Making a Difference by Wendy Ball he phrase “making a difference,” is often used in coaching along with other phrases such as "pushing the envelope" and "living a purpose driven life," and "be your best self," as part of the conversation about how to actively engage in creating change in the world. It is usually associated with wanting to be of service to others and struggling to know what that might look like.
People bring many things into this conversation. They bring their wish to be a good person and their anxiety that they are not enough. They bring deep religious/cultural conditioning like the Protestant work ethic that maintains a focus on doing rather than being. We live in a celebrity focused culture in which we are constantly bombarded by the next big name that promises to offer a sure path to success, healing, fulfillment... I'd like to offer to the conversation my conviction and my experience that making a difference to ourselves, others and to the collective does not have to be big. So many of us feel overwhelmed and powerless in the face of what is happening economically and politically in our country. It is hard to know what it would take to make a difference. In the face of the physical and emotional issues so many of us deal with it is hard to know where to start to make a difference or to trust that we actually can make a difference. I would like to suggest that every minute you spend engaged in a positive practice whether it is mindfulness, yoga, qigong....makes a difference. I dare to say that every minute you spend doing something that you love and that bring you joy makes a difference. Showing up for yourself by doing your practices makes you feel different. Others notice this in your energy and perspective and it has an impact. I may not be an impact that is verbalized. It may be subtle. But it is there and it is real. Showing up for yourself says something about your priorities and it does not go unnoticed. We get so many messages about showing up in a big way, about being extraordinary. If you want to make a difference but have not written a book or given workshops or have a website you may feel ordinary, even invisible. Being ordinary is not someMarie Marhan Dropkin, Certified Divorce Coach thing we like to do in our culture. But taking responsibility for Marie@SupportInAStorm.com your emotions and how you experience things and finding non(518) 423-2525 blaming ways of expressing your truth to others; this can never www.SupportInAStorm.com be ordinary. It can have a huge impact. 16 Healing Springs I 15 year anniversary issue I #91 April—May ‘17
Support In A Storm
The 15th year anniversary for Upstate New York's wellness resource.