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MAY 2017



By Margaret Thompson-Shumate

t’s a warm lazy evening .Suppertime has passed and the children in my neighborhood have gathered together to decide which games they want to play before the sun goes down and it’s bath and bedtime. Shall we play video games, computer games, send some texts, watch some YouTube episodes, check the latest hits on ITunes, or explore some new Apps on our Smart Phones? Hold it! Wait just a minute! This


an Buehrer of Archbold, Ohio has been hired by the Rufty-Holmes Board of Directors as the new Executive Director of the Senior Center effective July 1, 2017. She will replace Rick Eldridge who is retiring after serving thirty years as the first and only Executive Director of the

is 1956. None of these devices have been invented yet. Guess we will have to make our own fun – so it’s back to the drawing board for game suggestions. Most of our activities were enjoyed on sidewalks (yes, we did have sidewalks back then) and occasionally in the street if the traffic allowed and we were extra cautious. We could choose from Hop Scotch, Red Rover, Stop Light, and many others including one of my favorites – Mother, May I? One person would be the mother or captain. The other

non-profit organization RuftyHolmes Senior Center, Inc. Buehrer has eleven years of experience as a manager at two different senior centers in Ohio. At the non-profit Sylvania Senior Center, she oversaw the design and construction of a new 21,000 square foot center. Later, she managed the City of Kettering Senior Center, which involved over 3,000 older adult participants. Both centers are comparable in size and scope to Rufty-Holmes. In addition to her work experience in senior centers, she has eleven years of additional

players were the “children”. The mother/captain would stand on one end of the sidewalk and face away from the others who would stand in a side-by-side line. The children would take turns asking the mother/captain, may I ____? (making a movement suggestion). For example, one might ask, “Mother/Captain, may I take five steps forward?” The mother/captain either replied, “Yes, you may or No, you may not, but you may_____instead and insert his or her suggestion. The players would usually move closer to the mother/captain,

experience with other non-profit organizations: the Southwestern Ohio Hemophilia Foundation, the Archbold Chamber of Commerce, and her current employer, Fairlawn Retirement Community, where she serves as Development & Community Services Director. Nan has been active in the community life of the areas where she has lived in Ohio, having moved multiple times with her husband’s career. Currently an active member of the Archbold Rotary Club, she also recently co-chaired the City of Archbold’s 150th Birthday Celebration festivities.

but were sometimes led farther away. Even if the mother/captain made an unfavorable suggestion, the players still had to perform it. If the player forgets to say, “May I?”, he or she has to go back to the beginning line and start over. The first player to reach the location of the mother/captain won the game. That player would then become the mother/captain and the original one would become a child/player, and a new round would begin. Oh, what great fun we had taking giant steps, baby steps, Continued on page 2

Buehrer and her husband, Neil, will be moving to Salisbury over the next few weeks. They have three adult daughters, two of which already live in North Carolina. She was chosen from among nineteen applicants for the position. Buehrer states, “Rufty-Holmes Senior Center is an impressive organization, which values innovation and a commitment to excellence. I am thrilled and Continued on page 2


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Mother, May I? continued from page 1 umbrella steps (either forward or backward), hopping like frogs, taking Cinderella steps (which included twirling), crab walking, jumping, etc. Just imagine all this excitement and pleasure with NO electronics required! These were truly wonderful times for me and my neighborhood friends. Now, let’s talk about “real” mothers. After all, this is May and the month we are supposed to honor them. Personally, I have always proclaimed that mothers should be recognized and honored EVERY day and not just one day a year. I was richly blessed to have had a wonderful, amazing mother (Grace). It has been nearly twenty years since God took my mom home to live with Him in heaven. Not one day goes by that I don’t wish I could have just one more day with her. If that would be possible, I would

sit down with her and confess my innermost thoughts and feelings, and tell her all the things that I should have said before – but failed to. I would like to say to her: “Mother, May I tell you what a wonderful and caring mother you were to me and my siblings?” “Mother, May I say how proud I am of the life you lived and the influence you made in my life?” “Mother, May I gratefully acknowledge the many sacrifices you made for your family and loved ones?” “Mother, May I remind you of your big heart, unselfishness and generosity toward everyone you knew?” “Mother, May I say what your faith in God and your devotion to Him meant to me and how it instilled in me the desire and drive to do my best to follow in your footsteps?” “Mother, May I tell

Grace you how happy I am that you are at peace and resting with our Lord?” “Mother, May I assure you of my undying love and appreciation for you for always?” And finally : “Mother, May I offer to you and all other Christian mothers my heartfelt wish for a very Special and Happy Mother’s Day!”

New Executive Director continued from page 1 humbled for the opportunity to provide leadership support with the staff to benefit the residents of Rowan County, NC. My husband and I are excited to put down roots, and become actively involved in the larger community.” Rufty-Holmes Senior Center is regarded as North Carolina’s flagship senior center, being the first in the state to be certified as a “Senior Center of Excellence,” and the first


in North Carolina to become nationally accredited. It provides programs and services for Rowan County older adults designed to extend independent living and enrich their overall quality of life. It is a Rowan County United Way Agency, and serves as an agent for Rowan County in providing senior services, as well as an agent for the City of Salisbury in providing recreational programs for older adults.

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What Would Mom DO?

Jan McCanless


pouse has always called me a ‘free spirit’, my college professors called me a free thinker, the kids just think of me as nuts, and Mom, well, Mom would call me her ‘difficult’ child. Now, I pride myself on being someone who always does the right, sane thing; certainly a ‘free spirit’, but, not someone who goes outside the law, --- until now! Here’s what happened. My BFF Camille and I had our ‘girls week out’ recently, and this year, we went to Wilmington, to partake of all the things the coast has to offer; great shopping, the beach, terrific food, and wonderful entertainment. Well, let me tell you about the night at the theater we enjoyed while down there. Seems my friend Camille had procured some seats for as at the world famous Thalian Hall theater. A beautiful place, lavishly appointed, with top entertainment. We bought tickets to a play that, unbeknownst to us, was being

performed in the little theater portion of the Hall, not the big, plush theater the place is noted for. We donned our glad rags, and headed out for an evenings entertainment. Once at the Hall, we were directed upstairs to the little theater, where we took semi comfortable chairs, and then watched as the audience came in. The first person was a young woman of college age, tattoos all down both arms. She was followed by a man, barefoot, with several holes in his face where his pierced jewelry protruded. They were followed by people in various stages of undress or “questionable” dress. No one in the audience was over 25, or anywhere close to our age. I leaned over and asked Camille if she was sure about the play, it didn’t look like “our” crowd. Oh yeah, she said, the play was highly recommended to her, and we were lucky to have tickets. Being the happy go-lucky being that I am, I gave her the benefit of the doubt, and settled in for what I hoped was a wonderful theatrical experience. Boy, was I wrong !! We were only 3 rows up from the stage/floor area, and the actors were all over us, so, we sat there and listened to lousy music, I forgot to mention that it was a

musical, the name of which shall remain only with us, terrible acting, awful singing, and nasty words my mother would never have allowed me to hear, much less utter. I knew when the male actors began to take their pants off that we were in trouble. Mercifully, intermission arrived, and I suggested we ask for our money back, the play was absolutely the worst thing I had ever witnessed. She felt the same. We left the little theater, and discovered that the play in the ‘big room’ was also on intermission, so, Camille wanted to show me this beautiful theater and how handsomely appointed it was. While the patrons were in the lobby drinking champagne, we ducked into the theater to look around. It surpassed our greatest expectations, and yes, it was gorgeous. Just before we left to find the box office and our refund, I asked her what did she think would happen if we just sat down and watched the 2nd half of the opening night of “Gypsy”, a wonderful presentation of one of Broadways biggest hits. The theater looked pretty full to me, but, as the audience began filing back in for the 2nd half, suddenly, I found myself in a seat, and motioned for Camille

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to join me. This marvelous production was terrific, with great songs, accomplished acting by semi pros, and fabulous sets. The cost was double what we paid for our seats in the little theater, but, we sat there mesmerized as the story continued. When it was over, we walked out the door, elegantly dressed, just as if we belonged there; What an adventure, and once we got back to my car, we collapsed in laughter. Now, for the big question, what would mama do? Well, she’d probably tell me I was wrong, advise Camille and I to go for recreational therapy of some kind, remember, Camille is the friend who cheated at Scrabble last year during our “girls week out”, then, she’d go into another room, shut the door, and laugh her head off! I had a very understanding mama, and Camille did also. So, I considered our little escapade as a tribute to these 2 fine women who had the good sense to give birth to us. Did I tell spouse or my children? Absolutely not, why spoil a good thing! So, to all you free spirits out there, I wish you many many exciting adventures, and a Happy Mothers day to boot!



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It was 6 p.m., and I was about to leave the coin laundry where I was employed. My boss called me over and asked if I would mind dropping off someone’s laundry on my way home. “It’s for my cousin,” she said, “who is eight months pregnant and can’t get out much anymore.” I cheerfully agreed and, driving to the address, knocked at the door. A little girl, the sister-to-be, answered.

A nearby camper marveled to the youngsters’ father, “That, sir, is some display of teamwork.” The father replied, “I have a system... no one goes to the bathroom until the camp is set up.”

Kids Get In Free A little boy came home eating a big candy bar. Seeing the candy bar, his mother remembered he had already spent all his allowance money. Surprised, she asked him where he got it. “I bought it at the store with the dollar you gave me,” he said.

“Hi, there,” I said with a big smile. “Is your mommy home?” Holding up the white bundle of clothes, I explained, “I have a delivery for her.”

“But that dollar was for Sunday School,” his mother replied.

The child’s mouth dropped, and her eyes went wide. “Mom!” she shrieked, “come quick! It’s the stork!”

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Communication Chain When a customer left his cell phone in my store, I scrolled through his saved numbers, stopped at “Mom” and pushed send. His mother answered, and I told her what happened. “Don’t worry,” she said, “I’ll take care of it.” A few minutes later, the cell phone rang. It was “Mom.” “Martin,” she said, “you left your cell phone at the convenience store.”

Fourth Quarter My husband, a big-time sports fan, was watching a football game with our grandchildren. He had just turned 75 and was feeling a little wistful. “You know,” he said to our grandson, “it’s not easy getting old. I guess I’m in the fourth quarter now.” “Don’t worry, Grandpa,” Our grandson said cheerily. “Maybe you’ll go into overtime.”

Happy Campers A loaded van pulled in to the only remaining campsite. Four children leaped from the vehicle and began feverishly unloading gear and setting up the tents. Two of them rushed to gather firewood, while the other two and their mother set up the camp stove and cooking utensils.

Smiling, the boy said, “I know, Mom, but the Pastor met me at the door and got me in for free!”

Two engineers were standing at the base of a flagpole, looking at its top. A woman walked by and asked what they were doing. “We’re supposed to find the height of this flagpole,” said one, “but we don’t have a ladder.” The woman took a wrench from her purse, loosened a couple of bolts, and laid the pole down on the ground. Then she took a tape measure from her pocketbook, took a measurement, and announced, “Twenty one feet, six inches,” and walked away. One engineer shook his head and laughed, “A lot of good that does us. We ask for the height and she gives us the length.”

Do Not Talk to the Parrot Rhonda’s dishwasher quit working so she called a repairman. Since she had to go to work the next day, she told the repairman, “I’ll leave the key under the mat. Fix the dishwasher, leave the bill on the counter, and I’ll mail you a check. Oh, by the way don’t worry about my bulldog. He won’t bother you. But, whatever you do, do NOT, under ANY circumstances, talk to my parrot! I REPEAT, DO NOT TALK TO MY PARROT!!!” When the repairman arrived at Wanda’s apartment the following day, he discovered the biggest, meanest looking bulldog he has ever seen. But, just as she had said, the dog just lay there on the carpet watching the repairman go about his work. The parrot, however, drove him nuts the whole time with his incessant yelling and name calling. Finally the repairman couldn’t contain himself any longer and yelled, “Shut up, you stupid ugly bird!” To which the parrot replied, “Get him, Spike!”

Counting Sheep Accountant: “Doctor, I just can’t get to sleep at night.” Doctor: “Have you tried counting sheep?” Accountant: “Yes, and that’s the problem! I make a mistake and then spend three hours trying to find it!”

Numbers Lesson The math teacher saw that Daphne wasn’t paying attention in class. She called on her and said, “Daphne! What are 2 and 4, and 28 and 44?” Daphne quickly replied, “ABC, CBS, HBO and the Cartoon Network!”

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eals on Wheels of Rowan elected new Board members, Mike Menius Libby Post, and Rob Miller to three year terms. Menius, Post and Miller join members, Renee Gray, Amy Ritchie and Connie Basinger who were re-elected for three year terms. Menius is the Executive Director at Carillon Assisted Living of Salisbury. He is from Salisbury and has a demonstrated passion for the wellness of seniors. Carillon leaders have a fine legacy of supporting Meals on Wheels with their time and talent. Tom Robinson, board vice president and chair of board engagement said, “Mike will immediately add value to our organization with his knowledge of caring for seniors.” Post is the Director of the Rowan-Salisbury School’s Child Nutrition program. She directs the child nutrition program in 32 schools across Rowan county. Post supervises menu planning, purchasing, personnel, facilities, etc. A longtime resident of Salisbury, Post volunteers with several other community groups and is committed to programs that remedy food insecurity. Pat Murtaugh, member of the board engagement committee, said, “Libby’s knowledge

of nutritional programs and professional status as a registered dietician will be a significant help to Meals on Wheels. She is passionate about insuring no one goes hungry on her watch! “ Miller is Senior Relationship Manager-Assistant Vice President in the Granite Quarry office of F& M Bank. He has been in banking for 18 years. Miller grew up in Spencer and currently he and his wife and daughter reside in Rockwell. Miller also serves on the Granite Quarry Revitalization Committee. Board Engagement

chair, Tom Robinson said, “Rob will be a terrific addition to our board of directors. His knowledge of business and finance will insure that we develop efficiencies and continue to maintain the highest level of financial stewardship.” The Board also recognized outgoing board member, Charles Goodman, for his efforts on behalf of the home-bound senior, disabled and convalescing residents of Rowan County. Charles was the first person on the Food Lion volunteer team to

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deliver meals when Food Lion started their Meals on Wheels delivery team 11 years ago. Connie Basinger, Board Chair, said, “over his tenure, Charles has served as Board Treasurer, chair of the fundraising committee for the annual BBQ sale and as a devoted board member. We appreciate his service and commitment to Meals on Wheels of Rowan.” Meals on Wheels of Rowan is a United Way member agency and is supported by foundation grants and donations from individual donors.


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What You Can Teach Your Grandchild About Social Security By Lisa Wallace Social Security Public Affairs Specialist, Charlotte, NC

ne of the greatest gifts you can give a grandchild is the gift of financial literacy. Helping them save money early in life and showing them how to make wise spending decisions goes a long way toward a bright financial future. As they get older, they may want to save for special purchases or their college education. You can encourage them when they get their first job to begin saving for the future, including their retirement.

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1120 South Martin Luther King Blvd. Salisbury, North Carolina 28144-5658 704.216.7714 (voice) 704.633.8517 (fax) (email) MAY IS OLDER AMERICANS MONTH: Come celebrate with our events! GUITAR LESSONS: Three new classes begin Monday, May 1. Absolute Beginner Guitar will meet at 1:00pm, Beginner Guitar at 2:15pm, and Intermediate Guitar at 3:30pm. Learn or re-learn to play the guitar with instructor Bob Wingate. Bring your own guitar. The cost for either eight- week course is $40 payable to the instructor on the first day of class. New members should bring a $10 material fee. For questions call Bob at 704-640-0279. To register call 704216-7714. MIND AEROBICS ART CLASS: An introduction to mass drawing, pastels and sculpture is explained and demonstrated by professional artist Robert Toth. Explore the novelty that keeps the brain alive through the inspiration that art can give you. Monday afternoons from 2-4pm. $10 per session payable to the instructor. “BE FINANCIALLY STRONG” SEMINAR: Tuesday, May 2 at 11:00am. Make your money work for you. Budgeting to your values by Park Sterling Bank. Door prize drawing. To register contact the Front Desk at 704-216-7714. HANDMADE ALL OCCASION CARD WORKSHOP: Tuesday, May 2 at 2:00pm. Complete six handmade all occasion cards in one two-hour workshop session. All supplies will be provided. Cost is $13 per person payable upon arrival. Instructor is Daphne Houghton. Advance registration is required by calling the Center at 704-216-7714. JAM SESSIONS: Tuesdays, May 2 & 16 at 6:30 pm. Rufty-Holmes Senior Center is hosting bi-monthly Jam Sessions for individuals to play & sing Country, Folk, Bluegrass, Irish, Scottish, or any other songs the group can play together. Anyone interested in participating should bring their instruments (such as guitars, banjos, fiddles bases, dobros or bodhra’n ) and singing voices, and join for a casual get together. Any and all levels welcome. 1st & 3rd Tuesdays of each month at 6:30pm. Free and open to any interested adult. For more information call the Front Desk as 704-216-7714. BLOOD PRESSURE SCREENINGS: Wednesday, May 3 from 9:3010:30am. Free blood pressure


readings and consultation for interested older adults. Provided by retired Geriatric & Adult Nurse Practitioner Gail Kimball. A blood pressure kiosk is also available for use in the Fitness Annex anytime during normal operating hours, sponsored by Novant Health Rowan Medical Center. AARP MEETING: Thursday, May 4 at 1:00pm. The program will be “Fitness for Seniors” given by one of the awesome fitness instructors from the Senior Center. We will hear about the importance of wellness and the fitness programs available at the Center. There will be a brief business meeting. Members are reminded of their 2017 dues of $4, if not already paid. All seniors 50+ welcome. Free. Refreshments will follow the presentation. For more information call 704-216-7714. HEALTH AND FITNESS CLUB & BRAIN FITNESS: Will not have a regularly scheduled meeting this month. Participants will have the opportunity to enjoy the National Senior Health and Fitness Day program, “REMARKABLE YOU” held on Wednesday, May 17 from 1-3 pm. “I-85 LUNCHEON”: Wednesday, May 10 at 11:30am. In recognition of Older Americans Month, the Center will host its 13th Annual Luncheon to honor members of the community who are age 85+. Free and open to those 85 and older making advance reservations. Call 704-216-7714 for more information. CULTURAL CROSSROADS PROGRAM – AUSTRALIA: Wednesday, May 10 at 2 pm. Join us for a presentation on Australia by Julie Ditton, a native Australian. She will be sharing information about life in Australia as well as sharing the book Possum Magic by Mem Fox, a fun story about the Australian landscape and foods. Refreshments will be provided. Free with preregistration. To register contact the Front Desk at 704-216-7714. WALK-ABOUTS CLUB OUTING: Thursday, May 11 at 11:00am. The Walk-Abouts Club will be meeting at Gold Hill Park for a walk followed by a social gathering and a Dutchtreat lunch at Johnny’s. All former, current and prospective members are welcome! To register contact the Front Desk at 704-216-7714.

MOTHER’S DAY TEA PARTY: Friday, May 12 at 9:00am. Join us for a delightful morning tea party. You are encouraged to bring your own tea cup and to wear your favorite hat. Arabella Jane Smith from Leamington Spa, England will be joining us to talk about English Tea customs. The event is free but preregistration is required. To register contact the Front Desk at 704-2167714. Sponsored by Carriage House Teas of Asheboro, NC and The Laurels of Salisbury. “SERVICE TO SENIORS” AWARDS LUNCHEON: Friday, May 12 at noon. Hosted by the Rowan County Council on Aging with sponsorship from Park Sterling Bank and Oak Park Retirement Center. Several individuals, organizations, and businesses will be honored for exemplary service to older adults in our community. The luncheon is open to the public. There is no cost to attend, but reservations are required by calling 704-216-7714 by May 8. AARP DRIVER SAFETY PROGRAM: Wednesday, May 17 beginning at 12:30pm. Sponsored by AARP for older drivers interested in a four-hour training class in refining existing driving skills and developing defensive driving techniques. Insurance discounts are available for those completing the course. Cost is $15 per person for AARP members ($20 for non-members), payable upon arrival for class. Space is limited, so you must pre-register by calling 704-216-7714. NATIONAL SENIOR HEALTH AND FITNESS FAIR : Wednesday, May 17 from 1-3 pm. Come and join us for “REMARKABLE YOU” in honor of National Senior Health and Fitness Day. You will have an opportunity to speak with health & fitness related companies or individuals concerning health issues that may affect seniors. Blood pressure screenings, chair massages, reflexology, medicine reviews with a pharmacist, hearing screenings, blood sugar testing, heel testing for bone health, and more. Learn about the Senior Health Insurance Information Program (SHIIP). Learn about ongoing programs here at the Senior Center. Join the Brains, Balance & Agility mini-class for some fun and exercise. For those planning to participate in the demonstration class, please plan to wear comfortable clothing and supportive shoes. Be sure to join us for an opportunity to win door prizes. Please call the Front Desk at 704216-7714 with any questions.

SIT ‘N’ SEW: Thursday, May 18 at 9:30 am. Come and learn how to make a Jelly Roll Tote. A Fabric Swap & Sale will follow at 1:00 pm. Please call the Front Desk at 704-216-7714 with any questions. WATERCOLOR JAM: Wednesday, May 24 from 1:00-4:00pm. This is an open session for all watercolor painters to work on art creations. There is no instructor. Each artist must be responsible for his or her own supplies and for cleaning up afterwards. No registration is necessary. MOVIE OF THE MONTH: Wednesday, May 24 at 2:00pm. This month’s feature is “Collateral Beauty.” Retreating from life after a tragedy, a man questions the universe by writing to Love, Time and Death. Receiving unexpected answers, he begins to see how these things interlock and how even loss can reveal moments of meaning and beauty. Starring Will Smith, Edward Norton, Kate Winslet, Keira Knightley, Naomie Harris and Helen Mirren. Rated PG-13. Sponsored by Victory Wealth Management for interested older adults. Shown on our big screen, complete with popcorn and drinks. Free. (Motion picture license # 12137390). OUTDOOR ADVENTURE CLUB TRIP TO LATTA PLANTATION: Friday, May 26. Meet at Rufty-Holmes Senior Center at 8:30am to carpool to Latta Plantation to hike. Bring water, a snack, and $3 to pay the car pool driver. Dress appropriately for the weather. Participation is at your own risk. New participants will need to complete an information survey at the Front Desk. In case of inclement weather, call the Center, as the outing may be postponed. To register for this activity call 704-216-7714. NEW COMPUTER CLASSES: Please pre-register at the Front Desk or by calling 704-216-7714. Class participants may bring their own laptop or device or use one of RuftyHolmes laptops. Please indicate your choice when registering. Participants must be enrolled with Rufty-Holmes Senior Center. Beyond Facebook---Twitter and Instagram: Wednesday, May 17 from 1:00-3:00 pm. Twitter is certainly in the news this year so come and learn a little more about it along with the popular app, Instagram. You may bring your smart phone or tablet to download the apps, if you choose. Class fee is $5.00.

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Internet Scavenger Hunt: Thursday, May 25 from 5:00-8:00pm . Come have some fun seeing what all you can discover on an Internet scavenger hunt. Take a trip online, follow the clues, find the answers… maybe learn something new. Class fee is $10.00. ON-GOING EXERCISE CLASSES: Join one of 27 different land or aquatics exercise classes offered weekly at the Center. Participants must be registered with the Center and receive a fitness consultation prior to joining a class. There is no charge for participants who hold valid SilverSeakers® or Silver&Fit® supplemental insurance benefit. CHAIR MASSAGES: Twentyminute sessions are available at Rufty-Holmes Senior Center on Mondays by appointment only with Travis Alligood, LMBT. Cost is $12 per session. To schedule an appointment call 704-213-6059. Enjoy BINGO every Tuesday from 1-3pm for $1.50, sponsored by Beltone Hearing Aid Centers. Members are invited to enjoy CARD & GAME DAY Thursdays from 1-4pm. Free with refreshments.

LISTEN TO “SENIOR MOMENTS” DAILY MONDAY-FRIDAY AT 6:25am & 10:25am ON MEMORIES RADIO, 103.3 FM or 1280 AM. APPOINTMENTS FOR LEGAL ASSISTANCE: Several times a year an attorney with Legal Aid of North Carolina, Inc. will be available to meet with interested persons at the Center by appointment to provide assistance in non-criminal matters (family law, public assistance, housing, consumer protection, etc). The service is free to low-income adults age 60 or older, provided with regional funds from the Area Agency on Aging. For information, and to schedule an appointment, call the NC Legal Aid office at 1-877-579-7562 and identify yourself as an older adult residing in Rowan County. APPOINTMENTS FOR OMBUDSMAN ASSISTANCE: Patricia Garner Cowan, CIRS-A, Regional Long Term Care Ombudsman from Centralina Area Agency on Aging, is available to answer individual questions related to long term care. Call RuftyHolmes Senior Center at 704-2167714 to set up an appointment.

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CLUB MEETINGS THIS MONTH: TOPS Chapter - Each Monday at 9:30am except May 29 Creative Needles - Each Wednesday at 9:30am R-H Computer Club - Each Thursday at 10:00am Woodcarvers Group - Each Thursday at 1:30pm Evergreen Bridge Club - Each Friday at 1:00pm Golf Association of Rowan Seniors - Monday, May 1 at 8:30am Ambassadors Club - Monday, May 1 at noon Busy Bees Crafts Club – Thursday, May 4 at 9:30am Seniors Morning Out - Thursday, May 4 at 10:00am AARP Chapter - Thursday, May 4 at 1:00pm Military Officers Association - Monday, May 8 at noon Rufty-Holmes Garden Club - Monday, May 8 at 2:00pm Better Breathing Club - Wednesday, May 10 at 2:00pm Seniors Without Partners - Thursday, May 11 at 9:00am Starry Night Quilters - Thursday, May 11 at 6:30pm National Active & Retired Federal Employees – Monday, May 15 at 1:00pm Rowan Doll Society - Tuesday, May 16 at noon Salisbury-Rowan Retired School Personnel Assoc – Wednesday, May 17 at 10:30am Sunny Days Quilters - Thursday, May 18 at 1:00pm Carolina Artists – Thursday, May 18 at 6:30pm

Senior Games Shuffleboard will be held on Friday, May 5 from 8:30am – 11:30am. Chair Volleyball is held in the Fitness Annex every Monday, Wednesday and Friday at 1:00pm. The Center and all Lunch Club sites will be closed on Monday, May 29 for the Memorial Day Holiday. LUNCH CLUBS: Rufty-Holmes Senior Center offers six locations throughout Rowan County for adults age 60 and older to gather for lunch, fellowship and educational programs Monday thru Friday. Principally funded by federal, state and local aging grants, there is no charge to participate, but donations are encouraged and accepted. For more information, call 704-216-7702. BROADCAST BINGO: Available through the Center’s Outreach Program for Rowan County older adults age 60 and older. Win prizes from sponsors by listening daily to Memories Radio, 103.3 FM or 1280 AM. Call 704-216-7723 to enroll and for more information. Free.

ASSISTANCE WITH HEARING NEEDS: For individuals who are hard of hearing and need assistance with hearing devices or telephone communication. Sponsored by the NC Division of Services for the Deaf & Hard of Hearing. Schedule an appointment at Rufty-Holmes by calling 1-800835-5302. “ARE YOU OK?” SERVICE: Sign up for free daily automated telephone safety checks through the Center by calling 704-2167704. INSURANCE INFORMATION PROGRAM ASSISTANCE: Rufty-Holmes Senior Center is the Rowan County location for the Seniors Health Insurance Information Program (SHIIP) operated by the NC Department of Insurance. Staff and trained counselors are available to assist individuals and families with impartial information on Medicare supplemental and prescription drug plans by appointment. Call 704216-7703 for more information.

Men’s Young at Heart Group – Wednesday, May 24 at 11:30am GOLD CARDS: Rowan County residents age 62 and older can obtain passes to attend home Rowan-Salisbury Schools athletic, musical and drama events free of charge. These can be obtained at the Front Desk at the Center with a photo ID. GENERAL INFORMATION & ASSISTANCE: Staff members are available to assist individuals and families with general information and assistance in utilizing various community services available to older adults. If you have a need, call the Center’s Information & Assistance Program at 704-216-7700. NEED A RIDE TO THE SENIOR CENTER? THE CITY BUS SERVES THE SENIOR CENTER HOURLY MONDAY – FRIDAY ON ROUTE # 1. FOR INFORMATION CALL 704-638-5252.

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A pain in the…neck discuss my personal health issues—you show me your surgery scars, and I’ll show you mine. But it occurred to me that advances in medicine may not be known to everyone, keeping many from seeking relief. Before going farther, I’ll enter this disclaimer. I am not a doctor, although I have worked extensively in the medical field. By: Bill Ward I am writing from first-hand experience about arthritis. Before you do anything, consult your sually I write about primary care provider. She can grammar and writing, or politics, things that plague advise you on a good treatment program. Also, make sure of us every day. what procedures your insurance But for now, I want to share will cover. something different concerning I was first diagnosed with a nagging health problem that degenerative arthritis of the many people choose to live with, spine at age 37. It began with because some are not aware a common back ache. I had of a treatment for it. Old folks some special tomographic used to call it “the rheumatiz” X-rays made, a precursor of or rheumatism. Today, we call it today’s CAT scans. The X-ray rheumatoid arthritis. Physicians who specialize in treating arthritis films showed a loss of small deal with 100 various types of the segments of anatomy in specific vertebrae, and a considerable condition in different parts of the loss of bone tissue in certain body. vertebra. We also saw evidence I’ve never liked to publically


of degenerative disc disease, in which the disc between different vertebrae was in a stage of collapse or degeneration—parts of the discs were just disappearing, typical of severe spinal arthritis. At the time, I was working in a large hospital. One of the doctors I knew well was an orthopedic surgeon specializing in spine work. He had me come to his office for cortisone injections about every six weeks for a year. I finally told him that I got as much relief from drinking a well-known brand of whiskey as I did from the injections. That’s when we decided to do surgery. He did a multi-level spinal fusion in the lumbar (lower) region. After a recovery period of several weeks, I felt much better. Fast forward several years, and I have had five more spine surgeries and two concurrent surgeries to harvest bone grafts. My last, and

probably most extensive, surgery was done by a neuro-surgeon to place two metal rods in my back attached to the lower thoracic and upper and mid-level lumbar vertebrae. The immediate aftermath was uncomfortable, but after a reasonable rehab-recovery period, my pain level was reduced to almost non-existent. A by-product of severe spinal arthritis is spinal stenosis. The spinal canal begins to grow inward due to arthritic changes, getting smaller and compressing the spinal cord. If not diagnosed and treated in a timely manner, the stenosis can lead to serious problems causing paralysis of a limb and other conditions. Now the neck pain. Two years ago I began experiencing a steady cramping pain in the muscles at the back of my neck and along the tops of my shoulders. The pain became a constant ordeal that pain medication hardly touched. I went to my primary physician who ordered X-rays of my neck and also a CAT Scan. The neck images showed advanced stages of arthritis in my cervical spine. Three vertebrae were fused into a solid block of bone. I was referred to an orthopedic surgeon whose specialty is spine work. He viewed my X-rays and CAT Scans, and told me I was well beyond surgical relief. He referred me to a physiatrist, a physician who specializes in physical therapy and pain management through injections. I returned about two weeks later and was placed on my side on an X-ray table. My neck was cleansed, and I was draped as if for surgery. After injecting some numbing solution high up on my neck, he guided a longer needle down to just above the spinal nerve root of one vertebra. Then he injected pain medicine over the nerve where it exits the vertebra. He moved down my neck, repeating the procedure at three other vertebrae. I rode my motorized wheelchair back to the patient’s waiting room, where I had to wait 30 minutes. Did it hurt? Of course it did. But most of us have experienced worse. The immediate pain is minimal when you consider the outcome. Within just a few hours, I felt much better. By the next day, my neck felt much better than it had in several months. Two weeks later, I returned for another series of injections. The doctor cancelled a third series, because I was relatively pain-free. These injections are not a miracle cure. You may have some recurrent pain that you can control with standard pain medicine and muscle relaxants. But your pain level will be much lower than before the injection treatments. Bill Ward has a bio-medical engineering and a radiology technical background. He also is an MIT-trained technical writer and editor. He has taught technical and business writing for adult professionals at Queens University in Charlotte. Contact him at .


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Crustless Spinach Quiche

Mother’s Day Pie



1 tablespoon vegetable oil

1 cup white sugar

1 onion, chopped

2 tablespoons all-purpose flour

1 (10 ounce) package frozen chopped spinach, thawed and drained

1/4 teaspoon salt

5 eggs, beaten

6 tablespoons butter, melted

3 cups shredded Muenster cheese

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

1/4 teaspoon salt

3 eggs

1/8 teaspoon ground black pepper

1 (12 fluid ounce) can evaporated milk 1 cup shredded coconut

Directions: 1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Lightly grease a 9 inch pie pan. 2. Heat oil in a large skillet over medium-high heat. Add onions and cook, stirring occasionally, until onions are soft. Stir in spinach and continue cooking until excess moisture has evaporated. 3. In a large bowl, combine eggs, cheese, salt and pepper. Add spinach mixture and stir to blend. Scoop into prepared pie pan. 4. Bake in preheated oven until eggs have set, about 30 minutes. Let cool for 10 minutes before serving.

Directions: 1. Preheat oven to 325 degrees F (165 degrees C). Generously grease and flour a 9-inch pie plate. 2. In a medium bowl, mix together sugar, flour, and salt. Stir in melted butter and vanilla extract. Add eggs one at a time, mixing well after each addition. Mix in evaporated milk followed by coconut. Pour mixture into pie plate. 3. Bake in preheated oven for 35 to 40 minutes, or until custard is nearly set and a knife inserted near the center of the pie comes out clean. Let cool, then refrigerate before serving.


Do you have a favorite recipe that you’d like to share with our readers? If so, we’d love to have recipes that are easy, healthy and are smaller in proportion – just right for someone cooking for one or two. Please send your recipes to OR drop them off at the front desk of Rufty Holmes Senior Center to Cindy Nimmer. Thanks and we look forward to seeing what you’ve got cooking!

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ost Christians who have read the Bible know where to find the scripture referred to as “The Great Commission;” (Matthew 28: 39): Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” There is another “GREAT” in the New Testament Bible and it is referred to as “The Greatest Commandment;” (Matthew 22: 37-40) Jesus replied, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and Greatest Commandment. And the second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself. All the law and the prophets hang on these

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two commandments.” Young children in Christian churches are expected to learn the Ten Commandments in the Old Testament. But during their study, the First Commandment is referred to as the most important one. As an adult when I started reading the Bible, certain verses caught my attention and began to speak to me personally. When the Lord called me to speak in churches and travel for Christian Women’s Clubs, the “ Great Commission” became a very important verse; I accepted

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it as God’s call for me. Healing comes through sharing our discomfort, pain, and our Christian beliefs. Healing also results through putting the past in the proper perspective, living in the present, and looking forward to our eternal life in Heaven. There is a quote: “No pain, no gain.” I know I have went through a lot of pain in the many episodes of physical therapy intended to put the puzzle in my life back together. I’ve often wondered why God chose to allow some of the negative events that have changed my life time after time. But God knew all that I would experience throughout my life even when I was in my mother’s womb. He has given me good times and bad ones and there’s not much that surprises me anymore. In August 2016, I had another episode of unexpected pain and once again I had to go to the hospital by ambulance. The pain started unexpectedly while I was sitting outside reading on Wednesday evening and continued until the following Monday night at 10:00 PM. At the hospital, nothing appeared to be wrong so it was decided that I had either pulled a muscle or cracked a rib while “playing” in the yard that day. It had been a beautiful day and my brother helped me do some work in the flowers. We had some laughs and ate lunch together; I had felt fine after he left. Personally, I believe it was a small flare-up of the multiple sclerosis. Why did this have to happen? The only answer I have is that it was a learning experience for several of us. Because I have remitting/ relapsing multiple sclerosis, I am aware that sometimes things that I do may cause a large or small exacerbation. The pain medicine helped for about 3-hour periods as it was diagnosed to do. But at the end of the six-day period, the pain stopped as suddenly as it had started. I try to control my emotions

during these traumatic episodes, but I find myself no longer able to be the “me” I want to be! I heard a preacher talking about our faith being strong in the beginning and end times of our troubled lives. But sometimes during that “middle time,” our faith may take a nose dive. The week I was writing this I experienced another fall from my power chair, but with the help of the First Responders I did not have to go to the hospital. (THANKS TO ALL!) Sometimes when I bend over in the chair, it gets harder for me to push up. As I tried so hard to sit back up, I slid to the ground. When I am down, I’m like “dead meat” and cannot get up alone. This was one of those times I was praying as I went down that I would not break anything like I did during “my summer time” in 2015. I heard a preacher talking about our early faith in hard times and in the end times. Some of us deal well with the negative events. I know, and most folks who have known me through these trying times, also know my faith was very strong in the beginning and I believe it will be in the end! When I read this story to my very special friend, “the Other Linda,” she reminded me of a poem she had once read called “The Dash,” written by another Linda (Linda Ellis). Headstones show the birth and death dates of the deceased. There is always a “dash” between the two dates. In this poem, the “dash” represents the lifetime that took place between the birth and death of the deceased. There are times during “the middle,” when our faith may dip real low. I seem to be in one of those relapsing periods of wondering and asking questions. I get frustrated “wasting my pain” feeling sorry for myself. I remember there have been worse times. I know others suffer even worse and I am blessed to have most of what I need to see me through this time “in the middle.” None of us know how long “the middle” period will last in our disabled lives, but we need TO KEEP THE FAITH!


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HAVE YOU HEARD? from a physician, physician’s assistance or nurse practitioner is received. Definitely want to get it right when filing a claim with Medicare. Thursday morning’s key note presenter was Shelly Chadha, MBBS, MS, PhD, Medical Officer with the World Health Lorin S. Oden Organization (WHO). She is Au.D., FAAA from the University of Delhi, Doctor of Audiology India. She spoke about WHO program for Prevention of ay is Better Hearing Deafness and Hearing Loss. This Month! As promised is a huge initiative especially last month, I would like considering the vast rural areas to share with you the wonderful world-wide that do not have experience I had at the American access to audiology or medical Academy of Audiology conference services. She was a fabulous that was held in Indianapolis in presenter. April. I was introduced to work Reconnecting with friends of Curtis Alcock several years and colleagues is always a ago and watched his YouTube pleasure but this year’s sessions videos when he spoke at the were filled with a plethora of International Conference on new information. I was able to Hearing Loss in 2012. I was complete 18 hours of continuing so excited that he was at our education. That meant of a lot convention and spoke after Dr. of sitting and for those that know Chadha. He is an audiologist me that is a difficult task. To from the UK. The title of his maintain my board certification presentation was “The Science of I am required to complete more Being Repulsive”. Quite an odd continuing education hours title for a session at an audiologist than North Carolina requires. I conference. He has helped me was pleased to log in 15 Tier-1 rephrase how I talk about hearing hours, 3 of which were in Ethical challenges. We scare people Practices towards my board aware when we talk about certification. hearing loss. My patients do not Arriving Wednesday I arrived in have “hearing loss” they just time to attend a 3 hour session on have sounds that are no longer Medicare Guidelines and Coding. in their hearing range. It is my Remember Medicare only responsibility to get those sound covers diagnostic audiometric back into their hearing range so evaluations completed by an speech can be understood. This audiologist that are medically may or may not be done with the necessary and when a referral use of hearing technology. He


is funny and very accurate in message. I was thrilled to see work being done on replacing the standard word recognition test in quiet that we currently use with speech in noise testing. Jane and I do speech-in-noise testing in the office However it is not the gold standard nor reimbursed by insurance. Additionally, a clinical test is in the works that measures cognitive energy needed for speech understanding. We talked last month about the importance of working memory. I am hopeful to have this tool available soon. It will help us explain why some folks do so well with hearing technology while others continue to struggle. It will also help us set appropriate expectations when developing a hearing rehabilitation plan. The last session I attended Saturday morning was on cerumen management. Wax removal falls within our scope of practice. I have been cleaning ears for years but it is always good to review the last techniques and see what new equipment is available. I know my limits and will refer to ENT when needed. The conference was not all sitting and learning. My college buddy Maria and I attended the Indianapolis Indians baseball game. Their stadium is right across the street from the convention center which was convenient. The Indians are in

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the same division as our Charlotte Knights and beat the Toledo Mud Hens. We are still trying to figure out what a Mud Hen is. In 2008 the audiology conference was in the Charlotte. That year they scheduled a 5K run at Freedom Park that I ran. I was running much more then but due to a foot injury and arthritis in the hips I stopped. The convention center in Indianapolis is adjacent to the White River State Park so they scheduled another 5K. When I saw this I was determined I would run that race as well. The foot is better; the hip pain comes and goes. The registration fee for the run was a donation the Audiology Foundation which provides support for education, research and public awareness of audiology and hearing science. So at 6 o’clock Thursday morning, in the dark, 40 degree windy morning I completed the run. Meeting one of two goals, I was quite proud. Beth, Jane and I would be proud if you would help us celebrate May is Better Hearing month by calling 704-633-0223 to schedule an appointment. We look forward to seeing you soon. For more information or to schedule a hearing evaluation, contact Dr. Lorin S. Oden at Hearing Solutions of North Carolina, 464 Jake Alexander Blvd. W., Salisbury, NC 28147 704-633-0023


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A Walk on the Beach? Really?

Louanne Stanton


was told once that grief is like a tidal wave. You don’t see it coming, or worse yet, you do see it coming and there is nothing you can do except watch it coming for you as you stand helpless, unable to get out of its path. The grief then swallows you whole and takes you under the dark, cold water. You are tumbled in the debris filled water and get bumped and bruised as you struggle to get to the surface. You scrape your body against the sharp coral and other unseen objects on the ocean floor. You don’t know

which way is the surface so you continue to hold your breath, not knowing how much longer you can go on… And then, you are spit out unexpectedly. The storm continues to rage around you, but your feet are on the beach! You are beat up, exhausted, bleeding and completely out of breath. You take a moment to look around, and nothing looks familiar. You are certain the waves could not have taken you to a foreign place, you weren’t under the water for THAT long, but nothing looks the same. Welcome to grief… As you sit, lay or stand on this strange beach I believe you have three options. You can continue to stay in your current position and just let the waves come and take you back to the ocean. Not fight it so much this time and just become one with the ocean forevermore. You could wander aimlessly

looking for something that is familiar. Try and build this beach to resemble the one you knew so well, recreate the life you had on the other beach, even though there is nothing to help you do this and you know it can never be the same as the beach you knew. The third option, and the one I highly recommend, is to build a fire and signal for help. There is help for recovering from loss, and I have been practicing it for 21 years. I have helped hundreds of people find a new way of life on their new beach. Is it easy? No. Is it for the faint of heart? No. But with the help of some friends and small and correct actions, you can recover from a loss. We did not grow up knowing how to help someone through grief, and we probably didn’t learn how to grieve ourselves because we were told myths like “It will get

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better in time”, “You need to be strong for your kids” or “God will not give you more than you can handle”. Please let me tell you that the death of a loved one, or not so loved one is the main reason people come to me for help, but we discover that grief is in life, not just death. The loss of a job, a loved one suffering with dementia, the loss of independence, the loss of a cherished heirloom, the loss of health. These things produce grief. And I help people resolve the grief that is hindering living a full life, a life where a walk on the beach may be a positive experience as you listen to the waves and know it is ok to put your feet in the water… Louanne is a certified Grief Recovery Specialist who does group grief classes as well as one on ones. You can contact her by calling 980-521-4661 or going to her website


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Four Strategies for Long Life


By Gail Poulton

ay is Older American Month. It’s no secret that staying healthy as we grow older will not only help us live longer, but also greatly enhance the quality of our years. Here are some specific steps toward that goal.

Cultivate the Positive People who are assertive, energetic, outgoing, and empathetic tend to age better. Conscientious people are also apt to live longer, perhaps because they’re more likely to take care of themselves.


Cut Calories Scientists studying people who eat 20 to 25 percent fewer calories than the amount recommended for daily energy need are finding such a diet may have a positive affect on aging. It appears to help prevent diabetes and atherosclerosis and also keep the heart functioning better.

Prevent Disease Immunizations can help keep us from dying early from diseases like flu and pneumonia. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention also recommends

adults get vaccinated against tetanus and diphtheria.

Get Moving New studies show that regular exercise contributes to longer life. Even nonexercise physical activity like housework and stair climbing counts. In one study, those with the most overall activity of any type had 25 to 50 percent lower risk of early death than inactive people.

Try the Combo Balanced diet, regular physical activity, healthy weight, and

not smoking produce a winning combination that can add years to your life, according to a new study in the British Medical Journal. In fact, following that prescription can more than double your chances of longer life. Rufty-Holmes Senior Center offer lots of opportunities to learn more about healthy diet and exercise and help you put that knowledge into practice. For more information stop by the center or call the front desk at 704-216-7714.

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Rocky Mountain Spotted Fever Basics by Katrena Allison Wells Community Nurse for Woodleaf United Methodist Church


ocky Mountain Spotted Fever (RMSF) is an illness caused by a bacterium carried by ticks. Current lab testing cannot distinguish between different types of tick-borne illnesses causing spotted fever, but RMSF is thought to be the most common tick-borne illness in this area. A few ticks may carry more than one type of bacterium, so a person may develop more than one tick-borne illness simultaneously. Over 60% of spotted fever cases in America are diagnosed in only five states. North Carolina is one of those five states. Nearly 600 probable cases of spotted fever were reported in North Carolina in 2012. Although anyone can get spotted fever any time of year, one is more likely to get spotted fever April through September, with a peak incidence in June and July. Between 2008 and 2012, over 2,000 cases of spotted fever were reported in North Carolina. Of those diagnosed with spotted fever, people aged 55 to 64 had the highest incidence between the

years 2000 and 2010. Spotted fever symptoms typically start two to fourteen days after a person is bitten by an infected tick. Common symptoms include fever, chills, headache, abdominal pain, vomiting, muscle pain, restlessness, confusion, and insomnia. The bacterium enters the lymphatic system and can cause blood to leak into adjacent tissues, potentially causing a rash and/or damage to internal organs. Approximately 90% of people infected with spotted fever also develop a red, non-itchy rash that usually starts at the wrists and ankles and then spreads. The rash tends to be subtle at onset. Some people may have spotted fever without a rash, making diagnosis challenging. Prompt diagnosis and treatment of spotted fever is important because symptoms may become severe and potentially life-threatening, even in previously healthy people. African-American males have a higher risk of serious complications of spotted fever. An antibiotic is prescribed to treat the illness; it is more effective if started before the fifth day of symptoms.

Tips for tick-proofing one’s yard include clearing brush and leaves and keeping woodpiles in sunny areas. When venturing outside into tick habitats, utilize preventive measures like wearing a long-sleeved shirt tucked into pants and long pants tucked into socks and using tick repellent. After coming inside, check for ticks on one’s body before and after showering. Check for ticks on pets, clothing, and gear that has been outside. Utilizing tick repellents with pets may offer added protection. Some people who develop spotted fever do not realize they have been bitten by a tick, which

can further complicate diagnosis. If a tick is attached to the skin, carefully remove it using tweezers applied close to the tick’s head or mouth. Pull carefully and steadily until the tick is removed and apply antiseptic to the bite area. Note the date the tick bite was discovered. This information may be helpful if you develop symptoms of spotted fever later. Seek medical attention for appropriate diagnosis and treatment if symptoms of spotted fever appear Sources: • CDC • Columbia University Medical Center • Mayo Clinic • NC Public Health Article: “Spotted Fever Illnesses in North Carolina”


MAY 2017 May 6 May 14

Thursday, May 4th 2:00 - 7:00pm

West End Plaza

1935 Jake Alexander Blvd, West Former Salisbury Mall

The Rowan County Chamber of Commerce Annual Trade Show allows over 80 exhibitors to showcase their products and services.

Come See...

Taste of Rowan – Featuring Rowan County Restaurants & Caterers! New Products & Services! New Businesses! Latest Technology! Sponsored By:

Rowan County Chamber of Commerce 704-633-4221

7 - 10:00 pm Delmonicos Band Dance Guest are welcome Bring a covered dish Closed Happy Mothers Day

May 16 May 17

1:30 pm Medicine Shop Presents: “What are Probiotics” Guest are welcome 704-636-0111

May 20

7- 10:00 pm Delmonicos Band Guest are welcome Bring Covered Dish Line Dancing Night

May 24

12:00 pm Trinity at Home Presents: Nutrition Guest are welcome Bring Covered Dish

8-2:00 pm Spring Fling Craft Fair Guest are welcome

Mark Your Calendars... Future Trips:

August 25, 2017 9:00 am Charlotte Women’s Show Watch our website for more things to come: check out active older adults or YMCA Wonders Facebook.

Want a tour/have questions call: Louise Klaver 704-636-0111

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RELAY FOR LIFE: THE LIFE YOU SAVE MAY BE YOUR OWN By Mary Knapp for Relay For Life of Rowan County


nce a year we describe our Relay For Life event because we often meet people who don’t know about it, let alone know why we Relay. Relay For Life is the fundraising arm of the American Cancer Society, and the funds raised support the mission to prevent cancer and possibly cure it through education, services, advocacy, and research. The event plans on Saturday, May 6 should provide fun activities and more serious times during the daylight and dark between 4:00PM and 10:00PM. There are things for the whole family to do, and we encourage everyone young and old to join us. There will be music, games, food, and also drawings for theme baskets and other items, and a silent auction. Our theme this year is Relay Around the World and there will be international foods and music to entertain you. The “relay” part has to do with the walking. The first to do this


fundraiser for the society, back in 1985, was Doctor Gordy Klatt of Tacoma Washington, who wanted more research into cancer. He jogged 85 laps around a track that first day and night! The next year, it was given the Relay name and so the good work began. We don’t expect any of our attendees to run or walk 85 laps around the track (unless they really want to), but there will be a Survivors and Caregivers lap as we honor those who have been diagnosed with cancer and their loved ones. Later, after sundown, there will be a luminaria ceremony for those who died from the disease. A final lap at the end of the night at about 10:00PM is part of the closing ceremony. Those who cannot walk, may take advantage of the F&M Trolley to make their way around the track. I encourage all of you reading this in time to make plans to support the cause by being at the Relay at the Rowan County Fairgrounds. Your donations for games,

food and drawing tickets will all go to fight cancer in all its many forms. New treatments are being announced often, and cancer survivors are living longer. Your dollars in Rowan County over the years have helped with these developments. On the morning of the Relay, you may be lucky enough to see some of the trucks that will parade through Rowan County—and that will also raise funds. We hope you’ve seen the posters announcing the Truckers Parade, and have become a sponsor of a local trucker by donating $200 to the American Cancer Society If for some reason you miss the Relay For Life event, support the 16th Annual Bare Bones 5K Run and Walk on Saturday,

May26. This will benefit Relay For Life of Rowan County, too. The 5K begins 8:30AM at Knox Middle School, off Mahaley Ave, Salisbury. The Fun Run begins at 9:15AM. For more information, contact You may always make a donation, especially in honor or memory of a cancer patient. Make your check payable to the American Cancer Society and mail to Attention: RFL of Rowan County, 4-A Oak Branch Dr., Greensboro, NC 27407. {800227-2345). See you at the Relay!

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There Was Nothing Left Of My Hips Man back to walking, enjoying life after hip replacement surgery


teve Riggleman didn’t need just a hip replacement. He needed both hips replaced – and sooner rather than later. “It got to where I couldn’t even walk,” Riggleman said. “I had to use two canes to walk with.” So he went to see Dr. James Comadoll at the Salisbury clinic of Novant Health Orthopedics & Sports Medicine. “Dr. Comadoll took X-rays, and there was nothing left of my hips,” he said. “He couldn’t understand how I was even walking.” Comadoll remembered the appointment well. “I told him he won the prize that day,” he said. “I see hips and knees all day long, and he got the prize. He had the worst.” Comadoll said Riggleman had very advanced arthritis in both hips. “Many times if you have one bad hip and one that’s not so bad, you can just replace one hip and you’ll be OK for a few years. But in Steve’s case, basically both hips were completely destroyed,” Comadoll said. “So it was not a

matter of if they both needed to be replaced, but how to get them both done.” Fortunately for Riggleman, he was a candidate for a small-incision, anterior hip replacement, in which the diseased joint is accessed from the front. “Many surgeons doing a single hip replacement will have the patient on their side, performing a posterior lateral hip replacement,” Comadoll said. “So you can’t do both hips at the same time, because one side’s up and one side’s down.” “With a small-incision, offtable anterior hip replacement, you can just go from one side to the other and do them both in the same setting,” he added. Because no muscles are cut, dislocation is less likely, and patients are usually up and walking the same day, Comadoll said. Recovery is also quicker. Following his surgery at Novant Health Rowan Medical Center, he had physical therapy at home for about six weeks. And within three months, he was comfortable walking

without a crutch or cane. That was about a year ago, he said, and he can now do the same things he could before his hips started failing. “I like to hunt,” he said. “Before I had this done, if I was in the woods I couldn’t even step over a (fallen) tree, even just a small tree. I had to either walk around it or sit on it and swing myself around. If I had to get across a little creek, I had to either go through it or find some other way around it.” “I couldn’t even sit on my lawnmower to mow,” Riggleman recalled. “I had to sit with both legs on one side, like side saddle, and it got to where I couldn’t even do that. But now I have no trouble doing any of that.” Of Comadoll, he said, “You couldn’t ask for a better doctor, all the way around. Very professional. He explained everything to me, what to

expect.” Just as important, Riggleman said, “he’s a very likeable man. Considerate, like a friend. It was like we had known each other about all of our lives.” Comadoll said candidates for the small-incision anterior hip replacement include just about anyone, even if only one hip is being done. People who are extremely overweight or have unusual hip anatomy may not be good candidates. As a measure of success, he points to Riggleman. “He went from a guy who was unable to walk to a guy who walks without aids – and he’s got a smile on his face,” Comadoll said. Do you suffer from hip or knee pain? First, talk with your primary care provider about what you’re experiencing. If you do not have a primary care provider, visit NovantHealth. org/doctor to find one at a convenient location near you.

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Rowan Senior Savvy May 2017  

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