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100 th issue Vol. 2 No. 48  Pages 24  ` 7

RNI No. HARENG/2011/39319, Postal Regn. No. GRG/35/2012-2014


Fall-Outs of Live-Ins

{ Shilpy Arora / FG }

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arriage has always been seen as the ultimate commitment in the Indian society. The husband and wife vow to be always together, in front of their near and dear ones. But today’s generation seems to rely more on “trying-out” relationships, wherein they live together for some time and later decide if they would like to tie the knot. ‘Live-in’ is the name of this new ‘option’; it provides an option to part ways. That is what seems to make it attractive. However, it also makes it formidable. It seems attrac-

tive because one can have a ‘good time’ for a while, and then move out at will. It seems formidable because there is bound to be some emotional involvement also, which could leave a bad taste and make the more ‘involved’ spouse feel exploited. Live-in relationships are of course still viewed as temporary flings, and labelled as immoral, by the larger society. But they seem here to stay… Today the legal system gives women equal rights in Live-in relationships. As in a marriage, ‘forced sex’ and ‘sex without consent’ in a Live-in relationship is considered a rape. Take for instance a recent case

in the Millennium City. IItian Sukhi (name changed), 29, had lived with Akshay, 30, for more than three years. They did not tie the knot, but Sukhi spent most of her time with Akshay. She did all the household chores (like a ‘normal’ wife). She washed Akshay’s clothes, mopped his house and cooked for him. One day Akshay suddenly disappeared. His mobile remained switched off and he was untraceable. Sukhi approached the police, who treated it as a rape and cheating case; cheating because they consider a Live-in relationship as a potential marriage, and rape because Sukhi alleged that Contd on p 7 

Take the Slow Lane { Abhishek Behl / FG }

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n the last one decade Gurgaon has been transformed from a suburb into a city. The population has grown exponentially, traffic has multiplied, and the number of corporates have grown manifold - but one thing that has refused to change is the bureaucratic system and a mindset that is painfully slow and inadequate to meet the growing challenges of a Millennium City in the making. Considering the dysfunctional way in which this City’s Municipality operates, the residents would not be shocked to know that the authorities do not record and register the thousands of cycle-rickshaws that are operating in the City. Anyone, whether he is a criminal or a migrant from another country, can buy or rent a rickshaw, and start operating as a rickshaw puller, with the authorities not even batting an eyelid. It is not as if the MCG does not have a licensing procedure for cycle rickshaws, but it went out of vogue a decade ago; and since then the system has been lying defunct with no one knowing the reason why this happened. The situation in Gurgaon is the opposite of the over- regulated scenario


in neighbouring Delhi, where NGOs like Manushi had to approach the Supreme Court to get justice for rickshaw owners and pullers from the draconian controls imposed by MCD. Gurgaon today has almost 20,000 cycle rickshaws, which are being pulled by migrants from Bihar and UP - especially from the districts of Darbhanga, Pilibhit and Shahjahanpur. With each rickshaw at an average making 10 trips in a day, experts point out that almost 400,000 people use this mode of transport in the City, making it a crucial cog in the transport system – though it remains unacknowledged.

Time For Accountability We need a White Paper - on all the vacant land in Gurgaon today. Why is it vacant? What was the original Plan? What is the current Plan? When will it be implemented? Why was there a Change of Land Use (CLU), if any? Who will do what, and by when – for all Civic Services, Facilities and Amenities? This exercise needs to be done for all HUDA and private builder areas. Why should we continue to have sudden announcements, followed by protests, over the setting up of services and facilities across the City? It’s clearly because things

seem to change every day. A CNG Station, a Liquor Vend, a Crematorium, A Hotel, a Hospital…seem to spring up from nowhere…while Community Centres, Parks, Parking Areas and Footpaths are gobbled up. There is a limit to which private enterprise would be able to bail out the State – through ‘illegal’ ground water or water tankers, diesel gensets and sewage ‘management’. This will in fact not remain practical for long even in current Gurgaon. Unless the City managers and planners own up their mistakes, and carry out another exercise to ‘Plan’ Gurgaon, the City will not survive this century – let alone a Millennium.

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