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How To End Your Marriage In A Less Adversarial Approach

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If your marriage has unfortunately broken down to a point where it can no longer be repaired, taking a gentler approach will help ease the transition. As opposed to bringing the case to court, you can decide on different areas of your divorce by using mediation or collaborative law. Essential points of these procedures are discussed below.


In this approach, you and your spouse will meet with a neutral third party, the mediator, and with their assistance, you work through various issues so you can end your marriage amicably and fair to both parties. The mediator will not provide either of you legal advice nor support one side over another. Solicitors are hardly ever present throughout the mediation sessions. Then again, you may meet with a lawyer in between meetings for help and advice. Once you have determined solutions on all issues, the mediator will then make a summary, which is then given to both you and your spouse to go over with your solicitors. Your solicitors can produce a legally binding document, and will do the necessary steps to finally implement the divorce.

Collaborative law

This approach also lets you agree on various issues or legal consequences of a divorce. The primary difference between mediation and collaborative law is that in the latter, you and your partner will each have a lawyer trained in this method beside you at every meeting. Thus, you will have support and legal counsel throughout the whole process. Family Lawyers London

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In this approach, you, your partner, and both your lawyers will sign an agreement that you are going to commit to resolving issues without taking the case to court. Your attorneys will also promise that in case the collaborative process break down, they will not represent you in court. If you have determined solutions on all issues relevant to your divorce, a document outlining these will be signed by by both you and your spouse and your attorneys, who will then carry out other essential tasks to implement those agreements.

Which option is best for me?

Your lawyer can point out the pros and cons of either option so you can pick which one is best for you. But of course, the process you will use can depend also on your spouse's willingness to participate. Furthermore, there are several other factors that have to be taken into account. For example, if you don’t like to negotiate by yourself, are not that knowledgeable in the financial aspects of divorce, or feel vulnerable without a lawyer beside you when meeting with your spouse, a collaborative law may be a better choice for you.

Choosing a lawyer

You can find family lawyers London by using the web or looking at local yellow pages. Web sites of local and national associations of family lawyers can also give you contact details of active attorneys near you. Choose a solicitor with a good mix of experience, reasonable fees, trustworthiness, and authentic concern for you and your kids.

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How To End Your Marriage In A Less Adversarial Approach  

If your marriage has unfortunately broken down to a point where it can no longer be repaired, avoiding an adversarial divorce process will h...