having a relationship with both parents was worth any hassle they experienced in moving between homes.6 2. Young children have one primary attachment figure, the mother, with whom they bond more strongly. Given this, it is hurtful for infants to spend any overnights with the other parent in the first year of life.7 The truth is that infants form different, but strong attachments to both parents and that “there is no evidence to support postponing the introduction of regular and frequent involvement, including overnights, of both parents with their babies and toddlers.”8 3. Where there is high conflict between the parents, children do better with sole custody. Shared parenting only increases the conflict and puts the children in the middle.9 Conflict remains higher in sole- than in shared-custody families. Most children are not exposed to more conflict in shared-parenting families. Maintaining strong relationships with both parents helps diminish the negative impact of the parents’ conflict.10 4. Shared parenting only works with those who agree to it, and is only successful for a small, cooperative group of parents who have little conflict. The research shows that even if shared parenting was originally mandated, it leads to better adjustment for the children and less longterm conflict between the parents.11 Sadly, Woozles and Zombies can distort the facts about best practices for custody arrangements, but the research evidence is clear and irrefutable that a shared parenting model is truly optimal for families and “traditional visiting patterns . . . are . . . outdated, unnecessarily rigid, and restrictive, and fail in both the short and long term to address [the child’s] best interests (Kelly 2007).”12

Kruk, E. (2012). Arguments for an Equal Parental Responsibility Presumption in Contested Child Custody. The American Journal of Family Therapy, 40(1), 33-55. DOI:10.1080/01926187.2011.575344 Nielsen, L. (2015). Pop Goes the Woozle: Being Misled by Research on Child Custody and Parenting Plans, Journal of Divorce & Remarriage, 56:8, 595-633, DOI: 10.1080/10502556.2015.1092349 Nielsen, L. (2015). Shared Physical Custody: Does It Benefit Most Children? Journal of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, 28, 79-138. 6,7,9,11 Nielsen, L. (2013, Jan. & feb.). Parenting Time & Shared Residential Custody: Ten Common Myths. https://issuu.com/nebraskabar/docs/janfeb_2013/1 Utah Valley Health & Wellness Magazine 1,2,12 5

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December December 1 - December 2 CHRISTMAS AROUND THE WORLD This holiday tradition showcases the rich ethnic diversity of the world through music and dance and features more than 200 dancers, singers, and musicians, colorful costumes and captivating choreography. For more information or tickets visit http://arts.byu.edu/event/ christmas-around-the-world

December 10 – December 20 NUTCRACKER Covey Center for the Arts Join Clara as she embarks on a magical journey filled with colorful characters, breathtaking costumes, and majestic scenery. This enchanting holiday classic has been a Utah Valley tradition for the past 35 years. Whether you’re seeing it for the first time or it’s an annual treat, kick off your holiday season in grand style making memories to cherish with the ones you love. Tickets available at utahregionalballet.org. December 16 – December 19 PIONEER CHRISTMAS It’s that time of year again! The Provo Pioneer Village Museum is pleased to host the Pioneer Christmas for yet another year. Come enjoy period music, square dancing, Victorian caroling, the warm fires of a cast-iron stove, and tell your Christmas wishes to an old-fashioned Father Christmas! The museum will be open on Friday December 16, Saturday December 17 and Monday December 19 from 6 to 8:30 PM. Suggested donations are $2 per person, $10 per family.

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Nicki Jackson Stained Glass (801) 636-3755 | nikkijackson1@yahoo.com Nikki Jackson Stained Glass Design I have been designing and making stained glass jewelry and décor for the past 20 years. I love using recycled and unique textured glass. I like to make pieces that are affordable, but still provide exquisite light and color for any room. You can find my work at Harmony in Provo, Dragonfly in Springville and at the Provo Beehive Bazaar. Anyone is welcome to contact me if they would like to come to my home studio to shop.

Happy Adventurer (203) 644-2021 | happyadventurer.etsy@gmail.com www.etsy.com/shop/HappyAdventurer Happy Adventurer is a handmade shop. Specializing in quilts, baby items, and home décor. Our goal is to provide quality, useful items without sacrificing style. We have stock items for the average adventurer, or we can bring your ideas to life through custom products. Visit our website to find out more or to place an order.

Kelsey Carlson Art (801) 991-0695 | kelseycarlsonart@gmail.com www.kelseycarlsonart.com Kelsey Carlson Art is your one stop shop for inspiring quotes & beautiful illustrations. Everything we produce is originally hand lettered and painted to make a home an inviting, beautiful place to be. Printed and packaged with care, each print you order will arrive ready to frame in a hand-addressed envelope. You’ll also be able to find the perfect gift for everyone on your list in our shop.

MTCgoodies.com (909) 786-6618 | thurgoodies@gmail.com www. MTCgoodies.com We are an online company. We deliver fresh baked goods, desserts, and gift baskets to the MTC, and Provo/Orem area.

Sport

The Gift of

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A local legend

Daily Herald’s own Doug Fox continues to entertain readers with his

quick wit

Fox was here during the Utah Jazz’s heyday in the 1990s, following their two trips to the NBA Finals, and witnessing their play courtside. He’s also been there to peek into the minds and talents of musicians and artists both nationally and only locally well-known. A highlight of his career was interviewing Eddie Van Halen. “Having these type of opportunities is the type of thing I never really envisioned happening when

As one of the Daily Herald’s longest-tenured employees, features editor

Doug Fox has picked up a lot of skills. Fox has been a journalist for 31 years, starting his career down in Cedar City and St. George before moving on to the Daily Herald, where he’s been for 26 years. During those many decades, he's worked in news, sports and feature reporting and editing, and won many awards as well. He decided on a career in journalism after some good advice from his father. “My Dad counseled me to figure out what my biggest passions were and to seek a career that somehow allowed me to pursue them. It turns out that the three things I loved the most were sports, music and writing. I was in my second year in college when I decided trying to combine writing and sports seemed like a good idea. So my initial goal was to be a sports writer,” he said. “Somewhere along the way, I had the opportunity to morph into covering concerts and writing about music. It’s still amazing to me that I’ve been able to combine all three of those initial passions into one career. I wouldn’t trade it.” The journalism industry has drastically changed over the course of his career, and the Daily Herald itself has endured many changes. When Fox first arrived, the paper had no digital presence, and the newspaper was built “via printing out the text and pasting it on actual pages -- and the printing was all done on presses in-house.” Now everything is done electronically. But the heart of the paper has stayed the same. “I’ve worked with hundreds of different people in the editorial department over the years, and though so many have come and gone, the dedication they have to their craft and to telling the stories of Utah County remain the same -- even on a limited budget,” he said. 30 www.utvalleywellness.com

I first started my career in journalism,” he said. One of the narratives that changed his life, though, was sharing the story of Brady Thompson, a teenager who suffered from an undiagnosed and untreatable disorder that caused him to have up to hundreds of seizures a day. It was a long-term special project that ended up featuring coverage over the span of three years. “We thought it was going to be a story of a teenager in hospice care in the last months of his life. Instead, it became a story about one boy’s refusal to give up. I think I was forever changed for the better by having the opportunity to tell Brady’s story, and that of his family,” Fox said. Outside of work, Fox is an avid competitive softball player, playing shortstop or third base with a team based out of Las Vegas. He travels multiple times a year to play in competitions, and was inducted in the Utah Softball Hall of Fame in 2016. Back at work, he’s also known around the office for his pranks. The stories he can tell of pranking co-workers - and the stories they share of being on the receiving end, from almost cancelled vacation cruises to a phone system that seemed to have ghostly influences - well, let's just say they are the stuff of legends. Doug Fox is the Features Editor at the Daily Herald. He primarily covers rock music in addition to all things entertainment. He can be reached on Twitter @WhatDougFoxsays or by email at dfox@heraldextra.com.

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