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His nutritionist taught him everything about goji and acai berries, pure coconut water and the wonders of vitamin E.
of vitamin E. He also explains the gratification of swimming, combined with sauna, the occasional fast and a colonoscopy – all while I decide if it’s bad manners to order dessert. When was it you snatched the joy of self-deprecation from us? I wonder if you’re even aware of the downward spiral you’ve so happily embarked upon. Now I’m all for self-improvement. I do not take pleasure assessing (criticising) others’ lifestyle choices, passing judgement on ability, intellect and self-worth, and I compliment when compliment is due. But where are we heading? If men are embracing values and accolades that are so conventionally feminine are they silently affirming that they’re fed up with male/masculine responsibilities too? In this world of myriad choices and roles, where individuals are led to believe they themselves determine the terms of success and fulfilment yet
posses a poor internal compass, they can wind up utterly lost – no matter how educated, informed or confident you are. All I need from you guys is to stay as you were. As much as we hate to admit it, every girl dreams of an alpha-male, with all his stubbornness and grumpiness and general being-a-guy-ness. We don’t need another girlfriend, we have plenty of those. Don’t succumb to the vanities that women like to call their day-to-day lifestyle. We need to feed off our differences to empower ourselves – and you, too. Whenever we groan about your inability to communicate or wash the dishes or your sudden ineptitude when it comes to ironing your shirts, those are the things that makes us need each other. Stay as you are, even if you have to pretend – the idea of us needing you and you needing us, that’s the glue of the world. So maybe we patronise you, and you us; that’s just the way it was meant to be. AUTUMN – winter 2013
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