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Letter To Family And Friends Of Girlfriends Talk From Founder and Editor-in Chief

Janice L. Carter !

  Hello everyone. April is here, four months into the New Year already. Can you believe it? This year has been crazy so far; I truly believe it is a test of everyone's strength. So be strong. There is an epidemic taking place in the world, not that it is anything new, I think America is just plain ole' tired of it. Trayvon Martin's death has America standing up and standing together in the fight of injustice everywhere. A million voices are so much louder than one, so don't just sit back and say nothing. March Issue of GT went pretty quickly. I hope everyone got familiar with Eric Goshay, and went out and copped that ITOLJHASO compilation album. It is very important to support each other, especially when it is something positive, because that only increases the levels of positivity. A lot of people wanted to know who, what and why I chose Eric Goshay to grace my cover. That is simply because I believe in him and his dream journey. I would want him to believe in my dreams. With that said, as always I thank everyone for his or her support, contributions and words of encouragement. I really couldn't keep going with out it. Lastly, I'm asked this question also "WHO ARE YOU TRYING TO REACH”? These people don't support you; you need to speak to senators, the mayor and Judges etc. I would love to speak to all of these people. The question is, will they speak me? Will they support me? Will they come to my events? My response is “I am who I am”. REAL PEOPLE, REAL ISSUE, REAL TALK, that is my motto. Not saying these people are not real, I'm just saying I love music, especially Hip Hop music and down to earth, humble everyday people, who walk with their heads held high with pride no matter their struggle in life.

Kwame M. Kilpatrick, who resigned as mayor of Detroit and pleaded guilty to obstruction of justice.

Ohio State Rep. W. Carlton Weddington resigned from the state legislature and surrendered to investigators Tuesday morning following his indictment on charges of bribery, election falsification and filing a false ethics statement.

The Bureau of Criminal Investigation for possible misuse of public funds is investigating the Delaware County sheriff.


How To Talk To Young Black Boys About Trayvon Martin Page 6 Did You Know? Donyale Luna (First African American Super Model) Page 7 Jahi / Fashion Designer Akili Cooper Page 9 Oral Sex Causing More "Men" To Develop "HPV" Than Women Page 15 Nikki Ransom- Sex Therapist Page 16 March Is Disability Awarness Month Page17 Double Standards or Double Talk by Janice Carter & Blk Abyss Page 20 Cherish The Love By Frank Comer Page 21 Get Familiar - EV Jones Page 22 Fitness Navigator By Racquel Bonner Page 24 Astrology Page 26


March 2012

Contributors    

Racquel  Bonner   Fitness  Navigator   Columbus,  Ohio  

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What’s Happening In The C.O?

THE SPRING 614 COMMUNITY FEAST The River Club Restaurant at Confluence Park in Columbus 679 Spring St., Columbus, OH 43215 Saturday, April 7, 2012 6:00pm until 9:00pm Please join us as we throw the second of many FREE community dinners!!! (All media outlets welcome!!!) As an extension of our non-violent movement, we hope to bring back unity within our community!!! It starts with us!!! Lets eat together, work together, and uplift our community together!!! FREE Dinner, Beverages, and Deserts ... Until we reach capacity!!! Live music ... Family fun ... Free gifts for kids!!! Games.... Raffles ... Gift card give-a-ways!!! Located at Confluence Park Restaurant on Spring St. Volunteers and donations needed!!! For more info, donations, or volunteer inquiries: 614CommunityFeast@gmail.com or 614-887-7506

Upper Cup Coffee Company 79 Parsons Avenue, Columbus, OH 43205  Saturday April 14,2012- 7:00pm until 11:00pm Calling All Artists! Calling All Artists! Musicians, Poets, Singers, Storytellers, etc. GET READY for the Invocation... Come taste artistry at its finest! Come vibe, share, get in, and get down... Whatever it takes for you to go in.@ CINNAMON SUITES Admission $5


Trayvon Martin February 26, 2012  

How to Talk to Young Black Boys About Trayvon Martin Eight talking points about the potentially fatal condition of being black By TOURÉ 1. It’s unlikely but possible that you could get killed today. Or any day. I’m sorry, but that’s the truth. Black maleness is a potentially fatal condition. I tell you that not to scare you but because knowing that could save your life. There are people who will look at you and see a villain or a criminal or something fearsome. It’s possible they may act on their prejudice and insecurity. Being black could turn an ordinary situation into a life-or-death moment even if you’re doing nothing wrong. 2. If you encounter such a situation, you need to play it cool. Keep your wits about you. Don’t worry about winning the situation. Your mission is to survive. 3. There is nothing wrong with you. You’re amazing. I love you. When I look at you, I see a complex human being with awesome potential, but some others will look at you and see a thug — even if their only evidence is your skin. Their racism relates to larger anxieties and problems in America that you didn’t create. When someone is racist toward you — either because they’ve profiled you or spit some slur or whatever — they are saying they have a problem. They are not speaking about you. They’re speaking about themselves and their deficiencies.

4. You will have to make allowances for other people’s racism. That’s part of the burden of being black. We can be defiant and dead or smart and alive. I’m not saying you can’t wear what you want, but your clothes are a red herring. They’ll blame it on your hoodie or your jeans when the real reason they decided you were a criminal is that you’re black. Of course, you know better. Racism is about reminding you that you are less human, less valuable, less worthy, less beautiful, less intelligent. It’s about prejudging you as violent, fearsome, a threat. Some people will take that prejudice and try to force their will on you to make sure you feel like a second-class citizen and to make certain you get back to the lower-class place they think you’re trying to escape. The best way to counter them involves not your fists but your mind. You know your value to the world and how terrific you are. If you never forget that, they can’t damage your spirit. The best revenge is surviving and living well. 5. Be aware of your surroundings. Especially when it’s dark. Or bright. Some people are on the lookout for muggers or rapists. You need to be on the lookout for profilers who are judging you. Don’t give them an opportunity to make a mistake. 6. If you feel you are being profiled and followed or, worse, chased by someone with a vigilante streak — if you are hunted in the way it seems Trayvon was, by someone bigger than you who may be armed and hopped up on stereotypes about you — then you need to act. By calling the police. That is the exact time to snitch. I know there are times the cops will be your enemies, but sometimes calling 911 and letting the threatening person know that you’re doing so could save your life. 7. What if it’s the cops who are making you feel threatened? Well, then you need to retreat. I don’t mean run away. I mean don’t resist. Now is not the time to fight the power. Make sure they can see your hands, follow all instructions, don’t say anything, keep your cool. Your goal is to defuse things, no matter how insulted you are. We’ll get revenge later. In the moment, play possum. Say sir. They may be behaving unjustly, but their lives aren’t in danger. Yours is. If you survive, you will be able to tell your lawyer what happened. If you don’t … 8. Never forget: As far as we can tell, Trayvon did nothing wrong and still lost his life. You could be a Trayvon. Any of us could.


Did You Know? The worlds First African American Super Model

Donyale Luna

 

Donyale Luna (1 January 1945 - 17 May 1979) was the first notable African American supermodel and the first black cover girl. She also appeared in several films, most notably as the title role in Salome. Born Peggy Anne Freeman in Detroit, Michigan, her parents were Peggy and Nathaniel Freeman. Her father, who was reportedly abusive, was murdered when she was 18. Luna's mother wanted her to become a nurse. Despite the parentage stated on her birth certificate, she insisted that her biological father was a man with the surname Luna and that her mother was Mexican. According to the model, one of her grandmothers was reportedly an Irishwoman who married a black interior decorator. Whether any of this background is true is uncertain. In the mid 1960s, a relative described Luna as being "a very weird child, even from birth, living in a wonderland, a dream." After being discovered by the photographer David McCabe, she moved from Detroit to New York City to pursue a modeling career. She became the first African American model to appear on the cover of Vogue (March 1966). For several years, she was under exclusive contract to the photographer Richard Avedon. An article in Time magazine published on 1 April 1966, "The Luna Year", described the dramatically thin and tall (6' 2") model with the hallmark bright blue contact lenses and occasional blonde wig as "a new heavenly body who, because of her striking singularity, promises to remain on high for many a season. Donyale Luna, as she calls herself, was unquestionably the hottest model in Europe. She is only 20, hails from Detroit, and is not to be missed." In 1967, the mannequin manufacturer Adel Rootstein created a mannequin in Luna's image, a follow-up to her famous Twiggy mannequin of 1966. Unprofessional behavior signaled the decline of Luna's career. As recalled by another black model who came to prominence toward the end of Luna's heyday, Beverly Johnson, Luna "doesn't wear shoes winter or summer. Ask her where she's from -- Mars?

She went up and down the runways on her hands and knees. She didn't show up for bookings. She didn't have a hard time, she made it hard for herself." During the late 1960s and early 1970s, Luna appeared in several films produced by Andy Warhol (including Camp) and Federico Fellini (Fellini Satyricon). She also appeared in The Rolling Stones Rock and Roll Circus, the Otto Preminger comedy Skidoo (in which she was featured as the mistress of God, who was portrayed by Groucho Marx), and the British documentary Tonite Let's All Make Love in London. Salvador DalĂ­ considered her one of his favorite models.

She was married briefly in the mid 1960s, to a man described as a gigolo. Later she was engaged to the Austrian actor Maximilian Schell, to an unnamed Danish photographer, and to Georg Willing, a German actor who appeared in European horror films and with the Living Theatre. Luna appeared in a nude photo layout in the April 1975 issue of Playboy. Luna died in Rome, Italy, in a clinic, after a drug overdose. Filmmaker Jennifer Poe is working on a documentary about Luna and Pat Hartley, who were the only black women to be part of the Warhol studio.


Congratulations to 2012 Oscar winners Octavia Spencer and Sean ‘Diddy” Combs


Meet …

Jahi

Fashion by

Akili Cooper Meet Akili Cooper, 18-year-old fashion designer here in Columbus Ohio. I interviewed him last summer and got to see him in action at the Celebrity Fashion Affair. This year Akili's journey is continuing but in the direction that will surely prepare him for the rewards of his hard work and determination. College, not just any college at that, one of the best colleges there is for fashion designing in California. In support of him attending college he put together his very own fashion show "The Finale"! Sure to be a great event loaded with lots of original pieces. Akili states this is not the last show but the finale… in other words until he returns home from college. He figured he would return five years from now, a lot bigger and hopefully with his own store. Why this particular school? A.C: That was one of the first schools that caught my interest; I started looking when I was in middle school (I been planning for the future for a long time) You are only 18, and you already have you life plans laid out. A.C: Yes, then I thought California is so far away… but this year I decided going away would help he grow to be a better person for what I want to be. Like ten years from now.

You are so talented! What do you look for when you are choosing your models? A.C: I have a top ten of model that I know I can call and they will do what ever I want. Those girls are doing something with their life, they’re very classy. So I would say the way people carry themselves. You can tell them to be sexy, etc.… and they can do that. They already have those characteristics. So you don't just judge off of beauty? A.C: No!

Do you feel like that is something you couldn't accomplish here in Columbus Ohio? A.C: Yes Ok, What are some of your visions when you are being creative and designing clothes? A.C: The last collection I design were inspired by roses, so what ever comes with that. When I think of roses …I think of red…you think of passion, romance. Just so many things can come from one thing. One of my inspirations in my show was diamonds,

Do her built have to be perfect? A.C: My models are a size two to six. But I would go higher in size… I mature as a designer. Last fall your look was a lot of dark colors … a lot of sheer. What can we expect at this up and coming fashion show? A.C: I’m going still stick with my sheer… What is your fascination with sheer? A.C: Confidence!

So it’s that easy for you? You can see butterflies and go and design a dress? A.C: Yes, I just did!

That is so sexy… where is this coming from? I mean you couldn't began to know…what makes a woman feel beautiful and sensual…you're only 18


A.C: I think every guy knows what his woman likes You're 18 years old, even the women you are dealing with don't know. A.C: I’m married to Mary J. Blige, so I know Then you should be on point then, because she is beautiful! A.C: I love her. I can picture what someone may look nice in and dig into those things. There is a dress that I am working on and I’m just now realizing you don't have to show a lot of skin to be sexy. So when I said butterflies what came to mind? A.C: Spring, sundress would be pretty. Nice print, something bright possibly, then add some type of butterfly. Ok, So what are your plans after college? A.C: I will intern during college because it is one of the requirements but I don't want to do fashion shows while I’m there, just to stay focused. Every year I will do an eight-piece collection for the four years that I am there. I know they were impressed with your work? A.C: Yes So you know they will try to persuade you to do a lot of things? A.C: Yes, Hopefully by the time I finish I will have a men and women foot wear design. I can see my self in 10 years, babies, children, furniture all of that. So do you sketch? If so did it come naturally, or was it something you had to learn? I know people have visions but cant sketch it out. A.C: yes, I had to learn. A lot of my stuff isn't sketched, so for this show I’m doing a fall line and a spring collection and nothing in the spring collection is drawn. I just say I want this, this and this…Then I already know what I want it to look like.


Your mother is very supportive? A.C: Super You are so vibrant and full of life; does anything ever get to you? A.C: DEADLINES! That’s one thing I’m getting good at. Its something like you live and you learn. Yes because when I look back at my first year show I wanted to quit every other week. Now 14-15 shows later I only wanted to quit once! Do you keep up with the trend or pretty much do what you want? A.C: Do what I want! Sometimes I am on point by accident. Is there anyone that inspires you? A.C: Nary Manaugh (Fashion Designer) and Angeleah Dunkle (A dancer) If you weren’t a fashion designer, what would you be doing? A.C: I would be a dancer. I love to perform.  

Jahi.style@yahoo.com Website http://jahistyle.blogspot.com Email: a_boy093@yahoo.com


ORAL SEX CAUSING MORE “MEN” TO DEVELOP “HPV” THAN WOMEN The human papillomavirus (HPV), which is often sexually transmitted, is responsible for a rapidly growing type of oral cancer. And now new research may help explain why men get the cancer more than women do. In the first study to examine the prevalence of oral HPV infection nationwide, rates of infection among men were about three times higher than among women. A new study showing an estimated 7% of American teens and adults carry the human papillomavirus in their mouths may help health experts finally understand why rates of mouth and throat cancer have been climbing for nearly 25 years. The evidence makes it clear that oral sex practices play a key role in transmission. The new data, published online Thursday by the Journal of the American Medical Assn., are the first to assess the prevalence of oral HPV infection in the U.S. population. The findings indicate that the virus is not likely to spread through kissing or casual contact and that most cases of oral HPV can be traced to oral sex, which many Americans mistakenly view as a safe practice. “I don’t think people think of oral sex in the same way they do with traditional intercourse,” said Fred Wyand, director of the HPV Resource Center at the American Social Health Assn. in Research Triangle Park, N.C. “Sometimes younger people engage in oral sex so they don’t have to worry about pregnancy. They may not even make the link between oral sex and STDs.” HPV is best known as the cause of cervical cancer, which kills 4,220 women in the U.S. each year, according to the National Cancer Institute. The virus can also cause vulvar, anal, penile and various head and neck cancers. A study published in October in the Journal of Clinical Oncology traced more than 70% of new cases of oral cancers to HPV infection, putting it ahead of tobacco use as the leading cause of such cancers. If present trends continue, HPV will cause more cases of oral cancers than cervical cancer by 2020, according to the October study.


Nikki Ransom

Hi everyone! I'm happy to be back but let me first apologize for my recent absence. Besides having the grand-daddy of all colds, my brand and company has undergone some exciting changes! Needless to say, I am about to offer you all some amazing products and workshops to benefit you in all aspects of life. If anyone is in need of private Life, Relationship, and Intimacy coaching, feel free to contact us at Staff@NikkiRansom.com to schedule a free phone consult. If you are not excited about your life every day then it's time to get to work. Happy Friday!

Dating Tip of the Week Is your face "Dater-friendly"? By that I mean this...how inviting is your appearance? Are you the kind of person to walk into a room smiling with their shoulders back and head held high or slumped over with a funky face? Now which person do you think winds up with more dating prospects? Yep. So remember that even if you're having a not-so-great kind of day, smile and stay in positive spirits. Not only is this good for you period, but you always want to be a pleasant, inviting person. You never know where that "special someone" or even a new friend will be.

Nikki's Quote of the Week "One word relieves us of all the weight and pain in the world. That word is love." - Sophocles Have a magnificent weekend! Sincerely, Nikki Ransom, CEO, Certified Life, Relationship & Sex Coach LoversEd, LLC

Romance Tip of the Week Any time is a great time to show your partner how much you appreciate them and how much value they add to your life. Romance does not have to be some grand gesture; you can keep it simple with a handwritten note proclaiming your love and adoration. Ladies, we may think men aren't as emotional as us but trust me, your man's chest will get a little pumped up after reading your love note. Men, do this for your woman and I promise you will earn sooo many points that you can cash in in sooo many areas ;). Also little things like a back or foot rub at the end of a long day, bringing his or her favorite treat or bottle of wine home; anything that says "I thought of you" will do.

Sex Tip of the Week I want to know what YOU want to know. Ask me any question you like on VYOU and I will answer with a video response. (P.S. you can also ask anonymously.)

Highlighted Events: 4/28 "How to Keep Your Man & Keep Him Happy" Cols, OH (and maybe online too ;)  


March is Disability Awareness Month. There is a lot of

Under reasonable accommodation a business does not

confusion and controversy surrounding the Americans with

need to change their environment unless it would cause

Disability Act (ADA), so as a member of this community

undue hardship. But the business must be able to prove it.

who has gone through a lot of compliance training, I want to take just a bit of your time to talk about it.

Readily achievable means that public accommodationsstores, banks, hotels, and restaurants-have to remove

The ADA was passed in 1990 and signed on July 26th of the

architectural barriers in existing facilities (prior to the

same year by then President George H. W. Bush. It is meant

enactment of the ADA) when it can be done "without

to be a piece of civil rights legislation, and besides being a

much difficulty or expense." Inexpensive, easy steps to

law is also a mandate, meaning everyone must comply, with

take include ramping one step; installing a bathroom grab

no exceptions except those laid down with the Act itself.

bar; lowering a paper towel dispenser; rearranging

The first problem is that unlike most legislation that goes before Congress that is hundreds or even thousands of pages

furniture; installing offset hinges to widen a doorway; or painting new lines to create an accessible parking space.

long, the original ADA was very small-really just a few

In cases where changes are not readily achievable the

pages long that did not spell out how to comply. As soon as

ADA allows a business to simply provide curbside service

it was signed into law, groups of experts and advisors were

to persons with disabilities, but few do, as they see it as an

brought together to write sets of guidelines for the three

imposition. In a situation where a business claims they

major sections: Title I, dealing with employment, Title II

don't make enough in profits to comply, they may be able

that regulates State and Local governments, and Title III,

to at some time in the future, and are then expected to do

that defines what businesses are expected to do to

so.

accommodate People with Disabilities (PWD). What started out as a small piece of legislation wound up being the

Of course, in the case of a new building, or a building

defining guidelines that incorporate hundreds of pages.

changes its function (conversion from a store to a

Other legislation, like the Fair Housing Act, the

restaurant, for example), then all facets of the building

Rehabilitation Act and the Air Access Act were already in

must comply with the guidelines as set down by the ADA

place.

and local building codes.

Administered by US Department of Justice, the ADA has

As a member of the disability community I have seen

caused a lot of compliance confusion to the point some

changes, but there is still a lot that needs to be done. Also,

governments and businesses have decided to ignore the

changes in the attitudes of people about the disabled have

mandate. This is a mistake as the DOJ is now filing

been slow to change as well.

hundreds of cases resulting in thousands, and perhaps even millions of dollars in fines, plus the cost of compliance.

More and more people are falling under the auspices of the ADA as the population ages. Today 20% (54 million

The ones who could be hurt the most are small businesses,

plus) of the American population has some sort of

that see the ADA compliance as costly, even to the point of

disability. And every family has at least one person in it

forcing them close rather than take on the expense of

who has a disability. Besides people don't become

compliance, when in fact there are solutions that are very

disabled just from disease...many are hurt in accidents.

low-cost or even free. But there are a couple of "outs" or loopholes for small businesses: reasonable accommodation and readily achievable.

Here are a few things you can do that will make a BIG difference:


*If you are standing, talking to someone in a wheelchair, stoop down to their level, or pull up a chair near them. Get on their eye level. We're getting tired of looking at your belt, waistline or belly button. Show some respect and dignity. *Don't assume we want your help. Ask first. *Talk to us, not over or around us. Unless we have a hearing impairment we can hear, understand and respond to you. *Don't ask what happened or what's wrong. Without being rude, it is none of your business, and for many people it is difficult to talk about their disability. Focus on a person's abilities, not their disabilities. *Watch how you respond. Saying something like, "Isn't it nice you can get out and do things," or, "I feel sorry for you, life must be very difficult." You sound like a condescending idiot. I am no more brave or courageous than anyone else. I just do things a bit different. *Don't sit in my wheelchair...it's like sitting in someone's lap. A wheelchair, walker or other piece of equipment is part of that person's physical space. *Treat us just like everyone else. Yes, we do need some help sometimes, and if we do, we'll usually ask for it. Otherwise, we want to be just like you. Yes, we do get better parking or a chance to cut in line, but think about what we have to put up with that you don't. I can't just jump up, grab my keys and go. I have to think and plan out everything I do and every place I go. If some of that seems rude, or inconsiderate, I make no apologies for it because it is what I and millions of others have to deal with every day, but, like the song by Ben Kweller says, "Some days you get aces and faces, and some days it's twos or threes, but you have to play the cards your dealt." I hope by reading this you have gained a little better insight to the World as the disabled see it and live it. Just remember, and God forbid, you could be next. -Ric Morgan

Mike Wallace

A New Jersey Democrat first elected to Congress in 1988, has died after a battle with colon cancer. He was 77.

Rep. Donald Payne of New Jersey Veteran journalist and former ‘60 Minutes’ correspondent was 93 Mr. Wallace, 93, died April 7 at an assisted living facility in New Canaan, Conn., CBS News announced. He had a history of heart ailments, including a triple bypass operation in 2008.


Congratulation Mike Yates on your 9th Year!

It was 9 years ago today a dream came true. From the ground up Final Cut was opened. We started it with a dream, blood, sweat and tears. Thanks to all those who where there. Me, Ant, Arlene (R.I.P). Jeff, Mobile, Howie D, Juan, Andre, Jimmy, Adam, Carlos, Todd, Mr. Brown, Moss, Donnie, Papa Joe, Man Man, T, Tj, Kitta, Freeze, Jaylen, Clarky, Tree, Chuck, Farad, Birdie, Jeff, Fat Rich, Chubby Baby, Tone, Flint, Rick, Mont, and Chris, K, Oat, Champ, Nate, Petie, The Cabana Club, the haters that said we couldn’t do it, My family, God of course. Brittney Hills, Easthaven, Windsor Terrace, Milo, 25 th, the Short, Cleveland Ave. Livingston Ave, Youngstown, Springfield, My Africans, my Somalians, Mexicans, My Arabs, my Puerto Ricans erbody. Shot out to Matt @Dreamers, Reese @ 360, Moss @ Brothers Stezo @ Steves Alex @ Prodilers Brian Granger @ Donnies Purvis @ Razor Sharp Roc @ Frank Coles Boyz to Men And all the females Dannielle Johnson @Nish Girlfriends Talk, Trenee' HairStylist Erin Haircare Monroe. Man shot out to Teka, Briana, Weasel, Jayron, Angelo, Khalil, Aliana, Mckenzie, Ty Henderson, Lil Tj , Lil Lamon, the twins, all Birdies kids, Farads kids all the kids we raised. All the teenagers I tell to pull they pants up, all the free hair I’ve cut money I’ve lent, losses I’ve took, we still stand stronger than ever. Bonds that have been made, new friendships, Ms. Mary next door sellin stinky food, the Braider next to us. Erbody, Columbus to Springfield all the doors of success that have opened, all the gossip about erbody that u might not know I know but do. As Hov said " What more can I say"


Double Standards or Double Talk?   Oh yeah, ladies we all know that a man doesn't want mouthy woman. A man is so easily embarrassed, a man doesn't like to be put on the spot in front of his friends etc.… But how quickly will a man call you out your name, talk down to you and tell your business when ever they feel like it. Saying to you, " You make a big deal out of everything!" How can a man disrespect and hurt any woman, justifying it by classify women into different categories. But if you call a man how you see them, rather they are liars, cheaters, thieves and so on, the woman is the one who is wrong! But A Man Would Say... LOL THIS HERE IS PRICELESS! Ok, women are put into different categories. Let’s be real. Each woman has a minimum 3 different characters inside of them. And the thing about women is they will use each at any given moment to win. As much as a man doesn’t want to look weak, a woman does not want to EVER EVER EVER be wrong. Women will fight, kick, threaten, lie, scheme, and cheat just so they won’t be wrong. With that said the name calling can occur in many different situations. Let’s go right to the B-word. There are many different instances where a man will use this word. In more of your urban communities the B-word is used in the open during conversation and joking. In many relationships it is an accepted sort of play name used during calm n playful moments. Now when you have these type of situations the B-word will carry over to an argument or and adjective used to get the man’s point across. In the bedroom some women like to be man-handled and the B-word becomes acceptable. If your man calls you the B-word as your name and you answer…again don’t complain. Also if you are involved with a thug, gangster, or dope boy you know exactly what the protocol is. Any other names may be the result of you actions. If you’re behaving like a hoe, slut, cheat, backstabber…etc. then there you are who you be. Women can’t be acting up and then getting all sensitive when a colorful adjective or noun is used to address them. Life is not “Girlfriends, Let’s Stay Together, or The Game” or any other show that portrays men as weak punching bags. The woman is not right just because she is the woman. She or the man is right because they are right. All this “You know how I am” stuff women talk to excuse bad behavior is crazy. Now add in the multiple personalities that women possess and you have a recipe for name-calling. Whether it’s playful or serious usually a man will go by the character the woman is playing. But when fed up with role-playing and getting attacked by 3 different versions of the same woman…then hell yea the woman will be everything but the name her parents gave her.


Black By Nature Proud By Choice…

By  Frank  Comer  

The real objective in applying the word Black and its definition should not solely rest upon it's description of Black people and their dark skin but in a inclusive manner reflect their state of mind that is free from fear, restraint, restriction and even ignorance. Blacks have always had to have a temperament that compelled respect rather it be individually or as whole, it was our right to improve our state of mind A radical change became the policy for this mental progression it advocated in self -respect and was justifiable with its intent and became an inherent quality that was absolute. The fundamental nature of this mentality became of the utmost importance because it was this mentality that attached itself to a social and conscious movement for change that gave birth not only to an identity, but to a mass of people who became spirited in selfrespect and was proud to be black. Blacks became aggressively active in causes that were unfavorable like politics and economics, such as disenfranchisement in the voting process which is a denial of our part in the element of Democracy, unemployment, menial labor, low paying jobs, poverty, and incarceration. These methods became practical, but not without consequences. Being proud and displaying a sense of pride restored the mind and gave Black power a meaning of special quality extracted from the inner essence of black people. This essence then became the constitution of survival. Blacks who displayed excessive selfesteem became known as militants or Black revolutionaries, a negative description designed to disrupt and undermine a nation who started to stand erect. This Black way of thought continued to refuse a social system that kept Blacks in a

secondary position. Blacks became increasingly aware of their mental power and its capacity to disagree with superiority, classifications and their synonymous relationship with their applied inferiority systems. These classifications, categories and / or definitions did not equate with the mind and seemed to restrict, limit, and in a very Jim Crow kind of way "keep us in our place." In our society there is a dual kinship that exist, one is Black and the other is white, when a nonBlack person becomes descriptive of us, he refers to our skin color as Black, but when Blacks who are conscious refer to other Blacks as "Black" we are making a reference to the state of consciousness that beholds that individual. This is not to say that we are some how better than our Brother & Sisters who remain in a state of mental unconsciousness because we are not! ! We struggle together, we rise together, but we awaken at different intervals of time. Take note of this: one of two or more words in the same language which have the same or very nearly the same meaning, negro, nigger, nigga, reflects a mind that is negative, dismal, soiled, gloomy and it definitely does not posses the pride that pride that involves becoming proud and being Black. (Mentally speaking) …


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Redefinition of Hip Soul  

Ev Jones What is your definition of Hip Hop Soul? E. J: First of all, I'm a Hip Hop Fan first. I just can't rap. Did you try? E.J: Yeah I try all the time; I go hard in the bathroom! But the fact of the matter is, I'm not good at it. I write in the form of a way rapper would write. So Hip Soul is kind of like a fusion of those two loves. Keeping it really authentic and truth telling on the Hip Hop side of it. Then the soul side is a spiritual thing, just really reaching down in you and pulling that extra inside of you that makes you feel some kind of way on your inside parts. Well who said you weren't good at rapping? E.J: I did! My honest opinion is I am too old to be rapping. How long have you been singing? E.J: I started singing professionally when I was 16. I went to a performing arts school and I had a group there in Dayton. It was called Carnell Wright for the performing Arts. (They tore it down) So I had a group called native harmony, we torrid all over the tri state area and did shows with Tupac, Harold Melvin and the Blue Notes. I got my swag together when I was young. What was it like being around Tupac? E.J: Actually he was really, really cool. He was mindful that we were kids; we were like 16 years old. The funny thing about it, the show that we did he had just flew in from the "I get around " video, so he still had the "I get around" get up on, he had just came from the airport. He was real cool. He got me high… You said he was mindful and… E.J: He didn't offer me smoke but he smoked a lot… You are talking secondhand smoke? E.J: Yeah, He hung out with us, took us to the after party. Allowed us to take pictures. He was real approachable, down to earth type of guy. It was a teen type of party so to be in that atmosphere it was real cool. How was it to be in the presence of Harold Melvin and the Blue Notes? E.J: When that happened, I knew who they were but I didn't understand what they represented. Because they had offered me an opportunity to become a blue note, and I didn't take it because I was to cool for them, Being young and seeing them up there in the flashy suits and everything, it didn't make any sense to me then. But If I had it all to do over again… I would have been a Blue Note.


They are Legendary E.V: They are, and I grateful the opportunity to chop it up with and that they even thought enough of me to ask. Have you had any other opportunities like that? E.J: Yes, I squander plenty opportunities just being young and reckless and going through the different changes you go through in life just not knowing any better. Then you older and realize man had I done this, this could have been the result. But I’m a firm believer that everything in its due time, so I wasn't ready.

your woman has already left you until she is already gone. When she officially physically leaves, you don't even know what happened You walk around all day at work, you leave to go home and you are looking for your keys and realize they are gone. I had them now I don't. When you write your songs, do you draw from family and friends experiences?

E.J: Typically, they’re personal, some times I do draw from others, but I try to keep it as true to self as possible.

Who influenced musically you growing up? Is there any artist you would like to work with? E.J: My first hip-hop albums were " Revenge of Roxanne Shante", LL "I'm Bad" and Kool Moe Dee at the time. That turned me on, that had me thinking I wanted to be a DJ, so I was taking my old children's records and scratching them all up. It was good times and you couldn't tell me I wasn't killing it. Who was that first old school R & B? E.J: Sam Cook. I had to be the only 10, 11 year old bumping Sam Cook, like going hard with my little cassette tape. That’s what I try to represent, I thought he was saying something. And that’s what I try to represent now is to actually be " Saying Something" not just sounding good but saying something!

E.J: There are quite a few artist I wouldn't mind working with Rik Reign, as far as people I’m really feeling I’m working with them now I find that a lot of Empire artist are just dope. I’m doing some work with Just Cause r doing some joints with Hot Hands, Diggy, up and coming artist Stephanie Myers. We actually have a duet on this project. What about national? E.J: I’m a Dave Hollister fanatic, Anthony Hamilton, Lyfe Jennings, there’s an underground artist by the name, Governor. Where did you get the title Mentality?

How was music introduced into your life? E.J: Church, going to church. Music was that part of the service that I felt spoke directly to me. I would go through the rise and fall the emotional changes, you know some people that go to church and they hear the word and that sends them over the edge in to their spiritual experience, but for me it was always the music. So were you one of those kids that once the girl found out you could sing that became your job? E.J: I went through that phase, because even till this day I don't have "Game" when I was younger I was really, really shy. So singing was my way to say what ever it was I wanted to say with out saying it.

E.J: When I first heard the track it made me want to have sex, my goal in going into this track I wasn't going to be sexual, but sensual. First off I’m a single parent, I have a son to raise. There are certain things I don't want him saying, and if I don't want him saying it, He sees me writing, he listen to all my music, he knows all the words I want to teach him what it seem a lot of people don't know today how to talk to a woman. It seems to be a lost art. Everybody is so quick to jump in the pants. That’s what this project is about. Just being truthful and honest about the ups and downs, good and bad of a relationship. Just because we beefing don't mean we breaking up it just mean we had a moment and we moved past it. Everything just had a moment I’m sorry, you’re sorry that don't mean it’s over. Are you single right now?

Do you embody a whole other person? E.V: I wouldn't say that I just think through my performing and writing that is the purest form of me Are you still shy? E.J: No, I'm just very laid back. If you are not passionate about what you're doing, you can’t expect others to be. What was the concept behind " Gone”? E.J: I lost my keys Like car keys? E.J: The theory behind "Gone” is very simple. Sometimes you find times you find yourself in a relationship and you don't realize that

E.J: I’m single because it is very hard to find someone who can appreciate my hustle and my grind. This is something that I’m very passionate about and that means sometimes I may not be able to give you the attention that you need right then and some women are not built for that.

 


Get it together! Spring is almost here! If you are one those people who have fallen off the New Year resolution band wagon, what better motivation than to get it together than warm weather and your favorite spring outfit. You know what? What better than to do it for improved health, more energy and a better quality of life! Let's Go!

Understanding Exercise-Induced We It is common knowledge that exercise burns calories and helps you to shed extra pounds. Armed with this knowledge, many people think that losing weight should be easy with enough exercise. You may take this as bad news, but the truth is that for those who aren't used to exercising and are out of shape, beginning an exercise program may actually lead to weight gain. This fact, however, shouldn't stop you from exercising, as you'll eventually turn the weight corner and start losing. What is it about exercise that may cause some people to gain instead of lose weight?  Muscle Mass: One of the main reasons exercising can lead to weight gain is that it promotes the growth of muscle mass. If you are not used to working out and haven't used certain muscles regularly, after exercising your muscles will be sore and will increase in size. While you may burn off fat, muscle is denser than fat. Therefore, the weight you gain is in your muscles. And take heart. Since muscles take up less space than fat, your extra weight doesn't necessarily translate to larger size. In fact, once you start working out, you'll probably become thinner, even if you maintain your previous weight. Instead of using a scale to determine if you are slimming down, have your body fat tested regularly or measure your body at certain areas. 

If you see that you're losing inches, then you know you're on the right track. Cardiovascular activities like walking, running, or swimming will encourage the growth of lean, toned muscles. Other activities such as weight lifting promote the growth of larger, stronger muscles that contribute to weight gain. But there is good news in this. If you stick with the exercise program, your muscles will soon stabilize in size and after a time, become toned. After your muscles are strong and able to handle more strenuous workouts, you will be able to burn calories faster. While it may be frustrating and disappointing to see the scale go up after starting an exercise routine, it shouldn't stop you from exercising. You may just be building muscle faster than losing body fat. This can be especially true if you're genetically prone to building muscle fast. The key is to incorporate plenty of cardio exercise in addition to strength training. That way you will burn plenty of calories during your routine and be more able to shed pounds.  Eating Habits: When you work out and burn calories, your body will feel the need to replace those burned calories. This may make you feel hungrier than usual, which can cause you to eat more than normal - sometimes without knowing it. A good idea is to keep a food journal to track of the actual number of calories you are consuming. You may also end up eating more calories and justifying their consumption since you're exercising. After a good workout, you may see an ice cream sundae as a reward for the calories you burned. Just be careful. If you're interested in losing weight, you can't simply break even with your caloric intake and the amount of calories you burn. At the same time, eating too few calories can be counterproductive and slow your weight loss. Without enough calories, your body may slow its metabolism. So eat plenty to keep your body well fueled, but choose healthy calories that will help your body recover after a workout and grow stronger. Hydration: Depending on the time of day you weigh yourself, the scale may read differently. Your weight can


fluctuate as much as five pounds depending on the amount of water or food you have recently consumed or the amount of water you have shed in sweat. It is therefore important to weigh yourself at the same time each day. My exercise programs are specifically designed to produce results quickly.

Creamy Low Fat Tuna Salad Most recipes for tuna salad call for fat-filled mayonnaise, but this recipe uses fat free Greek yogurt instead. You get all the creaminess without added calories to set back your results. Servings: 5 Here's what you need... 2 (5oz) cans wild albacore tuna, packed in water 1 cup fat-free Greek yogurt 2 Tablespoons champagne mustard 1 teaspoon dried dill weed, plus more for garnish dash of freshly ground pepper 1 green apple, shredded 2 cups green cabbage, shredded 4 cups organic mixed greens 1. Drain the tuna and flake in a medium bowl. Add the yogurt, mustard, dill and pepper. Mix until creamy and well combined. 2. Add the shredded apple and cabbage. Mix well. 3. Arrange mixed greens on plates, then use an ice cream scooper to place the tuna mixture. Sprinkle with dill weed. Nutritional Analysis: One serving equals: 140 calories, 1 fat, 210mg sodium, 13g carbohydrate, 2g fibers, and 20g protein. 

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April 2012 Astrology

Libra Horoscope (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): You may feel your work is overwhelming; the chaos is out of control, there's no time or place

Aries Horoscope (March 21-April 20): What relaxes and comforts you is most important because you could be feeling exhausted and somewhat drained due to being in the shadows (like Pisces) for months on end. This is not a usual place for Aries. Dreams are vital, study calms, and understanding the five stages of meditation enables your mind to come to experience peacefulness. Study Patanjali. Taurus Horoscope (April 21-May 21): Whether or not you created goals for 2005 it's time to think of some now. They will involve groups of people who are interested in humanitarian pursuits. A study of the United Nations is good. Even though they are in hot water due to difficult transits, the UN's original purposes are still intact. A website to study is http://www.purposeful.org/. Gemini Horoscope (May 23-June 20): You may need to work or study extra hours to maintain equilibrium. You may also need care where money is concerned so that you don't fall into feelings of poverty and irresponsibility. Tend to things private and behind the scenes. You may also be very tired. Sleep more and tend to the plant kingdom

outside of the work world, and that a daily routine such as yours cannot continue. All the above are true. You MUST do more exercise, drink green tea, and eat with more continuity. Check in with family for stability. Scorpio Horoscope (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): You would like a clearer vision of what a good relationship looks and feels like without having to be excessive in your care for others or being swept away by passions. A dropping of hindrances and barriers to your feeling level will determine the depths you allow in relationships. For the next several months tend to women friends and to children. They bring comfort. Sagittarius Horoscope (Nov. 22-Dec. 20): Security may be your main issue in the months that follow. Whether it's the security of monetary enterprises, security of home and family, or basic security concerning locks and bolts to your doors and windows, all are important. Your home environment needs a clean sweep, a deep feng shui, and a few new sources of light. Have you seen the Hamalayan Salt Crystal lamps? They ionize.

Cancer Horoscope (June 21-July 20): Travel, if not foremost in your mind, should be. There's something about other places and people that assist you in being very present in daily life. On the other hand, perhaps its time to study a series of subjects you're deeply interested in, yet have not had the confidence to begin. Make one decision now. The next will follow. If you follow through.

Capricorn Horoscope (Dec. 21-Jan. 20): You are simply taking care of others this month and possibly the next. And if you're not, then someone's taking care of you. For the one who's serving, take solitary time for yourself. For the one being served, rest and relax and don't think. Write letters, email, draw and listen to music. Don't discipline anyone. For the server, when are you going to schedule

Leo Horoscope (July 21-Aug. 22): Intimacy is not an easy subject to

time to be alone? Let others cook for you.

write about or to share with others. But this subject is most important to explore with another. Power struggles often emerge when intimate sharing (feelings, money, experiences, needs) isn't allowed to occur. There is much to learn yet about the self and the other. Where do you begin? With trust in the process.

Aquarius Horoscope (Jan. 21-Feb. 18): You need ease, comfort, beauty, art, and all things that care for your physical, emotional, and mental bodies. You need coddling, to be indulged, and purred upon (Leo, your opposite sign). Ask for this, seek it, buy it and then you can give it. Extravagance isn't easy. But it's a must sometimes

Virgo Horoscope (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): It will be important to be comforted by what surrounds you like objects and people you're accustomed to. Without them you may feel quite un-nurtured. This leads to non-nourishment, which leads to being ill prepared for daily life. Do all that is necessary to maintain communication with love ones. And tell the truth about finances.

Pisces Horoscope (Feb. 18-March 20): Taking care of oneself, especially a Pisces, is not first agenda on your list. But it must begin to be. The daily ups and downs you're feeling are due to the need for less chaos and disorder, more organization and immense amounts of culture. You have permission to be upset if necessary. Open the windows and turn on the lights.


Ohio Missing Children

   

Miriam Bryanna Harris

Brittany Cordova

Missing from:

Missing from:

Cincinnati, Ohio

Cleveland, Ohio

Missing since: 12/25/2011

Missing since: 12/16/2011

Missing age: 15

Missing age: 16

Current age: 15

Current age: 15

Date of birth: 6/24/1996

Date of birth: 12/20/1996

Gender: Female

Gender: Female

Race/Ethnicity: Black

Race/Ethnicity: Asian

Height: 5'2"

Height: 5'5"

Weight: 150 lbs

Weight: 160 lbs

Hair color: Brown

Hair color: Black

Eye color: Brown

Eye color: Brown

Cincinnati Police Department at (513) 352-3542.

Cleveland Police Department at (216) 621-1234.

J'Mon Davis

Nickname or alias: J'Mon Jennings Missing from: Youngstown, Ohio Missing since: 2/4/2012 Missing age: 15 Current age: 15 Date of birth: 7/20/1996 Gender: Male Race/Ethnicity: Black Height: 5'7" Weight: 160 lbs Hair color: Brown Eye color: Brown Youngstown Police Department at (330) 742-8916.



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