12 June 2013 | Hawkeye | 13 » have any suggestions? Contact the Health editor at Health@thehawkeye.org
is this normal?!
Kimberly Nelson FASCE teacher
ITN?! columnist Kimberly Nelson is back! She will answer all health-related questions you may be afraid to ask, or she may just address some questions that she feels really need to be answered. Credentials? Oh, yeah, she’s got ‘em. Not only is she a health educator, she has a master’s degree in Theology and Counseling.
Dear Ms. Nelson: I hear that crying is good for your brain, but why is it so hard for guys to cry? Signed, Mr. Dry Eyes Dear Mr. Dry Eyes: What an excellent question and such an easy answer. Since boys have smaller brains than girls something has to go; hence the lack of reasonable emotions that boys exhibit. JK! HAHAHA!!! I’m not a guy hater-really. In most cultures, boys are taught from the beginning to be tough and not cry. Only babies and
girls cry, BE A MAN! Right away boys learn to control any emotion that might lead to crying, because who wants to be ridiculed and punched by your dad, uncles or brothers? And on the playground, when you do a face plant under the monkey bars and woodchips are embedded into your cheeks, boy you better not cry. When you are playing baseball and a line drive slams into your special place (you know where THAT is) you better walk it off. Don’t try to blame the dirt in your eyes. In reality, crying releases hormones into your bloodstream that make you feel calm and satiated. They’re the same hormones that are secreted when you enjoy a belly laugh, eat a very enjoyable meal, or when you are a grown up and have sex. Worried about crying in front of others? Support a guy friend who cries about something painful, try crying by yourself, eventually, you will develop a healthy relationship with the crying process. It’s ok to cry about sad and painful stuff, it’s a natural process that is built into our bodies. Girls respect boys who aren’t afraid to show emotions other than anger. Erika Fisher | Hawkeye
Dear Ms. Nelson: How do I know when my boyfriend is being clingy or obsessive? When does it cross the line into an unhealthy relationship? Signed, Ms. Needs Space
Erika Fisher | Hawkeye
Dear Ms. Needs Space: People are so complex; we each have different needs, challenges and histories which make relationships even more complicated. Clingy can be cute…if it’s about being happy to be together. But clingy can be a red flag…a sign of trouble. Try to find out why your boyfriend is clingy, what’s his motivation? What happens before he becomes clingy? What gets him into the clingy mode? Notice the type of attention that he exhibits when he’s clingy. Does he require that you ALWAYS hold hands when walking, that he watches your calls and texts, or monitor who you talk to, cause those are red flags. Signs of trouble to come, signs of control issues. Controlling behavior is used when someone is in need of power, it is not about love. It is about regulating someone else usually because the controller has a need to manage the world around them. Boyfriends aren’t the only ones who get clingy…girlfriends can be obsessive too. Keep in mind that sometimes boyfriends and girlfriends show their clingy behavior differently.
Dear Ms. Nelson: I’m trying to get into shape for summer. How many calories does my body really need? I always hear different things. Signed, Striving for a Beach Bod Dear Striving for a Beach Bod: Yea for you! Getting in shape will help you to feel good about yourself. Counting calories is based on your metabolism, the balance between what you take in and what you work out. There are great resources on line that can help you calculate what and how much you should eat as well as how much and
» musical comedy Kills ‘em Last drama production of the year a success »P14
the type of workout that is best for you. Consider checking on WebMD or http://www. myfitnesspal.com/ for inforErika Fisher | H mation and support. Remember that feeling good is better than setting a goal according to what others think.
Summer safety tips Try and stick to a schedule. Teens need eight to nine hours of sleep every night.
Wear sunglasses to protect your eyes from UV rays.
Make sure to apply sunscreen before going outdoors, even when tanning. It’s important to use an SPF to protect yourself from sunburns and skin cancer.
Stay hydrated. Your body needs a lot water, especially during hot summer months. Erika Fisher | Hawkeye
Erika Fisher | Hawkeye
Take advantage of the sunny weather and try an outdoor activity like swimming, jogging or soccer. According to the Centers for Disease Control, teens need at least 60 minutes of exersize, three days a week.
When swimming or doing other water activities make sure to use the buddy system and wear a life jacket when necessary.
Published on Jun 12, 2013