The Meeting House, Fall 2010

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The Friends Academy Magazine for Alumni, Parents & Friends

The Meeting House Fall 2010

SIMPLE SUPPER RAISES FUNDS FOR SHELTER Fourth and 10th grade students create a ceramic community service project, Page 9.

Friends Academy Board of Trustees, 2010-2011 Co-Presidents Thomas Hawkins ‘78 Scott Rechler Vice President Doris Pailet Treasurer Francis Ingrassia Founded 1876

The Friends Academy Mission Founded in 1876 by Gideon Frost for “the children of Friends and those similarly sentimented,” Friends Academy is a Quaker, coeducational, independent, college preparatory school serving 750 students from age three through twelfth grade. The school’s philosophy is based on the Quaker principles of integrity, simplicity, patience, moderation, peaceful resolution of conflict, and a belief that the silence and simple ministry of the “gathered meeting” brings the presence of God into the midst of busy lives. Friends Academy is

Secretary Nancy Tilton Board Members Carl Ashkin Cynthia Boults Debra Del Vecchio John R. Gambling ‘69 Albert Granger Elizabeth McCaul Ingrassia Susan Karches Jodi Leeser Victoria Quesada Moore Brian Mullaney Honorary Trustee John W. Oelsner

committed to developing a diverse community whose members value excellence in learning and growth in knowledge and skill, a genuine commitment to service and ethical action, and a realization that every life is to be explored, celebrated, and enjoyed in the spirit of the Religious Society of Friends.

The Meeting House Editorial Board, 2010-2011 Amanda Fisk '99 Kathy Fox Hayley Kucich ‘03 Penelope Wylie Mayer ‘75 Andrea Miller Carl Pozzi

Head of School William G. Morris Jr. Friends Academy Alumni Association, 2010-2011 President Peter Stein ’79 Vice President Penelope Wylie Mayer ‘75 Secretary Pamela Foschi Danbusky ‘97 Alumni Board Members Park Benjamin III ‘61 Barbara Shoen Brundige ‘63 Thomas Hawkins ‘78 Elisabeth Dillof Dreizen ‘78 Lydia Fichera ‘84 Kathryn Hawkins Schneider ‘86 Alana Teutonico '94 Salwa Touma ‘01 President Emeritus James R. Greene ‘74

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Alumni Office Alumni Affairs Coordinator, Kathy Fox

From the Head of School William G. Morris Jr. Friends, he watercolor by Raquel Doscher ’19 on the cover of this issue of The Meeting House with its emphatic proclamation, “End Hunger,” highlights that basic needs go unmet for too many people in our world each day and reminds me of conversations with Carly Rushmore, former FA parent and grandparent, Quaker, and long-time Trustee and supporter of the school. Carly would always say, “Bill, the service testimony is the most important of all, because it brings to life the other testimonies of simplicity, peaceful resolution of conflict, personal integrity, community-building, and equality and social justice. If we hope to nurture human dignity and justice in our troubled world, we have to make sure that our students learn this lesson.” As you ponder the wisdom of Raquel’s painting and Carly’s words, read The Meeting House, and see the many ways our students, alumni, faculty, and parents are letting their lives speak through service, I hope that you too are inspired to go out into the world and make a difference. I especially want to draw your attention to the


memorial tributes to Lila Gordon, James Malcolm Jr., and Sarah Glenn Meyer, because each of them lived fully and without regrets, and in so doing transformed the lives of those they touched. They have modeled for all of us what it means to follow the path of the Light and to leave the world better for their being here. They have heeded the words of Amy Willets, who wrote in the Friends Academy Reunion Society Annual 1914, “Friends education . . . forever places those who come under the spell of its influence in that great group who believe they OWE the world a LIFE as distinguished from those who think the world owes them a living.” I can think of no better New Year’s resolution than striving each day to “owe the world a life.” We also want to continue to hear from you, either through class notes, or through a new feature, "Meeting House Letters," which we plan to introduce in the next issue. If you cherish a certain memory of Friends and want to share that with our community, we would love to hear from you. Just e-mail editor Andrea Miller at and we look forward to hearing from you!

From The Archives: 1964 – 1st Homecoming Football Game

FA Trivia Contest

I was at Friends in the late 50s in the PE Department. In the 70s I was the Assistant Principal of the Lower School and on the Beta Team. These days you can find me volunteering in the library. Who am I?

y archives

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The Friends Academy Fall Fair originated as a Lower School fair and was in its 25th year by 1964. In 1965, the Fall Fair and Homecoming Weekend were united together as one event. See coverage of this year's Fall Fair on Page 10.

E-mail your answer to The winner, whose name will be drawn from all correct entries, will receive a surprise Friends Academy gift.

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Hunger Awareness Day Freshmen Emma Brown and Tolu Ojo help make sandwiches with the Upper School on Nov. 3. Students made 800 sandwiches that were later delivered to the following places: - St. Gertrude's Church food pantry (Bayville) - The Glen Cove soup kitchen - The INN soup kitchen (Hempstead) - St. Peter's food pantry - St. Hughes soup kitchen (Suffolk)

"Service to others is the way we break down the walls that keep us isolated in our own lives and in our own communities. It's how we grow as human beings." – A Quaker Book of Wisdom

inside Vol. 47, No. 1

Around the Quad. 4 How some of our FA teachers spent their summer Academic Team filmed, advances to next round Middle School students stage immigration debate Senior Marks: Academic/athletic, science and writing achievements Empty Bowls: A cross-divisional art and community service project

2010 FA Fall Fair. 10 The Arts. 12 Fall production: A LOL comedy hits the stage Honors Concert delivers a command performance Why is everyone talking about 'Extraordinary'?

Feature Story. 14 Friends embraces the power of giving in school, at home and beyond.

Sports: Go FA! 18 Exciting, explosive post-season play is what defined this year's fall season with four teams battling for the ultimate crown.

Faculty Milestones. 25 Alumni Profiles. 28 Sanford Hull '74: A Generous Heart and a Life of Service Dara Broxmeyer Gruenberg '99: Community Service Architect at Friends and Beyond Elissa Zirinksy '03: At Home in Tanzania

Class Notes. 34 In Memoriam. 54 The Meeting House Staff Editor Andrea Miller, Director of Communications and Marketing 516.393.4295 | Writers Kathy Fox, Hayley Kucich '03 and Andrea Miller Photographers Michael Damm, Allison Dohert, Amanda Fisk, David Gatoux, Margaret Lindner and Rob Waller

on the cover

SIMPLE SUPPER TO HELP END HUNGER. Raquel Doscher '19 created this watercolor poster as part of the 4th- and 10th-grade project, "Empty Bowls." After creating ceramic bowls and prints, students and their families united for a simple supper of soup and bread to raise funds for a local shelter. MARGARET LINDNER/Friends Academy


Around the Quad Three Stories of Teacher Projects

MARK ATKINSON FOR friends academy

Dance and drum teacher Yahaya Kamate leads a group of students in African drumming. This summer he brought his drumming talent to a school in Brooklyn for students with severe disabilities.

Inspiring summers By Andrea Miller Director of Communications

The summer break offered many of our teachers time to review curriculum, create original projects and explore new areas of learning. From an original research seminar for 7th graders to a new foundation for reading in Kindergarten and First grade to inspirational music therapy for disabled children, these teachers tapped new ground.

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added. Kamate's work with special education students through his dance group Kamate don't know how you did it, but Traders, prompted him to visit the you did something students of PS 171 in Brooklyn. big," said the princiThere he met students who transpal of a New Jersey formed him. special education school. "I never knew that there was She was speaking to Friends this kind of school in this coundance and drumming teacher try," said Kamate. "A school for Yahaya Kamate about the effect kids with really severe disabilities. his drumming had on one of her One brought tears to my eyes students. because he was blind and mute." "This girl was 18 years old Dance and drum teacher Kamate set up his drums and Yahaya Kamate and severely disabled," rebegan his rhythmic therapy. counted Kamate. "She would "There were plenty of kids who couldn't fall asleep on me constantly. After six or talk and the only way they could express seven months of drumming and music, themselves was through banging." she is now awake, hitting one hand after Within minutes, the students were another," he said. "And she can now stand responding to Kamate and his music. "One up and go to the bathroom on her own," he student was in the back in his wheelchair

Drumming takes severely disabled children to brand new place


Around the Quad and just started dancing in his chair," said Kamate. "And I remember the teacher said to me, 'You're really making this boy happy.' " For Kamate, it was an experience that he will truly never forget. "It helps me appreciate life more," he said. "One of my students was both blind and deaf, but he started smiling because he was feeling the beat. The teacher came to me and said this was the first time she had seen him smile."

Redesign of third grade science curriculum unit


hen Lower School Science teacher Meghan Stott sat down this summer to redesign the third grade earth/science unit, she wanted to create an interactive learning project for her students that would also be interdisciplinary. "In my graduate studies, we did a hands-on study in river formation. And when I looked closely at the EgypLower School science tian Social Studies teacher Meghan Stott unit that the third graders also learn about, I thought it would be the perfect tie-in," said Stott. Stott used the summer to create a sixweek project for this spring where students will examine the erosion, river formation and sediment deposition of the Nile River. With new stream tables, which resemble a tray with sand and rocks, the students will be able to design and carve out their own Nile River. Using a siphoning tube, students can then set the flow of their river and observe how much the banks erode and where sediment is deposited. As Stott explained, "The Nile River floods yearly. And as it floods, it brings this rich soil from the Ethiopian highlands downstream and deposits the soil on the banks. This has been the basis for farming in that region for thousands of years." For Stott, the interdisciplinary approach is key. "I think the students will see that science isn't separate from social studies; that all of these subjects are tied in and influence one another. It builds a context for

their learning and ultimately serves as an umbrella for all of the other disciplines."

Science – meet writing. Writing – meet science.


or sixth grade teachers Debbie Alber (English) and Dan Kriesberg (Science), the chance to collaborate and link their two academic areas with a Reading & Writing workshop was finally a reality. "Dan and I have talked before about trying to come up with a way to bring together our two disciplines," said Alber. During the summer, the two met to develop a curriculum that connected science with reading/writing. "During the first quarter, my class read a lot out of Every Living Thing, Middle School science teacher Dan Kriesberg and which chronicles English teacher Debbie connections beAlber tween a person and an animal and ultimately the relationship that exists between humans and wildlife," said Alber. "We were able to talk about our responsibilities and what was going on the in Gulf," she added. In his class, Kriesberg had his students read Flush, in which a brother and sister have to figure out how to prove a gambling boat is polluting the water. "Now in our chemistry unit, we will have our own ecological mystery and that will connect back to the book," said Kriesberg. This spring, both teachers will collaboratively have their students create and write their own picture books about the natural world. Kriesberg will also challenge his students with reading from a list of 20 environmental books and answer questions that will help students become better writers. "The interdisciplinary approach makes it real for the students," said Kriesberg. "And now that it's integrated, we have more time for both areas."


FA Teacher Curriculum Development Projects Friends teachers are eligible to apply and receive funds for creating teacher curriculum development projects. Here are a few:

New reading & writing program for K-First Grade:


ollowing their Wilson Fundations workshop in July, Kindergarten teachers Sara Weinstein and Jaimee Connors and First grade teacher Kim Jennings spent a week developing a Wilson curriculum for those grades. The program spans phonetic instruction as well as spelling and handwriting. The curriculum will work in tandem with their guided reading program and will be used to build increased consistency between their grades.

7th grade Social Studies research project:


umar Wang librarian and archivist Mary Ann Reardon designed a project to teach students about the research process – from choosing a topic through a final paper and oral presentation. Students will be taught how to find information, take notes and create an outline and works cited page.

Analysis of 6th/7th/8th grade mathematics curricula:


iddle School math teacher Melissa Oddo studied the mathematics curriculum in 6th through 8th grades to determine if it best meets the needs of FA students.

Web 2.0 course for Upper School students:


pper School Educational Technology teacher Marsha Mayer created a one-semester course that will teach students how to learn and use a variety of Web 2.0 tools, including digital photography, video and audio production, social networking, online collaboration, publishing and presentation tools. The course will also examine social and cultural effects of new media.

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Around the Quad Middle School

Read, Blog ... Debate! Middle School students dig into both sides to argue issues of immigration in America The 2010-11 Academic Team: Adviser Matt Davison, adviser Jen Newitt, Jessie McNiel '11, Challenge host Jared Cotter, Gabby McPhaulGuerrier '11, Patrick Pozzi '11, Justin Brown '12 and Sinan Arkonac '11 (alternate) at the start of filming for The Challenge.

Academic team advances to next round of tourney


he quadruple-senior Academic team put mental muscle to the test in the first round of The Challenge, an academic competition for schools in the tri-state area. Nearly 200 schools compete annually in this fast-paced factoid contest. On Oct. 27, the Friends team of seniors Patrick Pozzi, Justin Brown, Gabby McPhaul-Guerrier and Jessie McNiel took on New Hyde Park. In the back-andforth game, Friends fell behind, but took control during their lightning round with questions on "Initials and Acronyms in Technology." while New Hyde struggled with "Asian Capitals." According to coach and advisor Jen Newitt, the final question sets proved to be crucial with queries about the Nathans Hot Dog Eating Competiton and Walmart. "Senior Patrick Pozzi dove into steal a question from New Hyde Park about the name of the Walmart founder (Sam Walton) and the entire team collaborated to come up with the winning answer to where the first Walmart opened (Arkansas)," said Newitt. "Those were the answers that sealed the victory for the team!" she added.

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From left: Seventh graders Nina Trovato, Megan Wootten, Saborny Mahmud, Nick Schneider and Tyler Riese.


ll of the elements were in place for the verbal and intellectual showdown between two classes of seventh graders. History teacher Pascale Pierre and English teacher Kathleen Schalk developed the Middle School Immigration Debate as part of their team-teaching units on Mexico/CentralAmerica and argument/persuasive writing. "The students spent time reading and blogging about the assigned article, researching current events and planning their side of the argument," said Schalk. As the opposing benches of students took their seats, the topics were announced ... Education, health care, the economy. Schalk mediated as Pierre graded the students on their debate competency during speaking. As the energy increased, so did the amount of note passing from supporting team members. "When you are passing a

note, make sure you are supporting with facts," counseled Schalk. "If it's your opinion only, you are not valuing the opinion of the speaker." Students seemed to gravitate toward issues of economy. Here is an excerpt: How does immigration affect Mexico? Pro: Because the border is closed, it is creating more illegal immigrants. Anti: It is easy to become a real citizen. Pro: To get legalized, it takes a lot of paperwork and money; should let immigrants move to the U.S., get a job and then get citizenship. Anti: In Mexico, people must have access to more than one job; should not have to leave. Pro: Good chance that most people will become legal. Anti: Mexicans are taking away jobs that tax-paying Americans should have. Pro: Mexicans are doing jobs that no American will do for little money.

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Hiking, Climbing, Bonding... Outdoor Ed AMANDA FISK/FRIENDS ACADEMY

Kindergartner Emma Daniels shows junior Catryn Silbersack around the sandbox at recess.

Community service starts at home (a.k.a. school)


roups of juniors joined Lower School classes this fall as part of the Upper School's internal community service effort. Each week, a different advisory group would visit the Lower School classes to teach them a new game like soccer or a boardgame, play chess, read books or play informally outside during recess.

Mix-It-Up at Lunch Day: MS students promote inclusive communities


n December 6th, the members of the MS Diversity Club sponsored Mix-It-Up at Lunch Day, part of a national effort to reduce intolerance. During the weeks leading up to the event students were asked to think about their daily lunchroom experiences (whether or not they sit with the same students every day, how they would respond if they saw a peer sitting alone at lunch, etc.) in an attempt to help them recognize the presence of cliques and the effect of such cliques on some students. During the event, students and faculty were assigned to specific lunch tables. Members of the diversity club and four volunteers from the Steering Committee walked around the lunchroom to help facilitate conversations at the various tables.


Every year, the ninth grade class travels to the Great Hollow Wilderness Camp in New Fairfield, CT, for four days of camping and hiking along the Appalachian Trail. The trip offers students opportunities, challenges and new experiences with the aim of creating new bonds among classmates, as well as personal growth in each individual.

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Upper School

Senior Marks Three seniors achieve honors in academic/athletics, science and writing


Freshmen and fifth graders unite to learn about the customs of Mexico's Day of the Dead celebration or Día de los Muertos.

Upper and Lower School students explore Mexican holiday with joint project


pper and Lower School students learned from each other and from Spanish teachers Fina Scibilia (LS) and Angie Martin (US) in a collaborative class project to mark Mexico's Day of the Dead celebration. Fifth grade Spanish students and Upper School Spanish 5 students worked together to research and chronicle some of Mexico's famous figures. They concocted some typical treats in honor of Día de los Muertos and created festive decorations that were ultimately displayed upon a fabricated altar on the top floor of the Kumar Wang Library.

Third graders display their newly decorated sugar skulls. Second graders created colorful calvera masks, first graders learned the Mexican folk art of papercutting (papel picado), and fourth graders created lively skeletons inspired by the famous Mexican engraver and artist José Guadalupe Poasada.

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From left: Athletic Director David Gatoux, senior Kira Garry and Upper School principal Deb Schoman.


hree seniors were honored this fall for their outstanding achievement in three different areas. Senior Kira Garry received the Long Island News12 / MSG Varsity ScholarAthlete Award, which recognizes all-around achievement in scholarship, athletics, leadership, and school service. For Garry, this award carried a definite prestige. "I am very proud to have received the scholar-athlete award. I've known about it since I was a freshman and looked up to previous Friends' athletes like Helen Hatch or Lizzy Drumm who had received it," said Garry. Friends Academy senior Mackenzie Norris earned an Achievement Award in Writing from the National Council of Teachers of English. A total of 1,641 juniors were nominated by schools in all 50 states, the District of Columbia, the Virgin Islands, Canada and American schools abroad. A total

of 543 high school seniors were chosen as finalists. According to the NCTE, “Assessments of student writing are based on students’ samples of their own best prose or verse and on impromptu themes that are written under supervision.” Senior Jordan Woldenberg was selected as one of eleven Cold Spring Harbor Laboratory’s prestigious “Partners for the Future.” Open to all Long Island high school students, Woldenberg was selected from 1,200 applicants. Woldenberg will spend a minimum of 10 hours per week this year, September through March, doing original research with his scientist mentor. For Woldenberg, the partnership gives him the chance to dive into research that he hopes will provide a better understanding of disorders such as Attention Deficit, Alzheimer’s, Schizophrenia and Dementia.

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Collaborative Service Project A sampling of 10th grade ceramic bowls that were created for the Empty Bowls Project.

Simple steps to help end a complex problem Fourth grade and 10th grade art classes sculpt bowls, hold simple supper to raise funds for local shelter

Freshman Rebecca Melman sings the French national anthem at the Locust Valley Veterans Day Celebration on Nov. 11.


ike the story of "Stone Soup," the Empty Bowls Project began as a seed and evolved into a larger undertaking – a cross-divisional art and community service project between the 4th grade and two Upper School art classes at Friends. An international effort, the Empty Bowls initiative was started as a grassroots effort to end hunger and food insecurity. "From its humble beginnings as a meal for the staff of one high school, Empty Bowls has spread across the United States and beyond and has raised tens of millions of dollars for anti-hunger organizations," quoted the project's website. This fall under the guidance of Upper School art teacher Allison Doherty and Lower School art teacher Margaret Lindner, two groups created ceramic bowls, while another class created limitededition prints. The project culminated with a simple community supper, where students involved gathered to share soup (made by parents) and bread (baked by students and art teachers). Through generous donations and the sale of numerous prints and bowls, nearly $1,000 was raised for a local men's shelter in Glen Cove, run by the North Shore Sheltering Program.

A French tribute from FA



From top: Sculpting bowls in 4th grade; creating prints in 10th grade; a finished print; the culminating supper of soup and bread in the Commons.

wo anthems were heard this year in front of the Locust Valley Library on Veterans Day as part of a ceremony in honor of veterans and active-duty soldiers. Freshman Rebecca Melman sang verses from the French National Anthem as the village of Locust Valley re-dedicated a WWI canon that had been given to the Americans by the French government at the end of the war. The evening before, Friends hosted the showing of a free documentary "Operation Democracy," a film that recounted the special relationship that developed between Locust Valley and the first liberated French town of Ste. Mere Eglise. Both countries demonstrated an unfailing aptitude for civic service. The French mayor's wife, Madame Renaud, attended to the graves of fallen American servicemen over four decades. In 1947, Locust Valley began sending clothes, letters of encouragement and other items to the war-ravaged French town.

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Fall Fair 2010 Fall Fair {Scenes from Fall Fair, Oct. 22-23}


Fall Fair rides can't get much better than this as a group of Middle School students and Friends Academy faculty discover.


The WATCH dunktank is a mainstay of Fall Fair.

his year, Friends celebrated its 45th Fall Fair and Homecoming Weekend on Friday, October 22 and Saturday, October 23, Fall Fair originally began as the Lower School Fair, but on October 23, 1965, the fair and the 2nd Homecoming were united into one event. FA parents Anji Rossi and Tara Tam co-chaired this year's fair, which drew over 600 people. New attractions included a hayride for children, a mechanical bull, roasted corn and pulled pork sandwiches. A new FA Chess booth featured life-sized matches. The FA Bonfire & BBQ, co-chaired by Jeannine and Glen Lostritto '84 and Nancy '76 and Tom Hawkins '78 returned with live music by FA music teacher James Liverani's band, "Artificial Flavor."

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Fifth grader Kayla Koroma gets into the excitement at the Friday pep rally.

Head of School Bill Morris opens Fall Fair with Matthew Storch, 4th, and Brandon Shore, 1st. Members of the FA football team get some pep rally cheer in the gym on Friday, October 22. Senior Tommy Gambino and sophomore Jake Hawkins lead the line.

2010 Fall Fair


(Far left) The Boys Varsity Soccer team matched up against Wheatley. Seniors Colin Heffron and Matt Slotnick lead the charge. (Left) Second grader Jasmine Carnevale gets her face painted.

FA's Quaker-inResidence John Scardina and his wife play to the crowds on Saturday.

FA parents and grillmasters volunteer at the BBQ tent. A successful bonfire burned brightly Friday night, warming hands and hearts.

How long could you stay on the mechanical bull? Many a fairgoer, including 8th grader Javana Clark, took their chances.

Sophomore Nick Moretto displays FA spirit in front of the Alumni Tent on the FA Quad.

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The Arts Fall Production: Servant of Two Masters

A 'LOL' comedy hits the stage By Andrea Miller Director of Communications


(Top) Liam Collier '12 as Florindo, and (bottom) Mackenzie Norris '11 as the knife-wielding Brighella, who is the only one who knows of Beatrice's plan.

here's a well-known acting axiom that producing a drama pales next to the innate difficulties of a comedy. But this challenge didn't deter the cast and crew of FA's first full-out comedy, "Servant of Two Masters," which premiered November 4 -6 in the Helen A. Dolan Center. As director Tracey Foster explains, "This is our first attempt at a written-300-yearsago, classically-styled, famous, commedia dell'arte, people-havebeen-laughing-atthese-jokes-FOREVER comedy." A clever mix of both modern innuendos and classic word play, the 19-member cast pulled their audience into a Shakespearean-like quick-moving muddle of mixed identities, lost loves and intricate plots to reclaim reputations. Set as a play within a play, we meet the cast as they are attempting to produce the classic Italian play, but are riddled with such economic downturns as recycled props, frequent power losses and argumentative actors. Against the agile humor of puns, slapstick and physical comedy, we

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(From bottom) Nick McNeil '13 as Steve, Alan Gabay '12 as Jim, Courtney Naughton '12 as Smeraldina, Gabrielle Rechler '12 as Clarice and Jake Ingrassia '12 as Silvio, her betrothed.

learn of Beatrice, who disguises herself as her dead brother in order to clear the name of her brother's alleged murderer (and her lover), Florindo. When she and Florindo unknowingly both engage the servant Truffaldino (a no-no in 1743), the mix-ups (and comedic repartee) ensue with rollercoaster-like speed. In the end, lovers are reunited, weddings are scheduled, and the audience is left holding their heads and their bellies.

Amanda Wylie '14 and Ryan Dobrin '14 play beleaguered stagehands.

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3rd Annual Honors Concert | October 14

A disguised Jessie McNiel '11 as Beatrice engages Silvio in a pen fight as Smeraldina, Dottore, Silvio's father (Tyler Newitt '13) and Signora Pantalone, Clarice's mother (Jacqueline Cron '11) look on.

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From left: Aaron Lee '12, Zorina Akhund '12, Leah Ansel '13, Colleen Stack '12, Katrina Garry '14, Mackenzie Norris '11, Lucy Petropoulos '12, Ian D'Silva '14, Kara McNelis '14 and Nick Pascucci '12.

Hudson Themelis '14 as hard-working Bob and Devin Gerzof '12 as overworked and famished servant Truffaldino.

Command performance

Why is Everyone Talking About


It's Seth's first day back at school after the accident... After the hospital. After his life was changed forever. No more swim team, no chance at being All-American, no more future.

It's Codi's last chance to keep things together... She's all alone, taking care of her mother who is sick in bed. And Children's Services is knocking on her door, asking questions that Codi knows she can't answer.


coming-of-age story with a dose of the supernatural and an original rock score, Extraordinary is about a group of high school students who live through a nightmare, and wake up to find their dreams come true.


Clockwise, from far left: Kara McNelis '14 sings "Il Mio Bel Foco"; FA parent Vimal D'Silva accompanies her son Ian '14 as he plays the alto saxophone; Nick Pascucci '12, cello; Lucy Petropoulos '12, flute; Leah Ansel '13, clarinet.


Feature Story Community Service at Friends: Ingrained and Embedded

'It's how we grow'

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Last year's eighth graders work to weed and clean up at a local nature sanctuary on Community Service Day. From left, Alex Schneider, Aidan Vascotto, Natasha Makowsky and Carolyn Cahill.

A History of Community Service at Friends Academy 1876

Early 1970s



Friends Academy opens

Program begins robust growth in all divisions with leadership from William Masland, President of Board.

Quakerism and religion teacher John Barrett starts the After School Program, where students visit various local groups serving those in need.

Former Early Childhood teacher and current Board Vice President Doris Pailet writes grant proposal callled SEEDS (Service Experiences Early Develop Sensitivity) and is catalyst for formalizing Lower School Community Service Program.

1967 Lower School Principal Bob Fatherly and Headmaster Ted Withington begin a tutoring program at the Kennedy Housing Center in Glen Cove.

1967-70 Upper School Principal Tom Wood starts Independent Study program, of which many are service-oriented.

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Each class undertakes a minimum of three projects each year and projects were linked with parent workshops. Some of the activities included: Sent school supplies to students in the Gaza strip, gathered and packed used eyeglasses for Eyes of the Needy, sent vegetable/

Feature Story


Internal service starts off year dedicated to the power of giving


By Andrea Miller Director of Communications

t's a tried and true piece of advice that we've all heard growing up: Charity begins at home. This grain of a thought became the seed that prompted the all-school theme of giving and service at Friends Academy this year. "Each year, the theme is selected by faculty and students who meet in the spring before school ends," explained Head of School Bill Morris. "The group last spring wanted us to bring a sharp focus on the service testimony for two reasons – first, to increase our internal service so that more students could be involved, and second, to explore how we expand external service," added Morris. For Morris, service may be one of the most important of the Quaker testimonies because it ties all the others together. And connection turned out to be a wonderful by-product to the theme. "The key part about internal service was to create opportunities for a cross-divisional service interaction," he said. The idea to forge stronger ties between each of the divisions was born late last spring, when Upper School Spanish teacher Rachel Hall agreed to clerk the three-divisional committee on Community Service. As part of a summer curriculum grant, Hall researched other Quaker schools to

better understand their service requireat all," recounted Hall. "It made them view ments and how their service programs are a group of people in a different way and run and supported. challenged the stereotypes of low-wage "Service should be a priority at the earners. It also opened them up to a wide school given our mission," said Hall. "Our range of complex issues... They take that committee is tasked with examining what much in taxes? Such and such costs that kind of service we should much?," said Hall. "It be doing and how to connected them to a lot of Without reflection, make service more a part real-life issues." of the daily fabric," said Community involvethere is no complete Hall. ment, as Hall likes to call connection to other An important question it, expanded in all divisions people's experience. for Hall and others is the this year. integration of reflecWithin the Lower tion before and after a project. Without School, principal Deborah McCrimmon reflection, says Hall, there is no complete tasked the teachers and students with the connection to other people's experience. question, "Can we change the world?" "If you just jump from project to project "We are trying to encourage students to without thinking about what you've done, know the impact they can have on their you don't recognize what you've learned world while helping others as well as and the importance for all parties," said ourselves while being politically active Hall. and owning their part in larger problems. In her Community Service class, Hall In other words, we are teaching them how creates a minimum wage simulation in to be part of the solution via having their connection with hunger and homelessness. voices heard – building citizenship and Students are challenged to find a place to responsibility," said McCrimmon. live, deal with basic costs, transportation In the fifth grade, students are benefitand how they are going to make up a shortting from hands-on and intergenerational fall, all while earning minimum wage. experiences. "In an attempt to get away After the exercise, students reflect upon from the usual fundraising type of service, the question, does minimum wage provide we asked our parents on Back-to-School a basic standard of living? "Students were Night for some ideas of what to do to help split between yes – but barely, and no – not Continued on Page 16

A History of Community Service at Friends Academy flower seeds to poor countries, collected sweaters for Vietnamese orphans, collected mounds of cans and bottles (before neighborhood recycling began) and redeemed funds to sponsor events for disabled children, donated cans of cat and dog food for animal groups.

Late 1970s/ Early 80s Designated faculty member coordinates service projects in Middle/Upper Schools.

1986 Herb Lape, Quaker and Upper School history teacher introduces a required one-

term 10th grade community service course incorporating active service. In collaboration with the American Friends Service Committee, Lape transforms the YSOP (Youth Services Opportunity Project) from an individual basis to a required schoolsponsored trip.



Working with US principal Tom Woehrle and others, Lape helps establish the student-run committee, called W.A.T.C.H. (We Are The Community Helpers). It organizes first Hunger Awareness Day, under leadership of Liz Baum '86.

English teacher Sarah Hutt organizes student/faculty and parent volunteers to work for Habitat for Humanity. Groups travel to NYC to help renovate a gutted apartment building for the first two years.

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the Physically Challenged was cancelled, eighth graders are looking for ways to support those schools that may have been impacted. Internal service played a central role for Upper Schoolers this year as each advisory created projects. From help with Gideon's Attic to sorting in the lost and found to reading and playing games with Lower Schoolers to cleaning windows and woodwork at retreat camps, students helped to take responsibility for their own community. In athletics, several teams also hosted interdivisional events, as well as individual fundraising activities. The football program – Varsity, JV and Middle School BRIE KRASKA/FRIENDS ACADEMY – raised $1,775 and collected gloves, hats, Fifth graders sing holiday carols for the residents of the Regency Assisted Living Center. scarves, socks, travel kits, tooth brush sets and other accessories for the Glen Continued from Page 15 service program to establish longer-term Cove Men's Shelter. For coordinator Mike relationships with several organizations to in our community," said McCrimmon. FA Damm, dropping off the items left him offer students more frequent opportunities. parent Diane Lucchesse suggested a yearwith unforgettable memories. "Students can now develop long activity with the Regency Assisted "As I entered the more of a relationship Living Center. kitchen I had expected with that organization and In December, students visited, perto run into one of the "Essentially service work better to understand formed and hosted a sing-along for counselors who was on is about meeting their role and impact," residents. This March, in conjunction with duty and expecting me. needs in a way that said principal Steve their unit on the Swing era, the students Instead I was greeted by ensure human Rubenacker. will be visiting and interviewing residents two men and I identified Within their communidignity. This is about their lives and their personal experimyself as a representative ty, Middle School students ences during that time. Finally, in May, about a reciprocal of Friends Academy drophave reached out to each the fifth graders will read picture books to ping off hats, gloves and relationship." other with peer-to-peer residents and lead a related art activity. other supplies. Their eyes tutoring, as well as their "We hope that our time in the assisted lit up when they saw the "LS Readers" program. living facility will help our students to supplies. I thought they were volunteers, Community outreach programs, like recognized how important it is to share joy, but they were the men who were staying at the 7th Grade Walk-A-Thon and annual smiles and stories with each other," said the shelter, who said, 'This is great. I need Community Service Day are still in place; McCrimmon. gloves and a hat,' " remembered Damm. however, after the Empire State Games for This year, the Middle School revised its "They proceeded to try them on and

A History of Community Service at Friends Academy 1988


Friends selected as finalist by Newsday in its Long Island High School of the Year Award.

Council on Religion in Independent Schools (now CSEE, the Council for Spiritual and Ethical Education) recognizes Friends for having one of the most comprehensive community service programs nationwide.

Late 1980s/ Early 1990s The Interfaith Nutrition Network (INN) opens new soup kitchen in Glen Cove. Middle School students volunteer to serve meals and first and second grades

SOURCES: A Century of Friends: 1877-1977; The Meeting House, Winter 2004; The Meeting House, Fall 1992

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begin annual project of decorating soup kitchen for holidays. Eighth graders join students with disabilities during recreation time at the Henry Viscardo School in Albertson. Fifth grade begins tradition of helping plant beach grass

and clean up along shore of Caumsett preserve. US W.A.T.C.H. students partner students with U.S. Post Office in Manhattan to answer children's letters to Santa.

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Sophomore Chretien Teitelbaum helps repair desks.

A sampling of Community Service projects this year:


Junior Ben Wachtler matches wits with first grader Quinn Mullaney during the juniors' weekly visits to the Lower School.

thanked me over and over again." All Upper School students are required to contribute their help to the school. The housekeeping chores of lunchroom and classroom clean-up offer opportunities for service to the school, to foster a sense of belonging and caring, and to make a positive difference to the physical and social ambiance of Friends. This year, Herb Lape, coordinator of the Work Program, added another component as students took on more creative and rigorous activities. Replacing desktops, painting and some possible landscaping in the spring broadened students' perspective toward internal service. Led by Upper School faculty members

Judy James and Geoff James, W.A.T.C.H. (We Are The Community Helpers) staged a fundraiser for Haiti that involved 10 faculty and over 80 students. Students raised $1,400 for AFSC, an organization working to build sustainable solutions in Haiti. W.A.T.C.H. continued to sponsor the annual Hunger Awareness Day, making 800 sandwiches that were distributed to local soup kitchens. "It's all about human dignity," said Hall. "Essentially service is about meeting needs in a way that ensure human dignity. This is about a reciprocal relationship – you learn and grow as much as the people you are involved with," she added.

Lower School: Mitten Tree coat Collection, Care Cards distributed to nursing homes/hospitals/veteran associations, weaving book marks for nursing home, Cardinal Hayes Home fundraiser, Empty Bowls Art & Community Service Project, Sing Along with the Regency. Coordinators: Jaimee Connors, Jennifer Britt, Susan Haff Middle School: After-school tutoring programs, Walk-a-Thon, ongoing relationships with AHRC and SCO family services, advisory trips every other week to Glen Cove Men's Shelter to stock closets, cleanup of children's garden, reading to Lower School children. Coordinator: Selina Collier Upper School: Boys & Girls Club tutoring, SCO basketball program, music and art therapy with kids from SCO, sandwich making for Glen Cove Men's Shelter, Haiti fundraiser, cooking for the homeless men's shelter, school supply drive for Afghanistan (collected over 1,000 lbs., holiday food drive for Island Harvest, toy drive for Boys & Girls Club, Work Program (housekeeping chores of Commons and classrooms). Coordinators: Ron Baskind, Judy James, Geoff Nelson, Herb Lape, Angie Martin, Rachel Hall

A History of Community Service at Friends Academy 1990





Groups of US students dedicate spring/summer vacations to refurbishing houses in West Virginia through the Appalachian Service Project

Over 20 schools send representatives to Friends for a statewide conference on Community Service.

Field Trip Day in May is transformed into Community Service Day. The first project helps to revive grave stones and clean up the historic freed-slave graveyard on Piping Rock.

Dara Broxmeyer '99 spearheads effort to transform Independent Study Project into Independent Service Project.

Friends embraces service as its year-long theme and uses this to energize internal service initiatives. Friends holds the first Community Service Reception for Long Island-based organizations. Over 35 organizations attend.

1993 Friends wins the IBM Pursuit of Excellence Award for Outstanding Secondary School Community Service.

2009 Friends offers community service trips to El Salvador.

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Boys Soccer crowned state champs

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The Boys Varsity Soccer team captured their second state title with a win against Marathon High School, 3-0. They were later honored with a special New York state proclamation from State Senator Carl Marcellino, front row, third from right.


Varsity Boys Soccer: Back-to-Back NYS Crown

he Boys Varsity Soccer Team had another very exciting year; Coach Marshall Lindner and Assistant Coach Dave Barth can’t stop smiling. The overall season record was 15 wins, 1 loss, and 2 ties. One highlight of the season was winning the conference championship. In a thrilling threeteam race, Friends overtook both Carle Place individual awards and Wheatley on the last day of the regular ALL-STATE – Matt Slotnick season. ALL-COUNTY – Matt Slotnick Trailing 2 to 0 to Wheatley at the half on (MVP Conference), Chris Cambell the day of the Fall Fair, a huge and vocal crowd (MVP state championship), Colin helped FA come back and tie the Heffron (HONORABLE MENTION game. This enabled the Boys to and MVP LI championship) win the conference championALL-CONFERENCE – Brian Judge, ship by beating Locust Valley Cole Chartash, Ryan Marsh, Mike Isernio, Kyle Dineen the following Monday. Friends defeated Port Jefferson Boys Varsity Soccer Coach 3-0 in the Long Island Championship game and advanced to the next Marshall round of the playoffs. After victories in the quarter finals and the semi Lindner wins finals, the team played Marathon High School in an effort to defend Coach of the Year. the state championship that they won last year. In a very exciting game, in which both teams played outstanding soccer, Friends emerged victorious by a score of 3 to 0. Winning back-to-back state championships was a total team effort – every member of the team contributed to the success of the season. 2010 ROSTER: Paul Asadourian, Justin Brown, Christopher Campbell, Cole Chartash, Drew Chartash, Frank DellaFera, Harrison DellaFera, Michael DeMatteis, Kyle Dineen, Matthew Gutierrez, Samuel Hawkins,Colin Heffron, Michael Isernio,

Bryan Judge, Ryan Marsh, Alexander Muran, Kevin Naughton, Jonathan Nierenberg, Patrick Pozzi, Hunter Robinson, Eli Rousso, Harrison Seideman, David Sher, Matthew Slotnick, Dillon Wilensky, David Zambratto Managers: Stephanie Batista, Grace Dixon

The Girls Varsity Soccer team won their conference on Fall Fair with a win over Oyster Bay, 6-0 as Jamie Genatt and Krystina Iordanou celebrate.

Girls Soccer claim LI Championship Varsity Girls Soccer: Final State Ranking: 7th


he Girls Varsity Soccer Team, led by Coach Gail Baker and Assistant Coach Dick Abbene, enjoyed a highly rewarding season this fall. In addition to finishing first in the conference with an 8-2 record and earning a memorable win over the Carle Place Frogs in the pouring rain and a close victory over Wheatley HS, the Girls Varsity Quakers went on to victory Soccer Coach in the Long Island ChampiGail Baker wins onship. The L.I. ChampionConference Coach of the ship pitted Friends against Year. Stony Brook High School. The Stony Brook players were overrun by the FA team play as our girls dominated the game from whistle to whistle. The final score was 2-1 in favor of the Quakers. Although Friends lost at the regional championships, they did not leave the field defeated.

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As Gussie Gahan said, “During preseason for soccer this year, Coach Baker had us sit in the shade for a few minutes to cool down and talk about our goals for the season. Everyone was optimistic and said they wanted to win a variety of different titles. I just said that I wanted to have no regrets. I think I speak for everyone on the team when I say we have no regrets, we played our very best and did everything we could.” Coach Gail Baker explains that much of the team’s success this year was attributed to the simplification of their plans. The girls set the season’s goals early. It was all about the team – placing the individual on the back burner. The captains and the seniors provided a calm and confident air that gave all the players a good reason to believe they had something special this year. All of the seniors will be sorely missed next year. The core of younger players will return next season and the expectations will be high. 2010 ROSTER: Jessica Babicz, Michelle Babicz, Correy Denihan, Kelsey Denihan, Amanda Edwards, Augusta Gahan, Jamie Genatt, Melissa Greenblatt, Krystina Iordanou, Nancy Karches, Kasey Katz, Kristina Kim, Heather Maierle, Shekinah Pettway, Marissa Tidona, Sophia Toles, Meredith Wagner Managers: Sarah Chartash, Sophie Fritz

individual awards ALL-STATE – Krystina Iordano (2ND TEAM), Michelle Babicz (3RD TEAM) ALL-COUNTY – Michelle Babicz (SCHOLAR ATHLETE), Krystina Iordano (County player of the year for Class B &C) ALL-CONFERENCE – JessIE Babicz, Marissa Tidona, Jamie Genatt ALL-CLASS – Correy Denihan, Heather Maierle, Kristina Kim Outstanding Player of Conference 8 – Krystina Iordanou Outstanding Player for Nassau County Class B and C – Krystina Iordanou

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The Girls Cross County team won their division and finished 3rd in the Conference, while the boys finished 4th in their division. Senior Kira Garry paces her competitors.

Strong showing at states Varsity Cross Country: Nassau County Champions


he 2010 Cross Country Team, under the leadership of Coach Louisa Garry and Assistant Coach Alec Lash, was characterized by tremendous spirit, a healthy sense of fun, and a determination to successfully run 3.1 miles. With only three seniors on the team, this was a very young group dominated by fourteen underclassmen, many of them participating in cross country for the first time. What they lacked in experience, they made up for with a tireless effort to practice and a steady drive to improve and to run personal records. Highlights of our season included a road trip to Pawling with a jump in the lake after the race and an overnight trip to Brown University to compete in the Northeast Championships. The Cross Country team continued with their tradition of community service by leading the 6th annual Fall Fair Benefit Run and raising $450 for Light One Little Candle. The boys team finished 4th in Division

IVB in regular season competition and finished 11th in the Conference Championships. The girls team won Division IVB in regular season competition and finished 3rd in the Conference Championships. The girls were thrilled to win the Class C County Championships for the 2nd year in a row and for the first time ever, Friends Academy can claim the overall Nassau County Girls Individual Champion for Cross Country. The Friends Academy girls team was proud to represent Section 8 in the New York State Championships at Pawling and finished 8th in Class C competition. Kira Garry was also honored at the Nassau Country Cross Country Dinner as the overall female Outstanding Performer for the 2010 season. She is the first athlete at Friends Academy to be recognized with this award. 2010 ROSTER: Robert Adams, David Binler, Patrick Crowley, William Duke, Megan Fox, Katrina Garry, Kira Garry, Ian Hom, Zachary Kriesberg, Emily LeoGrande, Erik Loscalzo, Glenn Lostritto, Rose Mangiarotti, Margot Mangiarotti, Sahil Massand, Lynda Negron, Graham Pancer, Maureen Sullivan, Cole Valentino

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FA 2010 Fall Sports individual awards OVERALL FEMALE OUTSTANDING PERFORMER (county - All classes) – KIRA GARRY



Girls win 6th consecutive championship Varsity Girls Field Hockey: Nassau County Champions


he Girls Varsity Field Hockey Team, led by Coach Christine Botti and Assistant Coach Margaret Garofalo, had an excellent season, finishing with an overall record of 13-4-1. After playing the top teams in Nassau County, the girls were conference 2 champions for the second straight season and won their sixth consecutive Nassau County Championship. The team lost a 2-0 heartbreaker to Pierson/Bridgehampton in the Long Island Championship game which ended their season. The team had great chemistry both on and off the field. As Coach Botti said, “It was a pleasure to watch this group of girls develop throughout the course of the season. They really enjoyed being together and competed with integrity and lots of enthusiasm.” The team graduates 10 seniors this year; next year’s team has big shoes to fill.

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The Girls Varsity Field Hockey team won their conference for the second year in a row as well as their sixth consecutive county championship. Senior Holly Constants fends off a defender.

2010 ROSTER: Jalisa Clark, Holly Constants, Savannah Febesh, Drew Friedman, Brigid Gahan, Charlotte Gelfand, Diana Gherlone, Erin Gluck, Jessica Granger, Alix Heffron, Brooke Henn, Morgan Landow, Jennifer Massa, Casey Quinn, Taylor Ross, Bailey Saltz, Katy Saltz, Katherine Sands, Erica Sklar, Erika Vidal, Elizabeth Vitiello Manager: Niki Chabra

individual awards ALL-STATE – Savannah Febesh ALL-COUNTY – Bridie Gahan (HONORABLE MENTION), Jalisa Clark, Diana Gherlone, Taylor Ross, Savannah Febesh, Erica Sklar

Varsity Crew: Girls Quad Takes Gold

he Varsity Crew Team, led by Coach Carolyn Skudder and Assistant Coaches Allison Doherty and Julia Haltermann, had another successful season. Spending their afternoons on windy Oyster Bay, the team worked hard every day to improve their rowing technique and speed. The newer members of the team showed tremendous progress throughout the fall, as they developed confidence and even raced in boats with only one or two rowers. Varsity rowers came back from a successful spring season last year, with goals of continuing and improving on their many successes. Both of our girls quads finished in the top ten at the Head of the Schuylkill Regatta in Philadelphia – a significant accomplishment for a small team. Two girls doubles and one boys double travelled to the Head of the Charles in Boston and competed well against some of the fastest boats in the country on one of the most challenging courses. One girls double finished in the top ten, the other placed 25th. The boys double finshed 23rd. The varsity boys faced the challenge this fall of a new line-up in their quad. Ultimately, after a season of daily progress, the boys finished in the top ten at the Head of the Schuylkill Regatta. The boys that travelled to the Head of the Charles tackled the challenges of that race and course with confidence. Continued on Page 22

ALL-CONFERENCE – Brooke Henn, Holly Constants (SCHOLAR-ATHLETE), Katie Sands ALL-LEAGUE – Charlotte Gelfand NYS ALL-TOURNAMENT TEAM– Charlotte Gelfand, Diana Gherlone UNSUNG HERO – Katy Saltz EXCEPTIONAL SENIOR – JENNIFER Massa The Girls Varsity Quadruple of Sigal Markowitiz, Alison Kenedy, Nina Vascotto and Emily Browning placed first in the Head of the Schuylkill in Philadelphia on Oct. 30-31.

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Varsity Crew (cont.) 2010 ROSTER: Adrienne Bielawski, Emma Brown, Emily Browning, Daniel DeCamello, Michael Gambardella, Sarah Gross, Cecilia Judge, Alison Kennedy, Matthew Kuczmarski, Sigal Markowitz, Spencer Moslow, Aaron Moslow, Jessica Sawicki, Christopher Sawicki, Catryn Silbersack, Nina Vascotto, Jack Viener

Varsity Football: Strong Building Year


he community can be proud of the efforts put forth by this year’s football program. One year after having only a JV team, the Friends Varsity program, led by Head Coach Ron Baskind, Assistant Head John Regan and Assistant Coaches Al Quackenbush and Mike Damm, returned to compete in Section 8. While the team finished with a 2- 6 record, it earned great respect around the league for its level of play and sportsmanship. 2010 ROSTER: Grant Baskind, Nicholas Chapman, Sean Collins, Thomas Costa, Nicholas Croce, Christian Curran, Thomas Gambino, Nicholas Gavin, Kyle Grady, James Hawkins, Liam Kearney, Brian Lightcap, Derek Maruca, Thomas McCor-

mack, Edward McNelis, William O'Kane, Peter Picoli, Jonathan Ramsay, Alexander Ryan, Keyonne Session, Jake Silverman, Spencer Sklar, Jasper Themelis, Aidan Vascotto, Jonathan Wagner, John Westermann

Varsity Girls Tennis: County Showing Against Tough Competitors


he Girls Varsity Tennis Team finished up a tough conference 1 schedule with victories against Locust Valley and Long Island Lutheran. From spirited challenge matches to inspiring workouts with Strength and Conditioning Coach Brian Crocco, the team, led by Coach Brian Baxter, tried very hard to represent Friends Academy and its outstanding sports programs. Four of our girls qualified and won rounds at the Nassau County Individual Tournament. Next for Coach Baxter and his team – bringing a tennis championship back to Friends next year. 2010 ROSTER: Paige Elgarten, Allaire Heisig, Frances Hilbert, Nicole Katz, Corinne Kohan, Lauren Kolodny, Alyssa Lavin, Sierra Linder, Kirsten Loscalzo, Reoni Mapp, Sydney Menzin, Carolina Mocorrea, Isabella Pascucci, Lauriane Pinto, Sasha Silber, Maria Wade Managers: Tommy Kaminsky, Gregory Rosenthal

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Derek Maruca (#8) and Tommy Gambino break through to sack Valley Stream North quarter back.

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Top, Frances Hilbert returns serve during varsity match. Above, Evan Sayre in pursuit.

JV Boys Soccer: Historic Wins Against North Shore Neighbors


he Boys JV Soccer Team, coached by Edgar Posada and Assistant Coach Carlos Gonzalez, ended their season with 5 wins, 4 ties, and 3 losses. Their starting squad was young, skilled, and full of passion. This fall they made history by winning all their games against our cross-town rivals: Glen Cove, North Shore, and Locust Valley. “Our Boys JV Soccer Team had never before defeated Glen Cove or North Shore HS in the 16 years I've been a coach at Friends Academy. Without a doubt, the victory in the opening game against Glen Cove High School set the tone for the remainder of the season and the great accomplishments to come,” said Coach Posada. Another of the many highlights of this season was the game against Wheatley at the Fall Fair. The boys gave everything they had, and although the score read 1-1 at the final whistle, the coaches felt our boys played and conducted themselves like true champions. 2010 ROSTER: Andrew Bauer, Rani Bendary, Emilio Cuesta, Harrison DellaFera, Andrew Eng, Theodore Haggerty, Nathaniel Hogg, Timothy Ingrassia, Kev-

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FA 2010 Fall Sports in Isernio, Jahan Khan, Matthew Lieber, Bolade Majekodunmi, Joseph Moodhe, Nicholas Moretto, Harrison Mullen, Jonathan Nierenberg, Andrew O'Connell-Stingi, Hunter Robinson, Daniel Ross, Eli Rousso, William Sands, Evan Sayre, Jordan Schuss, Kellan Sehring, Harrison Seideman, David Sher, Mark Slotnick, Jack Viener, Dillon Wilensky, Brandon Yaraghi, Skyler Zaken

JV Girls Soccer: Success Through Optimism


he JV team, led by Coach Allison Mullen and Assistant Coach Jaime Conzelman, progressed as a unit to develop their ability to work together and to cultivate individual skills. Their hard work, determination, and positive attitude made the year successful. As Coach Mullen said, “The improvement that was made from the first game to the final game was indescribable. Each member’s development physically and fundamentally made a tremendous impact on their game performance.” Both coaches feel very fortunate to have been a part of such an amazing group of girls. 2010 ROSTER: Zorina Akhund, Rania Aniftos, Catherine Bechand, Stacey Danziger, Paulina Gordon, Kirsten Grady, Carly Hitzig, Brianna Izquierdo, Jacqueline Leon, Alix Liss, Domenica Lostritto, Taylor McGowan, Olivia Meszaros, Rose Morabito, Madeline O'Brien, Sarah O'Sullivan, Tolulope Ojo, Claudia Ratner, Marissa Reyes, Caitlin Rubin, Alexis Toles

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Carolyn Cahill and Margaret Brennan of the JV Girls Tennis team get ready for a serve.

JV Girls Tennis: Solid Winning Season


irls JV tennis, under the leadership of Coach Gino Uterano, began their season with two wins in the first week followed by ten days of rain. When play resumed, the girls continued on with their solid play, finishing with a winning record of 5-4. Next year looks to be very promising with many of this year’s players scheduled to return for another season. 2010 ROSTER: Margaret Brennan, Carolyn Cahill, Gabrielle Cron, Hannah Juhel, Alana Pascucci, Danielle Soviero, Jeanne Budd, Ariana Farahani, Marielle Goebelbecker, Augusta Mayer, Alexandra Zezulin Manager: Meghan Johansen

with this fact because our success was evident in so many other ways. Each of our athletes became better football players individually and collectively, and towards the end of the season we really started to gel as a team. I am truly appreciative of all of their efforts, courage, ability to adapt, and selfless attitudes,” said Coach Damm. 2010 ROSTER: Nicholas Chapman, Andrew Feinstein, Harrison Fritz, Harry Leeser, David Levine, Thomas McCormack, Griffin Nesfield, Bill Rechler, Samuel Riese, Austin Rossi, Alexander Schneider, Alexander Storch, Aidan Vascotto, Nicholas Croce, Andrew Feinstein, Brian Lightcap, John O'Brien, William O'Kane, Spencer Sklar

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Kirsten Grady pushes the ball upfield.

ith a roster of 19 athletes, we were able to field a JV football team for the first time in about seven years led by Coach Mike Damm and Assistant Coach Zack Freeman. “Our record, statistically speaking, would indicate that we didn’t have a successful year; I would disagree

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Will O'Kane works on basics during camp.

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Back-and-forth action at the 10th Annual Alumni Basketball Game as Mike Cox '06 defends.


Evens Defeat Odds in 10th Annual FA Hoops Showdown

here are a few requirements for the perfect Thanksgiving weekend: Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade, lots of family and friends, an astonishingly large meal, and the FA Alumni Basketball game! This year, the 10th annual game, spearheaded by Clay Siegert’92 (who traveled from Boston for the day), was another barn-burner with the alums who graduated in even years defeating the odds by a point. Once again, the victors let their opponents get a little full of themselves by letting them get off to a double digit lead early. They then turned it up a notch to close the gap to 2 by the end of the first half. Back and forth it went in the second half as both teams broke out some of their old skills. There was excellent teamwork and many outstanding individual efforts from each squad and extraordinary officiating by Coach Hefele.

On the court: Andrew Rubinstein '00, Coach Hefele, John Siris '94, Clay Seigert '92, Zach Rosenow'04, John Koenig '04, Brian Alessi '06, Mike Cox '06, Jeremy Koufakis '09, Ramir Robinson '08, Frank Dolisi, Harrison Hefele '09, Kwasi Boah '99, Dave Weitz '07, Joe Dolisi, Andrew DeNatale '95, Josh Jacobson '07.

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Chloe Friedman looks up the field for a pass.

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JV Field Hockey: Improvement is the Name of the Game


he 2010 JV Field Hockey Team did very well this season. Our overall record was 6-6-1. Although the early games were a little rough, the girls began to put it together improving a little every game and finishing strong. “I have to admit, the girls increased my gray hair count, but I would not have it any other way. They are truly a wonderful and talented group of girls. The core talent on the team is raw, but they have the potential to be strong, contributing factors in the continued success of the program,” said Coach Pat Ehrhardt. 2010 ROSTER: Dylan Foley, Chloe Friedman, Carina Goebelbecker, Lydia Graham, Alexa Landow, Natasha Makowsky, Emily Mara, Lucy Petropoulos, Courtney Pozzi, Taylor Quinland, Cori Rooney, Nikki Simon, Samantha Statfeld, Alexandra White

– Edited by Kathy Fox

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Former Faculty Notes extremely salty water. We heard the Mormon Taband then Athletic Director positions at Western ernacle Choir rehearse and the next day attended Michigan University and West Point.” After three an organ concert in the Temple. The nearby Family years of leadership of the Patriot League, Carl and Ancestry Library provided each patron with a volBecky retired (briefly) in 1993, only to return to unteer to help find information about one’s parents work at St. Andrews Presbyterian College. They and grandparents using the 1930 census. have now truly retired and are living in Virginia Jackson Hole, Wyoming, was our next destinaBeach, Virginia with one of their five children. Carl tion. In the town square were four writes, “Most importantly during arches each made of 5000 elk horns. these work years, Becky served in Float boats, with a skilled rower in several teaching and media specialist charge, took us down the crystal clear positions, and we raised 2 girls and Snake River. (The rapids we encoun3 boys – now on their own of course, tered were mild ones; which were apwith 12 grandchildren and 4 greatpropriate since most of us were seniors.) grandchildren. Life is wonderful!” Now the mountains were no longer red, Carl and Becky remember their time but flourishing with evergreens and at Friends fondly. “We treasure our yellow aspen trees. year at Friends – the terrific students, Leaving Jackson Hole, we encounso supportive of ‘our romance’ and tered the Grand Tetons, Lake Jenny and great teaching and coaching faculty Lake Jackson. The highest point in the Former faculty members and colleagues. We would love to try Tetons reached 13,771 feet. We viewed Carl and Becky Ullrich at the to gather some of the latter who share a 180 degree rainbow next to a little that feeling of love of Friends.” So, to wedding of their grandson chapel in the great Tetons, the most all former colleagues and students of Liam. beautiful rainbow I’ve ever seen. the Ullrich’s who are out there, drop Yellowstone Park was spectacular. Old Faithful, the alumni office a line at We can the famous geyser and the other thermal phenomhelp you reconnect! enon, reaching 180 degrees were so exciting to see. Lisa Pohlman writes, “Life at home is busy We left Wyoming to visit Mount Rushmore and but rewarding because I'm getting the chance Crazy Horse in South Dakota. A plaque at Mount to participate in library classes with Jenna and Rushmore listed all the names of the monument school activities with Brianna and Tyler. While I workers. There was a person by the name of Will miss the classroom, teaching the children, and my Malone among the laborers. Crazy Horse is still a co-workers at Friends, I'm glad that I can still stay work in progress. connected by subbing at FA. Our last day was spent in Custer State Park, Jenna turned ONE on November 17!!! She is the second largest state park in the US. There we walking and waves to say hello and good bye. Jenna took a jeep tour into the back plains and saw bison, loves her big sister Brianna and her big brother antelopes, wolves, mule deer, moose, elk, bears, and Tyler.” bald eagles. Reluctantly we flew home from Rapid City, South Dakota. A few more days in the midst of God’s handiwork would have been wonderful. But we live near the ocean in Delaware, also a gift and wonder of beauty.”

Former Middle School librarian Shelly Malone and her husband Dick explore the National Parks.


s former Middle School librarian Shelly Malone reports, the recent trip she took to the southwest and west was unforgettable. “Magnificence and splendor are the words that describe my recent journey to the southwest and west. My husband Dick and I took a bus tour to the National Parks area. I had seen the beautiful Alps and the Killarney Mountains in Europe, but nothing prepared me for the breathtaking Rockies and canyons of America. We started our 10-day journey in Phoenix, Arizona, temperature 97 degrees. We proceeded to Sedona, Lake Powell and Glen Canyon, missing 8 tornados by 24 hours. Lake Powell is the second largest man-made lake in the US. (The largest is Lake Mead at the Hoover Dam.) After a breakfast cruise on Lake Powell, we boarded the bus for the north rim of the Grand Canyon. The electricity in the Grand Canyon went out an hour after we arrived. (Rumor was that the generator had not been adequately serviced, and power did not return for 24 hours.) Our tour guide, Zach, equipped with a flashlight, walked each couple to their cabin and brought each of us a boxed dinner and a glow stick. Extra blankets helped us sleep in the 39-degree cabin. We traveled to Utah and Zion National Park where we were thrilled to have light and heat. Detouring 150 miles to Bryce Canyon, we avoided 15 inches of snow on the usual entry route. Bryce Canyon was my favorite of all our sites because of the fantastic shaped red rocks called hoodoos. I had never seen red rock cliffs before visiting Arizona and Utah. Next stop – Salt Lake City. While visiting the Salt Lake itself, I had to taste a drop of the lake’s

Former faculty members Carl and Becky Ullrich met in the fall of 1952 at a gathering for new Friends Academy teachers – and thus began a union that has lasted more than five decades! Carl, FA Class of 1945, and his wife Becky taught math and social studies respectively at Friends during the 1952-53 academic year. As Carl reports, “No space for married couples at FA led us to a series of stops in Ithaca, NY, Irvington, NJ, back to Ithaca to coach crew at Cornell, coaching at Columbia, administrative work and teaching in Florida, coaching at Boston University and at the Naval Academy,

Former third grade teacher Lisa Pohlman and her daughter, 1-year-old Jenna.

Faculty Professional Development Middle School science teacher Dan Kriesberg has published the book Think Green: Take Action, Books and Activities for Kids. The book offers effective and fun ways to give children the skills and hope to deal with environmental issues.

Kumar Wang Library archivist Mary Ann Reardon taught English this summer in Korea to middle schoolaged Korean students at the Global Leadership Program for Students. She judged debates and helped students create a newspaper as a final project.

Upper School Spanish teacher Edgar Posada, earned his Masters in Arts & Liberal Studies from Stony Brook University and graduated at the top of his program with a 3.970 GPA. Posada also examined issues of technology and the changing classroom.

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Alumni News

from president the Peter Stein ‘79

Dear Fellow Alumni, Fall Fair and Homecoming weekend was wonderful. The weather was glorious, the school looked great, both inside and out, the food was plentiful and delicious, but the best part was seeing fellow alums everywhere I turned. On Friday, October 22, the Class of 1960 had their 50th (and very first) reunion! There was a great turn-out for the luncheon which was held in the Jackson House; alums traveled from Puerto Rico, California, Georgia – the list goes on. Two graduates from the class of 1960 even joined in the festivities from their homes in Europe via Skype! We had a fantastic group under the Alumni Tent all day on Saturday Peter Stein ’79, during the Fall Fair. There was a Friends Academy great mix – from our new alums Alumni from the class of 2010 to those celAssociation ebrating their 60th reunion. Later President that day, after a nailbiting soccer game which ended in a 2-2 tie, we moved off the field and into the Jackson House for the Homecoming Reception. It was there that I had the privilege of introducing Ward Burian, FA Class of 1954, who was honored by the Alumni Association. Ward’s list of accomplishments is long. While at Friends he was head of the student council, designed the school flag, won 10 varsity letters, was captain of the soccer team and co-captain of an undefeated basketball team. Additionally, he was named to Newsday’s Long Island and New York City’s All-Star Basketball Team for private schools. In 1954, FA’s two highest awards were the Triangle Medal and the Red and Black Silver Cup – both of which he received in his senior year. Most importantly, however, Ward helped Friends Academy when it needed him the most. The school was struggling financially in the early 1960s and

Ward Burian '54, first Alumni Association President was honored by current president Peter Stein at the Alumni Homecoming Reception.

Jack Oelsner, Board of Trustees Chair, asked for Ward’s assistance. Ward organized the alumni and helped the school right itself. He founded and served as the first president of the FA Alumni Association. As president, he was responsible for the design and naming of The Meeting House publication, still our most popular source of communication among alumni. Ward has said that the five years he spent at Friends, from the fall of 1949 until his graduation in 1954, were five of the happiest and most productive years of his young life. Our reunion weekend concluded with dinners at various restaurants and homes around the area for the classes ending in 0 and 5. Judging by pictures and comments, I’d say the reunion dinners were a huge success. FA hoopsters reunited for our annual Thanksgiving Alumni Basketball game, the brainchild of Clay Siegert, ’92 and Coach Hefele. On December 17th, alums from the classes of 2006-2010 attended the annual Alumni Holiday Luncheon. Joined by current seniors and faculty and staff, the luncheon is a great way to usher in the holidays while reconnecting with friends and faculty. Returning to Friends is like coming home. I experienced this personally in September when my daughter Elizabeth began attending our Middle School. While the look of the school is different than when I graduated in ’79, the character and quality of Friends has not changed, and I am proud to be part of this remarkable community. I wish you all a happy, healthy, and peaceful new year.

Help us help you and your fellow alums stay connected Update Your E-mail Address! And help keep our school green by providing the alumni office with your e-mail address. This will reduce mailing costs and paper usage. E-mail us at with your current e-mail address. Thanks for helping.

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Friends Academy Alumni Association Alumni are the living legacy of Friends Academy.

A Call for Distinguished Alumnus Award Nominations At Friends we prepare our students to be citizens with strong minds and kind hearts, people who lead by example. Each year Friends Academy presents the Distinguished Alumnus Award to someone who has let their life speak. It is our hope that others will find the recipient’s life inspirational and will be motivated to devote themselves to a life of service. 2010: Susan Stein Danoff ’60 -An inner-city family court judge with a heart and mind continually open to service 2009: John Gambling ‘69 -An unparalleled devotion to Friends and its values and a longtime member of the Board of Trustees 2008: Thomas Carter ’59 – Dedicating his life to working with economically struggling communities as they strive to improve their conditions

2005: Warren Titus ’44 -A dedicated supporter of Friends Academy and longtime trustee 2004: Elizabeth Keefer ’66 – As General Counsel for Columbia, she brings Quaker values to her work through humanitarian efforts 2003: Kathleen Catapano ’95 – Giving children the tools to change their own world through The Books for Africa Program

2007: James Greene ’74 – Investing in the betterment of others’ lives through years of service to Friends Academy on the Alumni Board and Board of Trustees

2002: Diana Dickson Witmer ’67 – Breaking gender barriers in surgery, performing surgeries in underdeveloped nations and managing unit at Ground Zero

2006: Peter Darbee ’71 – A career distinguished not only by achievements but also by a commitment to values, faith and ethical conduct

2001: Don Smith '44 – Longtime member of the Board of Trustees – his life has been a shining example of service and commitment to others

Please consider nominating a fellow alum for this honor. You can submit his or her name to the alumni office at or by calling 516-465-1796. Please include a brief note about your nominee.

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Alumni Profiles Sanford Hull '74

A Generous Heart and a Life of Service

Sandy Hull '74 with some of his young friends in Uganda.


By Kathy Fox Alumni Affairs Coordinator

n 1959, when he was a much younger man, Paul, the patriarch of the Kizinzimali family, now over 90 years old and blind, fled from Rwanda to escape violence against Tutsis. Paul resettled in neighboring Uganda, but when a new wave of refugees arrived following the 1994 genocide, the area became unsafe. Paul and his family moved near the city of Masaka, in an area now known as the epicenter of the world AIDS pandemic. Because Paul was disabled, his family relied on Paul’s eldest son to be the breadwinner. When Paul’s son died of AIDS, he left the Kizinzimali family destitute. The children dropped out of school and carried firewood and water for the little money such work would provide. Their house was falling down around them, and things appeared to be hopeless. Then Paul met Reverend Dr. Sanford Hull.


efore his visit to Masaka, Uganda, Reverend Hull had been given $2,000 from a member of his congregation. The congregant simply said that if you see a need for this money, please use it. Reverend Hull saw a need – to build the Kizinzimali family a new home. Months later, on a return trip to Uganda, Reverend Hull was able to participate in a celebration around the completion of the house. He remarked to the young Ugandan man who headed the relief and development agency that facilitated its building that Paul looked 10 years younger. The young Ugandan replied, “That is what hope does for a man.” Inspired by the positive changes in Paul and his family, Reverend Hull’s congregation raised enough

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money for 10 more houses to be built in Uganda for widows and orphans of the AIDS epidemic. As Reverend Hull explained, “People get excited about making a difference.” The story of Aida has a less happy ending than that of the Kizinzimali family but is illustrative of what is happening in Uganda. Twa, Aida’s son, had recently returned to the village home of his childhood, with AIDS. It is a typical pattern in that part of Africa; people often return home to their villages to die. Twa’s wife and two children lived in Kampala, the capital of Uganda. There, Twa’s wife ran a small shop, and until his decline, Twa drove a taxi. Twa’s wife was unable to support her husband when he fell ill, and

Aida, a story of heartache, burden and a little relief.

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Sanford Hull '74: A Generous Heart and a Life of Service therefore he returned home to his mother, non-competitive learning atmosphere, and he I remember that engaging in discussions at Aida. Aida’s husband was in poor health as enjoyed the journey. As he explained, “It was Friends contributed to the calling that I felt I well, and thus the burden of caring for Twa a philosophy of saying what we want to do is had to pursue.” lay on Aida’s shoulders. Word soon came help people learn and help people enjoy the In 1974, seniors had to fulfill an Indethat Twa’s wife was sending her two children sheer delight of learning, growing, questionpendent Study Project. (It later became an to Aida because she could not care ing, and engaging with the material. Independent Service Project.) For Sandy, his for them and run her small shop Class ranks were never published. independent study focused on service and at the same time. So Aida became The idea was that we’re learning laid the foundation for his future community responsible for even more mouths because we enjoy it, we love to grow, outreach. He worked at a rescue mission to feed, without any increase in we’re developing as human beings, in Huntington Station and helped repair a resources. When Reverend Hull and it’s really not about competing retreat center on Martha’s Vineyard. Nowaasked Aida if she ate every day, she with one another but being part of a days, he is involved in local programs as well said no. He was able to purchase a community that’s committed to the – his church is involved in several projects large bag of maize flour for her. She same goals. The in Philadelphia, including fell to her knees with the gratitude Sanford Hull from the faculty instilled working at a community "Effective leaderof knowing that at least for a time, 1974 Lamp Yearbook. in me a love garden and serving meals to the family would eat. of learning for its own the homeless. Members of ship grows out of sake – just the joy and the congregation have also that kind of silence anford (Sandy) Hull, FA Class of 1974, is pleasure of learning. ” taken numerous mission full of such stories. A theme in his minand solitude in the Upon graduation from trips to New Orleans to istry is engagement in humanitarian presence of God. Friends, Sandy attended help rebuild the city after efforts. Sandy currently lives in Pennsylvania Amherst College. After Hurricane Katrina. where he serves as Pastor of Grace PresbyAnd if we don't pull teaching at a prep school terian Church in Jenkintown, a suburb of everend Hull had apart from the noise for four years, he went Philadelphia. He came to Friends in 1968 as the opportunity to and the busyness, on to get his Master’s a seventh grader; and it was while at Friends teach at a conferwe get swept along degree at Trinity Divinthat Sandy first felt a calling for the path he ence for pastors in Northity School, in Deerfield, rather than being would take later in life. For Sandy, a personal ern Uganda, where a brutal Illinois and a Doctorate able to lead." turning point occurred during the summer and senseless civil war has of Ministry degree at between his freshman and sophomore years been raging for two decades. McCormick Theological at Friends. “I was at a retirement ceremony He recalled, “The whole Seminary. From 1985 unfor the Pastor of the church that I belonged time I was thinking, these til 2001 he took a calling to and some of the people were talking about Pastors should be teaching at a church near Kansas the impact he had made on them, and this me; they’re the ones who City, Missouri, and from thought flashed into my mind: wouldn’t it are persevering with joy 2001 through 2006, he be wonderful if someone said something and with hope, amidst muled the congregation at like that about me someday? That thought tilations and kidnappings a church in northern just didn’t leave and really crystallized into a and torturing and torching New Jersey. At the start sense of calling that I then pursued.” of villages.” He described of 2007, Sandy came to Grace Presbyterian Meeting for Worship holds a special place Pastor Alex, who founded a church in the city in Sandy’s heart. “I would say that the Thurs- Church in Jenkintown where he continues of Gulu in Northern Uganda. Pastor Alex to work. day meetings certainly developed in me an started the church in the midst of this civil



appreciation for silence, and they became a part of the school week that I looked forward to. What I have found over the years is that effective leadership grows out of that kind of silence and solitude in the presence of God. And if we don’t pull apart from the noise and the busyness, we get swept along rather than being able to lead.”


hen he was at Friends, final exams were not part of the curriculum. Sandy excelled in FA’s cooperative,


andy appreciated the atmosphere of tolerance present at Friends. At a time when he was coming to a significant commitment to his faith, he felt it was okay to freely express his views about religion to his fellow classmates. “I know that sometimes in today’s world, in the name of tolerance, that kind of open expression of faith is suppressed because it would be conceived of as intolerant when, in fact, what we need to do is dialogue more openly – even if it means identifying the areas of disagreement.

war, and he called it Peacemaker Christian Fellowship. Alex explained that he picked the name because “we believe that someday peace will come. When it comes we will need to learn how to live together with those who have been our enemies, and we intend to start working on that now.” As a Friends Academy Upper School student, Sandy Hull hoped that one day others would talk about the positive impact he had on their lives. It is undeniable that this has already begun.

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Alumni Profiles Dara Broxmeyer Gruenberg ’99

Community Service Architect at Friends and Beyond By Hayley Kucich '03

Over the years, Dara Broxmeyer Gruenberg’s '99 name has frequently been brought up during Meeting House Editorial Board meetings to be considered for an alumni profile. Without having known Dara in school, I often wondered how one person could be considered for so many variously-themed Meeting House publications – how was it that one person could be representative of so many values of Friends Academy? The answer to this question was easily answered after my initial meeting with Dara. Not only does Dara embody the values that are emphasized at FA, but she is also a bit of a Friends Academy celebrity. Dara is the founder of Friends Academy’s Upper School Community Service Day and of the Senior ISP (Independent Service Project). Talk about an FA celebrity! When I mentioned to my younger siblings that I was interviewing the founder of Community Service Day, they responded in awe, “For real?” Yes, for real – and on a brisk fall day in NYC, I had the opportunity of sitting down with Dara to learn a bit more about her life and the role that FA has played in it.


hile I was completing my senior ISP in 2003 on what would eventually become the non-profit organization that I run, Care Cards, Inc., little did I know that I had the opportunity to pursue this project because of the initiative of a former FA student by the name of Dara Broxmeyer, who attended the Upper School from 1995-1999. It was during this time that Dara, the oldest of three, (younger sister Jennifer graduated in 2002 and younger brother David graduated in 2006) from Roslyn Heights, New York, experienced great hardship with the passing of her father, Neal Broxmeyer, during her sophomore year. Dara explains that her involvement in community service was deeply influenced by Friends Academy’s

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Dara Broxmeyer from the 1999 Lamp yearbook.

Dara Broxmeyer Gruenberg '99 and her one-year-old daughter Cornelia.

response and compassion towards her family during the time of her father’s passing. She states, “It compelled me to want to give back to my school community. I think that is when my feelings about service and its importance really crystallized.” And so the rest is history; Dara became the president of the Student Faculty Board, spearheading many projects throughout her tenure at FA, with her legacy being the establishment of Community Service Day and the Independent Service Project. Dara explains that being involved with the Student Faculty Board “taught me so much

about leadership and gave me confidence. When I think back to my senior year and the responsibilities that the faculty and administration gave me, I am amazed. They allowed me to start Community Service Day and coordinate the entire event. That taught me so much about being detailedoriented, about organization, and about follow through. At the time, the school was also looking to change the seniors’ independent study projects, and it seemed fitting to make them service projects.” Dara’s FA story is an important one because it demonstrates how FA helps instill

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Dara Broxmeyer Gruenberg ’99: Community Service Architect confidence and responsibility in its students by providing them with real opportunities through which to learn and grow. After graduating from Friends, Dara attended Barnard College in New York City, one of the remaining Seven Sisters Colleges, where she received her Bachelor of Arts in Classics (Latin) and minored in English and in History. She decided to continue her education by earning a Masters of Education (Educational Leadership) in 2007 at Bank Street College in New York City, completing her thesis on “How to Create and Sustain an Effective Community Service Program.”


hile working towards her Master’s degree, Dara was simultaneously acting as the Director of Community Service, an Upper School Latin teacher, and an advisor at the Hewitt School, an all girls’ independent school in Manhattan. Dara has spent the last seven years at the Hewitt School where her years at an independent school and an all women’s college have helped her excel in the Hewitt community. For her last two years at Hewitt, Dara was also the Assistant Director of Middle and Upper School Admissions. At the Hewitt School, Dara helped to develop and shape the school’s community service and service learning program. Dara explains how “growing up, my parents always talked about and modeled the importance of service. It was a core value in our

home. At Friends Academy, service is an estinue to live their lives with service as the sential tenet of the school. Seeing this modfocus. eled outside of my home reinforced what my She notes that “these days my life is about parents had taught me taking care of my daughand inspired me to serve ter, and I want to instill in "To me, the most and to find ways to proher the same commitment vide service opportunities to service and caring for important thing to others.” She was able to others that was instilled in about my job was inspire many of the girls me.” In addition to caring exposing my at Hewitt to become more for her young daughter, students to involved with commuDara stays in touch with meaningful service nity service. many FA alumni, includprojects that would ing two fellow alums Dara’s experience with with whom she worked at inspire them to YSOP at FA in 10th Hewitt – Lyndsey Menzin make service an grade led her to bring ’98 and Isabel Ezrati ’99, the program to Hewitt, essential part of along with Jordanna Davis where the girls participate their lives." ‘99, Henry O’Connell ‘99, in YSOP several times and Amy Karches ‘99. throughout their Upper School experience. Through Dara’s work at Hewitt, service has become part of the culture of the school. Every student and family participates in numerous service projects, beginning in Kindergarten. Hewitt recently received the Center for Spiritual and Ethical Education’s (CSEE) National First Place award for the school’s community service program. s of this September, Dara is currently taking time off to be with her beautiful one-year-old daughter Cornelia (named after Dara’s father, Neal). She and her husband, Jon Gruenberg, con-


As a senior, Dara Broxmeyer served as president of the Student Faculty Board.


t can be assumed that Cornelia will grow up to embody the same values of service to others and leadership that her mother possesses. Dara recognizes the value of having had the opportunity to be in various leadership positions at Friends Academy and expanded by stating that “being in a leadership position is actually about service. When you are a leader, you need to serve those whom you are leading. It is about vision and having confidence in that vision. You need to be flexible and be able to think on your toes. In developing Hewitt’s service program, so much of my job was about experimenting with new service projects and being able to assess their effectiveness. To be a good leader means having the courage to be able to admit that you have made a mistake and are willing to put forth the effort to correct it. To me, the most important thing about my job was exposing my students to meaningful service projects that would inspire them to make service an essential part of their lives. Service isn’t just about performing acts of kindness; it is about how you treat others and how you live your life.”

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Alumni Profiles Elissa Zirinsky ’03

At Home in Tanzania By Kathy Fox Alumni Affairs Coordinator

Elissa Zirinsky, FA Class of 2003, appreciated that a Friends Academy education emphasized more than quality academics; for Elissa, it was the importance of service to others that led her on the path she has chosen to take. From the moment she entered Friends Academy in 1999 as an Upper School freshman, Elissa made her mark. As Marge Bevad, Upper School French Teacher and Associate Director of College Counseling said, “Elissa will always remain one of my favorite students. She is full of joie de vivre but has a no-nonsense attitude about her goals in life. I greatly admire her and found her inspiring in the classroom. You know, teachers always learn wonderful things from their students. Elissa was one of my best and most memorable 'teachers'!” At Friends, we work towards developing strong minds and kind hearts – Elissa embodies these qualities.


lissa graduated from McGill University in 2007 with a degree in International Development, and via word-of-mouth that began with Caitlin Drumm, also FA class of 2003, she learned of an orphanage and community development organization in rural northern Tanzania. The Tanzanian Children’s Fund (founded by India Howell who was born and raised in Locust Valley), is an American-based NGO that supports the Rift Valley Children’s Village, a home to 69 orphaned children in Karatu, Tanzania. The children live in houses (designed to resemble family units) of roughly 12 kids, two Tanzanian mamas, and one or two volunteers. This is their home for life; none of these children will be adopted, and though they will leave home for secondary school, they will always return to the Children’s Village on holidays. For the most part, these children are orphaned by the typical culprits (HIV/AIDS and malaria) and many are part of sibling groups. The

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Elissa Zirinsky '03 poses with Swedi, one of Tanzania's orphaned children who has found a home at the Rift Valley Children's Village.

Rift Valley Children’s Village (RVCV) also runs the local primary school, which is located just a short walk from the Children’s Village and serves 450 students from the surrounding coffee plantations.

about 8pm. I lived at the Children’s Village for seven months beginning in the fall of 2007. I instantly loved living with and caring for 12 small children and teaching math and English during the inaugural year of the kinderElissa writes about her first garten program at the primary trip to the RVCV: school. And I almost immedi"I arrived at the Children’s ately thought back to my trips Village at a special time – with FA to West Virginia with the Elissa Zirinsky RVCV had just entered into a Appalachian Service Project. I went from the 2003 management contract to run the Lamp yearbook. my sophomore and junior years with government primary school as Mr. Lape and Mrs. Kolodner – rural a charter school; the orphanage West Virginia was so drastically different had 42 children, many of whom had only than any other place I had been. My trips recently come to live at the Children’s Vil- to West Virginia were my only exposure lage; the volunteer program was relatively to rural poverty at that point in my life, small which meant there was constantly and in many ways they prepared me for work to be done from before the sun rose the realities of poverty in Tanzania. From until we all were too tired to keep going by the get-go, I felt at ease in the community

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Elissa Zirinsky ’03: At Home in Tanzania of the Children’s Village and the greater community of this isolated region of coffee plantations. Life pretty quickly took on a rhythm that I loved, and it is one that I miss just about every day when I am in America. I returned to RVCV in the summers of 2009 and 2010, and continue to be endlessly grateful to have the kids, the organization and Tanzania in my life.


remember a few months after I arrived at the Children’s Village thinking, 'this isn’t going to be a passing experience for me.' It was not a profound, life-changing moment necessarily but just a simple recognition that I had grown attached to people within the community (namely the kids, the mamas and the top staff). I think it has something to do with actually living in a home with children, slowly learning just about everything there is to know about them: not only their basic likes and dislikes, but also their highs and lows and the often predictable times during the day when they occur, their humor, the kinds of questions they ask and answers that satisfy them, their bedtime rituals, their creative ways of trickery, their endearing and not-so-endearing habits, and the list goes on. After the last three years, two more visits, and 27 new children, I can say that getting to know more and more kids in this way has always, without a shadow of doubt, been the highlight of my trips. During my first visit, I met an American physician, Dr. Frank Artress, and his wife,

Susan Gustafson, who run a clinic and moand cancer screening. It’s the only hospital bile health service out of the nearest town to of its kind in the country. I worked on the the Children’s Village. Their organization, pediatric ward, which cares for roughly 45 The Foundation for Africhildren at any given time. can Medicine and EducaThe children come with "My (FA) trips to tion, runs mobile clinics parents, grandparents or out of the Children’s siblings from all across the West Virginia were Village twice a month, my only exposure to country for treatment and and through those clinics are from the most rural poverty at that many I rediscovered an interest rural and impoverished point in my life, and regions of the nation – in medicine that I had as in many ways they a child and that was clearthere is no education about prepared me for the ly still lingering below cancer and most people arthe surface. I recorded rive having never heard of realities of poverty medical histories and cancer before. If a child is in Tanzania." symptoms for Dr. Frank’s able to make it to ORCI at patients at those clinics, all, they most likely arrive and would sit in with very sick with end stage him or his Tanzanian counterparts as they disease. The hospital's dedicated staff does treated the gamut of illnesses and injuries: everything it can with limited resources but malaria, worms, burns, machete accidents, it is not unheard of to run out of chemotherSTDs, rashes, infections, you name it. It apy and pain medications. They have good was this introduction to rural and tropical cure rates for specific diseases but it has been medicine that led me to a post-baccalaureate, difficult to come to terms with the fact that premedical program at Columbia University many of the children I met and helped care – I am currently in my second and last year for would not survive. ORCI was my first of that program. experience with dying children, and it stills weighs heavily on me. his past summer, after two months


at the Children’s Village, I worked at the Ocean Road Cancer Institute (ORCI) in Tanzania’s capital, Dar es Salaam. ORCI was established by the government of Tanzania in 1996 and specializes in offering palliative care, radiotherapy, chemotherapy,


f we are talking in terms of profound experiences, this was it. I loved learning about pediatric cancer and treatment protocols from the doctors who ran the ward; I loved forming relationships with both the children and their caretakers; and I loved watching the transformation of a very sick and listless child into one who is bolting up and down the outdoor corridors of the hospital. This is a field I am now very interested in pursuing. I draw a lot of my motivation from Dr. Frank and the doctors at ORCI. I also recognize that a lot of my interests and goals come from a Friends Academy education that stressed personal fulfillment through service to others."

Elissa Zirinsky '03 with Vincenti and Evalina from the Tanzanian Rift Valley Children's Village, a home for orphaned children.

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Class Notes


author’s corner T

ake a look at some of the most recent books and writings by Friends Academy alumni: Janice Cullum ‘62:

Cinkarion: the Heart of Fire, published by Edge Science Fiction and Fantasy (September 15, 2010).

Kathryn Maris ’89:

Her poems are included in The Oxford Poets Anthology, published by Carcanet, 2010 and The Word Exchange: AngloSaxon Poems in Translation, published by W.W. Norton, 2010.

Lawrence Schimel ‘93

Vamos a Ver a Papa! published by Ediciones Ekare.

Tony Bozza ‘93

The Man Behind the Nose: Assassins, Astronauts, Cannibals, and Other Stupendous Tales, published by Igniter (August 17, 2010). Signed, Your Student, published by Kaplan (May 4, 2010).

If you've written or published a book, please consider donating a copy to the Friends Academy Kumar Wang Library. Contact Library director Judy James at 516-393-4279 or

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1942 Helen Craft Price 173 Ocean Pines Terrace Jupiter, FL 33477

1943 If anyone from the Class of 1943 would like to be the class representative, please contact us at We would love to hear from you!

1944 If anyone from the Class of 1944 would like to be the class representative, please contact us at We would love to hear from you!

1945 Joy Mayes Brown 2110 West Center Road P.O. Box 239 Otis, MA 01253 (413) 269-6398 Sheila Morrisey Potter 37 Lawnwood Avenue Longmeadow, MA 01106 (413) 567-0988 Sheila Morrisey Potter recounts her recent trip to Scotland – it sounds glorious. Our Upper School history students should pay close attention! “During the worst two weeks of our July heat wave, I was fortunate enough to be in a cool, rainy, misty, windy, sunny climate ....sometimes all in one day... in Scotland with a small local tour group. Getting there was not much fun, but once there, the huge stone-studded mountains, lush glens, numerous lochs (we did go to Loch Ness and Loch Lomond), and pinecovered forests were glorious to see. We visited Edinburgh; saw the Castle on the hill where Mary Queen of Scots gave birth to her son James who later became James the First of England. Queen Elizabeth was to be at Holyrood House as we were leaving for the Highlands and the Isle of Skye. We toured the historic battlegrounds of Bannochburn where Robert the Bruce, King of Scotland, and William Wallace (“Braveheart”) defeated the English, and Culloden, where Bonnie Prince Charlie and his army were defeated by the English. I could have visited Inverness forever; it was so enchanting a

city, the Capital of the Highlands. We were almost blown off the tip of the Isle of Skye where it met the Atlantic Ocean due to the fierce winds there. Back on the mainland, we toured Glencoe, visited Glasgow museums and its magnificent cathedral and then onto our last night in Edinburgh, where we had an evening of Scottish song, dance, pipers and Haggis, after a fabulous salmon dinner. I made new friends and enjoyed myself thoroughly.” Also, as we learn from Sheila, we should never overlook our local newspapers. Sheila recently rediscovered an old friend as she reports: “Reading an article in our local paper a few days ago, I happened to see a piece commending a long-lost, I thought, former classmate at FA -- Lucy Wilson Benson. She was a good friend during freshman year and I was delighted to read of her accomplishments. She graduated from Smith, married a Physics Professor at Amherst, and went on to win numerous awards for government and community service. She was President of The National League of Women Voters, and a former Diplomat under Jimmy Carter. She has certainly distinguished herself in many areas. She lives only three quarters of an hour from me now, so I’m looking forward to talking with her again!"


Evelyn Broglio Diefendorf 355 Lake Forest Drive, SW Pinehurst, NC 28374 (910) 295-3680

1947 If anyone from the Class of 1947 would like to be the class representative, please contact us at We would love to hear from you!

1948 Marian Schwartz Feniger 16 West 77th St., Apt. 9E New York, NY 10024 (212) 362-8968

1949 If anyone from the Class of 1949 would like to be the class representative, please contact us at We would love to hear from you!

Bequest a Academy

– Jim Stockton '50

aking M Friends to

"Friends Academy was an enormous help and model for me and my life."


hen Jim and Karen Stockton sat down together to make their will, they wanted to recognize and remember the places that were most important and had a lasting impact on their lives. “We have no children, no family at all, and we have the luxury and pleasure of leaving our estates to organizations that have made our lives better and happier – among them: the San Francisco Symphony, the San Francisco Opera, Stanford University, Stanford Crew, and, of course, Friends Academy,” Jim said. Jim recognizes how instrumental the faculty at Friends was in making him the person he is today. “I thoroughly enjoyed the faculty – particularly Mr. Springsteed, Mrs. Wilt, Mr. Stubbs -- well, all of them. They combined to make me appreciate learning and doing well in school,” Jim said.

Jim Stockton is a retired graphic designer and founder of a design firm. He lives in northern California with his wife Karen and their dog.

Jim has fond memories of his time at Friends Academy. “My tiny family was in California. Friends was actually my home. I loved it.” It is in this spirit that Jim has made his bequest to Friends.

Please join JIM and the many others, who have included Friends in their estate plans:

You can make a gift that has a substantial, long-lasting impact. You can leave a legacy and recognize the value Friends holds in your heart. You can make a difference in more students' lives with a bequest than with a gift that comes from today's income or savings.

A bequest is a simple way to make the maximum positive impact without compromising your lifestyle or budget. For information on how to include Friends Academy in your estate plans, how to establish an endowment, or to discuss ways to match your interests with school needs, contact Director of Development Carl Pozzi at or 516-393-4269.

Strong Minds. Kind Hearts.

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Class Notes Alumni Reception. (Jackie, whose children both attended Friends, lives right next door to the school.) There we found, finally, a fellow alumnus of our generation: Ward Burian, Class of ‘54 and founder of the Alumni Association. He did not recognize me, nor I him. To help you recognize us, here’s a photo of Jackie (in a neck brace because of a fall) and me with the old building behind us. I’ll commit here and now to the 70th reunion if someone will sign up with me. Warmest regards, Sue Didier DeVito."

1951 George H. Gifford, Jr. 12 Oak Ridge Road Stony Brook, NY 11790-2011 (631) 751-7489 Jackie Moore Copp '50 (in a neck brace because of a fall) and Suzanne Didier DeVito '50 enjoy the Fall Fair.

1950 Suzanne Didier DeVito 59 West 12th Street, 16A New York, NY 10011 (212) 627-7103 Has Friends changed since 1950? Suzanne Didier DeVito writes about her day at the Fall Fair 60 years after graduating! “Where’s the Study Hall?...the Dining Room...the rooms that Beanie and I shared? Etc., etc., etc. So it went on Homecoming Saturday when Jackie Moore Copp and I, comprising the 60th reunion of the Class of 1950, prowled the halls of Friends Academy in search of our memories. Outside, we found the old gym (under construction; couldn’t get in). On its miniscule stage we used to mount countless plays, musical events and ceremonies, including our graduation 60+ years ago. Now there is a dazzling new theater that would not be shamed to be on Broadway. Everywhere we wandered, there were new buildings, new playing fields, unfamiliar vistas, and, oh, those youthful faces. We crossed the road to the Meeting House, a faithful and, to me, comforting reproduction of the original that burned to the ground some years ago. I conjured Mr. Wilkes expounding, as was his wont most Sundays. And I summoned up Mrs. Wilkes there, as well, on her day off from drilling us in proper grammar, sentence structure, punctuation. (Thank you, Mrs.Wilkes; you have my endless gratitude.) Jackie and I ended up at the Headmaster’s house for the

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Carolyn Olman writes from her home in California where she has lived since 1954 that she is spending much of her time “happily occupied with my Episcopal church in Hollywood, visiting family in Michigan and South Carolina. I would love to see FA again; however, I am sure I would not recognize much of it.” About her years at Friends, Carolyn writes, “I was graduated from FA in 1951 and have the best of all memories of the years I spent there and the excellent education afforded to me.”

1952 Margaret Whitney Shiels 5427 FM 2515 Kaufman, TX 75142 (972) 962-8124

1953 Timmie Buck Wiant 6369 Pershing Avenue St. Louis, MO 63130 (314) 726-2564

1954 After serving loyally as class rep for many years, Donn Andre would like to relinquish the reins and hand them over to a willing classmate – any takers? If you are interested, please contact us at

1955 Doris Atwater Bouwensch 209 Green Way Wayland, MA 01778-2622

(508) 358-3454 Arthur M. Geoffrion 322-24th St. Santa Monica, CA 90402 (310) 394-0185 You can keep up with Herb Cares glamorous life via his personal website, www.hlcares. com. For example, his last New Year’s card (with photo) is at christmas_card_2009.jpg . Stephie Giardino Dobrinin writes that her grandson Steven Kohart was married in early August to a wonderful girl, Anne Weber. Steve just took the bar in CT and MA, and will take the NY bar soon. Her other grandson, Kevin Kohart, graduated from the Univ. of Richmond in Virginia last May. He is an avid golfer, as is Stephie, and they enjoy playing together. Both boys live in CT. Stephie and Maurice have become FL residents, but plan to continue to spend four and a half months yearly in NY. Naomi Johnson Dempsey writes that she retired in October and is going to the reunion with Clark. Sometime this fall she will be moving, and will rent her condo until the real estate market improves enough for a sale. Her new contact information is: 69 Webster Point Rd., Madison, CT 06443; tel/ fax 203-245-7617, Naomi.Dempsey100@ (new).

1956 Anne Wauchope Smith 297 London Drive Beaconsfield Quebec H9W 5Z1 Canada (514) 695-1951 Maria Espinosa, nee Paula Cronbach, sends her best wishes to all. She reports that her fourth novel, Dying Unfinished, was published in 2009. Maria is currently living in Mexico. Please take a look at her websites: www. There is also an interesting interview that just came out Maria Espinosa recently on www. Paula Cronwell ’56 and Peggy Foster ’55 write, “Received a surprise birthday gift this summer of a self-published book on the sea that a friend, Lisa Larrabee, edited. For those many of you in the Friends

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Academy family who know and love the sea – in all her myriad forms – I recommend it highly: Things of the Sea Belong to the Sea by D. George. It’s available through Amazon. As many of you know, I worked with David for many years on the preparation of his manuscripts. Lisa and I are working on the second edition. Enjoyed reading the alumni news and the pics. Everyone looks as if they’re prospering. Won’t make it to reunion. Best to all.

1957 Roger O. Sanders 324 Fishing Ln. Deland, FL 32720 (386) 736-0815

1958 If anyone from the Class of 1958 would like to be the class representative, please contact us at We would love to hear from you!

1959 Abbie G. Freedman 1312 Mark West Spring Rd. Santa Rosa, CA 95404 (707) 579-1312 Anne Schwiebert 1075 Mill Creek Drive Southold, NY 11971 (631) 765-1202 We were shocked and saddened to hear of Sarah Glenn Meyer’s sudden death on August 16. (Please see a memoriam to Sarah on page 56). Sarah was a kind, caring and compassionate person; she will be missed by many. Our condolences to her husband Tony and to the rest of her family. Memorial donations may be sent to Christ Church of Oyster Bay, 61 E Main Street, or to the Oyster Bay Sailing Foundation, PO Box 720, both in Oyster Bay, NY 11771. On a happier note, David Seeler will be off to South America for a birding trip with Peter Mathiessen in January, then to New Zealand in February, followed by a train and birding trip around the USA in May. Dave Warden writes that Bruce Burrows and Gay visited in early September. And Bruce writes that the Seeler-Jameson-Warden-Burrows quad is making plans for a spring male bonding session in Charleston SC. Kate

Bob Powell, class of 1960, returned to FA for his 50th reunion. With him, he brought his wife Marie, a gift for our school archives – his football jersey, and the story behind the game; and for Bob, it was no ordinary game!

Memories of a Cut-up FA Football Jersey from 1959


A football season of 1959 was not a good one. Lost all the games except for two ties, one of those zero-zero, but we had fun. An advantage of a small school was, even at 155 pounds, I was a starting guard and over center on defense (None of today’s wimpy offense/defense specialization. We played for 60 minutes). I don’t remember which game, but it was well into the season. FA was behind (as usual) by a touchdown and our opponents were close to our goal line. One of their backs ran through the line and I threw myself at him for the tackle. The next thing I knew I was flat on my back on a table in the locker room. My frantic mother became the first woman in the boy’s locker room of the then new gym during a game. There must have been an ambulance ride to the hospital, but my next recollection is being under white sheets, tilted up with a traction sling around my jaw hooked to a weight through a pulley at the top of the bed. My jersey and pads had been cut off back in the gym. In the hospital they pulled off shorts and jock-strap, but I had apparently asked them not to cut my black T-shirt with red FA logo, so I still had it on. After three plus quarters of football the shirt must have been fairly aromatic, but doped up, I did not notice. Terry Finn had set up a blind date for me for the “victory” (we always called them that, regardless) party that evening with a girl from Glen Cove High School. Sometime in the evening, I’m lying there, doped up, smelly, and naked under a sheet, and he walks in with his date and mine. For the rest of the season I would work the down-markers wearing the stiff plastic collar I had to endure for weeks. During the last game, Terry Finn looked at me and gave a forced grin revealing a bloody gap where one of his upper front teeth had been. Yes, it was quite a season. Do not remember whether it was my mother or wife (not my blind date; that would be too, too Hollywood) who stitched up the front of the jersey with the expectation there would be an occasion to wear it. I never did, but the FA game jersey was carried with us as we made nineteen family moves – including one to Africa – in a box marked “Costumes.” – Bob Powell, FA Class of 1960

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Class Notes Class of 1960 50th Year Anniversary Friday, October 22 – Sunday, October 24, 2010

Gathering after Meeting for Worship on Sunday. Fifteen classmates from 1960 attended their 50th Year Reunion over the Fall Fair and Homecoming weekend. (Left) Members of the Class of 1960 peruse archival photos from their years at Friends. (Bottom) From left, Marty Danoff, Susan Stein Danoff, Andy Dott, Caroline Dott and John Trauth at the 50th Reunion luncheon on Friday. Classmates gather at the Locust Valley Inn for dinner Saturday night. From his home in Berlin, Germany, Frances Edmonds joins his 50th reunion luncheon via Skype with Sue Morris and Marty Danoff.

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Class Notes Millham Latimer and Arthur visited kids who have relocated to Davis, CA in September. While there, Kate and Abbie Freedman met halfway for lunch; Kate says Abbie is her usual spunky self. Bob Pickels went hunting in Argentina last March and in Alberta this fall. Other than that, he says he is turning bowls…and getting older. Aren’t we all? In October, Gerry Bocian left his beloved San Francisco and moved to Palm Springs; he’s giving desert living a try. Kelly Kammerer and Nancy left their olive trees to visit friends in Bridgehampton, NY. He took Nancy to see Friends and was amazed at all the changes, but he was able to show her his two dorm rooms, still there after all these years! Shirley Sanders Warrick and Tom spent two weeks in Canada this summer with brother Roger (’57) and his wife Pauline. They spent part of the time at Pauline’s family cabin on a lake, relaxing and eating five-star meals prepared by Pauline’s brother-in-law, then on to Nova Scotia and more beautiful scenery. Back in Memphis (120˚ in their yard), Shirley fosters for Second Chance Dog Rescue and others. Their kids and grandkids are all fine and doing well. John Wenger writes that he and Sally “had a reasonably interesting summer.” Right after a wonderful trip with friends to Vancouver and Victoria in British Columbia, John had arthroscopic surgery on his knee to repair a torn meniscus. He was playing tennis (very lightly) the next week and is now back to full time. They will be going to New Orleans in January for a mathematics meeting. Tim O’Connell has relocated from Florida to Connecticut. It sounds as though he had a great time at Yale’s 50th anniversary celebration of the undefeated 1959 freshman football team. Right after ten glorious days in South Carolina, Gerry Whitehead and Nancy were on board the USS Constitution to celebrate the 213th anniversary of her Oct. 21, 1797, launch. His 5X great grandfather, Secretary of War Timothy Pickering, was responsible for her construction during 1795 and developed the list of names from which Pres. George Washington selected “Constitution.” Commodore Foxhall A. Parker, Gerry’s 3X great grandfather, commanded the Constitution in 1842-43. Nearly 20 years later, brothers Foxhall, Jr. (Gerry’s 2X great grandfather) and William Harwar, both naval officers, were instructors at Annapolis, where “Old Ironsides” served as the midshipmen’s residence and training ship. In April 1861, officers at Annapolis were given the opportunity to resign their commissions if they were sympathetic to the South. William joined the Virginia State Navy, later becoming Superintendent of the Confederate Naval Academy. Foxhall Jr.

remained in the US Navy. He later (by then a commodore) was superintendent of the US Naval Academy from 1878 until his death in 1879. Horton Point Lighthouse continues to keep Anne Schwiebert off the streets for about 7 months of the year; a good group of volunteers and generally nice visitors make it a largely happy situation. Life on the East End is quiet and she agrees with Tom Carter who writes, “I haven’t much news to share. This year is like last year which was like the year before. Except this year there’s no reunion to enjoy!” And from Abbie Freedman – Several years ago, a friend wrote her Ph.D. dissertation on spinal cord injury. At my urging, she is now in the process of editing and having Winning Wheels: SelfHealing for Spinal Cord Injury published and I’m helping her with this endeavor. An uplifting book that empowers those with the injury and their loved ones, it is about taking control, not spinning your wheels, and succeeding in life.

1960 Dona Fagan Arnow 14901 Talking Rock Court North Potomac, MD 20878 (301) 294-0823 During the 2010 Fall Fair and Homecoming weekend, the Class of 1960 had their very first class reunion after 50 years! The festivities began with a luncheon on Friday, October 22nd in the Jackson House, followed by dinner at their old haunt, Stangos, in Glen Cove. A glorious Saturday was spent at the Fall Fair, followed by the Homecoming Reception back at the Jackson House and another dinner – this time at the Locust Valley Inn. The weekend concluded with Meeting for Worship on Sunday morning. Attending their 50th Reunion were John Trauth, Richard Vlasak, Elizabeth Cocks Cobham and her husband Geoffrey, Terence Finn, Leigh Spencer Sorensen, Susan Stein Danoff and her husband Marty, John Heller and his wife Faye, Louis Licht and his wife Pamela, Michele Purcell and her daughter Lauren, Andy Dott along with his wife Caroline, Pam Pease Harris and her husband Dick, Bob Powell and his wife Marie, Bob Radsch and his wife Mary, Dona Arnow Fagan and her husband Eugene, and Susan Brown McMichael and her husband. This year for the first time, two classmates attended their reunion luncheon via Skype. Francis Edmonds chatted with his old friends from Berlin, Germany and Michael Samuels joined the group from his home in Greece!


1961 Park Benjamin, III P. O. Box 368 Oyster Bay, NY 11771 (516) 922-9537 It’s hard to believe, but the Class of 1961’s 50th reunion is less than one year away… so, dust off “The Lamp,” stop ‘tossin’ and turnin’, take out your Del Shannon, Dion, and Bobby Lewis LPs, and clear your calendars for the fall of 2011! Park Benjamin and Craig White will co-chair this event, and Pam Harris McClure-Johnson, living in Oregon, has already committed to come!

1962 Randi Reeve Filoon P.O. Box 5495 Ketchum, ID 83340 (208) 788-1734 Randi Reeve Filoon reports that after not seeing each other for forty-five years, she had a wonderful visit in San Francisco with Maria Olivieri Quinn this past spring. “It felt like it was yesterday and it was great fun reminiscing about so many shared times together. She has become quite an artist and it was wonderful seeing some of her work. She spends part of every year in Rome and by the way, makes a killer cappuccino. Sandi Ray Holland runs a beautiful antique shop on Nantucket Island called Nantucket House. She has become an avid sailor thanks to her friend Alfie. Randi, her husband, and Sandi plan to sail together in Italy next fall. Ann Raymond found Randi on Facebook! Jane Wenger is living in Chicago (Wicker Park), and is working as a real estate broker. She has her own very small business (1 part-time assistant) and specializes in unusual properties and general problem solving. (Wenger Properties, 1509 N. Wicker Park Ave, Chicago, IL 60622) Jane is not photographing any more. As she explains, “I stopped in the early 80s, bronzed my camera (think bronzed baby shoes), called it “The Decisive Moment” (after CartierBresson) and left photography.” Jane reports that Richard retired from teaching about 2 years ago, however, retirement is not in the cards for her! She writes, “Richard and I are going on a three-week trip to Paris, where we are renting an apartment with 2 friends from the Netherlands / France (they have

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alums in sports Hassan Robinson ’91: Hassan has been inducted into the Springfield College Hall of Fame for his contributions to the basketball and baseball programs there. Mike Cox ’06: Mike, a senior

transfer at UConn, breaks out, winning the Nick Lia Memorial Trophy, presented annually to the top Defensive Player in the Homecoming Game. Mike was recently named to the Northeast Conference (NEC) First Team, highlighting a school-record matching nine All-NEC selections for the Wagner Seahawks as announced by the league office.

Chris Maierle ’10: Chris was

selected to the 18-member Boys Under-18 All-Star Team at the Disney Soccer Showcase. The team trained at the Chelsea Football Academy near London in August and then competed against a variety of elite international youth soccer teams. On September 14, Chris received the Northeast-10 conference Rookie of the Week.

Renauld Williams ’99:

Renauld is now playing for the Pittsburgh Steelers, wearing no. 48. Renauld Williams trades in FA’s red and black for The Pittsburgh Steelers’ gold and black.

a place in both places) for 5 days, then we all take the train to Bordeaux to go to their place in Bourg (1/2 an hour from Bordeaux) for about 10 days, and then Richard and I fly to London for another 5 days.” Thomas Wenger has a notable update. “I have a 2-year old daughter (Lillian) who is keeping me busy these days. She is an absolute delight. Besides all of the usual wonderful things about children (e.g., they remind us of what love and innocence are), Lillian has the added wonderfulness of always sleeping through the night, being a happy and flexible child, and generally doing what we ask her to do. Quite amazing – and very fortunate for me and my wife, Deborah (who just turned 60) but Lillian is her first child (by adoption, obviously) so she is really happy to have this opportunity to be a mom. My other children, Sarah and Jeff, are in their late 30’s. Sarah is a physical therapist in Philadelphia and Jeff is a city planner in Jersey City. I retired 15 years ago, but flunked out of retirement a few years later. Now I work about 25 hours a week and, with a young daughter, I have no plans for full retirement any time soon. I trained as a cardiologist and spent many years developing drugs (notably the first drug for Herpes – Zovirax, and for AIDS – Retrovir). Now I consult, which means that I get paid for my opinions. I still play soccer every week (the next youngest player is in his early 50s and the rest are in their 20s to 40s, so I am hanging in there), and I still drive the MG (the same MG) as my regular transportation around town.” Cinkarion: the Heart of Fire, Janice Cullum Hodghead’s second novel, has just been published by Edge Science Fiction and Fantasy (September 15, 2010). The third novel in the Chronicles of Karionin is due out next August. Janice writes under her maiden name of Cullum.

1963 Barbara Shoen Brundige 367 Split Rock Rd. Syosset, NY 11791 (516) 922-3944 Paula E. Howe 4914 Eigel Street Houston, TX 77007-3326 (713) 863-7541

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1964 Suzanne Notides Melzig 104 E. Hillcrest Ave. Richmond, VA 23226 (804) 358-7626

1965 Robert D. Tilden 3640 County Road 16 Montour Falls, NY 14865 (607) 535-2217

1966 Helen Lotowycz Rising 98 South Bay Avenue Brightwaters, NY 11718 (631) 666-0135

1967 Diana Dickson-Witmer 24 Brendle Lane Greenville, DE 19807 (302) 656-1190 Scott W. Tilden 506 Hogan Court Doylestown, PA 18901-5900 (215) 491-9319

1968 Lesley L. Graham 615 NW Murphy Blvd Joplin, MI 64801 (417) 781-1858 Lesley Graham writes, “I had a wonderful reunion in Indianapolis on October 2nd with Kathy Attridge Anas. It was as if time was stopped and we continued where we left off 25 years ago from our last visit – the highlight of my four-day business trip and 2010! Leslie continues, “I survived my sixth year in Joplin – started my fifth year this January of 2010 with my job for the corporate office at Management Recruiters

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1970 Eli Abbe 299 Ely Place Palo Alto, CA 94306 (415) 856-3498

Class of 1965: our formal picture. From the left, seated: Holly Russell, Barbara Kemp, Phoebe Smith Apgar. Standing, from the left: Bob Tilden, Joe Williams, Steve Beslity, Bill Benjamin, Eric Koster, Mike Brown, David Pratt, Brandt Rising, and Holt Apgar. Mike Bruce is missing from the picture.

International. It gives me the opportunity to do some travel and still work from a home office and hang out with Pops. He is going strong at 95 and has such fond memories of all in our class. October 16th my nephew Gardner was married and what a wonderful celebration it was for us. Todd '67 and wife Courtney were very proud parents. Have a great 2010 and on to 2011. I appreciate your keeping the news coming and it would be great to have much more from all of you. Friends Academy was such an intricate part of my life, 13 as a student and 5 as a faculty member; the memories are cherished. All the best to the “friendly class.” Sally Rising Dean is also in continual contact with Kathy. Sally writes: My own news is that I now have grandchildren: a 4-year-old boy (Aiden) and two new grand girls this summer, Haley and Phoebe. Steve and I actually kept our cell phones on for 3 mos. waiting for them to arrive. Big time for us! We were so happy to turn them off after they were born and enjoy them in person. We will have them all for T-day weekend and do the local turkey trot 5K run. Then Steve and I are off to Islamorada, FL until it is time to come back to VT for maple sugaring, early March. Greg Tarone stays in great contact and is busy as ever enjoying living in Connecticut. Lucinda Abbe writes that all is well and she sends “hellos” to the class. Tom Fowler reports that “Sue and I and 3 now-20-somethings have been living in West Milford, NJ (the new bear country) since the mid ‘80s. A year ago I started a new job in nearby Pearl River, NY as a hydrogeologist with HDR, an environmental firm, working on various field projects dealing with environmental contamination and water supply. There’s

The Class of 1970 held a rousing 40th reunion in NYC on Oct. 23. In attendance were Adele Eissler Young, Brad Mead, Judy Keefer, Victoria Baum, Chuck Bralver, Steven Peters, Kenny Marten, Gail Boorstein, Deborah Gianelli, Kathy DeLucia, Charlie Trautmann, Molly Friedrich, Henry Clay, Randy Barbano, and Eli Abbe. More details to come in the next issue. If you have not been part of the group discussing it, the school does not have an e-mail address for you and you should send one to Eli or to FA at

lots of news from the Willy Merriken Clan. As Willy writes, “We’ve grown from an original of 5 (Louise, me and 3 children to 12 with all 3 being married and all 3 having their own kids (4 grandchildren!) We can’t possibly be THAT old! Didn’t we just graduate from dear ole FA only 10 years ago?? At least I still feel that young! Still living in Moorestown, NJ (30 minutes from Philadelphia) and still practicing the fine art of being an independent general contractor of financial services. I have no intention of retiring as I love what I do! Louise retired 4 years ago from teaching kindergarten just in time to greet our first grandchild! She’s loving being around them as often as possible. Last year we had a great outing to an Eagles game courtesy of Bob and Melanie Curtin. It was a marvelous opportunity to catch up and reminisce on the days of fun with “The Friendly Class” from a younger time. Louise and I send our best to everyone and remind everyone if you’re coming through Philly let us know so we can grab a meal and/or a drink together. Best to all!” As is famously quoted, the reports of Marian Baker's passing were greatly exaggerated. She is alive and well, living in Arizona and working as the library director of the Alice Woods Sunnizona Library in Pearce, AZ.




Jane Forelle Casey 1190 Pequot Ave., P.O. Box 469 Southport, CT 06890 (203) 292-3644

Evette Beckett-Tuggle 2 Dana’s Island Way Glen Cove, NY 11542 (516) 671-6377

Robin D. Campbell 66 Vista Dr. Saratoga Springs, NY 12866 (518) 886-8874 Craig Kronman 37 Meadow View Rd. Orinda, CA 94563 (925) 258-9442

1972 Sarah Hollett Hossfeld 125 Kellog Street Oyster Bay, NY 11771 (516) 922-0955

1973 Laura Wicker Hackett 2420 Chatham Court State College, PA 16803 (814) 238-7661

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Class Notes 2010 Homecoming Weekend Held Saturday, October 23, 2010

The Class of 1960 on the porch of the Jackson House Front row: Dona Fagan Arnow, Susan Stein Danoff, Pam Pease Harris, Michele Piro Purcell Back row: Bob Radsch, John Trauth,Terry Finn, Andy Dott (behind Terry), Louis Licht, John Heller.

Class of 1960: Classmates Pam Pease Harris and Susan Stein Danoff.

(Left) Class of 1970: Kenny Marten, Kathy DeLucia, Eli Abbe, Deborah Gianelli and Molly Friedrich reunite for dinner at Almond in New York City. (Below) Class of 1960: Members "run the gauntlet."

Class of 1965: Steve Beslity greets Bill Benjamin (in red coat) as he arrives at Sandy Rising's field house. Holly Russell (foreground), Eric Koster and his wife Gloria behind them. Brandt Rising is between them, and Sally Rising '68 is on the right. Class of 2000 classmates Alissa Lifschitz and Ariel Fish returned for their 10th reunion.

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Class of 1990: Hassan Robinson and Brendan Higgins.

Class of 1975: Penelope Wylie Mayer, Wendy Bell Guerrera, Nancy Asinof Schmitzer, Vicky Chesler, Chris Mayer, Barbara Gallagher Erickson, Lynn Chamberlain Adams, Drew Diaz, Maurice Reid, Ellen Fasano, Terry Chermak, Allison West, Chip Behal, Bob Levy and Lenny Shapiro.

Class of 1990: Troy Pieper and Ramy Saad.

Class of 1985: Reuniting at Eamon and Margaret Lavin's house.

Class of 1954: The first Alumni Association President Ward Burian and his family.

Class of 2000: Recalling the old times at Epiphany in Glen Cove.

Class of 1990: Joanna Napolitano, Peter Black and Michael Brielmann Class of 1987: Jessie Rines Jr. and his family.

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Class Notes I spent the evening in NYC with Tina Rose Erardi, Daphne Riker Hagan, and Howie Klein, all of whom asked to be remembered to the class. Thank you, Penelope and Chris, for once again making it possible for the rest of us to swoop in and reconnect. And to Dang Mahaguna and Tilde Mariani Giacchi who are always keeping us up to date. A MEMORABLE evening, indeed.


Tilde Mariani Giacché with her siblings this summer in Italy – Angela Mariani (attended FA but graduated from The Dalton School in NYC in 1980), Lorenzo Mariani (graduated from Taft), Augusto Mariani ‘72.

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1975 Tilde Mariani Giacché Salita Falconara, 11 19032 San Terenzo di Lerici La Spezia, Italy 339-260-1874 Tilde Mariani Giacché writes, “I’ve been living in Florence now since July 2007 – I have an 8th grader, Vienna, who attends ISF (International School of Florence), Oreste who graduated from ISF last year, is taking a gap year while working and going back to university in the UK fall of 2011, Josh, 22 years old, went back to college (better late than never!) in Rome at John Cabot University, and my oldest Jennifer, 24, works at the Saint Regis Hotel in NYC. I substitute teach – teach conversation classes – translation work – I keep very busy with school activities! Very often on the weekends, we go back to our little town in Liguria – San Terenzo – really pretty seaside town called the Gulfs of Poets, near the Cinque Terre. In a note to Tilde, Daphne Riker Hagan writes, “I hear you are coming to New York between Christmas and New Years... definitely have to get together. All is well here, I am involved a lot in golf (9 holers) and paddle tennis, and the Three Harbors Garden Club. I love being retired! Kyle just moved to Williamsburg, Brooklyn and Jenny is still in Chelsea. Oliver (the pug) is now 1 year and a half. P.S. Kevin sends his best. We could not make the reunion due to Jenny’s 25th birthday, but met up

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with Vicki, Matt, Howie, Tina and Lynn Chamberlain in the city Friday night. We have only traveled a bit, just went to Yosemite this Sept." Ellen Fasano writes, "Our 35th reunion was wonderful. I had a terrific time hosting Nancy Asinof, and we had a good time rekindling our friendship. It was also wonderful to spend some time with Allison West and Drew Diaz in the past month catching up on our trials and tribulations. I especially enjoyed talking with Maurice Reid at the reunion dinner. Thank you once again to Christopher and Penelope Wylie Mayer for their efforts in making the reunion fantastic. Tilde – I hope you make it to our 40th reunion. I will be in Italy in the summer of 2011 so maybe we can meet up over there. Lynn Chamberlain Adams writes, “So fantastic to see everyone at the reunion dinner on that Saturday. The night before the dinner, Vicki Chesler, her husband Matt Kovner, and

Nancy Toher Hawkins 123 Duck Pond Road Glen Cove, NY 11542 (516) 671-8977

1977 Chuck Cooperstein 10210 Waters Drive Irving, TX 75063 (972) 402-0887 News from Ann Weiss Harrison: "I live in upstate NY in Dutchess County, outside the (now famous) town of Rhinebeck. The youngest of our 4 children just started college (2 are mine, 2 are my husband’s), and the oldest has finished. I work for New York State United Teachers, the labor union which represents all the public school teachers in the state (as well as health care workers, teachers in private schools and both private & public college staff). I still am involved with horses, and my daughter Katha is a competitive horse show rider."

1978 Thomas Hawkins 123 Duck Pond Road Glen Cove, NY 11542 (516) 671-8977

1979 Pamela Picoli 9 Johnston Street Locust Valley, NY 11560 (516) 676-0214

Vicky Chesler '75 and Maurice Reid '75 at their class reunion on Saturday, October 23, 2010.

Alexandra Troy Beattie started Culinary Architect Catering in 1983 with only $100.00 and lots of energy! As Alexandra

Class Notes explains, “I was no stranger to cooking as I did my Senior ISP at Friends Academy by taking cooking lessons at the cooking school, La Cuisine Sans Peur in NYC!” Alexandra reports that during the past 27 years she has catered to Fortune 500 companies and New York’s most discerning hosts and hostesses. She has also catered events in Los Angeles. As she states, “Have whisk will travel!” You can find Culinary Architect on the web at Also you can become a fan on Facebook.


Class of 1985 25th Year Anniversary Saturday, October 23, 2010; Home of Eamon and Margaret Lavin

Culinary Architect Catering 28 Chestnut St. Greenvale, New York 11548 516/484.7431 & 212/410.5474

1980 Michael Salzhauer 860 Park Avenue New York, NY 10075 (212)

Standing: Eamon Lavin, Rick Singh, Chris Dowling, Alan Weissman, Jeff Sealy, David Sommer, Steve Salerno, Robert Witherspoon, Ginger Brush Lowman and Kirsten Vault. Sitting: Philippa Barnat Miller, Merri Kaye, Lara Zises, Laura Match Schaffer, Tiffany Thomas-Smith and Gina Pistone Plansker

1981 If anyone from the Class of 1981 would like to be the class representative, please contact us at We would love to hear from you!

1982 If anyone from the Class of 1982 would like to be the class representative, please contact us at We would love to hear from you!

Robert Witherspoon, Tyra Witherspoon, Chris Dowling and Steve Salerno

1983 Caroline Kaplan 21 Drake Lane White Plains, NY 10607 (914) 347-1562

1984 Beth Anne Melkmann 162 East 80th Street, Apt. 3B New York, NY 10075 (212) 988-1753

Gina Pistone Plansker and Eamon Lavin at the class of 1985 25th Year Reunion.

Michael and Laura Match Schaffer, Margaret and Eamon Lavin

Steve Salerno, Minnie Singh, Rick Singh and Chris Dowling

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Melissa Errico '88 with her husband Patrick McEnroe and daughters Victoria, Diana and Juliette.

1985 Laura Schaffer (Match) 16 Miles Avenue Providence, RI 02906

1986 Stacy Koppelman Fritz 26 Glenwood Road Roslyn Harbor, NY 11576 (516) 625-2936 Kathryn Hawkins Schneider 76 Highland Road Glen Cove, NY 11542 (516) 759-5504

1987 Barry D. Joseph 67-66 108th street, D66 Forest Hills, NY 10010 (718) 222-3563 Emily Beiles Kaufman 7 Beechwood Drive Saddle River, NJ 07458 (201) 785-0907 Mike McCormack writes, “ I am at JP Morgan

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in the equity research group covering telco, cable, and satellite companies – married with three kids 13,10, and 4. My oldest is applying to Friends for the fall of 2010!” Mike is still living in Cold Spring Harbor. Gennifer Meltzer Geller reports, “I became a shareholder at my medical group this year. The family is well. My son, Matthew, is applying to Rye Country Day where Dr. Strean and Mr. Wyman now teach. It’s been fun catching up with them.” Michael Gallo had an exciting year. As he writes, “My wife and I welcomed a beautiful baby into our lives, Franchesca Lilliana Gallo. She is a true blessing. We are very grateful. I was able to organize a dinner with some other alumni over the summer: John Buffa, Rashid Walker, David Fortunoff, Mike McCormack, Joe Posillico, Toby Zacks, Rich Wu, Rob Mortati, Tom Barbella, Michael Perciballi. We had a great time.” Andrew Bart, Paul Murphy, Sandy Williams and Todd Grupe are producing a workshop of “Blossom!: The Musical.” They are in talks with Mayim Bialak and hope to have the production Off-Broadway in the 2010-2011 season. From John Thomson III we hear that, “Last year business was slow, and a bunch of bad stuff happened… but I am good. I am still running my fishing and boating shop in Port Washington, Atlantic Outfitters. This summer I am taking over running a marina and expanding my kayak and boat rental operation. My wife and kids are great. My wife and I have been married for fourteen years and have three kids: two girls ages 9 and 3 and one boy, age 6. I am still living in Sands Point. My sister Vicki '88 is living in Port and works in Manhattan. My brother Scott '91 lives in Manhattan and travels the

globe working as a DJ. I am still in touch with Len Eder. He and his family live in Wisconsin where he can hunt and fish all he wants. He has two kids (a girl and a boy) and a new tractor. He and his brother have an online bowhunting website www.eders. com that he has done well with. We see him from time to time when he comes home to visit his mom who still lives in Locust Valley.” Eric W. Covington writes, “Still stationed in Hampton Roads, VA. Currently serving as the Operations Officer for Maritime Expeditionary Security Group Two in charge of the operational employment of Navy expeditionary seaward and landward security forces around the world. Supporting Haiti Humanitarian Assistance/Disaster Relief has kept me very busy since January 12th, with the deployment of close to 250 sailors. Working my way to 20 years of naval service come May 2011! Enjoying married life and serving in the Seventh-day Adventist Church. Hope that all is well with everyone else. Barry Joseph: Oh, and me. As always, you can learn the latest on my Seltzer project at and my family at:

1988 Eileen McGlinchey Hume 353 Hickory Avenue Garwood, NJ 07027 (908) 789-3396 Melissa Errico reports that the Errico family had two weddings in the past few months! Her brother Mike '84 got married in July in Southampton, to a great woman named Sally who writes for the New Yorker magazine. And her sister Melanie '00 married Bryan Winther, a software inventor for public and charter schools on Sept 25th in Vermont. Mike is writing music and releasing an album soon, as well as working for various TV shows writing theme songs and music. Melanie continues in fashion. Melissa has three daughters: Victoria age 4 and fraternal twins Diana and Juliette who turn two in November. Melissa, who starred on Broadway last season in White Christmas, continues to do concerts and prepare for the release of her Michel Legrand CD. She is married 12 years to Patrick McEnroe who now spearheads Player Development for USA tennis for the USTA, and is a leading commentator for ESPN. Leslie Peirez writes, “I am currently producing on the final season of “The Oprah Winfrey Show” in Chicago

Class Notes and love it. I keep in contact with a bunch of FA friends when in New York and am in the process of forming a production company with my sister, Susan ‘82 to develop TV and film projects.”

1989 Adam Fruitbine 375 Faletti Circle River Vale, NJ 07675 (201) 391-3040 JoAn Monaco 315 East 72nd St., Apt 18-L New York, NY 10021 (646) 438-9264 Greetings Classmates! It’s hard to believe that a year has already passed from our big reunion and so much has happened! First, we bid farewell and good luck to Alex Edwards-Bourdrez who was so outstanding to all of us as our Alumni Affairs Coordinator for so many years. He will be sincerely missed but fortunately, Alex will be nearby and will keep in touch! And, our class extends a warm welcome to Kathy Fox who will be taking over for Alex! Lawrence Schimel has a new Spanish-language picture book out, ¡VAMOS A VER A PAPÁ!, which tells the other side of the immigration experience: not coming to a new country but the people left behind, in this case a young girl whose father is working in another country and sending home money. Perhaps the most exciting news is that for the first time Lawrence will be translated INTO English, which he gets a big kick out of (but which also gives him more legitimacy as

JP Teutonico '90 and Elvire Daniels

someone writing in a language other than his mother tongue according to Lawrence). Rights for North America have been sold to Groundwood Books for publication in fall 2011. The Spanish-language edition is distributed in the US by Lectorum. Fantastic news!! Kathryn Maris is actively writing and publishing her poems. Most recently, her work has been published in The Oxford Poets Anthology (Carcanet, 2010) and The Word Exchange: Anglo-Saxon Poems in Translation (W.W. Norton, 2010). Congratulations, Kathryn. Jackie Sokolow Wachsman is keeping busy as a mom of three active little ones. She and her husband Dan are amazed at how quickly time flies when watching kids grow up: Jordan is already ten, Ethan is seven and Alec is turning five! Congratulations to the Wachsmans! Jennifer Pagett Stricklin is extremely busy with fundraising in her spare time. Jen and Dave recently added a new member to the family, Tucker, a cockapoo puppy, and the boys are in love with him. Donald is now in fifth grade and Harold is in first grade. They are busy with baseball, tennis and lots of other activities. Jen recently led a huge benefit for the North Shore Board of the Northwestern Settlement in Chicago. How do you find the time, Jen? Tanya Zuckerbrot, MS, RD is the President and Founder of a thriving Manhattan nutrition practice. Tanya is currently working with Hain Celestial and Health Valley to create a line of highfiber meals and snacks, making her the first Registered Dietitian to put out a line of food focusing on the nutritional aspects of fiber. Tanya is also an on-air spokesperson for Cooking Light magazine, appearing regularly on shows such as The Today Show and The Early Show. Be sure to check out what Tanya is up to on Facebook…her latest is a great evening of adrenaline-pumping exercise at Equinox Fitness. Congratulations Tanya on your meteoric success! Tony Bozza wrote an essay about Mr. Brogan for a book called Signed, Your Student (Kaplan Press). It came out this past June. The book has a pretty interesting collection of writers, celebrities, politicians and icons, everyone from John Glenn to Helen Gurley Brown. Other than that, Tony’s publishing imprint, Igniter, has released two books via Harper Collins’ It Books division. The latest is the autobiography of Larry “Bozo the Clown” Harmon, titled The Man Behind the Nose: Assassins, Astronauts, Cannibals and Other Stupendous Yarns. It’s already been singled out by the design community for its graphic design. Outstanding Tony!! Michele Pauporte and her adorable 16-month-old son named Tiger live on the upper east side


of Manhattan. Tiger is best friends with Tanner Klipstein (15 month old son of Kim Gottleib '87. Michele loves taking Tiger to the park and being a mom! On my end, my husband Mike Karellas and I (JoAn Monaco) are having a great time with our daughter Caroline who will be two in January. Mike is busy with his urologic oncology practice at Robert Wood Johnson and I’m busy with botox and breast augmentations on Fifth Avenue! Keep the news coming and hope to see everyone again very soon!! Sincerely, JoAn.

1990 Suzanne D’Addario Brouder 2225 N. Seminary Ave. Chicago, IL 60614 (773) 360-8921

1991 Michael Fox 1209 N. Citrus Avenue Hollywood, CA 90038 (646) 373-7535 Colleen Doyle Moran 10 Arbor Way Morristown, NJ 07960 (973) 656-1513 Hassan Robinson, a three-sport athlete at Friends, went on to play in the Houston Astro’s organization for a few years before going into education. He has been inducted into the Springfield College Hall of Fame for his contributions to the basketball and baseball programs there.

1992 Clayton Siegert 100 I Street S. Boston, MA 02127 (617) 821-2867 Clay Seigert writes, “My wife, Deidre, and I are expecting our second child in December. We are keeping the gender a surprise but have a couple of names picked out. My daughter Ruth is now two years old and it is awesome being a dad. My startup company, XL Hybrids, which is developing hybrid vehicle technology for commercial

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Members of the Class of 1995, from top and moving clockwise: Val Verrelli (looking at camera), Dave Noble's fiance Oren Schmidt's wife, David Noble, Oren Schmidt, Tom Pascarella's girlfriend, Nadia Pervez's husband, Nadia Pervez and Val Verrelli's wife reunited at La Pace in Glen Cove on Saturday, October 23, 2010.

vehicles, is doing well. Our team is up to 10 people and we are launching with our first customers in November. Other than work and hanging with my family, I try to stay active playing basketball and running. I recently saw Sarah Calderon and her husband Joe Magee in New York. Sarah is Executive Director of the Casita Maria Center for Arts and Education in the Bronx. Sarah and Joe live in Manhattan – near NYU where Joe is a tenured professor – but recently bought a cabin in upstate New York so they can escape the hustle and bustle of the city. Patrick McGillicuddy and his wife, Mink, had their first child, Mia Jo, this summer. Based on the pics Pat has sent out, Mia definitely takes after her mom and is beautiful. Patrick is the principal of East Brooklyn Community High School and he lives in Brooklyn.

1993 Natalia Porcelli Good 310 East Houston St., Apt. 5E New York, NY 10002 (212) 753-0128 Danielle Valenti Smith 420 East 72nd Street Apt. 6J New York, NY 10021 (646) 334-3888 Hi everyone. Danielle and I hope you are all doing well and that you had a great fall. Kenyatt Godbolt writes, “My wife recently

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gave birth to my son, Kenyatt Jr., and we are enjoying life in Charlotte, NC with our two children. I also have a 3-year-old daughter, Samira. I am working as an independent speech and language provider for Charlotte as well as the surrounding areas. I hope to visit FA soon so that I can tour the new Lower School. As you know, I worked in the Lower School for six years as a fifth grade teacher, and I often refer to those experiences when I am speaking with parents and/or administering therapy. I miss the place.” Sandy Lyon Mare writes, “We are still splitting our time living in Seattle and Charlotte while my hubby plays for the Seahawks. This past April I gave birth to our fourth child, a boy,

Rylan Stephen. And yes, I am done! We love our big family and we’re having fun. I look forward to the days of living in one place but it has been fun getting to see so many wonderful places.” Jesse Shafer and his wife Courtney had a beautiful baby girl named Eve at the end of August; Angeliqua Mitra is back on Long Island continuing her psychology dissertation through Yeshiva’s Ferkauf School after an internship working in New Jersey. Amanda Levy Laserson recently went back to work as the Consumer Marketing Director for Sports Illustrated Kids and TIME for Kids magazines at Time Inc. after taking three years off to be home with her two beautiful children who are now 4 and 6. Jesse Laserson is enjoying working as the VP, Director of Project Administration at the real estate company RXR Realty Corp on Long Island. Jesse is also working on getting his MBA at Hofstra. Amanda Valenti Anzalone was married to Mike Anzalone in September and she is extremely happy as a newlywed. Amanda, Angeliqua and Rebecca Seaman Bonventre were all in the bridal party and Natalia Porcelli Good, Adam Good, Joe Bonventre, Todd Jacobson and Joshua Sussman all attended the beautiful wedding in Sea Cliff. Speaking of Todd, he is continuing to do great work in community relations at the NBA. Josh also has a fabulous position at IAC where he is General Counsel of Programming, overseeing Business & Legal Affairs for companies like The Daily Beast. Josh and Todd live in the same building in NYC. Rebecca Seaman Bonventre lives in Huntington with her two adorable sons, Ben and Danny, who are in kindergarten and pre-school. Joe Bonventre is Executive Vice President and General Counsel at Lexington Realty Trust in Manhattan. Joe was

To all Friends Academy Alumni Parents:

Please join us on February 10, 2011 for Dinner & A Show! We’ll start with a casual dinner at the Marion Jackson House at 5:30 p.m., followed by the Upper School production of 'Extraordinary.' Join us for a wonderful evening of food and fun RSVP to or call Kathy Fox at 516-465-1796 Hope to see you there!

Class Notes recently at a community service event for disabled children with students from Friends Academy and enjoys attending barbeques at the Laserson house. Speaking of parties at the Laserson residence, Jesse and Amanda recently hosted a fabulous Halloween party where we got to see Amanda Valente Anzalone, Angeliqua Mitra, Rebecca Seaman Bonventre, Joe Bonventre and their two sons, Aditya Mattoo, his beautiful wife Preeti and two young sons Surya and Deven. Aditya is a nephrologist in the last year of his fellowship at NYU Medical Center. Danielle Valenti Smith lives in Manhattan and has her hands full with her 4-year-old daughter Siena, 2-year-old son Luca and a baby boy named Marco who was born in April. She is also the President of the Board at her daughter’s pre-school, Park Avenue Christian. Natalia Porcelli Good and Adam Good recently moved to Lattingtown and have a 5-year-old son, Julian, who just started Kindergarten at Friends Academy. It’s a pleasure to see Brie Shapiro Kraska, who teaches Fifth grade at Friends, at drop off and pick up. Brie recently had a baby and has another child as well. I recently got a note from Jenn Berliner Harinstein who just gave birth to a baby boy and is still in Pittsburgh, but hoping to make it back to NY in the next few years. I recently ran into Dana Lostritto Leopold who recently moved to Laurel Hollow with her husband and three children. She is doing great and it was so nice to reconnect with her. As always, please keep in touch and enjoy the upcoming holidays!

1994 Heather Upton 269 Ohio St. Pasadena, CA 91106 (626) 507-8524

1995 Thomas A. Pascarella 156 Lewis Avenue Westbury, NY 11590 Kelly Reid Walsh 96 Grove Street Wellesley, MA 02482 (781) 237-2893 Tom Pascarella reports: “Our reunion was a great success. In the end, we had five alums and their guests, including myself. In attendance were David Noble, Nadia Pervez,


Melissa Sue Dickenson '98, Melissa Lee '98, Dion Short '98, and Cyndy Daniels '98 at the wedding of Dion Short and Aziz Metzger on August 14, 2010.

Val Verrelli, and Oren Schmidt. We did have to settle for a table in the main room because of the attendance, however it worked out great, and we had, what seemed to be, a delightful, never-ending meal. I typically leave an event with way too many pictures, and I don’t know if it was the intimate atmosphere or all of the fun I was having, but I took an unbelievable 2 shots. Coincidentally, the parents of one of our classmates, Amanda Sokolow, were having dinner at the restaurant, just a few tables away. We had a nice chat with them and a good chuckle. Everyone thoroughly enjoyed themselves and appreciated the gift bags. We all look forward to getting together with even more of our classmates soon.

1996 On September 25th James Carey wed Dr. Lindsay Blass (Psy.D.) of Garden City, NY. James and Lindsay live in Alexandria, VA where they moved last summer. James is currently working as a Senior Network Engineer at the Securities and Exchange Commission (SEC).

1997 Devon Broderick Carroll 28 Bedford St., Apt. 23 New York, NY 10014-4471 (917) 531-7579

Devon A. George 163 West 18th Street, Apt 9b New York, NY 10011 (516) 457-8082 Elizabeth McCally Keating enjoyed cheering on Josh Cohen and Neda Talebian Funk in the New York City Marathon on November 7, 2010. Wynn Payackapan is looking forward to his marriage to Maritza in May 2011. Wynn just finished his MBA at Stern School at NYU. Zach Boisi had a busy March/April. On March 31st, his second son, Declan Thomas Boisi, was born in Chicago, IL. On April 6th, he left Sears Holdings and a week later, he moved the family to Maryland. Then, on April 27th, he joined Network Solutions as a Principal of Organizational Strategy & Optimization. Zach reports that the family is happy and healthy... and will be growing in May. Sayre Flynn moved from happily engaged to happily married in the summer of 2010. Laura Drumm has been busy doing renovations to her new Village apartment about two blocks away from Jamie Jacobs and her husband. Jamie and Laura enjoy watching Giants football together. Laura, Jamie and Zach Boisi continued their annual tradition again this summer, heading to Martha’s Vineyard for a weekend with Jamie and her husband Kevin, Andrew and Briana Gillick and Zach and Corinne Boisi (and their adorable little boys James and Declan!). Matthew Bonanno is working in London and enjoying the exposure to European culture living aboard affords. Devon George is engaged to life love Amanda, a Georgetown

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Jordan S. Tarry 333 E. 5th St., Apt C3 New York, NY 10003 (516) 526-1689 Check out a great blog by Kevin Reilly: A Border Story: The Lone Couchsurfer of El Paso, Texas. Follow the link: features/detail/what_couchsurfing_in_el_ paso_taught_me_about_the_border/ Dion Short married Aziz Metzger on August 14th. Sharing in the celebration were Ken Austin and his wife Cleve (Dion’s mom), Melissa-Sue Dickenson, Melissa Lee, and Cyndy Daniels.

1999 FA Lower School art teacher Margaret Lindner and FA History teacher Marshall Lindner at the wedding of their daughter Jennifer to Annie Richards.

University classmate, and is looking forward to back to back to back wedding weekends with Wynn Payackapan and David Bonanno in the Spring of 2011. In between helping entrepreneurs start companies, Devon is lucky to be spending important time with his parents, sisters, grandmother and extended family whenever possible. JR Orenstein recently celebrated his insurance agency’s three-year anniversary. He’s enjoyed meeting and working with alumni through his increasingly successful business and is excited to have launched his website JR is currently residing in Plainview, Long Island, spending a majority of down time with friends and family. JR sees fellow classmates on a regular basis, including Wynn Payackapan, Sayre Flynn, and Justin Monti. This summer JR was fortunate to see three fellow alumni get married (Chris Monge ‘95, Ryan Porter ‘96, and Sayre Flynn ‘97). All weddings were beautiful.

1998 Justin J. Boults 222 Gates Ave., Apt #2 Brooklyn, NY 11238 Justin P. Meli 1500 Chicago Ave., Apt. 620 Evanston, IL 60201 (713) 553-4108

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John F. Reid 15 Wood Valley Road Chatham, MA 02633 Jennifer Ryan Woods 2 Meadow Spring Lane Glen Cove, NY 11540 (516) 398-0888

Paul P. Corrigan 1 The Preserve Woodbury, NY 11797 (516) 448-2228 Meredith A. MacKinnon 46 Duck Pond Road Glen Cove, NY 11542 (516) 759-2063 Aliza Watters and Tarun Chhabra were married in August at their home in Cambridge, Mass. Elizabeth Aibel Sherwood, a friend of the couple who received temporary authorization from the Commonwealth of Massachusetts, officiated. On Aug. 14, the couple had another ceremony incorporating Hindu and Christian elements at the Divinity School of the Bodleian Library at Oxford in England. Aliza and Tarun met in 2005 as Marshall Scholars at Oxford. Aliza recently became a writing instructor at Harvard, and Tarun is in his third year of law school at Harvard.


Congratulations to Jennifer Lindner who married her beloved Annie on 10-10-10. As her mother (and Lower School art teacher) Margaret Lindner said, “Oh, what a day it was!” Congratulations to Jennifer Ryan Woods who has exciting news – doubling exciting actually. “On October 12th my twin girls, Ella Michael Woods and Audrey Ryan Woods were born. Although they surprised us by showing up 6 weeks early, both babies are home and doing great!” Giants and Jets fans may have to cheer for Pittsburgh as Renauld Williams is now playing for the Pittsburgh Steelers, wearing number 48.

Twin daughters, Ella and Audrey Woods were born this fall to Jennifer Ryan Woods '99.

Christopher Scott Harvey 16 Stiles Drive Melville, NY 11747 (516) 425-1096 Hadley Devon Mongell 245 E. 63rd Street Apt. 517 New York, NY 10065 (516) 759-1377 Elizabeth Ong and Stephen Witthuhn were married this summer in New York City. After dating for almost two years at FA, Liz and Steve reunited when they both moved to Boston after college. They moved to New York City in 2008, where they currently live with their dog, Chopper. The ceremony was well attended by members of the Class of 2001 (Christopher Broderick, Alexander Burakoff, Lauren Chiang, Chirag Garg, Tanya Hanna, Darren Hirsch, Michelle Javian, Ajay Rajani, Deborah Rosenberg, Susie Theroux and Jacqui Young), as well as the groom’s siblings David ’02, Scott ’05, Brian ’06 and Jennifer ’08, and the bride’s brother James ’97.

Class Notes 2004 Angela Teresa Batista 2 Greenway Muttontown, NY 11771 (516) 857-6572

Tarun Chhabra and Aliza Watters '00 celebrated their wedding in August 2010.

2002 Lauren Marie Bebry 2757 Heathfield Road Bloomfield, MI 48301 (631) 875-5725 Michael Jason Weiss 40 Cow Neck Road Sands Point, NY 11050 (516) 883-1572 Meghan Farrell reports that after working as a manager at Opening Ceremony in SoHo for two years she was promoted to the buying team in June! She attended FIT for jewelry design and now has her own company – MF – which is a collection of jewelry inspired by psychology and neurology (www. It is sold at Opening Ceremony and at TenOverSix in LA. Meghan also worked on a music video with Francis Healy of Travis!


Jonathan Harley Koenig 31 Yukon Drive Woodbury, NY 11797

2005 Robert Harrison Aaron 27 Shorewood Drive Sands Point, NY 11050 (516) 524-4261 Helen Simpson Hatch 137 Linden Farms Road Locust Valley, NY 11560 (516) 609-3239 Helen Hatch reports, “I am at Cambridge for another year, studying for my M.Phil in the History of Art. Emmanuel College has generously taken on a cohort of Williams’ students, so we have a nice community established on St. Andrew’s Street!” Lauren Jackson writes from the Alumni Tent at the Fall Fair, “It’s good to be at the Fall Fair! My first thought was to head for the food but all the while I was running into fellow classmates, parents, and teachers, and loving every minute of it!” Lauren is currently


working for a TV production company in Chelsea and just moved to the Kensington area of Brooklyn. Lauren says, “If any of you Quakers are living in NYC, let me know!”

2006 Brian T. Alessi 50 Shore Drive Plandome, NY 11030 (516) 365-3983 Jennifer Marie Wagner 124 Feeks Lane Locust Valley, NY 11560 (516) 656-3480 Kaitlin Marie Wagner 124 Feeks Lane Locust Valley, NY 11560 (516) 656-3480 After turning in a modest eight tackles and one quarterback hurry in his first three games, senior UConn transfer Mike Cox broke out in a big way against Bryant recording six tackles, including 4.5 tackles for loss that netted 24 lost yards and 2.5 sacks, including one which went for a safety. He put Wagner on the board with his first sack as a Seahawk in the first quarter. He sacked Croce again in the second quarter before combining with Davis on an 11-yard sack on the final drive of the second quarter. Cox had another big tackle, stopping Bryant punter Brand Lockerby on fourth down later in the half for

Katherine Elizabeth Donoghue 88 Leonard St., Apt. 1511 New York, NY 10013 (516) 238 -4550 Tara Kristin Hanna 245 Locust Street W. Hempstead, NY 11552 (516) 316-8220 Andrew Joseph Rivara 249 Cleft Road Mill Neck, NY 11765 (516) 624-8380 2001 classmates and sweethearts Steven Witthuhn and Elizabeth Ong were married this summer. Friends and 2001 classmates attended the celebration in New York City.

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a seven-yard loss. Cox was back at it against Duquesne, forcing a fumble and recording a sack en route to six tackles while winning the Nick Lia Memorial Trophy, presented annually to the top Defensive Player in the Homecoming Game. He now has 32 tackles and four sacks for the year.

2007 Christine Farrell 1971 Cedar Swamp Road Glen Head, NY 11545 (516) 606-1300 Caitlin Koufakis 239 Cleft Road Mill Neck, NY 11765 (516) 627-5222 In early October, Will Roland was part of the New York premiere of the politically-charged rock musical The Fix at NYU Steinhardt. Will played Bobby “Cracker” Barrel, a lecherous redneck who got the electric chair not once, but three times throughout the course of the show. He is a senior in the Program in Vocal Performance this year, preparing for his recital, senior showcase, graduation, and hopefully a long and fruitful career as an actor. PS - If you just can’t get your Will Roland fix soon enough, the internet abides. watch?v=3vLjTLouBKg_

2008 Laura Berke 310 3rd Avenue, Apt. 1906A New York, NY 10010 (516) 680-4437

Alexandria Phillips 68 Flower Hill Rd. Huntington, NY 11743 (631) 421-3332

2009 Ingrid A. Gutierrez 151 East Graham Avenue Hempstead, NY 11550 (516) 292-2302 Cristen Koufakis 239 Cleft Road Mill Neck, NY 11765-1003 (516) 627-5222 Nell C. Kucich 316 Manhasset Woods Road Manhasset, NY 11030 (516) 965-0635 John E. Mascari Dartmouth College 3153 Hinman Hanover, NH 03755 Jessica M. Rizzi 61 Green Meadow Lane Huntington, NY 11743 (631) 367-1045 Anthony F. Tedesco 40 Heights Road Plandome, NY 11030 (516) 627-2974

2010 Jasmine Wang 5 Sagamore Hill Road Oyster Bay, NY 11771 Alexa Gordon 24 West Creek Farms Rd. Sands Point, NY 11050 Zach Schoenhut 311 Calf Farm Road Mill Neck, NY 11765-1203 Chris Maierle, a freshman at U Mass – Lowell, started the first 5 games of the season, playing all 470 minutes. He saved 79% of the shots that were taken. Chris also recorded 2 shutouts during these games, which included a shutout against Southern New Hampshire, the #4 ranked team in the country. Since starting the season as the #1 goalkeeper, Chris sustained an upper leg injury and is currently rehabbing the injury. On September 14, Chris received the Northeast-10 conference Rookie of the Week award. Chris was also selected to the 18-member Boys Under-18 all-star team at the Disney Soccer Showcase. The team trained at the Chelsea Football Academy near London in August and then competed against a variety of elite international youth soccer teams.


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alumsin the arts Will Roland '07: In early October, Will was part of the New York premiere of the politicallycharged rock musical The Fix at NYU Steinhardt. Will played Bobby "Cracker" Barrel, a lecherous redneck who got the electric chair not once, but three times throughout the course of the show.

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Melissa Errico ‘88: Melissa, who starred on Broadway last season in White Christmas, continues to do concerts and prepare for the release of her Michel Legrand CD.

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In Memoriam Lila Gordon, 1932 - 2010


Remembering Lila

ila Gordon and I were friends for forty-four years. Wherever she was, Seattle, Amherst, Chicago, Washington, D. C., Poughkeepsie, or South Salem, we stayed in touch. Tremendously loyal and unfailingly supportive, she was always good company. When she lived near New York City, we went together to concerts, recitals, and ballet performances, usually on a subscription. Music was central to her life. In her home, her grand piano – sometimes her harpsichord, too – was prominent in the living room. She had a degree from Juilliard and was an exceptionally talented pianist. She could have pursued a career as a solo pianist had she elected to, and no doubt would have succeeded in a very competitive and difficult profession, but marrying and having a family moved her in different directions, in her case, luckily for us all, to education. When I first arrived at Friends as an English teacher in September, 1966, Lila was teaching biology, though she also taught chemistry. I remember her coming into the faculty lounge, invariably wearing her white lab coat which always seemed to me an emblem of the seriousness with which she took her subject. I soon learned that she was an excellent teacher, demanding, stimulating, witty, and very articulate and knowledgeable. She also devoted extra time to her students, ever available to help with their work, to set them on independent projects, or just to chat with them. Some of these students became life-long friends. Lew Hitzrot, himself an excellent science teacher, says that Lila became an unofficial mentor to him when he first came to Friends. He also said that Lila and he were fond of playing practical jokes on one another, to the delight of the students. At Friends she showed a keen interest in the overall school. Pat Parmelee, a Lower School teacher, told me that Lila always asked about activities in the Lower School. She was also often to be seen at games and plays. In the early years we did a number

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Lila Gordon in her biology lab, circa 1970.

of faculty shows. Lila, along with Steve Randall, was one of the duo-pianists for these events, immersed in the rehearsals from start to finish, and instrumental in the success of the shows. This complete interest in the overall picture of a school led to her pursuit of a doctorate in education at the University of Chicago and administrative jobs in a number of schools, finally as head of the Oakwood School in Poughkeepsie, N. Y. A number of these schools were Quakerrelated, Sidwell in Washington, D.C.,

where she was principal of the Upper School, and Oakwood. Ever at the front of her interest was academic excellence. She wanted the quality of the teaching and the format of the programming to elicit the best from the students in her charge. To accomplish these goals, she was dogged in her efforts, willing to listen to suggestion but reluctant to accept half-way measures. Even after her retirement, she was involved in working with organizations that enhanced the life of the mind and spirit, at the local library in South Salem

In Memoriam


Lila Gordon, 1932 - 2010 and at her synagogue. The last time I saw Lila was at a performance of the NY City Ballet in April. She had walked all the way up to Lincoln Center from Grand Central Station and I felt concern for her because she looked exhausted. But the ballet perked her up. I remember she was particularly taken with Andrew Veyette's portrayal of a horse in a Wheeldon ballet. She had a love of animals. Whenever I think of Lila, her beloved pets come to mind. Wherever she was, she had cats and dogs and, not surprisingly, she never neglected one of them. She often took her dog with her to work at Oakwood because she could not bear for it to be alone and unhappy. Her cat Oatmeal ascended to the loft to crawl onto the mattress with me when I stayed overnight. I always looked forward to getting together with Lila. At concerts, she invariably added dimensions to my appreciation of the performance, particularly when pianists were involved. When we chatted on the phone, she asked about what I was reading and we usually got into stimulating discussions of works we had both read. She had a keen sense of humor, appreciated a good joke and could be very salty when the spirit moved her to be. She was candid in the best sense, someone I liked to argue with because she prompted me to see issues in new ways. It was at Lila's home in South Salem where she hosted a party for my retirement. A number of us who have remained friends ever since our early years at Friends gathered there. My brother has always called this group from Friends "the golden people," and I am inclined to agree because they have been the enduring friendships of my life. And Lila was pure gold. But her spirit remains alive in those of us who loved and treasured her. If there is a Heaven, I believe Lila has already made her presence well known to the Almighty. I can hear him saying, “Who is that woman, that polymath? She has immeasurably heightened Cloud Nine. I wish she had been around when the Good Book was written. She could have added an important chapter or two." – Roger Erickson

Lila Gordon with former student Tina Martin '75 in October 2009.


An appreciation: Lila Gordon

was not an easy student. It was 1972 and I was sitting in Lila Gordon’s biology class at Friends Academy, writing poetry. When she asked me to explain myself, I told her that since biology would have no bearing on my future, I could see no sense in learning a frog’s anatomy. Most teachers would have sent me straight down to the principal’s office. Not Lila. She cajoled and bullied me and made me laugh. Before long, those frogs looked pretty interesting. That was Lila’s gift as a teacher, and it is something that I have never forgotten. Fast-forward almost forty years – no I did not become a biologist. I started a business called Tina Martin Personal Histories to help families preserve their family stories for future generations, as video, audio, or written biographies. My clients have ranged from Holocaust Survivors telling their stories for the first time, to couples celebrating fifty years of marriage. Having just completed a multi-generational book for a family with deep roots in New York, I was ready for a new project. Lila’s children, Michael ’74 and Merle ’71 contacted me to do a video history on their mother’s life. This was my chance to be the one asking Lila the questions! What unfolded was the extraordinary story of Lila’s life: her mother’s determination to groom

“Most teachers would have sent me straight down to the principal's office. Not Lila. She cajoled me ... and made me laugh. Before long, those frogs looked pretty interesting.” her as a concert pianist, and the successful career that followed; how she discovered a passion for biology and a love for teaching; the lasting friendships she made with students and faculty at Friends; and her years as an administrator and visionary, leading Oakwood School and Sidwell Friends. Best of all, I had the opportunity to talk and laugh with Lila and learn more about the person I had always admired. I know that I am among many whose lives have been profoundly touched by her. We will miss you Lila. – Tina Martin '75

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In Memoriam

We Remember...

James Arthur Malcom Jr. '34 Former Board of Trustees President

Lila Gordon Former Lower School teacher


ames Arthur Malcolm, Jr. '34, former Friends Academy Board of Trustees President, passed away on September 29, 2010, in Shelburne, Vermont at the age of 93. Jim grew up in Jericho on the family farm he loved so dearly. The farm was populated with a jersey cow, sheep, ducks and chickens. He continued this love of the land and farming in Pawlet, Vermont with a small herd of Hereford cows; his love of farming was inherently passed on to his children. After Friends, Jim attended Swarthmore College, receiving a degree in electrical engineering in 1938. He completed a Masters Degree in Industrial Engineering from Columbia University in 1940. In November, 1942, Jim married Janet Dorothy (Jaydee) Wilson of Jenkintown, Pennsylvania. They lived in Rydal and Abington, Pennsylvania until their move back to farm life in Jericho. It was there that Jim became very active in the Jericho Meeting. Returning to his Friends' roots, Jim served on FA’s Board of Trustees from 1952 until 1962. Before and after World War II, he worked for the Radio Corporation of America (RCA), in Camden, N.J. in the early years of television production. During WWII he did critical defense work at RCA. He joined Work Factor Company where he helped develop innovative factory time and motion techniques that were used by many of the world’s largest corporations. He was then appointed Vice President of Research for Science Management Corporation. Jim was known for his enthusiastic curious nature, his love of learning, and his ability to engage and entertain others with his anecdotes. He loved everything mechanical, starting in his early childhood days of building radios and working on Ford Model T cars. He skied in the Poconos, the Alps, and Vermont. His eclectic tastes ran from loving cats and farming to opera. He had a love of travel and was interested in experiencing all modes of transportation. On one occasion he took a Greyhound bus across the country so he could take advantage of a deal to go back across the country on the same bus for one dollar. Another time, he showed up at a dinner party on his tractor. He had a unique way of finding home remedies to cure his ailments that would impress, perplex, and amuse his family. He was a creative man who could find a solution for fixing anything, and he took pleasure in saving everything, just in case he needed it later. He had a thousand different uses for a roll of paper towels. Ever the optimist, Jim had the uncanny ability to find four leaf clovers in any patch of grass. He always found the good in people and was genuinely interested in others’ accomplishments and interests. His greatest pleasure and pride was to share these wonderful traits with the most important people in his life: his wife of 66 years, Jaydee, who predeceased him in September, 2009, his children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren. He is survived by three children, James A. Malcolm, III (Chip) '62 and his wife Nancy of Middlebury, VT, Elizabeth (Betsy) Eklof '64 of Colchester, VT, and John Malcolm '68, and his wife Sue LaPorte of Pawlet, VT; six grandchildren, and six great-grandchildren.

– Kathy Fox

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Sarah Glenn Meyer '59 Former BOCES teacher at FA

James Malcolm Jr. '34 Former Board of Trustees member

Sarah Francis Glenn Meyer, '59 Alumna, FA teacher and friend


t is so hard to choose what to say about someone who has been so many things to so many people.... I remember my mom taking me to visit Sarah when we were in different grade schools. Sarah had been stricken with polio. That was at a time when contact with polio victims was discouraged. How lonely and depressing it must have been for the isolated child and for the parents. The concept of her having to learn to walk again had seemed strange to me. Later I thought it was so neat that she had not only learned to walk again, but she did it with a spring in her step. That may just have been from the joy she felt in moving. She was on many of the sports teams at Friends Academy. She and her family were avid beaglers and she whipped-in. My family also beagled. Beagling is hunting hare or cottontail rabbits with a pack of beagles. The organization (no longer in existence) on Long Island was the Buckram Beagles. One might compare it to foxhunting, but on foot, not on horses; with beagles, instead of foxhounds; and hunting hare, not fox. There was a Master of Hounds, Whippersin, and the Field (the rest of us) who followed, enjoyed the exercise, the company, and watching the hounds work. At Vassar our freshman year the two of us tried (unsuccessfully) hitchhiking to Millbrook to beagle. I'm not sure whether we would have accepted a ride from some passing motorist or not. We didn't have the opportunity to find out. Sarah was my mentor for sailing. She had a way of instilling confidence and encouraging me and letting me find my own way. She was the one that connected me to a generous senior club member of Seawanhaka Yacht Club who owned a boat and who was willing to let me use it in exchange for my keeping it clean, scrubbing the keel, wiping out the bilge, polishing the brass, etc. Later, as mothers and as teachers, we compared notes on different ways of handling various issues. When I think of it now, our mothers must have done the same thing. They had been pregnant with us at the same time – and

Sarah and her mother never let my mother or me forget that I came first. My mother had declared her due date was after the New Year. Sarah's mother expected her baby in 1941. I arrived on December 10th and the Glenns had to wait until January 5, 1942! That may have been the last time I was early, and the last time Sarah was late! When I was in elementary school, my sister Lisa passed away. Just a year ago Sarah told me that her mother had given her the assignment to make me happy and to be my friend because it was a sad time for me. How amazing to know that our mothers supported each other in their mutual roles of motherhood and also encouraged their daughters to support each other. I noticed once, while visiting Sarah, how stationery and writing supplies were “at the ready.” That’s how she did it! She was a wonderful communicator. Her friendly notes brought encouragement and support. Thinking of others and communicating with them was part of who Sarah was. Sarah was a good friend, but really, she was a good friend to all... excluding others was not her way. She was amazingly astute (as was her mother) at finding good qualities in others and in delighting in them. Her sincerity, her determination to do what was right, to do it well, and to be fair, made every organization she was part of stronger. We will miss her, but yet, I think she will always be with us in some way. “A friend is a flower that doesn’t fade.”

– Karen Willits Zentgraf ’59

Correction: The Spring 2010 issue of The Meeting House incorrectly reported the passing of Marian Baker '68. Marian lives in Arizona and currently works as the library director of the Alice Woods Sunnizona Library in Pearce, AZ.

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