Talk your way through your problems
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Whatâ€™s the secret to success? Read the issue to find out!
COMMINICATION:MORE TO IT THAN YOU THINK EFFECTIVE
THINGS SHOULD KNOW:
When having a conversation try showing empathy towards the other person, when they speak Maintain eye contact, it shows that you’re listening and acknowledging them Don’t interrupt the speaker, interrupting lets the speaker think their story, opinion or idea is not important
In this comic Susan and Darren aren't communicating very effectively. Rupert, Kelly, Susan and Darren all wish to go out for lunch. The problem is they can not decide where to go. When Susan tries to make a suggesting a fast food restaurant (Dairy King). When Susan makes her suggestion, Darren starts to globalize her. Susan let’s go of the situation thinking Darren did not mean to hurt her. The same situation occurs once again, except this time there is a different roadblock in the way. Along with globalizing Susan again, he also dismisses her as well. Susan decides to handle this problem by using her Imessages. She expresses how she feels about the situation and states what she would like Darren to do next time. Darren lets her finish her thoughts then apologies for his behavior. Effective communication is when the receiver interprets and understands the senders message as intended. Both listening and speaking are crucial to effective listening. You can listen passively or actively. Passive listening is using short verbal responses, nodding your head, eye contact, facial expression and leaning forward. Active listening is restating the speaker, asking questions and encouraging the speaker for more information. These techniques help show respect, trust,
more productivity and accuracy. Body language also helps determine what the speaker is trying to say or feels. The physical proximity also helps one determine one know the relationship two people. Eye contacts can help decide whether one is lying or telling the truth. Facial expression shows how one feels the their current situation, There are also many other gestures that helps evaluate ones intentions. There are some roadblocks along the way to effective communication. They can stop communication at times as well. Some roadblocks include ridiculing, criticizing, threatening, preaching, lecturing, analyzing, interrogating, advising, dismissing, one-uping and globalizing. These roadblocks effect how the receiver feels and gives them a need to defend themselves. Even if the message sent was not intentional, the receiver may feel like the sender feels they are superior to them. There are bridges to overcome roadblocks and to continue effective communication. Bridges include being bias,, prejudice, stereotyping, ethnocentrism, suggesting, reassuring, persuading, praising and using I-messages. An Imessage consist have different components which include, stating how one feels
about a situation, let them know why they feel the way they do, and stating what they would like the other person to do next time. Timing, honesty and humor also help a conversation flow more smoothly. We believe that it effective communication is important in young teens day to day lives. It helps enhance relationships, and teaches one how to interact with others by overcoming obstacles. It helps to maintain a healthy relationship. These aspects are important growing up, it helps deal with situations more easily. Letting one know how you feel about a certain situation allows them to prepare for future situations like the one presented.
Communication by Sharuya
ARE YOU an effective communicator?
1. When someone is speaking to you or you speak to someone, your eyes….? A. I look at their face, it shows their expression. B. I look at their face then look away at times; I don’t want to seem weird. C. I look anywhere BUT their face, it’s hard for me to keep eye contact. 2. When you are talking to someone you….? A. Change my tone in voice, use facial expression and hand gestures. B. Use facial expression change of tone in voice. C. Only change my tone of voice. 3. Your friends telling you a story and you have a question so you…? A. Save my question until they are done talking, it’s rude to interrupt. B. Ask in the middle of the story anyway, you might forget later. C. Just don’t ask at all, it doesn’t matter. 4. When a person speaks do you….? A. Attempt to understand the purpose of what their saying. B. Just go with it. C. Ignore them, you don’t really care. 5. When you listen you…? A. Have an open mind to what the person is saying (looking from their perspective). B. Try to understand what their saying. C. Start being bias, stereotyping, etc. 6. Someone interrupts you when you are speaking you…? A. Let them continue it must be important, you will talk to them about it later. B. Stop them immediately, it’s rude and you want to talk to them about their behavior. C. Stop them, and just walk away. You don’t care what they wanted to say.
If you answered mostly A: You are a very effective communicator. Keep up the good work! If you answered mostly B: You are a fairly good communicator. Try to look at things from the speaker’s perspective and there’s room for improvement. If you answered mostly C: You aren’t a very good communicator, there is room for improvement. Try using some bridges to overcome the roadblocks.
How To Live SMART REMEMBER THAT... You should force yourself to focus the given task Plan blocks of your time Make time for yourself Goals help us focus our efforts Don’t stress yourself out Take your time
Here at Decorus we wanted to help you with life, it could be tough as a teen. With our expert advice we will try helping you with your hectic life style. You’re probably wondering how right? Well Goal setting is the answer. WAIT STOP! I know what you’re thinking “I’m doing fine, I don’t need to write down my goals and plan for them. I’m just going to skip through this read”. Well as teens we think we are doing fine, but I for one sucked with my time management. I though t I can balance my home life, school work and my social life. I was dead wrong. I ended up staying up late because I suffered from a very serious disorder….procrastination syndrome. I would put off homework until the morning then finish my homework in class. Now I know I’m not alone, this happened at least once to you. I had a talk with
a close friend of mine and she suggested to focus on your studies and to find happiness in life. These little tips and advice can help you with your timing. The younger version of my mother wanted to learn how to ride a bike. Her parents in the other hand didn’t have the time to teach her how nor did her siblings. She was a determined kid and decided they she would learn how on her own. She made time to go out and try riding a bike by herself. She had to finish her homework and her chores on time before she was able to do anything else. She thought it would take her about a week but with concentration and determination, it had taken her two days. Awesome, right? And who said goal planning doesn’t help? We may not know it but if you think about it we always have a goal, whether it’s a long term goal or a short term goal.
Do you have any goals? Why not write them down?
With every goal comes at least once obstacle. Sometimes there are so many that you can’t overcome them and sometimes you just sit back and watch an opportunity pass you. Need an example? Well just for our Decorus lovers we got the inside scoop. Gather around readers it’s story time! This story takes place in a small little country called Sri Lanka. There was a young girl who had always dreamed of becoming a nurse. She finally had a
chance to make that dream a reality. She was so close to her dream, she fought through the obstacles that had come her way and knocked them down. All but one. In her culture it was customary for the young adults’ parents to pick their children’s mate. According to the girl’s parents it was time for her to be married. She begged her parents not to put her through this, they refused and tried to persuade her. This wouldn’t be a big deal usually but the groom lived in Canada, where she would be sent to get married. If she had left to Canada then she would have to study everything she had learned again, years of work didn’t pay off. To honour her parents she had left the country to start a
new life with her now beloved husband. She sought over the fact that she couldn’t do what she wanted to be anymore. Of course there was a popular demand for nurses in Canada so why not just study everything again? Well her husband did not approve and once again her dreams had come crashing down. She was so close to her dreams but she never reached it. The end. So how did you like that story? Well GEEZ don’t blame me, I never promised there would be a happy ending. But this isn’t just any story this was reality for my mom about 18 years ago. Astonishing isn’t it?
Take The Advice The advice my mother gave me was to
focus on my studies and then after I’m not that to just be happy. Lately I haven’t been catching some z’s which is something that is important to a teen. When I lose my sleep time I get really grumpy, can’t focus and I would be lost in my own little world. Some would say easy solution right? But us teens we have a monster
lurking amongst us called… the internet! DUN DUN DUN! I decided to give this time management goal setting thing a try. Let’s start shall we?
“Just be happy”
My mission is to get 10 hours of sleep each night in 3 weeks. Yep seems like a lame goal doesn’t it? Actually small little changes in your life can have a huge impact on you. Moving on let’s see how I will achieve my goal. I should use a timer to know
and ensure if I have had a full 10 hours of sleep. This will let me know if I can achieve my goal. I know I can achieve my goal because once I get started I won’t be as tired as I usually feel in the morning. I need to make a time chart or schedule to help keep track. I would like to complete my goal within 3 weeks. Not a very exciting goal….well maybe
for some slackers it is, but it will help my body replenish. If I achieve this goal, I can wake up on time and have a breakfast instead of rushing. Which is a great benefit since I would me STARVING all day without any breakfast.
Format of SMART goal
L I V I N G S M AR T
Tackle the problem Sounds simple enough, but like every and figure out what I will other goal I have to encounter obstado in each block of time. cles. GRRRR this means I can’t do my goal. Well there are ways I can get around my obstacles: 1. What if I get tired during the day? Easy I can just take short 15minute naps only. There issue where I would like to sleep in for a few more minutes, I just have to force myself up so I can carry on with my schedule. 2. Can’t sleep after a specific time is set (10:30)? Music always helps me sleep on time, maybe something like “white noise”. Yoga can also help to calm your mind. 3. Not finished my homework or chores? I will make a time schedule
Why have goals? Seems like a small goal but every little action you make in life has an impact on you. In this case having enough sleep means I would be less tired during the day, more focused and I can make effective decisions. Did you know you do most of growing when you sleep? Well its true and it’s a physical development that’s important for young teens. So why set goals? Well goals help us accomplish tasks we need to do. The decisions we make now will
“The decisions we make now will have an impact on us later in the future”
have an impact on us later in the future. SMART goals help us focus on what we need to get done instead of rushing. Planning you day can help keep you calm as well as stress free.
Set you own goal! Use the calendar below to help keep track!
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Need To Know Basics
Clean dishes from cleanest to dirtiest, starting from: 1) Glassware
Make sure you rinse and scrape your dishes before you clean them.
4) Preparation Dishes
5) Pots and Pans
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Use a liquid measuring cup for liquids.
Eye level your ingredients to get a better measurement.
Use dry measuring cups for dry ingredients.
Use measuring spoons for small amounts.
There are three ways to measure ingredients. 1) Pack down
3) Level Off 2) Heaping All images taken from Google.
Pull your sleeves up so they’re not in the way.
Always wear an apron, just like Ramsay Gordon!
Clean spills immediately.
Make sure you sweep up big pieces of broken glass and use a wet paper towel to pick up the small pieces. If there is a broken cord, do not use it. It is a safety hazard.
Tie your hair back so it doesn’t get in the way. You don’t want hair in your food do you?
Make sure you wear shoes with good grip. You don’t want to be sliding everywhere!
Portobello Philly Cheese Steak Sandwich Ingredients • 2 teaspoons extra-virgin olive oil • 1 medium onion, sliced • 4 large portobello mushrooms, stems and gills removed (see Tip), sliced • 1 large red, green and orange bell peppers, thinly sliced • 2 tablespoons minced fresh oregano, or 2 teaspoons dried • 1/2 teaspoon freshly ground pepper • 1 tablespoon all-purpose flour • 1/4 cup vegetable broth, or reduced-sodium chicken broth • 1 tablespoon reduced-sodium soy sauce • 3 ounces thinly sliced reduced-fat provolone cheese • 4 whole-grain buns, split and toasted Preparation : 1. Heat oil in a large nonstick skillet over medium-high heat. Add onion and cook, stirring often, until soft and beginning to brown, 2 to 3 minutes. Add mushrooms, bell pepper, oregano and pepper and cook, stirring often, until the vegetables are wilted and soft, about 7 minutes. 2. Reduce heat to low; sprinkle the vegetables with flour and stir to coat. Stir in broth and soy sauce; bring to a simmer. Remove from the heat, lay cheese slices on top of the vegetables, cover and let stand until melted, 1 to 2 minutes. Divide the mixture into 4 portions with a spatula, leaving the melted cheese layer on top. Scoop a portion onto each toasted bun and serve immediately.
Other Recipes: Want to make other recipes with the same ingredients? Why not make: - A Salad ( peppers, onion, mushrooms) just add lettuce! -
Recipe Found On: http://www.eatingwell.com/ recipes/
Nutrition: -Vitamin C -Selenium -Vitamin A -Calcium -Potassium -Magnesium
Portobello Philly Cheese Steak Sandwich
Why Should You Try It? A lot of our readers may think we have gone crazy to think a Portobello cheese steak sandwich is healthy. Well we altered our recipe to fit Canada’s food guide to healthy living. Canada’s food guide requires one to eat a green and an orange vegetable, which in our recipe would
be our two green and orange bell peppers.
Can’t Eat It? Still Healthy! This doesn't apply just to our recipe but for many others as well. Why not alter the recipe? Even if you just don't like the recipe ingredients alter it. You are not titled to use one recipe for the rest of your life. Why not be creative? Personalize your food with what you like the most. Instead of using a lot of peppers, you can use tomatoes. Can’t eat meat? Why not try tofu in your Portobello sandwich instead. In fact this recipe it’s self has already been altered. So now you’re probably asking “but it tastes so good! How can this have
been altered?” Well the fat from the original recipe had been cut down significantly. We have less oil, less greasiness and a healthier bun. The taste has not been cut down though. Hard to believe when you taste this savory sandwich.This recipe is appealing to teens because it follows the FACTTS. What are the FACTTS you ask? The FACTTS is an acronym for flavour, aroma, colour, temperature, texture and shape
Need Help Meal Planning? If you are not an expert cook don't sweat it. There are more easy recipes that you can make. You can even use apps and websites to give you ideas. And if you enter the ingredients at home on to certain apps and websites they can actually tell you what you can cook, what you need to buy and so much more.
. This sandwich contains so much flavour; it’s like a party in your mouth. The savory scent will leave your mouth watering. There are many healthy vegetables that it’s a riot of colours. This warm/cool sandwich is soft yet crunchy and crisp. It’s easy to make, it’s healthy yet delicious.
CUPCAKES! Other: 2 Large Eggs
Liquid: (eye level) ¾ cupWater ¾ cup- Milk
Dry: (level off) 2 cups-All Purpose Flour 2 cupsSugar
Solid: ½ cupShortening ½ cupBaking Chocolate (Melted)
Small amounts: (Level off) ½ teaspoonBaking Powder 1 teaspoonSalt 1 teaspoonBaking Soda 1 teaspoonVanilla
Measure the dry ingredients (including dry small amounts) in one bowl. Make sure you level them off. Make sure you mix them. Into another bowl crack 2 large eggs and add the liquid ingredients. Make a “well” in the middle of the bowl with dry ingredients. Pour the liquids into the “well”. Mix together until you have a smooth batter. Bake for about 15 minutes in a preheated oven (A little lover than 20 degrees). Melt the chocolate with a bit of shortening. When the cupcakes are cooled feel free to add the icing!
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Which Child Are You? 1. Your parents leave home and they…: A) Leave you home B) Ask you to babysit C) Ask someone to babysit you 2. You have chores to do, so…: A) You do all of them by yourself B) You clean some of the house C) You clean a small portion of the house 3. You need clothes so your parents…: A) Buy you new clothes right away B) Get you hand me downs C) Get you new clothes of your choice 4. You get a good mark on a project or test and your parents…: A) Do nothing; they expect the best from you B) Are just proud of you, nothing special C) Give you an award and celebrate 5. You have a group project to do and you are the…: A) Bossy one B) Compromiser C) Immature one Mostly A’s- First Born/Only Child Mostly B’s- Middle Child Mostly C’s- Last Born