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Editor-in-Chief, Annette Johnson Senior Editor, Trikarri Bates Design Director, Joey Shepherd Online Editor, Bianca Nelson Beauty Editor, Erika Mitchell Travel Editor, Peggy Hattendorf Social Media Director, Tamara King Editorial Assistant, Sarah Kitchens Sales Manager, Mic Mell Special Projects Manager, Veronique Thomas Contributors: Alicia Emamdee Bethsaida Romelus Cynthia K. Fick Darcell Lawrence Fatima Leite Kusch Jaime Johnson Jennifer Adams Juliet Cohen Lenise Williams Linda-Ann Stewart Michelle Smith Nicole Brodie Patricia Wagner Reggie Jones Cover photo: Leo Marshall Creative, photography; Fallon Armbrister, makeup; Tyeisha Braxton, hair; Jared “JL Hunter” McKinley, Margaret Avery’s publicist, Atlanta Customer Service For subscription service or change of address, including email, contact info@hersmagazine.net or write to P.O. Box 1071, Atlanta, GA 30301 Hers (ISSN 2372-3785) is published six times per year by Allwrite Communications, 241 Peachtree Street NE, Suite 400, Atlanta, GA 30303 404-221-0703


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47 Mothers of Many

Take an inside look at the mothers of some of entertainment's largest families

Heating up the Summer with Bambah

64 From Hooters to Her Own

Explore the summer line of emerging designer, Maha Abdul Rasheed

How giving simple advice landed Raquel Guice her dream job

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Bringing the Sunshine

Into Your Decor

Reduce clutter, edit knick-knacks, throw out those extra magazines that have been accumulating for a while. Remove dried flowers and wreaths, especially if they’re dusty.

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In many parts of the country, summer seems a long way off! Even if it’s not summer yet, who says your house can’t feel that way? Capture that feel and give yourself a break from the rain, snow and gray days by bringing the sunshine in. Here are some quick, easy ideas that will help transform your house from winter blah to fresh, cool and casual for summer.

Framed mirrors and sparkly accessories bounce light around and help make rooms feel larger and more airy.

Clean your windows, inside and out! All that rain and snow leaves a layer of dirt on the glass that prevents natural light from getting inside. Dust blowing around from your heating system and cooking creates a layer on the inside!

Remove heavy drapery panels at windows, leaving just the sheers or blinds for a light, airy look. Store until the fall, and get the drapes cleaned right before you want to rehang them for a renewed and freshly pressed look.

Change out plush area rugs for flat weave ones in lighter colors. Use slipcovers over furniture for a fresh look. Fabrics in light colors transform formal, dark colored leather or wool covered furniture. Cotton and linen are ideal. I like using textured fabrics for a rich look.

Change out your towels, throw pillows and blankets to lighter colors, bright patterns and comfortable fabrics.

12 Four Ways to Naturally Diminish the Appearance of Age Spots Tips to get rid of those

Sisal, jute and coir rugs look summery and feel great underfoot. Consider getting your area rugs cleaned, too.

Also, as you remove blankets from your bed, add a lightweight coverlet or bedspread instead of heavy ones. Cool colors work well for summer: light grays, pale yellows, blues and greens with ivory and white are refreshing and inviting.

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7 Keys to Better Relationships By implementing and following these key steps, your relationships will go from lackluster to lusty

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42 Bringing the Sunshine Into Your Decor Keep the gloomy days out of your home

46 Motherhood In a Nutshell How to embrace motherhood without losing self

66 Designing Outdoor Living Spaces Because who said all the fun has to be inside

73 Most Annoying Thing About Men Our survey and

roundup of what you said

What’s your favorite way to prepare for summer? Let us know!

Jennifer Adams is an award-winning designer, writer and TV personality. Send your questions to AskJennifer@JenniferAdams.com or on Twitter: @JenniferAdams. For more tips, watch Jennifer’s YouTube channel at www. youtube.com/user/JenniferAdamsHome or visit www.jenniferadams.com

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36 Natural Options for Healthy Hair Growth

Using all-natural herbs and essential oils to promote your hair’s growth and shine

37 How to Get Flawless Skin Before Your Wedding Day Your ring isn’t the only thing that should be glowing

38 Best Summer Lemonade

We rated five of the best brands, see if your favorite made the cut


16 Wise Women Money Quiz Are you Money-Smart or Financially Naïve? Find out by taking this quiz

58 Noemie Dupuy

How the tech guru is making her mark in a man’s world, and creating her own rules by creating for our children

66 Pocket Click Stick

The newest gadgets to hit the market that will be flying off shelves soon

68 Babies. Business. Balance How to make the most out

of balancing motherhood and business, while still having time for yourself

50 Margaret “Shug” Avery: 30 Years Since “The Color Purple”

8 A League of Her Own

Levo League's Caroline Ghosn has created a networking platform for millennial women to advance in their careers and their lives. Women Rejoice

56 Four Ways to Improve Your Personal Environment These four tips will help declutter your life, keep your mind at ease and a smile on your face

62 What Modern Women Really Want from a Man And no, it's not what you think

The electrifying actress on life, happiness and Being Mary Jane’s mother

H E R H E A LT H 14 Can Spirituality Be an Escape Take a vacation to Inner

70 How to Win a Man’s Heart Elena Burnett shares advice

on how to overcome our relationship stereotypes and pitfalls to win the man you deserve

74 Why do We Travel

We examine the reasons we do, and also reasons that you should

80 How to Get the Most Out of your Beading Hobby

Peace by letting spirituality guide you

Beading is the current trend that’s sweeping the nation, here’s how to start your new obsession

81 How to Stay Fit on a Schedule The everyday working

82 Summer Entertainment Guide The best in summer movies,

woman is busy, but that doesn't mean she has to let her fitness take a backseat, here's how to accommodate fitness into your fastpaced lifestyle

music, television and world class festivals


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Editor’s Letter What’s never shocking to me is to hear how women are treated around the world, how they are often considered second-class citizens. What still confuses me is how standards for beauty have not changed much over the last century. I thought, if nothing else, women had experienced a liberation in beauty, one in which we discovered our most appealing assets – whether internal or external – and rocked it! To that end, we highlight the 30th anniversary of the Academy Award-nominated film “The Color Purple” and its protagonist, Shug (Margaret Avery). The spirited blues singer, Shug, advocated and triggered change in a woman, Celie, whose low self-esteem once had her trapped

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and hopeless. Films like this and the popularization of the self-help genre are among the factors that have caused an awakening of self-acceptance. The truth is that it has affected a significant enough amount of women that we can clearly see a shift, such as full-figured models and leading ladies. However, another article, “From Hooters to Her Own,” in this issue discusses how an American traveler working in Africa discovered how the women bleach their skin. In this issue, we have also included the opinions and voices of men, so we can find out what they really think about how women portray themselves in social media and perceive relationship opportunities. I guess you can say this issue discusses

many issues centered around people’s perception of themselves, others and even lemonade. We did our own taste test of popular lemonade brands to see what we could recommend, as you meld with the summer’s heat. After you read everything, of course, drop us a line, so we can share your thoughts and opinions about any of our articles. Until, Annette

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A LEAGUE OF HER OWN BY KARRI BATES

While most female millennials are still trying to prioritize their goals and find their first real jobs, Caroline Ghosn’s ambition is to help them take over the world. Ghosn is co-CEO and Founder of Levo League, a community of professional women seeking advice, inspiration, and the tools needed to achieve their career goals.


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evo League was started out of necessity and empathy. Ghosn, who is a millennial, had so many overwhelming responses from her peers lamenting that they had no idea where to begin when it came to getting the career they wanted or tapping into the resources they deserved. That’s when she knew something had to change. “Millennials are a really unique group because we’re the biggest demographic, but when it comes to careers and success, there’s no real resources or technology to support our success.” Ghosn thinks that no one really points out the importance of getting on the right track, which is quite surprising as millennials are the group that is most open to technology. She has a lot of other workplace issues on her mind, but her main objective right now is making sure that equal pay in the workplace is every woman’s top priority. Getting the equal pay is not the tough part however, negotiating for it is. “Women don’t ask for enough. We’re always okay with the bare minimum, but I feel that it’s important for women to learn how to negotiate what they want. It is something that we are never taught to do, so at first it is understandably hard,” she says. Ghosn is so passionate about promoting Levo’s #Ask4More campaign for Equal Pay Day because she learned firsthand the old-age adage, if you don’t ask for it, you won’t get it. “I definitely was the kind of person who didn’t ask initially, even when I was younger. I’d take a babysitting job where they’d offer me $10 an hour to babysit, but they’d give me $5—maybe even $7, and I would never speak up about it, I would just take it because at least it was something. That’s not right.” With time she’s learned how to negotiate not only small things, but

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also multi-million dollar contracts. The most important thing she’s learned is consistency. “You have to continually learn and not let fear keep you from going after what you want. Asking is like a muscle it keeps growing and getting stronger. If you start asking for the smaller things, it gets easier to ask for the bigger things, then one day asking for what you want becomes second nature to you. “ Time has taught her many things, but one thing that has been persistent is Ghosn’s work ethic. As a Stanford graduate, who holds a bachelor’s of arts in international political economy and environmental economics, she was always interested in subjects whose scope was well beyond just her immediate environment, “I’ve lived in many different countries, and I was always interested in how things work. I decided to go into Economics because systems and people fascinate me. I wanted to learn how they create value and interact with each other,” Ghosn said. Ghosn has successfully built her brand through the exact thing that Levo promotes, networking. “One of the most important things about navigating my career has been having a group of peers and mentors who offer different advice. I try to look at networking as forming a roster by building relationships with other entrepreneurs, both men and women.” She can be considered a walking contradiction: pretty and sweet, yet powerful and relentless when it comes to getting what she wants. However, the apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree. Ghosn is the daughter of Nissan and Renault CEO, Carlos Ghosn, and while the sweet life could have come to her naturally, she decided to work for everything she deserved. “I’m very driven by what we’re building, and take pride in creating a place where new generations of people will have access to networking and career tips,

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We have so much technology at our disposal. I don’t think people realize that. tricks and resources. We have so much technology at our disposal. I don’t think people realize that.” Ghosn is on a mission to make sure that technological advancements aren’t just a form of resources that are taken advantage of and improperly used. “There are so many opportunities. Millennials are the first generation to be digitally native, because we use technology that has fundamentally changed since its inception, so for us not to use those skills and resources is unacceptable.” Putting those skills to work is exactly what she does in her everyday life. Giving millennials career and networking advice is just the beginning of what she hopes to accomplish. Ghosn is set on achieving milestones, from hearing from Levo members that the site and information has helped them in their professional life, to growing the company and its membership. Learning every day, impacting people, and seeing her vision turn tangible has been quite the eye-opener for Ghosn. Levo has grown exponentially almost daily, but with the site almost at 8 million members, there have to be risks along the way. For Ghosn, those risks occur about as often as the site grows: daily. “It’s an extremely daunting process, because you’re hers-magazine.com


betting money on a vision you have and in some cases putting millions on the line. However, I’ve realized that it doesn’t make sense unless you’re driving towards a vision that makes it worthwhile, and that means you’re fully living it, out there on the edge.” Being on the edge, however, comes with its perks. It means Ghosn gets to hobnob with some of the most familiar names in business. In Levo’s “Office Hours” segment, Ghosn interviews business’ power players in an attempt to shed light on who they are not only as an executive or a philanthropist, but also who they are as a person. She’s covered everyone from fashion designer, Nanette Lepore to Chelsea Clinton, Vice Chair of the Clinton Foundation, and daughter of former President of the United States, Bill Clinton. Her most interesting subject has been Warren Buffett, Chairman and CEO of Berkshire Hathaway, who, surprisingly, is quite the introvert. “It was interesting talking to him because he built his life out of this entire city (Omaha, Nebraska) and he just walked into the room. We were both hesitant because it’s being filmed and this is going out to millions of viewers, but it seems that once we both realized we were both a little hesitant, we became more comfortable with each other.” Since its launch in 2011, Levo has been changing lives for many millennials, but even though Ghosn is the CEO, she still takes advice from the experts. “Susan Lyne (CEO; Brand Group, AOL) told me always be explicit and aggressive with what you’re trying to accomplish, you want to give people a clear sense of the magnitude of what it is you’re trying to do. Don’t be indirect, ambiguous or shy about what you’re trying to convey. Instead, be bullish and transparent. So many females focus on what they could accomplish while in a position, and not paint the bigger picture. Make sure people understand what you mean.” The magnitude of Ghosn’s dream has surpassed anything she could’ve possibly thought of, and for that she leads by example.

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ge spots, commonly referred to as solar lentingo, sunspots, or liver spots, are small darkened areas, usually brown, black or yellow in color, found on the surface of the skin. These generally harmless spots usually can be found on the face, hands, arms, or legs, though they can appear anywhere on the body. The spots usually make an appearance between the ages of 40 and 50. Formed by prolonged exposure to the sun, age spots may appear sooner than age 40, or in greater number, to those individuals who spend significant periods of time outdoors or in tanning beds. While true age spots are generally not a cause for medical concern and require no treatment, many people find these spots undesirable and want to have them removed for

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cosmetic reasons. Over-the-counter cosmetic treatments can include bleaching of the spots using a variety of expensive chemical-heavy creams. Age spots may also be removed by visiting a doctor who can offer treatment options such as liquid nitrogen removal, laser resurfacing, or chemical peels. Did you know that there are many home remedies for treating and diminishing the effects of aging, including products that fade and reduce the appearance of age spots? Help may be as close as your kitchen cupboard. Before you spend money on expensive creams or lotions or make that laser removal appointment, try one, or a combination, of these all-natural products. You may discover your own personal secret to reducing, and even preventing, the effects of aging and sun exposure. hers-magazine.com


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APPLE CIDER VINEGAR is a wonderful, multi-tasking tool to have in your health and beauty arsenal. This ingredient should have a place in every home’s kitchen and bathroom. This vinegar is known to have healing properties for the skin. The sulfur found in ACV helps fight aging-effects and may be an effective treatment in diminishing the appearance of darkened spots on your skin. To use, dip a cotton ball in apple cider vinegar and dab directly on the age spot area. If your skin is particularly sensitive, you can dilute the apple cider vinegar with plain water. Do not wash off. The longer you allow this, and the other treatments featured here, to remain on your skin, the better. All of these treatments can be applied at night and washed off in the morning for best results. ALOE VERA GEL is a safe and effective way to gently treat skin conditions including treatment for age spots. The gel can be obtained directly from the leaves of an aloe vera plant or may be purchased in the pharmacy or grocery store. If purchasing from a store, be sure to look for 100% pure aloe vera gel. This healing gel encourages skin cell regeneration, causing the skin to shed old, dead cells, leaving clear, new skin in its place. An added benefit of aloe vera gel is its moisturizing properties. As with apple cider vinegar, aloe can be dabbed on trouble spots with a cotton ball and left on overnight. ONIONS contain vitamins and sulfur, which act as natural skin lighteners. Additionally, onions are full of antioxidants and vitamins that help prevent the effects of aging. Using onions as a natural spot remedy can be as easy as rubbing a raw, cut onion over the affected area. You may wish to juice the onion to use alone, or in combination with other ingredients featured here, resulting in an age spot-fighting super serum. Juicing the onion is fairly easy. Simply blend a raw onion. Separate the pulp from the juice by straining the blended onion. Retain the juice from the pulp and compost the bulky pulp. To use, dab on the age spot and let dry.

should be left on the spot as long as possible to diminish the spot’s appearance. This and other citrus juice and oil is best applied in the evening before bed. The juice from citrus fruit, including grapefruit and oranges, can make your skin more susceptible to the sun, causing your skin to burn more easily and increasing the appearance and number of the age spots you already have! If you do use this item during the day, be sure to wash it off thoroughly before spending time outdoors. Speaking of the sun’s effect on your skin, no matter which home remedy, commercial product, or doctor applied treatment you use for age spots, if you do not wear an appropriate sun screen every time you are out during the day, you will be reversing any and all effects your treatment is providing. The sun will cause the spots you have to darken and may cause new spots to appear. Use of these four natural treatments can help diminish the dark spots caused by aging and the sun, but the best defense is to keep them from happening in the first place. Make sure sunscreen is a permanent part of your everyday skin care routine. Jaime Johnson’s passion for all-natural products started as a challenge to produce high-quality health and beauty products, at home, from common household ingredients. This research lead to the creation of her book, Natural Beauty (www.naturalbeautythebook.com). She welcomes opportunities to speak, teach, and/or give product creation demonstrations relating to the benefits of all-natural products to interested organizations and groups. Jaime can be contacted via the Natural Beauty website.

LEMON JUICE has been used as a natural lightening agent for skin and hair for years. The citric acid found in lemons and other citrus fruits help to lighten the darkened skin area. Used alone, or in conjunction with other ingredients, lemon juice

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any people think that spirituality and meditation will heal their issues. Unfortunately, that isn’t the case, and many people then use spirituality as a way of avoiding their problems. Learn the true role of spirituality and meditation in your life. I had a friend who learned Transcendental Meditation and practiced almost every day. She felt happier; more rela xed, even blissful as long as she meditated. If she missed a few days, she found that she didn’t feel much different than before she began to meditate. Although she felt better when she meditated, it wasn’t solving her underlying problems. I’ve known many people who’ve used spirituality and meditation as a way of avoiding dealing with their issues. Since they feel good when they’re pursuing a spiritual path, guru, or new technique, they think that will make all the uncomfortable stuff dissolve and go away. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way. Spirituality is no more a magic bullet than anything else. According to Lawrence LeShan, a psychotherapist, meditation teacher and author of “How To Meditate,” meditation can help strengthen the structure of our personality, making us better able to deal with our challenges. It also may give us more insight into our issues, but it doesn’t do away with them altogether. It may reduce overall anxiety, make us feel safe, therefore better able to face ourselves, but we still need to do the internal work needed to bring about change. Anything that allows us to feel bliss and euphoria, whether it is drugs, lust, romantic love, alcohol, achievement, spirituality or meditation, can become addicting. We become enthralled to the feeling and want to repeat it as often as possible. It makes the bad feelings fade away. Spirituality is a healthier escape than any of the others, but it still can be an escape. We need to ask ourselves, “What am I trying to escape from or avoid?”

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There needs to be a balance and grounding at the same time. Getting carried away with bliss could mean not attending to day-to-day affairs such as paying the bills, eating right, and having healthy relationships. I knew a woman like this. She was so wrapped up in her pursuit of peace that when she received a chunk of money in a settlement, she didn’t want to be bothered by trying to invest it. Instead, she gave the money to a friend to invest it for her. Unfortunately, the friend put it in a high-risk investment, which failed, and she lost all of her money. The euphoria from spirituality and meditation doesn’t erase our personal responsibilities. We seek to recognize our wholeness through spirituality and meditation. Instead of feeling like we have a “hole in our soul,” spirituality helps us to understand that we are truly whole and complete as we are. It allows us to be more fully present in our world and expand our awareness of who we are. However, as long as it’s being used to avoid our feelings and deep issues, we can’t move forward. We’re either resisting discomfort or moving toward wholeness. We can’t do both. We have to be able to balance our spiritual practices with our everyday and emotional lives. Spirituality and meditation gives us a sense of connection that we can then take into the rest of our experience. When we are able to acknowledge our issues, work through them and accept all of ourselves , we’re honoring our spiritual essence. ABOUT THE AUTHOR As a nationally known hypnotherapist, writer, speaker, and consultant, Linda-Ann Stewart is passionate about educating people regarding the power within their own minds. She’s taught hundreds of people how to reduce stress, improve their self-esteem, break negative habits, and improve their lives. She leads seminars and teleseminars on empowerment, selfesteem, creativity and stress reduction. At her website, http:// www.Cedarfire.com, she offers personal development articles, affirmations, audio products, a newsletter, and much more. Her affirmation and self-hypnosis audio products have helped people improve their lives.

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Test Your Knowledge Do you know where you stand in terms of Money Smarts? The following questions are based on Oppenheimer Funds research. It only takes a minute to see how much you know about dealing with money. 1. 60 percent of all women end up managing their own finances at some point in their lives. T or F

5. You need about 75 percent of your pre-retirement income to live comfortable during retirement. T or F

2. Most women invest their portfolios in investments that are too conservative. T or F

6. If a 45-year-old woman plans to retire at age 60, she can expect to live 21 years in retirement. T or F

3. Most stock market investors get wiped out at least once in their lifetime. T or F

7. Between stocks, bonds and CD’s, over the last 30 years bonds have appreciated the most out of any investment overall. T or F

4. Two thousand dollars is the minimum amount needed to invest in a mutual fund. T or F

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Answers: 1. FALSE- 90 percent of all women end up managing their own finances at some point because of increasing divorce rates, becoming a widow and because they live longer. 2. TRUE- Most women are too conservative in their investing. 3. FALSE- Historically not true. There are periods of decline but over the last 50 years, the market has shown overall long-term growth. 4. FALSE- You can open a Mutual Fund automatic account builder program for as little as $25 a month. 5. TRUE- According to studies by the WEFA Group you need 70-80 percent of your pre-retirement

income when you retire. That means if you earn $45,000 when you retire, you will need between $31,500 and $36,000 per year during retirement. 6. TRUE- According to the National Center For Health Statistics, a woman that is 45 who plans to retire at 60 can plan on living 21 years, to the age of 81. Because women live so long, good retirement planning can make a very big difference in how comfortably you live throughout your later years. 7. FALSE. According to Ibbotson Associates, over the last 30 years stocks have been the top performing asset class. 8. FALSE- a monthly investment of $50 growing at eight percent a year

would be worth $9,147 in 10 years and $29,451 in 20 years. 9. FALSE- She can expect Social Security to replace 30 percent of her pre-retirement income or $15,000 if she had been earning $50,000 a year. 10. TRUE- You go girl! You KNOW it’s true!! Information for this quiz was researched by Cynthia Fick, expert financial planner. Research findings come from the Oppenheimer Women and Investing Quiz, Ibbotson Associates, the National Center of Health Statistics and a WEFA Group Study.

Here are your results: 8-10 Correct Great job! You are a MoneySmart Woman. You have a solid understanding of the issues that affect women’s financial lives. Are you using those smarts to live the life of your dreams? Consider meeting with a Financial Coach to complete a Review of your goals and take a picture of where you are now financially. 6-7 Correct Pretty Good! You are a FinanciallyStriving Woman. You’ve started to grasp how important it is for women to be in control of their finances. However, you may not be saving enough to meet your financial goals. Take this opportunity to make sure you are saving enough for retirement and your other financial needs for the future. Ask yourself, am I living the life of my dreams? hers-magazine.com

If not, think about what’s holding you back. to create more financial security and more prosperity. 0-5 Correct You are a Financially-Naïve Woman. You have a bit to learn about your finances, but don’t despair! Many women are in your situation. Just because you lack financial experience doesn’t mean you lack an ability to create wealth. Look at your beliefs about money and the stories your family had about money when you were growing up to see if they empower you financially. You also may want to ask yourself if you are clear on what you want in your life financially. If you are not where you want to be financially, why not?

Every woman can have both. Make an effort to learn more about financial planning and, with the help of a financial advisor or financial coach, go over your portfolio to ensure that you’re investing to help meet your short- and long-term goals. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Cynthia Fick is the lead partner of Financial Life Planners, LLC. She is a Registered Investment Advisory and has extensive knowledge and training in a broad range of investments including stocks, bonds, stock options and mutual funds. She is an expert in Financial and Retirement Planning as well as Tax and Estate Planning.

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BAM BAH PHOTOGRAPHER: BJÖRN GIESBRECHT HAIRSTYLIST AND MAKE-UP ARTIST: JOUJOU ECKERT

Bambah is a fashion line launched by the young designer Maha Abdul Rasheed. Rasheed has lived in Dubai for almost 20 years now. She won the Emirates Woman of the Year award, and her debut Spring-Summer 2015 collection called “The Bow” raised a lot of interest both in Arabic countries and internationally. The brand targets women from 20 to 40 years old. You can already find Bambah’s clientele all over the world, from Dubai to London. It brings the 1950s fashion era back with bows, full skirts, delicate prints and embroideries. It’s all about Hollywood glamour. We present the Spring-Summer 2015 ready-to-wear collection.


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Pink striped blazer tailored from a Mikado woven silk. Tailored cut, rounded strand collar, padded shoulders, a covered button, patch pockets, back vent, fully lined.

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Navy blue blazer tailored from a sumptuous virgin wool and angora blend, features a contrasting under collar made from a vivid pink silk jacquard. Tailor cut, pagoda padded shoulders, a covered button, well pockets, fully lined in pale pink. Pink striped pants cut from a Mikado woven silk. Elasticated waistband and cuffs, slant pockets.

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Natural Options for Healthy Hair Growth BY JULIET COHEN

Olive oil moisturizes the scalp and hair and is rumored to make hair grow thick and curly. Vinegar can also be used to make hair shiny. •

Hair is made of the protein keratin, the same substance found in nails and skin. Your hair is an extension of your skin, and like your skin, hair is a direct reflection of your internal health. Healthy hair can only come from a healthy scalp. So it’s important to use hair care that will nourish your scalp and hair follicles.

Lemon juice has been used for decades to lighten hair, but only works on hair that has never been colored or chemically treated. A mixture of lemon juice, chamomile tea, and yogurt may lighten hair as well, but the effects will be subtle.

The right shampoo should remove the sebum that is secreted by the scalp.

Acetic acid seals the hair’s cuticle, acts as a detangler and provides sheen.

Try using carbonated water as a rinse. The carbonic and phosphoric acids will have the similar effect as vinegar, but without the smell.

Chamomile is a great conditioner for damaged and dry hair. When used for rinsing after shampoo it will help restore glow and bring out the natural highlights for blondes. It also helps to strengthen the hair to prevent breakage, tangling and divide ends.

Good circulation is essential for healthy hair. Daily aerobic exercise stimulates circulation throughout the body, and inverted yoga postures such as the shoulder stand are particularly helpful for increasing circulation to the scalp.

Soy, beans, yogurt , fish and eggs are also beneficial for long hair and healthy skin.

Many of these herbal ingredients are now used in professional treatments and are included in natural hair and beauty products.

Ginger hair oil is a wonderful hair treatment that stimulates hair growth, boosts the scalp’s circulation, and alleviates dandruff. Ginger treatment will leave your hair feel soft, clean, and pleasantly smelling of herbs.

Greasy or oily hair will benefit from a rinse made with lemon balm, rosemary, lavender or mint. All these herbs will calm the scalp and reduce the sebum production.

Grind one teaspoon of black pepper and one teaspoon of lemon seeds. Apply this blend on your head and scalp. Leave it in for

10-15 minutes, and then rinse your hair using clean cold water. This revitalizes hair and is effective for growing hair.


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Start a skincare regimen about six months to a year before your wedding date.

Whether you have oily, dry, normal or combo skin types, your skin thirsts for water. Water hydrates the skin and helps prevent fine lines and wrinkles. Drinking Beauty Water (beautyh2o) helps your skin stay hydrated. Foods such as watermelon, grapefruit, broccoli and lettuce also contribute to hydration.

Remove makeup with makeup remover to break down the makeup, before using a facial cleanse to cleanse the skin. Do not use a washcloth to remove makeup or to wash your face, because it harbors bacteria. Use your hands or a facial brush that you clean every day.

Exfoliate your skin twice a week with an exfoliating facial scrub and/ or facial mask. The facial scrub will help remove dead skin cells from the surface and allow for cell turnover, which will bring new skin cells to the surface. A facial mask will help melt the hard sebum (or oily substance) in your pores, which helps regulate oil control. If you have dry skin, use the exfoliating scrub once a week and mask once a week. In conjunction with the scrub and the mask, make sure you use a hydrating moisturizer to replenish your water/oil balance. If your skin is oily, use a mask three times a week. This helps prevent oil and dirt from building up.

Moisturize: You don’t want to add too much moisture, but you do want to hydrate. Look for ingredients like hyaluronic acid or

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ferulic acid, both of which help your skin maintain water and oil balance of the skin. For dry skin: look for ingredients such as hyaluronic acid or ferulic acid. For breakout-prone skin: choose a moisturizer that is noncomedogenic (doesn’t cause blocked pores). For sensitive skin: Focus on fragrance-free product.

Schedule an appointment with your esthetician if you have skin concerns or need additional treatment. Treatments such as Microdermabrasion, glycolic acid and other chemical peels will exfoliate layers of bad skin and minimize pore surface. Keep a monthly routine to maintain healthy skin and target skin concerns. Refreshing your skin with facials, scalp and décolletage massage stimulates blood circulation. This keeps your skin looking firm, clear and glowing. You can also request extractions.

Sunscreen: ALWAYS WEAR SUNSCREEN! It helps to protect your skin and prevents hypopigmentation, hyperpigmentation and sun damage. Use sunscreen with a SPF 30.

Eye area. This is one of the most prominent challenges that women battle every day. Dark circles and fine lines are 90 percent caused by stress, dehydration or a poor diet. In many cases, dark under-eye circles are hereditary. There are several ways to reduce their appearance with products and food. Cucumbers are a great source of hydration, green tea bags (that are damp and rested on the eyelids for 10 minutes) and of course eye creams (applied morning and night) are quite beneficial. -ERIKA MITCHELL

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THE GREAT AMERICAN

LEMONADE TASTE TEST BY KARRI BATES

Old Orchard Watermelon Cucumber Lemonade A relative newcomer in the world of lemonade, Old Orchard has come up with flavors that are refreshing to the taste buds yet still give the classic lemonade flavor. Pros • Colors are reminiscent of summer • Made with real lemons and limes • 1/3 less sugar than regular lemonade= healthy • No real aftertaste • Real pulp from lemons and other flavors

Cons • Very tart • Less sugar=less real flavor Stars: 3.5/5

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Simply Lemonade People all across America are buying the Simply brand left and right, and it’s no wonder why. It is quite refreshing. Some may say it even reverts them back to childhood. Pros • Many different flavors • Made from real lemons • Comes in different sizes

Cons • Can be too sweet • Too much pulp • Smells like a liquid coma Stars: 3.8/5


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Pros • Great taste • Great color • Comes in a recyclable glass bottle • Healthy for you

Honest Company Lemonade Honest Company’s mission is to create and promote great-tasting, truly healthy, organic beverages. They have done just that with their lemonade. With less sugar and preservatives than the other lemonades on this list, they’ve solidified their name as a great alternative to traditionally sweet beverages with their tea and juice products. Pros • No aftertaste=fresh breath • Organic • Environmentally conscious packaging

Though it has been a familiar name in the world of lemonade, lately Hubert’s is making a splash in the lemonade world. Not only is it tasty but with less than 20 grams of sugar, it may be the healthiest version of lemonade that’s not a diet brand. Cons • No pulp Stars: 4/5

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Cons • No pulp Stars: 2.5/5

365 Lemonade (Whole Foods Brand) 365 Lemonade is as simple as it gets and is quite reminiscent of commercial everyday brands.

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Pros • Sweetness to tartness ratio is good • Classic packaging and look

Cons • No pulp • Reminiscent of other brands • Unoriginal flavor Stars: 2.5/5

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Greater Well-being Through Practicing Authentic Wellness BY DR. LORI BOOTHROYD

The path toward wellness is unique for each of us. Consider your authenticity – essentially, who you are when you’re truly real and honest with yourself. What if you brought that awareness into your decisions about wellness? When we are deeply connected with our values, our gifts, our vulnerabilities and our hopes (our authentic selves), we are moving on a powerful path toward wellness. For each of us, this path is unique and continually unfolding each moment. Here are four of several paths I teach my clients and workshop participants about connecting with our authenticity and thereby reaching our wellness goals and behaviors.

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1. Accept Yourself with Compassion We often trap ourselves with “insistences”, filling our mind with “shoulds, oughts and supposed to’s”. How effective does this seem for you? What typically comes with excessive insistences is stress related health problems such as ulcers, depression and high blood pressure. Acceptance, on the other hand, is about willingly receiving what already is here. Acceptance does not mean resignation. Quite the contrary: When we accept things and ourselves just as we are, it frees us to new possibilities. Ask yourself “What in your life needs to be honored and accepted right now? Where do you need to be gentle with yourself ? What possibilities does acceptance create? 2. Find Your “Contem-place” When was the last time you were a human being and not a human doing? Many of us with our hurried lifestyles tend to have no contemplative, restorative experiences of quiet and solitude. We often have no physical place or space we’ve designated for quiet, a spot to meditate or pray and be alone with our thoughts and feelings. We all need to find our ‘contemplace’ – a specific place or process designed just for peace and quiet. So, do you have such a place? It doesn’t have to be fancy, but simply a place that cues you to slow down, to breathe and to just Be. This is how we reconnect with our authentic selves. Ask yourself: Where is my Contemplace? How often would I like to go there? How can I create such a place? The quiet waits there for you and exists only for you to be still, to be at peace, and to go inward. 3. Reconnect with Your Intuition Your intuition provides critical information you need to make meaningful decisions that come from your Center. The more mindful we are, the more deeply we become connected to that small inner voice

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of intuition. We notice more subtleties in our thoughts, feelings, attitudes and relationships. Nurturing our intuition and trusting it as a source of wisdom and direction is a critical and powerful piece in creating authentic wellness. Think of a time in your life when you deeply trusted your intuition. It may have saved your life, or at the very least led you to make very important and powerful decisions for your health and wellbeing. “You cannot listen to the God of your heart, while you are busy monitoring the god of opinion” – Dan Millman 4. Build Your ”Herd of support” Many animals live in herds as part of a survival instinct. For humans, the herding instinct has become less necessary for physical survival. Nevertheless, meaningful connection with others is necessary for the survival of our well being and happiness. I’m sure you can think of many herds you are a part of, from your family of origin to your spiritual family and small, intimate herds of dear friends. Do you have a herd of support? Who makes up your herd of support? Your honest assessment may lead you toward some changes, along with increasing gratitude for those who know the song of your heart. 5. What’s Next? For starters, simply choose one of these paths and commit to working on that path regularly. Then, when you’re ready , attend to another path. Observe compassionately what works for you and make decisions with care. Be authentically well! ABOUT THE AUTHOR

About the author: Dr. Lori Boothroyd is a licensed psychologist and an ICF certified coach, specializing in wellness coaching and customized coaching retreats. She works primarily with women in midlife transitions to create significant, positive changes that reflect their authenticity and deepest values. Visit her website, at http://www.loriboothroyd.com

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Bringing the Sunshine

Into Your Decor BY JENNIFER ADAMS

In many parts of the country, summer seems a long way off! Even if it’s not summer yet, who says your house can’t feel that way? Capture that feel and give yourself a break from the rain, snow and gray days by bringing the sunshine in. Here are some quick, easy ideas that will help transform your house from winter blah to fresh, cool and casual for summer.

Use slipcovers over furniture for a fresh look. Fabrics in light colors transform formal, dark colored leather or wool covered furniture. Cotton and linen are ideal. I like using textured fabrics for a rich look.

Change out your towels, throw pillows and blankets to lighter colors, bright patterns and comfortable fabrics. Also, as you remove blankets from your bed, add a lightweight coverlet or bedspread instead of heavy ones. Cool colors work well for summer: light grays, pale yellows, blues and greens with ivory and white are refreshing and inviting.

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Reduce clutter, edit knick-knacks, throw out those extra magazines that have been accumulating for a while. Remove dried flowers and wreaths, especially if they’re dusty.

Framed mirrors and sparkly accessories bounce light around and help make rooms feel larger and more airy.

Clean your windows inside and out! All that rain and snow leaves a layer of dirt on the glass that prevents natural light from getting inside. Dust blowing around from your heating system and cooking creates a layer on the inside!

Remove heavy drapery panels at windows, leaving just the sheers or blinds for a light, airy look. Store until the fall, and get the drapes cleaned right before you want to rehang them for a renewed and freshly pressed look.

Change out plush area rugs for flat weave ones in lighter colors. Sisal, jute and coir rugs look summery and feel great underfoot. Consider getting your area rugs cleaned, too.

What’s your favorite way to prepare for summer? Let us know! Jennifer Adams is an award-winning designer, writer and TV personality. Send your questions to AskJennifer@JenniferAdams.com or on Twitter: @JenniferAdams. For more tips, watch Jennifer’s YouTube channel at www. youtube.com/user/JenniferAdamsHome or visit www.jenniferadams.com

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7

Keys To Better

Relationships BY PATRICIA WAGNER

Would you like to enhance the quality of your life and increase your personal happiness? If you answered “yes,” this article could change your life! Isn’t it easy to get stuck in the “everydayness” of life? We can get so busy making a living and getting ahead financially that the really important things fall through the cracks! That can happen to all of us. However, when people come to the end of their lives, they don’t wish they had spent more time

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. Spend time with your friends and loved ones. Although this is obvious, we need to intentionally set aside time in our schedules for them no matter how busy we think we are. Put appointments with friends and family into your Daytimer or Palm pilot. If you don’t do this, you may forget and months and even years can go by without seeing these special people. The sad fact is that those relationships can dry up and wither away from neglect. Many marriages fail for just this reason. People are often too busy to spend enough time with each other and one or both of

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making money. When all is said and done, we want our family and friends to be with us then! So let’s try to focus on developing better relationships instead of acquiring more things. Think of your circle of family and friends as a lovely garden to water and cultivate. The book of Proverbs teaches this crucial truth: “A man that has friends must show himself friendly” (Proverbs 18:24). Here are 7 keys that will help your relationships to bloom:

the partners can’t take the neglect. If you want your relationships to bloom, you have to water them with quality time. How long would a rose garden be lush and beautiful if no one watered it for days without end?

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. Genuinely appreciate the

special people in your life. Tell them how much they mean to you. Mention their good qualities and how special they are. For example, if you need to correct your children’s behavior, be sure to spend twice as much time appreciating their positive qualities than reprimanding their negative ones.

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. Learn to say, “I was wrong.

Please forgive me.” This will do wonders for your relationships. Humility is a beautiful quality in any person. Someone who thinks they are always right can be impossible to live with. If your habitual attitude is “I’m ALWAYS right,” that’s a poisonous plant that will spread and ruin your entire garden. Apologizing and asking for forgiveness when we’ve done something wrong does not degrade us. Instead, it shows that we are growing up.

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hold grudges. Bury the past. Bitterness never helped anyone. It only hurts the bitter person. Don’t let the aggressive weeds of unforgiveness spoil your garden. Try not to crush tender relationship plants by being harsh and unforgiving.

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. Learn to say “thank you” a

lot. Everyone loves to be appreciated for what he or she has done instead of being taken for granted. The vibrant blossoms of encouragement that result from taking time to say, “Thank you”, may thrill you.

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. Listen more than you talk. In

a game of tennis it would be very strange for one of the players to bounce the ball up and down on his or her side instead of hitting the ball back to the other player. The same could be said for the game of ping pong. These games teach a powerful lesson. If you are always talking and other people don’t have a chance to get a word in edgewise, you won’t be very popular for long.

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. Go out of your way to help

others in practical ways. If a friend is in the hospital, go visit him. If a neighbor is going through a difficult

financial time, bring groceries over to help tide him or her through the crisis. If you follow these simple but powerful suggestions for nurturing your relationships, you yourself will also reap benefits in the form of increased happiness, pep and vitality. That’s because our relationships are far more important to our wellbeing than how much money we make, or how well we’re doing climbing the corporate ladder. Why not take a personal inventory of your life today? Put these suggestions into practice and become more effective in cultivating your special relationships. Happy gardening!

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MOTHERHOOD in a

Nutshell BY DARCELL LAWRENCE

As we commemorate Mother’s Day and acknowledge the joys and pains of being a mother, some of us might be feeling a little unfulfilled or even unsatisfied with life. Mothers tend to put all their time and energy into their families, and somehow neglect their own lives. The role of a mother is constant; her nurturing abilities never seem to cease. No matter how her day plays out, whether good or bad, she still has to be the solution, conclusion and finale for everyone else’s day in her family. The dinner she must prepare isn’t put on hold, as she gives advice to her teenager regarding the woes of high school, while taking on the role of educator helping her younger one(s) with homework. She does not rest, it seems, until everyone in her family has had their expectations of her gratified for the

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day. The pouring out of herself is a selfless act of unconditional love that, most of the time, goes unnoticed. Often, a mother is left drained with the routines of life, but in order for her to continue to succeed at her best, she, too, needs to be encouraged and inspired to conquer life’s challenges. To all mothers who continue to make sacrifices, day after day, I commend your selfless acts of love. You deserve moments in time that are strictly dedicated to you. You have permission to take those overwhelmingly-needed moments of “me time” and not feel guilty about them. It is very important, actually, it is imperative to take time out for you. You need it, you deserve it and you have earned it.

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MOTHERS OF

MANY K E K E W YAT T

LAURYN HILL

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She has six kids. Sons: Micah Hill, Joshua Omaru Marley, Zion David Marley, John Nesta Marley Daughters: Sarah Marley, Selah Louise Marley “Everybody asks me ‘What’s your next move?’, and right now my focus is just being a good mother. If I could do that properly, I’d be really, really happy. If I could be half the parent that my parents were to me, then I’d be very happy. Like any woman on the planet who decides to have children, that’s an extremely important role. You have these empty vessels that you have to fill with all the information, and all the knowledge and all the proper tools for them to end up being happy, healthy, compassionate, caring people. That’s really crucial to me. So I love music, and I always put my 100% into making music, but now I have to put 200% into being a mother.” -1999 interview by Simon Witter from Rock’s Backpages Lauren has even brought her children on stage to sing during recent concerts.

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She has seven kids: Bean, Poopy, Makayla, Mimmi, Kernar, Wyatt, Ke’yoshi “I thank God every day for blessing me with the greatest gift of all, my children.” “Sometimes I find it hard to put into words just how I feel about my children. No Shade but sometimes my kids do get on my nerves but they are my hun buns and they are the center of my life. As a mother, every holiday is a proud moment because I get to see the smiles on their faces. There are times I do feel a little guilt because my profession requires me to be on the road so much and miss quality time with my family. Thankfully my children know that mommy is always available to them even when I am not near them.” “Once I return home I devote all of my time and energy to them. I truly thank God for my gift and the blessings that it has afforded me. Knowing and working in an industry that can be cruel and judgmental, my children provide just the amount of peace I need when times get really rough. Honey, I don’t know what I would do without my babies, every last one of them. I am honored to be able to wake up every day and hear my teeny weenys say, “Mommy”… OkaaaaaY!!!!”

NICOLE MURPHY

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She has eight kids. Daughters: Cara Nicole, Madelyn Kate, Alexis Faith, Hannah Joy, Leah Hope Sons: Aaden Jonathan, Collin Thomas, Joel Kevin “My kids are the reason I have always done everything. My kids are the reason I laid on bed rest for 30 entire weeks. My kids are the reason that I wrote the books and it’s always about them. And, I know that it looks it’s all about me all the time and whatever, but what you don’t see is down deep inside it’s a desperate desire to provide for my kids”

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She has 19 kids. Sons: Joshua James, John David, Joseph Garrett, Josiah Matthew, Jedidiah Robert, Jeremiah Robert, Jason Michael, James Andrew, Justin Samuel, Jackson Levi Daughters: Jana Marie, Jill Michelle, Jessa Lauren, Jinger Nicole, Joy Anna, Johannah Faith, Jennifer Danielle, Jordyn-Grace Makiya, Josie Brooklyn On raising strong-willed kids: “But we were consistent; that’s really important for parents with young children. If you’ve got a young child and they’re strong-willed, just be consistent -- lovingly consistent. Don’t get bent out of shape. Don’t

get upset in the situation. They may push the limit, but they need to know what the boundaries are and they need to understand that those boundaries are not to restrict their fun…oftentimes as parents, we can see things that are a danger. And that’s why when we say it, the first time we’ll say, you obey it. There’s not a question of arguing with us about it. It’s just, yes, Ma’am, I will obey you…Training a strongwilled one to obey was probably the greatest challenge I faced as a mom. I could train three others and they would quickly learn what I meant. But that strong-willed one, we’d go through these training opportunities over and over.

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Kris Jenner has six kids: Daughters: Kourtney Kardashian, Kim Kardashian, Khloé Kardashian, Kendall Jenner, Kylie Jenner Son: Rob Kardashian On raising them in the public eye: “Everybody’s a critic. Putting the girls and Rob on the magazines sells them but I taught the kids a long time ago that it really starts with when they were younger and how I’ve really tried hard to raise strong daughters. So I tried to teach them self-esteem when they were younger. They all went through a chubby stage.”” ““We’re such a close family we’re always encouraging one another,” Kris said. “I think just to be a real supportive parent and tell them how much they are loved and how beautiful they are on the inside. As long as they were okay on the inside, then everything else would be gravy.”


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On raising children in the soptlight “I make sure to spend a lot of time with my girls,” Kim told me, talking more specifically about her older daughters Brielle, 17, and Ariana, 12. “We always eat dinner together every night and breakfast every Saturday and Sunday.”

She has six kids. Daughters: Shiloh Jolie Pitt, Vivienne Pitt, Zahara Jolie Pitt Sons: Maddox Jolie Pitt, Pax Thien Jolie Pitt, Knox Leon Jolie Pitt On Hollywood moms: “I actually feel that women in my position, when we have all at our disposal to help us, shouldn’t complain. Consider all the people who really struggle and don’t have the financial means, don’t have the support, and many people are single raising children. That’s hard.” ““Maintaining a marriage and raising kids is hard work. You have to really make sure that your work doesn’t get in the way. That you don’t do something that is going to put too much strain on your family” “[Brad and I] work really hard at nurturing our family to make sure that everybody is alright and everyone stays connected,”

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MARGARET “SHUG”

AVERY

30 Years Since “The Color Purple” BY ANNETTE JOHNSON

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n 1985, Margaret Avery appeared among an all-star movie cast, including Oprah Winfrey and Danny Glover, who reenacted Alice Walker’s best-selling book, “The Color Purple.” She was nominated for an Academy Award for Best Actress in a Supporting Role for her performance as Shug Avery in “The Color Purple.” Avery currently plays Helen Patterson on BET’s hit series “Being Mary Jane.” Co-starring with Richard Roundtree, she is the often bed-bound voice of reason for her daughter, Mary Jane, played by Gabrielle Union. While she has played in starring roles from television to stage, she is most often remembered for her role as Shug in “The Color Purple.” Thirty years since the film’s release, Avery sits down with Hers to share significant insights from the film and her life. The Color Purple’s Impact Then and Now Avery’s character in the film, Shug, was a free-spirited, assertive woman, the antithesis of the main character, Miss Celie (Whoopi Goldberg). Shug ultimately released Celie from her abusive marriage and fueled Celie’s hope in a future she never thought was possible. As she liberated the character Celie, she inadvertently released women across the world to declare that they deserve better. “The movie had a universal theme that made the film have no color,” suggests Avery. “I think it was one of the first films to show that, the relationship between the low self-esteem of a woman and her circumstance.” When she toured Europe to promote “The Color Purple,” she said the movie affected women of “elite” backgrounds the same way or more than it had everyday women. “They were just crying because they related to the film, the abuse of women. In the

European culture, once you’re married, you’re never supposed to go back home. It’s a shame to go back home, so there’s no one for these women to turn to.” The movie impacted another unanticipated demographic of females as well. Avery says that a lot of the fan mail that she received was from teenage girls about how much they related to the self-loathing, identifying with Celie. “They wished they could have been a Shug Avery or release the Shug Avery in them that couldn’t come out because of their environment or low selfesteem.” A large population of gay men related to the character as well because of how Shug’s father didn’t accept her lifestyle in the film. “There were men who felt that with their fathers. Their fathers disowned them.” Avery insists that equality is still our biggest problem. She recalls Meryl Streep’s acknowledgement of all her accolades for the film “Out of Africa”, which won seven Academy Awards in 1985 and beat “The Color Purple” in every category, while still decrying the fact that she got paid less than her co-star Robert Redford. “We’re still fighting in the workplace, to get the same pay for doing the same job that a man does.” It’s not just the lack of equal pay that she feels needs changing but also the lack of women in directorial or main creative roles in film and theater, which is changing, but not quickly enough, according to Avery. She believes in opening doors for others, saying, “We have to learn to help one another, bring someone else up with you.” She commends the creator of Being Mary Jane, Mara Brock Akil, for giving opportunities in entertainment to minorities and women. She refers to one of her favorite lines from Melissa Perry, who captures this the sentiment best in saying, “The struggle


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continues.” Avery recently adlibbed the line in a recent episode of “Being Mary Jane,” when Mary Jane (Gabrielle Union) discussed issues with her job, as she exits the room, Avery yells, “The struggle continues, baby!” Avery’s character, Helen Patterson, has lupus. “It’s the kind of disease, as we are trying to show on ‘Mary Jane,’ that comes and goes. It’s very cruel that way. A common thread is that you’re fatigued, but people have different symptoms.” Helen suffers with bouts of coughing and fatigue. “I’m just hoping that the character exposes more awareness.” In comparison to her role on the smash television hit, Avery says the film roles she has played are limited, which is why she stays connected to theatre. “The stage offers me the opportunity to go into different characters that I don’t get the opportunity to do in film. It keeps me growing as an actor. It keeps my tools polished.” She stays involved in theatre during the summers when she’s not filming. Two years ago, she performed in the Pulitzer Prize-winning play The Gin Game, which originally starred the late Jessica Tandy and Hume Cronyn. “If you can do theatre, you can do film, not vice versa. There are a lot of film actors who cannot do stage.” Real Life Struggle With a master’s degree in psychology, Avery once worked as a therapist in private practice and also taught in public schools, L.A. Unified School District. “I love children,” says Avery, who has one adult daughter and now a granddaughter. “There’s nothing like standing in front of a classroom and looking into the eyes of kids who have nothing in their eyes, no curiosity, no hope, no enthusiasm. It’s devastating. Once when I was standing in front of a classroom in D.C., it was just terrifying… to look in the eyes of a child and see no life. Can you image that?” What she seriously imagines is inspiring

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“The stage offers me the opportunity to go into different characters that I don’t get the opportunity to do in film.” greater hope in youth. “I like to do things that brighten the eyes of kids – give them some hope, some joy and encourage them to go for their dreams.” “We have to, as a people, continue to teach our kids about what we’ve come. Then they’ll have more appreciation for what we’re fighting for today. They’ll appreciate the right to vote.” At 14 years old, she volunteered to help support the civil rights voting campaign in Mississippi. Coming from the West, she was less familiar with the social constraints of the South during that time. Assertive and opinionated, she says, “I thought I was going to change world.” Her desire for social change never dissipated, but her opportunity to help was cut short due to

her naivety of the strength of those against her. Avery laughs as she recalls when the local sheriff for a town in which she was volunteering, caught wind of her very vocal efforts about change. This led to her promptly being rushed out of town. So many of our children don’t understand our history. “The Jewish people know their history. It’s not enough for us to depend on Dr. Martin Luther King Day and show one documentary and that’s it. We need to have Dr. Martin Luther King Day every day.” “In our public schools, they don’t teach it. When I was in school, all I learned about was who discovered the peanut and that was it.”

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Business and the Big Screen When discussing women’s social issues or youth education, Avery’s sincerity and passion are obvious. So, did her compassionate nature help or hurt her career? “There were times where I could have pushed harder,” she admits. “That comes from my childhood of growing up in an alcoholic home and not learning how to ask for what I wanted.” She describes the poverty of her childhood home, saying, “We just didn’t have, and it really hurt a lot at Christmas time because I didn’t get presents.” She used to mow lawns for $0.50 per lawn using what she calls “those heavy lawnmowers.” She did this just so her family could have a Christmas tree and a holiday meal. She has no regrets about what she lacked, however, today, she says that getting presents is not important to her, but instead, she values time with family more than anything. One unfortunate side effect of her learning to “make do” is that she adopted a habit of not asking for what she wanted because she had learned to live without what she wanted for so long. As an adult, Avery said she was afraid to speak up for herself, although she could always vigorously advocate for the less privileged. “I never felt comfortable pushing for what I wanted. I didn’t feel comfortable doing nasty things that I experienced other actors doing to me. I always felt, ‘Let me treat others like I want them to treat me. God’s is going look after me.’ In the long run, that has worked for me,” said Avery. When one of the directors on a recent project kept calling her a “diva,” she felt uncomfortable because she doesn’t associate the term with anything positive. “I grew up with the word diva meaning a mean, ruthless bitch. The divas who I’ve worked with, I would never invite to my home.” While she eschews the diva moniker, she certainly knows how she wants to be classified. “I want to be remembered by the fact that I inspired someone, that I helped them to move forward, to go after what they want in life…I think a successful 54

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Being a pioneer of systems that work together to improve what is nonfunctional in our world is a task given to all those granted the gift of life. A vision of change must first start within our personal environment. When setting goals that affect our personal environment, we need to keep in mind that what affects us personally will ultimately affect those around us. Here are four improve your personal environment.

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What’s Important To You? There are so many opportunities for change that tend to overwhelm us whenever we sit in silence. Our personal environment is our space for inspiration and motivation that eventually spreads beyond our personal walls and into the community in which we live. When we evaluate our personal environment, we should be looking for aspects that need improvement in order to maintain creativity, growth, and evolution within ourselves so that we can be a source of inspiration for others. Remember to evaluate your environment with non-biased eyes so that all that comes from you will eventually improve the environment beyond you.

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1. What compelled you to start creating children’s apps? In 2010, my daughters were one and three years old, and the iPad was about to launch. Throughout my career in Audio, long before it was common, I worked with Apple products. I have always loved tech, and I have always loved Apple products! Even though a lot of people were sceptical about a tablet device, I had a gut feeling about it. My daughters loved using my iPhone, yet all the content they interacted with was static, such as looking at photos; there was no engaging content designed for them. The iPad seemed like a perfect opportunity to create something that my daughters would love, in a device they could share. 2. What is one thing that is difficult about making apps for children? Children change so quickly! They grow and evolve every day, and so do their tastes and interests. Our biggest challenge is to make apps that are as engaging to a 3-yearold as they are to a 5-year-old, and that are easy enough for a 4-year-old and still interesting for a 7-year-old. On top of that, we want our apps to be also fun for parents, and to encourage them to play with their kids. For example, our food apps give kids lots of opportunities to customize recipes in the game, and then we include the customized recipe that parents can make at home with their little ones. You often see this approach with animation movies: they’re made for kids, but there are always plenty of jokes for parents too. 3. You work in a male-dominated field, have there been times where you felt as though men had a better advantage in the technological world than you did because you’re a woman? I think the biggest advantage men have had, historically, is a double standard in education. Science was a guy subject. So more guys studied science and had hers-magazine.com

careers in related fields. We still feel the effects of this. Science and tech need to be introduced to kids at a young age, and we need to make sure boys and girls are equally exposed.

their kids can access. The best thing I think parents can do is play with the apps themselves first, before handing them over to their kids, to make sure the apps are safe and appropriate for kids.

Luckily, we’re changing that bias. I see it with my daughters. They have the right tools to make science interesting for them, and this shows in the kinds of activities they enjoy.

6. What advice would you give to female entrepreneurs who want to get into male dominated fields but don’t know where to begin?

Having a diverse team is a big advantage, and I think we’ll continue to see more and more women in tech as more and more girls have the opportunity to develop their interests in these fields. 4. You’ve worked with Nickelodeon, Disney and Crayola to name a few, what moment working with a company stands out most in your mind? When we first had this idea to build an iPad app for kids, we had no direct experience to back up our pitch. We had never actually built an iPad app before – no one had! We approached Nickelodeon, such a major player in kids’ entertainment, with our idea and no app-building experience, and yet they were willing to listen to us. They were so open and approachable, and believed in what we wanted to do. That stands out in my mind as a determining moment for Budge Studios. 5. You talked about kids apps at a TedX Conference, what advice would you give to kids about embracing creativity and utilizing imagination? Kids don’t need advice, they are creative and imaginative by nature! My advice would be for parents: to be present and to get involved with what your kids are doing, and to show them that you value their creativity. When it comes to apps, I think parents need to choose carefully what content

I think we need to not think of it as female vs. male. Whether there are more men or women in our field is out of our control, what we can control is our own confidence in what we do. If you’re good at what you do, you have to go for it, and believe that others will recognize the merit in your work. 7. What is the most important piece of advice you’ve received from a woman? It’s not technically advice, but rather the most important example I got from a woman. My mother has been running a successful business for the past 30 years, and she has always had an excellent quality of life. She would close her business every summer and spend those months with my siblings and me. Everything I know about balancing my family’s quality of life and my business, I learned from her. 8. Do you think that there is longevity in creating apps or will they eventually be phased out in some way? I would love to know the answer to this! Looking at trends in tech, there is always something new – it’s always evolving. If apps get phased out, it’s because something better is coming. Our challenge is to stay ahead of this evolution. 9. What motivates you to continue going forward with creating apps? I love what I do. I’m in love with our products and with our creation process. For me, an app is a toy that mixes in the

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potential of tech. It’s such an exciting world! Plus, as a small group of people coming together to build these apps, we still have so much room to grow. Everyday brings new possibilities. We recently launched Budge Playgroup, a program that lets families from all over the world test our apps before we release

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10. How do you get out of a creative funk? Take a day off. Sometimes you just need some distance from what you’re doing to get a new perspective. I like to take a step back, put whatever I’m working on out of my mind, hang out with my daughters, go outside, and then bring that fresh energy back to my work.

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11. Who is your role model and why? I mentioned her already – my mom. She’s a great entrepreneur and she has always had a great quality of life. She showed me how to live the kind of life I want to have.

15. How does being an entrepreneur affect your home life?

12. What does a typical day in your life look like?

I make apps for kids; I’m a supermom! My daughters love to be involved with our apps, they test every one of them. The fact that testing our products at home is part of my work and, at the same time, it is quality time with my daughters is amazing.

During my typical workweek, half of my waking time is at the office, and the other is spent with my family and friends. Weekends are devoted to play. I spend all the time I can with my family and friends.

I make a conscious choice to balance my work life and my home life, so I make as much time as I can to be home, and more importantly, when I’m home, I’m 100 percent present with my family.

13. Tell me about a time things didn’t go the way that you wanted, how did you overcome that setback?

16. What’s your greatest fear as an entrepreneur?

Before we started Budge Studios, my cofounders and I had an audio recording company. Our first business grew to be stable and, by many measures, successful, but we could not scale it. After ten years of focusing on audio recording, we had our idea to make kids apps, which ultimately became our scalable business. Our recording company is now part of Budge Studios and handles all our audio work. The lessons we learned from our first business ultimately helped us in building Budge Studios, so even though our first business didn’t turn into what we wanted, it was still a critical experience that shaped us as entrepreneurs. 14. What’s your least favorite part about being an entrepreneur? I can’t think of something that I don’t love about being an entrepreneur. I would say that the hardest aspect of starting Budge Studios, for me, was taking on personal financial risk. Having two very young daughters at the time made the stakes extra high. But I really believed in our idea, and felt that taking on the financial risk would pay off. hers-magazine.com

I’m VERY competitive! I love to win. I’m always afraid that someone else is doing something that I’ll wish I had done. On the flip side, this fear is also a big drive! 17. Why do you think there aren’t more females in the digital applications field? Are they scared they don’t know enough? So many positions in this field are technical, and, like I mentioned before, education has historically been biased towards boys in science. I think we’re still seeing the consequences of this bias on how many women purse careers in tech. On a different note, speaking specifically about the video game industry, the quality of life in this field is generally very bad. You can forget about picking up your kids from school or maintaining responsibilities at home. This is a huge challenge for both men and women in the industry, but I think women with families are often less able to keep the unreasonable pace of many gaming companies. That’s one of the biggest priorities in our company culture: quality of life. I see other companies in the digital space moving towards this too. I think this will make the field much friendlier to women.

18. Is there anything you know now that you wish you could’ve done differently when you first started Budge? Looking back, I think we were more cautious than we needed to be. We started by taking development contracts, and eventually made the decision to take greater risks by publishing our apps. I think we could have become a publisher sooner than we did. 19. What have your children taught you along the way, that you can apply to your business life? So much! I make apps for kids! They show me what makes kids smile. We’ve always involved our kids in the development process of our apps: they’re our testers. My daughters love to have an important role, and they are dedicated to doing a great job testing. Actually, seeing how much our kids love to test our apps, and realizing how much we learn from their feedback, made us wonder what would happen if we invited other kids to be our testers. We’re super proud of Budge Playgroup, and I have to fully credit our kids for sparking the idea. And it turns out parents and kids love being involved in our development process too. We’ve received great feedback about how the program encourages parents to spend quality time with their kids, and encourages the little ones to take a critical approach to playing the apps. 20. What has been your favorite app to create? I love every one of our apps, but the one that stands out is Miss Hollywood. It was our first original IP, which meant we created new characters and their universe. Having that additional creative freedom was very exciting. It is a very special app to us.

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What Modern Women Really Want From A Man WRITTEN BY A MAN, REGINALD JONES


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onestly, I don’t know. I thought I had it figured out plenty of times, and I probably did to a point – enough to get what I wanted to get out of it. That’s if you know what I mean. Here was what I came up with: The basic things that women want are a certain amount of attention; they want to laugh; they want good, exciting conversation; they want someone to listen to their problems and their opinions; they want the man to seem confident; and innately, they want to be physically stimulated. In my mind, they really want to be physically stimulated, but I’ll leave that to your imagination. That’s what women want in general, but of course, everyone is different and wants different amounts of these things or other things. My point is that all of those things I stated are well and fine, but if you want something with a man that is more than casual or if you might want the r-word, as in “relationship,” or even the colossal m-word, as in “marriage,” that’s a WHOLE other game! In this regard, I’d divide whatever I thought I knew about women by two, and maybe even as much as three. I still care enough to, even at my age, strive for a solid, stable relationship, trying to figure out what I want and need, and vice versa. Therefore, I think what women want inside has been the same for basically forever, but what they specifically want from a mate has changed. It didn’t just change after the Women’s Movement; it has also

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changed in the last 10 years or so. Since the Women’s Movement, women have been put in a different position than they’ve ever been in before. They were given independence, which gave them options. The biggest option was that they were no longer dependent on men to survive financially. The result: we watched an explosion of divorce. Women got out there and did more of what they wanted to do, and I don’t blame them. However, that’s where things really changed between men and women. Now you have women who are so used to telling men that they don’t need them that they have tried to make themselves believe it when it’s not true. Meanwhile, so many women out there want male companionship. I hear and see it every day in life and on social media. With divorces happening at a blink of an eye and basic romantic relationships breaking up quicker than it took to solidify, many single women don’t believe that they will ever have a mate for the rest of their lives. This makes me think that, above all, women really want HOPE. The reality of what might not be a good idea, what might not ever happen, what might not work is so powerful nowadays that women are simply hoping that encounters may work rather than believing they could. I have plenty of female friends in their 30s and 40s, and in all honesty, the majority of them don’t think that they will ever live happily ever after. It’s not just an emotional opinion anymore; now it’s a logical one. The reality is, however, you need more than hope if you want reality.

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rom modeling and wearing bikinis to motivational speaking and sporting business suits, Raquel “Foxii Roxcii” Guice worked at Hooters for nearly six years before embarking on an entrepreneurial quest. “I’ve always had image-based jobs like Hooters and Twin Peaks in Atlanta,” she says. Almost one year ago, she fortuitously became an entrepreneur after a Hooters bartender presented her with an opportunity to work in Africa. She worked in Abuja, Nigeria, for seven months, training bartenders and waitresses. The 26-year-old Louisiana native says she even opened a restaurant while there. She returned to Atlanta, Georgia, in the summer of 2014, and has been her own boss ever since. “I had always relied on a job to take care of me financially.” She admits, “At first, it was scary.” To help with the transition, she says she surrounded herself with people who didn’t believe in a 9 to 5. “I keep good people and good connections around to continue to go further.” With a degree in marketing from Talladega College in Alabama, she began expanding her Foxxii Roxii brand this year. She is also the brand ambassador for three different clothing companies and a hair company. A self-proclaimed “beauty guru,” she says, “I like when women come to me and ask about my appearance. I’m my own promotion.” She recently started motivational speaking, which she believes is her calling. “Everything I have going on is tied into motivational speaking.” Her speaking sessions are called “Foxii Symposiums.” The mission is to bridge the gap between the broken and the powerful, according to Roxcii. She believes that powerful women who are in higher positions don’t really look back and help broken women. “There is no need for envy or jealousy. It’s okay to help another woman. Help women in every area of their lives.” Roxcii even plans on going back in

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Africa to do her symposiums. She describes going to Africa as “great experience” overall, but she had to live with security. “There are no real laws to protect their women. There is no child support, and there is no such thing as women getting half of the marital estate once she is divorced. A woman could be homeless on street, not able to take care of her child, and there is nothing she could do about the child’s father.” She gained further appreciation for

“Money is power, and the men would talk to you crazy because they have money.” American men after living and working in Africa. “Money is power, and the men would talk to you crazy because they have money. There is no real respect level for women. A man can get into altercations with the women, and they won’t get in any legal trouble.” As for standards of beauty, Roxcii says many women bleach their skin and are conditioned to feel ugly. She recalls the comments of women who approached her. “I knew you were American. You’re too beautiful to be African. They don’t believe that they’re beautiful. It’s heartbreaking.”

In business, Roxcii has had to make some transitions in order to get a greater level of respect beyond being a Hooters girl. She admits she has to put beauty on the back burner, no longer her central focus, but she feels that being sexy and being business savvy don’t have to be separate. “I don’t want to separate the two because that’s part of my brand. You can still be sexy, still feel beautiful, still be who you are, and still have the knowledge to back it up. Men like beautiful women with brains who can think for themselves and can make great decisions for themselves.” Currently single, Roxcii says men are shocked when they hear she doesn’t have a boyfriend or husband. She just recently got out of a relationship and wants to enjoy single life for now. She has consistently been in relationships since age 15 and admittedly loves being in them. Roxcii says she’s in love with her freedom, not a man for right now. “When I get involved with someone, I don’t want them to add. I want to multiply what we have. I’ve been in relationships where I was the main breadwinner. That’s not comfortable for me. I’ve watched my mom do that. I’m probably tough on guys, but I know exactly what I deserve I’m not going to settle.” Besides her professional aspirations, her goals include doing what makes her truly happy. “A lot of older women have ‘I wishes and I regrets’, and that’s teaching me. That why I do what I’m supposed to do, travel, and get out more. I don’t want to be the one with the ‘I wish.’” She doesn’t just want freedom for herself. She wants to ultimately become successful enough to liberate her parents. Neither of her parents has ever been on an airplane. Roxcii wants to send them on a permanent vacation. “I can say I made it when I can retire my parents. I want my mom and dad to be able to say, ‘I don’t have to work because of my daughter.’ That’s my why.” With her and other women’s happiness as the paramount objective, we will no doubt hear more from and about Foxii Roxcii. -AJ

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DESIGNING OUTDOOR LIVING SPACES BY JENNIFER ADAMS

One of the latest trends in home decorating isn’t actually indoors at all, it’s in your backyard! Whether it’s just a charming chair under a tree or a full-blown outdoor kitchen and family room complete with lamps, rugs, a sound system and TV, the boundaries of our homes’ walls are getting thinner. A successful outdoor room is a lot like an indoor room. Walls, a roof and windows make us comfortable, even though we are outside. No matter how big or small your outdoor space is, here are my favorite tips! Have a major focal feature to anchor the space, just like any other indoor room. A fireplace or fire pit, a fountain or water feature, a beautiful specimen plant, a large stone arrangement or a sculpture are all examples of good outdoor focal features. Add enclosure. Just because you’re outdoors you still want walls and a roof. It doesn’t need to be solid though! A large shade tree, for example, provides both a “roof ” and a “wall.” A combination of a fence, wall of a building or a hedge in an “L” shape provides a corner to help anchor a seating arrangement. A trellis, gazebo, porch ceiling, large umbrella or a tree feels like a roof. It doesn’t even need to cover the entire seating arrangement. “Borrow” views into other parts of the yard or beyond. This relates to

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windows and doors, but can actually be a break in a fence, an open gate or less dense foliage. A trellis, pairs of matched plants or pots frame a view or give a sense of a doorway, for example. Change the ground to help identify the space as different from the yard. Like an area rug, a different material such as stone pavers, gravel or brick defines an outdoor room at the ground level. Outdoor rooms should connect to indoor rooms. Think of how a party flows from the kitchen into the great room, the outdoor room should be similar. Alternately, if you have a large yard and want several outdoor rooms, they should all link with visual “hallways” or paths, so people can stay connected. Misters, shade and patio heaters

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help make your outdoor living area comfortable for a greater part of the year! Add lighting for a festive look! Hang lanterns or strings of lights from the fence, around your patio cover, from a tree or even around retaining walls and other outdoor structures. Change them out for holidays, or use white or clear lights for year-round drama! I hope you enjoy planning and shopping for your next great outdoor space! Jennifer Adams is an award-winning designer, writer and TV personality. Send your questions to AskJennifer@JenniferAdams.com or on Twitter: @JenniferAdams. For more tips, watch Jennifer’s YouTube channel at www.youtube.com/user/ JenniferAdamsHome or visit www.jenniferadams. com

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Balance. BY LENISE WILLIAMS

Are you or someone you know a mompreneur? A mompreneur is a female entrepreneur that is successfully balancing the role of being a mother and running business(es). There are more and more mompreneurs launching businesses daily. According to the National Association of Women Business Owners, 8.6 million businesses are owned by women, many of them being mothers, with nearly 7.8 million employees with $1.3 trillion in sales as of 2013. It is reported that one in five woman owned businesses have revenue of $1 million or more. Women are taking more risks and maintaining successful roles. Female business owners have separate issues from their male counterparts. It is common that the women bear the most responsibility in the areas of child rearing and other duties in the home, regardless of their CEO status. How does a mompreneur find the balance in the midst of all that she holds on her plate? Here are a few tips to finding balance as a mompreneur: 68

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Put Everything on a Calendar: If you are a mompreneur you have tons of things to do on a daily basis. How do you keep up with it all? The easiest way is by putting everything you need (and want) to do on a calendar. Putting work related deadlines on the calendar, your daughter’s weekly ballet practice, the day your dry cleaning will be ready and even date night will help you remain organized. More organization yields less stress! You can use a good old-fashioned paper calendar or an online calendar. Online calendars such as Google Calendar can be synced to your smartphone and provide you with alerts and reminders to help you stay abreast. Plan Your Week on Sundays: Before your workweek begins it is a good idea to sit down and review your calendar. It is a good time to make revisions on your calendar, prepare for upcoming appointments, etc. Have a pad of paper handy so you can write down notes on tasks, grocery lists and other important tasks. Create Time for Yourself: Looking at your schedule you may find it is impossible to fit in a hair appointment, trip to the spa or a quick movie by yourself. As a CEO you created your own job so now you have to create your own time! Move a meeting to a new day or let the kids go to a sitter afterschool. Figure out a way to fit in something that you enjoy alone. Spending time with yourself and caring for yourself is necessary. If you neglect yourself and aren’t doing well mentally do not expect to have a successful business and a happy family. Create Boundaries Learn to say “NO!” No may be the word to preserve your sanity. Although you may naturally be a people pleaser, you have to stop putting the needs of others before your own. Find someone to delegate those things to if you’d like, especially after hours. Your family time is important and having that set time and saying no will help you focus on what is important. There are many mompreneurs still working on finding that perfect balance between work and family. It is an incredibly difficult task. However with a bit of organization and a change in perspective you can find the perfect road to finding your ideal sense of balance.

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MAY 1-3: Beale Street Music Festival 2015, Memphis, TN MAY 1-4: Live at Leeds, Leeds, UK MAY 2-3: Bristol Folk Festival, Bristol, UK MAY 8-10: Shaky Knees Music Festival, Atlanta, GA MAY 8-10: Marvellous Island Festival, Paris, France MAY 15-17: Pouzza Fest Montreal, QC MAY 15-17: Hangout Music Festival, Gulf Shores, AL MAY 22-24: Liverpool Sound City, Liverpool, UK MAY 22-24: Extrema Outdoor Houthalen-Helchteren, Belgium MAY 23-24: Electric Daisy Carnival NYC 2015, East Rutherford, NJ MAY 23-24: BBC Radio 1’s Big Weekend, Earlham Park, Norwich MAY 22-25: Sasquatch 2015, George, WA MAY 28-30: Primavera Sound, Barcelona, Spain MAY 29-31: Forbidden Fruit Festival, Dublin, Ireland MAY 30: The Roots Picnic 2015, Philadelphia, PA MAY 30-31: Sweetlife 2015, Columbia, MD JUNE 3-7: Copenhagen Distortion Festival, Copenhagen, Denmark JUNE 4-6: Nos Primavera Sound, Porto, Portugal JUNE 5-7: Governors Ball Music Festival, New York City, New York JUNE 5-7: Bunbury Music Festival 2015, Cincinnati, OH JUNE 11-13: Blue Ox Music Festival, Eau Claire, WI JUNE 12-14: Spring Awakening, Chicago, IL JUNE 11-14: Bonnaroo 2015, Manchester, TN JUNE 11-14: CMA Music Festival 2015, Nashville, TN JUNE 18-21: Firefly Music Festival, Dover, DE JUNE 18-21: Sonic Bloom, Rye, CO JUNE 25-28: Electric Forest, Rothbury, MI JUNE 24-JULY 5: Summerfest 2015, Milwaukee, WI JULY 2-5: Wanderlust Aspen-Snowmass 2015, Snowmass Village, CO JULY 2-5: Essence Music Festival, New Orleans, LA JULY 3-5: Rock A Field, Roeser, Luxembourg JULY 9-11: All Good Music Festival, Summit Point, WV JULY 9-13: Electric Elephant, Tisno, Croatia JULY 15-19: Dour Festival, Dour, Belgium JULY 16-18: Rock in Roma, Rome, Italy JULY 17-19: Northern Nights, Piercy, CA JULY 31-AUGUST 2: Lollapalooza, Chicago, IL hers-magazine.com

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The Fairy Tale Formula BY BETHSAIDA ROMELUS

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f a relationship is based on having two people “relate” to each other, the first step should be identifying the issues in the relationship and working to change them. “The Fairy Tale Formula: How to Win a Man’s Heart” by relationship and dating specialist, Elena Burnett does just that by addressing different romantic ideas and complicated scenarios that all women face, whether they’d like to admit them or not. Many of us dream about finding the perfect man but don’t understand how our idealistic views about love stand in the way of finding true happiness. Burnett taps into the male perspective to analyze and break down those scenarios in hopes that readers will understand what men really think about. This self-help guide encourages readers to look within themselves while identifying their specific relationship issues by relating to each story in the book. The Fairy Tale Formula: How to Win a Man’s Heart, is a very fitting title. We have all been there, looking for our “Mr. Right” or our “Prince Charming”, while kissing all the frogs along the way. The book addresses many topics, ranging from “Emotional and financial security” to “The List”. Even if they haven’t literally written anything down, every woman is familiar with making a list of traits of their ideal man. This book teaches you how to stop that and live in the moment of who he is, not who you want him to be. Each chapter ends with a case study which narrates a scenario of a specific woman’s relationship downfall, then applying lessons of how she worked through it. Burnett also includes personal anecdotes from her previous relationships, before offering solutions to help women realize their own misconceptions and pitfalls in relationships, so they can correct their actions and build stronger relationships. This book was quite easy to read, and readers will enjoy it because of the humor and genuine sincerity within its pages. I feel like Burnett spied on my relationships, as I saw a lot of myself and became aware of my own dating mistakes in this book. My serious relationships have been scarce and I was never much of a serial dater. I placed most of the priority in dating a man based on his looks, being more interested in 70

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dating based on a physical connection alone, instead of an emotional one. This causes many potential relationships to quickly fizzle. Burnett becomes part therapist/part girlfriend when mentioning how women should find a balance between their feminine and masculine energy to better their own peace of mind and emotional health. Her perspective is based on traditional gender roles in relationships in which the man is the assertive provider, while the woman should be slightly submissive, nurturing and never emasculating. Burnett’s advice has definitely affected the way I understand my boyfriend’s needs and has changed the way I view our relationship. The solutions in this book can benefit any woman, from the careeroriented everyday business woman, to the young woman fresh out of high school heading into college. The hardest part will probably be examining yourself and admitting your relationship mistakes, but the most beautiful thing will be overcoming them and strengthening your relationship. The Fairy Tale Formula: How to Win a Man’s Heart is available in English and Spanish on Amazon, Kindle and Nook, and published by Bryce Cullen Publishing. hers-magazine.com


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Men’s List of Social Media No-No’s Ladies, are you committing these social media violations? Well, some men say too many of you are committing these social sharing mistakes. In general, women use social media sites more than men. Not all social media platforms have the same appeal and uses, so women tend to gravitate toward sites like Facebook and Pinterest while more men go for sites like LinkedIn. Still, no matter which one, men have the same basic feelings about how women communicate and behave online. In our interview with men, they provided at least ten things they find off-putting in women’s online etiquette.

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Using social media as a means for revenge. This includes obviously showing off the new man in your life or saying something negative about your former relationship. “You come off as bitter or desperate,” says one male observer, Todd. Revenge is best served in a personal environment, according to most.

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Only sharing your best pictures. “Self-deprecation is sexy,” says Keith. It seems that men don’t only want to see you as an object of perfection. They want to see real women who wear sweats sometimes or a baseball cap and old jeans. There is a caveat, however. “Don’t post bad pictures, no matter what,” he adds. Men don’t want to see pictures in which women look totally unattractive or strange.

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Using your personal social media accounts as a business marketing tool. “Bottom line,” says Todd, “get a business account to promote your –hit.” People don’t mind supporting professional projects, but it appears that no one wants to constantly see posts about the homes you’re selling, the book you’re promoting, the music you’re debuting, and so forth.

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Embellishing your accomplishments and affiliations. So you go to a concert, end up backstage, and get to take a picture with

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Usher. You then post that picture with the caption: “Hanging out with Usher.” Well, your closest friends and family will know that you lucked up, but what you really want is for others to think that you’re important, or someone to know. “We look at women in pictures with celebrities like they’re either groupies or wannabes,” says Keith.

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Being too controversial or opinionated. Whether it’s religion or politics, some things should remain in the personal stratosphere rather than online. In fact, a Mashable user poll taken during the 2012 election found that nearly 47 percent of responders admitted to “unfriending” at least one acquaintance because of political posts. This no-no, turns out, defies gender.

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Posting too much. “No one has that much to say,” says Todd. “Either she is really one of the most interesting people in the world and you can’t get enough of learning about her or she is trying too hard to get attention.” Most believe the latter about serial posters, however. Sharing every move that you make wouldn’t work for the most famous celebrities, so why do you think it would work for you?

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Having bad grammar or using bad language. No one expects anyone on social media to speak the King’s English because the very nature of the platform is that people relax and enjoy exchanges among online friends

and followers. The issue becomes when a woman, especially an attractive one, according to the men we interviewed, “talks like a sailor” and writes like one too. Men, it seems, expect women to be more refined and polished – even on social media. Is it fair? Absolutely not. So, do men want women to pretend to be something they’re not in order to impress? While they would resoundingly say, “no,” we think being too real may scare them as well.

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Male bashing. Whether it’s online or off, men don’t want to be stereotyped, labelled or maligned. In fact, the men we talked to prefer posts that specifically encourage men.

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Ignoring direct messages. So he gets the courage to reach out, and then you say nothing or simply “thank you” to his compliment. “If she’s a pretty girl, she can expect for guys to reach out to her, and when we do, we just want the respect of acknowledgement most of the time,” explains John.

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Having other guys in your pictures. “It’s a natural deterrent,” says Keith. When a man sees an attractive woman, he wants to connect with her on some level. Apparently, having another man around makes this seem too difficult for many men. The message, then, for women is to include a qualifier, such as “my cousin” or “my teacher,” in their pictures with men in which they are not romantically involved.

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Why Do We

Travel? BY PEGGY HATTENDORF

Thumbtack in a map Author – Mikael Damkier

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“To travel is to live”- Hans Christian Anderson People travel for many reasons. For a significant number, travel primarily centers on sojourns to family and friends. This normally involves airplane, train or car travel to a specific frequently visited location - the yearly trip to see relatives for the Holidays. Some travel to celebrate a special occasion – like a birthday, honeymoon or anniversary. Such trips are usually defined with a stay in an exclusive hotel, spa or resort in an exotic locale. “Traveling – it leaves you speechless, then turns you into a storyteller.” -Ibn Barruta

Victoria Falls Zimbabwe Author – Lino Beltrane

Travel provides a logical bridge or break at various life stages – job transitions, school completion, termination of a relationship, or when parents experience the “empty nest syndrome.” And business people travel for meetings, conventions, conferences and dealmaking. But, what about travel . . . just for the sake of travel. Travel is an impressive instructor that educates while being thought provoking, imparting knowledge while being fun and entertaining and encourages exploration and discovery. Travel has the ability to empower, transform and change us.

“I read; I travel; I become.” - Derek Walcot It can make us more social, confident, smarter, adaptable, self-assured, evolved, happier and less materialistic. Travel poses the perfect “ice-breaker” or conversation topic at parties or gatherings. It is fun and enjoyable as well as being one of life’s most enriching and satisfying experiences. With travel, we find new ways to discover “who we are” and this in turn affects the way we relate to others. Perhaps more important, it opens our eyes and gives us a new world perspective. Travel can elicit empathy for other; as well as humility when we realize what a small place we occupy in the whole world order. While this list may not be exhaustive, it is fairly comprehensive. I invite you to add your own reasons and motivations for travel. “Travel is the only thing you buy that makes you richer.” Anonymous

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We travel . . . - because it’s time and because we can “Oh the places you’ll go.” Dr. Seuss The “time” may be a life transition point like retirement which enables us to embark upon that “once in a life-time trip.” Others go “because we can” incorporating travel into their overall life plan. - to see the world - “I haven’t been everywhere, but it’s on my list.” Susan Sontag There’s interest and curiosity to see new places, different cultures and people. We formulate wish lists of top destinations we’d like to visit and happily place pins on a map depicting locations we’ve traveled. We engage people at parties about our recent adventures and share their stories as well. - to be awed, inspired and to delight the senses - “You will travel in a land of marvels.” Jules Verne Stand in awe at the breathtaking sights of Ayers Rock in Australia, Bryce Canyon, Utah, Victoria Falls, viewed from Zambia or Zimbabwe, or the natural light display in the sky – The Aurora Borealis. Be inspired by the Great Wall of China, the Acropolis of Athens, the Blue Mosque in Istanbul, the pyramids of Egypt, St. Basil’s Cathedral in Moscow, or the Sistine Chapel in Rome. Delight the senses with the smells and the noises of the souks in Morocco. Try a Belgian favorite of Mussels and fries in a Brussels restaurant. Taste sea snails served cold with Mayonnaise in Normandy France to wake the palate. - to make dreams come true - “The life you have led doesn’t need to be the only life you have.” Anna Quindlen There’s that special place you have always wanted to see . . . - to educate and to learn - “Travel is the new diploma.” Keith Bellows - Travel gives us first hand information and knowledge about history, economics, politics, geography, culture and sociology 76

and advances our educational horizons outside the classroom. - to develop new traits and skills or learn a new language - “A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to its old dimensions.” - Oliver Wendell Holmes Travel builds and enhances inner traits of self reliance, confidence, sociability, patience and independence. It also affords us opportunities to acquire new or hone skills in such activities as skiing, surfing, golf, tennis, parasailing and boating to name a few. If given time to immerse in a culture, we can study and learn a new language. - to discover - “Not all those who wonder are lost.” J.R.R. Tolkien Travel uncovers and presents a vision of the world and in turn allows us new ways to reveal and learn who we are. Travel goes beyond what has been studied in textbooks and listened to at lectures, as it provides a first hand accounting of history, culture, antiquities, ruins, people, art and customs. - to experience - “Travel, in the younger sort, is part of education; in the elder, a part of experience.” Francis Bacon Our knowledge and experiences remain with us long after many other concrete possessions fade. What would make a memorable experience for you? What have you always wanted to do – dive the Great Barrier Reef, cruise the Amazon, see the penguins on the Falkland Islands . . . - to seek adventure - “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.” Helen Keller Travel teases and coaxes our desire for exploration. Where we go, how we travel, what we see, what we do – is part of our unique adventure. - to share- “A journey is best measured in

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friends, rather than miles.” Tim Cahill - Traveling with others – spouse, partner, children, extended family or friends – can be enhancing and enjoyable. It adds new dimensions and dynamics. Patience, flexibility and compromise become key factors when traveling with others. - to create memories and to bring back items to remember our journeys- “Take only memories leave only footprints.” Chief Seattle Memories are preserved throughout our lives. The souvenirs we collect on our travels, regardless of price, are some of our most cherished possessions. A mere glance at an object or item can trigger a flood of fond memories. - to meet new people and develop new relationships - “The everyday kindness of the back roads more than makes up for the acts of greed in the headlines.” Charles Kuralt Airplanes, cruises, tours, trains, restaurants, hotels and sightseeing present perfect opportunities and occasions to meet different people. New associations can develop that live long past the end of the trip. - to challenge ourselves - “Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose site of the shore.” Andre Gide Travel commands challenge. When you go to a foreign country you must defy your fears and concerns as you try to speak or understand the language, check into a hotel, order food in a restaurant, use foreign currency or just get around the country. - to move outside our comfort zone “Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.” Dalai Lama - If all the potential difficulties were known before the trip, some of us would not go at all. But travel begs the quest to get outside that safe zone and face fears of the unknown.

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Russia Moscow , Red Square St. Basils Author – Gina Sanders

- to broaden the mind and open our eyes - “Travel and change of place impart new vigor of the mind.” Seneca - Travel expands our knowledge base and provides us with a new way of viewing things. It makes us more well-rounded individuals. There’s no end to the adventures we may take in this astonishing and amazing world – if we see them with our eyes wide open. - to live life - “We travel not escape life but for life not to escape us.” Anonymous

Hiker with Backpack enjoying sea view on top of mountain Author – Soft Light

We are not guaranteed advancement to old age. All we have is today. Enjoy! Have fun! Down with the ordinary - up with the extraordinary! - to gain important perspectives - “Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry and narrow-mindedness.” Mark Twain

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meeting the people, exploring the sights - and return with new insights and better understanding of the country you visited. - to get to know ourselves - “To travel is to take a journey into yourself.” Danny Kaye Travel helps us learn who we are and provides us with ways to discover more about ourselves. We return from a destination with a new way of seeing the world and reacquainting ourselves with life. - “Travel is a book, and those who do

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landscapes, captivating people and cultures, prominent landmarks, entrancing cities and towns, stark expanses of wilderness, breathtaking oceans, magnificent creatures on the land, in the air and beneath the seas – to be discovered for those who embrace travel. It’s never too late to start the travel stories of your life.

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For those facing a major life crisis, hitting progress barriers, or simply want to learn how to lead a more fulfilling and happy life. “What differentiates Bridging to Joy from similar-sounding approaches is its commitment to outlining the exact steps to ‘getting there’—and that’s what makes it a standout in both self-help and business genres.” —D. Donovan, Book Reviewer, Midwest Book Review “Rather than cheerleading with superficial encouragement, Carr offers substantive suggestions and insight born of her extensive experience working one-on-one with clients in her life coaching practice. Her results-oriented approach is easily adaptable to any reader’s unique circumstances, whether the reader wishes to overcome a challenging life event, or simply feels stymied in reaching success and achieving happiness.” —US Review of Books, Recommended Read “A must-have tool for anyone who is looking to enhance their life or business in ways that they never thought possible.” By skilled life coach, transformation specialist and consultant Mary Taylor Carr www.Bridgesc.com https://www.facebook.com/BridgingtoJoy

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Get More Out of Your Beading BY MICHELLE SMITH

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ere at My Beads, Australia, it is our mission to spread the love of beading. So we have put together a simple guide to aid you to get more out of your beading hobby, including ways to be more social and even make a small profit along the way!

1. Beading Workshops. Almost all bead shops offer beading classes and workshops. These events are usually small, with no more then eight or so people. They are a fun time to get together with like-minded people and create something beautiful in a laidback environment. What should you expect during a workshop? While every bead shop runs their classes differently, most follow a similar pattern. You should arrive early to ensure you have ample time to select your beads. The instructor will assist you in this – it can be a daunting task if you are a beginner! When the class starts, your instructor will give you a written set of instructions. 80

These are a great way to assist, but the best way is to watch and learn with beading! Once you have started, the class usually becomes more social – think lots of chatting and getting to know each other! At the end, you should have finished your piece or at least be able to take it home and finish it off. You’ve learnt a new skill plus made some friends!

2. Bead Clubs. Once you’ve delved into the world of beading you won’t want to stop! Some say beading is like an addiction – we can’t talk, we’ve been doing it for 12 years here at My Beads Brisbane! One fabulous and not too expensive way to feed your beading addiction is to join a bead club. Once again many bead shops offer this service at varying rates and frequencies. Bead Clubs basically work like this: You subscribe, and are billed on a regular basis (we bill once per month). You are then privy to special access – special competitions, special products, special

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discounts and the best bit? You are sent a wonderful box filled to the brim with beading goodies once per month. Our bead boxes are themed – for example, our first ever box was themed “Life’s a Beach” and contained a beautiful selection of beach related beads and findings. Rope beads, coral, shell beads, coconut, starfish pendants! It was truly wonderful seeing all the designs our amazing customers came up with.

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you truly want to take your beading to the next level, why not try selling some of your designs at the market? Market stalls are relatively cheap to set up and are also very social. It’s great to get out there and meet your customers and get feedback on your designs. You’ll also be mingling with other crafts people and artists and are guaranteed to have a great time! Plus, you may even make a little profit along the way. What better way to pay for your beading addiction!

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20-Minute High Intensity Interval Training Workout Everyone is busy but even if you only have 20 minutes to spare, you can give your body a solid workout. You don’t need anything more than a jump rope and a timer. Complete the following set of exercises in this order twice. Set your timer for one minute. 1. Pushups

5. Caterpillar to Pushup

It’s most important to maintain good form, so feel free to modify by having your knees on the ground as you build up strength over time.

(You can modify to knees on the ground pushups)

2. One Leg Glute Press

7. Three-Way Lunge (Forward - Side -

6. Skip Rope Reverse)

30 seconds on each side

30 seconds each side

3. Skip Rope (or another aerobic activity of your choice)

8. Skip Rope

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9. Reaching Crunch

30 seconds each side (You can also modify this by eliminating the reach. Your abs will still thank you!)

10. Frog Jumps

REMEMBER: Even though this is only 20 minutes, it’s an intense workout. Be sure to stretch your muscles afterwards! hers-magazine.com

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Pasta with Sun-Dried Tomato and Walnut Pesto and Feta Cheese Recipe CHEF SHELLY POGUE

Ingredients you will need: 1 (9-ounce) package refrigerated fresh linguine 3/4 cup oil-packed sun-dried tomato halves, drained 2 Tablespoons of canola oil, or olive oil 1/4 cup loosely packed basil leaves 2 tablespoons walnuts 2 tablespoons pre-shredded fresh Parmesan cheese 1 tablespoon bottled minced garlic 1/2 teaspoon salt 1/4 teaspoon black pepper 1/2 cup (2 ounces) crumbled feta cheese

Preparation: • Cook pasta according to the package directions, Make sure you salt your water well, as it will flavor your pasta, and you will not require as much salt in the end. • Drain pasta through a colander over a bowl, reserving 1 cup cooking liquid. • Do not rinse your pasta, and return the pasta to the pan. • While pasta cooks, place your canola, or olive oil, sun dried tomatoes, fresh basil, walnuts, parmesan cheese, garlic in a food processor; process until finely chopped. • Combine tomato mixture and about half of the reserved 1/2 cup cooking liquid , stirring with a whisk. You may need to add about 1/2 cup of warm tap water if the reserve liquid is too salty. • Add to pasta; toss well to coat. Sprinkle with feta.

Chef Shelley Pogue is a Le Cordon Bleu graduate from The Texas Culinary Academy located in Austin, Texas. Pogue graduated with honors of cum laude with a GPA of 3.71. Pogue went to work for The Hills Fitness Center in Westlake Hills after graduation and stayed there for one year as the Executive Chef. She then left The Hills and went to work for a company Vertical Sales and Marketing, San Ramon, Calif. Pogue is currently developing sauces and meal concepts for large retail markets in the US. Pogue lives in Austin, Texas, and is also a personal chef and caterer, and also working on developing a recipe and cookbook.


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2015 Music Preview Here’s what you can look forward to syncing on your iPod for the remainder of the year! TBD Dates: Britney Spears Christina Aguilera Demi Lovato Ellie Goulding Emeli Sande, “Who Needs the World” (Virgin) Fergie Gwen Stefani Iggy Azalea JoJo Lana Del Rey, “Honeymoon” (Interscope) LeToya, “Until Then” (eOne) Rihanna Sia, “This is Acting” SZA, “A” (TDE) Tamar Braxton (Epic) TLC

May 18: Mariah Carey, “#1 to Infinity”, (Epic Records)

June 1: Florence + The Machine, “How Big, How Blue, How Beautiful” (Island Records) hers-magazine.com

June 24: Carly Rae Jepsen, “E*MO*TION”, (Interscope)

July 28: Natalie Imbruglia, “Male” (Sony Masterworks)

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Summer TV Previews BY KARRI BATES

Get your daily fix of what shows to watch before they hit small screens (and laptops) this summer.

Beals’ Dr. Carolyn Tyler will examine the question “Is death truly the end, or is there something else beyond?” all while grappling with “the recent, devastating loss of her teenage son, the breakup of her marriage to Dr. Len Barliss (Doctors‘ Sean Gleeson) and a growing estrangement from their daughter (The Hunger Games‘ Annie Thurman)” Proof premieres Tuesday, June 16 on TNT.

love with her as she struggled to tell him he was making a big mistake. Now it’s time for Desiree to call the shots when she gets her second chance to find love. The Bachelorette premieres Tuesday, May 19 on ABC.

“Grace and Frankie” A pair of rivals, Grace (Jane Fonda) and Frankie (Lily Tomlin), discover that their husbands want to run off with each other. As comedy and turmoil collide in this series, it’ll be interesting to find out how Grace and Frankie not only deal with their own rivalry, but their husbands’ infidelity. Grace and Frankie premieres on Netflix Friday, May 8.

“Orange is the New Black” The wait is over! Social media’s favorite obsession, Orange is the New Black, is heading to Netflix for Season 3. This time, the truths are more telling, the lies are bolder, and the characters are even crazier. OITNB premieres Friday, June 12 on Netflix.

“The Bachelorette” She’s baaaack! Desiree Hartsock thought she would happily end up with Bachelor Sean Lowe. Their relationship started off incredibly strong, but somewhere along the way Desiree lost her confidence. Millions watched, stunned, as Sean sent Desiree home, and they fell even more in 84

“Proof” A brilliant surgeon (Jennifer Beals) searches for proof of life after death.

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“For Justice” For Justice, based on James Patterson’s novel “The Thomas Berryman Number,” follows a female FBI agent (Anika Noni Rose) working in the Criminal Section of the Department of Justice’s Civil Rights Division who finds herself caught between her radical real family and her professional family. Alongside her is tv veteran Phylicia Rashad who will play a fellow agent who happens to be gay. Directed by Oscar-nominated director Ava DuVernay, For Justice is sure to leave audiences wanting for more with each episode. For Justice premieres on CBS late this summer.

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Summer Movies

“Regression, Emma Watson”

BY KARRI BATES

“Pan, Rooney Mara, Cara Delevingne, Amanda Seyfried” The story of an orphan who is spirited away to the magical Neverland. There, he finds both fun and dangers, and ultimately discovers his destiny -- to become the hero who will be forever known as Peter Pan. Pre-Wendy, John and Michael, Pan features characters that hold intrinsic value to Peter Pan’s journey including the Mermaid (Delevingne), Tiger Lily (Mara) and Mary (Seyfried) who would go on to play an instrumental role in the adaptation most audiences are familiar with. Pan premieres July 24.

“The Avengers: Age of Ultron”, Scarlett Johansson

In The Avengers: Age of Ultron, Johansson reprises her role as the loveable kickass heroine, Natasha Romanoff/Black Widow who along with the rest of the Avengers team must stop the villainous Ultron from enacting his plans of world terror and domination. In theaters everywhere May 1.

“Hot Pursuit”, Reese Witherspoon, Sofia Vergara

Laughs are sure to be plentiful in this action comedy where an inept police officer (Witherspoon) must protect the widow (Vergara) of a drug dealer from criminals and dirty policemen. In theaters May 8.

“Pitch Perfect 2”, Anna Kendrick, Rebel Wilson, Brittany Snow, Elizabeth Banks

Aca-awkward? We think not! Elizabeth Banks will show her comedic production skills again with the release of Pitch Perfect 2. This time, the Barden Bellas enter into an international competition that no American team has ever won. In theaters May 15.

A young girl (Watson) is sexually abused by her father. Thus, begins the disturbing tale of a father and daughter torn apart, thrown into the center of a conspiracy that shocks the nation. Regression premieres August 28.

“Aloha”, Emma Stone, Rachel McAdams

Will you be #TeamRachel or #TeamEmma? In Aloha, a celebrated military contractor (Bradley Cooper) returns to the site of his greatest career triumphs the US Space program in Honolulu, Hawaii - and reconnects with a long-ago love (Rachel McAdams) while unexpectedly falling for the hard-charging Air Force watchdog (Emma Stone) assigned to him. Aloha will hit theaters May 29.

“Spy”, Melissa McCarthy, Rose Byrne Susan Cooper (McCarthy) is an unassuming, deskbound CIA analyst, and the unsung hero behind the Agency’s most dangerous missions. But when her partner falls off the grid and another top agent is compromised, she volunteers to go deep undercover to infiltrate the world of a deadly arms dealer (Byrne), and prevent a global crisis. See Spy when it hits theaters June 5.


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Hers magazine May/June 2015  

We highlight the 30th anniversary of the Academy Award-nominated film “The Color Purple” and its protagonist, Shug (Margaret Avery). The spi...

Hers magazine May/June 2015  

We highlight the 30th anniversary of the Academy Award-nominated film “The Color Purple” and its protagonist, Shug (Margaret Avery). The spi...