Kissing Someone Thanks to the ideas propagated by popular chick fiction and Hollywood movies, writers will have you believe that it is okay for you to go all out on a first date and spread yourself all over the poor guy, because he will like it. This is definitely not the case, however. Guys do not expect to have their dates attacking their tonsils on the first date, especially if a guy does not like the girl all that much. So, remember that it’s OK to restrict kissing someone on the first date to only to a peck and that is only if you like your date. A guy who is under the impression that a girl is going to jump into bed with him just because he bought her dinner needs to have his head examined because that is not the proper way to think. Most girls have more selfrespect than that, and if a girl goes on a date with a guy whom she comes to believe is expecting her to put out just because he paid for dinner, then she would not hesitate to leave that guy high and dry and call him a jerk. A lip lock is only going to be romantic if the date went well, and both partners want the relationship to progress. The idea of grabbing the girl and kissing her on the doorstep as you are saying good night or demanding to come in for a cup of coffee is going to immediately put the girl off, especially if she spent the entire evening trying to remove your octopus like fingers from her body. Not only does this show how immature you are, but also it shows that you definitely need lessons in treating a girl well. However, if the date went well, and you both had fun, and you could see from the girl’s body language that she likes you, then you could progress to a gentle kiss. Just make sure, however, that she knows that the kiss is coming! Just grabbing her and smacking a kiss on her lips is going to make her consider you a frog instead of a prince. You want like to look at her and see if she is receptive to a kiss, meaning is she looking directly into your eyes? If it looks like the time is right, the girl is right, and the moment is right, then go ahead and give her a gentle kiss, and remember that macho behavior went out of style with the cave men. Forget about the “handle them rough and they are going to love you” mentality that you sometimes see portrayed in movies. That is silly eroticism written to sell movies and has nothing to do with real life. Girls typically do not appreciate that kind of behavior in real life, even though there are some women who like a little bit of rough kissing on occasion. If you develop a reputation for being a rough bear, then you are going to notice that the girls you are acquainted with are always going to have something to do, like polish their toenails or wash their hair, when you call them for a date! Swopping a light kiss for a more passionate one depends on the circumstances, the girl, and the level of your preexisting friendship between the two of you. All you need to do is recognize the moment and take advantage of it if your partner seems willing. Kissing someone does not have to be a fiasco if you know how to go about doing it the right way!