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News for September 2012 ent Upcoming Mentoring Ev Everyone is invited to come and discover new Sparks! Mentoring Programs at Helping Services will be hosting another Sparks Fair on Saturday, September 29 from 10:00 a.m. – 2:00 p.m. at St. Benedict School in Decorah, located at 402 Rural Drive. Mentors, mentees, youth ready for a mentor, and adult family members from Allamakee, Howard, and Winneshiek Counties are invited to attend. There will be lots of exciting Sparks for everyone to explore during hands-on workshops, including dance, art, firefighting, drama, archery, nursing, and many more! Participants can choose which workshops they want to attend. The goal of the Sparks Fair is for youth participants to discover new Sparks that they can continue to explore with their mentor and/or family members. Lunch will be provided. Please RSVP to your mentoring coordinator at 563-3871720 if you plan to attend. Mentees must be accompanied by either their mentor or an adult family member. We will not be providing Mentors For A Fay for this event. Invitations will be mailed out soon. Do not miss out on this fun event!

ning: Upcoming Mentoring Trai Getting Along with Peers Attention mentors! The next mentor training, Getting Along with Peers, will be held on Monday, September 24 from 6:00 – 8:00 p.m. in the basement of Mabe’s Pizza in Decorah, located at 110 East Water Street. Lindy Borske-Hubbard, who is a guidance counselor with the Decorah School District, will lead this training. Mentors will learn ways to help their mentees make friends, accept differences, understand feelings, and develop listening skills. Please RSVP to Kathy or Marilyn at 563-387-1720 if you plan to attend. Supper will be provided.

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Delaware County Updates

What lights you up? What sparks your interest? Come explore and discover new Sparks at the Delaware County Mentoring Sparks Fair on Saturday, September 22 from 10:00 a.m. – 2:00 p.m. at West Delaware Elementary School, located at 1001 Doctor Street in Manchester. Mentors and mentees from Delaware County are invited to attend. Community members will share their Sparks during the hands-on workshops. Participants can attend up to four different workshops in areas that interest them. Everyone will have the opportunity to explore various Sparks, including drama, balloon art, magic, kayaking, cheerleading, puppet performance, scrapbooking, robotics, and more! This Sparks Fair will give mentoring matches the opportunity to discover new activities that they can do during their time together. Lunch will be provided. Please RSVP to your mentoring coordinator at 563-379-3454 if Mentoring match Darris and Tiffany you plan to attend. Mentees must be accompanied by either their menhanging out at the National Mississippi tor or an adult family member. We will not be providing Mentors For A River Museum and Aquarium in Dubuque Day for this event. You can find Mentoring Connection for Delaware County at Parent Teacher Conferences on September 19 and 20 at West Delaware Elementary School. We encourage everyone to stop by and see us so we can answer any questions you might have about mentoring.

Children and Exposure to

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By Ana Avelar, Child Advocate

Each year in the United States, millions of children are exposed to violence. Children are exposed when they are abused or maltreated, or if they see, hear, or know others who are victimized by crimes that take place within their family, their community, or through the media. Exposure to violence can have short and long-term effects on children. Keep in mind that every child responds differently to violence. These are some of the common effects of exposure to violence:  Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder  Difficulty falling or staying asleep  Hyper-vigilance (constantly tense/on guard)  Exaggerated startle response  Irritability or outbursts of anger  Anxiety  Depression  Regression (loss of previously-learned skills)

 Reactive Attachment Disorder (inability to form healthy emotional attachments)  Bedwetting  May become violent  May use drugs or alcohol at a young age  Low self-esteem  Higher suicide risk  Difficulty concentrating  Parentification (taking on parent role) Children deserve to be children and they deserve to be loved and cared for. When exposed to violence, a child may feel strong emotions such as fear, anger, confusion, isolation, hopelessness, and shame. Children often blame themselves for the violence. As adults, it is our duty to provide a nurturing environment for proper development in support of the bright futures that children deserve. For more information about child abuse, please contact Ana or Jazmon by calling the Domestic and Sexual Abuse Resource Center at 1-800-383-2988. After all, keeping children safe is everybody’s business.

Remember to check the Facebook Page or helpingservices.org for the most current information. Thursday, September 6 – Mentoring Connection for Delaware County New Mentor Initial Training 5:30 - 8:30 p.m., Our Savior Lutheran Church - Son Shine Center, 113 Guetzko Court, Manchester Tuesday, September 11 – Mentor Break 12:00 - 1:00 p.m., A&W/Long John Silver’s, 628 Second Avenue SW, Cresco Monday, September 17 – Become a Love and Logic Parent Class 6:00 - 8:00 p.m., Meeting six times (September 17, 24 and October 1, 8, 15, 29) at St. Patrick School Library, 200 Second Street SW, Waukon Saturday, September 22 – Mentoring Connection for Delaware County Event: Sparks Fair 10:00 a.m. 2:00 p.m., West Delaware Elementary School, 1001 Doctor Street, Manchester Monday, September 24 – Mentor Training: Getting Along with Peers 6:00 - 8:00 p.m., Mabe’s Pizza in the basement, 110 East Water Street, Decorah Saturday, September 29 – Mentoring Event: Sparks Fair 10:00 a.m. - 2:00 p.m., St. Benedict School, 402 Rural Drive, Decorah Saturday, October 20 – Mentoring Event: Pinter’s Gardens and Pumpkins 10:30 a.m., 2475 Highway 9, Decorah

Mentoring Steering Committee Meetings Monday, September 17 – Allamakee Mentoring Program 4:00 p.m., NICC/Waukon Wellness Center – Room 109, 1220 Third Avenue NW, Waukon Tuesday, September 18 – Building Bridges Through Mentoring (Winneshiek County) 4:00 p.m., Iowa Workforce Development Office, 312 Winnebago Street, Decorah Tuesday, September 25 – Mentoring Connection for Delaware County 11:30 a.m., Pizza Ranch, 1100 West Main Street, Manchester Monday, October 29 – MY Club (Howard County) 4:00 p.m., Cresco Public Library in the downstairs meeting room, 320 North Elm Street, Cresco


Save the Date for t October Mentoring Even On Saturday, October 20, mentors and mentees from Allamakee, Delaware, Howard, and Winneshiek Counties are invited to spend the morning at Pinter’s Gardens and Pumpkins in Decorah, located at 2475 State Highway 9. Participants will enjoy wagon rides, a corn maze, big slides, farm animals, pumpkin patches, and much more! Mentoring participants from Allamakee, Howard, and Winneshiek Counties will meet at Pinter’s at 10:30 a.m. Mentoring participants from Delaware County will meet at 9:00 a.m. at Our Savior Lutheran Church – Son Shine Center in Manchester, located at 113 Guetzko Court, to carpool to Decorah. Please RSVP to your mentoring coordinator if you plan to attend. No Mentors For A Day will be provided for this event.

For information contact: 563-387-1720 Kathy Schwartzhoff, ext. 108 kathys@helpingservices.org Joelle Nielsen, ext. 121 jnielsen@helpingservices.org Marilyn Zweibahmer, ext. 120 mzweibahmer@helpingservices.org

563-379-3454 Ellen Krogmann ekrogmann@helpingservices.org

helpingservices.org Mentoring News is a publication of the Mentoring Programs at Helping Services: Allamakee Mentoring Program, Building Bridges Through Mentoring, Mentoring Connection for Delaware County, and MY Club.

Funding for this publication is provided by the U.S. Department of Justice, Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention, Grant # 2009-JU-FX-0026

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Mentor Breaks Are Back It is time to start Mentor Breaks! The next Mentor Break will be held on Tuesday, September 11 from 12:00 – 1:00 p.m. at A&W/Long John Silver’s in Cresco, located at 628 Second Avenue SW. Mentoring staff member Marilyn will be attending. Mentors will need to pay for their own lunch, but mentoring staff will provide dessert. Mentor Breaks are held each month and the location varies. They are held in either Allamakee, Howard, or Winneshiek County. All mentors are welcome to attend any Mentor Break, even if it is not being held in their county. Carpooling can be arranged by contacting your mentoring coordinator. This year Mentor Breaks may NOT always be held on the second Tuesday of every month from 5:30 – 6:30 p.m. Dates and times will vary in an effort to accommodate as many mentors as possible. Please note the September Mentor Break is at noon Mentor Breaks are an opportunity for mentors to gather with other mentors and a mentoring staff member to talk about how things are going with their match, share ideas, and gain new insights into the mentoring experience. We encourage all mentors to attend!

August Event Recap

s: Love and Logic Upcoming Parenting Clas

Kayla and Elizabeth hanging out at Riverside Amusement Park On Saturday, August 11, 38 mentors, mentees, youth ready for a mentor, Mentors For A Day, and mentoring staff members from Allamakee, Howard, and Winneshiek Counties traveled to La Crosse to enjoy go-karting, miniature golf, and batting practice at Riverside Amusement Park. Participants ended the event with a picnic lunch at Copeland Park. The weather was beautiful and everyone had a great time!

Mentoring Survey Results As you know, Mentoring Programs at Helping Services focus on achieving eight goals in the areas of positive relationships; self-esteem; the match being youth-centered; problem-solving skills; resistance to alcohol, tobacco, and other drugs; being hopeful for the future; a positive attitude towards school; and avoiding the Juvenile Court System. In May and June, mentees and parents were surveyed to determine growth in these areas. We have been sharing survey results in each newsletter, and here’s a new one: Related to our goal that youth will have positive relationships with peers and other caring adults, we found that 100% of mentees from Allamakee, Delaware, Howard, and Winneshiek Counties reported that they can name at least four adults who care about them. 86% of parents of mentees from Allamakee, Delaware, Howard, and Winneshiek Counties reported that they “strongly agree” or “agree” that their youth has learned new friendship skills and it is easier for them to make friends since joining the mentoring program. We will continue to share survey results in future mentoring newsletters. Thanks to everyone who took part in the surveys, allowing us to get some concrete numbers on our progress. Let’s keep up the good work!

Left: Rita and Eva playing miniature golf Above: Mentoring participants getting ready for go-karting

Helping Services will be offering the Become a Love and Logic Parent class in Waukon starting in September. This class is a nationally-recognized, professionally-facilitated curriculum designed to provide participants with practical, easy-to-use parenting techniques that really work. The techniques learned can be used with children of any age. Lori Eastwood of Catholic Charities will be facilitating this course. Become a Love and Logic Parent will start on Monday, September 17 and will meet six times (September 17, 24 and October 1, 8, 15, and 29) from 6:00 – 8:00 p.m. Please note that the class will not meet on Monday, October 22. Class will be held in the library at St. Patrick School in Waukon, located at 200 Second Street SW. There is NO charge to attend. Free child care will be provided. Participants who plan on using the child care are asked to please bring all of the supplies their children may need during the two-hour period, such as diapers and bottles. A complimentary light dinner will be served to all participants and their children at 5:30 p.m. Mileage reimbursement will be given to parents of mentees and mentors upon request. Become a Love and Logic Parent is not only useful for parents, but also for anyone who is involved in the life of a child. We strongly encourage all of our parents and mentors to attend. You can register by calling Joelle at 563-387-1720. Class size is limited so call today! If you are unable to attend, there will be two other opportunities to take this class during the upcoming year. Become a Love and Logic Parent will be offered in Cresco starting at the end of October and in Ossian starting in January. More details about these upcoming classes will be included in future mentoring newsletters.


September Mentoring Newsletter 2012