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Chasing the Dragon The Heroin Epidemic

September/October 2017

Part 4

September/October 2017

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TABLE OF CONTENTS St. Charles County Municipality Mayors ....................page 4 Publisher’s Note | Meet the Team............................page 5 Advertiser Directory.................................................page 6

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SEPTEMBER 17th - SUNDAY 2:00 pm to 7:00 pm Windjammer Marina, Windjammer Pointe, Lake St. Louis Live Music by Fat City Heat, Blues Duet, Chili Cook off, Kids Fishing Derby (13 and younger), Photo Booth, Facepainter, Snocone truck, Live Children’s Characters, Hula Hoop Contest, Washers, Corn hole, many giveaways, lots of food and drink.

SEPTEMBER 18th, 19th, 20th, 21st - MONDAY, TUESDAY, WEDNESDAY, THURSDAY Examining the history, health and functioning of democracy in America and abroad https://stchas.edu/democracydays

SEPTEMBER 22nd, 23rd, 24th - FRIDAY, SATURDAY, SUNDAY Frontier Park, 500 South Riverside Drive, Saint Charles For more information visit www.saintcharlesoktoberfest.com

SEPTEMBER 22nd - FRIDAY Hosted by the Cottleville Fire Protection Disctrict at the Golf Club of Wentzville. $85 per person ($340 per team) includes greens fees, cart, lunch, dinner, beverages and more! Sponsorship available, Ryan Haake (314) 620-4638 5:00 pm An event by SCC Foundation and Cottleville-Weldon Spring Chamber of Commerce at St. Charles Community College. This family-friendly event is free and open to the public. Food trucks and vendors will be serving up delicious eats and fun treats until dusk. At dusk, bring your lawn chair and blankets on the grassy hill by the TECH building for the outdoor summer movie by the lake. This month’s movie is Despicable Me 3

SEPTEMBER 23rd - SATURDAY Cottleville Legacy Park, Pavilion A

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7:00 pm to 10:00 pm Windjammer Point, 598 Windjammer Pointe, Lake St. Louis. Enjoy a night of great music and dancing!! Bring your chairs, food, and beverages. Glass is prohibited. For more info, call (636) 561-4620 or email arothermich@lakesaintlouis.com 7:00 am to 5:00 pm Noon to 10:00 pm Vendor Booths, Kid Zone, Family Entertainment, Food Trucks, Family Fun Tent, Concert by Contagious, and Fireworks. www.dardenneprairie.org/prairie-day-2017

SEPTEMBER 24th - SUNDAY ROOKIES AND ROCK STARS TRIATHLON – FALL 7:30 am SWIM 400 meters (Olympic-quality Natatorium). BIKE 15.8 miles (flat farmlands) RUN 3.1 miles (paved trails, shady parks) www.stpetersmo.net/rec-plex-triathlons 10 | fo focus usOn Magazine

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Noon to 3:00 pm See O’Fallon’s historic treasures! Native American history, War of 1812 history, railroading history, small town history and much more. Zumwalt’s Fort interpretive center and the historic Heald Home located in Fort Zumwalt Park

SEPTEMBER 25th - MONDAY Old Hickory Golf Club. All proceeds from the scramble support student scholarships, as well as academic and program enhancements for the college. www.stchas.edu/community-resources/giving-to-scc/events-fundraisers/golf-tournament

SEPTEMBER 28th - THURSDAY 5:45 pm to 6:45 pm Parade Route: FHC to right on Highway N, to Chestnut Street, to Fifth Stree,t to left on Highway N, back to FHC Rendezvous Cafe & Wine Bar, 217 S. Main Street, O’Fallon. www.rendezvouscafeandwinebar.com

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SEPTEMBER 30th and OCTOBER 1st - SATURDAY and SUNDAY 1:00 pm to 6:00 pm Halloween event at the Meadows Shopping Center!

OCTOBER 3rd - TUESDAY 4:00 pm to 8:00 pm Sponsored by the National Association of Town Watch. The goal is to strengthen neighborhood and law enforcement partnerships to reduce crime. Call 636-278-2244 to request police visits to your National Night Out party.

OCTOBER 7th - SATURDAY 4:00 pm to 8:00 pm At St. Charles Community College RED LOT Trick-or-Treating, Kid Friendly Activities, Food Trucks, Vendors and Outdoor Movie (begins at sundown) Contact: info@cwschamber.com 3:00 pm to 11:00 pm The best party in St. Charles County as you Waddle from business to business. Proceeds benefit our community directly @2017 Walk To End Alzheimer’s St.Charles. Get your tickets online at www.cottlewaddle.com DUCKFEST 1:30 pm to 9:00 pm Elmer’s Tavern, Old Town St. Peters. The event features a professional duck calling contest, sponsored by Cabela’s. All proceeds from the event benefit Emmaus Homes, a United Way charity. For more information call (636) 534-5200 ST. CHARLES COUNTY SENIOR FAIR 9:00 am to Noon St. Peters City Hall. Hosted by the St. Peters Senior Advisory Committee. The Senior Fair is an opportunity to talk to various vendors and organizations to learn about matters important to area seniors. Rendezvous Cafe & Wine Bar, 217 S. Main Street, O’Fallon. www.rendezvouscafeandwinebar.com

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OCTOBER 7th and 8th - SATURDAY and SUNDAY 1:00 pm to 6:00 pm Halloween event at the Meadows Shopping Center!

OCTOBER 12th - THURSDAY 5:30 pm to 8:00 pm Presented by The Foundry Art Centre. A series of free art-making events that highlights the importance of art to each person’s well-being and the unlimited possibilities that nature supplies to be creative. www.foundryartcentre.org/2nd-thursdays Rendezvous Cafe & Wine Bar, 217 S. Main Street, O’Fallon. www.rendezvouscafeandwinebar.com

OCTOBER 13th - FRIDAY 5:00 pm to 8:00 pm Renaud Spirit Center (RSC), 2650 Tri Sports Circle, O’Fallon Kids, come dressed for Halloween and meet Toy Story characters Woody and Jessie, and watch Disney’s Pixar’s Halloween special, Toy Story of Terror (TV-PG). Free admission, parking, activities and movie showings! Free Halloween-themed treats, crafts, games, prizes, face painting, a balloon artist, a bounce house, and an open swim. Music by a D.J., free Zumba classes, raffles, drawings and giveaways will add to the fun. www.renaudspiritcenter.com/rec-or-treat

OCTOBER 14th - SATURDAY 7:30 pm to 11:30 pm Join us to if you dare! Can you survive The Cottleville Firefighter’s Haunted Trail presented by Mercy Kids? This is an outside graveled trail so please wear appropriate footwear. www.scarytrail.com 7:00 am to 8:30 am Start and finish lines at O’Fallon Municipal Centre. Online registration and info can be found at www.ofallon.mo.us/fall-run Rendezvous Cafe & Wine Bar, 217 S. Main Street, O’Fallon. www.rendezvouscafeandwinebar.com

OCTOBER 14th and 15th - SATURDAY and SUNDAY 1:00 pm to 6:00 pm Halloween event at the Meadows Shopping Center!

OCTOBER 17th - TUESDAY ST. CHARLES COUNTY SYMPHONY HALLOWEEN CONCERT Come to the St. Peters Cultural Arts Centre and enjoy the haunting sounds of the St. Charles County Symphony 5:00 pm to 8:00 pm Sports Complex, 3801 Mueller Road & Frontier Park, 500 South Riverside Dr., St. Charles. For info call (636) 949-3372

OCTOBER 20th - FRIDAY Are you interested in making new friends, hearing great speakers, going on exciting day trips, or playing bingo and cards? Pre=Registration is required. Contact the Parks & Recreation office at 636-755-5308.

OCTOBER 21st and 22nd - SATURDAY and SUNDAY 1:00 pm to 6:00 pm Halloween event at the Meadows Shopping Center!

OCTOBER 21st - SATURDAY 7:30 pm to 11:30 pm Join us to if you dare! Can you survive The Cottleville Firefighter’s Haunted Trail presented by Mercy Kids? This is an outside graveled trail so please wear appropriate footwear. www.scarytrail.com 12 | fo focus usOn Magazine

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HALLOWEEN CARNIVAL 4:00 pm to 6:00 pm – Register by October 19th Family-friendly costumes only! Sponsored by Rob Hamann, American Family Insurance Agency. Will be held indoors in the Health and Environmental Services Operations Building at 135 Ecology Drive. Call (636) 939-2386, ext. 1400 11:00 am 230 South Main Street, Saint Charles. The festival will feature scarecrows, hayrides through history, and ghostly guests with historic Main Street as its backdrop. For more information call (636) 946-7776

OCTOBER 28th and 29th - SATURDAY and SUNDAY Saturday: 10:00 am to 5:00 pm Sunday: 11:00 am to 4:00 pm • FREE Pet-friendly exhibitors and rescues. Live demos in positive-reinforcement obedience training. www.stlpetexpo.com

OCTOBER 26th - THURSDAY Rendezvous Cafe & Wine Bar, 217 S. Main Street, O’Fallon. www.rendezvouscafeandwinebar.com

OCTOBER 28th - SATURDAY 9:00 am At Cottleville Legacy Park. Please email zionbobcatshuffle@gmail.com for more info. NATIONAL RX TAKE BACK EVENT: PRESCRIPTION DRUG DISPOSAL 10:00 am to 2:00 pm Turn in your prescription drugs at St. Peters Justice Center, 1020 Grand Teton Dr. The service is free and anonymous. FORT ZUMWALT EAST HIGH SCHOOL’S 8TH CRAFT FAIR 9:00 am to 3:00 pm Fort Zumwalt East High School, 600 First Executive Ave. For more info please contact Lisa Ross at 636-284-7015 11:00 am to 2:00 pm Dress up your little ghosts and goblins. There will be pumpkin painting, trick or treating, face painting, live Bluegrass music, vehicles on display from the Lake St. Louis Fire & Police Department and Food Trucks. The Misfit Toys Autism Awareness Group will be bringing 30 hot rod cars and hosting a “Trunk or Treat” for extra trick or treating fun. (636) 695-2626 5:30 pm At the new Station 1 Firehouse on Luetkenhaus Boulevard. Hosted by Wentzville Parks & Recreation. (636) 332-9236 Families, organizations and individuals are encouraged to participate in volunteering at roadside, creek, park and military appreciation projects. To register, visit www.ofallon.mo.us/volunteer or call 636-379-5417.

OCTOBER 28th and 29th - SATURDAY and SUNDAY 1:00 pm to 6:00 pm Halloween event at the Meadows Shopping Center!

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Contributor: Karolyn Terpstra and Dorris Keeven-Franke

The Preservation of an O’Fallon Historical Landmark Many of the earliest settlers of O’Fallon came west looking for land and opportunity. Some came from Germany to escape oppression and tyranny. Some came from the east, and brought their slaves with them to clear and work newly acquired farmsteads. They were able to secure large land grants near the close of the Civil War. On January 11, 1865, slaves were emancipated in Missouri. Locally, some chose to stay in the area, and a community of newly freed African Americans settled in a neighborhood along Sondren Street in O’Fallon. This community lived, worked, worshiped, and died together. As time passed many of their descendants slowly moved away, but a few still remain in the area today. Those remaining descendants will share that the Sondren Street neighborhood had a few black churches that are since gone and that the community had their own cemetery at the south end of Sondren Street. Slowly as memories faded and families moved away the Sage Chapel cemetery became forgotten. It is located on Veterans Memorial Parkway next to the O’Fallon VFW Hall. Driving past today it would be easy to assume the cemetery is simply an undeveloped lot attached to the VFW. In the early 1900’s this location was at the end of Sondren Street, straight south and an easy walk or ride from the neighborhood. By the end of the 20th century the cemetery had fallen into disrepair. For many years O’Fallon resident William “Willy” Hayden had taken it upon himself to mow the grass and clear the leaves from the grounds where many of his ancestors are buried. But when Willy passed away in 1995 there was no one left to care for the grounds. 14 | fo focus usOn Magazine

The grass was left to grow and the sign was nearly falling down. By 2012 few remembered the cemetery even existed. In that year the property was vandalized and when the police went to investigate they were unable to identify the ownership of the grounds. Those buried at the cemetery were nearly all but forgotten. The poor condition of the grounds attracted the attention of a small group of concerned residents, including Mary Hogan-Smith and Jim Frain who began asking questions, researching the burials in the cemetery and sharing the story of the forelorn cemetery. The City of O’Fallon has been graciously maintaining the cemetery and a local young man even created a beautiful new sign as his Eagle Scout project. With this renewed interest, came questions. While some have been answered,many mysteries remain. Understanding the history of this cemetery and those buried there has shed light on what O’Fallon’s African-American community was like in the years following the Civil War. If you make a visit to Sage Chapel Cemetery today you’ll find about 30 headstones. Some are in very good condition and others are barely legible. Some are fallen and broken. Some have become buried over time. What you cannot see is that there are about 120 known burials in the cemetery. Researchers like Mary Hogan-Smith, have been able to compile a list using obituaries and death certificates to prove that the cemetery contains at least 90 unmarked graves. Some never had markers but some may have had a wooden cross, a metal funeral home sign or simply a rough stone that has been lost to time. All but two known burials are African-American, and those two are spouses of black individuals buried in the cemetery.

Research tells us that the first known burial at Sage Chapel Cemetery was probably in 1898, over 30 years after the close of the Civil War. It is not known if there are earlier burials at this location or if another black cemetery may have existed before Sage Chapel was used. Many of those buried at Sage Chapel Cemetery were born before the end of the Civil War, and undoubtedly they saw much change in their lifetimes. We cannot know if all of these individuals were born slaves or were free people of color. Records from the period are incomplete and slaves were not referred to by name in legal documents. One person in particular deserves note. Priscilla Ball was born in 1812 and lived to be 89 years old. She would have been a middle-aged woman during the Civil War and certainly would have had vivid memories of the Civil War years.Most of the burials at Sage

Chapel Cemetery occurred in the early 1900’s. By 1950 the pace of burials had slowed dramatically as families moved away and integration progressed. Over 10% of the known burials are children under the age of two. This is sadly quite common for the period, with many children succumbing to illness and disease as infants. Others lived well into their 70’s, living long and full lives. Many clues about the families laid to rest at Sage Chapel Cemetery come from church records. There were three black churches located on Sondren Street in the late 1800’s and early 1900’s. Near the north end of Sondern at the corner of Elm was Craven Methodist Episcople Church, which many like Phyllis Hadyn can still recall. As you came south down Sondern near the creek on the east side was the Baptist Church known as Wishwell. Coming further south was Sage Chapel, an African Methodist Episcopal, which only George Abington recalls. Sage Chapel Church, established on the first day of December in 1881, was the only one of the three to establish a cemetery with their church. The one-acre square lot is sold by Mitchell Castlio for $1 to the Church’s trustees: Walter Burl, Jack Patterson and Taylor Harris. All three signed by making their mark. Over the years, members of all

three churches and the surrounding area would come to bury their families in the cemetery still known today as Sage Chapel. Sage Chapel Cemetery provides a window into the early history of O’Fallon’s enslaved people. The preservation of the cemetery grounds allows our community to remember and discuss an often uncomfortable and difficult piece of our history. Many buried at Sage Chapel were marginalized in life, but the research and preservation efforts underway today will ensure they are not forgotten in death. Their stories ,their lives, and their voices should remain and remind us of this important part of our community history.

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I hope you had a chance to see the July/August edition of Focus On St. Charles County Magazine. I appreciate the opportunity to offer my input to the hungry entrepreneurial spirit that you may have. I bring simple snippets of information based on experiences from my own business life. As promised I’m going to talk about what to look for in hiring a sales person and how they can make or break your business. A great sales person deserves respect. Many people think they can sell until they actually get the opportunity. Then they find out that it takes a lot more than just the title of “sales person “to be successful at sales. No Sales - No Business If I have but one God given talent it would be that I was born a natural salesman. I have always been wheeling and dealing, buying and selling. As a young boy my Mom was never surprised when I rode home on a different bike than I had left with. I traded somebody somewhere for something especially if it was a guitar or a bike because that was cool when I was 12, but this is now and you need to hire a sales person! If you are in a niche type of business or even a new concept business it will be hard to locate experienced sales people. You will likely have to train them in your field and then hope they can sell your product. Just because a candidate has a good history of selling widgets, that doesn’t mean they will be able to sell your product. Your sales person should have complete knowledge of your product without the use of a script for sales calls. Most people think that a great personality or gift of gab are qualities of a good sales person but actually it isn’t at all. I’ve got friends with the best personalities in the world but they couldn’t sell make up to a clown! Your sales I hope a chance see problems the July/August of Focus St.quick Charles County Magazine. people will likely you need had to listen more andtosolve in order toedition make sales. Look On for the thinking, creative mind. Most I appreciate the opportunity to offer my input to the hungry entrepreneurial spirit that you may have. importantly, the less they appear to be trying to sell something, the more comfortable your potential client will feel withI bring them. No of information based oneducates experiences fromthe myclient ownunderstand business life. promised, going to one likessimple a pushysnippets sales person. A good sales person and helps whyAs they need yourI’m product. about what to look for in hiring a sales person and how they can make or break your business. A great The Facetalk of Your Business sales person deserves respect.committee Many people they and canbusiness. sell until Their they actually the voice opportunity. Then Your sales person will be the welcoming to yourthink products voice willget be the your client will assothey find out that it takes a lot more than just the title of “sales person“ to be successful at sales. ciate with your business. Their face will hypothetically become the face of your business. When you’re interviewing for a sales person, put yourself in the mindset of that candidate contacting you and offering you your product. If you get a chill when they walk through the door No you should expect your Business client to feel the same way. How they present themselves will be exactly how they will present your Sales - No business.If Also keepbut in mind everyone is on theiritbest behavior on the first born interview. Get them off of the normal interview track. I I have one God given talent, would be that I was a natural salesman. I have always been recommend 2-3 interviews before deciding to hire. Use different locations like an office interview and if successful, try lunch wheeling and dealing, buying and selling. As a young boy, my Mom was never surprised when I rode homeor cocktails, include key staff member and maybe selling presentation. Does the for candidate have good social if skills? Are on aa different bike than I had leftthen with.a mock I traded somebody, somewhere, something, especially it was a they likable and articulate? Havebecause all communications been professional and spelled Seriously across unintelligent guitar or a bike, that was cool when I was 12; but this iscorrectly??? now and you need iftothey hirecome a sales person! with something as elementary as misspelled words, keep in mind that’s exactly how they will represent you….Stupid is, as stupid does.



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If you are in a niche type of business or even a new concept business, it will be hard to locate experienced sales people. You will likely have to train them in your field and then hope they can sell your product. Just because a candidate has a good history of selling widgets, doesn’t mean they will be able to sell your product. Your sales person should have complete knowledge of your product without the use of a script for sales calls. Most people think that a great personality or gift of gab are qualities of a good sales person, but actually, it isn’t at all. I’ve got friends with the best personalities in the world, but they couldn’t sell make up to a clown! Your sales people will likely need to listen more and solve problems in order to make sales. Look for the quick-thinking, creative mind. Most importantly, the less they appear to be trying to sell something, the more comfortable your potential client will feel with them. No one likes a pushy sales person. A good sales person educates and helps the client understand why they need your product.

The Face of Your Business

Your sales person will be the welcoming committee to your products and business. Their voice will be the voice your client will associate with your business. Their face will hypothetically become the face of your business. When you’re interviewing for a sales person, put yourself in the mindset of that candidate contacting you and offering you your product. If you get a chill when they walk through the door, you should expect your client to feel the same way. How they present themselves will be exactly how they will present your business. Also keep in mind that everyone is on their best behavior on the first interview. Get them off of the normal interview track. I recommend two or three interviews before deciding to hire. Use different locations, like an office interview and if successful, try lunch or cocktails. Include a key staff member and maybe then a mock selling presentation. Does the candidate have good social skills? Are they likable and articulate? Have all communications been professional and spelled correctly? Seriously, if they come across unintelligent with something as elementary as misspelled words, keep in mind that’s exactly how they will represent you.

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Strong Sales People Have a Hunger

When I was recruiting physicians early on in my career, I was told that I had an innate ability to ask the doctor if they would take the job I had offered to them... I laughed and said, “What a ridiculous statement; I just like to eat…” A great sales person is asking for the sale until they make it. This is something that’s hard to teach no matter how you try. It is either in their DNA or it isn’t. In most sales offices, you’ll have the alpha sales person and the rest who sell just enough to keep their job.

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Ok, you’ve hired and trained them and you find they are simply not hungry enough or able to close deals for whatever reason. There’s nothing worse than paying someone who is doing more harm to your company than good. If they are ineffective, they are just costing you money. Whenever I had a sales person that wasn’t keeping up with the rest of the staff, I would simply walk in their office and ask this question, “Are you going to be alright?” A harmless question right? This was a test to see how they would answer. I knew they were done if they said something like, “I’m doing the best I can.” That was the wrong answer. I knew they had given up and needless to say, that’s when I gave up on them. Once negativity and lack of confidence sets in on a sales person, it’s very hard to overcome it. When they tell you they’re doing the best they can and it’s not enough, let them go and hire better next time. At least now you’ve found out what doesn’t work.

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I firmly believe that good sales people are not created, they are born and the great ones train to be even better. If you own a small business and have an excellent sales person or two, then you are truly blessed. Take good care of them or they may offer their services to someone who promises them more. I have seen occasions where the top sales person left a company and the business was gone in less than a year. A great sales person will put you on the road to success and be a beacon in your office for all to admire. A weaker sales person can destroy everything you’ve worked for... so hire smart!! Good advice isn’t always the right advice for everyone, but I hope I have at least shined a light on something good for you. See ya next time. Jack Johnson promedjack@yahoo.com

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Alex John Boschert was a loving husband, devoted father, and treasured friend. Whether you knew Alex or not, the news of his death shocked us all. We remember Alex best for his love of farming, hunting, fishing, and being an avid outdoorsman. Alex loved and adored his family and friends. He was a member of Immaculate Conception Catholic Church of Old Monroe, Knights of Columbus Council #10144, St. Charles County Fair Board, and Union Local #11-6. The small community that Alex loved so much has come together to help support his children.

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NEVER FORGET. 09.11.2001

Many of us remember where they were when they first heard the tragic news that American Airlines Flight 11 impacted the North Tower of the World Trade Center on 9/11/2001. In fact, virtually all Americans, along with the rest of the world remember the details of this tragic event. My recollections of this tragic day are a bit different than the memories of most of us. Hopefully, I can share my unique tie-in to this tragic day by touching on the life of a friend of mine, Christine Olender, that I lost that day. It was my pleasure to have enjoyed two wonderful visits to the North Tower of the World Trade Center. My first visit was in August of 1979 to celebrate the honor of winning a Clio Award in New York City. The celebration of winning this prestigious advertising award took place on the 107th floor of the World Trade Center. The 106th and 107th floors belonged to an amazing restaurant, Windows On The World. What an amazing restaurant it was with panoramic views of Manhattan and the tri-state area. Even though it was 38 years ago, I clearly remember every detail of that night. It was a joyous celebration of the winning of a very special award and it was great to spend the most money that I have every paid for a meal topped with the most expensive wine ever! It was certainly a “night of magic on top of the world.” My second visit to the Windows on the World and the World Trade Center was exactly 20 years later, in August of 1999. I slipped out of a convention that I was attending at the Jacob Javitts Center to enjoy “breakfast and business with a view.” Little did I know that as I took the long 106 floor ride up the elevator that I was about to meet a very special young woman. For many years, I made my living by marketing photo related products. When I walked past the Windows On The World Gift Shop, I knew that I was going to have more than just a breakfast with a view. My goal was to find a manager and suggest that I create and provide the restaurant and the gift shop with a customized Windows on the World disposable camera, plus other photo related products. After ordering a wonderful breakfast, I asked my waiter if the manager could stop by my table. A little pushy, I guess, but after all I was in New York City, the home of the country’s most assertive people. 22 | fo foc cus usOn On Magazine

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Much to my surprise, and pleasure, a striking young lady walked to my table within minutes. She displayed a great smile, sparkling eyes and an air of confidence that was quite special. “My name is Christine Olender and I am the Assistant General Manager. Is everything wonderful with your breakfast?”, she asked, as she sat confidently in the chair next to me. I told her that the food was perfect, but I needed to provided her with a way for all of her customers to remember a special dining experience. “Talk to me,” she replied. I did.

Christine and I started our business relationship that morning over breakfast. Even though we shared many phone calls and emails in the next two years, I never saw her again. We got to know each other well during this two year period. We were both from Illinois, she was from Chicago and I was from Joliet. In fact, Christine quickly gave me the name of “Mr. Joliet”. She was born on the 4th of July and I was born on the 13th of July. Both of us were Cancers and our friendship grew to a very comfortable level. Christine was a tough sell, but after two years of communication I had the good fortune of receiving a go ahead purchase order for the customized Windows on the World Camera. “I love the artwork on the camera, ‘Mr. Joliet’: go for it,” replied Christine. I laughed and thanked her for the order and told her how much fun it would be to work with her on other projects in the future. Our phone call was on September 9th, 2001. We would never talk again.

Christine was working early on the morning of September 11th, 2001 at the Windows On The World. She was hosting the Risk Waters Group for breakfast, with a total of at least 75 men and women attending. The breakfast began at 8 am and the first speaker for the technology conference was to talk at 9 am. At 8:46:26 am American Flight 11 impacted the North Tower of the World Trade Center. The plane entered the North Tower between the 94th and 98th floor at 490 miles per hour. Upon impact, Christine took immediate control of her area of responsibility. She organized all of the breakfast guests and employees on the 106th floor. All three emergency stairwells were filled with smoke. The communication from Christine on her mobile phone to 911 Services was more precise and consistently repeated that any other communication with the Port Authority Police on that fateful morning. The following are the exact words taken from transcripts of Christine Olender and Port Authority Police Officers on her recorded 9/11 calls: CHRISTINE: Hi, this is Christine, Assistant GM of Windows. We’re getting no direction up here. We’re having a smoke condition. We need directions as to where we need to direct our guests and our employees, as soon as possible. PORT AUTHORITY POLICE OFFICER STEVE MAGGETT: Okay. We’re doing our best, we’ve got the fire department, everybody, we’re trying to get up to you, dear. Call back in about two or three minutes, and I’ll find out what direction you should try to get down. CHRISTINE, minutes later: Hi, this is Christine up at Windows on 107. We’re still waiting for direction. We have guests up here. OFFICE RAY MURRAY: Ah, how many people have you got there, up there, approximately? CHRISTINE: We have approximately, probably about 75-100 people. RAY MURRAY: 75 to 100, and you’re up on 106 or 107? CHRISTINE: 106; 107’s impossible. The smoke condition on 107 is (sound lost). RAY MURRAY: We’re..we are sending officers and fire equipment up there at this time. We are evacuating as soon as possible. CHRISTINE: But we...right now we need to find a safe haven on 106 where the smoke condition isn’t bad. Can you direct us to a certain quadrant? RAY MURRAY: All right, we are sending somebody up there as soon as possible. If anybody can get to the staircase, that’s fine. CHRISTINE: You can’t. The staircase is (sound lost). CHRISTINE RAY MURRAY: I...ma’m. I have to get on the radio. As soon as possible. As soon as it is humanly possible. The transcripts show that Christine called back in exactly five minutes to press for help to save her guests. When she got nowhere, she waited for four minutes and called for the fourth and final time.

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RAY MURRAY, saying to the people around him: I got a fourth call from Windows On The World, it’s getting rapidly worse up there. CHRISTINE: We..we have...the fresh air is going down fast, I am not exaggerating. RAY MURRAY: Uh, ma’m, I know you’re not exaggerating. We’re getting a lot of these calls. We are sending the Fire Department up as soon as possible. I have you, Christine: four calls, 75-100 people, Windows On The World, 106th floor. CHRISTINE: What are we going to do for air? RAY MURRAY: Ma’m the Fire Department... CHRISTINE: Can we break a window? RAY MURRAY: You can do whatever you have to get to, uh, the air. CHRISTINE: All right. Within minutes after her last communication, the building collapsed. Christine did everything she could. Despite her valiant and self-less efforts, her guests did not escape. and sadly, neither did Christine. In the North Tower, where Christine and her guests were located, there were 1,360 fatalities above the 92nd floor. Being above the 92nd floor on 9/11 meant certain death for its occupants. No one survived. I only had breakfast with Christine one time. It was the only time that we met personally. Our emails and phone call were always positive, upbeat and fun. I believe that this is how Christine lived her life. These transcripts show that Christine demonstrated amazing courage when she had to. It’s obvious that she eased some of the panic of her customers and comforted them in the gentlest way possible as things got worse by the minute. Christine Olender is one of the true heroes of 9/11. I wish that I had known her better. I wish that we had had more breakfasts together. Better yet, I wish that the tragedy of 9/11 had never happened. I am sure that Christine would have become the General Manager of Windows on the World, or she would have gone into the world of fashion...Fashion was her goal. I am positive that we would have continued down the road to a great friendship. And I know for certain that she would have continued calling me, “Mr. Joliet.”

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a humorous look at life by Kayleen Ziegemeier

CALLing Poison Control ... Well it’s official, I’ve had to call poison control on all three kids now. I cannot believe what my kids will try to inges. My kids are a bit crazier than “normal”, which I’m fine with. It makes things much more interesting, that’s for sure. That’s what life is all about, right? The journey it brings you on. My journey leaves me with stories that I just have to share, because they are too funny not too. So back to the topic of Poison Control. The first time I called was with my oldest when he was about 14 months old. I had just given him some Tylenol because he was teething. He then got into my closet and put some Advil in his mouth (it had fallen out of my purse and was on the floor). Being a first time mom, I freaked out. Yes, the things that run through my mind are worse case scenarios. Years later, it’s still like this, but now I react very differently. I am sure the nurse on the hotline got a good laugh talking to me. I gave him a cup of milk, like they suggested and the nurse called me back in an hour to check if he was ok, which he was. I probably shouldn’t have called poison control that time. Maybe I should have just kept the call more private and spoke to one of my three aunts who are nurses. They would have saved me the embarrassing poison control phone call! I’m very happy to report that was the only time I’ve had to call for my oldest son. I consider that a job well done. Right? With my middle son, it’s a whole different story. When he was about a year and a half old, I had just finished working and walked into the house. He heard the door and came right to me. I picked him up and immeadialty got a strong whiff of apple and cinnamon. I noticed his cheeks and mouth were bright red. I asked my husband what he had gotten into, “He started to eat the top of the AirWick thing”, my husband tells me. “Awesome,” I replied. Learning from my first poison control call, I get him a cup of milk, then I hop on the computer and Google if AirWick is poisonous. I couldn’t find the info online, so I ended up calling....you guessed it... Poison Control. For those who want to know, AirWick isn’t poisonous, it just leaves a rash on the skin for a few days, and you get the benefit of your child smelling delicious. As he grew, his need to see what he could ingest grew. He ate half of one the little silica packages that come in new bags. Turns out these are also not poisonous,

but can cause constipation. Glow sticks are not poisonous, but they do have shards of glass in them. As long as his mouth wasn’t bleeding, it was all good. A cup of milk was needed for this call as well. He sprayed a fire extinguisher in his face. Thank God it was an old one! We put him the shower right away and his eyes were irritated for a few hours, but he was fine. Recently, we were leaving for vacation and I called my middle son into the kitchen so I could give him is ADHD medicine before we left for our 15-hour drive to Florida. It’s liquid, so I had it ready in the syringe. My husband asked me a question and I looked up, I felt a mouth around the syringe and pushed the medicine out. “Mom, what do you need?” my middle son says. “Didn’t I just give you your medicine?” I asked. “No.” he replies. “Did I give it to you?” I asked my daughter. With a huge smile she said, “Yes!”. I went to the fridge and got some milk for her. I called the doctor’s office and they told me that I should call Poison Control, because a controlled substance was given to the wrong child. So many thoughts run through my mind. Am I in serious trouble? It was an accident! I make the dreaded to call and tell the nurse what happened. She informs me that my daughter may be restless, non-stop talking, nausea, vomiting, very irritable, and not sleep. We were leaving for a 15-hour road trip and now have to deal with this. The nurses called every couple hours to check in on her, and of course she was having all those symptoms. About 4 am we were in Atlanta and she starts throwing up. The boys wake up to the awful smell. We have the windows down and pulled off at the first exit. It probably wasn’t the best idea since it was downtown Atlanta. We got to see some of the nightlife... drug dealers, prostitutes and junkies everywhere! We ended up getting back on the highway to find a gas station, which took another 20 minutes. Another 20 min-utes of smelling vomit, my daughter crying, and the boys gagging (Is it strange that I consider this car ride a suc-cess, since this was the only issue?). The nurse from poison control called again. Turns out that when you vomit, the medicine comes out and you are totally fine after that. I’m sure that this mistake will not happen again. As I get older and my kids get older, my reactions bebecome less impulsive, but I still have the teenage years to worry about so I guess it’s just a waiting game... focusOn Magazine | 27

Leaders Grow Leaders By: Ken Willard - Contributor

Organizations of all types are hungry for leaders. We are at an interesting point in time when a very large generation of leaders, Baby Boomers, are starting to retire or at least step back from leadership positions they have held for years. Another very large generation of leaders, Millennials, are just starting to move into key leadership positions. This transition of leaders can be challenging for many organizations. How about you? What is your plan to grow, develop, and prepare leaders in your organization? Leaders tend to learn best from other leaders. This is one reason your current leaders are the best resource your organization has to identify and grow your future leaders. Are you familiar with the term, succession planning? In many cases, leaders and organizations only view succession planning as reactive. A key person has left, or is leaving soon, and the company needs a plan to replace them. Succession planning can and should be more proactive. Leaders and the company working together to grow and develop the next leaders. Effective succession planning involves four strategies of development: 1. Identifying potential leaders. There are many great tools to help with this process. The key is to have a pool larger than your anticipated needs. 2. Equipping them to develop their leadership skills. This involves having an intentional plan, personalized to each leader. 3. Mentoring them to be effective. Partnering up each potential leader with a current leader who can walk with them as they grow and develop. 4. Empowering them to use their leadership skills. Research shows that the single biggest way to grow a leader is to give them a project they can lead. So what do you look for in potential leaders? When hiring and promoting leaders, many times we focus too much on a person’s experience, education, and technical skills. Those are important, but should only be the baseline and not the only areas we look for in our potential leaders. Here are a few other areas I would strongly suggest we look for in new leaders: • Character – evidence of honesty, teachability, humility, reliability, a healthy work ethic, willingness to serve others. • Competence – ability to do the job, experience, education, talents, and skills. • Chemistry – the ability to fit into the culture and work with teams of other people. • Conviction – passionate about the mission, vision, and values of the organization. • Commitment – devoted to growing as a leader. Willing to work on their own growth and development. • Courage – willing to take a chance, push the envelope, and challenge the status quo. Remember, there are some things you can teach . . . and some you cannot. We can teach someone how to use Microsoft Office products, or how to fill out an expense report, or most of the other technical aspects of a leadership job. However, teaching the six “C” areas listed above are very unlikely. We can encourage them. We can add fuel to the fire if they are already in place in a person. But teaching them to a person is a whole different story. 28 | focusOn Magazine

Let’s look now at a few ways to equip leaders once you have identified them. First, determine the key competencies leaders in your organization need in order to be successful. (e.g. decision making, interpersonal skills, time management, emotional intelligence, conflict management, communication skills, problem solving, accountability, etc.) As you work with each individual leader, identify a competency where they are strong and one they need to develop. Have them put together a plan for each. Another way to equip leaders is to invest in them. Leaders are readers. There are many great leadership books. Buy them a new book each month and ask them to share what they are learning with others. Here are a few of my favorite books for new leaders: Good to Great by James Collins; Monday Morning Leadership by David Cottrell; Now, Discover Your Strengths by Marcus Buckingham; Leadership and the One-Minute Manager by Ken Blanchard; The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership by John C. Maxwell; and The Five Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick Lencioni. Send them to a leadership training event. Hire a leadership coach to work with them. It is less important how you are investing in each leader. What is important is for you to invest in their leadership development. One of the wonderful aspects of today’s world is that great leadership development is available to all organizations. No matter what your size or budget. One of the greatest challenges for leadership development today is the pace of our lives at work and everywhere. We are often going so fast there is no time available to develop and grow ourselves, much less new leaders. That is the paradox of leadership development. It is not too late. Grow the leaders in your organization, including yourself, today so that you will be prepared for tomorrow. Here are a few suggested next steps: 1) 2) 3) 4) 5)

Put together a plan to grow yourself and the leaders around you. Read the book Leaders Made Here by Mark Miller. Work with a professional leadership coach who can provide encouragement, resources, and accountability. Engage with a professional leadership trainer and facilitator to work with you and your team. Attend a leadership event of some type.

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humorous look at life by Kevin Ziegemeier

Eat Your Vegetables!

How many kids have heard their parents tell them this at the dinner table? Many family dinners are prolonged well into the evening because children refuse to eat their vegetables, while parents insist they cannot leave the table until their vegetables are eaten. Why do parents insist on children eating their vegetables? I often think about this because as a child, I would not eat my vegetables. I hated them. I was fearful of a dinner table loaded with vegetables. After many evenings of me staring at a plate of vegetables well into the night, I took action against my parent’s vegetable eating wishes and ended the charade once and for all.

My family ate dinner together every evening as soon as dad came home from work. Our dinner would consist of a meat, a potato, and a vegetable. I could usually get through din-ner without touching the vegetable, but on some nights, Ma and Pa would insist on me trying the vegetable. This prac-tice ended abruptly on a sunny summer evening back in ’72. I was a stubborn 6 year old child who could no longer take the stress of trying these icky things. Our vegetable that night was the one I feared the most… cauliflower. I had eaten my pork chop and apple sauce, but the cauliflower still sat on my plate. Let the games begin. Ma and Pa told me I could not leave the table until I had eaten the cauliflower. I crossed my arms and refused. I looked up at my dad and saw him start to curl his tongue behind his teeth. If you knew my dad, you would know that this was his warning sign that you were in danger. I felt that the best thing to do at the time was to save myself and choke down the cauliflower. What happened next has been talked about at our family gatherings for years. I put a piece of cauliflower in my mouth. It was crunchy, it was disgusting, and... it was coming back out. I tried to keep it in my mouth by drinking some water, but it was too late. I barfed in my water. I barfed on my plate. I barfed on the table. My little sister started to cry and my big brother ran away from the table fearing my head would start to spin. Ma and Pa looked at each other wondering how this one got away from them. From that moment on, my parents never made me eat my vegetables. Now that I am older, it’s not my parents telling me to eat my vegetables. My doctor, my daughters, my wife, my trainer, my coworkers, and my scale, all tell me to eat my vegetables. They are good for you. They provide essential vitamins, nutrients, and fiber. They are good for your digestive system, your skin, your teeth, and your eyes. It just makes sense... eat your vegetables and live a happy, healthy life.

I want to be healthy, so I try to find vegetables that I like. I like potatoes... usually in chip form, but since I’m trying to be healthy, I bake one. I butter it up, add cheese, sour cream, and bacon bits. Unfortunately, my daughter informs me that a potato is not considered a vegetable, so my quest for a good tasting vegetable continues. How about corn? I salt it and dip it in butter, but again my daughter dashes my healthy hopes by telling me that corn is a grain, not really a vegetable. Now I am getting concerned. My two aces in the hole do not have the nutritional value I was hoping for and I must go outside of my comfort zone and try some new vegetables. My daughter has a few suggestions… carrots and sugar snap peas. Maybe I can get these down. Bugs Bunny was always chewing on a carrot and he seemed to enjoy them and sugar snap peas start with sugar. That’s a good sign, right? So I to the market and purchase the greenest, plumpest sugar snap peas and the best looking carrots money can buy. To be on the safe side, I make a dip out of plain Greek yogurt and a packet of ranch dip mix just in case I need to add some flavor. I bring my veggies and dip to work with me to show all my co-workers the “New Kevin”, the “Healthy Kevin”. I almost could not wait to dig in. Lunch time, the moment I had been waiting for. I am going to eat some new vegetables and begin my journey to finally fit into my speedo again. I bite into a carrot. OMG... this is horrible! I try the sugar snap peas... very bitter, nothing like the name would lead you to believe. I dunk them into my healthy dip to try to cover the disgusting taste. I immediately have flashbacks to that summer evening at the dinner table in ’72. After this experience, I am convinced that the only reason the cavemen ate vegetables was because they were too slow and stupid to catch a tasty animal. Fortunately for me, they figured out a way to capture and prepare critters. I don’t have a problem with other people eating vegetables. However, I don’t believe that vegetables inspire good eat’n. When was the last time you went to a backyard vegetable steaming? I’ve never heard someone order a bacon cheeseburger and tell the cashier to hold the bacon. Would we attend the annual cucumber eating contest? I think not. I’ll get my vegetables passively. Animals eat vegetables and I eat animals. I’ll get the benefits of eating vegetables without actually having to eat a vegetable. I’ll try to eat healthy. I’m getting ready to order a salad... wtih cheese, dressing, croutons, and bacon... but please, hold the lettuce. focusOn Magazine | 33

by Stephen Thompson On a quiet Friday afternoon at Turtle Creek Pub & Grill, while indulging in the best homemade chicken pot pie ever, I listened to the owner, Todd Traylor, telling me about his dream of owning a bar and grill. Todd and his partner, Melissa Craig, opened the doors on July 11th, 2015, with a passion for quality food, comfortable atmosphere, and outstanding service. I became a believer after sampling the amazing bread pudding. On my next visit, I will get the St. Louis Style thin crust pizza, which comes highly recommended. Todd and Melissa are very involved in the community and extremely supportive of fundraisers. There’s always something going on at Turtle Creek... car shows, radio broadcasts, live music, trivia, sports, Ladies’ Nights, and their up coming Beard & Beer event. Turtle Creek is now open on Mondays – for Monday Night Football, as well as their popular NFL Football Sundays. “We are recognized as the Green Bay Packers bar, so this is where Packer’s Fans meet”, Todd says. What inspired me the most was Todd’s constant appreciation for his staff and his customers. “You have to be involved in a business like this and we are dedicated”, says Todd as he walks into the kitchen to take care of a customer request. I encourage you to stop in for lunch or dinner... You won’t be disappointed.

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medical minute with Cheryl Hohe, MSN, ANP-BC

Is Your Blood Pressure In Check?

What is high blood pressure? — High blood pressure is a condition that puts you at risk for heart attack, stroke, and kidney disease. It does not usually cause symptoms, but it can be serious. When your medical provider tells you your blood pressure, he or she will say two numbers. For instance, your doctor or nurse might say that your blood pressure is “140 over 90.” The top number is the pressure inside your arteries when your heart is contracting. The bottom number is the pressure inside your arteries when your heart is relaxed.

The table below shows how high blood pressure is defined. Definition of normal and high blood pressure Level High Prehypertension Normal

Top number 140 or above 120 to 139 119 or below

Bottom number 90 or above 80 to 89 79 or below

How can you lower your blood pressure?

If your medical provider has prescribed blood pressure medicine, the most important thing you can do is to take it. If it causes side effects, do not just stop taking it. Instead, talk to your doctor about the problems it causes. He or she might be able to lower your dose or switch you to another medicine. If cost is a problem, mention that too. He or she might be able to put you on a less expensive medicine. Taking your blood pressure medicine can keep you from having a heart attack or stroke, and it can save your life!

Can you do anything on your own? You have a lot of control over your blood pressure. To lower it: • • • • •

Lose weight (if you are overweight) Choose a diet low in fat and rich in fruits, vegetables, and low-fat dairy products Reduce the amount of salt you eat Do something active for at least 30 minutes a day on most days of the week Cut down on alcohol (if you drink more than 2 alcoholic drinks per day)

It’s also a good idea to get a home blood pressure machine. People who check their own blood pressure at home do better at keeping it low and can sometimes even reduce the amount of medicine they take.

Why do you need medicines to treat high blood pressure?

Having high blood pressure puts you at risk for heart attack, stroke, kidney damage, and other serious problems. The medicines your doctor or nurse prescribes to treat high blood pressure can help reduce the risk of these problems and even help you live longer. 36| focusOn Magazine

It’s very important that you take your blood pressure medicines every day as directed. High blood pressure doesn’t usually cause symptoms, so people sometimes don’t take it seriously. Plus, blood pressure medicines can cause side effects and be expensive, so it’s easy to understand why people don’t like to take them. But if you are tempted to skip your medicines, remember, they can save your life! If your medicines cause unpleasant side effects, or if you can’t afford your medicines, talk to your doctor or nurse. There are often ways to deal with these problems. The first step is to let your doctor or nurse know. Which medicines might you need? — There are lots of different medicines to treat high blood pressure. But some of the medicines have other health benefits besides lowering blood pressure.

Your doctor will decide which medicine is best for you depending on: • How high your blood pressure is • Your other health problems, if you have any • How well you do on the medicines you try Your doctor might need to change your medicine or its dose a couple of times to find the medicine and dose that work best and cause the fewest side effects. Plus, you might need to take more than 1 medicine to get your blood pressure under control. Whatever your doctor prescribes, it’s important to take your medicines exactly as prescribed. But always let your doctor know if you have any problems with the medicines. That way he or she can make changes so that you are as comfortable as possible and also get the most benefit. Never stop or make changes to the way you take your medicines without talking to your doctor first.

Below is a list of the most common types of medicine given to people with high blood pressure: • Medicines called “diuretics” • Medicines called “angiotensin-converting enzyme inhibitors” (“ACE inhibitors”) or “angiotensin receptor blockers” (“ARBs”) • Medicines called “calcium channel blockers” • Medicines called “beta blockers”

Diuretics Diuretics are sometimes called “water pills,” because they make you urinate more than usual. Some examples of diuretics include chlorthalidone, indapamide, hydrochlorothiazide (also known as HCTZ), and furosemide (brand name: Lasix). ACE inhibitors and ARBs - ACE inhibitors and ARBs are often grouped together, because they work in similar ways. These medicines can help prevent kidney disease. Doctors often prescribe them for people with diabetes, because people with diabetes have a higher-than-average risk of kidney disease. Some examples of ACE inhibitors include enalapril, captopril, and lisinopril. Some examples of ARBs include candesartan (brand name: Atacand) and valsartan (brand name: Diovan). Calcium channel blockers - Some examples of calcium channel blockers include amlodipine (brand name: Norvasc), felodipine (brand name: Plendil), and diltiazem (brand name: Cardizem). These medicines also help prevent chest pain caused by heart disease. Beta blockers - Besides lowering blood pressure, beta blockers help reduce the amount of work the heart has to do. Studies show that people who take a beta blocker after a heart attack are less likely to have another

With diet, exercise, going to your health provider on a routine basis, and taking medications as recommended, you can stay healthy and control your blood pressure to facilitate a long life! focusOn Magazine | 37


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10 Diabetes Superfoods Seniors Can Say “Yes!” To Seniors who receive a diagnosis of diabetes may feel they have to give up all the foods they love. That’s not entirely true. Sure, they may have to say no to ice cream and white bread, but you can help the senior you care for adapt by offering new choices that will satisfy his or her desire for sweets and starches while keeping blood sugar levels stable. Say yes to these 10 choices the American Diabetes Association calls “diabetes superfoods”: 1. Berries Some fruits contain as much sugar as candy does, but berries go on the ‘safe’ list for seniors with diabetes. Strawberries, blueberries, blackberries, raspberries -- they all offer a sweet touch to any meal without elevating blood sugar levels too much. 2. Skim milk and fat-free yogurt Choose milk fortified with Vitamin D, which can help seniors maintain bone health. When it comes to yogurt, look for sugar-free varieties. A fruity cup of yogurt makes a great dessert for seniors with diabetes. 3. Citrus fruits Avoid fruit juices (which almost all contain added sugar) and go for the whole fruit. Oranges, lemons and limes can be eaten whole or used to add zest to other dishes. The exception? Grapefruit. Most seniors should avoid this citrus fruit because it contains compounds that may interact with medications. Be sure to talk with your loved one’s physician or pharmacist to understand how foods might affect medications. 4. Sweet potatoes Sweet potatoes satisfy that craving for a starch with the meal but don’t cause post-meal blood sugar spikes the way white and red potatoes do. 5. Whole grains Whole grain breads, oatmeal, brown rice and barley allow your senior to enjoy bread with meals. Slow-digesting whole grains taste great and generally don’t negatively affect blood sugar levels the way refined grains like white flour can. 6. Tomatoes Seniors with diabetes can consume tomatoes to their heart’s content. Tomatoes are loaded with Vitamins C and E, along with iron. Eat them raw or cooked. (Read the labels of canned tomatoes and spaghetti sauces, which can contain undesirable levels of added sugar and salt.) 7. Dark Green Leafy Vegetables These nutrient powerhouses include spinach, kale, collard greens, beet greens and many others. Seniors who take a ‘blood-thinning’ medication like warfarin (Coumadin) should avoid dark green leafy vegetables, but all others can consume these with abandon. Again, be sure to talk with your loved one’s physician or pharmacist to understand how foods might affect medications. 8. Beans Packed with fiber, beans of all types -- navy, kidney, pinto -- provide protein along with the essential minerals magnesium and potassium. 9. Fatty fish Choose fresh or frozen fish like salmon once a week or more to garner the healthful effects of its Omega-3 fatty acids. Canned salmon and tuna count, too, and may provide a more affordable option. 10. Nuts Almonds, walnuts, pecans and other tree nuts provide nutrients and protein, which helps keep blood sugar levels stable. Go for unsalted varieties. Changing one’s eating pattern can be very difficult, especially for elderly loved ones. Instead of telling them what they can’t eat, help your senior with diabetes overcome dietary challenges by suggesting foods they can say ‘yes’ to every day. Have more questions about caring for seniors? Call Laura McCoy at Home Instead Senior Care, 636-477-602 or email laura.mccoy@homeinstead.com focusOn Magazine | 39

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Chasing the Dragon: The Heroin Epidemic is Here! Part 4

International Overdose Awareness Day On August 31, 2017, millions of people all around the world stopped to share their stories, mourn and pray as they gathered to observe “International Overdose Awareness Day.” Local community groups and first responders joined with parents, friends and children to celebrate stories of survival, remember those who have been lost, and discuss what is being done at local, state and national levels. This year’s event was held at Tilles Park in West County and was a collaborative effort from the following organizations: Walking for Wellness, St. Louis Metropolitan Police Department, NCADA, Missouri Network for Opiate Reform and Recovery, St. Louis County Police Department, GRASP, Jefferson County Drug Prevention Coalition, St. Louis City Department of Health, St. Charles County Prosecutor’s Office, Harris House, St. Louis County Department of Public Health, and the Missouri Institute for Mental Health.

Please know that addiction can hit anywhere, in any family. It is in our schools and it’s in our neighborhoods. Last year in the U.S. over 60,000 people died from an opiate overdose and this years numbers are higher. I have been to several St. Charles County High School assemblies where the children are asked if they, or someone they know, have used or been asked to do heroin. The number of children who raise their hands are always the same. Half of all our kids either know someone who has tried it, they have been asked to use it, or they have seen it being passed around at parties. Parents, you need to be aware of the signs and symptoms and talk to your children about drug and alcohol abuse. The NCADA has found that parents who talk with their children about the dangers, those teens are half as likely to become addicted.

The ceremony began with several speakers from NCADA, Missouri Network for Opiate Reform, and Walking for Wellness. Then the floor was opened up to the public. People lined up, each taking a turn to share their stories, their pain, their struggles, but also their recoveries. Many also shared how they have now joined in the fight, determined to make a difference and what they are doing to help save lives. After everyone had an opportunity to share their story and the evening was turning to night, they all gathered together with lighted candles in memory of their loved ones for a moment of silence and a closing prayer. Filled with saddness either for themselves or others, some quietly turned to go home, many others lingered. Still others joined the NCADA under the pavilion as they were supplying free Narcan and training to those who needed or wanted it. This was an evening I will not be able to forget. 42 | fo foc cus usOn On Magazine

Closing prayer at memorial.

Part of the memorial. Candles, pictures and some of the signs made by family members. Many people brought shoes in loving memory. Some of them were new but most were once worn by those who will no longer walk in them. All were donated to a shelter after the service

A poster sign one family made in memory of their lost loved one.

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In an effort to combat the growing epidemic of prescription drug and heroin abuse, the FBI and DEA have released “Chasing the Dragon: The Life of an Opiate Addict,� a documentary aimed at educating students and young adults about the dangers of addiction. More at www.fbi.gov/ChasingTheDragon focus fo usOn Magazine | 43

Meet O’Fallon Resident Debbra Arndt... An amazing lady and a story of true selflessness! by Robin Seaton Jefferson Debbra Arndt doesn’t have much of a yard to mow around her modest ranch-style home in America’s heartland. That’s because most of it is covered by more than 500 plants—some more than 30 years old. The 56-year-old retired geriatric nurse has had bigger yards with much larger gardens than the one she now tends in O’Fallon, Missouri. For more than three decades, Arndt has been growing vegetables to ensure that none of her elderly friends go to bed hungry. She calls it Our Giving Hands Garden, and it’s brimming with tomatoes, green beans, cucumbers, zucchini, squash, peppers (green, chili, jalapeno, and ghost), watermelon, cantaloupe, strawberries and Brussels sprouts. (She takes special time to point out to visitors how odd a Brussels Sprout plant looks as it grows.)

Our Giving Hands Garden’s mission is simple... well, sort of. The concept is simple. The task is great. Arndt supplies hungry elderly with fresh food. The vegetables are grown in her garden. She delivers them to the homes of the elderly, letting them take whatever they need. She also tells them they can call on her if they are in need of more food, or if they know of another elderly person in need of food. “They love to get these foods and want to give us money, but we will only take hugs and kisses,” Arndt said. Most of the people she feeds are over 80 years old and have no family. Arndt said she would love to get people from coast to coast on board with a program like Our Giving Hands Garden. “I try to tell people, ‘Grow a garden and take care of your neighbor.’ Plant an extra row or two and give it to the elderly.”

It all started out some 30 years ago, when Arndt was working in an assisted living facility. She took it upon herself to start collecting socks for her patients who needed them. And they all needed them, she said. “I’ve been doing stuff like this for 30 years – feeding the elderly and providing them with socks and clothing,” Arndt said. “I was in geriatric nursing. I noticed that the elderly didn’t have enough socks, and what they did have were full of holes. I thought I could do something about it.”

To offset her food costs, Arndt also makes strawberry ghost pepper jam and Redneck Insanity Pickles, along with tomato jam, apple butter and salsa. Customers make donations to Our Giving Hands Garden for these and other canning items in place of purchasing them. She also sells pieces of her own artwork to raise money for the Our Giving Hands Garden. “I sell these things to buy other things to feed people.”

Arndt knew something about going without. Abandoned by her mother at a St. Louis orphanage at the age of four, she said she learned how to make-do with what she had. “I know because I grew up in it. I know the environment because I was part of it. You try to learn to deal with things, because you can’t change it,” she said. Arndt spent the next 12 years in 14 different foster homes before becoming emancipated at the age of 16. After that, she spent several years doing everything from restaurant and bar work, to cleaning homes to support herself. “I was emancipated because I could take care of myself better than they could,” she said.

Still, she feels it’s never enough. “This shouldn’t be happening,” she said. “I can’t tell the government what to do, but we should be feeding the elderly.”

She also became a geriatric nurse. “That’s when I realized how badly many of our elderly are neglected, and that there is no place they can go for help.” 44 | focusOn Magazine

Arndt and her husband of 30 years spent many years on a 24-acre farm in Mt. Vernon, Illinois where they grew produce for the poor and elderly. The two met at the local Waffle House there. They married wearing the signature hats, she said. After her husband, an IBM engineer for 40 years, passed away five years ago from complications of diabetes, Arndt moved back to O’Fallon and continued growing food for the poor from her back yard. It’s about more than food, she said. “It’s about growing food and teaching people how to grow food.” She sells her

paintings and drawings. She sends care packages to military personnel along with drawings she solicits from local school children. She’s particularly proud of the wooden keepsake boxes she makes for children in foster care. She said the boxes allow the kids to keep something of their own no matter where they go. She burns decorative images into the tops of them. “It is a keepsake box and no one can take it away.” Arndt has also survived 32 surgeries since being diagnosed with breast cancer at the age of 18. “The tumors just kept coming back,” she said. But none of her own personal and health crises kept her from providing for others. Although she said she doesn’t need a lot of material things to be happy, Arndt does hold on to a few treasures of her own. There is a painting of Jesus Christ and another of the Lord’s Supper. There is a collection of “Gone With The Wind Mammy” cookie jars. Then there’s a 100-year-old handmade wardrobe. All were given to her by “Mama.” Mama’s husband made the wardrobe as a gift for her on their wedding day. Mama taught Arndt how to garden, pickle and can preserves. “She was the only woman I ever called Mama,” Arndt said of Mrs. Zenora Armstrong. “I met her at the bingo hall in Mt. Vernon. She said, ‘Come sit with me,’ and I gave her food for over 35 years.” Mama Armstrong died in June 2015 at the age of 95. There are photos of Mama Armstrong, as well as Arndt’s husband, children and grandchildren around her home. There is also an old black and white of her biological grandmother, her and her three siblings. All were separated after the photo was taken. And then there are photos of a couple named George and Janet Bedard. They had wanted to adopt Arndt many years ago from the orphanage in St. Louis, but Arndt’s biological mother had failed to sign the release for her. The Bedards never gave up on Arndt, though, and have kept in touch all of her life. Arndt wouldn’t go into detail about how she locates the hungry, saying only that she “knows who they are.” She did say she hears about some local elderly in need through word of mouth and makes personal deliveries to them, adding that her

kitchen is never closed. “I am cooking all of the time,” she said. She also delivers to assisted living facilities from her pick-up truck. Arndt said she has spent as many years advocating for hungry seniors as she has feeding them. She blames the need on the rising costs of property taxes and lack of programs for seniors. “Ninety percent of politicians are dumfounded,” she said. “They can’t believe that in the United States there are no programs specifically for seniors for food stamps. I have met hundreds of people over the years that have applied for food stamp assistance to be only given $16 or less a month. I have approached many politicians in different states asking them why our elderly are being forced to live below poverty conditions in our country. They don’t have an answer. If they were younger and not working, they’d be taken care of better. Our system would be feeding them. They’re old, alone and hungry. These people who have worked all of their lives who are now old and alone and hungry cannot get help.” So Arndt does it. “I make hot meals. I feed people. I feed my friends,” she said, spooning homemade marinara sauce over spaghetti and meatballs into a plastic container. She was working quickly as she had recently committed to picking up a 12-year-old girl from school each day at 3:20 p.m. since the child has lost her mother. “I’m not going to allow someone to go hungry. If you’re hungry, I’m going to feed you. I’ve been hungry. At the orphanage we went to bed hungry every night. As a foster kid, I’ve been dumpster diving for food.” To contact Debbra Arndt, Email: ourgivinghandsgarden2009@yahoo.com Mail: Our Giving Hands Garden, PO Box 1461, O’Fallon, MO 63366 A GoFundMe campaign was started by sustainability activist, Rob Greenfield, to buy needed supplies for the garden, meal containers, supplemental food, and gas for deliveries. focusOn Magazine | 45

Judy Limbaugh was spunky, feisty even. She loved Willie Nelson, her tiny Chihuahua, Taco, and travel. She went everywhere from Australia to Alaska with her friends; a group nicknamed “The Adorables.” “She was very independent, very fun,” Dee Lubs remembers. “She loved to dance.” “She was a lot stronger than she gave herself credit for,” Jana Davis says. “I just thought I would have more time with her.” Davis and Lubs are sisters. Their mother, Judy Limbaugh, was their hero. Raising Davis and Lubs on her own since the women were teenagers, Limbaugh’s independent nature and zest for life never ceased to amaze her daughters. “Watching our mom go from being very independent to very confused and scared, was the hardest part,” Davis says. “Seeing her losing the memory of who we were,” Lubs says softly, “That was the hardest for me.” Davis and Lubs began seeing changes in their mother when Limbaugh was in her late sixties. The sisters took their mother to doctors and specialists across St. Louis desperately trying to figure out what was happening. “Things were changing and we were trying to figure out what was going on,” Davis remembers. “It was frustrating because the doctors would say, “She’s fine.” We were like, “No, she’s not fine.” After months of failing to find an answer, Limbaugh developed a case of pneumonia that landed her in the hospital. “The doctor told us she couldn’t go home and live on her own because of the dementia.” Davis recalls. With these words, the sister’s lives changed forever. “With Alzheimer’s, everything about it is surprising,” Davis recalls. “There isn’t one way they change. Our mom never got aggressive, but she still didn’t understand why she couldn’t drive or do the things she wanted to do.” 46 | focusOn Magazine

“She looked at us like she knew us,” Lubs says. “She smiled when she’d see us, but she couldn’t really remember who we were at the end.” Davis and Lubs are just two of the many whose lives have been touched by Alzheimer’s and other dementias. More than 5 million American’s are living with Alzheimer’s today. With the baby boomer population aging, this number could jump as high as 16 million by 2050. The disease is untreatable, with 1 in 3 seniors dying with Alzheimer’s and other dementia’s. Limbaugh was no exception. “It progressed very rapidly,” Lubs says of her mother illness. “But she still had part of her personality.” Limbaugh passed away from Alzheimer’s on Sept. 2, 2014. She was 74 years old. Before her passing, the sisters decided they would not take the fight sitting down. They joined a support group. A decision they say helped immensely. “They would tell us ‘You have to laugh. They would want you to,’” Lubs recalls. “Because you do. You have to release that frustration.” Davis and Lubs also became involved in fundraising efforts for Alzheimer’s research and support. “A couple year’s into the disease Dee saw an ad for a walk and we decided to join,” Davis says. Soon after, the sisters joined the Alzheimer’s Association’s Walk to End Alzheimer’s naming their team “Family Ties.” Since then, they have expanded their efforts in unimaginable ways. Today, they host wildly successful trivia nights, golf tournaments and sand volleyball games, among other things. All to raise money and awareness for the devastating disease that took their mother. Lubs and Davis agree they’ve spent enough time shedding tears over the effects Alzheimer’s has had on their

lives. The sisters use their events as opportunities to celebrate the fantastic lives of those touched by Alzheimer’s. They describe the mood of their events as cheerful and upbeat: an all-out celebration. This year they’ve already hosted their fourth trivia night. Their fifth annual golf tournament is planned for July 29, and will be followed by their second annual sand volleyball game in August. At each event they carry with them a massive poster filled with pictures of loved ones who have battled Alzheimer’s. To date, they’ve raised over $50,000 for the Walk to End Alzheimer’s. The St. Charles Walk will take place on Saturday, Sept. 30 at St. Charles Community College. There will also be a Walk in Lincoln County on Oct. 14 at Troy Middle School. The Walk to End Alzheimer’s is more than a walk. It is an empowering experience for thousands of participants who will learn about Alzheimer’s disease

and how to get involved with this critical cause. Walk participants, like Lubs and Davis, honor those affected by Alzheimer’s disease with the poignant Promise Garden ceremony. As for the future, Davis and Lubs show no signs of slowing down. “We will keep raising money,” Davis says. “We will fight this disease for as long as we can.” To start or join a team today, visit the Alzheimer’s Association alz.org/walk. To learn more about disease and available resources, call the toll-free Alzheimer’s Association 24/7 Helpline at 800-272-3900. The Alzheimer’s Association is the leading voluntary health organization in Alzheimer care, support and research. Our mission is to eliminate Alzheimer’s disease through the advancement of research; to provide and enhance care and support for all affected; and to reduce the risk of dementia through the promotion of brain health. Our vision is a world without Alzheimer’s. Visit alz.org® or call 800.272.3900.

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At the Alzheimer’s Association Walk to End Alzheimer’s®, people carry flowers representing their connection to Alzheimer’s — a disease that currently has no cure. But what if one day there was a flower for Alzheimer’s first survivor? What if there were millions of them? Help make that beautiful day happen by joining us for the world’s largest fundraiser to fight the disease. Register today at alz.org/walk.

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The Cottleville Business Association is thrilled to present our

4th Annual Cottle Waddle Saturday, October 7, 2017 The event will be held from 3:00 pm to 7:00 pm Followed by Dancing in The Streets from 7:00 pm to 11:00 pm. Cottle Waddle has been a huge success with over 1000 tickets sold each year. Proving to be a great opportunity to showcase our neighborhood and local businesses. It is important to be able to give back to the community. 100% of proceeds support The St. Charles Walk to End Alzheimers. Cottle Waddle donated $10,000 to this organization last year.

Ticket Information DISCOUNT FOR EARLY REGISTRATION (save $5) Option to add a dry fit t-shirt

www.cottlewaddle.com These businesses are selling tickets: Mannino’s Martket • Bemo’s • Current Trends Salon • Mikes Bar & Grill Jo’s 5th St Pub • Earth Angel Elite Spa and Salon Major Sponsor: Payne Family Homes

Follow us on Facebook and Twitter. Visit our website www.cottlewaddle.com a portion of the funds raised will be sent to Houston to help with relief efforts

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Annabelle: Creation

Movie ReviewS by: Kevin Ziegemeier

Starring: Anthony LaPaglia, Miranda Otto, Tabitha Bateman

Rated R

Rating scale 3 Screws… EXCELLENT, A MUST SEE

2 Screws… Good, Wait for video release

1 screw… Average, Wait for Netflix release

You’ve been screwed… do not waste your time or money

Wehrenberg Theatres Town Square 12 Cine

7805 Highway N, Dardenne Prairie, MO 63368

(636) 625-1209

Regal Cinemas O’Fallon 14

900 Caledonia Dr, O’Fallon, MO 63368

(844) 462-7342

Wehrenberg Theatres Mid Rivers 14 Cine

1220 Mid Rivers Mall, St Peters, MO 63376

The horror film genre has polarized moviegoers for decades. There seems to be no middle ground. Either you love them or you hate them. For the people who love these movies, whether it is a slasher film or a psychological thriller, they will be at the theater on opening weekend getting their horror fix. The formula for a horror film is very simple: scare the bejesus out of the audience. In the early days of film making, characters like Frankenstein, Dracula, and The Mummy kept the audience on the edge of their seats. As time went on, a new generation of monsters were created: Jason Vorhees, Michael Myers, and Freddy Krueger. The monsters became more sinister and the killings became more gruesome. Based on the many sequels for each franchise, moviegoers cannot get enough of these movies. Annabelle: Creation is a prequel to the 2014 horror film Annabelle. In this movie, a doll named Annabelle is looking for a human soul to possess after the girl she previously possessed has been killed. In Annabelle: Creation, we learn how the Annabelle doll was created. Doll maker, Sam Mullins (Anthony LaPaglia) and his wife Ester (Miranda Otto), live a quiet life in a large country house with their young daughter. After their daughter is taken from them in a tragic accident, the Mullins live a life of loneliness and despair. Twelve years after the accident, in an attempt to bring some joy back into their lives, they open their house to a group of orphan girls led by Sister Charlotte (Stephanie Stigman). The girls are excited with their new surroundings and they are very curious with the house’s many rooms. Their curiosity soon turns to terror when Janice (Tabitha Bateman) discovers the Annabelle doll locked away in a secret closet in the bedroom of the girl who died twelve years earlier. Once it is revealed how the doll became possessed and the horror that ensues, the girls are able to escape with their lives… but unfortunately, Janice was unable to escape with her soul. I am not a horror film fan. My wife, on the other hand, does not miss the opportunity to watch each and every one. I thought the story of Annabelle: Creation was slow, boring, and not scary. My wife thought the story was smart and intensely horrifying. With that said, my review will be as polarizing as the horror film industry has been throughout the decades. I give Annabelle: Creation……..You’ve been screwed!

(636) 279-2734 Wentzville Tower 12

100 Wentzville Bluffs Drive, Wentzville, MO 63385

(636) 279-2734

Wehrenberg Theatres St. Charles Stadium 18 Cine

1830 S 1st Capitol Dr St. Charles, MO 63303

(636) 946-1862

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