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Psychological Acupressure { Bhavana Sharma }
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he forerunner of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) was a therapy called Thought Field Therapy (or TFT). This was formulated by a psychologist, Dr. Roger Callahan. The theory behind EFT is that all emotional upsets are caused by disturbances in the body’s energy system. Correct the disturbance, and the emotional upset dissipates. This doesn’t mean that we don’t feel any emotion; rather, that we have a tool that can neutralise excessive emotion. EFT is a form of psychological acupressure, that uses a gentle tapping technique— instead of needles—to stimulate traditional (Chinese) acupuncture points in the body. The tapping on the designated points on the face and body is combined with verbalising the identified problem, followed by a general affirmation phrase. EFT releases and balances the energy system, and allows the body and mind to resume their natural healing abilities. It is safe, easy and can bring wonderful results. Lets take a look at what EFT technique can do for us :-
Curing Some Eternal Rages Within Us:-
What if we were to apply EFT to the parent living within us? It could have been our father or mother, whose feelings and retorts have tormented us through our lives. If we could use EFT to heal this internal raging father, for example, then he will no longer rage at us from inside. This internal negative experi-
{ Amit Nagpal }
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he direction of the Sun is an important consideration while constructing houses based on the principles of Vaastu Shastra. The Sun is indeed a life giver to our planet. When we design buildings and homes based on the Vaastu principles, it is extremely important to consider the sunlight exposure of such buildings, and the direction which is exposed. The science of Vaastu lays emphasis on the directions which receive the positive effects of the rays from the Sun. The rooms in the East and North directions need to be kept well-lit – what could be better than natural sunlight. A well-lit room in these directions not only aids in providing financial stability to the inhabitants, but also helps in improving the familial bonds and relations. The interiors of such rooms need to be bright in colour, with soft shades on the wall and thin curtains on the windows – to allow the cosmic energies of the sun rays to positively charge the surroundings. The North/ East regions in a commercial building can have a wall of
ence will come to an end. But is it possible to heal an internalised parent – because, after all, this internal parent is not a real person? The procedure for using EFT to heal an internal parent is a little strange, but fairly straightforward. You start by replaying a memory long enough to tune into the parent’s emotional energy. Once you have done this, you have actually tuned into your internal parent, rather than just your memory of your real parent. You then start tapping on yourself, while imagining that you are tapping on your internal parent at the same time. If you can visually see your parent while doing this, that’s great. Or if you can physically feel yourself tapping on your parent, that’s fine too. Otherwise, you can just imagine that you are tapping on this internal parent. While tapping, it’s important that you use wording as if you were the parent rather than yourself. For instance, if we use the raging father example, you would tap as if you were your raging father, and say something like: “Even though I am furious with my daughter, I deeply and profoundly accept myself.” You would then keep tapping, as your father, on the anger feelings and any other feelings and thoughts that come up. Continuing with the example, this might include things like: “I get so angry when I’m not in control of everything.” “I’m so stressed by all the responsibilities in my life.” “I’m scared that I won’t be able to keep it all together.” and so on. Just let your internal experience and intuition guide you,
EFT Tapping Therapy Is Helpful With the Following Emotional Challenges:
Stress and Distress Anxiety & Panic Attacks Trauma, Abuse & PTSD Depression Shame, Guilt, Low Self-Esteem Grief & Bereavement Love Pain
EFT Tapping Therapy Can Help With the Following Physical Problems:
Anxiety Attacks SChronic Pain Eating Disorders Allergies & Sensitivities Fatigue Autoimmune Disorders Insomnia Weight Loss Smoking Cessation/Addictions Of course many problems are linked.
as to what to tap on. Remember that this is not your real father, so you don’t have to know what your real father was thinking or feeling. You are tapping on the parent that lives within you; so whatever feelings and thoughts that you get in touch with are the ones that matter, and need to be healed within you. You keep tapping on the feelings that come up for your internal parent, until they have all been relieved. If you check in with your internal parent now, you will notice a calmness, and a greater
Catch The Sun
windows of huge glass panels, to allow the sun rays to seep inside the building and energise the environment. Abundant sunlight from the West direction would disturb the good Vaastu from this direction. Since this direction relates to the planet Saturn in astrology, excessive heat and light in this direction would affect the health of inhabitants of such a site. Today, most of the shopping malls are constructed with the roof open to the sky. The traditional houses of the past also had the central portion of the homes open to the sky. The rays of the Sun hitting such a central portion, or ‘Brahmast-
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hal’, of any home would energise the effect of cosmic rays in this portion. The ‘Brahmasthal’ is considered to be very sacred, and any negative element in its surrounding should be checked. Since our daily activities require more energy during the day, homes should have the rays of the morning Sun in the rooms where we are likely to be present during these times. Unfortunately, blocking the rays of the Sun seems to be one of the ‘trends’ in today’s modern lifestyle. We come across apartments with their Kitchens and Bedrooms and Bathrooms facing
degree of openness, that wasn’t there before.
Replacing the Negative Parental Energy with Loving Energy
Once you have completely neutralized the negative energy of the internal parent, you can take it a healing step further, by using EFT to bring loving feelings into the internal parent – to replace the negative energy. Go back to the original memory, and you’ll see that the negative energy, is no longer present. the Sun; but in order to avoid the glare of the morning Sun we cover the windows with either tinted glass, or put thick curtains to block these rays. Little do we realise that by doing so we are causing harm rather than protecting ourselves. Buildings and tall trees right outside the doors/windows tend to block the sun rays, and also affect the Vaastu of homes or offices. We also tend to use more artificial and electric lighting to illuminate our homes and offices. It’s time that we greet the Sun. The morning rays of the Sun falling on the beds help in disinfecting them of germs, and keeping the beds ‘crisp’. Some other ways we can benefit from the power of the Sun in our daily lives are: Worshipping the Sun God, by offering water to the rising Sun. This helps in receiving the beneficial cosmic rays into the site, as the energy from these rays blends with the flowing water as it drops to the ground. Doing the Surya Namaskar and positioning our bodies as the medium between the Earth and the Sun, thereby rejuvenating our bodies and minds. The Vaastu of any house/
While that’s a big relief, we don’t have to leave it there. We can now redo the memory, and replace the negative energy with an ideal parent’s loving energy. You do this by tapping on yourself, and imagining these loving feelings merging into your healed internal parent. You then play out a scenario in your imagination that expresses these loving feelings. For example, this might include your father expressing understanding, acceptance and appreciation (instead of anger) – and then playing a game with you. Let yourself enjoy the new version of the memory, and the good feelings for a good length of time. This will serve to change your internal history and experience. The loving energy and new “memory” will literally replace the original negative energy, and become part of your emotional history and foundation. It’s important to realise that this internalised parent has no relationship to our real external parent. Our real parent may have changed very much since our childhood. Our real parent may no longer be in our lives, or even have passed on. When we heal our internal parent, it has no bearing on our real external parent. It’s the parent that lives within us that we are primarily affecting, so that he or she won’t impact us negatively anymore. Also, it will likely take multiple EFT sessions to fully heal our internal parents. Just imagine what it would be like to no longer have the negative energy coming from internal parents. Imagine the depth of healing that comes from replacing the negative energy with a loving parent’s energy. u Tarot Card Reader, Author office gets enhanced with windows, balconies and doors in the East. Keeping them open in the mornings, and allowing the sun rays to enter the premises, reduces the negative energy in and around the place. While at work we should take care that we do not block the golden rays of the morning Sun with blinds. The washrooms/bathrooms in the East and North directions, while getting exposed to the golden Sun rays, give a charismatic effect. The Sun sets in the West, and though the rays are not visible to our eyes, yet the rays of the setting Sun entering the home/ office premises do not promote good Vaastu. For this very reason the washrooms and other water bodies—aquariums, small decorative fountains—are not recommended to be placed in this direction. Water has a property of absorbing the radiations and energies in its surroundings. The non-visible rays get absorbed in the water, and affect the good Vaastu of that particular site. u (Amit Nagpal is a Vaastu Consultant & Mentor based out of Gurgaon, and has been practicing the art of Vaastu Shastra for twelve years.)