Cottage & Vine I always pictured myself as a “boy” mom. I grew up in a neighborhood full of boys and even though I tended to be more of a girlie girl, I ran with the pack. From the outside, boys appeared to have more freedom than girls and I thought that raising them would be a piece of cake. Needless to say, my philosophy and perspective changed when I had boys of my own! Fortunately, my husband and I have shared the same beliefs on what it takes to raise confident and responsible young men over the years. Our sons, now 16 and 13, are learning to live a balanced life. Being responsible, identifying and pursuing their personal interests and learning what it means to have a strong character are all part of this balance. Teaching your sons to be responsible will not only help them develop positive selfesteem, it will also make your job as a mom easier in the long run. When our sons were little, their responsibilities included things like hand washing and picking up their own toys. Now that they are older they are able to cook, clean and communicate well with
teachers, coaches and other adults effectively on their own. However, we are still working on their laundry skills! It’s vitally important that boys find something they really enjoy doing or participating in – other than video games! Finding a personal interest that belongs only to them is so important in their development. Mothers of boys know how energetic they can be and having something to focus that energy on is essential for both your sanity and theirs. Finally, I have encouraged my sons to be the friend they would like to meet by treating others as they would like be treated. Sometimes I find myself saying things like, “You don’t have to be best friends, but try to be nice.” The smile or nice gesture they make could be the difference in someone’s day. Being the mother of my two boys has been the most rewarding experience I could have ever imagined. I am so proud of them both and watching them grow into responsible, confident and kind young men is one of my biggest joys.
“I have encouraged my sons to be the friend they would like to meet by treating others as they would like to be treated.” 155