Change the oil in your car I have no problem admitting I’m the first to phone the nearest available man to come and rescue me when I need a ‘guy job’ doing. From catching spiders to cleaning gutters, I opt out instantly. But while your man is away, don’t be afraid to get your hands dirty. Here is REBECCA HIGGINS’ step-by-step survival guide for coping without your man
Secure your vehicle away from traffic, on a flat level surface, with the ignition off. Always check the oil before your engine is hot.
Release the bonnet using the lever inside your car, normally situated under the steering wheel. Lift the bonnet and use the prop lever to secure it.
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Refer to the indicators again and look for sign of oil on the stick. The indicator at the bottom is the minimum amount and the higher level an inch or two above this one is the maximum oil you should have in your engine. Ideally it should be between the two indicators.
Remove the oil cap if the level is low. This will be on the top of the engine with an oil symbol on it.
Identify the dipstick, which is a removable strip inside your engine. Look for a grip with a sling at its end. Pull it out in a straight line and have your cloth ready to wipe it removing any trace of oil on the indicators at the bottom of the stick.
Put your funnel into the hole and fill with oil. Be careful not to over fill, replace the oil cap and re-do steps 1-5 to check it is at the right level. Close the bonnet when you are satisfied the level is correct. Check your car’s oil level.
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Re-insert the dipstick fully, ensure you do this without bending it. Then take the dipstick out in a swift movement to read the oil level.
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aderborn can be found in the centre of Germany and now accommodates not only the soldiers but their families as well. Army wives need not worry about having nothing to do and being lonely; there’s always something happening and lots to see. This city is full of history, stretching back more than 1,200 years and is known as ‘Cathedral City’. One of the best is the Romanesque Gothic Cathedral. There are
There is also an industrial estate containing a NAAFI supermarket, which is only accessible to forces personnel and their families. When you move you have to think about your children’s education and Sennelager boasts two British schools, one primary and one secondary. Garrison Commander Brigadier TA Beckett says: “This city itself is dynamic and welcoming and you could spend a year exploring the sites, cafés and museums.
How can I make more friends?
It’s my first time being posted abroad and I’ve never lived away before. All my friends live in my hometown in the UK and I find it really hard to make new ones. Carla Fletcher, Cyprus
Within the garrison we are spoilt for choice. If you or your children like football, rugby, bowling, swimming, shooting, riding, golf or fishing then you can pursue these sports here. “You should also note this area is well prepared for people belonging to the forces spend their lives coming here.” h
Who can I talk to? I find it hard talking to my friends about my feelings because none of them have fellas in the army. I don’t know who I can turn to talk to about this sort of thing. Tracey Minchell, Middlesex.
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You can still talk to your friends, they will have experienced relationships with ups and downs and you should be able to talk to them about anything. However, if you really do feel uncomfortable talking to them about this, you could talk to other WAGs on our website www.homefront.co.uk
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Tell us what there is to do and why you like it. We’ve been posted abroad in Sennelager. It’s a beautiful place and I’ve been here for just over two years so far . I love it and I will be sad to leave the friends I’ve made. There’s so much to do and the weather is lovely and so are the people. I like it much better here than England.
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I’ve been living in Paderborn for just over a year now. It’s great, I can’t complain about the place. Yes, I am away from family and friends but I’ve made new friends in this stunning city and I get to see my husband. I still keep in touch with my friends in the UK, they’ve even come to visit.
I don’t feel safe
Making good friends takes time, so you should take every possible opportunity to go out and socialise. Join a group or club that shares your interests, you’re likely to make some new friends like that. Another option is asking your husband to introduce you to his army friends’ other halves – and as a bonus these women will be in the same position as you. It will be hard at first to make new friends, you just have to mingle with people and you’ll make new friends before you know it.
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I like living in Sennelager because it feels like home. I love my house and I live on a quiet street and people are pleasant. At the weekend I either have parties at home or stay in with my husband. There are always things to do here, I’m always busy. I love it here.
One of the biggest perks of being an army WAG is that you can travel all over the world. Homefront checks out one of the most popular postings abroad plenty of parks, giving the children lots of places to play and for the WAGs, the Pader Springs shopping precinct will satisfy all your fashion and beauty needs. Job opportunities are in abundance. Sennelager, a village that forms part of the City of Paderborn, is the most popular army posting in Germany for army WAGs. Sennelager contains several British settlements and some businesses, including corner shops, British pubs and even fish and chip restaurants.
IT’S GOOD TO TALK: Don’t bottle things up.
I find it really hard being alone when my partner is away, the night times are the worst. The time drags and I feel unsafe by myself and I miss him so much. Gemma Biddlestone, Leeds You can put your mind at ease by making sure you have adequate locks on your doors. As for late at night, going to sleep watching a film or listening to music might help you drift off, or even try cuddling a teddy. Another way to make yourself feel better is to think of this as a time for you. Take up some hobbies that you’ve wanted to do but couldn’t because you were busy being a couple. Keeping yourself busy and occupied will help pass the time.
My family hate my husband My family hates the army and they hate that I’m married to an army guy. I don’t know what to do to make them see that my husband isn’t a bad person. I don’t understand why they don’t see that he’s serving his country. How do I make them understand this? Gemma Wilson, Birmingham Your family should be there to support you, not put your husband down. Try sitting them all down and telling them how much it gets to you and that his job in the army doesn’t define him. Persuade your family to get to know him as a person, maybe they share common ground with hobbies or interests? If your family continues in the same manner, I’m afraid it’s a problem they must overcome themselves.
I can’t stop worrying
I don’t feel that he is part of our family
I’ve never been so worried about someone in my life. He won’t call on time and I’d be checking the news to see if there was an attack or something. I am so lonely at night, and I sit up wanting to talk to him so badly, but can’t call him. It’s just really worrying. Lindsay Jones, Newcastle
My husband has been away now for almost 13 months, missing our sons’ last two birthdays. It’s really hard celebrating special occasions without him and it’s starting to feel as if he’s not part of the family. Charlotte O’Connor, Stoke.
You have to start thinking positive, your worrying will begin to have a negative impact on your health. It is important for you to stay strong, for both you and him. Joining an evening class or hitting the gym can provide a vital break from worries.
Whether he’s around or not, he will always be part of the family. Even though he isn’t with you at the moment, you can still try to involve him in special occasions by sending something via a bluey or over Garrison FM. The most important thing is to make sure that he’s involved as much as he can in every aspect of your family life. For further information and advice go to www.homefront co.uk where you will find links to relevant organisations.