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Contents SPORTS INJURY - KNEE PAIN
Sports injuries of the knee, treatment & returning to sport .....Margarita Gurevich........................ 8
FUN WITH FOOD - VEGETABLES!
Seven smart ways to increase your vegetable intake .....Jessey Telford...........................20
FEEDING YOUR BRAIN PART 1
Top ten tips on what not to do to your skin
The importance of fats & oils: omega-3 & omega-6 fatty acids
.....Dr Michael Rich............................ 12
FOOD ALLERGY PART 1
BE A GOOD ALL-ROUNDER
Understanding the importance of food allergies that can affect your nutrition
Training to be an all-rounder keeps the body injury free
.....Dr Helen Dodd............................. 16
TAKING CARE OF YOUR SKIN
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One of the most important areas to start your fitness program .....Michael Dermansky............. 30
MINDSET ANIMAL INSTINCTS & PRIMITIVE BRAINS
How our primitive brains demonstrate animal behaviours under stress .....Kelly Fryer............................ 34
TRUTH NEVER LIES
Truth never changes, it is consistent & it never lies .....Terry Sidford........................ 37
RELATIONSHIPS HONESTY IN RELATIONSHIPS
Honesty is the key ingredient to developing a great relationship .....Martin Gladman................... 42
RADICAL INTIMACY & ECSTASY
How radical intimacy can create ecstasy in your relationship .....Dr Matthew Anderson......... 46
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K nee pain Sports injuriesWords Margarita Gurevich
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the most common questions that come up are how to avoid an
injury and what to do if an injury is sustained. The good news is that there is quite a lot we can do to prevent injuries. In the next few issues of Great Health GuideTM, we will be
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hen it comes to sports injuries
reviewing a few of the more common types of injuries and talking about how to prevent and manage them. In this article we will focus on knee pain – patellofemoral joint syndrome. Please note these tips are only general and are not a substitute for seeing a trained health professional. If in doubt about the severity GHG Disclaimer – please read
ENHANCE RECOVERY & SPEED UP YOUR RETURN TO SPORT
of an injury you should see your doctor or
outwards than normal and not glide smoothly
physiotherapist for an assessment.
as you bend and straighten your knee during exercise (such as running). This can occur as a result of previous knee injury, post-surgery,
WHAT IS PATELLOFEMORAL
swelling or simply lack of strength built up
JOINT SYNDROME? Patellofemoral pain syndrome is a common complaint in all age groups and levels of physical activity. It is the term used to describe pain felt behind the patella (kneecap). Specifically, where it articulates (joins) with the femur (thigh bone). This joint is the patellofemoral joint.
in the area relative to the opposing muscles. Tightness in your lateral thigh muscles may also pull your kneecap outwards slightly. 2. Poor biomechanical control Poor foot posture, such as flat feet, can contribute to patellofemoral joint syndrome. When
Actions such as walking up stairs, kneeling,
consistently repeated, your knee will be
running or squatting can be provocative.
repeatedly traumatised which over time
This generally occurs as a result of poor
results in this pain experience.
pressure in the joint.
Weak hip control muscles can also contribute. These can result in abnormal twisting of the knee, causing the patella to move slightly out
CAUSES OF KNEE PAIN
of position when walking or running.
The main causes of patellofemoral pain
So what can we do to prevent and treat
syndrome are muscle imbalance and poor
knee pain? The first step is to make sure that
biomechanical control. Let’s review each of
the diagnosis is correct. Since the cause of
patellofemoral joint pain is mostly routine
1. Muscle imbalance
tests such as ultrasound, X-Rays, CT scans etc., they will often not show anything as
Your quadriceps (front of the thigh) muscles
there is no fracture, muscle strain etc. Your
attach to the patella and are responsible for
physiotherapist, however, will be able to
straightening the knee. The quadriceps are
perform a few functional tests in order to
a group of muscles, two of which are the
confirm/rule out patellofemoral joint pain
vastus lateralis (VL) and the vastus medialis
and prescribe the treatment. However, if
oblique (VMO). The VL pulls the patella up
your symptoms don’t improve after a few
and outwards, while your VMO pulls it up and
sessions, your physiotherapist will refer you
inwards. If there is a weakness in the VMO,
for the routine tests in order to see if there is
there will be less force pulling your patella
anything else which might be causing your
inwards, meaning that it will be pulled further
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THE OUTCOME FOR THIS CONDITION IS GENERALLY VERY POSITIVE WITH THE CORRECT TREATMENT. It is estimated that 90% of sufferers are pain-free within 6 weeks of commencing a physiotherapy rehabilitation program. The following steps will help. • Pain relief. Initially rest from provocative activities is recommended, with the use of ice advised for any obvious swelling following a strenuous bout of activity which has aggravated the pain. • Range of motion and muscle length. Your physiotherapist will assess whether you have a limited range of motion in your knee, hip or ankle joints and address this if any of them appear to be contributing to the problem. This can be done through passive or active stretching, soft tissue massage, use of foam rollers and other methods. • Strength and control. It is important to address the cause(s) of the issue. If it is suspected that weakness of the VMO (as discussed above) is to blame, then a graded strengthening program will be implemented. This generally begins with fairly simple exercises in non or partial-weight bearing positions, progressing into more strenuous
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responsible for hip control. • Correcting poor technique. You may have developed poor habits as result of experiencing knee pain. This may include a
technique or jumping method. This can also be addressed by retraining these activities. • Specific activities. Finally, the elements which are important to an individual’s usual physical activity can be addressed. An elite athlete will need to make sure that their speed, power, proprioception and agility are at an optimal level before returning to competition. Even those who do not compete at an elite level will likely have certain hobbies or exercise routines they may need help
returning to safely. • Other treatment modalities. The use of ultrasound, heat packs, electrical stimulation, including
massage and others may be necessary to speed up or aid in the recovery process. Your physiotherapist can advise what is most appropriate for you. In the next issue of Great Health GuideTM, we will review ankle sprains and Achilles tendon injuries. Margarita
Physiotherapist at Health Point Physiotherapy with a Diploma of SCENAR Therapy in Moscow SCENAR Centre. Margarita extensively uses Clinical Pilates, SCENAR therapy and other evidence-based techniques in women’s health.
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products and cosmetic technologies available these days to help your skin
look its best but in order to achieve amazing results there are certain things you shouldn’t forget.
here is a huge amount of skincare
3. RUBBING AND SCRATCHING YOUR ECZEMA Dry itchy skin will only be made worse by rubbing and scratching your eczema. Instead, apply a cold washer or water spray, or a nonirritating moisturiser, or even a topical steroid treatment as advised by your doctor. Be
A DERMATOLOGIST CAN ENSURE THE BEST SKIN CARE POSSIBLE FOR YOU. would never do to their own skin and would advise you to avoid: 1. FORGETTING YOUR SUNSCREEN The sun’s harsh rays not only cause premature ageing, but substantially increase your risk of skin cancer. Australians have the highest rate of skin cancer and melanoma worldwide, affecting both the young and old. Protect yourself from lines, wrinkles, or worse. Apply SPF 50+ sunscreen regularly, avoid sunbaking or prolonged sun exposure and don’t forget protective clothing and eyewear. 2. PICKING AND SQUEEZING YOUR ACNE As tempting as it sometimes is, the worst thing you can do to a pimple is pick and squeeze it. It will cause increasing redness and swelling and more than likely leave a scar. Find a gentler alternative, apply an alcohol based solution, or Clearasil containing benzoyl peroxide, or an antibiotic lotion to treat the affected area regularly. GHG Disclaimer – please read
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sensible. Rubbing and scratching will simply prolong the scratch-itch cycle causing more inflammation and increasing your discomfort. 4. FORGETTING TO REMOVE YOUR MAKEUP Sleeping in your makeup is a recipe for disaster for your skin. Congestion of pores and acne are the likely outcomes and so the vicious cycle begins. You wear more makeup to cover the blemishes and you continue to sleep with extra makeup, which makes the problem worse. Sleeping in your makeup will also promote milia, tiny hard balls of keratin that look like acne and need to be manually extracted. It takes less than 5 minutes to remove your makeup at night. Make this an essential part of your daily skin care routine. 5. WEARING YOUR MAKEUP TO THE GYM Wearing your makeup to the gym is simply a bad idea. Makeup will mix with sweat while you exercise. This will block skin follicles and cause congestion and acne. If you are feeling very self-conscious then consider a tinted moisturiser or sunblock as an alternative. SUBSCRIBE to GHG | 13
SUITABLE TO YOUR
Sweating in its own
The products that
right, whether you
6. NOT WIPING
are wearing makeup or not, can cause congestion and acne. Keep a towel on hand at the gym
immediately afterwards to freshen up and protect your skin. 7. NOT WEARING THONGS IN THE GYM SHOWERS
Unless you want warts and tinea on your feet, invest in a pair of rubber thongs to keep your skin free of viruses and fungus! 8. OVER-EXFOLIATING YOUR SKIN Too much exfoliation can leave your skin feeling a little raw. Be kind to your skin. If we inflame skin too much through repeated treatments that traumatise, we will do more
dry skin are very different
products that are suitable for oily and acne prone skin.
Don’t simply follow trends. Seek advice from your skin doctor about what is best for you. When it comes to skincare, it is important to talk to a professional to ensure you don’t do anything that may damage your skin permanently. If you are concerned about your skin, seek out a cosmetically and dermatologically trained doctor who can provide you with up-to-date, carefully considered and individually tailored information on how to manage and improve your skin. Dr Michael Rich is a Dermatologist and Cosmetic Surgeon and the founder of ENRICH, one of Melbourne’s leading Dermatology, Cosmetic Dermatology and Cosmetic Surgery clinic.
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life, but many people are faced with omitting certain foods from their
diet due to allergic reactions to these foods. A food allergy is quite different from food intolerance, which will be discussed in a future issue of Great Health GuideTM. A food allergy is an immune response to a specific protein within that food. The body reacts to this protein, believing it to be foreign and harmful.
utrition is very important to a healthy
welts anywhere on the body, dizziness and changes in blood pressure. While some of these signs and symptoms may appear in a mild form initially, continued exposure to the allergen will increase the severity of the allergic reaction. In severe cases, it may be a life threatening reaction due to restricted airways and an increased heart rate requiring hospitalization. In some cases only a very small amount of the actual food may cause serious life-threatening allergic reactions.
WHAT FOODS MAY
CAUSE A PROBLEM?
The allergic symptoms
There are many foods
can include breathing
culprits are egg, cow’s
milk, peanuts and tree
swelling of eyes and
nuts such as Brazil nuts,
almond and cashew,
vomiting, hives or red
several seeds such as
sesame, wheat, rye and
oats. Certain species of fish can be a trigger but
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HOW CAN FOOD ALLERGIES BE TESTED? Many of the allergic reactions may only be mild or moderate and patients do not think there is any need to see a doctor. A few hives, redness and itch or a slight swelling of the lips are ignored. These are the early signs of an allergic reaction to a food. Often it is difficult and hard to work out what has caused the problem as the milder symptoms may not show immediately and may be delayed for 24-48 hours later. GHG Disclaimer – please read
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CAN A FOOD ALLERGY BE CURED?
However it is very important to have all food allergies diagnosed by an allergy specialist, using a Skin-Prick Test. This involves placing a drop of a serum that contains the allergen onto the patient’s
forearm or back and a small needle prick is made so the allergen goes slightly under the skin’s surface. These tests may not always confirm the suspected food. Blood tests are a less common method of diagnosing food allergy, but they are much more expensive and not necessarily more accurate. Blood test are used to help confirm a Skin Prick Test or when a serious allergy is suspected. In this case an allergen is not tested on the patient as in the Skin Prick Test, but placed in contact with patient’s blood in a laboratory dish; if the patient is sensitive to that allergen, the patient’s blood containing antibodies will react with the allergen and cause the blood to coagulate. SUMMARY OF FOOD ALLERGY: • is different from food intolerance
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• can cause life threatening symptoms • is caused by many and various common foods
Will help people find what foods are causing
• can be tested for with Skin Prick Test
their distress or allergy problems. It is a
• can not be cured
handbook, an allergy detection book and a
In the next issue of Great Health GuideTM, Food Allergy Part 2 will discuss treatments for severe allergic reactions, such as using an EpiPen® (epinephrine injection) Auto-Injector. However education is the key and vigilance
will keep the family safe.
cookbook all in one. What initiated this book was the fact that none of the elimination diets at the time took into account that many individuals could not digest soluble fats. Also, all the diets were in food form, without any instruction on how to include these foods in meals. This book uses the menu method to
Helen Dodd BSc. BPharm. PhD, is a retired
detect problem foods.
pharmacist, continuing to provide information
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Vegetables! Fun with Food: Words Jessey Telford
your taste buds dislike. It seems like
everyone struggles to get the recommended intake of vegetables into their diet. Only 1 in 20 adults in Australia reach the recommended intake. Yes, we all know how essential
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vegetables are for you; the question is, how do you increase your vegetable intake into your daily meals without your taste buds knowing? Well, here are seven different ways you can increase your vegetable intake into your meals or snacks: GHG Disclaimer â€“ please read
groups that your body loves but
egetables are one of those food
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1. Grating them into sauces or curries: A
with spinach, carrot and cucumber is a yummy
great way to hide the vegetables is to grate
way to start your morning!
them into a sauce, for example a pasta sauce. Grating vegetables such as carrot, parsnip and zucchini are amazing to blend and add richness to sauces and/or curries. 2. Slow cooking: Adding lots of vegetables into your casserole will make it not only a great consistency but also add to the whole flavour. As they are cooking for a long time it will make
5. Veggie patties: A great tasting additive to your meal is to mash cooked vegetables such as carrot, chickpeas, cauliflower and peas all together. Add an egg to the mash and turn it into a patty. Lightly fry to crisp the patty with a teaspoon of oil in a hot pan. This is also great for a snack!
your vegetables soft and they will blend into
6. Cauliflower or broccoli and potato mash:
the casserole’s sauce. Using a packet of frozen
Mashed potatoes hide the taste and texture
vegetables that has a high amount of fiber,
of other vegetables very well. By adding half
will not only speed up the blending process
the amount of mashed potatoes to mashed
but also help your digestion.
cauliflower or broccoli you can mask their
3. Veggie chips: Be creative with your meals,
don’t just put a serving of steamed greens
7. Eating out: If you are eating out make sure
on your plate! Steamed greens always get
that you order a salad first, this will ensure
boring quickly. Chop up some zucchini,
that you get your intake of greens before your
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main meal is served. This will also prevent you from overeating or snacking on the bread!
If you have food that you may not like the taste of, add some seasoning. Adding heaps of flavour for variety will help you increase your vegetable intake. Our taste buds can get bored with bland foods and crave powerful dense flavors, hence this is why we go for chips or chocolate. Therefore, playing with your herbs and spices will keep cravings. Spices include rosemary, basil, chives, thyme, nutmeg and the list goes on! They will help you make your vegetables exciting and tasty!
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THERE ARE MANY POSITIVES THAT COME FROM INCREASING YOUR VEGETABLE AND FIBER INTAKE. They help to improve your general health, your digestion and satiety. Also the increase in micronutrients will help your skin, energy levels and sleep. So get creative with those veggies! Your body will love you for it! To learn more about your body and be informed about the correct nutrients needed in your everyday meals, contact a health professional. KEY SUMMARY POINTS: • Be Creative! Always try different methods of cooking e.g. veggie chips. • Grate and blend vegetables into your food to disguise the taste. • Seasonings are your best friend at making
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here is a great amount of confusion and uncertainty prevailing about what nutrients are required to feed the
brain optimally. This is the first of two articles on the best foods to feed your brain. Here, a brief description of the brain provides a foundation for a discussion about the most important nutrients, fats and oils. THE BRAIN:
With the brain being the greediest organ in your body, it has always been surprising to me that people pay so little attention to feeding it. The brain weighs approximately 1.3 to 1.4 kg (about 3 pounds) and contains about 160,000 km (100,000 miles) of blood vessels and about 100 billion sophisticated and specialized cells called neurons that each have between 1,000 and 10,000 links (synapses) between them. At any given moment your brain is processing
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Thinking occurs across this vast network of
Manufacturers also preferred the warm-
cells, chemicals, membranes and molecules,
weather omega-6 fats, as they did not become
linking thoughts, ideas and memories, which
rancid as easily as the omega-3 fats. Therefore,
generate moods and behavior, in what can
a combination of ease of cultivation and
potentially be a beautifully orchestrated
harvesting, coupled with easier manufacturing
process. This vast network is supported by
and higher profits means that now we do
the same nutrients that support the rest of the
not have significant omega-3 fats in our diet.
body. Many nutrients are required in greater
The manufacturing process that produces
quantities for the brain and are significantly
vast quantities of omega-6 oils, makes use
more important for brain function than for
of inexpensive and very efficient methods
general bodily functions.
of extraction, which damages the delicate omega-6 fat molecules. So, even though most
FATS AND OILS IN THE BRAIN: The dry weight of the brain is 60% fat and although the body can convert most of the fats required for the brain from the carbohydrates we consume, there are 20% to 25% of fats that have to come directly from our diet. These are essential fatty acids (EFAs). They are called essential fats since the body cannot make them and the brain requires them to function optimally. They are chemically polyunsaturated fats. These fats have the amazing capacity to allow electrical stimuli to be used very efficiently when our neurons communicate with each other via specialized signals. Where are EFAs found? About 60 years ago, when farmers realized that it was easier to grow warm-weather crops for seeds, from which omega-6 fats are derived, they started growing more to the exclusion of omega-3 fats, which are derived from coldweather seeds. Thus, most people today consume too much omega-6 and not enough
people are consuming too much omega-6 fatty acid, it’s generally in a damaged form. Dry skin, brittle nails and hair, hormonal challenges, cracked heels as well as moodiness, coupled with memory and learning difficulties are all possible signs of a deficiency in omega-3 fatty acids.
THESE ESSENTIAL FATTY ACIDS COME IN TWO FORMS: OMEGA-3 FATTY ACIDS AND OMEGA-6 FATTY ACIDS.
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The ‘no-fat’ and ‘low-fat’ diets that inundated the dieting mind-set for many decades, did not take into account the critically important role that fats and oils play in our health, specifically our mental health. It is an unfortunate fact that some dietary trends are difficult to change, even when new scientific evidence proves beyond a shadow of doubt that the data were severely flawed. Ironically, the very organ that requires the right fats and oils to function optimally, is the same one that needs to incorporate new data and battles to do so when it is deprived of these essential fats...the brain.
THE RIGHT FATS AND OILS FACILITATE IMPROVED COGNITIVE FUNCTION, MOOD, MEMORY AND LEARNING CAPACITY.
CHANGING DIETARY TRENDS:
important to be very choosy about the fats and oils that you use, which are susceptible to damage from light, heat and oxygen. Focus on organic, cold-pressed EFA blends, organic cold-pressed olive oils and coconut oils. Consuming crushed flax, sesame and sunflower seeds, along with other organic nuts will provide your brain with the correct fats and oils. As well, it is very important to avoid shelf-stable cooking oils and spreads, which include damaged trans fats and other toxic compounds that introduce the wrong kinds of fats to your delicate brain. In the next issue of GHGTM, Feeding Your Brain Part 2, will delve into the importance of unrefined carbohydrates and clean protein for optimal brain function and the achievement of genetic potential. Delia McCabe, MA(Psych) is a PhD candidate in nutritional neuroscience, researching the relationship between specific nutrients and female stress levels. Her book Feed Your Brain – 7 Steps to a Lighter, Brighter You! is available below. Visit Delia at her website.
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e a good All-Rounder Words Kat Millar
Design Olha Blagodir
o you ever look at people who are great at sport and wish that you were too? Some people start a sport
as a child and continue it right through to adulthood, practising regularly, mastering their craft and putting a great deal of time into their discipline week after week. GHG Disclaimer – please read
BEING AN ALLROUNDER HAS ITS BENEFITS AND DOESN’T MEAN A COMPLETE OVERHAUL.
I recently watched a clip about Tony Hawke, a former pro skater, who at 48 years old, landed a ‘900’; a trick where the skateboarder makes two-and-a-half horizontal spins in the air before landing. These people are so inspiring and started me wondering what could have happened if I’d continued with some sports I enjoyed at school. SUBSCRIBE to GHG | 27
I dabbled in sport as a child and teenager, but
the occasion calls for it. If a friend asks you to
I never pursued any one of them long enough
go rock climbing, you don’t have to make an
to consider myself really good at any of them.
excuse to get out of it because you don’t feel
I was only really good at exercising in the gym
strong enough. If your family decides on a
and going for runs. I can catch a ball, run fast,
ball game at the beach, you can jump right in,
fill in on a netball game and I can smack a
knowing you’re fit enough to enjoy it. If you are
tennis ball around. So I’m going to call myself
late for a bus, you know you can run and catch it.
STRENGTHENING VARIOUS MUSCLES HELPS TO REDUCE THE RISK OF INJURY I went on a big hike with a friend once and when we got to the end, neither of us had the car key. So we had to walk miles looking for the key on rather rugged, hilly terrain. It started
HERE ARE MY TOP TIPS ON HOW TO BE A GOOD ALL-ROUNDER: 1. UNILATERALS
If you work out with weights, incorporate some single arm and single leg work. This can help you with your co-ordination, balance, mobility and strengthening your stabilising muscles. E.g., doing a single leg squat requires your body to turn on more muscles than doing a standard bi-lateral squat with both feet on the ground.
getting dark and there were so many times that
Your core muscles need to switch on to keep
we nearly slipped. Both of us are into training
you balanced and the stabilising muscles
and we commented on the fact that our single-
around your ankle, knee and hip will need to
leg work and stability training really came in
switch on. Instead of doing barbell shoulder
handy as we managed to prevent ourselves
presses, try one arm shoulder presses using a
dumbbell and feel your abs kick into action.
When you take your body through the same motions day after day, that’s when injuries can
2. NEW GROUP CLASSES
happen. Mixing body movements up helps
Doing new group classes offer a range of
reduce that risk. Training to be an all-rounder
different movement patterns that your body
doesn’t mean a complete overhaul. It may
is probably not used to. One of the many
mean just a few small changes that can make a
advantages to doing classes, is all the different
big difference. Try changing something small
planes of movement that are used. This
each week to keep things fresh and interesting.
requires you to move in new and different
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doing a class such as an aerobics could have you lifting your legs and arms, moving laterally, jumping, kicking and all sorts of other varied movements. Plus, it’s fun. This helps you be able to move in a range of ways, which is a key to being a good all-rounder. 3. TRAINING A BUDDY’S WAY
Working out with a friend is a great way to get ideas from each other. Everyone tends to do things slightly differently and there are normally a few tips and tricks you can pick up by training with a friend. You can take turns planning the session. E.g., if you have some great HIIT exercises to do outside, you could take your friend through it with you. Maybe © Depositphotos.com/ william87
you have a friend who is great at yoga or Pilates and could take you through a session. 4. SAMPLE ALL-ROUNDER WEEKLY PLAN
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which happens mainly in a forward motion,
Tuesday – Boxing class + foam rolling + stretch session Wednesday – am – Walk or rest; pm - Yoga Thursday – Resistance program 2 followed by short cardio of your choice Friday - Dance class Saturday – Rest Sunday – Long walk outside or a bike ride This plan gives you some ideas about how to mix and match your week. Remember to work up slowly if you’re not used to exercising so often. And make sure to tweak it to suit your preferences and lifestyle. Go play!
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Training strength Words Michael Dermansky
Design Olha Blagodir
BUILD STRENGTH TRAINING INTO YOUR EXERCISE SESSIONS.
as a major component of their
exercise program, to be fit and prevent injuries. Where ever women want to take their fitness training in the long term, be it to run a marathon or just to lose weight and be more toned, the starting point should be strength training.
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Without a good base of body strength, particularly in the major postural muscles, you put additional and unnecessary load on the joints and other structures that cause injury and prevent you obtaining the most from your exercise program. It is important to check with your medical practitioner before
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importance of strength training
ost women underestimate the
THESE THREE MUSCLE GROUPS ARE MOST IMPORTANT:
2. Strengthen your quadriceps (front of
1. Strengthen your gluteus maximus (your
that supports the knees and is also a major
bottom) muscles – This is a major muscle
postural muscle used for movement. Lack of
group that helps keep you up straight, keeps
strength in this muscle group reduces your
the pelvis stable and supports the lower back.
ability to run, cycle, do aerobics and most
It is the major muscle group that should work
forms of cardio exercise.
when you walk, run or climb up stairs. If they are not strong, it increases the load on the back and hips, which may cause injury. My favourite exercise to work on gluteus maximus is bridging:
thigh) muscles – This is a major muscle group
One of my favourite exercises to work on this muscle is lunges: • Stand with one leg in front of the other, shoulder width apart
• Lie on your back with your knees bent • Lift one leg in the air
• Lower your body down, bending both knees and ensuring your front leg does not go • Lift your bottom up so that your body is
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3. Core stability - Improving your core stability is the first step in restoring your normal abdominal muscle tone and improving the control of your lower back. It is important that these muscles are strengthened in a controlled manner that doesn’t encourage too much load on the lower back by working at a level that you cannot control. The following is a great starting point for training your core stability: • Lie on your back with your knees bent
• Draw your stomach muscles in gently, just below your belly button, without flattening your back
• Maintaining this abdominal contraction, lift your leg up in the air and out to the side • Bring the leg back into the starting position • Repeat 10 times per side Seeing
even for a few sessions, can help guide you to your ideal exercise program and help achieve your goals
THESE THREE EXERCISES ARE A GREAT STARTING POINT FOR BUILDING YOUR POSTURAL STRENGTH IN YOUR EXERCISE PROGRAM, BUT THEY ARE JUST THE BEGINNING. Michael Dermansky is a Senior Physiotherapist and Managing Director of MD Health Pilates, with 17 years’ experience of treating clients
• You should be able to slide your hand in
from all walks of life, from 6 year-old children all
under your lower back without getting it
the way to the age of 92. He can be contacted
through his website.
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hange as we know is fast becoming one of the only constants in business so you would think that the process,
the feelings and the outcomes would be much easier for us all to deal with. But this isn’t the case. Animal instincts and primitive brains come to mind. Let’s explore this.
So why is all of this happening? When we become fearful of a situation we tend to work from the primitive part of our brains and repeat primitive behaviours and patterns. Our male colleagues jump into ‘protector mode’, having to feed and hunt and gather. They start to display behaviour that puts them
A change is announced at work: a merger, an
in the alpha male spot. And all of a sudden we
acquisition or employee cuts for efficiencies or
are surrounded by peacocks, lions and wolves.
cost saving. At first, although shocked (maybe), you deal with it and feel OK. Then the jungle drums start thudding and you notice panic setting in. Behaviours change, gossip starts and you too start to change the way you feel about the change and about your ability.
There can only be one male in the pack and so the fight begins. The peacocks start fanning their feathers to show who has the brightest display and the wolves start to break up the pack. The office becomes filled with howling, roaring and feathers, as the males in the group try to
Ordinarily you know you are good at your job
display their inner alpha male, eager to survive
and you hope you will be OK. You’ll wait and
the change and fearful of what people will
see what happens and if you do have to leave,
think of them if they don’t survive the change.
you can do so with some money in your pocket and find a new job, start your own business or take the opportunity to learn some new skills and start a new career path. You are still feeling quite calm. And then it starts. People around you are starting to belittle each other, ‘I’m better than you’. In meetings or during work people are stamping all over each other, shouting loudly, ‘pick me, pick me; you
As women, we see the displays, the roaring and the howling and think to ourselves, ‘I don’t like that behavior’ and we let them fight it out, hoping that our credibility and integrity will be enough to get us through the change. We become insular, avoiding as much as possible the testosterone around us. Then we start to doubt ourselves, our skills and our future and wonder what we will do next if we don’t survive the process.
need me, you know you do’. You then begin to
By and large because we don’t like the
wonder why you would want to stay working
atmosphere that has been created at work, we
with people that would do this to each other
start to see ourselves in different jobs, maybe
and ask, ‘is this a culture I want to stay in any
starting our own business, although we think,
‘that seems quite scary and I don’t know if I
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BELIEVE IN YOURSELF & AFFIRM YOUR CONFIDENCE & GREATNESS.
could do that’ because our confidence is now at an all-time low. We love the job and until recently loved the company, but think, ‘I can’t stay in this environment, but can I really afford to leave?’. So we sit and wait, hoping that everything will work out well and we don’t really need to make a decision because it will be made for us. ‘If I get a job in the new structure, then great and if not, I’ll find something’. We become the shoulder for our colleagues to lean on because we are so quiet and
Kelly Fryer, Founder at Chrysalis Consulting, has a BSc in Psychology and is currently undertaking a PhD in Organisational Change and the Courage of Leaders. Kelly is a qualified and accredited Executive Coach and lives in the UK. Kelly can be contacted at Chrysalis consulting.
composed and everyone wants to know, ‘how are you staying so calm?’, but they continue to make digs at you during the conversation to demonstrate that they ‘really’ are better than you in the hope that you too will start to crumble. You smile nicely, carry on working and wait until you are home with a glass of wine before letting out all of your emotions. You are now in your primitive brain and blending into the background like a peahen.
TOP TIPS • Believe in yourself – Create a ‘change’ affirmation that reminds you of
yourself • If you must step into the lion’s den, claim your spot as the alpha in an authentic, credible and nice way-No need for claws or feathers.
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Never Lies Words Terry Sidford
Design Olha Blagodir
As American actress and singer Pearl Bailey
I see my clients as creative, resourceful and
once said, ’You never find yourself until you
whole. They do not always need all the answers.
face the truth.’ But what is the truth? And
As a coach, my job is to ask powerful, thought-
how does one do that exactly? And why am I
provoking questions that bring clients back
discussing this now?
to their inner-knowingness. I believe they are
I was inspired to write about ‘truth’ because it recently became the topic of conversation not only in my own professional practice, but also in my personal work as well. I realize that I use truth as a guiding light for myself and my clients. Truth can be your inner wisdom, god, intuition, spirit, universal truth, laws of the universe and more. There are truths in this world that most people of all walks of life can agree on. Truth will always be there. The challenge is knowing
fully capable of finding the answers that will best direct them to make decisions and create goals. They can choose what steps they need to take that will take them onto their desired path or to their chosen destination. I want to remind them to use the tools they already have, to find support and belief in their own innate abilities. They have the tools and presence to keep them going when they get stuck or forget they have the answers and abilities to find the truth.
that it is there for us and how to access it. If we
Here are some quick tools for you to use to
take the time to quiet our minds and be still,
help differentiate ‘what is and is not’ the truth
meditate, pray, or just be in nature and listen,
we can access our truth to any question.
THE TRUTH NEVER CHANGES. IT IS CONSISTENT. IT NEVER LIES.
1. Take time to be aware: thousands of thoughts are running around in your head on a daily basis. Just because you are thinking a thought doesn’t mean it is true. To separate fact from fiction, take time to challenge your thoughts. Ask yourself, ‘Is this thought in alignment with my best self, or is it taking me away from my best?’ 2. Ask yourself the question: in any situation where you find yourself questioning either yourself or the situation, ask yourself, ‘What is the truth about this?’ To find out, go within
As acclaimed author Michael Levy says, ‘You
and be quiet, sit still and stay calm. Listen
can bend it and twist it…You can misuse and
for the answer. Then ask yourself one more
abuse it…But God (higher power, spirit or
question about your answer: Is this truth
inner wisdom) cannot change the Truth.’
or fiction? If you listen to your own inner
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revealed. 3. Make a list of the thoughts or beliefs: these are thoughts and beliefs that you want to change. Create the new thought or belief and replace your old thought or belief with it. Take this list with you during your day. Visualize a delete button, when an old thought or belief appears, then replace it with the new thought. Be patient, as it takes 21 days to create a new habit. 4. Create a board with pictures: this will reflect your new thoughts and beliefs. Think about not only who inspires you, but also where and what inspires you. Start by
or printing quotes, or perhaps gathering postcards and photos that inspire you. 5. Send yourself a message: have a daily message on your phone, reminding you of your new way of thinking. It can be as simple as, ‘Remember today is a new day to create new thoughts and beliefs’. Try these exercises and let me know what you experience from using these tools. Terry Sidford has been a certified life coach in the United States for the past 15 years and has assisted scores of people in achieving their dreams, which she believes is her own life’s purpose. More information is available from her website.
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ripping pages out of a magazine, clipping
knowingness, the correct answer will be
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“Peer pressure and social norms are
powerful influences on behaviour, and they are classic excuses.”
- Andrew Lansley
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Honesty in elationships
e all know that honesty is a key ingredient to developing a good relationship and equally so, we
all know what happens when we shy away from the truth. Either someone gets hurt or we end up living a lie. So if we know that the outcomes of being dishonest aren’t great, then why do we struggle to be honest with ourselves and our partners in the first place? Often when I talk to people about the concept of ‘getting honest’, the first thing that they jump to is the idea of needing to give someone ‘a piece their mind’. They recall all the annoyances, frustration or critical things that they’ve wanted to say but haven’t given themselves permission to, up until that moment. Essentially, they go off, they list everything that has ever upset them in the relationship, usually in a way that is irresponsible and blaming, leading to quite a hurtful and destructive situation. The problem with this approach is that the person expressing their mind seemingly feels better as they got to dump the weight of their irresponsibility onto another. However, the person on the receiving end can often be left in shock, feeling hurt, deceived and/or hoodwinked. It’s not an approach I recommend
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What we need to understand is that this
The problem with this approach is that for
approach to ‘getting honest’ is in fact not
every lie that we allow, every moment we do
getting honest at all. Honesty is not emotional
not acknowledge or express what is there,
nor does it simply focus on one particular point
what we see or what we feel, it’s like planting a
or moment. It’s more holistic, taking in the full
weed into a garden that we then feed and let
picture. Honesty captures everything, all the
grow. We complain that it’s there but do not
beautiful things that are part of our lives and
take responsibly for the fact that we planted it
within who we are, as well as the not so great
there in the first place. And via this dishonesty
things or more accurately, the areas we need
and irresponsibly, we provide the perfect
to work on. So if we’re not seeing everything
environment for it to flourish, allowing it to
all at once, then we need to admit that there is
over shadow or take up space where other
a part of us that is being dishonest.
more beautiful, supportive and loving things
WHEN IT COMES TO OUR RELATIONSHIPS, GETTING HONEST DOESN’T NEED TO BE A BIG DEAL. By the nature of being human, we see and feel everything. We know when people are lying, we know when people are upset and we know when we have disrespected ourselves and/or another but we simply choose to turn
could grow. Honesty therefore offers us an opportunity to stop and take stock. It’s like looking out into our garden and allowing ourselves to see all that’s growing, the flowers, the trees and the weeds. It raises our awareness so that we can start to choose differently, to try new approaches and start to address the things that aren’t working whist still confirming and building all that does. Getting honest simply brings awareness to what is already there and gives a voice to what is. Sure, if we have allowed too many weeds to grow then pulling out the garden might be the way to go. By the very nature that a weed could grow though it, proves that we have fertile soil and thus, a new garden can be planted afresh - this is the beauty that is on offer to us all.
a blind eye. We brush things aside because
So as a piece of homework, start practising to
we don’t want to know or we don’t want to
be honest, even if it’s only with yourself. Take
face the truth because we think it’ll be too
a look out into your garden and see how it’s
painful or difficult to deal with. We decide in
growing. Is it loving and bright or are their
that moment, it’s better to live a lie.
areas that need some work? If so, get working!
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all those around us, then that’s what we will plant and nurture in our garden and ultimately, what we get to live in and come home to. So how honest are your relationships and how honest are they growing? GHG Disclaimer – please read
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Martin Gladman is a social worker, counsellor, life
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pretty incredible experience. In fact, most of us would say it is fantastic.
But sadly, many of us miss out on the most wonderful gift that romantic love offers us. Today, however, you do not have to miss out because I am going to share that secret with you. Read on and enjoy! In the context of a romantic relationship, radical intimacy means, giving one’s Beloved total access to one’s inner being (source, root) in a continuing act of loving self-revelation and sacrifice while simultaneously receiving the inner being (source, root) of one’s Beloved as a precious and sacred gift.
Total access to one’s inner being does not mean
veryone knows that falling in love is a
ego defenses and allow our partner to see who we really were, are and hope to be. This process can be frightening and extremely difficult if it is attempted outside of the context of romantic love. But romantic love creates a very special atmosphere in which we can find the courage and ability to bare our souls with our Beloved and in that process find a new and glorious vision of self and the other. Radical intimacy introduces us to a preciously rare level of non-defensive vulnerability that allows a heart-to-heart flow of communication of words, touch, seeing and being seen and emotion that is almost completely unavailable to the non-initiated. Here, two
that we necessarily
lovers enter a world
of closeness and
thought, feeling or
memory that exists
that transcends a
in our minds. It
does mean that we
They slip easily past
sacrifice gladly our
the boundaries and
blunders of immatur-
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ity, defensiveness, sarcasm, hurt, a n g e r a n d misunderstanding into a space of
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WITH OUR BELOVED
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most couples will, after they have reached their toleration point, begin to unconsciously generate behavior that erodes it. This can occur in various ways but immaturity usually provides the most effective intimacy-blocking behavior. Couples at this stage will say hurtful childish things, become irritated by relatively insignificant habits or comments, add sarcasm to humor, offer criticism at inopportune moments and embarrass each other in public. The list of immaturity generated negativity is endless but the effects are immediate and the doorway to deep closeness begins to shut. In weeks the thrill disappears and a new status quo of livable GHG Disclaimer – please read
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distance is established. Sadly, it is in this state that the majority of committed relationships live out their existence. Romance and the special connection that it created are gone and a new
sort of toleration takes root and the myth, that romantic love cannot endure rules. The problem, contrary to popular opinion, even including those professionals that should know better, is not with romantic love and its inherent inability to last. The almost inevitable loss of the wonder and ecstasy of romantic love is due to four heretofore unacknowledged factors: • our inability to tolerate ecstasy and joy • partner inequality • immaturity
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• lack of radical intimacy skills
By Russ Harris
The good news is that each of these potentially destructive factors can be attended to so that a couple can rediscover or resurrect their experience of romantic love and allow it to become the defining context for their relationship. If you want a free copy of my powerful exercises that help couples explore radical intimacy simply email me at DrA@mattcoyote.com and put Radical Intimacy in the subject line.
I will send it to you immediately. Reverend Matthew Anderson has a Doctor of Ministry specialising in counselling and has helped many couples and singles with
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“If you could only love enough, you could be the most
powerful person in the world.”
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Problem eaters Fussy or Words Deb Hopper
extent. Fussy eating is very common in
pre-schoolers as they are encouraged to eat a wider range of foods but they are also at the developmental stage where they are learning about independence and experimenting with saying ‘no’.
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transitioning from breast or bottle to solids and this fussiness continues throughout preschool and into the schowol years. There has been a lot of research on this topic and the points below can serve as a guide to when to get help. GHG Disclaimer – please read
that most families contend with to some
ussy eating is a phase of development
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1. A child eats fewer than 15-20 different foods or less.
or more regular health checks (12 months, 18 months, 2-year health check) that their child is having difficulties with eating. 3. They refuse to eat from one or more food groups.
have the balance or postural strength required to be able to sit up easily to eat, or they may tire quickly. 4. Psychological
develop very real stress responses to of them being distressed around food or
meltdowns at meal times.
moving their body away from food. TIPS FOR FUSSY EATERS The wide array of reasons listed above
WHY ARE KID’S FUSSY EATERS? There are many reasons why children struggle with fussy or problem eating. These may include:
illustrate why it is important to understand first what is the underlying cause of the fussy eating. Once you know, then you can really pin point how to help.
1. Mouth and chewing movements which are poorly developed.
However, here are a few guidelines to point you in the right direction.
2. Lots of children, even older children, struggle with co-ordination of
look or smell of food. Often they also don’t
being with food. Watch for warning signs
4. They refuse one or more texture type. regularly
physically can’t cope with the texture, taste,
2. A parent mentions to a professional at 2
1. Make sure that your child is well supported when they are seated to eat. Make sure
mouth, teeth, tongue
that their feet
or their swallowing
are resting on
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3. Use a plain plate. Often parents buy
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or cartoon. 4. Encourage your child to serve themselves. Every
problem eaters to eat, download our free tip sheet here.
For more great tips for helping fussy or
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“The love of the family and the love of
one person can heal. It heals the scars left by a larger society. A massive, powerful society.”
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- Maya Angelou
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