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Global One Magazine

A New Magazine from

Ella Patterson Premier Issue September 2020

Celebrating Life and Human Experiences

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Cover Stories 15 OPINIONS - Juul E Cigarettes 16 COMMUNITY - Meet T’Juanna Winters 20 SAFETY - For Women Who Live Alone 24 SELF - Selfie Rule 26 HEALTH - Food Cultures 29 FOOD - Impact on Health 34 RECIPES’ 38 WINE - It Starts with the Eyes 47 WELL-BEING - Core Meditation 51 RELAXATION - Relax Like A Diva

52 PAMPERING - Do It for Yourself 54 TRAVEL - Traveling with Denella 64 HEALTH - Is Hugging Outdated 67 LIFESTYLE - Finding Your Private Space 70 AUTOMOTIVE - Best in Category Picks 79 WOMEN - Excited About New Beginnings 90 CHILDREN - Time Management 99 MEN - Interesting Things About Men 106 OUR NEW NORMAL - America’s New Normal 114 CONSUMER UPDATES - Home

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109 Our New Normal 111 Consumer Updates Letter Policy Global One Magazine welcomes letters of up to 300 words and guest commentaries of up to 500 words. We prefer guest commentaries include a photograph of the writer. Letter should include the writer’s name, email address and phone number. The address and phone numbers are for verification only, not for publication. No anonymous letters are published. All letters and guest commentaries are subject to editing for brevity and clarification. Global One reserves the right to refuse publication of any submissions. Letters should be submitted to editor at Letters can be delivered or mailed to “Letters to the Editor” Global One Magazine, P.O. Box 973 Cedar Hill, TX. 75106. ADVERTISING: (972) 854-1824 EDITORIAL: (972) 765-1950 SUBMISSIONS: (972) 765-1735 6. September 2020



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ARTICLES Welcome to Global One From the Publisher, Ella Patterson

53 Pampering, Do It for Yourself Travel the World / Destinations 55 Traveling with Denella 58 Beaches All Inclusive - Boscobel 60 Oklahoma: A Touch of Nature 61 Taking a Vacation During COVID 19

Choices 15 Juul’s for Smokers Community 17 Meet T’Juanna Winters

Health 56 Is Hugging Outdated?

Safety 22 Women Who Live Alone 25 Selfie Rule

Lifestyle 68 Creating A Private Space

Flavor 29 Food Culture 32 Foods Impact on Health

Automotive Spotlight 72 Popular Cars for Women 74 Mercedes Benz S560 75 Acura TLX 76 Buick Envision 77 Chevy Tahoe 78 Dodge Charger

Recipe’s 35 Cajun Shrimp Boil 36 Grilled Chicken Tacos 37 Italian Sausage Lasagna 38 Buttery Boiled Corn

People 79 Women - Get Excited 88 Women - Men They Are Attracted To 90 Children - Time Management 94 Children - Protecting Children from COVID 19 99 Men – Interesting Things About Men 106 America’s ‘New Normal’

Drinks 40 Wine - Drinking Starts with the Eyes 41 Wine -Swirl, Sniff and Smell 44 Fun Facts About Wine Well-Being 40 Core Meditation 45 Can You Say De-Stress 49 Getting A Good Night’s Sleep

Consumer Updates 114 How to Clean a Mattress 115 Maintaining Weight Loss 116 Tips for Buying a New Car

Relaxation 52 Relax Like A Diva


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Ella Patterson

Ella Patterson


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Global One Magazine

Welcome to Global One I remember when I got the idea to create this magazine project. I needed the best information on how to get the job done. I had accumulated hundreds of thousands of researched contents, had written fifty-two books and I had the publishing knowledge but did not clearly understand how to pull it all together. I thought long and hard about how I could present this project to the world. I pondered for years about how I could be unique and provide joyful information without being fake. I wanted my magazine to be so real that people would not be able to put it down. After all I went so far as to trademark the name ‘Ms. Real”, so I could not be anything other than ‘real’ in my quest to publish a print magazine. I was not afraid to offer my dream to the world, so I began making phone calls to everyone I know in the industry that would give me helpful advice. My first call was to several former Editor-inChief of great magazines. I did not dare try to compete with any of them, but I did want to provide another cultural choice for people. The only question I was asked was… “Why had I waited so long to get started?” My answer was simple; I was focused on writing books and securing book deals, but now I was ready for a new project. It is so clear to me now. It would be an extension of my publishing and authoring of books. Global One Magazine is a continuation of my dream. I will provide a journey filled with advice, insight and photo sections that speak volumes about things people enjoy. I must admit that sometimes we need help to navigate the waters of a new project. I have sought, found, and been guided in the right direction. I am ready. I now present Global One Magazine: a bi-monthly lifestyle magazine covering fashion, beauty, cuisine, entertainment, and culture. First published as a website in 1996, its target audience is African American lifestyle. Oh, before I forget, I believe that there is wonderment and happiness associated with global travel and if we do not seize the opportunity to see the world now, its beauty might pass us by. I look forward to each adventure, and I enjoy my moments on the road. This past year there have experienced moments shared with strangers that I now refer to as friends. In this small yet powerful magazine, I hope you understand that your fine line between dreams and reality have been erased. The beauty of Global One is that it can inspire, rejuvenate, educate and stimulate whatever reality you would like to experience. It can take you places that you desire to visit, or it can help inspire your next daydream. I hope you and your loved ones appreciate the magic of the products, services and adventures featured in each edition of Global One. Take your time and enjoy every moment as you indulge in a magazine filled with beautiful lifestyle and cultural experiences.

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What Is Juul and Is It Better for You Than Smoking? People are freaking out over this type of ecigarette that's taking over the market, but that doesn't mean you should use it. Here, a doctor answers the question everyone has on their mind: Is Juul bad for you? Over the last few years, e-cigarettes have grown in popularity—and so has their reputation for being a "better for you" option than actual cigarettes. Part of that is due to the fact that hardcore smokers do use them to cut down on their habit, and part of that is due to good marketing. After all, with e-cigs, you can vape anywhere without lighting up or reeking of nicotine afterward. But e-cigarettes, and especially Juul—one of the latest ecigarette products—are likely responsible for more people getting hooked on nicotine. So all things considered, is Juul bad for you?

What Is Juul? Juul is an e-cigarette that came on the market in 2015, and the product itself is similar to other e-cigarettes or vapes, says Jonathan Philip Winickoff, M.D., assistant professor of pediatrics at Harvard Medical School and a specialist in family health and smoking cessation at Massachusetts General Hospital. "It has the same ingredients: a liquid filled with nicotine, solvents, and flavorings." But the USB shape of the device is what makes it so popular with teens and adolescents, who make up the majority of Juul's consumers, says Dr. Winickoff. The design makes it easy to conceal, and it literally plugs right into your computer to heat up and charge. There have been reports of kids using them behind teachers' backs, and some schools have even banned USBs entirely to get Juul out of the classrooms. And yet, this year, Juul is already responsible for more than half of all e-cigarette retail market sales in the U.S., according to a recent Nielsen data report. The other reason Juul appeals to a younger crowd: It comes in flavors like Crème Brulee, mango, and cool cucumber. Not exactly the tastes a hardened tobacco smoker might be seeking, right? In fact, U.S. Senator Chuck Schumer actually condemned Juul in a 2017 letter to the Food and Drug Administration for promoting "flavors that are attractive to young people." In September 2018, the FDA demanded that Juul and other top e-cigarette companies develop plans for curbing teen use. In response, Juul announced this week that it will only offer mint, tobacco, and menthol flavors in stores. The other flavors will be available online only, and customers will have to verify that they're over 18 by giving the last four digits of their social security number. 15.

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Meet T’Juanna Winters T'Juanna Winters is the founder of Lil Lizzie Foundation, and is best known for her community service work with 'Lil Lizzie Foundation.' In her community, she recognized as "a giving guru extraordinaire. Lil Lizzie Foundation serves the community by way of helping individuals, families, women, infant, children, schools, and the homeless, throughout the Texas region. "T'Juanna was born in a middle-class family in East St. Louis, Ill. to a teenage single mother and later raised in an inner-city Oceanside, California neighborhood. At the age of six she moved to Dallas Texas and began her education in the Dallas Public Schools. She graduated from Kimball High School and later attended Dillard University in New Orleans, La. She landed a job as a Nightclub Manager, and even though she earned a great salary, she felt the need to do more for people who are less fortunate. She desired to help others. Credited with creating a more intimate relationship with the people who she helps she has popularized and revolutionized the charitable scale through which, according to Global One Magazine, she entered the mainstream. By the 2018, she had reinvented her company, Lil Lizzie Foundation with a focus on giving back to all communities, no matter the lifestyle, race, creed or color. Following her grandmother’s example, T’Juanna Winters has become a godsend to her community. From adopting schools to building churches in her Dallas, TX community, she has earned the title “Fairy Godmother”. Through her foundation Lil Lizzie, T’Juanna has dedicated herself to bring high-impact awareness to communities in need. Adding to her growing list of philanthropic deeds, the Texas-native is now on a mission to help women tear down the walls that hinder them from succeeding. T’Juanna’s ultimate objective is to help women let go of their past in order to move forward to better themselves. “I thought it was important to start doing more things to help women because it’s time we have honest conversations about the many topics that affect women,” T’Juanna shared exclusively with Global One Magazine. “At times, we have so many issues weighing on our hearts it can be painful. It is time we get it off our chest and seek the support or help needed.” T’Juanna did not become a mogul by waiting for opportunities. To become a mogul, she learned the significance of having her personal affairs in order. “Being CEO of your life is knowing what is acceptable and knowing when to let go of people who do 17.

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not serve a purpose,” she shares. “Most importantly, put God first; know that you are worthy of love, especially self-love.” These are all the golden nuggets that will be shared at the Mask Off Women’s Conference through the Lil Lizzie Foundation. In the future, you can expect the Lil Lizzie Foundation to help more people and organizations outside of Texas and hopefully around the world. “I desire to see more churches and schools provide the needs of the people in the community and I will do everything in my power to make it happen.” Catch up with the work of Lil Lizzie Foundation at The Lil Lizzie Foundation, a 501(c)3 organization, is dedicated to giving back and to bringing high-impact awareness to communities in need. The Lil Lizzie Foundation is in Irving, Texas. This organization primarily operates in the Civic and Social Associations business / industry within the Membership Organizations sector.

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Women Who Live Alone Excerpts from a New Book by Ella Patterson By the time women reach the age of fiftyfive, 46 percent live alone in the United States. Thirty-five million women are the head of their households. At least eighteen million women in the United States live alone. An additional twelve million women are single mothers. Uncounted other women head households while their husbands are away. I am a woman who lived alone for only four years of my life and during that time, I encountered numerous incidents that left me bewildered, unsure and afraid. And even though I had five brothers they could not protect me while I was trying to grow-up and live away from home...alone. I have been married for over twenty years now and sometimes I find myself alone even more. I travel on a regular basis to book signings, workshops, seminars, and I often stay at hotels and in strange cities. I am compelled to write this book because of several reasons: One, my mother at the age of sixty-three was assaulted and raped in her home as she lie in her bed. Two, one of my sorority sisters, Jacqueline Patrick was assaulted, stabbed, and murdered in her home. Three, I have two daughters that have now moved in their own apartments and are trying to live a happy and safe life alone, therefore I am urged to write this book for personal and practical reasons. Most of the incidents in this book were inflicted by people that the victims knew. As a matter of fact, the people that assaulted my mother and my friend were their neighbors. There is a major concern for women to protect themselves. Burying your head in the sand and hoping that something will not happen to you is not the intelligent way to prepare for your safety. If crime has not happened to you, then it probably has happened to someone you know: a friend, relative, neighbor, or co-worker. Rape, robbery, and assault, in the last ten years have doubled. The President has named the war against crime the nation’s priority. Unfortunately, women are not given a large arsenal to fight with. More women than ever are buying guns, but that haven’t slowed down the crime rate. Weapon toting Americans even think that crime has increased since doing so. Personal safety classes are multiplying, and more parents are enrolling their children in self-defense classes than ever before. Most people obtain their safety from the information given on talk shows, women’s magazines, and office gossip. There is a great deal of women who are alone and are not counted when their husbands are away. Salesmen, military men, night shift workers, church mission executives, entertainers, doctors, nurses, firefighters, taxi drivers, athletes, pilots, politicians, truck drivers, incarcerated, police officers, and corporate executives. Then there are the wives of loner’s men who are physically there but are 22. September 2020


emotionally and socially home alone. The lives of wives alone are much like that of women who are widowed, married, and divorced with an additional twist: invisibility. Few women realize just how much they are alone. For Women Who Live Alone will provide simple, sound, and well-founded information and advice about personal safety. I am often asked by women what they should do if stranded, how they can best educate themselves while living alone, at home or away from home? How do I they handle harassment, what should they do if faced with an armed attacker? In this book you will find answers to these questions and much more. The aim of this book is to help women who live or spend a great deal of time alone: It will help women cope with difficulties, conquer frustrations, and celebrate being alone. I suggests ways a woman who lives alone single or married can make confident decisions, overcome loneliness, avoid emotional traps, build a family team, deal with medical emergencies, stay safe at all times, manage money wisely, make minor house and car repairs and build various networks of support. Being alone does not mean you have to settle for being lonely. Thinking smarter and taking precaution will give other a wider range of safety and freedom in life. This book will help prepare women who live alone, and it will open the eyes of those who someday plan to live alone. It will also help women thrive as they move forward in life and it will give them answers to the many questions they have had for a long time. Single, widowed, divorced, or married women who at home alone have many similar concerns: 1. Isolation. Nobody is there in times of crisis. Equally, nobody is round to share little joys and understand special moments. This isolation is intensified for married women alone at home. While single, divorce or widow women may seek one another out, married women are alone erratically and hate to bother other women. 2. Inconvenience. When you are alone you might feel that the solitary life you lead without your husband is very inconvenient. You might feel that nobody lends a hand, or gets the door for you, or holds up the other end, or checks out the strange noises you hear at night, or helps with the children, or answers the phone when your hands are full, or gets the mail or whatever. 3. Indecision. You probably hate all the decision you have to make on your own now. Since our society trains us that financial matters and home/auto maintenance are men’s business, women alone have to decide how to invest money, what to repair and what to replace. You have to decide when a child is ill enough to go to the doctor, secure the home, make repairs, and whom to call in an emergency. 4. Lack of respect. Decision-making is complicated by lack of respect. On a day-to-day basis single woman say they deal with a world geared toward couples and families. 5. Loneliness. Loneliness is one of the hardest parts about being alone. Mothers at home with preschoolers suffer just as much as women with no children. With widows there are no sides to take. With divorced friends, people think they must choose sides of the use to be couples. 6. Burnout. Almost every woman alone comes to a frightening point where she feels overwhelmed by having primary responsibility for her financial, social, and domestic life. This is very hard on women who have envisioned a future shared with a strong mate. Among women I interviewed, widows seemed to have less burnout than other women did. However, any woman home alone must do all the cooking, cleaning, repairs, driving, and childcare and often hold down a job as well. No wonder so many women admit “I’, just worn out.”


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IN BOOKSTORES NOW Keeping the Home Fires Burning An easy-to-understand guide for the contemporary adult woman who wants to up her game and become more loving, sensuous, and intimate as she gives and receives pleasure. Ella Patterson is ready to show women how to make their relationships successful— whether they have been married for years or are absolute newcomers. Keeping the Home Fires Burning is direct, accessible, practical, and helpful for women who want to accept and take responsibility for their sexual happiness. A woman will learn: - Hundreds of tips, techniques, and treats that nurture her mind, body, and spirit. - Secrets that help her become more sensuous, sexy, and loving. - Pointers about how to get in tune with her sexual needs. - To enhance her sexual selfesteem, and attitude for a caring and loving union. To accept love, give love, and believe that love is her friend. - A woman should‌ Read it. Believe it. Do it.

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The Selfie Rules


ou are on time for work, got your sexy outfit on and your make-up is on point. Your favorite customer is coming to the club. He pays you lots of money, so you have to look your best. You look over t the left and there is your cell phone. Could this be a great time for a selfie? You think about it for a few seconds and your answer is yes. Just as likely as it is that you will be sitting with other dancers, it is even more likely that you will be inspired to immortalize the moment by snapping 25 consecutive pictures of yourself in the hunt for the perfect selfie. Admit it selfie culture is here to stay. How do we know? ‘Even our daughters and moms are sneaking in selfies. It’s time to embrace the prudish movement and love our “selfies” even more. Here are some do’s and don’ts that’ll help you put your best face forward. Always protect your brand - YOU!

• DO NOT over-selfie it.

Save your selfies for special occasions: A new haircut, a great outfit, the private moment before your walk down the aisle; you know, the moments worth sharing. By adding context to your post, your photo becomes more of a story. It creates an opportunity for specific feedback from your friends as opposed to the random streaming feed of your face that only seems to say, “Hey, how about some compliments today?”


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• DO find your good side. The art of a great selfie starts with choosing the right angle. Tilt the most symmetrical side of your face slightly towards the camera. Hold the camera a little above your head, angling the lens downward. This will make your nose appear slenderer and your eyes larger. Prepare to have your prettily posed post blasted with insta-love.

• DO NOT do the duck face.

I am guilty of this one. I have a duck face selfie right now on my Instagram. I will leave it just so you can see how ridiculous the duck lips are. You have not fooled us. We do not think your lips are that plump. You just look a little bit like a duck now.

• DO find the perfect lighting.

The best selfies are taken in natural light and front lit. The bright light smooths out the skin tone while providing a natural beauty filter. You will be able to post the photo with the ever-enviable awe-inducing hashtag #nofilter (and you will actually be telling the truth). •

NO selfies in insensitive environments. Perhaps this one is obvious, but many people have made the embarrassing mistake of snapping selfies at the worst time. Things to avoid are funerals, natural disasters, and any form of human suffering. Posing while operating a moving vehicle is also not advised. If the perfect light strikes while you are in the driver’s seat, pull over and hashtag your photo #thiscarwasparked.

• DO pose in front of beautiful backdrops.

Vibrant wallpaper, the textured bark of a tree, your head tossed back in a field of electric-green grass, a richly colored bookcase - all of these are inspired backdrops. Look to build a vibe that has a bit more to say than, “Look at me!” After all, photography is an art so explore the depths of your inner artist.

• DO not pose half-naked in underwear.

I know you are going to do it anyway, because you are a stripper, I am hoping you do not. Protect your brand.

• DO invest in a selfie stick.

One of the quickest ways to look a little less selfie is to widen the frame. Using a selfie stick allows you to make the image about the sweeping panorama behind you or the loving huddle of friends wrapped in your arms. Grab that innovative stick and wave it proud as you capture the bigger picture.

• DO experiment with different looks.

Selfies seem to tap into that early childlike part of ourselves—like when we played dress-up in front of the mirror while applying our mother’s lipstick. Go ahead and have fun! Strike a pose with a new lip shade, dramatic liner, false eyelashes, or a hat you have always wanted to secretly wear. Express all of your many sides while also testing your new looks before you brave the real world.

• DO NOT take yourself too seriously.

Putting your best face forward does not always mean your perfect face. Dare to post a picture of your natural makeup-free face, make silly faces, or share a post-workout messy ponytail glow. Show the world that you have a sense of humor, that you are fearless, that you, in fact, do not need to be perfect. There is nothing prettier than your truth. So, selfie that! People all over the world take selfies. Millions of people take selfies every day, yet it is an oft-reviled practice. You could call the selfie our most popular guilty pleasure. 26. September 2020


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FOOD CULTURES Appetizing recipes for any occasion that are sure to please your palate

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How are food choices affected by our culture? Food and culture are two different worlds that go very well together. Food is essentially considered to consist of nutrients that support body growth and metabolism to provide energy. But apart from all the nutritional value, the food we eat also represents our culture, and is a very important component of it. The types of food consumed by millions of people around the world vary according to region and different cultures, this diversity did not start in the same way but it changed gradually with time to match our society and our available resources. So to understand or even have a deep knowledge about a certain culture one has to learn how does culture affect food choices. All the necessary requirements of making food and the activities such as capture, cultivation, preparations and consumption are considered a vital part of a cultural act. It has been gradually adopted as per climatic conditions and availability of prey. So, to study the way as how does culture affect food choices it is important to understand the different aspects of food making, which greatly varies among different cultures.

Food during Renaissance During the Renaissance period there came a lot of changes in Italy, which started at the origin of the creative cooks in Europe. So, the food during Renaissance period is a strong example to understand how culture affects food choices, as many modern cultures during this era overlapped and produced some of the world’s finest dishes. During this period people grew fond love for pasta, pasta noodles, stews, stuffed pasta and this became a part of the Italian culture since that time, which was a huge turn over from the usual bread answering as to how does culture affect food choices?

Asian food and culture Rice is consumed at a very high rate in all parts of Asia. Rice is mainly served either steamed or as porridge and even as rice noodles. The Chinese and some other cultures follow Buddhism, which prohibits them to a certain extent for consumption of huge amount of food at a time. The Chinese, Vietnamese, Japanese cultures all consume their food with chopsticks but with different shapes.

Middle Eastern food A deeply intricate and historically influenced culture is that of the Middle Eastern culture. As most of the Middle Eastern countries are Islamic their food excludes the consumption of pork or alcohol in any form. The most common use is of chickpeas and olives in the Middle Eastern cuisine and pita bread is very popular flat bread that is consumed there. Thus, it signifies as how does culture affect food choices drastically. So in order to jot down all the facts related to culture and food and understand the authenticity of how does culture affect food choices, it can be said that the transformation of recipes into real food that eventually acquires its own language and comes out as a product of complex culture that is affected by external factors such as geography, climate, the pursuit of pleasure and the wish to acquire good health. It can be easily concluded that food has always symbolized class and cultures.


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How Does Food Culture Impact Our Health?

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Food is the great unifier that connects us across cultures and generations. We have all had those moments when we smelled something that reminded us of our childhood or recreated a dish that we had abroad that immediately brought us back to that foreign place. Food can quite literally propel you to another time, another country, another culture without even leaving your dinner table, which is why food culture is such an important way that we as people are able to connect and relate to one another. Food culture is as much a part of me as I was a part of my food culture, and as I got older and began to travel and explore food cultures and the way in which they nourish our bodies differently, I began to better understand how my own food culture was able to give me a natural appreciation and sense of connection for the way in which food, local ingredients, and traditions can connect us as people — even when nothing else seems possible.

Different Food Cultures Around the World There are many different food cultures of the world, (See previous pages) Some are more distinctive and globally famous than others, and some which very rarely leave their regional environment but are still just as significant to the local community they influence. Different food cultures around the world are influenced by many factors, but the most noticeable is arguably the way in which different food cultures utilize specific ingredients and spices to evoke unique flavor profiles that define their food culture. Therefore food cultures often vary regionally even within one country depending on the landscape, weather, and history that each region uniquely experienced. While the United States is not known for having the most positive food culture, this is something that is very apparent as local cuisines in the United States vary drastically depending on what region you live in. The same holds true for Italian food culture, which varies drastically from North to South. 32. September 2020


Regardless of what ingredients, flavors, or traditions exist between different food cultures there are two things that act as connected threads woven throughout them all — community and pleasure. There isn’t a food culture in the world that does not include these two parts of our food experience, even though they are often overlooked and undervalued in the American interpretation of food culture. What this means is that we were meant to enjoy our food. We experience pleasure when we eat. We are meant to enjoy our food. Food cultures are founded on the way in which food was used to celebrate religious holidays, community events, and family gatherings. In other words, food is celebrated and respected as an essential part of what makes humans human.

Importance of Food and Culture for well-Being Food cultures, no matter where in the world, all encompass a few key components: • involve sharing food with community and family. They… • value the needs of the land over the convenience driven desires of people • use food to celebrate religious and community events • focus on local and seasonal ingredients, and use them to create unique and distinguishable flavors • value their food experiences and then move on with their day • are not something to be manipulated, it is meant to be shared and celebrated This is where we begin to be able to clearly see how our food is meant to support the land it is grown on, nourishing both our bodies and our environment, as well as something that we are meant to live in balance with, not control. For these reasons it is easy to see how food and culture conflict significantly with the Western diet culture that exists today to separate ourselves from our food culture, and instead turn our food into something to be controlled and measured.

How Food Culture Impacts Health But what does food culture have to do with health? EVERYTHING. Without a strong food culture food becomes something that we manipulate for personal gain. It stops being something that we respect, and becomes something that we aim to control, and the more we aim to control our food the less we value and experience it. Food cultures are deeply rooted parts of our history that has evolved and developed overtime. It is essential parts of how we support our overall health and nourish our bodies. However, over the past half century within the United States especially, commercially processed foods and the insurgence of supermarkets and marketed diet culture have disconnected many Americans with their traditional food culture to the point where they may not even recognize it anymore. For so many Americans the phrase food culture doesn’t mean much. Food is something that comes packaged, that is counted and manipulated, and overall disconnected from any real meaning. At some point we decided to remove the culture from our food and our health began to suffer. All you have to do is take a look at the blue zones of the world (the areas of the world researched to have the happiest and longest lifespans) to understand that our food culture is as much a part of our personal and societal well-being, as our food is itself.


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Vietnamese-Cajun Shrimp Boil Everyone around the Gulf Coast looks forward to the beginning of crawfish season and crawfish boils. In Houston neighbor to New Orleans and home to one of the largest Vietnamese diasporas in the world - we’ve added a little flair to the traditional boil, birthing Vietnamese-Cajun cuisine. Vietnamese-Cajun boils start off similarly to a traditional boil; however they create an extra layer of flavor with ample garlic and waves of butter, along with a traditional Vietnamese seafood dipping sauce. Instead of a traditional crawfish boil, we wanted to do a shrimp boil because it’s easier to find shrimp, year-round, and you don’t have to deal with having to boil crawfish alive. The most important things to include in a boil are good friends and family. Disposable gloves and bibs wouldn’t hurt either.

able to find more information about this and similar content on their web site. DIRECTIONS: BOIL AND GARLIC BUTTER SAUCE: 1. In a large stockpot over medium heat, combine beer, orange juice, seafood boil, bay leaf, onion, orange, and red potato quarters and bring to boil. Boil for 15 minutes. 2. Meanwhile, in a small pan over medium-low heat, melt butter then add minced garlic. Remove from heat. 3. Once the 15 minutes are up, add corn and sausage slices and simmer for 5 minutes. 4. Add shrimp. If there's not enough liquid to cover the shrimp entirely, add more beer (or water if you've run out of beer). 5. Turn off the heat as soon as the shrimp starts turning pink (within the first minute). Let the mixture sit there and soak in the spices for an additional 5 minutes. 6. Remove the onions, orange slices, and bay leaf. 7. Drain, reserving 1/2 cup of the boil liquid. 8. Dump potatoes, corn, sausage, shrimp, 1/2 cup of the boil liquid, and the garlic-butter sauce into a large sturdy bag (a 2.5-gallon resalable bag will do). Seal and shake to get that extra coat of garlic-butter sauce over everything. 9. Cover your dining table with newspapers and serve your creation communally, either in a giant bowl in the center of the table or pour the bag right in the center. 10. Squeeze the lime halves over the shrimp before serving so they get an extra pop of lime juice. For an extra Vietnamese twist, serve the shrimp with a salt-pepper-lime dip

INGREDIENTS FOR BOIL BASE: 48 oz. light beer, like a lager 52 oz. orange juice 3/4 c. Seafood Boil, (Zatarain's or Louisiana Fish Fry's) 1 bay leaf 1 onion, trimmed on both ends, peeled, and quartered 1 orange, quartered FOR BOIL: 6 red potatoes, quartered 2 ears of corn, husked, cut into 2-inch pieces 12 oz. Andouille sausage, cut into 1/2-inch pieces 3 lb. shrimp, raw, deveined, tail-on, head-off FOR GARLIC-BUTTER SAUCE: 1 stick (1/2 cup) unsalted butter 1 head garlic, minced 1 lime, halved FOR DIPPING SAUCE: 1 tbsp. kosher salt 1/2 tbsp. black pepper 4 limes, quartered Mayonnaise This ingredient shopping module is created and maintained by a third party and imported onto this page. You may be

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FOR THE DIPPING SAUCE In a small bowl, mix salt and pepper, then distribute into individual sauce dishes for each diner. Each diner can squeeze two lime quarters into their sauce dish and reload with more lime juice as necessary. Alternatively, some people (like my sister), like dipping their Vietnamese-Cajun seafood into mayonnaise.

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Street Corn Grilled Chicken Tacos Wondering what you are going to make tonight? These grilled chicken tacos are the answer. All the deliciousness of elote or esquites in taco form - and you don’t even have to fire up the grill. Oh, and did we mention you can get them on the table in 30 minutes? INGREDIENTS 2 tbsp. vegetable oil, divided 3 c. fresh or frozen corn kernels 2 green onions, chopped, with white and Light green parts separated from dark green parts Kosher salt Freshly ground black pepper 3 tbsp. chopped fresh cilantro 2 tbsp. grated cotija cheese, plus more for serving 1/4 c. lime juice, divided; and wedges for serving 1 jalapeño, seeded and minced 3 c. Tyson® Grilled & Ready® Chicken Breast Strips 1/4 c. mayonnaise 1/4 c. sour cream 1/2 tsp. chili powder 1/2 tsp. sweet paprika 8 corn tortillas 1 avocado, halved, peeled, pitted, and thinly sliced DIRECTIONS 1. In a large cast iron skillet over high, heat 1 tablespoon of the oil. Add fresh or frozen corn and white and light green parts of the green onion, and

season with salt and pepper. Cook, tossing halfway through, until charred in places, about 4 minutes. 2. Transfer corn into a large bowl and wipe the skillet. Let corn cool slightly and toss with cilantro, cotija cheese, dark parts of the green onion, 2 tablespoons of the lime juice, and jalapeño. 3. Return skillet to medium heat. Add remaining tablespoon oil and frozen chicken. Cook, stirring occasionally, until chicken is warm, about 5 minutes. Remove from heat. 4. In a small bowl, make your taco topping: Whisk mayonnaise, sour cream, the remaining 2 teaspoons of lime juice, chili powder, and paprika until combined. Season with salt and pepper and set aside. 5. Using tongs, hold each tortilla directly over a gas flame, turning, until heated through, about 5 seconds. 6. Serve tortillas stuffed with chicken, avocado, and the corn mixture. Dollop with mayonnaise mixture and sprinkle with more cotija cheese. Serve warm with lime wedges.

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Italian Sausage Lasagna Johnsonville Italian Sausages make it simple to enjoy authentic Italian flavor. This classic lasagna dish is made so much easier when you’ve got Johnsonville backing you up. The flavor of the Italian sausages will help to make this recipe your new lasagna favorite! INGREDIENTS • 12 lasagna noodles, uncooked • 2 tablespoons Bertolli® Extra Light in Taste Olive Oil • 1 package JOHNSONVILLE® Fresh Italian Mild Ground Sausage or JOHNSONVILLE® Fresh Italian Mild Sausage Links • 1 medium onion, chopped • 2 cloves garlic, chopped • 4 cups marinara sauce • 4 cups ricotta cheese • 1 large egg • ½ cup KRAFT Grated Parmesan Cheese • 2 cups fresh spinach, lightly packed and chopped • 2 cups mozzarella cheese, shredded • 1 teaspoon dried oregano

DIRECTIONS 1. Bring a large pot of salted water to a boil. Cook pasta until al dente. Drain, lightly oil and set aside. 2. In a medium saucepan, sauté the sausage in Bertolli® Extra Light in Taste Olive Oil, crumbling with a wooden spoon, until no longer pink 3. Add onion and garlic and continue sautéing for another 4 minutes until the sausage is cooked through. 4. Add marinara sauce to the sausage mixture and set aside. 5. In a medium bowl, blend ricotta cheese, egg, ¼ cup of the KRAFT Grated Parmesan Cheese and the chopped spinach; set aside. 6. Coat a 9x13 inch baking dish with olive oil and spread 1 cup of the sauce mixture on the bottom. 7. Top with 3 lasagna noodles. Spread ¼ of the ricotta cheese mixture on the noodles and layer on 1 cup of the sauce mixture. Sprinkle ½ cup mozzarella cheese over this. Repeat this process three more times, starting with the noodles and finish with the remaining ¼ cup of KRAFT Grated Parmesan cheese. Sprinkle with oregano. 8. Preheat oven to 350°F and bake for 45 minutes until hot and bubbly. 9. Let stand 10 minutes before cutting.


Buttery Boiled Corn Cooked Right It isn't summer until you've had corn on the cob. Just a pat of butter and a generous seasoning of salt and pepper. 1. Boil in VERY salty water. Use the largest pot you have, fill it with water, and salt it well. Heavy salt mixed with water will taste like the ocean and every single pot of salted water we use for boiling ANYTHING should taste like that. So, don't be shy. Your corn won't taste salty in the end — the salt will just help bring out its flavor. Bring your nicely salted water to a boil. 2. Shuck it good. While your water is heating up, pull off your corn husks. This can get messy thanks to all the tiny strings, so we recommend doing it over a trash can. Starting at the tip, grab all the husk and as much of the strings as possible and rip

down. Repeat until all the husk is off. Rub off as much of the lingering strings as possible. (You'll often see that a hack for removing the strings is to use a clean toothbrush — we don't buy it.) 3. Boil 'em quick. Using tongs, drop your corn into the boiling water. Return the water to a boil, then cook your corn for 5 minutes. Set a timer because if you let your corn overcook the kernels can become tough. The goal is juicy, crunchy kernels, not mushy dry ones. 4. Butter it up. Brush with melted butter, season with salt and pepper, and let summer begin.

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We get candid with wine lovers about those things that make them smile. Felicia kicks thigs off with an intimate conversation about how she loves good wine.�



Starts with Your Eyes Look at a glass of wine; it starts with your eyes. Just like food, your initial taste a wine starts with your eyes. The color of a wine tells you a lot about the wine. To fully understand the ramifications of the color, in this case, it helps to have a minor understanding of how a wine should look for its grape varietal, age and growing season. For now, we are going to focus on Bordeaux wine, which is most often a blend dominated by either Cabernet Sauvignon or Merlot. For a young Bordeaux wine, the wine should be dark, displaying a depth of color from the rim to the center of the glass. One helpful hint is, when looking at a wine, hold out the glass and tilt it a bit. Try to hold the wine over a white surface like a white tablecloth, plain white plate, napkin or other blank surface. At this point, you need to notice the depth of color from the rim to the center of the glass. The color can feature purple or dark blue, often shiny accents. Deeper and richer colors let the taster know this is a concentrated wine. For my palate, concentration and depth of flavor is a good thing. Young wines that lack good color are going to be lighter less ripe and more acidic in style. That is natural for wines made from Pinot Noir. But for young wines produced using Bordeaux varieties, you want to see a good, rich, deep color. The depth of color is also a good, beginning indicator of a wines style. An inky, dark hued Bordeaux is probably going to be intense, mouth filling lower in acid and long. Young Bordeaux or young Bordeaux styled wines with light colors are going to be lighter in flavor, with more red fruits than black and brighter in acidity. Next in your visual evaluation of the wine is the legs or tears on the side of the glass. This is not all that important. You can skip ahead to the next paragraph if you like. But as you have probably heard many people remark on the tears or legs in a wine, if you did not skip ahead, let’s cover it now.

The size of the tears (drops) or legs (drips) of the wine. The size of the tears or legs and the length of time they remain in the glass give a glimpse into the wines potential alcohol level and sweetness, as well as the viscosity (gooeyness) of the wine. Thin legs that dissipate quickly are found in lighter, less concentrated wines. While fatter, or more athletic legs that remain on the glass speak of a rich, concentrated wine with lots of fruit, sweetness, and length. Again, it’s important to note, the legs and tears of wine are related to the grape variety and the country the wine was made in. For Bordeaux styled wines, we want large tears that stay in the glass. Legs and tears will let you know a little about the alcoholic content and level of sweetness in the wine, they are not an indicator that you will like the wine, or not.


Swirl, Sniff and Smell the Wine How to understand the smells, bouquet, aromas, or perfume of a wine. You’ve looked at the wine already, what’s next in learning to taste wine like a professional? That’s easy. You only need to taste the wine. Remember when you first look at a wine evaluate it? Now, swirl, smell and sniff the wine. Your sense of smell is much stronger than you realize. It’s a key component to understanding how to taste wine like a professional. It’s said that as much as 85% of taste is derived from your sense of smell, but you cannot smell the wine without first swirling your glass gently. If you are a beginner, to avoid spilling the wine, swirl the glass, but keep the stem of the glass firmly planted on the table. You will not spill the wine if you keep the glass anchored to the table. The action of swirling your glass allows oxygen to enter the wine, which allows the wine to release its scents into the air while coating the glass at the same time. After swirling your wine, you can use whatever technique that works best for you, when nosing the wines aromatics. However, one little trick that could help is, keep your mouth slightly open when inhaling and exhaling the scents from the wine. That little secret will allow you to discern more aromatic complexities in your wine. Next, do not simply inhale the aromas. Sniff them, more than once. You will inhale more of the wine’s aromatics using that technique. But at the end of the day, there is no right or wrong way to nose a wine. Use what works for you. Some tasters inhale deeply, others take small, short sniffs, while others practice a combination of both techniques. Find the technique that works best for you. To help understand the aromas that are correct for the grape varietal characteristics of the wine, please see our page on the Davis Wine Aroma Wheel. How to Smell a Wine Generally speaking, if a wine smells good, meaning there are no off odors such as scents of wet dogs, old newspapers, mold, vinegar or generally unclean scents, the wine is sound. The next step is to note how complex the wine smells and what scents make up its complex, aromatic profile. The key to being a good wine taster is understanding that we all have different levels of olfactory capabilities. Some people are going to be more sensitive than others. Select tasters will also sense some, specific fragrances better than others. Sense-memory, or perhaps it should be scents memory” is the key here.


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Most of the scents found in wine are common to us. The lack of fear in trying to recall, recognize and communicate our sensations is all that is required here. It’s important to note that wines and the grapes they are made from - are quite complex and that once your fear of sharing what you smell and taste subsides, wine will no longer simply smell like red wine or white wine. You will find a vast array of scents and flavors present in your wine. Again, please refer to the Davis Aroma Wheel to get you started. It’s a great tool that will help you be a better wine taster. Nosing what you smell in a wine can tell you a lot about the wine and its potential character. For example, when examining wines from Bordeaux varietals, as well as some Rhone wines, the scents of dark fruit like blackberries and plum tell the taster the wine is made from ripe berries, The darker the fruits, the riper the wine and the higher level of sugar and alcohol. The scents of blueberries are the sign of an even riper wine. Jam flavors or scents in a wine can be a sought-after complexity in the right amount. Too much jammyness and the wine could be over ripe and too high in alcohol. Prune and raisin scents are more often caused by over ripe fruit, which is usually lacking in freshness. When looking at a wine, when you encounter cherries, raspberries, or other red berries, that is often the sign of fruit that did not achieve full, phenolic ripeness. Those wines will be brighter in their palate profile and higher in acid as well. A light, balanced sense of oak is to be expected in young wines. This is reflected by odors of vanilla, coffee, or toast aromas. But when those smells become the dominant characteristic in a wine, it is a potential sign that the wine will be oaky later in life as well. Regardless of the wine being white or red, remember, the fruit needs to smell clean and fresh. While earth and other mineral odors or sensations are a sought-after complexity in wine, dirt in the fruit is not. Part of being a good wine taster is also being able to recognize flaws in wine, especially corked wines. The biggest fault in a wine that a wine taster needs to be able to identify takes place due to TCA, which causes a wine to smell like a wet dog, or old, wet newspapers.

How to Recognize a Corked Wine and its Causes So far, we have dealt with primary scents in young wine as well as faults in wine, which can be found in young or old wine. Older, mature wines also need to retain a freshness to their aromatic profile. But when wines age and mature, they exchange their primary fruit aroma for more complex, secondary scents. In red wine, smells of earth, truffle, tobacco, spice, cigar box and forest floor and common aromas. White wines develop more notes of honey, flowers, spice, butter, popcorn, caramel, and minerals with time. How to Taste a Wine Now that you have a good understanding of how to look at a wine, and smell a wine, all that’s left is to taste a wine. Right? Basically, yes. Note I said basically, because while your personal like or dislike of the wine is all that counts, understanding how to look for a few quality indicators will help you with being a better wine taster. More important than quality indicators are understanding why you like a certain wine, or not. Remember, there is no right or wrong when it comes to personal taste. For more help see The Davis Aroma Wine Wheel on the website. It is going to help you find the aromas and scents you were thinking of but could not find the words for. by Ms. Real 42. September 2020


That “legs” on wine doesn’t determine quality, but only determines that the wine has a high content of alcohol. If you cover your glass the legs will disappear.


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Fun Wine Facts Wine has been around for centuries. It’s a complex drink that can take years to perfect. Every bottle has science and history inside. 1) 2) 3) 4) 5) 6) 7) 8) 9) 10) 11) 12) 13) 14) 15) 16) 17) 18) 19) 20)

Red Wines are attributed to positive health benefits. It lowers the chances of having a stroke compared to nondrinkers. For men and women who drink moderately, it lessens their chance of developing Type 2 diabetes by 30%. Believe it or not, there are some people that have a fear of wine. It’s called “oenophobia”. How do you hold a wine glass? There is a right and wrong way. Wine glasses are held by the stem, so that way it the hand does not raise the temperature of the wine. The stem is for a reason! When at a wine tasting event, it is not frowned upon for spitting wine out. Take a sip of wine and hold it in your mouth for a couple seconds, then either swallow it or spit out. This is an acceptable way to know if it’s a good wine. A good wine will have a lengthy aftertaste. Why do you store wine laying down? If the bottle is standing up, the cork could dry out and dwindle, possibly dropping into the wine. Bottles that have animals on the label are known as “Critter Wine”. Women are more inclined to the effects of wine than men. This is partly because they have less enzymes in the stomach lining that is needed to break down alcohol simply. It’s guilt-free! No fat and no cholesterol! But that does not mean to drink a bottle a day either! The oldest known wine cellar is on the Titanic. When divers went down to the wreckage, surprisingly most of the bottles were still intact. Ben Franklin was quoted, “Wine makes daily life easy, less hurried, with fewer tension and more tolerance”. So many organic compounds are in wine. This is considered more complex than that of blood serum. To get the same number of antioxidants you find in wine, you would need to drink 20 glasses of apple juice or seven glasses of orange juice. When pairing wine with food, the richer, heavier food goes well with the richer, heavier wines. Usually red wine is served with the red meat. The lighter foods are pair with the light wines. White wine is served with chicken and fish. If you are looking to pair a wine with dessert, go for the sweet wine. “Toasting” started in ancient Rome when the Romans sustained the Greek tradition. They would drop a piece of toasted bread into the wine glass to soften unsavory tastes. “Drinking to one’s health” came from ancient Greece. The host of dinner would take the first sip to assure his guests the wine was not poisoned. California is the fourth largest producer of wine in the world. The other three are France, Spain, and Italy. The world’s oldest bottle of wine was found near the town of Speyer, Germany. It dates before to A.D. 325 and is on display at the town’s historical museum. Wonder why tasters “swirl” the wine in their glass? They do this to release its powerful aromas. If you notice, most do not fill the glass more than a third full so when they allow the aromas to collect, they not spill it! If a husband found his wife drinking wine in the early Roman times, he was at liberty to kill her. It was forbidden that women drink wine. Hippocrates (c.460 – c. 370 BC), also known as the ‘father of medicine’, used wine in many of his recorded remedies. He used it for lower fevers and as a general antiseptic. It was a remedy he used often for his ailing patients.

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Can You Say Destress? Think of Blissful & Indulgent Moments What's your stress "tell?" For some, a quickened heart rate or a slight feeling of queasiness is enough to let them know they're getting anxious or overwhelmed. But just as a slight from your boss or bad news from a family member can get your stress hormones pumping and your blood pressure rising quickly, you have the power to reset almost instantly. When we're stressed, hormones like cortisol flood our systems, producing the "fight or flight response" in which our heart rate goes up, we breathe more heavily (requiring more oxygen) and our blood vessels constrict. While in the precivilization world, the increased blood flow to our heart and muscles helped us escape from predators and dangerous situations, we find ourselves in a very different position now. Our bodies can't tell the difference between an approaching grizzly bear and a ticked off spouse or a particularly epic traffic jam, so our stress response is triggered when there's no imminent danger. Instead of helping us to escape, this can contribute to chronic conditions like hypertension and headaches, as well as mental health concerns like depression and anxiety disorders. What's more, stress can make other conditions -- like asthma, irritable bowel syndrome and insomnia -- worse.

Identity your stress triggers. First things first, what exactly stresses you out? Do you know exactly what triggers this reaction? How do you react to it? When you have a few answers, look for possible solutions. While you’re not going to be able to eliminate every stress trigger in your life, you can at least remove the ones that you have influence over.

Breathe deeply Any yogi knows that the breath -- known as pranayama or “life force” -- plays an important role in nourishing the body. And medical researchers agree. “Breathing exercises can help you relax, because they make your body feel like it does when you are already relaxed

Take a 10-minute walk. Exercise is one of the best stress relievers out there. But not everyone will take the time or have the motivation to commit to a strict workout regimen. Could you squeeze in a 10-minute walk either first thing in the morning, during a lunch break, or when we get home from work? A short walk clears our heads and boost endorphins, which in turn reduces stress hormones.

Laugh Since we all have different senses of humor, think about something that puts a smile on your face. Is it an old SNL sketch, viral video of a dog chasing its tail, or reminiscing about that time your best friends fell down the stairs? Whatever it is, keep it on hand so it’s easily accessible when you need a good laugh. 46. September 2020


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Relaxation with Core Meditation The Vibrating Device That Helps You Get Back in Sync with Meditation (The New Way to Meditate - Body, Mind, Life, Core) By Elizabeth Bacharach The Bluetooth-connected Core trainer helped me find a meditation rhythm—literally and figuratively. It’s 11:00 p.m. I’m sitting on my bed with my legs crossed, back straight (thanks to a supportive pile of pillows), and hands cradling a small, orb-shaped device. Following the instructions of the voice emanating through my AirPods, I close my eyes and inhale for 1…2…3…4 as the device in my hands vibrates at varying speeds. If anyone were to walk by my closed door, they’d likely have some assumptions: Heavy breathing and loud vibrations. Hmmm, what’s going on in there? *wink, wink; nudge, nudge* Spoiler alert: I'm meditating. (Didn’t see that one coming, did you?) The rumbling little sphere in my hands is the Core, a Bluetooth-connected meditation device said to help even the most fidgety meditators find their rhythm. Depending on the type of audio-guided meditation session chosen through the paired app, the trainer pulses to help lead you through techniques and to channel your focus. While meditation apps such as Headspace and Calm might remind you to focus on the feeling of your hands on your thighs, the trainer emits a baseline vibration throughout any meditation session to serve as a gentle reminder to focus your attention. It also offers "breath training" (or breath work) sessions, which can help relieve stress or promote concentration. For example, a breathing technique called Box Breath involves inhaling for a count of four seconds, holding for four, exhaling for four, and holding again for four. So, as the voice instructs me to inhale, the device ramps up speed for four seconds; when the voice says to then hold, the device pauses for four seconds. The narration and vibration continue in tandem for a little until you're left to try a few rounds on your own, at which point the pulses prove to be incredibly helpful guides.

My Strained Relationship with Meditation I love meditating. But that doesn’t mean I’m good at it or that I effortlessly maintain a consistent practice. Add in the coronavirus pandemic and, whelp, any semblance of my previous meditation practice went by way of in-office work and social gatherings: gonezo. While I knew—and know—how beneficial meditation can be, especially during trying times like these, it was frighteningly easy to find excuses to not make time to meditate: Too much is going on right now. I just don’t have the time. I’ll do it again when things go back to “normal.” And although I was feeling uncharacteristically calm, especially given the traumatic state of the world, I knew that getting back into meditating could do my brain and body some much-needed favors. (If you still aren't entirely aware of all the mind and body benefits of meditation, know that, in short, research suggests meditation can decrease anxiety and depression, lessen loneliness, and improve sleep and work performance.) But no number of push notifications or scheduled reminders could convince me to just sit down and do the damn thing. One possible reason for this neglect? The unwelcome challenge that always came with getting back into meditating (and it always felt like I 48. September 2020


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was "getting back into it" every time I sat down to quiet my mind). Like returning to the gym after a hiatus, those first few sessions can be difficult and, in turn, turn me off from the practice (especially when there are so many other trying matters at hand). So, when I started seeing ads on Instagram (the algorithm knew what I needed before I did for a simple little sphere that boasts Fitbit-like tracking for meditation, I was intrigued: Maybe having the physical reminder, will push me to (finally) reconnect with my meditation practice. After all, with a sleek and modern aesthetic reminiscent of something out of a West Elm catalog, I wouldn't mind leaving it out as a reminder to practice. Before I knew it, it arrived at my front door and the excitement was real and expectations admittedly high. I was certain this was going to be the game-changer my meditation practice was missing. Week 1 Initially, my goal was to meditate with my new toy at least three times a week. I also told myself that I was going to be open to meditating whenever, wherever instead of trying to adhere to some arbitrary schedule of practicing solely before bed. For the most part, the first week was successful. I meditated not three, not four, but five (!!) days during my first week with using the Core trainer. I was having trouble becoming accustomed to the device's vibrations and became fixated on my frustrations. At the end of each session, no matter how long, I couldn’t shake a lingering tingling sensation in my hands from the pulsing. It wasn't painful or anything—more like when you hop off a treadmill after a run and your legs take a minute to readjust to solid ground—and it went away within 10-minutes, but the strange sensation was just annoying more than anything else. (Sound familiar but haven't used the Core? Carpal tunnel might be to blame for the tingling.) Week 2 Week two was a rough one. I also couldn’t seem to move past my disappointment that the Core wasn't the immediate meditation magic I was hoping it would be for me. And so, I wound up only meditating twice before bed this week. But the orb did prove to be that helpful physical reminder. Positioned next to my book and glasses on my nightstand, the Core was always…well…there. It became increasingly more difficult to find excuses to not do just work in a quick 5-minute mediation session. Week 3 With what felt like a bit of a failed week behind me, I was able to approach this one with a fresh start; a chance to stop judging the device for what I felt were design shortcomings but rather for its influence on my meditation practice. The more I used the Core, the more I became accustomed to the vibrations and gradually started using them as intended: a way to bring my mind back to the present when it started to wander or run through a mental to-do list. Being able to bring myself back to the moment without struggling to count my breaths or concentrate on a spot in front of me left me feeling stronger in my practice and, in turn, eager to continue the habit. After four sessions with the trainer this week, I was surprisingly back to my love affair with meditation—going so far as to turn to my boyfriend and say, ‘I think I’m finally back.’ I missed having my hands touching my thighs (rather than holding the gadget) while practicing, which is ironic because the physical contact previously bothered me. I’d suddenly become itchy or feel a need to squirm, which would interrupt my practice. Now, however, I found it increasingly more challenging to connect with my body and really consider how each part was feeling—tight, tense, at ease, etc. - while mentally scanning from head to toe. My takeaway: While the Core trainer isn't likely to become a necessary accessory to my meditation practice, I do like having it next to my bed just in case I've made one too many excuses not to meditate. It reminds me to take five minutes when I can for myself. Plus, it's improved my understanding of my own breathing patterns and the importance of breath work both during and outside of meditation. I feel like I’m one step closer to finally being that person who knows how to breathe her way through, say, an anxious situation, but TBD on that.

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Getting A Good Night’s Sleep By Mayo Clinic Staff

You are not doomed to toss and turn every night. Here are better sleep, from setting a sleep schedule to including physical activity in your daily routine. Think about all the factors that can interfere with a good night's sleep — from work stress and family responsibilities to unexpected challenges, such as illnesses. It's no wonder that quality sleep is sometimes elusive. While you might not be able to control the factors that interfere with your sleep, you can adopt habits that encourage better sleep. Start with these simple tips. 1. Stick to a sleep schedule - Set aside no more than eight hours for sleep. The recommended amount of sleep for a healthy adult is at least seven hours. Most people don't need more than eight hours in bed to achieve this goal. Go to bed and get up at the same time every day. Try to limit the difference in your sleep schedule on weeknights and weekends to no more than one hour. Being consistent reinforces your body's sleep-wake cycle. If you don't fall asleep within about 20 minutes, leave your bedroom and do something relaxing. Read or listen to soothing music. Go back to bed when you're tired. Repeat as needed. 2. Pay attention to what you eat and drink - Don't go to bed hungry or stuffed. In particular, avoid heavy or large meals within a couple of hours of bedtime. Your discomfort might keep you up. Nicotine, caffeine and alcohol deserve caution, too. The stimulating effects of nicotine and caffeine take hours to wear off and can wreak havoc on quality


sleep. And even though alcohol might make you feel sleepy, it can disrupt sleep later in the night. 3. Create a restful environment - Create a room that's ideal for sleeping. Often, this means cool, dark and quiet. Exposure to light might make it more challenging to fall asleep. Avoid prolonged use of light-emitting screens just before bedtime. Consider using room-darkening shades, earplugs, a fan or other devices to create an environment that suits your needs. Doing calming activities before bedtime, such as taking a bath or using relaxation techniques, might promote better sleep. 4. Limit daytime naps - Long daytime naps can interfere with nighttime sleep. If you choose to nap, limit yourself to up to 30 minutes and avoid doing so late in the day. If you work nights, however, you might need to nap late in the day before work to help make up your sleep debt. 5. Include physical activity in your daily routine Regular physical activity can promote better sleep. Avoid being active too close to bedtime, however. Spending time outside every day might be helpful, too. 6. Manage worries - Try to resolve your worries or concerns before bedtime. Jot down what's on your mind and then set it aside for tomorrow. Stress management might help. Start with the basics, such as getting organized, setting priorities and delegating tasks. Meditation also can ease anxiety.

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Relax Like a Diva Fifteen minutes of pampering is better than no pampering at all.

A woman can gain inner peace by instilling pampering on a regular basis. Pampering is referred to as inner grooming. So, as not to confuse it with outer grooming activities such as manicures and trips to the hair salons. Pampering pleasures consist of a woman's personal journey and self-discovery and the incorporation of her own calming rituals. I also believe we should do what feels good as we learn better ways to pamper ourselves. Pampering pleasures qualities includes: •Stress reduction •Enhanced confidence •Clearer insight on your goals •Improve circulation •Improve complexion •Calmer and relaxed outlook on life •A better and more positive attitude •More awareness of your needs If your reasons for the lack of pampering are similar to the above, then you need to know that pampering yourself does not have to be a luxury you should do without. You do not have to lack wonderful pampering pleasures just because you're on a budget or don't have the time. Over the years, pampering has earned a reputation as pamper my mind, body and spirit.' It was my personal reminder for creating wonderful ways to treat myself good daily.

something for wealthy women who have lots of time on their hands. No question about it, if you have the time and the money, there are wonderful ways you can treat yourself to plenty of luxurious pampering pleasures. Pamper yourself with small amounts of money while in the comfort of your own home.

Personal Relaxation It's quite simple to begin your personal pampering pleasures. All you have to do is schedule time for at least one pampering pleasure each week, then slowly add more pleasures as time goes by. Starting today stop and smell the roses, smell your sheets, roll in the leaves, take deep refreshing breathes, sing in the shower, walk in the rain, and laugh at yourself. Rediscover the simple indulges like going bare feet, listening to raindrops, taking a midday snooze, or hanging out with your best friend - sharing beautiful moments of 'pampering'. Even if your busyness tells you that you can't afford to indulge in pampering, know that you can't afford not to. Many years ago, I wrote myself a note that read, 'Indulge more in the things that

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Pampering: Do It for Yourself

As women, we have to understand that no one can treat us better than we can treat ourselves and no one will pamper us quite like we pamper ourselves. No one will provide the personal self-indulgent luxuries in life we desire. It will only happen when we make it happen for ourselves. We are responsible for our own happiness and when we get caught up in thinking our pampering moments are someone else's problems we not only neglect ourselves we fail to bring happiness in our lives. Discover Your Inner Diva Where does your personal pampering pleasures come from? They come from your inner diva. Your inner diva is the part of you that makes you desire special treatment and it makes you feel unique and different from all of the women around you. It also makes you feel worthy of living a pampered lifestyle. It is what makes you want to be more than an ordinary woman. It lets you know and understand that your physical self is by no means the totality of who you are. It does, however, reflect that you are a unique

spiritual being of extraordinary beauty and importance. You are a Diva! Boost Your Spirit As a Diva you have to first honor yourself. Be realistic about what you feel is your kind of pampered life. We all desire great moments of luxury, indulgence and pampering, but to go out and make a lot of bills buying things that make you feel pampered is a little ridiculous. The kind of pampering I'm talking about are those indulgences that give your inner spirit a boost. What Kind of Day Is It for You? There will be days you feel good and some days you will feel bad, but there will also be days when you need a little extra pampering in your life to feel loved and needed. There will be days when you feel depressed, let down or hurt and then there will be days that you feel life is good and all things are going the way you want them to go. What kind of day is it for you?



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Traveling with Denella

It’s not unusual for me to sit around dreaming about my next vacation. I’m a self-declared travel gypsy. I’ve visited so many wonderful countries, I sometimes lose count. I’ve taken breaks to live, study and work in Africa and Europe; and oh yeah…Eat, Pray and Love there too! Today, I sit in my self-imposed quarantine dreaming about my next trip in this crazy different COVID world. I survey my list of dwindling places left that will still allow Americans with open arms; and then I quickly become depressed. So much of the world has closed their borders to us; and I guess with good reason. I asked my

Facebook friends, if they were President or Prime Minister of a country, would they allow Americans in. Their answer was a unanimous “NO”. That’s coming from my American posse, and oh yeah, even my Canadian cousin! Now that’s a pretty sad reality, when even our own people (fellow American’s) said “don’t let Americans in”!

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We have to put our heads together and somehow fix this, so we can proudly roam this planet again and be welcomed with open arms. So, I try to do my part and encourage my friends and family to do the same. I sacrifice my southern hospitality, continue to try to stay at home, social distance, wear my mask, and I even added a few COVID19 pounds (OK, actually a horrible 8 extra pounds!). I remain upbeat and hopeful in knowing that one day the borders will open again. One day airplanes will be full again. Hotels will be bustling with families touting “sold out”; and cruise ships will sail at full capacity to destinations around the world. Is this dreaming, or is this just wishful thinking of a time gone by? So as our government leaders, the CDC, the WHO, medical professionals and pharmaceutical companies figure all this crazy COVID stuff out, I am going to keep on dreaming. I’m still planning my trips to more places on my bucket list. When we can safely travel with peace of mind again, I want to be ready. There are so many countries that will need our support, our visits, and our tourism dollars to recover. There will be so many people who will be grateful and happy to see us again. Ray Charles sang “Georgia on my mind”. But, I’m singing “I’ve got Cape Town, South Africa on my mind”. For now, stay safe, and stay healthy…until we roam free again…Denella.

people to travel and experience different cultures, appreciate our kinship, and bring us one step closer to discovering the beauty of our shared humanity.” As a busy consultant, TV host, media and corporate speaker, Denella has learned the art of balancing work with fun, while traveling throughout Africa, Europe and The Americas. She has held leadership positions with globally recognized hospitality and cruise line brands. Her passion is in sharing insights on travel, discovering what’s new, and getting the inside scoop from industry experts. Her next adventure is working on a new travel concept to create unique personalized, elevated vacation experiences.

Denella Ri’chard's Digital Bio / Profile From creating online travel startups in the mid-90’s and owning her own travel agency, Denella Ri’chard is an award winning, industry expert and lifestyle influencer in the world of travel. A product of South Louisiana, self-professed travel gypsy, undercover artist, and wine aficionado, her mission is to “inspire

Her show “Traveling with Denella” airs weekly on the CJC Network. Instagram: @travelingwithdenella


September 2020


Beaches' All-Inclusive Boscobel Jamaican Resort Beckons By Kelly Foss

Looking for a pick-me-up this winter? A short get-away to the Beaches Boscobel Resort & Golf Club located on the Jamaican Riviera at Ocho Rios may fit the bill. The Boscobel is a resort that will pamper the adults and entertain the kids in grand style. All-inclusive resort packages are similar to cruises where for a fixed price everything from food to amenities is included. According to Jessica Clubreath, this Ocho Rios all-inclusive resort is specifically and meticulously designed to cater to the preferences of the entire family. In fact, this property has received a Top 10 rating by Parent Magazine. The Boscobel has an amazing array of amenities to offer. Situated on the north shore of the island of Jamaica, it is surrounded by lush green forests, mountains and offers its own private white sandy beaches. The natural beauty surrounding this resort is stunning. The beaches are pristine and the water a beautiful aqua color and is virtually transparent. “Guests who trust their hard-earned dollars and vacation time with us deserve the best, most comprehensive family vacation available and that’s what Beaches delivers” said Gordon “Butch” Stewart, Founder and Chairman of Beaches Resorts.

This 223-room resort caters equally to parents and kids. The resort’s four restaurants Bayside, Arizona’s, Eleanor’s and The Venetian are sure to please and include al fresco dining terraces overlooking the resort. With kids in mind, Beaches Boscobel has a fullservice kiddie station at the Barbeque Park, including classics such as soft-serve ice cream, popcorn, cookies, fresh tropical fruit and even a shaved ice machine. After a day filled with exciting activities, gourmet food and fun-filled memories, guests can retreat to their rooms and suites which are equipped with top-of-the-line flat screen TVs and iPod docking stations. The new tween lounges include the 18-and-under nightclub, Liquid; Xbox 360® Game Garage; and Trench Town Lounge area. The Pirates Island water park is designed for kids of all ages. The Scratch DJ Academy allows older teens to let their musical side shine. The resort’s main stage highlights the popular Sesame Street shows and interactive stage productions. Families can even arrange for Sesame Street characters to read their kids bedtime stories and tuck them into bed. For the adults, serene and relaxing spaces abound. Lush gardens and beautiful private white sandy beaches and a swim-up bar provide the ultimate in relaxation. The Red Lane Spa takes visitors to a place beyond. It fuses the traditional European spa rituals with the exotic essences of the islands. Enjoy massage treatments, body, facial and salon services. What is a Caribbean vacation without water sports? Being a beachfront resort, The Boscobel offers an impressive array of choices. Whether your preference is sailing, waterskiing, kayaking, paddle boarding or windsurfing all are available. Additionally, guests may indulge in Hobie Cats, glass bottom boats, Aquatrikes and snorkeling. The Boscobel if one of the few resorts that offers scuba diving and courses for scuba certification even for those who have never strapped a tank on their back before. Dives to the shipwreck The Catherine, and the Maffesanti Reef are truly unique. Beaches Resorts have their own fleet of Newton boats which are specifically built to support scuba diving. Did we mention golf? At Beaches Boscobel Resort, unlimited rounds of golf, greens fees and round-trip transfers are included for everyone at the company’s very own Sandals Golf & Country Club, awarded four-stars by Golf Digest. The course is an 18-hole, resort-style course with 3 sets of tees. Enjoy plays to 6,404 yards on this par 71 course. Narrow fairways and miniscule drop-off greens with sweeping views of the sea and mountains make the course both challenging and spectacularly beautiful. In keeping with its family theme, optional programs for junior golfers including private instruction make a golf outing here truly memorable. The Boscobel Resort has so much to offer that several trips would be needed to experience them all. Whether a vacation means relaxing and doing very little or actively experiencing new and exciting things, The Boscobel delivers. For more information and details about this destination, visit


September 2020


Oklahoma: In Touch with Nature By Lorenzo Vigil Global One Journalist

A friend and I decided to get some much-needed time away from Dallas Metropolis, so we planned a short overnight trip to Oklahoma . We enjoy all sorts of outdoor activities so I looked for a place that would accommodate all of our needs within a short trip. I was looking for a place that offered hiking, overnight camping, and rock climbing. I found much to my happiness, that the Wichita National Wildlife Refuge was only about three hours north of Dallas . According to the internet it had many outdoor amenities. With the info provided it seemed like a nice, new quick place to visit. We left early Sunday morning, way before the sun had even thought about coming up. If you’ve ever driven west and north Texas it’s pretty darn flat. As a matter of fact, you'll know when you’ve left Texas because you'll start to see the landscape change. Two and a half hours into our trip the sun yawned and said good morning and off in the distance we saw the beginnings of what looked like a mountain. I was born and raised in the Rockies and the closer we got there was hills, very different hills, but they were hills. Boulders the size of houses all piled together but in a sort of neat way. We arrived at the visitor center a few minutes before eight so I took my camera out and, WOW, I began shooting the wild Bison roaming the nearby pasture. An elderly grey bearded man that resembled Gandalf the grey from Lord of The Rings opened the doors promptly at eight and greeted us with a smile as he dumped the trash and made us laugh the whole time with his charming humor. He had a wealth of knowledge of the refuge and made it a point to say, “Were not a park, were a refuge!” with a great big smile. He gave us a tour of the park through actual pictures and directed us to where we wanted to go. He had extensive knowledge of the refuge because he had worked there for fifteen years. He was an amazing guy. We set out with all our maps and literature, and talked about how he was such a great fixture of the refuge. We drove to where we decided we wanted to camp, next to a small lake, right off the water, and close to a restroom so we wouldn’t have to hike double time if need be. I backed the truck into the space, and we stepped off the truck and low and behold our second brush with nature, two deer’s laying in the underbrush and fallen leaves! I reached for the camera and again began shooting. Apparently because it’s a refuge and you cannot harm them their pretty friendly, I was able to get within fifteen or twenty feet without them

moving. Then from the brush out pop a couple of raccoons! So many people never get to see wildlife in their natural setting and as if Dr. Doolittle himself were calling them from the forest. We had a welcoming committee. Not long after a friendly squirrel came by to say hello. About half past nine we adorned our forty-pound hiking packs complete with rock climbing gear and set off for the day. Up, down, around, over, under, we went on this trail that would put us at the base of the two-thousand-foot boulder hill we were attempting that day. A small clear pond at the base with slowly moving clear water welcomed us as we cleared the trees and bushes. Then we looked up, way up, from where we were standing it appeared to be no problem. We picked a path up that did not appear as if it had ever been chosen before, or at least this year and started ascending the rock face. We climbed for about an hour and a half, when that sun was straight over our heads the temperature was already 110 degrees in the shade. We found some shade and took a break just long enough to catch a bit of a breeze. We were both carrying about six liters of water and by that time I was halfway through my water. So, we decided to drop the packs and gear and climb the rest with no ropes just harnesses and two one-liter bottles of water. We found the freedom of not having the packs hurried us along and we reached the summit much faster and happier. The sun was trying to turn us to raisins, so we took a few pictures and double timed it back down. A few other climbers and hikers enjoyed the sun and trails that Sunday afternoon in July, not many, because of the heat. All in all, it was great to see all the wildlife and great to be able to see things that many wont and most of all being able to get in touch with nature. I can’t wait to go back in October!


Vacationing Safely During Coronavirus Remember in the Before Times how you needed a vacation from schlepping to work, school and soccer practice? Now you may feel like you need a vacation from the monotony of not doing those things. With the slow lifting of quarantine restrictions and the ongoing threat of the virus, travel is likely to look very different this summer than it has in other years. But there are still ways to get away from it all while maintaining social distance. Here are five ideas for safe and affordable vacations you can take during coronavirus. It always helps to have a little money in the bank. Get great ideas about how to build your savings delivered straight to your inbox in The Penny Hoarder Daily.


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Need a Break? Here are 3 Vacation Ideas During Coronavirus Here are thoughtful and thrifty ways to get a change of scenery while still social distancing. 1. Tent Camping The virus is less likely to spread outdoors, meaning camping is a natural option right now. Although many campgrounds across America shut down during the first wave of restrictions, some are opening back up. That said, it’s still important to keep your distance from other parties. You’ll also want to take special precautions around communal campground facilities, such as restrooms, potable water spigots, and dump stations — which, it’s worth noting, may or may not be open. Either way, bring lots of hand sanitizer! 2. Backpacking If camping in a developed front country campground is relatively safe, camping in the backwoods is even safer — though it does, of course, require more effort. You’ll need to strap everything you need to your back and hike into the wilderness until you find an appropriate campsite. Backpacking is a skill, and one you probably shouldn’t try to tackle by yourself if you’ve never done it before. But it’s definitely an appropriate, socially distant option for those with enough know-how. Keep in mind that some areas require you to get a permit for dispersed camping, so check with local authorities before you walk off into the wild. 3. Glamping Like the idea of reconnecting with nature… but only to a certain extent? Want to keep four solid walls between you and the elements? Many campgrounds offer cabin rentals, and you can also find them on peer-to-peer websites like Hipcamp and Glamping Hub. If you’re okay with a tent so long as it’s well outfitted, you could consider renting a glamping kit from a company like Life in Tents. 4. RV Rental If you’re hankering to take a road trip — but without the risk of walking into and out of hotel rooms, restaurants, and public restrooms — RVing allows you to bring your own accommodations along for the ride. There are a wide variety of RV rental options to choose from. Nationwide franchises like Cruise America offer road-ready vehicles, but you could also use a peer-to-peer network like RVshare or Outdoorsy. Of course, if you’re renting from a private party, you may want to contact them directly to ask about their cleaning protocols — and in any case, bring along some sanitary wipes. 5. Airbnb Airbnb has long been a go-to resource for travelers looking for an alternative to hotels. During the pandemic, hosts are still offering a wide range of accommodation options, including the new Frontline Stays program geared toward doctors, nurses, and other COVID-19 responders. Airbnb recently issued an extensive set of cleaning guidelines, informed by the CDC, to its hosts to help them combat the virus. The guidelines aren’t required for hosts, but guests will be able to see which hosts are following them in search results on the platform. The guidelines include allowing at least 24 hours between bookings and ventilating rooms, as well as specifics for cleaning procedures and what chemicals to use.

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Is Hugging Outdated (3) The Full-On Hug: This hug has many complex scenarios. It is best performed unselfconsciously without much thought. This ideal is often thwarted if one of the people has breasts, or if the crotch becomes inadvertently part of the hug. Then, the notion of un-self-consciousness usually goes out the window. This hug is also best executed with pleasurable sounds (ahhhh! Being an example), but the sounds need to be congruent to the situation (hmmm! For example, does not work in the breast or crotch situation). (4)The "Pleased to Meet You Belly Button" (PYMBB) hug: You know from afar, that when someone is 6'3" and over, and if you are an average height, that you will likely encounter some strange part of their bodies in the course of the intended hug. Your lips may land on their neck, or in more extreme cases, their chest or belly button. The height difference makes for significant discomfort, so this is one of the fastest hugs out there. Imagine if you lingered on at someone's neck or belly button!

Hugging is a physical acknowledgment of the presence of another with the intention of expressing affection. Sometimes hugging is meant to also express reunion after separation and in that case it represents "affection beyond words." Over the years though, hugging has assumed many uncomfortable forms, some of which I mention below to indicate how complex the phenomenon can be. Also, for each hug there is a picture to more clearly illustrate the hug that I am referring to. Funny enough, when you look up hugs on "Google images", there are an extraordinary number of hugs from political figures.

(5) The Shoulder Hug: This hug starts with an appraisal of the other person's face ("Look at you") but never quite makes it to the full hug stage. It may transition to a shoulder pat with one hand accompanied by a smile, but a definitive indication that there will be no point in the communication outside of eye contact.

(1) The Sideways Hug: This hug is commonly seen when two (often heterosexual) men move toward each other to hug. As they approach each other, the thought of their bodies colliding becomes a higher priority than the politeness of the hug, and the sideways hug is the end-result. Both people feel slightly uncomfortable, but the completion of the usually short hug leaves both people feeling very relieved.

(6) The Tearful Hug: When this hug is awkward, it is usually because your tears and nasal secretions are covering the clothes of another person. This should be avoided at all costs. Tearful hugs only really work in real intimacy, and even then, people often have to use some effort to overlook the slimy mess on their neck or clothes.

(2) The Back Pat: This hug signifies the confusion that results when the bodies of two people meet, but there is no idea what to do after this. The back pat becomes the metronome action behind the silence, counting the beats until the music of the speaking begins again. If you are someone who likes to hug, the back pat can be a total disappointment as it sometimes is curiously dismissive. It may inadvertently convey "yes, yes" or "that's okay" when you have no experience that warrants that response.

(7) The Elbow Hug: This hug is best executed with an approaching smile, back arched, and then hands to the other person's elbows. It is also well suited to the "look at you" exclamation, but it often involves two people who have a mutual understanding that they do not want to wrinkle each other's clothes. Other stilted gestures can accompany this-such as a cheek squeeze, or a "you look great!" exclamation. 65.

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Create a Space to Call Your Place Your special space is reserved for absorption, self-nurturing, thinking and meditating uninterrupted By Ella Patterson, Author of Pampering Pleasures

You've, no doubt, heard the phrase "Find a place to call your space.” It’s typically used when someone needs to "regroup”, "calm down”, or "unwind”. It is important that you find a quiet place in your home to rest your mind. A place you can retreat to relax your body, refresh your spirit, and renew your mind. Somewhere you can shed the cares and stresses of the world layer by layer. I know this may sound all "odd”, but isn't it time for you to indulge in the ideal of you, no matter how strange it sounds?

Women Seek Private Places and Spaces Studies are showing that more women are seeking private places to relax. Guess what, one of the best ways to relax is to spend quiet time alone. Getting away from humans can be personally stimulating and rewarding. A woman can easily find time to escape without losing compassion for her family. Her private time has rich possibilities for inner peace and personal development. Setting aside time to listen to yourself enhances your ability to see the world more clearly.

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Where Should Your Place of Serenity Be? Every woman should construct a place in her home where she can go to regroup, rethink, revitalize or simply reenergize. It should be the perfect spot to read, listen to music, or relax as long as she doesn't focus on stressful subjects. First, find a place in your home that you can delegate as your special space. It should be private with enough space to think or meditate uninterrupted. Someplace comfortable where you can sit or lie and grab all the "down time” you need. Look around your home. Do you have a spare closet or quiet corner of a room, maybe in a bedroom or study? Some place where you won't be interrupted by a telephone ringing or computer announcing that you have a message? It may be your living room couch, a recliner in the den, your bed, a chair at your kitchen table (for those of us who get antsy if we’re too far from the coffee maker), or a comfortable chair at your computer desk. Truth be told, you probably already have a "spot” you just haven’t looked at it in this way. Your loved ones should understand that when you go to this special space, your desire is to spend some quiet time in solitude for a short time. This space should also encourage quality of life such as healthiness, wholesomeness, and self-absorption. When you have your place picked out, don’t EVER let any worries or negative thoughts intrude upon it. If you happen to be in your quiet place, and the burdens of the world overtake your mind, either quiet them or move to another spot. Just do not allow these thoughts into your quiet place. Don’t let them crash your relaxation party! God knows they’ll try. If you have a comfortable chair, position it with the back of the chair to the middle of the room so that you can look out a window. Spend some time getting the view just right. You may have to trim the branches of a tree or plant a beautiful window box. Be sure the view is soothing and not distracting.

Decorate Your Special Space Decorate your special space with favorite things that make you feel comfortable. Place a small table next to the comfortable chair, one that is just big enough for a book, a cup, and a lamp. Don't be tempted to put too many things on the table. You don't want anything to distract you! You can bring your favorite drink to your place of comfort if you wish. It doesn't need to have any alcohol content, just as long as it is refreshing and satisfying to you. If you were really seeking peace of mind, you wouldn't think of settling in without a soft, fluffy throw over the back of the chair in case it gets chilly.

Getting Situated In Your Special Place Anytime you find it necessary to slow down from a hectic day go to your special space. Here, you can read, think, rediscover, rejuvenate or simply be left alone. Close the door; turn off the TV, radio, and ringer on the telephone. Put on some soothing instrumental music and relax to your heart's content. And don't be surprised if you doze off! Close your eyes and relax for a few minutes. Try to think of all the good things that have happened in your life and bring those good thoughts to your mind. After a few minutes of meditation, open your eyes. You should begin to feel a sense of focus. Now, try to find answers to any questions you might have. Do not allow distractions to interfere as you work to get the answers you are seeking. If your concentration breaks and you can’t meditate, don't give up. Sometimes it takes a few tries. Your mind and body must get accustomed to you slowing them down at will. Now, try again. Relax, close your eyes, and meditate. You may quietly talk to God, recite affirmations, or simply think of nothing as you clear your mind. After a while, relax again, breathe slowly, and meditate with your eyes closed and mind seeking focus. If you are still finding it difficult to focus take a few deep breathes and exhale slowly. Now, relax your body and begin your goal of finding focus again. You'll be pleasantly surprised at how your mind, body, and soul understands what is going on in your life and how spending quiet time in your special place can bring you the needed focus and peace of mind. 69.

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Popular Car Makes for Women

Popular Car Models for Men

1. Chevrolet 2. Ford 3. Nissan 4. Toyota 5. Honda 6. Jeep 7. Hyundai 8. Dodge 9. BMW 10. Kia

1. Ford F-150 2. Chevrolet Silverado 1500 3. Honda Accord 4. Ford Mustang 5. Ram 1500 6. Toyota Camry 7. Honda Civic 8. Jeep Grand Cherokee 9. Toyota Tacoma 10. Ford Explorer

Popular Car Makes for Men

Popular Car Features for Women Vs. Men

1. Ford 2. Chevrolet 3. Toyota 4. BMW 5. Mercedes-Benz 6. Nissan 7. Honda 8. Lexus 9. Audi 10. Dodge Popular Car Models for Women 1. Honda Civic 2. Honda Accord 3. Chevrolet Equinox 4. Ford Escape 5. Nissan Altima 6. Jeep Grand Cherokee 7. Ford Focus 8. Toyota Camry 9. Honda CR-V 10. Chevrolet Malibu

1. Backup camera: 48% women and 57% men 2. Automatic emergency braking: 44% women and 41% men 3. Smartphone integration: 33% women and 39% men 4. Premium audio package: 30% women and 42% men 5. In-car Wi-Fi hot spot: 24% women and 28% men 6. Android Auto: 22% women and 26% men 7. Panoramic moonroof: 21% women and 28% men 8. Apple CarPlay: 20% women and 27% men 9. Smartwatch integration: 19% women and 22% men 10. Video entertainment package: 19% women and 25% men


HERES A LINCOLN TEASE… TWIN-TURBOCHARGED 3.5L ENGINE Capable of producing 450 horsepower* and 510 lb.-ft. of torque,* the twin-turbocharged 3.5L engine in the Navigator** is a true powerhouse. When paired with five standard, selectable Lincoln Drive Modes, from Conserve to Excite, the Lincoln Navigator performs in a way that matches both your mood and the road. A sixth available drive mode—Slow Climb—is also available with the Heavy-Duty Trailer Tow Package on 4x4 models. SECOND- AND THIRD-ROW COMFORT We spent a great deal of time where you spend your time — inside. Every surface and space inside the Lincoln Navigator is optimized to deliver an immense level of comfort, not to mention best-in-class second-row leg room* when the second-row seats are in their full rearward position. Our versatile cabin features one-touch tilt-and-slide second-row seats and a powerreclining third row that show a unified approach to comfort, space and style for all. LINCOLN CONNECT™ With standard Lincoln Connect,™* you and your passengers can enjoy seamless connectivity. All models feature a 4G LTE Wi-Fi hotspot that enables up to 10 devices to be connected at

the same time. Plus, with the embedded modem, you can use the Lincoln Way™ app to its fullest and even keep track of your Wi-Fi data usage. Whether in the vehicle or up to 50 feet away, you can access the hotspot and make lasting connections.


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A great car whether old or new can make a person’s heart rumble with excitement. Women love cars too.

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2021 Mercedes S-Class Shows Its Face Officially This Year

This teaser photo from Mercedes-Benz doesn't mark the first time we've seen the new generation of the S-class flagship, given that leaked photos of the new model appeared on Instagram a few weeks ago. But this is the first time that Mercedes is officially sharing some real information about the new S-class, expected to be called W223. The official photo confirms that the the new S-class's front end looks stately and appropriately upscale, but hardly a departure from the current S-class in terms of design. This new model seems to be an evolutionary step forward in terms of its exterior styling, although bigger changes are coming inside. A huge touchscreen display dominates the dashboard and the entire interior layout looks far more modern than before. Mercedes says that the new S-class will put an emphasis on artificial intelligence, meaning it's likely to debut a more advanced version of the Hey Mercedes virtual assistant and voice-command system. Expect the new S-class to be powered by a range of inline-six and V8 engines, all with some sort of electric assistance. High-powered AMG models will be part of the lineup eventually. Look for more information to come as Mercedes prepares to debut the new generation of the S-class during the second half of this year. 75.

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2020 ACURA TLX SEDAN Its A Good Thing! by Ella Patterson

Out of what we have to say here about the 2020 Acura TLX comes with qualifiers. Whether this is a good thing or bad thing largely relates to the type of sedan you want. The TLX bridges the gap between mainstream and luxury sedans. It starts under the hood with a choice of either a four- or a sixcylinder engine. The four-cylinder isn't inspiring, but it's the one we'd pick. While the V6 generates smooth power, and even sounds great doing so, it comes lashed to a nine-speed transmission that often fumbles around for the right gear. Inside, the TLX's cabin is trimmed in quality materials and upholstery. It's not quite the rich premium leather you might find in an Audi, Mercedes, or Volvo, but it's assembled well. A roomy back seat and a host of standard infotainment and tech features, including standard driver aids such as adaptive cruise control and lane keeping assist, round out the TLX's appeal. There's no denying that paying more gets you a noticeably nicer sedan such as the 3 Series or the C-Class. Alternately, loaded versions of our top-rated sedans such as the Honda Accord and Mazda 6 cost less than the TLX yet provide essentially the same qualities. City MPG: 23. Hwy MPG: 33. Seats 5. Price: $33,000.00 - $38,950.00 ##


2020 BUICK ENVISION SUV Comes with Load of Luxury Amenities by Ella Patterson

The small luxury SUV market has become crowded these days. And with a variety of manufacturers scrambling to catch the attention of buyers with style and flair, it can be hard to find a model that's best for you. Buick, for its part, hopes you'll like the Envision, a small SUV that offers luxury at a considerably more affordable price than other competitors. The Envision comes standard with a load of luxury amenities as well as an available powerful turbocharged 2.0-liter engine, a ninespeed automatic transmission and optional all-wheel drive. It's hard to look past the Buick if you're shopping solely on feature content. But feature content might not be enough to override fairly lackluster fuel economy, low driver engagement and some questionable interior materials. 6 speed City MPG: 22. Hwy MPG: 29. Seats 5 Price: $35,800.00 - $37,550.00 ##


2020 CHEVROLET TAHOE SUV Impressive Towing Capability by Ella Patterson

The crossover SUV is quickly becoming the multi-tool of the automotive world. And while its versatility allows it to be many things to many people, sometimes you need a little bit extra, be it with passenger seating or towing capacity. For those situations, there's the 2020 Chevrolet Tahoe, a full-size SUV capable of carrying up to nine people and equipped with a maximum tow rating of 8,600 pounds. Allowing for all this capability is a decidedly old-school body-on-frame construction (much like a truck) and a pair of stout V8 engines: the standard 355horsepower 5.3-liter V8 and the optional 420-horsepower 6.2-liter V8 engine found in other GM products such as the Silverado. Four-wheel drive is optional, as is the Tahoe's ability to seat up to nine people with variations allowing for eight or seven passengers. But the Tahoe's capability comes at the cost of refinement. Over imperfect roads, the Chevy shudders and shakes, and its responses to throttle and braking inputs can be annoyingly slow. It doesn't help that Ford's Expedition was recently revamped. It excels at providing passengers with excellent comfort refinement and convenience and offers solid towing capabilities. The Tahoe exists for the few buyers who need more capability than most SUVs offer but are unwilling to buy a full-size truck. The Chevy is tough to beat. City MPG: 20. Hwy MPG: 28. Seats 4 Price: $55,900.00 - $130,900.00. ## 78. September 2020


DODGE CHARGER SRT Hellcat The Kind of Fun That’s Not for Sensible Drivers by Ella Patterson

The 2019 Dodge Charger isn't a sensible car for sensible drivers. Instead, it's for drivers who want a car that looks cool, makes cool noises, goes obscenely fast and comes in colors such as Go Mango, Plum Crazy, TorRed and White Knuckle. If you're looking for something state-of-the-art, fuel-efficient, refined and anonymously styled, the Charger is not your car. It is practical, though. Four doors, a roomy cabin, and a raft of safety features make the Charger a legitimate choice for family duty. A broad range of standard and optional creature comforts let you tailor the Charger to taste, while the car's Uconnect infotainment interface remains one of the best around. It's even available with all-wheel drive, which helps bolster this performance sedan's usability in inclement weather. Dodge has made a few updates as well. The SRT Hellcat gets a new grille and features to help improve drag-racing performance, including a line lock, a launch assist feature, torque reserve, and after-run chiller. Below that, the SRT R/T Scat Pack gets new styling options and available adaptive suspension dampers. Charger GT and R/T models receive a host of chassis and electronic upgrades, including a performance suspension, a new rear axle ratio and recalibrated steering. These changes help keep the Charger fresh. The latest generation has seemingly been around since 2011, yet it's still one of our favorite big sedans. It's the only one that blends classic hot-rod City MPG: 15. Hwy MPG: 25 Seats 5 Price: $29,220.00 - $65,545.00. ##


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Let’s Talk About It Here, we view enthusiastic women who have a thirst for living.

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New Beginnings The women in my family are spread all across the USA. From St. Louis, Chicago, Illinois; Kansas City, Mo. East St. Louis, Ill, San Francisco, California, Oceanside, California, Vista California, Atlanta Georgia just mention a few. Finding creative ways to reunite is easy, comfortable, and fun. New beginnings give each of us a chance to revitalize relationships, reconnect our communications, revitalize our connections and revisit our memories of good times as we come together.


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A best friend is there for you through thick and thin. It's someone who listens and understands you. Someone you can call anytime about anything you feel you need to 'tell' or 'vent'. It's someone who will stand up for you in the times when you need it most, keep your secrets close, and someone you can trust with your life.

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I am strong because my strength makes me feel beautiful. I am strong and beautiful.


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I am confident and happy because my confidence makes me strive to be better. I am confident and happy.

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I am independent because my independence gives me determination to succeed. I am independent and determined.


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I dream because my dreams help me wake up every day reaching new heights. I am a dreamer.

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I dream because my dreams help me wake up every day reaching new heights. I am a dreamer.


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I am fierce because my fire is not dim. It burns brighter each day. I am fierce.

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I am ready to live so I am grabbing the world by the horns. I am ready.


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I am confident because my spirit gives me energy. I am self-assured.

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Don't Procrastinate: Teach Kids Time Management Skills Most parents want their children to know essential habits like managing money, work habits, how to learn and study, communication skills and correct hygiene. But, have you considered helping them manage their time better? To be fair, that’s probably something most of us haven’t thought about. You might ask yourself how can you teach your kids basic time-management skills? Here are ten ideas that will stick throughout life. The sooner, the better. Choose routines and stick to it. “Regular schedules provide the day with a structure that orders a young child’s world. Predictability can be tiresome for adults. Children thrive on repetition and routine.” In fact, from the first days of life, schedules are formed. “Babies, especially, need regular sleep and meal programs and even routines leading up to those activities. As your children get older, help them establish a daily routine. Why? It lets them know “what is going to happen and who is going to be there. It allows them to think and feel more independently and feel more safe and secure. “A disrupted routine can set a child off and cause them to feel insecure and irritable.” In addition to some much-needed structure, this can help them become more accountable. It also gives you the opportunity to spend quality time with them and start setting simple time goals would be: • A morning routine, like eating breakfast and getting ready for school. • An after-school routine, such as chores and homework. • An evening routine that could include dinner, brushing their teeth and reading before bed. For younger children, you may need to give them a little more assistance by creating charts with them or using timers and providing rewards. For older children, most of these goals will become a habit. If your child has a phone, they could use calendar apps like First-Then Visual Schedule, myHomework App, or Remember the Milk. Have them make a calendar. Whether if it’s a DIY, old paper calendar, or an app get them involved in the calendar creating process. To prevent any confusion, use color-coding so that everyone has their own color for their own schedule. Most importantly, keep this in a location that’s easy to access and review. Have your kids construct their own individual calendars? Because this is their own personal calendar, it can be more in-depth than the family calendar. The child can help determine what activities should be added and those that can be left off.

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Set priorities. “Its essential kids learn to differentiate between ‘havetos’ and ‘want-tos’ and learn to prioritize and self-monitor Use rock, pebble and water analogy, where students’ duties are represented by the rocks and pebbles. The rocks signify their most essential tasks, like school and sleep. The pebbles represent extracurricular commitments. The water stands in for want-to-dos, such as hanging out with friends. “The rocks go in first because they are things you have to do whether you like it or not. Next, comes the pebbles. But there’s still some room in the jar, so we pour water until our jar — and the day is full.” Help them measure time. “In order to make a realistic schedule, you need a good sense of how long things take. Use chars that breaks the afternoon and evening hours into 15-minute intervals. Each time slot is followed by three columns: what kids plans to do. Reassessing how they’re spending their time gives them the chance to adjust their schedule accordingly. Make it fun. Make it fun like a game Explore the Timex Time Machines app. In a partnership with Scholastic, there are interactive games, lesson plans and activities to teach children in Grades 1 through 3 core time-telling concepts. There are also DIY activities you can do together as a family. Do not be a helicopter parent. Obviously, you want to protect and help your children as much as possible. At the same time, you should also give them a chance to spread their wings. Instead of telling them how to handle this situation, let them voice their concerns and develop solutions to this problem. When they’re older, let them create their own routine, and let them be flexible with their schedules so that they have free time. Your role, then, would be to coach and reward them as opposed to dictating every minute of their time. Don’t over-schedule your kids. What happens when you overcommit and pack your calendar too tightly? You probably feel like you’re always on the go. More troublesome, you may feel like you’re always behind. And, you don’t have the wiggle room to address the unexpected. It’s the same thing with kids. They also require downtime for solo play or to wind down at the end of Designate a study zone. If you’ve ever worked from home, then you know how important it is to have a dedicated workspace. I’d even go as far as to say that this should be management. The reason? It lets you block out distractions like the TV or noisy family members, and it helps you distinguish between your work and personal lives. For instance, you can show them organizing systems such as paper flow (a tried and tested system to handle paper), and mise-en-place (a tried and tested "everything in its place" cooking system). Be a role model. Finally, the best way to help your kids get a better grasp of time management is to set a good example. As psychologist Eileen Kennedy-Moore explains, “Good modeling doesn’t guarantee that children will do what we want them to do, but telling children ‘do as I say, not as I do’ definitely won’t work.” You'll want to keep your own goals under control, meaning that if you’ve been emphasizing the importance of a schedule, and you’re failing at time management, they’ll pick-up on this inauthenticity. 93.

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I believe that children are the future. Teach us well and let us lead the way.

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What We Can Do About COVID 19 NEWS ABOUT COVID-19 IS RELENTLESS. We are constantly talking about coronavirus at dinner, in the car and at sporting events (or we were talking about it at those events, before they got canceled). We are making contingency plans and stocking up on shelf-stable food and purchasing other supplies. And as much as we want to shield our children from the headlines and alarm, the reality is that we are all consumed by this emerging threat. As a pediatrician, I worry about how this new stress is affecting our kids. In my office, kids are asking “to have my blood tested for the bad virus” and “Is my grandma going to be OK?” Some kids are also asking about their own safety: “If I wash my hands, I won’t get sick?” and “Will this virus kill me?” These questions are an understandable reflection of the strain communities and families are under, and the concerns kids are hearing about. So now, more than ever, we need to check in with our kids to see what they know and how they are doing. Here’s what you can do: • Ask questions to understand what your kids know. • Answer their questions, but don’t inundate them with information. • Validate your children’s concerns. • Show your kids that you’re in the know and monitoring the situation. • Let kids know that many smart people are trying to help us. Follow suit by heeding expert advice and encourage your kids to do the same. • If you’re now working from home (and you weren’t before), explain why. • Point out that taking precautions helps others who are most vulnerable to COVID-19, like older adults and those with chronic diseases like diabetes. • Don’t make travel promises. • Model positive ways of coping with stress, and anxiety. • Understand your own emotions. • Focus on solutions. Ask Questions • Talking to our kids about the coronavirus begins like any other important conversation – by asking questions. What do you know about COVID-19? What did you learn about the coronavirus in school (before that, too, was canceled)? What are your friends saying? Have you seen articles or YouTube videos about the coronavirus? What do you remember reading or seeing? • Alternatively, if a child is coming to you with questions or expressing concern, get more background information before you answer. Try: “Tell me more about that” or “Why are you asking?” Answer Kids’ Questions • Open-ended questions and probing follow-up questions help to reveal how kids are processing information. This helps you build the mental framework you need to offer responses in an ageappropriate way. In addition, it prevents the trap of “over-answering” a child’s question, or inadvertently sharing new information that could make their anxiety worse. “Lets work to keep our children healthy and happy.”


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MEN I am better than I have to be because I am working on ‘me’ so that each day I become better than I need to be.

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Celebrating the Endurance of Men The men in my family have worn many hats and I’m sure yours have too. Our family had soldiers in every branch of the military, (Army, Navy, Air Force, Marines, Coast Guard and Navy Seals.) The respect for the men in my family goes a long way and so does their lifestyles. We share aspiring men with qualities that attract women. Here’s to the men we love, admire and respect.


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I am ready because it is my time. I am ready because I am moving in the right direction.

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The Men Women Are Attracted To … If you’re a guy and you wonder, "Am I attractive?" keep reading. Most men lament that they just don’t understand what women are looking for in a man. After all, many physically attractive women are seen dating some pretty weird-looking people these days. Before you sign up for a complete body makeover, did you know that it may only take a birthmark like Drew Brees, the handsome quarterback for the New Orleans Saints, a pair of great eyes, or a strong jawline to appeal to a woman? The science of attraction is hard to predict, research shows. Sure, sex appeal is about good looks and an emotional connection, but there's also a lot going on under the surface. "There is both a physiology and a psychology of attraction," explains Ella Patterson published author of ‘Keeping the Home Fires Burning’ According to numerous studies, the eyes have it. When compared with an attractive face, voice, or body odor, a large, dilated pupil is associated with the most attractiveness in both sexes. That’s because when people are aroused, that black circle in the middle of the eye enlarges. Both men and women find this arousal sign attractive, even if only subconsciously. The white of the eye (sclera), too, is important in attracting the opposite sex. Research concludes that people with whiter (as opposed to redder) sclerata are seen by others as happier, healthier and more attractive. Just one more reason to get in bed early and avoid bloodshot eyes. Women look for a dark limbal ring in men. The limbal ring is the border between the iris and the sclera. This circle on the very edge of your iris may be difficult to see in those with dark eyes. In a study at the University of Southern Mississippi in Hattiesburg, researchers reported that women found men with dark limbal rings healthier and more attractive than men without dark limbal rings. Limbal rings may signify youth, vitality, and health — all necessary for reproduction — and limbal rings do fade with aging. Very young children have the thickest, darkest limbal rings. If you're now wondering what else appeals to women, get to know these physical and emotional traits that may increase your sex appeal. • Good character wins points with women • A book smart side is important for long-term relationships • A distinctive scar intrigues a woman • Overall fitness • A strong jawline • A great personality 101.

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I am equipped to do the things that I need to do in order to find my happiness. I am happily seeking happiness.

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Interesting Facts About Men In Old English, human men were referred to as wer, while the term man was used to describe humanity. During the thirteenth century, man gradually replaced wer as the term for an adult human male while also maintaining its use as an expression for the entire human species. 1. 2.

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Globally, boy babies are 25% more likely to die in infancy than girl babies.[1] Average height today for men in the U.S. is just over 5' 9" (175 cm) and average weight is approximately 190 pounds (86 kg). In 1960, average height for men was about 5' 8" (172 cm) and average weight was just over 166 pounds (75 kg). Worldwide, men have a life expectancy of 64.52 years, as compared to a life expectancy of 68.76 years for women. The most common cause of death for men in the U.S. is heart disease (the same as for women), and the average age of a first heart attack for men is just 66 years. Worldwide, there are approximately 107 baby boys born for every 100 baby girls. Scientists believe the elevated birth rate in favor of boys may be linked to the higher mortality rates of boys in infancy and childhood. In the U.S., men have higher death rates for all of the 15 leading causes of death (with the exception of Alzheimer’s disease) and die more than five years younger than women.[7] The brains of adult men are about 10% larger in total size than the brains of women. Because men generally have a larger stature and more muscle mass than women, their brains require more neurons to control the body. The word “boy” has been in recorded use since A.D. 1154 as a descriptive term for a male child. The exact etymology of the word is unclear, but it is believed to have descended from the Anglo-Saxon word boia, meaning “servant” or “farm worker.” Boys typically experience puberty between the ages of 12 and 14, a time in which the voice changes to its lower timbre, growth spurts occur, and the secondary sex characteristics begin to develop. Puberty for boys generally occurs later than in girls of the same age group. While both boys’ and girls’ voices will change during puberty, the change in a boy’s voice is dramatic, sometimes dropping a whole octave in tone. Males in other species develop a deeper voice to attract females and intimidate other males, and scientists believe the change in the male human voice evolved for the same reasons. The "art of manliness" has differed throughout history In most cultures throughout the world, boys historically experienced a rite of passage that marked their transition into the lives of adult men. Examples of traditional rites of passage include the Bar Mitzvah in Judaism, the “vision quest” in many American Indian tribes, and circumcision rites in many African cultures. The “Adam’s apple,” or laryngeal prominence in the neck, is a feature primarily unique to adult men and is a result of the growth of the larynx during puberty. The term is derived from the Biblical account of Adam eating the forbidden fruit in the Garden of Eden. Approximately 56% of boy babies born in the U.S. are circumcised at birth, representing a decline of 20% since 1950. Worldwide, approximately one-third of men have been circumcised. In terms of absolute size and in proportion to overall body mass, the human penis is longer and thicker than that of any other primate. For approximately the first six weeks after conception, all human embryos develop as a default female child, primarily taking genetic information from the mother’s DNA. After the sixth week of development, if the embryo is male, the SRY gene on the Y chromosome will


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I am inspired to be the man that I have always dream of becoming. I am a man who is becoming the man he is meant to be.

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begin to produce androgens, primarily testosterone, that encourage the development of male characteristics and inhibit the further development of female characteristics. The biological symbol for the male sex, a circle with a small arrow protruding from it, is also the symbol for the planet Mars. The two components of the symbol are designed to represent the shield and spear of Mars, the Roman god of war. Boys are three to four times more likely to be diagnosed with autistic spectrum disorders than girls. While experts do not have solid answers for the gender discrepancy, some believe that girls with mild autism may be better able to mask their symptoms and thus go undiagnosed. Teenage boys are four times more likely than girls to drop out of school and represent more than 75% of the children referred to special education in the U.S. Boys are approximately three times more likely to be diagnosed with attention deficit disorder (ADD) or attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) than girls are.[4] There are approximately 140,000 stay-at-home fathers in the U.S. as primary caretakers for their children while the wives work outside the home. Fewer dads are the sole breadwinner While men currently represent an even 50% of the U.S. workforce, they account for 94% of all on-the-job fatalities. Prior to the 1900s, male nurses were far more common than female nurses in nearly every country in the world. In current times, men now make up only 5.4% of registered nurses in the U.S. and only 13% of new nursing students in the now-female-dominated field.[Men are nearly three times more likely than women to abuse alcohol and twice as likely to abuse recreational drugs like marijuana and cocaine. Higher levels of testosterone in boys and men generally cause greater levels of aggression, competition, self-assertion, and self-reliance than in women. In addition, the amygdala (the part of the brain involved in producing emotion) is typically larger in males, resulting in more aggressive, uncontrollable emotions. According to the U.S. Department of Justice, men are four times more likely than women to be murdered and 10 times more likely to commit murder. Both female and male offenders are more likely to target male victims. In nearly every country in the world, men are more than twice as likely to commit suicide than women. In some countries (such as Russia and Brazil), suicide rates among men are up to six times higher than those for women. The average adult male has about 50% more muscle mass and 50% less body fat than the average adult female. More than 151 million men are living in the U.S., 64.3 million are fathers. Male brains use 7 times more gray matter for activity. Females use 10 times more white matter Scientists have discovered than men's and women’s brains function somewhat differently. When focused on a task, men tend to use only one side of their brain at a time, devoting all of their attention and concentration to the task at hand. Women, on the other hand, tend to use both sides of the brain at the same time, making them more adept at "multi-tasking.” The word “dad” entered the English language in the sixteenth century and is believed to have originated from the Welsh word tad, meaning father. The word “father” comes from the Old English term faeder and was first used in the 1500s. The first Father’s Day celebration in the U.S. was held on June 19, 1910, in Spokane, Washington. After listening to a Mother’s Day sermon in 1909, Dodd wished to have a day recognition for her father as well. Father’s Day became a nationally celebrated holiday in 1972 when the third Sunday in June was designated by public law as a day of recognition for fathers.


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I am all of them‌my grandfather, my father and my son. I am a man that has many faces.

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The ‘Now’ New Normal We share a look at the ‘Now-New Normal.’


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America's 'New Normal' is Anything but Normal’ A world seen wearing a protective face mask July 20, 2020, The new normal is anything but ordinary. As the United States combats the coronavirus pandemic, the timeline for reopening the country in a bid to jump start the economy remains unclear. But dramatic changes to daily life are coming into view -- from mass temperature checks and mandatory use of face masks to empty sports and entertainment venues to Orwellian government monitoring of cellphone location and other personal information. "You can call it the 'new normal,'" said Ella Patterson, Publisher of TALK IT OUT. "I call it the 'now normal' because I think every day is going to be different." Here's how life could change as states consider modifying stay-at-home orders and other restrictions:

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How to Clean a Mattress (and Why) You spend about a third of your life on your mattress. When was the last time you gave it a good, deep clean? Besides promoting a more pleasant and productive night's sleep, a clean, cared for mattress can last longer—and it might even help prevent nasty, not to mention costly, pest infestations. Back when most mattresses could be flipped over, the conventional wisdom was that you should turn it twice a year, and take that opportunity to clean it as well. These days, a lot of mattresses, including the pillow-top variety, can’t be turned because they have a proper top and bottom. But cleaning your mattress two times a year remains a good rule of thumb. (Check the mattress label for instructions since the manufacturer might recommend rotating the mattress head to foot to ensure even wear.)

Step 1. Start the cleaning process by stripping the mattress of all sheets and bedding and tossing the items in the wash. To remove tough stains, always use a Consumer Reports top-rated laundry detergent and the hottest water setting on your washing machine; dry on high heat as well to zap any surviving critters. Step 2. Next, vacuum the entire mattress surface with the upholstery attachment on your vacuum cleaner. Pay attention to seams and crevices, where dirt, dust, dead skin, and other icky stuff collect; switching to your vacuum’s crevice attachment can help get in deep. Our tests have found that a normal vacuum cleaner provides capable cleaning, but if you’re fastidious, consider investing in the Dyson V6 Mattress Handheld Vacuum, a $250 device designed specifically for the job. In a Consumer Reports at-home mattress test, we cleaned half of a foam Tempur-Pedic mattress with a top-rated canister vacuum and half with the Dyson handheld. The Dyson sucked up 3 grams of material, including dead skin cells that dust mites like to nosh on, compared with the 1 gram that our regular vacuum removed. Step 3. Once you’re finished vacuuming, check for stains and spot treat them with an appropriate cleaner. An upholstery cleaner or enzyme-based pet-odor remover can do the job on many bodily fluids. You can also try a simple solution of 1 teaspoon mild dish detergent and 1 cup of warm water. Step 4. Next, deodorize the mattress by sprinkling baking soda over the entire surface. Especially if this is your first cleaning, don't be afraid to empty an entire 1-pound box onto the mattress. For best results, leave the baking soda there for 24 hours. That means you might need to plan the project around an overnight trip—or be willing to sleep elsewhere in your home. If you can place the mattress near a window, the sunlight will add its sanitizing power. Step 5. After the baking soda has had a chance to tackle odors, go back over the mattress with your vacuum’s upholstery attachment. If you don't already own a mattress cover, we recommend buying one. And adding a mattress pad between the cover and bottom sheet will help absorb moisture. Along with the periodic deep cleaning described here, these extra layers of protection will help prevent mites, fleas, and other pests from sharing your bed. That should really help you sleep tight. 113.

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Maintaining Weight Loss You need a plan to follow after the diet Continuing to keep some focus on such behaviors is important, and having a postweight-loss plan in place may be the key to long-term success. In a study, about 220 obese men and women who had lost an average of 15 pounds in a 15-week weightloss program were assigned to either receive regular follow-up phone calls from dietitians for about a year or have no contact with professionals. The purpose of the calls was to provide individualized support—so participants could refine and practice strategies to help them maintain weight loss. At the end of the 56 weeks, the group that received the support regained about 1 1⁄2 pounds on average, while the other group regained about 5 pounds. What are your strategies? The discussion focused on four strategies to help participants maintain weight loss: 1. recalling the positive things that happened because of weight loss. 2. setting a schedule for stepping on the scale and sticking to it. 3. making a plan for coping with situations that could trigger old, unsuccessful habits; and 4. identifying family members and friends who could offer support and determining what they could do that would be most helpful. "Weight loss and weight maintenance are different processes,” says James O. Hill, Ph.D., director of the Center for Human Nutrition at the University of Colorado, who was not involved in the study. "The important takeaway from this study is rather than just focusing our efforts on weight loss, we should be trying to better understand how to help people keep off the weight they lose.” DIY Weight-Loss Maintenance According to Martica Heaner, Ph.D., adjunct associate professor of nutrition at Hunter College in New York City, who was not involved in the study, the main insight from the research is the need to preserve that focus on your body and behaviors, even once you’re done dieting. "Keeping yourself accountable and developing healthy new behaviors are the keys to lasting success. There is no magic bullet, you can put some of the strategies tested in this study to work yourself in lieu of a formal support program. So, whether you’ve lost 10 pounds or 100: 1. Weigh yourself often. 2. Use sticky notes or calendar alerts to remind you to step on the scale. 3. Set a warning weight. If the scale creeps up by more than a few pounds—they used 3 pounds in the study—examine how your habits may have changed. 4. Address those changes or go back to the strategies you used to lose weight in the first place. 5. Know your triggers. Identify in advance any situations, such as parties or eating out, in which you’re prone to overeat, and make a plan ahead of time to reduce your risk. 6. Ask for help. In the study, having a support person was important, but because support looks different to different people, let those around you know what you need to help you maintain weight loss.

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Eight Tips for Buying A New Car The following steps will show you how to locate, price and negotiate to buy the new car you want. This information could save you thousands of dollars on a new car and make the process easier, quicker and more enjoyable. But first things first: First, You need to decide what car you want to buy. A powerful first step in the car buying process is to get approved for a loan. Getting approved for a loan from a bank, credit union or online lender will show you what interest rate you qualify for. If the interest rate offered is unexpectedly high, you will know that there are problems with your credit history that need to be resolved before you move forward. Getting approved in advance will also mean you can negotiate at the dealership as a cash buyer, which is much easier. You can still accept dealership financing, but getting approved before you even walk into the dealership will be the bargaining chip to get you the best interest rate. 2: Price Your Car and Your Trade-in We know that the price of a new car is usually negotiable. But how much of a discount can you expect? Choose the make, model and year of the car you want to appraise and follow the prompts. True market value adjusts the new car price for the available incentives. TMV for your used car shows the current market value if you sell it to a private party or trade it in at the dealership. While TMV already factors in incentives, it is also possible to separately review the latest incentives and rebates available for all new cars. Perhaps you'll find an even better bargain on a new car you had not considered. 3 Remain Flexible As you search for your car, keep in mind that the more flexible you can be about options and color, the wider the range of the vehicles you'll find for sale. Being flexible will also give you more leverage to negotiate a better price, since you are not emotionally connected to one specific car. Make selections about options and color to get a more complete list of matching cars available for sale. Once you find the exact car you want, the next step will be to contact the dealership. 4: Use Price Promise and Dealership Internet Departments Look for Price Promise offers on the car of your choice, print out the certificate on the page and you are ready to go to the dealership to conclude the deal. It's a good idea to call ahead and make sure the car is still available. Here are other tips on how to use Price Promise to buy your next car. If there's no Price Promise offer on a car you want, shopping through a dealership's Internet department will save you time and money. You can easily communicate with the Internet manager by 115.

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phone or e-mail. We know that many people are drawn to the traditional way of car buying visiting showrooms right off the bat. If you go this route, you should assess the car salesperson who is working with you before moving forward. Ask yourself if you feel comfortable and sense that you can trust this person. If you do feel comfortable, set up a time to test-ive the car if you haven't already done so. ore you head to the dealership, review all your notes and bring them with you. Step 5: Try Negotiating a Lower Price Request Internet price quotes from at least three local dealers. Take the lowest price, call the other dealerships and say, "If you beat this price, I'll buy it from you." The dealer almost certainly will give you a better price. Some shoppers find this time-consuming and stressful, so consider whether the potential savings are worth the time and effort. It's good to remember that a good deal isn't just the lowest selling price. It's a combination of the most streamlined, enjoyable shopping experience and the lowest total out-thedoor cost. Step 6: Review New Car Fees and Check Dealer Financing Besides the cost of the car, you have to pay sales tax, registry fees and a documentation, or "doc" fee. You can estimate these extras using a monthly loan payment calculator. Now ask the Internet sales manager or the dealership's Price Promise contact to supply a breakdown of all the fees, or a "worksheet," which lists the purchase price, the vehicle's invoice and all related fees. Review the figures carefully before signing the sales contract. Back in Step One, you were pre-approved for financing. But who knows? Maybe you can get an even better interest rate at the dealership. To see if that's possible, you can let the dealership run a credit report and assess what interest rate you qualify for. If it is lower than your pre-approved loan, go for it. If not, you already have a good loan locked in. If the price, financing and fees look right, it's nearly time to say yes to the deal. But before you do, consider making the sale contingent on having your new car delivered to your home or office. This is a great time saver and allows you to close the deal in a relaxed environment. Step 7: Sign the Paperwork This step will take place at your home if you have the dealership deliver the car, or at the dealership if you prefer to pick it up there. Either way, make sure there are no dents or scratches on the body or the wheels. Check that all the equipment is included, such as floor mats, owner's manuals and rearseat DVD headphones. Your new car should also come with a full tank of gas. If anything is missing or needs repair, ask for a due bill that puts this in writing. In cases of home delivery, the salesperson arrives with all the necessary paperwork. If you opt to pick up your car at the dealership, you will sign paperwork in the finance and insurance office, where the finance manager may try to sell you additional items. These typically include extended warranties, fabric protection or additional alarm systems. Review the contract carefully and make sure the numbers match the worksheet and that there are no additional charges or fees. A good finance manager will explain each form and what it means. Don't hurry. Buying a car is a serious commitment. And remember, there is no cooling-off period. Once you sign the contract, the car is yours. Step 8: Take Delivery of Your New Car You are probably eager to begin driving your new car. But this is an important step: Let the salesperson give you a tour of your new car. This could include showing you how to connect your smartphone to the car's Bluetooth system and learning how to use other important features and safety devices. Yes, you can review all this in the manual later, but it's quite helpful to get a hands-on demonstration. If you don't have time for a complete demonstration when you sign the contract, ask to visit the dealership a week later for this important step. 116. September 2020

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