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editorial content 4 volunteering for life 7 finding love over 50 10 life in transition 18 tennessee street scenes 20 creating a beautiful life together 24 welcome to the fifties quiz 26 losing doesn’t mean you can’t be a winner (an interview with Liz Young) 31 bread and butter... where good taste is everything 34 the joys of aging 37 brain fitness 38 senior community profile

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615.807.0433 TennesseeSeniorMagazine.com Gene McKinley Publisher publisher@tennesseeseniormagazine.com Evan Schwartz Art Director evan@tennesseeseniormagazine.com Ashley Clifton Sales and Marketing sales@tennesseeseniormagazine.com Writers Laurie Battles Dianne Murray Carl Kahle Charlee Brotherton Mindy Johnson Leslie Valinoti Photographers Tony Aldridge Ed Bodnar Marty Wayne Copley Carrie Kirkpatrick Tennessee Senior Magazine Spring 2010 Edition. Copyright 2010 Tennessee Senior Magazine, Franklin TN, all rights reserved. May not be reproduced, in whole or part, without express written consent of Tennessee Senior Magazine. Tennessee Senior Magazine makes no representations concerning the content of the publication the products or services advertised herein and does not endorse or guarantee such products and services the providers of such product and services.

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VOLUNTEERING FOR LIFE BY CARL KAHLE

By definition, volunteerism is, “The use of or reliance on volunteers, especially to perform social or educational work in communities.” Volunteers are the people who selflessly give their time, possessions, or resources for the benefit of others without the expectation of personal gain, but I will say that volunteers can gain from giving. For the most part, as we get older, time permits us to participate in many more activities similar to how things might have been in the “pre-child rearing” days. If you have children, this might be the time in your life when you are pushing them out of the metaphorical nest and letting them begin to fly on their own. If you chose to live your life sans children or if your children are already out of the nest, this might be the time in your life when your career has culminated and enabled you to spend more time away from work doing things that mean more to you than the routine 9-5 job. From the time we graduate high school to the time our children graduate high school, our lives are consumed with more activities than one person can possibly handle.During these years, there are usually too few hours in the day to relax and engage in an activity that you yourself deem relaxing. As time marches on and free time is introduced into our schedules, we might have the opportunity to go on a vacation we never had time for, take a class we were interested in, or maybe just sit and do nothing but catch up on the sleep we have been missing; and while these things sound so nice at the moment, they all are temporary avenues of self-gratification that will never last forever. Since we have been on the go for so many years with little to no extra time at our fingertips, more than likely seems unnatural to be idle and watch time pass by when there is still daylight to be enjoyed. Now is the time we can be proactive and donate the most precious resource in this world to another generation: our time. 4

By donating our time and or money to a charity in the local community, we have the ability to make an impact on the lives of another generation or two, and it doesn’t even take all day to do it. There is no logical reason that should prevent any of us from volunteering. If you do not have time to give to your community, you can give money to a charity that strikes closest to home for you. If you don’t have time or money to give, there is a renewable resource in all of us that only takes thirty minutes out of a day to give. The renewable resource we all possess is our blood, and now more than ever is the need for blood a top priority in local communities, states, and even countries throughout the world. With the recent earthquakes in Haiti and Chile that devastated Haiti’s capital city and took the lives of more than 200,000 people and affected millions, it has given us a preemptive look of what could happen here in the United Sates if an earthquake were to take place in one of California’s heavily populated regions, or even right here in Tennessee where the New Madrid fault system has taken its toll in the past. Regardless of how tragedy strikes, donating blood to the American Red Cross will save lives! The best part about donating blood to the American Red Cross is the ROI (Return on Investment) you will receive. While it is nice to know that giving blood will save lives, sometimes hearing another person’s story helps put the numbers into perspective. I was able to spend some time with a local donor, James Sevier, in Franklin, TN and talk about his experiences with the Red Cross over the years and the number of lives he has saved. James gave his first pint of blood as a junior in college at Auburn University in 1966 during a blood drive his fraternity sponsored, and resumed giving blood after he started his career in the textile packaging industry. While working in the

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manufacturing plants, James was able to give blood on a regular basis due to mobile blood drives held at the workplace; it was there that James set his first goal of blood giving at ten gallons... two gallons more than his father had given. After years of continuous giving, the ten gallon mark was achieved but the blood donations did not stop; in fact, he gave his most recent pint a few weeks ago, marking his 210th pint. Can you imagine giving more than 26 gallons of your blood to people you have never met? While he has been on lists to donate for specific people on several occasions, James has given the vast majority of his donations to complete strangers. As with most donors, the reason for his giving is simple and selfless; to help others who are in need. Setting a good example is also a byproduct of volunteering for the Red Cross; James’ father gave blood, his son gives blood, and although his grandson is not old enough to donate, he has

ridden along to watch. One great thing about the Red Cross is their ability to provide everyone with the opportunity to give blood in a convenient manner. If you can’t make it to your local Red Cross to donate on the days they have available, the office on Charlotte Avenue in Nashville is open for donations six days a week; and for offsite donations, mobile blood drives can be held at businesses, churches, and events. So here you see that it is very possible to gain from giving; the investment is 30 minutes of your time; the return is 3 saved lives, the satisfaction of helping others, and a legacy you leave your children to follow. James Sevier’s ROI is approximately 630 saved lives for 4 ½ days of his life; imagine the number of lives that could be saved if a small portion of our generation became regular donors. Call the Red Cross and donate life!‫ٱ‬

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Finding Love Over

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from when we were say knee high, we were taught, boy meets girl, marries girl and lives happily ever after. Simplistic yes, accurate no. Times have changed, with more single people over the age of fifty than ever before in history. Yes, some choosing a solo lifestyle, but many others are hoping to find a relationship that ultimately could lead to marriage. Finding the love of your life after 50 may happen or it may not. However, idly sitting by and hoping someone single and fantastic will drop in your lap, won’t help your odds.

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Seek and you will find. For the mature single, there are many ways to meet other single people. The Internet offers sites devoted to the mature single. Generally online dating sites are affordable, but give little in the way of a gatekeeper that ensures privacy, safety and authenticity. Be sure when using these sites to approach them with caution. Guard all personal information about yourself until you get to know someone better. When meeting someone from the Internet make sure a friend or family member knows of your plans, meet that person in a public place and drive your own car. Matchmaking services like eLove Personal Matchmakers provide a more private, personal approach to meeting singles. As a member you are matched to other single clients who share personal interests and life goals. Pretty much all the work is done by the matchmaker. With a matchmaker you are guaranteed to meet single people and go out on dates. Unlike the Internet, where it is basically a wait and hope to be picked situation.

Other ideas include visiting local churches that offer singles programs during the week or on Saturdays. Another idea, is check out travel agencies in the U.S. that cater to singles. When traveling with other singles make sure the trip you have booked is age appropriate and you may also want to check your demographics of male/female ratio. I know some of you are in a hurry to meet someone new. However, I would skip Speed Dating. Speed Dating is where a group of singles meet at a venue and spend approximately 3-5 minutes on a one on one date and answer questions to see if there is any chemistry. The problem with speed dating is that it is hard to match up the demographics properly for the event. I am sure you don’t want to spend 3-5 minutes talking with someone half your age that obviously is not an appropriate match. Lastly, network! Get out of the house and participate in life. Let your family and friends know that you are open to meeting new people. Take a class, volunteer, have coffee at a different coffee shop, try a new drycleaners. The more you are out and about the better opportunity you have of making new friends. Even those that aren’t single. I have a friend who met her husband by volunteering at a local animal shelter. Her future husband was not the one volunteering at the shelter. It was actually her future sister-in-law that insisted my friend meet her brother. Charlee Brotherton is a Matchmaker and Freelance Writer, with 14 matchmaking offices in six states, including locations in Memphis and Nashville, Tennessee. For information about eLove Personal Matchmakers in Tennessee call toll free (866)-8075683.‫ٱ‬


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Becky and O’Neal Clayton’s life together has been a flowing, colorful tapestry, interwoven with the rich, full textures of a loving family, many friends and a shared livelihood. Seated in the lobby of the luxurious Cumberland at Green Hills, the assisted-living community they now call home together, the well-dressed, wellgroomed and highly articulate couple seems to be enjoying the current chapter of their adventure together. “We’re just delighted to be here. I think we made the move just in time,” says Becky, an attractive woman dressed in a bright and stylish peach-colored sweater. The warmth of the fireplace, low hum of conversation from residents flowing into and out of the community, which offers occupants the flexibility to come and go as they please, and relaxed atmosphere belie the many layers of difficult emotions families must navigate before finding a place there for their loved ones. Making the transition from fully independent living, in many cases from the very home they raised their families in, can be traumatic for seniors and their families. The Claytons seem to be a textbook case of the right way to make the adjustment. “You have to make sure that everybody is on the same page as far as the family goes,” says the Claytons’ son, Neal. “The three children met and then we took our parents to see the different facilities (that were being considered). Everybody had a voice in the decision. You don’t want to go forward if anybody has any reservations,” he says. The Claytons, long-term Belle Meade residents who had run a prestigious, popular fine linens store in Green Hills for decades, closed their business seven years ago. “I loved all of the customers, the dear ladies who had been our customers for years and years,”

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says O’Neal, who had worked in the store, which was founded by his father in 1918, since returning from a stint in the army at age twenty. He says that involvement with loyal clients “is what I missed, so much” when the store closed. The Claytons left the family home, which was a large residence with many steps, for a condominium, before making the move to The Cumberland.” It was hard because I was in the house the longest, being the youngest. You want to be as positive as you can but it’s very hard and very emotional,” says daughter Murray Clayton. Larry Whitlock, a licensed psychologist with forty years of experience who is now in private practice counseling nursing home patients, says life changes in later years are difficult. “There are so many losses, so many shades of a single loss. We don’t find many people with the courage to really look at it,” he says. Whitlock adds that broaching the subject of a move to a community like The Cumberland can be approached tactfully

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through referencing another family that is going through something similar. Other times, a series of grave issues and problems the seniors may be experiencing in the home push the issue to the forefront. “Sometimes the reality is thrust upon you and you have to dribble until you take a shot,” Whitlock says of the sometimes awkward conversations leading into a move into an assistedliving community. Most assisted-living communities actively reach out to new residents to help ease what can be a shocking transition for independent-minded seniors. “We try to help them process the whole situation and assure them that we will be there to help,” says The Cumberland’s Executive Director Becky Hendricks. Her community’s Ambassadors Club pairs new residents with existing ones in a friendship/orientation relationship. “That takes some of the fear away from the transition. They are going to tell them it’s a great place,” Hendricks

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says. “It takes the whole team, everybody from the Executive Director down, to make friends and develop a relationship with the resident,” says Cindy Wilkins, The Cumberland’s head of sales. “We give a lot of support to the family with conversation and feedback about how their parent is doing, encouraging them to have a meal with them and help them get engaged with the community,” Wilkins says. “My reward is somebody telling me after they have been here a month, ‘I should have done this before. Why was I so scared? This has been so good for me,’” she says. Neal Clayton says he, his brother Tom and sister Murray were looking for a very unique environment for their parents, who are active, vital seniors. “We were looking for a facility that gave them a sense of independence but also offered assisted living if they needed that. The assisted-living facilities that are available in the marketplace today are

one-hundred-percent-assisted living and for some that is necessary. For our parents it wasn’t totally necessary. (The Cumberland) did not strip them of a feeling of independence,” Neal says. His parents had health issues and needed monitoring to insure that they took vital medications on time each day. “Emotionally it was challenging at first. It takes a period of time to adjust. There is a peace of mind for the siblings knowing that if (our parents) were to fall in the shower there is somebody right there,” Neal says. “There was great peace of mind for all three siblings that they were in a safe place. They had three healthy, balanced meals a day but still had the flexibility that they could go out to eat and come and go as they please,” he says. Despite the fact that The Cumberland is a gracious, beautiful place with an elegant dining area and array of activities for residents to enjoy, the Claytons, like many before them, had to work their way through an adjustment period as a family.

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“(The) number one (consideration was) being in a totally different environment and having all new people (around them) and meeting new friends. We had taken them out of their comfort zone so to speak,” Murray says, adding that her parents also had to be encouraged to take advantage of the assistance that was available, as they were used to complete independence. “There is no assisted living facility where you should just drop your parents off. You’ve got to visit a lot so they’re seeing familiar faces as they are transitioning. We would (each) have meals with them one or two days a week. Most parents are proud to introduce their children to new friends anyway,” Neal says. Becky Clayton seems to glow with contentment as she discusses the new home she shares with her husband of many years. “You feel like you’re a part of a family. Everyone is congenial and happy,” Mrs. Clayton says, adding that, as residents mingle throughout the day “you socialize without even realizing you’re doing it.” Murray says the family as a whole felt very positive about her parents’ move to The Cumberland. “You know that you are going to start with new memories and new adventures. You are going to start a whole new chapter in this new place where they are going to live that is just as great as the old chapters,” she says. “The biggest challenge now is to get by there when they are not in an art seminar or a painting class or at a museum,” Neal says of his parents’ busy life at the community. “The days whip by,” says Mrs. Clayton, a comment which seems to sum up her fulfilled life at The Cumberland, and is a testament to her family’s success at matching the Claytons’

with an environment that is right for them. Mrs. Clayton thinks her children should feel confident about their decision to help their parents’ transition into an assisted-living lifestyle at The Cumberland at Green Hills. “In my prayers every night I praise God for leading them to this place. I truly do. I know they looked at different places and didn’t think we’d like them and they saw this and said ‘This is it,’” she says with conviction. “Those children worked hard and long to get this done and I can’t thank them enough. I would never have had the courage to do it myself, I think,” she says. Neal Clayton wants his mother to know “that I am grateful that they are in a place where they are comfortable and happy and that they are loved not only by family but also (by the professionals) at the facility.” Murray Clayton also has a heartfelt message for her parents with respect to the positive life change they have recently made. “I am just so impressed with how well they transitioned into this new lifestyle. I am proud of the respect they gave us as children in the decision to get this ball rolling,” she says. “As much as they didn’t want to have to change their lifestyle they knew they needed it and they thought of us and our lifestyles as well as theirs,” she adds. Murray concludes that her parents’ response to the transition “really showed me the love and respect they have for their children.”‫ٱ‬


tennessee street scenes photograph by tony aldridge poem by leslie valinoti Sit and talk to me…. Don’t just stare… Let me tell you of my loves, my dreams, my visions. You may see me as lost, but I am not. I am found in when the exact time the sun rises… And the moment it sets. You may see me as deaf..but I hear things you will never hear. You may see me as blind..but I see things that you turn your Head at. Sit and talk to me…. Let me tell you of my children, my love, my lost ones. My life once danced upon this earth… It is just tired now…but very much alive. Let me tell you of colors…of the people..of the earth Let me tell you of voices that are clear and beautiful.. That are hard and cruel..I know them all. My senses are so keen…my sight..is 20/20 My heart is tuned to the station of “human”.. I am wise…and old…I am poor…I possess.. Nothing…but wisdom of the streets… A wealth…I hope you never know…


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Beautiful Life Together by Dianne Murray photography by Ed Bodnar

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So, what will it be like in heaven? If you ask Bill and Judy Heim, they probably hope it will be exactly like their life on 67 wooded, rolling acres in Lascassas, Tennessee. In this idyllic setting, located about an hour southeast of Nashville, the Heims have found both refuge from the “9-to-5 world”, and inspiration for the unique pieces they create for their Red Oak Pottery. The life is so enticing, in fact, that both left their previous careers – Bill was an engineer for Vought Aircraft; Judy taught reading in middle school – to pursue pottery fulltime. “I had mixed emotions about leaving my job – somewhere between joy and happiness, “ Bill says. “I used to be so focused on getting things done on schedule. I enjoy so much that I don’t have a real schedule, and I can move things out until the next day or next week.” Adds Judy, “It wasn’t a difficult decision 22

because really, the last four or five years before we retired, we were making these plans. So, it wasn’t like we were kicked out of a job at a certain age and then had to figure out what we wanted to do. This was something we worked for.” After first meeting at a pottery class, Bill and Judy’s shared interest helped pave the way for their relationship to move to marriage. They consolidated their pottery equipment at the Lascassas farm, and the stage was set for their work – and passion. On average, the Heims spend five to six hours a day, up to six days a week, working on their pottery. Bill does most of the “throwing”, where the clay is first molded and shaped on the potter’s wheel, and adds the handles, while Judy throws the bowls and does the detail work of carving, staining and waxing (which prevents the glaze from fusing to the shelf

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in the kiln). It’s the perfect distribution of labor for efficient, conflict-free work. “It allows us to do something together, and yet we’re not in each other’s face constantly,” says Judy. Of course, it’s one thing to create pottery, quite another to create pieces that others want. The Heims have solved that problem by incorporating designs featuring oak leaf, bamboo or horse motifs – all of which are found on their farm. They currently have contracts with approximately 20 wholesalers, as well as galleries and gift shops located in Tennessee, Kentucky, Alabama, North Carolina and Ohio. “There are so many potters,” says Judy, “that you have to decide how you want to be different, but you also have to be reasonable because I have to get this done in a certain amount of time or it’s not worth doing.”

Fortunately for Bill and Judy, the work has been well worth doing – for more than just monetary reasons. As Bill explains, “For me, this is the best time. I’m just totally at ease with myself, with my lifestyle, where we are. We don’t get up nearly as early as we used to, but I am very much at ease with where we both are.” Judy adds, “People need a purpose in their life and fulfillment. So many people, when they reach retirement, stop having any fulfillment. They live through their grandchildren or their children. I still enjoy doing something physical and creative, and it gives me a reason to get up in the morning and try something new. You can’t sit and quit.” For more information on Red Oak Pottery: www.redoakpottery.com.‫ٱ‬

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Welcome To The Fifties Quiz

THINK YOU KNOW THE FIFTIES? TEST YOUR KNOWLEDGE WITH THESE DECADE RELEVANT TRIVIA QUESTIONS. ANSWERS ON PG. 26

1. Who is known as the world’s oldest

teenager? A‣ Pat Boone B‣ Bobby Darin C‣ Dick Clark D‣ Fabian E‣ Ricky Nelson

2. Which show actually consisted of a real

life family? A‣ “Father Knows Best” B‣ “Leave It To Beaver” C‣“The Donna Reed Show” D‣ “Ozzie And Harriet” E‣“The Honeymooners”

4. Who played Ralph Kramden on the show

“The Honeymooners”? A‣ Dick Clark B‣ Jackie Gleason C‣ Art Carney D‣ Clayton Moore E‣ Dennis Weaver

5. Who sang “You Send Me”?

A‣ Buddy Holly B‣ Sam Cooke C‣ Fats Domino D‣ The Coasters E‣ Elvis Presley

6. What was the name of the additive that

men would use in their hair during the fifties? A‣ Dippity Do B‣ Vaseline Which show below was not a game show C‣ baby oil of the fifties? D‣ Brylcream A‣ “You Bet Your Life” E‣ Dep B‣ “The Price Is Right” C‣ “What’s My Line?” D‣ “Family Feud” What year was the first issue of “Playboy” E‣ “Queen For A Day” magazine published?

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A‣ 1953 B‣ 1957 C‣ 1950 D‣ 1959 E‣ 1952


8. What year was the 184 lb. Russian satellite 11. Which entertainer was only shown from

Sputnik I launched? A‣ 1951 B‣ 1959 C‣ 1955 D‣ 1957 E‣ 1952

the waist up when they appeared on the “Ed Sullivan Show”? A‣ Fabian B‣ Frankie Avalon C‣ Chuck Berry D‣ Elvis Presley E‣ James Dean

made the song “The Twist” a hit? 9. Which three Rock n’ Roll stars died in a 12. Who A‣ Joey Dee & The Starliters

plane crash in 1959? A‣ Ricky Nelson, Pat Boone & Fabian B‣ Buddy Holly, Ritchie Valens & The Big Bopper C‣ Ricky Nelson, Buddy Holly & The Big Bopper D‣ Buddy Holly, Ricky Nelson & The Big Bopper E‣ The Big Bopper, Buddy Holly & Fabian

10. Who acted in the movie “Rebel Without

A Cause”? A‣ James Dean, Natalie Wood & Fabian B‣ James Dean, Sal Mineo & Natalie Wood C‣ James Dean, Sal Mineo & Connie Frances D‣ Natalie Wood, James Dean & Bobby Rydell E‣ James Dean, Natalie Wood & Clark Gable

B‣ Sam Cooke C‣ Elvis Presley D‣ Chubby Checker E‣ Shep & The Limelites

13. Who sang “16 Candles”?

A‣ The Moonglows B‣ The Temptations C‣ The Platters D‣The Dovells E‣The Crest

14. Which song was not recorded by Little

Anthony & The Imperials? A‣ “Tears On My Pillow” B‣ “Shimmy Shimmy Ko Ko Bop” C‣“Story Untold” D‣ “Two People In The World” E‣ “I’m Alright”

15. Who sang “Run Around Sue”?

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A‣ Dion & The Belmonts B‣ The Righteous Brothers C‣ The Five Satins D‣ Bobby Day E‣ Gene Pitney


Losing Doesn’t Mean You Can’t be a Winner An Interview with Liz Young By Gene McKinley

Liz Young was a contestant on season 8 of the Biggest Loser. She was the oldest, at 50 to finish in the final four. Her wit and humor, mixed with a little understandable crankiness made her one of that season’s most popular contestants. Her strength, dedication and drive made her one of the toughest competitors. Liz lives in Chapel Hill, Tennessee. She is married to Jimmie. They have 3 grown children and 9 grandchildren. Liz and Jimmie raise beef cattle as a hobby…a very expensive hobby. Liz is the former owner of Decorating Divas, a design center offering custom window treatments and bedding, in Franklin, TN.

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Liz inspired many boomers and seniors while she was on the show and now it is her mission to do that every day.


Gene McKinley: What inspired you to try out for Biggest Loser? Liz Young: I woke up one day and realized I was fat. I had been looking in the mirror thinking I looked good. I had no idea how I looked. I was delusional. Just a little while, before that fateful day, I had been arguing with my husband about our washer. I was complaining that we needed a new one, because ours was shrinking my clothes. GM: Why Biggest Loser? Why not just work out at home? LY: I truly believe if I hadn’t gone on that show, I would weigh a lot more now than I did. At the time, I had no idea how to work out or eat right. The gym was intimidating. I couldn’t afford a personal trainer. I didn’t have the confidence. I went to the casting call and made it on my first try. It seemed like the answer. GM: Was there a point on the ranch when you thought you wouldn’t make it or that you had made a mistake? LY: Day two. I went to the trainer and the producers and said, “You need to send me home. I can’t do this.” They said, “If you think you are the first person to come to tell us this, you are crazy.” They told me, “If Helen from the previous season could do it, so can you.” Helen was 49. I was 50. I still didn’t believe them. We would work out for four hours, hard. I would fall into bed and sob. I didn’t think there was any way I could physically hold up to those brutal beatings. They told me “Every day it will get better.” I just saw it that every day I was getting beat to death and competing against 20 year olds.

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I would actually be doing my family an injustice, if I didn’t take the time to work out.

GM: When did you know you would make it? LY: Week four. I had been telling Danny Cahill, my partner and eventual winner that season, “I can’t do this,” for four weeks. All of the sudden, I said, “I can do this!” We had to be smart. We had to figure out how to beat those kids. We walked extra in the morning

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and at night. What we lacked in ability we made up for in perseverance, stamina and discipline. I think because of our age, we looked at this as our last chance. GM: What is the greatest advantage you took away from your Biggest Loser experience?

whatever I can to make everyone else happy and help others. I look at it this way. I would actually be doing my family an injustice, if I didn’t take the time to work out. I know where women are coming from when they say, “I don’t have time.” You have to make time. Also, in most homes and in my age group, women do most of the cooking. They need to set that example. Your family’s health is important. What they serve impacts everyone’s health. Take my husband for example. He loves good southern cooking. I refuse to contribute to his early death. I control the menu, by shopping and doing the cooking. If he wants something unhealthy he has to go out and get it himself.

LY: Without a doubt the ability to be active with my grandkids. I have nine. I wanted so badly to be able to keep up with them. They would say, “Let’s go ride bikes.” I would say, “Go on and ride yourself.” Now I can ride with them. Mobility is huge for me. I always had pain in my back and knees. I was in terrible shape. I have a greater sense of well-being now. I always thought I was a heart attack or stroke waiting to happen. That is a terrible weight to have hanging over you. GM: How are you using what you have learned to I will now get to see my grandkids grow up and inspire others? enjoy them. LY: Tracey Yukich, fellow contestant on season 8, GM: What would you tell other Grandmothers who and I have started faith based boot camps. We might be in the same shape? travel all over to churches and other venues and host these day long events. During that day, we LY: It is never too late to change your life, if you really want to. Today can be the first day to start your new life. I didn’t think my body would let me, but I did it. I just thought I was worn out and that I would have to live with this “middle age spread.” But it was the choices I was making. I chose what I was eating. I chose to watch television instead of moving. Choose to be healthy. When I started the show they ran all sorts of tests. My biological age was 72. 22 years older than I am now. At the end of the show, I had turned back the clock 28 years. People need to know they can get those years back. I didn’t realize how old I looked. Women need to realize our needs are important. We don’t have to be everything to everyone. I tried to be the best wife, mother, grandmother. Now I take care of myself first. If I have the time, I will do 28

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exercise, we teach participants about the best way to combine foods, we show them how to read labels, shop for healthier choices, order off a menu and stock their pantries. We want to make sure we provide a day that is safe, fun and educational. When I go to a 5k or 10k race, I have that chance to tell people you can do this. I have fans that come out to watch me and I tell them, “You aren’t going to watch me. You are going to do this with me.” I am helping them take that first step. No matter what condition you are in, take that first step. Just do your best. Start walking and one day you will be running. Every day it gets easier. It is not a sprint. It is a marathon. You have to set your goal and work toward it. People think they have to meet the same goals as we met on the Biggest Loser and that is not realistic. We were completely taken out of our environment. We had no responsibilities, no job. We were in the gym 8 hours a day. We had time to walk miles each day. I also speak to groups all around the country. My message is the same to them. It is never too late. Get up and move. You didn’t gain all the weight at once. You aren’t going to lose it all at once.

obligated to help, just like I got help.

If you would like to learn more about Liz Young’s boot camps or schedule her for a speaking engagement or other events, reach her through her website, lizbiggestloser.com Also catch Liz on HeartBeatRadioUSA.com starting May 18 on Tuesdays from 11:00 am to 12:00 pm. Liz, Tracey Yukich and “Best Life Barb” Barbara Simmons have teamed together for this women’s centered national talk show. ‫ٱ‬

GM: What is next for you? LY: Well, right now we are building a house and I am very excited about that. I can’t wait to get in it. I love to decorate. The boot camps and my speaking engagements give me the opportunity to travel. I am also writing a cookbook featuring healthier versions of home cooked southern foods. I am really just looking forward to the next challenge. I was chosen out of 400,000 people for my season on Biggest Loser and I think I have a responsibility to pay it forward. I want to help people on their journey. Believe me weight loss is a journey. I am TennesseeSeniorMagazine.com ‣ Spring 2010

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heir smiles as bright as their green, polka dot aprons, the Bread and Butter ladies welcome you to their home and classroom with a warmth that calms any first time cook’s nerves. These ladies are genuinely glad to meet you and glad to help you, one recipe at a time, bring your family back to the dinner table. Vickie and Janice are wives, mothers, grandmothers and mighty fine cooks. They have more than 100 years experience between them. The two met years ago through their church and became lifelong friends. They served on many committees and headed up a variety of church

activities which usually included preparing meals for a large congregation of church members. They also taught many small groups how to bake an extraordinarily easy and delicious bread recipe. About a year ago, deep in the middle of one of their teaching “jobs” they thought, “I wonder if we could make money at this.” So it began. Bread and Butter started with just that. Vickie and Janice began offering bread baking classes in Janice’s beautiful home. Her kitchen is large and comfortable. The set up is perfect for the intimate classroom environment they desired. Their classes are fun, laid back, small and very


“You just have to get in there and try. It is ok to make mistakes.” affordable. Their repertoire has expanded. They have great old and new family recipes to share. They also offer tips on how to make your work in the kitchen easier and more efficient. You better come hungry, because participants eat everything they make and then some. They really are not in it for the money. Over the years, they have seen how fast food and frozen dinners have changed the dynamics of families. They believe that cooking can help bring the family back together. “Good cooking, good fun and family go together, says Vickie. Bringing families together may be their mission, but Janice says, “This business gives us a reason to get up and get going every day. It keeps our minds working. We have learned so much about running a business. We maintain our own Website, download pictures, recipes and more.” Janice says, “I didn’t know how to cook when I got married. I knew nothing. It was all trial by error. You can ask my husband.” Janice adds, “You just have to get in there and try. It is ok to make mistakes. Sometimes we will make a mistake in class. When that happens, it turns into a good lesson for the class. Even with our experience we make mistakes. They seem comforted by that.” Whether you are a first time cook or a pro that would like to learn how to bake the “best bread you will ever eat baked in an hour,” you will want to check out Bread and Butter. Their classes are perfect for fun family outings. Intergenerational cooking classes have become a popular option. Mothers and daughters, grandmothers and grandchildren come together to laugh and learn. You can check them out at breadnbuttertn. com. Or email breadnbuttertn@gmail.com. You can phone Janice at 615 668-4992. Consider purchasing a gift certificate. They make the perfect wedding, shower or birthday gift.


From the Bread and Butter Kitchen...

Light & Luscious Low Fat Trifle

Ingredients

1 purchased angel food cake 2 3.9 oz package of instant sugar-free vanilla pudding 4 cups of fruit of your choice 1-8 oz container of light or fat free Cool Whip chopped nuts & maraschino cherries for garnish

Steps In clear glass bowl or trifle dish, form a layer of bite sized angel food cake pieces. Add half of the prepared pudding. Next layer 2 cups of the fruit. Repeat the cake layer, the pudding layer and the fruit layer. Carefully spread the Cool Whip on top and garnish with the nuts and cherries if desired.


THE JOYS OF AGING by Mindy Johnson

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guess I would be considered a “baby boomer.” I am 56 years of age. For many, like me, entering this stage of life has been quite a transition. Thank goodness I have some years to get used to the idea that one day I will be considered old. Thank goodness some of my friends and family are already old. I can look to them for honesty and good advice. All of life is a progression from birth to death, if it were “BOOM, now you are old,” none of us would be prepared. Let’s see, the joys of getting older from a baby boomers perspective. I thought of just submitting a bunch of blank pages but honestly that would be a bit of a cop out. I can only write what I know, based on my experience so far. Keep in mind I am a relative “newbie”. As I write this, I have an icepack on my back. It’s been there for seven days. When I go to work, it goes with me. I strained my back putting on my underwear the other morning. I fell to the floor, lying there face to face with my dog, KJ. I managed to crawl to the phone, all the way wishing that KJ were Lassie, as I could have used the help! Whatever the problem is, it is not going away. What’s that tell you? I think it is chronic arthritis, possibly with some bulging disc areas and it will progressively get worse as I age. Oh yeah, self-diagnosis is another sign of aging. I know because my mother does it constantly. Speaking of my mother, the last few years whenever I would look at myself in a mirror, mom would be staring back at me. She wasn’t even visiting. I realize we mirror our parents, but this is frightening. It gets worse. Now, every time I look in the mirror I see Grandma Hussmann and she has been dead for years. Good Lord! I started to figure out I was getting old when every time I would make a complaint about an ache or pain, my mother would say something like, “Honey, I know! The tops of my feet have been hurting for years, it runs in the family.” Great, another chronic condition! 34

I am not sure this is a sign that I am getting older, but I keep looking for sexy elastic waist pants. So far, no luck, but I keep trying. Oh, and my friends keep telling me stretch jeans are really getting popular. Recently I decided to splurge and try a new skin line, (it had something to do with Grandma Hussmann’s complexion in the mirror) I purchased the whole Cindy Crawford beauty line. It was the deal of the century. My husband is still waiting for that trade mark mole to appear. With my luck it will pop up on the end of my nose and no one will be calling it a beauty mark! I will self-diagnose it as a fatty corpuscle. Wait a second, isn’t that a 1920’s silent film actor? Oh no, that was Fatty Arbuckle. I have this red binder I carry around with all of my recent lab work in it. I chose the color red for blood…just in case I forget what I have in there. My last MRI report is in it. That will come in handy when I finally go see a doctor about my progressive, arthritic bulging disc! I better go, I need to run out and buy a bigger end table. One that will hold all the items I now keep next to my favorite chair…pretty much my entire life. It is genius. Now, very rarely do I ever have to get up. I will make a quick list of potential items for you: Glasses, pretzels, dog treats, magazines, lotion, dental floss, blanket, pencil, crossword puzzle, mirror, (in case you want to check out that beauty mark), paper, tissues, cough drops, house phone and cell phone. The one time you have to get up for something, make sure you immediately make room for that item, so it doesn’t happen again. Now if I can just get my husband to get up to pour my second glass of wine, I’d be in heaven. Grandma Hussmann is looking down at me, saying, “That’s my girl!” I better find a table with some drawers.

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Mindy Jhonson with her mom Shirley

For 18 years, Mindy Johnson has been Assistant Director at an Adult Day Care for people with Alzheimer’s and related dementias. A big part of her day is laughing and sharing with the elderly clients that attend.


Quiz Answers from pg. 24 1) (c) The person known as the world’s oldest teenager is none other then Dick Clark. 2) (d) The show Ozzie & Harriet consisted of the real life family, the Nelsons. 3) (d) Family Fued was not a game show of the fifties. 4) (b) Jackie Gleason played Ralph Kramden on the show “The Honeymooners”. 5) (b) Sam Cooke sang the song titled “You Send Me”. 6) (d) In the fifties Brylcream was the additive most men used in their hair. 7) (a) The first issue of Playboy magazine was published in 1953. 8) (d) The Russian Satellite Sputnik I was launched in 1957. 9) (b) Buddy Holly, Ritchie Valens & The Big Bopper dies in a plane crash in 1959. 10) (b) James Dean, Sal Mineo & Natalie wood acted in the movie “Rebel Without A Cause”. 11) (d) Elvis Presley was only shown from the waist up when he performed on the Ed Sullivan Show. 12) (d) Chubby Checker made the song “The Twist” a hit. 13) (e) The Crest sang “16 Candles”. 14) (c) “Story Untold” was not recorded by Little Anthony & The Imperials. 15) (a) Dion & The Belmonts sang “Run Around Sue”.


Brain Fitness Studies suggest that Americans, especially those over 55, fear Alzheimer’s disease more than or as much as cancer. Researchers are investigating some promising new areas that may hold the key to modifying the course or even arresting the disease. The exact cause of Alzheimer’s disease is unknown, although this is being researched diligently. Currently, it is thought that the cause is a combination of genetic, environmental and lifestyle factors. “Lifestyle factors, things we have control of, are our best defense right now,” encourages Kevin O’Neil, MD, renowned geriatrician and Optimum Life® medical director for Brookdale Senior Living. To reduce the risk of Alzheimer’s several suggestions include: • Maintain a good diet with fruits and vegetables rich in antioxidants and folic acid. Consume foods high in omega-3 fatty acids such as cold water fish (i.e., salmon, mackerel, sardines) and nuts, especially walnuts and almonds. • Exercise. • Stay socially engaged. • Engage in lifelong learning. Some recommended activities to improve brain health include: • Doing “brain teasers,” such as crossword puzzles and Sudoku. • Playing board games or card games. • Engaging in creative arts such as painting and sculpting. • Doing computer-assisted brain games may also stimulate different areas of the brain. “Research has confirmed that keeping our brains stimulated helps brain cells to survive,” said Dr. O’Neil. “This needs to be coupled with physical activity.”


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BY KAREN SHAYNE he great baseball player Satchel Page said, “Age is a question of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.” Growing older, (or growing up) as I laughingly say is a great thing. The launch of Tennessee Senior Magazine, a publication that caters to and embraces the over fifty lifestyle celebrating the vibrancy and wisdom that comes with a little grey is reinforcement of that. The fifty-something set is also a demographic that is gaining strength in numbers. A recent article in the The Tennessean daily newspaper confirmed what people who work in the Senior Living Industry know--Middle Tennessee is becoming a mecca for the elder population. Whether it’s by natural aging of residents, or people who make deliberate choices to move here and retire, our regional demographic is changing. In Williamson County alone, in just four years 14 percent of the population will be 65 or older. With this comes the responsibility to change with the time. To provide people with what they need. As CEO of Maristone Senior Living, we are focusing our efforts to serve a population that’s active and engaging. Every Thursday, on WTVF-NewChannel 5 (CBS) during the 6 p.m. news, I host a segment called “On Modern Age”. The informational features cover events and issues that are important to you. We at Maristone work hard to be what I call a “Change Agent”. Whether it’s political, such as supporting critical legislation-- or quality of life matters-- we want to advocate for you. Just like you turn to Tennessee Senior Magazine to find interesting people who are making a difference, we hope you make Maristone Senior Living your go-to-company for information on senior services, serious legislative issues, or just transitions in your life. If we can’t help you, we will find someone who can. For Maristone--it isn’t all about bricks and mortar--it’s about a happy healthy community of people, no matter where you live. 38

Karen Shayne is CEO of Maristone Senior Living and host of On Modern Age seen weekdays during the 6:00 p.m. news on WTVF-Newschannel Five. Maristone Senior Living provides luxury Independent/Assisted Living as well as Memory Care, and Adult Day Services. For more information www.maristoineseniorliving.com. The Maristone of Franklin, the company’s flagship property will open the beginning of May.

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