The Dad Effect by Kathleen Rodriquez A few weeks ago I was in a local store and saw t-shirts for a little girl to wear with these words written on it: “I’m the Princess, Mom is the Queen and Dad is around here somewhere.” I chuckled after reading it. But then I started to think about the attitude that shirt conveyed. I thought it is similar to how some of society views fathers and maybe how some fathers view themselves. He is in the family but he is really part of the family? Do fathers really know how important their presence is Kathleen Rodriquez is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker at Webb-Rauckhorst Counseling specializing in therapy with children and families. She has been married to Mario for over 18 years and they have four children.”
in the family? Do women and men un- their aggression, provide guidance and derstand the value of the father? male leadership. Personally, I think the importance of fathers was illustrated profoundly in The impact is just as a chapter titled The Essential Father significant with the in James Dobson’s book Bringing up father/daughter relaBoys. It described how several years ago tionship. Many times a greeting card company sent a federal he is the role model for who she will prison free Mother’s Day cards for any marry. Dads, at times are the mirror for inmate who wanted to send their mother how she views herself, especially coma card. The prisoner’s response was over- ing up in adolescence. The impact fawhelming so the company decided to do thers provide his sons and daughters are the same for Father’s Day. However, the invaluable, but sadly often undervalued. results this time were daunting. Not one prisoner sent a card to their father. Many Have some fathers left their family to go didn’t even know who their fathers were. on and live a new life and leave behind a Now, this does not mean all children road of destruction? Yes. Unfortunately, will end up in prison if they don’t have I know some mothers that have done the a father. However, I wondered would the same. What some men have chosen to do outcome for some of those prisoners dif- does not negate the fact that dads make fer if he had a male role model to tame an impression on their children that mom cannot.
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