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Klothes and Style Health and Beauty Love and Relationships Opportunity Empowering Women

CHANGING THE FACE OF WOMENS MEDIA, ONE ISSUE AT A TIME

Workout Machines We

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Confronting

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The Truth about Victim-Blaming NOVEMBER 2011

The Unsexy Truth About

SEXTING

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A LETTER FROM

YOUR FOUNDER and EDITOR-IN-CHIEF My original plan for this “ Letter from Your Founder & Editor” was to have it be upbeat, cheery, and make me sound like I have a fabulous life living in a busy metropolitan city with a latte in one hand and a Fendi bag in the other. I think it’s safe to say that when you hear the job title “ Editor-in-Chief of a woman’s magazine”, that scenario comes to mind. So, instead of making myself out to be someone I’m really not, instead of building up my life and my story to be something you see in an MTV produced movie, I’d like to start out the birth of this magazine with a honest picture of myself and how this magazine came to be. The idea came when I was at my absolute worst, my weakest, and at my most vulnerable. I remember the time-- 11:30 on a Tuesday night, in oversized sweats. Two weeks before my 23rd Birthday. Sitting up against the cabinets, absolutely listless in the bathroom of my two bedroom apartment; alone, miserable, and in horrible pain. Dealing with health issue after health issue since I was 17 years old, I had grown tired of challenge after challenge, curve ball after curve ball. Heartbreak after heartbreak and let down after let down. I was sick of it. I was sick of being unhealthy, I was sick of the stagnant life I was living. I was sick of pouring my time, love, and energy into people and into activities that never left me feeling fulfilled. This was the night I wanted to disappear from the world and never look back. I had such a low opinion of myself at this point; I had gained thirty pounds, given up eating healthy, I was investing love and time into toxic people who continually brought me down I was a mess, and I didn’t care enough to change it. I don’t really know how I got to that point. To the point of not caring. It was a slippery slope of allowing myself to sit in the pain and depression brought on by my health issues and hardships-- these unexplainable challenges that slowly took away my independence, confidence, and happiness. Something that night snapped inside of me and made me want to dust myself off and change. It made me want to change my mindset and my lifestyle. I have always had a passion for teenage girls and women’s rights, so what better way to get out of my own rut than to start something to empower women and in the process, bring me to life again? This is how KHLOE Magazine was born.

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That night, I sat down with a Jimmy John’s napkin and a pen and began writing down ideas and thoughts for this magazine. Those doodles on the napkin, a major attitude adjustment, and all of your love and support are why you’re reading this magazine today. Since launching this campaign, my whole life has turned around. It’s amazing when you invest your time, love, and energy into something greater than yourself , that you will gain a sense of fulfillment and joy that you never even meant to seek. I have been so blessed—so blessed with this opportunity to found and lead such an amazing group of young women who believe in what this magazine stands for and it’s potential. I thank each and every one of you for believing in this publication and cause from the start. It’s been a life changing experience and I can’t wait to see where it goes from here. This magazine hasn’t even been published yet and I’ve gotten so many emails and messages thanking me for creating such a platform for young women. I should be the one thanking you. Thank you for letting us into your lives, believing in this cause, and for being the inspiration to launch this magazine. Love & KHLOE,

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There are a couple of things you should know about me. But first, let me say hello. Hello! I’m Madeleine, your Klothes and Style editor. A few short months back, I was approached with the idea of KHLOE, and I’ll be honest with you—I was skeptical at first. Could a bunch of recent college graduates really pull together a full-fledge print publication? It seemed like a huge undertaking, and let me tell you, it is. The more I learned about KHLOE, the more invested I became in its message. This is not an ordinary publication targeting young women. Very much a product of the insecurities and setbacks we 15 to 20-somethings face, KHLOE is a rebuttal to everything that tells us we can’t, won’t, shouldn’t or aren’t good enough. That’s why I’m here writing to you today. Yes, I’m KHLOE’s resident fashion editor. But, as I said, there are a few things you should know about me: • I don’t have a closet filled with designer labels, nor can I afford to spend a limitles amount of money on building my wardrobe. • I am a bargain seeker, budget shopper to the core. • I am a risk taker. Shouldn’t all self-proclaimed fashionistas be? • I am not model thin, and I am certainly not model tall. I eat cheeseburgers. And I like them. • I have opinions on fashion, sure, but I believe that finding your own unique sense of style is the bravest thing you can do. • I have a deep love (borderline obsession) with fall boots. • My day-to-day outfits are largely trial and error, but many times this makes finding a perfect match all the more rewarding. • I am honored to be serving as your Klothes and Style editor. Thank you for your interest in KHLOE and your belief in our purpose. This publication is for you. Enjoy it! Love & KHLOE, Madeleine (Your Klothes and Style Editor)

KLOTHES & Style: We give young women an up-to-date look at what’s hot on the runway-- a first hand look at the styles and trends while promoting self love and positive self-esteem with every fashionable step they take.

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Tops available at Nordstrom’s, Tilly’s, and Alloy.com MODEL:MADELINE MICHAELS

Health and Fitness

Photos by Kirstin Anne Assisting- Gretchen Mathos Tops provided by Lovesquared www.love2site.com

Dear Readers, I’m the kind of girl who gets excited about a new pair of gym shorts. I like the way my leg muscles burn when I’m riding my bike uphill, and I crave that sweet spot in yoga when you finally stretch a little further than you’ve ever gone before. As a kid, I was obsessed with all things physical. I was a scab-picker, a toothpuller, and a general lover of all things rough and athletic. My dad and I used to play sports for hours—it didn’t matter if I was good, I just loved the motion. I loved diving into the sand in beach volleyball. I liked the sweaty, grittiness of backpacking North Manitou Island, or reaching for that next sandy piece of mountain in New Mexico. Until age eighteen, I described myself as a healthy, athletic person. Then, I went away to school to play college basketball. That first year away from home, I learned something. As trainers started to inquire about my sleeping, eating, and living habits, and I gained a new perspective on my lifestyle, it occurred to me that physical activity and health are not synonymous. College, despite only ending six months ago, is a loud, chaotic blur in my mind. All the homework, jobs, conferences, boyfriends, presentations, late nights, parties, papers, friends, and games, roll together into one triumphant experience that has shaped me into who I am today. But during that stressful blur of college life, my sense of health disappeared into a sea of obligations. In hopes of maintaining some false sense of energy, I would often drink excessive amounts of coffee, tea, pop, more coffee, and anything full of sugar. I’d wake up with my hands still on my keyboard, and find a Dorito or macaroni noodle stuck to my cheek. On not one, but two occasions, I found a Sour Patch Kid in my clothes/hair when I went to get in the shower. I often slept very little for days at a time, and then would sleep way too much when I finally had a chance. I ate a lot of quick “meals” like Ramen Noodles or Pizza Rolls, and as a result, I felt consistently sluggish. And you know what? I bet a lot of you have something in common with me. I know this, because we are a generation of multi-taskers. We’re students, employees, girlfriends, athletes, artists, sorority girls, club leaders, partiers, and friends—all these titles seem so important to our well-being, that we ignore our physical, mental, and emotional health. Bad colds, headaches, bursts of tears, and panic attacks have become so common that we forget that they’re signs of a problem. Khloe magazine can’t magically erase all those problems—but I do believe that it can be a forum for the kinds of discussions that we need to be having. I look forward to moving into an age where we value rest, relaxation, and our bodies. In the meantime we can use this magazine, and each other, to help find our way there. Love and KHLOE, Allie (Your Health & Fitness Editor)

HEALTH & Fitness: The Health & Fitness aspect of KHLOE magazine will encourage girls to love themselves, appreciate their body size, and to exercise a regular amount in order to reach their happiest and healthiest. Fitness, to us, is not about “looking perfect” or even necessarily about looking good, but instead about feeling good and being good to ourselves.

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IN HER SHOES “My idea of feminism is self-determination, and it’s very open-ended: Every woman has the right to become herself, and do whatever she needs to do.” – Ani Difranco

The Female Athletic Trainer: A Powerful Individual

By Ashley Elizabeth Leonard

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very morning, Cynthia Perry arrives at Colorado Christian University, prepared to work with some of the most powerful athletes in collegiate sports. Perry is an athletic trainer, and at only 24 years old, working the Women’s Volleyball, and Women’s and Men’s Soccer teams is quite the accomplishment. Athletic trainers are health care professionals who assist athletes in the prevention, emergency care and rehabilitation of athletic injuries. Athletic training is generally thought of as a “man’s job,” with many envisioning a male with bulging muscles, stepping to the role of professional caregiver. Perry is only 5’1”, but despite her small frame, she is able to treat athletes with as much skill as her male counterparts. Perry’s success can be attributed to her determination, confidence and resilience; she never shies away from challenging tasks and is always willing to prove herself in this extremely competitive field. 7

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Why did you want to pursue a career as an athletic trainer?

Perry: My mother is a nurse, so I’ve always been around the medical profession. I played basketball, field hockey and ran track in high school. I started having some knee issues during my sophomore year of high school and went to an orthopedic doctor who referred me to an athletic trainer on site. I knew then that’s what I wanted to do. I loved science and loved sports and the combination of both was and is exciting to me. My ultimate goal is to open my own Christian fitness center that will focus on rehabilitation and research.

Have you experienced any negativity, as a result of your career choice? From male athletic trainers, athletes, family, etc. Perry: I’m 5’1”, so I work with male and female athletes who are taller and stronger than me. I have to stretch them and lift them. Athletic trainers are under-appreciated all around. Personally, I have never experienced anything negative. It’s not so much that they think women are weak; it’s that they don’t want women trainers to be a distraction.

What do think about the idea of a female athletic trainer being a distraction?

Perry: I think it all depends on whether or not a male trainer or a male athlete is used to working with a female athletic trainer. If he is not used to working with a female athletic trainer, it may be uncomfortable. For example, as a trainer I may wrap an ace bandage around a guy’s waist on occasion – he may feel uncomfortable.

What do you think about the “discomfort”? How you handle the situation? Perry: Personally, I’ve never had an issue with people being uncomfortable with me. Even if they are, I don’t know if they will say anything.

Talk about the Christian rehabilitation facility that you want to open.

Perry: It will be open to all people. Its focus will be to integrate one’s personal belief into their workout routine; a place where people can exercise with like-minded believers. I plan to offer services and community programs that will not only help improve one’s health but lead them to Christ.

You seem to have high self-esteem and confidence in your abilities. What can young women learn from your experience?

Perry: Find something you love and be GREAT at it. I love my job. I am a people-’s person and I love helping people. I get to work one-on-one with athletes. I get to learn from them and they get to learn from me. Young women should learn from my experience that in order to be successful in any career, whether it is meant for a strong man or for a small girl you have to be confident, you have to be brave, and you have to have faith in yourself. When you finish a day of work you should be able to say that I did the best I could and I made the people around me better. [Photo Credit: Robin Perry]

Can you describe a typical day as an Athletic Trainer? What are your duties?

Perry: I work long hours. I work with two other trainers with approximately 250 students. I give therapeutic massages and tape ankles and other injured appendages. I take care of an athletes’ injury.

Revisiting your Christian Fitness Center. You state that it will accommodate like-minded believers? I understand that this is a Christian facility and the majority of people attending will be of the Christian faith but are you open to welcoming individuals of different faiths?

Perry: If they are a member of my fitness center they can use the facility and all the services offered and they will know that the Christian faith will not be imposed on them. I will promote a friendly atmosphere. One of our main missions at KHLOE is to empower young women to fulfill their dreams and never settle, whether it is a job, relationship, etc.

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The Shoulder Press: This machine works the front, top, and sides of your shoulders. Start by sitting on the seat with your feet flat on the floor. (Adjusting the height of the seat is very important). Lift the bar with your arms, but don’t lock your elbows at the top. Next, bring the bar back down to shoulder level. Don’t pull the bar down too quickly, or allow it to return to the top quickly, either. Resistance is important for your muscles, and being too quick ruins the effect and can damage both yourself, as well as the machine.

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Workout Machines You Avoid

(BUT SHOULDN’T) By Alyssa M. Brown

We’ve all been there—that moment where you’re eyeing the different scary metal contraptions at the gym, wondering what they do and how you should use them—and then you end up on the treadmill or the elliptical or the stationary bike again. Not that we aren’t supportive of your chosen workout methods, it’s just that we know that a) working out the same muscles over and over isn’t that healthy for your body, b) doctors recommend a balance of running and strength training, and c) a lack of variety will probably lead you to lose interest in the act of working out—and then you’ll end up on the couch again, watching reruns of Gilmore Girls. That’s why we included some basic instructional manuals for how to overcome your fear of the unknown. The next time you’re at the gym, ask the trainers where the following equipment is located.

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Abdominal Curl: If you’re looking for a better alternative to crunches, this machine is for you! Regular crunches can be strenuous to your body, especially to your back and neck. By using an abdominal curl machine, your body can relax and just work those abs! Sit on the seat (making sure it’s at your level), and place your arms on the bar in front of you. Cross your arms to help keep them put. Then, lean forward, slowly push the bar, and slowly come back up to your original position—did we mention that it’s slow?

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Lower Back Extension: Strengthening your back muscles is more important than you think. By keeping your back muscles strong now, you can prevent back pain in the future. Also, the back can affect the toning of your other muscles (such as your abdominals), so if your back is stressed, your 6-pack will suffer. Do at least three reps of fifteen on the lower back extension machine twice a week.

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Resistance Bands: No time for the gym? No problem! Resistance bands can provide benefits that other resistance machines can’t. With these, your resistance can increase as you continue through your range of motion. Resistance bands come in a variety of colors (which we just thought meant you could choose your favorite), but each color actually indicates a different level of resistance. As a beginner, you can start out with a lower resistance band, and then work your way up. Make sure to ask a trainer what the colors at your gym stand for.

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Exercise Ball: We’ve noticed a fad lately where people are using exercise balls instead of chairs. This is probably because exercise balls have a variety of different uses, and by sitting on/exercising with one, you can increase your balance and flexibility. Exercise balls can also be used for strength training or abdominal exercises—try using one for squats, pushups or crunches.

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Medicine Balls: Different from dumbbells, these ball weights can help you to increase your arm and abdominal strength. Use heavier balls for strength workouts (between 8 and 12 lbs), and use a lighter ball for balance and agility exercises, where you can throw the ball back and forth with a partner.

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Smith Machine: Usually used for more advanced workouts, the Smith Machine is perfect for perfecting your squats (aka: working our your legs and back). It is also an alternative to barbell squats, and possibly safer, since you don’t need someone to “spot” you (be there to catch your weights for you in an emergency). Using this machine, you can develop your quad and glute muscles.

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Leg Press Machine: The name says it all: this machine is great for increasing your leg strength. It works many different muscles, including your glutes, calves, and hamstrings, all at once. It also allows you to gain lower body strength. Make sure to start at a lighter weight as a beginner.

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Love and Relationships

Hi Girls! My picture probably looks familiar, because you just saw my face in the front of the magazine next to the founder and editor-in-chief letter. Yes, I serve as the Love & Relationships editor too! WHY, you may ask would I add this to my plethora of responsibilities at KHLOE? Because I absolutely, positively…LOVE to talk about love and relationships. I’m considered the “ Carrie Bradshaw” of my girls. Is that a good or bad thing? I’ll let you decide. I was the girl who was always dealing with all of the most ridiculous relationship situations no girl should ever be in nor deal with; yet somehow I made it through with some of the most crazy stories that hopefully will make me a New York Times best selling author one day. Until then, I will be your editor for this section of the magazine, and we’re going to have a fabulous time doing it. This section will have the usual love and relationship questions and issues that you all deal with on a daily basis, however I want to give the “ Love and Relationships” section a major facelift that sets us apart from the other woman’s magazines that are sitting on newsstands today. Let’s be real here: most of that crap you read does not work on guys, it’s the same content every month reworded and rephrased so it looks new and hip. They slap on synonyms and hot pink font to make it look new and improved when in reality…it isn’t. Even after those articles are reworded and revamped, you will notice that it continually has the same centralized theme running ramped though the pages of your monthly subscription: sex, sex, and more sex. That’s not real life and that’s not a realistic relationship. So let’s break down those barriers of what society tells you your relationship be, and let’s talk about what your relationship is really like, what you’re dealing with or what you hope to find in love and in your relationship. I’m honored to serve as your Love & Relationships editor. I may not have been the poster child for relationships in the past, but after hitting my head against the wall many times, I’ve found love and look forward to a positive future. I’ve found someone who makes me happy and makes me want to be a better person. The best part? He supports my passions and dreams 100% and who lets me be myself and loves me for it. I think that’s what love is all about, don’t you? Ladies, I’m excited and honored to be allowed into your life to talk about love and relationships. Let’s get crackin’! Love & KHLOE, Hope XO

Hey! It’s James and Andresa (Dresa)! We are a couple from Maryland and we are so excited to be a contributor for relationships. In this section, you will see all sorts of content about relationships, encouragement, advice-you name it! We are in the relationship building business-whether lovers, family, friends etc. Everyone deserves to BE LOVED! Ok, so what are we here for? We are here for you! We are here to bring encouragement to girls that are in relationships, dealing with break-ups, or for ladies that are about to enter into new relationships. While we believe that love is an important aspect of a relationship, love that you have for yourself, along with selfesteem is also important to any relationship. Every girl needs to understand that she is beloved-someone that is precious, unique and a treasure to herself. Once a girl understands her value, resorting to some of the poor behaviors that are often seen in pre, post and during relationships will be minimized. (i.e. - continuing to deal with disrespectful abusive relationships, depression after a break-up, not feeling beautiful enough to have a relationship etc) Hopefully by our content, you can begin to see the value within yourself as well as pick up helpful tips and advice for your relationship. Happy reading and please feel free to contact us at: beloved@khloemag.com. If you have any questions or comments-let us know! We would love to hear from you!

Love & KHLOE, James and Dresa (Your Love and Relationships Editors)

LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS: At KHLOE Magazine, we believe that achieving a healthy level of self- love and respect are key factors before entering any relationship. We tackle the issues that the traditional young woman deals with in high school, college and beyond : issues of friendship, love, relationships, and sex. As with all sections of KHLOE, this section is contributor based and it allows others who have been in certain situations, both positive and negative; to speak their mind and share their experiences, thoughts, and opinions on all things love and personal. So many issues in a young woman’s life stem from an issue in friendships, relationships, and love; here at KHLOE Magazine, we aim to tackle those issues head on through sounding off, speaking out, and empowering resolution.

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SEXTING By Lydia Gutierrez

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ow many times a day do you receive or send text messages? Facebook? Twitter? The amount of social media we participate in and the ways we can stay connected to the world all day long is phenomenal. These advances in technology help us stay in contact throughout our busy lives and that’s a definite positive. However there can be a negative side to being connected all day and with this ability comes great responsibility.

the good stuff though; it doesn’t matter if the good news gets passed on without our knowledge.

We have been growing up in a digital age and we are very comfortable, sometimes too comfortable, with sharing our lives with the world online. It’s easy to feel a sense of trust with our online communities and virtual friends. If we give our trust so easily to people we may have never met, that probably also means that our trust goes out easily to our real life friends. It’s common to let our guard down when we create a bond with someone.

According to a 2008 “Sex Tech” survey done by cosmogirl.com and The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, 20% of teens (ages 13-20) and 33% of young adults (ages 20-26) sent nude or semi-nude photographs of themselves electronically. That percentage increased when asked if they participated in sending sexually explicit text messages; 39% of teens and 59% of young adults said they had.

No one really likes to talk about the bad but we have to face reality. This fun, digital age also comes with a lot of digital drama. One recent trend that causes a lot of drama and has gained popularity and more media coverage is “sexting.” The Oxford Dictionary defines sexting as, “the sending of sexually explicit photographs or messages via mobile phone.”

We can’t forget that once we hit that send or publish button, we lose all control over the content. We trust that our messages to someone stays with that person, no matter what the subject matter is. Unfortunately, that may not always be the case.

“75% of those surveyed indicated that they believed that sending this type of material can have serious consequences,25%percentsuggested “20% of teens (ages 13-20) and 33% this behaviorwas “no big deal.” of young adults (ages 20-26) sent It might be easier to think that sending a message over nude or semi-nude photographs a text is the lesser of two evils but it can cause just as many problems as the picture. In most categories of themselves electronically.” questioned by cosmogirl.com and The National Think about how easy it is to spread good news and happy pictures via text. You text your friends a picture of your new pet or a new outfit you bought, they might forward it to show another friend, and another. You would never know unless your friends with those other people and they say something to you. That’s

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Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, it showed a higher percentage of girls over boys who are sending sexts.

Who are these young people sexting? They are mainly exchanging messages with their significant other or someone that they like and are trying to gain attention from that person. This is a scenario where impulse and trust plays a huge factor. You like the boy or girl and want them to like you back, so you don’t see the harm in sending a sexy picture or text. They probably even promised you that they won’t show it to anyone. However, the likelihood of them not showing or forwarding it to a friend is slim. Some teens and young adults look at receiving these types of messages as a badge of honor and proudly show their friends. Sending these messages can have major consequences at home, school, work, and you future. According to the “Sex Tech” survey, 75% of those surveyed indicated that they believed that sending this type of material can have serious consequences, 25% percent suggested this behavior was “no big deal.

It can be a lot for a person to deal with; the bullying, the negative attention, and the name calling.”

Even though the numbers are telling us that people recognize the risk, sexting is still a widely popular trend that has landed people in some bad and sad situations in recent years. One devastating story is from 2008 about an 18 year old Ohio girl, Jessica Logan, who committed suicide after a picture message she sent to her boyfriend was sent out to her classmates. Jessica had sent the message to her boyfriend and after breaking up, he forwarded that message to classmates. Once the picture got out Jessica was the subject of bullying and name calling by her younger peers. It became too much for her. Even after speaking out about her situation on a local news station, she still had trouble facing her peers. A few months after her interview, Jessica hanged herself in her bedroom. A very tragic end to what started out as an exchange between two people in a committed relationship.

going to juvenile detention centers and having child pornography charges against them. It is illegal to be in ownership of sexually explicit material of someone under the age of 18. In order to fight the temptation, you have to really think about the consequences. It can be hard to think out what could happen down the road when in the present it takes .5 seconds to send the text out there. Just remember that whatever you send or post probably won’t remain private. You can’t assume that your messages will only be between you and that other person. The “Sex Tech” survey found that 40% of teens and young adults say they were shown a sexually suggestive message that was originally meant to be private. Remember to be smart and safe when sending messages and posting things online. Don’t let peer pressure get the best of you because you can’t be sure of the outcome. Don’t let others have power over you, stay empowered.

Jessica’s story shows how other people can react towards you if you decide to participate in sexting. It can be a lot for a person to deal with; the bullying, the negative attention, and the name calling. Jessica trusted her boyfriend and it wasn’t until after they broke up that he began to circulate her photo. Other situations have resulted in teens

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Opportunity

introducing...

Kerry McCrackin Jazz/Tap/Ballet/Pointe/Contemporary/lyrical/HipHop Dancer The definition of “Opportunity” is “a good position, chance, or prospect, as for advancement or success.” That is exactly what we aim to do in the O of Khloe. And it’s exactly what Khloe has given me. It provided me with a chance to advance my own journalistic career. Many of you have already accomplished amazing things, and are paving the way for advancement and success. So tell us about you, and what you’ve done. And then let us share that with the world. Who knows? Maybe your story will be an opportunity for someone else to be inspired. Love & KHLOE, Lauren (Your Love and Relationships Editors)

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ost of the biggest and most pivotal choices in our lives are ones we make for ourselves. But for Kerry McCrackin, this was not the case. “I started dancing when I was five-years-old,” says Kerry. “I took a beginners ballet class… my mom didn’t know whether I would like it or not when she signed me up, but it was definitely one of the best decisions that was made for me. I have loved it ever since.” As she got older and continued in dance, she began to realize she had talent and potential. “There was a point in my dancing where it seemed like I had started to peak,” says Kerry.

“I kept growing and improving. I had finally found myself as a dancer.”

OPPORTUNITY: This section highlights four to five women each month worldwide who are daring to make their mark in the creative world. Every young woman has a goal, a dream, an aspiration but few get to follow it. We help get them there, by promoting and showcasing their talents, goals, and capabilities. Here at KHLOE Magazine, we want to empower young women to take that leap and strive to become who they long to be without the weight of the world dragging down their dreams or self esteem. Here we highlight those women looking to make it in a competitive, cut throat creative world; and it is through this opportunity that we are giving them what they’ve been searching for all along: an Opportunity to make a difference in the world.

While Kerry dances several styles, including jazz, tap, ballet, pointe, contemporary/lyrical and hip hop, but admits that contemporary is her favorite. “Contemporary is my comfort zone and where my own style is based off from,” says Kerry. “I could dance this style all the time and feel completely at ease.” While Kerry has a lot of talent, she says one of the most challenging aspects of dance is the struggle of comparing herself to other dancers. “There are many amazing dancers with incredible talent,” says Kerry.

“There are times when I can’t help but compare myself to others. It is challenging to try and put it aside…” For Kerry, dancing allows her to forget about the stresses and obligations of life and do something that makes her feel completely at ease. “It’s almost like a whole other world,” says Kerry. “It allows me to explore movements and show my emotion in ways other than words.” But dance isn’t just recreational for Kerry. She is part of the Duhadway Dance Dimensions Elite team, and has been dancing competitively since she was in fourth grade. “I wish I would have auditioned for the team at a younger age. It is the reason I have made so much growth over the years,” says Kerry. “It takes a lot of time, dedication and hard work, but it is worth every moment.” Upon graduating from high school, Kerry would like to attend a dance school, and eventually work with dance companies. Some day she’d even like to be choreographing for others in her own studio. “Dancing is my passion and something I dedicate my time to because...

There’s nothing else I’d rather be doing.”

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Rachel Norman

Mackenzie McElroy

Age: 19/Photographer/Woodland, Texas

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achel Norman, 19 of The Woodlands, Texas, started photography by accident. “I was hoping to take Painting my Sophomore year of high school, but the class was full,” says Rachel. “So I signed up for photography. It was the most fun I had ever had in school—so much so that I started doing it all the time.” Rachel’s photography grew into a form of self-expression.

“I like using [photography] to put all the weird thoughts and dreams I have into images,” Because her family is so spread out, Rachel has been able to travel extensively. She uses her photography to document all the places she’s visited. “I’ve seen a million different interesting things that have influenced me later,” says Rachel. But photography isn’t just about pointing and shooting. Rachel says it is far more complex than most people realize. “This may come as a surprise, but there is a lot of math and numbers involved in photography,” says Rachel. “You have to be able to do quick, though simple, calculations. Unfortunately, I’m horrible at math, so learning how to do all that stuff took some time.” While she admits she hasn’t done much professionally, she owns and uses three different cameras. A Canon Rebel XSi for her digital shots, a Canon A-1 for film, and a Holga, which she likes experimenting with. “I adore using film because of the process. Developing film and making prints is so relaxing

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and satisfying because of the attention to detail required,” says Rachel. “There’s nothing like seeing print develop before your eyes, and then being able to carry it around and show people ‘this is what I did today’.” Rachel, a Photography student at the School of Visual Arts in Manhattan, dreams of someday making a living solely off of her work in photography. “I would love to get into concert and music photography, and see my images in magazines, or made into posters or billboards,” says Rachel. Her favorite photographer is Bob Gruen’s, who takes pictures of artists and bands that “really show what rock music is all about,” says Rachel. “Since my dream of dreams is to be a music photographer, [his photographs] give me something to aspire to.” Despite the challenge ahead of her complete her goal, she is willing to put in the work to make it come true, and encourages others to do the same. “If someone tells you that there is no future in photography, don’t listen to them,” Rachel says. “Yes, the business is hard, and you may have to take on a day job to make ends meet, but with hard work, you will be able to find your niche and succeed. Don’t give up on your passion.” Thankfully for Rachel, she has family and friends who encourage her photography. “When I told my dad I wanted to go to SVA, he was totally behind it. He was the first person to tell me that he thought I had talent and should pursue it,” says Rachel. “Also, my friends back in Texas [are supportive] … it’s really great to know I’ll always have their support, wherever I am.”

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hen Mackenzie McElroy, 2010 Aquinas College graduate, started dance lessons as a little girl, she didn’t realize it was the start of a long career of performing in just about every capacity available. “I started getting really into choir when I was in middle school, and that’s when I started getting really interested in performing,” says Mackenzie. But her focus wasn’t always on performing. Mackenzie was an avid sports player. “I used to be really into sports; I played softball, basketball, soccer and volleyball,” says Mackenzie. “But as I became more interested and involved in performing arts, my love of sports began to slip away.” Growing more involved in choir, Mackenzie auditioned for, and made, her school’s showchoir, and started traveling with the group. “I started dropping one sport at a time, and eventually in my senior year of high school, I had to make a really hard decision between the school’s spring musical and playing volleyball,” says Mackenzie. “I chose the musical.” Her first show was Anything Goes, as a freshman in high school. “The two things I remember about that show were wearing a super cute purple sailor dress, and walking across the stage several times with different men,” says Mackenzie. “And that’s where the type-casting began.” Mackenzie believes theater has taught her life lessons she couldn’t have learned anywhere else. “[I have learned] to never give up, to persevere, to not be embarrassed when you’re rolling on the ground screaming out lines, and to live in the moment,” says Mackenzie. “That is a part of my life I

could never, and will never, give up.” She also enjoys how theater allows you to immerse herself fully into her characters. “I love the freedom of being on stage,” says Mackenzie. “You shed yourself before you get on stage, and can be whoever and do whatever. The rush is so fulfilling, and it makes you feel so alive.” But Mackenzie isn’t just an actress. She directs too. “I love directing as much as I love acting, but they are two very different challenges for me,” says Mackenzie. “I find a different part of myself in each job. Directing appeals to my organized mind; it is a challenge to fit all of the puzzle pieces together.” Her favorite directing role was Troll and the Elephant Prince, the first show she did on her own. “It just cemented how much I love children’s theater.” The show was recently nominated for a Grand Award, which is Grand Rapids, Michigan’s own, scaled-down, version of the Tony’s. “I couldn’t have been more proud of the whole production,” says Mackenzie. “We literally had no budget; we pulled sets and costumes and built what was necessary, but it was very minimal. That people connected with the story without special lighting and huge sets meant a lot to me.” Mackenzie currently works for the C@ Group, a Media Productions company in Grand Rapids, Michigan. She also teaches classes at a theater in town. While she says she’ll never choose between acting and directing, she will always be involved with theater.

“Theater offers freedom and community,” says Mackenzie. “Freedom to be whoever you to be, to be your true self, to explore.”

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Empowerment

Opportunity

Allye Gaietto Muskegon, Michigan

Dear Readers:

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llye Gaietto of Muskegon, Mich., was so shy in her singing lessons her voice teacher began writing an acronym over all of her sheet music: J.S.I.D.I—Just sing it, damn it. And Allye has been doing just that ever since. “Joining choir in high school helped pull me out of my shell,” says Allye. “Mid-high school was when I became more comfortable singing by myself in front of a crowd.” But she’s much more than just a singer. Allye has been writing lyrics and poems since she was a young girl. “I’ve been writing poetry since late elementary school, and, of course, had the era of terrible angst poetry in middle school, but they weren’t necessarily lyrics,” says Allye. And if that weren’t enough, Allye plays several instruments as well. “I’ve been playing the piano since I was six, and the flute since seventh grade,” says Allye. “I’ve picked up guitars and banjos and other instruments along the way, but I’ve never been particularly good at strings. I just fool around on them and hope it turns out okay.” Books and films are two of her biggest inspirations for her music, stirring up emotions and themes to write lyrics about. “Basically storytelling of any kind is what gets me going,” says Allye. “Slam poetry has really inspired me as well. I used to go see the poetry slams as often as possible when I lived in St. Paul. Any kind of expressive art form makes me think about how I can translate that emotion to what I’m doing.” But Allye admits she still struggles with being shy when it comes to her music. “I love writing songs, but I am probably too

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hesitant to share them right away,” says Allye.

“I meticulously go over stuff until I think it’s finally ready.” Her music has undertones similar to Regina Spektor, and blends jazz and pop genres. “I like to take chords from the jazz side of things, but I love crisp, catchy pop melodies,” says Allye. “I listened to a lot of Ben Folds and Regina Spektor in high school, so my piano style is a strange combination of their music and my fumbling around.” Until recently Allye was always interested in quiet, distilled music, but has found herself branching out to other genres. “The more I learn about hip-hop the deeper I fall in love with it,” says Allye, “and I’m starting to listen to punk music to find my angry side.” Allye recently graduated from McNally Smith College of Music with a degree in Composition and Songwriting, but is still searching for her own niche. “I’m still in that post-Bachelor’s haze of not quite knowing what to do with my life, so a professional music career is on my mind, but not always at the forefront,” says Allye. Even if she doesn’t have a career path set in stone, she does know one thing. She wants her music to resonate with the people who hear it. “Most days I just hope that somebody feels some sort of connection to what I’m doing,” says Allye.

“If I can make someone laugh or cry, I’m doing my job.”

Ask 5 people to define the word “empowerment,” and, guaranteed, you’ll get 5 different answers. That ambiguity and open-endedness are exactly the driving forces behind this section. To me, “empowerment” means overcoming obstacles, thriving against adversity, widening your world-view, gaining strength in shared experiences, giving back to a community, embracing your inner “you”. . . I could go on and on. In an attempt to harness those ideas, Empowerment will be broken down into sections within a section: Survivors, A Walk in Her Shoes, Call to Action, “You” in Unique, and Ally. “Survivors” will profile women who have risen above a difficult time in their lives; “A Walk in Her Shoes” will be an interview with a successful woman in a typically “male” profession; “Call to Action” will provide regional volunteering opportunities; “’You’ in Unique” will be a celebration of individuality; and “Ally” will profile a man doing great things for gender equality. Regardless of what I think Empowerment is about, I hope you’ll find a part of yourself in each of the articles—cry with the woman who survived breast cancer because she reminds you of your aunt; find inspiration in the female chef because you’ve been told how hard it is for women to work in a professional kitchen; congratulate the man who fights against domestic violence; laugh with the college student who still watches cartoons and isn’t afraid to admit it. These are your voices telling your stories, and I can’t think of a better definition of “empowerment” than that.

Dream big,

Meghan McAfee (Your Empowerment Editor)

EMPOWERMENT: Stories from around the world centering around one touching theme: women’s empowerment. KHLOE magazine strongly believes in the power a woman has to use their voice and make their mark in the world through chasing their dreams, speaking up, and empowering others.To celebrate personal strength by promoting awareness, understanding shared experiences, and accepting individuality.

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“I feel that the more that these issues are talked about, the more the public is aware of these issues, the more likely change is to happen.

A MAN IN A WOMAN’S WORLD: OVERCOMING STEREOTYPES “You don’t have to be anti-man to be pro-woman.” – Jane Galvin Lewis “The injustices being committed towards women irritated the hell out of me, so I became a member,” said Jef McClimans, Chair of Social Media for the Grand Rapids, Mich. chapter of National Organization for Women (NOW). By Rachel MacDonald

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2009, McClimans brought his technical skills to an organization that coincided with his personal beliefs. After joining the organization, he was given the enormous task of creating a resource for the immediate community of Grand Rapids, and those interested in the movement on a larger scale. “NOW seemed like a perfect outlet for me to use my social media, computer, internet, and general technical knowledge and they needed someone who could manage those sorts of things for them,” said McClimans in reference to how he ended up at the Grand Rapids Chapter. NOW was created in 1966, when a group of 20 women decided to take a stand against gender discrimination. Fed up with sex-segregated “help wanted” ads in the newspapers and an already growing negative media attack on women, they were ready to make a difference in their society. Throughout the decades, NOW has fought to provide women an equal chance in a society advocating unrealistic measures of beauty and outdated stereotypical roles. Although NOW is an organization devoted to helping women, the vice-president in

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the founding year was a man: Richard Graham. As NOW has grown and set a grassroots network around the country, the legacy of a male fighting for women’s causes still survives today. When McClimans’ began participating in NOW, there was not a job posting or inclination to have a permanent board member be in charge of social media. It was only after his hard work that the organization voted to create the job title of Chair of Social Media.

bers, it is all too easy to lose ground that he has gained for the organization. Before working for NOW, the organization struggled to keep potential and current members up-to-date or involved online. “In the past two years, NOW GR has gone from social media infancy and a lack of a website to a cohesive, branded, interconnected online presence with a robust Facebook page, Twitter Feed, and website,” McClimans said.

“Social media is one of the best tools non-profits and activist groups have to reach and connect with like-minded people,” said McClimans. “Usually you find that there are more people who share your beliefs than you originally thought.”

Since June 2011, McClimans’ efforts have resulted in a greater number of Followers on both Facebook and Twitter, and the organization consistently moves toward increasing posting frequency and content in each of these areas of the web.

He goes on to say that not only does it allow communication with supporters outside of events or meetings, but it also gives those passionate about the cause a way to participate without pressuring them into political action.

Media can be used in a positive or negative manner, one that McClimans is all too aware of. More often than not, magazines and broadcasts slam women for being either too ambitious if they are successful, or less than intelligent if they make a mistake.

McClimans works to give an edge to the social media at NOW by managing the usual online tools: Facebook, Twitter, and the NOW: GR website. Without current strategies and attention grabbing events for interested mem-

“The media marginalizes real women that have dimensions and complexity,” he said

National Organization for Women, not of Women—it’s an important distinction to make, because combating oppression takes teamwork; traditional gender roles are just as damaging to men as they are to women. McClimans notes that he is often treated differently when dealing with feminist and nonfeminist individuals. “[They] do not always take me seriously or often treat me like the ‘token male’,” he said. “I have felt like I have to work harder than female feminists in order to prove that I am truly committed to this work and these issues.” When asked about his ambitions or goals through his involvement with NOW, McClimans responded on two levels: business and personal. For social media, he wants to see a spreading of conversations and knowledge of what NOW stands for and what it seeks to build—da society where both genders are treated with equal respect.

The National Organization for Women in Grand Rapids has already proven to be alive and well in the past year. The chapter hosted their annual “Then & NOW” event, organized SlutWalk GR, hosted “Love Your Body Day” event, co-organized “Walk for Choice”, and recently partnered with the Bloom Collective to co-sponsor the “Step Out, Step Up: Men Against Violence”. Each event was aimed at informing the community about different social issues and reminding them that society may rule, but it doesn’t rule how they can think.

In a world where most men are not taken seriously for working with feminist organizations, McClimans prevails above the disbelief from both genders. For him, raising awareness is the most important part of trying to make a difference in this world. Using the Internet as his stage, McClimans has given a community a chance to learn, participate, as well as the knowledge that they are not alone. [Photo credit: Samantha Bradley]

“My goal is to have the issues important to NOW become a common topic of conversation in the Grand Rapids community,” said McClimans.

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