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Guide to library summer activities

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Growing up in the

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I grew up on a dairy farm in the heart of the Finger Lakes, just 15 minutes from the north shores of Keuka, Canandaigua, and Seneca lakes. Occasionally on summer Sunday afternoons we’d head to the public access areas. Grandpa helped bait our hooks to catch sunfish off the dock. Dad taught us the perfect flick of the wrist to skip flat rocks — up to eight hops before sinking. Mom gave private swim lessons. Even so, trips to the lake were limited to holidays, family picnics, and graduation parties. They were fond memories to be sure, but like many young people I was eager to grow up and move away. It started with attending college more than 6 hours away. Then on my first summer home it hit. The realization that the Finger Lakes is a resort area. An annual destination for many. I lived in a vacation spot! People came here for everything from a weekend respite to a summer-long retreat. But Salley Thornton I could enjoy the bucolic view daily. I began to appreciate more the fields of Publisher strawberries, rolling hills of grapevine vistas, rocky staircases to the head of natural waterfalls plunging into icy pools, tucked away historic sites, and modern-day glimpses into yesteryear with the growing Amish and Mennonite communities. My final summer before launching into my professional career as a college graduate, I even worked as a tour guide at a Keuka Lake winery — working outdoors admiring the beautiful views, meeting friendly people on vacation and sampling wine — it doesn’t get any better than that and to date is still my favorite job. So, perhaps it’s no surprise that I don’t take summer vacations. At least not the kind that take me out of New York. Staycations may have became popular when times were tough. Dresden Engle But for me it’s a choice. There’s plenty here to Managing Editor enjoy and in this issue we share some of our perennial favorites. There’s plenty to do, see, and experience in your own backyard. And just maybe, I’ll meet you out there.

Dresden Engle Managing Editor Sara Hickman-Himes Art Director/Designer Renee Veniskey Photographer Lindsay Warren Baker Production Manager Jann Nyffeler Copy Editor Rachel Cucchiara Social Media Coordinator Shawn Gray Lead Videographer/Editor Paul Olcott Photographer/ Distribution Manager Lindsey Frederick Summer Intern/Designer

COLUMNISTS Dr. Meami Craig, Elizabeth Crony, Dr. Amy Jerum, Deanna King, Dante Worth

FEATURED WRITERS Breanna Banford, Debbie Coffey, Dresden Engle, Mary Finucane, Sue Henninger, Dawn Kellogg, Dr. Elizabeth Murray, Linda Quinlan, Rachel Turlington, Deena Viviani

ADVERTISING Alexis Ganter Senior Account Executive/ Digital Manager Stephen Dodd Account Executive


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AMY JERUM, DNP, CPNP-PC, PMHS, is a pediatric primary care provider and mother of three boys (ages 11,11, and 13 — wow, right?). She gets asked a lot of questions about healthcare and parenting and now she’s sharing her answers with Roc Parent readers. She is a pediatric nurse practitioner and pediatric mental health specialist with Panorama Pediatric Group; part of the team at the Complex Care Center; and assistant professor of clinical nursing at the University of Rochester, School of Nursing

DEANNA KING is the mother of three pleasant surprises ages seven, 10, and 17. Clearly, she isn’t good at family planning, but has mastered the art of writing — especially the honest truth about parenting. She created the blog CynicalMother. com several years ago. Deanna also worked for more than a decade in Rochester in TV news as a reporter and producer. Nowadays, Deanna’s sarcastic wit can be heard every morning on The Brother Wease Show on Radio 95.1. ELIZABETH MURRAY, D.O, MBA, is board certified in pediatrics and pediatric emergency medicine and with the University of Rochester Medical Center. She also holds an MBA form UR’s Simon School of Business Administration. Dr. Murray is Associate EMS Medical Director for Monroe County and named a spokesperson of the American Academy of Pediatrics in 2014. She can be seen regularly on television on Fox Rochester’s “Good Day Rochester.”

RACHEL TURLINGTON holds a bachelor’s degree in communication from SUNY Brockport. She assists the team at Foodlink with special events while also working as a daycare provider. Rachel has also been a competivie dancer for many years. A video of Rachel’s marriage proposal went viral and landed on TV news in May, as her fiancé organized a flash-mob, featuring her dancer friends, to dramatically pop the question. (She said, “Yes.”) DEENA VIVIANI works by day as a young adult services librarian at Brighton Memorial Library and by night she writes for children. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing and Communications from SUNY Brockport and a master’s degree in Library Science from the University at Buffalo. Deena is a fan of traveling, Muppets, Project Runway, and baking gluten-free recipes. She lives in Rochester  with her young daughter, musician husband, and a large number of guitars, computers and, of course, books.


FEATURES Daycare Tips Don’t worry, parents — your kids are happy! Cover Story Out-of-the-way getaways from the Getaway Guy

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Staycations & Daycations Rockin’ our region this summer Pomp & Circumstance Senior year means saying good-bye

ALSO INSIDE 6 The Cynical Mom Confessions of a (sort of) dance mom 18 Book Nook Sink your teeth into some new reads about Sharks! 20 Ask Dr. Amy Reluctant campers, excited campers and separation anxiety 21 Launch Party Pix Celebrating Roc Parent/ She Rocs

No need to travel for summer fun. Learn about staycations and daycations on pages 8 to 14. PHOTO BY PAUL OLCOTT


22 Roc Parent Pick Corbett’s Glen 31 Library Summer Fun In this insert, see all the Monroe County Library System has planned for July and August 47 Community Spotlight Genesee Land Trust 49 Calendar Our curated calendar (full calendar at



DAYCATIONS Our region rocks! The Getaway Guy reveals fave out-of-the-way places Calming stress over starting daycare, camp, and college

Enjoying a staycation — our area is so beautiful in the summertime, who needs to leave town? Lindsey Coffey, 16, of Spencerport and Spencer Tantillo, 18, of Penfield hang out among the waterfalls and beauty of Corbett’s Glen in Brighton. PHOTO BY PAUL OLCOTT

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DEBBIE COFFEY is the owner of Sway Marketing, where she spends most of her days designing business and marketing strategies for a variety of client companies. She spent many years in local advertising agencies after earning degrees in journalism and mass communications. She and her husband stay very busy pursuing the interests of two teenage daughters and she enjoys traveling and volunteering in her spare time.



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The a King By Deann

Confessions of a kinda dance mom There are five words that cause me extreme anxiety: I am a dance mom. When I was pregnant with my daughter, visions of hair bows and tutus danced in my head. I signed her up for her first dance class at four years old. The class was only 30 minutes long. I spent more time gathering supplies, driving to the class and putting on her shoes than she did rehearsing. I signed her up for two classes the next year. What I am supposed to say is, “This gave my daughter more exposure to the arts.” The truth is it gave me an entire hour to myself.   My daughter showed up for the first class wearing the outfit she wore to pre-school. I was lucky she had on matching socks. The other little girls looked like Jon Benet Ramsey. They had leotards with matching leg warmers, skirts, and headbands. One girl even had her name embroidered on a dance bag. My daughter’s shoes were in a crumpled Wal-Mart shopping bag.  It felt like an “Afterschool Special.” We didn’t fit in.   The rehearsal for the recital was at the high school. I must have looked like a tourist in Times Square when we walked in. I didn’t know where to go or what time my daughter would go on stage. The other moms were either psychic

or read the detailed fliers sent home. They knew their group number and the performance schedule. Several moms brought blankets, toys, picnic baskets full of healthy snacks, and clothing racks on wheels. A few of these women slept outside the dance studio for two days to get front row seats to the recital. My daughter is not Danny, Donnie,

Joey, Jordan, or Jonathan and I am not in ninth grade. So, I am not camping out for tickets. My daughter’s costume was wrinkled. Her hair was supposed to be in a French braid. I am not French. There was a collective gasp when she walked through the door sporting a ponytail. I had to pay a hairdresser to fix my mistake. When my daughter was hungry, I bought her a bag of sour cream and onion potato chips from the vending machine. I won’t be cast on a Lifetime reality show anytime soon. Nor will I end up in prison. I got a little teary eyed when the curtain finally opened. It wasn’t because my daughter was the only one not wearing the white gloves that came with the costume. It was because it seemed like just yesterday I was screaming in agony while being wheeled down the hall of a hospital to deliver her via emergency C-section. Now, she looked so grown up and beautiful in her overpriced costume. The dance routine was adorable. Afterward, she was smiling ear to ear. Her brothers, who complained about having to attend the recital, hugged and congratulated her. They were as proud as I was. It turns out they actually love each other. I may be the worst dance mom ever, but I am doing something right.

One girl even had her name embroidered on a dance bag. My daughter’s dance shoes were in a crumpled Wal-Mart shopping bag. 6

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The inside scoop from a daycare provider

Hey, your child is doing great!


Two of the hardest decisions you will have to make as a parent are 1) putting your child in daycare and 2) finding the right daycare for your family. Some negative reports in the media have helped form opinions that daycares may be unsafe for your children. Because I work in daycare, I have firsthand knowledge of its many positive aspects. For one, many people who work in daycare are there for the right reasons — for the love of children. We understand that it is tough to leave your child in daycare, especially for the first time or after spending a lot time together as a family during the summer. Our goal is to make you feel comfortable, and we do that by making daycare feel like a second home for your child. We care for your child as if he or she were our own.

Writer Rachel Turlington with children at Hilton Community Daycare. PHOTO BY RENEE VENISKEY

“Your child is running around, playing, laughing, and smiling and we are happy to share those moments with you and ease your mind.” Fostering fun and friendship

We create weekly plans that provide your children with activities that are fun and educational, based on their age group. We not only want to be their daycare provider, we want to be their friend. We want your child to like us and trust us.

Building trust with parents

We ease parents’ minds and build trust via good communication. We share our personal phone numbers so the parents have that connection with us. If a child has a rough drop off, or if the parent is just missing the child, we will send pictures of their child playing or give them updates. Your child, at some point, will have a rough drop off. I promise, though, that after you leave, he or she will accept the separation and soon will be fine. Your child is running around, playing, laughing, and smiling, and we are happy to share those moments with you and ease your mind.

Involving the families

At the daycare where I am employed, we organize events and activities that involve the families. These include Muffins with Mom, Donuts with Dad, Night with Santa, and a family carnival. “It is important for the parents and daycare providers to work together to give the children the best experiences possible,” said Kim Turlington, director of Hilton Community Childcare. “When we work together, the children feel safe and loved, and the foundation for a successful future is put in place.” The best advice I can give parents is … trust your instincts. You will know which daycare is the best fit for you and your child as soon as you walk through the door. For information on local daycares, visit the website of the Office of Children and Family Services at Roc Parent

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Getaway Guy highlights summer getaways


We know him and we love him as the Getaway Guy on TV, Spectrum News’ Mike O’Brian. We’re often jealous of where he’s been or is going, because we all crave a little vacation in our daily lives. Beyond the screen, O’Brian has written two The Getaway Guy books to help guide those of us who want to take staycations or daycations, highlighting the towns and attractions he has featured on TV. The first book, subtitled “Road Trip Getaways with Mike O’Brian,” has the following dedication: “To my Mom and Dad who instilled in me as a kid the thrill of travel and road-trip vacations.” And in our beautiful Rochester and Finger Lakes region, it doesn’t have to be a long road trip to take a fabulous vacation. “I always get asked by parents of little ones, is there anything we can do?,” said O’Brian, who is enjoying ‘getting away’ with his two-year-old grandson, Mason. “What families with small children are lacking is time and money.” With this in mind, O’Brian has curated for us a list of 10 upstate places to enjoy with kids … many of which are off the beaten path.


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“We are surrounded by so many great waterfalls, which are such wonderful family adventures and usually just a park fee to explore,” O’Brian said.

Taughannock Park

1740 Taughannock Blvd. (Route 89), Trumansburg While you can stand at the base of these falls, which are higher than Niagara Falls, to enjoy their splendor, O’Brian recommended stopping en route for a different view. Turn off Route 89 for the Falls View rest stop, where you might see artists painting the postcard-perfect scene. “Ramble along the shady trail until you find the payoff — a spectacular approach to the falls that rise up to meet you,” he said.

Watkins Glen Start Park 1009 N Franklin St., Watkins Glen

Watkins Glen is the most famous of the Finger Lakes state parks, located at the south end of Seneca Lake.

“It’s absolutely beautiful,” O’Brian said. “The walk along 800 stone steps includes views of 17 waterfalls, plus caves, tunnels, and whirlpools. Take this walk during fall foliage and you get a double bonus on the views.” Tip: Park at the bottom and take the shuttle to the top. You definitely want to walk down the gorge vs. up. And warning, it can be slippery in spots.

Letchworth State Park 1 Letchworth State Park, Castile

The Grand Canyon of the East is home to three waterfalls and breathtaking views of gorges, some standing 600-feet high. It was voted Best Park in the Nation in 2015 by a USA Today readers’ poll. “It’s crazy beautiful,” O’Brian said. “We are so lucky to have a park of this magnitude in our backyard.” Travel tips: Enter at the Portageville entrance. You can park and walk to the Upper, Lower, and Middle Falls. Bring a picnic and enjoy the old picnic tables made of stone, and the old barbeque grills, for the feeling of an old-time getaway. Admission is state park fee ($6 per car).




Spectrum News’ Getaway Guy Mike O’Brian. PHOTO BY RENEE VENISKEY

Olcott Beach Amusement Park

5979 E Main St., Olcott This vintage amusement park includes a 1928 carousel and five vintage kiddie rides. With free admission and a cost of only 25 cents per ride, Olcott Beach Amusement Park is a fun, affordable, clean, and safe place to bring your family this summer. “You go to a ticket book and there’s a person in the booth who sells you a 25-cent ticket for a refurbished vintage kiddie ride, including an old Herschel Carousel,” O’Brian said. “It’s magical.” On your ride to Olcott Beach from Rochester, O’Brian recommends stopping at the Thirty Mile Point Lighthouse, located in Golden Hill Start Park. Admission the park is $6 per car and lighthouse admission is $1 for adults and 50 cents for children. “You can make a day of it,” he said. “The drive by itself is a getaway.” Speaking of kiddie rides, O’Brian also gave a shout-out to Seabreeze: “My dad used to take me to Seabreeze when I was young. Thank you, Seabreeze, for the memories, and also for keeping your beautiful character.”

Whirlpool Jet Boat Tours

Goat Island

You can beat the summer heat with a high-speed thrill ride that guarantees a wet and and wild experience. The jet boats, operated by professionals, venture as close as humanly possible to the Niagara Whirlpool. And along the Niagara River the boats swirl and swoosh on the Class 5 rapids until you’re crying “Uncle!” “This one is a thrill a minute and most people don’t even know it’s there,” O’Brian said. “It’s such a refreshing, exhilarating summer adventure.” Travel tip: Kids ages six and over can take the boat ride with their accompanying adults. Bring a change of dry clothes and enjoy a relaxing lunch in quaint Lewiston after the boat ride.

The oldest state park in the country is literally surrounded by the Bridal Veil falls on the American side and the Horseshoe on the Canadian side – resulting in mist in your face and spectacular views. “This may be the best place to see Niagara Falls,” O’Brian said. “You can get so close to the falls it’s unnerving.” Travel tips: Although fabulous to go in the summer, if you want to avoid the crowds, wait until after Labor Day. “It’s not so much fun when you can’t see anything.” Also, for a few bucks take the Niagara Scenic Trolley, which also brings you to Three Sister Rapids just above the falls.

115 South Water St., Lewiston

Corning Museum of Glass 1 Museum Way, Corning

“Explore 3,500 years of glassmaking in the endless maze of galleries,” O’Brian said. This summer Corning Museum of Glass offers a new contemporary wing of glass art, which he recommended checking out. Travel tips: Reserve three to four hours for this museum, including the extensive shopping on site. A walk across a pedestrian bridge will bring you to Corning’s Market Street for restaurants and more shopping.

Niagara Falls State Park, Niagara Falls

Herkimer Diamond Mines 4601 State Route 28, Herkimer

Be a prospector for the day during this family getaway. “You grab goggles and a crack hammer and away you go,” O’Brian said. “You’re looking for quartz crystals and you take home with you what you mine.” Travel tips: Wear a hat and sunscreen. You are out in the open and the sun can get intense. While it’s a little more than a two-hour drive from Rochester, you can still do this trip in a day … or, there’s a KOA campground across the street. See GETAWAYS on page 11 Roc Parent

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STAYCATIONS and DAYCATIONS Enjoy and embrace Rochester and the Finger Lakes this summer BY DRESDEN ENGLE

We’re pretty lucky to live where we live. We do realize this, but, alas, we have to juggle a bunch of snow and gray that makes us forget sometimes. We have natural wonders and attractions that people travel the world over to experience. That’s right — WE live in a tourist destination. I’ve traveled to Loch Ness in Scotland and quickly realized that famed lake isn’t as pretty as Canandaigua Lake or Seneca Lake. My mother insists Genesee Country Village & Museum is more fascinating than Colonial Williamsburg. And during my many years working in tourism, I had a front-row seat to international travel writers declaring their fascination with what we have, from George Eastman Museum and Strong National Museum of Play to the Erie Canal and Letchworth State Park. A USA Today travel review said of Rochester: “Hard to imagine a more serendipitous and surprising getaway.” Yep, we’re pretty lucky. With our families we can easily take staycations (staying put and enjoying all our region has to offer) and daycations (a fun-filled trip we can do in one day) all summer long and experience and appreciate the magic that is Rochester and Finger Lakes region.

Genesee Country Village & Museum

Genesee Country Village & Museum is the largest living-history museum in New York state and one of the largest in the country. Here my children have churned butter, ridden in a stagecoach, walked on stilts, made rope, played tug-of-war with an ox and met the cast of Little House on the Prairie. The village was opened 41 years ago by Genesee Brewery owner John L. Wehle, whose dream was to help preserve the vanishing rural architecture of the Genesee Country. Today, this living history museum includes a 19th-century village of 68 structures, galleries of sporting art and 19th-century clothing, a nature center, and 600 acres of gardens and wildlife. And Wehle’s legacy remains strong — granddaughter Becky Wehle serves as the museum’s president and CEO. The buildings — from barns and residences to a blacksmith shop and an opera house — provide insight into the origins of customs, traditions, and social values of their time. There are trade, craft, cooking, and agricultural demonstrations with knowledgeable interpreters in period dress. Families gain a deeper appreciation of America’s past by walking around the village and through the structures and taking part in hands-on activities. 10

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At Genesee Country Village & Museum, kids — and adults — get a chance to experience history — hands on. PROVIDED PHOTO

Themed weekends at the village While the village is open daily for the season (every day but Mondays) themed weekends offer additional activities and fanfare, such as:

War of 1812 & Jane Austen Weekend June 24-25 Reenactors portray shopkeepers, housewives, merchants, and soldiers amid the sounds of fifes and drums. Civil War Reenactment July 15-16 Experience the shots, the cannons and the horses as reenactors bring the Civil War to life. Laura Ingalls Wilder Days August 5-6 Experience 19th-century frontier life and learn more about Laura’s ties to upstate New York.

National Silver Ball  Tournament August 11-13 Three days of vintage baseball teams competing round-robin style. Old-Time Fiddlers’ Fair August 19-20 A melodious weekend featuring hundreds of musicians on four stages. Hop Harvest Festival & German Heritage Day August 26 Celebrate our German ancestors through food, music, dancing, and a traditional harvest of  hops.

If you go Location: 1410 Flint Hill Road, Mumford How far from Rochester: Half-hour drive Admission: $18 adults, $15 seniors (62+) and college students, $10 children (ages 4-18). Ages 3 and under and active military are free and veterans are $14. Please note: Special-event admission is $14-$22. Accessibility: The museum’s modern facilities are universally accessible as are many of the historic structures. However, some historic structures are not wheelchair accessible and weather may hinder mobility. Tractor-pulled wagons can bring visitors from the entrance to the village. Discounts for those with disabilities. Restaurants on site: Two, with both counter and waiter service. Learn more: or 585-538-6822




Rock City Park 505 NY-16, Olean

Bristol Aerial Adventures

You could spend a whole weekend climbing and zipping among the mountains and treetops of Bristol. Bristol Aerial Adventures makes the resort traditionally known for its winter sports a year-round attraction. You can zip through the trees on the Zipline Canopy Tour. Each tour is limited to 10 guests and is led by two guides, presenting a personal experience across several zip lines with a total distance of more than 5,000 feet. Climb aboard the trees and obstacle courses of the Aerial Adventure Park, which offer more than 125 elements, including bridges, hikes, off-road rides, and a final “Leap of Faith” — which drops you 40 feet. Younger kids can participate in the climbing at the Kids Adventure Park, which features two courses specifically designed for ages four to seven, located closer to the ground with a special harness system. Watch your kid gain confidence as they navigate, balance, and zip their way through the trees. If your child has any difficulties, staff members are on the course at all times to help them to work through the elements.

If You Go

Location: 5589 South Hill Road, Canandaigua How far from Rochester:  One-hour drive Admission: Aerial Adventure Park: $52 over age 7; $25 ages 4 and under; $39 group rate and eve admission; Zip line Canopy Tour: $109             Accessibility:  Participants must weigh between 80 and 250 pounds.   Learn more: bristol mountainadventures. com or 585-374-1180

Dad, mom, and the kids all can enjoy climbing and zipping among the mountains and treetops of Bristol. PHOTOS BY RENEE VENISKEY

Open to visitors since 1890, Rock City Park is, according to O’Brian, “a fascinating natural wonder that will take you back in time millions of years.” In his book he wrote, “You won’t believe what I found in the Enchanted Woods of Cattaraugus County! Rocks! Big rocks!” He told Roc Parent magazine that the Rock City Park is “so old and wonderful” with “amazing rock formations of giant boulders.” “You walk down the stairs and it unfolds in front of you.” Travel tips: This trip is kind of like a hiking adventure but doable. Bring good walking shoes and a bottle of water. Admission is $5 for adults and $3 for kids

Hidden Valley Animal Adventure

2887 Royce Road, Varysburg “How about spending the day in an animal kingdom?” O’Brian asked, noting you do not have to travel to Florida for this getaway. Hidden Valley Animal Adventure is 63 acres of farmland that is home to more than 300 animals and 30 species, which you can see and feed via a guided wagon ride. “These animals aren’t what you’d expect to find roaming around Western York,” he said. “Zebra camel, elk, ostrich, and more. That’s what makes this getaway so unique.” Roc Parent

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Seabreeze Amusement Park

It’s big-time fun with a small-park feel — and ginormous memories in the making — at Seabreeze Amusement Park, just minutes from the city of Rochester on the shore of Lake Ontario. Family-owned and operated by the Norris family for 138 years, Seabreeze was once known as the “Coney Island of the West.” Fifth and sixth generations of the family run the park now. Seabreeze is recognized as the 12th oldest amusement park in America. Its 1920s-era rollercoaster, The Jack Rabbit, is the world’s oldest continuously operating wooden coaster. With rides suited for the tiniest of tots to the biggest thrill seekers, it’s fun for the whole family, With more than 25 rides and a full onsite water park, family favorites include the historic carousel, bumper cars, and kiddie-coaster Bear Trax and recently redesigned Kiddie City, with water boats, mini swings, and cars. Entertainment includes a high-flying acrobatic show, offered throughout the day, and an old-time arcade and the original midway of games. Water rides include a Lazy River, a wave pool, giant tub slides, giant Soak Zone with mini slides and water canons. All lifeguards are certified. Seabreeze caters to group events and parties with covered shelters overlooking over the lake.

If You Go Location: 4600 Culver Road, Rochester How far from Rochester: 15 minutes Admission: (gate prices): $33.99 (those over 48 inches); $26.99 (ages three and up, under 48 inches); $23.99 night pass; $13.99 spectator pass. Accessibility: Wheelchairs are not available for rent. Guests in a wheelchair and or with assisting aides may enter most attractions through the exit gate. Service animals with leashes are permitted in the park but are not allowed to go on rides. Free parking onsite. Restaurants on site:  Seabreeze Grill, California Grill, waffles and fried dough, tacos and subs, chicken and fries, pizza, ice cream, and Dippin’ Dots. Learn more: or 585-323-1900 12

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Games, rides, and a waterpark make Seabreeze the ultimate daycation. PHOTOS BY PAUL OLCOTT

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Hidden Valley Animal Adventure Park

In a matter of minutes, my kids fed a zebra, petted a camel, watched buffalo grazing in a field, and felt the giant horns of a Texas longhorn. And they were asking when were we coming back even before the safari ride ended. Joy and wonder were high as we traveled on a wagon across 63 acres of farmland, which for eight years has been the setting for Hidden Valley Animal Adventure Park. This family-fun attraction is about an hour’s drive from Rochester, due south of Batavia in the small town of Varysburg. Other exotic animals along the ride are llamas, elk, bison, water buffalo, and ostriches. Admission includes a cup of grain to feed to the animals and admission into the Small Animal Adventure, where you can feed friendly animals like donkeys, goats, and kangaroo. Nestled in a rolling valley, Hidden Valley is a special place to escape from the ordinary for a little while. Tours run through October, and in winter the guided wagons are replaced by sleigh rides. The main lodge of the park features a restaurant that resembles an Adirondack Great Camp, complete with antler chandeliers and cozy fireplaces.

Get up close and personal with animals of all sorts — like this friendly fellow — at the Hidden Valley Animal Adventure Park. PHOTOS BY PAUL OLCOTT.

If You Go Location: 2887 Royce Road, Varysburg How far from Rochester: One-hour drive Admission: $18.75 adults; $17.25 seniors (65+); $14.75 children ages 3-10; free children two and under. Includes safari and trolley ride and Small Animal Village. Accessibility:  Safari tours are wheelchair accessible and one restaurant is accessible. Restaurants on site: Two with waiter service Learn more: animal-park/ or 585-535-4100

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The Pomp & Circumstance of senior year Reminding myself ‘commencement’ means ‘a new beginning’ By DEBBIE COFFEY

Emotional turbulence comes with the territory of teenagers and high school. Things can shift without warning from anticipation, optimism, joy, serenity, acceptance, and pride to rejection, melancholy, fear and grief. If you have personally felt all these emotions in the last five minutes, there’s a good chance you are the parent of recent high-school graduate. In our house, I know the end of my daughter’s high school career came way too fast. While we were visiting colleges — as well as watching the last sporting event and away on the last band trip or soaking up every other “last” — it seemed someone hit fast forward and forgot to push stop. Something feels different on the last first day of school. Then suddenly, around college decision day in May, reality slaps you in the face like a cold, February wind: This is the year my baby moves away. Navigating through dozens of clichés and even through all the necessary planning and preparations, nothing could get me ready for the void that is looming. I will surely miss the friends who occupy my daughter’s days and a big part of her heart, for they have secured a place in mine as well. My house will be uncomfortably quieter without their regular visits. I will miss her daily presence more than imaginable, along with frequent hugs, our honest conversations, and her smiling eyes and laugh that I look forward to each morning and afternoon. While some families become a lot quieter as they send twins and triplets off all at once, we are blessed to have another amazing daughter still under our roof. What I think I will miss the most is

Things to do before D-Day (Drop-off Day)

• Take too many photos • Stock up on tissues • Host a bonfire (or several; that huge pile of college marketing materials should keep it burning for days!) • Write a letter or journal for your child • Share your own college experiences (well, maybe not all of them) • Learn Snapchat • Let them have as much time as they need with friends • Take a family getaway if you can Debbie Coffey of Spencerport, right, is enjoying every moment she can with daughter Jenna before she heads to college. PHOTO BY PAUL OLCOTT

seeing my two girls together every day. They share a closeness adored and envied by many and something I treasure more than words can express. While reminiscing runs high, we need to celebrate the members of the class of 2017 with the pomp and circumstance they deserve. Congratulations to all the moms, dads, and teachers, too. The year was filled with a long list of decisions and accomplishments made possible with your support. Whether your child is going off to college, joining the workforce, traveling, or serving our country, this is an ending for us. I’m reminded, though, the end of high school is called commencement because it signifies a new beginning. As we start this summer and party like it’s 1999 (coincidentally, the year

most of these graduates were born), we recognize the beginning of independence and adulthood and celebrate who our children are becoming. As parents, we can’t help but wonder if we prepared them well for whatever comes next and we worry, just a little, if they will be OK. So, as I sit down to write this, a group of 13 spectacular seniors including my daughter, Jenna, are over at the school carrying out a plan. They each chipped in to buy a ticket to Senior Ball and created a “ballposal” they are now delivering to a classmate whose needs are sometimes classified as different than their own. Their surprise assures him that Ball will be incomplete without him. After all, their needs are really all the same — kindness and acceptance. He said “yes”! These are the young adults we are sending out into the world. Something tells me they are going to be better than OK.

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Prevention tips for beating the heat By ELIZABETH MURRAY, D.O. Pediatric Emergency Medicine Physician, UR Medicine’s Golisano Children’s Hospital

High temperatures can lead to heat-related health concerns — this should come as a surprise to no one. But in the Northeast, we also have to be wary of high humidity. When we sweat, the moisture on our skin evaporates and cools us. But if it’s humid, the air is moist, our sweat doesn’t evaporate and our bodies are deprived of this natural cooling mechanism. As with many things, prevention, when possible, is the best way to tackle the heat. Make sure to sip — but not guzzle — your water.


• Work with local schools and summer sports teams to schedule practices in the early morning or early evening. It is better to ease into practice in warm or humid weather, as heat exhaustion can happen even to the most highly trained athletes. • Take drink breaks every 15 to 20 minutes. • Set the expectation that you should listen to your body and not try to play through exhaustion. Staying cool and drinking fluids is not a sign of a bad athlete. Start teaching children at a young age what to look out for as a clue that they may be overheating.


• Heat injury is a spectrum ranging from minor (heat cramps) to severe (heat stroke). Early symptoms can be subtle, such as a leg cramp. If this develops, it’s time to stop and replace your fluids. This is a time when choosing a sports drink (or rehydration drink) is best. • Drink often but don’t guzzle. Sip and sit in a cool, shady spot. • One of the most dangerous signs is if an overheated person stops sweating. A person in this condition may become confused, combative, or even pass out. This is a life-threatening emergency: Call 911 immediately. Bystanders should begin cooling measures (get the overheated person in the shade or air conditioning and apply icepacks or a cold cloth to neck and armpits), but do not try to give anything by mouth, as the person will likely be on the verge of losing consciousness. • A person with heat exhaustion will have nausea, dizziness, and an elevated body temperature. At this point, it’s important to stop, cool, hydrate, and monitor. If symptoms do not improve quickly, the person needs evaluation in the Emergency Department. Roc Parent

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Shark Attack! Chomp on some reading this summer By DEENA VIVIANI

When Shark Week is not enough, take a bite out of these books featuring the sometimes fearsome, sometimes fearless, and sometimes friendly fish. AGES 5-8

AGES 8-12

Slickety Quick: Poems About Sharks Written by Skila Brown Illustrated by Bob Kolar

The Great White Shark Scientists Written by Sy Montgomery Photographed by Keith Ellenbogen

Get ready for some shark snark! Poems in different forms educate and entertain readers about 14 species of sharks, from the infamous great white shark to the lesser-known cookiecutter shark. Each page spread is designed with under-the-sea color schemes that will make you want to dive right into the water — shark-infested or not. The placement of each poem around the sleek shark illustrations adds even more visual interest to this fin-tastic picture book. Quick facts are provided about each ocean predator for budding marine biologists. This is one book you will want to read out loud over and over again for the rhythm, the rhymes, and the reality of who lives beneath the ocean’s surface. (Candlewick, 2016, hardcover, $16.99) 18

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Hop aboard the Aleutian Dream and cruise off the coast of Massachusetts with Dr. Greg Skomal, a biologist interested in learning more about why numbers of great white sharks are declining. He is the featured scientist in this Scientists in the Field series title. Dr. Skomal also wants to educate the world about the fact that the great whites are misunderstood, and are generally calm, despite their ferocious portrayal in pop culture. The author and photographer join the mission to share information about the equipment and science used to track the animals before they head off to Guadalupe, Mexico, to photograph sharks underwater. Not only is the writing engaging in this non-fiction volume, but the high-quality photographs are the quality of those found in National Geographic publications. With diagrams, maps, a bibliography, and more, this book can be used for research papers as well as at-home leisure reading for those who want to feel like they are part of a scientific expedition. Additional shark facts are provided, such as the number of shark species in the world (around 500) and the number of shark teeth produced in a lifetime (around 30,000). Now that’s a lot to chew on! (Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, 2016, hardcover, $18.99)

AGES 12-18 Adrift Written by Paul Griffin When Matt hops into a small boat with three other teens to save a fourth who went surfboarding in an Atlantic storm, he doesn’t expect to run out of gas. Or food. Or water. It doesn’t help that no one may know they are missing … or that sharks are circling, waiting for the right chance to strike. This survival-at-sea story is addicting, between the characters turning on each other, the elements turning on them all, and the countdown to find out if anyone on land will realize the teens need to be saved. The interspersed short chapters from rescue searchers, police, and family members in email, letter, and transmission formats make this a great choice for reluctant readers who desire constant action with great storytelling and writing — and can handle a little sharky gore. (Scholastic, 2017, paperback, $9.99)




AGES 3-6 Alfie’s Lost Sharkie By Anna Walker (Clarion, 2014, hardcover, $14.99)

AGES 6-10 Smart About Sharks Written by Owen Davey (Flying Eye Books, 2016, hardcover, $19.95)

AGES 10-15 Surrounded by Sharks Written by Michael Northrop (Scholastic, 2016, paperback, $7.99)

AGES 4-8 Clark the Shark: Afraid of the Dark Written by Bruce Hale Illustrated by Guy Francis (Harper, 2015, hardcover, $17.99)

AGES 7-10 Diving with Sharks Written by Margaret Gurevich (National Geographic Children’s Books, 2016, paperback, $5.99)

AGES 4-8 Sharks Have Six Senses Written by John F. Waters Illustrated by Bob Barner (HarperCollins, 2015, hardcover, $17.99)

AGES 7-10 The Magic Tree House: Shadow of the Shark Written by Mary Pope Osborne (Random House BFYR, 2015, hardcover, $12.99)

AGES 5-8 Land Shark Written by Beth Ferry Illustrated by Ben Mantle (Chronicle, 2015, hardcover, $16.99)

AGES 9-12 How to Outswim a Shark Without a Snorkel Written by Jess Keating (Sourcebooks, 2015, paperback, $7.99)

AGES 12-18 Before We Go Extinct Written by Karen Rivers (Farrar, Straus, & Giroux, 2016, hardcover, $17.99) AGES 12-18 Formerly Shark Girl Written by Kelly Bingham (Candlewick, 2015, paperback, $8.99) AGES 12-18 The Raft Written by S.A. Bodeen (Square Fish, 2013, paperback, $9.99)

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Hello, Muddah … Hello, Faddah … here I am at — nope, not going Dear Dr. Amy: My darling daughter just informed me that she is not going to sleep-away camp although it’s all set up. What do I do?!? — Mean Mommy? Dear Mommy Dearest: I’ve been getting this question a lot lately … Remember back in January when you had to decide and (gulp) pay for summer camp? The brochures for summer camps always show kids with big toothy grins, splashing in water. I love the picture of the young girl who has just met her two new besties and they are all holding hands as they joyfully walk away from their parents and toward their slightly damp summer living quarters. Who we never see on a glossy brochure is the kid clinging to his guiltridden mom while a wellmeaning (and downright peppy) counselor pries his little fingers from her shoulders. Don’t get me wrong — I am a firm believer in the camp experience. Summer camps can help kids hone many life skills, such as social adaptability, resilience, and independence. My own kids have been going to day camp since the summer before kindergarten and have now ventured into two-week stays at overnight camps. My three boys fill the spectrum from “Happy Camper” to “Somewhat Reluctant Participant.” So how do we prepare kids who are reluctant about or new to the camp experience? The key is to acknowledge your child’s feelings and help her learn coping skills 20

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she can use to deal with these feelings. Most importantly, try not to trivialize your child’s feelings by saying, “There is nothing to worry about!” or “You’ll have fun!” without showing some empathy and understanding. These statements may leave a child feeling like you don’t care or understand and can discourage her from talking to you about her concerns. If you know that your child is on the anxious or shy side, you can even discuss strategies in advance for dealing with concerns. For some kids, this can give them tools that make them feel more prepared. In any case, let her know that you are confident

she can handle this new adventure, and that the camp counselors and other staff are there to help her along the way. Dr. Jim Wallace, a child and adolescent psychiatrist, says don’t focus too much on how it feels to be away from home. Instead, it can help to imagine and talk about physical details like decorating her bunk, meal choices, or daily activity offerings. He also suggests not lingering at the bus stop or drop off because long goodbyes are painful for everyone.

For some added insight, I spoke with Anthony “Ace” Ventura, who is the teen programing and arts enrichment coordinator at the Carlson MetroCenter YMCA, as well as a firm believer in all things camp. He suggests preparing kids for what might be different about camp, but doing so in a way that makes it fun. Getting sand in your swimsuit or mud in your toes can be a new sensation for some kids. “As a parent or counselor, you have to be truly enthusiastic about the idea that sometimes the most exciting things in life happen when you have a little dirt under your nails,” he said. He also suggests talking to your child’s counselors to let them know if your child has concerns so they can support him, too. So, when should you worry that a child’s anxiety is something problematic? You might be concerned if he shows physical symptoms of fear, excessive tearfulness, or hiding. Some children have nightmares about separation, or ask questions like, “What if something happens to me or you when I’m away?” It is best to be calm and firm, but if a child’s reaction is so severe that it interferes with normal functioning, it might be time to talk to your pediatric provider about a consultation with a mental health professional. However, we don’t want to underestimate a child’s ability to cope. For most kids, you can send them off with a few words of encouragement and a brief hug. And for Pete’s sake, don’t let ’em see you sweat. Go home, have a cup of tea, and a good cry on your own time.

MAGAZINE LAUNCH PARTY With gorgeous views of Rochester at dusk surrounding us on the roof of the Strathallan, we celebrated the launch of Roc Parent/She Rocs magazine on May 8. Thanks to our writers, advertisers, and friends! Photos by Renee Veniskey and John Schlia Publisher Salley Thornton, left, and Managing Editor Dresden Engle cut the cake with Roc Parent cover model Matt Kilmer.

Sisters Andrea Holland, left, and Norma Holland.

Columnist “Organized Clutterbug” Elizabeth Crony.

Guests toast the new issue. From left are Dresden Engle, Chris Fanning, Allison Roberts, John Schlia, Shawn Gray, and Freyda Schneider.

Owners of Roc Parent/She Rocs magazine Salley Thornton, left, and Dresden Engle thank those who attended the event.

Ann Mattle of the Child Care Council Columnist Dante Worth snaps a and Tim Cook of Cook Tom Kohn of Bop Shop Records Alexis Ganter, left, and Sara Hickmanand copy editor Jann Nyffeler. Himes of the Roc Parent/She Rocs team. selfie with Salley Thornton. Communications.

RAPA’s Eric Vaughn Johnson, left, and Hunter Ekberg.

Hannah Barry, left, and Amanda Bayer of RMSC.

Mary Therese Friel and Kent Friel.

Jeff and Elaine Lennox of Archer Communications #rocgrandparents.

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Jessica Ripple, left, and Correna Keatley of Rochester Broadway Theatre League. July/August 2017


Corbett’s Glen Nature Park Roc Parent Yelena Keeney of Ontario shares her pick for family fun — Corbett’s Glen Nature Park in Brighton.


• A 52-acre park that offers breathtaking scenery, including waterfalls and a historic tunnel • A variety of habitats, including Allen’s Creek, a marsh, open fields, and mature woodlands on the surrounding hills forming the valley. • Home to salmon, trout, turtles, and a variety of birds and mammals; a migratory stopover for birds in the spring and fall, and a haven for wildlife, including great blue herons, wild turkeys, deer, and beaver. • More than two miles of 8-foot-wide trails are found in the park, with a level loop at the southern end along Allen’s Creek, with the Postcard Falls and historic tunnel under the railroad embankment. Connected by a steep, hilly walk, the trails travel through wooded areas in the northern section. Most trails are wood chip, with a boardwalk over a particularly wet area and a 0.35-mile stone-dust loop from the Penfield Road parking area. • Includes a deck viewing area and a seating area that overlooks Postcard Falls. • Corbett’s Glen is surrounded on three sides by sandy ridges, deposited as the glaciers once covering the area melted and receded. • Upon entering the glen, one is struck by the feeling of being nestled in a special place, far from the hectic pace of modern life. Remnants of its previously forested state are located on the higher elevations of the glen, where some oaks are estimated to be more than 150 years old. • NOTE: There are no restrooms or garbage receptacles in this park.


• A fun place for a picnic and an afternoon in nature • Easy walking trails for young kids. • Creek walking: Bring water shoes and a swimsuit to hike in the creek and swim under small waterfalls. • Interesting history that includes the aqueduct. • Beautiful landscape photography opportunities. • A hidden gem with waterfalls and a rope swing.


• Corbett’s Glen was once an important Native American trading ground. From an area near East Avenue through the glen, the Seneca Indian trail followed Allen’s Creek and led to Irondequoit Creek. In 1999, the Town of Brighton and Genesee Land Trust agreed to a partnership to save the glen, and Corbett’s Glen Nature Park was formed on June 24, 1999. • For more about the history of the park, visit Description and history of the park taken from and 22

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Lindsey Coffey, 16, of Spencerport enjoys nature at Corbett’s Glen. PHOTO BY PAUL OLCOTT


Where: The park has two different access areas. North Park: 165 Park Lane, Penfield: An eight-car parking lot is off Penfield Road, just east of North Landing Road across from Forest Hill Road. South Park: Off Glen Road, near Route 441 and I-490. Brighton. Park visitors must park at the top of Glen Road and walk through the tunnel to access the park. Cost: Free Hours: Open daily 7 a.m.-10 p.m. Contact: Town of Brighton Recreation Office, 585-784-5260 Learn more: at or Park rules and regulations are at

Still looking for exciting activities and educational programs for your children this summer? No matter the age, in Rochester there’s plenty to choose from, whether you want the great outdoors, a performing stage, a chilly ice rink, or a hands-on museum. The following pages can help you get started!

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Free programs for children and teens at libraries in the Monroe County Library System

Sign up for Summer Reading at your local library, and enjoy the many FREE programs available for children and families! Teen programs start on page 12.

When children read what they enjoy, they learn to love reading and become better readers. The free summer programs at your public library will help your child to keep reading and have fun all summer long.

For more information on how you can help your children find books they will love, ask a children’s or young adult librarian! And sign up for our new library card for Young ExplorerS today!

Come join Monroe County Executive Cheryl Dinolfo and “Build a Better World” this summer! Register for Summer Reading at any participating Monroe County Library. When you complete a reading log, your name will be entered into a drawing to win 4 FREE passes to the Seneca Park Zoo. 2

Central Library of Rochester & Monroe County

Arnett Branch Library

Brighton Memorial Library

115 South Avenue, Rochester 428-8150

310 Arnett Boulevard 428-8214

2300 Elmwood Avenue


Exploration Stations: Mixing STEAM and Folk Tales Thursdays: July 6, 13, 20, 27, and August 3 Drop in between 11:00am-4:00pm All ages In Jest: The Greatest Show in Mirth Monday, July 10 7:00-8:00pm All ages Omnipresent Puppet Theater Presents: “The Three Little Pigs” Monday, July 17 10:30-11:30am All ages Rap, Rock, and Read with Miss Nina Wednesday, July 26 7:00-8:00pm All ages If You Give a Mouse a Toolbelt Monday, August 7 10:30am-12:00pm All ages

Scrap Art with Mary Jane Wenner Wednesday, July 5 3:00pm Ages 12 and under Seneca Park ZooMobile Wednesday, July 12 3:00pm Ages 12 and under 19th-Century Games with the Genesee Country Village & Museum Wednesday, July 26 3:00pm Ages 12 and under Live Bird of Prey Demonstration by Wild Wings Wednesday, August 2 3:00pm Ages 8-12 African Drums: Storytelling, Dance, Singing Wednesday, August 9 3:00pm Ages 8-12


Summer Reading Kickoff Friday, June 23 10:00-11:30am Infant – age 12 KidFit with Victory Fitness Monday, July 10 11:30am-12:30pm Ages 4 and up How to Catch a Mouse: Simple Machines at Work with Airigami Monday, July 17 10:30-11:15am Ages 5 and up A Night of Family Magic with Steve Ingraham Thursday, July 20 7:00-8:00pm All ages Miss Nina’s “Sha Doo Be Doop” Sing Along Thursday, July 27 10:30-11:30am Ages 2–6

All programs are free. No registration required, except where noted.

Go to for a complete listing of all programs.


BrockportSeymour Library

Charlotte Branch Library

Chili Public Library

161 East Avenue, Brockport

3557 Lake Avenue

3333 Chili Avenue



Summer Reading Kickoff Saturday, June 17 11:00am-1:00pm All ages

Stories and Swords Monday, July 24 1:30-2:30pm Ages 4-12 Registration required

Wizarding World: OWLs Tuesday, June 6 4:00-5:00pm For ages 7-11 Registration required

Balloon Crazy with Just Clowning Around Monday, July 10 10:30-11:15am All ages Registration required

If You Give a Mouse a Toolbox Monday, August 7 3:00-4:00pm All ages

Truck Show Extravaganza Monday, July 10 10:00am-12:00pm For all ages and families

Family Read-a-Thon Friday, July 14 2:00-4:00pm All ages Registration required

Learn to Build Domino Chain Reactions with StickTrickDominoDude Monday, August 14 1:00-2:30pm Ages 7-12 Registration required

Science Fair Fridays Friday, July 14 11:00am-12:30pm For all ages and families

Stories and Swords Monday, July 24 10:30-11:30am Grades K-5 Registration required

Solar Eclipse Party Monday, August 21 1:30-2:30pm All ages Story Time at the Charlotte Beach Flagpole Tuesdays: July 11-August 22 11:00-11:45am Ages 3-10 In case of rain, meet at the Charlotte Library.



Begin with a Bang Mondays Monday, July 17 10:00-11:00am For all ages and families Solar Eclipse Party Day Monday, August 21 2:00-5:00pm For all ages and families


East Rochester Public Library

Fairport Public Library

Frederick Douglass Community Library

317 Main Street East Rochester

1 Fairport Village Landing Fairport

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971 South Avenue 428-8206

Summer Reading Kickoff: with Wegmans ZooMobile Friday, June 30 3:00pm All ages

Amazing Magic Joe Tuesday, June 27 10:30-11:30am All ages Registration required

Music and Movement with Missy Reed Thursday, July 6 10:30-11:30am All ages

Music with Missy Reed Saturday, July 15 10:30am For families

History Houses Presents‌ Samantha & the Suffragettes! Wednesday, July 5 10:30-11:30am Ages 5 and up Registration required

Healthy Snacks with Miss Liz Wednesday, July 19 3:00-4:00pm All ages

Rochester Yoga Preschool with Lauren Seaver Friday, July 21 11:30am Ages 2-5 with a caregiver American Girl History Houses with Teresa Wood Monday, July 31 3:30pm Ages 5 and up Traveling Campfire with Rick Merritt Monday, August 7 3:30pm Ages 5 and up

The Checkers Show Tuesday, July 11 10:30-11:30am All ages Registration required Captive Lifeforms Tuesday, July 18 10:30-11:30am All ages Registration required

Yoga in the Park Thursday, July 20 10:30-11:30am All ages Hula Hoop Wednesday, July 26 3:00-4:00pm All ages

Scrap Art with Mary Jane Wenner Tuesday, July 25 10:30-11:30am All ages Registration required

All programs are free. No registration required, except where noted.

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Gates Public Library

Greece Public Library

Hamlin Public Library

902 Elmgrove Road

2 Vince Tofany Blvd.

1680 Lake Road, Hamlin


Summer Reading Kickoff with Mr. Loops Thursday, June 29 6:30-8:00pm All ages Registration required Buffalo & Brandy (with a banana piano!) Thursday, July 6 6:30-7:15pm All ages Registration required “Building & Construction Magic Show” with Cris Johnson Thursday, July 13 6:30-7:15pm All ages Registration required The Wondermakers—Build a Better World Thursday, July 27 6:30-7:15pm All ages Registration required If You Give a Mouse a Toolbox— Special Appearance by Mouse Thursday, August 10 6:30-8:00pm All ages Registration required



Tie Dye Thursday, July 20 1:30-3:00pm All ages Saturday Stories Saturdays: June, July and August 10:30-11:00am All ages Shark Week Programs Week of August 14th All ages Check for registration


“Building & Construction Magic Show” with Cris Johnson Tuesday, June 27 1:00-2:00pm Hamlin Town Hall Gym All ages Tie Dye Thursday, July 6 1:00-2:00pm All ages Big Machine Day Wednesday, July 19 Hamlin Town Hall Parking Lot 1:00-2:30pm All ages If You Give a Mouse a Toolbelt Friday, August 4 11:00am-1:00pm All ages Summer Reading Finale: “Going, Going, Saved” ZooMobile Wednesday, August 16 Hamlin Town Hall Gym 1:00-2:00pm All ages


Henrietta Public Library

Irondequoit Public Library

Lincoln Branch Library

455 Calkins Road

1290 Titus Avenue

851 Joseph Avenue


Summer Kickoff Party at Henrietta Public Library Saturday, June 24 10:00am-12:00pm All ages Meet Pete the Cat! Tuesday, July 11 and Thursday, July 13 10:15-10:45am Ages 2 and up


Baby Signing Time with Linda Schmackpfeffer Fridays: June 23, July 21, and August 25 10:30-11:15am Ages 0–23 months with caregiver Domino Demo & Workshop with StickTrickDominoDude Wednesday, June 26 10:30-11:30am Ages 6–12 Registration required Family Concert with Miss Nina Stone Wednesday, July 26 10:30-11:30am Families with children ages 2 to 5 Lift Bridge Presents: If You Give a Mouse a Toolbox Character Program Friday, August 11 10:30am–12:30pm Families with children ages 2 and up Registration required So You Want to Be a Writer? with Local Author Andrew Perry Wednesday, August 16 10:30-11:30am Ages 8–12


Victory Fitness with Rosalind Walker Wednesday, July 5 10:30-11:15am Registration required Explore the U of R SMILEmobile Monday, July 10 10:00-11:00am Ages 3-12 “Building & Construction Magic Show” with Cris Johnson Wednesday, July 12 10:15-11:00am All ages Mini Ark “Petting School” Wednesday, July 19 10:30-11:30am All ages Registration required “Oh the Places You’ll Go” – Exploring Careers Guest story teller and a visit from the “Cat in the Hat” (Barnes & Noble @ Greece partnership) Friday, July 21 10:30-11:15am For ages 3-7 Registration required

All programs are free. No registration required, except where noted.

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Lyell Branch Library

Maplewood Community Library

Mendon Public Library

956 Lyell Avenue

1111 Dewey Avenue

22 North Main Street Honeoye Falls


Fun with YOUR Environment with Tina Stevens, Monroe County Environmental Education Tuesdays: July 11, 18, and 25 2:00-3:00pm Ages 6-12 “Building & Construction Magic Show” with Cris Johnson Wednesday, July 12 2:00-3:00pm All ages Chain Reaction Workshop with the StickTrickDominoDude Monday, July 17 2:00-3:00pm Ages 6-12 Registration required Storybook Cooks Thursday, July 27 2:00-3:00pm Ages 6-12 Registration required Rochester Fencing Club Presents: Stories and Swords Thursday, August 3 2:00-3:00pm Ages 4-12 Registration required Mini Ark Petting Zoo Thursday, August 10 2:00-3:00pm All ages


Airplay Juggling Tuesday, June 27 1:00pm Ages 3-12 Reptile Guys Wednesday, July 12 1:00pm Ages 3-12 David Moreland the Magician Monday, August 7 4:00pm Ages 3-12 Topher Holt Wednesday, August 16 1:30pm Ages 3-12 Bob Wagner Soccer Clinic Tuesday, August 22 1:00pm Ages 8-12 Registration required


Summer Reading Kickoff Celebration with Just Clowning Around Thursday, June 22 6:30-7:30pm All ages Stories Galorious: Story Telling Event Tuesday, June 27 11:00am-12:00pm School-aged children and adults Registration requested Sing, Sign, & Play! Thursday, July 6 10:00-10:30am Babies and preschool-aged children with adults Registration requested Intro to the Environment Tuesday, August 1 11:00am-12:00pm School-aged children and adults Registration requested Game Changer Program with Musician/Storyteller Topher Holt Thursday, August 17 6:30-7:30pm All ages

All programs are free.



Monroe Branch Library

Newman Riga Library

Parma Public Library

809 Monroe Avenue

1 Village Park, Churchville

7 West Avenue, Hilton


Summer Reading Kickoff and Author Birthday Party Thursday, July 6 4:00-6:00pm All ages Cupcake Wars Monday, July 17 2:00-3:00pm Ages 10 and up Registration required Sid the Science Kid’s Texture Hunt Wednesday, July 26 5:00-7:00pm All ages Henna Rising Wednesday, August 9 1:00-3:00pm All ages Pajama Story Time Wednesday, August 16 6:30-7:30pm All ages

Mumford Branch Library 883 George Street, Mumford 538-6124

It’s Magic of Course Wednesday, July 12 4:00-4:45pm All ages


Balloon Crazy Thursday, June 29 3:00-4:00pm, All ages Defiant Monkey Improv Tuesday, July 11 3:00pm, All ages 13WHAM Weather Van Tuesday, June 18 10:00am, All ages

Ogden Farmers’ Library 269 Ogden Center Rd, Spencerport 617-6181

The Amazing Magic Joe Monday, June 26 2:00-2:45pm All ages, Registration required American Girl: Samantha & the Suffragettes Monday, July 10 11:00am-12:00pm Ages 6 and up Registration required


Defiant Monkey Improv Monday, June 26 11:00am-12:00pm All ages The Checkers Show Tuesday, July 11 1:30-2:30pm All ages Wegmans ZooMobile Tuesday, July 18 1:00-2:00pm All ages Music with Missy Reed Wednesday, July 26 10:30-11:30am All ages Moreland the Magician Monday, August 7 11:00am-12:00pm All ages

Wild Wings Revealing Raptors Monday, July 17 11:00am-12:00pm All ages, Registration required Family Game Night Friday, August 4 6:30-8:00pm, Grades 6-12 Registration required

No registration required, except where noted.

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Penfield Public Library

Phillis Wheatley Community Library

Pittsford Community Library

1985 Baird Road, Penfield

33 Dr. Samuels McCree Way

24 State Street, Pittsford


Charlie and Checkers: The Checkers Magic, Juggling Show Thursday, June 29 3:30-4:15pm For children ages 3 and up, accompanied by a parent Registration required Wild Wings: Live Birds of Prey Thursday, July 6 3:30-4:30pm For children entering grades K-5 Registration required Omnipresent Puppet Theater Presents: “The Three Little Pigs” Thursday, July 20 3:30-4:15pm For children ages 3 and up, accompanied by a parent Registration required Drawing with Scott Gilbala Broxholm Friday, July 21 3:30-4:30pm For children entering grades 2-5 Registration required



Traveling Farm Monday, July 17 4:00-5:00pm All ages

Children’s Book Swap Monday, June 26 10:00-11:00am All ages

Scrap Art Wednesday, July 26 4:30-5:30pm All ages

Tales for Tails: Read to a Real Dog Friday, July 7 10:00-11:30am All ages

Learn to Hula Hoop Tuesday, August 8 4:30-5:30pm All ages Cupcake Wars Wednesday, August 9 5:00-6:00pm Ages 6 to 12 Registration required Victory Fitness with Rosalind Walker Tuesday, August 15 4:30-5:30pm All ages

Stories and Songs with Jay Stetzer Wednesday, July 12 2:00-2:45pm All ages Family Fun with Defiant Monkey Improv Wednesday, July 26 2:00-2:45pm All ages How to Catch a Mouse: Simple Machines at Work with Airigami Balloon Artist Larry Moss Tuesday, August 1 7:00-8:00pm All ages

Build a Better World Through Music with Miss Nina Stone Thursday, July 27 3:00-4:00pm For children of all ages and their families Registration required No registration required, except where noted.



Rush Public Library

Sully Branch Library

5977 E. Henrietta Road Rush

530 Webster Avenue


StickTrickDominoDude Friday, June 30 7:00pm All ages Registration required

Scottsville Free Library 28 Main Street, Scottsville 889-2023

It’s Magic of Course Wednesday, July 12 6:00-6:45pm All ages Aesop Abounding Puppet Show Saturday, July 22 11:30am-12:30pm All ages Cupcake Wars Wednesday, August 2 6:00-7:00pm All ages Registration required


Winton Branch Library 611 Winton Road North 428-8204

Trucks: Building Safe Communities Thursday, June 29 11:00am-12:30pm All ages

Children’s Summer Reading Program Registration Wednesday, June 28 11:00am-4:45pm Ages birth-12 years

Free Child ID Cards Tuesday, July 18 1:00-4:00pm All ages

Magic of Building a Better World with Magic Marlin Wednesday, June 28 3:00pm All ages

Mini Ark Farm Petting Zoo Wednesday, July 12 11:00am-12:00pm All ages Scrap Art Tuesday, August 1 2:00-3:00pm All ages Zumba Tuesday, August 8 2:00-3:00pm All ages

Caring for Our Wild Friends with National Wildlife Educators Monday, July 10 1:00pm All ages The Three Little Pigs with Omnipresent Puppet Theatre Thursday, July 20 11:30am Ages 3-12 Miss Nina’s Entertainment for Young Children Wednesday, July 26 3:00pm Ages 1-5

All programs are free.

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FOR TEENS 2017 Central Library of Rochester & Monroe County 428-8451

B-Green! Build a Greener Community Tuesday, July 18, 3:00-4:30pm All ages/teen RE-Build a Better Neighborhood: A Cure for Zombie Properties Special Guest: Theo Finn from GRHP Wednesday, July 19, 3:00-4:30pm All ages/teen B – YOU – tiful! Skincare and Healthy Hair with ShaMiiah Beauty basics for everyone Monday, July 24, 3:00-4:30pm All ages/teen B – Mindful! Build a better YOU! Meditation and PiYo with Victory Fitness Monday, July 31, 3:00-4:30pm All ages/teen Celebrate Summer Reading! Party for teens registered in Summer Reading @ Teen Central Friday, August 4, 3:00-5:00pm Teens

Brighton Memorial Library 784-5300

Teen Summer Reading Kickoff Party Friday, June 23 10:00-11:00am Grades 6-12 Teen Summer Reading Friday, June 23–August 10 Grades 6-12 Registration required Teen Games and Movie Afternoon Friday, July 14 3:30-5:30pm Grades 6-12

Henna Tattoos with Henna Rising Wednesday, August 16 2:00-3:00pm Ages 14-21 Registration required

Build a Better Taco with the Storybook Cook Friday, July 21 12:00-1:00pm Grades 4-8 Registration required

Jr DaVinci’s Arts & Crafts Club Thursdays: July 6-August 10 3:00-4:30pm Ages 10-16 Registration required

Teen End of Summer Reading Party Thursday, August 17 6:30-8:30pm Grades 6-12 Registration required

Charlotte Branch Library

Arnett Branch Library



Fencing for Teens with Rochester Fencing Club Thursday, June 29 3:00pm Ages 13-18 Space is limited. Registration is encouraged to secure your spot.

Creature Teacher Monday, June 26 1:00-2:00pm All ages Salsa Wars with The Storybook Cook Wednesday, July 12 2:00-3:30pm Ages 10-18 Registration required

Chili Public Library 889-2200

Wizarding World: NEWTs Tuesday, June 6 6:30-7:30pm, Ages 12-18 Teens Together Tuesday, June 27 7:30-8:30pm, Ages 12-18 Teen Pizza Fridays Friday, July 14 5:00-7:00pm, Ages 12-18 Registration required Teen Trivia Nights Tuesday, July 18 6:30-7:30pm, Ages 12-18 Potatoes and Chips Friday, July 21 3:30-4:30pm, Ages 12-18 Registration required

No registration required for teen programs, except where noted.



East Rochester Public Library

Frederick Douglass Community Library



Butterfly Container Gardens Friday, July 7, 3:00pm For ages 9 and up

Hula Hoop Thursday, August 9 3:00-4:00pm, Ages 9-16

STEAM Tech Challenge Friday, July 14, 3:00pm For ages 9 and up

Gates Public Library

Candy Sushi Friday, July 21, 2:00pm For ages 9 and up Tie Dye T-Shirts Friday, August 11, 3:00pm For ages 9 and up

Fairport Public Library 223-9091

Chess with Rochester Chess Center Thursdays: July 6-August 24 6:30-7:30pm, All ages Registration required Teen Chefs – Dessert Wars Monday, July 10 2:00-3:00pm, Grades 6-12 Registration required Teens & Money Tuesday, July 11 6:30-7:30pm, Ages 14+ Registration required Movie Mondays – Titles TBA Mondays: July 17, 24, and 31 2:00-4:00pm, Grades 6-12 Registration required Teen Chefs – Build a Better Crepe Tuesday, July 18 2:00-3:00pm, Grades 6-12 Registration required

Hamlin Public Library 964-2320

DIY Vision Board Thursday, June 29 1:00-2:00pm Tweens and Teens Registration required


Greyhound Meet and Greet Saturday, June 17 1:30-2:30pm, All ages Registration required T-Shirt Painting Wednesday, June 28 6:30-7:30pm, Ages 9-18 Registration required Red, White and Blue Bangles Tuesday, July 11 6:30-7:30pm, Ages 9-18 Registration required Tween Craft Series Tuesdays: July 18, 25, August 1, 15, 22, 29 6:30-7:30pm, Ages 8-13 Registration required

T-Shirt Tote Tuesday, July 11, 6:30-7:30pm Tweens and Teens Registration required Creative Journaling Thursday, July 20, 1:00-2:00pm Tweens and Teens Registration required Ductigami Tuesday, July 25 6:30-7:30pm, Tweens and Teens Registration required Upcycled Bookends Thursday, August 3, 1:00-2:00pm Tweens and Teens Registration required

Henrietta Public Library

Practice ACT Test Wednesday, August 23 1:00-5:00pm Students in grades 9 and up Registration required

Greece Public Library 225-8951

Teen Tuesday Tuesdays: July 11 - August 15 3:00-4:00pm Ages 10-18 Registration required


Celebrate Summer @ HPL July 10 – August 19 Weekly Themes: Play, Chow Down, Make It, Travel and Adventure, Totally Tech, Fantasy Fun. All ages Teen Writing Group 1st and 3rd Tuesdays of each month 6:30-8:00pm, Grades 6-12 Teen Impact Last Tuesday of each month 6:30-8:00pm, Grades 6-12

No registration required for teen programs, except where noted.

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TEEN PROGRAMS 2017 Irondequoit Public Library 336-6060

Maker Camp Wednesdays: July 5 through August 23 3:00-4:00pm OR 4:00-5:00pm For students entering grades 5-12 Registration required Teen & Parent Book Club Monday, July 10 and Monday, August 14 7:00-8:00pm Ages 13-18 and parents Registration required Practice ACT Test Thursday, July 20 10:00am-2:00pm For students entering grades 9-12 Registration required Practice SAT Test Thursday, August 10 10:00am-2:00pm For students entering grades 9-12 Registration required The Great Library Escape Thursday, July 27 OR Thursday August 17 7:00-8:00pm For students entering grades 6-12 Registration required

Lincoln Branch Library 428-8210

Lincoln Library Tallest Structure Contest! Monday, June 26, 3:30-5:30pm Ages 12-17 Registration is encouraged.


Owl Pellet Program Presented by Wild Wings Tuesday, July 11, 12:00-1:00pm Ages 12-17 Registration is encouraged. Live Birds of Prey Tuesday, July 18, 12:00-1:00pm All ages Introduction to Fencing for Teens Presented by Rochester Fencing Club Tuesday, July 25, 2:00-3:15pm Ages 13-17 Registration required Post-Apocalyptic Movie Marathon! Thursdays in July at 3:00pm Ages 13 and older only

Mendon Public Library

Monroe Branch Library 428-8202

Cupcake Wars Monday, July 17 2:00-3:00pm Ages 13 and up Registration required Henna Rising Wednesday, August 9 1:00-3:00pm Ages 13 and up


Yoga Class #1: Yoga Basics Wednesday, July 12 1:00-2:00pm, Teens and adults Registration requested Getting Creative: Kids, Teens and Adults Design Nature Dwellings Tuesday, July 18 11:00am-12:00pm Kids, teens and adults Registration required Yoga Class #2: Meditation and Mindfulness Intro Wednesday, July 19 1:00-2:00pm, Teens and adults Registration requested Photonics: Rochester’s Opportunities and Yours, Too! Tuesday, August 8 7:00-8:00pm, Teens and adults Registration requested Nutrition on a Daily Basis: Thursday, August 10 7:00-8:00pm, Teens and adults Registration requested

Ogden Farmers’ Library


Minute to Win It Thursday, June 29 2:00-3:00pm, Grades 6-12 Registration required Cupcake Wars Tuesday, July 18 1:00-2:00pm, Grades 6-12 Registration required Terrariums with Prismatic Gardens Wednesday, July 12 2:00-3:30pm, Grades 6-12 Registration required Tie-Dye Monday, July 24 1:00-3:30pm, All ages Registration required After-Hours Escape Room Friday, July 28 7:00-8:30pm, Grades 6-12 Registration required


Parma Public Library 392-8350

Duct Tape Creations Friday, June 30 1:00-2:00pm Grades 7-12 Registration required Make Your Own Pet Rock Monday, July 10 1:00-2:00pm Grades 7-12 Registration required Painted Ceramic Boxes Monday, July 17 1:00-2:00pm Grades 7-12 Registration required Scratch Art Sun Catcher Tuesday, July 25 1:00-2:00pm Grades 7-12 Registration required Teen SRP Pizza Party Tuesday, August 8 1:00-2:00pm Grades 7-12 Registration required

Just Games ~ World Building Wednesday, July 12 7:00-8:30 pm Grades 6-12 Registration required Cupcake Wars Wednesday, August 2 7:00-8:00pm Grades 6-12 Registration required Practice SAT Tuesday, August 8 10:00am-2:00pm Grades 10-12 Registration required

Sully Branch Library 428-8208

Manga Club Wednesdays: June 28, July 5, 12, 19, 26, August 2 and 9 3:30-4:30pm Ages 12-17 Teen Movie Afternoon Fridays: June 23 and 30 2:00-4:00pm Ages 12-17 Manga Night After Hours Wednesday, June 21, 6:00-8:00pm Ages 12-17

Penfield Public Library 340-8720

Knit a Better World Mondays: June 26, July31, August 28 2:00-3:00pm Grades 6-12 Registration required Upcycled Build Challenge Monday, June 28 7:00-8:30 pm Grades 6-12 Registration required

“It’s Magic of Course” with Magician Ted Burzynski Friday, July 21, 3:30-4:30pm Ages 12-17 Taekwondo Basics with James Mitchell Friday, July 14, 3:00-4:00pm Ages 12-17 “Tales From Beyond” with Cris Johnson Friday, August 18, 3:30-4:30pm Ages 12-17

Pittsford Community Library 248-6275

Build a Better Slime Monday, July 10 3:30-4:30pm, Ages 10-14 Registration required Invent with LittleBits Monday, July 17 3:30-4:30pm, Ages 10-14 Registration required Practice SAT Tuesday, July 18 10:00am-2:00pm, Ages 14-18 Registration required Cupcake Wars Tuesday, August 1 3:30-4:30pm, Ages 12-18 Registration required Total Solar Eclipse Monday, August 21 1:00-3:00pm, All ages

Winton Branch Library 428-8204

Teen Summer Reading Program Registration Monday, June 26 11:00am-5:30pm Ages 12-17 Fencing Workshop with Rochester Fencing Club Friday, July14 4:00-5:30pm Ages 13-16 Registration Required Juggling Workshop Tuesday, August 1, 2:00-3:00pm Ages 11-16

No registration required for teen programs, except where noted.

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Monroe County Library System CENTRAL LIBRARY OF ROCHESTER AND MONROE COUNTY 115 South Avenue, Rochester Children’s Center........... 428-8150 Teen Central................ 428-8451 General Info................ 428-7300

GREECE PUBLIC LIBRARY.....225-8951 2 Vince Tofany Boulevard

PARMA PUBLIC LIBRARY......392-8350 7 West Avenue, Hilton

BARNARD CROSSING BRANCH......................663-3357 2808 Dewey Avenue

PENFIELD PUBLIC LIBRARY...340-8720 1985 Baird Road, Penfield

ARNETT BRANCH .............428-8214 310 Arnett Boulevard, Rochester

HAMLIN PUBLIC LIBRARY......964-2320 1680 Lake Road, Hamlin

PHILLIS WHEATLEY COMMUNITY LIBRARY.........428-8212 33 Dr. Samuel McCree Way, Rochester

BRIGHTON MEMORIAL LIBRARY. .......................784-5300 2300 Elmwood Avenue

HENRIETTA PUBLIC LIBRARY..........................359-7092 455 Calkins Road

PITTSFORD COMMUNITY LIBRARY..........................248-6275 24 State Street, Pittsford

BROCKPORT—SEYMOUR LIBRARY ........................637-1050 161 East Avenue, Brockport

IRONDEQUOIT PUBLIC LIBRARY..........................336-6060 1290 Titus Avenue

RUSH PUBLIC LIBRARY........533-1370 (Rush Town Hall) 5977 E. Henrietta Road, Rush

CHARLOTTE BRANCH ........428-8216 3557 Lake Avenue, Rochester

LINCOLN BRANCH..............428-8210 851 Joseph Avenue, Rochester

CHILI PUBLIC LIBRARY........889-2200 3333 Chili Avenue

LYELL BRANCH..................428-8218 956 Lyell Avenue, Rochester

SCOTTSVILLE FREE LIBRARY..........................889-2023 28 Main Street, Scottsville

EAST ROCHESTER PUBLIC LIBRARY.........................586-8302 317 Main Street, East Rochester

MAPLEWOOD COMMUNITY LIBRARY..........................428-8220 1111 Dewey Avenue, Rochester

FAIRPORT PUBLIC LIBRARY...223-9091 1 Fairport Village Landing, Fairport

MENDON PUBLIC LIBRARY.....624-6067 22 North Main Street, Honeoye Falls

FREDERICK DOUGLASS COMMUNITY LIBRARY......................428-8206 (formerly Highland Branch) 971 South Avenue, Rochester

MONROE BRANCH ..............428-8202 809 Monroe Avenue, Rochester

GATES PUBLIC LIBRARY......247-6446 902 Elmgrove Road

NEWMAN RIGA LIBRARY.......293-2009 1 Village Park, Churchville OGDEN FARMERS’ LIBRARY....617-6181 269 Ogden Center Road, Spencerport

The Monroe County Library System would like to thank the sponsors of our summer reading programs. Go to to see all of our generous supporters. Friends & Foundation of the Rochester Public Library

MUMFORD BRANCH.........538-6124 883 George Street, Mumford SULLY BRANCH.................428-8208 530 Webster Avenue, Rochester WEBSTER PUBLIC LIBRARY..........................872-7075 Webster Plaza, 980 Ridge Road, Webster WINTON BRANCH .............428-8204 611 Winton Road North, Rochester


What is the mission of the Genesee Land Trust?

Our mission is to conserve natural land and water for the benefit of the greater Rochester region — providing wildlife habitat, supporting local farms and food, and creating connections to nature.

How and when did the Genesee Land Trust get started? Genesee Land Trust was started in 1989 by a group of individuals concerned about the loss of natural lands in their communities across the Rochester region. We work to protect native plant and wildlife habitat, wetlands, farmland, and waterways, as well as scenic and recreational areas. We understand that land protection, like clean water, is important to our quality of life. We all need nature!

What kinds of programming and services does the Genesee Land Trust offer to local families?

Genesee Land Trust has protected more than 5,000 acres of land in Monroe and Wayne counties. We have created 14 nature preserves open to the public, partnered with towns to develop three nature parks, and act as the friends of the 2.2-mile El Camino Trail in Rochester.

Backyard habitat tours are one of many programs offered this summer. PHOTO BY CONNIE EHINDERO

We also host many nature walks, events, and family-friendly activities primarily on protected lands. Carol and David Southby of the Rochester Butterfly Club will lead a “Butterflies and Summer Flowers” nature walk through the Ganargua Creek Meadow

Preserve at 10 a.m. Saturday, July 29. Families can also join a two-mile “Summer Habitat Walk” through a 115-acre preserve in Rush to discover butterflies, birds, flowers, and learn a

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Carol and David Southby of the Rochester Butterfly Club lead a “Butterflies and Summer Flowers” nature walk through the Ganargua Creek Meadow Preserve. The next one is July 29. PROVIDED PHOTO

SPOTLIGHT, from page 47 little geology at 9:30 a.m. Thursday, Aug. 10. Families can also volunteer for the Genesee Land Trust, helping out with trail work, invasive plant control and trash pickup.

Tell us about Genesee Land Trust’s community partnerships.

We partnered with the city of Rochester to create the Thomas R. Frey Trail at El Camino and Conkey Corner Park. We work with the Ibero-American Development Corp. and Project HOPE and Conkey Cruisers to host events and programs in the El Camino neighborhood. We also work with local townships. We partnered with the town of Brighton to save Corbett’s Glen, the town of Parma to conserve Martin Farm, and the town of Webster to preserve Gosnell Big Woods Preserve. Genesee Land Trust also preserves lands in partnership with non-profit organizations, including Cracker Box Palace, a farm-animal rescue and rehabilitation center in Sodus; Peacework Farm, an organic CSA in Arcadia; and Braddock Bay Bird Observatory, a bird-banding research station in Greece. We also participate in the Wegmans “Passport to Family Wellness” program. Eleven of our trails are found in the pocket-sized trail “passport” book, which offers easy-to-read maps, fitness tips, and motivation in the form of prizes for trails hiked and recorded in the booklets.


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Share Genesee Land Trust’s vision for the future.

Genesee Land Trust continues to conserve land and create new trails across the region. We are currently working to conserve four family farms around the region totaling more than 1,000 acres. From apples to butternut squash, local farmers grow a variety of foods. In the Rochester area, we have some of the best soils in the world for farming and plenty of water. We are also working to fill in the gap on the Thomas R. Frey Trail at El Camino in the city, transforming an old railroad trestle into a walking and biking path across the Genesee River, with stunning views of the river and city skyline.

Where can parents learn more and get involved?

We would love your input about how to encourage young families to explore our preserves and special places. If you are interested in getting involved to develop activities and brainstorm ideas, please let me know. You can reach me, Gay Mills, at gmills@geneseelandtrust. org. To learn more about local lands, events, work parties, and other programming, visit us online at We thank Executive Director Gay Mills for sharing these answers to our questions about Genesee Land Trust so we could shine this much-deserved spotlight on its work and programs.

Let’s go! These 18 preserves and parks are free and open to the public. Visit the interactive Map of Protected Places at for directions and more information about each of these sites. • Brookdale Preserve (275 acres, Chili) • Christine Sevilla Wetlands Preserve (23 acres, Caledonia) • Ganargua Creek Meadow Preserve (56 acres, Macedon) • Hipp Brook Preserve (94 acres, Penfield) • Island Cottage Woods Preserve (61 acres, Greece) • Kaiser-Manitou Beach Banding Station (10 acres, Greece) • Kraai Preserve (30 acres, Arcadia) • Manitou Beach Preserve (5 acres, Greece) • Reed Road Bird Refuge (131 acres, Chili) • Gosnell Big Woods (163 acres, Webster) • Conkey Corner Park (Rochester) • Corbett’s Glen Nature Park (52 acres, Brighton) • El Camino (2.25 acres, Rochester) • Lehigh Crossing Park (57 acres, Victor) • Eva and Harlan Braman Preserve (71 acres, Webster) • Alasa Farms (627 acres, Sodus) • Salmon Creek Preserve (58 acres, Greece) • Castle Road Wildlife Sanctuary (51 acres, Henrietta)


CALENDAR A selection of things to see and do in July and August

You and the Zoo Seneca Park Zoo Conservation Days and Special Events Visit the zoo on special days this summer for featured animals and events including:

• Madagascar Adventure (July 8)

• Invasive Species Week (July 9-15)

• National Zoo Keeper Week (July 16-22)

• World Tiger Day (July 29) • Penguin Day (Aug. 5) • A Step Into Africa (Aug. 12) • Art at the Zoo (Aug. 20). Admission: $12; $11 seniors 63 and older; $9 youth 3-11. Where: 2222 St. Paul St., Rochester More info: senecapark

Hang out with lemurs during Madagascar Adventure at Seneca Park Zoo on July 8. PROVIDED PHOTO

Let’s go to the museum The Strong National Museum of Play The Raceway Arcade Through Sept. 4 Play your way through the history of electronic driving games and learn about America’s long fascination with the need for speed at the original Raceway Arcade. Start your engine and zip through the evolution of driving games in this highly interactive and artifact-rich exhibit designed for racing enthusiasts of all ages.

Admission: $14.50, ages 2 to adult Where: One Manhattan Square, Rochester More info: Strasenburgh Planetarium at RMSC Dinosaurs: Giants of Patagonia Through July 29 Thundering beasts darken the sky as they tower over you in the Star Theater dome. This documentarystyle film transports you to the dinosaurs’ world with computer graphics a generation beyond Jurassic Park in accuracy and

realism. In present-day scenes, paleontologist Rodolfo Coria drives us around Argentina by jeep to discover the remains of the largest animals ever to have walked the earth. Narrated by Donald Sutherland. Admission: $3-$7 Where: 663 East Ave, Rochester More info: strasenburghplanetarium

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Fairs and Festivals The Corn Hill Arts Festival July 8 and 9 The 49th annual Corn Hill Arts Festival features 375 juried artists, four stages of live music, food and beverages, and activities for children of all ages, including spin art, bounce houses, and the 5th annual Fairy Houses Tour. Hours: 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. Saturday and 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. and Sunday. Admission: Free Where: Corn Hill Neighborhood, Rochester More info: cornhillarts Explore Native American culture at the Native American Dance & Music Festival. PROVIDED PHOTO


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Native American Dance & Music Festival at Ganondagan July 22 and 23 The 26th annual Native Ameri-

CURATED CALENDAR can Dance & Music Festival invites you to experience Native American culture, featuring native singers and dancers, the Native American Arts Market, native foods, Iroquois storytelling, and “hands-on” fun in the Wegmans Family Discovery Zone. Free admission to the Seneca Art & Culture Center, guided trail walks, bark longhouse tours, and much more.

performing artists plus arts and crafts and fireworks.

Hours: 10 a.m.-6 p.m., Saturday and Sunday. Admission: Members and children under 2, free; adult, $12, seniors, $10; students 18 and older, $7; children 3-17, $5 Where: 1488 NY 444, Victor More info:

The Monroe County Agricultural Fair showcases the community, agriculture, technology, and youth of Monroe County, featuring shows, animals, crafts, and food.

Harborfest, Oswego July 27-30 Since its founding in 1988, Harborfest has provided free concerts featuring more than 600 national, regional, and local

Hours: Check website for times of specific events Admission: Free Where: Five different venues within the City of Oswego More info: Monroe County Fair Aug. 4-6

Hours: Friday-Saturday, 11 a.m.10 p.m.; Sunday, 11 a.m.-6p.m.; Admission: $5 for adults, 12 and under are free Where: 105 Hubbell Road, Spencerport More info: Park Avenue Summer Art Fest Aug. 5 and 6

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Corning Museum of Glass Hot Glass Demos

Hours: 10 a.m.-6 p.m. Saturday and 10 a.m.-5 p.m. Sunday. Admission: Free Where: Along Park Avenue, Rochester More info: Brockport Arts Festival Aug. 12 and 13 More than 100 artisans selling their cations, with live entertainment, vintage cars, farmer’s market, and food. Family entertainment on the lawn of the historic Morgan Manning house plus face painting and street dancers. Hours: Check website for times of specific events Admission: Free Where: Along Main Street, Brockport More info:

Check out the RPO Around Town concerts, July 4-August 1. PROVIDED PHOTO

Hot Glass Demos are live, narrated glassblowing demonstrations, offered all day, every day. You’ll see master glassmakers shape glowing gobs of molten glass on the end of a pipe and skillfully shape them into vases, bowls, or sculptures. Cameras inside the 2300°F furnace ensure you don’t miss a single step as you witness the skill and artistry behind the glass objects in the museum’s galleries. Admission: Free for children ages 17 and under; adults and seniors $16.60 to $19.50. Where: 1 Museum Way, Corning More info:

One of Rochester’s oldest and most unique neighborhoods celebrates its 41st annual festival of arts, crafts, and music with 300 artists.

Summer Music RPO Around the Town Concerts July 4-Aug. 1 The Rochester Philharmonic Orchestra presents free concerts at the Main Street Bridge (July 4), Ontario Beach (July 5), Frontier Field (July 21), and four Around the Town Concerts in local parks. Bring your lawn chairs, family, and friends! Admission: Free More info: Glass blowing demos take place daily.

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CURATED CALENDAR Spencerport Canal Days is a free, familyfriendly festival along the canal — there’s a diverse selection of events, so there’s something for everyone.

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Hochstein at High Falls Through Aug. 17 This free noontime summer concert series runs throughout July and August at the Granite Mills Park near the Pont de Rennes Bridge at Platt Street. The featured musical talent will vary each week. Bring your own seating and lunch, or pick up a lunch at a food truck or nearby restaurant. Admission: Free Where: 74 Browns Race, Rochester, 14614 More info: The Pop Ups in Concert


barge journey on the Erie Canal, performing free concerts in canal communities along the way. Admission: Free More info:

Friday, July 21


A family-friendly, all-ages concert with Grammy-nominated The Pop Ups at The Strong National Museum of Play at 7 p.m., for the duo’s only upstate New York stop. They blend high-energy puppetry and rock ’n’ roll.

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Tickets: $15 Where: One Manhattan Square, Rochester More info: Wegman’s Concerts by the Shore June 7-Aug. 30 Ontario Beach Park offers free Concerts by the Shore Series with evening concerts on the park grounds along the beach and boardwalk. Bring a blanket or chair or walk the grounds while listening to live music. Bring a picnic or buy concessions on site. Admission: Free Where: 50 Beach Ave., Rochester More info: ontariobeachentertainment. org/concert-schedule/

Erie Canal Bicentennial This summer, our region celebrates the 200th anniversary of the groundbreaking of the Erie Canal. There are several ways for your family to enjoy the canal this summer: Water Music New York July 2-8 A unique musical experience 200 years in the making … the Albany Symphony will embark on a week-long 52

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The National Susan B. Anthony Museum & House will commemorate the centennial of women’s suffrage with a week-long navigational celebration along the Erie Canal, as canal boats travel from Seneca Falls to Rochester, with re-enactors telling the story of women’s suffrage. Throughout the week, VoteTilla boats will dock at towns and villages along the route: Monday, July 17 10 a.m. Depart Seneca Falls 3:45 p.m. Arrive Clyde Tuesday, July 18  9 a.m. Depart Clyde 11:05 a.m. Arrive Lyons 1:45 p.m. Depart Lyons 4:35 p.m. Arrive Newark Wednesday, July 19 9 a.m. Depart Newark 10:45 a.m. Arrive Palmyra 4:30 p.m. Arrive Fairport Thursday, July 20 10 a.m. Depart Fairport 11:35 a.m. Arrive Pittsford Friday, July 21 10 a.m. Depart Pittsford 1:30 p.m. Arrive Corn Hill 8 p.m. Concert in the Park 10 p.m. Fireworks Saturday, July 22 10: 30 a.m. Suffragist City Parade, Rochester Admission: Free More info: VoteTilla

Lois McClure Legacy Tour July 26-Sept. 10 This summer’s Lois McClure Legacy Tour marks the 200th anniversary of the Erie Canal with a celebration of waterways and trees. The Lake Champlain Maritime Museum’s canal sailing boat will visit ports along the Erie Canal, where you can board the boat and discover how the “boatwood” trees have been essential for centuries in boat-building. The boat will be in the Rochester area on the following days: Weedsport (July 26), Lyons (July 29), Fairport (July 31), Rochester (Aug. 4-5), Spencerport (Aug. 7), Holley (Aug. 8), Medina (Aug. 10), Brockport (Aug. 2627), Pittsford (Aug. 29), Palmyra (Aug. 31), Newark (Sept. 2-3), Clyde (Sept. 7), and Seneca Falls (Sept. 9-10). Admission: Free More info: Spencerport Canal Days July 29-30 A free, family-oriented festival in the canal village of Spencerport, featuring arts and crafts vendors, food, live entertainment, and farm market stands. Plus carriage rides, car show, amusement rides, historic games, and rag-doll making. Free parking with shuttles. Admission: Free Where: Village of Spencerport More info: Lockapalooza 2017 Aug. 19 One of the largest whitewater kayaking competitions will be at Lock 32 Whitewater Park in Pittsford. Admission: Free Where: 2797 Clover St. Pittsford More info:

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MODEL MOMS ‘Momagers’ help make daughters’ dreams come true

LAUREN VS. CANCER Laughing through the fight of her life


• Suffragist City: A summer of celebration • While the kids are away ... the parents will play! • Scream for ice cream: the most popular spots She Rocs

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WRITERS IN THIS ISSUE BREANNA BANFORD is the Yelp Rochester community director. She brings the online community offline, connecting people to great local businesses through collaborative events and marketing partnerships. As a Rochester native, Breanna lives, breathes, and eats for this city. When she’s not hosting events for the Yelp community, you’ll almost always find her with rosé in one hand and french fries in the other. MEAMI CRAIG, PH.D., holds a master’s degree in counseling psychology and human development from Harvard University and a doctorate in psychology. A long-time media personality, she gave advice for 20 years on WARM 101.3 and was a popular columnist and blogger with weekly newspapers and The Democrat and Chronicle, focusing on relationships and family. She is currently writing a book and hosts a weekly radio show on WYSL 1040 AM and 92.1 AM (and online) titled “Change Your Life with Meami Craig” from 6:30 to 7 p.m. every Wednesday. ELIZABETH CRONY is a woman of action, whether executing a marketing plan or mastering de-cluttering and cleaning a house. With a degree and background in fashion and merchandising, she is a founding member of Femfessionals Rochester and COO of Big Thinkers LLC, as well as the former president of Blacktie Colorado. She is a happily married mom of two young girls. MARY FINUCANE co-facilitates the Rochester Veteran Writing Workshop held at Writers and Books, open to all veterans and their family members. She enjoyed participating in Listen To Your Mother 2017, an annual event also sponsored by Writers and Books, where she presented this issue’s She Rocs essay. She is parent to a fantastic 10-year-old, who teaches her about technology. Mary still sends texts that are punctuated, but not succinct. DAWN KELLOGG is the communications manager for Geva Theatre Center. She has been in the arts for most of her life and considers herself very lucky to work in an industry that she loves. SUE HENNINGER is a freelance writer who loves exploring and writing about the unique people, places, and events in the Finger Lakes fegion and beyond. She’s an avid blogger and the coauthor of The Ultimate Guide to College Transfer: From Surviving to Thriving. Sue has three grown sons and is enjoying her empty nest in Trumansburg, N.Y. with her husband and a rescue dog. Connect with her at After a more than 30-year career in community journalism, LINDA QUINLAN likes to say she is “semi”retired. She is now a freelance writer, serves more than one cause as a volunteer, is a caregiver for her mother, and a proud grandmother. She is married, has three grown children, a granddaughter, a cat, and a dog. When not writing, she likes to read and garden. DANTE WORTH is a success mentor and author based in Rochester who released his book Free to Be Me in 2014. He has studied PR and communications at SUNY Brockport. In the community he has organized and hosted motivational seminars, the Black Authors Expo, and three installments of ROC Mastery Writing Seminars. Each spring he hosts the Audacious Believer’s Ultimate Women’s Conference, bringing together women and men to enable, empower, and inspire them to live life with victorious freedom.


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Cover Story Model moms supporting their model daughters Parents Can Play While the kids are away … grown-up fun in the Finger Lakes Lauren vs. Cancer Laughing through the fight of her life

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Suffragist City Deborah Hughes marks 10 years with National Susan B. Anthony Museum & House “My Mother, Technology, & Me” Non-fiction essay by Mary Finucane Family, Food, & Fun Meet restaurateur Kelly Metras

MODEL MOMS ‘Momagers’ help make daughters’ dreams come true



8 Keep Calm and Call Dr. Meami What comes from the heart goes to the heart

Laughing through the fight of her life


• Suffragist City: A summer of celebration • While the kids are away ... the parents will play! • Scream for ice cream: the most popular spots

15 The Audacious Believer Live life, enjoy life 20 Help from Yelp The most popular ice cream spots 21 The Organized Clutterbug Clean now for fun and sun later


Mom-and-daughter duo Elizabeth and Madeline Berl of Victor are best friends. Navigating 16-year-old Madeline’s performing career has made them very close. In our cover story, also meet model mom and daughter Tracy and Sarah Armstrong, also of Victor. (Photo by Renee Veniskey) She Rocs

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Clearing the runway to support their daughters’ careers

Tracy Armstrong, left, and daughter Sarah are enjoying a “model” mother-daughter relationship – spending quality time together while Sarah navigates her professional modeling career. PHOTO BY RENEE VENISKEY


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Two moms in Victor are especially career-focused. Sure, they’re focused on their own careers — Tracy Armstrong on her work as a consultant and Elizabeth Berl on her job at Paychex. But the career that has them both traveling to New York City and beyond on a regular basis and the one that tugs at their hearts is that of each of their daughters. Eighteen-year-old Sarah Armstrong and 16-year-old Madeline Berl are professional models. Sarah, a June 2017 graduate of Victor High School, is making a go of it, after working from a distance for two years. Madeline is planning to model in New York and Rochester as often as she can, but is opting to focus on her AP studies at Mercy High School as well as college and musical theater. While she has been modeling for a decade, Madeline knows that at 5 feet 7 inches tall (“and a half,” she noted), she can’t make a full-time career out of runway modeling. Besides, she wants to be an actress more. Sarah, at 5 feet 10 inches tall, has already walked the runways of New York City, Paris, and London and has been featured in Teen Vogue. She is signed with prestigious modeling agency IMG and has agents in three major cities. But how can these smart teens — who are regular gals at school when the heels and makeup are off — live this dual life? The answer: Their moms.

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As we met up for their mother-daughter interview, passionate mom Tracy worked to remain low-key and calm as we talked of their trips and glamour tales. She tries to not appear too eager or excited … just as her daughter has asked her to do when they are shoulder-to-shoulder with Tommy Hilfiger and Stella McCartney. Sarah, who is as gorgeous in a sweater and jeans and no makeup as she is in full-page ads, was thrilled I had half a meatball sub up for grabs during the interview. (There goes that stereotype of starving models ... although Sarah did note that the skinnier you are, the more work you get.) “The modeling world has changed a lot,” Sarah told me between bites. “It used to be, if you were skinny and tall you were all set. But now there is a focus on individualism and diversity and what you bring to the table that no one else has.” Tracy added that she has heard each casting person is looking for a different look every season, and she has been told Sarah is “a blank canvas.” “Which is a compliment because they can take her look many different ways,” Tracy said. “They also want somebody easy to work with.” Both mom and daughter have heard horror stories from managers to makeup artists about the difficult divas and stage moms. Tracy and Sarah are happy to say they’ve been told they are an exception. “Lisa, Sarah’s agent, sent us an email that we were the best mother-daughter team of Fashion Week last fall,” Sarah said. “A lot of that is my background in hospitality, maintaining your cool, staying out of the way backstage, and getting backstage if I need to. I always make it a point to thank the designer for casting Sarah, and I think they really appreciate that.” With a 15-year-old daughter who was tall, thin, and beautiful, Tracy accepted, and then embraced, the idea of her daughter wanting to be a professional model. She did some networking among Rochester friends to learn more and

Sarah Armstrong is represented by international agency IMG and has modeled for some of the world’s biggest designers. PROVIDED PHOTOS

arranged for Sarah to have professional photographs taken. But then social media connected the dots for Sarah, who tagged IMG on one of her photos. She tagged IMG at 11 p.m. and by morning had a direct message from the agency when she turned on her phone. When the rep on the other end of the Instagram message found out she was only 15, she asked if she could speak with her mother. Soon, a trip to New York was planned and there was no turning back. “IMG said they wanted her to be a regular 15-year-old, to do well in school, and to go to college if that’s what she wanted to do,” Tracy said. “But they were very honest that her career would move more slowly because we don’t live in NYC and she’s still in high school. They allowed us to take this at our own pace.” But now the speed on the runway treadmill has been turned up, with Sarah moving to New York this summer. “The reality is, with modeling you are done by 30, if you’re not Cindy Crawford or Kate Moss,” Sarah said. “If I waited until after college, till I was 23, that would be too late to get my face out

there.” So, this high school honor student is putting college on hold … and, um, what did her dad say about that? “Jim is a traditionalist and this whole thing kind of took him by surprise,” Tracy said. “Like, he has a flip phone,” Sarah added. “For him, school comes first,” Tracy explained. “So I knew when I was going to present this, the first concern was education and college and secondly he didn’t want all these people looking at his daughter.” But Tracy, who has been supporting and living Sarah’s dream now for more than two years, made dad see the benefits of jumping in now with both feet (in six-inch stilettos). Sarah has already been making it all work — lugging school books across Europe to keep up with her studies, and giving much credit to her teachers and guidance counselor for their support. Despite missing weeks at a time for school, Sarah is finishing her senior year see MODEL on page 6 She Rocs

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How to get started in modeling When Elizabeth Berl is asked by fellow moms how to get their kids involved with modeling, she recommends Mary Therese Friel LLC. This full-service modeling agency offers a complete training program. Friel is a former Miss USA and Ford model who is celebrating her 30th anniversary in business. She started her modeling career at age 11 for Eastman Kodak Co. and has been on the covers of Good Housekeeping and Italian Vogue, as well as runways worldwide. Her studio is based in Mendon, just south of Pittsford, and provides professional training in Noelle Nafus, who modeling, acting, studied modeling with pageantry and selfMary Therese Friel development. LLC, on the runway at The training is Lord & Taylor. conducted by Friel PHOTO BY JERRY D. BROWN and her husband, Kent Friel, who work with women, men, teens, and children. A respectable program, they do not accept work for swimwear or lingerie. The program has a well-rounded approach to building self-confidence and consists of 10 one-hour sessions over six months. The studio is also offering a week-long Modeling Camp this summer, July 17-21 from 9:30 a.m. to noon each day. It is open to girls ages nine to 19 and will cover runway and print modeling, etiquette and manners, self-presentation and speaking, acting, fashion pageantry, and nutrition and exercise. Mary Chao of Brighton enrolled her daughter Noelle Nafus in Mary Therese’s camp three years ago. They had a deal — if Noelle would also go to robotics camp, Mom would agree to modeling camp. They both won. “It’s a solid program,” Chao said. “She learned how to walk a runway but also etiquette and confidence.” Seventeen-year-old Noelle has taken additional classes with Mary Therese and has modeled on runways at Rochester’s Fashion Week, Lord & Taylor at Eastview Mall, and several charity events. “The thing we love most about what we do is giving young people the poise and confidence to do what they love to do most,” Mary Therese Friel said. Learn more about Mary Therese Friel LLC at or July/August 2017 6585-624-5510.

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with a 94 percent average. When in the modeling-gig trenches, Tracy helps Sarah by prioritizing shows and auditions, and even rubbing her feet and back, after miles of walking and hours of standing in heels at auditions. “You know how when you’re a teenager you hide everything from your parents?” Sarah asked. “Yep, that was shot out the door the first time we stayed in a small hotel room. Through all this, we’ve become better friends.” That makes Tracy happy, as does all the experience Sarah is getting from the traveling and the casting auditions. “Sarah has come into her own,” she said. “When she walks into a casting room, she has to make enough of an impression to get called back.” Sarah’s post-high school whirlwind will begin this September with Fashion Week in New York, followed by fashion weeks in London, Los Angeles, Milan, Paris, and Sydney — the latter is where she’ll stay for a couple of months to “develop my book.” Last fall during New York Fashion Week, she was barraged by paparazzi and met Liam Neesen and Bono. But behind the glam is a lot of hard work. “I thought it was going to be all easy, so easy,” Sarah admitted. “It’s so hard, I almost quit once. But it’s addicting. You’re so tired at the end of one week that you just want to go home and crawl up into a ball. But then you get that show and you’re on that runway and you say, ‘That’s why I do this!’”

Elizabeth and Madeline

When five-year-old Madeline, sans front teeth, performed a song from High School Musical in her living room, wearing a bikini and armed with props, mom Elizabeth Berl realized her daughter’s talent and passion. “I said to myself, ‘I’ve got to get someone to look at her,’’’ Elizabeth said. That year they headed to an agent-scouting event in Toronto and Madeline played Little Red Riding Hood in a local play It seemed the stage was set, but young Madeline waited in the wings for a bit — continuing her dance training and living-room shows — since the family realized five was a bit too young to dive into the industry. But at age 10, a scouting event in Orlando proved to be the right place and time. “Lo and behold, we met the agent she still has today,” Elizabeth said, referring to Take 3 Talent in New York City, which Madeline has been signed with for six years. “I remember calling my husband and saying this is legit, there are ‘real’ people here.” Working with her agent, Madeline has been to more than 50 commercial auditions and her modeling work has landed in Billboard magazine and a Target catalog. Madeline Berl has walked runways for six seasons of Fashion Week in NYC. PHOTO BY MARK GUNTER


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She also has done six seasons of Fashion Week in New York. At age 15 she was direct-booked to walk the adult runway at Madison Square Garden and also took part in the teen shows. “While I was there two other designers pulled me and said, ‘I like your face! You’re gonna walk for me,’ ” Madeline said. This fall she’ll be walking at fashion weeks in New York and Los Angeles. But while she loves the runway and the photo sessions, Madeline said she is “not hardcore about modeling.” “I’m more of a commercial model because I’m not six-feet-tall, and also I’m a musical theater person who models,” said Madeline, who plans to major in musical theater when in college in 2019, with a minor in communications. Devoting six years of their lives to Madeline’s performing career has, of course, taken time, energy, and money. “I tell my husband it’s not getting the job and making the money that matters, but it’s the life experiences she gets, the lessons she learns, and connections she makes,” said Elizabeth, who studied fashion merchandising in college. “It’s helped create her as an old soul. She is able to have a conversation with an adult from a professional standpoint. These are life skills she has learned.” Madeline Berl enjoys the dramatics of modeling and is now The second biggest benefit of Madeline’s career, she said, is how shifting her focus to musical theater and college prep. She close they are as mother and daughter. said her “momager” Elizabeth is her best friend. PHOTO BY RLS “Selfishly, the quality time we have together is like none other,” PHOTOGRAPHY Elizabeth said. “We’re in the car for hours, we’re in a hotel room. The relationship we have is so close because we have spent so much time together, and I don’t know if I’d have that if we didn’t have these trips. I get excited when she has a job because we’re going to spend a couple days together.” “You’re my best friend,” Madeline said during the interview to her mother, whom she also calls her “momager.” Elizabeth handles the bookings and travel plans and also her daughter’s Facebook page. Since they work her career remotely from Rochester, the duo makes the most of their trips to New York when Madeline has auditions, such as also meeting with a voice coach or a mentor (one of whom is actress Annie Golden of Orange Is the New Black). Now that she’s in high school, Madeline cannot miss school as often and the focus is now more on school and performing. This summer Madeline will attend the Performing Arts Project at Wake Forest University in North Carolina to work on her acting craft. In Rochester she just completed a lead role tapping and singing in 42nd Street at Kodak Center for Performing Arts, and a film she appeared in was recently released — Fair Haven, starring Tom Wopat and Gregory Harrison. “None of this would be happening without my parents,” Madeline said. “My mom and dad have taught me to appreciate life and to give back. And starting in this business so young has helped me grow immensely.”

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Dr. Meami

Share your authentic self — it’s the ultimate hostess gift Dear Dr. Meami: My college roommate has invited my family to a visit at her fabulous Cape Cod beach house this summer. I’m thrilled but also worried about being the perfect guest — especially with my three very active young kids in tow. Plus, she seems to have it all with her doctor husband, her own career as an attorney, a live-in nanny, and a smokin’ hot bod (since she works out with a personal trainer at her country club three times a week). I’m happy for her, but I still have baby weight to lose from my firstgrader, and I work as a stay-at-home mom who scrubs her own toilets. She’s flying to France with the hubby while my big trip is to Wegmans for a gallon of milk and a new pack of Swiffer pads. Get the picture? Help! — Intimidated Isabel Dear Izzy in a Tizzy: Remember the George Gershwin song “Summertime,” where the livin’ is easy, daddy’s rich, and your mama’s good looking? Well, I am going to rewrite the last line of that classic tune just for you, and for anyone reading this who feels they are “below” anyone for any reason. Here goes: “So rise up former roommate, and don’t you cry!” Why? It’s simple! The fact is that you know absolutely nothing about her REAL life behind closed doors. For all you know, her handsome hubby looks at their Swedish au pair more like she’s a new pair (if you know what I mean). And maybe all the pressure she feels to show off a glamorous life on the outside has robbed her of true happiness on the inside. Sometimes in life you discover that less is more, in that simplicity is priceless for the freedom it gives you to enjoy little moments of joy all day long. You can choose to savor things like on an ordinary Monday morning pushing your kid as high as she can go on a swing, much to her delight, at the playground. Or, enjoying magic moments having a picnic, while you savor not feeling weighed down by managing that big home — something your friend might pay the price for with her life itself. 8

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Often “having it all” comes with a frantic work schedule just to afford it all, not to mention endless social obligations she must attend “to see and be seen,” while she secretly teeters at the top of the ladder she’s climbing. My advice to you, and to anyone reading this who is visiting friends or family, boils down to one thing: Give them the best hostess gift of all by giving them YOU! Give them the most precious gift of your time, and speak from your heart about the truth of your own life, including the successes and the struggles. What comes from the heart goes to the heart, so just by sharing your authentic self with your friend, she might feel safe enough to reveal her real self to you, too. As you laugh together, and maybe even cry together, incredible bonds of lifelong loving friendship will surface and be sustained. Don’t forget that she invited you because she likes to spend time with you. How about you show up at her door with an open heart to go right along with some homemade muffins in a pretty tin? Or some freshly picked flowers, which will mean so much more to her than some fancy cut crystal vase from Neiman Markups. And enjoy every minute, kids and all.

When the kids are away ... the adults can Frolicking and fun in the Finger Lakes By SUE HENNINGER

Rochester is perfectly situated atop the Finger Lakes region to offer many relaxing and rejuvenating getaways, for romantic fun, a girls’ trip away, or some mom-and-dad respite time.

Canandaigua Canandaigua, the closest Finger Lakes community to Rochester, is the perfect spot to reconnect if you only have one free night. Revisit your younger days by taking in a concert at CMAC. One of upstate’s premier outdoor concert venues, CMAC has both lawn seating (bring chairs or a blanket) and

reserved seating under the shell. This summer’s lineup of stars includes Tom Petty, John Mellencamp, Sam Hunt, Idina Menzel, the Rochester Philharmonic Orchestra, Rod Stewart with Cyndi Lauper, The Who, Hans Zimmer, Jethro Tull, Santana, and The Avett Brothers. Looking for a meal more upscale than concert concessions? Grab a pre-concert bite to eat at the New York Wine and Culinary Center’s Upstairs Bistro. With indoor and outdoor seating, you can enjoy drinks for two or with friends. The Bistro serves only New York State wines, beers, and spirits — complemented by meals highlighting farm-to-table ingredients — so you can feel virtuous about supporting

the New York economy as you dine. Prefer craft beer over wine? Try Naked Dove Brewery on Routes 5 and 20. The owners are passionate about the beer they make, and it shows. Taste any of the four year-round beers or the two or three seasonal ones, which include IPA, Porter, German, and fruit beers. When you’re done sampling, Naked Dove beers are also available to take home in growlers. If you want to bet on a fun night out, the Finger Lakes Gaming and Racetrack’s video-gaming machines and live thoroughbred racing are just a quick stop off Route 96 in Farmington. see PLAY on page 10

CMAC concerts this summer include the RPO on Saturday, July 22. PHOTO BY ERICH CAMPING She Rocs

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This lively town at the base of Keuka Lake was voted “The Coolest Small Town in America” by Budget Travel and is a favorite summer destination. A perfect day would include a stop for lunch or dinner at our latest discovery — Timber Stone Grill, conveniently located in the center of town. The décor of wood, metal, and artifacts is as welcoming as the wait staff, who are friendly, attentive, and knowledgeable. The menu features wine selections from Keuka and Seneca lakes, and the food is fresh, delicious, and attractively presented, for carnivores and vegetarians alike. The restaurant is popular so reservations are highly recommended in July and August. Hammondsport has a rich history. The Glenn H. Curtis Museum celebrates the life and inventions of its hometown aviator, who got his start in bicycles, moved on to motorcycles, and then advanced to aircraft. The imagination, mechanical ability, and impressive work ethic of “The Father of Naval Aviation” is proudly displayed and well worth a visit. If boats are more your thing, check out


You may not be able to pronounce the name, but you definitely won’t want to miss the chance to plan a romantic getaway to this quaint village, situated at the end of one of the most gorgeous lakes in the area. Begin your staycation by booking a room at Mirbeau Inn & Spa, a lovely oasis that prides itself on “taking relaxation seriously.” Mirbeau has a colorful European vibe (think Monet and the French countryside), with charmingly landscaped grounds. The inn offers a number of fantastic ways to be pampered, including The Romance Package with a 50-minute “It Takes Two” couples massage. If that’s


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The beautiful home of the Finger Lakes Boat Museum is the former Taylor Winery in Hammondsport. PROVIDED PHOTO

the Finger Lakes Boat Museum. The Finger Lakes have been used recreationally by boaters for centuries, and it’s fascinating to learn more about who and what local companies built the boats many enjoy. You’re guaranteed to leave the museum having learned something new, like a way to remember the names of the 11 lakes that make up the Finger Lakes region. Both the Curtiss and boat museums

have restoration areas where visitors can watch volunteers hard at work on various objects. If you’re looking for unique or quirky furniture and accessories made from wine barrels, The Wine Barrel is definitely worth a stop. If you’d rather drink local wines and beers, try the Pleasant Valley Wine Company or the Brewery of Broken Dreams, both adjacent to the Finger Lakes Boat Museum.

not enough to tempt you, there are instructional cooking, yoga, and fitness classes, along with an outdoor Aqua Terrace featuring a waterfall and hot spa pool. After a long winter of taking care of everyone else, the award-winning spa is a welcome treat for any busy parent. If you want to experience Skaneateles Lake and some of the area’s history at the same time, hop aboard one of Mid-Lakes Navigation’s boats. My favorite is the U.S. Mailboat (a three-hour tour) where daily mail is delivered to the more rustic dwellers at the end of the breathtakingly beautiful lake. The captain and crew are eager to share funny stories about nautical mail delivery and the lake’s residents. It’s highly entertaining to watch people come down to retrieve their mail, including the kids at the local summer camp. Skaneateles boasts only one winery but it’s an excellent one — Anyela’s Vineyards, which will be hosting several performances in the new Robinson Pavilion during world-class Skaneateles Festival in August, making it well worth the trip. Boating adventures on the Finger Lakes include rentals and dinner cruises, including those run by Mid-Lakes Navigation on Skaneateles Lake. Below pictured is Mirbeau Spa in Skaneateles, which offers many levels of pampering and relaxation. PROVIDED PHOTOS

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N E R LAU vs. R E C CAN online Thousands of orelle M r e e h c s r e follow ment t a e r t h g u o r h t ood and motherh By LINDA QUINLAN

Wearing a “superwoman” t-shirt, jeans, a sweatshirt, and a trendy short haircut, Lauren Morelle displays the freshness and beauty of a 31-year-old young mother. She’s funny, insightful, and full of life. She’s also a warrior. “I’m a fighter,” Lauren said simply. She is a fighter … in the fight of her life. Six months after having her son, Jonas, in 2015, she noticed a large lump while breastfeeding that wasn’t going away. She had learned lumps are “usually


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nothing” while breastfeeding, so she waited from November until January to have it looked at during her annual checkup. Her doctor initially thought it might be a clogged duct, but suggested an ultrasound. “I’ll never forget, my doctor, who’s a nice Irishman,” she said, with an assumed Irish accent, “coming back and saying, ‘Well now, let’s just do a biopsy.’ ” Lauren said her attitude was, “I’ve got to get this over with.” She remembers “yucking it up” with her doctors, who took a couple of samples. Then the call came at work the next

day, after she dropped off her kids. Three words: “It is cancer.” “I huddled on my office wheelie chair and thought, ‘OK, I need to talk to HR’,” she recalled.

An incredibleness that is Lauren A friend drove her home from work and she told her husband, Nate Stone, and then the rest of her family. She remembers a lot of crying among her loved ones. “But I was not able to cry; somebody has to be strong, I feel,” Lauren said.

Her sense of humor also kicked in, which she said runs in her family. The oldest of three children, she is the daughter of state Assemblyman and Majority Leader Joe Morelle, D-Irondequoit, and his wife, Mary Beth. “Being around a big Italian family, you have to be loud and funny all the time to get yourself heard,” she quipped. “She always says the most inappropriate things at the most inappropriate times,” said her younger brother, Monroe County Legislator Joseph Morelle Jr., laughing. “But that’s how she gets through it.” Lauren’s husband, Nate, agreed. “She’s never had a filter,” he said. “It’s one of the many things to love about her.” Lauren graduated from Eastridge High School in 2004 and finished her degree in communications at SUNY College at Geneseo in three and a half years (because she hated being away from home). She met Nate, originally from Greece, when they worked together at Seabreeze Amusement Park during her second year of college. “There’s an incredibleness that is Lauren,” Nate said, recalling the first time he met her at Seabreeze. “It was time to close and she was organizing the workers to do the cha-cha slide!” “She’s just full of life and energy,” he said, “and so loving, and compassionate, but also strong and assertive.” They were married in 2011 and had their first child, Arabella, in 2013. Lauren most recently worked for the YMCA of Greater Rochester communications department, where she marketed camps and after-school programs. “I was really happy there ... and I rode a horse,” Lauren said. “My definition of ‘I’ve made it’.” She has been out of work for the past Lauren Morrelle’s priorities are her family and ensuring laughter stays in her world every day. PROVIDED PHOTOS

year as she battles an aggressive form of breast cancer. She has nothing but praise for her doctors, Dr. Alissa Huston and Dr. Rachel Farkas, who are part of the Wilmot Cancer Center at UR Medical Center. Lauren already has been through four rounds of chemotherapy — all the while parenting her two young children. “She’s an incredible mom,” brother Joseph said. “And her children are bubbly and goofy — her personality.” Lauren credits the support of her husband and family for helping her every day. “After some of the medicines, I just wanted to sit in a fetal position,” she said. “When you’re sick like that, you really have to find your village.” Yet, “As a mother and woman, you never turn off that part of your brain that wants to take care of others,” she said. “It got so I couldn’t sleep if I heard them (her children).” The family now sits together every Sunday morning to plan where the children will be and what her family will do for meals, keeping track on a Google calendar. “We’re a pretty good machine now,” Lauren said, noting that her mother, Mary Beth, and mother-in-law, Cheryl Stone, share the bulk of the responsibilities. Of course, worry comes with the territory. “In some ways, we all have cancer,” Joseph Jr. commented quietly. The thing is, that she has stage-four metastatic breast cancer doesn’t scare her anymore. “I feel bad for cancer,” she said. “What happened in there that made you go all crazy?”

Chemo-cations and a hairstyle of choice Lauren is currently on chemotherapy again and taking another experimental see LAUREN on page 14

Lauren vs. Cancer

on Facebook (and in real life) Lauren started a blog on Facebook soon after she was diagnosed, which she calls Lauren vs. Cancer. “I did it because everything in my family is like a bad day of telephone,” she said, referring to the game where you whisper a message and it is passed from person to person and at the end is often something completely different than the original message. “People would think I was dying by the time it got to Utica, where my father’s family is from,” she said. “Plus, when your father knows a lot of people, nothing stays private for very long.” Lauren had 400 followers on her site when 13WHAM’s digital reporter Matt Molloy did a story on Feb. 15, 2016. The title of the piece was, “Local woman shares cancer fight on Facebook.” “And I thought, ‘Oh my God, I’ve arrived. I’m a ‘local woman’!’” she said. Lauren now has more than 2,600 followers, and the count keeps climbing. Husband Nate said he is surprised when he looks at the analytics. “We’ve been amazed that some posts have reached 12,000 to 15,000 people,” he said. “It’s a great way to realize you’re not alone.” Lauren hopes her children will read the blog someday. “I’m such a ham,” she said. “I’ve sworn. I’m bawdy. But me being goofy hopefully has connected with people. I hope to inspire people. I just want my life to mean something.” She combines words — often so funny they bring tears to your eyes — with often-hilarious pictures and videos, most of which poke fun at herself. Lauren suspects not everyone appreciates her brand of humor. “But people do like to laugh at inappropriate things. … It’s a service I provide!” see FACEBOOK on Page 14 She She RocsRocs July/August July/August 20172017 13 13

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drug. “Thankfully, a lot of other things are on the table too,” she said. Nate accompanies her to all chemo appointments, which he and Lauren call “chemo-cations.” “There’s always some type of positive,” Nate said. Lauren’s cancer started at stage 2B, and she had her first round of chemo and rang the bell (when it was over). The double mastectomy was in June 2016. “I think my daughter only remembers me as bald, so that’s a nice thing, and she doesn’t equate that with being sick,” Lauren said. “It’s more like a personal hairstyle choice.” As for that time-honored parental advice — to get your children on a routine — “Well, we don’t get that in our house,” Lauren said, “but having a mom with a bald head and lot of people around is very normal to them.”

She admits that as a parent, she has to use what she calls the “cancer card” sparingly. “But I do get out of doing the dishes when I don’t want to,” she laughed. Even as positive as she is, however, there are days when she’s less than cheerful. “I give myself three to four times a year … I call it the quarterly cry,” Lauren said. “You shouldn’t be ashamed to ask for help,” she said reflectively. “You can’t turn your ‘mom’ switch off. But you also can’t refill their glasses when your pitcher is empty.” Joseph Jr. said she always puts her children first. “They are the reason she fights,” he said. “They need their mom.” “I know cancer is not a great thing, but I think it did change my life for the better,” Lauren said. “I love more freely, and I don’t care about the things that aren’t important anymore. And I say ‘I love you’ far more now.”

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You have to laugh at cancer, she said. She doesn’t mind people both laughing at her and with her. “If you don’t laugh, you will cry your eyes out,” she said. One place where she laughs is Pluta Cancer Center, where she’s been treated for the last year and a half and where she knows the staff. “You should come with me to chemo and see how it is. … It’s kind of funny.” Her husband occasionally steps in with an online report as well. After a several-day absence in mid-March, Nate wrote, “Though it’s not as good of an update as one from her (and I’m sure she will give her take in the morning), I didn’t want the radio silence to worry anyone.”

“Looking back, I believe I have only been to the ER twice before. One time was when I sliced my finger open cutting a bagel at 19; and the other time was just a few years ago when I had food poisoning. Unfortunately, I can add another trip to the ER to the mix. This time, it was because of my cancer. … Thanks a lot, cancer.”

Here are some Lauren-isms from Lauren vs. Cancer: “Show of hands — who here, when dealing with bad or scary news, reverts to a five-year-old and wants to run to their parents


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“I’ve joked for a few weeks that the tumors must be sitting on the bitchy part of my brain. Translation: I haven’t been particularly nice to anyone lately.” “I have good news, and I have bad news. Let’s rip the BandAid off quickly, shall we? The cancer has spread to my brain.” “What do you do the night before surgery? Lay out your not-over-the-head-clothes, kiss your babies, curse the surgery scheduler that gave you a 6:15 a.m. report time, and gather strength from a pint-sized beauty who was strong, fearless, and so loved.”

Finding genuine happiness 3 powerful truths to help you live with victorious freedom What I know for sure is … life is meant to be enjoyed and not just endured. Whether you’re a busy stay-at-home mom or an overstretched executive in corporate America, you deserve to live a fulfilling life being genuinely happy. Most days when we leave our homes, we grab the essentials we may need for the day, like our keys, cell phones, and our purses/wallets. We also grab the masks we need to fulfill the different roles we must play throughout the day — maybe it’s the parent mask, the employee mask, or the customer mask. Unfortunately, our authentic self is hidden beneath these masks. That self can become weary and tired, causing us to wrestle internally in silent frustration. No one can fully sense our struggle because of the smile we paint on. I’ve learned that some of the most broken people wear the biggest smiles. Our authentic self yearns to be genuinely happy. Here are three powerful truths that help women live their lives with victorious freedom, which I shared at the Audacious Believer’s Ultimate Women’s Conference in April.

what we don’t have, so be sure you put yourself first. It’s not selfish to take care of yourself and to make your happiness a priority. And it is necessary.

Happiness comes from freeing yourself from your own mind

You are the only one who knows what will truly make you happy. Often, our genuine happiness can be released by simply changing the conversation in our head. Stop beating yourself up with negative self-talk about what you don’t look like, what sizes you don’t wear, and what you may not be able to afford right now. Create and recite positive affirmations daily that inspire you to create a life you truly love. For example, instead of saying, “I don’t

have the experience” or “I’m not good enough,” you could say “Before I stand in my greatness, I must stop standing in my way.” Be your own rescuer and motivator.

Old habits don’t produce new results

If you want something new in life, you must be willing to try something new. Identify and recognize the habits that have kept you stuck in a rut, and then replace them with new ones. Bottom line: You have to disrupt something to create something new. And then celebrate your accomplishment by doing something that makes you happy. Micro wins lead to macro wins in life and business. When in doubt, faith it until you make it.

You can love others only when you truly love you

It’s so easy to put our families, careers, and other obligations before our own needs. We teach others how to love us by how we love and honor ourselves. Your environment shapes your mindset, so find a space in your home or neighborhood to retreat, regroup, and reignite your self-love. We can’t give

Veldra Simmons-Crenshaw, right, celebrates new-found victorious freedom while breaking a board with Dante Worth at the Audacious Believer’s Ultimate Women’s Conference. PROVIDED PHOTO She Rocs

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Deborah Hughes and Suffragist City If you go

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“Susan B. Anthony has gotten quoted this year, gosh darn it, as much as Jesus,” said Deborah Hughes, a former pastor who is marking her 10th anniversary as director of the National Susan B. Anthony Museum & House. And these oft-cited quotes from the most famous suffragist of all time are being viewed through a 2017 filter, reinterpreted and often taken out of context 150 years after her words were delivered. Hughes, along with the country, has witnessed in recent months national headlines that claim Anthony — who fought hard against slavery alongside Frederick Douglass — was racist; many are interpreting her words to say she was pro-life. But at the National Historic Landmark home and museum in Rochester, Anthony is celebrated for working tirelessly to bring less suffering and equal rights to all. As a woman clinched a major party nomination for U.S. president for the first time last fall, Anthony’s home and grave were the focus of vigils and “Because of Women Like Her” campaigns, garnering international news attention. Thousands waited in line at Mount Hope Cemetery to place their “I Voted” stickers on or near her tombstone. “She was more relevant on November 9 than on November 8, that is for sure,” Hughes said.

Quoting Susan B. “Her voice is so powerful,” she noted. “It is great to be to be connected to a historical person who is quoted as often as she is, although she is often misquoted.” With her first-hand research in the shadow of Anthony herself on Madison Avenue, Hughes can say Anthony never advocated for the criminalization of abortion. “The pro-life movement is a contemporary movement with a different agenda than Susan B. Anthony had in her time,” Hughes said. And in regard to racism, Hughes said Anthony acknowledged her own white privilege and did not allow people to claim ignorance to the plight of slavery. Anthony said, “Anti-slavery prayers are nothing without action.” While radical at the time, Hughes said, Anthony told large groups at multiple speaking engagements that “you do not get off the hook from your white privilege until we disassemble racism in this country.” Yet, with so much historical documentation about Anthony’s

Location: 17 Madison St., Rochester Admission: $15 adults; $10 seniors (62+) and active military; $5 students. Hours: TuesdaySunday, 11 a.m.-5 p.m. Accessibility: The museum’s Visitors Center and first floor of the historic house are wheelchair accessible. The second and third floors of the house are reachable via stairs. By arrangement, interpretation can be provided for those who cannot climb the stairs. Learn more: susanbanthony or 585-235-6124 16

She works to interpret Susan B. Anthony through a 2017 lens, as she marks 10 years as director of the National Historic Landmark

vigilant work against slavery and for equal rights, an L.A. Times article this past winter questioned if she was racist.“I don’t believe she would want us to say she was a racist,” Hughes aid. “I think she would ask, ‘What are we going to do about this social ill that is racism?’” “Did Susan B. Anthony regularly have guests at her home who were of color? Yes,” Hughes said. “Did she travel with black women across the United States and fight for abolition? Yes. Did she go to all-white events and cross the street to go to a black church event and cross the line to fight segregation every place she went? Yes. Did she fight for human rights and education for all people regardless of gender and race and national origin? Yes!”

Visiting Susan B. Anthony’s House

Summer in Suffragist City While David Bowie’s 1973 hit song “Suffragette City” has a catchy tune and memorable title, a July 22 parade and celebration in Anthony’s adopted hometown of Rochester is titled the Suffragist City Parade. Anthony fought for the plight of all and called herself a suffragist. The Oxford Dictionary defines suffragist as “a person advocating the extension of suffrage.” In fact, the term suffragette was created as a derogatory term by a British newspaper writer in the late 1800s, referencing the women fighting for their rights as militant and radical activists. “It is historically accurate and what Susan B. Anthony and Frederick Douglass preferred,” Hughes said. “They thought suffragette was diminutive.” The parade will start at 10:30 a.m. on Saturday, July 22, and run from Court Street to Main Street, via Exchange Boulevard and Broad Street, in downtown Rochester. More than 50 organizations are taking part and more groups are invited to join in, with registration open through July 8. The inaugural Suffragist City Parade — carrying the theme in 2017 of “Because of Women Like Her …” — will commemorate and celebrate the centennial of women’s suffrage in New York state. The parade promotes the history of women’s suffrage and its relevance today; and celebrates women who have made a difference in our lives — sharing their images, names, and accomplishments. Taking part in the Suffragist City Parade won’t be the first time Hughes has marched proudly this year. In January she joined the Women’s March in D.C., alongside her wife, Emily Jones — representing herself and her own beliefs, however, as the museum must remain non-partisan as a non-profit institution. “Susan B. Anthony said she dreamed of the day when there would be masculine women and feminine men and we’d approach our differences with compromise rather than swords and

Deb Hughes, director of the The National Susan B. Anthony Museum & House shows off a quilt block that is part of the collaborative 2020 Quilt Project, which is gathering uniquely designed quilt blocks that relate to women’s suffrage and empowerment, all to be publicly displayed. Learn more at

weapons,” Hughes said. “Today’s politicians can learn so much from her.”

VoteTilla on the canal In addition to celebrating her 10th anniversary on Aug. 1, this year marks the 100th anniversary of women’s suffrage in New York state and the bicentennial of the Erie Canal. Hughes and the staff and volunteers of the National Susan B. Anthony Museum & House have created a weeklong celebration called VoteTilla, to take place along the Erie See the full VoteTilla Canal from July schedule on Page 52 17-22. in Roc Parent. With a core of five canal boats, VoteTilla will set out from the National Women’s Hall of Fame in Seneca Falls and travel to Rochester. Aboard the boats will be re-enactors who will tell stories of suffragists and abolitionists, in first-person character using actual historic oration. Anthony and her closest cohort, Elizabeth Cady Stanton, are among those being portrayed. VoteTilla boats will dock at several towns and villages along the canal, where local residents and organizations can share in the celebration with programs, side trips, and adding their own boats to the traveling fleet. The public is invited to take part on land or water. At each stop there will be voting boxes so attendees can make their own personal commitment to ending suffrage. She Rocs

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More people visited the house and museum in the first three months of 2017 than in all of 2016. And the numbers will likely continue to increase. Susan B. Anthony is more popular than ever following the fall election, this year’s state celebrations, and the upcoming national centennial in 2020 for women’s right to vote. Since only 35 people can be in the modest historic house at one time, group-tour bookings are limited. While buses full of students or tourists can be accommodated, the groups have to take tours in shifts. Yet, more than 10,000 visitors are served each year, including more than 1,000 Girl Scouts and hundreds of second-graders who experience the museum through virtual tours sponsored by ESL Federal Credit Union. So, what do the secondgraders make of the partnersin-suffrage Susan B. Anthony and Frederick Douglass? “Most of them think they were married,” Hughes said, with a smile. The National Susan B. Anthony Museum & House was the home of the legendary American civil rights leader during the 40 most politically active years of her life. It also is where she was arrested for voting in 1872 and where she and fellow abolitionist Douglass would meet to discuss efforts to end human suffrage. Anthony’s home was the headquarters of the National American Woman Suffrage Association when she was its president. It is also where she died in 1906 at age 86, after her “Failure Is Impossible” speech. Smithsonian magazine named the National Susan B. Anthony Museum & House one of the eight best sites in the country to visit to learn about women. It is one of only two National Historic Landmarks in Rochester (the other is George Eastman Museum), a title held by fewer than three percent of all U.S. historic sites. She Rocs July/August 2017 17

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Non-Ficton While my daughter’s next text arrives caps, 25 smiley faces, and 19 with twice the usual amount of hearts exclamation points will say, “HI and smiley faces, my mom’s texts MOMJJJJ!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!” The first text I received from my mom grow longer, with better spelling and decreased punctuation. STILL ALL arrives three days after the birthday It began with the birthday dinners.  CAPS.  dinner. In all caps, and reads: These were implemented by my At the next birthday gathering, which SHPSHKOC sisters, my mother, and me as a way to now includes everybody, my mother I text back, “Hi Mom, Welcome to end the annual tradition of giving each declared that nobody answers her texts.    texting.” other candles and luxury socks and “Well, you don’t,” she said. Twenty minutes later the next one instead celebrate each other’s birthdays She cited evidence until my younger arrived. — by sharing good food and wine. BUTNSSMALL Birthday girl gets treated and no FINGRS BIG candles or gift cards are exchanged. I text back, “Fat This tradition lasts a few years. And “I think all the kids are texting fingers.” at the end of each meal at least one these days. They don’t answer Twenty minutes person is sauced, at least one person later, her response has cried (just a little bit), and at least the phone. But they text.” arrived. four memories that were bedrock to NOTNICE one’s construction of self were Within four weeks challenged, or dismantled altogether.  sister asks for my mom’s phone.  her skills improved. One day I looked Your rosy glow of a recollection at my phone and saw a message the She flips it open. erased by someone else’s simple length of a dissertation.  She goes through the texts and statement, “That never happened.”  I immediately recalled an intervention reads one my mom has written to our Other unspoken rules unfolded, such that both my sisters gently provided brother: as “Don’t challenge the birthday girl.” after I joined the world of texting. HI I MADE HAM JUST TOOK If she says it’s true, you nod and pass “Your texts are pretty long,” my older IT OUT IS SHANNON WORKING the appetizers.  It’s her day. sister said.  “They’re supposed to be WANT TO COME TOO MUCH We routinely followed this tradition, brief. Yours are email length.” FOR ME AND DAD THANKS and then one year decided to have “Well, that’s because nobody emails,” FOR SHOVELING DRIVEWAY I a home celebration and invite some I said.  “Nobody emails because they’re COULD DROP OFF HAM aunts and uncles. all on The Facebook.” My mother is nodding at our brother, At this dinner, I was sitting next to “It’s Facebook,” the younger sister “You never answered!” my mom as I heard her say to my aunt/ said, “and you’re right. Nobody emails “OK,” my younger sister continued. her sister, “My kids never call. They because email takes too long. But your “Here’s the reply.” don’t answer the phone and they don’t texts are not supposed to be email return their messages.” Hello. Thank you for letting me know length.” I broke the about the ham. Shannon is not here. I do “Fine.” I said, cardinal rule of not know if she is working because I am “Anything else?” agreeing with not married to Shannon. I don’t own a “Don’t write LOL. It’s As though she’d the birthday I don’t eat ham because I am a girl. for 13-year-old girls.” been waiting for shovel. And vegetarian.  this question, my “Mom,” I said.  I am not your son, though it is clear that younger sister “Well, you our numbers have great similarity as I added, “Yes. Don’t don’t,” she said to me. still get all the texts that are meant for write LOL. It’s for 13-year-old girls.” “They don’t,” she said to my aunt. him. “But I’m really laughing when I write My 78-year-old aunt replied, “Well, I Please. Please. Remove my number. think all the kids are texting these days. that,” I said.  “What am I supposed to This is the longest text I have ever text?” They don’t answer the phone. But they composed because yours are so long and “Write, ‘Ha.’ Or, ‘Ha ha.’” she said text.”  thoughtful that I wanted to follow suit as “But nobody laughs ‘Ha ha.’ I don’t “Oh, I don’t do that,” my mom we end this relationship.  know one person who says ha ha when said. “That texting.” Best of luck with your son, thank you they laugh,” I said. “Well,” her sister said, “they again for the offer of ham. She shrugs. “You asked.” answer their texts.” Signed, Not Sean  “Ha is what you say when you’re trying I text with my own daughter, to summon a laugh for something My mother is grabbing for the phone, who sometimes writes when that’s not particularly funny,” I go on. my brother is glowing with vindication, she is with a friend or relative “It’s a polite way of acknowledging my sisters are dying laughing, and I, for a sleepover. A number someone’s failed attempt at humor.” too, chuckle. will pop up on my phone, “Too long,” she said, of my speaking. Ha … or Ha ha. and a message in all She Rocs

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We all scream for ice cream!

Hedonist Artisan Ice Cream

Whether you like your ice cream soft, hard, custard, yogurt, cheap, or fancy, there’s a spot just for you in the Rochester area. In fact, we have so many, you should consider venturing from your usual hangout to try these 9 Yelper recommended places. These Yelp reviews were churned together by Breanna Banford, Yelp’s Rochester community manager.

672 South Ave., Rochester 585-461-2815 |

“For gourmet scoops, Hedonist makes some great ice cream. They have about eight flavors at a given time, their salted caramel being a staple.” — Nicole M.

The Ginger Lion

Eat Me Ice Cream 1115 E. Main St., Suite 148, Rochester, and various locations 585-455-3071 |

“Their specialty — creating ice cream from a bunch of different ingredients, but having it taste absolutely incredible … Plus, they specialize in vegan and dairy-free ice cream, of which you literally cannot tell the difference.” — Zack R.

Moonlight Creamery 36 West Ave. Fairport 585-223-0880 |

“Hidden in the depths of the village of Fairport, Moonlight Creamery is like a reverie whispered into your sweet tooth. ... I had a waffle cone with a scoop of butter beer and a scoop of cookies and cream, which were both creamy and flavorful.” — David T.

Pittsford Farms Dairy 44 N. Main St., Pittsford 585-586-6610

632 N. Winton Road, Rochester 585-482-3065 LuGia’s kiddie size, black cherry and chocolate almond. YELP PHOTO BY SARA D.

LuGia’s Ice Cream 4719 Lyell Ave., Spencerport, and on wheels 585-352-6795

“The flavor selection is ginormous, the options for ice cream from sundaes to milkshakes is off the charts, and the location is lovely on a hot summer day. Not to mention you get a huge bang for your buck.” — Ashley L.

Read’s Ice Cream 3130 East Henrietta Road, Henrietta 585-334-5520

“If you’re craving some ice cream on a hot summer day you’re almost guaranteed to walk in and see a mile long line, but don’t let that intimidate you, they get through the line pretty quickly and it’s definitely worth the wait!”

“Great locally owned ice cream shop that uses local ingredients to make such creamy smooth ice cream. They always have so many flavors to choose from and always willing to give out samples to try.”

— Katelyn S.

— Kelly S.


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Reviews of 9 favorite spots

“The cones are homemade and very tasty. I got a small sundae (the Uncle Moo) and it was massive.… You can tell this is high quality, homemade ice cream and not just your average scoop.” — Emily H.

What’s ’Ur Scoop 1601 Penfield Road, Penfield | 585-217-1534

“They have a great hard selection of Gifford brand ice cream, sundaes, etc. The small, which is two scoops, is generous … try the caramel caribou and s’mores!” — Marcus M.

Netsin’s Ice Cream 290 Culver Parkway, East Irondequoit 585-288-8020 |

“This place is one of those hidden treasures in the middle of a neighborhood. … A ton of options to choose from. Perry’s ice cream ... custard and soft serve flavors.” — Geneva P.

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Organized Clutterbug ELIZABETH CRONY

Summer Simplicity A relaxing break starts with just a little tidying up

making it simple for kids to do some art projects on rainy or “I’m bored” summer days. And in the fall, your art supplies will be organized and you can see what needs replenishing.

Ahhh, summer. What’s not to love? School’s out, days are longer, and life is more relaxed. But before you can relax, as well as have fun and create and capture memories, you need to sort, clean up, and get the summer essentials ready.

Gather the kids’ art pieces and schoolwork together and store it all in a bin, three-ring binder, or file folder. Let your child select her favorites from the past year. Moms, you can pick out your favorites, too, but I encourage you to resist the temptation to keep everything. The fewer items kept, the more special each piece becomes.

Be crafty

You may be overwhelmed by all the school supplies, papers, books, and projects that have lived at your child’s school all year. So, calling all kids! Have them sort their supplies and toss the broken crayons and pencils and dried-out markers. By organizing these items now, you’ll have a craft area that is under control,

Art and schoolwork

End-of-school-year tradition

In our house, we pack ALL the uniforms (washed) into black trash bags and put them in the attic. Also, we empty the drawers filled with school clothes and fill them with summer play clothes.

Clean out and clean up

If winter gear is still hanging around, put away items not needed until next year. We wash everything we plan to keep and store in containers, so they’re not cluttering up our entryways in the warm months. Stash cleats, flip-flops, play toys, beach items, sunscreen, hats — all things summer — in baskets or metal buckets. We keep these baskets near the back door, so each girl can grab and go.

Summer décor

Lighten up each room and change home decorations. I put up light, breezy curtains, and roll-up rugs, and set up a cozy area for reading books. The house feels roomier and there is less to dust and clean (and more time to play!). I also make colorful plastic dishes and cups accessible for the “hangry” times or for impromptu picnics in the backyard.

Pack, ready, and roll

Whether heading to the pool, camp, or a road trip, have a designated bag for a quick exit. Our extra-large beach bag holds everything — we can take the entire bag or grab what is needed. Summer camp backpacks are labeled and filled with extra clothes, water bottle, and supplies. Have a first-aid kit at the ready, plus some plastic baggies to store all the knickknacks that find their way into pockets, car doors, and Mom’s purse.

Vacation memories

Gather shells, rocks, and treasured trinkets from summer excursions and create a memory jar or arrange a collage in a picture frame. While you may have left the beach behind, you can revisit any time of year. These are also perfect for back-to-school show-and-tell.

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BLENDING FOOD FAMILY AND FUN Owner of Salena’s and Nox is enjoying the ride


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Kelly Metras is a firm believer in choosing a path and following it. “You make a decision and follow where that path takes you … and where the path takes you after that.” Her successful career and family life are the result of choices made and paths taken. Kelly and her husband, Aaron Metras, have owned Salena’s Mexican Restaurant since 2011 and are co-owners of Nox Craft Cocktail Lounge, which opened in 2014. Both eateries are at Village Gate in Rochester. Earlier this year, they launched an educational experiment and a not-for-profit organization called RYCE (Rochester Youth Culinary Experience), which for two months this past spring trained East High School students in all aspects of the restaurant businesses, with the students serving as the chefs and owners.

Restaurant skills for life

Both Kelly and Aaron are Rochester natives — she’s from Greece and he’s from Irondequoit. They’ve been part of the Salena’s family for 18 years. While they both had worked at the restaurant’s previous locations, their paths seldom crossed. It took Salena’s expansion to its present Village Gate location for the couple to get to know one other

and for romance to get cookin’. They continued to work at Salena’s while attending college. Kelly earned her bachelor’s and master’s degrees in special education at St. John Fisher College and for several years was a teacher at Hillside Family of Agencies. Aaron studied business at the University of Buffalo, with a concentration in not-for-profits. At the time, their work at Salena’s was a way to make money, but it wasn’t their career focus. “The skill set that you learn working in a restaurant helps you in any career,” Kelly said. But in 2010, Aaron was offered the job as general manager of Salena’s and the next year they purchased the restaurant. They were the ideal owners for the popular eatery. They blended Kelly’s behavior-management experience with Aaron’s business background. And they already had worked almost every job in the restaurant and knew the business inside and out. But, most importantly, they knew their clientele, and that has been key to their seven years of success as restaurant owners. When the opportunity arose to open another food-and-drink establishment next to Salena’s, they asked themselves, “If we could create our own space from scratch, what would we do?” “Nox is that place,” Kelly said. “It’s the place that we go to hang out when we have a night off.”

Blending food and family

And while nights off are rare, owning her own business does allow her flexibility to attend her children’s events. Kelly and Aaron are the parents of three children, ages seven, five, and one. She credits a very supportive and tight network of friends and family for helping her juggle work and family. Her job sometimes has its unsociable hours, but that has its own unique set of benefits. “There is the evening that I have to be here to work, but then I will have the entire next day and night off with the children,” she said. Also, family vacations are precious time. “I make sure that we always have something to look forward to,” Kelly said. “And when I know we won’t be having a family dinner on an evening, I make sure that we all sit down to breakfast together that morning.” And if spare time does rear its lovely head, what is her favorite thing to do? “Nothing.” Her birthday treat each year is a hotel room, with a big, soft, comfy bed, blackout curtains, “mindless” TV, and room service — just her and Aaron. “It’s 24 hours of nothing,” she said, laughing. Kelly is passionate about Rochester and really loves her city. “I want to find innovative ways to make small change to our community,” she added. “Making big changes is for

someone else.” Those small changes have made some big differences in the lives of those with whom she works and welcomes to her restaurants. Also, RYCE made a positive change for many teens who were part of the experimental project, which was about giving high school kids the opportunity to learn all aspects of a business and, in some cases, “breaking a cycle,” she said. Kelly thinks of her restaurants as her children with distinctly different personalities. “Salena’s is my eldest child,” Kelly said. “She’s family-orientated, down-to-earth and reasonable. Cozy and intimate Nox is the middle daughter — a bit mysterious, sometimes confusing, but it’s rewarding when you get to know her.” RYCE, the youngest child, is “still learning how to walk.” Kelly and Aaron are taking the information gleaned from running RYCE to formulate a new model that has education at its heart. The restaurant served Caribbean soul cuisine, backed by Aaron’s and Kelly’s hearts and wallets. “We appreciate their vision and efforts behind RYCE as well as their beliefs in our East scholars,” said East High Superintendent Dr. Shaun Nelms. And plans for her next “child”? “I don’t even try to guess where I am going to be in six months,” she said. “I’m enjoying this ride.”

Kelly and Aaron Metras enjoy making s’mores at their restaurant Nox. She said, “It’s the place that we go to hang out when we have a night off.” PHOTOS BY RENEE VENISKEY

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