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Jan McCanless


hen I was a kid, all I looked forward to was getting as many Valentines as I could, placed in that big red box the teachers always put at the head of the class. Remember those? Draped in lace, they were large enough to hold everyone’s cards, addressed to every student in class. No exceptions, everyone had to

contribute, and we did. The mean old boys always sent ones that said something on the order of: You Stink, but be my Valentine. It was us girls who sent the mushy, lovey dovey ones. When my own sons were in grade school, they balked high and loud at having to do it, but I’d go buy those large boxes of generic cards that seem custom made for the Valentine boxes, and then I’d sit them

down with pencil and a box of cards and say, write! Invariably they’d forget someone, someone they didn’t care for much, and I’d fill in for them. Boys! Honestly, you’d think they were facing open brain surgery the way they carried on. It’s different though, when we meet “the one” isn’t it? Couldn’t wait to get it home and write our love note to them. Ah, love! It was in our second




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year of marriage, I was pregnant with our first child, when spouse came home with a five pound box of candy for me. I haven’t forgiven him yet! I was certain that by the time I ‘hatched”, I’d birth a 26 pounder, thanks to that box of candy! The funniest Valentines gift I ever gave him came when I was expecting our second little boy, some three years into our marriage. I was quite obviously Continued on page 3

Margaret Thompson-Shumate


ere it is February 2019 already. An entire month has passed since you celebrated the beginning of a new year and made some resolutions for yourself. You probably joined with many others in resolving to lose some weight and to tackle some personal situations that were pouring out a lot of stress aimed at attacking your body and well-being. Well, if so, how is that going for you so far? Have you fallen prey for some of the hundreds of weight-loss products, diet plans and exercise programs seen advertised on television and in stores everywhere? You do realize that the only ones

profiting from these schemes are the manufacturers, retail stores and gym owners, don’t you? Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m very much in favor and all for physical and healthier ways to improve the body. I certainly could stand to lose some pounds and stress myself. Good news! I have stumbled on a perfect way to do just that and I am willing and thrilled to share my discovery with you and all my friends. First, I am going to tell you about an extraordinary diet plan for you to follow. This will be followed by an awesome recipe for cake. Yes, I said cake! I think eating cake is very important for reducing stress – especially this special cake. Ready, Set, Go!


(This diet is designed to help you cope with the stress that bu ilds up daily) Breakfast: 1 Grapefruit , 1 Slice Whole Wheat toa st, 8 oz. Skim Milk Lunch: 4 0z. Lean Broil ed Chicken, 1 Cup Steam ed Spinach, 1 Cup Herb Tea , l Oreo Cookie Mid-Afternoon Snack: Rest of Oreos in Package , 2 Pints Rocky Road Ice Cr eam, 1 Jar Hot Fudge Sauce, Nuts, Cherries, W hipped Cream Dinner: 2 Loaves of Brea d with Cheese, 1 Large Sa usage, 1 Mushroom Pizza, 4 Glasses of Wine , 3 Milky Way or Snickers Candy Bars Late Evening News: Entire Frozen Cheesecake (eaten straight from freezer)

Rules For This Diet 1. If you eat something and no one sees you, it has no calories. 2. If you drink a diet soda with a candy bar, the calories in the candy bar are canceled out by the diet soda. 3. When you eat with someone else, calories don’t count if you don’t eat more than they do. 4. Food used for medicinal purposes NEVER counts, such as hot chocolate, brandy, toast and Sara Lee cheesecake. 5. If you fatten up everyone else around you, it makes you look thinner. 6. Movie related foods do not have additional calories because they are a part of the entire entertainment package. This includes Milk Duds, Buttered Popcorn, Junior Mints and Tootsie Rolls. 7. Cookie pieces contain no calories. The process of breaking them up causes calorie leakage. 8. Food licked off knives and spoons have no calories if you are in the process of preparing something. Examples: Peanut butter on knives while making sandwiches or Ice Cream on spoons while making sundaes. 9. Foods that have the same color have the same number of calories. Examples are Spinach and Pistachio Ice Cream and Mushrooms and White Chocolate. NOTE: Chocolate is a universal color and may be substituted for any other food color. Continued on page 2


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My Funky Valentine continued from page 1 with child when I walked into the hardware store near our house, pushing number one son in a stroller, and said I wanted to purchase a Valentines gift for my husband. The clerk thought I was nuts, but I explained that he liked to work outside and needed a new wheelbarrow, so I thought I’d get him one. The young clerk looked at me and remarked that maybe he didn’t work outside enough, and I said yes, that’s why I wanted the wheelbarrow. Well, all’s well that ends well. He got the wheelbarrow, and I went on to have another child after number two son. Wouldn’t you know! All my life, my big brother was my hero, my champion, my friend. When he went into the service

after high school I missed him. He had gotten his draft notice a few weeks before, and didn’t much care for the Army, when the Air Force was playing it’s siren song to him, so, he enlisted before the draft came. Mama cried, and I thought it would be lonesome up there on that second floor without him. Our bedrooms were the only things up there separated by a nice sun room, and now, it would just be me up there. Darn right I missed him! Gregg was not gone long, only a year or two, due to the fact he got seriously injured jumping out of an airplane, so, after months and months in rehab, he was finally discharged and sent home. He hitchhiked all the way from Texas , and not knowing when to

expect him exactly, we simply waited and watched. I was at the dining room windows every day looking for him to come up the driveway. One day I saw him, limping up towards the house, looking so handsome in his uniform, and carrying a big duffle bag across his shoulders. Never had I seen a more wonderful sight in my life, and I ran to the door and opened it to get a big, brotherly hug from the best guy I knew. Even the dog got excited and jumped and spun around in circles. Mama of course, was delirious. I know the feeling, I had it when My own hunk of a son returned home from service. No feeling like it in the world! It was a little before

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Valentines day, but we were so happy to see him. His true love, who is now my darling sister-in-law, was also delighted to see him. They were married a year later, but, I can remember that after 2 years without my brother, that Valentines Day was the best in the world! I hope you have one as nice!


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ecent reports from the American Cancer Society show positive results through the society’s work and support of research, education, service and advocacy in the fight against cancer in all its forms. According to current statistics, the death rate from cancer has dropped 27% in the last 25 years: html. This makes those of us who volunteer to raise funds to support the society’s efforts very happy, but we know that there is so much more to do. According to the report, “The drop in cancer mortality is mostly due to steady reductions in smoking and advances in early detection and treatment.” Unfortunately, the report also shows that socioeconomic inequalities are widening, and there are many who do not participate in screening for cancer, and even for treatment, because of lack of health insurance or

other funds. For example, 9% of Americans were uninsured during the 2017 calendar year. Those without insurance are more likely to receive screenings, diagnosis and treatment at later stages of cancer, when treatment may be costlier and less successful. We who are involved with Relay For Life will continue to encourage all to be screened regularly for cancer, to practice healthy eating habits, to participate in regular exercise, to stop or avoid smoking, to limit alcohol consumption. Try to maintain a healthy weight, focus on eating fewer red meats and more vegetables, fruits and healthy whole-grain fiber foods, and try to stay away from processed foods. Especially if there is a history of cancer in your family, be sure to follow the above suggestions. Visit healthy/eat-healthy-get-active/ acs-guidelines-nutritionphysical-activity-cancerprevention.html for more

information on the American Cancer Society’s nutrition and physical activity guidelines, and review Cancer Prevention & Early Detection Facts & Figures at for additional information about how healthy behaviors influence cancer risk. If you have a specific or general question about cancer, use the ACS website www., or you may call the society 24 hours a day, 7 days a week for information at 1-800-227-2345. If someone cannot answer your question immediately, they will get back to you. If you don’t use a computer, and cannot access the society’s website, call the 800 number and perhaps there is a brochure they can mail to you that will help you with your questions or concerns. In the meantime, we would love for you to become involved in our Relay For Life here in

Rowan County. Our next Team Rally is scheduled for Tuesday, February 5 at 6:00 PM at St. John Lutheran Church in the fellowship hall. Checkered Flag Barbecue provides sandwiches and tea for attendees—and has been generously doing that for the last 18 years! Attend the Team Rally, start a team or join a team or committee, and become part of the effort to continue to reduce the suffering and deaths from cancer. We look forward to new volunteers with new ideas. And we hope you will keep in mind that volunteer work is good for your health!

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Louanne Stanton


appy New Year has come and gone already! We are in the second month of a new year and most people have forgotten what their New Year’s resolution even was! According to Business Insider magazine, 80% of people fail their resolutions by February 1… One of my goals for 2018 was to acquire an additional certification from the Grief Recovery Institute and I recently was certified to teach my Loss101 class online. So, the information I have been teaching in person, I can now teach to anyone in the world using a

video chat on the computer. My main goal is to be able to bring these classes to care givers who are not able to leave their patient but have time at their patients’ home to take class or people with debilitating diseases that do not have the energy to leave their home to take a class, but want to get help recovering from a loss (usually the diagnosis that took their “normal” away). My first student for this online process was a teacher in South Korea. The time difference was about 13 hours, so it was fun to say, “Good evening!” as I was sitting in my dining room at my laptop while I watched the sun rise over the trees in my backyard. I really enjoy teaching my Loss101 classes and this was a great new experience I look forward to repeating. As we completed the course this morning, I asked if there was anything else the student wanted to discuss before we say goodbye. She asked

me “What is your motivation? Why do you teach these classes?” And it made me stop and think. I paused for a moment and said the first thing that came to mind, which is the truth, “I teach these classes because I love to see the look in people’s eyes go from pain to joy. And I see that look time and time again… I love to hear the exhale of pain and the inhale of new life, knowing that a weight has been lifted off their soul, that they didn’t even know was weighing them down. And the smile that usually follows that, a smile of freedom from the pain they have been carrying for sometimes decades…” And that is the truth for me. I love being able to give people the information they need to make the choices to feel better after a loss. I want people to know they have been heard, without criticism, judgement or analysis. I want to be a force of loving kindness in the world, and truly make a difference. That is my motivation.

So… I ask you, what is YOUR motivation in life? Do you have one? Some of you may be saying I have had enough motivation and I am just going to quietly live out the rest of my life without ANY motivation. Some of you may not have a motivation but you want one… I encourage you to look around and see what gives you joy and take action. Volunteer for a favorite organization (you know Meals on Wheels is one of my favorites), read to children at a library, volunteer at a food pantry, offer to take an older person to their appointments, take a friend to lunch and pick up the tab. Helping others brings satisfaction and purpose in life, it gives motivation for a better day. I am a firm believer we are all on the planet to help each other. Please let me know how I can help you.

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The Carolina Thread Trail weaves a path through time and terrain. My friends and I discovered a natural surface trail segment in the Buffalo Creek Preserve. Once a week we hike the path that meanders through restored oak-savanna and farmland along Adams Creek. On every walk we share stories about our past and consider dreams for the future. In late September 2016 we constructed a wooden frame shelter to house print versions of those stories; we called them Trail Tales. The modest enclosure is located at the head of the preserve. We plan to make those stories available to readers of Senior Savvy on a monthly basis, no hiking gear required.

February is the shortest month of the year. For some readers, in some cultures, this birth month is represented as the month of the goat. James Polk describes a very special goat. His story is titled, Me and Prissy. Instruction on how to obtain a free electronic version of this story is posted on the blog hosted at Enjoy this installment.

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was three years old when Prissy came to live with us. It was my father’s idea. He had a goat when he was a kid (no pun intended), and he said that I should have one too. So off we went to see a man about a goat for me. We found the perfect goat and took her home. We had a fenced area for chickens, and another we called the “fence

lot.” That one was designed to contain me while my mother did yard tasks like feeding chickens, hanging out laundry, and picking apples. It was an ideal place for me and the goat. I named her “Prissy.” Life was miserable for her as I spent hours chasing her around trees. After a time, I think she appreciated my tenacity, and we soon became fast friends. We built a “goat house”, an old shed that we put her in at night to keep her safe. During the day, we tied a rope around her neck and secured it to a nearby tree. That didn’t last long, as she promptly chewed it to shreds. On several occasions Prissy went along with the dog

to visit our neighbors across the road. We improvised and placed a cow chain around her neck. My mother developed a morning ritual. Mom would take Prissy on her chain, out in a grassy field in front of our house. Then she would drive a stake in the ground, and hook the chain to it, so that Prissy could do what she did best; eat. Eating was her business. She spent the next 12 years of her life getting into trouble with her mouth. Everyone jokes about goats eating tin cans. They don’t, but they eat almost everything else. I can recall my mother walking to the mailbox every morning. She would find Prissy and feed her the junk mail,

which she happily consumed. One year, we propped up an old Christmas tree after the holidays and put our many Christmas cards on it. Every day on her way to the field, Prissy would stop and eat a few cards, glitter and all. That kind of eating caused no real problem, but problems soon came. She had an affinity for getting loose. One day she walked up and down under our clothesline and chewed up the cuffs on my father’s white dress shirts. My mother found them, and fearing for the goat’s safety, tried to stitch them back together. It took a week, but Dad finally noticed the damage and called out Mom. She confessed, and they laughed through it, and Prissy was able to remain with our family. The most embarrassing event happened one afternoon when some friends were visiting and asked to see our goat. It seemed strange to me, as I thought everybody had a goat. Fortunately, they didn’t. Well, my father knelt down beside Prissy, and while he was talking to the friends, Prissy proceeded to eat his necktie, right up to the knot. I suspect he might have choked if she continued eating. He freed the tie, but it couldn’t be repaired. I had my own fun with Prissy and her appetite. I often saw her eating fallen apples off the ground. But there weren’t enough; so, I started picking apples, mostly green, Continued on page 15


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rs. Smith did not know that the call she was going to make to a retirement community this morning was going to completely transform her overall health and well-being. She is a very active lady that lives alone in a large home that she and her deceased husband have lived in for over 40 years. There are many memories and a lot of “stuff” that has accumulated over the years. Memories and stuff make the thoughts of a move at her age daunting and impossible. Mrs. Smith has three children that live in various locations throughout the United States with very rewarding careers and children of their own. She knows that she just can’t call on her children at the drop of a hat to come and help her with home maintenance and daily care if she were to ever need it. Mrs. Smith loves her home but knows that the responsibilities of maintaining her home are becoming overwhelming both physically and financially. Mrs. Smith reached out to Jane, a sales counselor at a retirement

community near her home. She was hesitant at first due to the stigma of retirement communities only being for “old people.” She got an appointment right away and toured the community. She was very surprised to learn that a Life Plan Community (or CCRC Continuing Care Retirement Community) would take care of her during all stages of her retirement years. The continuum is peace of mind not only for herself but for her children that live out of town as well. She knows that entering the retirement community now will enable her to enjoy active senior living at its best. Jane shared with her the many aspects of holistic wellness starting with emotional and social wellness. Being in a retirement community means that she will make many friends that she can interact with as often as she would like daily and never feel that terrible sense of being lonely. Spiritual wellness is also important to Mrs. Smith. If she can no longer drive she knows that there is a chapel and a chaplain at the retirement community that she can access at any time and enjoy church services, bible study and choir. Physical wellness is very important to Mrs. Smith. Her

doctor wants her to exercise daily for her overall health. Classes such as yoga, aerobics, balance classes and water aerobics will be easy to get to every day in the community. She is happy that she won’t have to drive to go to the classes every day. Mrs. Smith also has a desire for higher learning. The community offers classes from local universities and lecturers from the community on a regular basis. The beauty and security of the campus means that she can go for walks without fear and enjoy nature and complete relaxation. Traveling with friends to many destinations excited her as she had been afraid to travel alone. Opportunities were bountiful for her at the retirement community. Mrs. Smith did not want to think about the possibility of needing support services as she ages in place. Talking about it is hard but she preferred to make the decision as to where she would like to be someday if she ever needed the higher level of care. She did not want to place that burden on her children. She was happy to know that there were home health services, assisted living, and nursing/rehab if she

were to ever need the services someday. All of these services also offered a holistic wellness approach that would enable her to continue her daily activities with assistance. Mrs. Smith was amazed that the cost of living in the retirement community was very reasonable and would save her money in the long run due to the rising costs of maintaining her home. She would be living home maintenance free and stress free. She will be able to enjoy life without the burdens of her large home. She was very happy and excited to reserve a residence at the community and begin her new life. Six months has passed and Mrs. Smith now has more friends to interact with than she can imagine. She is taking advantage of everything the community has to offer. Her family and doctors were amazed at how her overall health and well-being has improved. That call to a retirement community can open doors to a new beginning and beautiful retirement life. Life Begins in a Retirement Community.

By pre-planning, you spare your family difficult decisions at a difficult time. They will not have to search records, insurance policies, addresses and other important items. You will also eliminate their doubts. Wondering what you would have wanted is an added burden for family members who are already dealing with grief from their loss. Pre-planning can save money. So call or email and we can set up an appointment.

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Smothered Filet Mignon Ingredients: 4 (6 oz) filet mignon steaks seasoned salt to taste cracked black pepper to taste 1/4 cup extra virgin olive oil 1/4 cup balsamic vinegar 1 tablespoon Dijon mustard 2 teaspoons dried rosemary 1 tablespoon butter 2 cups onion slices 1 teaspoon white sugar 4 ounces blue cheese, crumbled

Directions: 1. Season steaks with seasoned salt and black pepper, and arrange in a single layer in a large baking dish. In a bowl, whisk together olive oil, balsamic vinegar, mustard, and rosemary. Pour mixture over filets, and turn to coat. Marinate for up to 30 minutes. 2. While you are marinating the meat, melt the butter in a skillet over medium heat. Cook onion slices in butter until soft, then stir in sugar. Continue cooking until onions are caramelized. Set aside. 3. Preheat grill for high heat on one side, and medium heat on the other side. 4. Lightly oil the grill grate. Place steaks on the hot side of the grill, and cook for 10 minutes, turning once. When the steaks are almost done, move to the cooler side of the grill. Top each filet with a quarter of the caramelized onions and blue cheese. Close the lid, and continue cooking until the cheese is melted.

Easy OREO Truffles Ingredients:

1 (16 oz) package OREO Chocolate Cookies, divided 1 (8 oz) package Cream Cheese, softened 2 (8 oz) packages BAKER’S Semi-Sweet Baking Chocolate, melted

Directions: 1. Crush 9 of the cookies to fine crumbs in food processor; reserve for later use. (Cookies can also be finely crushed in a resealable plastic bag using a rolling pin.) Crush remaining 36 cookies to fine crumbs; place in medium bowl. Add cream cheese; mix until well blended. Roll cookie mixture into 42 balls, about 1-inch in diameter. 2. Dip balls in chocolate; place on wax paper-covered baking sheet. (Any leftover chocolate can be stored at room temperature for another use.) Sprinkle with reserved cookie crumbs. 3. Refrigerate until firm, about 1 hour. Store leftover truffles, covered, in refrigerator.

Chocolate Truffle Cookies Ingredients:

4 (1 oz) squares unsweetened chocolate, chopped 1 cup semisweet chocolate chips 6 tablespoons butter 3 eggs 1 cup white sugar 1 1/2 teaspoons vanilla extract 1/2 cup all-purpose flour 2 tablespoons unsweetened cocoa powder 1/4 teaspoon baking powder 1/4 teaspoon salt 1 cup semisweet chocolate chips

Directions: 1. In the microwave or in a metal bowl over a pan of simmering water, melt unsweetened chocolate, 1 cup of the chocolate chips, and the butter stirring occasionally until smooth. Remove from heat and set aside to cool. In a large bowl, whip eggs and sugar until thick and pale, about 2 minutes. Stir in the vanilla and the chocolate mixture until well mixed. Combine the flour, cocoa, baking powder and salt; gradually stir into the chocolate mixture. Fold in remaining 1 cup chocolate chips. Cover dough and chill for at least an hour or overnight. 2. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Roll chilled dough into 1 inch balls. Place on ungreased cookie sheets so they are 2 inches apart. 3. Bake for 9 to 11 minutes in the preheated oven. Allow cookies to cool on baking sheet for 5 minutes before removing to a wire rack to cool completely.

Easy Guacamole Ingredients: 2 avocados 1 small onion, finely chopped 1 clove garlic, minced 1 ripe tomato, chopped 1 lime, juiced salt and pepper to taste

Directions: 1. Peel and mash avocados in a medium serving bowl. Stir in onion, garlic, tomato, lime juice, salt and pepper. Season with remaining lime juice and salt and pepper to taste. Chill for half an hour to blend flavors.


Do you have a favorite recipe that you’d like to share with our readers? If so, we’d love to have recipes that are easy, healthy and are smaller in proportion – just right for someone cooking for one or two. Please send your recipes to OR drop them off at the front desk of Rufty Holmes Senior Center to Cindy Nimmer. Thanks and we look forward to seeing what you’ve got cooking!

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1120 South Martin Luther King Blvd. Salisbury, North Carolina 28144-5658 704.216.7714 (voice) 704.633.8517 (fax) (email) FEBRUARY PROGRAMS Contact 704-216-7714 for additional details or to register for programs. SOLITAIRE TUNES & SPOONS: Thurs, Feb. 14; 12-1 pm; Cost: $5; reservations required by Feb. 12. In honor of Valentine’s Day, we invite all singles to a luncheon. Talented guitarist, Gary Schneider, performs while you dine. Dress your best and enjoy a complimentary carnation and box of chocolates. Sponsored by Brookdale Senior Living and Cannon Pharmacy. MOVIE CINEBAR: Friday, Feb. 15 at 9:30 am - In support of the NC Transportation Museum’s exhibit of 49 Days of Gratitude Train Rail Car, we invite the public to a hearty continental breakfast while watching the true story of Desmond T. Doss in “Hacksaw Ridge”. He was a conscientious objector who became a hero while serving as an unarmed medic during the brutal and bloody fight for Okinawa.

MOVIE OF THE MONTH: Thurs, Feb. 28 at 2 pm “Finding Your Feet” is about a woman seeking refuge in London with her free spirited sister, after her husband of 40 years has an affair with her best friend. Her sister drags her to a community dance class where she learns to find her feet and an admirer. Sponsor: Victory Wealth Management. 26TH ANNUAL BLACK HISTORY BREAKFASTFriday, February, 8, 9-10:30 am. Cost: $7 Explore the “The Magic of Motown” and the influence of music on African American culture. Pay homage to the musical legends of Motown. Fran Walker, innovational speaker, Veteran, author, and certified mental health facilitator and her band will perform live. Breakfast reservations by Fri, Feb 1.

Dancing Stories- February 18 at 10 am. April Turner will demonstrate how traditional dances are used to tell stories and document history. She will share the meaning and uses of the songs and dances in a fun, inspiring journey through West African culture.


MAMMOGRAM SCREENING: Wed., March 28 from 9:00 am – 3:00 pm. The Novant Health Breast Center mobile unit will be on-site in the Center’s parking lot to provide mammogram screenings. Stop by the Front Desk to schedule your appointment and complete paperwork. Mammograms are covered as a preventive screening under most insurance plans. For your convenience, insurance will be filed. For details, visit www.


A GLIMPSE AT LOVE WORKSHOP AND SPEED DATEA casual singles mingle will take place late winter, early spring. CALL NOW to place your name on our interest list. Details to follow! CAR FIT- Wednesday, May 1 from 9-12 noon. No cost to you. Get assistance with a custom fitting of your car for safer driving. A variety of wellness screenings will take place including grip strength checks, sleep screenings, healthy nutrition testing, and more! Fun morning with refreshments! Partnering with RCCC Occupational Therapy Assistant Students.


NEW! MAT YOGA-Tuesdays and Thursdays 1:30-2:30 pm; Instructor: Ann You must be able to easily move from a standing position to the floor with minimal assistance. AQUATICS POOL SCHEDULE! Spaces still available for early morning pool classes, so WAKE UP and WORK OUT with us at 7:15 am. Class schedule is in the newsletter or on www.ruftyholmes. org. EXERCISE CLASSES: See the Fitness and Wellness Manager for any changes to your fitness benefits. BLOOD PRESSURE SCREENING: BP kiosk for use in Fitness Annex, sponsored by Novant Health.



Call or check www.ruftyholmes. org/classes/ for details. NEW! CAKE DECORATING CLASS-Wednesday, March 13 from 9-11 am. Cost: $10 Focus on “Basics and Borders”. Take home your edible masterpiece. Registration ends Tuesday, March 5. Space is limited. Materials are included. Pay at the Front Desk. COMPUTER CLASSES: Please call regarding class information. SAVVY APPS- Friday, February 22 from 2-3 pm. Learn which popular apps are used on phones and laptops, how to get them, and understand their purposes. Come with all passwords and sign in information for the App Store or Google Play Store. INTERNET SCAMS: SOCIAL MEDIA – Monday, February 25 from 3-4 pm. Scams are trolling the internet all the time when you use social media. Learn what you can do to be more careful. Presenter: Jay Stevens, CEO, Secure Solutions Technology COMPUTER CLINIC DROP IN: 1st & 3rd Wednesdays, February 6 & 20 from 12-3 pm. No cost to you. Get questions answered regarding your technological devices. If repairs are needed, technician Tony can assist for an afforedable rate.


Call the Center for details, drop-in to receive a trip brochure, or check www. LEISURE TRAVEL ADVENTURES BASHWednesday, February 6 at 9 am. Hear details of day excursions and destinations planned for your 2019 traveling enjoyment. Trip deposits will be accepted that day. Feb 19: NC Music Hall of Fame and Motorsport Museum, Salisbury, NC; $10 Guided tour of the Music Hall of Fame and self-guided tour of Motorsport Museum. Lunch at Restaurant 46. March 1: Southern Spring Home and Garden Show, Charlotte, NC; $45 Envision ideas to update your home and spring décor. Dutch lunch at Lupie’s Café. OUTDOOR ADVENTURE HIKE: New Trail! McDowell Nature Preserve, Charlotte, NC. There is varied terrain and

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Ambassadors Club – 1st MonDAY at noon Garden Club - 2nd MonDAY at 2:00 pm National Active & Retired Federal Employees – 3rd MonDAY at 1:00 pm Seniors Without Partners – 2nd ThursDAY at 9:00 am several trails will be combined for a 3.5 mile hike. Meet at RHSC 8:30 am.

216-7702. Theme: American Heart Month and Black History Month.

WALK-ABOUTS: February 14; meet at the mall to walk at 11 am. Dutch lunch at Village Inn Pizza on Statesville Boulevard.

Food pantry assistance available at lunch club sites; RHSC partners with 2nd Harvest Food Bank of Metrolina! Donations needed: dry beans, soups, bar soaps and canned meat items (Vienna sausages, potted meat. No expired items please. Drop off at the center.

OUTREACH SERVICES LIHEAP (Low Income Home Energy Assistance Program) provides a one-time annual energy provider payment to help eligible families pay their heating expense. Households containing a person 60 years and older can apply either in person or through phone interviews at Rowan County Department of Social Services. What’s needed to apply: Must have names, birthdates, social security numbers, and income from wages for all persons who live in the home, and a copy of the utility bill from the heating source. Family Caregiver Support Program (FCSP) Are you helping a family member or friend with his/her daily needs? Are you feeling stressed or burned out and need a break? FCSP offers temporary respite for caregivers, assists with supplemental supplies and medical equipment, and offers support groups. Contact 704216-7704 for qualifications. Donation Request: Shower chairs or benches. Unopened wipes. Medicare Advantage Open Enrollment Period January 1-March 31 beneficiaries with existing Medicare Advantage plans can review 2019 Advantage Plans and make a one-time election. Call for an appointment by calling 704-216-7704. 2018-2019 AARP Tax Prep: AARP Foundation offers free income tax preparation for those 50 and older. Clients can choose Tuesday appointments or limited Thursday afternoon appointments. Schedule your appointment now by calling 704216-7714. SENIOR NUTRITION NEWS: LUNCH CLUBS: RHSC offers six Rowan County sites for those ages 60 and older to gather for lunch, fellowship and programs Monday - Friday. Donations are encouraged and accepted, but not required; principally funded by federal, state and local grants. Call 704-


USDA Senior Boxes Program is accepting applications at lunch club sites. Annual income requirements of $15,678 for household of 1 or $21,112 for household of 2. Utilize Older Adult resources including home repair, daily phone checks, transportation, legal appts, hearing aid assistance and more. Call Aging Transitions Manager at 704-216-7704.


Call or check for more details. Busy Bees Craft Club 1st Fridays. at 9:30 am. Project: Fabric Red Valentine Wreath. CARD MAKING- Tues, Feb, 5; 1-3 pm. $12 registration paid to the instructor

SENIOR MORNING OUT: 1st Thurs at 10 am. Speaker: Michael Connor, Professor Theater Arts & English

FUN & GAMES: Call or

check https://ruftyholmes. org/leisure-opportunities/ for details on Golf, Shuffleboard, Bingo, Broadcast Bingo on Memories 103.3 Radio, and card games.

CENTER OFFERS SPECIAL INTEREST GROUPS Call or check for details. AARP MEETING: February 7 at 1 pm. Speaker Misty Sells, Accelerate Therapy & Performance. Discussion topic: Balance. Refreshments will follow. 2019 chapter dues are $4 and can be paid now.

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What to Bring to Have Your Tax Return Prepared at an AARP Tax-Aide Site

The AARP Foundation in conjunction with the IRS is again offering income tax preparation service for low- to middle-income taxpayers with special attention to persons age 60 and older. This is a free service provided by IRScertified, volunteer tax counselors who provide one-on-one assistance to the taxpayer. The Federal and North Carolina tax returns, after being completed and reviewed by the taxpayer, are immediately electronically filed. This eliminates the need to mail the returns and results in faster receipt of any refunds. This free tax preparation service will be available every Tuesday from February 5th through April 9th and some Thursdays through April 11th at Rufty-Holmes Senior Center, 1120 Martin Luther King Jr. Ave. S. in Salisbury. Taxpayers seeking assistance must make an appointment by calling the Senior Center at 704-2167714 after January 29th. Taxpayers may choose from either morning or afternoon appointments. Those seeking assistance should bring their Social Security card, picture ID and all tax related materials including W2s, 1099Rs, Social Security statements, other income statements, stock sales, charitable contributions, real estate taxes paid along with their 2017 Federal and North Carolina tax returns.

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Trinity Living at St. John’s Provides Group Respite Care Free day offered for new participants


early one in four North Carolinians is providing care for someone aged 60 or older. And nearly half of those are caring for someone who has some degree of dementia. Many of these caregivers are stretched to the breaking point and need some support. Trinity Living Center, a program of Lutheran Services Carolinas, has been providing just that support for many years through its adult day program in Salisbury. And now, local caregivers who need some relief have another option. Trinity Living Center has entered into an exciting partnership

with St. John’s Lutheran Church in Salisbury to offer a half-day group respite program – the first in the community – called Trinity Living at St. John’s. When St. John’s Senior Pastor Rhodes Woolly received one of the invitation letters sent to local Lutheran churches by Christina Joyce, executive director of Trinity Living Center, he was intrigued. He asked St. John’s director of senior adult ministry at the time, Carolyn Byrd, to check into the program. “After review, St. John’s quickly decided to contact TLC and agree to house the program,” says Diane Poole, who has assumed Byrd’s role. Poole notes that St. John’s is committed to community outreach: the downtown church already hosts day care and kindergarten programs for 220 children and provides rent-free office and meeting space for five local non-profit groups. Organizers emphasize that Trinity Living at St. John’s will serve the whole community, not just members of the church. Like Trinity Living Center, Trinity Living at St. John’s offers caregivers respite while giving their loved ones companionship and activities to enjoy. The program is

housed in what is known as “The Pit” – the lower level of St. John’s Faith Center, located at 200 W. Innes Street (the North Jackson Street entrance). Joyce explains the main difference between the two Trinity Living programs: “Trinity Living at St. John’s is a step down in care from the adult day services offered at Trinity Living Center. It will suit those older adults (60 and over) with some cognitive impairment who can still handle the demands of daily living (eating, grooming, etc.) and who do not need medical care. “It is ideal for someone whose physical needs are not great but who should not be left alone,” Joyce adds.

While TLC is an all-day program, Trinity Living at St. John’s runs from 9 a.m.-1 p.m. Monday, Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday. The cost is $30 a day, which includes snacks, lunch, and activities, including art, music, and games. The site offers a quiet place for resting as well as a beautiful outdoor space. Would you and your loved one benefit from this respite program? Trinity Living at St. John’s is offering a free day to new participants. Please call 704-637-3940 to schedule a free day and to receive enrollment information.

February Crossword


1. Small drum 6. Electric light 10. Radar signal 14. Labor group 15. Murres 16. Boorish 17. A swindle 18. Mousses 19. Frosts 20. Acculturate 22. “Darn!” 23. “___ Maria” 24. Deli item 26. Primarily 30. Rock 32. Solder 33. A nervous wreck 37. Defrost 38. Moses’ brother 39. Margarine 40. Gathered


Down 42. Gloomy, in poetry 43. Dweebs 44. Probably 45. Sphere 47. Russian fighter 48. Rime 49. Excessive desire for wealth 56. At one time (archaic) 57. Northern diving birds 58. Forbidden 59. Whip 60. T T T T 61. Beautify 62. Gambit 63. Countercurrent 64. Paths

1. Brass instrument 2. Rectum 3. Containers 4. Hubs 5. Deviation from the normal 6. Military brass instrument 7. Component of urine 8. A jaunty rhythm 9. Of low birth 10. Type of denture 11. Ill-gotten gains 12. Something to shoot for 13. Annoyance 21. Old World vine 25. One or more 26. Mother 27. Beers 28. Ailments 29. Remarkable

30. Open skin infections 31. Stepped 33. Travel on foot 34. Away from the wind 35. Genuine 36. Conservative 38. Deny 41. Unruly crowd 42. Not analog 44. Cover 45. Small goat antelope 46. Lariat 47. Untidy 48. Assistance 50. Regretted 51. Barely managed 52. Nil 53. Black, in poetry 54. Achy 55. Male offspring

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Lorin S. Oden

Au.D., FAAA Doctor of Audiology


his year will mark my 34th year as an audiologist and 8th as a small business owner. Keeping up with the latest in technology, testing procedures and the operations of running a business is never ending. As a relatively new business owner I belong to a group that meets monthly in Salisbury, comprised of other small business owners. One of the members recommended listening to a very insightful podcast. New to the podcast world, I find them a great value especially when driving or when trying to get my 10,000 steps in for the day. One particular podcast presenter said something I never considered. Customers (or in our case “patients”) really want to know WHY we do what we do, not just WHAT we do. If I told you an audiologist is a health care professional who is trained to evaluate hearing loss and related disorders, including balance (vestibular) disorders, tinnitus (ringing in the ears) and to rehabilitate individuals with hearing loss and related disorders,

is that enough for you to pick up the phone and call the office to schedule an appointment. Most likely not. On average, a person with any type of hearing difficulty will wait 7-10 years before scheduling an appointment for an evaluation and consultation. Maybe it is time to change the message we are conveying to the public about hearing healthcare. The WHY of what we do is to help our patients overcome their hearing difficulty and its effects on communication, environmental awareness, interpersonal relationships and social engagement. Wow, now that may be just what it takes for you to reach for the phone, give Beth or Jamie a call at 704-633-0023 and schedule an appointment. You can also visit our website www.hearingsolutionsofnc. com to learn more. Or maybe you would like to hear what our patients have to say about their experiences at our office and their why…

of in this manner, I would gladly do it. I recommend this practice to anyone who even thinks they might have a hearing problem. Dr. Oden will let you know whether you do or not. And if you do, she will help you.” Bill B. Concord.

Or maybe the note I received from Deborah this week will help you finally make the decision to address your hearing challenges. This is truly our “why”… “Thank you for keeping all of your patients up to date on the latest technology that keeps us enjoying life, not missing any opportunity to share what makes our lives easier and to hear the things most precious

to us. In my case it’s the sound of Forest saying Nana, hearing him giggle when we play peeka- boo or hearing him say new words.” Need I say more? Jane and I look forward to seeing you soon. For more information or to schedule a hearing evaluation, contact Dr. Lorin S. Oden at Hearing Solutions of North Carolina, 464 Jake Alexander Blvd. W., Salisbury, NC 28147 704-633-0023

“I had a very bad experience with a large practice in Concord, and went here hoping for better results. I found them to be a friendly, professional, efficient, and knowledgeable clinic. Dr. Oden always examines and treats me thoroughly and never herds me through like a number that must be treated to meet a quota. I live in Concord and drive 30 minutes to get there, but if I had to drive an hour each way to be taken care

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By Rose Mary Buehler Social Security Regional Commissioner in Atlanta

n February, our nation honors African Americans by celebrating Black History Month. Recognizing our shared history is one way we can affirm our belief in freedom and democracy for all. For more than 80 years, Social Security has helped secure today and tomorrow with financial benefits, information, and tools for people of countless backgrounds and ethnicities that make up our richly diverse country. One of our popular tools is the online Retirement Estimator. With it, you can plug in some basic information to get an


instant, personalized estimate of your future benefits. Different life events or choices can alter the course of your future, so try out different scenarios such as higher and lower future earnings amounts and various retirement dates to get a good prediction of how it can change your future benefit amounts. You can access it at benefits/retirement/estimator.html. If you find that helpful, we have a number of calculators to help you prepare for retirement at calculators. We also pay disability benefits to people with medical conditions that could prevent them from working for 12 or more months or

result in death. If the disabled person has dependent family members, they may also be eligible to receive payments. We pay disability through two programs: the Social Security Disability Insurance program, for people who have worked and paid Social Security taxes long enough to be eligible, and the Supplemental Security Income program, which is a means-tested program for people who are 65 or older, as well as people of any age, including children, who are blind or have disabilities. Widows, widowers, and their dependent children may be eligible for Social Security survivors benefits. Social

Security helps by providing income for the families of workers who die. In fact, 98 of every 100 children could get benefits if a working parent dies. And Social Security pays more benefits to children than any other federal program. You can learn more about retirement, survivors, and disability benefits, at www. Social Security is with you through life’s journey, helping secure today and tomorrow for you and your family. Visit us today at www.socialsecurity. gov/people/africanamericans.

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Me and Prissy continued from page 6 and fed her a bucket full. The next day, she had an extreme case of projectile diarrhea. My mother was fit to be tied, and told me to never feed her green apples again, to which I readily agreed. However, the damage was done, and she just had to get over it. The next eating experience was more serious. We always took the goat to a friend’s house when we went on vacation. Believe it or not, Prissy rode in the backseat. When we returned from vacation, our friend met us at the driveway. He was frantic, as Prissy had gone into a shed and ate some dried concrete mix. After drinking water, she was pretty well plugged up. Our only recourse on this was to call the veterinarian. He seemed to choke up and leave the phone for some reason, but told us to give her a large bottle of milk of magnesia and wait to see what happened. We did, which was no easy task, but it worked. The next day, her pellet sized bowel movements were flying out like bullets. Sometimes, in my mind’s ear, I can still hear



them ricocheting off the shed walls. The moral of this story, think twice before you bring a goat to your home.

About – James Polk James Polk has lived in Concord all of his life. He and his wife, Valerie, remodeled and live in the home he grew up in. He attended college at UNCC and is retired after working for 35 years in Cabarrus County Government at the Department of Social Services. He is an avid gardener and beekeeper. One of his stories won first place and a gold medal in the 2018 Cabarrus County Senior Games. You can also reach James by mail at P.O.Box 1857, Concord, NC 28026.

February 6 @ 7:00 pm “Lunch At Piccadilly Play” Piedmont Players Trip Call for details February 12 @ 1:30 pm Downsizing Smart Changes Free-Please sign up 704-636-0111 February 14 @ 1:30 pm “Not Just a Sweetheart Party” Home Instead Free-Please sign up 704-636-0111 February 27 @ 12:00 pm Lunch & Learn Novant “Balance & Dizziness” Covered Dish Sign Up

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Future Trips & Such: Southern Spring Show March 1st 9:00 am leave Charlotte, NC Pat Cohen-Singing the Blues March 6th 1:30 pm Health Care Power of Attorney March 12th 1:30 pm Spring Fling-Craft Fair March 20th 8 am-2 pm Welcome Vendors to sign up Check Us Out On: Need information call: Louise Klaver 704-636-0111

SENIORS 55 & OLDER: FLEMING HEIGHTS APARTMENTS is now accepting applications for one bedroom apartments. Applicants must be 55 and older


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What is Atrial Fibrillation (AFib or AF)? Symptoms of AFib may include: preventive treatment for blood clots

By Katrena Allison Wells,

Faith Community Nurse for Woodleaf United Methodist Church


trial fibrillation, also called AFib or AF, is an irregular heart rhythm that affects at least 2.7 million Americans, making it the most common irregular heart rhythm. With this condition, the upper chambers of the heart quiver instead of beating normally, which can lead to blood clots, stroke, heart failure, and other heart-related complications. Some people with AFib may have the irregular heart rhythm constantly. Others may only be in AFib for short periods of time and then convert back to a regular heart rhythm without any treatment. In these cases, the periods of AFib tend to become more frequent and last longer over time.

• Fatigue • Fast, irregular heartbeat • Fluttering or thumping in chest (heart “flip flops,” skips beats, etc.) • Dizziness • Shortness of breath and anxiety • Weakness • Faintness or confusion • Fatigue when exercising • Sweating • Chest pain or pressure (this could also be a symptom of heart attack - immediately call 911 if having symptoms of a heart attack) • Some people with AFib have no symptoms. After being diagnosed with AFib, treatment goals are focused on restoring the heart to a regular rate and rhythm, which might be as simple as avoiding caffeine but often requires medications. Because AFib often leads to the formation of blood clots that can travel and cause complications such as a stroke,

is often started when someone is diagnosed with AFib. People with a history of AFib are five times more likely to have a stroke, in which blood supply to the brain is affected with resulting sudden symptoms such as one-sided facial droop, weakness in one side, and/or problems with speech. Like a heart attack, stroke is a medical emergency; anyone having symptoms of a stroke should immediately call 911. If you have a history of symptoms that may be due to AFib, consult with one’s healthcare provider. A physical examination, health history, and EKG may help determine a diagnosis. Maintaining a healthy diet,

regular exercise routine, adequate sleep, and stress management are all lifestyle choices that we can adopt to maintain optimal holistic health at any age. Those who wish to learn more about AFib and other heartrelated conditions are invited to a free seminar by a cardiologist who will be at Woodleaf United Methodist Church (9000 Church Street in Woodleaf) at 5:30 p.m. on February 3 (February 10 in case of inclement weather on original date).

Sources: American Heart Association web article: What is Atrial Fibrillation (AFib or AF)? If your faith community is interested in a health program, please contact Pam Hurley at

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March 13th – 15th

Salisbury Civic Center

Residents 50 Years of Age or BetterJoin in the Fun… Salisbury/Rowan SilverArts provides a stage for the creative talents of the visual, heritage, literary and performing artists. Encouragement and recognition of creative potential and accomplishment of the seniors of Rowan County is the goal of the SilverArts program.

Literary Arts Entries Must Be Turned In: March 1, 2019 by 5:00pm at Ellis Park - 3541 Old Mocksville Road, Salisbury, NC 28144 - 704-216-7780 **No late entries will be accepted**

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Or Pick Up You Registration Form at Rufty-Holmes Senior Center, Ellis Park or Salisbury YMCA For more information contact Savannah Daniel 704-216-7780

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Deadline March 1, 2019 5:00pm ***No late entries will be accepted*** Check-in for Artwork: March 13, 2019 10:00 am-1:00 pm Salisbury Civic Center Performing Arts Dress Rehearsal: March 13, 2019 2:00 pm - Until Salisbury Civic Center Judging for Entries: March 14, 2019 1:00 pm - Until Salisbury Civic Center (Closed to all participants & public)

SilverArts Extravaganza: March 15, 2019 Art Show Opens 10:00am Performing Arts 1:00pm Light Lunch provided by: 11:30am -12:30pm Bake Goods Auction: After Performing Arts Salisbury Civic Center

All SilverArts Awards will be Awarded March 15, 2019

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