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CONTENTS President's address
MTM Seema Mundhra
TM Nataraj T.
MTM Ayesha Naseem
TM Balakrishnan Nambiar
MTM Raham Sithara
TM Jamal Mohammad
400th meeting celebrations
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PRESIDENT'S ADDRESS MTM DR. SEEMA MUNDHRA
I was restless. I was relentlessly thinking hard. What
I desire the club members to empower
should be my message for the Club Newsletter? My
themselves, specially our new members. If you have any
fingers were aimlessly playing with the laptop keyboard.
concerns, any suggestions or any new ideas for the
All of a sudden this quote flashed on the screen, 'Setting
meetings—speak out, don’t be hesitant. If you have any
goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the
difficulty in expressing in the meeting, send me an e-
visible.' Simultaneously a light flashed in my mind. Give a
mail with your concerns. We will definitely come out
man a bow and an arrow and tell him to, “SHOOT!” and
with an answer. I want to involve our entire membership
his first response would be, “At what?” When there is
in our decisions and club activities.
no target there is no purpose for shooting. .
This first quarter of term had been power packed and
Fellow Toastmasters, have you set your toastmaster
inspirational with numerous activities and awards—
goals for this year?
Installation of New Officers, New Members Induction,
We the army of officers, the seven colors of the
full attendance at district level first Club Officers
rainbow are all geared up to help you in achieving your
Training, DTM award presentation to Jessie D’Souza,
goals. Goals are important because they give direction
Smedley Award and Lead and Win Award earned by the
and focus. They encourage us in attending the meetings
club. The highlight of the term had been the Milestone
regularly. Every meeting you learn something new. Don’t
Meeting Celebration-15 years of completion of Lagoon
say “NO”, come to the meetings, take up various roles.
Club since its inception in 2002 along with our 400th
Communication is vital, whatever job you have.
meeting. The Toastmasters of Lagoon and the guests enjoyed a wonderful evening and celebrated the success
There has been a lot of activity in membership during
and the milestone meeting of Lagoon. My heart was
the last few months. I extend a warm welcome to all the
filled with pride and I rejoiced each and every moment
new members. New members mean new ideas and new
of that mesmerizing meeting.
speeches, which make meetings more innovative, enjoyable and different, away from the routine. Recently
Together we will enjoy this delightful journey of
we had, “Comedy Evening Live” and a Table Topic
Toastmasters and also work together to make 2017-
session that injected creativity and laughter throughout
2018 a grand success.
the meeting. One of our primary goals is to achieve and retain the President’s Distinguished Club status again this year. To do so, you members have to set your goals to complete your CC's, CL's and DTM's. Lagoon Club is proud to have DTM Jessie D’Souza. She successfully earned this highest Toastmasters award with her perseverance, grit and determination to reach her goal. You too can become better than where you are right now. Let’s have many more of such meetings. I am eager and enthusiastic to get each and every member involved in the club. Members are the heart of the club.
ADVENTURE AT HIGH ALTITUDES Heart-stopping
"Do something adventurous once in a while that should
SAGA – is an important destination which is located
stop your heartbeat for a second."
14,000 ft above the sea level and the oxygen level
Where was this voice coming from?
there is very low and if we managed to stay in Saga for two days then we could pass the high altitude test.
Fellow toastmasters, this was my inner voice challenging
At Saga, I had my first heart-stopping moment, I was
me to take off on an adventure of a lifetime.
running a very high temperature, I couldn’t breathe, walk
In the year 2012, destiny gave me an opportunity to
or talk. My roommate immediately got me hot water
experience an adventurous journey where each step of
and medicines. I said to myself, "I can’t continue, let me
the way was so chancy that the odds of reaching your
give up and go back, I have to see my family."
destination hung by the thread of a rope.
But my inner voice said again” Do something
Before I share my experience let me introduce this
adventurous in your lifetime”.
beautiful place located in a remote corner of western Tibet, 18,000 ft above the sea level with an average
Luckily, I got up fresh in the morning. On the 9th day of
temperature of -10 degree Celsius; Kailash and
our journey, we reached the long-awaited place, Lake
Manasarovar - the highest freshwater lake in the world. This place was breathtaking, so exquisite that I thought I
My preparation started 8 months back, with rising
was in heaven. At night, the place is stunning. We could
before the sun, daily meditations, breathing exercises
see many stars, as though they were some sort of
and long walks to make myself stronger.
glittering lights moving from the sky and merging the
On 11th August 2012 when the whole of UAE was
preparing for Iftar, the first leg of my journey began- to Nepal. From Kathmandu, the itinerary was Jamnu which is
But who knew, that in this holy place, a second heart-
Tibet Border, Saga, and Pariyang. We stayed in each
stopping moment was waiting to welcome me.
place for two days for acclimatization before finally reaching Manasasarovar.
Next day morning at 5 am, we all walked towards the lake to perform rituals to take dips, I felt uneasy and my eyes went blurry, I started shouting, "I can’t see anything! I’m feeling giddy!", I started panting and then fainted. Within a second, I was in Sharjah with my family, enjoying a Masala dosa. I heard in the background, "Hey! Call a doctor, someone has fainted!" I said, "who is this making noise and interrupting me from enjoying my dosa?", I heard a louder voice, "Doctor come fast, he is unconscious!" I said, "let me see what’s happening." I opened my eyes, and I could see the dark clouds, I was in Manasarovar again! Later I took a dip in the holy water, and we continued our journey to the Kailash. After Trekking for 7 hours we reached the north face of Kailash and the next day we trekked another 2 hours to get closer to Kailash. Mount Kailash, standing at 22,000 above Sea level, a peak in the Himalayas. When you look at this mountain for the first time, no reaction, except tears of happiness and fulfillment. Wow! We made it! This place is gloriously beautiful with snow-capped mountains, deep valleys, green meadows, blue sky, silver clouds playing hide N seek with the sun. And it seemed like they were in their own world and speaking their own language, and they said, "we are immortal". And in that moment, I bowed my head with respect and realized that every day, every hour, every second on this planet is a gift. Time is counting down Toastmasters, so follow your heart and intuition, and do what you've always wanted to do and make tomorrow better than today. Doing something adventures once in a while is beautiful and visiting place like Kailash proves that. I heard my inner voice and did something adventurous. Now your turn awaits. 5
NO POINT 'BEING J' MTM AYESHA NASEEM
For the first time since birth, I was going away from
Now, back to the ritual. I did talk to my parents, siblings
home, alone. It would be a long while before I would
and even the extended family. They were busy with a
see my family again.
lot of things. It has been an year since, and I still meet
Relatives and friends took turns guessing what I would
people who ask why I was not at a particular party/
miss the most. Food was a popular choice. It made
function/ birthday/ wedding/ reason-to-gather. It
sense. It was a tangible reminder of the distance.
seemed I had been away for a long time. My response, ‘I
Another one was my bed. What I had terribly feared
was in (insert place)’ continues to apply. I had missed a
the most was a basic convenience – the humble
lot and nothing really, at the same time.
So, did I miss anything or anyone at all?
What about parents? ‘We shall Skype every single day,
You should know, I have never liked the word ‘jealous’.
don’t you worry.’
‘Envious’ or ‘competitive’ usually justify how I feel.
Within a few days of me settling in, all these concerns
Never jealous. All was well, until ritual time.
were put to rest. The food, though different, had
Roomies would speak to their parents for all of 3
warmth. The bed was comfortable and the washroom –
minutes, at best.
gold. Figuratively of course.
Their grandparents would phone, even Skype, while
I had two roommates or ‘roomies’. All of us loved
parents would have to interrupt to get a word in. In
dozing off as soon as we were done with dinner. There
languages and dialects foreign to me, I picked up words
was a ritual which was unfailingly followed before
to address grandparents, before those for parents or
saying goodnight, and nothing, including a flooding
situation in the building, could disrupt this ritual.
I was jealous. Friends at school used to call it ‘being J’.
*drum rolls please*
Never before in all my life yet, had I felt such a yearning.
Talking to the family back home.
Talking to parents did not suffice. I wanted to talk to my
My roomies explained, they had lived away from home
grandparents. You see, three of the four of my
in pursuit of education since they started attending
grandparents bid adieu to this world a long time ago. It
school. They had only ever been home during vacations,
is a wonderful miracle that I can still recall their voices. I
"2 months at max". I realized, me whining about my first
only hope and pray that they do not fade with time.
time away from home, would crown me the unwilling
Mum tries to reassure me that they will not.
drama queen. I mentioned it to them only once. 6
She constantly reminds me, I am a replica of my Naani,
On days when it gets difficult, I try to remember the
my maternal grandmother. Her habits and awesomeness
stories Naani used to tell us. The times when Naana
have only been inherited by me in the entire family.
would put together special meals for us. That time when
Maybe one other cousin to a certain extent, but mostly
Daada told me I had a thing for chess. That helps. Those
just by me.
recipes help. The inner voice that absorbed their logic
My paternal grandmother, Daadi, is alive and kicking.
and morals helps. My reflection in the mirror helps too.
Naani was really pretty.
I could only, I had to and I did speak to her. Poor soul, she had to put up with my chatter, enough for her and the three who are not here anymore. I spoke to her more times a week than I had in months. She did not mind, she told me. I know she did not. But her health could only take so much. During that time, my best friend’s wedding day arrived. We had been counting down the days since the date had been finalized. I could not be with her because something came up. Superb timing. (Please note the sarcasm). We spoke over the phone and Skype, as much as possible, internet connection allowing. Her wedding arrangements were being spearheaded by her grandparents. They were going to be in her wedding day photos, MashaAllah. My aching heart felt worse. I was happy for her, just not for myself. I make it a point to visit them whenever they are in town. They are, simply put, adorable. Mummy and Daddy, as they are fondly addressed by all members of the family, have amazing stories to tell. Daadi is still trying her best to cope with my life stories. A month later, my sister’s wedding was planned around
Every day is a new day. She should really rest more.
my Naani’s wishes. Nine years after she was gone, the
So where does it leave me?
promise had been fulfilled down to the last detail.
I have realized, both jealousy and the reasons for it are
One thinks they get over their loss with time, that the
absence hurts less. It might feel so but it does not. The
Instead, I have chosen to honour them by being the best
memories come flooding and the gaping hole in the
version of myself, by doing right by myself and going
heart grows when the rituals begin.
after my big dreams.
My granpys, as I call them collectively, and with much
It is time for breakfast so I have to end my piece. You
love, can never be dethroned. They were the
see, Naana always said, stomach comes first. "One
extraordinary people who raised my parents who are
cannot dream big on an empty stomach."
now trying their best to raise us.
In case you are still wondering, where had I flown away to - does it even matter?
ENGLISH: ABUSE OR MISUSE? TM BALAKRISHNAN NAMBIAR - ACG, CL
The ubiquitous Anglo Saxon tongue with its convoluted
a foreign language unbridled license to take every
syntax and phonetic inconsistencies, also with its myriad
expedient liberty in its use.
of varieties mixed with local dialects is the one language
Particularly in India, the convent trimmed accents of the
difficult to deal with. Mastery over its vagaries is the
microscopic elite give no inkling of the battering
privilege of an elite minority spread over the entire
Queen’s English has taken at the hands of ‘brown sahibs’.
English speaking world. The expression ‘English as she is
Every region has its own very unique style of
spoken in England’ appears to be the product of
enunciation. The Keralites, for example, do things
desperation rather than of conviction. The average
ZIMBLY (simply), Tamilians say goingaaa (are you
Englishman is nowhere near as articulate as one would
going?), comingaaa (are you coming?) and also they
never wash but 'WASS'. A Banglababu and Oriya guy go
When called upon to speak seriously innumerable ‘ums’
to the JOO (zoo). A person from the Hindi belt takes
and ‘ahs’ and ‘ers’ are needed to prop up his delivery as
'MEAYYURMENT' (measurement) and a Sadarji catches
seen in Toastmasters Clubs speeches (that is why they
his train at the 'SATASHUN' (station). Last but not least
have an ‘Uh Counter’) and more often sentences do not
the Marathis blames the 'SISTAME' (system) for all the
arrive at logical conclusions. Comparatively, languages
ailments of society. (After all, what does it really matter
like Urdu, French, Arabic, Persian and even Malayalam
when the idea is conveyed in full)
lend themselves to more precise and cogent expression
Once Nehru greeted a rustic linguist, a politician from
even at layman’s level.
south India “Oh K - it is you”. “Yes Sir, I is” was the reply. Greatly amused Nehru said again, “Oh you are”. Pat
The oddities of this language are perhaps traceable to
came the reply “Yes I are”.
the fusion of heterogeneous cultures resulting from the
It is legendary that a misplacement of a simple coma
earliest conquests of England. Bernard Shaw insisted that
unnecessarily took away a prisoner’s life. The Monarch
under present phonetic norms ‘Fish’ can be spelled as
wrote to the jailor “ Hang him not, let him go” but with
‘GHOTI’, the GH combination representing F (as in
the coma put mistakenly to read as “Hang him, not let
ROUGH), O standing for E (as in women) and the letters
him go” and that is what the jailor did. The speculation
TI in tandem making SH (as in STATION).
whether it would happen in other languages, however, is
The erstwhile British colonies see in their adoption of
best left to researchers.
COMMUNICATION WHICH CAN TRANSFORM A HOUSE INTO A HOME MTM RAHAM SITHARA
The year 2009 has immense importance in our lives. In
.and a half minute. Exactly at the 30th second, he rang a
this historic year 2009, we were privileged to be a part
bell and started to speak with full energy, enthusiasm
of the wonderful TM fraternity. Now, maybe friends are
and positivity. We were in awe! At the end of the
thinking, how this crazy family reached this doorstep.
conversation instead of treating us, he sent us to a
Even though TM Rafi and I began our partnership in
Toastmaster meeting. And there we were wonderstruck
September 1991, we were able to start our actual
to see the amazing power of listening and speaking
communication in effective “Husband–wife style” only
skills. Thus we joined Lagoon Toastmasters.
about 10 years later, as we both hail from two different
.Slowly our kids noticed self-discipline in their parents'
cultures and spoke different languages.
daily life. Having said that, practicing something we want
I started working as a mathematics school teacher and
to see in others is much effective than preaching it.
slowly immersed myself in a very busy life as a teacher–
Now ours is a TM family and we cherish each moment
housewife–mother. In fact, I realized that it was really
of our TM journey. As a result, every issue is discussed
difficult to teach simple addition and subtraction to
debated and evaluated on daily basis. Like the taboos in
today’s generation kids, but at the other end I easily
Toastmasters, we refrain from sex, religion and politics
figured out our income and expenditure, which led to
during our sessions. There is an obvious reason for that.
busy discussions at home with lots of thunder and
We husband-wife follow religion and are spiritual to a
lightning during our leisure time.
certain extent but our new generation daughters have
Soon I decided to leave my job to become a wonderful
modern outlooks on religion, sex and even politics.
companion to my husband. But destiny had something
When we try to preach Indian Traditions and
else in her store, with time I noticed something
civilizations, these feminists start lecturing and
seriously wrong with my family. Day by day my partner
questioning the idea of equality.
was entering into his own shell of business and became
I don’t mean to showcase mine as an “ideal family” but
a workaholic. This not only disturbed me but I also
now, we COMMUNICATE a lot more than our
noticed the house atmosphere was like a cloudy sky just
yesteryears and LISTEN to each other. Day by day we
before heavy rains.
have been polishing the chain which links us and that
I realized that, in every family, a little violence is much
bond of understanding helps us in creating a beautiful
better than pin drop silence. I did not want to give up,
homely atmosphere. Now we strongly believe and affirm
so we went to a psychiatrist for counseling, and
that communication can transform a House into a Home
the doctor patiently listened to our story for about 7
and we are really grateful to Toastmasters for this. 9
LEARNING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS TM JAMAL MOHAMMAD
If you want to learn something, do you feel yourself too
they are doing so because it is something they wanted
old to learn?
to accomplish. The likelihood of improved earning power
Learning is a continuous process and the true learner
is no longer the motivating factor. It doesn’t necessarily
always looks for avenues to learn from anybody and
have to be academics.
everybody. Nobody in this world knows everything. There is no bar on a learner’s age or the age of the
I shall give you an example of Michael Kevin Kearney of
teacher. A young child can teach you something which
Hawaii, USA, who started teaching college at the age of
you may not have learned till now. Similarly, every old
17. He is listed in the Guinness Book as the world's
and poor man can teach you something very important.
youngest university graduate at the age of 10, receiving a bachelor's degree in anthropology from the University
Some people learn about things through experiences.
of South Alabama.
People learn from their successes, failures, achievements
Another inspiring story is that of an Australian, Phyllis
and disappointments in life. I heard this phrase once,
Turner, who began her graduate studies at the age of
“Life is a teacher, we are its students.”
90. The 94-year-old great-great-grandmother is the
If we are keen on learning, we can learn anything. There
world’s oldest recipient of a masters degree in medical
is a misconception that when one grows old he or she
cannot learn. Learning occurs at every stage of life. When you were a toddler, you learned how to walk.
It is unfair to introduce an unofficial age limit for
After you learned how to walk, you learned how to talk.
learning. Learning must be for all, irrespective of age. If
Then you were sent to school to learn how to read and
you have the true determination and dedication to learn
write. After that, you were taught different kinds of
then you can do so at any age.
subjects, for you to proceed forward in your life. When
Professionals in Finance & Accounts, Doctors, Engineers,
you proceeded forward in life, you learned how to work,
Lawyers and IT professionals require updating their
how to be a leader and so on. Finally, when one grows
knowledge throughout their careers. The reason for
old, one has to learn how to use a walking stick and how
such a continuous learning is to keep the aforesaid
to chew without teeth! It shows that learning is a
professionals abreast of the new laws and regulations,
current best practices, hear fresh thinking and learn new
There are many people in their 50’s and 60’s going back
skills. The knowledge you learned a couple of years ago
to college to earn their degree! At that point in their life,
become obsolete in the current fast-paced digital era. 10
There are hundreds of thousands fresh professionals who are entering the job markets. How are you going to set yourself apart from this competition? It is only through continuous learning, the regular update of your knowledge and learning new skills. In this way, you will have an upper hand, otherwise, you are sure to fall behind. No human being on the earth can claim himself or herself as an omniscient. Everyone keeps learning until his or her last breath in some form or the other. If you notice that there is a particular knowledge gap in yourself, try to fill that knowledge gap by learning, you will grow as a person. You should not care about what age you are at: EXPAND YOUR MIND. FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS, GO AFTER THE IMPOSSIBLE! You won’t be sorry. You will grow, even if you don’t succeed in a particular endeavor. You try again, and you will make it.
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The founding member of Lagoon Toastmasters, TM M.K.Rajan receiving the Outstanding Toastmaster award from District 105's PQD - DTM Balaji Bhushan
DTM Jessie D'Souza being presented with her Distinguished Toastmaster certificate by the past presidents of Lagoon Toastmasters Club
Newly inducted members with their mentors
Induction ceremony of the EXCOM for 2017-2018 12
400 MEETING CELEBRATIONS
EXECUTIVE COMMITTEE 2017-2018
PRESIDENT Dr. Seema Mundhra
VICE PRESIDENT - EDUCATION
VICE PRESIDENT - MEMBERSHIP
VICE PRESIDENT - PR
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