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THE NEW RULES

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It’s 2019 and the wedding game has changed – here are the new rules for wedding guest etiquette

o social affair has changed and evolved over time quite like the humble wedding. The do’s are now don’ts, the don’ts are now do’s and we’re all just a little lost! So in 2019, when brides can wear suits and weddings have a hashtag, what are the new rules for being a wedding guest? We review the new rulebook and let you in on a few little secret plays. APPROPRIATELY ATTIRED The age-old rule still applies: no white. Even if the bride isn’t wearing white – or there is no bride at all – you should still avoid this colour. But with that small exception, your outfit options are wide open. If there is a specified dress code, stick to it and as a general rule, err on the side of formal, rather than too casual. This season soft palettes make for a bold look.Think pastels, lace and floaty silhouettes. Feminine dresses and floral prints are perfect for a beautiful outdoor wedding – just don’t forget your sunglasses! But if you think the men wear the pants, think again. For a more daring look, try a jumpsuit or power suit in a pastel colour. Bardot tops, culotte jumpsuits and fluid striped palazzo pants are stylish, modern wedding attire. And the best part? You’ll be able to bust some serious moves on the dance floor later in the evening! PLUS ONE? Newsflash: weddings are expensive little affairs! So if the bride and groom haven’t specified that your invitation also extends to June 2019

your significant other then don’t bring them. Simple. Don’t ask the bride, it puts her in an uncomfortable position to have to say no. If you do score a plus-one invite then be respectful. Your plus one should generally be a long-term partner. Casual dates, new boyfriends and best friends are fun, but not appropriate to take with you. Your bride and groom shouldn’t have to pay to feed Adam from Tinder who you met for the first time over espresso martinis last weekend! If your plus one is named on the invitation, don’t substitute them for someone else. And remember, there are exceptions to every rule but make sure you speak to the bride well in advance and remember, it’s her day so what she says, goes! THE LITTLE RUGRATS You might love your little cherubs, and I’m sure the bride does too, but that doesn’t mean that they belong at a wedding.This is a very personal choice that sits with the bride and groom. If it is a child-free wedding then get a babysitter for the night and enjoy yourself. If your children are welcome, ensure that they have snacks, toys and activities to keep them busy. An iPad with a full battery and lots of games should do the trick! NAVIGATING THE MENU Welcome to 2019, where labels are everything; gluten-free, dairy-free, coeliac, lactose-free, vegetarian, vegan, paleo… oh and allergies to just about everything. Catering to the masses is a nightmare! 16

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The trend these days is veganism, so is it offensive to serve meat at a wedding even though a lot of guests are now passionate vegans? And vice versa: if the bride and groom are both vegan, is it rude to not serve meat to guests? If you have dietary requirements, ensure the bride and groom know well in advance so they can inform the caterers.This is not a time to be difficult;“I prefer chicken to pork” is not a dietary requirement, it’s a pain in the you-know-what. At the wedding, quietly check with the wait staff that your meal is correct to avoid any mishaps. As for the open bar? Go easy girl. Yes, free champagne is the best champagne but slow down, sloppy drunk is not trending this wedding season. SMILE FOR THE CAMERA One of the buzzwords in the wedding industry is ‘unplugged’. No, it doesn’t mean we’re going electricity-free and sitting around a campfire but it does mean that electronic devices are banned, particularly during the ceremony. Phones, iPads and cameras should be left on silent in your bag. Let the professional photographers – who your bride and groom have paid a huge amount of money for – do their jobs and capture the moments. Sit back, be present and actually enjoy the moment for what it is and not through a lens! Oh, and if the bride and groom have a wedding hashtag, use it! It’s a modern way for them to share all the special moments together #happilyeverafter

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