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The Magazine of the Greater San Diego Business Association | San Diego’s Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce | Volume 18 |Issue No. 6 |November/December 2012

Why We San Diego GSDBA Celebrates its Favorite Places

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or this issue, we asked several members to name some of their favorite spots around San Diego for food, wine, shopping, and just about anything else that spells “good times.” We would like to know about your particular favorite hotel, restaurant, coffee shop or place to hang out. Email me at and I’ll keep a list so we can include more selections in upcoming magazines. I’ve mentioned before how important tourism is to our local economy. And when you increase LGBT tourism to San Diego, it benefits a number of businesses, not just those directly related to the usual ones you might think of. With the higher cost of luggage on flights, more tourists are picking up items in town. They bring their pets. They recreate too strenuously and need a massage or chiropractor. And of course they frequent restaurants, bars, and shops not only in Hillcrest but also in other

neighborhoods. Finding them is our goal. To that end we developed our tourism website: and an app so tourists can load it on their favorite electronic device and refer to it while they are here. In the coming months we will be adding some exciting features to our tourist website that can be of value to you as well as your out-of-town guests. Hotels, restaurants, bars, and tourist attractions will be able to post video or pictures and offer discounts there. We’ll keep you informed as the tourism website develops and our outreach efforts to bring more LGBT visitors to San Diego expand. We’re teaming up with Palm Springs, San Francisco, Portland and Seattle to grow all of our tourist markets in the west. Spread the word!

Welcome New Board Member,

Sacha Mackels of Del Mar Financial Partners

Contact Us Mailing Address P.O. Box 33848 San Diego, CA 92163 phone: 619-296-4543 | fax: 619-296-5616 email: | web: GSDBA’s Community Connection Magazine 3737 Fifth Avenue, Suite 205 San Diego, CA 92103 Volume 18 | Issue No.6 | November/December 2012 Complimentary Copy Copyright© 2012-2013 GSBDA

GSDBA’s Community Connection Magazine serves to promote GSDBA member businesses, local and regional LGBT travel & tourism, and affiliate chamber and community organizations, as well as businesses and attractions of interest to our readers. DISCLAIMER: Opinions expressed in this publication, advertisements and inserts do not necessarily reflect the opinion of GSDBA, its Board, or its members. Publication of the name, photograph or likeness of any person, organization or business in this newsletter is not to be construed as any indication of the sexual orientation of that person, organization or business. Contents of this publication may not be reprinted in whole or in part without written permission from the editor.

Sacha Mackels co-founded, built and is cofacilitating the Thursday Morning Bankers Hill BNG. Sacha is a Financial Advisor with Del Mar Financial Partners, and he is passionate about helping people make smart choices about their money. Sacha helps his clients assess and understand their overall financial situation, and provides comprehensive financial solutions including asset management, risk management and investments. Sacha grew up in Belgium and lived for 8 years in New York City., and has made San Diego his home for the last 8 years. Prior to his career as a financial advisor, he spent many years as a successful fitness trainer, both in New York and San Diego.

Look for the 2013 Directory this January!



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BOARD OF DIRECTORS Tom Welch, Board Chair Pacific Commerce Bank

Thank you to our Corporate Partners and Supporters

Danielle P. Barger, Vice Chair Barger Law Group, APC Rebecca Luers, CPA, Treasurer Luers & Dyer CPAs, LLP Justin Knepper, Secretary Bank of the West Christianna Connell future-ink Deborah Dimery HelmsBriscoe

Danielle Barger

Lance A. Grucela Ira Leavens Coastline Office Solutions Cindy Lehman California Bank & Trust

Eric D. Brown

Sacha Mackels Del Mar Financial Partners, Inc. Stacey McKibbin ActionCOACH San Diego Jeri Muse, PhD Kalin Myers Distancia Events Keith Robinson The Dana on Mission Bay Jessy Sauchuk Belladia Marketing and Design Nick Toledo TSYS Merchant Solutions

GSDBA STAFF Eric Carroll Communications Manager  att Harding M Association Representative Tom Luhnow Chief Executive Officer Jen Silverwood Administrative Assistant Sue Sneeringer Operations Manager

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San Diego

Locals Share Some of San Diego’s Coolest Neighborhood Favorites


an Diego is a city of unique neighborhoods with their own individual style and flavor. Kensington is as different from East Village as that is from Pacific Beach. Charming, fun, urban and sometimes edgy – There’s something for everyone in these modern villages. Our diversity is what makes us great – and that diversity is reflected in our neighborhood restaurants, bars and shops. You may find an Ethiopian restaurant next to an Irish Pub next to a gay nightclub – and everyone pretty much gets along. The favorite ‘gayborhood’ is Hillcrest, with its giant rainbow flag and an assortment of gay-friendly bars, restaurants, and shops who cater to LGBT people and all that are hip and open-minded. San Diego is a BIG place with fun and vibrant neighborhoods that are changing all the time. When I travel to a new town I want to hang out with the locals and see the city from their perspective. So where do you find the real hotspotsthose tried-and-true favorites? Ask the locals. They’ll point you in the right direction and even tell you where to find the secret parking spots. Here are some of our favorites:

********************* THANKS TO OUR FEATURE CONTRIBUTORS Christy Scannell Dora Guillen Eric Carroll Matt Harding Mike Acker Rick Cervantes [6]


Crowds enjoying December Nights

Holiday Happenings So what if it doesn’t snow here and it’s still 79 degrees in November! You can still have a fantastic holiday season complete with shopping bags, white elephant gifts, and sore feet.


Feel like enjoying a little green holiday Grinchiness? The Old Globe presents San Diego’s beloved winter-time favorite, Dr. Seuss’ How the Grinch Stole Christmas. (November 17 through December 29th) Don’t forget to ask about your GSDBA member discount! If you’re just itchin’ to bring out your bedazzled reindeer sweater and enjoy a funnel cake the size of your head, December Nights happens Saturday & Sunday, December 7th & 8th. Live entertainment, food, craft, and holiday cheer. Check out the International Houses for well-priced regional cuisine and an assortment of regional adult beverages you’ll find no place else. (Beware of mixing glogg and latkes)


Join hip urbanites as they patronize some of the coolest shops and restaurants in town during South Park’s Holiday Walkabout. It’s like a cash mob with craft beer. Free trolley service. Saturday, December 1st 6-10 p.m.


This annual event proves we can all get along. Chili + shopping + handmade ceramics + craft beers + crafts + live music = 2012 SoNo Park Holiday Fest & Chilipalooza. Sunday, December 2nd 11-6 pm, Thorn & 32nd Streets.

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If sipping champagne is on your agenda, no place delivers it with more class than the Grant Grill Lounge at the U.S. Grant Hotel. Glide in SundayThursday from 4-7 p.m. for terrific discounts on crafted cocktails and other drinks in addition to the bar’s decadent small plates such as oxtail rigatoni and bacon-wrapped duck paté. lounge

SOUTHPARK Bring your dual personalities to the place where street taco meets tempura at Juan Chou. Just go and find out. Trust me. 3023 Juniper Street


You’ve been for the view, now go for the value at Bertrand at Mr. A’s. Every Monday through Friday from 2:30-6 p.m., the bar offers an extensive list of discounted cocktails, wines by the glass and beers. Don’t miss the Kobe beef sliders and truffled fries! Tip: Portable heaters are available year-round, just ask a server to light one for you.

NORTH PARK Want to re-live that quaint British pub you loved on vacation? Ritual Tavern has all the charm plus gourmet, locally sourced food. Craft beer, boutique wines and live music add to the experience. Daily happy hour from 4:30-6:30 p.m. gets you a buck off taps. 4095 30th Street & Polk

UNIVERSITY HEIGHTS If you have not been back since the renovation,, hitting Lei Lounge is a must! Sunday brunch is a hit again serving brunch items and festive drinks in their popular stem-less martini glasses. The patio décor is new and inviting with no more private booths. The two fire pits have been updated with the colored glass and the entire patio is surrounded by a umbrella-like canvas, with floor to ceiling ivy and Buddha statues. Once you’re seated, it’s like taking a vacation in another city. The bar has oversized TV’s behind the servers with aquatic photos that are calming. You will decompress your stress just by being there!


BUYLOCAL zen vibe in little italy

Holiday shopping shouldn’t be a bummer. And frankly, I’d rather get something fun in my white elephant gift bag instead of a Snuggie. Here are some of my favorite holiday gift sources: The gift shop at the Mengei International Museum (1) has a wonderful assortment of hand selected gifts, jewelry, treasures and books from all over the world.


Unique furniture and gift items, original artwork, men’s and women’s jewelry and clothing and really cool home accessories greet you at Junc Life & Style (2)

UNIVERSITY AVENUE FAVORITES Check out Babette Schwartz for cards, novelties, sassy T’s and all the bacon-related ephemera you can handle. Hillcrest Ace Hardware has some of the best and most practical gifts around. (Did I mention I need a new toolbelt?) And of course there’s the absolutely yummyscented Cathedral (3) for all your illuminated needs - AND they carry Jonathan Alder ceramics as well as a wide range of modern home accessories.

FIND THEM HERE: Babette Schwartz 421 University Avenue Cathedral 435 University Avenue

Vitreum 619 W. Fir Street 619-237-9810


idden along Fir Street just east of Piazza Basilone you’ll find a wonderful shop tucked into a restored Victorian. Vitreum is small on space but big on restrained, elegant style. They feature minimalist, functional designs, and handmade items - tea sets, bonsai, incense and more. Beautiful gifts at reasonable prices and a warm and welcoming staff always greet you.

a rare bird is a good find


here are a few places I will travel off the beaten path for a great deal. One of them is Rare Bird Consignment House in Mission Hills. Proprietor Kelly Kraus runs this unique consignment shop specializing in gently used, new, and antique furnishings, and home and garden accessories. Inventory changes daily, so visit often and buy it if you love it. Open 7 days 10-5

Hillcrest Ace Hardware 1007 University Avenue


Junc Life & Style 2209 Fern Street, South Park Mengei International Museum 1439 El Prado, Balboa Park

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The Range has a new home at 1220 University Avenue adjacent to the former “Eden” nightclub (Now simply named 1202) at 1202 University and Vermont. Rumor has it there’s gonna be a mechanical bull. Watch out urban cowboys! Thank you to Chris and the staff of Babycakes for making it socially acceptable to have a cupcake and a Cosmo at the same time. Sunday is just packed to the gills with the Sunday T-Dance crowd. Friendly baristas and the oh-so gorgeous everywhere you look. I’m not complaining.

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Consignment House

1918 Ft Stockton Dr 619-450-6500

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Matt Does

Pacific Beach by Matt Harding, GSDBA Association Representative

The best cheap and easy lunch on the go can be found at ŒPapa Luna’s. Authentic empanadas for less than $4 and oh so tasty. Located on the way to the beach.



Looking for an incredible brunch, lunch or dinner in PB? Try JRDN at Tower 23. It’s upscale but not pretentious. Escape the rowdy crowds and enjoy the great views of Crystal Pier and the Pacific Ocean, not to mention there’s also surfers and Navy recruits training on the beach! I rarely eat fish, but this has become a staple. ŽPacific Beach Fish Shop is cheap, extremely fresh and fun. Counter service for eat in or buy it to take home and cook yourself. Always busy, friendly crowd and don’t miss Dollar Oyster Night!

FIND THEM HERE: Papa Luna’s 1404 Garnet Avenue JRDN at Tower 23 723 Felspar Street


Pacific Beach Fish Shop 1775 Garnet Ave (Corner of Garnet & Kendall)

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ctually, one of our favorite neighborhoods technically isn’t a neighborhood at all. Adams Avenue stretches west to east through some of San Diego’s most diverse neighborhoods – from University Heights, through NorthPark to Normal Heights to Kensington and beyond. A portion of it is even dubbed ‘Antique Row’ for the myriad of eclectic stores that line the street, along with coffee houses, bars, restaurants and small shops. If you like to play a few games with your pitcher, make a stop at the Triple Crown Pub on Adams Avenue for the usual suspects like pool and ping pong plus darts and shuffleboard. And a large smokingfriendly patio! Plus every NFL game broadcast on multiple TVs.

Hanna’s Gourmet is the best of both worlds – stop by the cozy café in the heart of Antique Row for an inventive breakfast, lunch, or dinner, or choose from the delectable catering case and take some salads and cookies with you. Either way you will find yourself tantalized by Hanna’s gift for preparing world cuisines. Make a point to stop at this place at least once a week to see what’s new and fabulous. Stuff Furniture Consignment Shop is constantly changing with unique, one-of-a-kind, restored and repurposed pieces including antiques, garden ornaments, desks, bookcases, original art, and more. If you enjoy a bit of kitschy 50’s era nostalgia with your corned beef hash and eggs, Antique Row Café is for you. This Hollywood-themed local haunt has back-to-basics burgers, great salads and homestyle favorites with friendly service and always a breakfast crowd on weekends. (Try the Texas Burger, but make sure to leave time for a nap and a long jog afterwards)

FIND THEM HERE: The San Diego Region’s LGBT Travel Guide brought to you by GSDBA - The Greater San Diego Business Association

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Antique Row Café 3002 Adams Avenue Hanna’s Gourmet 2864 Adams Avenue Stuff Furniture Consignment Shop 3514 Adams Avenue Triple Crown Pub 3221 Adams Avenue

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Crest Cafe Celebrates 30 Years

& Gives the Community a

New Landmark


here is a new mural on Robinson Avenue that is turning heads at the Crest Cafe. This new Urban Art Installation utilized textures and colors that change as the sun passes overhead and now activates the largest empty space found in the immediate area. An employee of the Crest Cafe, Tom Gochenour, came with the idea to the owner, Cecelia Moreno, with the intention to erect the mural to commemorate the 30th Anniversary. “Cecelia took this idea to the next level,” said Tom. “I mentioned it to her in April and by May she had selected the artist, Cody Griffith, by June she had a raffle to see which of our customers would be immortalized in the mural, and by July it was finished. Tom added,“I am incredibly thankful to the entire Moreno family for full-heartedly supporting this idea. The entire community now shares this gift as the cafe hits this great milestone.”

(upper right) Crest Cafe owner, Cecelia Moreno with Tom Gochenour greet you at the bar. (upper left) The new mural by artist, Cody Griffith, adorns the west exterior wall on the alley off Robinson Ave b. 4th and 5th.

welcome to

Mo’s Universe

Put on your space suits and let’s have a cocktail! Does everything Chris Shaw touch turn to foodie gold? Well, yes. With four awesome, fun, and festive establishments under his belt, we’re waiting to see what Mo’s Universe does next. Meanwhile, if you have friends come to town, you may never need to leave this popular group of restaurants for your three square meals a day. And they even have a shuttle to transport you between the venues. How cool AND green! They’re colorful, they’re fun, they’re Urban Mo’s. An adult playground where you’ll have the best time on any given afternoon, and an even better time in the evening while serving up the Best Burgers in Town! Perhaps the perfect trifecta for a Sunday afternoon indulgences includes Gossip Grill, Baja Betty’s and Hillcrest Brewing Company. All are within a block of

each other in the heart of eastern Hillcrest. Decked out with feminine inspired, post-Dada art and serving up Happy Hour 7 days a week with a side of American Comfort Food that will send your taste buds dancing. Gossip Grill Serving colorful people colorful drinks and a hearty plate of Mexi-fresh cuisine, we showcase over 100 tequilas on our shelves, ensuring there’s always something new to tickle your tongue. Baja Betty’s The World’s First ‘Out and Proud LGBT Brewery’ is where we specialize in handcrafted beer and stone oven pizzas with bottles, growlers & kegs to-go. Hillcrest Brewing Company. Travel to Mo’s Universe - we promise you’ll become a fan.

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(clockwise from left) 1. Chris Shaw in front of the Gossip Grill marquee in Hillcrest. 2. The women of Gossip Grill are back-n-black and having a great time. 3. Someone please throw this duck a life preserver or a tiny straw! (center) A flight of craft beers and fabulous flatbread at HBC. 4. Boys and beach balls at Urban Mo’s. Where’s Annette Funicello when I need her? 5. The house made lean turkey patty burger and fries.Yum.


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s it turns out there there are a ton of great productivity apps designed for business owners to make some of the the most mundane tasks more bearable but at the very least, quicker and easier to complete. The following is a list of five productivity apps I really like and personally use with my business. Some of them are mobile apps (apps that you download onto your mobile device) and a few are web-based apps (apps that you access through a web browser on your computer or mobile device). All of these apps work on both the iPhoneTM and AndroidTM smartphones. 1) Evernote (Mobile/Web App) - One of my all-time favorite apps! Get organized, reduce paper clutter and increase productivity with this incredibly versatile application. Looking for an extension of your brain so you never forget anything? You’ve found it!

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Entrepreneurs If you’re an entrepreneur, chances are you probably own a smartphone of some kind and maybe even a tablet. But turning these “pocket computers” into a productivity tool as opposed to an expensive toy to play games or waste time can be quite a challenge. And with the thousands of apps available for download, how do you know which ones are worthwhile?


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2) FollowUpThen (Web App) - Have you ever read an email but can’t deal with it for another two hours? Forward it to 2hours@ and you’ll receive an email reminder in two hours! Go to for more information and all the combinations that are available. 3) Pixlr (Web App) - Want to modify a photo but don’t want to spend a ton of money on a photo editing program? Pixlr is a free service that has a ton of functionality and is perfect for the more advanced user. You can access this service at 4) LogMeIn (Mobile App) - Have you ever wished you could access the computer back in your office because your forgot something? LogMeIn allows you to do that not only from another computer but from your mobile device as well! This is a free app and there is a nocost option but if you want more advanced features, there is a yearly fee. 5) 1Password (Mobile App) - Do you struggle trying to find all of your passwords? Worse yet, do you use an Excel spreadsheet to keep track of them all? 1Password not only stores all of your passwords in an extremely secure and encrypted manner, it will generate random passwords for you and will even store credit card info, banking info, and any other information you need hidden away. The mobile version is $14.99 and the computer version is $49.99. * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * Kevin Wunderly is the President of Innovatus Consulting and helps the owners of small businesses optimize their processes, workflows and simplifies the integration of technology for dramatic growth.






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Here is your Cleaning Tip for the Day: 1. Pinch off as much of the sauce, or whatever you dribbled onto your shirt, using a napkin. 2. Place a cloth or paper napkin directly underneath the stain, inside the blouse or shirt. 3. Apply water (Club Soda would be better) with another napkin or cloth using a dabbing motion. (try not to spread the stained area) 4. Check results 5. Repeat using a fresh area of napkin and adjust the napkin underneath 6. Check results Through this technique, you are “extracting” the spill in both directions and minimizing its permanent staining qualities. Of course some fabrics such as Silk or Suede require more professional techniques and applying water could aggravate the stain. For more Helpful Tips go to: Article provided by Peter “Pete” Peterson Business Development Phone 619) 726 4780 Visit us at: Like us on


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CityBeat Celebrates 10 years of Progressive Journalism

“Ten years. It’s an eternity and a split second. CityBeat’s first issue came out on Aug. 21, 2002, and it seems like a lifetime ago, and like yesterday.” So said David Rolland in his “Editor’s Note” in CityBeat’s recent 10th-anniversary issue. “One of the reasons CityBeat started was that no local mainstream media were providing progressive perspectives,” Rolland continued. “There’s a liberal alternative weekly in every large city in the country, and in most college towns, as well. But San Diego’s dominant weekly, The Reader, was—and still is—an anomaly in our industry; it doesn’t do liberal opinion. So, we stepped in, and I’d like to think that, as time passed and more and more people came to know us, we’ve increasingly made a difference. At the very least, we’ve voiced opinions that had been missing in the local press. Who knows, maybe we’ve even helped get some people elected.” The Aug. 22 “Editor’s Note” went on to list CityBeat’s top 10 passions, one of which was LGBT rights: “Marriage equality is the civilrights issue of this era, and CityBeat is proud to have been a vanguard in the battle against those who want to deny same-sex couples the same rights afforded to heterosexual couples. It’s fascinating that those people can’t look into the future and see themselves as equal to the bigots who fought against interracial marriage.” CityBeat is the essential alternative weekly print and online guide to San Diego, and the best way to reach a diverse, open-minded audience. Our readership relies on us to find out where to go, what to do and how to get the inside scoop on what’s happening in Greater San Diego, each and every week, all year long. With many multi-media advertising options available with your GSDBA member discount, CityBeat can build an advertising package that best fits your budget and goals. Whether it’s print, web, email blasts, social media or events, we have what it takes to increase your bottom line and get new business through your doors. CityBeat is a proud member and Corporate Partner of the GSDBA! -Jason Noble, San Diego CityBeat Media [18]

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Full Speech Ahead! Vocal Variety, Part II Q: I’ve been told that I ought to use more vocal variety, but this doesn’t come natural to me. What can I do? - W.L., Tierrasanta, CA


aving good vocal variety and using it in the right places in your presentation can make all the difference between being big news and being a big snooze!

When I’m coaching, I encourage the use of what I call the Seven Variants of Vocal Variety. These are simple things that one can work on varying to make a moment in your presentation different from the one it follows. Some might be incorporated into the same sentence while others might be a whole section done a certain way, especially if you’re creating a character to differentiate individual speakers in a story. Let’s look at the seven points, from simplest to those requiring more practice:

by Milo Shapiro, Professional Speaker and Speaking Coach

1.Volume. It may sound simple but some people don’t vary this factor. I don’t want you screaming at your audience or making them strain to hear you, but boosting volume can point out passion for a word or phrase vs. lowering volume to convey softness and ease on a topic.

2. Pitch. Singing is not the only place that pitch is important and luckily, with speaking, you don’t even have to be “on pitch”. You just have to vary it. Whether you tend to have a high- or low-pitched voice, you are capable of going higher and lower than you typically do. Try saying the following phrase all in the same pitch and then again saying the italicized words at a somewhat higher pitch: “We don’t sell like that and I can’t imagine why we’d want to!” See how that sentence sounds more lively that way? I’d bet you increased your volume a bit as well, which is great, too (unless you’re reading this column in a cubicle…)

Let’s try saying this example all at one speed and then again picking up the pace of the italicized portion and then finishing the phrase extra slowly: “A key to customer loyalty - and this is especially true with women - is to show you’re really listening.” If your pitch went up in the middle too, good for you! Why is this effective? Because the return to the slow-down for that last phrase now makes it seem more significant. There’s so much to say on vocal variety that I’ll save the other four points for our next column. ********************** Milo Shapiro, interactive motivational speaker and speaking coach/trainer, is the author of “Public Speaking: Get A’s, Not Zzzzzz’s!” More at on Milo’s coaching & training. More at on his speaking and teambuilding. Submit questions for his column to

3) Speed. Some of us naturally speak faster than others and that’s okay, so long as you’re not losing the audience members who might not keep up. Yet too slow…and some attendees, especially younger ones, will lose interest. The key again? Variety.

Looking to develop speaking and leadership skills?

Win that big client? Ignite your career? The GSDBA now has its own Toastmasters club. A Toastmasters International meeting is a learn-by-doing workshop in which participants hone their speaking and leadership skills in a no-pressure atmosphere. There is no instructor in a Toastmasters meeting. Instead, members evaluate one another’s presentations. This feedback process is a key part of the program’s success. Meeting participants also give impromptu talks on assigned topics, conduct meetings and develop skills related to timekeeping, grammar and parliamentary procedure. All of this in a positive, LGBT-friendly environment. Please join us as a guest at our next meeting to see what GSDBA Toastmasters is all about and how you can become involved.


The group will now meet every Thursday from 5:30 - 7 PM at the Inn at the Park Restaurant (street level) at 525 Spruce Street, San Diego, CA 92103 . There will be no meetings on GSDBA mixer nights.

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In case you hadn’t heard, our own Tracy Paye and Bill Bailey won the TMI area contests for best Tall Tales Speech and Best Evaluator. Both will represent the group in the district competitions and hopefully beyond! Not bad for a group only 6 months old!


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community connection The Thursday Morning Bankers Hill BNG Networks at Wang’s North Park

Thanks to all of our dedicated GSDBA member volunteers who help hand out Directories at the street festivals throughout the summer. Great job!

The gang from the Tuesday Morning BNG group at Tom Sol Cafe in Mission Hills enjoy an afterwork-hours evening of networking and mixing. Thank you, Seekey, for your hospitality!

The 2013 Directory Cover is Revealed!

Congratulations to Ana Jimenez of Flock Studios (pictured left) for her award-winning design for the 2013 Directory Cover Contest. Her design was unveiled at the Bahia Sternwheeler mixer this September.


Bravo! to GSDBA’s AIDSWalk Team for a great job on September 30th. Go team!


photos by DawnDee Photography


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Tel: (858) 362-1348






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The Wiz

Wednesday, November 14th 7pm- 134 minutes

Hedwig & The Angry Inch

Wednesday, December 12th 7pm - 95 minutes FilmOut Showings take place at the historic

Birch North Park Theatre

2891 University Avenue, San Diego 92104

Dia De Los Muertos All Saints’ Day an annual event put on by

La Vista Memorial Park 3191 Orange Street, National City, CA 91950

Friday, November 2, 2012 5-9 pm Join us as we welcome, honor, and celebrate the memories of our beloved souls and dearly departed.

*** FREE ADMISSION *** food - music - art - entertainment - raffle altar contest - and more! Calling All Articassetsyo!ur

Show tations of re ar t interp s Muer tos. Dia de lo to display No fee t and/or your ar res sculptu . for sale

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Business Networking Groups (BNGs)

increasing business through qualified referrals

Monday Evening La Mesa Group 5:30 pm to 6:30 pm

Marcella Junes in La Mesa

Tuesday Morning Group 8:30 am to 9:30 am Monica’s at the Park in University Heights Wednesday Morning Group 8:00 am to 9:00 am Mimi’s in Mission Valley Wednesday Lunch Group Bankers Hill 12:00 pm to 1:00 pm Inn at the Park 525 Spruce Street Wednesday Lunch Group Kensington 12:00 pm to 1:00 pm Kensington Café 4141 Adams Avenue Wednesday Evening Group 5:30 pm to 7:00 pm R-Gang Eatery

3683 5th Ave at Pennsylvania

Thursday Morning Group 8:00 am to 9:00 am Lestat’s on Park Blvd in University Heights

The GSDBA Business Networking Groups (aka BNGs) are hard working business professionals coming together to support one another. The BNGs’ primary goal is to assist their members obtain business referrals known as “tips.” Some BNG members have been in business for many years while others are just starting out. What we all have in common is a desire to excel in what we do and the wisdom to know it is easier to achieve success with the kind of strong support system found in a BNG. BNG’s offer a forum where GSDBA members can increase their business through networking with other members on a regular basis. They offer a supportive environment that allows each member to share products or services with others who want

BNG Dues:

$45 for new BNG members $40 each trimester thereafter $110 for a full year (3 trimesters) Note to Prospective Members: If you are interested in visiting a BNG, please contact the Facilitator at least 24-hours in advance to arrange your visit. Sorry, we do not allow non-GSDBA members to present information to the group unless first approved by the Facilitator. All current BNG members must notify the Facilitator if they want to bring a guest to their BNG. Guests and prospective BNG members may visit each BNG one time prior to joining, and must become a GSDBA Member to attend after that. Thank you.

Check online for Facilitator Information @ Contact the BNG Facilitator for specific information about visiting a BNG for the first time or to see if there is a space available for your business category.

Thursday Morning Bankers Hill 8:00 -9:00 a.m. St. Paul’s Villa 2340 Fourth Ave Thursday Lunch Group 12:00 pm to 1:00pm Top of the Park @ Inn at the Park


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Professional Development Groups

where great minds think alike The Professional Development Group (PDG) program is designed to provide professional enhancement for members in the same or related professions. The focus is to support one another within a specific field and to help participants bring their businesses to a new level. The groups meet once a month. Groups include guest speakers and/or group member presentations on topics of interest. PDG Groups are FREE to GSDBA members.


REAL ESTATE & Allied Fields

HEALTH & Allied Fields


Categories Include: Financial Planning and investments, Banking, Business Brokers, Credit Card Processing, Escrow, Insurance, Loan Modifiers, Mortgages and more! Categories Include: Acupuncturists, Chiropractors, Counselors, Dentists, Health & Fitness, Holistic Health, Hypnotherapists, Massage Therapists, Nutritionists, Optometrists, Personal Trainers and more!


Mission is to administer and assist the efforts of Greater San Diego Gay Travel (GSDGT) and grow San Diego’s reputation as an LGBT friendly destination. Opportunities exist for direct involvement and free exposure opportunities. The group advises and provides support on advertising, promotion, and personal outreach both locally and across California.


Check online for facilitator contact information, meeting times and locations.

Categories Include: Ad Specialties, Graphic Designers, Photographers, Web Designers, Printers, Print Brokers, Marketing, Public Relations. More info @ GSDBAMAG

Introducing the Tourism Development Group

With a focus on small business owners with 2 to 20 employees.

The Young Professionals Affinity group helps groom and foster the next generation of young professionals into seasoned and mature leaders to take their organization or department to the next level.

Categories Include: Cleaning, Landscaping, Painters, Handy Persons, Contractors, Roofers,Organizing Services, Decorators/Designers, Architects, Plumbers, Electricians, Remodeling, Cabinet Makers, Lighting, and related trades.

MARKETING  & Allied Fields (MAG)

Groups Included are: Appraisers, Escrow, Home Inspectors, Mortgage Brokers, Real Estate Agents, Banks, Title Companies and related businesses.

for GSDBA members

This group is open to any member in good standing, whose business caters to visitors of San Diego, including but not limited to retail, hospitality, hotels, restaurants, bars, lounges, spas. Interested members should contact Matt Harding ( or 619-316-0706) for the next meeting information and to learn more. Meetings are 2nd Wednesday of each month from 4:30 – 6:00 pm. Meetings will alternate between phone conferences and in person meetings.

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For You? Your totaL Print reSourCe

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