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Sex (toy) Positivity! ) Feeling confident and positive is hard
most of the time as we are challenged on a daily basis. Whether it is looks, capability or self-worth, there are so many areas in which confidence and feeling positive can become an issue unfortunately. As a gay sex shop we regularly receive feedback from our customers who are finding it hard to communicate to their partners or play buddies what they really enjoy. They don’t feel confident to indicate to someone that they enjoy the use of toys or acting on a fetish whilst playing. There might be people out there who cannot relate to this but for these customers the feeling is real. The two main concerns we are getting are: 1) Shame and self-doubt, even though we have come far in the last few decades in acceptance of sex toys as an option for pleasure, for some there is still a stigma or a feeling of taboo surrounding it. 2) Upsetting someone, we have had several customers expressing they are finding it hard to introduce sex toys or fetish thoughts into their sessions. The concern is that this might upset the other person and making them feel inadequate. We believe that parts of these concerns can
be addressed with good communication. Especially if you are concerned that you might make the other person feel inadequate. Good communication can do wonders. Let your play buddy know what you enjoy about it and make him aware that it is something you enjoy in addition and not instead of your sessions. More difficult to turn around is the issue of people feeling shame to use toys, either on themselves or with others. We can only stress that it really is OK. The evolution of toys has grown massively, and adverts are now shown in more mainstream media and adult stores are now sponsoring events in ways that used to be unthinkable.
So, if you enjoy some self-loving with a Fleshjack masturbator or love the full feeling of a dildo or plug in you, then go ahead. The next generation toys are simply amazing and they leave no part of your body wanting. There is absolutely nothing wrong with exploring and identifying what provides you with the most fun and satisfaction. Whatever it is you enjoy, acting out a fantasy, playing with toys it is all OK. So go and explore all the things that you think might put a smile on your face and be comfortable in the knowledge that the level of acceptance has massively increased so you can approach the subject with confidence. We hope you have a great time playing with positivity and pleasure. Don’t forget we have a voucher code that will give you an extra 10% off all orders. For those of you that like Poppers UK the code is also valid at the Popper Super Shop as well as esmale! Just use code SAVE10 at the checkout. If you have any question or just want to talk through anything regarding sex (toy) positive, please feel free to contact us via our websites. With love, Team www.esmale.com and our friends at the Nr1 store for extra strong poppers.
