8.1.3. Effect on therapist The circular effects also made me more confident in my role. My inner voices had prompted me to go in different directions; I was sometimes tempted to offer active consolation and advice, other voices encouraged me to keep on listening attentively and acceptingly. The more I got feedback, during the research process as to the value of the latter, the more confident I became in my listening approach. But it should not be denied that my original ideology, as apparent in my choice of literature and how I selected ‘voices of others13’, was also a strong factor. The assumption behind the first research question can therefore to some extent be considered a self-fulfilling prophecy.
8.2. Second Research Question What is ‘the quality’ the listening stance?
Such a stance may be described by pointing to six aspects. These are presented separately for the sake of clarity. In reality they are all intimately related and occur in one gestalt.
8.2.3. Non interruption I let Meercat take the lead, deciding what to talk about and how, and was careful not to intervene or interrupt as long as she seemed to be engaged in her talking. This stance may make space for sorting out confusion and develop new voices thereby making it possible for them to be ‘mentionable’. This stance also places responsibility for work on the client. Change, as in evolving understanding, is her job and option, and she is offered room to do it. At this point a therapist may encounter the temptation to “clear up” things, by doing this kind of sorting herself. The stance discussed here may encourage withstanding such a temptation
8.2.4. Acceptance I, as the therapist showed acceptance in various ways, not only by limiting my own verbal activity, but also by showing warmth in my body language and facial appearance. A point in this respect might be that such an attitude cannot by definition be action only of will, it must be spontaneous to be perceived as authentic.
From the voice-resource-bank, page 17.