understanding’ , because I was the one who had made the punctuations, and extracted the words, utterances and expressions. Anna’s understanding of the 1st RD •
Meercat needs to have the space to: waffle on without being stopped, carry on without making sense, repeat in the flow of the conversation, go over the same again, go back and forwards. Tell the never ending story.
How Meercat wants to be met: Let her talk without intervening or stopping her. Not move to something else, intervene or use power to decide what we are going to talk about. Not act superior or authoritative. Be sensitive to Meercat’s various needs, and sense when she is raring to go on. Interact when Meercat needs. Look at her as a person, her emotions, body language and the whole concept. Be able to discuss if surroundings change.
When she is met like this, Meercat feels: warmth, love, trust and confidentiality. She feels rooted, valuable and in a place she is understood, at various needs at various times. That she is listened to when her mind is jammed and emotionally upset. She feels she is not put down or condescended. That Anna reads her.
Meercat’s experience of ‘results’ from therapy: She is able to express her doubts, speaking it out, question herself, look for approval, sort little by little, but in the end decides for herself. And she is noticing that there is always something extra that comes along unexpected. She feels able to go home and deal with one or two things, go home and reflect on herself and the session. She doesn’t feel so drained.
Meercat is concerned with some issues: Is she using the sessions in a useful way? Is it ok to use the sessions to talk about a mix of different issues? Is it too much for Anna, and can she (Anna) make sense of what is going on?
Published on May 9, 2011