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THINGS TO HEAT UP YOUR SUMMER

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THE FIT AND SEXY GAY MAG ISSUE #112 SUMMER 2009

Welcome This could be you!

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We are currently looking for more boys to appear on the cover and inside pages of FS. We are looking for guys of all different looks, shapes and sizes, so why not give it a go? All you have to do is send us a few current pictures including at least one clear face shot. Or you can just send us a link to one of your online profiles that include your pictures. You can email your info to fsmag@gmfa.org.uk or message us on Myspace or Facebook (see below). Make sure you include your address and phone number. We can’t wait to hear from you! Cary James x Editor Find us on Myspace at www.myspace.com/fsmag or join our new fan page on Facebook by searching for FS magazine.There you will find more pics of our cover stars, forums on stuff from the mag and other cool stuff. Plus you can post photos of yourself and videos of you telling us why you love FS. Come on, join the FS nation. Do it now!

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Let the moose loose Moosehead is Australia’s no 1 male grooming brand and the full range of skincare products is now available in the UK to help keep you looking good this summer. It includes ‘Look Buff’ face scrub; ‘Grime Blasting’ face wash, ’Mooseturising’ (see what they did there) face hydrator and ‘Moose Mud’ face mask. And they have given us 12 full sets of the entire product line to give away. All you have to do is answer this simple question.

What country is famous for having lots of moose? A) Canada B) Tahiti C) England Email your answer along with your name, address and contact phone number to fsmag@gmfa.org.uk or post it to the address at the back of the mag. Good luck.

Hot boy alert!

Got Pride? It’s that time of year again, when the sun is (hopefully) shining, rainbow flags fill the air, and hot boys fill the streets – oh yes, Pride season is well and truly under way. And with so many events this year, you are spoilt for choice. Here are some tips on how to make the most of the big day:

1. Get an early start – Pride is the gayest day in the calendar, so make the most of it. You can sleep for the rest of the year. 2. Don’t peak too soon – if you start out doing vodka shots with Bacardi Breezer and chasers before breakfast, chances are you’re going be passed out (or in A&E) by lunchtime.

In our never ending quest to find free pictures of hot boys on the internet, we bring you www.guyswithiphones.com. It is absolutely packed with hotties who have taken their own photos with their mobile phone. We love it!

Remember Pride is a marathon not a sprint. 3. Drink lots of water – being out in the sun, drinking alcohol and taking recreational drugs can all lead to one thing – dehydration. It is one of the main reasons people end up in the medic tent on Pride day, so make sure you drink plenty of water throughout the day. 4. Rub on some sun block – even if it’s cloudy, you can still get a nasty sunburn if you are outside all day. And a bright red face isn’t a good look for post-Pride parties. Put some SFP 15 on before you leave the house and bring some with you so you can top it up later. 5. Have a bloody brilliant day.

Your pride rundown: Derby Goes Pink: 4 July (www.derbygoespink.com) Norwich Pride: 25 July (www.norwichpride.org.uk) Nottingham Pride: 25 July (www.nottinghampride.co.uk) Stoke Pride: 8 August Doncaster Pride: 16 August (www.doncasterpride.co.uk) Lincoln Pride: 22 August (www.lincolnpride.co.uk)

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Six ways to heat up your summer Buy a bike

Let’s face it, trains and buses this time of year suck hard. They are hot, smelly, and you get off covered in someone else’s sweat and with your clothes crumpled (not always bad things but in this situation they definitely are). So why not wave public transport goodbye and get a bike? Not only will you save money, but you will probably get to work quicker and it’s a great workout. Plus you can use it to go on a cool low-cost gay cycling holiday as well – huzzah!

Be outdoorsy

With the pound taking a beating, a holiday in Europe can be ridiculously expensive, so why not stay in the UK and head into the great outdoors? Gay camping can be more than dancing around your living room to your Saturdays CD, get yourself a tent and discover the pleasures an outdoor life. You can go hiking, cycling, rock climbing, kayaking, you name it. The Gay Outdoor Club has groups all around the UK. To find out more, visit www.goc.org.uk.

Have an outdoor shag OK, it’s a bit naughty and not really allowed in most places, but if you’re careful and respectful of others – what the hell? It’s bloody good fun.

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Get naked There is nothing quite like the feeling of the wind blowing through your bum fluff on a hot summer day. And there are loads of places you can go starkers outdoors in this great nation of ours, from nude beaches to secret skinny dipping spots. Google ‘naked swimming uk’ or visit www.nuff.org.uk for more tips.

Go for a swim Swimming is always a summertime fave. Loads of lidos have reopened across the UK so there are more places than ever to have a dip. Plus they are always full of gayers, so they can be great places to hang out with friends or meet new ones. Oh, and it’s great exercise too. To find your local lido, visit www.lidos.org.uk.

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celebrate! If you are lucky enough to be going on holiday this summer, here’s a quick checklist to make sure you are ready to rumble. Get your jabs

For most European countries you don’t need any travel vaccinations but if you’re planning on going further afield you may need some. These vaccinations usually need to be given six weeks before travel. If you leave it too late the vaccination may not have enough time to work and may not offer any protection. You can get them from your GP or a local travel clinic (both may charge you).

Don’t forget the insurance

Travel insurance is essential, even if you’re only going to Europe, because if you have an accident or are taken seriously ill you’re not always guaranteed free healthcare, and it could cost thousands of pounds to get the treatment you need. Travel insurance can be picked up cheaply.

Pack your pills

If you take any regular medication make sure you have enough to cover your whole holiday. Put it in your carry-on luggage and make sure it’s in its original packaging with your name on the label. Some countries won’t allow you into the country if you have HIV and are found with HIV drugs. This includes the USA which hasn’t changed its border policy despite the US Congress ruling to scrap the ban. To find out more visit: www.namlife.org.

Pack condoms and lube

A bit of holiday nookie is high on the ‘to do’ list of most gay boys. But finding condoms in a foreign country can be difficult and depending where you are, you don’t know if they are going to be any good or not. Make sure you bring plenty along. Packing polyurethane condoms like Durex Avanti or Pasante Unique, means that you don’t have to use water- or silicone-based lube. You can use whatever you have handy even if it has oil in it. Unique come in a handy three pack shaped like a credit card – brilliant. To buy low-cost condoms online visit www.freedomsshop.com. And if you don’t buy polyurethane condoms, don’t forget the lube. It’s hard enough trying to find water-based lube in the UK and it can be much worse abroad. You can buy a travel-sized bottle or you can even get little sachets.

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Bring your papers

Make sure you bring: two photocopies of your passport (this will speed up getting a new one if you lose it), travel insurance print-out, travel plan, and a note from your doctor or a copy of the prescriptions for any medication you are bringing. If you have a pre-existing health condition that may need treatment (like HIV), you need a European Health Insurance Card (EHIC). You can apply by ringing 0845 606 2030 or online at www.travelinsurance.net.

Get ready to party...

Letting your hair down and going a bit crazy is part of being on holiday, but just remember that you can still catch STIs, including HIV. Many European countries have much stronger drinks on sale, and a single beer or spirit can be much stronger than at home. Be careful with recreational drugs. You’re away from home and in a strange environment, so you are more vulnerable. They may be much stronger than you’re used to or could be cut with all kinds of dangerous rubbish.

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a) 90 percent. b) 10 percent. c) 100 percent.

a) Ask your gran for some tips. b) Just go for it and hope for the best. c) Practise on your own first. a) Rubbing a hot tea bag all over your partner especially his nipples. b) Something involving monkeys dressed as humans making tea. c) Someone dipping their balls into another person’s mouth.

A condom should always be the right size for you, but what else should you look for? a) It’s within the use-by date, and carries the Kite Mark. b)The colour matches your bedsheets. c) It is “ultra strong”.

True or false: you can catch HIV from being sucked off by a guy with HIV. The average length of a flaccid cock is:

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a) Between one and two inches.

Which is the most common sexually transmitted infection (STI) in gay men?

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a) HIV. b) Genital warts. c) Gonorrhoea.

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What are anal eggs?

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If you and your boyfriend are in a monogamous relationship and want to ditch using condoms, which of the following is the safest way to go about it?

a) A cheap substitute for caviar. b) A funny name farmers use for chicken poo. c) A sex toy.

a) Just stop using them and hope for the best. b) Get tested for HIV, continue to use condoms, then get tested again three months later. If, after these tests, both of you are negative, then ditching condoms can be an option if you’re in a monogamous relationship. c) Keep your fingers crossed when having sex.

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Which of these is NOT a technique for giving good head? a)The circle. b) Gagging. c)The butterfly flutter.

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What percentage of gay men have had bum sex last year? ANSWER: A – 90 percent. That’s a lot of shagging. But it also means that ten percent of you are busy doing other things. One of

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No one has ever caught HIV from getting sucked off. There is a chance that if you are sucking someone off you could catch HIV, especially if the HIV-positive guy spunks in your mouth. To be extra careful, don’t let guys spunk in your mouth.

the great things about being gay is that you can experiment with loads of different things sexually – there isn’t just one act that is considered ‘sex’ like in the straight world. So go on, get creative and remember it isn’t all about bumming. What’s the best thing to do if you’re new to anal sex but want to give it a try? ANSWER: C – Practise playing on your own first. While your gran may have been a bit of a goer in her day, this may not be the best topic of conversation for you two.You could just go for it, but better sex is guaranteed if you know what it already feels like to have something up your arse beforehand.It certainly shouldn’t hurt – well maybe a little at first, but then it should feel good.

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What do you think most gay guys need to learn about sex? I think it’s important to understand what both of you want out of sex and understand each other. It also helps if you stop watching porn and go and try the real thing. “Tension can be relieved by touching your arse and becoming more familiar with it,” says Jack Morin, a San Francisco-based sex therapist. “An ideal time to explore is when taking a shower or bath. Deep breathing also affects the anal muscles, so don’t forget to breath.” So don’t be shy of having a bit of a poke with a lubed finger, and you’ll start to feel more comfortable with how it feels. What is tea-bagging? ANSWER: C – Someone dipping their balls into another person’s mouth. What more can you say really... A condom should always be the right size for you, but what else should you look for? ANSWER: A – It is within the useby date and has a kite mark.

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What’s the most important thing you have ever learned about sex? Enjoy sex! A lot of people think sex is what they should be doing but don’t really think about who they’re doing it with or whether they’re truly enjoying it. What do you think most gay guys need to learn about sex? It’s not all about the body. It’s also to do with emotions.

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True or false: you can catch HIV from being sucked off by a guy with HIV. ANSWER: FALSE.

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Condoms have ‘use by dates’ just like food, so make sure the ones you are using are still good, otherwise they will be more likely to break. Also look for a little symbol that looks a bit like an ice-cream cone with a ‘B’ on the top. That’s a kitemark and means that it has been tested and found safe by UK standards. All kitemarked condoms are good to use for gay sex, so you don’t have to worry about finding ‘extra-thick’ or ‘ultrastrong’ condoms.

Nicky, 21 Fashion student from Middlesbrough What do you think most gay guys need to learn about sex? Learn to be comfortable about yourself and your body.

The average length of a cock when flaccid is: ANSWER: B – between three and four inches. “No matter what you try to tell them, men are always worried about the size of their manhood,” says Jack Jones, agony uncle for Gay Times magazine. “But the good news is that most non-erect penises

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are around the same size, between three and four inches long. But we all know they can shrink temporarily – if you’ve just got into a cold swimming pool, for example.” Jack Jones has some words of reassurance for anyone who thinks they’re under-endowed: “It’s impossible to predict what a soft penis will look like when hard.”


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already have it. The spread of most STIs can be prevented by using condoms. “There is the chance that those left undiagnosed will still be having sex and spreading an infection,” says sexual health consultant Chris Wood, who urges everyone to get checked out regularly at a GUM clinic. See the listing at the back of FS or visit www.condomessentialwear.co.uk/ get-help to find one near you. What are anal eggs? ANSWER: C – A sex toy. Anal eggs are little (or not so little) rubber eggs and often come on a string so that you can put them up your bum and then pull them out again – if that is what gets you going.

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As with all sex toys, if you are going to share them, it’s important that you wash them with hot soapy water between users or use a condom and

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Hair assistant from Sussex What’s the best thing you have ever learned about sex? It’s good to take control even if you’re scared about it. From experience I realise that I like being in control when I’m having sex. What do you think most gay guys need to learn about sex? You shouldn’t try too hard or think about it too much. If you’re thinking about what you’re doing and how you’re doing it when you’re shagging, you’re not going to enjoy the experience as much and it will be boring. How do you make sure you always get the sex you want? I think it’s a lot to do with the person you’re having sex with. It’s important to have sex with a person you trust and are comfortable with. This way you’re more likely to have the kind of sex you actually want. You should also never be worried about saying no. If you’re not happy with how something is going you must speak up there and then.

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change it in between (condoms don’t actually work that well with anal eggs, so washing them is best). If you don’t, you can risk spreading HIV or another sexually transmitted infection. If you and your boyfriend are in a monogamous relationship and want to ditch using condoms, which of the following is the safest way to go about it? ANSWER: B – Get tested for HIV, continue to use condoms, then get tested again three months later. If, after these tests, both of you are negative, then ditching condoms can be an option if you’re in a monogamous relationship. It can take three months for HIV infection to show up in a standard blood test, although some test will detect HIV earlier (to find out more about HIV tests visit www.gmfa.org.uk/testing). Gay relationship expert Frankie McPolin says: “You should continue to use condoms until you both have the second result. Even then you need to have clear rules about condom use outside the relationship if your relationship isn’t monogamous – or if one guy slips up.” Most gay

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men who catch HIV catch it from a boyfriend or regular shag. And most of the men they catch it from think they are HIV-negative or don’t know their HIV-status. Condoms enable

Jack, 20

Works for a retail company from Kingston What’s the most useful thing you have ever learned about sex? It’s good to please your partner but there needs to be a balance in giving people things they want and you getting what you want as well. Some guys will try to do things that you don’t want to do so you need to be in control. you to protect yourself and your partner. Think carefully before giving them up. Which of these is NOT a technique for giving good head to your bloke? ANSWER: B – Gagging If you are gagging when giving head, try drinking some orange juice beforehand or try a different position. To perform ‘the circle’, place his cock in your mouth but don’t tighten your lips. Begin a circling motion with your head. The cock will slide to different places in your mouth and he wil go nuts. Watch your teeth on this one. For the ‘butterfly flutter’, wrap your lips tightly around the cock head and flick the tip of his cock with your tongue – it’s also really sensual to flutter your tongue up and down the tip. For more tips to improve your sex life visit www.gmfa.org.uk/sex.

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Give yourself one point for each correct answer and write your score here:

Now get ready for part two…

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Which is the most common sexually transmitted infection (STI) in gay men? ANSWER: C– gonorrhoea. Although HIV remains the most serious STI, gonorrhoea is the most common in gay men – in 2007, nearly 4,000 gay men received treatment for it at sexual health clinics in the UK. Having an STI can also make you more at risk if you are exposed to HIV or more infectious if you

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True or false: you can catch HIV if you are the one doing the fucking. Which of these is the best way to ensure you’re having the kind of sex you want?

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How do most gay men catch HIV?

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Roughly how many men living with HIV don’t know they have it?

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True or false: you can break your penis. Where is your prostate gland?

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What do you call the part of sex that is used to get you into the mood before you actually shag?

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Which of these is the safest type of lube to use with condoms?

a)Take it out of the wrapper, unroll it and then attempt to pull it onto your cock like a jumper. b) Remove it from the wrapper, squeeze the tip to remove excess air, then place it on the tip of your cock and roll it down as far as it will go. c) Put your right foot in first, then your left and then gently ease it up until you are fully covered.

a) Have it tattooed on your chest (or back) so any sex partner can read it. b) Experiment with sex to find out what you like, and if you aren’t enjoying something, then stop and do something else. c) Only have sex with yourself. a) Blow jobs. b) Getting fucked without a condom and the guy spunking inside you. c) Loo seats.

a) Half. b) One-third. c) None of them.

a) In your nipples. a) About half an inch inside your arse. c) In a box under your old bed at your mum’s house in Yorkshire.

a) A handshake b) Foreplay c)The bus ride home

a)Water- or silicone-based. b) Vaseline. c) Baby-oil.

True or false: if you are exposed to HIV (like you have sex with an HIV-positive guy without condoms or the condom breaks) there is nothing you can do afterwards to lessen the risk of you catching HIV.

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Patrick, 31 Works in the City from Brazil What’s the best thing you have ever learned about sex? You need to be careful and confident when it comes to shagging and only have sex if you really want to do it. What do you think most gay guys need to learn about sex? Using condoms with lots of lube is an important lesson to learn as your health depends on it. Once you’ve got that sorted then you can relax and enjoy it.

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Nathan, 26 Cabin crew from London

What’s the best thing you have ever learned about sex? You mustn’t take sex with a partner for granted. It may not be there some day. What do you think most gay guys need to learn about sex? You need to be understanding, as some guys like to do things that other guys don’t like, so it’s important to be aware of this fact when you’re with a guy. You need to compromise and not be selfish.

What’s the best thing you have ever learned about sex? To be versatile, as then both guys can get the same pleasure and enjoyment. What do you think most gay guys need to learn about sex? Guys need to learn to get rid of their hang-ups and then they’ll enjoy sex more. Lots of guys have issues with past relationships and sexual partners. Try not to think you’re being compared with someone else when you’re having sex. How do you make sure you always get the sex you want? You shouldn’t beat about the bush when it comes to this. You should simply ask for the Works in hospitality kind of sex you Fashion student want. If you don’t from Iranian background from Belfast communicate with What do you think most gay What’s the most useful thing you your partner then guys need to learn about sex? how can you expect have ever learned about sex? Follow your inner feelings and if to have the best sex Well the guy who runs my local it doesn’t feel right then don’t do porn shop introduced me to cock for you? it. You also need to be safe. I also rings last week, and that’s turned think if you’re drunk you out to be pretty useful. shouldn’t go looking for sex.

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a condom always hold the unrolled condom by the tip to squeeze out the air, and roll it down the shaft of the penis.” True or false: you can catch HIV if you are the one doing the fucking. ANSWER: TRUE. The stuff that lines your arse is called anal mucus, and if you are infected with HIV, your anal mucus will be full of the virus. Many times there will be more HIV in a person’s anal mucus than in their blood. So if they get fucked by a negative guy without a condom, that HIV can get into his body through the head of his cock, the opening he wees through or even his foreskin. Condoms

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protect you from HIV if you are the fucker or the one getting fucked. What’s the best way to ensure you’re having the kind of sex you want? ANSWER: B – Experiment with sex to find out what you like, and if you aren’t enjoying something, then stop and do something else. Athough sex with yourself is lots of fun, it’s also good to get a partner in on the act once in a while. And like so many other things in life, sex is about communication. “Some guys don’t feel they can tell a sexual partner what they like and dislike when it comes to sex,” says Jack Jones. “This can end up with lads doing stuff they’re not happy with.” So it’s important to communicate with your partner. Sometimes little noises or guiding his hands may be enough, but sometimes you may need to stop and talk about it.

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Actor from Hertfordshire

What’s the best thing you have ever learned about sex? The most important thing is to be properly sexually aware and know the consequences of unprotected sex. It’s also good to have a partner who knows your body. What do you think most gay guys need to learn about sex? You need to learn about your body and know what you like and what you don’t like. You can experiment on your own and with other people. How do most gay men catch HIV? ANSWER: B – Getting fucked without a condom and the guy spunking inside you.

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Most gay men catch HIV from fucking without condoms. The riskiest thing to do if you don’t already have HIV is to let a guy fuck you without a condom and cum inside you. And the more times you do it, the greater the chance you will catch HIV. In fact, if you have lots of unprotected sex with HIV-positive guys, or guys who’s status you don’t know, and they cum inside you, chances are you will catch HIV sooner or later – it’s that simple. How many men living with HIV don’t know they have it? ANSWER: B – One third. Around one in three gay men that have HIV, don’t even know they that have it. They think they are HIVnegative or aren’t sure if they have HIV or not. And since they don’t know they have HIV, they may be happy to have sex without condoms with other negative guys because

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they think they have the same HIV status. Plus if you have HIV and don’t know it, you won’t be accessing treatment, so you may have more HIV in your blood and you will be more likely to pass HIV on to a partner. Confused? Well the most

important thing to know is a lot of guys with HIV don’t know it, so if you have sex without condoms with one of them, you will be at risk, even thought neither of you will know it. True or False: you can break your penis. ANSWER:TRUE There is no "penis bone," but you can break your penis all the same. It's called penile fracture, and it's not a subtle injury. When it happens, you can hear a pop or snap.Then the penis turns black and blue. And there's terrible pain. Penile fracture is rare, and it typically happens to younger men because their erections tend to be quite rigid. A common way that penile fracture happens is when a man is thrusting too hard and fast during sex, so easy does it boys.

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Where is your prostate gland? ANSWER: B – About half an inch inside your arse. Your prostate gland is often called the ‘gay g-spot’ and it being rubbed during sex is what makes it feel so good. Since it’s not actually far from the opening of the arse, you don’t need to have a big cock to hit it – hurrah. Try different positions while fucking to find which hits your partner’s prostate, and when you do, he’ll howl so loud your neighbour will call the council – or go green with jealousy.

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What do you call the part of sex that is used to get you into the mood before you actually shag? ANSWER: B – Foreplay. Go on, spend some time kissing and cuddling, nibbling, licking or whatever other crazy stuff you fancy doing. It will make the whole experience so much better.

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Which of these is the safest type of lube to use with condoms? ANSWER: A – Water- or siliconbased. “Oil-based lubes like vaseline or baby oil should be avoided as they will corrode condoms,” says TV

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doctor, Christian Jessen. They are likely to break and put you at greater risk of getting STIs. Make sure

you’ve always got some good water- or silicone-based lube with you when you’re going to have a shag. Buy a bottle and keep it in the bedroom, and keep some extra sachets (like you get in free condom packs) in your bag. Check out www.freedoms-shop.nhs.uk where you buy can top class lube at low prices.

Give yourself one point for every correct answer in part two:

Now add that to your score from part one:

And your total is:

True or false: if you are exposed to HIV (ie you have sex with a HIV positive guy without condoms or the condom breaks) there is nothing you can do afterwards to lessen the risk of you catching HIV? ANSWER: FALSE

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If you think you have been exposed to HIV, PEP is a treatment you can take that may stop you from being infected. It is anti-HIV medication that you must take for a full month and may have some unpleasant side effects, but if it stops you from catching HIV, it is so worth it. You must get PEP within 72 hours of the sex you had that put you at risk and the sooner the better. You can get PEP from GUM clinics and A&E departments. For more information visit www.gmfa.org.uk/pep or see the listings at the back of this magazine for helplines and services that can help you.

RESULTS 18-20 points

You are a sex god and what you don’t know about sex isn’t worth knowing, although we bet we can still show you a thing or two.

12-17 points

You are on your way to god-like status. Keep reading FS and you will get there.

Less than 12 points

Well it’s a start. Luckily you’ve found FS and we’ll be more than happy to show you the ropes!

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Did I catch HIV? You may not know it, but there are signs that you have caught HIV long before it will show up on a standard HIV test. Read on to find out more... Most guys (about 80 percent) experience a short period of illness after they have caught HIV. For a lot of guys it just feels like a cold or a bout of flu. It normally happens around two to six weeks after they have caught it. The main symptoms of seroconversion illness (that’s what it’s officially called) are a sore throat, fever, body aches and a rash. Other common symptoms include mouth ulcers, joint pain, loss of appetite, weight loss, muscle pain and feeling overly tired or sick. Most of the time, having these symptoms does not mean that you’ve caught HIV. It could just be the flu or some other ordinary illness. These symptoms could only be linked to catching HIV if you have put yourself at risk (such as fucking without condoms) in the last six weeks. Because these symptoms are common to other illnesses, many people do not realise that these

symptoms are a sign that they have become infected with HIV. The m If you have two or more of sympt ain these symptoms, and have seroco oms of had unsafe sex in the last illness nversion six weeks, it is worth it’s off (that’s wha visiting your GP or GUM t ic clinic and getting tested for are a s ially called) o HIV so that you know what r e th fever, your HIV status is. body a roat, che Men who have recently and a rash. s been infected have lots of HIV in their blood (it’s called their viral load) which makes it more likely they could give HIV to someone else if they have unprotected sex, so it’s best to get tested if you think there’s a chance you could have caught HIV. Again, most of the time, these symptoms may have nothing to do with HIV, but if you suspect they could, it’s always better to know for sure. For more information visit www.gmfa.org.uk/sex.

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The truth about: Smoking Why do we do it?” Some guys say it calms them down, some say it gives them something to do with their hands, some say they enjoy the whole thing. The truth is that smokers’ brains are chemically addicted to the nicotine in cigarettes on a subconscious level. When a smoker begins to feel nicotine withdrawal (a mere 30 minutes after his last cigarette) he feels a need to smoke and satisfying this need provides him with relief. He may describe this relief as calming down, pleasure or meeting a need to do something with his hands.

How do you get addicted? You got addicted very soon after your first cigarette, partly because your

subconscious finds it very easy to make the connection between what the nicotine does in your brain, and where the nicotine comes from (the act of smoking).

What’s the best way to stop? You can only break the addiction by stopping smoking. Cutting down is a bad idea. The cigarettes that you do smoke, you will inhale more deeply. And since you are denying your body all of the nicotine it needs, you are constantly in a state of withdrawal. Using Nicotine Replacement Therapy makes you twice as likely to break free from nicotine addiction as going cold turkey. Going to a Stop Smoking course as well as using NRT makes

you up to ten times more likely to break your nicotine addiction. For more information on stop smoking courses, including some exclusively for gay men, visit www.gmfa.org.uk/stopsmoking.

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Health

Get fit with Dino It’s going to be an amazing summer, and I am sure you all want to make the most of it. Remember, it’s 20 percent training and 80 percent diet that gets results. Without eating the right stuff you aren’t going to get anywhere! Here are ten wicked tips to help you feel fantastic, look great and get the results you want. 1. Eat as soon as possible after exercise. Training seriously depletes your body’s energy supplies, so you’ll need to get a quality meal inside you quickly after exercise! Eat some fast acting carbs and quality protein to fuel and repair your muscles. Something like a banana and peanut butter sandwich or a cream cheese and tomato bagel within 30 minutes of working out is perfect.

‘Peop who s le break kip fa often st are than tfatter who d hose on’t!’

2. Drink lots of water.

Drinking water before, after or during training is not enough. Keep your body topped up all day. Dehydration slows down your metabolism and greatly affects your energy levels. Aim to drink three litres of water a day to get maximum results from your training.

3. Eat a protein snack before bed. Your muscles regenerate the most when you sleep. So eating a low-fat protein-rich snack before bed helps them to grow and repair. Eat something like cottage cheese or low fat yogurt before you kip.

4. Always, always have breakfast. People who skip breakfast are often fatter than those who don’t! A good breakfast containing complex carbs and protein helps to cut out any cravings for sweet and starchy foods, along with boosting your metabolism! Foods perfect for breakfast would be: porridge, fruit, wholegrain cereals and eggs on wholemeal toast. These foods will give you a load of energy to start the day and also stop your body storing fat.

5. Eat fat. When getting in shape you might think that the right thing to do is to cut out fat so you don’t get fatter. Wrong! Good fats are essential to your health and training. Fatty acids found in oily fish, nuts and olive oil will prevent muscle breakdown and replenish the fat stores that are needed to sustain your lengthy training sessions. Fat is also needed to

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STI Corner

6. Eat little and often. The best way to maintain even energy levels throughout the day is by spreading calories out over the day into six meals, instead of the traditional three. Eating little and often keeps your metabolism burning and your blood sugar levels stable. Eating regularly also prevents fat storage, keeps you from feeling hungry and encourages muscle recovery.

7. Bye bye booze. OK so I might be being a little hypocritical here, but big drinking sessions will not help you at all when you are training. Although I usually go out and drink once or twice a week I always try to stick to low calorie drinks like vodka, lime and soda, vodka tonic or gin and tonic. Drinks like a pint of lager contain about 200 empty calories and when calories don’t have any use they are usually stored as fat in the form of love handles or back fat. If you are serious about getting that beach holiday body keep your boozing to a minimum!

8. Chill out, take a rest day! A chill out day inbetween training will allow your muscles time to restore and regenerate – maximising your gain. It will also lower levels of cortisol. This particularly nasty stress hormone can stimulate fat cells to grow and multiply, especially around the abdominal area! So make sure you don’t work too hard.

9. Eat 5 a day. You need high levels of fruit and veg to keep energy levels up and to boost your immune system. Fruit and veg are also very filling thanks to their natural high water content. This allows you to fill up with fewer calories and get more fat-absorbing fibre!

10. Treat yourself! This is my personal favourite little tip! Once you’ve got the hang of eating healthily and exercising regularly, treat yourself and occasionally have some of those delicious forbidden foods. Just make sure your regular meals are healthy and plan in your cheat meals so you can eat whatever the fuck you like and enjoy it! By allowing yourself the occasional pizza or ice cream you’ll help to keep cravings at bay and have something to look forward too! Et voila, if you stick to this way of eating for even just a few weeks you will have more energy and feel so much better! Obviously it’s hard to stick to the points, 100 percent of the time, but do your best – trust me it’s worth it. Now bugger off and enjoy the summer. See you all next time guys…

Dino Gamecho is the current Mr Gay UK.

The place to come for STIs (not literally of course)

This month: Syphilis How do you get it? Syphilis is a bacterial infection which is most usually transmitted through fucking without a condom and sucking cock, but which can also be caught through rimming, fisting and even through skin to skin contact (although this is rare).

How do you prevent it? Using condoms will prevent many cases of syphilis. If you wanted to reduce the risks further, you would have to use condoms for oral sex. Sucking cock carries a risk of syphilis even if he doesn’t cum in your mouth.

How do you know you’ve got it? The symptoms develop in stages. The first is a small painless sore or hardened lump which will appear one to ten weeks after infection, near the point where the bacteria entered your body. This could be your arse, cock, or mouth. It’s possible for this to go unnoticed, especially if it’s in your arse. Two to six months later, you may experience a rash on the body and a flu-like illness involving fever, headache, and sore throat. These symptoms may be mild and difficult to spot. After a couple of years, if left untreated, syphilis will stop being contagious to sexual partners but at this stage the infection can cause blindness, deafness, brain damage, heart attacks, paralysis, lung problems and strokes.

How do you treat it? Syphilis is detectable by a blood test and if it is treated early enough it is completely curable with antibiotics, causing no permanent damage. Even at the latest stage syphilis is still curable, but any damage done by the syphilis may be irreparable. Because the symptoms are easy to miss, it’s worth having regular sexual health check-ups, including blood tests for syphilis, if you are sexually active. Blood testing for syphilis typically involves three testing processes and after an infection, even if it is cured, some of these tests will give a positive result. It is important to follow the advice from the GUM clinic as it may be difficult to tell whether the test is reacting to the previous infection or to a new infection of syphilis.

For more information on sexually transmitted infections visit www.gmfa.org.uk/sex.

Fast Fact Almost all gay men who catch HIV get it from from fucking without condoms. It is by far the highest risk thing you can do while having sex. It you really want to avoid catching HIV, use a condom and lube. For more info visit www.gmfa.org.uk.

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Health

Hey GMFA, I’ve got a problem! The team at GMFA answer questions from their website that you may be too shy to ask in the flesh... up anything from your partner well defended against HIV, it since cum didn’t actually is still possible, and Actua get into your eye and you obviously by l l y knowi washed immediately. swallowing cum more n g that y of it will be in your You can’t know for o u h ave body and for a picked certain whether or longer time. not you have picked infecti up an on is If the person up a sexually transalway swallowing cum has mitted infection s b enefic a throat infection then unless you go to a ial. the risk of catching HIV GUM clinic and have is greater. It’s possible to it checked out. Going for have an infection of the throat, a sexual health check-up every such as gonorrhoea, without so often if you are sexually active knowing it. Once the cum reaches is a good idea anyway. If you do the stomach, acids will quickly kill find out you have caught something, any HIV that may be present. then you can get the care you need. Knowing that you have picked up an infection is always beneficial, both for you and your partners.

To enema or not to enema?

A friend of mine informed me today that he was told that he should give himself an enema every day. I'm a nurse and told him that the only time a gay male really should be using an enema for cleanliness is before and after unprotected sex. What is your opinion? Enemas or douches can irritate the lining of the arse, and as far as we know there is no evidence to support the need for one daily. In fact a healthy gut shouldn't need any cleaning out before sex, and rinsing beforehand, could make you more likely to catch HIV during unprotected sex.

He spunked on my eyes...

A guy recently spunked in my eyes while they were closed. I didn’t open them and he brought me a tissue to wipe with. After that, I dabbed both eyes with a wet towel and showered. I think the risk of catching HIV is low, but what about other infections? From what you have said, it seems very unlikely that you have picked

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What about swallowing?

I know they say you shouldn’t get cum in your mouth if you want to stay totally safe from HIV, but how dangerous is it to swallow spunk? The risk of swallowing cum is slightly greater than the risk of just getting cum in your mouth. Although the mouth and throat are reasonably

For more info about sex and sexual health or to ask a question visit: www.gmfa.org.uk/sex.

How risky are.. blow jobs It is possible to get HIV from sucking cock but the chances are small. Even so, there are ways that you can reduce the risk further. If you’re giving someone a blow job don't let them cum in your mouth. Although there is HIV in the pre-cum of a HIV-positive man, the protective properties in saliva would usually be able to disable the amount of HIV that there is in precum. A condom, used correctly, will prevent either cum or pre-cum getting in the mouth, although few gay men in the UK use condoms for oral sex. Although the risk of HIV infection is fairly low, some other STIs can be easily passed via oral sex, such as chlamydia, gonorrhoea, herpes or syphilis. There is a small risk of picking up Hepatitis B through oral sex, if you have not been vaccinated. If you have an existing STI in your throat you will be more vulnerable to infection and the chances of picking up HIV or Hep B are increased. For more information on sex and how to make it safer, visit www.gmfa.org.uk/sex.


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Let’s talk about

sex

Before the launch of its national tour, we meet GMFA’s Barrie Dwyer to find out about the Sex Course.

condom because they didn’t want to spoil the moment. Then they spend ages worrying about what happened, and that they may have been infected with HIV.

What was the big idea behind creating the sex course? We were doing a different course called the Arse Class. It had been very successful but it only covered anal sex, so we wanted to expand the information to include the mouth and the cock as well, you know all the things that we as gay men use in sex. I also had a selfish reason, I wanted to include information about how to give a blow job because, well let’s just say I had been disappointed with the skill levels I had come across occasionally.

So what happens on the day?

Do you think gay men suffer because they aren’t taught about gay sex at school? I think everyone suffers from the extraordinarily bad sex education offered them at school. Because gay sex isn’t covered it reinforces the myth that it’s not ‘normal’ and outside of what is acceptable. The less information you are given, the more you We have to rely on hints, give what other people tip tell you, and somet s and people don’t im practi es always know cal demon what they are s t r a tion talking about. impro Not to mention ving y s on ou ‘techn the fact that they iques. r are mainly inter’ ested in the sex, not teaching you anything.

What’s one of the big issues that comes up on the course? Many men ‘go along’ with what their partner wants to do, even if it’s not what they want to do. They don’t have the confidence to say what they want to happen and too many men have said to me that they didn’t know if the guy that fucked them wore a

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Basically the course gives you information about your arse, your cock and your mouth. We talk about how they work and how you can get the most pleasure from them when having sex. We also cover the most up to date information on HIV and other STIs, and give hints, tips and sometimes practical demonstrations on improving your ‘techniques’. So it’s fun and informative. It’s not embarrassing if you aren’t embarrassed hearing people talk about sex and say things like ‘cock’ and ‘wank’. You can get involved to the level you feel comfortable with. No one does anything they don’t want to and there’s no actual sex involved.

Who would you recommend to go on the course? It’s not just for men with loads of partners and it’s not just for men in monogamous relationships. It’s for anyone interested in their sex life.

GMFA’s Sex Course is on a national tour starting in August. For more information, visit www.gmfa.org.uk/national or see the ad on page 23 of this issue of FS.

Four things... you’ll get from the course How to get more pleasure when being fucked. Over 50 wanking techniques. An understanding of the type of relationship you really want. How to make sure the sex you have is as safe as you want it to be.


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USE loads of LUBE when you get fucked The skin inside your arse is delicate and can be damaged, which makes it easier to catch or pass on infections such as HIV. Make sure there’s lots of lube up your arse when you get fucked. For more information on how to use condoms and lube visit www.gmfa.org.uk/sex All GMFA's campaigns are devised, planned and executed by positive, negative and untested volunteers. To volunteer for GMFA write, phone or email: Unit 43, The Eurolink Centre, 49 Effra Road, LONDON SW2 1BZ. 020 7738 6872. newvol@gmfa.org.uk. Registered Charity No.1076854. Part of the London Gay Men’s HIV Prevention Partnership.


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Advice

Sort it out! FS readers and a trained counsellor give their advice on how to tackle one of life’s problems. Dear Kelly, This month’s problem My boyfriend is constantly accusing me of sleeping with other guys and I am not. In fact, despite having an agreement that the odd shag on the side is OK, I have never had sex outside our relationship, not for three years. But despite this, many times if I go out on my own or I am late he gives me the third degree and accuses me of sleeping around. Even if we go out together he will accuse me of having sex in the toilets, which I have never done in my life. Sometimes I think it is him who is shagging around and that’s why he is accusing me all the time. What makes matters worse, he sometimes wants to have sex without condoms as a way to prove that I have been faithful, and I don’t want to because I really question if he is shagging around and being safe. Of course that leads to a big fight and it all ends in tears. How can we get out of this mess?

Kelly via email

Dear Kelly,

We all need to take responsibility for our own sexual health and your boyfriend should respect your decision to practise safer sex. Playing unsafe sex games is no way to prove your faithfulness, and it’s also very risky. It sounds like a cliché, but trust really is one of the most fundamental things in a relationship. James via email

Dear Kelly,

You could be right about your boyfriend, but my advice is based on the assumption that your boyfriend isn’t messing around and that there is a good reason why he doesn’t believe you’re faithful to him. This might sound crazy, but I wonder if there is a part of you that likes the fact that your boyfriend keeps accusing you of having sex with other men. Here’s why: it isn’t so

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difficult to make it clear to your boyfriend that you love him, that you aren’t having sex with anyone else and that there is no reason why you should tolerate his lack of trust in you. Instead, you’re allowing him and maybe even encouraging him to suspect you of cheating, because when he does this he proves that he cares about you. If I’m right then it might be unexpectedly difficult to break out of this dance you’re in with your boyfriend, but that’s all you need to do. Ian from Battersea

Dear Kelly,

Dump him, that is the best advice anyone can give you. Why do you need to be in a relationship with someone like that? Why can't you be happy single? You need to leave this mess and that is the only way you can be safe and happy. Ash via Facebook

I think the big thing to remember here is this is really a lot more about him than it is about you. It sounds like he has his own issues that he needs to sort out. I was in a very similar situation and it was very disturbing. I never knew when he would kick off and accuse me of something that I hadn’t done. It ruined countless nights out and actually made me a nervous wreck. It got so bad that when we would go out I’d literally look at the floor the whole time so I wouldn’t be accused of cruising other guys. What I realised eventually was that my partner actually had some rather serious mental health issues. When I tried to talk to him about it, he accused me of trying to make him think he was crazy. Things deteriorated and we eventually broke up. Now I am not saying this is the same as your situation, but just be aware that there may be other things going on here besides bog standard jealousy. Tom via email

Dear Kelly,

In my experience, if someone is accusing you of doing something all the time, they are usually doing it themselves. I had a boyfriend that was so jealous. He was always giving me the third degree and trying to catch me out. After we broke up I found out that he was pretty much cheating on me from day one. Cruising areas, sex clubs, he was up to all sorts. I really wish someone would have told me when we were together, but I understand why they didn’t. I am a big believer that where there is smoke there is fire, but it’s not always coming from where you expect. Dom via email


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A counsellor’s opinion Counsellor Sona Barbosa says:

Dear Kelly,

Trust is the foundation of every relationship. Relationships will never survive without trust and this is seriously missing from yours. Building this trust of course takes two. It sounds like you want this relationship to work and for that to happen communication is essential. Encourage your partner to talk about what’s really troubling him. When he questions your activities what’s he really questioning? Does he have a reason not to trust you? Has he been hurt in the past by other partners? Why does he need to put yourselves at risk to prove that you are faithful? He comes across as very insecure and it sounds like he has been hurt in the past and has trust issues. If he doesn’t work through this and realise that you are not doing anything wrong then you both need to evaluate this relationship. Living with constant doubt will only put cracks in your relationship. The more accusations he makes the more likely you are to back away or eventually do exactly what you don’t want: cheat on him or end the relationship. Tell him how you feel about the situation. Reassure him that you care and that you would like to

understand why he feels this way. Also express how you feel when he distrusts you. Let him know you want a relationship based on trust. Be firm about what you want out of the partnership. However, avoid arguments. Communication is the key to any successful relationship but there are many factors that can hinder your ability to communicate effectively with your partner especially when feelings run high and arguments start.

Base the discussion on how you feel, how he feels, and try to come to a mutual understanding of each other. Address one issue at time and don’t try to attribute blame but look towards how you can make it better. You both must be open and willing to meet half way.

If you think that you may want to see a counsellor, visit www.gmfa.org.uk/counselling or go to page 28 for information on where you can get free counselling.

Next month’s problem... Right, so I met this guy about a month ago. I really, really like him and he seems to be really into me too. So what’s the problem? I haven’t told him I am HIV-positive yet. I know I should have told him from the beginning, but it just never seemed to be a good time. Plus I didn’t know it was going to be more than a one night stand. As time goes on, it feels more like I am hiding something than just not getting around to telling him. Now it feels really awkward and I am frightened of what his reaction might be. I really don’t want to lose him, not because of this anyway. How do I tell him now without looking like I haven’t been honest with him up to now? Stephen via email

If you have some advice to give, or you have a problem that needs sorting, email it to: fsmag@gmfa.org.uk or search for ‘FS magazine’ on Facebook, become a fan, and post on the Sort It Out forums.

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Listings Groups and services in the Midlands and East Anglia... Clinics Birmingham HGL Clinic: Sexual health clinic for gay men at HGL. Thursdays 9am-1.30pm by walk-in and appointment at 146 Bromsgrove Street (next to City Tattoo). Phone: 0121 440 6161. Fastest: walk-in, nonappointment one-hour HIV-testing service. Tuesdays 24pm at THT Birmingham.

Nottingham Healthy Gay Nottingham: Sexual health clinic for gay men at The Health Shop with STI screening, plus free condoms and lube. Monday-Friday 10am4.30pm except Wednesday when open 2-4pm. Closed daily 1-2pm. 12 Broad Street, Hockley, Nottingham NG5 2DU. Phone: 0115 947 6868.

Condoms by post Birmingham HGL can send you condoms and lube in the post provided that you live in the following Birmingham postcode areas: B1-B38,B40, B42-B48, B70-B76 or inTipton, West Bromwich, Smethwick, Oldbury, Rowley Regis, Wednesbury or Blackheath. You can order them online from www.hgl.nhs.uk or ring 0121 440 6161.

Coventry/ Warwickshire THT Coventry: condoms by post service. Phone: 024 7622 9292 or email: info@tht.org.uk.

Leicester Trade can deliver condoms to anyone living in Leicester and Rutland. Phone: 0116 254 1747 or place an order online: www.tradesexualhealth.com.

South Staffordshire Mesmen Project: offers condoms and lube by post to men who live in South Staffordshire. Phone: 01543 411 413 or place an order online: www.mesmen.co.uk.

Counselling Birmingham Healthy Gay Life Counselling Service: sexual and mental health counselling service. Phone: 0121 446 1085 or 07976 919 481 or visit www.hgl.nhs.uk. THT Midlands: phone: (0121) 694 6440.

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Trade: offers counselling and one-to-one support. Appointments can be made outside office hours in some circumstances. For more info phone: 0116 2541747 or email: info@tradesexualhealth.com

Nottingham Healthy Gay Nottingham: phone: 0115 947 6868 or email: healthygaynottingham @nottinghamcity-pct.nhs.uk. THT Nottingham: phone: 0115 882 0121 or email: info.nottingham@tht.org.uk.

Courses and workshops GMFA, along with TEN, THT, TRADE, and the HGN run courses in the Midlands and East Anglia. For more information visit: www.gmfa.org.uk/national or ring 020 7738 3712.

Birmingham HGL run regular assertiveness, relationships, and confidence-building courses. For more info phone: 0121 440 6161 or visit: www.hgl.nhs.uk.

Leicester Trade runs various safer sex workshops throughout the year. Topics include: understanding HIV, negotiating safer sex, and self-esteem. For more details ring: 0116 2541747 or visit www.tradesexualhealth.com.

Drop-in centres Birmingham HGL: open to all gay men, bisexual men and men who have sex with men. Friday afternoon 2.30-6.30pm at 146 Bromsgrove Street.

Coventry THT Coventry: Junctions group for gay, bisexual and men who have sex with men in Coventry/Warwickshire. Saturdays 2-4pm at THT: 10 Manor Road, CV1 2LH. For more info phone: 024 7622 9292.

Leicester Trade: Monday to Thursday 9.30am-5pm and Friday 9.30am-4pm at 15 Wellington Street, Leicester.

Nottingham THT Nottingham: for more information phone: 0115 882 0121 or email: nottingham@tht.org.uk.

Wolverhampton LADS Café: weekly social group for gay and bisexual men over 18. Mondays 6-9pm, except Bank Holidays. For more information call or text Martin Hogg on 07870 565884 or email: mthogg@mac.com. Older LADS Café: group for mature gay and bisexual men. The second Monday of the month, 2-5pm, except Bank Holidays. For more information call or text Martin Hogg on 07870 565884 or email: mthogg@mac.com.

Helplines THT Direct: 0845 12 21 200

phone Tony on 07941 938170 or email: lgbtas@yahoo.co.uk.

Derbyshire ReachOut: men’s social group Thursdays 7-9.30pm at 23 Friary Street, Derby. Phone: 01332 207 704 or email: info@gayderbyshire.co.uk or visit: www.gayderbyshire.co.uk.

Norfolk Time Out: a confidential social and peer support group for men who are gay, bisexual or exploring their sexuality. Meets every Tuesday evening in a safe, discreet venue in Norwich. Phone: 01603 219299 or email: taketimeout@hotmail.com.

Derbyshire

Nottingham

Derbyshire Confidential LGBT Switchboard: 01332 349 333. Tuesday to Thursday 10am-1pm and 7.30-9.30pm.

Breakout: a social group for gay and bisexual men of all ages with various fun outings, events and speakers. Phone: 0115 947 6868, visit: www.breakoutnottm.org.uk or email: info@breakoutnottm.org.uk. Older men’s group: a social and support group for gay, bisexual and men over 55 who have sex with men. Phone: 0115 947 6868, visit: www.healthygaynottingham.org.uk or email: healthygaynottingham @nottinghamcity-pct.nhs.uk.

Leicester Trade: 0116 2541747. Monday to Thursday 9.30am-5.30pm and Friday 9.30am-4pm.

Norfolk BLAH Youth Helpline: 01603 624924. Wednesdays 6-8pm. Time to call: 01603 219299. Tuesdays 6-8pm.

Nottinghamshire Nottingham and Nottinghamshire Lesbian and Gay Switchboard: 0115 934 8485 or 01623 621 515 Monday to Friday 7-9.30pm, or visit www.notslgs.org.uk, or email: notts@lgswitchboard.co.uk.

Support groups Birmingham Married Men's Group (MMG) at HGL: a support group for men who are married or in relationships with women. Alternate Mondays 67.45pm. For more info phone: 0121 440 6161. Mayisha at HGL: a group to help support the social needs of Black African and AfroCaribbean men and women. For more information email: Mayishabham@yahoo.co.uk. LGBT Alcohol Support Group at HGL: provides support to individuals, partners, friends and families who are affected by problematic alcohol use. The group meets on the first and third Tuesday of the month 7.30-9.30pm. For more info

South Staffordshire Married Men’s Group (MMG): a support group for men who are married or in a relationship with a woman.Meets alternate Wednesdays. Phone Mike: 07814 027 479.

Youth groups Birmingham OutCentral Youth Group at HGL: a group for young gay and bisexual people. For more information phone: 0121 440 6161.

Coventry GYGL (Godiva Gay and Lesbian Group): a group for LGBT young people up to the age of 25. The group meets Friday evenings for social events, discussions and activities. Phone THT Coventry on: 024 7622 9292.

Derby Love Knows No Gender: a group for LGBT young people up to the age of 25. The group meets Saturdays 1.30-5pm. Phone 01332 207 704, email: loveknowsnogender@hotmail.co.uk.

Norfolk BLAH: a group for gay,


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Terrence Higgins Trust 10 Manor Road Coventry CV1 2LH Phone: 024 7622 9292 Email: info@tht.org.uk Website: www.tht.org.uk

Leicester Trade Sexual Health 15 Wellington Street Leicester LE1 6HH Phone: 0116 2541747 Email: info@tradesexualhealth.com Website: www.tradesexualhealth.com

Norfolk lesbian and bisexual people as well as those questioning their sexuality aged 25 and under. Meets in safe venues in Norwich, Great Yarmouth and Kings Lynn. For more info phone: 01603 624924 or email: blahyouth@hotmail.co.uk.

Nottingham Outburst: a weekly group for LGBT young people up to the age of 25. Monday evenings and one-to-one info, advice and support is available throughout the week. For more info phone: 07940 761 160, visit: www.cityyouth.co.uk, or email: outburst@nottinghamcity.gov.uk.

Nuneaton GYGL (Godiva Gay and Lesbian Group): a group for LGBT young people up to the age of 25. Social events, discussions and activities. Phone THT Coventry on: 024 7622 9292.

Staffordshire LGBT Youth Forum: meets monthly at various youth centres in Staffordshire. Phone: 01543 419 002, email: youth@mesmen.co.uk.

South Staffordshire SPACE LGBT: a group for young LGBT people up to the age of 21 on Wednesdays and holds social events, activities and discussions. Phone: 01543 419 002, email: youth@mesmen.co.uk or visit: www.space-youth.co.uk.

Contact details Birmingham Healthy Gay Life (HGL) 146 Bromsgrove Street Birmingham Phone: 0121 440 6161 Website: www.hgl.nhs.uk Terrence Higgins Trust Unit G7 The Arch 48-52 Floodgate Street Birmingham B5 5SL Phone: 0121 694 6440 Email: info.birmingham @tht.org.uk Website: www.tht.org.uk

TEN 10 Cathedral Street Norwich NR1 1LX Phone: 01603 219299 Email: ten@btconnect.com Website: www.hivnorfolk.com

Nottingham Healthy Gay Nottingham The Health Shop 12 Broad Street, Hockley Nottingham NG5 2DU Phone: 0115 947 68678 Email: healthygaynottingham @nottinghamcity-pct.nhs.uk Website: www.healthygaynottingham.org.uk Terrence Higgins Trust Nottingham 54-56 High Pavement Nottingham NG1 1HW Phone: 0115 882 0121 Email: info.nottingham@tht.org.uk Website: www.tht.org.uk

South Staffordshire South Staffordshire Mesmen Project PO Box 3919 Lichfield Staffordshire WS14 9ET Phone/fax: 01543 411 413 Email: info@mesmen.co.uk Website: www.mesmen.co.uk

Wolverhampton Terrence Higgins Trust Wolverhampton 242-244 Bond House Bond Street Wolverhampton WV2 4AS Tel: 01902 711818 Mobile: 07791 040018

GUM clinics Birmingham Bordesley Green Hawthorn House, Dept of Sexual Medicine, Heartlands Hospital, Bordesley Green, Birmingham B9 5SS Phone: 0121 424 3300 Floodgate Street Terrence Higgins Trust, Unit G7, The Arch, 48-52 Floodgate Street, Birmingham B5 5SL Phone: 0121 694 6440 Email: info.birmingham@ tht.org.uk Great Charles Street

Birmingham Chest Clinic, Great Charles St, Birmingham B3 3HX Phone: 0121 424 3300 or 0121 424 2456 Whittall Street Whittall Street Clinic, Whittall Street, Birmingham B4 6DH Phone: 0121 237 5700

Staffordshire ST4 7PS Phone: 01782 554205

Cannock

Walsall

Cannock Chase Hospital Brunswick Road, Cannock WS11 5XY Phone: 01543 572 757

Manor Hospital Moat Road, Walsall WS2 9PS Phone: 01922 633 341

Coventry

Sandwell General Hospital Dartmouth Clinic, Hallam Street, West Bromwich B71 4HJ Phone: 0121 580 0929

Stoney Stanton Road Coventry and Warwickshire Hospital, Stoney Stanton Road, Coventry CV1 4FH Phone: 0247 684 4164 Manor Road Terrence Higgins Trust, Coventry, 10 Manor Road Coventry CV1 2LH Phone: 02476 229 292

Dudley Guest Hospital Tipton Road, Dudley DY1 4SE Phone: 01384 244820

Hereford Gaol St Sexual Health Centre Gaol Street Health Centre, Hereford HR1 2HU Phone: 01432 378934

Telford Princess Royal Hospital Apley Castle, Telford, Shropshire TF1 6TF Phone: 01952 222 536

West Bromwich

Wolverhampton New Cross Hospital Wednesfield Road, Wolverhampton WV10 0QP Phone: 01902 695 000 If your area is not listed, ring THT Direct on 0845 12 21 200 to find a GUM clinic in your area. If you would like your group or organsation to be listed here, send your info to fsmag@gmfa.org.uk.

Leicester Leicester GUM Phone: 0116 258 5208

Loughborough Loughborough GUM Phone: 01509 568 888

Nuneaton Shepperton House George Eliot Hospital, College St, Nuneaton CV10 7DJ Phone: 0247 686 5162

Redditch Arrowside Unit Alexandra Hospital Site, Woodrow, Redditch B98 7UB Phone: 01527 516 398

Rugby Hospital of St Cross Barby Road, Rugby, Warwickshire CV22 5PX Telephone: 01788 663 218

Shrewsbury Royal Shrewsbury Hospital Mytton Oak Road, Shrewsbury SY3 8XQ Phone: 01743 261 059

Staffordshire Staffordshire General Hospital Weston Road, Staffordshire ST16 2LR Phone: 01785 257 731 ext 4260

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