whereas before when I first started to come to counselling I think it overtook me” And later: “I am able to…go home, shut my door, put music on soft and think about nothing, I can’t remember a time when I was able to do that, really. ”
And concerning my lack of verbal communication, Meercat said: “..lets be honest Anna, if you’d talked more, I wouldn’t have been able to talks as much! So, (laughter) and that's what I had to do in the past, just keep talking and talking.”
Later: I mean it has been at least..18 months, there was virtually no interruptions, there was the warmth there was, you know the feeling that you were there, but you just let me go, and I don't think as much would have come out had you done it different and I think its only as I…as I've been allowed to handle little things at a time, myself, that you've talked more. 7.5.2. ‘How to go on’ Reflections, after the 4th RD At this point Meercat got a full time job and it became difficult for her to give priority to the research project. I decided to finish our work, concentrating on writing down the present report. My wish had been for Meercat and me to make a summary together to evaluate what had come out of the research project. However, I now realized that this was surely more ‘my’ project than hers. Meercat and I made an appointment so that Meercat could read what I had written and make her comments12.
See Epilogue p. 65.
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