Rochester Baby Guide Summer 2013
Rochester Baby Guide Summer 2013
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Guide â€˘ Summer 2013 Edition
6 / An Introduction from our Editor
26 / The Courtney Family
4 / Baby Guide Online
25 / The Huang Family
28 / The Sargent Family
8 / Noteworthy 10 / Baby Buzz
health & wellness 12 / The Benefits of Breastfeeding
14 / Eating for Two - Your Diet Before, During & After Baby 17 / Hello Baby... Goodbye Sleep - Helping Your Newborn Sleep Like a Baby 19 / Finding Dr. Right Finding a Primary Care Provider for Your Child
education & development
30 / Rewiring Baby Brains - Tips for Your Child and Technology 32 / Reading to Babies 34 / Baby Book Nook - Book Recommendations from Rocheter Librarians
36 / First Connections - How Early Experiences Affect Brain Development 38 / Terrific Toddlers - A Conversation with a Seasoned Child Care Practitioner
41 / Preparing for Parenthood
22 / Camping With Your Baby
42 / 292-BABY - A Local Resource for Parents & Families
44 / Area Support Servies, Groups and Resources on the cover eating for two 40 baby book nook 34 benefits of breastfeeding 12 camping with your baby 22 helping your newborn sleep like a baby 17 community resources 44 Rochester Baby Guide Summer 2013
editor’s note // By Jillian Melnyk
elcome to the 13th edition of our Rochester Baby Guide produced by Rochester Area & Genesee Valley Parent Magazine, Rochester’s best resource
for parents and families. We know that whether you are
expecting your first child and new to the parenting game, or are well-versed in the ways of child-rearing, raising a family can be an exciting (yet stressful) time. In this edition, we bring you some great advice, connections, and local resources that will help you along that journey and help you raise a happy and wholesome family. We are especially pleased to produce this guide with support from 292-BABY, a community collaborative administered by Monroe Community College. Through this collaborative, we are able to bring you interesting, entertaining, and enlightening articles by some of the best local experts in their field on various topics of infant and child development. Our special thanks to them for coordinating some of the articles featured in this magazine. We are incredibly proud to share with you our joy that last year’s Baby Guide received three awards — Finalist in Overall Writing, Gold Winner in Overall Design and Silver Winner in Ancillary General Excellence — from the Parenting Media Association. Missed previous editions? Catch up on Baby content and find more pregnancy and maternity related articles on our website at www.GVParent.com As your child grows, be sure to pick up copies of Rochester Area & Genesee Valley Parent Magazine, our free, monthly family magazine which is available at more than
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During the first month of life, newborns can need up to 18 hours of sleep per day. Read more on page 17.
The amount a baby’s brain develops during the first three years of life. Read more on page 36.
Resources can keep you knowledgeable and engaged as a parent. Sign up for “text4baby” to receive educational tips on your cellphone during your pregnancy and throughout your baby’s first year of life. Visit www.292baby.org for the world’s largest selection of educational videos about early childhood. Read more on pages 41 & 42.
Women who breastfeed lose the additional weight they gain during pregnancy more quickly and are at a lower risk for postpartum obesity than women who bottle feed. Read more on page 12.
If you’re breastfeeding, you’ll need about 500 extra calories a day to produce milk for your infant. Read more on page 14.
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strike a pose
Pregnancy hormones can dampen moods, but for some expectant moms, it’s much worse: 1 in 5 experience major depression. A recent study from the University of Michigan shows that yoga may be a key to reducing depression in pregnant women and boosting maternal bonding. Pregnant women who were identified as psychiatrically high risk and who participated in a 10-week mindfulness yoga intervention saw significant reductions in depressive symptoms, according to a University of Michigan Health System pilot feasibility study. Mothers-to-be also reported stronger attachment to their babies in the womb. For the U-M research study, women who showed signs of depression and who were between 12-26 weeks pregnant participated in 90-minute mindfulness yoga sessions that focused on poses for the pregnant body, as well as support in the awareness of how their bodies were changing to help their babies grow.
Looking for a baby shower gift that is a little different than a traditional toy or onesie? Here are a few options that are a sure-fire hit with new parents: A night (or day) off. It’s no secret that new parents could use a break. Whether it’s to run errands, enjoy a night out together, or simply relax – give a new mom and dad a few hours to themselves and treat them to some kidfree time.
Books. You can never have too many – baby’s first board books and books the kiddo can grow into all make great shower gifts. Looking for book suggestions? Check out our recommendations from local librarians on page 34. Diapers. Whether the parents are going with cloth or traditional, diapers are pricey. While the gift isn’t very glam, it’s certainly functional and will be highly appreciated. Some stores offer cute wrapping ideas like diaper cakes that add some whimsy and charm. Get personal. Looking for something truly unique and one of a kind? If you want personalization hit up Etsy.com. You can find sellers offering everything from wall art to apparel to nursery decor that you can have personalized.
Is your baby name hot and trendy or cool and classic? According to the Social Security Administration’s most recent statistics, here are the current most popular baby names:
boys Jacob Mason Ethan Noah William Liam Jayden Michael Alexander Aiden
girls Sophia Emma Isabella Olivia Ava Emily Abigail Mia Madison Elizabeth
What was topping the chart 100 years ago? The top 5 most popular names for boys and girls in 1912 were as follows: John, William, James, Robert and Joseph for boys. Mary, Helen, Dorothy, Margaret and Ruth for girls.
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health & wellness // By Dr. Ruth Lawrence
A Mother’s Precious Gift the benefits of breastfeeding – for mom & baby
any women think about how they will feed their baby long before they become pregnant. It’s important
for every woman to have the opportunity to make an informed decision and know all the facts. Much research and experience has been collected recently about the tremendous value of breastfeeding for both the mother and infant. While these thoughts are not new, the new documentation has become very substantial.
How Breastfeeding Benefits Babies Advantages to the infant include bonding between mother and baby through the physiologic manner in which the baby nurses at the breast, which is quite different from sucking on a bottle. The infant has been sucking in-utero from about 14 to 16 weeks gestation and knows the proper action of the tongue and the swallowing mechanism very well. Other advantages for the infant include the fact that it is perfect nutrition for growth and development and specifically for ideal brain growth. Exclusively breast-fed infants have been shown to score better on intelligence tests and developmental tests. In addition to nutrition, breastfeeding provides protection against infection. Breast-fed infants have a low incidence of otitis media, pneumonia, diarrhea and other infections. The immunologic protective components in human milk provide ongoing protection until the baby is weaned
and beyond – no matter how old the infant is at the time of weaning. Human milk contains many protective properties including the apparent reduced incidence of childhood onset cancer, diabetes and Crohn’s Disease. Don’t underestimate the short-term and long-term breastfeeding benefits for mothers as well.
Be Patient with Yourself Many mothers worry that they won’t know how to breastfeed. Breastfeeding is not a reflex for the mother but a learned procedure, but the baby (who is born to breastfeed) knows exactly what to do. Read about breastfeeding before delivery to gain familiarly on the subject like The Nursing Mother’s Companion by Kathleen Huggins. Women should also consider attending local breastfeeding group meetings before delivery. La Leche League International has local groups all over the world. Four groups meet in the Rochester area – North, Southeast, South and West. Call Lifeline at 275-5151 to locate your
nearest group. Breastfeeding mothers, mothers- to-be and babies are welcome to attend. Your obstetrician’s office can also provide breastfeeding information and your hospital of delivery usually has a session on breastfeeding in their preparation for child birth series. Some mothers worry about breastfeeding because they need to go back to work. This does not mean you can’t breastfeed. Any time spent breastfeeding (one week, two, three, or a few months) is a very good investment in the infant’s well-being. There is plenty of help for working mothers. In some circumstances, women can return to work and arrange to feed their baby at daycare
while they work, or pump at work and save the milk for the baby the next day.
Focus on the First Few Days The first few days of breastfeeding in the hospital are very important. The first opportunity to breastfeed is right after birth. The World Health Organization and UNICEF “Baby Friendly” guidelines suggest that every mother have the opportunity to put her baby to breast within the first hour following delivery. The baby is ready and eager and it is the perfect opportunity to interact with the infant for the first time. The bedside nurses in the birth center or the delivery
how breastfeeding benefits mothers Short-term Benefits •W hen one breastfeeds, the uterus responds and contracts which contributes to a reduced loss of blood and a more prompt return to the pre-pregnancy state •W omen who breastfeed lose the additional weight they gain during pregnancy more quickly •B reastfeeding mothers are also at lower risk for postpartum obesity than women who bottle feed Long-range Benefits •W omen who breastfeed have a decreased incidence of osteoporosis, breast cancer, and ovarian cancer •M any women describe a tremendous feeling of well-being while they are breastfeeding •W omen with diabetes are often in much better control of their disease during the period of lactation
room will help mother position herself and the baby so the feeding will go smoothly. Actually, babies placed on mother’s abdomen and left to their own resources will find their way to the breast and latch on if not interfered with. Babies are born to breastfeed. Following this initial experience at the time of delivery, mothers should be ready to breastfeed the infant whenever the infant demonstrates interest in feeding. Interest in feeding is manifested by the baby bringing his own hands to his mouth or getting more active and rooting around. Crying is a late sign of hunger. Babies latch on and feed much more effectively if they are fed before they get frantic. While in the hospital, ask for help. It should not hurt to breastfeed. If it does hurt, it’s because the baby has not latched on correctly so ask for help in getting the baby adjusted comfortably. When discharged from the hospital, plans for follow-up should be made with the pediatrician and the lactation support person in the pediatrician’s office. They will want to see the baby within a few days and see how things are going.
Knowing How Much is Enough Some mothers are uncomfortable not knowing exactly how much milk the baby received when breastfeeding. The way to tell how much the baby receives is listening for the swallowing sounds and seeing a little milk drip from the breast during a feeding. In addition, the baby’s weight and output should be monitored. A wellfed, breastfed baby in the first month of life should have at least three seedy yellow stools per day. The baby also should wet at least six or seven diapers a day. With disposal diapers, it is often hard to be sure they have wet, although the weight of the diaper will change. Breastfeeding is a wonderful opportunity to provide a lifetime of good health and the most precious gift a mother can give her infant. If there is illness, it may be a life-saving gift, and, if there is poverty, it may be the only gift. Dr. Ruth Lawrence is the Medical Director of the Breastfeeding and Human Lactation Study Center and a Professor of Pediatrics, Obstetrics/Gynecology at Golisano’s Children’s Hospital at Strong in Rochester. Rochester Baby Guide Summer 2013
health & wellness // By Kelly James-Enger
Eating for Two your diet before, during, & after pregnancy
ith summer here, it’s easier than ever to choose from a variety of fresh, colorful fruits and vegetables.
Fresh-from-the-vine produce does more than make for a pretty plate — it’s also loaded with vitamins, minerals, and fiber, not to mention phytochemicals (plant-based substances that help reduce your risk of certain diseases), and antioxidants that can protect your body from the damage that free radicals can cause. Best of all, these foods are delicious yet low in calories —a great choice if you want a body you’re proud to bare.
But whether your diet needs some improvement (you know who you are!), or you already eat pretty healthfully, once you discover you’re pregnant, your nutritional intake becomes even more important. It’s not just a matter of calories and fat grams, the food you consume helps nourish your growing baby, too. So, how much and what types of food should you eat to help ensure a healthy baby? What nutrients are particularly important? What if you’re on a special or restricted diet? And what’s the best way to eat after the baby arrives?
Before and During Pregnancy: Eating for Two “The best way to prepare your body for pregnancy is to eat healthfully before you become pregnant,” says registered dietitian Roxanne Moore, a
spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association. “There are key nutrients that help keep your body strong and healthy pre-pregnancy,” says Moore. It’s important to increase your consumption of fruits and vegetables, and whole grains, breads and cereals to make sure that you’re getting adequate amounts of folic acid. You also want to make sure you’re getting adequate amounts of protein and supply your body with adequate iron stores. Once you’re pregnant, it’s important to eat sufficient calories to support you and your growing baby, but many pregnant women wind up going overboard — which translates into extra pounds to lose post-delivery. On average, you only need an extra 300 calories a day. It’s also a good idea to take a prenatal vitamin
supplement, especially if you suffer from morning sickness or lack of appetite. “One easy way to ensure good nutrition is to focus on minimally processed, whole foods,” says registered dietitian Elizabeth Somer, author of Nutrition for a Healthy Pregnancy, Second Edition (Henry Holt, 2002). Opt for unprocessed foods over refined carbohydrates and eat lots of fruits and vegetables. “If you can get 8 to 10 servings of fruits and vegetables [a day], you’re doing really well,” says Somer. “Those are the foods on which healthy babies are built, so include at least two servings of fruits and veggies at every meal.” For a healthy weight gain, space your calories out throughout the day. “Eat when you’re comfortably hungry
“Eat when you’re comfortably hungry
because you stay in control of your eating habits, and make smarter choices,” says Somer. “Once you’re ravenous, you’ll eat anything.”
– Elizabeth Somer, author of Nutrition for a Healthy Pregnancy, Second Edition
because you stay in control of your eating habits, and make smarter choices,” says Somer. “Once you’re ravenous, you’ll eat anything.” Additionally, make sure that you’re taking in sufficient fluids. You should be drinking
at least 64 ounces of fluid a day — anything non-caffeinated and non-alcoholic, such as milk, juice, and water counts toward this total. Whether you’re on a restricted diet due to food allergies (such as a gluten-free, dairy-free, or soy-free diet) or lifestyle choice (like a vegetarian or vegan diet), pregnancy offers you a good opportunity to re-evaluate your food choices. “When an expectant mother already has food allergies, it is wise to re-evaluate what substitutions she is making,” says Tammy McGarvey, a Board Certified Family Nurse Practitioner at Hope Family Health in Rochester. Make sure the substitutions you’re making are healthy ones. McGarvey also notes that food allergies can run in the family, so that’s something to be on the lookout for as your baby grows. Up your intake of whole grains and choose more nutrient-dense foods like brown rice over white, whole wheat over white bread, and shredded wheat cereal over pre-sweetened varieties. Strive for a minimum of six servings of grains a day, and make sure to consume at least three servings of calcium-rich foods every day. “You’re not only building up your own supply for your bones, but you’re building bones for your baby as well,” says Somer. Choose lean sources of protein like chicken breast, extra lean beef, or refried beans to help you get enough iron and zinc, two important minerals. A vegetarian or vegan diet is still safe during pregnancy as long as an expectant mom is educated about how to implement it, says McGarvey. She notes that moms-to-be should inform their healthcare providers about any dietary restrictions or choices, and if on a vegetarian or vegan diet, McGarvey says it is helpful to find a provider who is supportive of avoiding animal products and is knowledgeable about plant sources for nutri-
“There are key nutrients that help keep your body strong and healthy pre-pregnancy. It’s important
to increase your consumption of fruits and vegetables, and whole grains, breads and cereals to make sure that you’re getting adequate amounts of folic acid.” – Roxanne Moore, spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association
tion. While some plants contain calcium, McGarvey says that if you’re on a dairy-free diet, the best ways to consume calcium is through non-dairy milk. “Almond milk actually contains more calcium than cow’s milk,” she notes.
Post-Delivery: Eat for Strength and Energy After delivering a baby, good nutrition is as important as ever. “This is not the time to starve yourself. This is not the time to diet,” says Moore. “You need your energy reserves, especially when you’re breastfeeding.” If you’re breastfeeding, you’ll need about 500 extra calories a day to produce milk for your infant. Good nutrition will also help you keep your immune system strong. “It’s important to still maintain a high intake of whole grains and fruits and vegetables, and ensure you’re getting adequate amounts of protein,” says Moore. “You need to give yourself time to recuperate from the pregnancy process as well. Your body needs some healing time and the way to heal is through good nutrition.” “You’ve done the equivalent of running a marathon for the last nine months,” agrees Somer. “Even if you’ve eaten
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really well, you still need to recuperate nutritionally and build back the stores that have been used to build a baby. I consider that first year after the baby’s born as a chance to nutritionally nurture your body and bring it back up to speed.” That means continuing to eat lots of fruits and vegetables, whole grains, lean protein sources, dairy products, and drinking plenty of fluids. If you’re breastfeeding, your diet is even more critical — the nutrients you eat are passed along to your baby. Make nutrient-loaded choices, and limit sweets, chips, fatty foods, and other junk food. Remember that babies may not be receptive to everything you eat. “Some babies do not tolerate foods that may cause gas, like vegetables from the cabbage family, or change the flavor of the breast milk, such as garlic,” says McGarvey. Your baby may also have an intolerance to foods that you consume. “Monitoring your baby for signs and symptoms of food intolerances or sensitivities can help identify problems early on,” McGarvey adds. “Initially it may be challenging to determine if a colicky baby has gastro-esophageal reflux (GERD) that is related to a food allergy or another problem.” If a new mom notes rashes, digestive issues, or respiratory problems in her baby, McGarvey recommends checking her diet and talking to a healthcare professional. Resist the urge to slash your caloric intake to lose weight. If you eat healthfully, your baby weight will come off slowly without having to resort to a crash diet. It’s a good idea to maintain these healthy eating habits even after you’re recovered from giving birth — one in two pregnancies is unplanned. Good nutrition will set the stage for a healthy baby next time around as well — whether you’re expecting during the summer months or any other time of the year. Kelly James-Enger is a freelance writer. Her work has appeared in numerous family magazines and Woman’s Day, Health, Parents, Family Circle, Shape, Fitness, and Runner’s World.
health & wellness // By Malia Jacobson
Hello, Baby... Goodbye, Sleep helping your newborn sleep like a baby
iny, warm, and sweet-smelling, newborns are undeniably adorable.
Unfortunately, these perfect little bundles don’t come with instruction manuals. Along with the many surprises of early parenthood, many new parents find themselves puzzling over their baby’s sleep patterns. Is she sleeping too much? Is it normal for him to feed so much at night? Why are her naps so short? Baffled by your new baby’s sleep patterns? Wondering when you’ll get some sleep yourself? Here’s help.
If your baby doesn’t seem to fit the mold of a peacefully sleeping newborn, don’t fret. Your little one is one-of-a-kind, and so are his sleep habits. From their first days of life, babies have individualized sleep patterns. Some restful newborns snooze contentedly with no problems, sleep for long stretches at night, and take predicable (if not regular) naps throughout the day. Many other babies present their parents with some significant sleep challenges. Contrary to popular belief, newborns don’t just magically “sleep when they need to sleep.” And brand-new parents are usually just getting to know their new family member, and
haven’t yet figured out their baby’s unique sleep needs or sleep cues. But supporting healthy sleep starts early, so read on for tips on helping your new little one sleep well (so you can catch a few zzzs, too!).
Round-The-Clock Sleep Don’t be surprised if life with a new baby is a round-the-clock snoozefest (for the baby, at least). New parents are often shocked by how much new babies sleep, says Roslinde M. Collins, MD, sleep specialist at Vermont’s Rutland Regional Medical Center. “During the first month of life, newborns need a significant amount of sleep, up to 18 hours a day,”
she says. “But lots of parents wonder if something is wrong when their baby sleeps that much.”
Make Some Noise In the womb, your child drifted off to sleep surrounded by the whoosh of your pumping blood, the thumping of your beating heart, and the rumbling of your stomach. After being soothed by a comforting blanket of noise for nine months, new babies often find life outside the womb strangely quiet, says Harvey Karp, MD, pediatrician and bestselling author of The Happiest Baby On the Block. He recommends high-quality white noise to comfort newborns and help
• Newborns should sleep in cool environments below 70 degrees (sleeping in warm environments is linked to an increased risk of SIDS). • Place your infant to sleep on his or her back on a firm surface. • Don’t use bumpers, crib blankets, pillows, sheepskins, or toys in the crib. • Pajamas should be fitted, not floppy. • Swaddling blankets should not extend above the baby’s chin.
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support longer sleep periods. “White noise is like an audible teddy bear — it’s very soothing to babies,” he says.
Sleeping Beauty When your sleepy little one finally opens her eyes, grab your camera — she’ll be snoozing again before you know it. In the first month of life, most newborns can only tolerate being awake for 45 minutes to an hour at a time. An age-appropriate daily routine consists of feedings, diaper changings, short periods of playtime, and then being put back down to sleep. By three months of age, many babies can tolerate staying awake for an hour and a half at a stretch.
Unschedule Newborns don’t have a predictable nap schedule until three to four months of age when regular nap patterns begin to emerge. Until then, don’t fret about short naps. Just wake your child from any nap longer than two to three
hours, to protect nighttime sleep.
Nightowl Nudge In the early weeks of life, your baby’s circadian rhythm begins to develop. This “body clock” helps her organize her sleep patterns, resulting in more daytime wakefulness and sleepiness at night. This rhythm doesn’t fall into place until the second month of life. Until then, many babies swap day for night, preferring to snooze all day and play all night and leaving new parents knackered. “To help babies learn that night is for sleeping, seek out plenty of bright light during the day and avoid nighttime light exposure,” says Collins. This allows your baby’s brain to produce adequate melatonin during nighttime hours. “Melatonin is the hormone that tells our brains when we should be sleeping, and it’s suppressed during light exposure,” she notes. That means saying no to nightlights, installing blackout
curtains, and using a very dim light for nighttime feedings and diaper changes.
Sign Language Like older children, newborns give signs that they’re ready for sleep. But for new babies, sleep cues are often subtle. Appearing glassy-eyed and “burrowing” into your chest are signs that some babies are ready to be put down for sleep. Once your baby begins displaying these sleepy signs, move swiftly to get him down to sleep before overtiredness (and crankiness) sets in.
Winding Down You can help set the stage for peaceful bedtimes in the future by establishing a simple winddown routine. Performing the same sequence of events in the same order before naptime and bedtime helps your baby understand that sleep is near. A story, quiet time in a crib or bassinet, a feeding, and swaddling can all play a part in your child’s
Support Independent Sleep Parents often believe that newborns need to be rocked or nursed to sleep, but nursing and rocking are learned habits—in the womb, your baby drifted off to sleep without your help. It’s perfectly fine to nurse or rock a new baby to sleep, but if you’d like your child to learn to sleep independently, take small steps to start now. Put your baby down to sleep when he appears tired and try to allow him to fall asleep unassisted. Your kiddo may surprise you by revealing that he can fall asleep independently, at least some of the time. Allowing him to do so whenever possible is the key to healthy sleep habits through babyhood, toddlerhood, and beyond. Malia Jacobson is a nationally published health journalist and sleep expert. Her latest book is Sleep Tight, Every Night: Helping Toddlers and Preschoolers Sleep Well Without Tears, Tricks, or Tirades.
health & wellness // By Dr. Neil Herendeen
Finding Doctor Right how to find a primary care provider for your child
irst-time parents the first two years, so think about how a trip to the doctor will fit into your daily routine.
have so many
decisions to make and often can get overwhelmed with
well-meaning advice. One of those decisions is choosing a primary care provider (PCP) for your baby. We are fortunate in Rochester to have many outstanding pediatricians, family medicine providers and nurse practitioners in our community. With so many good healthcare options to choose from, your decision may come down to convenience, availability and compatibility.
Most commonly, parents choose their child’s pediatrician during the last trimester in preparation for their child’s birth. It is important to solicit friends and family for recommendations regarding a pediatric office since they know your personality traits and might be best at matching you with a practice that would suit you well. Here are factors you should take into account when making your decision.
Availability and Convenience Not all practices are accepting new patients and some will only
take patients from a specific geographic location, so make sure the office is taking new patients before you get your heart set one PCP. If you grew up in the area and liked your pediatrician, call and ask if she would care for your new baby as well. Pediatricians love to continue their relationships with the next generations in families. (He might even share a story or two with your child about what Daddy was like when he was growing up.) Look in your neighborhood or near your workplace or childcare center. You will be seeing your pediatrician frequently in
Is your pediatrician someone you feel comfortable talking to? Is there a nurse practitioner available to discuss your concerns and fears? These qualities are best examined with a personal interview. Most offices welcome new parents with a prenatal interview, but be sure to ask if there is a charge for this consultation.
Office Staff A well-run office begins with a courteous voice when you first call for an appointment and ends with billing staff that can answer your insurance questions. Does your pediatrician’s office welcome your call, provide
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information, and respond in a compassionate manner? Try to understand the triage system for acute and routine concerns. Solo practitioners will have a much different feel than a large practice, but you might be trading off services that the large office can provide like a lactation consultant or extended evening and weekend appointments.
Waiting Times for Appointments Most local providers make time to see children for illness concerns on the same day that you call. On the good side, this means that you will see a provider you know and trust in both good times and bad. On the down side, this may mean you have to wait for your appointment when the provider is running behind during the illness seasons. If you hate waiting, ask the secretary at the front desk what the average wait times are to see the doctor or what time of day you should schedule your appointment to minimize the wait.
Credentials Credentials (including where the physician was trained) tend not to predict much when it comes to parent satisfaction. Knowing where your provider trained is less important than knowing his communication style and personality. The training process after college to become a pediatrician includes four years of medical school along with three years of pediatric residency training. She must then pass a thorough examination of pediatrics in order to be “board certified.” Pediatric nurse practitioners must complete a Masters degree in nursing with clinical experience focused on caring for children and families. With a life-long commitment to keeping up on the latest medical knowledge, providers must complete at least 50
hours of continuing medical education each year. Teaching is what pediatrics is all about. Pediatricians help teach parents how to care for their children, teach children how to care for themselves, teach communities how to keep children safe and maximize their development, and teach the next generation of medical providers that how you do it is as important as what you do. Since all of you can remember a favorite teacher when you were growing up, think about the attributes of that teacher and use them to pick your primary care provider. Initially, you may not think that you want student doctors involved in your child’s care; however, the best pediatricians are often sought out by the medical school because they are the best teachers. Your pediatrician will also tell you that having medical students and pediatric residents in their office keeps them stimulated and on top of the latest advancements in medicine. Try not to get too anxious over the decision. Just like that paint color you picked for the baby’s room, it will either be perfect, grow on you with time, or drive you crazy, at which point you can make a more experienced choice next time. Dr. Neil Herendeen is Director of Pediatrics at Golisano Children’s Hospital and is the Medical Consultant for 292 BABY.
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activities // By Laurie Zottmann
Camping With Your Baby solutions for serenity during nights under the stars
amping with your baby can be fun and liberating, but it can also be intimidating. This is for good rea-
son; infants are complicated creatures, and sometimes it feels hard enough to meet their needs with a house full of resources, let alone on the road. You may be thinking, “Camping is for childless people who can fit all their needs into the car, and are not so desperately sleep deprived.” If so, read on; the following tips and encouragement from baby-camping veterans might sway you. They have learned that nobody needs or enjoys camping more than frazzled parents and their sensitive offspring.
Why Should I Bother? Sarah Lambert is a seasoned family camper who knows the benefits. She started both her girls camping as infants, and even camped while she was pregnant. She says, “I think my life is easier when we are camping, and I have more time for fun and adventures with my girls.” Sarah captures the paradox; although it takes a lot of preparation, taking your baby into the wild can ultimately break you free. You leave
behind the pressure to make everything perfect, and get to see how well your family and your brain thrive on simplicity. Another mother of two, Belinda McManus adds, “The best part about camping with kids is that it forces your family to spend time together without TV or electronics.” Many parents report that their babies enjoy outdoor entertainment as much as the adults do. While parents get restored by laid back hikes and starry skies, infants delight in watching the trees and birds. Older babies become endlessly enthralled exploring the new world of bugs, rocks, and sticks. Fretful minds unwind away from the multitasking demands of home.
How Do I Survive to Enjoy It? Parents who have conquered camping with infants know it is all about having realistic ex-
pectations and packing wisely. Those are the keys to unlock the top three challenges of baby camping:
Getting the Baby to Sleep Yes, it will be hard, but after a period of adjustment, peace will come. Be ready to try different things, and give it time. It took our ten month-old two nights of thinking that the apocalypse was nigh before she finally believed that tenting was okay, and she slept on the third blissful night. In addition to bringing a variety of familiar, soothing stimuli, most parents also find that keeping close to the usual schedule of bedtime and naps (even short ones on walks or drives) helps baby re-establish her rhythm. Starting a bit early with a relaxing bedtime routine in the tent also helps prime the pump for comfort and rest.
Coping with Crying in a Land Without Walls Given that baby is experiencing some major adjustment, some meltdowns are inevitable. The great news is that many of the best baby-soothing strategies are intrinsic to camping, like riding in the car, stroller or baby carrier, or focusing on sights and sounds like a babbling stream or the wind in the trees. You will also have bottles, soothers, and breastfeeding available. If all else fails, take your baby into the car for a little privacy, and just wait it out. It will pass, and your fellow campers will survive.
Regulating Baby’s Temperature Pack clothes in multiple layers, quick-dry fabrics, and with warm features that she can’t squirm out of (that is, hoods, footies, and fold-over hand cuffs rather than blankets, hats
packing for your little camper Best Multitaskers • Playpen (for sleep, play, and when covered, an escape from bugs and sun) • Stroller (for walks, naps, eating, and a safe place to watch parents work) • Baby Carrier (for walks, naps, and soothing) Nighttime and Sleep • Absolutely bring favorite bedtime loveys, blankets, music and books! • A playpen or travel crib, or zip-together sleeping bags for co-sleeping • A big (i.e. 6-10 man) tent that can easily fit your mattress and a playpen • A hands-free light (lantern/ head lamp) Clothes & Diapers • OVER PACK diapers and wipes (do not run out!) • For clothes, bring mix and match pieces in lots of layers and quick-dry fabrics • At least three full outfits; baby can rewear dirty items, but needs to keep dry • Try a sunsuit/fleece suit combo (see “Regulating Baby’s Temperature”) Mess Management • LOTS of paper towels and cloths • A bucket/dishtub to keep water handy • Lots of Ziplock bags for diapers and wet clothes • Use the dish tub for baths, if needed
and mittens). Expert infant campers Ryan and Verena Tarves have another elegant solution. They pack a few pairs of synthetic body suits (like UV-blocking water suits) and use them as a light outfit for splashing and roaming around in the midday heat, as well as a dry under layer at night. For cool evenings and sleeping, they top the suit with a hooded and footed fleece suit with
Cooking •P recooked meats, washed and cut veggies and fruit, and breads • For beginning eaters: mashable foods (like avocado and banana), squeeze tubes of purees, and instant oatmeal • For nursers: Heat up bottles in a cup of hot water or breastfeed Bug Protection • An elasticized net to cover the playpen, stroller, and backpack carrier • Bug spray (DEET-free) • Dryer sheets, Avon Skin-soSoft or Listerine • Long pants, long sleeves, and shoes or footie outfits to cover exposed skin Sun • Baby-safe sunscreen; hats; sunglasses; shade covers for the baby carrier or stroller, and UV suits. Entertainment • A bucket and shovel for digging and collecting • Rubber boots, a swim/sunsuit, water safety gear, floaties, life jacket, and towels to enjoy a nearby lakeshore or stream Health and Safety • A first aid kit (including everyday remedies for upset tummy and teething) • Get trained in Infant First Aid and CPR
fold-over hand covers. Another smart move: plan the location and the season of your trip accordingly so it will not get too cold at night. Heather Lee Leap tells how she kept her daughter comfy in a manageable chill; “We camped in the mountains around freezing at night with a toddler. We bundled her in
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polypro long johns, a fleece shirt and leggings, and her fleece snowsuit – with the hood up. She slept between us and we didn’t worry about her getting out from the covers!” Before you hit the trails you can talk to your pediatrician to ask for recommendations concerning the particular climate conditions you’re going to experience; he or she can give you a good suggestion for outfits and safety tips. Once you have conquered these three camping conundrums, you will be ready to find your family’s bliss in the woods. Pick up that baby, pack up that tent, and go have a wonderful, relaxing time in the bush. Laurie is the mother of twenty month-old Georgia. They survived their first camping trial by fire, and are thrilled to take their new confidence into the wild again this summer.
“We may not be able to prepare the future for our children, but we can at least prepare our children for the future.”
— Franklin D. Roosevelt
" The child supplies the power but the parents have to do the steering."
— Benjamin Spock
Parents who are afraid to put their foot down usually have children who step on their toes.
— Chinese Proverb
"When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.”
— Sophia Loren
spotlight // By Jillian Melnyk
The Huang Family Wayne & Kseniya, parents of Alexandra (13 months)
arenthood comes with its share of unexpected joys and challenges. New parents
Wayne and Kseniya take a break from their jobs in the software industry to share the adventure that has been their first year of parenthood.
Describe your parenting style: Attentive
Any particularly funny mom moments so far? Just
How/when did you come up with a baby name? We
the other day Alexandra was eating dinner and followed a big spoonful of rice with an even bigger sneeze – straight in to my face.
decided on boy and girl names years before getting pregnant – it took a lot of negotiation so we wanted to get that out of the way first!
Describe your daughter’s personality: Alexandra always
What’s your #1 baby bag must-have? Diapers, diapers,
has a plan and a destination.
What do you know now about parenting that you wish you knew before? The
Have you changed since becoming a parent? Yes,
Best piece of parenting advice you ever got: Sleep
we’re much more organized with our time now, and more active too, since we’re always taking Alexandra to local parks and festivals.
when the baby sleeps. This is the hardest one to follow!
Does parenthood differ from expectations? Absolutely!
What’s one trait you hope your daughter inherits from you? We hope she inherits our
first year goes by so quickly, there’s no harm in letting the dishes pile up in the sink and enjoying the baby instead.
What advice would you give to new parents? If
There are a lot of logistical challenges with having a newborn, and you’ll find yourself passing up fun activities more often than not. Enjoy it all now! If you have a newborn – enjoy them as much as possible, but don’t feel guilty taking time for yourself and for dating your spouse – you’ll all appreciate each other even more when you’re back together.
Most recent book you read to your daughter:The Belly Button Book by Sandra Boynton
Most recent meal you made: Avocado, cubed.
you’re expecting, don’t wait to go see that movie, take that road trip, read that book. Rochester Baby Guide Summer 2013
spotlight // By Jillian Melnyk
The Courtney Family Katie & Dan, parents of Sean (4 ½), Bridget (3), & Mary Katherine (7 months)
s a family grows, each child brings a new set of challenges, and rewards. Katie and Dan Courtney share what they’ve learned as their
family expanded to include their third child, Mary Katherine, who was
born on Christmas morning.
Describe your parenting style: I’d says mine is fluid. The irony is that Dan says his is structured.
Does parenthood differ from expectations? I didn’t realize how much work it would be, but I also didn’t realize how rewarding it would be.
What’s one trait you hope your children inherit from you? My sense of humor. I love when they laugh after making someone else laugh. Even if I’m not really funny it is fun to think you are at least.
What do you know now about parenting that you wish you knew before? For my first child I would always do diaper changes at night – lights on and singing. I learned by #2 to keep the lights off and only change the diaper if it smelled... it helped get them adjusted to the nighttime routine.
Any particularly funny mom moments so far? Funny in retrospect – the first
time all three were crying and I was flying solo. I laughed at the time but probably not because it was funny.
What’s your #1 baby bag must-have? WIPES – from age 0 to 30.
How is having your third child different than the first two? I am more laid back and I think it has helped the baby be more relaxed and laid back as well. Because we are outnumbered, I am comfortable handing the baby off when I need to attend to the other ones or just letting her cry/fuss to take care of more immediate needs. I do not jump when she makes a noise or needs something. The other two were also very close in age (18 months) so I feel like I am enjoying this one a bit more because it is more than likely our last. How is it similar? The unconditional love – I was worried how I could love another child as much as I already loved the first two. But the heart really does grow.
How are the older siblings doing with the new baby? Both love her so much and are always telling people about her! A few weeks after she was born, Sean brought home a picture from preschool that was a fill-in-the-blank worksheet with the words “My favorite Christmas present” and he had the teacher write “my baby sister” and he drew a picture of her. It was so precious. Both older siblings love helping to feed her and change her (provided there is not a poopy diaper). Bridget likes to just lie on the floor with her talking and singing away – it is like they are already talking their own secret language.
Best piece of parenting advice you ever got: Trust your gut. There are so many books, magazines, and internet sites that tell you what to do and how to do it. Of course there is a new article every day about how to parent and raise
the most successful children. At the end of the day though, you have to do what works best for you and your family.
What advice would you give to new parents? It is okay for them to cry once and a while. They will learn to soothe themselves. And now the older ones have also learned how to comfort her and make her smile.
Most recent book you read to your kids: The Moon Shines Down by Margaret Wise Brown
Most recent meal you made: Grilled Pork Tenderloin with apple sauce and crock-pot mac-n-cheese.
Rochester Baby Guide Summer 2013
spotlight // By Jillian Melnyk
The Sargent Family Jenn & Dan, parents of Quinn Annabelle (3 ½) & Logan Juliette (newborn)
ith only a handful of days left before their second baby was due to arrive, Jenn and Dan Sargent share
their expectations and hopes for adding their newest family member. At the time of the interview, the parents of three-year-old Quinn were expecting their second child in mid-June. They’re since welcomed baby Logan Juliette to the world.
Describe your parenting style: Laid-back. Does parenthood differ from expectations? Parenting when Quinn was a newborn and infant was pretty much what we expected. We were amazed with how quickly she grew in to a little person, became independent and strong willed. We did not realize how much fun hanging out with a three year old could be!
Have you changed since becoming a mother? Yes, my priorities have changed. Now, my kids are the first thing on my mind all of the day. I feel so much more of a purpose knowing that I am responsible for their growth and well-being. I have gained confidence, patience, and compassion.
Does your baby name have any particular meaning? The middle name,
The easy-going, laid-back attitude that draws people to him, and makes him fun to be around.
Juliette, is the name of one of Dan’s Great Aunts. She is a feisty, inspiring woman who is in her early 90s, lives alone, drives a huge Cadillac and tells it like it is. We are hoping that our new little girl will inherit her fiery personality.
What do you know now about parenting that you wish you knew before?
Was your second pregnancy different from your first?
What’s one trait you hope your children inherit from you? Jenn: Determination. Dan:
That being relaxed is probably the best thing you can do; for your baby, yourself, and your marriage. Babies are resilient and go with the flow, if we were calm, she was calm – and that is still true even as she grows.
Yes, with my first pregnancy I was able to rest. I remember coming home from work and napping. I always knew exactly how many weeks and days I was. We also didn’t find out Quinn’s gender until birth. The
second pregnancy there has been no resting! We are scrambling to get everything ready for the baby’s arrival. With Quinn, we were completely ready at least 6 weeks in advance!
Was Quinn excited for the baby to arrive? Quinn is very
What’s your #1 baby bag must-have? Extra outfits – for those lovely up-the-back diaper blowouts!
Best piece of parenting advice you ever got: “You can’t love a baby too much.”
excited to be a big sister. We read What Baby Needs from the Dr. Sears library to help her prepare for the change. She is excited to help, but of course, says she will not be changing any dirty diapers!
What advice would you give to new parents? Relax,
What’s one thing you’re going to do differently this time? We are going to be
Most recent book you read to your kids: Pinkalicious by
more relaxed. It took us about 6 months to get comfortable parenting Quinn. Now that we know that we can do it, and do it fairly well, I feel like we will be much calmer from the beginning.
ask for help when you need it, and try to make the baby fit into your life wherever possible. You don’t need to completely re-create your life after baby.
Most recent meal you made: A brown rice casserole with chicken, black beans and corn.
A huge thank you to the families who shared their stories for our baby guide spotlight! We know that raising kids keeps them (and you!) exceptionally BUSY, so we're grateful that they took a few moments out of their day to share a bit about themselves!
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Rochester Baby Guide Summer 2013
education & development // By Carolyn Jabs
Rewiring Baby Brains tips for your baby and technology
t’s a rule nearly every parent breaks – The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends that children under two have no expo-
sure to screens. That guideline was hard enough to follow when it applied to background TV and baby videos. Now that very young children are reaching for smartphones and tablets, most parents hand them over sooner or later.
Some experts argue that these screens are different because they are interactive. When a little child pokes the screen, something exciting happens. There’s no question that this kind of cause and effect is mesmerizing, but is it good for little brains? The honest answer is no one knows because there hasn’t been time to do the relevant research.
At birth, each baby brain cell has about 2,500 synapses or connections to other brain cells. Around age three, the typical brain cell has 15,000 connections because of the baby’s astonishing ability to learn.
What scientists do know is that baby brains grow dramatically. At birth, each baby brain cell has about 2,500 synapses or connections to other brain cells. Around age three, the typical brain cell has 15,000 connections because of the baby’s astonishing ability to learn. The AAP argues that there’s no reason to take chances with that development. Even if there’s no evidence that screen time is bad for baby brains, there’s also no evidence that it does anything to promote healthy growth either. In some ways, this mirrors the conversation about sugary foods. Parents know candy and cookies aren’t necessary for growth. And, in large quantities, they displace other essential nutrients. Yet, sooner or later, most parents introduce kids to the pleasures of lollipops and birthday cake. Depending on how it’s done, the child may accept these foods as occasional treats or he may whine for candy every time he finds himself in a checkout aisle.
Until we have evidence that screen time is good for babies and toddlers, access to technology should be limited and thoughtfully supervised by parents. Since you can’t see what’s happening in your baby’s brain, you’ll need other indicators to be sure development is on track. Here are a few questions worth asking:
Is your child excited to play with you? Experts agree that a deep connection with parents is crucial during the first two years of life. Early interactions in which children learn to make and break eye contact or to take turns making sounds become the foundation for emotional intelligence. Having face to face fun with your baby sets up a lifelong assumption that interacting with people is rewarding for its own sake.
Do people talk to your child — a lot? Research done in the 1990’s demonstrated that babies who hear around 2,000 words per hour do better in school and even have higher IQ’s. That’s because the language centers of the brain are especially absor-
bent during the first three years. Recorded words don’t make much of an impression. Language needs to be tailored to the child, responsive both to what she is doing and her emotions. Parents, of course, aren’t the only ones who should be talking to babies. Be sure other caregivers are aware of how important it is to use language with children, even if they seem like they are too young to understand.
Does your child enjoy three dimensional play? Babies and toddlers figure out the world by picking things up, chewing on them, poking, throwing, rolling and stacking them. Not only is this fun, but it gives your child the basis for concepts like round and flat, fuzzy and smooth. A touch screen may reference these ideas but it takes lots of real life experience to get them fixed firmly in the brain. Healthy babies are always reaching and exploring. Most of what they find should stimulate multiple senses.
Can your child detach from the screen? Some parents report that little ones become fixated on smartphones and tablets, whining for them when they could be doing other things and melting down when parents take them away. According to Michael Rich, director of Boston’s Center on Media and Child Health, this occurs because the visual stimuli of many apps gives children a regular squirt of dopamine, a brain chemical that creates sensations of pleasure. Too much of this can create cravings that babies – and sometimes older people – can’t resist.
Is your child able to settle down for quiet time and sleeping? Because baby brains are growing so rapidly, they can easily become overstimulated. Being able to settle and sleep peacefully is a lifelong skill, and most
parents intuitively help little children calm down by gentle rocking, singing and stroking. Research indicates that the light emitted by screens stimulates brain waves in ways that interfere with sleep, so screentime should never be part of a baby’s bedtime routine.
Can you focus on your child? No matter what you say, young children will mimic what you do. If you are tethered to your devices – checking e-mail during diaper changes, texting during playtime, talking on the phone during walks with your baby – your behavior will imprint on your child. More importantly, your distraction will keep you from playing, what Uri Bronfenbrenner, co-founder of Head Start, called “ping pong” with your child. “Ping pong” works like this: your baby giggles and you repeat whatever you did to make her laugh. Your toddler says something that sounds like “Mama” and you respond with delight. As Bronfenbrenner famously put it, healthy development occurs “through the process of progressively more complex exchange between a child and somebody else – especially somebody who’s crazy about that child.” If you can answer “yes” to all these questions, you can be confident that your baby’s brain is getting what it needs. Under those circumstances, handing over the smartphone to secure a moment of quiet isn’t any more harmful than offering a cookie for the same reason. Neither is likely to undermine healthy development for your baby, unless you turn it into a habit. Carolyn Jabs, MA, raised three computer savvy kids including one with special needs. She has been writing Growing Up Online for ten years and is working on a book about constructive responses to conflict. Visit www. growing-up-online.com to read other columns. Rochester Baby Guide Summer 2013
education & development // By Robin Benoit
Reading to Babies
the importance of early literacy
t’s never too soon to read to your baby! Studies have proven that literacy
skills can be developed starting at birth, and that parents are the most important influence in helping their children get ready to read. Sharing books and Mother Goose rhymes, as well as just looking at pictures, are easy ways to encourage early literacy – even before your baby’s first birthday.
Picking Your Reads Many moms and dads shy away from reading to their infants because they are unsure of what to pick. Board books and picture books with bright images and just a few words are your best bets. What exactly is a board book? Board books are smaller than normal picturebooks, and have tough, indestructible cardboard pages. Many classic titles, such as Goodnight Moon by Margaret Wise Brown or Brown Bear, Brown Bear by Bill Martin come in board book format. In general, look for books with rounded corners that won’t hurt your baby if he happens to poke himself with it, books that have tactile inserts for baby to touch, or even books with mirrors in them so baby
can see himself. Board books are great because a baby can handle them himself – even learning to turn pages is an important early literacy skill.
Reading to Babies on the Go Once babies become more mobile, it can be frustrating to try to read to a child who is more interested in crawling and wiggling than in listening, but don’t let that discourage you. Sit on the floor with a board book or a picture book and read in your most expressive voice while your child crawls around. She will enjoy hearing your voice and the words, will come and look at the pages from time to time, but will not experience the frustration of having to sit
(when developmentally everything inside is telling her to MOVE).
Improvising It isn’t necessary to read every word of the book – feel free to improvise. You and your baby may enjoy just looking at the pictures and pointing to things. Reading an entire book may not be an option, so that’s where rhymes come in. Rhymes are fun to say and can be interactive. They can make changing diapers or putting on clothes more fun. They can sometimes even turn tears to smiles. A terrific book to own that has lots of
short, catchy rhymes along with stunning illustrations is The Everything Book by Denise Fleming. The key to keeping reading fun is to make it more like play and less like “serious study.” Laugh, make faces, and end every reading session with lots of applause; your baby is making her first steps toward becoming a reader! Robin Benoit is a Children’s Librarian at the Fairport Public Library.
"A two-year old is kind of like having a blender, but you don’t have a top for it.”
— Jerry Seinfeld
" It's not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can't tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it, myself."
— Joyce Maynard
Rochester Baby Guide Summer 2013
education & development // By Jillian Melnyk
Baby Book Nook
book recommendations from rochester area librarians
eady to read to your baby but unsure of where to start? Let this selection of picks from
local librarians be your guide.
Our Panel of Experts MK / Matt Kreuger, Seymour Public Library, Brockport TB / Tonia Burton, Central Library of Rochester & Monroe County KF / Kirsten Flass, Rush Public Library JM / Jane McManus, Winton Branch Library SM / Stacey Martin, Chili Public Library
Favorite Book to Snuggle With
Favorite Recent Release
Each Peach Pear Plum / By Janet & Allan Ahlberg / MK
Penguin Says “Please” / By Michael Dahl & Illustrated by Oriol Vidal / MK
I Love You Through and Through / By Rossetti-Shustak & Illustrated by Jayne Church / TB
Open This Little Book / By Jesse Klausmeier & Illustrated by Suzy Lee / TB
On Mother’s Lap / By Ann Herbert Scott & Illustrated by Glo Coalson / JM
Otto the Book Bear / By Katie Clemenson / JM
The Napping House / By Audrey Wood & Illustrated by Don Wood / SM
Mustache Baby / By Bridget Heos & Illustrated by Joy Ang / SM
Favorite Color Book Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What Do You See? / By Bill Martin Jr. & Illustrated by Eric Carle / MK + SM Color Zoo / By Lois Ehlert / TB Pete the Cat: I Love My White Shoes / By Eric Litwin & Illustrated by James Dean / JM
Favorite Book for Mom & Baby Does a Kangaroo Have a Mother, Too? / By Eric Carle / MK Mama Says: A Book of Love for Mothers and Sons / By Rob Walker & Illustrated by Diane & Leo Dillon / TB Stay Close to Mama / By Toni Buzzeo & Illustrated by Mike Wohnoutka / JM Guess How Much I Love You? / By Sam McBratney & Illustrated by Anita Jeram / SM
Favorite Book for Dad & Baby
Daddy Hugs / By Karen Katz / TB
To the Tub / By Peggy Perry Anderson / JM
Favorite Book for Bedtime
Pajama Time / By Sandra Boynton / MK + TB Sleep Like a Tiger / By Mary Logue & Illustrated by Pamela Zagarenski / JM Goodnight Moon / By Margaret Wise Brown & Illustrated by Clement Hurd / SM
Best Baby Shower Book Are You My Mother? / By P.D. Eastman (You can buy the stuffed baby bird to go with it!) / MK Baby Cakes / By Karma Wilson & Illustrated by Sam Williams / TB Mary Engelbreit’s Mother Goose Book / By Mary Engelbriet / JM Chicka Chicka Boom Boom / By Bill Martin Jr & John Archambault & Illustrated by Lois Ehlert / SM
Favorite Nature Book ZooBorns / By Andrew Bleiman (The cutest baby animals you will ever see!) / MK Planting a Rainbow / By Lois Ehlert / TB The Conductor / By Laetitia Devernay / JM Snowballs / By Lois Ehlert / SM
Top Favorite Pick This is My Hair / By Todd Parr / “I read this to my one-year-old niece about 100 times in two days and she giggled every time — by the end I could draw the story for her and we were both still laughing!” MK Don’t Let the Pigeon Stay Up Late / By Mo Willems / TB Dinner at the Panda Palace / By Stepahnie Calmenson & Illustrated by Nadine Bernard Westcott / “I love it because it’s a rhyming story, a counting story, kids learn about many different kinds of animals and what they eat, and if you are so inclined, there are lots of opportunities to do silly voices for each animal.” KF Pigs Aplenty, Pigs Galore! / By David McPhail / JM Cloudy With a Chance of Meatballs / By Judi Barrett & Illustrated by Ron Barrett / SM Rochester Baby Guide Summer 2013
education & development // By Rose Shufelt
First Connections how early experiences affect brain development
uring the first three years of life, a baby’s
brain develops approximately ninety percent. When you hold a newborn baby in your arms for the first time, you may wonder, “Will he be healthy and happy?” “Will she do well in school and get along with other kids?” And “Will he grow up to become a caring, responsible adult?” Research has shown that the answers to those questions rely heavily on the early experiences that a child receives.
At birth, we start with approximately 100 billion neurons (brain cells) that have already traveled to the right sections of the brain and have begun connecting with each other. Additional connections are made after birth and the existing ones are strengthened. This is why early experiences are essential. Infants and toddlers learn through their senses and hands-on experiences. They need to be able to touch, taste, move, and manipulate objects in order to learn. These connections help a child grow physically,
emotionally, cognitively, and socially. The more engaged a child is playing and enjoying himself, the more he is learning. There are five key factors that have been identified by researchers for healthy brain development of infants and toddlers. When looking for child care for your infant or toddler, ask questions and observe programs to make sure that they fulfill the following components. Whether or not you are selecting child care, you should also practice these skills at home to promote healthy development.
The secure attachment that a child develops with her caregivers is a basis for healthy brain development. Caregivers need to provide love and affection to a baby by touching, holding, rocking, singing and talking to her. Positive relationships support curiosity, self-direction, cooperation, conflict resolution, and caring behaviors. Programs should be practicing primary and continuity of care. This allows for optimal relationships to develop between caregiver and baby, and caregiver and parent. The primary caregiver at a child care center should stay with the child for more than a year (the best practice being from entry into a child care setting until the age of three). This continuity of care allows a child to build a positive relationship with his or her caregiver and strengthens the
child’s overall development. Switching caregivers frequently hinders a child’s ability to flourish. Small groups with high staff-to-child ratios allows for optimal time and attention that each caregiver can devote to individual children.
Responsive Interactions Babies depend on adults to respond quickly to meet their needs. Early care providers need to pick up a crying baby, laugh, and smile together. This engages brain activity in ways that promote trust and security. When choosing a child care facility, parents should look for one where caregivers are trained in early care and education that focuses on issues related to children from birth to three. This is vital if caregivers are to understand the importance of these responsive interactions to early brain development.
Respect Caregivers should talk to a baby. For example, caregivers should explain their everyday tasks that involve baby and should say things like, “I am going to change your diaper now.” A caregiver should recognize a child’s attempts and accomplishments, and respond positively and quickly to their cues. This creates positive emotions that are essential to brain development. In doing so, a child knows that he or she is important and valued.
Routines Having predictable routines for children creates less stress and fears. Routines include hellos and goodbyes, diapering and toileting, mealtimes, sleeping, and getting dressed. Make sure your care provider keeps these times as regular as possible so your child knows what is coming next.
Repetition When children repeat experiences, they are able to practice their skills and the connections between brain cells are strengthened and become permanent. Repetition allows a child to feel confident and helps enhance self-esteem. It is important to let children practice and repeat activities as much as they want. In addition, there is a need for age-appropriate environments. Babies and toddlers need safe areas for quiet and active play (both indoors and outside) that provide toys and activities to promote individualized programming and include spaces for sleeping, and spaces to interact one-onone with their caregivers. In addition to the above, the other components to look for when choosing child care include basic health and safety practices (hand washing procedures, basic sanitizing practices, medication administration and safe sleep practices), programs that support emerging language and literacy, curriculum, observation, individualized planning, family involvement, cultural continuity, and a program that provides comprehensive support services to the families they serve. Remember, the early experiences that we give to our babies have a profound effect on later development. Positive, reflective interactions with caregivers and simple activities that require little or no materials are vital for the growing and developing brain. Work with your child care provider to make a personal commitment to invest in your child’s early years. In doing so, you are investing in his future. Rose Shufelt is an Infant/Toddler Specialist at the Child Care Council, Inc. in Rochester.
Rochester Baby Guide Summer 2013
education & development // By Mary Louise Musler
a conversation with a seasoned child care practitioner
oddlers – wiggly, giggly, adventurous. They love to explore and engage. Learn all about toddlers in this conversation with Mary
Louise Musler, Early Childhood Specialist, and Drew Beeman, Toddler Program Coordinator at Rochester Childfirst Network.
ML: When someone asks you what is important when working with toddlers, what do you say? DB: In my work with toddlers I find that the three “Rs” of early care and learning are very important – relationship, responsibility, and redirection. I also believe that it’s very important to understand their needs, desires, and challenges. ML: What draws you to this arena and to this age group? DB: I love my job and chosen career, and I delight in watching these little ones explore their world, and discover the inherent magic in it. Well not magic really, but to them it may seem like it. Adults must remember and never forget what it was like when everything was brand new to us. ML: In my work in the field, I have learned that attachment is important. Do you agree? DB: I agree. Young children need secure relationships with the adults in their lives. Not only do they need to be firmly bonded with at least
one parent, they need to form attachments with their caregivers in order to feel secure in the learning environment. The studies have shown that children need secure attachments in order to learn and thrive. ML: Sometimes people have differing views of the term discipline. Explain your view. DB: I see discipline as teaching. I make no moral judgments with terms like “good” and “bad choices,” knowing that these little ones are not bad when they hit, they are just doing what toddlers do. Remember Bam Bam from the Flintstones? He is the perfect depiction of your typical young toddler. ML: Can you actually teach toddlers who may be as young as eighteen months? DB: Redirection is the name of the game when it comes to discipline. I think you can teach toddlers. We can always find a positive replacement activity and say, “I cannot let you hit your friends but you may hit the pillows.” “You may not pound with our chalk
and crayons because they will break, but you may go pound with the hammer on the hammer bench.” “You may not throw blocks it could hurt someone, but you may throw the balls.” Do you see how this redirects them to make responsible choices while passing no moral judgments? I know toddlers need to pound, and hit, and throw, and run, and climb – that is developmentally appropriate behavior for toddlers. I need to provide a safe environment for them to be toddlers. ML: Developmentally appropriate seems to be the key understanding here. DB: It is vital. I love to provide toddlers with developmentally appropriate experiences that are diverse, meaningful, and relevant – but also just plain fun! I love creating environments where they can explore, and experiment, and discover as much as possible what the world has to offer. The three “Rs” set the stage for this exploration, and the freedom to play and explore sets the stage
for a lifelong love of learning and success. ML: It sounds as if you don’t believe in the “terrible” twos. What do you think parents need to know about toddlers and their development? DB: I’d like parents to understand that social and emotional development is the most important focus for school readiness and lifelong success. Adults, as facilitators of their children’s growth, need to take a developmental point of view as their children grow and learn. ML: Can you give an example? DB: Every parent will be delighted to know that tantrums become reduced as language is learned and used. As the adults around them narrate their experiences, the children begin
to associate words with their contextual meanings. We know that their receptive language comes before their expressive language. They understand us even if they cannot yet speak. They usually begin to speak, as we encourage them and use language in fun and meaningful ways. I have recently had the pleasure of hearing many of the toddlers in my care begin to speak, and sing. It usually starts when we have our gathering time and sing their favorite songs and perform finger plays. We actually do pretty much the same songs and finger plays everyday, repetition is the key. ML: It is clear that you really love your role. DB: I chose this career because of the wonderful childhood I had. Being a male caregiver has its challenges, as I am sure you can imagine, but I know that I play a necessary role in the lives of these children. I know I am really making a difference. I do this work because I love watching children grow and learn and I believe I have a strong influence on their future. ď€Ť
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new parenthood // By Neil Herendeen
Preparing for Parenthood finding answers to your parenting questions
amily and friends have been the trusted advisers for new parents for centuries and medical providers have been
added in as family counselors for decades. Now through
social media, parents have access to unlimited information and advice at their fingertips day and night. The new difficulty is sorting out which resources parents should trust and how to personalize general advice.
One of the most common expressions new parents hear is “you don’t know what you are getting yourself into.” Despite your initial reaction of being insulted, when you stop to think about it, none of us really knows what to expect when you bring a newborn baby home, transition to toddlerhood, or wake up to find an adolescent replacing your preschooler. What you do know is that this will be a learning experience at so many levels. These tips should help you navigate the journey.
Talk to and LISTEN to your significant other. So often we jump to outside advice when the answer may be as close as your child’s primary caregiver. Who better knows your baby’s personality, temperament, routines and desires? Treat parenting as a team sport and appreciate your partner’s strengths and talents to complement
your style. Different does not mean wrong and your child will quickly learn to adapt his behavior to different caregivers’ expectations. Discuss your basic child-rearing philosophy with your spouse. Each parent brings their personal experience from their own upbringing and may have strong feelings of how they want to raise their child. Check back on a regular basis to see if attitudes or expectations have changed over time as the reality of parenting settles in.
Look for role models within your family or close circle of friends. Some parents make it look easy but as you are about to find out, there is more beneath the surface. Your friends will both fill with pride and share their secrets if you tell them how much you admire their parenting.
Educate yourself early. You didn’t wait until your new car was in the driveway to learn how to drive. Read anything you can: magazines, books, educational pamphlets, text messages, blogs, whatever format works for you. Sign up for “text4baby” to receive educational tips on your cellphone during your pregnancy and throughout your baby’s first year of life.
Be prepared. Bring a list of your questions to your well-child care visits in order to make sure your concerns don’t get overlooked. There are so many topics to cover that something may get missed if you don’t organize your thoughts.
Know how to use advice. Remember when you get conflicting advice from well-meaning people it usually means there is no correct answer, just different styles to achieve the same result. As a parent, trust your instinct and decide what you think is best for you and your child. Love will always smooth over any mistakes we make. Dr. Neil Herendeen is Director of Pediatrics at Golisano Children’s Hospital and is the Medical Consultant for 292-BABY.
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community // By Jim Coffey
a local resource for parents & families
ongratulations! Whether it’s your first child or your fourth, the experience will most likely
transform you in ways you might never have expected. While the challenges are many, scores of parents describe the experience as the most fulfilling in their lives.
One challenge many parents have identified is a sense of isolation at home with their babies; they wish that they could more easily access information about their child’s development during the first three critical years of life. Our community has responded to those needs and we are proud to introduce you to 292-BABY, the nation’s first community-wide, interactive, communication network designed to serve you, the parents and care-givers of infants and toddlers. Administered by Monroe Community College with 15 community partners, we have connected the telephone, television and internet to each other to create one seamless system that you can access in several ways. Through 292-BABY, you can reduce isolation and access important informa-
tion when you need it. All services are free and here’s how each of the parts work:
292-BABY WEBSITE Visit www.292baby.org to access more than 100 videos that are now available 24/7 to view whenever you want to watch. The 292-Baby website offers the largest selection of educational videos for early childhood in the world! The videos are arranged by developmental stages as well as interest areas such as: breastfeeding, adoption, immunizations, lead poisoning, childhood obesity and more. In addition, there is the Early Educators’ page where information about training and community resources for those working in the fields of early child care and education can be found.
292-BABY TV Programming:
8pm-9pm on Time Warner Cable Channel 4 Monday: Focus on breastfeeding. Dr. Ruth Lawrence, one of the nation’s foremost authorities on breastfeeding, has been featured in three of them. Tuesday: Focus on adoption. Wednesday-Friday: A variety of programming focusing on early childhood.
The “PARENT TALK” LINE-UP:
“Parent Talk” airs daily from 9pm-10pm on Time Warner Cable Channel 4. Monday: Pregnancy and the first three months of life Tuesday: 3 to 12 months Wednesday: 12 to 24 months Thursday: 24 to 36+ months Friday: Community resources
292-BABY TELEPHONE 292-BABY (292-2229) is a number you can call to talk free to a registered nurse about any NON-EMERGENCY issue you may have. From head to toe, whether the issue is breastfeeding your baby or advice concerning your finicky-eating two-year old, the nurses are happy to “talk babies” with you. In fact, they love it! Even if you just need to know whether or not you should call your pediatrician, don’t hesitate to call seven days a week from 7 am to midnight. The service is available in Spanish during normal weekday, working hours.
292-BABY TELEVISION 292-BABY has produced more than 100 educational videos, featuring local and national experts, in a “television talkshow” format called Parent Talk. Focusing on a wide variety of important issues in early childhood, the series is replayed Monday through Friday evenings from 9-10 pm on Cable Channel 4. The videos are organized according to developmental stages so that Mon-
day’s programming focuses on pregnancy and the first three months of life; Tuesday’s focus is from three to 12 months; Wednesday’s focus from 12 to 24 months; Thursday’s focus from 24 to 36+ months; and Friday’s programming introduces you to a variety of community resources. (These videos are now all available on the 292-Baby website.) Additional programming is available from 8-9 pm, Monday through Friday, also on Cable Channel 4. Monday evenings feature a show on breastfeeding. Dr. Ruth Lawrence, one of the nation’s foremost authorities on breast-feeding, has been featured in three of them. Tuesday evenings at 8 pm, the focus is on adoption, while Wednesday through Friday evenings concentrate on a variety of early childhood issues. Please write to email@example.com with any suggestions or feedback you may have. While the three components can operate independently, they are actually connected. For example, you may be watching one of our videos
on television that deals with the introduction of solid foods to four-month-olds and you are trying to decide if the time is right for you and your baby. You can call 292-BABY (292-2229) and talk free with a registered nurse who will make sure you have all the vital information needed for an informed decision. At www.292baby. org you can watch the show. Maybe you know someone who would want the information found in the video that is on the website. You can use your mouse to highlight the link on the website, copy it and paste it into an email and send it to that person. All they need to do is click on the link and the video will play on their computer.
create the Parent Talk series. (If you wish to support us financially, please go to our home page at www.292baby.org and click on the “Support 292BABY” icon.) It is the goal of the 292-BABY network to make your experience with your baby as rich and rewarding as it can be. Please let us know how we can serve you! Jim Coffey is the Founder of 292BABY and a Professor of Communication at Monroe Community College.
Please provide feedback on the “survey” page and be sure to join. All you need is a valid email address. 292- BABY is a non-profit, educational program and, as such, does NOT share any information with any outside agency. We are grateful to all of the community’s early childhood professionals who have donated their time and expertise free of charge to
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Services & Groups
Adoption Resource Network at Hillside Children’s Center 100 Metro Park, Rochester 14623 350-2500 www.hillside.com/AdoptionMain Jewish Family Services of Rochester, Inc. 441 East Ave., Rochester 14607 461-0115 ext.120 www.jfsrochester.org/adoption.php
services and leading-edge, minimally invasive OB/GYN procedures.
Child Care Resources
Child Care Council, Inc. 595 Blossom Rd., Suite 120, Rochester 14610. 654-4720 | www.childcarecouncil.com
Strong Beginnings Education Program 601 Elmwood Ave., Rochester 14642 275-0096 http://www.stronghealth.com/services/womenshealth/maternity/strongbeginnings.cfm
Strong Fertility Center 500 Red Creek Drive, Suite 220, Rochester 14623. 487-3378 | www.fertility.urmc.edu Strong Midwifery Group 905 Culver Rd., Rochester 14609 275-7892 | www.midwifery.urmc.edu
Highland Hospital Breast Pump Rentals. Operates in conjunction with Highland Hospital Lactation Education services. 341-0519 www.urmc.rochester.edu/hh/services-centers/ maternity
Birthright of Rochester 385-2100 or toll free at 800-550-4900 www.birthright.org Emergency pregnancy support services. Pregnancy tests, non-judgmental counseling, follow-up, material assistance, and referrals.
Highland Hospital Mother’s Help Line. 341-8021
Highland Hospital Center for Women 1000 South Ave., Rochester 14620 271-4636 473-2229 for Family Classes Highland Hospital Childbirth Classes . 473-2229 www.urmc.rochester.edu/hh/services-centers/maternity/childbirth-programs.cfm
La Leche League Lifeline Call Lifeline at 275-5151 for referral to the local leader nearest you.
Infertility Focus, Inc. P.O. Box 343, Pittsford 14534 385-1628 | www.infertilityfocus.org
Rochester General Lactation Consultant 922-LINK (-5465) www.rochestergeneral.org
Planned Parenthood of the Rochester/ Syracuse Region 114 University Ave., Rochester 14605 866-600-6886 | www.pprsr.org A non-profit organization that provides education and reproductive health-care services regardless of age, race, sexual orientation, disability or economic circumstances.
Highland Hospital 1000 South Ave., Rochester 14620 473-2200 | www.highland.urmc.edu Exceptional healthcare specialist skill delivered with a warm, attentive, compassionate attitude. A family-centered hospital which considers every visitor (patient, family member or friend) a guest.
Rochester General Childbirth Education Program 1425 Portland Ave., Rochester 14621 922-5465 or 877-922-5465 www.rochestergeneralhospital.org Rochester General Hospital offers a modern Birthing Center, outstanding pediatric
Newark-Wayne Community Hospital 1212 Driving Park Ave.,Newark 14513 (315) 332-2022 www.rochestergeneral.org Dedicated to providing the best care possible (to people from Wayne County and beyond) in direct partnership with Rochester General hospital.
Highland Hospital Lactation Consultant. 341-6808
URMC Breastfeeding Hotline 275-9575 | (Noon-1 p.m. M-W-F) 275-0096 | Breastfeeding classes The Specialty Shop at Strong Memorial Hospital 601 Elmwood Av, Rochester 273-1276 | (10 a.m.-2:30 p.m. M-F)
Golisano Children’s Hospital 601 Elmwood Ave., Rochester 275-URMC (8762) www.golisano.urmc.edu A division of U of R Medical Center, Golisano Children’s Hospital at Strong Memorial Hospital is the area’s only children’s hospital and a referral center for seriously ill and injured children from the Finger Lakes region.
Rochester General Hospital 1425 Portland Ave., Rochester 14621 922-4000 | www.rochestergeneral.org Modern Birthing Center, outstanding pediatric services and leading-edge, minimally invasive OB/GYN procedures. Among Thomson Reuters List of Nation’s 100 Top Hospitals® for Cardiovascular Care. Strong Memorial Hospital 601 Elmwood Ave., Rochester 14642 275-2100 | www.strong.urmc.edu Strong Memorial Hospital, Highland Hospital and Golisano Children’s Hospital (w/other Strong Health care providers) are part of The U of R Medical Center – a leader in clinical care, research and education. Unity Hospital (formerly Park Ridge Hospital) 1555 Long Pond Rd., Rochester 14626 723-7000 | www.unityhealth.org Offering specialty services at Unity Hospital and at more than 50 other locations throughout Rochester and Monroe County (including Unity St. Mary’s Campus in Rochester, formerly St. Mary’s Hospital).
DONA International (Doulas of North America) 888-788-DONA (3662), Toll Free www.dona.org Doula Cooperative 234-0164 | www.doulacooperative.org Strong Midwifery 905 Culver Rd.,Suite 2B, Rochester 14609 275-7892 | www.midwifery.urmc.edu
Parenting support Groups & Services 2-1-1 Finger Lakes Region 2-1-1 or 1-877-356-9211 Toll Free www.211fingerlakes.org Available 24 hours a day. Run by local counselors trained to address your needs. Providing information and human service agency referrals. 292-BABY 292-2229 | www.292baby.org Free phone service connects parents w/ Non-Emergency questions about baby/ child health or development to pediatricnurses.
Al Sigl Center 1000 Elmwood Ave., Suite 300 Rochester 14620 442-4100 | www.alsiglcenter.org Providing shared and dedicated facilities, business services, awareness and financial support for independent human service agencies. Autism Speaks, Inc. www.autismspeaks.org Funding global biomedical research, raising awareness about autism and bringing hope to those dealing with related hardships. Birthright of Rochester 320 N. Washington St., Suite 116, Rochester 14625 385-2100 1330 Buffalo Rd. Suite 201, Rochester, 14624 328-8700 or 800-550-4900 (Toll-free) www.birthright.org Other locationsavailable. Emergency pregnancy support services. Pregnancy tests, non-judgmental counseling, follow-up, material assistance & referrals. Crisis Nursery of Greater Rochester 201 Genesee Park Blvd., Rochester 14619 546-8280 firstname.lastname@example.org, www.cngr.org CNGR is a non-for-profit agency where children (birth to age 10) can stay when their families are in crisis. Services are free of charge and can be used in cases of illness, unemployment, housing problems, respite care, judicial problems, and for many other reasons. No referral is necessary. Easter Seals N.Y. 103 White Spruce Blvd., Rochester 14623 292-5831 | www.ny.easterseals.com Provides assistance to children and adults with disabilities and other special needs to live, learn and work independently in their communities. Epilepsy Foundation of Rochester-Syracuse-Binghamton 1650 South Ave., Ste. 300, Rochester 14620 442-4430 or 800-724-7930 (Toll-free) www.epilepsyUNY.org Aiming to prevent, control & cure epilepsy through service, education, advocacy & research. Helping people with epilepsy & related disabilities reach their potential. Family Resource Centers of Crestwood 2nd floor in Bishop Kearney 89 Genesee St., Rochester 14611 436-0370 | www.hillside.com Flower City Down Syndrome Network 2117 Buffalo Rd. #132, Rochester 14624 56Tri-21 (568-7421) | www.fcdsn.com A group of individuals joined to provide support & education regarding issues relating to Down Syndrome to families & the community.
Infertility Focus P.O Box 343, Pittsford 14534 385-1628 | www.infertilityfocus.org Offers support, education and information to individuals and couples at any stage of and with any type of infertility. La Leche League Lifeline 275-5151 | www.lalecheleague.org Call Lifeline for your local chapter. Go to www.lllusa.org for area meeting times and other information. March of Dimes (Genesee Valley/Finger Lakes Division) 3445 Winton Pl., Ste. 121, Rochester 14623 424-3250 | www.marchofdimes.com Our mission is to improve the health of babies by preventing birth defects, premature birth and infant mortality. Mental Health Association (Better Days Ahead) 320 Goodman St. N. Suite 202 Rochester 14607 325-3145 | www.mharochester.org Endorses creative thinking, focuses on family strengths, supports action which empowers. Information, referrals & support. Moms Offering Moms Support (MOMS) Clubs Various locations throughout Rochester 234-6667 www.momsclub.org/links.html MOMS offers support to stay-at-home moms and their children, as well as playgroups and other activities. Mommies for Miracles 5 Grey Fox Lane, Fairport 14450 507-5367 http://mommiesformiracles.org This non-for-profit raises funds to purchase gifts for sick or disabled children in need of specailized services. Mothers & More Rochester www.MothersandMoreRochester.org Extended neighborhood of women which meets twice monthly to share concerns, friendship, acceptance & fun. Mothers of Twins Club www.grmotc.com Open to any mother of multiple birth children, including those expecting multiples. Offering discussion groups to support mothers. Noogieland (at Gilda’s Club Rochester) 255 Alexander St., Rochester 14607 423-9700 | www.gildasclubrochester.org Noogieland is a unique arts & activities based program that meets the needs of children who have cancer or a loved one who is living with cancer. Parents Without Partners P.O. Box 204, Fairport 14450 251-3647 | email@example.com Support, friendship, an exchange of parenting techniques and growth opportunities await single parents and their children.
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Important Numbers Fire / Rescue Police ����������������������������� 911 Ambulance Poison Control (Finger Lakes Region)����������� 275-3232 General Poison Control Line.���������������� (800) 222-1222 State Police (Monroe County and outlying) ����������� 279-8890 Pediatrician:________________ Hospital:___________________ Babysitter: _________________
Other Numbers: ___________________________ ___________________________ ___________________________ ___________________________ ___________________________ ___________________________ ___________________________ ___________________________
Planned Parenthood of the Rochester/ Syracuse Region 114 University Ave. Rochester 14605 866-600-6886 | www.pprsr.org A non-profit organization that provides education and reproductive healthcare services regardless of age, race, sexual orientation, disability, or economic circumstances. Regional Early Childhood Direction Center Monroe #1 BOCES 41 O’Connor Rd., Fairport 14450 249-7817 | www.monroe.edu/recdc Supporting families with children birth to 5 years by providing free information and individualized assistance to connect them with programs and services. Rochester Area Birth Network 425-7105 | www.rabn.org The purpose of Rochester Area Birth Network is to advocate for health, safety and informed options in childbearing. Rochester Holistic Moms & Holistic Moms West www.holisticmoms.org Local chapter of a non-profit organization dedicated to supporting mothers with an interest in natural health and mindful parenting.
Rochester Society for the Protection and Care of Children 148 South Fitzhugh St., Rochester 14608 325-6101 | www.spcc-roch.org Provides various programs supporting children and strengthening families. Ronald McDonald House of Rochester, Inc. 333 Westmoreland Dr. , Rochester 14620 442-5437 | www.ronaldshouse.com Providing a home-away-from-home for families while their child receives healthcare in Rochester area hospitals. Also awards community grants. Stepfamily Assoc. of Rochester 442-3440 | www.stepfamilyrochester.org A non-profit organization offering education, support and counseling on the challenges involved in blending families and nurturing stepchildren. United Cerebral Palsy Association 3399 Winton Rd. S., Rochester 14623 334-6000 | www.cprochester.org Advancing the independence, productivity and full citizenship of people with disabilities.
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