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with Jim Daly If you’re one of those moms or dads who experiences soaring blood pressure while sitting in the stands, keep perspective on what’s really important. Winning isn’t everything, and a child’s bad game isn’t the end of the world. There are many positive character traits they can develop through sports, even if they aren’t the best player. They may decide they’d rather do something else, and that’s OK. (These days, my older son leans toward science and chess.) Tell your kids that you’re proud of them regardless of whether they win or lose—and really mean it! And treat everyone connected with the game with respect. The way you handle yourself when you disagree with a referee’s call or a coach’s decision will teach your child how to act as well. When moms and dads are team players and good sports, everyone wins.

STRIVING TO UNDERSTAND YOUR SPOUSE’S NEEDS

Q: How can I get my husband to help keep the house clean? I never noticed that he was messy before we were married. Since I’m the one who likes the house clean and orderly, I’m the one who picks up after him and does all the housework. I’m getting tired of it. What should I do? Dr. Greg Smalley, Vice President, Family Ministries: This is actually a fairly common problem. When you and your spouse fell in love, you weren’t thinking about housework. Now that you’re married, it’s a whole different ball game. If your relationship is to thrive, you’ll have to find a mutually satisfactory way to manage this aspect of your life together. It may help to remember that, to a certain extent, this is a question of conflicting personalities. Creative types, for instance, are often less concerned about neatness than people who take a more left-brained approach to life. Ultimately, nobody can change another person. The only person you can

change is yourself. But you can make positive alterations in your living situation and your relationship if you’re willing to approach the problem with patience, understanding and lots of love. Here are some guidelines to keep in mind: •

Be upfront and honest. Assume ownership of your feelings, then voice them candidly and respectfully. Approach the situation as equal partners with the goal of working out an arrangement that’s acceptable to both of you.

Don’t attack your mate. Confront the problem; don’t belittle the person.

Encourage growth. When you see positive progress taking place, offer praise for your mate’s efforts.

Recognize that change takes time. Be patient, and let your spouse know that you’re in this together for the long haul.

As you go through this process, try to view it as an opportunity for cooperation rather than conflict. A key to the challenge of marriage is striving to understand each other and seeking to meet each other’s needs. This is a great area in which to put these principles into practice.

Summer will never be the

SAME! Summer is coming, and Jr. Adventure Camp is the place to be. Join us for a summer of crazy games, fun field trips, awesome crafts and our annual food fight! Our weekly camps offer a fun and exciting alternative for summer. Energetic camp counselors will keep your child active during our fun-filled weeks. Join us for a summer adventure!

“Mom, I’m bored. There’s nothing to do.” If you’ve ever heard your child say that, then we have an adventure for you! “Bored” is never heard at a Soul Adventures summer camp. Your 10-15 year old can choose from 11 weeks of outdoor adventure camps, including kayaking,

paddle boarding, sailing, fishing and much more.

Combine these exploits with a powerful daily devotion time, and you have the recipe for an adventure that might just last a lifetime.

REGISTER TODAY AT www.souladventures.us 38 • June 2019

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